What Men & Women NEED To Know About The Menstrual Cycle | Dr. Mindy Pelz
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- Опубліковано 15 чер 2023
- Renowned expert Mindy Pelz, uncovers practical tips and empathetic approaches for men to support their partners during this natural phase.
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No thanks, people again don't understand the doors they opening ... Just like when they bring the rainbows and unicorns, they didn't see it coming, but was planned... Poor unicorns. Only if you understand consequences!!
@@aldastroud9671 If you are using Unicorn symbolism in reference to the mysteries, then it would seem so...
The amount of 'general health advice' out there that is actually female health advice....
Males and females are opposite, not the same.
that really great thanks for that conversation. i like that
She’s right, not only most men are unaware of the menstrual cycle, 90% women I know personally have no idea about their own cycle.
and then when it comes to having a baby, it should happened NOW, and they have no idea about preparation (heavy metal and chemical detox, increasing minerals, testing for nutritional deficiencies) six - 8 months beforehand much less when they ovulate. It is a type of literacy that is really missing.
Dude I'm still learning about my cycle and I'm over 30 lol.
@@consciouspreconception334I feel that most women actually seek medical advice when trying to have a baby, or read up about it, particularly if they've been struggling to fall pregnant. They then find out about their cycle and when they should be trying to get pregnant.
Yes! The comments under this video prove that. I see so many fellow women spreading myths and misinformation and other women taking their word for it. 😩
Bcuz no one really teaches this unfortunately
In a world where nobody acknowledges the true biological differences between men and women, this snippet was a real breath of fresh air. And how you said women’s ability to carry a baby for months and produce life is a beautiful characteristic that men don’t have, and that it’s a super power which makes the cycle a beautiful thing, not a thing to look down upon… I wanted to cry. What a respectful way to think about it. Our differences (male and female) are what make us beautiful and unique and powerful. When the culture erases those differences saying we’re all the same, it just takes that beauty from distinctiveness away.
👏 Thank you for saying the quiet parts out loud.
Men can't have babies? Been hearing other things lately. Lol
Not the super power bit but I strongly agree with everything you said! So important
@@4651adri why wouldn't you agree that carrying and creating human life is a superpower? It truly is.
Nahhh this world still has Russia, Middle east & some numbered countries in South asia. They still recognize & acknowledge the true biological diff between MALE & FEMALE
''Irritable'' is a kind word for the week before your mensural cycle. I feel downright homicidal sometimes. It's always nice when I realize WHY I'm feeling like that...I can breath a sigh of relief that I'm not going totally insane.
I heard that heavy PMS is actually a condition, called PMDD (can't remember exactly what it stands for...) and one of the symptoms can be suicidal thoughts during the week before your periods. Mama Doctor Jones (obgyn on yt) talks a little about it so I would definitely recommend 😊
And what NO ONE addresses really (though she touched a tiny bit on this in the video) is the REAL reason why you would feel homicidal. Which is, you are in CONSTANT go mode and operating strictly on masculine energy. Unless you REGULARLY take REAL breaks during your down time, like during menstruation, I mean when you do NOTHING! And wait for your energt to rise back up naturally, instead of popping pills and march on through busy, hectic, unsustainable lifestyle we are all living in these days, I PROMISE you, you won't feel as suicidal or homicidal.
@@LeaCy-fm1wmI'm here rn 😂 just woke up questioning the purpose of life and immediately had to go check what day of my cycle it is.
You can get killed in those moments. Just know that. Respect and proper distance not managed when your Ill or merging into into a cycle 🔄 this powerful, can trigger fight or flight. Unselected males are not your protectors or your punching bags.
Homicidal and suicidal 😭
To the woman dating the host of the show, don’t let this guy go. He is the literal definition of an emotionally intelligent man.
Is emotional intel another way of saying social awareness ?
@@chumauyamadu2053not necessarily. It also refers to how well someone can understand and regulate their own emotions, in addition to being more socially aware and understanding the emotions of others.
@@faith1034 fair enough
'Emotional intelligence' doesn't exist there's just intelligence. If you disagree then explain the difference.
@@FutureDictator69 There are so many kinds of intelligence, there is spatial intelligence where you can intuitively move and understand shapes in 3d space, verbal intelligence where you are very skilled at communicating ideas in words, musical intelligence, social intelligence where you are skilled at controlling social situations...
Emotional intelligence is where you are aware of your feelings and other people's feelings, and are able to mange them. An emotionally intelligent person will get angry, recognize they are angry, and then be able to implement a strategy to manage their anger, or understand what is happening when someone else is angry and not let the other person's emotions negatively impact them or make broad judgements about someone just for being angry, and even help that other person manage their emotions.
Just because you are a master logician doesn't mean you are good at every task that requires intelligence or could have achieved success in that field.
Period
Day 1-10 outgoing, energetic, more myself, better cognitive abilities
Day 11-17ovulation (horny, body trying to make baby), skin glowing, most beautiful, heightened desire to seek love interests
Day 18- 23, mood getting lower, getting more introverted, prone to depression, need to stay away from overstimulation
Day 24-30 extra care needed, low self esteem, sensitive, desire to spend time around comfort people (potential to form the closest emotional bonds)
Do you mean day 1 after the bleeding stops or its still happening?
@@samphelps856day 1 is when it starts
@@Goshens24thank you
My cycle is only 23 or 24 days long so sadly all those windows shorten 😢😂 it goes so fast on a short cycle
This, amazing
I'm gonna do women out there a favour and say this woman is not entirely right: leave her alone on Days 1 AND 2.
She's still bleeding pretty heavily on Day 2, so it's best to delay difficult conversations until at least Day 3, or better yet - wait until her period is over (anywhere between Day 4 and 8).
Stop generalising
Nah day 3 is the earliest. Day 2 is still bad. Day 3 is when it becomes somewhat bareable.
I agree
@@MondscheinelfeTell that to the woman being interviewed.
TRUTH! Days 1, 2, & 3 are brutal!
