Why You're Telling Little Lies and How to Stop

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  • @Anonymouse01248
    @Anonymouse01248 Рік тому +318

    Father Mike Schmitz, It must be very hard to openly admit these flaws to preach this video, but I want to let everyone know that this transparency is very brave and should be encouraged for the good things it does and the lessons that you teach be clear to live by. You really know what to say to get us thinking and reflecting, and this is yet another great example!

    • @Anonymouse01248
      @Anonymouse01248 Рік тому +4

      @Sniper08 Thanks. I hate typos especially from myself, haha

    • @juliekaszubowski7523
      @juliekaszubowski7523 Рік тому +3

      So true!

    • @catholiclife9304
      @catholiclife9304 Рік тому +2

      I think it's very brave

    • @chrisnorcutt9060
      @chrisnorcutt9060 Рік тому

      This Also means No Man Puts Any Name Before Jesus Christ No Name This Means Moses, , Paul. , Mary 👍🙏

    • @Godisnotjesus1967
      @Godisnotjesus1967 6 місяців тому

      ​@@Anonymouse01248Just read Revelation 11:19.......! The Ark is invisible, significant and Everlasting just like the Son of God stands in Heaven right now. If you don't believe that the invisible Covenant Ark is in the Temple in heaven right now......then you don't believe in Yahushua the Messiah either●(period)

  • @robinson5923
    @robinson5923 Рік тому +83

    This is something I struggle with and what a timing! Thanks father!!

    • @baseballmomof8
      @baseballmomof8 Рік тому +7

      Me too!

    • @fernthaisetthawatkul5569
      @fernthaisetthawatkul5569 Рік тому +2

      the Lord always knows exactly what we need!🙏

    • @iamfilipinas
      @iamfilipinas Рік тому +1

      Currently in this struggle as well.

    • @Godisnotjesus1967
      @Godisnotjesus1967 6 місяців тому

      ​@@fernthaisetthawatkul5569jesuschrist is the fake god of the white man's religion ....Christianity. May EL ELYON, GOD MOST HIGH destroy this satanic sect of the catholic organisation. Yahushua haMassiach is THE SON OF GOD!

    • @TheShellymay
      @TheShellymay 5 місяців тому

      This makes me feel so much better that I am not the only one who struggles with this. I feel like we can all help each other be better even if it’s just praying for each other. Please pray for me as I pray for you.

  • @katherinehickey6915
    @katherinehickey6915 Рік тому +139

    Thanks for this video. I'm trying to be a better Catholic and this sermon has given me tools to work with.

    • @patpilens7692
      @patpilens7692 Рік тому +9

      I too am working to bump up my faith and found this and the comments very thoughtful for my growth!

    • @katherinehickey6915
      @katherinehickey6915 Рік тому +2

      @@Call_Upon_YAH we pray to Jesus through his mother. This is evidenced in how we pray. We ask our Lord for Mercy and ask the Blessed Virgin Mary to pray for us. All our prayers and litanies are written in this way. The commandments tell us to honour our parents. Jesus made Mary our Mother as one of his final acts on the Holy Cross. It is right therefor that we show her respect and honour but Catholics do not worship her. God bless you and thank you for sharing Scripture extracts. I hope my simple explanation above helps you understand the way we Catholics give honour and adore the Lord Our God.

    • @gvh4168
      @gvh4168 Рік тому +2

      @@katherinehickey6915Amen! You said what & why we Catholics seek the Virgin Mother Mary; to intercede for us. We do not ignore our faith or love for God, we want more of God! ❤

    • @Godisnotjesus1967
      @Godisnotjesus1967 6 місяців тому

      ​@@patpilens7692jesuschrist is the fake god of the white man's religion ....Christianity. May EL ELYON, GOD MOST HIGH destroy this satanic sect of the catholic organisation. Yahushua haMassiach is THE SON OF GOD!

  • @ELROD.1_0_1
    @ELROD.1_0_1 Рік тому +68

    It was not a weird video at all Father, it just striked me in my head. Because today I chosed to lie just to escape from my responsibility. I thank holyspirit for this😇😇

    • @AlexanderBrown77
      @AlexanderBrown77 Рік тому +1

      ✝️ The gospel of your salvation 🩸
      Ephesians 1 kJV
      13 In whom ye also trusted, after that ye heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation: in whom also after that ye believed, ye were sealed with that holy Spirit of promise,
      1 Corinthians 15 kJV
      1 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand;
      2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.
      3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
      4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
      ✝️🩸
      Romans 3 KJV
      23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
      24 Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus:
      25 Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God;
      ♥️know♥️
      1 John 5 kJV
      13 These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.

