True! Because we are so much more than them... Our personality reminders them of their demons/inability... But it doesnt matter... Its not our job to make others feel comfortable arround us...
INFJs have a rich inner world. And I have expanded my inner world and it is caused me to be more authentic. This is one of the best shows I've ever heard
This description explains the trauma bond that can happen, especially when a young child. Always was confused when I was little why I sometimes wanted my mother around, even though I was terrified of her nearly every moment. Not love, safety or security, just a trauma bond attachment.
It's hard for me to accept that I am just, FINALLY, learning about attachment v authenticity! Perfect timing, because I have recently had a huge childhood memory breakthrough ... and it's all about THIS. Thank you, Wenzes! BTW, I suspect that INFJs are smart, neglected/emotionally abused children who grew up noticing the emotional environment for self-protection. We're always looking for patterns in order to avoid confrontation, blame, rejection from others. I didn't realize until a few years ago that my personal values are different from those of my family, ex-husband, etc. We seek solitude and imaginary worlds (BOOKS!) in order to feel loved and safe. We see injustice in the world (what we've lived through since childhood), and it breaks our hearts that we can't correct it.
"99.9% of ppl are not healed"😮🤯 That was one heck of a mind/perception shift. That explaims why i am repeatedly putting myself in vulnerable situations. Assuming Im the one the most f*d up but the other person is too! I keep looking at titles, status and material things thinking folks have their shit together, and they really dont.
My fun is beating the materialistic people at their own game. This proves they are not only shallow but Dumb. If me someone focused on higher level things moralistic just spends a little time in the material realm we can beat them. I dislike shallow people.
You are spiritually deep and aware. These people you mention may "seem smart" but it's just that they have the blank serious look in reality they are so dumb you may find yourself amazed at the level of dumbness that can be a achieved by them. Just when you think okay well I guess that's as dumb as it gets they will show you even more what they are about.
YES AQUARIUS. (I'm one too ) :) the truth is your the special one. You may see some of yourself in them but often they only have a few percent of the deepness you have. Then you find out wow like outside of that few percent it can be messy.
Dude! I love your videos even more this 2024 because each of them holds the key to activating our most authentic, powerful, dangerous (in a good way) version of being an INFJ 😊❤
Had this happen with several people I thought were close to me just recently. I leveled up, feeling amazing for the first time in my life, super healed, not preachy or anything and bam, bam, bam. Triggers all around accusing me of the worst most ridiculous crap. Crabs in a bucket, trying to pull me down. But I've got wings. :) Thank you Wenzes. I wonder how many INFJ's are Scorpios in some fashion.
I just can't be restricted from being my authentic self anymore now that I'm retired & don't have a boss to please. If another human can accept that from me someday, that would be great. Thx!❤
I am basically retired now and that is the best part. I don't feel compelled to adapt to the expectations of a boss or manager. But I also don't have the temptation to misrepresent myself to colleagues. Now I try to be just who I am to anyone I encounter and to my newest friends. Many of the older friends have fallen away and that is ok!
I haven't dipped into a video by Wenzes in a while. This one was spot on and relevant as I am trying to identify and begin to heal my wounded inner child. I believe I learned to be a chameleon in order to bond to one or both of my parents and it became a lifelong adaptation. So much so that I eventually lost sight of the real me and that led to burnout. Anyway this was timely and trenchant!
As I listened to you, I felt like you were telling the whole story of my school days up through college. Believe me, I know the dynamic that you're speaking of all too well. Not only do I remember behaving like this, I also was strongly discouraged as a little girl to not rock the boat, and to give in to other people as much as I could. I was often led to believe that "people wouldn't like me" if I made too many waves. In retrospect, it still shocks me because both of my parents were known for doing their own original thinking. In the pre Myers-Briggs days, I had to rely on self help books, but I was careful about what I read. Probably the biggest thing that helped me was learning about genuine, civil assertiveness. I'm grateful for what we can do on the internet now, because good information is much easier to find.
