Hi everyone, this is Sarah's mom. I am 65 and have never used skin care. When I smile, my whole face wrinkles, and I go from 'resting bitch face' to 'smiling with my whole face.' My hair is half brown, half silver, and I wear it in a bun. My throat and eyelids sag, and I have crazy white hairs in my eyebrows that I leave so I can laugh at them. I look my age and am proud of it. Please don't fear looking your age. If Sarah wants to do a follow up to this video, I will show you all. I would be proud to.
@@magdalenahernandez1562 If she wants, I can kind of demonstrate what she means. Although a three generation photo would be lovely. Btw, Magdalena, your name is beautiful.
A couple of months ago, my now ex bf of 10 years said i was looking old and that women lose their "looks" around their 30.'s Mind you i am 31, i have been into skin care for years. I've been using retinolds for the same amount of time, i am happy with my skin. He's never used spf or a moisturizer. I think the conversation about aging has a lot to do with sexism and harsh standards put on specifically on women. ..And yeah that is why, among other things, why we broke up.
My mom passed at 46 (i was 16) after a 2 year battle with cancer and it really taught me that aging is such a privilege. I wish i could have seen my mom grow older and get wrinkles and rock her grey hair and see her face sag. Aging means that the people who love you don't miss you.
All I'll say is that my family have talked about aging with me since I was around 10 years old, but my older brother has never used a moisturizer in his entire life 💀
I remember a tik tok that said "how you're gonna age when you're an unproblematic person" and showing Anne Hathaway. My dear god, when will it be ok to be ugly and old? And what does this even mean? An ugly old fellow is a problematic person and horrible?
Aging is a gift. I always choose to see it this way. Wrinkles, spots, and silver hair are so beautiful. They are all stamps in a passport of a long life ❤
'You were not put on this earth to be young and attractive' really hit hard. I think thats how the innundation of gorgeous smooth skinned women on the internet can make it feel, that THAT is the purpose of life.
im so glad i grew up in a time before tiktok and instagram. i can't even begin to imagine the pressure kids feel today to have a full skincare and makeup routine, and to prevent aging at all costs, before they're even adults.
What you said about seeing your features on other people resonated with me a lot! I will admit I was a tad horrified by the tik tok age filter. I showed my mom and she said “wow you look just like me” and immediately my criticism of my aged face fell away. That was so sweet and if I get to carry the legacy of my mother’s sweet face, I would be honored
When I did the age filter my first reaction was "oh my god, I look like my great grandpa, how wonderful!" I never got to meet him, so to see him so clearly on my face was magical. What a privilege it is to see the ones we love or those who are no longer with us everyday in ourselves!!
speaking out of my heart on that millenial fashion talk :D I personally don't remember being like 18 and commenting on a 28 y.o. clothing style TO THEIR FACE. More so, I felt inspired by older people styles and diverse looks. now everyone has to look a certain other "aesthetic" like every two weeks and its absurd and shallow honestly. Also, (me being 28) I recently got called a BOOMER! by someone maybe 4 or 5 year younger than me, because I was decorating my apartment with twigs and branches lol how lame of me trying to be creative with interior design instead of going with the kk beige "aesthetic"
I would love to hear your commentary on deciding to have children and trusting in yourself as a parent. I’m 30 and I do want kids but I’m terrified. I grew up with a single mom who struggled financially but she tried her best.. personally I’m afraid to take on such a responsibility and possibly struggle too. 😢 with the climate crisis, a ton of societal pressure with parenting, overconsumption, there’s a lot of anxiety and uncertainty on if I should have kids or not.
I have the same struggle turning 24 next week. Almost every day I think about how I want my life to be and I still don't have a clear answer. For now, I think I can't handle a child. I'm autistic and sensitive to sounds especially. I'm afraid that I might hate my kid
as someone who lost a parent, i will never alter any of my facial features. i used to fantasize about some day getting a nose job, it was never a TRUE plan but i was insecure about my nose. but then after my dad passed away i knew without a shadow of a doubt i never will. i have his nose, his dad’s nose. i only get to have this nose because of my dad and i see him when i look at myself. aging as well. my dad never even got to reach 50 years old. if i grow old, i will cherish that experience. not everyone is so fortunate. i think as soon as you lose someone young, you grow a wider perspective about aging and “looking your age”
I work in healthcare, and every single day I see people who do not get the opportunity to live to an old age. I’m so incredibly grateful to be able to age. It’s a blessing
Yep, Im almost 33 and I refuse to get Botox etc so I automatically look and feel older. The standard of beauty is now so unattainable and a lot of people hide their procedures or the fact they use filters etc. making it more of an issue :(
Growing old and sharing my life with my partner would be an absolute BLESSING not something I'm scared of. I'm looking forward to me and her being old biddies together and everything in between :~)
This was just what I needed. I'm the same age as you but lately tiktok has caused me to have a huge crisis around aging. I think we all need a bit of a wake-up call because at the end of the day it's not the most important thing about us. I would love a more in depth video on gen-z's general hate for millenials. I just don't understand why they even care?
I was just thinking to myself a couple days ago “a new video from Sarah would be amazing” and then it’s on this topic !! Yes thank you so much!! I am a millennial as well and you’re so right because I think your jawline is changing how mine did and I was like “wow Sarah looks amazing!” yet did a livestream where someone pointed out my chin and I felt rly bad about it. I was bullied for my chin / jaw line before any aging so it’s a sore spot. I don’t use TikTok at all. My body image has been better after working with my therapist and dietitian, so I’ve seen some of these trends but not all. When I say it’s been better, like you, it’s not that I love my body. I just don’t care and I body check wayyyy less and feel free and liberated. I always think of your old “no makeup Mondays” on days I skip makeup too. I loved the comment you made about having your parents’ features and not wanting to change them. I feel similarly and this video was a really healing experience to take in as someone who is figuring themselves out! ❤
I agree that social media is very dangerous for young people. There is so much for them to absorb and they think they have to start and keep up on cosmetic surgeries, etc. I'm 39 and have been getting Botox in my forehead since 34. It makes me feel good about myself, but its not something I considered in my 20s! I want people to do what makes them feel good, not because they feel they have to to be deemed "attractive." Also, as a childfree person, I appreciate your approach to the topic of aging with your daughter. My Mom unfortunately contributed to my terrible self-esteem issues and an ED, because I saw her treat herself so poorly in regards to her appearance. It makes me sad that she went through that daily struggle, and I'm not upset with her that she passed those struggles onto me. I wished someone would have helped her the way I'm getting help today.
I appreciate so much that as your raise your daughter you want to be cognizant of your own self image. My mother has constantly degraded herself in front of me and my sisters for our entire lives. I look just like her in body size and a lot of other features. It has definitely warped my self image. Thank you for trying to get ahead of that for Fern. Also love these videos from you!
