Lessons we have learned from heartbreak featuring Jules ❤️🩹 |Episode 71
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- Опубліковано 22 лис 2022
- What comes in mind when you hear the word ‘BreakUp?’ Another sad story for most of us, right? The truth is, in most cases breakups are the darkest pits but also the lessons learnt thereafter can magically change your life and lead to a mindblowing self discovery.
On this episode we sat with the amazing Jules as we unpacked some of our personal lessons we have learned through our breakups. We shed light on how to deal with red flags, understanding your attachment styles, dealing with loneliness and whether it gets easier to deal with breakups as we grow older.
What are some of the lessons you have learned from your breakup story? Let’s chat in the comments.
Ps: The book mentioned by Lydia is called ‘Attached’ written by Amir Levine, M.D and Racheal S.F. Heller
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Jules is a national treasure tbh! ❤
Someone had to highlight this 🥰 loved this collaboration 💯
I concur!
Couldn't agree more
sure
For real 😍😍😍
I'm a king betweener....I am glad to be part of this community..I love every aspect of it.....
Thank you 😊 ❤
Thankyou for being here❤️
Raise your hand if you got no big sis and the internet gave you 2 beautiful women full of grace and empathy and you no longer feel like you are doing life alone.
I did more when I was single than when I'm married. I remember being told single people are the busiest people and married people have more time. I even sometimes think of my single days and wish I could go back for just a year. I travelled solo, zumba, hiking, solo dates, all sorts of things that kept me busy. Being single was one of the best times of my life. What I miss most about being single is the ability to just plan a trip and go. Take time off work to go to a concert without thinking of who and who. As long as there is gas in the car and $$$, we go, we go.
😄🥰
I love that for you. I've just begun my single journey and I'm excited for it, so far so good, I'm getting to do everything I want and I'm loving it ❤️
I think you can do them all even now .
Ofcourse it won't be the same but its possible
I love how murugi is always so attentive to listening to the points ..,
Loneliness is a sign from your mind that you need to connect ❤
My take away too💯
When Jules said,
Read the book, but also Read the room
In regards to lessons from breakups
I felt it.
Deep
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In that lonely discussion, I think people also need to understand that they may not necessarily be lonely, they're just alone. It's kinda like confusing peace with boredom when you're acquainted with chaos. The mind is a sponge and can't really distinguish delusion from reality... only what you feed it. If you read this, I hope you do the internal work.
Lydia is such a sweet girl.I almost shed a tear when you were reaffirming Jules at the end of the video❤️Jules really does deserve someone great.
Her and me both 🥺
Wheeeeee ehe coz our in betweeners are LOUD but we love them
Can we have Jules on TMI regularly 👌
Glad you used the word regularly coz I almost said all the time
She should come here because she is the consistent one in the other group.
@@berylaluoch5374 there was a time she wasn't consistent too 🤔
These are scammers
@@J.J.K.M who are?
I love the way Murugi assures Lydia.... "You can't be an alcoholic... I just know..." I love that kind of friendship.
Blessed are the people walking behind/infront of the scene, for they have seen Lydia, Murugi and Jules😁😁
😅😅😅
😅😅😅 Thats hilarious.
@@mercykeli the way they are just passing passing without a care in the world, mimi someone would have to hold me because... 😀😀
@@monicalewisky4925 Me too.
I wanted to hear Jules speak more . Her perspective on relationship is a bit realistic and her approach makes it easier to see her reality more . Good colab , but I was hoping to hear Jules more .
Wherever Jules is ,I go ..She does sth to be ❤️❤️
Thanks for this topic Murugi and Lydia
You guys made Jules look mpole. The rest of the over 25 are so chill so much so that they make Jules look loud😂😂
True 🤣🤣
True
I know 🤣🤣🤣
"Loneliness is your body telling you you need to connect" Thanks Jules💛
How do I connect laawd it's me again😂
My heart goes out to Lydia. It is sad that you had to be the one to go through this, but you're great and the amount of work you're investing into your personal awareness and growth is will bear fruits. One day, Lydia. One day. Okay? ❤
Aaaaw 🤎🌎. Making this world a better place 📷. Sending hugs Lydia 💌
Thank you so much dear. 🙏🏽❤
I watched this video immediately I decided to end things with my situationship after neglecting my emotional needs continuously. For all those who have felt this feeling before, I'm sure they can relate to how it feels being left naked in the cold.
