If you ask me to get your purse and it feels like you have weights or bricks I'll ask out of curiosity of what is so heavy and why is it in a purse. If you slap me I would genuinely be confused
I agree with Kendra here. The person who asks should be paying unless it has been discussed beforehand if they will split the bill. Also YES the calm down thing is just a big no-no, and I'm pretty sure that is something a lot of people can relate to
The "I don't care" conversation was relevant to me. My sister and I are both big "don't carers" and we can sometimes have a standoff about who is going to finally choose. You're right, there's a world of difference between "I don't have any interest" and "I am happy for you to choose for both of us". I've found that saying something like "Literally anything except X or Y" is better, especially when in groups - by the time you've knocked five choices off, the choice is WAY easier.
hahaha so excited for this video! you both have given me the confidence to try to come out to my family this year! do you have any helpful advice? im going to come out as lesbian😁
@folklore.on.top Good luck on coming out this year am really happy for you just be yourself and be true to who you are and I'm positive that your family will love you for who you are ❤❤❤ 🙏🙏🙏
I agreethat it should be the person who asked the other one out who pays, that being said I never ASSUME the other person is paying and always have enough money to cover myself minimum
I genuinely cannot understand why people say such horrible, rude or nasty things like this to anyone, regardless of who they are, there's no need for it all, and I bet half the time, they've no idea how upsetting or hurtful it can be. Thank you for taking the time to share these with us and your thoughts.
I've had female coworkers who felt insecure, and I gave them a hug and said, "You are a QUEEN, A WARRIOR, A SUPER MODEL", and they immediately felt better for the rest of the day or for most of it. So, I try to look for the beauty in women and men, and not drag them down unless they talk smack first then that might be a different story. But all and all, I believe that everyone is beautiful just the way they are and in their own way and try to not cause any uncomfortable discussion and try to lift them up rather than kick them down. Stay gorgeous my friends
When someone tells me “your nothing without me” it just gives me motivation to do more with my life, be a better person. And the petty in me to show them I am everything without them. My ex told me this all the time because she got me out of a bad situation with my parents and I am grateful for that but I didn’t like that it was held over my head for years into our marriage till finally, (not how I planned things but she went out of country for a year for military reasons) and I started realizing how much she gaslit me all the time. We obviously did call it quits and are officially divorcing this year when she returns to the states. But yeah. I am healing from all my trauma and working for the good life I deserve.
You are great people and very good insight on how people feel about things . Can wait for next video and when is your next trip I love those too . Love you
These questions and statistics are actually depressing and frustrating at the same time. It all comes down to one basic principle: Have respect for yourself and have respect for others and everything else will fall into place.
My favorite response to someone saying ,"Why are you so negative?" I respond in a tongue in cheek way, "I'm an optimistic pessimist. I'm 'positively negative'....... lol
While it is by no means something you need to try for, I've seen your Valentine(anniversary?) short from a year or two ago, as well as several other videos you've done, and I can tell you that when Hailee has an interest in doing so, she is plenty able to have a very feminine look. There might be others who would disagree with me, but she has definitely looked very much traditionally feminine multiple times, and that's just the ones we've seen in your content posts. Is she "as feminine" as Kendra? The real question is, who cares? :D
What do you think about putting your credit score on your dating profile? I herd there was a study done showing people with higher credit scores are more likely to form long term relationships.
Yea no don't tell me to calm down when I'm pissed it won't end well. Also I think the person that invited you out should pay because they invited you but also discuss it first when finalizing your plans.
I think if a woman said a lot of those to a man he would hate them too. I mean come on this is the 21st century shouldn't we know the correct way to communicate with each other by now. I agree a lot of the questions were inappropriate, but some were valid, but as you both said it's the way you ask that is important. I did almost puke/vomit with the "Can I smell your feet" one. Luv ya. ❤
See this is the reason I love watching you guys. (One of the reasons.) I say “I don’t care.” All the time. Even if we decide where to go,if I don’t know exactly what I want, I could look at a menu for 1/2 an hour and not make up my mind. T o combat that, I now look at an online menu the moment I know where I’m going and can not peruse the menu again OR I will change my mind, maybe. 😁❤️
Love the video, but have two "issues." I'll let my daughter walk around an island in a bikini top and shorts without comment, but wearing that in a land-locked city will get a negative response. What people SHOULD do, and what they ACTUALLY DO, is not yet the same thing. I don't want people treating my daughter badly, or thinking my daughter doesn't respect herself because she's barely covered up. Second, and connected, even the last statement "you look very beautiful today!" doesn't always work properly. In the last 3 months, I have said "You look beautiful today", "I really like your blouse!" and "I love your hair!" and all three comments have gotten me looks from the woman as if I was some creepy stalker that wanted to lock her in a basement. Obviously not everyone responds that way, but it isn't rare. I give compliments at work all the time (and I work in a female-dominated hospital) and I would estimate that at least 10% of women assume that a compliment is an attempt to get in their pants. Society just isn't ready.
