A Video For Perfectionists
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
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One of my mantras is quality over quantity. But that's a slippery slope. Here are my thoughts on perfectionism, wabi sabi and creative output.
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"done is better than perfect" - denny (my dad's friend)
Aarief twentysix oh my gosh! Amazing quote!
Aarief twentysix me wife said that to me a week ago. Then I decided to start my channel even that I dont have the best equipment now. I feel very good now, there is already some videos and plenty of space for improvement.
Dário Dallago I like your week! I’m working on becoming a musician right now as well, im now subscribed!
Voltaire said that too. "Vaut mieux que ce soit fait que parfait"
Nnn Kkk im subscribing!
'I feel like self-censorship is dangerous for emotional wellbeing.' Whoa. yes. That wording...you said it perfectly.
Plz what does self-censorship mean?
Amar Amar suppressing what you wanna say/share! Or prohibiting yourself from sharing/saying something
@@InnerResearcher thank you. ❤
I think you mean imperfectly.
Yes indeed. I also have fair share of self-censorship not just for fear of me making erroneous opinions, but me receiving some backlash for everything that I am going to say to other people. I do self-censorship when talking about politics because people can just ad hominem the shit out of you if you said something against what they believe in.
-Nathaniel: Imperfection is cool.
"creates a perfect video essay"
I just checked out your channel Illneas. Nice videos btw! Would you consider yourself a perfectionist as an artist and how do you overcome it?
maybe thats his imperfect🤔
Maybe for him some aspects of this video didn't truly liked too much; or he wanted to add something more or extra after he uploaded it.
It is truly hard to define what is perfect for one self.
The point is to improve. And maybe our actions can resonate with someone... for that is perfect, but then again it doesnt need to be.
Dude, have you watched the video? Perfection doesn’t exist
I agree. He should be proud. I would kill to know how he made those Japanese graphics display throughout the video, the way they look motion hand drawn on - I could only replace with tons of experience using premier pro.
"You only have peoples attention for a few minutes at best, so I'd like to give them the best experience I can offer."
There's a reason why so many of us keep coming back to watch your videos. You help us relate to feelings that sometimes we often believe to only share with ourselves.
I couldn't agree more :)
Nathaniel Drew is one of the best story tellers out there and he inspires the HECK out of me. It's crazy how one can be so talented! What has been your favorite video so far? Which one resonated with you the most?
I’ve incorporated your comments into my own post bcs it deserves to be emphasised.
agree with everyone on this thread. he offers an authentic experience
3:58 "I can accept these things from others, but I can't accept them from myself"
I relate to that statement so much
I think I just found my mirror soul in you. We'll probably never talk to each other, but I want you to know that every sentence that you said in this video are what I've always thought but never had the courage or energy to say. If you ever feel useless, know that you're a true inspiration for someone (hey) out there. Please keep uploading, I love the way you approach topics and say things.
Yes and the fact that your image is the cover of wish you were here by Pink Floyd shows us all that you are a cool person;)
I feel the same way 💞 good luck in the ""perfectionists struggle""
+ same here buddy
This is so trueeee😭
+1
“Don't aim for perfection. Aim for 'better than yesterday'.”
― Izey Victoria Odiase
"There's no 'How-to'. It's just either you're doing it or you aren't. You're a writer the second you start writing, a podcaster the second you start podcasting, a runner the second you start running. ... Do not let the pursuit of perfection stop you from creating."
Those closing words stood out to me and really encouraged me to do and create the things I want to in life. I am truly grateful to have found your channel during this time of reflection we all find ourselves in.
Perfectionism is such a big thing for our generation. There is so much you can compare yourself with and because of that, the pressure becomes crazy high in your head. I always have ideas. To make them real things I feel the pressure from myself to make it better then it already is in my head and that leads to no outcome at all. Creating is more about doing than thinking and by doing you get better not by just thinking about it.
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Hey guys, just wanted to say thank you for watching and supporting my work.