Day 1, 2 (1-4 - depends on a woman/ cycle) - give her some space
Day 3-12 - resolve conflicts (she's more verbal, more present, more outgoing, wants to connect, ready to handle conflicts) + the time to wine and dine her
Day 10-15 (ovulation) - have sex (her libido's the highest)
Day 15-28/ 32 - be really nice, compliment her (she'll disagree but keep going), rub her feet, be supportive
so half our lives we are ... feeling horrible? day 15-28 is half the cycle :/
@@Lucy-mq2ho and we can also get ill, and there could be bad weather...🙂
Most guys will not be happy with no sex 3 weeks out of 4
@@evelynsaungikar3553 where does it say "no sex 3 weeks out of 4"?
@@helengroza “Day 1-4 giver her some space”. “Day 15-28 be really nice...”. 28-15-4 =9. Ok than, a week and 2 days!
The fact that I learned all this on my own from personal experience is crazy. I listened to my body and now that I’m hearing this everything makes sense.
It is not sexist to acknowledge this difference between men and women. If women understood their cycles more we'd be more in power in our femininity. Changed my life. It IS wonderful! Good job on taking notes and it's inspiring to see a man appreciate being informed on this! 🎉❤
It's not sexist to acknowledge it, but in my experience, men mostly acknowledge it in a sexist way. Many of us have had our cycle is used as a reason to brush off our thoughts and concerns.
Hopefully, the people this video reaches uses it appropriately.
@@mikochild2 that's just the thing. If even women who go thru the experience don't feel secure, aware and empowered enough in knowing who we are in our natural patterns and cycles, the patriarchal outer world gets the say on what our moods mean. My cycles destroyed my relationships until I understood what I needed to be doing for myself. Then it became a source of power. Girls should be taught much much more than how to use a tampon. Our monthly moon cycle is a magical life-creating wonder ❤️
@kookaburrafabulous yes girls need to know. Girls knowing things don't always change how men treat them though. So again, hopefully the men who use this use it for good.
The part that's sexist is
1) When ppl try to tell you how you're supposed to feel depending on your cycle when the fluctuations of moods don't apply to all women. Some of us just don't experience PMS
2) When men in our lives(most not even knowing our cycle) try to blame PMS for their own culpability
We blurred the lines between Man and Woman, so now everything is sexist--when her statement was true.
Day 2 is the heaviest bleeding day though 😩. You better not try to have a serious conversation with me while I’m laid up with a heating pad, bloated, and tired 🤬😡😓
Girl, my thoughts exactly! You better miss me on day 1, 2 or 3...I need time to heal up and feel better to have a rational discussion
EXACTLY! my life flashes before my eyes on day 2 and even 3. wtf is she talkin abt.... i hate all men on day 2..3
I thought she said in the beginning that day 1-2 are the ones when exactly NOT to talk to a woman during her cycle cause that's the heaviest bleeding. But yeah I'm with you girls, day 2 is usually horrible 🫡🥲
Yeah she clearly don't have a period because 1-3 are the worst and I don't want anyone bothering me 😂😂😂😂
I'm married 31 years, everyday is 1,2 or 3 nothing else!!
Keep in mind that it doesn't apply to every woman. I'm never irritable the week before my period, I can feel depressed the day before sometimes but that's it. Not everybody is affected the same way by the hormones
Why doesn't this have more upvotes? Everyone's mileage varies
Aren’t u just lucky!
For me it happens once every two months! One month, the week before my period I feel totally down, sad, crying, my self steem goes to the floor, I feel the most ugly stupid useless woman. And I can identify its just because of my period. Then next month same week I feel totally ok, then next month comes back the down feeling... I learned for me it is a cycle.
I think it's also affected by our mental state and environment as well. I honestly thought I had PMDD from August to December last year because I had never experienced PMS so badly before, I had so many thoughts of if I would die and it really was unbearable, I thought I was going through early menopause and it scared me because I'm 30 and have no kids I worried that I will never be a mother. It was because of this that I learned so much about my own cycle. But I'm back to normal again 🙏🏼😊I've made some life changes since then and I no longer feel that bad during my lutheal phase.
I love how he is actually taking notes, I mean it isn't surprising. This is a man that continuously want to learn and better himself. But it is refreshing to feel like a woman's needs isn't pushed to the sideline, or considered "a lot of work".
Might be the men you surround yourself with
My hubby knows when my period is coming and is Soooo prepared for it. He buys me chocolates because he knows I crave for it when I have my periods. I am 52 & still get my period and 31 years married & my hubby understands my cycle like a pro. He gives my space and when I am done he gets rewarded 😁😁😁
Hi, my period is still regular. I use to have my periods for 3 days but now it's 5 days and first two days very heavy. I think I use more sanity pads now than I use to. I can't wait for the day it ends forever. Menopause is what I am dreading most. 😁
@charlenejulius8501 I'm almost 44, and I have 3/4 day periods, too. I started at age 12, so in many ways, I'm looking forward to not having a period anymore.
I'm not looking forward to the dreaded hot flashes though. Good job I live in London where it's cold most of the year, I might save some money on heating bills if I'm always having a hot flash. 🤣🤣🔥
Does that means that there's a chance you can still get pregnant ??
No , I don't think so at my age. Maybe in my 40's yes but one still had to be careful. I can't fall pregnant because hubby had a Vastomy 28 years ago..Good question though
My husband also knows when my period is coming,it has resolved alot of the issues we used to have, he knows when to avoid me when am cranky and I have learnt to communicate with him, flowers when I am feeling crappy and when I am out of the 'slomp' ,we gonna have a gooooood time 🎉😂. I didn't realise the impact it was causing my family but now I completely get it😊
I really wish workplaces understood this, and even more how crazy and painful endometriosis is! The amount of times I've been punished for being in extreme pain is too many to count, and it should never happen.
This is just a snippet of a 2 hour long interview which was excellent and I highly suggest watching the full interview. She mentions how in Spain, recently, they have passed legislation allowing women 3 day paid menstrual leave each month. Man that would be so nice to have!!
@@MapleLeafsGirl77 Thanks, I'll check that out. 🙂
My Daughter is living with Endo.. I've seen what that does to a Woman. Fertility problems and pain. This is a very big concern. Over a million women in the UK now suffer this dibilitating desease. Something is causing this.. I suspect the pill. 😢
I’ve been living with endo for six years and only started taking birth control earlier this year so I don’t know how that would have caused it. Suspiciously though my grandmother and aunt also suffered with uterine problems. It’s almost as if it’s mainly caused by genetics 🤔
@@MapleLeafsGirl77while I feel that would be a great idea for women with diagnosed menstrual disorders, it's completely unnecessary for the average woman. I have very heavy periods now and I'm terrified of leaks but up until I was around 30 years old, there would have been zero need for me to be taking 3 days off work on my period. A couple of ibuprofen and permission to slip off to the bathroom when needed would have been absolutely the height of it.