I remember one time at the store with my then fiancé and we were at the check out line. The woman ahead of us looked at me and asked if I was pregnant. Astonished and gob-smacked, I quickly stated no. She then looked at my stomach then back to me then stated, "It would have been a happy mother's day." I've always been a bigger person and made fun of/ridiculed for my weight but that interaction certainly takes the prize
When asked on a date, it has absolutely nothing to do with gender, as to who pays. If you ask the other person, you pay! Period! If Im really mad and you tell me to calm down, Im instantly more angry! Let me get it out! Ill be ok in a minute, if you LEAVE ME ALONE!
Generally, when a guy says calm down.. its not telling you not to feel.. its more of a "we cannot communicate and fix this in this manner". I've taken to asking my wife "do you want affirmation, or do you want to solve it.. let me know so I can behave appropriately". Still trying to find a good way to say it, that works better than calm down, but not great. If you want to rant, let me know.. I'll be there calling whoever a bitch right there with ya.. if you want to make progress on the solution, or fix it.. you gotta meet me where I can work, so to speak. HAHAHAHA.. All my exes are crazy.. so you're attracted to crazy people? You're with me now.. am I crazy? I mean people got types and all that, but "I dont think you thought this through very well" type of statements are hilarious to me (I kinda enjoy watching the social awkwardness)
Hailee - I think you are quite beautiful and feminine. I don’t see the “masculine energy.” I believe Kendra is more “bubbly,” however, you are both beautiful. And you seem to have a terrific relationship which is quite remarkable in and of itself but, even more so that you are a lesbian couple surviving in our uber judgmental society and with such a public presence. So happy for you both. Also, I don’t doubt that only 5% of men are attracted to feet. It seems like much more I think because the foot guys seem to be very vocal and all on that lunatic fringe. Cheers gals - Lance
Me and my girl are also lesbians that go to acupuncture!! And I’m autistic and she has adhd memory issues! lol and I’m the one from STL we live in SF and she’s from out here 😂😅😮😊
34:03 or so… it wasn’t PMS that caused that court case loves. It was ovarian cysts and the hormonal influx it brings however in the average woman that age it would be argued as PMS due to the fact that until you hit your menopausal phases you only have your cysts rupturing during your menstrual cycle due to PCOS or polycystic ovarian syndrome. It was argued she was not in the right frame of mind due to a hormonal influx related to her medical condition plus the stress she was under. As someone who was diagnosed at the age of nine with this issue I can attest to the fact absolutely anything can set you off so god forbid someone give you a reason to rage that hard. I think I remember the case you are talking about in fact because I was in fact alive for it and watched the footage of her rolling over her husband and possibly the woman he was cheating on her with multiple times via news coverage. The news these days is all propaganda. In my day? It was actually reporting. I miss those days lol.
The hell are you insecure about being tired for??? I am tired almost every day... that's called being an adult and more like why are you tired today trauma bonding 😂 e.g. broken sleep, oh I am stressed, damn kids woke up, blah blah blah.
As a sexually confused female for the "if you annoy me again I will punch you" one I say that to my guy best friend but jokingly and I'll playfully punch him. (He has tried to sleep with me and still wants to which makes me pissed at him even more often. And if I do punch him hard it is completely on accident like I'll mean to play punch but I will have just finished working out or something and I got the pump going. But I will never intentionally hurt someone unless it's in the bedroom consensually (and not punching maybe like your typical bedroom things) I will never bring myself to intentionally hurt someone I love/care for and I know I have anger issues and when I know that if one interaction gone wrong may cause me to freak out I will isolate myself to keep them safe.
This was a very different kind of video from you two ladies. It was also informative and demonstrates how smart and mature you both are. P.S. I agree when Hailee says "all tiitties are good titties". 😂😂😂❤❤❤
I always get "Do you have a sister," or "Any single friends," when someone is hitting on me and I say I'm not single - and it's not just insulting, but like, I'm not a matchmaker. Find someone available on your own, dude.
I used to tell my wife to “take a breath.” It worked better than calm down. Of course it started as a joke about being able to swing better if u take a deep breath first & choose where 2 aim easier.
I live with my mom and I'm 35 but she had my baby brother when I was 28 and then she and her husband divorced. So I am helping to raise him and we both work to maybe buy a house.
I can relate to all of these because my family does the same thing to me because I eat very little in a day an when I eat a lot my family just makes fun of me an I just put on a fake smile an just live with it
Ok... maybe I missed it but... did it say somewhere these were "date related" questions? I mean some don't matter they would be rude regardless, but others... If I'm out with friends I may ask if they are ok paying this time, regardless of their gender. If I told a coworker they remind me of my mum it has nothing to do with dating, it has to do with... something mom-like. I mean you obviously were thinking "date" but did the questions say that? I wasn't thinking that when the video started. I also feel some of these should be "qualified" with details. As an exception... Also when someone says "you should smile more" just reply "I doubt I'll smile until after the funeral" they never know how to respond to that. There was a comic book called something like "It's obvious you won't survive by your wits alone" ... that was funny, saying that to a human is not. Near the end 29:15 maybe? "You have a big appetite" bad wording. It is never great to point this out, but there are genuine reasons to ask something similar... not about them being "big" but about them feeling full or enjoying a meal type thing. I've heard of the "PMS rage" defence, also don't remember much, but it was basically a "temporary insanity" plea based on biology. Other conditions, especially unmedicated, can cause "aberrant behaviour out of character for the suspect" and go to lack of "danger to society" - of course that assumes society will step up and provide healthcare for the condition... And Kendra at 32:15 the fact that you believe the people who kill their partner ever loved them is both ridiculously hopeful, and naive. Most of them are horrible people that's why they murdered someone. TL:DR Fun video to see your reactions.
