so my dad didn't leave a will
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- Опубліковано 20 сер 2023
- it's taken me a long time to just get to this point where I can talk about it, but I truly hope this helps someone out there from going through the same thing. we never want our loved ones to feel like a burden after they pass, and it's so hard to deal with legal matters while handling grief. I wish there was a better, more human way to go about things like this.
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"I want her to be able to grieve in a normal, healthy way."
You're already a great mom ❤
My partner’s mother passed suddenly and didn’t leave a will. It has been a nightmare. This is so helpful, you have no idea how helpful this is for those who have to deal with this!!!
I’m sorry for your loss. My Daddy didn’t leave a Will either. In fact, he cancelled his small life insurance policy 2 months before he died to save money (he was on a fixed income). He’s been gone 12 years and I still grieve him. You never really get over losing a parent. To add to the drama, my siblings did nothing to help pay for funeral and burial services. They assumed since I was the oldest it was my responsibility.
I am so sorry this was your reality. Sending you a lot of love and compassion ❤️
The channel Ask A Mortician has some older videos talking about what happens when a loved one dies, how to talk with your loved ones about planning for their deaths, legal stuff, the whole thing! She presents it in an open and friendly manner. It is very useful information!
I lost my boyfriend very suddenly almost 5.5yrs ago. He had a will but it was not notarized so it wasn’t legal in our state of NC. He wanted the cars, the house & everything left to me. Unfortunately, the family was allowed to have all of it & I only received my portion of the life insurance policy that he had. I lost my house, the car, basically everything. I had to move out in less than 2 weeks after his funeral so I wasn’t able to properly grieve for at least a month. It has been the hardest thing in my life to go through & I learned from that process to have my affairs in order just in case something happened to me. I’m so sorry that you are going through all of this. I never had to deal with the legal side of this but I can imagine how hard that must be.
😢 his family sounds so heartless. to not care about what your child actually wanted is so cold
I'm so sorry for all you had to go through but I'm glad you are here today and got through it!
I'm so sorry, no one should have to go through that! *Hugs* to you ❤️
That is such a horrendous thing to go through! ❤
that is incredibly unfair and I'm so sorry that happened to you. Just reading your comment made me so angry on your behalf.
I have been a proponent for normalizing "death talk" since I started watching Ask A Mortician years ago. Thank you for being so open and honest, Sarah ❤ This kind of discussion is so needed, everywhere. Sending love from Sweden.
I've had the same experience, her channel is really helpful! I wonder if people fear that talking more about death would lessen the seriousness that it has, but for me it has done the opposite. I feel like I'm more aware of all the things that happen to me and my loved ones eventually.
Her channel is a gift to us all, I swear. Those older videos are so helpful!
My mother died suddenly at age 55. She had reviewed her will a week before. I'm turning 39 next week. I have had a will since in my 20's becuase of this. You can die at any time. As soon as you have capital whatever that is, make a will. Its not hard. Don't leave your family with more stress.
My father passed last September without a will. Thankfully my mother and siblings have a very good relationship and we were all able to negotiate the details amicably.
feel ya
wake me up when september ends 🙏
You had no obligation to pay those overdue bills if you weren't married to him, also you weren't the executor either.
Condolences to you and your family. I am literally in the same boat, my dad died suddenly of a heart attack at 49. His girlfriend has refused to give me, his only child, any of his property, money, or documents. It's been hell ever since.
I am unable to watch most of this video as it's a difficult topic for me still but I just wanted to say, you aren't alone. We aren't alone. It sucks how often this happens.
im so sorry to hear this and sorry for your loss... how is this possible if she was only a girlfriend? the whole process is inhumane...
I’m sorry for your loss and I’m sorry the gf is making you go thru hurdles legally she shouldn’t have rights smh
@@pamelaaranzazu Thank you. She has 0 legal rights but they were living together. I don't have enough money to legally fight her so we've been getting everything in place so she can't continue to deny us everything.
@@msmuniz23 Thank you friend ❤️
A similar thing happened to me. My dad got married 3 months before he died and so his previous will become null and void and she inherited everything.
