She is wrong. The guy is right. The porn is used when the addict doesn't have an actual woman to engage with. It does create heavy duty physical withdrawal when the addict in an affair no longer has access. But the degree to which one becomes addicted will depend on the particular level of attraction to the woman. I believe the addict is inclined to behave this way because early development was neglected. Sex addicts start very young , around highschool and it becomes habit because it a big rush they discover, which replaces other shortcomings, ie non existent social relationships, low self esteem etc..
I think they were both right. For some people large files don’t tule their life, or lead to problems, while for others they keep going for more, and strangers etc.
Age 28 here. Initially started off viewing porn. Almost 14 years into compulsive porn habit. 5 years ago i started paying for sex. Wasted $25,000. Got nothing out of it. In therapy, working with young kids, been clean 5 months now and im already able to see so many blessings. I saved $8,000, connected with my family on a deeper level, just applied at Cal State East Bay for Masters program in clinical psychology. Remember one thing, when a man has no purpose in life, he'll distract himself with pleasure. I'm 30, still have my job that I love, family, hobbies. I just have to.stay consistent and remind myself of the consequences i faced all these years.
Everyones love langue is subjective you can be addicted to intimacy but visually through porn doesn’t hit the same high notes or any high notes at all so I can’t fully agree @kristinepalladino
Most sex addicts if not all do have issues with Intimacy. That guy knows what he's talking about, the woman is clueless. Not all sex addicts are porn addicts. Although most male sex addicts porn is a big part it. Because sex is easier for women more female sex addicts are having actual sex. Sex addiction is an umbrella term, it can mean different things such as compulsive masturbation/fantasy, watching porn, high risk sex. But all in all it's an Intimacy disorder, and sex is used as a coping mechanism.
Why do there are more women than men perform actual sex? Ehy is it easier for women. It should be easier for men as they are the ones who make the initiative.
Why even have the talk if they're not going to be fucking honest about it because if you're not honest you're never going to get better or find answers that may lead to a better way of treating it clinically and residentially
Love what was shared by Dr. Weiss. The woman definitely didn't know what she was talking about. I have been married and divorced to a sex addict. IT IS AN ADDICTION, due to unresolved pain.
No. He acknowledges that both men and women can be sex addicts. Go through his channel. The reason why he was focussed sex addiction as it pertains to men is because the husband in that couple being discussed is the sex addict, not the wife.
It's sad how this is so focused on the man being the sex addict. Women can be sex addicts just as easily. It looks like it's trying to keep women as the victims, so boring.
Listening comprehension isn't your best skill now, is it? Dr. Doug acknowledged that both men and women can be sex addicts. The reason why this interview focussed on that particular man and his wife in the audience is because that man was the sex addict and not his wife.
There is a different between people who have very high libidos, which means you love sex and talking about sex and finding newer or kinkier ways to get off, but can still have normal loving relationships and go to work and have friends and family vs. someone who only thinks about sex and is so obsessed that it affects their lives.
I have a boyfriend and he is far from me, I always curious about his sexual life and behavior, yes of course he has a normal life...but most of the time he is bored when I don't like to talk about sex....and he got many excuses
@@indayannavlog5159 unfortunately the hook up culture tricks men and women into being sex addicts...sex addict appear confident...know the right things to say ..will manipulate to get sex...it's very similar to a drug addict
I am totally against AI. Artificial insemination isn't real, it's artificial. Also thumtimes a frigid woman needs thawed, you should thee what I thaw!😮 Men of Culture, do not have a bag of cheats before watching porn😂
Who? Debra? Haha the look she gives at 3:20 She definitely watches a lot of porn and enjoys it, but doesn't have any detrimental compulsions. Which is precisely her point...she was just too shy to admit she a freak on national tv 😉
Obviously she's the problem. Not him. Notice her attitude and body language and face expression. Thinking she's better than him. I don't know why she was invited to Katie's show. Great Job on the Man keeping his cool and calm
The chick who calls herself a doctor is WRONG and should be dealt with! She's taking her over the top liasez faire attitude and toward a legitimate problem and is sickening and disgusting!
I agree with the guy because I was sexually abused and I struggle with sex addiction and he’s right it may effect individuals differently but the problem is the same in a hyper sexual society with porn, sex everywhere that continues the sexual behavior already attached to that person it feeds the addiction
Nah! She understands that 1 plus 1 is not 2. People who are research inclined are very careful not to toe the line of generalization. There are many questions without answers and not a straightforward thing.