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Prego Nathaniel, aspetto Il tuo prossimo video.
What is the difference between the two channels?
EDIT: nevermind! I finished the video. Good luck!
Thank you🙏💕. Love and respect❤
Why the two channels? Does this mean you'll stop posting here?
@@subhasish-m There will be more experimental videos on there. He will also not be conforming to a schedule on there, it's a channel where he can be creative (no pressure of perfectionism).
As a life-long "perfectionist", I really valued this video. There's definitely a huge gap between aiming for quality and obsessing over it. Thanks Nathaniel!
Anton Patsi yes! Agree!
well said! I definitely agree.
This man creates content that I honestly don't know if I'll ever get to. Great shots over the last few months! Thanks again for the inspiration for my stuff!
You will
Brendan Miranda thanks man!
Yep, I can only say what Brendan Miranda said...you will ;)
Mind Now thank u for the vote of confidence 😊
"Perfect is the enemy of good"
- Voltaire, 1770 AD
''Depth is comforting", I completely agree. Tying to achieve that depth can be very draining and it seems like a never ending journey, because we're never fully satisfied with ourselves. But like you said, when it becomes an obsession it is dangerous, because we're not living to the fullest, exploring other things that bring us joy because we're afraid of ''failure'' according to our own standards. Sometimes I think, everything nature creates looks perfect and effortless, but there's so much intricacy to it. Maybe the reason why is because other living beings aren't ''concerned'' with perfection, their only purpose is to live, survive. And if we put the idea of perfection aside, we humans could thrive in our own perfect imperfection. The principle of Wabi-Sabi is extremely powerful and beautiful.
I have shied away from hobbies that I love because of the fear of not being good enough, but being in quarantine has opened my eyes more. We shouldn't censor ourselves and our creativity because our time on Earth is limited. I'm learning to sew, improving my french, exploring photography and picked up my guitar again, putting aside the ''mistakes'' and just enjoying myself. I'm discovering more depth and meaning in my life, it feels good.
That is really awesome to hear that you are picking up stuff that you have actually given up. I guess there always comes a time in our life when we have to rethink and see what actually "makes sense". What I mean by making sense is that sometimes we are literally confused and we are consumed by the perfection that we are seeking so that we don't attack/upset our ego. A time will come that will open up your eyes, like you mentioned, that make you think otherwise.
Hope you are doing well and staying healthy in the quarantine time :)
As a Japanese born-and-raised, I loved your take on wabisabi, it’s so encouraging and beautiful. I also loved how you mentioned there was much lost in translation. When I hear わびさびwabisabi, I picture an old garden, carefully maintained and wild at the same time. An aged pine tree, with crooks and twists. Plant pots with stains and moss. A breeze quietly moving the shadows, the ripples in the pond. Maybe you hear a frog jump in. Maybe you hear, rather than feel, the sunshine shifting and warming up your face.
There’s a poignant silence, filling up the space, engulfing you. Something about it makes you sad. Is it nostalgia? It’s certainly not loneliness, nor mourning for lost things. You feel safe. You’re content.
Has anything ever made you feel this way? When and where? Share your experience!!
Beautiful words, and yes, usually moments travelling and especially nature. There’s so much beauty and in presence, all the more. ♥️
Truly creative work comes from a place of peace and serenity.
Perfectionism is an external disturbance of that peace. Almost like approval seeking.
As always, i found you again after schrolling down searching your comment🤗
"Being a perfectionist can be suffocating sometimes."
That resonated deeply. It was the perfectionism that was holding me back for years, not wanting me to do/finish things.
But once you accept, that perfectionism can't be achieved because we are constantly complaining and comparing.
