STORYTIME: I WAS FAT SHAMED AT THANKSGIVING DINNER BY TOXIC FAMILY *crying video* [LAMARR TOWNSEND]
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- Опубліковано 27 лис 2019
- Hi, I'm Lamarr Townsend Tarot. Fat shaming is not okay! In this video I talk about my storytime about how I was fat shamed by my uncle during Thanksgiving dinner. This story time also talks about my weight issues and body image issues. I talk about feeling ugly and depressed because you are obese or fat. Please excuse my crying in this video. ** For personal readings, please e-mail lamarr.townsend@gmail.com
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“I wasn’t the fattest person in the room, no shade to my family”! 🤣🤣 #capricornhumor love it 😊
Family can be so insensitive! They feel they have a MasterCard pass to say whatever they like it’s such an horrible feeling because it’s pain being inflicted from someone you love!
Well Said.....lived like this until I was 45! And moved away....o er half my life unloved because of mean, intentional hateful comments
I agree.
Whom ever said that will always be jealous of you .
I totally understand! Crying means that your alive! never be ashamed to express your tears, it's healthy!
Ur NOT FAT LAMARR! you re cute as a button,. I'm 62 and ha e been fat shamed by my Mom and my Oldest sister they totally destroyed my self esteem for years. Meditate continue to do You, sometimes folks just talk and say thoughtless words that cannot be taken back. You have to quickly shake this off and don't let it stick it took me until I was nearly 45 damn years old before I began to like myself DON'T DO THIS TO YOUR BEAUTIFUL 27 YEAR OLD SELF...YOUR LIFE AWAITS AND SO DOES TRUE LOVE..DONT MISS IT DWELLING ON THIS OKAY. 💕
This summer my aunt told me I needed to back away from the table. Mind you I've gained alot of weight but I had been trying to build my confidence. It really bothered me.
I wish I would’ve been there, they would’ve left crying 💯📍
Vanilla Pudding I wish I was there too !
Exactly
I used to have long hair until I cut my hair extremely short a year ago (I am a girl), it has now grown into a pixie cut/pixie styled bob. I was talking with a boy in my class awhile ago and I eventually asked him what he knew about me and stuff like that..then he said
"I remember that you USED to have pretty hair."
What little self confidence I had was destroyed, I then asked
"So are you saying that I was prettier with long hair?"
He nodded.
I’m so sorry Lamarr. That was rude, disrespectful, and hurtful. It’s okay to cry and let it out. Just know you are a beautiful human being inside AND out. I’m sorry. Continue to work on yourself. The best revenge is success!! I can totally relate because I’ve always been the chubby sister all my life and I have toxic family members as well. Coming from a half Asian family, fat shaming is the norm. It’s hurtful. Focus on how awesome you are, focus on the positive, and don’t let the negative people affect you. You got this!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Don't let people bothered you anyone who is cruel doesn't deserve your time. Don't worry about them i have toxic family members who don't want me to do well in life. Well tough, I'll do what I want. We all change even with age. Your not fat. Smile, stay happy. Us Capricorn have to stick together. Love your readings xxx
I haven't got any family.
Sometimes it's better that way.
Happy thanksgiving from London ❤️
Capricorns do have the tenancy to deprive themselves (not eating at thanksgiving)
Just keep your head up LT
Don't give up on working out your uncle has his own insecurities and what's the saying misery loves company. I love that you told your story and it's motivating me to eat better and stay away from haters and flex on them when you reach your goal.
I DIDN'T EVEN PRESS PLAY AND SEE THAT YOU'RE HURT!!! KNOW THIS!!!!!!!!!!!! 🗣️WE 🗣️LOVE🗣️ YOUR 🗣️ SPIRIT 🗣️AND 🗣️ WE'RE 🗣️ HERE 🗣️YOU❤️❤️
There are trolls out there who claim that fat shaming works, but unless you have ever suffered from weight problems you will never know how it hurts to have smug people do it to you.
I know how you feel Lamarr, my older brothers used to call me horrible fat names when I was a kid.
I’m so sorry Lamarr. You are a beautiful human being inside and out. I don’t speak to 90% of my family due to nonsense and abuse like this. Blood doesn’t equal family.
You are loved.
YOU. ARE. LOVED.
People, even our own family, are people.
Set those boundaries and know you are loved.
YOU ARE LOVED!
You’re definitely in my family’s thoughts this year.
MUCH LOVE LAMARR!