I didn't honestly believe my name was Asshole but I'm trying to make it lighter in the lives of all of us suffering from abuse it doesn't matter if you were abused physically, sexually, verbally or emotionally it all fucking sucks and fucks us all up in later in life but we don't have to give ourselves any fucking pity party either, stay strong you men and women out there. I had horse whips taking to my back and decked in the face if I looked at my father wrong and he had a volatile temper and strong as a bull, I remember him picking me up by my lower leg and with just one hand and his leather belt in his other hand and beating my ass and I couldn't sit down for at least a day or two without a pillow but I had enough when I turned 15 I was strong as hell with a temper as bad or probably worse because of the flashbacks of being beaten so badly. Please never tell yourself you deserved it because I use to think that until I was in my 20's and I thought for years about it and I didn't deserve a damn punch to the face while driving 70 miles an hour because I wouldn't call his new girlfriend mom. I should have jerked the wheel so it caused the brand new truck to turn sideways and roll it side over side. That could have taught his ass a lesson but if I had to deal with his death for life knowing that I'm the only person that knows that I purposely rolled the truck out of anger towards my father and I could have killed say an entire family in another vehicle, ong I would kill myself before having to deal with the fact I killed another family because my dad pissed me off. Not a chance in hell would you ever be the same for the rest of your life every single day thinking about say 4 people lives were taken because you couldn't keep your shit together. This is all hypothetically speaking I wanted to make that clear. I was decked WHILE driving 70 miles an hour by my father though.
Doug Wiese is a Christian. I admire a man he was open to God to find answers for his addiction. Now he wants to help others find help. This woman is a secular analyst. So there's quite a difference! Usually men are the ones that are voyeurs and self-centered. When a man finds the light you should listen to him
Maybe your were and you just disassociated or are in denial. I told myself for years I wasn't, but then told my therapists some details which I labeled as "not sexual abuse". He's like, "that's definitionally sexual abuse".
@@ArmOr_of_the_Alpha_and_Omega Well I’m sorry your therapist broke the news to you but unless I say otherwise, I don’t need you telling me I’m in denial.
When my wife shuts me off I sleep on the front lawn in a tent even in winter for all to see. It's very embarrassing for her and she doesn't know what to do. I'm not lonely anymore, neighborhood wives come around when their husband's are on business trips and some flat out tell me their husband's encourage the visits.
Learn to 'see' the truth about the addiction. Vipassana meditation (awareness of the reality as it is) will definitely help. 'The truth will set you free'.....& I say that from experience!
My best friend is a extreme sex addict. He flew a girl from Russia he met online to Vegas so he could have sex with her. He’s been kicked off most dating apps. He’s spends hours a day on Facebook dating trying to get dates. I hardly see him anymore because he’s always busy chasing tang. He doesn’t think he has a problem. Not sure what to do???
Wholeheartedly disagree. He seems to only believe men can be sex addicts and only speaks in terms of gender and marriage. I don't think he is qualified to help a queer or single person. He also talks over her every time she tries to say something, and accused of her being too liberal to have a normal perspective. He's probably a great therapist for straight couples giving marriage counseling, which likely appeals to most people watching this, we need to stop pretending that "straight men make up most of the world."
It’s silly. No one can really solve other people’s addiction or problem. The medical system is not a cure all place to get help. Humanity is complex. I used to feel or think I was a sex addict and maybe I was. But nobody can help me except figure it out by myself and took years. Now I just tell myself to have mindful sex and it’s cool.
You may be an exception; Many need serious help with this problem. It’s like saying I used to overeat but now I don’t and it’s cool. Well, it’s different for everyone; depends on the hurt you’re trying to numb out from.
As myself being a female ! the female doctor has definitely not been in this place . She’s putting her diagnosis off of books rather than facts and life experiences and what somebody has been through and I’m a female and I completely agree with the gentleman in this conversation her standpoint means nothing to me. That’s a typical kind of thing a therapist would say, but unless you’ve been in that situation I’m not gonna listen to you
Everything needs a label in 2015. Having a high libido = being a sex addict. I think I'm just very healthy and everyone else has problems with their libido
getoffmypage harming myself and hating myself for it has NOTHING WHATSOEVER TO DO with libido, but definitely the world at large has very little idea of what sex addiction really is. For example a guy who is single and spending every penny he has on prostitutes, or even married and having lots of great sex with his wife and still spending thousands on prostitution
Dr. Herbanick, the female psychologist really makes an effort to understand the challenges faced by each client. It’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. 👍🏻 The male psychologist thinks he knows all the answers. 👎🏻
Sex is sacred. It creates life. When not held in the highest regard such as life, it is abuse. Abuse always harms. It ultimately destroys. When sex is not sacred, nothing can be sacred. If nothing is sacred, there is no life. Only death.