I'm someone whose more insecure about intelligence, especially since I have a slower development. However, I do get caught up being insecure about my physical appearence. I've always been bullied about how I look, especially about my weight and would always be called fat, overweight, and meaner offensive names along the lines. But I've always been told, as I'm filling out more, sexualized comments about my body. Other insecurities involved with my appearence are my eyebags and acne (when it's flared up really bad) so an immediate no-no for me is when someone is pointing out and/or making fun of things that shouldn't be said.
A lot of these are universal, not just what women hate.... "Are you sure I'm the father" is still a better question than "Are you sure you're the mother?" :)
I didn't realize that 50 was the preferred age for men on dating apps. Just hit that 5-0 a few days ago! Also, Freud did not believe the Electra complex was valid. Carl Jung was the one to come up with this theory.
Regarding "What's your body count?": I hate that phrase so much. It conflates sex with murder -- how in the world is this okay??? How did this become a phrase??? Who says that???????
I would be _awfully_ tempted to counter that one with something like "Last time I checked, I'm not a serial killer... well, some poor unfortunate cornflakes possibly excepted..." 😉
Ladies, thanks for the dating advice. You women are literally some of the coolest people who offer advise than just pointing out mistakes after the guy/girl has been on the date. Thank you again .
Cool, some wild statistics there lol .... Thanks for presenting it in such a fun and awesome way ! , thank you both for the super cool content ... and also both of you are incredibly beautiful humans, don't let anyone tell you otherwise !!
I love y’all and the content but that one about the “hurt myself if you leave” I had to deal with that for 3yrs and I regret staying in that relationship because I’m a kind person and I didn’t wanna have that on my conscience sadly… also about the “make me a sandwich” 😂😂😂 I’m the chef of the relationship so I make her sandwich’s 👌🏻 and I love it
Re: "I don't care." A better way to handle indecision is to respond with, "Hmmmm, not sure. Give me three options and I'll pick one." Or the opposite: "Hmmm, X, Y, Z; pick one." You'd be surprised how much faster the decision process goes.
@@AnnabethOwl yep. I learned this during a parenting class decades ago. You're having issues with your young one saying "NO!" to everything? Don't ask them a question that can be answered with "yes" or "no." For example, instead of saying to your three-year-old, "Will you hurry up and get dressed? We're going to be late for school." (response: "NO!") the better way to handle the situation is, "Do you want to wear shirt A or shirt B to school today?" (response: kid has a decision to make between A and B instead of screaming "NO!") Sad to say but deep down we're all cranky toddlers that are overwhelmed with too many decisions to make. So lessen the amount of answers to choose from.
Was a DV victim for 6 years with my ex, I was so ashamed to tell anyone that I genuinely didn't know how to get out for a scary amount of time. I'm so very lucky to be alive tbh, and have spent the years since I left as an activist for DV victims. Thanks for covering this. It's so much more common than I knew.
There's nothing to be ashamed of! We're sorry someone felt the need to comment on that. We hope you're feeling better now - and able to enjoy your food in peace 🌹
I would never say "You should smile more" to anyone, especially a stranger. It indicates: 1 judgment, making them wrong somehow. 2. It's creepy. I might say something like. I love your smile, which is a positive compliment. But again, not just in passing or as an opening line. My daughter always throws out compliments to random people. But always about a piece of clothing or hair style, something they spent time and thought on. I've never felt comfortable complementing strangers, I feel like they would find me creepy. But when Ashley does it you see that person's face light up. I always feel good when I see her do that. Anyways, GREAT topic. You guys are fun.
This is very informative and oh so very true. At times I think a lot of people need to come back to this video and listen to it and heed what you guys have said. You girls keep up the good work. I can't wait for your next video and what it will be. Because no matter what it will be either informative or funny. This video was very informative, even if Hailee did take Kendra's name in the very beginning. 😂😂🤣🤣😃😃🤣🤣 That was very funny, because Kendra didn't know what to say. It even threw me off for a second. I was like, wait, what? 😳😳🤔🤔😁😁😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lot of these really hit hard, especially the I’ll hurt myself if u break up with me, my dad is mentally and emotionally abusive and says that I’m all he has and that I hate him and I love my mom more( they are divorced) and he says without me he will commit suicide. He also gaslights me and his memory is sht because of alcohol abuse in the past and he always says I’m remembering it wrong when im not
I am someone who battles daily to control my temper so when I explode and I get told to calm down it get's even worse and then when I do, I feel like such a shit for losing my cool.
A former friend of mine cut his stomach after his girlfriend dumped him for a couple he'd helped her move in with after she got kicked out of her parents' home. He was verbally and probably physically abusive, and needless to say, I eventually ended my association with the creep. That whole "I'll hurt myself if you leave me" B.S. is just that, and even when the creeps follow through, it's an act designed specifically to manipulate the other person through pity.