I work at a bank and it’s always so heartbreaking when family members don’t have a will or even beneficiaries on their accounts. It’s so much extra work for the surviving family during that time. The amount of people I have had to turn away while they’re borderline in tears and stressed out it’s so sad 😩 very important to set this stuff up no matter how much money or assets you have!
Omg Sarah.
Number one im sorry again for your loss, but that is something else entirely.
My grandmother didnt leave a Will & it has been complete turmoil.
grief is a crazy thing. i still feel like i haven't fully grieved because he had alzheimer's and i already grieved so much and it felt like he was already gone. sending love to you and your family ❤️
and i hate getting sympathy too! i'm so glad someone else feels that way because i thought i was soulless 😭
I have two parents that are in poor health due to chain smoking for 50+ years and refuse to make a will. Seeing this video is very helpful for what I’m sure is waiting for me in the future. I’d definitely like to see more of this process and I am so sorry you have had to deal with all of this. You’ve had so much happen in such a short amount of time and I hope things settle down for you. 💕
Amen to what you said about smoking. I was 8 when my mom got lung cancer and that was it for me. Watching some of siblings or my friends pick up the habit as we were growing up angered me so much and I’ll never understand why or how with all the information we have available to us, someone would decide to smoke nowadays. So frustrating.
*internet hug* to you for going through all of this! It’s definitely inspired me to look into life insurance, wills etc and get my siblings and family members on board too.
My condolences on your dad passing. I went through similar issues with my uncle who passed away last January. He wasn’t married and had no children and also no will, so my mom and I are still going threw probate a year later. This video was great
I am so sorry for your loss. I really appreciate your vulnerability and honesty 🩷
I have lost both my parents they weren't old and it was a shock for both losses. I implore people to write wills, and keep them up to date. Both my parents had wills. My mum died in march 2021 and we are still waiting for probate, I'm in the UK and everything is taking much longer because of COVID, is HMRC (tax department) that is holding it up because they have such a huge back log, it will take 6 more months. Normally it would take a few months. Grief is the hardest and most bizarre thing, it does change you but you can get through it. Write wills people!
I lost my mom suddenly in 2018. She was my best friend. She had written a will, but it wasn't finalized, so I had to bring 2 people to the court who knew her handwriting, but weren't beneficiaries of the will to verify it was in fact, her will. I totally understand not being able to grieve because you have to do so much after their passing. My mom was also a smoker, and scrubbing the walls of her apartment twice over just sucked so badly. Sending you strength, Sarah. 💙
My dad died suddenly in 2019 (car accident) and he did not have a will. I was the executor of his estate. It was really hard and took the better part of a year to deal with everything. He was my best friend so I was having a very hard time grieving. Thank goodness my husband was there to help me. He actually handled a lot of it for me, especially in the beginning.
I also believed our society shy away from discussing death, dying, and plans. There's lack of educational resources and the laws are different in each state (USA). Honestly, I feel like there should be a required class/course in high school explaining the process of death, and the legal process afterwards. I'm very sorry for your loss
My father in law passed in November, and we thought everything was prepared but it wasn’t. I definitely get what you mean about it taking away from grieving, I didn’t realize how much paperwork and bureaucracy is involved in someone’s passing. It made me realize I needed to talk to my own parents about preparations that should be made, but my dad refuses to talk about it. It’s difficult because same as you expressed, he’s very responsible, but he just can’t think/talk about the idea of his own death.
My father was near penniless but he left me with inheritance legal troubles since he had tons of debt pretty much everywhere. I found out last minute since no one had told me. Some people just don't care enough about you to make your life a little easier before they're gone...
I’m so sorry. My dad didn’t leave a will either. Thankfully my parents live in NYS so, I guess with the way the law works, it wasn’t too hard to switch everything over to my mom’s name and such. My dad never wanted to think about his death or confront that. So he never had a will! I’ve been trying to push my mom to make one. Losing a parent is so strange. It literally changed me as a person. I’m sending you all the love.❤
I’m a probate paralegal; every state has different laws regarding probate and trusts and estate taxes. Probate takes forever and is such a frustrating process. I wish this kind of stuff was more common knowledge because it’s so heartbreaking how much stress families have to deal with on top of grieving.