The male "period" is daily and yearly. High testosterone around 8am and it goes down to it's lowest around 8pm. Very individualistic and in charge in the early morning. Individualistic less in charge afternoon. Cooperative by night.
I haven't looked extensively into the yearly one as much as the daily. Thanks for the reminder to look into that one.
WOW. Do you have some more information about this? Or point me into some direction? Your comment made me realize some things about myself in terms of daily struggles.
Source?
Ty so much for this
Do they have cramps during that time?
@@purplelove3666 well, there is epididymal hypertension, otherwise known as blue balls. Essentially, an extended period of sexual tension without release causes buildup, which is actually very painful. Note that for men, there will be situations where men get random erections, so this can be a problem more often than one might think.
This is so true. I've been tracking my cycle & notice how fertile, creative & outgoing I am during ovulation. Unfortunately, my PMS kicked in right as work is ramping up a HUGE project integration. My whole body is slowing down, but work is ramping up. I got so stressed & depressed that I'm at home in pjs working. I wish our cycles were more honored in society so that it makes sense for a woman to take a few days to work from home (or off completely) to let her body rest. More hormonal education & ways to embrace it would make such a difference! xo
I wish that too! Would be so much better if it was recognized as a normal part of life for us to work around our cycles.
to me this is actually the biggest issue in the modern workplace that makes it uninclusive to women. there is an underlying expectation that women need to behave like men to be perceived as successful in the workplace, when in reality our bodies literally go through this 28-32 cycle program whether we like it or not. it is immensely draining to mask it and hide it. the workplace will always be a hostile place for women until this is fully embraced and addressed. women MUST be allowed to be inconsistent, otherwise we are denying the reality of their bodies.
@@koalatea8126 denying our bodies which are linked to our INTUITION, which makes us powerful assets xo
Spain approve it something like that. Day off during your PMS
The fact that women doing get more sick days because we have to deal with painful and uncomfortable periods every month makes me sad, I remember sitting in my office cubicle so uncomfortable just counting the minutes I could go home and lay in bed
Can we take a moment to appreciate and applaud Steven for being open and willing to learn about menstrual cycles. You sure are setting the bar.
Wish women took time to understand men's hormones and how it ain't that deep when we smash some random.
Yeah, everybody, a round of applause for men doing the bare minimum 👏
@@J040PL7😂
Incel, go away.🙄
@@ametbealWho hurt you?
I wish she would have mentioned that ovulation is the time we get pregnant! Now all men heard is that it's the best time to get some!
Hard agree! It’s the whole point of ovulation lol
@@lygiabird6988 😆 exactly
Yes, you have to be careful during this time, since pregnancy is most likely ;).
@@thinkoutsidethebox8456…”Be careful “?? you can certainly be careful, but many women are trying to get pregnant during that time.
I wish she acknowledged the shorter cycles like 22-27 days. We exist!! And it sucks!
Omg, it's brutal!!
That cant be normal 😮
My gf got her period after 17 days conveniently the day we’re supposed to get together
Yeah actually 21-27 is most common from what i read in medical literture. 32-38 less common but normal as well. I went from 38 to 25 as i moved closer to menopause age.. so it gets shorter as you age i guess
my roommate in college had a 15 day cycle. mine is 35 days. there’s more variability than what she mentioned for sure!
As a man, this is actually very helpful. I’ve been selfish in thinking it’s me doing something wrong. I had no clue a woman’s menstrual cycle was this important to learn about. Much appreciated!
lol not Steven taking notes on his iPad. Pure gold 😂
Aaaah Nat hey!
I’m so glad to hear you say menstruation lasts from 3-7 days. I come from at least 4 generations of women with heavy, terrible cycles, lots of pain. I had a doctor argue with me that there’s no way that my period lasts 5-7 days because periods are only 3-4 days long & accused me of exaggerating for sympathy. I guess when women go to the doctor with female health issues we are only there for “sympathy” not for actual answers or health care. 😳🤬 I’m against violence, got crap for breaking up fights in high school; however, I still wish I’d kicked that man in his “fake” balls. It absolutely would’ve been worth going to juvenile court; hell it would’ve been worth going to adult jail.
"fake" balls?
7 days, ha. I really should get back to the doctor.
My shortest period ever was 11 days… multiple doctors told me this was “normal”. Over 5 years in I was finally diagnosed with PCOS
Mine lasted 10 days in the first years of my period. It decreased to 7 days after 4 years. Now I am 26 and it is 5 days. It is totally normal. I hope that you will find a better doctor. Gaslighting girls and women are so common in medical field.
3 days, wow.
In my family ( me, grandmother's, mother sister's ) is around 5-6 days.
That doctor needed to study more.
My period last 5 days with 3 days of heavy bleeding and cramps. It’s difficult each month to go through but having an understanding partner can make a lot of difference.
There was a lot of destruction in my marriage until we figure it out my cycle. When I finally learned to put it on the calendar and was able to anticipate the week before our marriage improved tenfold
What is really sad about some of those young women not aware of their cycle is that a lot of them get tagged with psych diagnosis when it’s really her fluctuating hormones. If they strive to fix the fluctuations the mental health issues will most likely vastly improve or disappear entirely. Junk food and caffeine are to blame for a lot of hormonal problems. Lights at night and interruptions to the natural circadian rhythms also affect her hormones. It’s SO important to be informed with what is happening in your body.
I think men have hormonal issues as well but it’s also not very well known. You will hear about guys trying to get fit taking various substances that will cause them to not act like themselves-violent. Perhaps men sitting in prison today have a hormonal issue?
I have a hunch that MOST mental health issues are caused by hormonal disruptions than anything else. That’s just a guess though. We don’t understand enough about the effects of hormones on our behaviors thoughts and feelings.
Most guys are getting heavy doses of estrogen in their daily diet. Soy is estrogen. After my historectomy they told me if I took estrogen I still had to come in for my yearly exam. I cut out soy. For men it is a chemical castration. Lowers their ability to produce testosterone and fertility. Enjoy all those junk foods and processed foods. Its like male birth control.