She sounds like a sex addict. This kind of crap that normalizes bondage is the worst thing for our society. We need people who are not afraid to call a spade a spade. It’s not oppressive to say something is harmful or destructive.
Oh, these professionals speak like they are the ultimate in knowledge. She's a pain in the ass....on the other hand the guy is spot-on. He knows, he's been through it. More kudos to him...he's honest in his response...she's academic in hers.
yep...but that might be the only thing that she said that was correct... but i think it may need clarification...if you are married, and you watch porn WITH YOUR WIFE..there's a good chance that you may not be a sex addict.... if you're married and watch porn BY YOUSELF a lot, and she doesn't know about it.... well then........
i agree to some level with you. where my issue is is i love watching women nut. i find the penetration and cock sucking and muff licking and all that other shit boring as fuck, but when a hot chick has her nut, dam, now thats worth watching whether its in person or in porn. nothing more beautiful than watching a chick nut, nothing
I was also an addict in my youth but when I got married my wife weaned me of it cold turkey if you will, before marriage I was a magnet to nymphs I just kept hooking up with them which is a bad combination
😡 bro blue dress is ticking me off she's trying to justify the problem while the guy is finding the root to the problem i swear women think they know everything
pretty informative. It should not be debatable that people can be addicted to sex. Especially when people get sexually abused as children. That can actually ruin a person and create all sorts of odd reactions. Pornography should not exist. But it does. I find being guided by Phillipians 4:8 is the best bet with entertainment
I don't know if my parents will let me do this. It sounds tempting. I don't know if the Catholics approve of this. I don't know if the VA allows veterans to do this. I was interested and tried this before. I try to do what I am supposed to. I follow the rules. I want my parents to have fun too. This was the center of my world. I don't want a to go to rehab lose my benefits get garnishments have my parents divorced get arrested have a squatter get married have my toilet broken have my reputation or career ruined etc.
There is medication if you are one. Reduces your crave. There is also pupbox training and dog daddy who teaches control. I am sure their training works on people.
She is lady she has different chemical hormones like estrogen and guy is full with testosterone levels it's like seeing common river from different shores !!! Porn leads to mastrubation and mastrubation leads to multiple sex partners it leads to craving for sex badly it's addiction addiction addiction Stop it by reversing and prevention of cycle and spirituality and yog , breathing techniques,sports ,enganging in bussy schedule,Pranayam also helps ,keep attitude positive And trust your self and make deliberately vigerous effects read article and useful stuff try and replace theropy techniques until one with sures and fits you !!! Still it's journey of every other sex addict he has to cope with it !!! Be positive and effertfull!!!!
That is a great question. One of the primary issues with the sexual "addiction" treatment field is that they sloppily quantify what qualifies as addiction. This field is primarily populated by unqualified and unlicensed "counselors," often delivering a made up treatment program covertly guided by judeo-christian values of shame and conformity rather than healing and inquiry.
Lmfao these comments are comedy. I believed in sex addiction too at one point. If youre in 12 step and you find growth in it, thats awesome. I aint knocking it. The way yawl coming at the only clinical specialist on stage though is sad and laughable. First of all, my mans couldn't even let home girl speak. I'm glad she had the right spirit to keep talking and not let bozo fully cut her off. Formulate some educated thoughts. Clearly you're all here in the comment section becauae you're on youtube trying to figure out if you're actually a sex addict. That's your business, but it only hurts you if you keep a closed heart and mind.
No, the entire time SHE cut in every time the guy was talking. She underminded his most of his statements. This was during the beginning stages of fourth wave feminism. She LITERALLY says that if a guy has a huge folder if porn on his computer it's not a problem... I've been a sex addict and porn addict for years... It's a problem. She was rude and only put on there too undermine the guy. Fuck "home girl".
She is trying to be research and data driven while carefully staying away from generalizations. He is taking a very old school approach and ridiculous excuse driven stand. Give me a break. Actual sex addicts should be insulted.
@Jason Calcanis yup. You have me all figured out with your thorough observation and conclusion based on my one comment. 😂 My post was not gender focused....it could have been 2 guys and I would have felt the same way. Relax.
