What an incredible woman Ruth is!! The entire time, I was in awe of her strength and honesty in sharing her story. There were so many takeaways and insights I took away about addiction in general, in particular, its connection to avoidance and escapism. There is always a story behind the story. I was fascinated by her explanation on how understanding addiction requires exploring its core origins and how it developed from within. Uncovering these hidden reasons then provides insight into the steps you can take toward recovery. Her sharing her personal journey with porn addiction also shed light on the the impact addiction has on the mind and the internal struggles individuals face daily. I also valued her emphasise on the importance of learning to process our emotions, ideally around the time of the event something upsets you. Additionally, I particularly liked her final message on speaking up and seeking help when struggling, and treating people who confide in us about their struggles with grace. This was a very good episode, as always. I'll have to relisten to the episode and possibly take some notes. Ruth is doing amazing work. I love her goal with her book in bridging the gap between those who struggle with addiction and those who do not. I'll be purchasing the book and look forward to reading it. Thanks once again, Jules and Sharon, for creating a safe space and platform to allow such conversations to be spoken and heard around the world. 💖💖
I enjoyed this video so much that I actually relate to everything that was said or rather discussed on the table , I found this podcast on Friday and I had to watch this , i am someone who used to be addicted to pornography and explicit videos for many years , and I found my myself not being unable to survive wuthout masturb&tion almost every single day meanwhile watching explicit videos . I am 6months sober or clean without watching or doing any sort of pornography . My life is so much at peace I am no longer depressed and over the place like I was , yes I feel like repenting sometimes but I refuse to go back into that environment .
I grew up hearing the saying "if someone talks to you about other people best believe they'll talk about you too with other people " All this to say that Jules this thrash talking has been with us from time immemorial. For a convo that most people avoid, ya'll are amazing 👏.
I come to realization that porn could be an issue needing addressing after bumping into porn content in my "close" people phones& laptop.At first, it didn't hit me until one person that always inthe Frontline why do people watch, I can't do such or stand porn watcher....only for me to realize this same person have been a consumer for the last 13-14years...8GB porn content only...I was shocked & kind felt sorry at the same time.this person is a phone addict, love 'this space', can stay back in the vehicle at the parking lot and sometimes goes with phone to shower....I am concerned this person is addicted but I can't even help coz I don't know how people go around that.I saw another young lady watching in mat....Aki..I don't think it's a healthy habit to even start...thanks for this open conversation.I t takes a courageous person to share their experience.
I think pornography highly objectifies women/females (well ,speaking from when it didnt have so many variations gender-wise) it also creates a falsehood of what sex was created to be like, be for and takes away the sacredness of it all.
1 early exposure of porn is one way where porn becomes addictive.. because it activates certain parts of Ur mind and shuts off bad emotions..as u grow u often to learn how to handle bad emotions by crying, fighting, wallowing, complaining talking with friends playing... so that when u get exposed to porn at an older age U have already learned how to deal with negative emotions...but when Ur young when Ur parents fight divorce U cry about it talk about yell about it....if U have been exposed to porn U go to porn to stop those bad feelings when you get a bad job the day u become stressed about it u find solace in porn..if Ur in a relationship and Ur partner is mad U feel bad U go back to porn..so the best thing about this addiction is that it can be a sign of things are not good and u need to fix it... in her case it seems she started having a serious problem with it in highschool mostly because when other girls are also struggling with puberty they are complaining crying using drama using sports etc but she had a secret weapon which was porn it shuts off those bad emotions instantly but she was lucky to have a counsellor to help her...Kenyan highschool are extra stressful
Wow! Thank you Ruth for sharing the love of Christ with so much wisdom and joy. Thank you so much for sharing your story and being vulnerable. ❤🎉 Thank you Jules & Sharon for having this conversation.