Both my parents have passed, most recently my mom. She didn't leave a will and it was such a stressful mess. It took me and my siblings nearly a year to figure everything out. I am thinking of you and I hope you are able to take really gentle care with yourself.
My mom died (unexpectedly) without a will and in a tremendous amount of debt. I was living in her house (I'm disabled and always lived with her) and the HOA began eviction proceedings against me because I was unable to pay the monthly HOA fee.
I'm an only child and she was always single. I had no other family. I was able to secure low income housing for myself and moved across state with just a few belongings and our two cats. I just left the whole mess of her falling apart house and piles of debt behind me and I'm honestly really glad I did that.
I definitely relate on the cigarette/smoking topic. My mom smoked 2 packs a day for over 50 years and died at 68 due to complications of COPD, congestive heart failure, and type 2 diabetes. An absolutely lethal combination.
My best friends dad passed away suddenly with a will and it was still incredibly complicated to deal with his assets. He had just leased a car and they call the company to let them know and they basically said well we have a contract so we can’t break that. They were like “He’s dead!” And the company was like “ok and…?”
My condolences for your dads passing, I lost my Father in law and my grandma within 8 months of each other this past year and grief is crazy and hard.
Sarah, I'm going through this exact thing right now, and the complicated feelings of parental loss alongside the stress of estate execution when there's no will or trust is the worst feeling I've ever experienced. I hope time has been kind and you've been able to work through the stress and grief.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Sarah. This is such an important topic and it's great that you are talking about it.
In addition to a will, people should also have a letter of intent and POLST for healthcare decisions. I work in healthcare as well as have experienced several deaths of loved ones in a short pwruos of time.
The most amazing and loving thing someone can do is to save their loved ones the stress of bureaucracy and allow them to grieve you. Death is scary, but it is inevitable. Avoiding creating these documents hurts everyone.
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Just wow. In my country, Poland, when somebody dies and there is just one kid, the kid gets everything and the whole process takes maybe a day - you collect the documents (just a few pieces of paper) and go to a lawyer, pay AT MOST $1000 and that’s it. When there are two kids, or three or whatever, and no will - everything is divided equally. When a spouse dies, the husband or wife gets everything. Unless there is someone unhappy who wants to go to court, it takes a few hours and not that much money.
I’m sorry for your loss and also for all the issues you have to deal with.
My grandparents passed 6 months apart and they also didn't have a will. I think the part of this video that really got to me was when you talked about how this process muddies your grief. The amount of things my parents had to do afterwards was insane. It's a nightmare and it absolutely sucks you have to go through all of this.
I’m so sorry about your dad. We had a family friend whose parents both passed in a car accident. Neither had a will. She didn’t get on with her siblings and it caused absolute turmoil, chaos and heartbreak. After seeing this my dad is hyper fixated on wills, keeping them updated, leaving me information on power of attorney, finances, inheritance tax and funeral wishes. It’s so tough because we don’t want to think about it, but it’s very important. Sending you strength ❤
Man, this seems so bloody stressful. I don't talk to my dad and I often think about his passing as if I'm trying to prepare myself. I don't believe there is something to inherit from him. He has sold all his real estate and blew all the money due to his gambling addiction. He does have 2 other kids, from a previous marriage, so If he does own something, I don't even know, how we're going to go about it. such a mess
I don't know what it's like in your country, but at least where I'm from, you can inherit debt... which sounds like it could become a legit issue in your case 🥺
You are incredibly strong. As somebody who has been with you for the past 10 years, these past two have been pretty rough on you, and somehow, you are still standing. Much love, Sarah. X
My dad died on New Years Day and it made this year so challenging. We hired a fiduciary to help manage his estate, and last week we found out that there would be nothing left over for his children, even though we were named first in his will. I feel guilty that I’m disappointed, as if money would be some sort of consolation prize. All this to say that I understand your feelings of complicated grief. I hate feeling like I don’t get to experience “normal” grief like losing someone you had a healthy relationship with. Thank you for sharing. ❤
Hoping this ordeal will be over as soon as possible and you can grieve in peace ❤️💔❤️
“Anti-human” is the perfect term. This is such an obscene system we live inside. Peace and light. We’ll make it through ✨❤️
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability ❤💕
My mom passed in December and left nothing. I'm adopted. When I tell you it has been a *nightmare*. Trying to find my own 29 year old adoption papers to prove I'm her next of kin. I'm with you. Grieving is impossible when you spend all of that energy angry at the fact that you can't even let them fully go.