@Jason Calcanis You said the emoji showed my immaturity....yet you’re the one insulting someone on UA-cam you don’t know....I’m guessing you think that’s mature behavior? You will probably not understand this either so I’m moving on. ✌🏼
We live in a world where we are so distracted from our inner pain it's pretty easy to get addicted to anything.
This is 10years old now. Shes absolutely wrong. Many people are now opening up about Sex Addiction.
She is wrong. The guy is right. The porn is used when the addict doesn't have an actual woman to engage with. It does create heavy duty physical withdrawal when the addict in an affair no longer has access. But the degree to which one becomes addicted will depend on the particular level of attraction to the woman. I believe the addict is inclined to behave this way because early development was neglected. Sex addicts start very young , around highschool and it becomes habit because it a big rush they discover, which replaces other shortcomings, ie non existent social relationships, low self esteem etc..
Not just an issue with men
I think they were both right. For some people large files don’t tule their life, or lead to problems, while for others they keep going for more, and strangers etc.
My 16 year old learner told me today she is addicted to sex. I'm still digesting this while thing.
I agree with what Doug said. People are cut off emotionally at the place they were abused
It's not a problem that she has a different opinion than he has but it's not good to attack him constantly.
She is definitely attacking him. What is that about?
@@lisahobbs6413feminism. For most women its not about truth, but image.
Men of Culture, do not eat a bag of cheats before watching porn. Now you know.😮
She wants to disagree with everything and he is speaking mainly from a males point of view how would she know about that
Age 28 here. Initially started off viewing porn. Almost 14 years into compulsive porn habit. 5 years ago i started paying for sex. Wasted $25,000. Got nothing out of it.
In therapy, working with young kids, been clean 5 months now and im already able to see so many blessings. I saved $8,000, connected with my family on a deeper level, just applied at Cal State East Bay for Masters program in clinical psychology.
Remember one thing, when a man has no purpose in life, he'll distract himself with pleasure.
I'm 30, still have my job that I love, family, hobbies. I just have to.stay consistent and remind myself of the consequences i faced all these years.
As a recovering addict he is spot on and she’s madly in denial
Everyones love langue is subjective you can be addicted to intimacy but visually through porn doesn’t hit the same high notes or any high notes at all so I can’t fully agree @kristinepalladino
Yea idk what’s her problem. She seems a little sick, but can’t be honest because of secrets
Absolutely, dude's spitting facts and she knows it yet denies it.
What if you don't want to recovery though
I love it
Most sex addicts if not all do have issues with Intimacy. That guy knows what he's talking about, the woman is clueless.
Not all sex addicts are porn addicts. Although most male sex addicts porn is a big part it. Because sex is easier for women more female sex addicts are having actual sex. Sex addiction is an umbrella term, it can mean different things such as compulsive masturbation/fantasy, watching porn, high risk sex. But all in all it's an Intimacy disorder, and sex is used as a coping mechanism.
Thumtimes a frigid woman needs to that out. You should thee what I thawed!😮
Why do there are more women than men perform actual sex? Ehy is it easier for women. It should be easier for men as they are the ones who make the initiative.
The female doctor seems to be downplaying the problem and making excuses.
she seems like she actually understands the spectrum of addiction and doesn't generalize like he does
whats the problem? a persons libido is their own, who are you to tell them otherwise? ("you" means general society")
I disagree. They have to show both sides of sex addiction/indulgence. He’s sex negative and she is sex positive.
@@vscollectorshe is the problem there is no way a huge porn collection on a computer is normal no way
Notice how when the subject about childhood abuse came up the chick in the blue dress had no response and Katie never asked her opion in it...
Why even have the talk if they're not going to be fucking honest about it because if you're not honest you're never going to get better or find answers that may lead to a better way of treating it clinically and residentially
Thumtimes a frigid woman needs thawed out. You should thee what I thawed!😮
Love what was shared by Dr. Weiss. The woman definitely didn't know what she was talking about.
I have been married and divorced to a sex addict.
IT IS AN ADDICTION, due to unresolved pain.
100%…
Thumtimes a frigid woman needs to thaw out. You should thee what I thaw😮
“The woman” has a PhD and is offering nuanced takes regarding hypersexuality. Not all sex addicts are middle aged men
The guy is right...Its an addiction.I know
Same
The male doctor is sloppy with language and keeps assuming the “addict” is male
Good observation. I noticed the same thing. It discredits him a bit.
It doesn’t it is just personal to him .
No. He acknowledges that both men and women can be sex addicts. Go through his channel. The reason why he was focussed sex addiction as it pertains to men is because the husband in that couple being discussed is the sex addict, not the wife.