I want to hear more and more stories like this from an eye of an expert. We need authors, experts to present their views on serious matters such as Sex, Health and science etc
This needs to be talked about more, so many people are suffering silently because you really can't tell physically. Was also interesting to learn that digging deep will make the connection to the addiction. Eye opening conversation guys 👏
Really proud of you guys. Humour, when dealing with the most difficult conversations with guests as real as this, yields the most authentic and relatable content. You’re already ahead of the pack. Just a matter of time, and the numbers and € will validate your risk-taking. Here for you when you need.
Sometimes talking about other people ( even negatively) is not always from a bad place ... sometimes people just need places to vent ... If I'm talking to someone about something that my friend did and it hurt me, i don't think that's bad, coz I'm just looking for a place to vent and talk about how that thing or that friend hurt me... Of course without malicious intent
This is very educative i must confess may the Almighty reward ruth abundantly but i think she should have dropped her contact or handles incase one wants to reach her.
It’s okay to vent, but imagine venting about your closet people without them even knowing what’s going on in your life. What is friendship nowadays??? So hard to trust. And once they mess your image they will never clean your name!!! Sending love to everyone ❤❤❤
You might think you have nothing to learn about this podcast since you are not a porn addict but trust me there is A LOT to learn.,Ruth we applaud you,Sharon and Jules Thank you ❤such an edifying conversation 🙏
Thank you so much Ruth most of your story is my story. I'm sure starting therapy because I can see how it spills on other parts of my life. The sexual abuse that I've never shared and all that..... Thank you ladies for this conversation.
It's awesome to hear Ruth's story am relating every but of it,my question is what of those girls in the interior who can't find such a podcast or that who can see this and needs help and no one is there literally to help , no finances to see a counsellor,or even the courage to tell the story ,,, is there a way they can be helped
Thank you Noni, Julia and IRP team for having this conversation😊 👏👏👏👏Thank you Ruth for candidly sharing your story, this is enlightening😊 Dear Parents, Sex education is where it’s at, please do the needful😊 Regards, Children
The lady to the left with the green dress is playing it safe with being politically correct not quite expressive in her delivery.Keeping it PG.Ruth is quite honest about her situation.
Thanks for this podcast, have learned a lot. i had the same problem from form three' there is a day my mum found a porn book in my room, that day i received a thorough beating from her but i couldn't stop. one day i decided to open up to my parents and they connected me to a certain councilor who helped me a lot.
M@sturbation is good if regulated, but i would like to urge people if you're to do it, don't use porn. Do it naturally. i know it beacause i am an active addict and i need help....
porn is basically watching other people have sex, which we all do, I personally look at it like art, the reason I think it's forbidden is bc we live in a very hypocritical society
"And when someone comes to you for help, remember that thing you struggle with, and how you'd like to be treated." Wow, thanks Ruth.
It's sooo refreshing to finally get a podcast that emphasizes on good quality video and audio.
What an incredible woman Ruth is!! The entire time, I was in awe of her strength and honesty in sharing her story. There were so many takeaways and insights I took away about addiction in general, in particular, its connection to avoidance and escapism. There is always a story behind the story. I was fascinated by her explanation on how understanding addiction requires exploring its core origins and how it developed from within. Uncovering these hidden reasons then provides insight into the steps you can take toward recovery. Her sharing her personal journey with porn addiction also shed light on the the impact addiction has on the mind and the internal struggles individuals face daily.
I also valued her emphasise on the importance of learning to process our emotions, ideally around the time of the event something upsets you. Additionally, I particularly liked her final message on speaking up and seeking help when struggling, and treating people who confide in us about their struggles with grace. This was a very good episode, as always. I'll have to relisten to the episode and possibly take some notes. Ruth is doing amazing work. I love her goal with her book in bridging the gap between those who struggle with addiction and those who do not. I'll be purchasing the book and look forward to reading it. Thanks once again, Jules and Sharon, for creating a safe space and platform to allow such conversations to be spoken and heard around the world. 💖💖
Thanks for watching and sharing your takeaways 🫶🏾🫶🏾
I enjoyed this video so much that I actually relate to everything that was said or rather discussed on the table , I found this podcast on Friday and I had to watch this , i am someone who used to be addicted to pornography and explicit videos for many years , and I found my myself not being unable to survive wuthout masturb&tion almost every single day meanwhile watching explicit videos . I am 6months sober or clean without watching or doing any sort of pornography . My life is so much at peace I am no longer depressed and over the place like I was , yes I feel like repenting sometimes but I refuse to go back into that environment .
