Passion vs. sex: ensuring the viability of your relationship | Laurie Betito | TEDxJacksonHole
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- Опубліковано 10 жов 2024
- In her talk, Betito will talk us through the difference between being in love and adjusting to how sexual desire changes throughout a relationship. The survival of a union is based on expanding our notion of sex to include all kinds of intimacy.
Noted broadcaster, author and sex therapist Dr. Laurie Betito has served listeners with relationship and life advice for almost three decades. She is the host of a nightly radio show called Passion, she is the president of the Sexual Health Network of Quebec, Canada and the author of The Sex Bible for People Over 50. Her work is rooted in helping people live life with passion, while infusing love and positivity in all relationships.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
Easiest voice ever to listen to, this Ted talk flowed so naturally I really enjoyed it!
Very good. Expectations I have for others causes a lot of problems for me in my relationships. Great talk, thank you.
awesome Ted talk! very informative and true for older generation or people who have been in a long term relationship, over 5 years. I was married for 17 years and what she says is spot on
This is exactly what I argued about with my wife other day. I wish she would understand this. 😢
Love isn't something that happens to you, it's something you do.
midi510 Exactly!! Love is a choice.
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People get confused about that, though, because we're drawn to some more than others, but we can choose to love anyone at any time. And if we don't, that's on us.
Totally disagree, our bodies often know before we do what is love. All the people in my life that tried to tell me that love is a commitment (choice) or a behaviour are divorced now. All the people that told me they just felt the love since they met are still together!
If love was a choice we would all be boringly married. We are evolved animals and we need the feeling of love!
Definitely needed to hear this!
my partner, passion for me burns hot. gave me passion and intimacy all day. was wonderful.
Oh know why did it finish 😭 we need more videossss
Wise woman
She's so cute and sweet!
valuable
This happens when you expect too much . Accept it for what it is or isn't and move on
Great talk.
Why is the sound so low..
Don't worry your right side of earphone is working.
also i have gone def in my left ear
Well that was depressing
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Sometimes you gotta say fuc* it . I thought I was doing the right thing , but she turned her back on me . Epic failure . She doesn't realize her home could have been taken one account of a couple of idiots .
Marriage = costs: job, car, mortgage, in laws, bills, property maintenance insurance vet bills kids holidays and it's relentless!! the best way to do marriage in the west would be with money!..or, the connection to a thriving inclusive supportive community. Insanity without!!
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If your spouse isn't intimate with you.. they are getting it elsewhere.
not always true i m an example
Nah , low libido from stress ,diet ,work, age, alcohol ,lack of sleep , rearing children lots of factors affect it-- but they could be cheating too
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If 1 shuts down the crnr store you are sending the other to the mall.
Once a week?!?! maybe if you only surveyed women. Trust me, no man is happy only getting it once a week if he is sleeping next to a woman that he is attracted to.
Here is a question to women: if (pick your favorite food) was free, didn't make you fat but in fact aided in losing weight, and you could eat it without any negative effects to your body, and you never got sick of it like other foods, would you be happy with only eating it once a week simply because your husband was the gatekeeper and he says that's how often you are allowed to have it? HELL NO!! you would be pissed at how your husband was being an asshole trying to limit your happiness!! Or even worse, what if your husband made you do shit to get it from him????????????
Now you know why so many men resent their wives, because the majority of women do this to their husbands and there is NO excuse for it!!
You obviously have no idea of how female sexuality works, you are looking at your own needs and ignoring that it takes two willing people to have pleasurable sex. Comparing sex to having a free low fat meal is ridiculous. Your partner isn't a cake you can take and eat and feel good. Your partner (like you) has the right to have a meaningful and satisfactory experience every time she has sex, and not feel obliged to do it "for you", as a reward, for pity or fear of getting dumped. It's supposed to be working for both of you. If you can't, try listening to some more videos or see a couples' therapist.
Oh, and I already know that YOU are the exception to this rule (as ALL women think they are) and I am also aware that you will also imply that I just got hurt by one bad experience. Or maybe the problem was me. These are tired lines and I can tell you that the majority of married men share this basic story.
Appalling. Good luck with your future relationships. You, sir, are clueless.
Susana, Thank you. My wife and I have a great relationship now because I took my own advice and showed her how selfish she was being. And now we have an EQUAL relationship where she and I both provide what the other needs, NOT just me providing what she needs. I love to please her in the many ways that SHE wants to be pleased, and now she does the same for me.
I will say the same to you, good luck taking advantage of your man. It only works so long before he resents the shit out of you and can't look at your entitled face without disdain seeping through his countenance. Why is it such a chore to do little things for your man anyway? Afraid that your mechanism of control will be devalued (pussy whipping him into your little lap dog)????????????
You are comparing doing chores with having sex. You should be comparing your chores to hers, and yes, they should be equivalent in time and effort. Sex is a whole other game, friend. Sex isn't a matter of power, or control, or of one subduing the other. Mentally healthy women DO NOT see it like that. That is completely wrong and can ruin a relationship. Healthy sex only happens when BOTH want it, since it comes from your inner most instincts and feelings. If she pressures you into doing chores, you can "fight back" with chores she also has to do. But no one can be bullied into WANTING sex. You can bully her into pleasing you, sure, but she won't be pleased if she's not into it at the time, trust me. And, as you told me, it only works so long before she resents the shit out of you and can't look at your entitled face without disdain seeping through her countenance. Think about it.
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