Focusing on myself is the best descicion I ever made! Because now I have the abiltiy to say Yes or No, regardless of the sitaution. The rest worksout evenutally and i'm ok with that. And now I'm starting to have the abilty to help people or to say no and also protect myself. Thank you Wenzes ^^
I had the luck to have amazing grandparents and to practice sports since I was 7- it’s been THAT that made me never give up to who I really was, in spite of the fact that in the family - my mother and my sibling - have always let me know that they really didn’t like me , ever. When I turned 24 I left for good, far, and met loads of people whom appreciated me for how I am.
Woah, the Indiana Lauren Croft archaeology top rocks so much! 🦁🦓 Yes, a long way to go. It's so worth it to fill yourself out more and live an authentic life. It's true that we are like a mirror to the outside world and some people can't stand. The good thing is that this also creates more space for healthy and exciting relationships or stuff. I thought for many years that I was losing everything, but I have gained so much! And the journey continues. Wonderful words.
That really resonated with me. I think I have come along way already, but sometimes I don't how much Im still adapting to peoples perceived needs. Nonetheless, over time it's clear how I show them their selves. And pointing to it, may be like rubbing a nerve to them.
Wow. I got beter at this as I grew older but there have been times in my life when I completely dismantled myself to be of help or be in a relationship to be helpful. I also think this is a truth every single human being should take to heart: that to be authentic is the most crucial thing you can do to yourself. And to the world! 😊
I think a lot of the “loneliness” (or alone-ness) comes with having outrageously high standards. I’m constantly disappointed by virtually everyone. I can’t even live up to my OWN standards! Where does this come from?
I don't know about you guys. I'm a man and I can live up to my high standards. I think you have to become realistic with it. It's really disappointing when others cant do the same. Most of the time the so called high standards are not high at all, it just normal things, normal work that dates back to 1950's, which modern society doesn't respect or are too lazy to execute 😅
@@kammellioo I'm confused as to whether you're talking about work or interpersonal relationships. I've known many high achievers who have sensible work expectations but their interpersonal expectations are a mess. ?
I want to be authentic, more than being rich. But my body is terrified of authenticity. I've made strides in showcasing more authenticity, but I am at a level that I am unable to progress past. Seeking advice.
The people who diddint accept the good person you are will face karma if you are a good person. Keep being unique find the right Queen and team for you. Then you can win with her and your team.
Hardest challenge for me (and i probably shouldnt be repeating this as it could just be a limiting belief) but i was raised by an alcoholic, single mother, who stole me away from my father, and I was fed my fair share of "men are bad", "treat women kindly", "always be nice to women", "Your father is a bad man", "always please women", etc etc etc. And on top of that, I had no steady male role model and being a male INFJ, being a "man" and showing up as a "man" in relationships have almost been impossible. I love women, but i dont know how to be a "man" for them. Im competent, women find me physically attractive, im caring, attentive, great listener, funny; as well im an INFJ so i can almost get along with anyone at anytime. And all of these traits, of which women are disgusted by. LIke ive come to the point where i know girls are attracted to me but i dont want to go through with it because i know they'll see something they find as "weak" in me and will reject me. I struggle with forgiveness, anger, acceptance and just changing who i am. All i want to do is love women but i dont know how? LOL
You got this. 1. Increase income. 2. Be straight up like hey your really cute let's build together. Let them know you got their back. 3. If they think it's weak that your there to help tell them to stay in poverty and good. Also if it's hard to get women in America stack up find a more traditional women in Colombia where you are rich. Also yes unfortunately sometimes they want you to be tough. I know it's silly because we're not in 5000 BC. But they are attracted to you being tough so be strong for them and help them feel safe.
I too wish men would be the man for women. It is so frustrating for me to date men who do not know what women need, even when we tell them point blank. I just expressed this to my man, and he said I was being controlling. Argh……I give up.