    • @lrose7833
      @lrose7833 10 місяців тому

      ​@@AlexanderBrown77 the KJV is not Catholic. It's missing texts. Try the RSV.

    • @AlexanderBrown77
      @AlexanderBrown77 10 місяців тому

      @@lrose7833 ♥️ KJV is 7th Bible translated into English.
      Psalms 12 kJV
      6 The words of the LORD are pure words: as silver tried in a furnace of earth, purified seven times.
      7 Thou shalt keep them, O LORD, thou shalt preserve them from this generation for ever.
      👑Only bible authorized by a king 👑
      Ecclesiastes 8 kJV 👑
      4 Where the word of a king is, there is power: and who may say unto him, What doest thou?

  • @spaceforgrace3312
    @spaceforgrace3312 Рік тому +8

    I think sometimes we tell these little lies out of a sense of insecurity. We are not enough as we are so we have to create an alternative sense of ourselves. I think the biggest lie is that we are not deserving of God's love as we are- all lies stem from this.

  • @lovefromholymeadow
    @lovefromholymeadow Рік тому +62

    I have a journal where I work out my confession. I started giving a page to each sin I commit and then write what reason I felt I had for committing the sin. Helps me figure out what I seem to think I'm getting out of them.

  • @clairestevens3194
    @clairestevens3194 Рік тому +32

    It is sometimes difficult to be honest with people without being rude. “I gotta go” is kinder than adding “because I don’t want to continue this conversation” or “because you are depressing me” or “because I want to read a book now”. The other person doesn’t necessarily have a right to know the details of your life.

    • @granmabern5283
      @granmabern5283 Рік тому +6

      Changing the subject is totally legit, though.

    • @clairestevens3194
      @clairestevens3194 Рік тому +3

      @@granmabern5283 Changing the subject just continues the conversation instead of ending it. I guess you could just say “I have plans”.

    • @topdogriley
      @topdogriley Рік тому +9

      Yes, but it is perfectly fine to say something like, “Well, I’m going to take off now. It was great chatting with you.” (Unless, of course you don’t mean it. Lol).

    • @lesleyannekirkman6840
      @lesleyannekirkman6840 11 місяців тому +1

      A kinder way too is..."I'm going to let ye go now"...sometimes there are those who just need to talk as they are lonely..so after friendly banter..."ahh..I'm going to let ye go now"...(polite way)
      Thank you Fr Michael for clearing up questions I always had but to embarrassed to say out loud...even in the confessional..as I thought..well God knows my mind!! 😳

    • @feliciagallo9832
      @feliciagallo9832 10 місяців тому

      ...or because "I want to be by myself."

  • @christinebutler7630
    @christinebutler7630 Рік тому +11

    There's one situation in which it may not be so culpable to lie, and that is when it's a safety or survival issue. If you're in an abusive situation and the truth could get you injured or worse.....and I can tell you many people are in such situations.

  • @martyvestal1222
    @martyvestal1222 Рік тому +22

    Two Ironman Triathlons - absolutely awesome!!! It IS a really big deal and an accomplishment to be proud of!! You rock, Father Mike!!!
    And if I miss one day not listening to one of your messages, I feel a strong sense that something is missing. ❤️🙏✝️

    • @stageluvr91
      @stageluvr91 Рік тому +2

      I have never done any because I was never athletic or competitive. People who do those always amaze me.

    • @martyvestal1222
      @martyvestal1222 Рік тому +1

      @@stageluvr91 And he said it was a family thing. They sound like a very athletic and interesting family!

  • @dakotadupee2176
    @dakotadupee2176 Рік тому +11

    This was something the Holy Spirit convicted me of recently!

  • @amandacaron8828
    @amandacaron8828 Рік тому +35

    I love you Father Mike simply because. You speak in high volume… it’s so true. All those little white lies nips at our soul in time. I don’t know what hurts more the lies or the truth.. healing hurts, vulnerability hurts but being without God hurts way more .