I completely agree with you! And the crap food we eat daily is something to consider as well. Definitely alters hormone levels
The same can be said for most Americans, men and women. We would not need many of these meds if we had proper nutrition. Gut bacteria affects our hormones as well, thus our moods. This is why you should not get psyche meds from the same doctor who prescribes you eczema cream. Unfortunately due to how the American health care system is set up, many have no choice. When my uncle died my dad was depressed. The doctor suggested anti depressants to help him get through it. It was only after a month of grieving. Imagine telling someone they should take meds for a proper human reaction. Training is overlooked for the sake of saving money.
In the case you bring up it is the hormone insulin. People don't realize when you eat a high carb diet those high blood sugar and high insulin levels adversely affects the brain, mood and body.
Prisoners most likely have high testosterone, that's why why they're so aggressive
If someone asks me if I'm on my period just because I'm having a bad day, then I will ex-communicate them from my life. It's innocent in theory, but in practice it can make women feel like you don't take their opinions seriously and will only blame it on hormones.
totally. it COULD be an innocent question, but most of the time it’s asked in a condescending way. when a guy says it it feels like “oh, are you having that Girl Problem that i don’t actually care to know anything about”
It’s intrusive and unnecessary
I love the term " ex-communicate them from my life". ☺
Day 2 of my period. STAY AWAY!!!!
It's even more messed up when another woman says it.. definitely ex communicate with them 😂
Period
Day 1-10: outgoing, energetic, more myself, better cognitive abilities
Day 11-17: ovulation (horny, body trying to make a baby), skin glowing, most beautiful, a heightened desire to seek love interests
Day 18-23: mood getting lower, getting more introverted, prone to depression, need to stay away from overstimulation
Day 24-30: extra care needed, low self-esteem, sensitivity, desire to spend time around comfort people (potential to form the closest emotional bonds)
Thanks. I was looking for this right comment. Lol
When is bleeding occuring?
@@danielcillie1856 Day One.
@@danielcillie1856starts day 1
Learning my cycle was a game changer. I know when I can get pregnant and when I can't. I can also tell my husband what day I'm on and he knows what it means because we took the Fertility Awareness Method class together.
Hello Rebecca, can you pls share with me how you got to know.
Hi @@anastasiaogomaka3717, are you asking how I know when I can and cannot get pregnant? If so the simple explanation is that while I headed towords ovulation (usually around day 21 for me, different for everyone) I have more cervical fluid and then after I ovulate my basal body temperature goes up around 0.5*F and I don't have so much CF any more. There is more science to this but that's the basics.
It was nfp first
I’m both shocked to see how little he knows and glad to see how humble he is learning about the menstrual cycle. Well done!
Yes, it is very nice to se a person saying " ohh, I can be careful of that to help my girlfriend and relationship? One second, I need to note that "
As a guy it is almost like people hide this information away.I understand it would be a uncomfortable conversation but it is way too important to be completely ignored
I didn’t realize how my husband didn’t know anything about my cycle hormones for years. Wish I would have explained it to him right away in our marriage
Most women don't speak or don't want to speak on these types of topics so it's harder to get insight when no one wants to give it you
This judging men comes from a gender who says don't judge anyone.
Height of hypocrisy
I like how her husband respects her boundaries when she needs time to herself rather than him pushing her buttons and trying to force her to do things she doesn’t have the bandwidth for. It would feel nice to be understood like that.
Yes❤
Have you tried telling him instead of assuming they will just 'understand me'
Agreed 100%
i’m a 21 year old woman and this blew my mind, thank you 😊
Knowing her cycle is extremely important, folks, that's as serious as it is
I was 47 years old until I truly understood my body! It’s ridiculous moms don’t teach this to their daughters- if you know - do better. So many women suffer not knowing their bodies and how to take care of themselves. Definitely should be more conversations about this and for others to more understanding about overall in society!
Most moms don't even know this..
So we who do, need to educate those who don't. 😊
I'm 28 and I'm not starting to keep track of my cyrcle on a app, I cam even add my mood and if I have any symptoms like headache or if I'm super tired. I will also treach my daughter about this (she is still a Baby at the moment) and my son
What? Teach? When I told my mum I had my 1st cycle, the first thing she said don't throw the tampons/ towels through the toilet, it's embarrassing to call the plumber for this".There is no mention of any education about it.
I'm a senior citizen now but my mom told me at age10, and told me correctly. She had Been uneducated about it (European and not discussed back then) but my dad explained it all to her. He got his info as an enlisted military msn. Bless the Military.
Female teachers can teach this too.
Day 2-12, outgoing enjoying time and solving problem
Day 10-15, ovulation(enjoying sex)
Day 15, getting low and stay in
Day 17, extra care and low self-esteem
Till period come
Day 2 can be brutal for some women though.
Day 15 for peak creativity too.
Mine is super horny the last days before period.
unless you're me and you never know when your most painful days begin (even though it may have started about a week ago) and how long it will last this time :(
@@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559 Oh yes!!! My period lasts for almsot 7 days, so days 2-4 are horrible: lots of pain, lots of bleeing, total absence of energy. Don't talk to me during that time as I'm very sad and in a lot of pain.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
08:01 🍔 Carb cravings: Before her period, women crave carbs due to glucose needs for progesterone production.
08:15 🧘 Emotional sensitivity: Week before her period, women may be irritable, slower, and less tolerant of conflict; be gentle and supportive.
09:22 💪 Women's power: Recognize women's ability to create life as a unique superpower, leading to their hormonal cycle.
09:48 🌟 Manifestation phase: During ovulation, women experience heightened creativity and energy, suitable for starting new projects.
10:30 🗣️ Communication about cycles: Openly discussing hormonal moods with your partner fosters understanding and empathy.
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Knowledge of the hormonal cycle by everyone is awesome. However, at the same time the last thing I want are people just assuming that my actions at any given point in time are due to my hormones and to then disregard what I’m actually trying to say or accomplish. No thank you. I’d rather have a meet me in the middle approach. I do my part to manage my emotions and energy, communicate clearly to those around me what I need (as she models in this video…yay! ❤) and then receive empathy and compassion from them. That’s it.