@@bamgold4677 I know its crazy. I can go to any other country and their women (not to toot my own horn) would fawn over me. They like good men. They appreciate kind good solid men. Here in america you need to be standoffish, you need to be rude, theyd even rather have a guy beat them then be kind to them. Just an example at work happened this week. Short and sweet: I find out she thinks im attractive. So i let her know i like her and BAM she loses attraction. RIght when she found out i liked her. It was like a power game or something. Women literally live in another reality then we do. Are you male INFJ? Thanks for the respeonse
@@DonTrump-sv1si I am on the INFJ-ENFJ spectrum. :):) hey if they love you out there love them back and stack up here in America. Yes around 20% of the population Men and Women are into toxic games. They typically mirror for around 3 months then switch.
@@DonTrump-sv1si 20% of the population Men and Women are toxic. In that 20% you may attract them heavily However these are the ones that will be really into the above scenarios above. The key is work alot stack up cash. In 5 years see where they are I bet you 90% of the time its on the decline. See certain people like bad people and put them on pedestals. Avoid them and watch the decline. You deserve better and will be happier with people who love you for you :):):):):):):):):).
This video hits all the issues I have with friends and family members … I have so often was acting like another person and not authentic .. now I see why …. I have one friend that had annoyed me and betrayed me and it’s like I cave when around her .. I need to finally be authentic .. I never try to be free floating .. I am so mixed up
Newly single and entering the dating phase - I am happy to be aware of this - I know now not only do I have this urge to attach but also quickly . Its a new muscle I am building to A - allow myself to be seen on the dating scene and also (this is the biggest one) to allow myself to see others and if they align with who I am (authenticity) and my path. Boredom sets in but I know this is the healthy way - Feeling alive (attachment) is how I got sucked into my narc marriage. Im not gone lie - Im like where is the excitement?😂 But now I understand - All of this means I am on the right path.
In my case, I think it's like what I want most is to be loved, but I don't trust others to give that to me, so it's like all of them are worthless to me. All I can control, to a certain extent, is what I give others. That's why, most likely, others don't like being near me. Plus, I'm insane...
One thing that gives me pause: people are triggered by Ni - especially Si folk. But people can also be rightly triggered by my lack of Te. And i always take a moment to try and make sure I’m not missing something with my Te. And by that time the si/fe coworker has already made all the decisions and my insights have once again been dismissed.
Hey if you have NI ideas I'll invest. Don't worry they are focused on the present too much. If they have Fe and your open to caring about them just be like hey I have this idea and it will help you and you deserve that because your a good person. The FE user will be appreciative of that and be more open minded.
💯 If I show up for someone it's because I want to. No ulterior motives. My focus is entirely on their well-being and genuine needs because I know mine are being met. Everything is clearly communicated, in advance. I have no problem confronting 🐂💩 anymore, either. It can be off-putting to those who like movable goalposts. I'm ok with that. I've been blessed to meet some truly decent people since I shifted priorities. My life is far more peaceful and stable and my social circle (albeit very small) is solid. As a bonus, I can trust them and their judgment. I never used to have that. It's refreshing. You can't buy the kind of peace integrity and authenticity bring. 😌
Interesting…..I was told by a co-worker at a job I was at for 18 years that I was “Miss Congeniality” & she meant it as a positive trait to be proud of. She told me she admired me for it…🤔
@@robin15092 hey thanks for the encouragement 💪💪. I'm glad theres people out there like yoh that actually care about others. But don't get me wrong, Im ok with being alone once I've seen what's out there. Im also more than happy not to meet anyone's expectations once I've learned what horrible people everyone is and Im more than happy to subvert and even break any of their expectations.