  • @timopper5488
    @timopper5488 Рік тому +6

    It’s usually **easier** to beg forgiveness than to ask permission, but it’s usually not **better**.

  • @jennybarrier
    @jennybarrier Рік тому +6

    This is such a timely video for me! I've caught myself telling "white lies" some recently without even thinking until my mouth is opened and speaking and it is so frustrating. Thank you for your honesty. Just so no one feels alone... I lie to my Dad about how many cats I have. I'm embarrassed to admit I have 3 inside and 2 outside. He thinks I can't afford to feed them all (or its a waste of money) but they came as stray kittens and I've gotten 3 of them spayed and it barely costs anything to feed them. But i just dont want to hear about it. They bring me joy. And it feels really good to admit that even if it's in UA-cam Comments. 😂 Thank you Father Mike. Your candor helps others. ❤
    And I pray to just let my "yes be yes and my no be no".

  • @yensilluap
    @yensilluap Рік тому +9

    Thanks for this, Fr. Mike - I’ve confessed little white lies before - the kind that you are talking about - the ones that slip out without you giving any forethought. it is very embarrassing and humbling to realise how small I am at 63 years old ! Your talk provided clarity though - pointing to the reasons why we might do these things. No wonder a lot of the saints didn’t speak unnecessarily!

    • @IONov990
      @IONov990 Рік тому

      My life would be easier if I shut my mouth

  • @AmyD
    @AmyD Рік тому +1

    My OCD has now been kicked into overdrive since watching this. I’m constantly on the lookout for being hyperbolic & oversharing details so I’m sure to be transparent.🙄🤦🏼‍♀️😆

  • @colinbarber7848
    @colinbarber7848 Рік тому +57

    I can’t tell you how inspirational your message is to me. I feel so happy to hear you share openly about something that we all engage in but don’t want to confront. Just like you, I am working on this one. Thank you so much!

    • @AlexanderBrown77
      @AlexanderBrown77 Рік тому

      ♥️know♥️
      1 John 5 kJV
      13 These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.
      Ephesians 1 kJV
      13 In whom ye also trusted, after that ye heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation: in whom also after that ye believed, ye were sealed with that holy Spirit of promise,
      ✝️🩸
      1 Corinthians 15 kJV
      1 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand;
      2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.
      3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
      4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
      Romans 3 kJV
      23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
      24 Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus:
      25 Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God;

  • @donnapatelmo316
    @donnapatelmo316 Рік тому +22

    Sometimes i lie to not hurt someone.. or to not stress someone 🙏🏼🙏🏼 and i know it’s wrong

    • @clairestevens3194
      @clairestevens3194 Рік тому +1

      Would it be better to hurt or stress them?

    • @granmabern5283
      @granmabern5283 Рік тому +5

      @@clairestevens3194changing the subject is the answer. No lies involved.😮

    • @nightyew2160
      @nightyew2160 Рік тому +6

      When you are tempted to lie to protect a third party's reputation, you can honestly say that you're trying to gossip less and ask to change the subject. You could alternatively suggest the person you're speaking with get the news directly from the third party in question.

    • @donnapatelmo316
      @donnapatelmo316 Рік тому +3

      @OfficialProJustice it’s sometimes easier said than done esp dealing with a person who easily offended and you want to protect feelings i just try and say nothing it’s complicated but i keep praying 🙏🏼

    • @TrixRN
      @TrixRN Рік тому

      ⁠@OfficialProJusticeI can tell you’re very young. It is not loving to hurt people by giving a blunt truth, rather than couching it in loving language or avoiding certain topics. In addition, one’s opinion is rarely the truth. Facts are truth.

  • @MM22272
    @MM22272 Рік тому +1

    Let your yes be yes and let you no be no. Thanks, Fr. Mike!!!

  • @minaparish5687
    @minaparish5687 Рік тому +20

    Thank you for bringing this topic up. I've been "chewing" on this for a while, & you put it into perspective 😊

    • @paulg4672
      @paulg4672 Рік тому +3

      Totally agree with you have felt the same

  • @PhantomRed13
    @PhantomRed13 Рік тому +4

    Thank you Father

  • @ethangunn7526
    @ethangunn7526 Рік тому +1

    Your the best God bless you Father Mike

  • @guyfromaucklandnz
    @guyfromaucklandnz Рік тому +6

    I have some things in my past that I don't want to be open about, but also don't want to lie about. I've reached the conclusion that the only right thing is to avoid any outright lying, while carefully picking my words to convey the truth where it matters, and doing my best to avoid deception while remembering that ambiguity is OK as long as you can honestly justify withholding the bare and total truth.

