Though it can be challenging, I hope anyone who watches this knows that it really does get better. Do not EVER lose your courage and keep persevering! 🤗✨🪩 HAPPY NEW YEAR 🥳!
I'm not really sure what type of books you're into, but I think you'll resonate with some chapters in the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*cK - by Mark Manson". Some of the topic(s) you touch on in this video are relative to it and think you'll gain even more insight and value from it. Funny enough... I'm listening to it right now (7:45am)
@@nikibronson133 true, but these are years where while everyone is rushing to graduate, travel, find a job, marry, have kids, settle down, you try to rebuild yourself after having a difficult period and then it's hard to chase these things.
@@somekindofflower2024 I completely disagree… I think it’s a ridiculous notion to think that other people aren’t trying to rebuild or construct themselves but honestly rebuild from what you were a teenager you had nothing to rebuild from you were currently building yourself now. And it’s not harder to do these things… Because you don’t do these things in your early 20s you do these things over the course of your entire life. And when you say it’s harder to do these things because people waste their early 20s like what were they supposed to do because most of the years in your early 20s you’re still in school! It’s literally the starting out phase in life it’s called emerging adulthood. And that lasts all the way to 29 because life really doesn’t start till after that. I feel like because we’re so young we don’t realize that life continues after your 20s and you’re still young in your 30s. It’s the young or early adulthood phase before you reach middle adulthood phase. So you say and then it’s hard to chase these things… At what age because after your early 20s is your mid 20s and you’re still in your 20s and you’re a damn kid and you’ve only been an adult for less than 10 years! Hard to rebuild these things at what 26 ?? That’s so fucking young! And guess what people are always pivoting and changing things and traveling and graduating throughout their lives. I feel like some of y’all are putting too much pressure on yourselves and I get that because I’m 23 and I do the same thing but I’m realizing just how young that is and how young all of our 20s are. I feel like all of us have a very bad viewpoint on how long life is because we think it ends at 30 when it doesn’t even get started until 30 truly and most people hit their stride in their 40s! And I also disagree with the whole idea that people are trying to settle down and marry and have kids in their 20s. Maybe for some people and honestly culturally maybe white women but honestly for most people it’s not that and especially nowadays.
I'm in my late 30s and only recently started establishing a career and financial stability. I wasted my youth not because of my choices, but because of disease and abuse. To be honest, I WISH I were 25 and had wasted my early 20s only. I understand how people in their 20s may feel, but guys trust me, things could have been worse for you. Forget about the wasted years and live your lives now.
Time is just a social structure!! Your best days could be in your 20s or literally next Tuesday. Don't let social media indoctrinate you that after a certain period your best life ended: for most of us our 20s were full of doubts, so our life just started!
Social media made people anxious and insecure and we have this fear of "missing out". Living the best life doesn't only mean bar hopping, partying, and travelling. Turning 21 in a few days and honestly what I learned so far is we should STOP dictating how people should live their lives. Everybody has different problems and responsibilities, and we can't deny some people are too underprivileged to have fun in their 20s. Your "worst 20s" could be someone else's best. 20s, for most (average people like me), is a stage of failures and character development. It's okay to breakdown and feel lost, I think it's important to just let people feel what they are currently feeling. We shouldn't be expected to suppress our emotions for the sake of pretending to live the best life. You don't have to live the best life, you just need to survive in life and that's okay. Edit: didn't expect my comment to get this much attention, I'm happy many people also agree with me
Right? I mean honestly things I am "supposed to do" do not interest me at all. I hate clubs. I don't particularly enjoy meet up with strangers (even worse if it's a place where groups have already formed). And just a bunch of other stuff that sounds cool on paper and is generally romanticised But the things I do enjoy...don't have an age limit. Okay. I didn't go to an art exhibition or get the chance to travel to Japan when I was 18. But what difference does it make if I do it at 21?
I’ve always had this checklist in the back of my head of activities I should be doing in my 20’s like bar hopping, clubbing, and parties every weekend. But I’ve never had people to go with. And that used to make me feel bad and embarrassed, as if I wasn’t interesting or cool enough to be part of that “scene”. I still feel a little bad about myself from time to time when I see my coworkers or classmates hanging out with huge friend groups, but I’m learning that having those experiences won’t make me more whole as a person, nor do they define my youth/20s. If I don’t drink and smoke weed at parties every weekend, does that make my youth any less important or interesting than someone else? No, of course not. Everyone’s path is different, and doing activities like the ones stated above are just one very simplified version of someone’s 20s. However, I’m realizing what I truly want isn’t the parties and the drinking; What I really want is true friendship and companionship. I want the party lifestyle because I associate that to being surrounded by friends, but I’m learning that friends can be made from any area of life, and that I just need to be more open and vulnerable to let those potential friends in my life. This was sort of like a journal entry but it’s very comforting to hear others in their 20s experience similar emotions.
no such thing as wasting time in your 20s. you need that time to recover from whatever happened to you as a child so you can get funky with it in your 30s
I’ve “wasted” time. I sat at home being ill, dreaming, and dealing with my feelings after my mom passed. I was super nostalgic about when my mom was around and my high school days. Looking back at my diaries throughout my life, a theme came up: all my life, I was looking back. Looking back at the people I left when I changed schools, looking back at the girl I used to be when I was younger, I was always looking back and idealizing the past. But the moments I was looking back to now and idealizing were those same moments I kept avoiding when I was living them, trying to live in the past instead.. then I realized how much time I was really wasting, and how big of a foolish mistake it was. At 21 I thought I was *old*, and there I was celebrating my 25th birthday. My 25th birthday was when I realized I was still young and I better use that youth. You’ve wasted time ? Good, now you know it. And you also know you can’t get it back if you reach your hand in the past, so reach your hand to the future and start living :) ❤❤❤ most people waste time anyway. people are depressed over being unemployed because they want to do something yet people who work dream of not working so they can do things. people out here having their dream life and still unhappy so not in the moment ie wasting time. people getting sick and having to take literally years to devote theirselves to their health. people being abused. people with family problems. people who’ve never wasted time but are suddenly stuck and wasting time later in their life. we’re all on our own lanes. there is no traffic when you’re on your own lane. Sydney is 3 hours ahead of Perth. doesn’t make Perth slow. just start living 💫
🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 Thank you so much because i also needed to read this. i was looking back even though i knew i wasn't happy at the time. i just want to stop the cycle to start living and laughing a little bit more everyday.
This was my same experience I keep thinking back when my mom was around and how nice those days were. She used to be the one who made me work hard for things i wanted and also helped me in studies. So after she passed i felt like i didnt know why I was doing this anymore. I know i need to get it together so I can settle on my life but still not having that person who always used to look at you and your achievements, happiness and genuinely was there for you all this time brings that ache and emptiness. Well, that's life
What a lovely thing to write 💖💖💖 I've been panicking about the self awareness this video brought (haven't even properly started the video yet), and reading your comment made me so calmmm 🧖🏻♀️🌱🍃
I always felt this anxious without knowing it was anxiety when I was a teenager, I thought I'm being delusional and that this feeling is only coming from me and everyone is fine, one thing I'm so thankful for is discovering mental health awareness when I was 20, I'm still dealing with it and I face my feeling because this is the only way, but it makes it better to know that it's not just me and remember you're so strong for facing it every time and it's just feeling and not your whole life
I want to pray over you as well. I pray the Lord gives you unmatched peace and shatters the thoughts of the enemy that distract you from a wonderfully bright future. I pray you feel the blessings of God in every breath that it may follow you until your last, so that you may remember that God has been with you in every journey. Let the enemy not touch your mind with poison, but may God fill you with sights and wonders that renew the world for you. Let your chains and burdens be broken under the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. In Jesus name Amen 🙏
i cried watching this. i'm 23 and i'm so scared of failing and not having everything perfect. i'm becoming self aware and when you're self aware, you're frozen in time. you know this is bad for you and yet you're still processing it
this is liteally me right now. i used to embrace failure but recently, getting presssurised by the peers around me, i found the need to succeed and know everything in general. its very exhausting mentally. ive started to fear failure and became controlling in every aspect of my life. Still trying to let go of this need to control...
I also wasted my early 20's, started getting my shit together at age 25. Now 26 almost 27 and i'm killing it! It's never too late, but the sooner you start, the better!
I did the same things. Wasted my early 20's being too contemplative and anxious about the future. It's the time you're supposed to be carefree but somehow it isn't because you have such enormous pressure to start developing the life you dream of, and when it doesn't happen like you had always imagined, it's just beyond unbearable and the pressure and the feeling of being a failure is agonizing. You know this is the time that you are supposed to be setting yourself up for the rest of your life, but you have no experience and no idea how to do that so you end up in a paralyzing cycle of fear and inactivity, afraid to make a move in case it ends up being the wrong decision, with disasters in the future. I think in our twenties we live too much in the future. I am now in my late thirties and it's a relief only because I've learned to love myself and realize everything is just an experience. My life doesn't need to compare to others because it's my own.
Don't give up. Ups and downs happen in life. Just go with whatever you like and whatever makes you feel like yourself. Just remember to make yourself happy because no one gonna do it for you. Love you. Have a great day :)
I know life can be very tough sometimes but a good place to start is to focus on one day at a time...to focus on the present and to try hard to spot the everyday blessings🌼 Take care.