When I was 18 or 19 I worked at a fast food place, usually drive through. More than once I got asked if I was pregnant. My response, every time, "no, I'm just fat". That sounds harsh but I think that was my twisted way of protecting myself so that I didn't fall apart. And I know a huge part of me said that because it made them just as uncomfortable as they made me. I've also had many people ask me for all my friends numbers. I've been messed with for my weight for most of life. I'm 41,extremely overweight, and live with chronic pain. I am still very affected my weight and by how other people view me based on my weight. I truly believe most of my problems would be solved by weight loss. I'm trying, but it's hard. And, when you're trying to get healthier and someone targets your weight, it hits extra hard. You being to question why you even try. This world would be so much better if we treated each with a little kindness, respect, and grace. Thank you for calling out red flag behavior and for sharing a better way to treat people 💖
I had a buddy once who told his date "Calm down, Jesus! Are you on your period? You're acting like your mom! You're crazy!" We found his teeth a week later, but we never found the rest of him.
Dunno why this one appeared on my feed today, but I'm glad it did. I'm guilty of the "I don't care" right along with Hailee. And I'll admit, I'm stubborn about this because I genuinely get aggravated when someone says "I don't care" as a means of distancing themselves from something they care about a lot- be honest with your feelings, put it out there. Fully appreciate Kendra's take on it that she is attempting an interaction. And that's fine and cute and a good relationship language technique for a lot of people. But in Hailee's (and mine) defense, actually meaning "I don't care" is a complete answer. The question asked for an opinion within clearly defined parameters- and a definitive answer was returned. If the point of the question was to stimulate interaction, then try bringing an open-ended question or suggesting an activity, or sharing something funny on the phone. Also, and in written form, there is a chance this comes across more focus-shifting than intended, or looking to start a conflict where there is not one. I assure that is not the intent, just an attempt at introducing a point not previously mentioned. When Partner A is asking a close-ended opinion question, and Partner B returns a complete and genuine "I don't care" in response, Partner A becoming offended at that answer is being dismissive Partner B's thoughts and feelings. An alternative approach when dealing with a Partner B would be instead of soliciting an opinion in a closed question, would be to instead ask Partner B to create a food rank list and see if that gets them fixated on something. When they do, then Bam!- opinion for dinner is revealed. And of course, if the other person doesn't genuinely mean "I don't care" then all bets are off. After several years of marriage, I've learned that it is indeed possible to bring the wrong thing home for dinner when the other person said IDC. Our work around is that I'll go anywhere and pick it up on my way home, but I will not do so without a complete order from the other person. One place, one order. No choices, options (unless when dealing with specials or limited supply), or imprecise language. I'm like DoorDash that way. Don't want mustard on your cheeseburger? Better say it. That either McNuggets or Filet-O-Fish is fine? Great, then you can go and tell them directly. But it cuts both ways, too. I better be prepared to wait half an hour for a pizza after an already long day. Or if that place closes early, then I'm taking that light while it's still orange. Not a fan of the place Partner A chose? Then I better find something on the menu that fits or be ready to make something for myself at home.
"What's in your purse?"
The head of the last person who asked me that.
hahaha....ok, that was funny.
If you ask me to get your purse and it feels like you have weights or bricks I'll ask out of curiosity of what is so heavy and why is it in a purse. If you slap me I would genuinely be confused
Yes! I love this one! 😊
Telling somebody who is upset to “calm down” is like telling somebody who is shot to “stop bleeding”. That’s not how that works.
exactly like when i’m upset especially when i’m crying and someone tells me to calm down i can’t calm down i try but it’s hard
I feel that is trying to take control and that your feelings are not important.
We all got emotions. Let it out whatever it is. We're human
I think it also comes across as trivializing me being upset. There is usually a reason for it, so it’s dismissive.
Yes, it is a thing everyone does; it feels almost instinctual.
7:19 telling someone to calm down works as well as baptizing a cat
-my dad
I mean, he's not wrong 😂
I agree with Kendra here. The person who asks should be paying unless it has been discussed beforehand if they will split the bill.
Also YES the calm down thing is just a big no-no, and I'm pretty sure that is something a lot of people can relate to
The "I don't care" conversation was relevant to me. My sister and I are both big "don't carers" and we can sometimes have a standoff about who is going to finally choose. You're right, there's a world of difference between "I don't have any interest" and "I am happy for you to choose for both of us". I've found that saying something like "Literally anything except X or Y" is better, especially when in groups - by the time you've knocked five choices off, the choice is WAY easier.
hahaha so excited for this video! you both have given me the confidence to try to come out to my family this year! do you have any helpful advice? im going to come out as lesbian😁
@folklore.on.top Good luck on coming out this year am really happy for you just be yourself and be true to who you are and I'm positive that your family will love you for who you are ❤❤❤ 🙏🙏🙏
YEEEEESSS. You got this girl!!
you got this girl you can do it
GL!!! I’m also going to try to come out as a non binary lesbian this year!
Best of luck!! You got this! I hope it goes over well!
I agreethat it should be the person who asked the other one out who pays, that being said I never ASSUME the other person is paying and always have enough money to cover myself minimum
I ADORE the fact that the two of you have your shit together! And THAT is an attractive quality!
Much love from Northern Ontario, Canada.
I genuinely cannot understand why people say such horrible, rude or nasty things like this to anyone, regardless of who they are, there's no need for it all, and I bet half the time, they've no idea how upsetting or hurtful it can be. Thank you for taking the time to share these with us and your thoughts.