@@letsreadtextbook1687 HI•⛈️•✓ 💥 Lacking Universal Laws Accountability & Responsibility while seeking a 666(Satan) Man breaking Spiritual Laws Adultery & Covet thy Neighbors simultaneously Competing for the Gold medal for how many Acts of Sin(Lust, Pride, Gluttony, Greed, Jealousy, Envy, Anger, & Vanity) bonus points for how long She can Harm/Hinder a Good Man while she believes she is worth millions because she has endless options that Ostracized 80% of Men that experienced what Invisibility & Shit on by both Society and Women. Why? My guess is extremely low EQ yet Her Major Life Decisions based on Temporary Dysregulated Emotions until she Aged out of Reproductive Fertility causing her Endless Options to Evaporate rendering her Basically both Worthless and Useless to The Men who were forced to accept the Resistance of Life's Injustices Emotionally Abandoned Physically Neglected 100% Solo living in Isolated Solitude and Celibate. Why? if it's not this description. Honestly I have 77% and f my life experience existing in Isolated Solitude and Celibate because that's what happens when One survives a 98.56% Mortality Rate at 2 years old due to a Frontal Lobe Collapse. That's a 1.44% chance to Live bonus points for mandatory rewiring my brain. So I'm simply looking for what I missed out on even though I have never experienced anything that I would remotely call positive From anyone I have ever met. Thanks for your time and if you choose to reply the I appreciate the effort. Have a wonderful day...
Oh and do not let anyone know exactly what they have to fix it's far more entertaining if you let them figure it out themselves. American Women are not going to like their future
Im so glad I learned to accept and love people I care about for who they are :):):). I had to do a good amount of healing. Its so true yes not alot of people heal. And I got to heal even more. I protect the people I care about and baby them I learned that its okay and how I authentically show I care. Gifts and Words of affirmation are my love languages :):):):):):):):):).
Being hard is an understatement. The more authentic i am, the more people dislike me lol
I find that to be true for me, as well. The more authentic I am, the more it seems to make them stay away from me.
True! Because we are so much more than them... Our personality reminders them of their demons/inability... But it doesnt matter... Its not our job to make others feel comfortable arround us...
I hear you! I'm finally getting to where I can just speak my truth and not care what they think for the most part.
Everyone who you ever love will betray you, don’t betray yourself. When you love yourself you will not compromise yourself for others.
So true! In my early 60s and finally having the guts to stand for myself, placing boundaries and not defaulting to “them first” as I did all my life.
Good Job :).
Good for you! Same here...early 60s. We got this!
me too--but, huge changes this year.
💯
INFJs have a rich inner world. And I have expanded my inner world and it is caused me to be more authentic. This is one of the best shows I've ever heard
This description explains the trauma bond that can happen, especially when a young child. Always was confused when I was little why I sometimes wanted my mother around, even though I was terrified of her nearly every moment. Not love, safety or security, just a trauma bond attachment.
Thank you Wenzes for being authentic and we are able to see a good example on how an INFJ can having a greater life if we are authentic to ourselves.
It's hard for me to accept that I am just, FINALLY, learning about attachment v authenticity! Perfect timing, because I have recently had a huge childhood memory breakthrough ... and it's all about THIS. Thank you, Wenzes!
BTW, I suspect that INFJs are smart, neglected/emotionally abused children who grew up noticing the emotional environment for self-protection. We're always looking for patterns in order to avoid confrontation, blame, rejection from others. I didn't realize until a few years ago that my personal values are different from those of my family, ex-husband, etc. We seek solitude and imaginary worlds (BOOKS!) in order to feel loved and safe. We see injustice in the world (what we've lived through since childhood), and it breaks our hearts that we can't correct it.
What would we do without you? So many things that I wish someone told me earlier
"99.9% of ppl are not healed"😮🤯 That was one heck of a mind/perception shift. That explaims why i am repeatedly putting myself in vulnerable situations. Assuming Im the one the most f*d up but the other person is too! I keep looking at titles, status and material things thinking folks have their shit together, and they really dont.
Yeah other humans focus way too much on the material realm and it is triggering for them to have their psychology brought into the light
My fun is beating the materialistic people at their own game. This proves they are not only shallow but Dumb. If me someone focused on higher level things moralistic just spends a little time in the material realm we can beat them. I dislike shallow people.