I can't believe that feeling depression and anxiety is synonym of wasting your time?! It's just our bodies and minds telling us that the culture we live in is not the box they want to be put in. And maybe we don't want to live in a box at all... Maybe it's just not meant for us to figure out life at 23 or 24, but to feel it, experience it, see it, express it with tears, laughter, quietness, patience. I've been through this mindset, I've thought that everybody around me have found their purpose in life, but me. I'm 27 now and i'm trying my best to be kind to myself. To see my life as something beautifull, to be grateful for my friends and family. To convince myself that the things I want for myself will happen whenever my body and mind are ready. It's not a competition and nobody will clap if I accomplish something 2 years earlier or later. In fact, accomplishments are not your work or the apartment you live in, but the strong connections you have with people, the smile you see in the mirror, the stress you have cut out of your life, the joy and peace of a good walk in the park. To whomever reads this comment: Please, don't compare with others. You're not doing yourself a favor. Just try to find your answers within yourself and listen carefully what your body and mind want, not what you will look to others. Just breathe and take very small steps - slowly and patiently. You're not wasting anything! This is life and life is HARD. Embrace that.
It's not a waste, it's a clearing out phase---I like to look at it as this. My 20s were the worst, I felt like an old soul trapped in a young body. I struggled very much mentally. Everyone around seemed so normal. This made things harder. When I turned 30 everything seemed to turn brighter. Im 36 now and things couldn't be better for what I've struggled through, I do still have a long way to go but this is the process. Wishing you all the love, abundance, and happiness🙌❤️🔥
I'm also 27 and have suffered with depression and social anxiety basically my entire life, but I try really hard not to think of my life as being "wasted." Yes I could've lived voraciously and could've had many more experiences, but I'm also very glad that my life is relatively peaceful, healthy, I've had opportunities to travel and go to college, I'm close with family, etc. Try focusing on the good/positive aspects of your life and your perspective will hopefully change :)
Wasting your 20s, for example, is being on social media all day and not looking for your purpose in life. Having no friends or social interactions. Being too afraid to go out and try new things. Not challenging yourself. Not working on your mental health. I did it for a long time.
I’m 23 and I graduated from college less than a year ago and have gone through a lot of post grad depression. I’m not where I want to be in terms of career and have often at times feel like I’m already falling behind as I see my peers and people even younger than me achieving big things and traveling. Being a first generation student as well I feel like I have this enormous pressure to be the one to succeed and make a difference and have this pressure doing it all in my age group
I feel the same, I just graduated a year ago and moved to a new home that is further away from my friends. The drastic changes in my life made me feel burned out, hopeless and demotivated. I felt like I couldn't make myself to move forward and find a job, everything feels so dark and I don't know where I'm going. Social media didn't help either, seeing my college friends in their new jobs and living their life. It felt like I'm stuck and everyone is ahead of me. Now I'm starting to get a glimpse that I didn't "wasted" that year! I learned a lot about myself and really dig into why I was burned out, and feeling overwhelmed with this changes. I acknowledge and validate what I'm going through and the efforts that I exerted. Talking to my close friends helped too! And using small steps of taking care of myself (eat on time, sleep enough, clean room). And constantly reminding myself I'm on my own lane I don't have to compare myself with others. Reading your comment makes me feel that I'm not alone in this and I hope you get up day by day knowing what you feel is heard and valid. Take one step at at time, we can do this!
I can relate so much. I’m 27 in March, I’ve lost my dad two months ago and it feels like my life fell apart, it’s so painful to lose a person you loved and I also feel like I’ve lost myself during my 20’s. I guess I’ve got a lot of inner work to do. Thank you for the video 💕
The 20s is literally a time of growth and figuring life out. I‘d like to change the golden 20s to golden 30s or 40s 50s 60s whatever. When you‘ve settled and figured out what you want to be like is the best time to shine. Until then, you shall cherish each day but don‘t beat yourself up because you had some failures while you were barely out of school. You‘ll do it YOUR way
the pressure and responsibilities during your 20s is no joke- i'm turning 24, just resigned from my job beceause i'm not happy & it's affecting my mental health. i thought i'm gonna be happy after sending my resignation letter, never knew i'm gonna be this lost & stuck. not sure what career to pursue either. the anxious feeling of failing and not being able to do well in the future is just unbearable. nonetheless, i know that i'm not the only one who feels this way at some point & i try to keep going despite the circumstances. hence, i am rooting for everyone here in the comments. i hope you guys know that you can take one step at a time, we're all work in progress! tysm celin for making this video, everything is so relatable. it helps me contemplate sm. you're an inspiration dear, bless your heart! 🥺💌
I didn’t have luxury to go out like others did. The paycheck to paycheck and finding myself in my career. I still have anxiety that it’s not all figured out at late 20’s. But as long as we are growing and learning boundaries. Thanks for sharing this video. Relatable ❤
I went through the same thing in my early and mid 20s, depression took the best of me and I had the worst relationship with myself. Now I am in my late twenties, and I have never been happier. All these experiences are not a waste of time, it helps us find joy and self love ❤ Proud of you ☺
Turning 33 next week and I lost my dad 2 years ago. After I lost him I was straight reckless for the next year and a half 😂 I can't imagine what going through your 20s is like now compared to the 2010s. But what I can say, you and the rest of everyone in this comment section are perfectly normal and you're doing great! Your 20s are for learning these things, it's for experiencing the world around you and how you fit in it, how you can make it what you need it to be. You will change and change again. You aren't losing time, you aren't wasting your 20s, you aren't doing anything wrong. You're living, believe it or not. Make the mistakes, roll around on the floor thinking about what you'lI do next. Because no matter what you do, the lessons will come and you will learn them. Then more will come and youll learn some more. Life is a lesson and youll be learning for the rest of it, try not to add more pressure to the load. I know I'm probably sounding like every other 30+ y.o but wherever you are is fine, what's most important is maintaining your self awareness. I'm still young myself and this video applies to me too! I went through major transformation after 30, where everything looks different and I'm learning to navigate all over again 😆
I deleted my social media bc every time I went there I saw people always Havin so much fun and I felt like I was left behind , I left social media and just started to live life easy do things on my own pace still learning about myself and trying to go on with days ( turning 20 next month , wish me luck )
Giiiiiiiirl this was an amazing video. As a girl in her 20s, I appreciate content like this. Thank you for sharing your experience and paving the way for many of us who feel anxious about the 20-year-old pressures. (Also, you have an AMAZING narrating voice!! Can’t wait to watch more of you 💖
I lost my dad in 2018 too. I'm so sorry. 🖤 Take it from someone in their early 30s, questioning your values and opinions and being uncomfortable is worth it. Hopefully we're going to be here for a lot longer than just our 20s and 30s. Figuring out where you fit in this world and understanding how it works in some capacity early on (and yes believe me we are both still early) will only set you up for greater success and happiness.
Thank you for this! I’m 21 now (I’ll be 22 in November) but I wasted my teen years and my 20th being stuck in a loop of depression and not being social! This year I want change!
The perfectionist part really resignated with me. It's very difficult for me to let go of the need to control everything. It's making me absolutely miserable, especially when things don't go as planned. I'm just so tired of trying, because something out of my control will randomly pop up and fuck up everything I've been preparing for. Living has become like a chore; going to school, studying, keeping deadlines. It feels like I put in so much effort and get nothing out of it. No matter how hard I try, my life is still the same shit hole. I've started to hate my life and the world, my mental health is crumbling and I'm so full of hate and negativity. Idk how I'm going to get through this.
I was in the same spot as you last year. I actually ended up in the hospital for a week after a mental breakdown & hit rock bottom. Before that, I was desperately trying to control everything outside of my control because I lacked control over myself. My emotions, my health, my habits, what I was doing with my life, etc. None of that was going how I truly wanted it to. I lacked the discipline to get what I want. It wasn’t until I started to keep the promises I made to myself that life started to turn around for me (if you’re curious how, check out 75 Hard program by Andy Frisella). Let me just say this last thing… if you’re in a job, college program, or even location that you hate, don’t stay there. Not for another minute. Don’t do something you aren’t passionate about because you feel like you “have” to. You don’t “have” to do anything! You get to design your life, so do what you want. And if you don’t know what you want, just keep trying new things until something feels right. Life is too short to stay in a place where you feel unhappy.
I immediately felt connected to this video at the start when you mentioned your dad's death. Mine also died, in 2017 and I'm also 23. I am feeling lost, literally something inside me shifted when I got 23 and felt like I missed on so much, but then my therapist told me that I was busy going through grief, and that made me feel better. When you go through a death, or anything else, like depression, you are busy tryin to find a way to live your life that fits You, while many others seems to have it more smooth. Everyone's trying their best. I really like this video, thank you for sharing it and good luck in your journey :)
As someone's who's turning 20 later on this year, this video could not have been in my suggestions at a better time. I've been so nervous about entering my 20s because I feel like I don't have it all together when I should.
I turned 24 about a month ago, 3 months after moving in a new city to try to get that reconstruction going. I don't think a day goes by without me having extremely dark thoughts but I learned to embrace them and keep going. For now I still don't see the point in living but I keep fighting in the hope one day I will. Thank you for the video.