But it's the beauty of imperfection, that makes things sometimes even more beautiful. Because it creates a variety of things, imagine a forest with all perfectly shaped trees, all looking the same. It wouldn't be that amazing. 🌻
Perfectionism has truly taken a massive toll in my content creation career. I have let all of the new knowledge and skills acquired control my quality standards for the content I deliver to the world. The more I learn, the less likely I want to produce in fear not to be able to offer the absolute best version of anything I do. It's truly crushing many of my dreams and has prevented me from taking advantage of a number of opportunities in the past 1.5 years. Luckily, I am beginning to shift my mindset and feel almost ready to resume all creative projects I had been pushing for months by focusing on the impact they may have over the obsession for quality I used to not be able to get over.
Thank you so much for making this video. It truly helped inspire me in more ways than you could imagine! Keep being awesome.
Same here. Everytime i warna start i get Scared
"If you are perfect, you are no one, because you have erased the individualisms that make you you"
- Me, 2020
Thats a nice thought dude
Nice thought ☺☺
Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep.
My name is Z and I am a Perfectionist since I can remember. I say it like this, cause I do think it's addictive. Playing sports is something extremely imperfect, but I always strived for the perfect posture, shot, touch or whatever. I felt miserable every step of the way. At the same time, I think perfectionism is what helped me become the person that I am right now and I appreciate everything that it has given me. It's a fine line and the most important thing I am still learning is to let go and move on. Hope this helps other perfectionists out there.
I relate to being such a perfectionist too. I was raised in a family that stressed the importance of being an overachiever and having unrealistic high standards.. It’s gotten me to prioritize being “academically” excellent, wanting only friends who cater to my standards, and punishing myself for my flaws.
Thank you for being so candid. 🥺
I think allowing yourself this kind of freedom will do wonders for your creativity! I’m struggling with perfectionism as well and it has put a huge roadblock in my path. Thanks for this video and your insight. ☺️
Thank you so much for making this. Perfectionism is suffocating and thats why I failed one of my painting classes last semester because I couldn't even finish two of the projects. Perfectionism has created such a road block for me and I am trying to overcome it.
"It's beautiful to be slightly broken
old, fragile" I didn't know how much I needed this quote on my life
"Perfectionism is self abuse of the highest order" - Anne Wilson Schaef
challenge: post an unedited vlog, no story telling no color correction just a regular vlog of your day.
yessss
As a lazy person, being a perfectionist is always killing me inside
Eat healthier/vegetables, less sugar, make 'cheap' fun more inconvenient than productive fun, set aside 30 minutes every day for the habit...
... and pretending I was talking to myself for a minute, creating in isolation doesn't work. You really should get more passion in your life.
Often times procrastination is a RESULT of perfectionism. This is a thing many people don't understand...like "you are a perfectionist but still procrastinating?!..." many perfectionists don't start working because they want to make every little thing perfect from the beginning
@@boogiewoogie228 yeeesss, that's exactly it!
I really love your work. I think your a great artist. Your work is like a beautiful poem over the sound of nature itself. I thank you very much.
So true! Such a great way to put it! I really admire his work too!
You are right. He is really an artist. In many ways.
Moritz Dallmann so agree!
Thanks y'all!
*You're
I’m so glad I found this. I’ve been a perfectionist all my life and the older I get, the more intense it gets because I fixate on what others would call ‘irrelevant’. I must say though, I have made a lot of progress in the past few years. I need help in getting stuff done though because I’d rather not do anything than have something not done to the best of my ability.
Just last week, I came across this quote by Pema Chödrön, “Don’t worry about achieving. Don’t worry about perfection. Just be there each moment as best as you can.” That last sentence doesn’t help very much so I just keep it to “Just be there each moment.”
As I’m watching the video at 9:30, the same name comes up. Haha this is a sign!
I just found your channel and I love it here already. Subscribed with no hesitation!💕
I'm right there with you. The censorship part... whew. I think, personally, part of this is related to a search for identity, confidence, and validation of my own work, and myself.