On the male groom subreddit I see posts from young men asking how to fix or improve upon their looks and their “asymmetry” and I’m so perplexed because they’re young (conventionally attractive) and have no noticeable asymmetry. Every face is asymmetric. There are studies in psychology that show that although we prefer a more asymmetric face, when we a famous attractive person’s face with one half mirrored to make it truly symmetrical - it’s off putting or strange. Same thing goes for when we see our own faces mirrored. I feel so bad for younger people today. I’ve never been concerned with my face’s symmetry, but like you mentioned I hated my “chubby, round face” and now I miss how youthful and plump is was lol
What you said about being better for your daughter is so right on. I grew up with a mother that constantly put herself down, and we're no longer in contact and I still struggle with not putting myself down all the time.
hi sarah, ive watched you since the days you were studying psychology in college. im a tiny bit younger than you, im 26, but throughout the years, its been like im listening to my older sister help prepare me for the next stage of my life. i havent been too too concerned about aging, but have noticed the amount of tiktoks talking about botox rising, and i think it has been subconsciously making me also start to consider it. thank you for making this, it was refreshing and comforting.
love this video, sarah. i'm proud to be a subscriber who stuck through the years. you're incredibly insightful and kind, and i just think your daughter is lucky to have you.
I subbed to you back in high school (I’m 28 so this was like a decade or more ago) because of some grunge-adjacent makeup tutorial and almost completely forgot about your channel because of some UA-cam algorithm changes but god this was such a well-spoken and well-articulated video (and congrats on becoming a mom too, I’m really out of the loop whoops).
A shallow life will leave you drained and empty. Thank you Sarah! Addressing this is so necessary and honestly I wish this video became viral and it reached all those kids and teenagers that live submerged into tiktok trends world. Maybe some would wake up to reality...It is really an honour to become old and we should treat as such people who do.
You have such a clear and eloquent way of explaining all of these issues. Im 32 and so overwhelmed on a daily basis i feel like i can hardly string 3 words together in a concise way 🥲🥲😅 the way you comfort me when you talk about these things is unreal. Youre officially my backup therapist lol
I'm in my early 30s and I am actually finding myself more beautiful now. I don't care what people think of me, I'm just so at peace with who I am and it is interesting to see my face change and my skin texture shift, I love to see the wrinkles when I smile because it means Ive had 30+ years of smiling. When I was 16 my father passed away, he was only 32. I'm going to be his age soon and I'm just thinking like, wow. It IS a privilege to age. ❤
Love the video. It feels like watching one of your old ones ❤️ Other youtubers could make a similar video but because you're so authentic, it makes me actually listen to the kind messages transported in this video
It’s funny because I’m 31 and I feel like I’m still in my early 20s and everyone around me who is around the same age is also in their 20s. You’re only as old as you feel and I think I and you and most people our age look bloody great for our ages! And that weight thing with Bridget Jones and Jessica Simpson is crazy! I’m about the same weight as them but this is genuinely the skinniest I’ve ever been, and I feel great for it! Such a shame for the younger generations 😢 I don’t have any children yet even though I would love one but bringing them into this broken world will be so hard for me. Brilliant video, loved and agreed with every minute! 💜
my husband called me out the other day on my fear and obsession with aging - I'm only 23. I have definitely noticed a problem with it on TikTok and in my own life. I found a white hair the other day and started crying... later I realized that the more white hair I get, the more I will look like my mother :) who is BEAUTIFUL.
Excited for this video. Lately I’ve been anxious about my forehead lines and wondering if I should get Botox like so many other women I see online. It’s quite sad (and a little enraging) when influencers frame getting Botox as “self care”. 🙁 Personally, I am trying to tell myself that aging is a gift. Being alive until you’re old is a gift. Fighting wrinkles is probably a losing battle at some point.. it’s inevitable. When we’re old, we’ll be more concerned with how we feel internally than externally. We only have one life so best to just make the most of it and not stress yourself too hard, or waste all your money on fighting wrinkles.
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This video and your mom’s comment made me cry. I really missed your commentary videos. Thank you for bringing awareness to this and giving people an alternative perspective. ❤
I got botox once. It's expensive for my budget but honestly, even if I had the money I don't think I'd get it again. I don't care about getting wrinkles. I am ageless in my photos that I take, in how I carry myself, and what I wear. Aging is just a number, a wrinkle is just a line. I'm cool with it.
Honestly , I remember you saying you started anti aging products at the age 25 so I started at the same age,following you haha, Im 30 now and happy to see how both of our mindsets have changed ❤❤❤ now I too take care of myself not to avoid aging, but Just to be healthy
I just watched the May December movie on Netflix and I noticed that it was very refreshing to see Julianne Moore & Natalie Portman aging naturally. Now, I’m sure they both get skincare treatments and have access to amazing beauty advantages we don’t, but I think they’re both so much more beautiful than they would be if they were pumped full of fillers. The character on their faces is what makes them, THEM. Not to dog on another actor either, but as an example, I also watched The Fall of the House of Usher and Mary McDonell is almost unrecognizable, not because she’s older, but because she has so much filler and work done that she doesn’t look like herself anymore. I don’t judge people for getting work done either. People should do what they like. However, it’s gotten so common to just pump fillers in to every little line and completely change what faces look like that I think we’re going to look back at it as a creepy looking trend some day. The women who are choosing less drastic measures look so much more beautiful in my opinion.
It is unfortunate how society puts pressure on our generation to stay young. I will say it... I do my daily skincare routine, and sunscreen is my last step, but using it for anti-aging isn't why I use it. I use it because I don't want to get sun damage and skin cancer. It is so sad because I admire older faces, and I was so lucky to grow up with my grandparents. The fact that young people don't want to be old is disappointing. Some of my favorite celebrities are old, and I'm still young. I hope to be like Lily Tomlin as a grandma because I have always admired her. Plus, she is so funny and talented too. People need to overcome this fear because it will happen to all of us eventually, and we might as well embrace it now while we are getting older...
What you said about not wanting your daughter to learn hating herself from her mother. I have exactly the same goal. My mom has filler and I remember her telling me “you will probably get those lines too” - referring to the lines she got filled with filler. And I was like “hmmm… maybe I will but I have no problem with that”. Mind you, I was already an adult when we had this conversation and have already develop a sense of self so this convo didn’t make me question my beauty but I realised that I don’t want to be that kind of example for my future kids.