Just discovered your channel ✨ Thank you so much for making this video. It made me feel less alone in my own 20s struggle. I am 24 right now and I am still confused about what career to pursue because I am too good at too many things. Plus, I am a perfectionist too 😅 To anyone going through the same struggles, I want to tell you that we will do it in our own time. You aren't alone. Let's do it one step at a time 💛 All the best 💕
I turned 20 a few months ago and turn 21 this September, and it took me a little bit to come to terms with the bad beginning I had to my 20s. In October, I called my mom and begged her to take me home from school, and she did. I was a senior in the college of my dreams but incredibly depressed, anxious, and still dealing with repercussions of not having been diagnosed with ADHD until just recently. I fully intend to go back, but still, I know I've ruined the picture perfect image I had of how my life would be going. Now, I'm taking my time to recover through therapy, engrossing myself in hobbies I didn't have time for in the past three years, and working at a job I love- even if it's not something that could sustain me forever. It's better, and I see another future for myself that I am alright with. Something I realized was that I spent so much time thinking about how I was wasting my 20s, that I didn't even realize I'm only barely five months in! Out of 10 whole years! I have so much time to look forward to and worrying about it will only make the time go faster.
Yeah I felt this way too just last year. But I'm 25 rn and I honestly feel a lot better about myself. I've got goals and I don't feel as insecure about achieving them. There's nothing really special about your "teens or early twenties" it's just an age. You can literally get your life together whenever you feel like it and it won't matter in the grand scheme of things. Also, everything you see on social media is usually not as it seems. No one is perfect.
This is everything I needed- thank you so much for this video. I'm turning 19 in a few weeks, and it's beginning to dawn on me that I'm only one short little year away from 20- and I am terrified. The thought of leaving my teens behind, and becoming a full fledged adult threw me into a whole mid life crisis, and I didn't know what to do or expect. This video you made was so helpful and comforting, thank you so much. I wish you all the best, and I wish all the fellow viewers and commenters the best as well
Hey! girl I really needed to hear this right now, I'm like in the same situation as you, I'm 23, & dont know what to do, but after watching your video, it was very inspiring! To never give up, move on, and to accept whats coming in for us! Keeping a positive mindset everyday! Thank you so much for the video!
My 20’s were spent going through depression, anxiety, an unhappy marriage and health problems. My 20’s are a period I would not wanna go though again. Thanks for sharing.
i am 22f and I plan everything, I have planned years. It gave me a sense of control. Although, now when i step into the actual practical world, i felt like i was losing control and felt like failing. My career achievements felt delayed, relationships ending felt like failing of my dreamt life. However, i have started to accept and move on more maturely. I have started to embrace the uncertain. I still plan my things but NOW, I DO NOT SHUT MY DOOR FOR OTHER POSSIBILITIES, it makes me feel more optimist and stronger!
When I just decided to be joyful I notices alot of changes. It was an eye opener knowing that being happy and joyful is something we forcefully can choose. Don't wait for the happy feelings to come, just take it by force, smile even when you are alone. Then inner healings can come. Headaches disappears, anxieties and depresssion goes away. Joy is the greatest medicine there is.
55 seconds in and i started crying. I’m very very sorry about your father. I lost mine in 2016 and I’m now 23. I have been having to figure since he passed, who i am, and how to live this life without him here.
Watching this while eating a brownie on my first solo trip to India, after having already cried a bit today... this really did help! Thank you and good luck on your journey! Sounds like you're doing just fine :)
I spent most of my twenties in school, hiking, or on my computer doing software stuff. I feel like I could have partied or socialized more but I find it difficult to do that. I think as long as you do something you feel is important you don't waste them.
When I was 19, my dad was diagnosed with dementia and my whole world got so dark. I'm now 21 and it still hurts but this video helped me realize I'm not alone in suffering or in feeling frustrated with life. You truly are an inspiration thank you for making me cry and realize that even when life is dark, it doesn't mean I'll never see sunshine again.❤
I havent entered my 20’s yet, but I’m glad I saw this video before I did. I’m currently 18, so I was in high school during the worst parts of covid. Due to this, I ended up being homeschooled from the last half of my Sophomore year to my Senior Year of high school. I’m currently in my second semester of University, and I’ve been doing online school because I’ve been really sick. But mentally it’s been bad. It’s been hard to not feel like i’m wasting time. Like I should be doing more. Covid stole away a lot of what could of been as a teenager for me. Now that my 20’s are up next, I don’t want to have that same experience. But it’s easier said that done. I don’t even know where to begin with changing things, but maybe this is my time of reconstruction like you mentioned. But I hope I’ll come out of better and stronger than ever before. Thanks for your video.
Hello everybody in the comment section. I always felt purposeless, alone because I felt like I was wasting my early 20s. But more that I read comments I don't feel alone and I hope we all can start taking control of what we have.
We are all so young. I’ve accepted that 20’s is about trying things, taking risk, figuring shit out and sometimes just resting/being bummed/sorting through mental health. I think we’re all constantly learning and having hard times and making mistakes isn’t a waste. I’ve accepted my timeline is not going to be the exactly the same as my friend or my sister or anyone else. There’s no right time, just gotta figure it out & stay present. Also, this comment sounds very zen but I panic about wasting time too I just eventually come back to this thought.
Just did 20 in December 2022, and I was already feeling like a loser with no expectations in life, putting pressure on myself to have a glow up, but actually didn't anything in January so I was feeling bad. This made me feel a little better, so thank you so much! Also, I'm really sorry for your lost, it's never easy to deal with thouse situations...I hope you're doing better now! All the love and positivity to you!
no idea why this video showed up in my recommended but this really got me thinking and quarter-life crisis is a very normal part of life! All the best to everyone in the comment section
I am 20 and from India, will be 21 on 9th february, i feel quite clueless at this point too and i dont feel passionate about anything either though im good at many things but nothing feels quite the way for me. questions like what am i destined to be?, what i feel passionate about?, am i on th0e right path?, what should i do next? keep on wandering in my head. I feel like im obsessed with perfect future too, it terrifies me to become a mediocre in life. my both parents are successful police officers and even my boyfriend too is doing great in his career this give me lots of pressure and anxiety idk what to do and ho to do...im grateful about everything in my life but myself
Such a beautiful video, thank you for your vulnerability, turning 20 in April, i have a lot a passion for the things I love to do, and I see myself always being afraid of them despite the fact that I really can achieve my goals. That’s perfectionism I strive for is an illusion and I have been trying to get it out of my head while still holding and working my life with discipline. It’s so hard to balance it all, but these are the years where I’m really trying to do that.
i love the way you make the script, the story telling are so great! please keep making videos because i think you are good at this and i'm so proud of you how you manage and be responsibility to what happened into your life!
As a 30 going on 31 year old, hearing a 23 year old say they "wasted"...2 years of their life? Maybe? Just doesn't land. I remember feeling that way. But life keeps going. That's only the tip of the iceberg. I guess another side effect of social media and FOMO is making people think they should have their life together at 23 -- which is insane. Youre still a child. Embrace the struggle.
This, she's not even close to the end of her 20s. It almost feels like a reflection after an odd point of privilege. But at least it comes from a place of kindness, and maybe it'll help someone else. The loss of a parent definitely spirals a "quarter life crisis" because grief is a freaking MONSTER. It just feels odd that *this* is the content and the video title it targets when it's so niave. This video diary will probably age like a fond/naive memory. I'm just glad it isn't harmful content and at least someone highlights that everyone's social media presence isn't how they actually live or feel daily.
@@jadetea6112 yes, I think no ill intentions were had, it's definitely a societal problem. I also remember feeling scared and anxious about my present - future at 23, having graduated from college, feeling like I had done so much and yet was so lost. Only time can grant that kind of perspective.
Really enjoyed the video. There is always time. Every decade is an opportunity. Failure should not be feared but learned from. My twenties were fun and then they sucked. My thirties were a blur of trying to get ahead. In my forties, my life went into a tailspin and then began to pick up. My fifties were hands down my best decade. We will see about my sixties. Retirement will be a challenge, many changes ahead, but I have a plan. Stay creative. Stay healthy. Stay engaged.
"Life is harsh and unforgiving. Dont expect it to treat you nicely, its here to take you out. You dont have time to be fool" That is lesson my grandpa told me when he had heart attack. i dont need to tell you did i waste my 20s. Good luck.
Girl! You got this, we really expect so much from ourselves and our life and fall into unrealistic things thinking they will last long. But in real meaning nothing lasts long, which is incredible, if we are depressed we got to be believing the fact that it's not gonna last longer. Everything is gonna be fine, failures is a part of life, every single person faces it in one way or other. Btw I think you should do vlogging, honestly we would love to watch your vlogs, such a positive vibe.
i'm 22 and most of the friends I made in high school are graduating or close to graduating and i just dropped out of college (physical therapy) because I want to go to med school. here in brazil we have 6 years of medical school to graduate and more 2 years for a specialized area, but it is very difficult to get in there in the first place. sometimes i get really anxious because, if all goes well, i'm going to graduate around 30 yo, it makes me feel stupid and lazy, like i wasted my time on something that deep down i knew i didn't want and now i have to start all over again. that feeling i could have worked harder in the past. also, my boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me a few months ago, which makes my future even more blurry. but we carry on, that was honestly just a big rant lol sorry for any grammar mistakes
I am in a similar boat but the worst part is my family kerps pressureing me to get a degree of 2 or 4 years becsise on their mind as a girl i should graduate by the time i m 25 and get married, its so frustrating. I am 23.