I also find that we don't have to completely disregard all the rules we created, as long as they perform as guidelines when needed. But we have to trust that feeling that tells you "Oh, this is a new thing", and let go of the old expectations. It's a balance, I would say. And it might be I am still trying to have control over it all, but this is kind of where I'm at now.
Thank you so much for this content you put out. It is so so rich, so vulnerable, it resonates with me as a creative and a person who is planning an adult life similar as yours. You're very brave, and amazing!
The pursuit of excellence is motivating, chasing perfection is demoralizing. Also something I have been thinking about a lot. Beautiful piece!
I can relate to this on a different level ❤️ Thank you
I love how relatable you are. You're not afraid of showing your vulnerable side, and that is something literally everyone can identify with. Seeing someone with so much success, it makes us see them as invincible, but thank you for reminding us that it's okay to be human.
“It’s like I created a cage for myself”... oh man, I felt that one:(
Wow man, I'm really crying my eyes out. I feel you as if I were you, whatever word came out of your mouth in this video, I felt it in the bottom of my heart. It's truly hard to be a perfectionist and the self-censorship can become the worst obstacle to overcome. Because you put it there, and you are the one who has to take it down. I struggle so much with being a perfectionist and not letting myself create freely as I might screw it up that sometimes I get stuck not doing nothing. But the most important part is to fight that back. We've been taught, as a society, to be perfect. To know we are never enough and we should always torture ourselves to find perfection. But, as you said, perfection doesn't f***** exist. And we should put our focus on enjoying the process. And yeah, improving, of course, but while enjoying it. Because, what's the point of getting better if you're miserable? I am really happy you're doing this no backup plan channel to let yourself be. I feel like I really understand you and I'm happy to see you giving yourself a chance, I am trying myself as well, and I'll keep trying. Good luck Nathaniel! You're a huge inspiration. 💞
For me the beauty of life lives in the imperfection, in the variety in the world.
To be perfect would be boring and is anyway not reachable. Acceptance on the other hand let you see all the different beauties in the world. Who do we want to be perfect for? For other people? For ourselves? But aren't we perfect the way we already are? Isn't the little things that seems imperfect exactly these things that makes us special? A one of a kind beauty?
Acceptance with ourselves allows to see the beauty. Aren't we on the flow of life anyway? Things are changing all the time. Things that we don't have control over. So why fighting against it? Let it flow, accept yourself and change the things you can. Isn't the beauty in life the way and not the goal?
Totally agree :::)
This is also the conclusion I have come to.
@Vegan Minimalist Essentialist Seventh Day Adventist I'm interested in your opinion, why?
@Vegan Minimalist Essentialist Seventh Day Adventist what I was mean is that I would really like to hear your point of view, just if you want of course
@Vegan Minimalist Essentialist Seventh Day Adventist Cool, thank you for your perspective. I totally get your point.
The way I see perfection is from another view. I think perfection is subjective, because everybody has a different understanding what is the ideal or what is perfect. In your understanding simply said, I hope I got that right, God is perfect, in my understanding he is not, because I don't believe in God. But that's ok, I truly accept and respect your perspective. But everybody may have a different view on perfection, which makes it subjective for me, because perfection is related to something. And me as a human being cant tell what is objective, because I think we are all subjects and we all have our own views and meanings in the world. But this variety makes this so beautiful for me. Like not to try to be perfect, but to accept the world and try to see the beauty in everything, because nothing is perfect, this is the way I'm trying to do it at the moment.
Anyway I think we both are saying humans aren't perfect, to know this, I think, is quite important, because then we can reflect on perfectionism.
I have only watched 4:38 into this video and I am crying. Not sad tears or happy tears, just tears that are like “that person gets it” and “I can relate so much” to find someone out there, that views perfectionism in a similar manner, same values, same struggles. Instead of scrolling through endless videos from perfectionism in my search engine and trying to relate to all the in-depth information that university grade students or professors make. This video captures the essence of my perception of perfectionism that I personally relate and experience. In summary, I am enjoying this video and wanting to press play again.