You're always so on point Sarah¡ I feel completely the same about aging, it’s a privilege to get old and see our children grow and also such an interesting yet a bit scary thing to see our faces and bodies change but it’s also so so human
Love you for this Sarah. I’ve unfollowed multiple UA-camrs recently for leaning more and more into anti-aging rhetoric. So hard to hold onto a value set that embraces and accepts aging when you’re constantly being bombarded with messaging about Botox and really extreme skincare routines and it’s soooooo refreshing to hear someone with a platform like yours echo this feeling. Love what you say about not wanting to pass this mentality to your daughter - maybe this is a weird comparison, but being in a lesbian relationship has affected me in a kinda similar way, realizing that if I vocalize and act on self hatred around my own aging it will also have an effect on the person I love the most and potentially encourage her to be that self critical. I don’t want to bring that shit home!! I think your comparison with thinness is dead on. Aging is a gift and a blessing baby!!! Huge 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛 for this one.
i’m about to turn 27 next week and i look really young for my age. people keep telling me to be happy about it but i really don’t understand why that’s something i should want! i feel so lucky to get older especially as a disabled person so every little sign of me looking a bit more my actual age feels like a blessing ❤
this is a great take, and i think in addition to not being made to see as many faces as we do, we also didn’t live much past our 40-50’s for pretty much all of history until recently. it may be shocking for our brains to comprehend living that long in the first place
You were talking about how you get to a point where you don’t really care about what other people think, and I completely agree. Although I’d also say, you get to a point where you realize people don’t really care about how you (the royal you, not “you” specifically) look. As you get older, most of us realize that we aren’t the center of the universe and we are rarely on the top of mind for other people. I think TikTok, an app made for a primarily younger audience, really preys on young people’s insecurities and proclivity to be self-centered. TikTok has unlocked whole new fears and anxieties amongst our youth (talk about aging people faster, jeez, fear/anxiety will do it quickly). Anyways… I love your videos, you’re so calm and rational & I really relate to your content. Love that you’re back making regular content. 🥰♥️
I love this topic as someone who is in her early 30s with 2 kids now I can see my body changing and I'm really starting to notice my aging. I would love for you to do more fashion videos as a mom because I have a younger sister and cousins who dress in their baggy pants and crop tops and they look so cute but I just don't know what I can pull off as a mom lol. I've realized that yes I need to take care of my whole self more than I used to in my 20s but I also get called beautiful by my husband all the time without make up and I should just love myself more in this new stage in my life.
Love this video and its message! Some of my friends think it is weird that I don't have a skin care (translation: anti-aging) routine, apparently I should be constantly applying anti-aging creams instead of just washing my face with water and wearing sun-cream.
Yes!! This. I’ve been actively working to accept my grey hair recently, after years of dying it. It was certainly a strong internalised message to be repulsed by it that I had to break through.
I have been following you since 2012, I am currently 28 and i feel exactly like how you felt on your video at 2019, I want to be a mom just like you are now, I always felt so connected to you and your videos I never left even when you mainly focused on your horror channel, because i always knew that you are a valuable source of knowledge and perspective, a sister I can listen to, a friend who guides me through thick and thin. Thank you, with love Ahsen
Thank you Sarah, you are very well spoken and I appreciate this video so much. I have been around to see all of it, I'm about to turn 59. I feel blessed every year I have a birthday and how I look or what i wear is not important, it is how I feel and what i have been blessed with everyday with family and life. I feel for this new era and my boy is 26 and i can see how confused this world is to him. Can you write a book. I'd love to gift it to my son and my niece, the young generation that is being pressured with so much that is not "important" as is the good things you mention. Getting to aging gracefully is merely aging with peace in mind. I would love to meet your mom!
THERE IS MORE SARAH??? I've been following your horror yt for a while but I didn't know you had others :) I use skincare but only to protect myself from pimples/clogged pores and skin cancer and avoid feeling dry, not to look younger. I look younger bc I don't stress about stuff like this!
Sarah you posting this on my 30th birthday when I had been thinking about all of this so much recently is so synchronistic. lol I've had frown lines since my early twenties despite having good skincare habits and I've just recently felt good about them. Youth being sold to us as the goal, is so bizarre the more I think about it. My own definition of true beauty is being full of wisdom, life experience, emotional capacity, empathy, gratitude, generosity, and a spirit that is not tamed into submission by capitalistic and misogynistic social structures...
TW Suicide: As someone who tried to end things at a young age, it makes me cry to see how I will look when I’m older, I hope I can see my friends, family and partner grow old they’ll be beautiful I’m sure. Your life is precious! ♥️
Lost my best friend to suicide age 20 and while I'm pretty at peace mostly nowadays, it's still such a shame he wasn't around for many things in the last 15 years and I will forever miss his humor and cringy puns. I hope that you now have great people around you and I just want to let you know: we people left behind care deeply, even decades later, even if we respect the decision. What would I give to have one evening together again.
This was such a wonderful video. I’m 35 and always find things to pick at myself for despite so many people telling me I look young for my age. When you spoke about looking like your parents- it changed my perspective. I look so much like my dad and my grandfather, and they have aged so well! I want to look like them ❤️
I used to be scared to get old because my mom died when she was 26 years old so ive always had this obsession with getting old, for a different reason. Then i myself got sick and was told i could die from what was happening to my boddy by the time i was 26. I recovered and am now 30yrs old... now im told i look young still so losing my youth to chronic illnes didnt hurt me. I have a completely different prospective now when it comes to getting old and the way i look because i once looked like i had cancer. Its horrible to see what is being told to kids, ive deleted my social media because its everywhere. Its sad what is told is important in life...
I 100% agree with you. I am almost 29 and a mom and my whole life I’ve been told (by society not really directly) that I need to be thinner. I am plus size and am only now starting to get more comfortable with my body. And now I’m being told that I need to look younger. I struggle with basic skincare (ADHD and depression) and certainly don’t have the energy to do complex skincare routines and while I think it’s important to take care of your skin, anti-aging skincare is BS. Like you said, aging is a privilege. And I’d rather look older and be alive and seen my son grow up then die looking young. I hope by the time my son is old enough to comprehend appearances, they are no longer seen as the most valuable thing about a human. But even if it’s not, I’ll still do my best to teach him. ❤
Thank you for posting this. I remember watching your video on your fear of aging and I related to it so much. I'm happy to see that you're doing better now and I want to get to that place too ❤
I’m younger, but never thought of aging as bad and never understood the obsession. I’ve always been excited to age and want to achieve that wisdom, experience, and comfort that comes with age. I never get people who turn 28 and complain about being old, age is relative and you’re not old unless you view yourself as that. My birthday is this weekend and I feel like a baby. I personally can’t wait for my grays and to not give a fuck about anything since I’ve already lived my life to the fullest without worry about age and trying to be young
you are so right but we are after our saturn return lmfao. there is something about 30s & truly being okay in your skin. FOR REAL. the early 2000s was crazy with the thinness but i mean i remember when even jennifer lawrence was too "big" to play katniss everdeen & melanie lynskey just recently in the last of us was ridiculed for her size. it's wild to me. this whole conversation is why i loved X. i thought it was making a point on our value to youth/sex appeal. what is wrong with two old people trying to make love vs young people doing it solely for pleasure or fame. i'm a baby and it makes me cry a little every time i've seen that film. got a sag moon in the 5th so im an expressive little lady. i'm so glad to have a commentary vid by you! always love what you have to say or find something insightful to contemplate
I also initially had a negative reaction to the filters. I try to remind myself that my body is the least interesting thing about me, and it is really a vessel for me to experience life, aging being a part of that. So many older people ive talked to about aging tell me that they dont "feel old" and i think about that so much now. I get older but at this point im 33 and i never feel older in any way other than my body!!