It's sad how this is so focused on the man being the sex addict. Women can be sex addicts just as easily. It looks like it's trying to keep women as the victims, so boring.
Listening comprehension isn't your best skill now, is it? Dr. Doug acknowledged that both men and women can be sex addicts. The reason why this interview focussed on that particular man and his wife in the audience is because that man was the sex addict and not his wife.
Sounds like this female "expert" looks at porn and thereby minimizes its impact
Yes, I was thinking the same thing. Perhaps the lady doctor is in denial about her own porn addiction?
The bitch in blue does not have a clue what she is talking about and is pretending she does. She is like a polititian
That’s the impression I was getting!
There is a different between people who have very high libidos, which means you love sex and talking about sex and finding newer or kinkier ways to get off, but can still have normal loving relationships and go to work and have friends and family vs. someone who only thinks about sex and is so obsessed that it affects their lives.
I have a boyfriend and he is far from me, I always curious about his sexual life and behavior, yes of course he has a normal life...but most of the time he is bored when I don't like to talk about sex....and he got many excuses
@@indayannavlog5159 unfortunately the hook up culture tricks men and women into being sex addicts...sex addict appear confident...know the right things to say ..will manipulate to get sex...it's very similar to a drug addict
Thumtimes a frigid woman needs to thaw out. Did you thee what I thaw?
@indayannavlog5159 you're screwed, not in a good way.
It's been said a million times : Sex, wine, beer, painkillers, pot are "DRUGS"
Wow, these people have no idea what the hell they're talking about.
This lady is wrong!!! The guy is right
ADAMOLOGY I agree 💯
I disagree
I am agree with you
I know I am addicted af and I don't think I'm alone!
We're all in this together my G
Your not bro.
@@shylock5477 I guess we are. Hehe😜
@jazzyj2182it’s not just 1 devil but plenty
Men of Culture, do not eat a bag of cheats then go watch porn😮
Sounds like she is in denial....because the dude is describing her husband or boyfriend!
Right!
Exactly what I was thinking
Yeah I noticed that 😂
shes wrong all the way
He make me feel like am an addict, and she make me feel like am not..😂😂😂😂😂
She doesn’t know anything don’t listen to her lol
If you question whether you're an addict, then you are
For the majority of people, porn is like a bag of potato chips (can’t eat only one) so for majority of people, is better to stay totally away from it.
Men of Culture, do not eat a bag of cheats then go watch porn.😮
True. Cold turkey I stopped porn. But massage and escort addiction exploded. Before that It was gambling. Hard to cut.
man are direct , to the point and easy to understand. I didn’t understood what she is talking about.
So grateful for Dr. Weiss and his staff.
Had one too many pregnancy scares, now I’m here
What about STD's. Did you catch any?
@@michaelmcmillan1425 I also had STD scares, thankfully I didn’t contract any.
I'm 2 months preggy, idk who the father is coz definitely not my boyfriend's
I am totally against AI. Artificial insemination isn't real, it's artificial. Also thumtimes a frigid woman needs thawed, you should thee what I thaw!😮 Men of Culture, do not have a bag of cheats before watching porn😂
I think I'd rather get pregnant than aids tbh
I think the lady is addicted she just won’t admit it
Who? Debra? Haha the look she gives at 3:20 She definitely watches a lot of porn and enjoys it, but doesn't have any detrimental compulsions. Which is precisely her point...she was just too shy to admit she a freak on national tv 😉
Obviously she's the problem. Not him. Notice her attitude and body language and face expression. Thinking she's better than him. I don't know why she was invited to Katie's show. Great Job on the Man keeping his cool and calm
I saw the opposite the guy is arrogant and over talking her also he is one sided in his approach and not correct
The chick who calls herself a doctor is WRONG and should be dealt with! She's taking her over the top liasez faire attitude and toward a legitimate problem and is sickening and disgusting!
Lady in blue has a nasty attitude and is way wrong.
I agree with the guy because I was sexually abused and I struggle with sex addiction and he’s right it may effect individuals differently but the problem is the same in a hyper sexual society with porn, sex everywhere that continues the sexual behavior already attached to that person it feeds the addiction
I lost my friend to this when i basically did something with his ex....it wasnt worth the 5 years i threw away
Has happened to many of us in sex addiction.
Ive learned to just be asexual. Everyone gets mad at people for sex. Almost no matter what
That PhD she got must've been out of a cereal box
Nah! She understands that 1 plus 1 is not 2. People who are research inclined are very careful not to toe the line of generalization. There are many questions without answers and not a straightforward thing.