    • @nightyew2160
      @nightyew2160 Рік тому +6

      You could also say it's none of their business, or probably more politely say you don't want to talk about it.

  • @user-kg1zv5xb1m
    @user-kg1zv5xb1m Рік тому +32

    Father.. thank you for this video. I loved it. Your honesty and clarity truly helped me a lot. You have such amazing common sense..and humility.
    Please never stop making these wonderful videos 🙏🏻✝️🌹

    • @AlexanderBrown77
      @AlexanderBrown77 Рік тому

      ✝️🩸
      Romans 3 kJV
      23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
      24 Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus:
      25 Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God;
      ✝️ Gospel 🩸
      1 Corinthians 15 kJV
      1 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand;
      2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.
      3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
      4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
      ♥️know♥️
      1 John 5 kJV
      13 These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.
      Ephesians 1 kJV
      13 In whom ye also trusted, after that ye heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation: in whom also after that ye believed, ye were sealed with that holy Spirit of promise,

  • @Bigchilezlife
    @Bigchilezlife Рік тому +6

    1st. Unfortunately I tell
    sometimes lies and it hurts me 💔 but the truth is better. But when it comes to people I really care about and I tell them the truth, why do they say things that hurt. I do care about them 100%! And I have someone in my heart that I can’t unlove. It’s hard for me😔

    • @timopper5488
      @timopper5488 Рік тому +4

      So they say hurtful things in response to you telling them truthful things? Some truths don’t need to be known by others. Ask yourself this: are the truthful things you tell them **likely** to cause their negative response, and is it necessary to tell them?

    • @granmabern5283
      @granmabern5283 Рік тому +2

      @@timopper5488really wise answer, THANKY0U. Silence is golden....😅

    • @MorreHope
      @MorreHope Рік тому +1

      @@timopper5488 ITS WORSE WHEN THE TRUTH FINALLY COMES OUT. If you read my post; something in my life expounded; I am always in situations; because you are damned if you do; and damned if you don't.

  • @eileenwilkerson7273
    @eileenwilkerson7273 Рік тому +18

    Great message Father, for everyone!

  • @Roni78z
    @Roni78z Рік тому

    That citation about Jesus.. Let your “Yes” be Yes, Your “No” be No… everything else is from the Evil One.. Geez! Brilliance! 🙏🏻

  • @marypartida6032
    @marypartida6032 Рік тому +5

    Jesus See's everything so i have no reason to not be honest, The truth will set you free(sometimes or in trouble) God Bless you Fr:Mike🙏

  • @becomingchristian
    @becomingchristian Рік тому +10

    Thank you so much! I was just telling my daughter this exact stuff tonight and then your video was miraculously posted at exactly the same time. That was God!

  • @bonjyb
    @bonjyb Рік тому +1

    Especially liked the bit about looking to others for approval.

  • @sttefaniesteche108
    @sttefaniesteche108 Рік тому +15

    makes all the sense father!! i really have a problem with the little lies, thank you for give us these three questions for ourselves

  • @robinlee9272
    @robinlee9272 Рік тому +8

    Hi, my name is Robin Lee and this is Your viewer. 😂. God bless you fr mike.

    • @robinlee9272
      @robinlee9272 Рік тому +2

      I heard what you said at the end. “Was that a weird video? I think that was a weird video.”
      Hahahaha
      And I say NO it was not weird. I can’t speak for anyone else but I’ve told many little untruths just to make myself look better when it probably doesn’t matter to the person I’m talking to. As you reminded us, Jesus said, “let your yes be your yes and your no be your no anything other is from the evil one.”
      Next time you say how many triathlons you have done, tell them 2 and a 1/3. Anyone would ask about the 1/3. Or simply tell them 2 and trained for 3rd but was injured. You deserve credit for that (almost 3rd).
      Thank you Fr. Mike, you have given me a lot to think about. Being as honest as we can possibly be is a freeing feeling.
      Besides, it means more that people like me for exactly who I am. I hope this is a feeling for many others as well. Amen.