Your video showed up in my feed. I'm 54. I have religiously worn sunscreen & a broad brimmed hat and UV sunglasses when I leave the house. I always wear a retinoid and thick moisturizer at night. That's it! That's the extent of my "anti-aging" routine. I've stopped buying "all the serums" (never had the disposable income for anything else). I can tell you as an older woman; it's SHOCKING that this cultural obsession never ends! I thought, by age 40, I would be finally free from the cultural pressure to be line-free, sag-free, cellulite-free, but, NOPE! It never ends. Fifty year olds are expected to look 30. Well, let me warn everyone, you can do ALL the things, and, unless you have superstar genetics, menopause puts aging into overdrive. So, you might as well just do the very few, quick things (sunscreen, sleep hygiene, nutrition) and find your worth in other things. ♥️🇨🇦
100% agree with you that it's all about selling the products. However, I do think there's nothing wrong with trying to prolong the effects of aging; because it's totaly invevitable! Starting a proper skincare routine (nothing fancy, just the simple cleanser and moisturizer gig) can really help. But I also think a lot of it is genetics. For example, I'm Asian and I look very young for my age. I also think this whole bullshit with injections and fucking plastic surgery to make yourself look younger or prevent your face from making certain movement to prevent again... the invevitable: AGING, is so dump and is SO ingrained amongst the younger generation in society today. It's very disheartening...
my big thing is: if someone cares about me not aging, wearing makeup, etc, then i don’t want them in my life anyways. i want to grow old with my friends and/or future partner, and that doesn’t include caring about each other’s appearances. it does, however, include appreciating each other’s beauty just because we are inherently beautiful. i want to get old. i want to look old. i want to spend time appreciating my life, not spend time putting myself through hell attempting to alter my appearance.
I'm 34 and must admit that while it is on my mind I am getting older (mainly related to finances, home ownership I'll probably never achieve, relatives passing away, etc), perhaps from a male perspective the anti-aging trend seems to be more prevalent for women. It's definitely there for men too, but I think my wrinkles and imperfections are more easily accepted or considered attractive. I think the biggest difference for me is that I started going to the gym a bit under 2 years ago and while I'm not some body builder I definitely have a better physique than before, and I think generally I'm considered more attractive now than I was in my 20s, despite me being thinner or younger then. The disparity between men and women is definitely there, and I think even sexuality plays a role - as a gay man, being in your 20s is definitely preferred, but if you have a nice physique/are muscular, 30s plus is considered attractive too. That in of itself is super toxic, but that's another video for another day if you're interested in approaching it.
I loved this video. Among all the anti aging things literally everywhere this is so important. I always try to think that way - aging is a privilege and I hope to be here. ❤
I’m such in the privileged position of being young but I’ve really been trying to live the idea that AGING IS A PRIVILEGE. Not everyone gets to live long enough to get wrinkles. They’re so special and amazing to have. I hope I hold onto that as I age.
I used to fear aging, but then I discovered that my Grandma (my Mom's Mother) tragically died at age 32. I'm 33 and realized that I've lived longer now than my Grandma did, which is so sad to me. She should have gotten the chance to grow old, she should have raised my Mom as she grew up, she should have been able to meet her grandkids...but she died young and never got those opportunities. You're right that aging is a privilege and the best case scenario. Also, I used to dislike how big my forehead is, until I saw a photo of my Grandma, and realized that I have her forehead. I don't dislike my forehead anymore, because it's a part of my Grandma that I get to keep with me, even though she's gone.
I think Gen Z and A are feeling so much pressure they are projecting it onto others. I’ve noticed a lot of tiktok Gen Z talking like anyone over 30 is the crypt keeper.
Thank you for this video. I am about the same age as you and it’s so weird getting older. I’m kind of having trouble with it, but I try to let myself just enjoy my age. Life happens and we have no control over what happens. Something I’m trying to learn and just lean into. Of course social media doesn’t help. I see so much on my IG feed about Botox and filler and it was messing with my head but that’s for some people But not everyone needs it. I try to just ignore that stuff on social media. I also don’t think it helps that my mom and sister are so obsessed with anti aging and filler. All of this has been kinda confusing for me.
52 here. I struggle with lazy dressing. I feel bad about it. Should I though ? Comfort over fashion. I also struggle with feeling like I’m too old to enjoy scary movies. I don’t get it. But I do.
Clicked on this remembering that you did a video similar to this 4 years ago (r.i.p ginger hair & that was the first video I ever watched of yours!!!!) and before watching this, I can safely say I know I’m going to agree. I’m all for people doing anything to modify their looks. Pro-choice BUT make sure you do it for the right reasons because you’ll be stuck with it and cannot truly revert back to your original state. Aging naturally is beautiful. Being surgically enhanced is also beautiful. Being somewhere in the middle is beautiful too.
Hi everyone, this is Sarah's mom. I am 65 and have never used skin care. When I smile, my whole face wrinkles, and I go from 'resting bitch face' to 'smiling with my whole face.' My hair is half brown, half silver, and I wear it in a bun. My throat and eyelids sag, and I have crazy white hairs in my eyebrows that I leave so I can laugh at them. I look my age and am proud of it. Please don't fear looking your age. If Sarah wants to do a follow up to this video, I will show you all. I would be proud to.
Love this so much ❤️
@@evelyncortus6357 Kind of shows Sarah's background, what she grew up with 😁 I am so proud of her!
This would be awesome!
@@magdalenahernandez1562 If she wants, I can kind of demonstrate what she means. Although a three generation photo would be lovely. Btw, Magdalena, your name is beautiful.
this is so sweet, Sarah you’re a lucky girl to have such a good mom!
A couple of months ago, my now ex bf of 10 years said i was looking old and that women lose their "looks" around their 30.'s Mind you i am 31, i have been into skin care for years. I've been using retinolds for the same amount of time, i am happy with my skin. He's never used spf or a moisturizer. I think the conversation about aging has a lot to do with sexism and harsh standards put on specifically on women.
..And yeah that is why, among other things, why we broke up.
Something that really made me happy is seeing Pamela Anderson embracing her age & not wearing makeup. We are all lucky to get older.
In my opinion she looks SO much better now, too!
My mom passed at 46 (i was 16) after a 2 year battle with cancer and it really taught me that aging is such a privilege. I wish i could have seen my mom grow older and get wrinkles and rock her grey hair and see her face sag. Aging means that the people who love you don't miss you.