Wow, thank you so much for this video. The thought that your career doesn't always have to be driven by passion but that you should make sure to incorporate it in your everyday job or free time was very comforting and reassuring. I'm 27 and have been coming to terms with the fact that the job I always felt super passionate about pursuing comes with a toxic culture that doesn't serve me and my vision of life. So I'm also trying to figure things out and evolving along the way, and I guess it's good that we do. 😌
Thank you 💗 I'm turning 19 in several months, and this video appeared just in time. I especially liked the words about perfectionism. Perfectionism really held me back these past few years. I always wanted everything to be as perfect as possible, but overthinking about it made me tired and I was scared to make something imperfect, so I didn't make as much things as I wanted, didn't complete a lot of them. Now I'm trying to not to chase perfection that much. I notice that I started to enjoy the process of creating something, and not chasing perfection helps me to complete what I do and really become better and better 💖
So beautiful that you can be so vulnerable around this. I also think having all of those experiences are not a waste, but simply lessons that are now transformed into wisdom making you exactly who you are Now ✨wishing you all the love on your healing journey
this is beautiful, i’m watching on my tv but i needed to open the app and comment because the effort you put into editing and all of your own content in addition to the amazing lessons is *chefs kiss* i can’t wait to see your work pay off more
Dear Celine, even though this is my first time watching your video, I felt so much for this video, since I lost my dad in 2018 too, and I just turned 23, marking this the first time i had a birthday abroad. I’m still struggling about my priorities in life, since I’m also pursuing a creative career. And without the calm self love you mentioned, it can be even harder. Thank you so much for making this video, and making me feel not alone. I hope the best for you!
I am in my teens (14) but i still needed this and i think i got a lot of clarity and lessons from this i needed, and i think most of these lessons are for everyone. From past few days idk why but i am feeling lost and idk what to do and what i am doing even though i am also doing some meaningful things like morning routine, stretching, journaling , etc everyday but somthing feels missing (please give me some advice in reply if you can it'll help me a lot). This video was really great i learnt something new tysm
Thank you so much for the fun and wise video :) This video feels like a cheatsheet in the 20s and I feel "big sister energy" from this. It's really comfortable and assuring, feels like someone says "you're gonna be okay, you can face this, everything will end well" and definitely will save this video to watch sometimes again. Thank you once again :) Hope you will always be well and good luck for the future journey
Hi! I'm turning 21 in July and I'm already having the same doubts you've described in this video, which is kinda crazy to me. I personally grew up browsing the internet during my free time, and had a passion for painting and sculpting which let me into chasing a career in the arts. I also grew up being quite introverted. For me, the reconstruction I'm going through is one where I've grown tired of the internet, and one where spending nights developing my skills has become tiring and no longer enough to make me feel like I'm doing something with my life. Which is insane to me, that was my identity! And yet, I know that these incoming years are all about overcoming my fears, going out and letting myself go and fail where I have to. I've been doing my best to make that happen, and have more and more opportunities to do so. Thank you for sharing your experience, and letting people like us now that we're not alone! I'll keep growing, thank you!
I turned 22 last December and I couldn't be happier, my 2022/2021 made me more aware of my mental health and I'm so happy for facing it all, I'm still learning and I'm happy to learn and fail to do better, I know we sometimes forget that we're humans and we are not meant to be perfect, so I hope everyone is being safe and doing what they can to live and love
im gonna be turning 20 in 3 days and it feels so weird and stressfull, its like i dont wanna grow older which is kinda dumb but scary for me. I feel like i should be enjoying everyday and be happy withmyself but i dont know whats gonna happen in the future, whom i might marry, will it be bad... these things scare me. I hope i get over this. Thankyou for this video as it made me a lil realise that everything takes time nd dont rush. Love you and everyone❤ REMEMBER ME IN YOUR PRAYERRRSSS XOXO
@@itzlesleyrose Surely we will get through this with a positive mindset and face our fears ❤❤❤❤ whenever you feel like that im gonna always be here to be there for u :)
@Mercy Mercy omg I just woke up, and you made me emotional. I could relate everything in the comment section of this video. I felt like I found my family. Thank you again for your support❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorder for years ago, and lately, I've had some serious hard times with it, but I feel so much better nowadays. I still have some struggles, but I'm getting better ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@itzlesleyrose i am so proud that you are trying to get better. Everyday won't be easy but as long as you try and have a positive mindset, try to forgive urself and love yourself that its okay to be vulnerable at times and that you will get through this. Stay strong gurl ❤❤❤❤ Wish you the best!! xoxo
wow i was completely breaking down for the whole day and for the first time i thought about entertaining myself,i come across this vid lol i dont even subscribe this one tho.i'm GLAD that i find this one.
What a beautiful video. It is crazy that I could relate to every single aspect in this video. Thank you for making it! It put a lot of things into perspective for me.
loved it. so inspiring. I am also in my twenties and I recently decided to change careers for a second time and move out of my country for it. I search on the internet opinions about related experiences and surprisingly most of them where encouraging to just go a long with was best for you. Specially in your twenties. Everything is changing and I love it
I’m soon to turn 20. This was a great video to watch. Also I’ve been looking for videos like I try to make, real and honest. This is a beautiful start to a UA-cam channel. Can’t wait to see more content 😘
I'm going through something similar. I lost my mother and I felt all alone. I was spiraling and pushing people away with my bad moods. And I had this fear of loneliness but today I felt like being alone isn't so bad as long as I do what I want. And I feel alive again
Enjoy the road, but remember this We are living in a world where is designed to get you in failures and depression, get you stuck in your mind overthinking the same problems everyday and wake up at the age of 50 in the same place as you started 30 years old back REMEMBER: you ARE what you put your ATTENTION 🙏🏻 they put your attention away using (social media, Netflix, etc) that’s why we never finish nothing as we expected, that’s it. REMEMBER to laugh, love and forgive Laugh: when you laugh you put away any depression or anxiety thoughts away 💭 Love: when you are loving (not in romance) all your negative thoughts are going to be away too and your ideas are going to flow Forgive: forgive is equal to separate from “”, once yo forgive someone YOU ARE SAVING YOURSELF ❤️ you are not accepting the another person energy FORGIVE
The fact i am 19 and i feel like bcs i involve i am a monster,an idiot...etc... I am lost ab myself but i wanna re-find myself..(finding myself again),my dreams and my goals
Though it can be challenging, I hope anyone who watches this knows that it really does get better. Do not EVER lose your courage and keep persevering! 🤗✨🪩
HAPPY NEW YEAR 🥳!
I'm not really sure what type of books you're into, but I think you'll resonate with some chapters in the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*cK - by Mark Manson". Some of the topic(s) you touch on in this video are relative to it and think you'll gain even more insight and value from it. Funny enough... I'm listening to it right now (7:45am)
Thank you for this video ❤️
Thank you for making the video. It's so good and motivating 🌷❤️ your such a great person 🌷
Nothing is ever a waste, I’m 24, the reconstruction is one of the most powerful and important times in your life. It sets the tone for the rest.
You’re still in your early twenties lol. Having a pre quarter life crisis before you even hit quarter life yet
@@nikibronson133 true, but these are years where while everyone is rushing to graduate, travel, find a job, marry, have kids, settle down, you try to rebuild yourself after having a difficult period and then it's hard to chase these things.
i feel like im in a crisis and im only 16 🥴
This
@@somekindofflower2024 I completely disagree… I think it’s a ridiculous notion to think that other people aren’t trying to rebuild or construct themselves but honestly rebuild from what you were a teenager you had nothing to rebuild from you were currently building yourself now. And it’s not harder to do these things… Because you don’t do these things in your early 20s you do these things over the course of your entire life. And when you say it’s harder to do these things because people waste their early 20s like what were they supposed to do because most of the years in your early 20s you’re still in school! It’s literally the starting out phase in life it’s called emerging adulthood. And that lasts all the way to 29 because life really doesn’t start till after that. I feel like because we’re so young we don’t realize that life continues after your 20s and you’re still young in your 30s. It’s the young or early adulthood phase before you reach middle adulthood phase. So you say and then it’s hard to chase these things… At what age because after your early 20s is your mid 20s and you’re still in your 20s and you’re a damn kid and you’ve only been an adult for less than 10 years! Hard to rebuild these things at what 26 ?? That’s so fucking young! And guess what people are always pivoting and changing things and traveling and graduating throughout their lives. I feel like some of y’all are putting too much pressure on yourselves and I get that because I’m 23 and I do the same thing but I’m realizing just how young that is and how young all of our 20s are. I feel like all of us have a very bad viewpoint on how long life is because we think it ends at 30 when it doesn’t even get started until 30 truly and most people hit their stride in their 40s! And I also disagree with the whole idea that people are trying to settle down and marry and have kids in their 20s. Maybe for some people and honestly culturally maybe white women but honestly for most people it’s not that and especially nowadays.