I say all of that to say I see you. I hear you. I appreciated this video so much.
Thank you for sharing your experience. My story is extremely similar to yours... California, I'm the only child, my dad was "single" and I was his primary support. He passed away after being in the hospital for about 2 months, and during that time, he refused to create a will. I believe that was because he wasn't ready to admit to himself even, that he was about to die. I admire how responsible you have been going about the process, in your own life. Way to go! However, I am sorry for your loss. It's coming up on 2 years now since I lost my dad... I still have boxes of his stuff in my space and I still cry because I miss him. Hopefully the grief will lessen one day!
Sorry for your loss ♥️ my dad died in April as well. He was homeless, so no assets to deal with, but having the entirety of planning/logistics (his homelessness has been making it especially complicated) put on me without knowing his wishes was so hard.
And your complex feelings with grief are so relatable to me as well.
It sucks!!! Grieving has been so difficult with all the logistics and capitalism on top of it!!!! Agghh
Grief is weird, and you will grieve the loss of different people in your life differently. The first loss I experienced I had a five minute cry, and that was it
I was sad about it and I Still miss them but it didn't hit me the same way as when my grandmother died, I think that was the first time I cried in public and in front of my parents and siblings as an adult it was a very bizarre experience but time makes it easier and some days I'm like wow all this time has passed and she's missed out on so much and that makes me sad. I'm sorry your dad left you in a shit position, Sarah, and I'm sorry for your loss.
Thank you. I can't express how important this video is. Grief is already so messy on it's own
I just have to say, not that it matters, you can compose yourself however you choose on any video you upload but you were so well put together. So eager to explain and share and on something so vulnerable in such a helpful way. I sincerely appreciate you opening up on this topic and the way it affected your grief process too but you’re right it’s not something people want to think about. Anyway so grateful you shared about something so difficult I sincerely appreciate all your videos. ❤
I’m sorry this process is so difficult. It’s not fair
Lost my Dad when i was 15, we were not as close i would like. It took me a lot of time to work through it and learn how to keep going.
I know mom went through a lot trying to get his afairs in order because it was a suicide. I am sorry you had to deal with all this
Thank you so much for sharing this. People just don’t talk about these things and it’s so incredibly important for people to have these uncomfortable conversations. Your vulnerability is so appreciated, not just regarding the issue of the will, but sharing your overall journey with grief as well. I don’t know anyone else my age who has also lost a parent and it’s so helpful to feel like I’m not alone in these feelings.
Most parents don’t have much to leave. I can’t leave my much . They know it!
My Dad was a smoker too. He has quit for MANY years. I have a resentment against cigarettes and vapes because of those memories of walking in as a kid to my parent's bedroom and smelling the foul smell of cigarette smoke from my Dad. Vapes are just as bad too and I hate that there's so much misinformation being spread around about vaping as well. Like, I can understand that people smoke or vape for anxiety reasons, but it doesn't change the fact that smoking and vaping too much can lead to so many terrible health issues when you get older. I try not to judge, but I cannot stand it when people smoke or vape. Even if they do it right in front of my face
the irony is that it makes your mental health worse.
@@spacebar9733 Exactly! And they don't realize how it can take a toll on not only your mental health, but the brain too. The hard part is that we can't push them to quit! They need to hit a bottom in order to take the steps of sobriety
@@rebeccassweetmusic4632 my dad had two heart attacks before he finally stopped smoking cigarettes, and he already had a heart transplant before that. I think he still smokes weed though, I'm not sure.
@@spacebar9733 My dad smokes weed too
@@rebeccassweetmusic4632 we gotta try moving them to edibles...