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I had a couple family members fat shame me when I was young. It definitely took its toll on my self esteem. Hang in there; you’re so worthy of much more and the best of life. If you need to stay away from him to protect yourself, no harm in doing that... I did ❤️❤️❤️
We love you Lamarr!❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your story. It breaks my heart to see you cry. Sending you so much peace, love, and light. ❣️❣️❣️
Lamar, I know how you feel I was fat shamed by my “mom” when I was a child she made fun of me whenever I ate, she’s a evil toxic woman till this day, we really don’t have a relationship, I want to keep it that way to, & your uncle may be a narcissist, no boundaries & they love hurting others emotionally
Love how vulnerable you are although you felt hurt. I’m glad you didn’t invalidate your feelings. You’re glowing and living your best life. You’re constantly improving yourself inside and out, that is more then enough so keep doin you sexy boo! ♥️💋 I have body issues myself and learning to love every part of me at every stage it’s at, its hard but I’m right there w you. we can motivate each other whoop!
Aww Lamarr you have such a beautiful soul and I know what it's like to experience fat-shaming from my family and it still affects me sometimes today but it makes us stronger, as a cap myself it's so easy to act like it doesn't get to you yet it is sometimes the worst feeling ever and honestly when I read the title I was already so concerned since your videos have helped me out so much this past year and I just want you to know you're amazing and you always will be regardless and we will all work through it together 🧡🧡🧡
Exactly why I don't like family get togethers because people are too negative... Hell, I'd rather be drunk 😂
Hey Love! I had to watch this video a few times. Thank you for sharing your feelings! They're not right or wrong, they just are! I'm glad you had the courage and strength to release tour feelings in a healthy way! Welcome to the process! You're aware and you're taking action! It's not just the physical body, it's also the mental, emotional and spiritual bodies that need healing! Beauty is not skin deep! Keep fighting the good fight! Be gentle and kind to yourself! Go back and check out some of your old videos! You're a work in progress! I'm sorry your Uncle is unaware of how you feel, how could he, you didn't tell him! Of course time and place inappropriate! You allowed him to step over your personal boundries! Your body your business! You shamed yourself! Your family gave you food to comfort you and this is an old deep rooted destructive self sabotaging behavior! I suggest you look beyond the feelings and deep into your psyche! You may have lost this battle but the war is not over! Arm yourself for these battles! You are not alone! Perhaps it is time to seek professional help if you want it! It's a lifestyle change! Stay true to yourself! You will find your way! God bless you Lamarr! Prayers for Love, Peace and True Happiness! It is within you!
Lamar don't let negativity bring you down. And I understand how you feel. Go ahead and cry let it out. I know we capricorns don't like to cry in front of people. But let it out. And YOU'RE NOT FAT!
I have family members like that, when I was in my early 20s I had a cousin that would do that to me. The irony is when he was young he was fat and I was skinny. I started completely acting like he didn't exist and he straightened out. We're all beautifully and uniquely made, you look great just the way you are💞💞💞.
You are a stunning man. I am crying because you didn't eat. I am so sorry he ruined your day. I always feel fat and feel like I am not that fat either, like 15 pounds or so.... I haven't been what I call skinny in over 10 years and it was incredibly difficult to reach and I could not maintain it. As much as I personally feel it is a petty thing to worried about it is still at the top of my list because it affects how I look at my clothes and how I feel everyday. I don't have to tell you Lamar you know you're worth and it has absolutely nothing to do with your size. You are a beautiful man and are loved & looked up to by strangers like me.
I had to pause the video at 13 seconds , and I can just TELL by your energy and body language that you’re hurt . I love you && you have a collective that also cares and loves you . As Capricorn’s we don’t take criticism lightly especially when it comes to our body . I’ve dealt with my weight all my life . As long as you’re shining bright like the diamond you are , don’t pay NO mind to the toxicity .. I’d just grab a donut and smile and laugh and be unbothered ! You are great , you are divine , you are compassion , you are strength, you are respect , you are deserving and you are loving ✨ Vibrate Higher ⭐️
And he owes you an apology, ASAP! in my Tokyo Tony voice! But karma works fast that Pisces got in his butt I’m a Pisces to & we go off really bad 😑
Hurt people...hurt people...this says a lot about his character and NOTHING about YOUR character. Stay positive!! 💞💜💞💜
I'm sorry you went thru that, I can totally relate because you just explained my entire existence.. older family members especially in our community feel like they can say anything and laugh it off, I'm sure his intent wasnt to hurt you but unless he's had your struggle he wouldn't understand.. hope things turn for you I dont know why we caps are having such a hard time right now but depression has been kicking my ass too, you're not alone hunny it will get better later ❤
Lamar you are cool and not fat don’t be ashamed being overweight is normal it can happen to anyone know your beauty and don’t let anyone take it
Lamarr, I’m so sorry you experienced this. Especially during the holidays & with family.