I feel so much better after listening to this. Thanks a lot TMI 🥺❤️
"Love is too powerful a gift from God for anyone to exclude themselves from it." For sho Lydia! Much Love from Uganda. ❤️ P
Relationship is not mechanical, life is always a test. Empathy is supreme in a relationship. But most of all, we are there to help each other with our imperfections in a relationship. Do not compare your relationship to that of another, simply work on your own. Always remember to forgive your partner when they wrong you. Hi Jule, you and your friends are simply adorable ❤
Awww, I love that Jules said, "It's definitely TMI" with Lydia and Murugi. 💖
Right?!
‘’Courage taught me no matter how bad a crisis gets ... any sound investment will eventually pay off."
Making it out at a young age is quite difficult. I started a side hustle at 17, saved up and made some good investments. l'm 28,live on my own and having a good life for myself. Big ups to you and everyone out there trying
Sounds like plan, how do you put money to work?
@@lilianazuluaga6504 Yes it sure is. I put in money in investments and get profits. That 's how I make more money without working. This does not sound new to you right ?
@@danromero533 Thanks for replying me, I've heard so many people talk about investment but none had said how to do it right.
Am hoping on you can explain more on how you make extra income from investments
This video looks so crisp! As in the lighting, the make up, resolution, y'alls make up. This is top tier production. Love it
Thanks so much!!
I extra love Jules for this episode!!! Jules I love you so much❤❤❤
Jules' and Lydia's energy is always at per
First four minutes into TMI not me running to search Jules podcast “so this is love “ clicked on the plus button 😅and subscribing to “My Tiny Little Channel”
Now back to TMI….
I am a subscriber to her channel❤️ but not the podcast let me check it out.
Murugi Munyi is so real. There are some rules that can't work in marriage, when you are single may be... Bt in marriage there are so many dynamics that come to play.
Jules thank you for being real n sharing openly your experiences
Lydia is so self aware it's so amazing
Liking the video before even watching it coz I know it's gone be bomb😻😻
Riiight!
Lydia is a mind blower! Her thinking capacity is above and beyond this world.
I knew the video would be fun immediately I saw jules, the three of them can definitely talk for hours but still be entertaining and educative as hell to watch again and again#lol
Ykr, me too ❤️
Yeah Jules is so knowledgeable and always interesting to listen to.i love her too much😍
I loved this episode. I love Jules and the chemistry between all of you. I literally jumped to listen to this episode cause I just broke up with someone I've been seeing for a month yesterday.
I've learnt there's nothing wrong with wanting to be loved right.
I love Lydia KM and most of her perspectives on issues I do agree with but I feel like some of her views on topics are easier said than done.It almost feels like I'm listening to a motivational speaker.
My thoughts too
same here. a bit too preachy and idealistic. removing the basic human emotional perspective
Yeah she says what she thinks we want to hear , or what she so desperately wants to believe to be true - idealistic!
I think she's speaking from a single person's perspective #situational...she hasn't been in a situation where there concrete things that tie two pple together like kids. Single pple & married/in long term r/s pple tend to view things thru a different lens.
She can always change her mind. Evolving is real...we grow, we change!
Let's talk abit about this word easy... In my personal life, truly I do not think 90% of my "good things" or reward from mother earth came easy. As a woman, I actually have to take a very long munute or month to truly think about my cost-benefit analysis... Yaay I got to this kind of salary BUT I lost touch with friendships because I was working 16 hour days... oh my partner ln love did the math and we can't wait to have the 4 kids we planned now that his salary is X Amount and we will live the soft life, even though my career has to have taken a back burrner for birthing and being a key caretaker for these veloved kids...my point - What is easy? Where does it go one we are dissapointed by the sheer lack of easiness in anything
The beginning of this conversation on supporting each other in the industry was very wholesome
I think there's a difference between being lonely and alone.. loniless is a signal from your inner man trying to reach out for connection. Most people are afraid of their own company and that's why they seek companionship externally.