  • @mariastathopoulos744
    @mariastathopoulos744 Рік тому +4

    I've reinforced a stack of untruths to my son: Santa Claus, Easter bunny, tooth fairy etc. I had to tell him the truth about Santa when my son was 12. He was so upset.
    Luckily he had worked out the Easter bunny and tooth fairy on his own by the age of 8.
    I know that my 'little white lies' tend to be: protect someone's feelings - "Do you like my outfit? etc" or to protect myself, in the sense of not wanting to be an 'open book' with people who aren't in my inner circle.

  • @nesrotstein5772
    @nesrotstein5772 Рік тому +1

    Hi Padre. This video was not weird at all. It was great and so true. Thank you.

  • @didiannzally9546
    @didiannzally9546 Рік тому +2

    I am struggling a lot with lying. This video will go a long way in helping me work on my weakness. God bless you!

  • @BlessedLifeLoveandFaith
    @BlessedLifeLoveandFaith Рік тому +7

    Thank you so much for this, Father Mike! I caught myself recently when I was shopping with my mom (she asked) and told her I spend $20, instead of $37. 😕 It's shameful because I struggle with makeup purchases, like a shopaholic. But, I will keep my honesty from now on and do my best to not overspend on stuff I already have.

    • @spaceforgrace3312
      @spaceforgrace3312 Рік тому +2

      oh this reminds me of my mum and the truth I covered up, but why was she so nosey anyway lol!

    • @user-ep8xo1od9o
      @user-ep8xo1od9o Рік тому +2

      I am the same with overbuying 😭 sometimes it feels like I can’t stop myself. I’ll pray for you!

    • @BlessedLifeLoveandFaith
      @BlessedLifeLoveandFaith Рік тому +1

      @@spaceforgrace3312 Sometimes, a mom's instincts just knows us too well when they ask!

    • @BlessedLifeLoveandFaith
      @BlessedLifeLoveandFaith Рік тому

      @@user-ep8xo1od9o aww thank you so much!! I will be praying for you too!💛 It's been a long struggle, but I'm ready to make small changes, like a budget plan for each month.

    • @spaceforgrace3312
      @spaceforgrace3312 Рік тому

      @@BlessedLifeLoveandFaith no- she was just nosey! I was earning money and free to spend a little on myself! I never ask my daughter how much she spends on clothes.

  • @brooksriess748
    @brooksriess748 Рік тому +6

    I'm new to the Catholic faith and your channel has been so helpful.

  • @ahapka
    @ahapka Рік тому +2

    One goo thing to remember is that silence can also be a good way to avoid white lies in some situations. Not everything needs to be talked about with everyone. Especially when it's something that could lead to the sin of gossip if it's talked about too much.

  • @christophermichael1119
    @christophermichael1119 Рік тому +21

    Father Mike, as always, this was an amazing and inspiring video. I always appreciate your honesty and how you just tell it like it is. Its very refreshing, and you're an awesome person and an even more awesome Priest. Thank you for all the videos youre always pumping out. I hope you realize how many people you inspire! I pray for you everyday. God bless you!!!

    • @AlexanderBrown77
      @AlexanderBrown77 Рік тому

      ♥️know♥️
      1 John 5 kJV
      13 These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.

  • @shareenchoudhury-leighton1748
    @shareenchoudhury-leighton1748 5 місяців тому

    💙 Fear of being judged and disappointing to others ! 💙

  • @lety2467
    @lety2467 Рік тому +19

    Awesome video, really helpful! These "white lies" almost always become gateway sins to even bigger sins too. Better to shoot high in telling the whole truth and nothing but truth and end up doing an average job of it, than to be less than clear and factual and fall low into the territory of lies and false witness. Lots of people have this struggle and those that don't are blessed. Also it must be summer in the north at last - you have a tan!

  • @paulhornbogen980
    @paulhornbogen980 Рік тому +2

    Father Mike, spot on spiritual psychoanalysis. Boy, you nailed it with the internal self-awareness. I think you could give Dr. Phil a run for his money.

  • @annatmarshall5133
    @annatmarshall5133 Рік тому +5

    Well Fr Mike, youve done 2 more triathlons than me. Always wanted to do a triathlon, but deep, open water scares me.