You are spiritually deep and aware. These people you mention may "seem smart" but it's just that they have the blank serious look in reality they are so dumb you may find yourself amazed at the level of dumbness that can be a achieved by them. Just when you think okay well I guess that's as dumb as it gets they will show you even more what they are about.
YES AQUARIUS. (I'm one too ) :) the truth is your the special one. You may see some of yourself in them but often they only have a few percent of the deepness you have. Then you find out wow like outside of that few percent it can be messy.
@@POOOOOOOO416yeah, sensors
Dude! I love your videos even more this 2024 because each of them holds the key to activating our most authentic, powerful, dangerous (in a good way) version of being an INFJ 😊❤
Dude 😅
Had this happen with several people I thought were close to me just recently. I leveled up, feeling amazing for the first time in my life, super healed, not preachy or anything and bam, bam, bam. Triggers all around accusing me of the worst most ridiculous crap. Crabs in a bucket, trying to pull me down. But I've got wings. :)
Thank you Wenzes. I wonder how many INFJ's are Scorpios in some fashion.
I am blessed & grateful to have a connection to this channel❤
Praise God. Wenzes has helped me so much :):) this channel is awesome.
I just can't be restricted from being my authentic self anymore now that I'm retired & don't have a boss to please. If another human can accept that from me someday, that would be great. Thx!❤
I am basically retired now and that is the best part. I don't feel compelled to adapt to the expectations of a boss or manager. But I also don't have the temptation to misrepresent myself to colleagues. Now I try to be just who I am to anyone I encounter and to my newest friends. Many of the older friends have fallen away and that is ok!
Thank you! This explains so much! I chose authenticity over attachment!!
I haven't dipped into a video by Wenzes in a while. This one was spot on and relevant as I am trying to identify and begin to heal my wounded inner child. I believe I learned to be a chameleon in order to bond to one or both of my parents and it became a lifelong adaptation. So much so that I eventually lost sight of the real me and that led to burnout. Anyway this was timely and trenchant!
Great topic!! I posted that quote on my page too!
" A person's ability to grow is based on how much truth they're willing to accept "
When people show or tell me they don't like me. Heres what i do. I believe them.
Assistindo seus vídeos percebi que só um outro INFJ nos entende bem. Obrigada! Tenho sido abençoada através de seu canal. 🙏🏻
¿Cómo estás mi amigo en Cristo? :):) ¿De qué país eres? Y sí, este canal es fantástico. He aprendido mucho de los consejos de Wenze sobre el canal.
Esses conteúdos nos fazem bem 🙏
@@bamgold4677 Estou bem, graças a Deus! Sou brasileira.
It’s as if you and I have lead parallel lives. Everything you describe is my experience.
As I listened to you, I felt like you were telling the whole story of my school days up through college. Believe me, I know the dynamic that you're speaking of all too well. Not only do I remember behaving like this, I also was strongly discouraged as a little girl to not rock the boat, and to give in to other people as much as I could. I was often led to believe that "people wouldn't like me" if I made too many waves. In retrospect, it still shocks me because both of my parents were known for doing their own original thinking.
In the pre Myers-Briggs days, I had to rely on self help books, but I was careful about what I read. Probably the biggest thing that helped me was learning about genuine, civil assertiveness.
I'm grateful for what we can do on the internet now, because good information is much easier to find.
Focusing on myself is the best descicion I ever made! Because now I have the abiltiy to say Yes or No, regardless of the sitaution.
The rest worksout evenutally and i'm ok with that.
And now I'm starting to have the abilty to help people or to say no and also protect myself.
Thank you Wenzes ^^
I know it's awesome and good. But if we invest in ourself our returns are so much higher then if we invest in another ;):).
I had the luck to have amazing grandparents and to practice sports since I was 7- it’s been THAT that made me never give up to who I really was, in spite of the fact that in the family - my mother and my sibling - have always let me know that they really didn’t like me , ever. When I turned 24 I left for good, far, and met loads of people whom appreciated me for how I am.
I’m living for Wenzes videos ❤️
This is the best video yet Wenzes, thank you.