My husband saved my life by tracking my cycle. I would go through periods of deep depression and would be suicidal. We noticed that those feelings went away immediately before I started to bleed. Maybe a few hours in between. He started charting my cycle and realized that I was only suicidal on the 2-3 days before I got my period and started helping me deal with it.
Now I take hormonal bc to stop my periods (and the terrible mood changes) altogether because there just wasn’t any other solution to my symptoms. I was afraid I would do something horrible if I didn’t stop the mood swings. Now I wonder if there other options…
Me too ❤ the week before I am really weepy and a couple of days before I get a lot of suicidal thoughts and rage.
check what you are eating. It may be coming from something external, such as food, that is causing an even greater imbalance in your hormones that there needs to be, causing it to go from extreme highs to extreme lows.
This is called PMDD and there absolutely are other options. It has been my experience (living with PMDD for 20 years), that your best bet if you’ve tried birth control and SSRI’s as well as tweaks to your lifestyle (diet and exercise), and either don’t see improvements or don’t want to be on bcp’s or ssri’s long-term is to seek out an integrative or functional medicine doctor (someone with some traditional medical training and naturopathic training). They will do the actual work of looking at your hormones and vitamins/minerals etc that could contribute to your sensitivity to those fluctuations of your hormones leading up to your period. For me, my progesterone - while not technically deficient - was low in relation to my estrogen levels causing me extremely debilitating anxiety/paranoia, depression, body dysmorphia etc. It is likely I’ve had low progesterone my whole adult life as supplementing with it eliminated 98% of my symptoms. I can’t begin to explain how useless “traditional” medical doctors have been in treating it. It took me until 27yo to get a diagnosis and then another 7 years of trying all the “first line” treatments (birth control and SSRI’s - neither of which help, and I can’t tolerate birth control), before finally finding a doctor who discovered this progesterone to estrogen ratio discrepancy. Some women can’t tolerate progesterone, but it is my firm belief that it something feels wrong and is debilitating, than you’re right - something is WRONG. And it’s not your fault. Wishing you the best of luck 🙏
There are other options to fix pmdd
Have you tried homeopathy?
This made me cry. This is what we need to learn in school. This is so beautiful.
Fascinating stuff. I'm 50 and have ALWAYS been confused about my "cycle," not only ignorant of what that means (cycle is not the same thing as period) but also my personal timing (because for most of my life I've been irregular.
But I clicked on this video to see what I could learn because my daughter is just beginning her journey and I thought I could get some insight for her sake. It turns out we're not ready for this information (she's only 12) but I still learned something.
On a lovely side note, I'm ending my journey as my daughter begins hers. I've only had a few periods over the last year. It had been probably around 6 months since my last period but suddenly the day my daughter got her first period, I got what will probably be my last. I love that I could share that with her.. kinda felt like I was passing the baton.
What a beautiful motherly heart you have for your daughter 🥺❤️ I find that my mother does things for me that she hasn’t been able to do when she was my age. A mother’s strength and heart is truly one of a kind. Your daughter is so very lucky to have you!!
@@jamiejang8584 thank you for your beautiful comment.. I hope you're right ❤️❤️❤️
the way he is taking notes
I hate to be that person, but I don't want to tiptoe around someone I work with on certain days and it happens monthly for decades. I am a woman, but i am productive and a team player every day i come in. Are there days i don't feel great? Yeah, but i think men are like that too. I have self control and i understand that there are professional behaviours and expectations and people depend on me to be constant and level.
As a woman I am the same. To have to post your menstrual cycle in the work place so people know how to treat you is just wrong.
I also don’t want a marriage where my husband and children have to make my cycle the center of the home. That’s the epitome of selfishness to me to expect one week my family has to tip toe around me and another week everyone has to lavishly pamper me, etc. I don’t want a husband like that so why should a man want a wife like that? This is a bunch of rubbish.
I agree (as a woman) unless it's some physical work. It can be really hard if you're having bad cramps.
As a woman who has mood swings I disagree that it is up to others to be mindful, or even be told what your cycle is like it’s something they need to tiptoe around!
It is for the lady to be a bit more self aware and thoughtful of others that her moods and sensitivity might create social upsets. She needs to be responsible for her own actions.
If she’s feeling down or sensitive, she should speak to her spouse, communicate and maybe apologise if she’s being overly sensitive.
Be an adult woman. Not a victim of your hormones. You are your own responsibility. My two cents.
I agree! I would hate to have a boss and co-workers put up their menstrual chart with instructions on how I am to interact with them each day of the month and even worse, i would hate to be expected to post my own menstrual chart for everyone to see. I’m in my 50’s and have been able to work and work with women without us ever even hinting about our menstrual cycles. We worked based on social standards of etiquette not based on ever changing cycles. We women are adults capable of regulating our behavior and emotions despite cycles.
I agree
She's not talking about tiptoeing around us, she's talking about being more comprehensive...
@@bluemoon4944 if you have calendars up with your cycle and expectations of how people should treat you through each step of the cycle then that is tiptoeing.
Based on her calendar for one full week people have to lavish her with pampering. Isn’t that narcissistic?
For another week no one should address problems with her (unrealistic expectation), and only one week can people expect her to be fully productive in work and only one week can people expect her to really be happy and one week the men in her he office have to keep their heads down because she is going to feel in full bloom with seduction. That’s just her cycle but what about a whole office of women? But wait she did say maybe she should hang HER cycle in the office for staff to see which shows her narcissism of wanting people to cater to her she doesn’t seem to care about everyone else’s cycle. That would be too much trouble.
What she is proposing is highly narcissistic, self indulging, entitling, and irresponsible.
Yes husbands need to know wives have hormonal changes constantly flowing through the body but it is up to the wife to regulate them just like it’s up to the man to regulate his testosterone rush when he sees a young beautiful woman in a miniskirt or it is his responsibility to regulate his testosterone when someone cuts him off in traffic, says something rude to him in the store, or when his kids argue or accidentally dent the car. Men and women both have hormones we have to deal with.
Are women going to excuse a man when he lets his aggressive testosterone get out of control? Are women going to use the week in their cycle when they feel down and bloated to pamper the man because his testosterone is running high and needs a week of pampering and sx?
@@stst77 Yes, it did come across to me as narcissistic. As a woman, I would be embarrassed!