All I'll say is that my family have talked about aging with me since I was around 10 years old, but my older brother has never used a moisturizer in his entire life 💀
"You are not put on this earth to be young and attractive." Well put, love your channel. 👏 👏 ❤
We weren't meant to fly either but we live in a time where the unnatural prevails
I remember the video Sarah did on her extreme fear of aging a few years ago. Hearing her now state that she is excited to grow old is a lovely thing
Yeah right I also thought about this
I remember a tik tok that said "how you're gonna age when you're an unproblematic person" and showing Anne Hathaway. My dear god, when will it be ok to be ugly and old? And what does this even mean? An ugly old fellow is a problematic person and horrible?
Aging is a gift. I always choose to see it this way. Wrinkles, spots, and silver hair are so beautiful. They are all stamps in a passport of a long life ❤
'You were not put on this earth to be young and attractive' really hit hard. I think thats how the innundation of gorgeous smooth skinned women on the internet can make it feel, that THAT is the purpose of life.
im so glad i grew up in a time before tiktok and instagram. i can't even begin to imagine the pressure kids feel today to have a full skincare and makeup routine, and to prevent aging at all costs, before they're even adults.
I don't think I would have made it through!
What you said about seeing your features on other people resonated with me a lot! I will admit I was a tad horrified by the tik tok age filter. I showed my mom and she said “wow you look just like me” and immediately my criticism of my aged face fell away. That was so sweet and if I get to carry the legacy of my mother’s sweet face, I would be honored
When I did the age filter my first reaction was "oh my god, I look like my great grandpa, how wonderful!" I never got to meet him, so to see him so clearly on my face was magical. What a privilege it is to see the ones we love or those who are no longer with us everyday in ourselves!!
speaking out of my heart on that millenial fashion talk :D I personally don't remember being like 18 and commenting on a 28 y.o. clothing style TO THEIR FACE. More so, I felt inspired by older people styles and diverse looks. now everyone has to look a certain other "aesthetic" like every two weeks and its absurd and shallow honestly. Also, (me being 28) I recently got called a BOOMER! by someone maybe 4 or 5 year younger than me, because I was decorating my apartment with twigs and branches lol how lame of me trying to be creative with interior design instead of going with the kk beige "aesthetic"
I would love to hear your commentary on deciding to have children and trusting in yourself as a parent. I’m 30 and I do want kids but I’m terrified. I grew up with a single mom who struggled financially but she tried her best.. personally I’m afraid to take on such a responsibility and possibly struggle too. 😢 with the climate crisis, a ton of societal pressure with parenting, overconsumption, there’s a lot of anxiety and uncertainty on if I should have kids or not.
In the same boat 😢 would love to hear Sarah talk about this too ❤
I have the same struggle turning 24 next week. Almost every day I think about how I want my life to be and I still don't have a clear answer. For now, I think I can't handle a child. I'm autistic and sensitive to sounds especially. I'm afraid that I might hate my kid
as someone who lost a parent, i will never alter any of my facial features. i used to fantasize about some day getting a nose job, it was never a TRUE plan but i was insecure about my nose. but then after my dad passed away i knew without a shadow of a doubt i never will. i have his nose, his dad’s nose. i only get to have this nose because of my dad and i see him when i look at myself. aging as well. my dad never even got to reach 50 years old. if i grow old, i will cherish that experience. not everyone is so fortunate. i think as soon as you lose someone young, you grow a wider perspective about aging and “looking your age”
I work in healthcare, and every single day I see people who do not get the opportunity to live to an old age. I’m so incredibly grateful to be able to age. It’s a blessing
"your best case scenario is getting old, because the alternative is dying young" this FUCKED me up.
Yep, Im almost 33 and I refuse to get Botox etc so I automatically look and feel older. The standard of beauty is now so unattainable and a lot of people hide their procedures or the fact they use filters etc. making it more of an issue :(
Growing old and sharing my life with my partner would be an absolute BLESSING not something I'm scared of. I'm looking forward to me and her being old biddies together and everything in between :~)
This was just what I needed. I'm the same age as you but lately tiktok has caused me to have a huge crisis around aging. I think we all need a bit of a wake-up call because at the end of the day it's not the most important thing about us. I would love a more in depth video on gen-z's general hate for millenials. I just don't understand why they even care?
I was just thinking to myself a couple days ago “a new video from Sarah would be amazing” and then it’s on this topic !! Yes thank you so much!!
I am a millennial as well and you’re so right because I think your jawline is changing how mine did and I was like “wow Sarah looks amazing!” yet did a livestream where someone pointed out my chin and I felt rly bad about it. I was bullied for my chin / jaw line before any aging so it’s a sore spot.
I don’t use TikTok at all. My body image has been better after working with my therapist and dietitian, so I’ve seen some of these trends but not all. When I say it’s been better, like you, it’s not that I love my body. I just don’t care and I body check wayyyy less and feel free and liberated. I always think of your old “no makeup Mondays” on days I skip makeup too.
I loved the comment you made about having your parents’ features and not wanting to change them. I feel similarly and this video was a really healing experience to take in as someone who is figuring themselves out! ❤
I agree that social media is very dangerous for young people. There is so much for them to absorb and they think they have to start and keep up on cosmetic surgeries, etc. I'm 39 and have been getting Botox in my forehead since 34. It makes me feel good about myself, but its not something I considered in my 20s! I want people to do what makes them feel good, not because they feel they have to to be deemed "attractive."
Also, as a childfree person, I appreciate your approach to the topic of aging with your daughter. My Mom unfortunately contributed to my terrible self-esteem issues and an ED, because I saw her treat herself so poorly in regards to her appearance. It makes me sad that she went through that daily struggle, and I'm not upset with her that she passed those struggles onto me. I wished someone would have helped her the way I'm getting help today.
I appreciate so much that as your raise your daughter you want to be cognizant of your own self image. My mother has constantly degraded herself in front of me and my sisters for our entire lives. I look just like her in body size and a lot of other features. It has definitely warped my self image. Thank you for trying to get ahead of that for Fern. Also love these videos from you!
On the male groom subreddit I see posts from young men asking how to fix or improve upon their looks and their “asymmetry” and I’m so perplexed because they’re young (conventionally attractive) and have no noticeable asymmetry. Every face is asymmetric. There are studies in psychology that show that although we prefer a more asymmetric face, when we a famous attractive person’s face with one half mirrored to make it truly symmetrical - it’s off putting or strange. Same thing goes for when we see our own faces mirrored. I feel so bad for younger people today. I’ve never been concerned with my face’s symmetry, but like you mentioned I hated my “chubby, round face” and now I miss how youthful and plump is was lol
What you said about being better for your daughter is so right on. I grew up with a mother that constantly put herself down, and we're no longer in contact and I still struggle with not putting myself down all the time.
hi sarah,
ive watched you since the days you were studying psychology in college. im a tiny bit younger than you, im 26, but throughout the years, its been like im listening to my older sister help prepare me for the next stage of my life. i havent been too too concerned about aging, but have noticed the amount of tiktoks talking about botox rising, and i think it has been subconsciously making me also start to consider it. thank you for making this, it was refreshing and comforting.
love this video, sarah. i'm proud to be a subscriber who stuck through the years. you're incredibly insightful and kind, and i just think your daughter is lucky to have you.