I'm in my late 30s and only recently started establishing a career and financial stability.
I wasted my youth not because of my choices, but because of disease and abuse. To be honest, I WISH I were 25 and had wasted my early 20s only.
I understand how people in their 20s may feel, but guys trust me, things could have been worse for you. Forget about the wasted years and live your lives now.
This is so motivating thank you for this and i hope the best for you, go reclaim your life!
Big Facts and congratulations for taking your power back 💪👏 💞
Time is just a social structure!! Your best days could be in your 20s or literally next Tuesday. Don't let social media indoctrinate you that after a certain period your best life ended: for most of us our 20s were full of doubts, so our life just started!
@@ouui Thank you, that's the mindset I'm trying to have.
That’s exactly what I was thinking.
Social media made people anxious and insecure and we have this fear of "missing out". Living the best life doesn't only mean bar hopping, partying, and travelling. Turning 21 in a few days and honestly what I learned so far is we should STOP dictating how people should live their lives. Everybody has different problems and responsibilities, and we can't deny some people are too underprivileged to have fun in their 20s. Your "worst 20s" could be someone else's best. 20s, for most (average people like me), is a stage of failures and character development. It's okay to breakdown and feel lost, I think it's important to just let people feel what they are currently feeling. We shouldn't be expected to suppress our emotions for the sake of pretending to live the best life. You don't have to live the best life, you just need to survive in life and that's okay.
Edit: didn't expect my comment to get this much attention, I'm happy many people also agree with me
Right? I mean honestly things I am "supposed to do" do not interest me at all. I hate clubs. I don't particularly enjoy meet up with strangers (even worse if it's a place where groups have already formed). And just a bunch of other stuff that sounds cool on paper and is generally romanticised
But the things I do enjoy...don't have an age limit. Okay. I didn't go to an art exhibition or get the chance to travel to Japan when I was 18. But what difference does it make if I do it at 21?
Your words made me feel comfortable, thanks ❤️
Happy level up to you in few days, wishing you a best hope coming into your life :)
I’ve always had this checklist in the back of my head of activities I should be doing in my 20’s like bar hopping, clubbing, and parties every weekend. But I’ve never had people to go with. And that used to make me feel bad and embarrassed, as if I wasn’t interesting or cool enough to be part of that “scene”. I still feel a little bad about myself from time to time when I see my coworkers or classmates hanging out with huge friend groups, but I’m learning that having those experiences won’t make me more whole as a person, nor do they define my youth/20s. If I don’t drink and smoke weed at parties every weekend, does that make my youth any less important or interesting than someone else? No, of course not. Everyone’s path is different, and doing activities like the ones stated above are just one very simplified version of someone’s 20s.
However, I’m realizing what I truly want isn’t the parties and the drinking; What I really want is true friendship and companionship. I want the party lifestyle because I associate that to being surrounded by friends, but I’m learning that friends can be made from any area of life, and that I just need to be more open and vulnerable to let those potential friends in my life.
This was sort of like a journal entry but it’s very comforting to hear others in their 20s experience similar emotions.
Thank you
no such thing as wasting time in your 20s. you need that time to recover from whatever happened to you as a child so you can get funky with it in your 30s
Exactly !
YES. ❤
Thank you! I needed this
I’ve “wasted” time. I sat at home being ill, dreaming, and dealing with my feelings after my mom passed. I was super nostalgic about when my mom was around and my high school days. Looking back at my diaries throughout my life, a theme came up: all my life, I was looking back. Looking back at the people I left when I changed schools, looking back at the girl I used to be when I was younger, I was always looking back and idealizing the past. But the moments I was looking back to now and idealizing were those same moments I kept avoiding when I was living them, trying to live in the past instead.. then I realized how much time I was really wasting, and how big of a foolish mistake it was. At 21 I thought I was *old*, and there I was celebrating my 25th birthday. My 25th birthday was when I realized I was still young and I better use that youth.
You’ve wasted time ? Good, now you know it. And you also know you can’t get it back if you reach your hand in the past, so reach your hand to the future and start living :)
❤❤❤ most people waste time anyway. people are depressed over being unemployed because they want to do something yet people who work dream of not working so they can do things. people out here having their dream life and still unhappy so not in the moment ie wasting time. people getting sick and having to take literally years to devote theirselves to their health. people being abused. people with family problems. people who’ve never wasted time but are suddenly stuck and wasting time later in their life. we’re all on our own lanes. there is no traffic when you’re on your own lane. Sydney is 3 hours ahead of Perth. doesn’t make Perth slow. just start living 💫
🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 Thank you so much because i also needed to read this. i was looking back even though i knew i wasn't happy at the time. i just want to stop the cycle to start living and laughing a little bit more everyday.
You summarized just what I feel
This was my same experience I keep thinking back when my mom was around and how nice those days were. She used to be the one who made me work hard for things i wanted and also helped me in studies. So after she passed i felt like i didnt know why I was doing this anymore. I know i need to get it together so I can settle on my life but still not having that person who always used to look at you and your achievements, happiness and genuinely was there for you all this time brings that ache and emptiness. Well, that's life
that's so true
What a lovely thing to write 💖💖💖 I've been panicking about the self awareness this video brought (haven't even properly started the video yet), and reading your comment made me so calmmm 🧖🏻♀️🌱🍃
I’m 27 and I feel this way with super anxiety. I pray for all of us in our 20’s to find peace ☮️
I always felt this anxious without knowing it was anxiety when I was a teenager, I thought I'm being delusional and that this feeling is only coming from me and everyone is fine, one thing I'm so thankful for is discovering mental health awareness when I was 20, I'm still dealing with it and I face my feeling because this is the only way, but it makes it better to know that it's not just me and remember you're so strong for facing it every time and it's just feeling and not your whole life
“It’s just a feeling it’s not your whole life” wow thank you for that. This hit home
I want to pray over you as well. I pray the Lord gives you unmatched peace and shatters the thoughts of the enemy that distract you from a wonderfully bright future. I pray you feel the blessings of God in every breath that it may follow you until your last, so that you may remember that God has been with you in every journey. Let the enemy not touch your mind with poison, but may God fill you with sights and wonders that renew the world for you. Let your chains and burdens be broken under the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. In Jesus name Amen 🙏
@@adrianaivanoff9899 AMEN 🙏🏾
@@Gilmarbarrioss you're most welcome!
i cried watching this. i'm 23 and i'm so scared of failing and not having everything perfect. i'm becoming self aware and when you're self aware, you're frozen in time. you know this is bad for you and yet you're still processing it
Are you me? Because I feel the exact same
Same 🥹❤️
im going on 24 and god, this is me, i wish us the best in life:(
Never fear failure ...
this is liteally me right now. i used to embrace failure but recently, getting presssurised by the peers around me, i found the need to succeed and know everything in general. its very exhausting mentally. ive started to fear failure and became controlling in every aspect of my life. Still trying to let go of this need to control...
I also wasted my early 20's, started getting my shit together at age 25. Now 26 almost 27 and i'm killing it!
It's never too late, but the sooner you start, the better!
what did u end up doing
I did the same things. Wasted my early 20's being too contemplative and anxious about the future. It's the time you're supposed to be carefree but somehow it isn't because you have such enormous pressure to start developing the life you dream of, and when it doesn't happen like you had always imagined, it's just beyond unbearable and the pressure and the feeling of being a failure is agonizing. You know this is the time that you are supposed to be setting yourself up for the rest of your life, but you have no experience and no idea how to do that so you end up in a paralyzing cycle of fear and inactivity, afraid to make a move in case it ends up being the wrong decision, with disasters in the future. I think in our twenties we live too much in the future. I am now in my late thirties and it's a relief only because I've learned to love myself and realize everything is just an experience. My life doesn't need to compare to others because it's my own.
Well said 💕
This is actually what am feeling now. Hope to find the courage to conquer it all.
I just turned 21 and I feel like life can’t get any worse than this. The STRESS The SADNESS some days I just can’t get up
Don't give up. Ups and downs happen in life. Just go with whatever you like and whatever makes you feel like yourself. Just remember to make yourself happy because no one gonna do it for you. Love you. Have a great day :)
I know life can be very tough sometimes but a good place to start is to focus on one day at a time...to focus on the present and to try hard to spot the everyday blessings🌼 Take care.
I feel you
I can't believe that feeling depression and anxiety is synonym of wasting your time?! It's just our bodies and minds telling us that the culture we live in is not the box they want to be put in. And maybe we don't want to live in a box at all... Maybe it's just not meant for us to figure out life at 23 or 24, but to feel it, experience it, see it, express it with tears, laughter, quietness, patience.
I've been through this mindset, I've thought that everybody around me have found their purpose in life, but me. I'm 27 now and i'm trying my best to be kind to myself. To see my life as something beautifull, to be grateful for my friends and family. To convince myself that the things I want for myself will happen whenever my body and mind are ready. It's not a competition and nobody will clap if I accomplish something 2 years earlier or later.
In fact, accomplishments are not your work or the apartment you live in, but the strong connections you have with people, the smile you see in the mirror, the stress you have cut out of your life, the joy and peace of a good walk in the park.