This video was very informative. I never knew some of this stuff. Keep up the great work.
What about.. "You look like my NEXT ex"...? 😅 kidding
nah don’t say that
(K) “first of the take their freaking name” (H) “only their last” (K) “ayee” that’s my fav❤❤❤❤
I've had female coworkers who felt insecure, and I gave them a hug and said, "You are a QUEEN, A WARRIOR, A SUPER MODEL", and they immediately felt better for the rest of the day or for most of it. So, I try to look for the beauty in women and men, and not drag them down unless they talk smack first then that might be a different story. But all and all, I believe that everyone is beautiful just the way they are and in their own way and try to not cause any uncomfortable discussion and try to lift them up rather than kick them down. Stay gorgeous my friends
When someone tells me “your nothing without me” it just gives me motivation to do more with my life, be a better person. And the petty in me to show them I am everything without them.
My ex told me this all the time because she got me out of a bad situation with my parents and I am grateful for that but I didn’t like that it was held over my head for years into our marriage till finally, (not how I planned things but she went out of country for a year for military reasons) and I started realizing how much she gaslit me all the time. We obviously did call it quits and are officially divorcing this year when she returns to the states. But yeah. I am healing from all my trauma and working for the good life I deserve.
oooh the intro was cute! looks like Kendra (the real one) was genuinely not prepared for / not expecting that!
You are great people and very good insight on how people feel about things . Can wait for next video and when is your next trip I love those too . Love you
If a guy tells you to make a sandwich smile creepily and say ok.
Love your videos as always! You said something during this one about going live....
Do you still? I never get notifications so was just wondering.
This video was very helpful. Thank you!
These questions and statistics are actually depressing and frustrating at the same time. It all comes down to one basic principle: Have respect for yourself and have respect for others and everything else will fall into place.
My favorite response to someone saying ,"Why are you so negative?" I respond in a tongue in cheek way, "I'm an optimistic pessimist. I'm 'positively negative'....... lol
I love that!!!! Perfect response!
"Whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa before you mix that concrete...." hysterical.
While it is by no means something you need to try for, I've seen your Valentine(anniversary?) short from a year or two ago, as well as several other videos you've done, and I can tell you that when Hailee has an interest in doing so, she is plenty able to have a very feminine look. There might be others who would disagree with me, but she has definitely looked very much traditionally feminine multiple times, and that's just the ones we've seen in your content posts. Is she "as feminine" as Kendra? The real question is, who cares? :D
What do you think about putting your credit score on your dating profile? I herd there was a study done showing people with higher credit scores are more likely to form long term relationships.
Yea no don't tell me to calm down when I'm pissed it won't end well. Also I think the person that invited you out should pay because they invited you but also discuss it first when finalizing your plans.
12:22 Kendra speaking facts
I think if a woman said a lot of those to a man he would hate them too. I mean come on this is the 21st century shouldn't we know the correct way to communicate with each other by now. I agree a lot of the questions were inappropriate, but some were valid, but as you both said it's the way you ask that is important. I did almost puke/vomit with the "Can I smell your feet" one. Luv ya. ❤
You know you're a dedicated fan when you leave COD to watch the new video ❤
I left palworld 😂
See this is the reason I love watching you guys. (One of the reasons.) I say “I don’t care.” All the time. Even if we decide where to go,if I don’t know exactly what I want, I could look at a menu for 1/2 an hour and not make up my mind. T o combat that, I now look at an online menu the moment I know where I’m going and can not peruse the menu again OR I will change my mind, maybe. 😁❤️
Love the video, but have two "issues."
I'll let my daughter walk around an island in a bikini top and shorts without comment, but wearing that in a land-locked city will get a negative response. What people SHOULD do, and what they ACTUALLY DO, is not yet the same thing. I don't want people treating my daughter badly, or thinking my daughter doesn't respect herself because she's barely covered up.
Second, and connected, even the last statement "you look very beautiful today!" doesn't always work properly. In the last 3 months, I have said "You look beautiful today", "I really like your blouse!" and "I love your hair!" and all three comments have gotten me looks from the woman as if I was some creepy stalker that wanted to lock her in a basement. Obviously not everyone responds that way, but it isn't rare. I give compliments at work all the time (and I work in a female-dominated hospital) and I would estimate that at least 10% of women assume that a compliment is an attempt to get in their pants.
Society just isn't ready.
I remember one time at the store with my then fiancé and we were at the check out line. The woman ahead of us looked at me and asked if I was pregnant. Astonished and gob-smacked, I quickly stated no. She then looked at my stomach then back to me then stated, "It would have been a happy mother's day." I've always been a bigger person and made fun of/ridiculed for my weight but that interaction certainly takes the prize
When asked on a date, it has absolutely nothing to do with gender, as to who pays. If you ask the other person, you pay! Period!
If Im really mad and you tell me to calm down, Im instantly more angry! Let me get it out! Ill be ok in a minute, if you LEAVE ME ALONE!
Listen though, Lots of women threaten self harm or worse when faced with a breakup. We don't like that either......
About the Sandwich thing... It's probably her boyfriend saying that, so from that pov, Tell him you already made it, and... Use your imagination..