The quality of your work is mindblowing, and the time, effort, and love that you put into it always, ALWAYS shows. I'm such a perfectionist too, so I could relate to this so much. Nathaniel, you are a brilliant filmmaker and a brilliant human being.
Dear Nathaniel.
I'm Ahyolany. I am a university student and stuying foreign languages.
I must start by saying thank you.
You have inspired me to follow my dreams, you have shone me that anything is possible if you work hard for what you want.
Watching your creations have helped me alot to figure out who I am, who I want to be and where I want to be at.
I felt lonely thinking that what I want to do is a crazy idea, but watching makes me not only found, but also motivated.
You are the example I want to follow. You are living the life that I always dreamed of.
And now more then ever I will work harder to reach my goals.
And again, thank you for inspiring me.
"You'll never know the impact you can have when you put something out there...on someone you've never met".
I've always been drawn to abstract art and imperfect objects because it always made me feel free. Like that person who created those objects or pieces of art, is free to be imperfect and therefore, to grow - to experiment is to have the freedom of making mistakes. I didn't feel like I had that freedom growing up. I have that freedom now but getting there was a journey. And now - I feel safe in challenging myself to get out of my comfort zone, because it makes me feel that feeling I felt when I was young, looking at art. Free.
You can't imagine how much I needed this right now.
I've started like 3 novel projects and never finished them because yk the first draft. Always imperfect and sometimes ridiculous.
I just found you and spent the last few hours watching most of the videos you have on this channel and I want to say even though I’m just a few months older than you I feel like I’ve been taking advice and hearing such a wise and true person speak on various topics that make me feel good about the world, which I haven’t been feeling lately. Thank you for all that greatness you’re putting out and that’s already impacted me, I appreciate you lots
10:3 There is no 'How to'
That's what we should realise.
Surya Punugoti yes! ♥️
This is such a beautifully described (and shot) internal thought of perfectionism versus imperfection. I think a lot of people go back and forth between the 2 in finding a balance and you hit the nail on the head!
I like this one:
“Samaya means not holding anything back,
not preparing our escape route,
not looking for alternatives,
not thinking that there is ample time to do things later.”
- Pema Chodron
09:22
Hi Nathaniel, i was on Track A for a long time. Which became a shit show. When I got sober I got on Track B - at 34 and got my restart. I've been able to try many things in 18 years of sobriety. I Met/Married/Built a stable and lovely home, 12 years in University (did not go anywhere) sadly. But I did learn. I found a groove in serving others, because I could and not because I have to. Sobriety is an imperfect state of being, because one is always "trying to get it right" Akin to Wabi Sabi. I don't over do it. I know when to say "Enough" I know when to rest. My imperfect life at 52 today is simple. I have a routine, things I do, I write, I speak, i serve, and if I do one good thing a day that is enough for me. Know when to let go. And say, time to rest my brain and stop thinking so much. Go for a walk, I know Paris right now, you can't go outside and exercise during the day any more, but you know what I mean. We have a saying ... Live Easy But Think First. Easy does it Nathaniel. If you don't stop and smell the roses, you will miss the forest for the trees.
"perfection is a moving target" thats my next wallpaper ! Thanks
saying perfection doesn't exist is the perfect summary imo.
I used to strive for it myself, but I realized that as long as I can enjoy what I do, it doesn't actually matter if it is in fact, perfect.
Thanks for yet another inspiring video. Your content is so much more diverse and different than a lot of what's out there.
talks about cons of perfectionism
*made a perfect video*
That moment when you feel relief that you're not alone, you're not abnormal. I literally change from a serious face to a smile. Like a cloud moving away from me and out of me. Powerful. Thank you very much. Well said.
"Fear of looking like a dummy."
Nice to see a familiar face.