To whomever reads this comment: Please, don't compare with others. You're not doing yourself a favor. Just try to find your answers within yourself and listen carefully what your body and mind want, not what you will look to others. Just breathe and take very small steps - slowly and patiently. You're not wasting anything! This is life and life is HARD. Embrace that.
Im 26 about to be 27 and I’ve basically wasted all of my 20s to depression and anxiety, but I plan to go out with a bang ❤️
I'm 25 and same. I'm trying to get myself together and regain control, despite my mental health. Good luck
It's not a waste, it's a clearing out phase---I like to look at it as this. My 20s were the worst, I felt like an old soul trapped in a young body. I struggled very much mentally. Everyone around seemed so normal. This made things harder. When I turned 30 everything seemed to turn brighter. Im 36 now and things couldn't be better for what I've struggled through, I do still have a long way to go but this is the process. Wishing you all the love, abundance, and happiness🙌❤️🔥
Wym by that 🤨 regardless, i hope your mental health improves
I'm right there on that train with you🚂 Turning 27 on March 2. Dropped out of school twice.
I'm also 27 and have suffered with depression and social anxiety basically my entire life, but I try really hard not to think of my life as being "wasted." Yes I could've lived voraciously and could've had many more experiences, but I'm also very glad that my life is relatively peaceful, healthy, I've had opportunities to travel and go to college, I'm close with family, etc. Try focusing on the good/positive aspects of your life and your perspective will hopefully change :)
I am 19 turning 20 in a month...this is perfect for me..I will watch it now
No it is not perfect and no one cares
Omg hi I turn 20 in June ‘03 gang
@@boomerp.3652 are you okay ? Lmao
same!
Same 😊
Wasting your 20s, for example, is being on social media all day and not looking for your purpose in life. Having no friends or social interactions. Being too afraid to go out and try new things. Not challenging yourself. Not working on your mental health. I did it for a long time.
Yeah I need to delete social media. I mean I have friends but I would be so much better if I wasn’t on my phone so much
I’m 23 and I graduated from college less than a year ago and have gone through a lot of post grad depression. I’m not where I want to be in terms of career and have often at times feel like I’m already falling behind as I see my peers and people even younger than me achieving big things and traveling. Being a first generation student as well I feel like I have this enormous pressure to be the one to succeed and make a difference and have this pressure doing it all in my age group
My situation also same like yours 🤧
I feel the same, I just graduated a year ago and moved to a new home that is further away from my friends. The drastic changes in my life made me feel burned out, hopeless and demotivated. I felt like I couldn't make myself to move forward and find a job, everything feels so dark and I don't know where I'm going. Social media didn't help either, seeing my college friends in their new jobs and living their life. It felt like I'm stuck and everyone is ahead of me.
Now I'm starting to get a glimpse that I didn't "wasted" that year! I learned a lot about myself and really dig into why I was burned out, and feeling overwhelmed with this changes. I acknowledge and validate what I'm going through and the efforts that I exerted. Talking to my close friends helped too! And using small steps of taking care of myself (eat on time, sleep enough, clean room). And constantly reminding myself I'm on my own lane I don't have to compare myself with others. Reading your comment makes me feel that I'm not alone in this and I hope you get up day by day knowing what you feel is heard and valid. Take one step at at time, we can do this!
I can relate so much. I’m 27 in March, I’ve lost my dad two months ago and it feels like my life fell apart, it’s so painful to lose a person you loved and I also feel like I’ve lost myself during my 20’s. I guess I’ve got a lot of inner work to do. Thank you for the video 💕
I understand you 🙂
As an 18 year old, I’m so thankful for you and all the other creators who are making videos like this. It is actually very helpful and enlightening
The 20s is literally a time of growth and figuring life out. I‘d like to change the golden 20s to golden 30s or 40s 50s 60s whatever. When you‘ve settled and figured out what you want to be like is the best time to shine. Until then, you shall cherish each day but don‘t beat yourself up because you had some failures while you were barely out of school. You‘ll do it YOUR way
the pressure and responsibilities during your 20s is no joke- i'm turning 24, just resigned from my job beceause i'm not happy & it's affecting my mental health. i thought i'm gonna be happy after sending my resignation letter, never knew i'm gonna be this lost & stuck. not sure what career to pursue either. the anxious feeling of failing and not being able to do well in the future is just unbearable. nonetheless, i know that i'm not the only one who feels this way at some point & i try to keep going despite the circumstances. hence, i am rooting for everyone here in the comments. i hope you guys know that you can take one step at a time, we're all work in progress!
tysm celin for making this video, everything is so relatable. it helps me contemplate sm. you're an inspiration dear, bless your heart! 🥺💌
Can we all just take a sec and appreciate her amazing storytelling skills?? Loved this vid, so inspirational! 😭🥰
I didn’t have luxury to go out like others did. The paycheck to paycheck and finding myself in my career. I still have anxiety that it’s not all figured out at late 20’s. But as long as we are growing and learning boundaries.
Thanks for sharing this video. Relatable ❤
I went through the same thing in my early and mid 20s, depression took the best of me and I had the worst relationship with myself. Now I am in my late twenties, and I have never been happier.
All these experiences are not a waste of time, it helps us find joy and self love ❤ Proud of you ☺
that moment when you can relate to the title and words but not the videos of consistent socializing and partying
Turning 33 next week and I lost my dad 2 years ago. After I lost him I was straight reckless for the next year and a half 😂 I can't imagine what going through your 20s is like now compared to the 2010s. But what I can say, you and the rest of everyone in this comment section are perfectly normal and you're doing great! Your 20s are for learning these things, it's for experiencing the world around you and how you fit in it, how you can make it what you need it to be. You will change and change again. You aren't losing time, you aren't wasting your 20s, you aren't doing anything wrong. You're living, believe it or not. Make the mistakes, roll around on the floor thinking about what you'lI do next. Because no matter what you do, the lessons will come and you will learn them. Then more will come and youll learn some more. Life is a lesson and youll be learning for the rest of it, try not to add more pressure to the load. I know I'm probably sounding like every other 30+ y.o but wherever you are is fine, what's most important is maintaining your self awareness. I'm still young myself and this video applies to me too! I went through major transformation after 30, where everything looks different and I'm learning to navigate all over again 😆
These voiceovers are giving elite teenage drama tv show/movie vibes. Like really good ones when the main character goes through a great journey
I deleted my social media bc every time I went there I saw people always Havin so much fun and I felt like I was left behind , I left social media and just started to live life easy do things on my own pace still learning about myself and trying to go on with days ( turning 20 next month , wish me luck )
Best of luck. You can do it ❤️❤️❤️
@@faridaakther8248 thank you sm ! So far it’s been good /learning experience!
Giiiiiiiirl this was an amazing video. As a girl in her 20s, I appreciate content like this. Thank you for sharing your experience and paving the way for many of us who feel anxious about the 20-year-old pressures. (Also, you have an AMAZING narrating voice!! Can’t wait to watch more of you 💖
I lost my dad in 2018 too. I'm so sorry. 🖤 Take it from someone in their early 30s, questioning your values and opinions and being uncomfortable is worth it. Hopefully we're going to be here for a lot longer than just our 20s and 30s. Figuring out where you fit in this world and understanding how it works in some capacity early on (and yes believe me we are both still early) will only set you up for greater success and happiness.
Thank you for this! I’m 21 now (I’ll be 22 in November) but I wasted my teen years and my 20th being stuck in a loop of depression and not being social! This year I want change!
The perfectionist part really resignated with me. It's very difficult for me to let go of the need to control everything. It's making me absolutely miserable, especially when things don't go as planned. I'm just so tired of trying, because something out of my control will randomly pop up and fuck up everything I've been preparing for. Living has become like a chore; going to school, studying, keeping deadlines. It feels like I put in so much effort and get nothing out of it. No matter how hard I try, my life is still the same shit hole. I've started to hate my life and the world, my mental health is crumbling and I'm so full of hate and negativity. Idk how I'm going to get through this.
I was in the same spot as you last year. I actually ended up in the hospital for a week after a mental breakdown & hit rock bottom. Before that, I was desperately trying to control everything outside of my control because I lacked control over myself. My emotions, my health, my habits, what I was doing with my life, etc. None of that was going how I truly wanted it to. I lacked the discipline to get what I want. It wasn’t until I started to keep the promises I made to myself that life started to turn around for me (if you’re curious how, check out 75 Hard program by Andy Frisella). Let me just say this last thing… if you’re in a job, college program, or even location that you hate, don’t stay there. Not for another minute. Don’t do something you aren’t passionate about because you feel like you “have” to. You don’t “have” to do anything! You get to design your life, so do what you want. And if you don’t know what you want, just keep trying new things until something feels right. Life is too short to stay in a place where you feel unhappy.
I immediately felt connected to this video at the start when you mentioned your dad's death. Mine also died, in 2017 and I'm also 23. I am feeling lost, literally something inside me shifted when I got 23 and felt like I missed on so much, but then my therapist told me that I was busy going through grief, and that made me feel better. When you go through a death, or anything else, like depression, you are busy tryin to find a way to live your life that fits You, while many others seems to have it more smooth. Everyone's trying their best. I really like this video, thank you for sharing it and good luck in your journey :)
As someone's who's turning 20 later on this year, this video could not have been in my suggestions at a better time. I've been so nervous about entering my 20s because I feel like I don't have it all together when I should.