It's ok to feel lonely, just remember that when you do,don't run away from it, allow yourself to feel it,and go through it. Only then shall you overcome the feeling.
So true. There’s a power that comes with learning to sit with yourself and find stability and contentment in that place of solitude.
I knew this episode featuring Jules would be great. Totally loved it. You three are just awesomeness to this universe ❤️
TMI is already an amazing podcast.....having Jules on -- cherry 🍒 on top!! Such an enlightening conversation......love it!
Heartbreak is Inevitable, it’s up to oneself as to how long it will last💎💎💎Go Lyd👏🏾👏🏾
jules is so quotable and brilliant
Good day Ladies, so another reason i admire n wish u well is that you are not afraid to allow another woman shine! You are intentional about celebrating another (who should have been seen as a competitor). I have watched how others introduced u on their programmes. Murugi and Lydia forever, TMI forever!
aaaaaw 💗the friendly reassurance and therapy y'all gave to each others' experience was so lovely. I hope that everyone who's in the womb of their heartbreak has a sound and loving community around them something like this... love love love it ❤❤
Thanks for bringing Jules
I just love this amazing woman
You guys...Jules is so much fitting in this. You guys are wise. Love you big
Wow Murugi when you talked about going off to live abroad/ Uni - i was saying My goodness this is my story too (except no kid). When one grows, you are not always growing together with your partner and I truly believe (if possible) everyone should leave their home country, town or even culture to truly discover themselves. There is always a cost to self-discovery and after the discovery the actions and acceptance. Sometimes the cost of such growth or eye opening, is so painful or just not worth it BUT how can you know unless you try it? For me personally it’s much more bearable to walk in this life saying I have my answers as to where I am at versus what if this what if that.
I agree with you
Jules is so brilliant. more light to you babe.
Queens👑👑👑❤️❤️❤️ Loved this episode…. Our favs on one episode! Jules you are amazing keep shining.
My favourite ladies in one sitting.. . Love to see it. Always learning something from TMI ♥️
This is the best thing I've heard in a very long time. Honestly.. You guys are just beautiful. Thanks for helping us who don't know how to come out to people
An episode we din't know we needed. This was such a good conversation and squad🤗
I loved the show. Thank guys for being real. This is what we want in our society.
My love language has been consistence communication, When I lack this I Feel am not at peace. I wish to meet someone who talks and knows how to express her self. I understand someone more when they talk, that's when you know if these people are serious or not.
The main thing have gotten is that people have a tendency of carrying expectations from one relationship to the other, when these expectations are not meet, you just call it off. We need to understand people are not the same, the way you were treated from your previous life, it may be different from your current life.
Catching up with this and I TOTALLY AGREE with Murugi, Jules has a calm,peaceful and soft aura about her. It’s like the warmth Maya Angelo exudes from her voice😊 Loved loved this episode ❤
I really admire how Jules sees things for what they are❤️....so relatable 🌼
You guys look absolutely gorgeous❤🎉
I won’t fail to mention this as well- the video quality and background is to die for. We appreciate the efforts you put in to bring us great content- I just wanted you to know that it’s absolutely worth it and we see it!💕
Foshoo foshoo 💯
They never change. It's your definition of them that was wrong in the first place. Ooof! I felt that!
Thank you ladies for this authentic conversation. I learned so much.
Jules is so relatable ❤️
She really is, I love her❤
This was nice and insightful on how different we are in handling these situations and that's very key. You really did highlight the truth in there about the weight of 'failed' relationships really falls heavy on women.
this podcast is helping me grow on issues about relationships,thank you ladies keep it up
"You left but you were leaving a burning house"! Dang. Lydia Preach. Thank you lovely ladies for this insightful discussion.