  • @barbarawalsh2875
    @barbarawalsh2875 Рік тому

    Dear father, Mike., Thank you for taking the time to explain all that my mom used to call it when we did things that we didn’t tell about lying by the sin of omission. It’s strange that the woman who said that to me all the time I am now not telling things because she’s 86 she’s blind and very angry about it and she has a little bit of mental illness so my conversations with her I tried to choose my words carefully and balance what I think, she should know from what actually happened. You definitely have given me some insight I thank you very much.

  • @MariaRamirez-jm4uj
    @MariaRamirez-jm4uj Рік тому

    Honesty is the best policy. Especially being honest with yourself. And honesty with others keeps us accountable for our actions.

  • @jamesmcgrath3841
    @jamesmcgrath3841 Рік тому

    "Better to beg forgiveness than ask permission"!!! 😅 Your uncle is very wise!! And I'm glad you followed his advice "too often"!!

  • @Roni78z
    @Roni78z Рік тому

    We are all human… so brave of you Father. Learning from this… 👍

  • @francescruz6276
    @francescruz6276 6 місяців тому

    Father Mike that totally make sense Father Mike the Holy Spirit uses you in big loving amazing ways 🙏 you are such a blessing thank you for saying yes to your calling maybe if is God's willing you could teach new young priests. God bless you 😇

  • @maryabrahams8029
    @maryabrahams8029 Рік тому +3

    Not a weird vidio Father Mike ,just the truth and nothing else! AMEN!

  • @aylingtafoya9754
    @aylingtafoya9754 Рік тому

    Thank you Lord Jesus Christ 🙏 thank you Fr. Mike🙏

  • @DianeWasylishyn
    @DianeWasylishyn 4 місяці тому

    Father Mike you are a treasure and I am being completely honest 😊

  • @TJ-tb3xm
    @TJ-tb3xm Рік тому +3

    Excellent!

  • @timopper5488
    @timopper5488 Рік тому +12

    I think it’s easier to say, “I have to leave,” instead of “I want to leave,” because “have to” allows for a multitude of reasons outside of yourself, and not just your desire to get away from that person. Pretty hard to NOT insult someone by saying “I want to leave,” and giving NO reason why. Always have plenty of legitimate reasons to not be where you currently are.

    • @augusto8632
      @augusto8632 Рік тому +1

      Or you could just say "I'll go" and leave it open.

    • @HomesteadRanger
      @HomesteadRanger Рік тому +1

      Just be honest. You should say I want to get away from you now. It was fun but you are starting to annoy me so I want to leave while we are still friends.

    • @ahapka
      @ahapka Рік тому +3

      I would also recommend "it's time for me to go."

    • @timopper5488
      @timopper5488 Рік тому

      @@augusto8632
      And they will obviously ask you, “Oh, why?”

    • @timopper5488
      @timopper5488 Рік тому

      @@HomesteadRanger
      Then you would literally sound like a rather low-functioning Autistic person. I mean, if that’s what you’re going for, by all means, but that would, again, be giving a false impression.

  • @humberto4344
    @humberto4344 Рік тому +2

    Thank you!

  • @jenniferrikard9361
    @jenniferrikard9361 Рік тому +1

    Just yesterday I was having such a hard time with this (not just yesterday, many days, but it was much worse yesterday)…wondering what is wrong with me? Thank you, Father Mike! This was much needed!!

  • @iloveramennoodle01
    @iloveramennoodle01 Рік тому +5

    I just got my great adventure bible in the mail today and am super excited to get it blessed and start following the Bible in a year ! Thank you Father Mike!

  • @nancyhelen6780
    @nancyhelen6780 Рік тому

    Once again Fr. Patrick touches the heart with his powerful sermon. When I think of those people who were family and friends and have passed away, I don't necessarily think that they might be in need of prayer rather than just my tears of missing them. Saying a prayer or praying the Holy Rosary for them can turn tears to joy. HOPE meaning Help Other People Everywhere can include the holy souls. Thank you Fr. Patrick for your mission of HOPE.

  • @mgrz98
    @mgrz98 Рік тому +1

    It makes sense Fr. Mike! I’ve been doing it for too long. Let my yes be yes and no be no, amen!