I turned 24 about a month ago, 3 months after moving in a new city to try to get that reconstruction going. I don't think a day goes by without me having extremely dark thoughts but I learned to embrace them and keep going. For now I still don't see the point in living but I keep fighting in the hope one day I will. Thank you for the video.
Lost my dad in 2018 too, I hope you’re doing ok. Thanks for this, super relatable my gosh
Just discovered your channel ✨ Thank you so much for making this video. It made me feel less alone in my own 20s struggle. I am 24 right now and I am still confused about what career to pursue because I am too good at too many things. Plus, I am a perfectionist too 😅 To anyone going through the same struggles, I want to tell you that we will do it in our own time. You aren't alone. Let's do it one step at a time 💛 All the best 💕
I turned 20 a few months ago and turn 21 this September, and it took me a little bit to come to terms with the bad beginning I had to my 20s. In October, I called my mom and begged her to take me home from school, and she did. I was a senior in the college of my dreams but incredibly depressed, anxious, and still dealing with repercussions of not having been diagnosed with ADHD until just recently. I fully intend to go back, but still, I know I've ruined the picture perfect image I had of how my life would be going. Now, I'm taking my time to recover through therapy, engrossing myself in hobbies I didn't have time for in the past three years, and working at a job I love- even if it's not something that could sustain me forever. It's better, and I see another future for myself that I am alright with. Something I realized was that I spent so much time thinking about how I was wasting my 20s, that I didn't even realize I'm only barely five months in! Out of 10 whole years! I have so much time to look forward to and worrying about it will only make the time go faster.
Yeah I felt this way too just last year. But I'm 25 rn and I honestly feel a lot better about myself. I've got goals and I don't feel as insecure about achieving them. There's nothing really special about your "teens or early twenties" it's just an age. You can literally get your life together whenever you feel like it and it won't matter in the grand scheme of things.
Also, everything you see on social media is usually not as it seems. No one is perfect.
I just turned 30 and needed to do this. This video was very insightful
This is everything I needed- thank you so much for this video. I'm turning 19 in a few weeks, and it's beginning to dawn on me that I'm only one short little year away from 20- and I am terrified. The thought of leaving my teens behind, and becoming a full fledged adult threw me into a whole mid life crisis, and I didn't know what to do or expect. This video you made was so helpful and comforting, thank you so much. I wish you all the best, and I wish all the fellow viewers and commenters the best as well
20 is soo young 😂
This is beyond beautiful it encapsulates everything I’ve felt so far the only thing is that I just turned 20 and I feel like my life’s been wasted
Wonderful video. I’m turning 23 in June and I’m slowly learning to take action and unlearn bad habits.
Hey! girl I really needed to hear this right now, I'm like in the same situation as you, I'm 23, & dont know what to do, but after watching your video, it was very inspiring! To never give up, move on, and to accept whats coming in for us! Keeping a positive mindset everyday! Thank you so much for the video!
My 20’s were spent going through depression, anxiety, an unhappy marriage and health problems. My 20’s are a period I would not wanna go though again. Thanks for sharing.
i am 22f and I plan everything, I have planned years. It gave me a sense of control. Although, now when i step into the actual practical world, i felt like i was losing control and felt like failing. My career achievements felt delayed, relationships ending felt like failing of my dreamt life. However, i have started to accept and move on more maturely. I have started to embrace the uncertain. I still plan my things but NOW, I DO NOT SHUT MY DOOR FOR OTHER POSSIBILITIES, it makes me feel more optimist and stronger!
keep going sis (≧▽≦)!!!
This video is such a godsend!! Thank you so much my 20s are about reconstruction, I love that!
I lost my dad in 2018 too. In February. Thank you for this video.
When I just decided to be joyful I notices alot of changes. It was an eye opener knowing that being happy and joyful is something we forcefully can choose. Don't wait for the happy feelings to come, just take it by force, smile even when you are alone. Then inner healings can come. Headaches disappears, anxieties and depresssion goes away. Joy is the greatest medicine there is.
What a beautiful video 🥹 I’m 22 and I resonate with all of your sentiments and feel connected to your story. ❤
6 years into my twenties and you beautifully summarized that rollercoaster. Thx for making this
55 seconds in and i started crying. I’m very very sorry about your father. I lost mine in 2016 and I’m now 23. I have been having to figure since he passed, who i am, and how to live this life without him here.
Watching this while eating a brownie on my first solo trip to India, after having already cried a bit today... this really did help! Thank you and good luck on your journey! Sounds like you're doing just fine :)
I hope you have a really good time here in India❤️
I spent most of my twenties in school, hiking, or on my computer doing software stuff. I feel like I could have partied or socialized more but I find it difficult to do that. I think as long as you do something you feel is important you don't waste them.
When I was 19, my dad was diagnosed with dementia and my whole world got so dark. I'm now 21 and it still hurts but this video helped me realize I'm not alone in suffering or in feeling frustrated with life. You truly are an inspiration thank you for making me cry and realize that even when life is dark, it doesn't mean I'll never see sunshine again.❤
I havent entered my 20’s yet, but I’m glad I saw this video before I did. I’m currently 18, so I was in high school during the worst parts of covid. Due to this, I ended up being homeschooled from the last half of my Sophomore year to my Senior Year of high school. I’m currently in my second semester of University, and I’ve been doing online school because I’ve been really sick. But mentally it’s been bad. It’s been hard to not feel like i’m wasting time. Like I should be doing more. Covid stole away a lot of what could of been as a teenager for me. Now that my 20’s are up next, I don’t want to have that same experience. But it’s easier said that done. I don’t even know where to begin with changing things, but maybe this is my time of reconstruction like you mentioned. But I hope I’ll come out of better and stronger than ever before. Thanks for your video.
Hello everybody in the comment section.
I always felt purposeless, alone because I felt like I was wasting my early 20s. But more that I read comments I don't feel alone and I hope we all can start taking control of what we have.
Her "wasting" is my ideal 20's :(
We are all so young. I’ve accepted that 20’s is about trying things, taking risk, figuring shit out and sometimes just resting/being bummed/sorting through mental health. I think we’re all constantly learning and having hard times and making mistakes isn’t a waste. I’ve accepted my timeline is not going to be the exactly the same as my friend or my sister or anyone else. There’s no right time, just gotta figure it out & stay present. Also, this comment sounds very zen but I panic about wasting time too I just eventually come back to this thought.
Just did 20 in December 2022, and I was already feeling like a loser with no expectations in life, putting pressure on myself to have a glow up, but actually didn't anything in January so I was feeling bad. This made me feel a little better, so thank you so much! Also, I'm really sorry for your lost, it's never easy to deal with thouse situations...I hope you're doing better now! All the love and positivity to you!
no idea why this video showed up in my recommended but this really got me thinking and quarter-life crisis is a very normal part of life! All the best to everyone in the comment section
I am 20 and from India, will be 21 on 9th february, i feel quite clueless at this point too and i dont feel passionate about anything either though im good at many things but nothing feels quite the way for me. questions like what am i destined to be?, what i feel passionate about?, am i on th0e right path?, what should i do next? keep on wandering in my head. I feel like im obsessed with perfect future too, it terrifies me to become a mediocre in life. my both parents are successful police officers and even my boyfriend too is doing great in his career this give me lots of pressure and anxiety idk what to do and ho to do...im grateful about everything in my life but myself
To whom it may concern,
Have patience with everyone, but especially with yourself. Know that you are loved.
Peace be with you. Do not be afraid.
Such a beautiful video, thank you for your vulnerability, turning 20 in April, i have a lot a passion for the things I love to do, and I see myself always being afraid of them despite the fact that I really can achieve my goals. That’s perfectionism I strive for is an illusion and I have been trying to get it out of my head while still holding and working my life with discipline. It’s so hard to balance it all, but these are the years where I’m really trying to do that.
i love the way you make the script, the story telling are so great! please keep making videos because i think you are good at this and i'm so proud of you how you manage and be responsibility to what happened into your life!
As a 30 going on 31 year old, hearing a 23 year old say they "wasted"...2 years of their life? Maybe? Just doesn't land. I remember feeling that way. But life keeps going. That's only the tip of the iceberg. I guess another side effect of social media and FOMO is making people think they should have their life together at 23 -- which is insane. Youre still a child. Embrace the struggle.
This, she's not even close to the end of her 20s. It almost feels like a reflection after an odd point of privilege. But at least it comes from a place of kindness, and maybe it'll help someone else. The loss of a parent definitely spirals a "quarter life crisis" because grief is a freaking MONSTER. It just feels odd that *this* is the content and the video title it targets when it's so niave. This video diary will probably age like a fond/naive memory. I'm just glad it isn't harmful content and at least someone highlights that everyone's social media presence isn't how they actually live or feel daily.
@@jadetea6112 yes, I think no ill intentions were had, it's definitely a societal problem. I also remember feeling scared and anxious about my present - future at 23, having graduated from college, feeling like I had done so much and yet was so lost. Only time can grant that kind of perspective.