I think she's the sex addict in fucking denial
I was never abused sexually and my heart goes out to all of you that were, sincerely.
I on the other hand was abused verbally, emotionally and physically every damn day of childhood I thought my name was Asshole at 12 years old
I didn't honestly believe my name was Asshole but I'm trying to make it lighter in the lives of all of us suffering from abuse it doesn't matter if you were abused physically, sexually, verbally or emotionally it all fucking sucks and fucks us all up in later in life but we don't have to give ourselves any fucking pity party either, stay strong you men and women out there. I had horse whips taking to my back and decked in the face if I looked at my father wrong and he had a volatile temper and strong as a bull, I remember him picking me up by my lower leg and with just one hand and his leather belt in his other hand and beating my ass and I couldn't sit down for at least a day or two without a pillow but I had enough when I turned 15 I was strong as hell with a temper as bad or probably worse because of the flashbacks of being beaten so badly. Please never tell yourself you deserved it because I use to think that until I was in my 20's and I thought for years about it and I didn't deserve a damn punch to the face while driving 70 miles an hour because I wouldn't call his new girlfriend mom. I should have jerked the wheel so it caused the brand new truck to turn sideways and roll it side over side. That could have taught his ass a lesson but if I had to deal with his death for life knowing that I'm the only person that knows that I purposely rolled the truck out of anger towards my father and I could have killed say an entire family in another vehicle, ong I would kill myself before having to deal with the fact I killed another family because my dad pissed me off. Not a chance in hell would you ever be the same for the rest of your life every single day thinking about say 4 people lives were taken because you couldn't keep your shit together. This is all hypothetically speaking I wanted to make that clear. I was decked WHILE driving 70 miles an hour by my father though.
I feel like she's just disagreeing just because she can
The problem with these doctors they only see physical perspectives but its also spiritual or demonic.
Psalm 51 stfu
"The whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one." according to 1 John 5:19 Satanic forces rule the world.
STFU
U dumb ass
Interesting take ! I will admit there is a evil feeling to this behavior! Once I’m in it hard to get me out!
Doug Wiese is a Christian. I admire a man he was open to God to find answers for his addiction. Now he wants to help others find help. This woman is a secular analyst. So there's quite a difference! Usually men are the ones that are voyeurs and self-centered. When a man finds the light you should listen to him
Shes wrong
I strongly disagree with the guy. I was NEVER sexually molested and I am a sex addict...
Abuse can not only occur as sexual but also physical and emotional so it's not always due to sexual abuse!
Maybe your were and you just disassociated or are in denial. I told myself for years I wasn't, but then told my therapists some details which I labeled as "not sexual abuse". He's like, "that's definitionally sexual abuse".
@@ArmOr_of_the_Alpha_and_Omega Well I’m sorry your therapist broke the news to you but unless I say otherwise, I don’t need you telling me I’m in denial.
Therapists that don’t include the lonely spouse does disservice to her client, as well as, the injured party.
When my wife shuts me off I sleep on the front lawn in a tent even in winter for all to see. It's very embarrassing for her and she doesn't know what to do. I'm not lonely anymore, neighborhood wives come around when their husband's are on business trips and some flat out tell me their husband's encourage the visits.
As a 14 year old sex addict, I am seeking help.
Good for you. Do it now so you can have a healthier future. God bless 🙏
Check out Sex Addicts Anonymous in your area
Learn to 'see' the truth about the addiction. Vipassana meditation (awareness of the reality as it is) will definitely help. 'The truth will set you free'.....& I say that from experience!
I’m out of control for sure but I wonder if any of these people like it as much as I do. Can they relate at all?
I don't think it's possible for me to talk about it directly with my husband
There's a way
That woman in the blue dress is so wrong!
She went OFF
My best friend is a extreme sex addict. He flew a girl from Russia he met online to Vegas so he could have sex with her. He’s been kicked off most dating apps. He’s spends hours a day on Facebook dating trying to get dates. I hardly see him anymore because he’s always busy chasing tang. He doesn’t think he has a problem. Not sure what to do???
Have an intervention
Check out Sex Addicts Anonymous. However, he won't benefit if he doesn't believe he has a problem
Wholeheartedly disagree.
He seems to only believe men can be sex addicts and only speaks in terms of gender and marriage. I don't think he is qualified to help a queer or single person.
He also talks over her every time she tries to say something, and accused of her being too liberal to have a normal perspective.