I would like to ask you to be kind to yourself. Be kind to your body. Respect it even though someone else has just disrespected it. It’s your body & you know it way better than anyone else. Only u know the struggles you two have had together. It was heartbreaking to hear your night was ruined & you didn’t get to enjoy your meal. I can understand how it can be difficult to eat after something like that but please don’t forget to nourish your body. Respect & nourish it when its hungry. It’s not your body’s fault so don't neglect it. Don't punish yourself for someone's lack of boundaries. Treat your body with love. It’s what keeps you alive.
If you have fitness goals you're having trouble reaching it might be helpful to work with a trainer. A trainer would be able to customize a workout routine specially for you. Fitness can be very confusing as there's science involved. A trainers guidance might be what you're missing at the gym.
Lastly, remember what matters most is that you’re healthy. As long as your health tests indicate all your levels are normal then you're healthy regardless of what your body looks like. Health comes in many shapes & sizes. Looks can be deceiving. You might look at a thin person & think they're healthy yet their doc might be telling them they're unhealthy & vice-versa. Strive for health Lamarr that always comes first. You come first. 💕
Eat Lamarr!! Trust me do NOT skip meals as that is counterintuitive when it comes to weight loss 😘
No..its ok to cry you are releasing stress. It's not good to hold things in and you are not fat. You know people like your uncle dont like them selves when they look at them selves in the mirror.So to make themselves feel big they attempt to tear someone else down. Because you came in happy in a good mood. To me it sounds like he didn't. He'll reap what he said.Never let anyone steal your joy.
Oof the worst feeling is doing so much to improve yourself then someone tells you how bad you are doing 😂😶
Awwe plz don't cry. You're so amazing❤! I know the struggle with weight. My aunt tried to played me this Thanksgiving in front of everyone also.
My mom and my friends always have said mean things about me about my weight too. They are so hurtful, they joke a lot sometimes, but its hard to see the love. It tears me down and i get it i would think all day about it and you look amazing Lamarr i hope your okay.
This was so vulnerable and true. You are good enough love💝
Omg your such a great human being and deserve the best like your the sweetest don’t let anyone ruin your mood
Something about YOU”, your Uncle is intrigued by. People don’t want to be around people that they don’t necessarily like. So it’s something about you that he likes... he just doesn’t know how to express it in a positive way.
Hope your doing ok Lamar
I'll tell you what to do on the food tip.. Get you a meat chicken steak lambchops putit in the oven some rice and mixed vegetables and they got the kind you can pop in the microwave and they got the rice on the side you can make on the stove .. because you cannot not eat all day boy u gone pass out.. I got 2 kids I know about eating food is energy health is wealth
Don’t let your uncle stop your goal and your journey on loosing weight ❤️
I know exactly how you feel n I’m a Capricorn too but my family or outsiders always telling me “when you going gain some weight “ in that makes me mad asf cause it be the females that’s over weight saying that to me in tbh I really don’t want to gain weight but i Hear it all the time so it makes me wanna gain weight now I’m on a gain weight journey.. so ppl can stop telling me I need to gain.. don’t get me wrong I love my body no matter what size I am but I’m very sensitive so when ppl tell me that it brings my mood all the way down...
Dont fall for the okie doke!! I was teased about the same thing my entire life by others. Now, at 41 years old, I weigh 125 lbs and look great! And they are trying to lose weight. It's just a set up
He was just being a hater; the fact that he made you feel like this and now you are thinking this is just bringing tears to my eyes
I truly feel your pain. Maybe it will help in seeing a counselor that can help you with those body issues. No, I don't believe your that overweight. Try and eat small meals throughout the day. Don't eat just one late at night. No breads or starches. Lots of veggies.you probably know all this. People who are closest to you can actually be more harmful even thought they love you and mean well.
I've been going through the same problem in my family. My Aunt had been fat shaming me since I was a child and she still does it today. I told her to quit doing that and she still does it. She's a horrible person
Continue Lamar, that was a distraction, to test your will. Keep going, get your uncle's voice out of your head! did your uncle notice that you didn't eat?
Yes, I'm assuming he did notice that I didn't eat and he noticed when I would reject other family member's offers to eat.
OMG. I was fat-shamed when I was younger too. It was no fun. I was bullied as well for my name as you see here, which rhymes with.... I'm sure you know what. But that sucks. The way I talked or spoke as well as my voice was criticized. Well this was in my primary school. People just love to poke fun at me.
But guess what, it makes us stronger and I take it as a badge of honor. I'm a Gemini with Scorpio rising and Saturn in Gemini as well as Chiron in Capricorn. Saturn in the 8th house. Tough placements in my chart, I guess.
Stay strong, Mr. Lamarr Townsend. There are a lot more people that love you than hate you. Take heart and recover well. Thank you. ❤️❤️❤️✌🏻✌🏻✌🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
And p.s I would’ve made my food To-Go but still stayed at my Aunts. Lol 😝 ♥️
I'm 39 still get fat shamed by my mother and grandmother also other family member always fat shamed me. Today was fat shamed by grandmother today. My grandmother and mom like to hit around by talking about weight how it not heathy. I already know they was talking about me. I feel low and down. I have to sketch in my sketchbook to get my mind off of it.