“being alone in my contemplative state were lessons that I learnt while wasting my early 20s” is literally my life for the past 2/3 years since 2020
Really enjoyed the video. There is always time. Every decade is an opportunity. Failure should not be feared but learned from. My twenties were fun and then they sucked. My thirties were a blur of trying to get ahead. In my forties, my life went into a tailspin and then began to pick up. My fifties were hands down my best decade. We will see about my sixties. Retirement will be a challenge, many changes ahead, but I have a plan. Stay creative. Stay healthy. Stay engaged.
"Life is harsh and unforgiving.
Dont expect it to treat you nicely, its here to take you out. You dont have time to be fool"
That is lesson my grandpa told me when he had heart attack. i dont need to tell you did i waste my 20s. Good luck.
Girl! You got this, we really expect so much from ourselves and our life and fall into unrealistic things thinking they will last long. But in real meaning nothing lasts long, which is incredible, if we are depressed we got to be believing the fact that it's not gonna last longer. Everything is gonna be fine, failures is a part of life, every single person faces it in one way or other.
Btw I think you should do vlogging, honestly we would love to watch your vlogs, such a positive vibe.
You’re not alone girl. I wasted my early 20s too on some guy that wasted my time
03:57 is my fav part ❤ thanks for reminding us that indulging in validation can have the reverse effect & hinder growth
i'm 22 and most of the friends I made in high school are graduating or close to graduating and i just dropped out of college (physical therapy) because I want to go to med school. here in brazil we have 6 years of medical school to graduate and more 2 years for a specialized area, but it is very difficult to get in there in the first place. sometimes i get really anxious because, if all goes well, i'm going to graduate around 30 yo, it makes me feel stupid and lazy, like i wasted my time on something that deep down i knew i didn't want and now i have to start all over again. that feeling i could have worked harder in the past. also, my boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me a few months ago, which makes my future even more blurry. but we carry on, that was honestly just a big rant lol sorry for any grammar mistakes
I am in a similar boat but the worst part is my family kerps pressureing me to get a degree of 2 or 4 years becsise on their mind as a girl i should graduate by the time i m 25 and get married, its so frustrating. I am 23.
Thank you for this incredible message. I felt so seen and appreciate the effort and time you poured into sharing this work of art 💕
the fact that the thoughts were born in your head already means that nothing was wasted so you are the winner anyways
Wow, thank you so much for this video. The thought that your career doesn't always have to be driven by passion but that you should make sure to incorporate it in your everyday job or free time was very comforting and reassuring. I'm 27 and have been coming to terms with the fact that the job I always felt super passionate about pursuing comes with a toxic culture that doesn't serve me and my vision of life. So I'm also trying to figure things out and evolving along the way, and I guess it's good that we do. 😌
Keep pushing for the good and never back down
Thank you 💗
I'm turning 19 in several months, and this video appeared just in time.
I especially liked the words about perfectionism. Perfectionism really held me back these past few years. I always wanted everything to be as perfect as possible, but overthinking about it made me tired and I was scared to make something imperfect, so I didn't make as much things as I wanted, didn't complete a lot of them.
Now I'm trying to not to chase perfection that much. I notice that I started to enjoy the process of creating something, and not chasing perfection helps me to complete what I do and really become better and better 💖
You are truly a gift, I learnt so much from this x
aww shucks
So beautiful that you can be so vulnerable around this. I also think having all of those experiences are not a waste, but simply lessons that are now transformed into wisdom making you exactly who you are Now ✨wishing you all the love on your healing journey
this is beautiful, i’m watching on my tv but i needed to open the app and comment because the effort you put into editing and all of your own content in addition to the amazing lessons is *chefs kiss* i can’t wait to see your work pay off more
Dear Celine, even though this is my first time watching your video, I felt so much for this video, since I lost my dad in 2018 too, and I just turned 23, marking this the first time i had a birthday abroad.
I’m still struggling about my priorities in life, since I’m also pursuing a creative career. And without the calm self love you mentioned, it can be even harder.
Thank you so much for making this video, and making me feel not alone. I hope the best for you!
very beautiful. i’m just turned 22 and i needed this and didn’t even know it
I am in my teens (14) but i still needed this and i think i got a lot of clarity and lessons from this i needed, and i think most of these lessons are for everyone. From past few days idk why but i am feeling lost and idk what to do and what i am doing even though i am also doing some meaningful things like morning routine, stretching, journaling , etc everyday but somthing feels missing (please give me some advice in reply if you can it'll help me a lot). This video was really great i learnt something new tysm
Thank you so much for the fun and wise video :) This video feels like a cheatsheet in the 20s and I feel "big sister energy" from this. It's really comfortable and assuring, feels like someone says "you're gonna be okay, you can face this, everything will end well" and definitely will save this video to watch sometimes again. Thank you once again :) Hope you will always be well and good luck for the future journey
Hi! I'm turning 21 in July and I'm already having the same doubts you've described in this video, which is kinda crazy to me. I personally grew up browsing the internet during my free time, and had a passion for painting and sculpting which let me into chasing a career in the arts. I also grew up being quite introverted. For me, the reconstruction I'm going through is one where I've grown tired of the internet, and one where spending nights developing my skills has become tiring and no longer enough to make me feel like I'm doing something with my life. Which is insane to me, that was my identity!
And yet, I know that these incoming years are all about overcoming my fears, going out and letting myself go and fail where I have to. I've been doing my best to make that happen, and have more and more opportunities to do so.
Thank you for sharing your experience, and letting people like us now that we're not alone! I'll keep growing, thank you!
I turned 22 last December and I couldn't be happier, my 2022/2021 made me more aware of my mental health and I'm so happy for facing it all, I'm still learning and I'm happy to learn and fail to do better, I know we sometimes forget that we're humans and we are not meant to be perfect, so I hope everyone is being safe and doing what they can to live and love
im gonna be turning 20 in 3 days and it feels so weird and stressfull, its like i dont wanna grow older which is kinda dumb but scary for me. I feel like i should be enjoying everyday and be happy withmyself but i dont know whats gonna happen in the future, whom i might marry, will it be bad... these things scare me. I hope i get over this. Thankyou for this video as it made me a lil realise that everything takes time nd dont rush. Love you and everyone❤ REMEMBER ME IN YOUR PRAYERRRSSS XOXO
Saaaaame 😭😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️
@@itzlesleyrose Surely we will get through this with a positive mindset and face our fears ❤❤❤❤ whenever you feel like that im gonna always be here to be there for u :)
@Mercy Mercy omg I just woke up, and you made me emotional. I could relate everything in the comment section of this video. I felt like I found my family. Thank you again for your support❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorder for years ago, and lately, I've had some serious hard times with it, but I feel so much better nowadays. I still have some struggles, but I'm getting better ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@itzlesleyrose i am so proud that you are trying to get better. Everyday won't be easy but as long as you try and have a positive mindset, try to forgive urself and love yourself that its okay to be vulnerable at times and that you will get through this. Stay strong gurl ❤❤❤❤ Wish you the best!! xoxo
@@mercymercy5302 all my love and my support to you 😘😘❤❤❤ thank you so much ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for validating the feelings of anxiety of the unknown going through your 20s 🥰
You don't know how much you've helped everyone by posting this. Thank you
wow i was completely breaking down for the whole day and for the first time i thought about entertaining myself,i come across this vid lol i dont even subscribe this one tho.i'm GLAD that i find this one.
This video seems so simple on the surface, but in reality, this is extremely motivating and calming! Thank you💗
What a beautiful video. It is crazy that I could relate to every single aspect in this video. Thank you for making it! It put a lot of things into perspective for me.
loved it. so inspiring. I am also in my twenties and I recently decided to change careers for a second time and move out of my country for it. I search on the internet opinions about related experiences and surprisingly most of them where encouraging to just go a long with was best for you. Specially in your twenties. Everything is changing and I love it
The hard part I find is turning my passion into stability.
I’m soon to turn 20. This was a great video to watch. Also I’ve been looking for videos like I try to make, real and honest.
This is a beautiful start to a UA-cam channel. Can’t wait to see more content 😘
Girllllll, you don't even know how much I needed to hear this,thanksssss
I'm going through something similar. I lost my mother and I felt all alone. I was spiraling and pushing people away with my bad moods. And I had this fear of loneliness but today I felt like being alone isn't so bad as long as I do what I want. And I feel alive again
Enjoy the road, but remember this
We are living in a world where is designed to get you in failures and depression, get you stuck in your mind overthinking the same problems everyday and wake up at the age of 50 in the same place as you started 30 years old back
REMEMBER: you ARE what you put your ATTENTION 🙏🏻 they put your attention away using (social media, Netflix, etc) that’s why we never finish nothing as we expected, that’s it.
REMEMBER to laugh, love and forgive
Laugh: when you laugh you put away any depression or anxiety thoughts away 💭
Love: when you are loving (not in romance) all your negative thoughts are going to be away too and your ideas are going to flow
Forgive: forgive is equal to separate from “”, once yo forgive someone YOU ARE SAVING YOURSELF ❤️ you are not accepting the another person energy FORGIVE
The fact i am 19 and i feel like bcs i involve i am a monster,an idiot...etc...
I am lost ab myself but i wanna re-find myself..(finding myself again),my dreams and my goals
im gonna be honest out pf all the videos ive seen so far about this topic this is by far the best one the honesty here is amazing hope to see more