Why in the world aren’t us men taught this? This video made me an instant subscriber.
My husband learned my cycle in the beginning of our TTC journey. Because of this, he had an idea that “something was up” when I was in my closet prepping the board for how I planned to tell him. He knew my period should be coming in a few days and he knew about how many DPO I was, so when I told him, he was shocked (we’d been on the journey for over a year) but kind of had a feeling 😂
Once he learned I was pregnant, he downloaded an app so he could learn the stages of pregnancy and what I’d be experiencing throughout the pregnancy. Luckily it’s been pretty smooth sailing, and we’re almost at the finish line!
TV journey wtf you on
My cycle is only 21 days given peri-menopause. I bleed for 7 days. Totally it causes a change in personality! Seriously men, take this up and take care and help women. Men are clueless about blood loss and how it impacts them. Have mercy on us and our moods. That’s why God wanted you to lead to support women!
Not just blood loss...THE PAIN!! Those menstrual cramps are HORRIFFFICCC!!!!
@@kim_i_said6598There shouldn’t be that much pain. Your hormones may need some help being regulated, through diet change or herbs. A combination of both healed my endometriosis and extreme cramps.
And also if you have a good diet, the blood loss should not cause a noticeable effect on your energy levels or ability to focus
@@faithofamustardseed8198 I struggle with extreme cramps. What herbs have helped you? I've been introducing kimchi and fermented foods in my diet in an effort to help myself. Any other recommendations please?
That’s why god wanted you to lead to support women? What kind of sexist statement is that? Good thing they care and try to help to make things better but men aren’t on earth ‘to save women’.
@@brittanycrosby6859 I recommend anything that thins your blood, foods high in vitamin E, or vitamin E itself, and avoiding things that thicken your blood, like sugar, for at least a week before (you would have to keep a calendar). Your body is squeezing extra hard , that's what the cramps are. The blood should just, flow out of you.
Asking a woman what day of her cycle she's in could backfire. She might not appreciate the idea she's "hormonal" when that is sometimes used to discredit women.
Even worse if that happens to be true
To some men it is a joke. You get references to ‘time of the month’, ‘moody blues’, and other put downs.
@@joyelmes7814the way their lives were made possible is a joke to them. I guess their lives are a joke too.
@@n9315I sure hope that was a joke too.
@@Batmans_Pet_Goldfish 😂
Don’t normally comment but felt it was worth sharing a little on this in case anyone else is similar and worrying. My periods have consistently lasted 7/8 days and I have a 26 day cycle. With my 2nd pregnancy I bought ovulation sticks to find my peak ovulation days and according to the sticks I don’t ovulate (on my 3rd pregnancy so clearly not true 😅) but when I track when I was having sex and getting pregnant turns out I ovulate consistently on day 20/21 of my cycle. There’s so much variation and knowing your own body is always a plus ❤ appreciate this topic being brought up and discussed in such a respectful way 👍🏼
Unfortunately society doesn’t cater to the hormone fluctuations for women. We’re expected to power through at all times no matter how we’re feeling. It’s so hard sometimes
Him making notes = ❤
I KNOWWWWWW
I feel so normal now 🙂 literally every month the last couple years I’ve been frantically researching my menstrual hormones cause they’ve gotten more intense as I get older, and I’ve at times felt so insane and just not like myself. Physically and emotionally. Now I’m learning how my body works more and how important it is to listen to it
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This has been my experience too. Im 37 & stopped the pill, so ny period went from 4 days/week to 6-7 with worse symptoms, heavier bleeding & more fatigue. My friend told me thats normal.
@@ThatWeLoveMindy said few women know what their cycle is. I would argue, even fewer know the pill messes that cycle up. From what I understand, it basically tricks the body into thinking it's pregnant.
My daughter has recently gone low carb for her husband’s health issues but has found she benefits so much. Her pain has almost disappeared & her heavy bleeding has lessened to a manageable flow.
Same here! I've got my yearly soon, gonna be asking for Progesterone only pill.
I began experiencing migraines a few years ago. After cutting alcohol completely, hydrating, and keeping track- still comes around 1x a month... Can you guess when?
I feel insane, too. These doom and gloom mood swings the week before is unforgiving and at times puts me behind 2-3 days. Everything is uglier, out of each, depressing, etc.
So I'm trying the Progesterone only pill first (estrogen is likely cause for hormonal migraines). And if that doesn't work, I might quit the pill, but I'm not ready at 31 after being on it for 16 years... A bit scared to stop :(
I feel like I don't know myself as it is. Who knows how I'll feel off the pill 😮
I do not ask others to deal with my mestrual cycle (my husband is always caring anyway) but I do plan my month acordingly - activities, hollydays, extra works I have to do, social activities, doctor appointments... It helps to know my vulnerable time and not to push myself too hard and also my most energetic time for fun activities. It's hard for me to accept that my body is so complicated but that comes from upbringing and shaming.
I honestly loved everything about this conversation. I myself as a women, only recently started learning more about my cycle and how it FULLY functions. Videos like these help spread awareness not only to men(about the complexities of women’s moods & cycles), but also serve as an encouragement to women to learn more about how empowering understanding your body really Is!❤️✨
It's not sexist.
It's natural and normal, and we need to know this info.
Thanks for sharing.
I really loved this conversation. However, my perspective is that it's not up to the world around me to adjust to my circle. Instead, as a woman, I see it as a tool for self-regulation & self-discovery.
Very true. I also wouldn't want my cycle on a chart being shared with coworkers so they can blame all my behavior as a result of me being a slave to my hormones. I'd like to believe I'm a little more in control of myself than that!
I agree. It’s nice maybe for a husband to understand a bit to help us out, be encouraging or extra gentle when we’re down, because that’s just what we should do for one another, but I don’t feel like my spouse or family needs to tip toe around me, instead I can use the information to help me choose self care and self control I need to apply.
I agree with you to an extent. I think this is a great way for the people around us to give us grace instead it being them adjusting to us. As women, we carry so much on our own. This could be a great way to get the support we need from the people around us, just as we support them.
I'm not so sure she intimated that 'the world' needs to adapt to cycles, but just your partner.
@@morganb8177she talked about informing her employees as well. I think that's why OP said this.