Generally, when a guy says calm down.. its not telling you not to feel.. its more of a "we cannot communicate and fix this in this manner". I've taken to asking my wife "do you want affirmation, or do you want to solve it.. let me know so I can behave appropriately". Still trying to find a good way to say it, that works better than calm down, but not great. If you want to rant, let me know.. I'll be there calling whoever a bitch right there with ya.. if you want to make progress on the solution, or fix it.. you gotta meet me where I can work, so to speak.
HAHAHAHA.. All my exes are crazy.. so you're attracted to crazy people? You're with me now.. am I crazy? I mean people got types and all that, but "I dont think you thought this through very well" type of statements are hilarious to me (I kinda enjoy watching the social awkwardness)
Hailee - I think you are quite beautiful and feminine. I don’t see the “masculine energy.” I believe Kendra is more “bubbly,” however, you are both beautiful. And you seem to have a terrific relationship which is quite remarkable in and of itself but, even more so that you are a lesbian couple surviving in our uber judgmental society and with such a public presence. So happy for you both.
Also, I don’t doubt that only 5% of men are attracted to feet. It seems like much more I think because the foot guys seem to be very vocal and all on that lunatic fringe. Cheers gals - Lance
Me and my girl are also lesbians that go to acupuncture!! And I’m autistic and she has adhd memory issues! lol and I’m the one from STL we live in SF and she’s from out here 😂😅😮😊
34:03 or so… it wasn’t PMS that caused that court case loves. It was ovarian cysts and the hormonal influx it brings however in the average woman that age it would be argued as PMS due to the fact that until you hit your menopausal phases you only have your cysts rupturing during your menstrual cycle due to PCOS or polycystic ovarian syndrome. It was argued she was not in the right frame of mind due to a hormonal influx related to her medical condition plus the stress she was under. As someone who was diagnosed at the age of nine with this issue I can attest to the fact absolutely anything can set you off so god forbid someone give you a reason to rage that hard. I think I remember the case you are talking about in fact because I was in fact alive for it and watched the footage of her rolling over her husband and possibly the woman he was cheating on her with multiple times via news coverage. The news these days is all propaganda. In my day? It was actually reporting. I miss those days lol.
The hell are you insecure about being tired for??? I am tired almost every day... that's called being an adult and more like why are you tired today trauma bonding 😂 e.g. broken sleep, oh I am stressed, damn kids woke up, blah blah blah.
Hey "Red"...The curls really frame your face well.
Give my regards to tour "cheshire cat" lady friend
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As a sexually confused female for the "if you annoy me again I will punch you" one I say that to my guy best friend but jokingly and I'll playfully punch him. (He has tried to sleep with me and still wants to which makes me pissed at him even more often. And if I do punch him hard it is completely on accident like I'll mean to play punch but I will have just finished working out or something and I got the pump going. But I will never intentionally hurt someone unless it's in the bedroom consensually (and not punching maybe like your typical bedroom things) I will never bring myself to intentionally hurt someone I love/care for and I know I have anger issues and when I know that if one interaction gone wrong may cause me to freak out I will isolate myself to keep them safe.
This was a very different kind of video from you two ladies. It was also informative and demonstrates how smart and mature you both are.
P.S. I agree when Hailee says "all tiitties are good titties". 😂😂😂❤❤❤
When I’m in a relationship with a male, I’m very feminine but when I’m in a relationship with a female I tend to be more masculine. It’s very strange
Another fabulous video, you two are so wise
never fail to make us happy great work guys just keep on making videos
I always get "Do you have a sister," or "Any single friends," when someone is hitting on me and I say I'm not single - and it's not just insulting, but like, I'm not a matchmaker. Find someone available on your own, dude.
I don't mind when people tell me that my mom is crazy because I know my mom is crazy I'm crazy just like her
I love your videos and your both wonderful people have a fantastic year 😁
I used to tell my wife to “take a breath.” It worked better than calm down. Of course it started as a joke about being able to swing better if u take a deep breath first & choose where 2 aim easier.
Glad to say that have never said any of these things, nor tbh, thought say. Of course, my experience is lacking
I work in construction and here that it is a mans job almost every day while at work.
I'm pretty sure that a lot of people don't like questions that they are themself asking to others 😂
And here's me thinking not asking most of these things was just basic decency...this was eye opening.
I live with my mom and I'm 35 but she had my baby brother when I was 28 and then she and her husband divorced. So I am helping to raise him and we both work to maybe buy a house.
29:40 OMG Hailee 🤣
Boy, I remember I was so drunk and asked her if she was shaved or not. Oh man, big mistake
I can relate to all of these because my family does the same thing to me because I eat very little in a day an when I eat a lot my family just makes fun of me an I just put on a fake smile an just live with it
I agree with Kendra on the "who pays" question: The inviter pays.
"Go make me a sandwich"
"Dude, if I can still walk to the kitchen to make you a sandwich, you're not enough."
Ok... maybe I missed it but... did it say somewhere these were "date related" questions? I mean some don't matter they would be rude regardless, but others... If I'm out with friends I may ask if they are ok paying this time, regardless of their gender. If I told a coworker they remind me of my mum it has nothing to do with dating, it has to do with... something mom-like.
I mean you obviously were thinking "date" but did the questions say that? I wasn't thinking that when the video started.
I also feel some of these should be "qualified" with details. As an exception...