I've been looking for more content like this to re wire my brain about my feelings about aging. So thanks for this!!!❤
Thank you so much for this topic!
I subbed to you back in high school (I’m 28 so this was like a decade or more ago) because of some grunge-adjacent makeup tutorial and almost completely forgot about your channel because of some UA-cam algorithm changes but god this was such a well-spoken and well-articulated video (and congrats on becoming a mom too, I’m really out of the loop whoops).
A shallow life will leave you drained and empty.
Thank you Sarah! Addressing this is so necessary and honestly I wish this video became viral and it reached all those kids and teenagers that live submerged into tiktok trends world. Maybe some would wake up to reality...It is really an honour to become old and we should treat as such people who do.
and honestly one of my biggest fears is not being able to fully unlearn these harmful notions
You have such a clear and eloquent way of explaining all of these issues. Im 32 and so overwhelmed on a daily basis i feel like i can hardly string 3 words together in a concise way 🥲🥲😅 the way you comfort me when you talk about these things is unreal. Youre officially my backup therapist lol
I'm in my early 30s and I am actually finding myself more beautiful now. I don't care what people think of me, I'm just so at peace with who I am and it is interesting to see my face change and my skin texture shift, I love to see the wrinkles when I smile because it means Ive had 30+ years of smiling.
When I was 16 my father passed away, he was only 32. I'm going to be his age soon and I'm just thinking like, wow. It IS a privilege to age. ❤
Love the video. It feels like watching one of your old ones ❤️
Other youtubers could make a similar video but because you're so authentic, it makes me actually listen to the kind messages transported in this video
Oh boy, I missed you friend. Those commentary videos had always felt like conversations with a pal.
It’s funny because I’m 31 and I feel like I’m still in my early 20s and everyone around me who is around the same age is also in their 20s. You’re only as old as you feel and I think I and you and most people our age look bloody great for our ages! And that weight thing with Bridget Jones and Jessica Simpson is crazy! I’m about the same weight as them but this is genuinely the skinniest I’ve ever been, and I feel great for it! Such a shame for the younger generations 😢 I don’t have any children yet even though I would love one but bringing them into this broken world will be so hard for me.
Brilliant video, loved and agreed with every minute! 💜
my husband called me out the other day on my fear and obsession with aging - I'm only 23. I have definitely noticed a problem with it on TikTok and in my own life. I found a white hair the other day and started crying... later I realized that the more white hair I get, the more I will look like my mother :) who is BEAUTIFUL.
Excited for this video. Lately I’ve been anxious about my forehead lines and wondering if I should get Botox like so many other women I see online. It’s quite sad (and a little enraging) when influencers frame getting Botox as “self care”. 🙁
Personally, I am trying to tell myself that aging is a gift. Being alive until you’re old is a gift. Fighting wrinkles is probably a losing battle at some point.. it’s inevitable. When we’re old, we’ll be more concerned with how we feel internally than externally. We only have one life so best to just make the most of it and not stress yourself too hard, or waste all your money on fighting wrinkles.
This video and your mom’s comment made me cry. I really missed your commentary videos. Thank you for bringing awareness to this and giving people an alternative perspective. ❤
I got botox once. It's expensive for my budget but honestly, even if I had the money I don't think I'd get it again. I don't care about getting wrinkles. I am ageless in my photos that I take, in how I carry myself, and what I wear. Aging is just a number, a wrinkle is just a line. I'm cool with it.
Honestly , I remember you saying you started anti aging products at the age 25 so I started at the same age,following you haha, Im 30 now and happy to see how both of our mindsets have changed ❤❤❤ now I too take care of myself not to avoid aging, but Just to be healthy
I just watched the May December movie on Netflix and I noticed that it was very refreshing to see Julianne Moore & Natalie Portman aging naturally. Now, I’m sure they both get skincare treatments and have access to amazing beauty advantages we don’t, but I think they’re both so much more beautiful than they would be if they were pumped full of fillers. The character on their faces is what makes them, THEM. Not to dog on another actor either, but as an example, I also watched The Fall of the House of Usher and Mary McDonell is almost unrecognizable, not because she’s older, but because she has so much filler and work done that she doesn’t look like herself anymore. I don’t judge people for getting work done either. People should do what they like. However, it’s gotten so common to just pump fillers in to every little line and completely change what faces look like that I think we’re going to look back at it as a creepy looking trend some day. The women who are choosing less drastic measures look so much more beautiful in my opinion.
It is unfortunate how society puts pressure on our generation to stay young. I will say it... I do my daily skincare routine, and sunscreen is my last step, but using it for anti-aging isn't why I use it. I use it because I don't want to get sun damage and skin cancer. It is so sad because I admire older faces, and I was so lucky to grow up with my grandparents. The fact that young people don't want to be old is disappointing. Some of my favorite celebrities are old, and I'm still young. I hope to be like Lily Tomlin as a grandma because I have always admired her. Plus, she is so funny and talented too. People need to overcome this fear because it will happen to all of us eventually, and we might as well embrace it now while we are getting older...
Pls do more of these, we missed it 🙏
What you said about not wanting your daughter to learn hating herself from her mother. I have exactly the same goal. My mom has filler and I remember her telling me “you will probably get those lines too” - referring to the lines she got filled with filler. And I was like “hmmm… maybe I will but I have no problem with that”. Mind you, I was already an adult when we had this conversation and have already develop a sense of self so this convo didn’t make me question my beauty but I realised that I don’t want to be that kind of example for my future kids.
You're always so on point Sarah¡ I feel completely the same about aging, it’s a privilege to get old and see our children grow and also such an interesting yet a bit scary thing to see our faces and bodies change but it’s also so so human
Love you for this Sarah. I’ve unfollowed multiple UA-camrs recently for leaning more and more into anti-aging rhetoric. So hard to hold onto a value set that embraces and accepts aging when you’re constantly being bombarded with messaging about Botox and really extreme skincare routines and it’s soooooo refreshing to hear someone with a platform like yours echo this feeling. Love what you say about not wanting to pass this mentality to your daughter - maybe this is a weird comparison, but being in a lesbian relationship has affected me in a kinda similar way, realizing that if I vocalize and act on self hatred around my own aging it will also have an effect on the person I love the most and potentially encourage her to be that self critical. I don’t want to bring that shit home!! I think your comparison with thinness is dead on. Aging is a gift and a blessing baby!!! Huge 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛 for this one.
i’m about to turn 27 next week and i look really young for my age. people keep telling me to be happy about it but i really don’t understand why that’s something i should want! i feel so lucky to get older especially as a disabled person so every little sign of me looking a bit more my actual age feels like a blessing ❤
this is a great take, and i think in addition to not being made to see as many faces as we do, we also didn’t live much past our 40-50’s for pretty much all of history until recently. it may be shocking for our brains to comprehend living that long in the first place
You were talking about how you get to a point where you don’t really care about what other people think, and I completely agree. Although I’d also say, you get to a point where you realize people don’t really care about how you (the royal you, not “you” specifically) look. As you get older, most of us realize that we aren’t the center of the universe and we are rarely on the top of mind for other people. I think TikTok, an app made for a primarily younger audience, really preys on young people’s insecurities and proclivity to be self-centered. TikTok has unlocked whole new fears and anxieties amongst our youth (talk about aging people faster, jeez, fear/anxiety will do it quickly).