I treat a lot of UA-cam videos like podcasts- just letting them play while I do something else. But I never do that with yours- yours truly are an experience and I wait for a time when I can get in a quiet place and get fully absorbed in what you show and what you say 👏👏
Perfection according to me is a way to procrestinate ! Perfection is always a moving target and therefore the time to start is now 💓🙏 i would say seek excellence not perfection... Excellent video my friend ..love the example of Per pottery 🙏💓 Wabi Sabi 🙏🙏🙏
Nathaniel, it's almost the same for me. I, as a perfectionist know, that I seek perfection and give my life, time and energy to projects which in grand scheme of things don't even matter. But I just can't do other way.
Even thou you too struggle, you're on top of it.
My little tip is to set timer for the project and try to do it within, so I don't spent too much time on freaking details.
And know, we LOVE your perfect vibrant videos full of life and modest wisdom. Just keep going the way you do, you are one of the BEST.
Thank you 💗
It is all about how much value are you providing to others. And value is positively related to quality. The more quality content you create, the more value will be delivered.
Just be patient with yourself and your work and commit to this mantra and you will achieve success!
It's cool how you always share content just in time when we need help! I'm very perfectionist doing anything and sometimes I collapsed because of that, now I'll try to enjoy the process and think about "Wabi-Sabi" appreciating the abstract thing! Thank you to make me feel better just right now when I'm thinking about do a new jacket with some pieces of clothes all together haha, like a collage!
This is so me...glad I was able to break this quality of mine and finally start a UA-cam and Actually be proud of it because it wasn’t fun and games before when literally Nothing of what I produced was good enough...
Thank you so much for this video. It comes at a moment of need. I'm a perfectionist. When I was in highschool, I was the top student of the class and although I never was confident in myself, at least, I knew I was good at something. I did a lot of extrascholar activities: reading (a lot!), writing, dancing, painting, drawing, playing the piano. And then, I started med school. It's my fourth year of med school and since I began, I never stopped doubting my choice. When I finished highschool I could have chosen a lot of different paths. Now it seems I cannot change and I'm stuck with medicine. In some ways I like medicine but I'm not passionate about it. And I'm afraid not to have chosen the right path. Since highschool, I don't think I'm good enough. I Don't work enough, my memory is not good enough. I have this book I'm writing for years that I never find time to finish, it seems like I have less ideas and that they are not good enough. I have a blog but I don't reach many people, only a few friends and it feels like it's not good enough. I try to keep reading but I don't read as much as I used to when I was little and I miss that. I haven't written any poem in while. A week ago, I took back my drawing notebook and it felt so good, so right to draw again. And I don't know why it's like this. Sorry for the rambling monologue. At first it felt like it was linked to what you said in the video and then it turned out to be me talking about my life… I don't even know if everything that's happening to me is because I'm a perfectionist. Anyway, it certainly feels like I stopped being good enough at something a long time ago and I can't find my way back to that state of mind where I could get things done, be inspired and be satisfied of my results.
I'm going to stop my monologue here. I just want to say I really love your videos. I think they always are very interesting, original and inspiring. You seem to be a really smart person and I like hearing about the way you think (sounds weird the way I'm putting it).
“Finished beats perfect”
- Jordan Peterson
what I enjoy a lot on this channel is the genuine effort you put to express new and not so new ideas, as if it wasn't for UA-cam. I hope you get to feel good about your production without so much striving for 'perfection.'
I have come to tolerate the imperfection of my videos, not necessarily accepting it.
I am really grateful i found your channel! I am not even exaggerating you literally changed my life! Thank you! Thank you for what you do, you really have a huge impact on your audience🙏🙏✨✨✨💖💖💖
wow i'm here early... PERFECT
Your videos are the about the type of topics i think about almost daily but never found anyone talking about it, but as I watch more and more of your content I feel more satisfied with my thought as if someone is helping me sharpen up and harness my thoughts. Thank you so much!
I’m so perfectionist ... it ruins my life haha
I relate to that.. 🤦🏻♀️
I like how you have no flashy, bright pointless things in your videos. It's all simple yet pleasing to the eye. Cheers to more creators like you.
