but i think being honest also means taking accountability for the things you‘ve done. and it means having to take ACTION. narcissistists are lazy and cowardish people who don’t want to learn and grow like you do, they want to create chaos and drama
When my husband set boundaries with his narc dad, he wrote a letter explaining he wasn't gonna tolerate hateful and disrespectful language. Ther disrespect is making the relationship more distant. They did not respond to what he said. It's like they literally pretend he didn't write it. No accountability. If someone told me my behavior was causing distance, i would rectify it immediately. Not narcissists 😂😂😂
My ex says he’s having trouble forgiving me and getting over what I did but he can’t tell me what I did because “it would start a fight”. And this is a guy who starts conversations by telling me he wants me back. Sigh. Too late. I’ve seen beyond the mask.
The narcissist WILL ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY IF he/she watches your videos, BUT they don't mean it!!! They don't want to confront the fact that they're narcissistic, and so if they see a way out, via your videos, (and like videos,) they WILL SAY they accept responsibility, for the time being (MAYBE) but it wont last. It's a temporary scapegoating method, a gaslighting fiasco, if you will. But whole illusion that they accept responsibility is an absolute JOKE. That is now what my covert narcissist husband is doing because he does watch these videos. My hope is that he at least will grow from it for his own well-being. STAY ALERT, STAY SAFE, STRONG AND GOD BLESS! Thank you for this! Another great video! 👍 ❤😊
How can I make a narc realise they are abusive verbally and physically? I feel like I am talking to a wall. He will blame me for being abusive. He says it’s the only way I learn…
My narc ex gf would always say. “sorry for hurting you “… then later she would say she did nothing wrong ……not I am sorry for hurting you ,, see the difference ?
That looked like it was kinda hard for you to do Ben. I'm proud of you keep up the honesty and you'll be OK, plus that really made soooo much stuff make more sense in my life.
If you do not have honesty, you do not have a relationship. 👏
Seriously
This one sentence is masterful.
Just so I understand correctly. Being honest, means being responsible? Is that what it means?
Is that all? Like we don‘t have to show off or we don‘t have to take heavy rocks… we just have to be honest
but i think being honest also means taking accountability for the things you‘ve done. and it means having to take ACTION. narcissistists are lazy and cowardish people who don’t want to learn and grow like you do, they want to create chaos and drama
When my husband set boundaries with his narc dad, he wrote a letter explaining he wasn't gonna tolerate hateful and disrespectful language. Ther disrespect is making the relationship more distant. They did not respond to what he said. It's like they literally pretend he didn't write it. No accountability. If someone told me my behavior was causing distance, i would rectify it immediately. Not narcissists 😂😂😂
As far as I know, it can be dangerous to ask them to take responsibility.
I'm separated from husband right now. His favorite this to say is "I did nothing wrong!" He says everyone is ganging up on him.
My ex says he’s having trouble forgiving me and getting over what I did but he can’t tell me what I did because “it would start a fight”. And this is a guy who starts conversations by telling me he wants me back. Sigh. Too late. I’ve seen beyond the mask.
The narcissist WILL ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY IF he/she watches your videos, BUT they don't mean it!!!
They don't want to confront the fact that they're narcissistic, and so if they see a way out, via your videos, (and like videos,) they WILL SAY they accept responsibility, for the time being (MAYBE) but it wont last. It's a temporary scapegoating method, a gaslighting fiasco, if you will.
But whole illusion that they accept responsibility is an absolute JOKE. That is now what my covert narcissist husband is doing because he does watch these videos. My hope is that he at least will grow from it for his own well-being. STAY ALERT, STAY SAFE, STRONG AND GOD BLESS! Thank you for this!
Another great video! 👍 ❤😊
Favourite not-wrong word used by my narc was “weird” or at best “stupid”.
How can I make a narc realise they are abusive verbally and physically? I feel like I am talking to a wall. He will blame me for being abusive. He says it’s the only way I learn…
All my dad does is deflect and change the subject.
Good word Ben. You are right on.
This is good 👍 thanks for your honesty.
Thank you, very well said.
Thanks for watching!
My narc ex gf would always say. “sorry for hurting you “… then later she would say she did nothing wrong ……not I am sorry for hurting you ,, see the difference ?
I’m going to connect with you. This is what I see now, after 10 years. Lip service from her. I’m moving on. Started last Friday: Lawyer.
Short answer: No.
Long answer: only if it is to their advantage otherwise. . . No.
That looked like it was kinda hard for you to do Ben. I'm proud of you keep up the honesty and you'll be OK, plus that really made soooo much stuff make more sense in my life.
No
They go n do something worse.