  • @lisacordes159
    @lisacordes159 Рік тому

    Dude! I mean Fr. Mike! I can’t believe you even did “1” off those!!! HUGE Kudos to You!!!! 🤩👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @feliciagallo9832
    @feliciagallo9832 10 місяців тому

    I agree with your assessment on why we lie, even little lies like your example. But one reason I do this is because I have always been a people pleaser, so I put a good "face" on something. Even if it something stupidly simple. I also agree that we lie about small things because we do want to look good/talented/smart etc. to others.
    I am working on changing this to BE more authentic.
    Having said all of that, I also agree that everyone doesn't need to know everything you think, at the moment when you think it.

  • @annagracie762
    @annagracie762 Рік тому

    Thank you Father Mike for sharing.

  • @alfiopalanca397
    @alfiopalanca397 Рік тому

    Excellent message Father Mike. I know when I tell those little white lies it chips away at my closer relationship with Jesus.

  • @shawn6157
    @shawn6157 Рік тому +1

    Are you ok, Fr? Looks like you're in the struggle, Champion. Bless you, mighty man of God.

  • @mathtutoring7509
    @mathtutoring7509 Рік тому +3

    Nice priest 👍

  • @lauraabrodsky8155
    @lauraabrodsky8155 Рік тому +4

    WOW, Fr. Mike. This really made me take stock of my words. Thank you for your transparency and excellent suggestions. 🙏🙏🙏

  • @hclws8930
    @hclws8930 Рік тому +5

    Thanks so much Fr. Mike for this video and all you do for us to help lead us on the right path in life towards Heaven. You are truly full of the Holy Spirit. God bless you 🙏 ✝ 🕊 🌹 ❤

  • @giovannigennaro9732
    @giovannigennaro9732 Рік тому +1

    God is Truth.

  • @davidmorton2780
    @davidmorton2780 Рік тому +2

    Excellent video. It is something I struggle with, even this very day. I pray for and love Father Mike.

  • @louaynebyrne8110
    @louaynebyrne8110 Рік тому +2

    It wasn’t a weird video, itwas honest and I’ll bet hit home for everyone. You are simply the best!

  • @jemimahmirembe8519
    @jemimahmirembe8519 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this Father Mike

  • @mrsb_96
    @mrsb_96 Рік тому +3

    This is a very useful video. These reminders to check our motivations and behaviours - even those which could be seen as small or inconsequential - help us to become better people, better Christians, better Catholics and ultimately bring us closer to God.
    Thank you.

  • @lucyrubach4970
    @lucyrubach4970 Рік тому

    Thans Fr. Mike!

  • @kayveeviv2696
    @kayveeviv2696 Рік тому

    Thank you Father Mike for being transparent. Before my conversion, thie concept of transparency was sometimes preached in evangelical circles. It keeps one in boundaries of right decisions, knowing that we are tied to Truth. And the honesty about failures is freedom ❤

  • @pennybrooks9038
    @pennybrooks9038 Рік тому

    You’re the best, Father Mike ❤

  • @therese_paula
    @therese_paula Рік тому

    Lord, help me to live in Truth. 🕊️🙏

  • @neptune71000
    @neptune71000 Рік тому +2

    Thank you, you are very inspiring. You reflect Jesus.

  • @dianefrank3688
    @dianefrank3688 Рік тому +12

    Thanks Fr. Mike for this message. I appreciate these little hints as they have hit on some of my own what I call white lies.🙏

  • @skullamania1
    @skullamania1 Рік тому

    You a real one Fr Mike, may the Lord bless you and us with more priests with your kind of heart

  • @temitopemusa-aisien4734
    @temitopemusa-aisien4734 Рік тому

    Yes, you made a lot of sense Fr Mike!
    Thank you for speaking truth to us
    God bless you

  • @yungganon187
    @yungganon187 Рік тому

    God bless you Father, thank you so much for these videos!

  • @janetandrews1306
    @janetandrews1306 8 місяців тому

    Great food for thought Father Mike.

  • @rosemaryomalley6636
    @rosemaryomalley6636 Рік тому +1

    Thank you.

  • @paulg4672
    @paulg4672 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for this video. Holy Spirit inspired really, needed this

  • @bethdeck9825
    @bethdeck9825 Рік тому +3

    Fr. Mike….it wasn’t a weird video…it was a great, thoughtful one! Thanks

  • @believewithyourheart5627
    @believewithyourheart5627 Рік тому

    God bless you! I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently.... I realise I’m not always completely honest because I’m so worried about offending people. I’m still wrestling with wether it’s better to be completely honest at the risk of offending someone or bending the truth to keep the peace! Like “I have to leave now!”