He's probably a great therapist for straight couples giving marriage counseling, which likely appeals to most people watching this, we need to stop pretending that "straight men make up most of the world."
Straight people do also make up most of the world, how else are people born?
He lost me at the pot world leading into the drug world…and I don’t even smoke pot.
It’s silly. No one can really solve other people’s addiction or problem. The medical system is not a cure all place to get help. Humanity is complex. I used to feel or think I was a sex addict and maybe I was. But nobody can help me except figure it out by myself and took years. Now I just tell myself to have mindful sex and it’s cool.
You may be an exception; Many need serious help with this problem.
It’s like saying I used to overeat but now I don’t and it’s cool. Well, it’s different for everyone; depends on the hurt you’re trying to numb out from.
PS- a therapist doesn’t do it for you, it’s a collaborative process with the individual seeking support
As myself being a female ! the female doctor has definitely not been in this place . She’s putting her diagnosis off of books rather than facts and life experiences and what somebody has been through and I’m a female and I completely agree with the gentleman in this conversation her standpoint means nothing to me. That’s a typical kind of thing a therapist would say, but unless you’ve been in that situation I’m not gonna listen to you
Everything needs a label in 2015. Having a high libido = being a sex addict. I think I'm just very healthy and everyone else has problems with their libido
have u ever put a cactus up ur ass?
sugardippedtitz no, but thanks for the idea
getoffmypage harming myself and hating myself for it has NOTHING WHATSOEVER TO DO with libido, but definitely the world at large has very little idea of what sex addiction really is. For example a guy who is single and spending every penny he has on prostitutes, or even married and having lots of great sex with his wife and still spending thousands on prostitution
Dr. Herbanick, the female psychologist really makes an effort to understand the challenges faced by each client. It’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. 👍🏻
The male psychologist thinks he knows all the answers. 👎🏻
Sex is sacred. It creates life. When not held in the highest regard such as life, it is abuse. Abuse always harms. It ultimately destroys. When sex is not sacred, nothing can be sacred. If nothing is sacred, there is no life. Only death.
I was abused at 14 by a 35 year old woman for 6 months...,ruined me
Lucky guy😅
He's right and she's wrong
She sounds like a sex addict. This kind of crap that normalizes bondage is the worst thing for our society. We need people who are not afraid to call a spade a spade. It’s not oppressive to say something is harmful or destructive.
1:42 he farted
What support group is available for spouses of sex addicts?
Doreen C look on Facebook, there's a really good group there
I thought I was in control...how wrong this women is....!
What was the point of having that chick in the blue up there ? All its like her whole goal was to add confusion
Came here for answers
Left out more confused 🥴🥴🥴
What kind of answers do you seek
when you don't know what your talking about so you say what 95% of what people do.
Oh, these professionals speak like they are the ultimate in knowledge. She's a pain in the ass....on the other hand the guy is spot-on. He knows, he's been through it. More kudos to him...he's honest in his response...she's academic in hers.
The female expert rebuke his opinion provides us another view and think on our own
deprived doesn't mean addict. I don't have sex but I would have have liked to have had a romantic sexual intimate relationship. But hey oh well.
Why is she defending this addiction 😭
the girl makes me irritated to watch this video
Lady in the blue dress is correct . Just because someone might watch porn or have a lot of porn on their computer doesn’t mean they are an addict .
yep...but that might be the only thing that she said that was correct... but i think it may need clarification...if you are married, and you watch porn WITH YOUR WIFE..there's a good chance that you may not be a sex addict.... if you're married and watch porn BY YOUSELF a lot, and she doesn't know about it.... well then........
The guy is more accurate on this topic. Her disagreements are nonsensical.
How can porn be entertaining its all the same to me only different people . Porn bores me . I got my fantasy ..porn is a fantasy killer .
yes i know man need al the visuals..
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i agree to some level with you. where my issue is is i love watching women nut. i find the penetration and cock sucking and muff licking and all that other shit boring as fuck, but when a hot chick has her nut, dam, now thats worth watching whether its in person or in porn. nothing more beautiful than watching a chick nut, nothing
marina nononsense totally agree
I was also an addict in my youth but when I got married my wife weaned me of it cold turkey if you will, before marriage I was a magnet to nymphs I just kept hooking up with them which is a bad combination
😡 bro blue dress is ticking me off she's trying to justify the problem while the guy is finding the root to the problem i swear women think they know everything
The female doctor doesn’t seem to know what she’s talking about
Whats up with this female "expert"? She seems smug Ans condescending
pretty informative. It should not be debatable that people can be addicted to sex. Especially when people get sexually abused as children. That can actually ruin a person and create all sorts of odd reactions. Pornography should not exist. But it does. I find being guided by Phillipians 4:8 is the best bet with entertainment
Who is Ray?