I lost my dad in February and he also didn't have a will. I'm also an only child and feel all of this so much. It's been such a wild ride. My heart goes out to you. The grief comes in waves for sure.
That’s bc it IS heartless to expect someone to shell out a bunch of money to some cooperation that doesn’t need it. I’m sorry you had to go through that.
Thank you for sharing your experience. My late husband died ten years ago and never left any will. I was lucky that he did have some kind of life insurance through his work that barely covered the costs of the funeral. It was not my first loss, but the first loss of someone I loved and who I was close with. It was hard to grieve his loss because he died from drinking too much. He was emotionally abusive and we went through a lot of ups and downs in our marriage. I did meet someone new a few years later. My boyfriend’s dad recently passed away over a year ago. He did write a will and signed it a few months before he passed. He just didn’t file it or do anything with it. Because of this, what he had intended to leave to his 2 sons (my BF and his brother) his estranged wife came and took it all. She even had the police come to his house and make my BF leave as he was sorting out his dad’s stuff because he was trespassing. This was my BF’s stepmom and she lived a few states away. They couldn’t afford to get divorced so they just stayed married and lived separately. (We are in CA). A lawyer to clear all of this mess up wanted like 5k upfront and neither one of his kids had that kind of money. So she sold the house, took all of his things and gave it to goodwill or what ever and maybe even dumped some. BF was able to grab a couple of photos of him and his dad and that was it. It took away from him being able to properly grieve his dad. It was awful. We don’t like to talk about it, but death is apart of life.
Hey Sarah,
I'm so sorry for your loss and the frustration of all the bureaucracy that is involved with death. We lost my mom last year due to copd and I feel so much for you for the bitterness involved with your parent dying due to their addiction. Luckily my mom left everything to a T in her will, but when having her house appraised we found out the fridge line had ruptured and we had to take out a loan and rip out and redo her entire kitchen before we could sell. You will get through this, but all the bs really does morph and delay your grief. We are expected to return to fully functional members of society so quickly and it's not fair. Sending you lots of love and peace. ❤
This video is a good reminder. We brought our house 3 years ago and I've been meaning to make a will ever since. Now I've got a 7 month old and had been thinking about needing to get one done because she's going to be an only child, and accidents happen and I don't want her to go through this. My in-laws don't have wills as far as I'm aware and good go at any point, my husband is an only child and I'm not looking forward to that process. He's an only child too.
My dad died a little over a month ago in a freak accident. I found him. I'm sorry for your loss. One of the hardest things I've ever been through.
This is such an important topic to discuss. My divorced parents do both have a will and I think it is b/c they were in your shoes at one point. They have both also been decluttering for the same reason. Thank you for sharing your story and I am so sorry for your loss.
My condolences..and I’m
So sorry that you have to go through all the headache of no will.
Grief is never something that’s easy to go through, let alone when there are these types of layers to the situation. The way you are able to keep your composure and even makes this video just shows that you are insanely strong. It’s been a bit since my last loss and this video brought out some emotions that I think I really needed to unbox, and for that I have to thank you for sharing your story. May your healing journey be as peaceful as you deserve it to be, we all are here and happy to support in any way possible❤
My dad passed away unexpectedly in 2017. He didn't have a will either, so it was definitely hard. My mother just needed his death certificate and their marriage certificate to gain access to everything. I've been trying to get my mother to either make a will, add beneficiaries or a POD (Payable on Death)or just add whoever she wants to on her accounts. I work at a bank and have had to turn grieving family members away because they did not have proper documentation. It's so heartbreaking to have to tell them that we can't help them.
My dad also passed earlier this year without a will. A lot of bills you shouldn't have to pay because the estate wasn't outright left to you. You could technically argue some of them or if you give them a hard time they will give in sadly. But also yes I advocate for everyone having a simple will even if you're young, it just makes whoever is going to take care of what you leave behind have time to grieve and process. I hope you're healing and taking time for yourself in any way you can!