  • @GreatMidwesternTrains
    @GreatMidwesternTrains Рік тому

    You know just to be here and hear Father Mike’s joy in the Lord has truly rubbed off on me and I feel exactly the same when I talk about God

  • @tomg_2
    @tomg_2 Рік тому

    Thank you for your honesty Fr.

  • @shawnvillemusic4228
    @shawnvillemusic4228 Рік тому +1

    Father Mike Schmitz is a really cool person. I love his funny intros from the beginning they are cool. The reason I liked him because my family and I watched his Mass videos on UA-cam and is cool as well so that’s how I got into this.

  • @StAlphonsusHasAPosse
    @StAlphonsusHasAPosse Рік тому +1

    Thank you Fr. Mike. I must deal with this in my next confession

  • @annemariemcgowan9273
    @annemariemcgowan9273 Рік тому +1

    Father Mike. This wasn't a weird video. It was exactly what I needed. I need to be mindful with my words. I tell white lies all the time or I exaggerate a little bit to get my point across x I need to stop this. I also find myself maybe exaggerating a story to comfort people. I'll find another way cos all lies big or small are negative x

  • @AdrienneMilea-yz2oh
    @AdrienneMilea-yz2oh Рік тому

    Thank-you Father Mike! You're videos have helped me realize how God is part of everything I do----no one has ever explained it in such a way that I finally understand. God bless you! Praying for you too.

  • @shirleygiordano7627
    @shirleygiordano7627 Рік тому +2

    You do not know how much I needed this. 😊

  • @pamstreisel2942
    @pamstreisel2942 Рік тому +3

    I am a culprit of this unfortunately. I do it when I don’t want to go somewhere and pretend I have other plans not to hurt someone’s feelings! I just don’t feel like going. :(

    • @nightyew2160
      @nightyew2160 Рік тому +5

      I would say staying home and doing nothing should count as other plans. As an introvert, I frequently feel misunderstood by extroverts who don't understand my need for time on the calendar that doesn't involve social plans. For me, 2020 was a good year, absolutely amazing. I finally felt like I could keep up with life, but unfortunately it's back to the races.

  • @An_Drea_Calling
    @An_Drea_Calling Рік тому +4

    Thank you so, so much for this video. This is one of my most confessed sins! It's gotten so much better but it angers me when I catch mysel f doing it again. Jesus is the Truth !

  • @mycatholicfaithlivingstone845
    @mycatholicfaithlivingstone845 Рік тому +1

    Thankyou Fr. Mike. This has neen on my heart lately. I even spoke about this exact thing in confession recently. Im delighted to come across this

  • @juliekaszubowski7523
    @juliekaszubowski7523 Рік тому

    😂 I heard you, "Was that just a weird video" A little vague, that's all. It's called "I think it's called "stretching the truth". My bigger fault is saying too much on FB and not commenting what, I think the speaker/writer wants to see but heh, I welcome anyone who wants to PERSONALLY call me out on whatever they think of whatever I say or post. We're still loving BIAY Fr. Mike. It's different the second time with my husband than it was the first time myself. Yet, and this is the HONEST TRUTH.🖐 I know now as I never have. God's Word IS Living and along with your summary speaks to each/both of us and to our day, daily. Thank you.

  • @hoosiermomma5
    @hoosiermomma5 Рік тому +1

    Absolutely PHENOMENAL video!! Thank you for covering this topic!!!

  • @maryloumonheim8724
    @maryloumonheim8724 Рік тому +1

    I have always told the truth as best I can. When I find out someone told a lie it makes me sad or angry. 12 years of Catholic school.

  • @doloreswisecarver1784
    @doloreswisecarver1784 Рік тому

    FYI - I’ve never done a triathlon. 😄 Be humbly proud of your accomplishments.
    And, I understand what you are saying, but I think it is so important to put love before the hammer of the truth. The three questions are a great litmus test for self reflection.

  • @susansmiley2738
    @susansmiley2738 Рік тому

    Father you hit the nail on my head. Thanks

  • @Publius-24
    @Publius-24 Рік тому

    Jesus I love you. All I have is yours. Yours I am yours I want to be. Do with me whatever you will.