What a conversation! I really enjoyed this episode... Jules ♥️
It's about to go down🔥I already know imma love this🤗❤️
Before I watch I already know this is fire because jules is here🥳🥳
I love this episode.... Jules is a great lady I love her beauty with brains
y'all are so Comfie and I luv that. The authenticity is out of this world. Bomb dropping,unapologeticness ...I can go on and on and on.Murungi i first saw you on Unpopular Opinion Ug and I fell in love with you ever since.
yall are awesome and just to close the deal,Jules is here🥰🥰
I really enjoyed this episode. It had such different perspectives and so real and authentically communicated. I also learnt so much and even began to figure out my attachment style. Lydia's self awareness, powerful. I also really related with Jules sharing that you must pick up on the grey areas of life even as you read books and people's definitions, you have to have a realistic understanding of it. Murugi speaking of far much worse stuff that can happen in a relationship, weeeeh I could write a book. Thank you ladies for adding value in my life through this conversation. Thank you.
The collab I never knew we needed ❤
The amount of pauses I took to internalize 🤌 says how much I learnt from this episode.
Bless you soul sisters 🙌
Haaaà same here
omg🤭you too😅
To us who are in the healing process, it will be get better, thanks TMI
Please have mor episodes with Jules this trio is so great ❤️
Definitely TMI🔥🔥. Real conversations on💔😢. Always keeping it💯👏🏾. Lyd so wise, Feels like therapy just listening to you 3😇. Jules braids😍. #WCW
Good and enriching conversation. You girls swish through ideas at the speed of light!
Wouh!! Been postponing listening to this but wow!! My lessons from this are 🙌🏾
This was such a beautiful conversation. ❤️❤️❤️
My face right now 😌😄🤣😅🥳🤗🤗a celebrating face for another epic episode💣🔥🔥🔥🔥and a collabo with Jules🤗🤗iisssa wrap
Jo you are blessed to have never experienced a heartbreak. It can drive you mad.
Wow !!! you nailed it with Jules.
Unpopular opinion, Jules the guest was not given the full time to speak on her experiences, lessons and opinions, and that's the reason why I clicked on this segment. She was spoken over and I feel she fought to be heard. But all in all, good!
I really needed to hear this convo... So insightful
My fav girlies in one episode. What a blessing. Also i have this toxic trait of commenting even before i watch. Love u guys
Me too😻
The solution to loneliness (at least in my opinion) is community. People are starved of community and authentic friendships and connections outside of their nuclear family. We all need love and connection but it cannot all come from romantic relationships. People need to invest in community regardless of their relationship status in order to feel connected to others.
Amazing episode 👏 ❤️ I have learnt a loooot....Jules was definitely such a thoughtful and brilliant addition!! Ps: Murugi I am a Pisces and nimejiongeza kwa mabeshte...love you guys, God bless!!
Always giving us the best content ❣️❣️
This so helpful in a place I need to move out but other connection are important especially family
Here to perfect my English ,Jules❤️❤️
I am here and so ready to laugh and learn
Can't get enough of tmi❤❤
Most awaited episode 💓
Heeeeh, been wanting the human connection or rather been so desperate for that human connection and I got it but the yeuk that comes with it uuuuuiiih wacha tu. Good thing we had the conversation with the guy good thing he understood Thank God I took a huge U-turn for myself because I know I deserve better when it's the right time.
Thank you queens it has been very educating
Jules 👏👏👏this women here is what influencers are !
I've loved every bit of it...,
Mahn I'm soaked soaked into this ...,
Proud Queenbetweener❤️
Most men don’t have the courage to break up with women so the treat you bad so you choose to leave. So when it happens once just run. Save your the extra miserable days.
I agree
Exactly..don’t wait for a man to show you he doesn’t want you twice.
Am happy for this tag, i can relate wt the intuition thing, i hd it in the past so many time, i hv learned that the moment i sense that, i quickly lean bak friends thot i was sensitive but now looking bak i thot thats the best thing i hv eva done in life,Though i hv also learn no one is perfect.
I'm in your shoes Jules. Love your way of thinking jules
Jules is the kind of a woman i want to be in my 30s ❤
Most of the things Jules is letting out I'm really in sync with her. I have been in most situations she's been through and glad she's saying it out loud meaning she has accepted that part, and willing to move from it
Thank you for this episode, so many "ah moments" for me.
Emphasis on loneliness…I have experienced what it means to be lonely and lost , and the decisions that stem from that are hugely consequential
That was a really good conversation. Informative