I missed the live xx The point is that your loved ones should never shame on you for anything, whether you are skinny or fat as fuck it dont matter. Sometimes its acceptable for family to call you out of concern for your well being and health but it should be done respectfully and from a loving place other wise nah .
I got fat in my pregnancy and my alcoholic birth mother (i was put in foster care as a baby so we dont have a bond) said i was fat outloud in front of everyone and I was so embarrassed, then she tried to fat shame my little neice and I snapped on her she had to backdown. Sometimes 🙄fam🙄 get too comfortable and have no boundaries at all not treating you like the grown adult that you are.
I try to just be forgiving and accept that some people are set in their ways
Don't worry love. We love you and think your absolutely beautiful inside and out. 💖
You see. My other horoscope lady told me it was goin ggv be some ish. This could have been me. The Lord be straight up telling me what to do.
Im so sorry boo!!
Good night Lamarr. First of all, when I first came across your channel, I thought you were attractive and my mind wandered a bit, then I found out you're gay, I was crushed. My next point is I can identify with you. I've struggled with bad skin for most of my life because my skin is very sensitive. I got teased at school, was called horrible names, I was shunned by almost all my classmates for almost a year....
My skin is still not perfect but I use natural products and I no longer give a shit what people think. Lamarr, you can do the same. Keep up with your gym, keep loving yourself, eat healthier; get some greens, veggies, fish etc, lots of water etc, pray about it. As long as you're in great health, that is all that matters.
Last but not least, I tried really hard not to drool when you stood up in your video...
I wanna give u big hug!! You’re perfect don’t let anyone bring you down babe
I deal with being fat shamed I totally understand , it's sad to see other people going through it too you don't look fat you have a good structure and figure
I know this feeling being bullied by family
Aaawww Lamar, I'm sorry to hear this...some ppl are such asshats. I also don't like to cry but I had to today....so I wouldn't knock out a family member lol. Crying helps to release things.
Don't give up.
That's horrible I would of went the fawk off I'm a fellow Capricorn I hate bullying
I don't like the holidays I'm still dealing with C-PTSD as an Adoptee my birthday is after Christmas it's going to be a rough three months
yea they need to mind there business. Unless they trying to workout wit u. to motivate u in someway. where they putting in work wit u. They need to mind there business. Ppl just don't know how to bond with ppl appropriately.
I’m 9 and 8m fat shamed by my family
I don't go to family house for Thanksgiving. I stay home and cook with my kids. My family is a bunch of haters.
I'm sorry they did dat to u...
Hi Lamarr, 1st let me say that as a pleasently plump Cap Sun girl, I can feel ur pain. It's ok 2 😭 although I know that we Cappies don't like PDA; some⏰ that's part of our healing process. Let me guess that ur uncle is a Sag Sun which are known 4 this type of behavior (my mom was a Sag sun & I ❤ her 2 pieces but...). Some⏰ they say stuff out of nowhere & u b like what, but I honestly don't believe that he meant 2 cause u any heartache. I do think that u may need 2 let him know how this made u feel. I'm sorry that u had 2 go thru this, but I think that u have helped others not feel alone by sharing this with us. Lastly ur family seems 2 know u well enough 2 make sure that u didn't completely miss out on Thanksgiving by making sure that u took 🏠 plenty of food. Now that's ❤. Peace & blessings to u Lamarr.
Fat Shaming on Thanksgiving?
Not KEWL !
So sorry.
Keep your spirits up and always stay strong
PS
You are NOT fat !
There's fat and skinny people in thos world so dont worry Lamar and for Christmas stuff your face thats what the holidays is for than you can go to the gym if you like
🦋💙
Your not fat your beautiful
You have a beautiful Hart and always happy God don't like ugly what matters God loves you
You are beautiful, no matter the body love you.
❤️
🥺😳😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 omg
In my experience the people who fat shame you are the same ones who will try to sabotage your weight loss journey.
I'm also very sensitive about my weight and am highly triggered by any comments about it. When you mentioned you don't eat much I took that as evidence of a problematic relationahip with food. Peole don't realise how dangerous fat shaming is. I try not to mention weight around people at all for this reason.
Omg Why is he doing that. He is rude to u. I be like o no im sick. I be Lie n when ppl do that uninvited stuff.
I don't like cry ne either boo . but let it out.
You’re not even like an unhealthy weight what the heck was their problem??!! People are a bunch of jerks nowadays..
Karma
Lose the weight and get your revenge! Fasting
Not good at all
Youre too sensitive
u think kids should drink and smoke weed to cope?