Anyways… I love your videos, you’re so calm and rational & I really relate to your content. Love that you’re back making regular content. 🥰♥️
I love this topic as someone who is in her early 30s with 2 kids now I can see my body changing and I'm really starting to notice my aging. I would love for you to do more fashion videos as a mom because I have a younger sister and cousins who dress in their baggy pants and crop tops and they look so cute but I just don't know what I can pull off as a mom lol. I've realized that yes I need to take care of my whole self more than I used to in my 20s but I also get called beautiful by my husband all the time without make up and I should just love myself more in this new stage in my life.
Love this video and its message! Some of my friends think it is weird that I don't have a skin care (translation: anti-aging) routine, apparently I should be constantly applying anti-aging creams instead of just washing my face with water and wearing sun-cream.
“Your best case scenario is getting old because the alternative is dying young” “it is a privilege to age” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Omg dude, the way I think about this everyday! I am INUNDATED WITH THIS SHIT EVERYDAY AND I HAVE ALSO HAD IT. It’s SO IRRITATING AND I CANT ESCAPE IT
I’ve been struggling with this so much lately, I really needed to hear this. Thank you for putting this out there, we need more of this in the world
Getting older is a privilege some don't get too experience!
Yes!! This. I’ve been actively working to accept my grey hair recently, after years of dying it. It was certainly a strong internalised message to be repulsed by it that I had to break through.
I have been following you since 2012, I am currently 28 and i feel exactly like how you felt on your video at 2019, I want to be a mom just like you are now, I always felt so connected to you and your videos I never left even when you mainly focused on your horror channel, because i always knew that you are a valuable source of knowledge and perspective, a sister I can listen to, a friend who guides me through thick and thin. Thank you, with love
Ahsen
Missed your commentary videos! ❤️
Just turned 34 in September and I really needed this video. Thank you Sarah ❤
I love the timing of this video as I'm currently transitioning to my salt and pepper hair at 37 👏
Thank you Sarah, you are very well spoken and I appreciate this video so much. I have been around to see all of it, I'm about to turn 59. I feel blessed every year I have a birthday and how I look or what i wear is not important, it is how I feel and what i have been blessed with everyday with family and life. I feel for this new era and my boy is 26 and i can see how confused this world is to him. Can you write a book. I'd love to gift it to my son and my niece, the young generation that is being pressured with so much that is not "important" as is the good things you mention. Getting to aging gracefully is merely aging with peace in mind. I would love to meet your mom!
THERE IS MORE SARAH??? I've been following your horror yt for a while but I didn't know you had others :) I use skincare but only to protect myself from pimples/clogged pores and skin cancer and avoid feeling dry, not to look younger. I look younger bc I don't stress about stuff like this!
Sarah you posting this on my 30th birthday when I had been thinking about all of this so much recently is so synchronistic. lol I've had frown lines since my early twenties despite having good skincare habits and I've just recently felt good about them. Youth being sold to us as the goal, is so bizarre the more I think about it. My own definition of true beauty is being full of wisdom, life experience, emotional capacity, empathy, gratitude, generosity, and a spirit that is not tamed into submission by capitalistic and misogynistic social structures...
Loved this video ❤ I always value your opinions and love your energy - hope you do more commentary again 😊
TW Suicide:
As someone who tried to end things at a young age, it makes me cry to see how I will look when I’m older, I hope I can see my friends, family and partner grow old they’ll be beautiful I’m sure.
Your life is precious! ♥️
Lost my best friend to suicide age 20 and while I'm pretty at peace mostly nowadays, it's still such a shame he wasn't around for many things in the last 15 years and I will forever miss his humor and cringy puns. I hope that you now have great people around you and I just want to let you know: we people left behind care deeply, even decades later, even if we respect the decision. What would I give to have one evening together again.
This was such a wonderful video. I’m 35 and always find things to pick at myself for despite so many people telling me I look young for my age. When you spoke about looking like your parents- it changed my perspective. I look so much like my dad and my grandfather, and they have aged so well! I want to look like them ❤️
Would love an update on fast fashion!!! Glad you’re back ❤
I can recommend Gittemary Johansen, she has great videos on fast fashion and also their green washing
It is so refreshing to hear this topic discussed more frequently.
I used to be scared to get old because my mom died when she was 26 years old so ive always had this obsession with getting old, for a different reason. Then i myself got sick and was told i could die from what was happening to my boddy by the time i was 26. I recovered and am now 30yrs old... now im told i look young still so losing my youth to chronic illnes didnt hurt me. I have a completely different prospective now when it comes to getting old and the way i look because i once looked like i had cancer. Its horrible to see what is being told to kids, ive deleted my social media because its everywhere. Its sad what is told is important in life...
I 100% agree with you. I am almost 29 and a mom and my whole life I’ve been told (by society not really directly) that I need to be thinner. I am plus size and am only now starting to get more comfortable with my body. And now I’m being told that I need to look younger. I struggle with basic skincare (ADHD and depression) and certainly don’t have the energy to do complex skincare routines and while I think it’s important to take care of your skin, anti-aging skincare is BS. Like you said, aging is a privilege. And I’d rather look older and be alive and seen my son grow up then die looking young. I hope by the time my son is old enough to comprehend appearances, they are no longer seen as the most valuable thing about a human. But even if it’s not, I’ll still do my best to teach him. ❤
I'm so affected by this but i don't know how to change my mentality
Sarah, you took the words out of my mouth! I just turned 34, have a 3 yr old and can relate to everything you said. ❤️
Love your commentary videos the most! ❤
I've personally adopted the mindset of "embracing the fact that I am slowly decomposing from the inside out" lol.
Yeeesssss I love your commentary videos! Happy to see a new one🖤
Thank you for posting this. I remember watching your video on your fear of aging and I related to it so much. I'm happy to see that you're doing better now and I want to get to that place too ❤
This is by far one of your best videos of all time, and I love your channel and how you talk.