Also when someone says "you should smile more" just reply "I doubt I'll smile until after the funeral" they never know how to respond to that.
There was a comic book called something like "It's obvious you won't survive by your wits alone" ... that was funny, saying that to a human is not.
Near the end 29:15 maybe? "You have a big appetite" bad wording. It is never great to point this out, but there are genuine reasons to ask something similar... not about them being "big" but about them feeling full or enjoying a meal type thing.
I've heard of the "PMS rage" defence, also don't remember much, but it was basically a "temporary insanity" plea based on biology. Other conditions, especially unmedicated, can cause "aberrant behaviour out of character for the suspect" and go to lack of "danger to society" - of course that assumes society will step up and provide healthcare for the condition...
And Kendra at 32:15 the fact that you believe the people who kill their partner ever loved them is both ridiculously hopeful, and naive. Most of them are horrible people that's why they murdered someone.
TL:DR
Fun video to see your reactions.
I think they are quite a few of them that are maybe okay questions but the wording makes them red flaggy, or come off wrong.
I'm someone whose more insecure about intelligence, especially since I have a slower development. However, I do get caught up being insecure about my physical appearence. I've always been bullied about how I look, especially about my weight and would always be called fat, overweight, and meaner offensive names along the lines. But I've always been told, as I'm filling out more, sexualized comments about my body. Other insecurities involved with my appearence are my eyebags and acne (when it's flared up really bad) so an immediate no-no for me is when someone is pointing out and/or making fun of things that shouldn't be said.
Hi, Why are you single. The girl should say Why are you single as your on a date with me.
A lot of these are universal, not just what women hate.... "Are you sure I'm the father" is still a better question than "Are you sure you're the mother?" :)
I didn't realize that 50 was the preferred age for men on dating apps. Just hit that 5-0 a few days ago! Also, Freud did not believe the Electra complex was valid. Carl Jung was the one to come up with this theory.
Regarding "What's your body count?": I hate that phrase so much. It conflates sex with murder -- how in the world is this okay??? How did this become a phrase??? Who says that???????
It also objectifies everyone 😳😕
I would be _awfully_ tempted to counter that one with something like
"Last time I checked, I'm not a serial killer... well, some poor unfortunate cornflakes possibly excepted..." 😉
@@PileOfEmptyTapes:> Well played.
Ladies, thanks for the dating advice. You women are literally some of the coolest people who offer advise than just pointing out mistakes after the guy/girl has been on the date. Thank you again .
Response to go make a sandwich is go mow the lawn, or go turn a wrench
Cool, some wild statistics there lol .... Thanks for presenting it in such a fun and awesome way ! , thank you both for the super cool content ... and also both of you are incredibly beautiful humans, don't let anyone tell you otherwise !!
I love y’all and the content but that one about the “hurt myself if you leave” I had to deal with that for 3yrs and I regret staying in that relationship because I’m a kind person and I didn’t wanna have that on my conscience sadly… also about the “make me a sandwich” 😂😂😂 I’m the chef of the relationship so I make her sandwich’s 👌🏻 and I love it
PS that relationship was over 8yrs ago and I am now married and we’re expecting a baby ☺️💕 things happen for a reason
Thanks to Kendra for lifting the mood in the end of the video 😊
If you ask anyone that isn't your husband or wife or partner you're a psychopath lol straight up❤
Re: "I don't care." A better way to handle indecision is to respond with, "Hmmmm, not sure. Give me three options and I'll pick one." Or the opposite: "Hmmm, X, Y, Z; pick one." You'd be surprised how much faster the decision process goes.
This is so true. I struggle with decisions making so I need option layed out for me-
@@AnnabethOwl yep. I learned this during a parenting class decades ago. You're having issues with your young one saying "NO!" to everything? Don't ask them a question that can be answered with "yes" or "no." For example, instead of saying to your three-year-old, "Will you hurry up and get dressed? We're going to be late for school." (response: "NO!") the better way to handle the situation is, "Do you want to wear shirt A or shirt B to school today?" (response: kid has a decision to make between A and B instead of screaming "NO!")
Sad to say but deep down we're all cranky toddlers that are overwhelmed with too many decisions to make. So lessen the amount of answers to choose from.
the words calm down never work with anyone
Was a DV victim for 6 years with my ex, I was so ashamed to tell anyone that I genuinely didn't know how to get out for a scary amount of time. I'm so very lucky to be alive tbh, and have spent the years since I left as an activist for DV victims.
Thanks for covering this. It's so much more common than I knew.
Some/most of these questions are weird 💀
I loved Hailey's little "yaaay" when they were talking about Texas Roadhouse🥺😂
HAILEE I MEANT😭
Omg I hate the smile one!!! Unfortunately it’s my mil who tells me that! 😒🙄
i hate it when someone tells me to calm down i will not calm down it doesn’t work it makes me more wound up
As someone with ASD, I really appreciate how you went into detail on better ways to say things like the bad memory issue. ❤
I was told this and I ended up starving myself because I felt so ashamed of it 29:04
There's nothing to be ashamed of! We're sorry someone felt the need to comment on that. We hope you're feeling better now - and able to enjoy your food in peace 🌹
Can you make another search trap video please❤❤❤
Or we're trying to share is polite way to say
I would never say "You should smile more" to anyone, especially a stranger. It indicates:
1 judgment, making them wrong somehow.