Wow this is a huge eyeopener! Indeed we are mirrors to the others. I described it as a mirror of their consciousness.
Woah, the Indiana Lauren Croft archaeology top rocks so much! 🦁🦓
Yes, a long way to go. It's so worth it to fill yourself out more and live an authentic life. It's true that we are like a mirror to the outside world and some people can't stand. The good thing is that this also creates more space for healthy and exciting relationships or stuff. I thought for many years that I was losing everything, but I have gained so much! And the journey continues. Wonderful words.
That really resonated with me. I think I have come along way already, but sometimes I don't how much Im still adapting to peoples perceived needs. Nonetheless, over time it's clear how I show them their selves. And pointing to it, may be like rubbing a nerve to them.
Wow. I got beter at this as I grew older but there have been times in my life when I completely dismantled myself to be of help or be in a relationship to be helpful. I also think this is a truth every single human being should take to heart: that to be authentic is the most crucial thing you can do to yourself. And to the world! 😊
I think a lot of the “loneliness” (or alone-ness) comes with having outrageously high standards. I’m constantly disappointed by virtually everyone. I can’t even live up to my OWN standards! Where does this come from?
Good question.
I don't know about you guys. I'm a man and I can live up to my high standards. I think you have to become realistic with it. It's really disappointing when others cant do the same. Most of the time the so called high standards are not high at all, it just normal things, normal work that dates back to 1950's, which modern society doesn't respect or are too lazy to execute 😅
So true Bro. I stand up for the standards and try to live them.
@@kammellioo I'm confused as to whether you're talking about work or interpersonal relationships. I've known many high achievers who have sensible work expectations but their interpersonal expectations are a mess. ?
@@kammellioo yo ENTJ what are u doing sneaking in here? _kicks_
Thank you, Wenzes! This is gold ✨ Learning to be authentically me is my top goal - I would be happy to make even the tiniest of improvement.
Excellent video.
You explain this really well
Wenze's a awesome episode I thank you Wenze's for this.Wenze's like your Polo top nice summer wear.Jerome❤❤❤
I want to be authentic, more than being rich. But my body is terrified of authenticity. I've made strides in showcasing more authenticity, but I am at a level that I am unable to progress past.
Seeking advice.
The people who diddint accept the good person you are will face karma if you are a good person. Keep being unique find the right Queen and team for you. Then you can win with her and your team.
i have been struggling with this topic in my own life. i needed to hear this thank you.
Very important for me to learn... Thank you!
off topic but the polo top fire
Hardest challenge for me (and i probably shouldnt be repeating this as it could just be a limiting belief) but i was raised by an alcoholic, single mother, who stole me away from my father, and I was fed my fair share of "men are bad", "treat women kindly", "always be nice to women", "Your father is a bad man", "always please women", etc etc etc. And on top of that, I had no steady male role model and being a male INFJ, being a "man" and showing up as a "man" in relationships have almost been impossible. I love women, but i dont know how to be a "man" for them. Im competent, women find me physically attractive, im caring, attentive, great listener, funny; as well im an INFJ so i can almost get along with anyone at anytime. And all of these traits, of which women are disgusted by. LIke ive come to the point where i know girls are attracted to me but i dont want to go through with it because i know they'll see something they find as "weak" in me and will reject me. I struggle with forgiveness, anger, acceptance and just changing who i am. All i want to do is love women but i dont know how? LOL
You got this. 1. Increase income. 2. Be straight up like hey your really cute let's build together. Let them know you got their back. 3. If they think it's weak that your there to help tell them to stay in poverty and good. Also if it's hard to get women in America stack up find a more traditional women in Colombia where you are rich. Also yes unfortunately sometimes they want you to be tough. I know it's silly because we're not in 5000 BC. But they are attracted to you being tough so be strong for them and help them feel safe.
I too wish men would be the man for women. It is so frustrating for me to date men who do not know what women need, even when we tell them point blank. I just expressed this to my man, and he said I was being controlling. Argh……I give up.