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I grew up hearing the saying "if someone talks to you about other people best believe they'll talk about you too with other people " All this to say that Jules this thrash talking has been with us from time immemorial. For a convo that most people avoid, ya'll are amazing 👏.
Ruth has such a deep insightful awareness about what she has been through. Keep up the good work.
Listen, we absolutely love the audio visual.
I feel like I'm more connected with y'all amazing ladies 💕💕💕💕💕💕
Yay! Thank you!
Not Jules and Sharon wearing shades of the same color again, y'all look amazing😍😍
Thank you 🫶🏾
I come to realization that porn could be an issue needing addressing after bumping into porn content in my "close" people phones& laptop.At first, it didn't hit me until one person that always inthe Frontline why do people watch, I can't do such or stand porn watcher....only for me to realize this same person have been a consumer for the last 13-14years...8GB porn content only...I was shocked & kind felt sorry at the same time.this person is a phone addict, love 'this space', can stay back in the vehicle at the parking lot and sometimes goes with phone to shower....I am concerned this person is addicted but I can't even help coz I don't know how people go around that.I saw another young lady watching in mat....Aki..I don't think it's a healthy habit to even start...thanks for this open conversation.I t takes a courageous person to share their experience.
I think pornography highly objectifies women/females (well ,speaking from when it didnt have so many variations gender-wise) it also creates a falsehood of what sex was created to be like, be for and takes away the sacredness of it all.
Jules' hair😍😍
This episode will definitely heal so many people.. thank you so much
1 early exposure of porn is one way where porn becomes addictive.. because it activates certain parts of Ur mind and shuts off bad emotions..as u grow u often to learn how to handle bad emotions by crying, fighting, wallowing, complaining talking with friends playing... so that when u get exposed to porn at an older age U have already learned how to deal with negative emotions...but when Ur young when Ur parents fight divorce U cry about it talk about yell about it....if U have been exposed to porn U go to porn to stop those bad feelings when you get a bad job the day u become stressed about it u find solace in porn..if Ur in a relationship and Ur partner is mad U feel bad U go back to porn..so the best thing about this addiction is that it can be a sign of things are not good and u need to fix it... in her case it seems she started having a serious problem with it in highschool mostly because when other girls are also struggling with puberty they are complaining crying using drama using sports etc but she had a secret weapon which was porn it shuts off those bad emotions instantly but she was lucky to have a counsellor to help her...Kenyan highschool are extra stressful
Thanks for sharing this insight
Thank you, Ruth, for being brave enough to share your story.
This is a remarkable episode. Thank you ladies🎉.In the event that Ruth should ever open up a youth group or an NGO I would love to volunteer.
In true friendships you just can't talk behind their backs.
Ruth!!! Wow standing ovation 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Wow! Thank you Ruth for sharing the love of Christ with so much wisdom and joy. Thank you so much for sharing your story and being vulnerable. ❤🎉
Thank you Jules & Sharon for having this conversation.
I want to hear more and more stories like this from an eye of an expert. We need authors, experts to present their views on serious matters such as Sex, Health and science etc
This needs to be talked about more, so many people are suffering silently because you really can't tell physically. Was also interesting to learn that digging deep will make the connection to the addiction. Eye opening conversation guys 👏
Really proud of you guys.
Humour, when dealing with the most difficult conversations with guests as real as this, yields the most authentic and relatable content.
You’re already ahead of the pack. Just a matter of time, and the numbers and € will validate your risk-taking. Here for you when you need.
Women ALWAYS claiming they don't know what they are doing.
Sometimes talking about other people ( even negatively) is not always from a bad place ... sometimes people just need places to vent ...
If I'm talking to someone about something that my friend did and it hurt me, i don't think that's bad, coz I'm just looking for a place to vent and talk about how that thing or that friend hurt me...