"Do you know her cycle"
You just saved my life 😮
Everyone needs to watch this! Great video! Thank you!
It makes me feel so bad when I become so moody and just overall not so comfortable to be around. Or when I snap, it’s hard to apologize with “I’m near my period”. But if the men and women in my life were more understanding, I feel that it would be so much easier to socialize in those moments. Especially when I fail and I can’t get my work done, I already take it out so hard on myself. I often forget that I’m near my cycle.
My boyfriend knows my cycle inside and out. He’s a super masculine “man’s man”, but that doesn’t stop him from being sympathetic to my plight. Plus, knowing what’s going on helps him a lot.
This is a great watch as a man. I’m gonna get an app to try and understand her better 💪🏾
As a diabetic, I'm glad that you're also talking about glucose. My sudden night-lows are making a lot more sense, though the drop in insulin sensitivity during/a little before the first day is still a bit difficult for me to understand.
There used to be an app called red alert on iOS. It did exactly what this video was describing. It was fantastic. It would track my wife’s menstrual cycle and tell me specifically how to interact with her. It was overlayed on the calendar and I could use it to plan things. Really unfortunate that the app stopped being developed. If anybody has any new apps to do the same thing, please recommend.
Husband of the decade 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
👊🏽YOU ROCK my friend
An app called my calendar does the same thing. It's pink and has a little flower on it
Red Alert 😂😂😂
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@@magnetic969I use this app as well
This should be taught in schools right before “how to do your taxes” class!
I taught myself at 19 by reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility. They don't teach you anything useful in school, I found. I read that one book and it was better than all the health classes I took combined in high school.
As a man , it is our choice and be independent women and don't judge man if they don't know about periods.
Have I used those words that you women preach men ?
This was absolutely amazing and informative. 👏🏾 Thank you!
This is EXCELLENT advice, I’ve just started this a month before I saw this. It’s nice having the confirmation ❤
Periods were such a big topic in my life... yet men NEVER think about it. I never had cramps but I had extremely heavy flow, causing me to have *chronic* *anemia* due to the loss of blood (1 in 3 women have this). The flow would increase if I was sexually active, not sleeping enough, stress, not eating enough, or working out too much, so it was *very* *high* *maintenance* to regulate. Not to mention, all the time I spent cleaning blood stains or public embarassment if I accidently overbled in public. During my period, I would feel weak, then the few days after I needed a few days to rebuild my energy back up, then when my period was approaching I would have Pre-menstral stress and swollen pain in my breasts. But, that's like 1.5-2 weeks out of a month, so half of life was in someway being inconvienced by my period. Last year, I got an IUD and I basically don't have periods anymore, and I can freely workout and live my life without all these hassles, plus I don't need to worry about getting pregnant either, I can remove it anytime I am ready to have children. One of the best decisions of my life.
You don't bleed for 2 weeks
@@coldblooded568 I was speaking about bleeding + recovery + PMS
@Cold Blooded Some of us DO bleed for 2 weeks and the rest of the time we're dealing with anaemia and symptoms of PMS. It is unbelievably ignorant and arrogant to dismiss the experience of others just because it isn't the same as yours. Also, you need to learn to read. She didn't say that she bled for 2 weeks.
The IUD messed me up so badly
@@Zainygreenstone Sorry to hear that :( I had a very bad reaction to birth control pills so I understand that different women can have very opposite reactions to the same thing. I hope you found something that worked out for you finally
So many people - men and women- downplay the menstrual cycle and how important it is to know and understand it. I learnt a way to look at it was like a report card. Each month a woman's body is giving her a report card of what might be going on inside. Things like pain and very heavy bleeding and very short or long cycles can suggest there are other things going on. Men don't get that report card and sometimes if there's something going on they dont know until it's serious.
That's why communication with your partner is so important.
As a man , it is our choice and be independent women and don't judge man if they don't know about periods.
Have I used those words that you women preach men ?
This is beautiful! Thank you for making this video
OMG THIS MAKES SO MUCH SENSE ITS CRAZY
Please cover menopause with this amazing woman
Yes pleeeease!!!
Also perimenopause
Since I had my daughter I don’t get any pains any more which is amazing. It’s mainly the pms symptoms I get 10-12 days before the period that turn me into a a different person and is really hard. Mood swings, irritability, fatigue, tearfulness, emotionally sensitive, food cravings that ruin my health goals I’ve been sticking to the rest of the month. I feel like I only get about 5 days of feeling amazing before it starts all over again 😂 a good diet and exercise does really help but it’s hard to keep it up when you feel like that.
Same about the loss of pain after having kids.
@@ramonaneyrinck2292 it’s really strange. I never believed women who said they felt no pain but now I know it’s possible 😂 I might get the odd mild ache or discomfort but no really painful cramps and never require painkillers.
@@Aliciae411 Given that the uterus contracts to shed the lining during our periods similarily to how it contracts to deliver a baby, I wonder if the experience of childbirth could perhaps either 1- tone the uterus so that it is then more efficient in shedding the lining painlessly during periods, or 2- render the cramps of periods not perceived as painful any longer simply by comparaison.
I don't know, merely theorizing... :)
Also, again just my only slightly educated 2 cents, but if the progesterone dominated part of your cycle hits you so hard, I'm thinking maybe your body makes more than the average woman (either you are progesterone dominant... or just more sensitive to it), and you could perhaps benefit from including flax seeds to your diet on those days.
Flax seeds are considered a phyto-estrogen (meaning they mimic estrogen in our body), so they could help balance out any "excess" progesterone that may be causing your low mood post-ovulation...
Again, I do not know this positively, but I know that for myself (not enough progesterone in relation to estrogen), I have to be very careful eating flax seeds the week before my period is due, lest it has been known to come early. So reverse engineering my personal experience, I'm hypothezing that in your case, they might help... :)
@@JayeMallard619 I think it has to do with, before children, the cervix and tissue is tighter and the uterus has to work hard to shed what is in it. After childbirth, things have stretched a bit, so the uterus does not have to work as hard to shed the lining and push it through the cervix.