I think I find depth more "fascinating and delightful" than "comforting" but I think it's wonderful to see that it is important to someone else, too -!
You are indeed becoming the representation of everything that goes through my mind! I am passionate about storytelling and creating creative content and I see myself in you a lot, not in a way I want to be you or make the same content, but in the quest of our purpose and living that meaningful life! it's so refreshing to be back on youtube watching people like you because I'm so over the obnoxious annoying content that has been all over the place! I hope one day I'll get to meet you and share our experiences! I'm a young architect from Morocco, and as newly graduated in 2019 it's been so hard to cope with what society and parents want you to do and what I really want to pursue! And finding channels like yours or like matt d'avella is so rewarding! I am fluent in 3 languages French, English and Arabic as well in my native dialect Moroccan darija and I've been learning Spanish for over a year and a half,, if u need any help regarding any of these or even if u ever decide to discover morocco I ll be glad to give some directions! Keep on blessing us with this content! best of luck!
Being a perfectionist is a blessing and a curse. Thanks for this video. It’s helped me think of my perfectionism in a healthier and more uplifting manner
As a fellow perfectionist...this video really resonated with me. I have been really working to give myself the space to be spontaneously creative and be proud of those "imperfect" moments. Thank you for this Nathaniel!
thank u for bringing up this topic. The pursuit of perfectionism genuinely brakes us from making the first move
Your videos are only getting better and better with each new upload💜
Thank you for this! Your viewers are incredibly lucky to have found your content.
Nathaniel we love you for whatever you are. Thanks for Inspiring us . We appreciate and celebrate you in every way . Best wishes ❤️❤️
- I am a perfectionist and I was stressing out about scratches and paint chips on my bicycle. So instead I changed it into a vintage old school style of bike. This video helped me feel better about imperfections, I see more beauty in imperfections than perfections now. Thank you 🙏
Your obsession for details is 50% responsible for me following your channel and being a patron of your work. The other half is because of what you actually say or verbally communicate.
I've never seen a channel that can describe? me. I mean, i feel better watching anything on your channel, I feel independent and that I CAN. Thank you Nathaniel 🙏🏻
You literally speak the words that are burned deep inside my head.. the words I never seem to be able to formulate and spit out. But they are my exact thoughts. I sit through your videos with complete astonishment of how pin point accurate your words are to the way I think and feel. Thanks for always being an uplifting and inspiring force in my world! Excited to see what lies ahead with the new project!
After watching a lot of videos in your channel and other ones, and reading different blogs and books, I'm finally getting rid of my obssesed perfectionist mindset. It's not easy, but I'm getting there. I used to be a very anxious person and now I feel more relaxed. Of course I still get stressed but it's not like a time ago. Thank you so much! I'm looking forward to watching your new videos on the No Backup Plan channel! Good luck with that!
Really thank you for this video. I was during my school mid-term and just had a mental break down yesterday because of my perfectionism. I felt much better after watching your video!!!
I just found your channel about a week ago, and have been binge watching your content since, and it amazes me how connected I feel with your identity. Almost like you're an older version of myself. I love art, photography, storytelling and all that stuff too. Also a perfectionist, and a very curious person.
Love your content, and you have taught me a lot about life!
I could relate to every single line that you said. Perfection is suffocating sometimes. I have been working on the same video project since the last 42 days now. The truth is that I could have easily finished it in about 20-25 maximum days and yet here I am working on it day and night overthinking every single shot and every single frame that I show in it. Thank you for this video. It couldn't have come at a better timing than this. Really appreciate all your videos!
What a beautiful, meditative video-essay, Nathaniel. It bears multiple listenings--and now many of us have the time. Gratitude and recognition from a kindred spirit who regularly flirts on the "line" or "border" (as I call it) of obsession. But the lovely thing about a border is the clear signage as you approach. Like touching a hot stove I've learned to recognize the signs and pull back because I know it's going to burn.