I’m younger, but never thought of aging as bad and never understood the obsession. I’ve always been excited to age and want to achieve that wisdom, experience, and comfort that comes with age. I never get people who turn 28 and complain about being old, age is relative and you’re not old unless you view yourself as that. My birthday is this weekend and I feel like a baby. I personally can’t wait for my grays and to not give a fuck about anything since I’ve already lived my life to the fullest without worry about age and trying to be young
I know someone who got a nose job, and then gifted her 18 year old daughter one for her high school grad lmao it’s so sad!
you are so right but we are after our saturn return lmfao. there is something about 30s & truly being okay in your skin. FOR REAL.
the early 2000s was crazy with the thinness but i mean i remember when even jennifer lawrence was too "big" to play katniss everdeen & melanie lynskey just recently in the last of us was ridiculed for her size. it's wild to me.
this whole conversation is why i loved X. i thought it was making a point on our value to youth/sex appeal. what is wrong with two old people trying to make love vs young people doing it solely for pleasure or fame. i'm a baby and it makes me cry a little every time i've seen that film. got a sag moon in the 5th so im an expressive little lady.
i'm so glad to have a commentary vid by you! always love what you have to say or find something insightful to contemplate
I also initially had a negative reaction to the filters. I try to remind myself that my body is the least interesting thing about me, and it is really a vessel for me to experience life, aging being a part of that. So many older people ive talked to about aging tell me that they dont "feel old" and i think about that so much now. I get older but at this point im 33 and i never feel older in any way other than my body!!
Except our minds and our bodies are so intertwined with each other, I'm not sure it makes sense to say that our bodies are the least interesting part.
Sarah, it was a pleasure listening to you. Thank you for being such a cool and wise individual :))
I literally wrote “young is the new skinny” in my list of ideas for articles to publish, great minds!
Too many people I grew up with will be forever young. It's such a beautiful privilege to be able to grow old and gain wrinkles.
Your video showed up in my feed. I'm 54. I have religiously worn sunscreen & a broad brimmed hat and UV sunglasses when I leave the house. I always wear a retinoid and thick moisturizer at night.
That's it! That's the extent of my "anti-aging" routine.
I've stopped buying "all the serums" (never had the disposable income for anything else). I can tell you as an older woman; it's SHOCKING that this cultural obsession never ends! I thought, by age 40, I would be finally free from the cultural pressure to be line-free, sag-free, cellulite-free, but, NOPE! It never ends. Fifty year olds are expected to look 30.
Well, let me warn everyone, you can do ALL the things, and, unless you have superstar genetics, menopause puts aging into overdrive.
So, you might as well just do the very few, quick things (sunscreen, sleep hygiene, nutrition) and find your worth in other things.
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100% agree with you that it's all about selling the products. However, I do think there's nothing wrong with trying to prolong the effects of aging; because it's totaly invevitable! Starting a proper skincare routine (nothing fancy, just the simple cleanser and moisturizer gig) can really help. But I also think a lot of it is genetics. For example, I'm Asian and I look very young for my age. I also think this whole bullshit with injections and fucking plastic surgery to make yourself look younger or prevent your face from making certain movement to prevent again... the invevitable: AGING, is so dump and is SO ingrained amongst the younger generation in society today. It's very disheartening...
my big thing is: if someone cares about me not aging, wearing makeup, etc, then i don’t want them in my life anyways. i want to grow old with my friends and/or future partner, and that doesn’t include caring about each other’s appearances. it does, however, include appreciating each other’s beauty just because we are inherently beautiful. i want to get old. i want to look old. i want to spend time appreciating my life, not spend time putting myself through hell attempting to alter my appearance.
I'm 34 and must admit that while it is on my mind I am getting older (mainly related to finances, home ownership I'll probably never achieve, relatives passing away, etc), perhaps from a male perspective the anti-aging trend seems to be more prevalent for women. It's definitely there for men too, but I think my wrinkles and imperfections are more easily accepted or considered attractive. I think the biggest difference for me is that I started going to the gym a bit under 2 years ago and while I'm not some body builder I definitely have a better physique than before, and I think generally I'm considered more attractive now than I was in my 20s, despite me being thinner or younger then.
The disparity between men and women is definitely there, and I think even sexuality plays a role - as a gay man, being in your 20s is definitely preferred, but if you have a nice physique/are muscular, 30s plus is considered attractive too. That in of itself is super toxic, but that's another video for another day if you're interested in approaching it.
I saw a tiktok video yesterday where a beauty supply store worker reenacted a situation where a 12 year old girl wanted to buy retinol for herself...
I loved this video. Among all the anti aging things literally everywhere this is so important. I always try to think that way - aging is a privilege and I hope to be here. ❤
I’m such in the privileged position of being young but I’ve really been trying to live the idea that AGING IS A PRIVILEGE. Not everyone gets to live long enough to get wrinkles. They’re so special and amazing to have. I hope I hold onto that as I age.
It is a privilege but it is also hard
i feel like i got a heartwarming lecture from a big sister but i'm the same age as you. anyways thanks 😅
I used to fear aging, but then I discovered that my Grandma (my Mom's Mother) tragically died at age 32. I'm 33 and realized that I've lived longer now than my Grandma did, which is so sad to me. She should have gotten the chance to grow old, she should have raised my Mom as she grew up, she should have been able to meet her grandkids...but she died young and never got those opportunities. You're right that aging is a privilege and the best case scenario. Also, I used to dislike how big my forehead is, until I saw a photo of my Grandma, and realized that I have her forehead. I don't dislike my forehead anymore, because it's a part of my Grandma that I get to keep with me, even though she's gone.
I think Gen Z and A are feeling so much pressure they are projecting it onto others. I’ve noticed a lot of tiktok Gen Z talking like anyone over 30 is the crypt keeper.
yes! or they’ll comment “wow you look so good for your age” and it’s 30 year old person 💀
Thank you for this video. I am about the same age as you and it’s so weird getting older. I’m kind of having trouble with it, but I try to let myself just enjoy my age. Life happens and we have no control over what happens. Something I’m trying to learn and just lean into. Of course social media doesn’t help. I see so much on my IG feed about Botox and filler and it was messing with my head but that’s for some people
But not everyone needs it. I try to just ignore that stuff on social media. I also don’t think it helps that my mom and sister are so obsessed with anti aging and filler. All of this has been kinda confusing for me.
52 here. I struggle with lazy dressing. I feel bad about it. Should I though ? Comfort over fashion. I also struggle with feeling like I’m too old to enjoy scary movies. I don’t get it. But I do.
Clicked on this remembering that you did a video similar to this 4 years ago (r.i.p ginger hair & that was the first video I ever watched of yours!!!!) and before watching this, I can safely say I know I’m going to agree.
I’m all for people doing anything to modify their looks. Pro-choice BUT make sure you do it for the right reasons because you’ll be stuck with it and cannot truly revert back to your original state.
Aging naturally is beautiful. Being surgically enhanced is also beautiful. Being somewhere in the middle is beautiful too.