@@bamgold4677 I know its crazy. I can go to any other country and their women (not to toot my own horn) would fawn over me. They like good men. They appreciate kind good solid men. Here in america you need to be standoffish, you need to be rude, theyd even rather have a guy beat them then be kind to them.
Just an example at work happened this week. Short and sweet: I find out she thinks im attractive. So i let her know i like her and BAM she loses attraction. RIght when she found out i liked her. It was like a power game or something. Women literally live in another reality then we do.
Are you male INFJ? Thanks for the respeonse
@@DonTrump-sv1si I am on the INFJ-ENFJ spectrum. :):) hey if they love you out there love them back and stack up here in America. Yes around 20% of the population Men and Women are into toxic games. They typically mirror for around 3 months then switch.
@@DonTrump-sv1si 20% of the population Men and Women are toxic. In that 20% you may attract them heavily However these are the ones that will be really into the above scenarios above. The key is work alot stack up cash. In 5 years see where they are I bet you 90% of the time its on the decline. See certain people like bad people and put them on pedestals. Avoid them and watch the decline. You deserve better and will be happier with people who love you for you :):):):):):):):):).
Spot on again Wenzes
Nice!
Thank you Wenzes 😊
Thank you for this ❤
This video hits all the issues I have with friends and family members … I have so often was acting like another person and not authentic .. now I see why …. I have one friend that had annoyed me and betrayed me and it’s like I cave when around her .. I need to finally be authentic .. I never try to be free floating .. I am so mixed up
I've been adored and loved because I choose the guy's. Real men.
Newly single and entering the dating phase - I am happy to be aware of this - I know now not only do I have this urge to attach but also quickly . Its a new muscle I am building to A - allow myself to be seen on the dating scene and also (this is the biggest one) to allow myself to see others and if they align with who I am (authenticity) and my path. Boredom sets in but I know this is the healthy way - Feeling alive (attachment) is how I got sucked into my narc marriage. Im not gone lie - Im like where is the excitement?😂 But now I understand - All of this means I am on the right path.
Look up all of the “ attachment styles”
In my case, I think it's like what I want most is to be loved, but I don't trust others to give that to me, so it's like all of them are worthless to me. All I can control, to a certain extent, is what I give others. That's why, most likely, others don't like being near me. Plus, I'm insane...
Some will love you. And it's those people you can value the most.
@@bamgold4677 Thank you. You are very kind for telling me this. I'm sorry for posting this message. I'm struggling. :) Thank you
sometimes i feel the exact same and do not know how to go about it
@@brandonanyanwu2129 Yeah :( Hope you feel better too!
Great video! Could you please make one about laziness and not having motivation? Благодаря!
Dobra idea, odawna ne sam prawila video po tasi thema!
One thing that gives me pause:
people are triggered by Ni - especially Si folk. But people can also be rightly triggered by my lack of Te.
And i always take a moment to try and make sure I’m not missing something with my Te.
And by that time the si/fe coworker has already made all the decisions and my insights have once again been dismissed.
Hey if you have NI ideas I'll invest. Don't worry they are focused on the present too much. If they have Fe and your open to caring about them just be like hey I have this idea and it will help you and you deserve that because your a good person. The FE user will be appreciative of that and be more open minded.
Lovely top Wenzes
Nice video quality improvement!
I am really happy about it too 😀
Very true
💯 If I show up for someone it's because I want to. No ulterior motives. My focus is entirely on their well-being and genuine needs because I know mine are being met. Everything is clearly communicated, in advance.
I have no problem confronting 🐂💩 anymore, either. It can be off-putting to those who like movable goalposts. I'm ok with that.
I've been blessed to meet some truly decent people since I shifted priorities. My life is far more peaceful and stable and my social circle (albeit very small) is solid. As a bonus, I can trust them and their judgment. I never used to have that. It's refreshing.
You can't buy the kind of peace integrity and authenticity bring. 😌
I have often heard:
BEING ANGRY DOES NOT SUIT YOU.