@@truthnotlies I don’t think that’s accurate. In most cases everything shrinks back to pre pregnancy shape and size like it’s supposed to. Probably due to the body having experienced much bigger and difficult contractions during birth that menstruation is easy compared to that and it knows what to do better
This was really insightful. I usually feel weak and irritable a week prior to my menstrual cycle, and now I know that the body needs glucose because it's trying to produce progesterone! That's why I feel like energy is being zapped out of my body for the production of my period, and it's hard to work a fast paced job when my body doesn't have enough energy for it. I've been having this problem for so long.
I've gone to doctors for this problem, and they conclude that my sudden spells of weakness are panic attacks and caused by anxiety, which they are not, and then they they try to coerce me into "taking something for it" which by that they mean antidepressants, which then I say no, and things go nowhere.
I mean, I'm just going to try and add more glucose and carbs to my diet a week before my period, and see if that helps.
Yup! The closer I get the worse I feel energy wise. Currently me 2 days before my period laying in bed exhausted, no matter how long or well I sleep or how much coffee I drink. Just wanting food and lots of sleep 😴🫠
I love the guy for taking notes!
Every man needs to watch this especially if In a relationship with a woman
As a man , it is our choice and be independent women and don't judge man if they don't know about periods.
Have I used those words that you women preach men ?
@@gurunaveen2647 that’s obviously any man’s right and choice. I’m stating my opinion as I think it’s best practice and would help any hetero relationship. I’m also aware of men’s hormonal cycles so it’s not a double standard for me personally.
“Day 2 and 12 is when I pick my battles” LOL I love how he’s making notes other men would skip this. So tentative ❤
Gold! This needs to be talked about more, it is necessary education. 👏
Wow!! This gives me hope for future dynamics in a relationship! Thank you for sharing!
This is ok as long as you don't brush off our concerns based on our cycle.
True
So true!! I'm definitely very sensitive before my period to where I was younger I would think I'm genuinely depressed or suicidal even and I didn't understand that it was hormones till I was older. It's nice that people are openly talking about things like this.
sounds like you struggled with pmdd
Diet makes the higgest difference in my monthly mood. Had a time eating all the junk food then was ready to quit my job and jump off a building. Whole food high fiber diet and havent had a spell since. Not to mention the lack of cramps.
I love this so much..thank you..very helpful 🎉🎉👏👏👏
When I had very low vitamin d levels, it threw my cycle off. I was always irregular. Instead of normal pms, I felt pmdd symptoms. I had awful debilitating pain. If I don't go out into the sun, I gotta remember to keep taking vitamin d and magnesium supplements because I do not ever want to feel all of that again.
The cycle she explained is very normal. But there are also cycles that are longer or irregular, very much related with starting of spring and autumn.
Yes a lot of women have that. That is why i jate such a conversations, because the man now gonna think she has her period around 30 days. Plus i women use birth control...
The biggest thing I get from this really is how horrible and painful my last relationship was and how I didn't even expect him to care about me on human level
Love Mindy! Her book is life changing.
LOVED THIS!!! Thank you!!!
I can definitely relate to this, it makes life easy when women are self aware, can identify and communicate the changes in their bodies/emotions to those around them. I’m the only girl in my house & so my hubby and teenage boys know all there is to know about my cycle and how they can be around and with me during the various phases.
Same! It has changed my life, no exaggeration.
Good for you teaching your boys about how to respond to a menstruating woman. Eventually they will have wives in their lives and they will already be taught how to respond.
Day 2 is the worst for me. I am in pain, just want to rest and everyone to leave me alone in my misery.
Couldn't be further from the truth, Dr. Pelz! Thank you! ❤😊
This is an amazing conversation. Thanks for sharing !
This is very insightful even for me as a women. It definitely opened my eyes to help me learn about my cycle and to help my partner understand more.
From a women, some women really are moody...sometimes it's a real issue..not just hormones.
Yeah we if u had to put up with them and a period sometimes painful or bloted u be in a bad mood too.
Wow, putting an explanation to all of what I feel on monthly basis makes me feel better. I’m the type that deals with the symptoms asap cause life is too busy to sit and acknowledged them but we need to be gentle to ourselves. Will help me positively.
This is so informative and helpful. Love how this just popped out on my feed today while I’m on my 2nd day of period. And ironically, I and the guy that I’m dating were just discussing earlier about menstruation and he was asking me a few questions about it out of curiosity, later on he apologized for asking those questions as he thought I might be uncomfortable but I told him it was okay.
And now with this video, I learned all the more how important it really is for both men and women to be aware of our cycles…
What she described does not match my experience one bit. I see no correlation between my mood or behavior and my menstrual cycle. My mood is far more affected by my hunger level, my activity level, my general health and comfort, the amount/quality of sleep I've had recently and my environment (like the mood of those around me). I believe my hormones are cycling exactly as they should as I have 7 days of bleeding, a 29 day cycle, give or take a day, I never skip a period, super heavy bleeding for days 1-4 then tapering off, strong cramps for the first few days, loose stool(s) on day 1... everything is pretty typical, unpleasant, and boring really! No cyclical mood changes though. I suspect she's trying to sell a book... it's a little too certain and neatly wrapped up--like she has figured out the formula for when/how guys should interact with women--like we're so predictable based off of just our hormones--nevermind everything else that actually impacts mood. I'm not buying it until I see some hard science behind it. Is she even an MD or just has her PhD in something? Something seems off... talks like a self-made guru...
Spot on!
This is such a much needed conversation for us to be having; especially, since the lines are being blurred between men and women. It goes to show, we all need an education about our bodies and how they function, so we can get along better.
Agreed
I'm reading through the comments and don't understand why this isn't taught in school.
I learn all about men and women businesses at 14.
so lovely that you want to learn , and help your lady, with kind words and hugs .❤
Excellent, few things are more encouraging in daily life than when someone comes to understand themselves and can share it with others.
Wish you could also discuss this with coworkers and boss. With them being understanding.
To all the beautiful women out there❤ When i learned about my cycle my whole relationship with my body changed. Instead of judging myself i started to appreciate my body and give my body permission to be instead of to do all the time. If you have not read the book in the flow please do read it. It can give more information about your cycle. Whenever i get a chance i spread the information with my sisters and it is a true taking power back session for any ladies 🎉
very happy this conversation is becoming more popular. I think soon we are really going to see how interesting the cycle is and how blind and in many cases harmful we have been in basically ignoring/shaming it in science and education for decades. Investing in quality science and education re the cycle would have to have massive public health benefits.