David ley is probably freaking out
This is classic academic vs real life.. The dude is spot on! He lived it, she studied it! It's Dangerous he's trying to warn you. She is just passive.
The man is right, not the woman. He has been through it.
She is just making excuses for everything
I don't know if my parents will let me do this. It sounds tempting. I don't know if the Catholics approve of this. I don't know if the VA allows veterans to do this. I was interested and tried this before. I try to do what I am supposed to. I follow the rules. I want my parents to have fun too. This was the center of my world. I don't want a to go to rehab lose my benefits get garnishments have my parents divorced get arrested have a squatter get married have my toilet broken have my reputation or career ruined etc.
She has never been abused she doesn’t know what it’s like
Lost me when he said “The pot world going into the drug world” 🤦🏿♂️ cannabis is not a gateway drug
Keep normalizing that shit
Then why was it the first one all of us tried?
The tension between the interviewees is palpable lol
There is medication if you are one. Reduces your crave. There is also pupbox training and dog daddy who teaches control. I am sure their training works on people.
She’s beautiful
The guys is right. The woman is wrong.
She is lady she has different chemical hormones like estrogen and guy is full with testosterone levels it's like seeing common river from different shores !!! Porn leads to mastrubation and mastrubation leads to multiple sex partners it leads to craving for sex badly it's addiction addiction addiction Stop it by reversing and prevention of cycle and spirituality and yog , breathing techniques,sports ,enganging in bussy schedule,Pranayam also helps ,keep attitude positive And trust your self and make deliberately vigerous effects read article and useful stuff try and replace theropy techniques until one with sures and fits you !!! Still it's journey of every other sex addict he has to cope with it !!! Be positive and effertfull!!!!
All my girlfriends used me as a sex object but I was ok with it
Sad
@@Skinner90210 I'll bet he was pretty cheerful while it was happening.
You know, unpopular opinion, it's 2023 and there are a lot of worse things to have. I'll take a side order, please.
@jazzyj2182 I rest my case
How about everyone is addicted to sex, unless there is something wrong with them, or they learned to hide it.
She is right💯🤷🏾♂️listen not side💯
So what's the difference between having a strong need for sex and sexual addiction?
That is a great question. One of the primary issues with the sexual "addiction" treatment field is that they sloppily quantify what qualifies as addiction. This field is primarily populated by unqualified and unlicensed "counselors," often delivering a made up treatment program covertly guided by judeo-christian values of shame and conformity rather than healing and inquiry.
Lmfao these comments are comedy. I believed in sex addiction too at one point. If youre in 12 step and you find growth in it, thats awesome. I aint knocking it.
The way yawl coming
at the only clinical specialist on stage though is sad and laughable.
First of all, my mans couldn't even let home girl speak. I'm glad she had the right spirit to keep talking and not let bozo fully cut her off.
Formulate some educated thoughts. Clearly you're all here in the comment section becauae you're on youtube trying to figure out if you're actually a sex addict. That's your business, but it only hurts you if you keep a closed heart and mind.
No, the entire time SHE cut in every time the guy was talking.
She underminded his most of his statements. This was during the beginning stages of fourth wave feminism. She LITERALLY says that if a guy has a huge folder if porn on his computer it's not a problem... I've been a sex addict and porn addict for years... It's a problem. She was rude and only put on there too undermine the guy. Fuck "home girl".
One star for her, 5 stars for him
She is trying to be research and data driven while carefully staying away from generalizations. He is taking a very old school approach and ridiculous excuse driven stand. Give me a break. Actual sex addicts should be insulted.
@Jason Calcanis yup. You have me all figured out with your thorough observation and conclusion based on my one comment. 😂 My post was not gender focused....it could have been 2 guys and I would have felt the same way. Relax.
@Jason Calcanis and yet here you are insulting a perfect stranger.
@Jason Calcanis You said the emoji showed my immaturity....yet you’re the one insulting someone on UA-cam you don’t know....I’m guessing you think that’s mature behavior? You will probably not understand this either so I’m moving on. ✌🏼
@Tweed Penguin you sound like a pathetic misogynist
THEN JUST STAY SINGLE LET HER GO!
Now days, they get their porn straight from their affair partner, I know from his experience
Must confessss I'm a sex addict, pleaseees excuse the writing