Of course without malicious intent
So you'd be okay if your friends do the same thing you're doing?
@@thespot2035 yes
This is very educative i must confess may the Almighty reward ruth abundantly but i think she should have dropped her contact or handles incase one wants to reach her.
Jules your dress is giving grown 😍😍😍😍
My girl Jules....keep that light shining....
Am just mind blown on how addiction in general can take over your life if you don't get the correct help.
Right? 🤯
they dont look like survivors🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Such an informative episode. Thank you guys
Being vulnerable like this and telling your story Ruth , I mean it's so inspiring ,thanks to team IRP for bringing this on board ❤
Na Muache Kunyonga....😂😂😂...jst stop
It’s okay to vent, but imagine venting about your closet people without them even knowing what’s going on in your life. What is friendship nowadays??? So hard to trust. And once they mess your image they will never clean your name!!! Sending love to everyone ❤❤❤
I just wanna say thank you God for landing me here, and I’m not ashamed to testify .
You might think you have nothing to learn about this podcast since you are not a porn addict but trust me there is A LOT to learn.,Ruth we applaud you,Sharon and Jules Thank you ❤such an edifying conversation 🙏
Thank you so much Ruth most of your story is my story. I'm sure starting therapy because I can see how it spills on other parts of my life. The sexual abuse that I've never shared and all that..... Thank you ladies for this conversation.
Glad it resonated and wishing you healing hun 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@ItsRelatedIPromise Thank you🙏🏾❤️
This is so full of knowledge and awareness. Beautifully communicated ❤❤❤. Loved this episode and also this is my first time here
It's awesome to hear Ruth's story am relating every but of it,my question is what of those girls in the interior who can't find such a podcast or that who can see this and needs help and no one is there literally to help , no finances to see a counsellor,or even the courage to tell the story ,,, is there a way they can be helped
Thank you so much Ruth for being this frank with this topic. I have learnt so much. Thank you.
i related i peomise
What a story! That's so profound, thank you Jules and Sharon
Dirty John***
Wow what an inspiring story!! ❤❤❤
This was so good. Listened kinly at work. Oh God bless you. Thanks Ruth and the Host.
Very informative 👏
Thank you Noni, Julia and IRP team for having this conversation😊
👏👏👏👏Thank you Ruth for candidly sharing your story, this is enlightening😊
Dear Parents,
Sex education is where it’s at, please do the needful😊
Regards,
Children
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The lady to the left with the green dress is playing it safe with being politically correct not quite expressive in her delivery.Keeping it PG.Ruth is quite honest about her situation.
I'm loving this❤
This is a remarkable episode!
I love the title already 😊 can't wait to get into it 🎉
Thanks for this podcast, have learned a lot. i had the same problem from form three' there is a day my mum found a porn book in my room, that day i received a thorough beating from her but i couldn't stop. one day i decided to open up to my parents and they connected me to a certain councilor who helped me a lot.
This convo was too short!
Veeeery insightful episode. 👌🏾👌🏾
Love Jules.
Ok outfits!❤
Great conversation.👏
very informative topic ❤
If she wants to help people why is she trying to make money out of it by selling her experience?
Hehe you can also give your story and make money...
Dear John or dirty John?
Sharon's hair♥.
brilliance
Wow, as in mindblown wow... so profound so thought provoking. Thank you Ruth and the team for this🫶🏾
Did y'all plan your outfits? The contrasts!!Love it.
Maybe 👀😅
Very informative ladies..deep conversations..much appreciated...thankyou.
M@sturbation is good if regulated, but i would like to urge people if you're to do it, don't use porn.
Do it naturally. i know it beacause i am an active addict and i need help....
So insightful loved the episode
porn is basically watching other people have sex, which we all do, I personally look at it like art, the reason I think it's forbidden is bc we live in a very hypocritical society
Ume GONGA Nipo..
ndio naanza kuiona, hope it talks about what i have been struggling with, i hope to learn
Love love the episode❤❤
Kalikua kanapiga iyo klit ka nonesense.