Minds are anxious and obsessive like that. Therapist Thomas Jones calls it a neurochemical addiction. It's what they are designed to do. Though it varies by degree from person to person, it is a defense mechanism. Prevents us from harm--originally sabre toothed tigers and that lot--and in the case of perfectionists, prevents us from embarrassment or shattering criticism and judgement so rampant on social media and anywhere else nowadays. However, we can learn to reclaim clarity by directing our inner troops to control that experience. It gives us back (ironically) control--not of the circumstances but the way we choose to respond.
Your ideas about obsession of perfection & acception of imperfection are great. Actually, I think they're the facts but not many of us accept the way to live with balance between perfection & imperfection. Thanks for your content!
I love how you teach and inspire this somewhat jaded middle aged woman. You have been gifted with an instinctual knowledge of truth. God has a plan for you that is beyond exciting to see you walk in.
I've been working on embracing imperfection, and not being afraid of failure. This is one of the intentions that I've set for myself during this phase of my life. The uncertainty of the following year scares me, and although I'll do the best I can, I'll have to accept not being able to know certain things. I wish you all the love and support on your new journey!
I was writing notes for my first UA-cam video and came back to note things from your first video and this was the first video on my homepage. I am really glad that I instantly clicked on it. Thank you dude. I'm learning a lot from you.
I learnt a new concept a few months ago: YOU DON'T LOSE, YOU EITHER WIN OR LEARN. This is helping me cope with mistakes and imperfection.
Beautiful thoughts, Nataniel. I am gonna dive deeper into the Wabi-Sabi concept now. Keep chasing perfections in this imperfect realm. This is a great race, no matter what!
dude you're just 1 year older than me,but gives me the kind of lessons of life that nobody ever did,thanks Nathaniel.
This is exactly why I started my UA-cam channel. I want to start sharing and stop filtering myself. Thanks Nathan.
Like your video says, there is a lot to be said for things you make your self. In school when I was young, we did an exercise where we made our own pencils. There was something super gratifying about going through the process.
I absolutely love your videos. They are so authentic and raw. I myself am a perfectionist and I struggle with many of the things you talked about. I can't thank you enough for sharing this with us !
It seemed to me that I had already got over that anxious and oppressive feeling of getting done everything as perfect as I can. But after watching this video I've come to realise that it was just an illusion. I've been lying to myself. It's like an addiction, so there is no direct ways to the sober, reasonable thinking. It must be a hard work of constant reminding to myself: "perfection does not exist". Thank you for your devotion and mindfullness.
Damn, I had never really considered myself much of a perfectionist, but I think I just realized I am. There is so much of myself I don't put out there, content, writing, even participating in conversations because of fear of being wrong, or because I feel as though it isn't perfect. That just means I will never publish anything if I don't just get over my imperfections and let myself try.
See this is why I come here. My favorite videos by far, thank you for making me reflect. I think I'm going to finish some projects now.
I can't remember the last time I saw something more meaningful to me on this platform. Thank you for putting this out there
LOVED THIS. Im glad this thought process pushed you to create "No Backup Plan". Im excited to see where it takes you. The idea of being apologetically yourself online is a daunting experience but it shouldnt be. Like you said, life is imperfect... but that is what makes it beautiful.
Love your authenticity... I feel when one speaks or does something with an open heart from a place of love , compassion & passion the content you create is spot on... You are very inspiring ... continue to shine your bright heart light. The world needs you. Katherine 💓🌏🌟🙏
I really resonate with this video. I have never observed any other video that I truly agree with quite like this one. It was as if you were picking away things that I wasn't aware I did...but I do them. I am enlightened and confused, but because of this, I am motivated. You helped me see what I couldn't and I just wanted to thank you. Beautifully done video and the message is very powerful and anyone out there that can relate will most definitely appreciate this more than you know. Thank you.