I've heard it once, what do you think it means ?
@@muma6559 I am not sure..I have a valid reason to be angry. Never heard of anyone else who have heard that reply.
@@freddyheadbite3084 i agree, nothing wrong with being angry, it's what you do about it that counts or is important
@@muma6559 Yeah.. it's just a very weird thing to hear. Everybody else are alowed to be angry. BUT not me?? 😁
@@freddyheadbite3084 yeah, that's the part I don't get also
Interesting…..I was told by a co-worker at a job I was at for 18 years that I was “Miss Congeniality” & she meant it as a positive trait to be proud of. She told me she admired me for it…🤔
Interesting top.... scholarly..yet sexy... keep it up🎉
What about when you have to adapt to complex situations, like workplaces and such?
Can an INFJ and ISFJ have a good married life?
@@bluesea7107 Yes ISFJ are loyal cuties. But they just sometimes think on the negative so cheer them up and win together.
Are there any spots where INFJs can meet up?
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Honestly in all my years I haven't met a single person that is worth it. To be fair Im probably not worth it either, 😂😂😂
@@gabrielWachong The fact you're rare makes you even more worth it. Different is powerful.
Haha I understand that.
@@robin15092 hey thanks for the encouragement 💪💪. I'm glad theres people out there like yoh that actually care about others. But don't get me wrong, Im ok with being alone once I've seen what's out there. Im also more than happy not to meet anyone's expectations once I've learned what horrible people everyone is and Im more than happy to subvert and even break any of their expectations.
@@TheLordsbattleaxe lol it is what it is right!? 😅🤣🤣
@@gabrielWachong haha yep.
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To late. I'm independent 😊
People are jealous of my authenticity. Mostly fat narcissists. 😂
They are even worse then the skinny ones.
Yoru the Christian Cat :):).
Meowmen. 🙏
Loneliness? Simply change your perspective and perception of your Freewill Behaviors and Decisions. You have Zero Excuses
Ah yes, "if someone suffers from homelessness they should just change their perspective and buy a house, zero excuse" aah reasoning
@@letsreadtextbook1687 HI•⛈️•✓ 💥 Lacking Universal Laws Accountability & Responsibility while seeking a 666(Satan) Man breaking Spiritual Laws Adultery & Covet thy Neighbors simultaneously Competing for the Gold medal for how many Acts of Sin(Lust, Pride, Gluttony, Greed, Jealousy, Envy, Anger, & Vanity) bonus points for how long She can Harm/Hinder a Good Man while she believes she is worth millions because she has endless options that Ostracized 80% of Men that experienced what Invisibility & Shit on by both Society and Women. Why? My guess is extremely low EQ yet Her Major Life Decisions based on Temporary Dysregulated Emotions until she Aged out of Reproductive Fertility causing her Endless Options to Evaporate rendering her Basically both Worthless and Useless to The Men who were forced to accept the Resistance of Life's Injustices Emotionally Abandoned Physically Neglected 100% Solo living in Isolated Solitude and Celibate. Why? if it's not this description. Honestly I have 77% and f my life experience existing in Isolated Solitude and Celibate because that's what happens when One survives a 98.56% Mortality Rate at 2 years old due to a Frontal Lobe Collapse. That's a 1.44% chance to Live bonus points for mandatory rewiring my brain. So I'm simply looking for what I missed out on even though I have never experienced anything that I would remotely call positive From anyone I have ever met. Thanks for your time and if you choose to reply the I appreciate the effort. Have a wonderful day...
Oh and do not let anyone know exactly what they have to fix it's far more entertaining if you let them figure it out themselves. American Women are not going to like their future
Im so glad I learned to accept and love people I care about for who they are :):):). I had to do a good amount of healing. Its so true yes not alot of people heal. And I got to heal even more. I protect the people I care about and baby them I learned that its okay and how I authentically show I care. Gifts and Words of affirmation are my love languages :):):):):):):):):).
Yay :):):):):):):):) good message and learning.