You can't take the assets without paying the debt, typically
We did everything to the books & it was still a 2 year process. We had a will, life insurance, everything. Grieving was so painful & drawn out, even with everything done.
im sorry for your loss and for everything you are having to go trough because of the will❤
My parents don't have anything to their name so i guess i don't have to worry about this. i just hope i don't have to pay the bills they leave behing after they pass
So sorry for your loss. I just recently lost my Grandpa and luckily my dad made him create a will and got everything squared away before his passing (quite literally a few days before). I feel the same way about my Grandpa, I wasn't very close with him and have mixed feelings so I feel in the same boat of being numb. It kind of makes me feel guilty but I am not going to force feelings onto myself or expectations to feel a certain way when it's not the reality
So much love to you going through all of this❤ its HARD. I practically bullied my dad into signing his will when he was in the hospital suddenly for a second time in a month(" I'll get it signed when im discharged"). Lawyers came to the hospital, I was very thankful. And thank you for talking about this process!
my mom has smoked cigarettes her entire life basically and still does, and it's just so frustrating as their child to watch them do something that will kill them. especially as a parent now myself, I just can't understand it
hey Sarah, I’m 23 and my grandfather whom I was close to passed away last year from hospital complications following a routine surgery. My grandmother has had to bear the brunt of the issues-I believe he left a will and definitely had insurance but because he passed from *alleged* (just in case bc it’s not confirmed but you know) hospital negligence it’s made getting a proper death certificate to figure out the things he left very hard for my grandmother.
The whole system around death is so frustrating and a nightmare. My grandfather did everything right and ultimately died from eyebrow-raising circumstances out of his control, and because of that my grandma has to deal with the fallout. I hope you can get your chance to truly grieve, this isn’t the first close death in my life but it is the first where I’m cognizant of all the fallout. Whole thing sucks and really is anti-human
I am going through exactly the same thing as you. My dad suddenly passed away, 2 years ago and did not leave a will or anything to me and my brother. Our life has been very hard and difficult, especially financially. But the family division and greediness is surreal. I've never experienced my own family to turn back on me so quickly and take everything, not caring who's whats. I didn't finish the vid yet, but I hope everything goes well and prayers for both you and your family. Everything will be sort out and just know support is there for you
My dad almost died in 2021. I completely understand that feeling of not knowing how to grieve when you have a complicated relationship with someone. My dad made a miraculous recovery, but my feelings were so complicated leading up to his sudden recovery. It’s also so difficult to put words to because if you don’t have that kind of relationship with a parent, it’s completely foreign and people can be so judgmental when they don’t understand. All of that to say: I hear you, I feel you! Thank you for this video, I doubt my dad will have a will when he does eventually pass.
I watching people go thru this exact issue you have. It’s crazy. No will and in one persons case, MILLIONS of dollars at stake and many children. 😳. Stuff like that breaks families. At least it’s just you. But once again, sorry for your loss. ❤
We have a thing in the UK called "tell us once" which is a gov thing, you upload the death certificate and they will tell everybody who needs to know (companies etc), dunno why this isn't more widespread.
I kept my mums mobile number for years after she passed and one day I noticed her whatsapp image had changed. The phone company has re-used her number and I didn't know this was a thing and it was a horribly sobering moment. Grief likes to give you the odd sneak attack.
Sorry for your loss Sarah.
sending much love and good luck to you! your videos inspire me so much!
My father was just hospitalized for two weeks, on a ventilator, and my siblings and I thought this was it, and he hadn’t made a will, no advanced directive or anything. Just vague things he’s said about who would get what. We were scrambling trying to figure out how to keep his bills paid while he was incapacitated. Thankfully he’s recovered and gaining strength to go home. A huge hurdle is getting him to take better care of his health, he’s also a smoker and that and alcohol has been the cause behind his ailing health. This is definitely something we need to work on as well. I’m sorry for you loss and thank you for sharing ❤makes me feel less alone.
I feel a little relieved that I’m not the only one going through this experience. It’s been very difficult going through this process and grieving simultaneously. Thank you for making this video and sharing your experience.
I’m so sorry about your dad Sarah. I’m sending you hugs❤
I am so sorry for your loss. This is SO important and I am happy you are talking about this. It is so important to have a plan.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed seeing you film with your dad and the love y’all shared!