2. It's creepy.
I might say something like. I love your smile, which is a positive compliment. But again, not just in passing or as an opening line. My daughter always throws out compliments to random people. But always about a piece of clothing or hair style, something they spent time and thought on. I've never felt comfortable complementing strangers, I feel like they would find me creepy. But when Ashley does it you see that person's face light up. I always feel good when I see her do that. Anyways, GREAT topic. You guys are fun.
This is very informative and oh so very true. At times I think a lot of people need to come back to this video and listen to it and heed what you guys have said. You girls keep up the good work. I can't wait for your next video and what it will be. Because no matter what it will be either informative or funny. This video was very informative, even if Hailee did take Kendra's name in the very beginning. 😂😂🤣🤣😃😃🤣🤣 That was very funny, because Kendra didn't know what to say. It even threw me off for a second. I was like, wait, what? 😳😳🤔🤔😁😁😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
You always give best advice ❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊
Meds is short for medicine
These ladies are as open minded of their youth. Absolutely cool
Happy valentine s day
Happy Valentine’s Day Kendra and Hailee ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Lot of these really hit hard, especially the I’ll hurt myself if u break up with me, my dad is mentally and emotionally abusive and says that I’m all he has and that I hate him and I love my mom more( they are divorced) and he says without me he will commit suicide. He also gaslights me and his memory is sht because of alcohol abuse in the past and he always says I’m remembering it wrong when im not
Love these videos ❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊😊
I am someone who battles daily to control my temper so when I explode and I get told to calm down it get's even worse and then when I do, I feel like such a shit for losing my cool.
I really enjoyed this! You both put out great videos I am so glad I found your channel last year!
A former friend of mine cut his stomach after his girlfriend dumped him for a couple he'd helped her move in with after she got kicked out of her parents' home. He was verbally and probably physically abusive, and needless to say, I eventually ended my association with the creep. That whole "I'll hurt myself if you leave me" B.S. is just that, and even when the creeps follow through, it's an act designed specifically to manipulate the other person through pity.
i love you guys
That was truthful, spot on, and frickin' awesome!
When I was 18 or 19 I worked at a fast food place, usually drive through. More than once I got asked if I was pregnant. My response, every time, "no, I'm just fat". That sounds harsh but I think that was my twisted way of protecting myself so that I didn't fall apart. And I know a huge part of me said that because it made them just as uncomfortable as they made me.
I've also had many people ask me for all my friends numbers. I've been messed with for my weight for most of life. I'm 41,extremely overweight, and live with chronic pain. I am still very affected my weight and by how other people view me based on my weight. I truly believe most of my problems would be solved by weight loss. I'm trying, but it's hard. And, when you're trying to get healthier and someone targets your weight, it hits extra hard. You being to question why you even try.
This world would be so much better if we treated each with a little kindness, respect, and grace.
Thank you for calling out red flag behavior and for sharing a better way to treat people 💖
Yes never ask a woman if she pregnant unless you are 110% sure she is
I had a buddy once who told his date "Calm down, Jesus! Are you on your period? You're acting like your mom! You're crazy!"
We found his teeth a week later, but we never found the rest of him.
Dunno why this one appeared on my feed today, but I'm glad it did. I'm guilty of the "I don't care" right along with Hailee. And I'll admit, I'm stubborn about this because I genuinely get aggravated when someone says "I don't care" as a means of distancing themselves from something they care about a lot- be honest with your feelings, put it out there. Fully appreciate Kendra's take on it that she is attempting an interaction. And that's fine and cute and a good relationship language technique for a lot of people. But in Hailee's (and mine) defense, actually meaning "I don't care" is a complete answer. The question asked for an opinion within clearly defined parameters- and a definitive answer was returned. If the point of the question was to stimulate interaction, then try bringing an open-ended question or suggesting an activity, or sharing something funny on the phone.
Also, and in written form, there is a chance this comes across more focus-shifting than intended, or looking to start a conflict where there is not one. I assure that is not the intent, just an attempt at introducing a point not previously mentioned. When Partner A is asking a close-ended opinion question, and Partner B returns a complete and genuine "I don't care" in response, Partner A becoming offended at that answer is being dismissive Partner B's thoughts and feelings. An alternative approach when dealing with a Partner B would be instead of soliciting an opinion in a closed question, would be to instead ask Partner B to create a food rank list and see if that gets them fixated on something. When they do, then Bam!- opinion for dinner is revealed.
And of course, if the other person doesn't genuinely mean "I don't care" then all bets are off. After several years of marriage, I've learned that it is indeed possible to bring the wrong thing home for dinner when the other person said IDC. Our work around is that I'll go anywhere and pick it up on my way home, but I will not do so without a complete order from the other person. One place, one order. No choices, options (unless when dealing with specials or limited supply), or imprecise language. I'm like DoorDash that way. Don't want mustard on your cheeseburger? Better say it. That either McNuggets or Filet-O-Fish is fine? Great, then you can go and tell them directly. But it cuts both ways, too. I better be prepared to wait half an hour for a pizza after an already long day. Or if that place closes early, then I'm taking that light while it's still orange. Not a fan of the place Partner A chose? Then I better find something on the menu that fits or be ready to make something for myself at home.