I’m so sorry for your loss and that you have to trudge through this legal and financial nightmare. I know you will help a lot of people with this video
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve had no contact with my dad since I was 8. He’s almost 60 now and I worry about this kinda stuff all the time cause I don’t know how responsible I even am for him, but because of that like thank you for talking about how complex it has been for you. It’s so sad and I wish that we could have a moment to process before so much happens legally like it’s INSANE to me. I’m so sorry for all you’re going through.
Thank you so much for sharing. This was so incredibly helpful. I hope your journey through this isn't too rough and the paperwork ends soon. My Gparents are in that worrying age and have yet to make a legal will or trust. This will be so very helpful to have them finish the process. Thank you again. 🧡
Sending so much love Sarah😘
I'm sorry for your loss. My mom never left a will. She was extremely stubborn and I loved her very much. It was definitely added stress.
Thank you for sharing the real details of this process.
Thank you for being so open, it was beautiful and well done
Thanks so much for sharing & so so sorry for your loss & all of the hoops you’re having to go through ❤
Reeeally appreciate you sharing this with us and would be interested in hearing more about your journey through the process down the line as well. My heart goes out to you 🖤
My mom definitely felt that, "lesson learned the hard way" when my grandma died and we realized her will wasn't signed by her, so it didn't matter what was on it. It made things so complicated. Sorry you had to deal with that stress on top of your grief.
I lost my dad in February and I'd also suggest to everyone to look into living wills as well. My dad had alzheimer's and so was unable to make his own decisions about his healthcare, which ultimately led to fallouts in the family. Even though he had voiced his wishes before, they weren't written down and were challenged. It is an incredibly hard, emotionally charged time and the less decisions you have to place on your loved ones, the better. He was incredibly thorough with his will and even aspects of his living will, but none of us expected something like dementia. We've all since written up our own wills and end of life wishes so that no one feels burdened or blamed for decisions made. Just some thoughts for those looking for advice. Sorry for your loss, Sarah, and thank you for sharing this!
As a long term care nurse, this sentiment is important. I've seen people fight their families against their loved ones wishes, make last minute decisions that went against what their loved one wanted, ect when they are sick or dying. It's so important to write your wishes down to ensure they are granted when you are unable to advocate for yourself.
Sending you virtual hugs! I'm sorry you are going through this, and the limbo waiting for the paper and time spent on this instead focusing on you and your family
I'm not the only child but I'm the oldest of five kids and I'm trying to get my parents to start preparing a will and making funeral plans. I know when the time comes that my brother-in-law (who is wonderful) will help us if these things aren't in place but I don't even want that burden on him because when you get together and add people to your family, it doesn't feel like something you should ask them to do. I'm sending you lots of love through this whole process.
Thank you for this video. This is an important topic. My condolences. Sending ❤
Watched and helped a family member deal with having to go through a very similar situation with their parent and I felt so bad for them. It really is important even if someone thinks it’s obvious who anything they leave would go to - everyone should make a will if they can even if they are young.
I'm sorry for your loss, Sarah. I lost my dad to suicide when I was 10, and while I was far too young to deal with any legalities of it, it's something that affects you for the rest of your life in expected, and unexpected ways.
This was fascinating! Please keep sharing about the process. I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with all of this on top of your dad’s passing.
I was the same with the cigarettes with my parents. I actually got them to quit because I’d yell at them all the time and tell them they wouldn’t live to see their grandkids.
Sending you love and healing.
Thank you for making this video, I’m sure it will be helpful to many people, and definitely sparked some important thoughts. Sending love as you go through the journey of grief ❤
Sending you so much sympathy and compassion in this time.
i’m sorry you have to go through all this stress sadness and hardship 😢 i really hope your mom and step dad can follow through
All your feelings are so valid and sharing them is really helpful. Thanks for your vulnerability. 💕
im so sorry for your loss Sarah, this video just sums up so much, i hope you can find your grief in a way that heals rather than drains your energy, thank you for sharing your experience with us, you are (parasocially) loved and appreciated
Just wanted to say thank you for sharing such a difficult part of life in a way that will likely help many (including me, you’ve inspired me to tackle this unfun task).