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I legit saw myself in fed even the bad stuff, honestly I had decided to change and I have unsubscribed from those mens entertainment channels like alpha male channels, I also have had huge shock after watching this vid how much toxic masculinity was apparently drilled into my mind so I just wanna satly thank you for making these videos coz I saw the error of my ways and those ways got me no where, so thank you
Oh shit I meant say sorry
@@pokegunner8488 you know there's an edit button, right? lol
I was in the "alpha/red pill" vibes in the past, thanks to the buddhism, I get out of that toxic shit! But, thanks Anthony for showing this to the other guys.
@Kyla I have read Jordan Peterson 12 rules for life book
I’m proud of you, and I’m really glad that you’re changing. Good luck
I respect you so much. Not just for this but for NOT being one of those bullshit pickup artist guru types that legitimately try to pass off sexual harassment, gaslighting and manipulation as dating strategies.
boom.
Dickerson haha funny now laugh
@MayheM Moran Good job, you just did something every kid in kindergarten can do. Guess that limited intellectual capacity really held you back, huh?
@@oompalumpus699
Ahh shame
the tyrant67 r/iamverysmart lmfao
It’s funny how you mention how these type of guys sees dating as a game, because in many videos and podcasts Fed does indeed talks about playing “the game” when the topic is dating or relationships. Good insight Anthony.
Btw, I love your videos, keep it up dude.
Well it depends on the intent. Like seeing dating as a "game that both parties are having fun interacting organically" vs "A game where you say and do things to get what you want" are vastly different.
This is why some guys act like assholes not realizing that they need confidence in themselves, not just being full of themselves.
I never liked seeing him on screen. How he acted, the things he says, how he treated other members, how others would react to him even in just "fun" or "casual" situations always felt "off" to me
aren't pickup artist just suppose to move on to another girl when they get rejected? Instead fed just keeps coming back to his circle of friends and talks badly on anyone who rejects his advancements
im over here doing a staring contest for like yhe first 3 minutes
isocuda Yup. Very different. I once went on a date with a guy who asked what he had to do to get me to kiss him. Um, nothing, now that there’s no chance of it ever happening. Dating is not a video game, it’s just you spending time with someone you like to get closer to them. There aren’t any checkpoints/achievements.
Holy, Fed also called dating 'the game' all the time. Makes sense now.
yea, it's really sad how fed betrayed them :(
@@noahlol14spinach95 well with the new information now seems like they betrayed him
@@johndeobulatao8628 wellll.not really.all this new stuff was fed saying he had feelings for poki and she had feelings for him and then she didn’t but he still did.and him being “led on” it doesn’t change the stuff with the other girls.
@@jared50709 yeah bro cause a consensual message and a hand grab is harmful, yeah bro derrrrr
@@johndeobulatao8628 Your about as smart as the person in your profile picture.look up other statements there was more.
If you're already familiar with the situation, timestamps for content
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Thank you
thx this helped
Thank you kind sir
Ohh thank you sm
Thanks :))
For some reason I was able to tell fed was a bit of a creep and made the girls feel very uncomfortable. Idk if it's because I am starting to see the similarities between me and fed and how I was starting to see the issue with that mentality. This video has helped with getting a better idea of how I use to behave and how I am starting to slowly change for the better.
Good for you! I'm sure you'll be okay, self reflection is the key in these situations and you got that down, keep it up!
Thats great! Sometimes it takes the view on another person to know yourself better
Same, but it was more of just feeling uncomfortable because of how many jokes he made about getting women.
When issues about Fed came out I kept comparing myself to him . And find out we're kinda similar other than badmouthing instead I want people to like me and see me as the 'best' person and felt bad when they don't. Thanks to the quarantine I had time to think about my actions and will try to be better.
I always felt like something was wrong and I never really like him because of it but because I don't know him personally I didn't want to assume. I think it's great that you were able to see and realize that. Not everyone can do that.
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Persistent is good but unless they cross the line
Welp that’s crappy people or he ego talking
It's not black and white. Being able to tell the difference between a hard/flat rejection or a soft rejection is based on social queues.
Saying "Stop at any level of rejection" can imprint weakness on up and coming men.
The key to being good at dating is being comfortable with rejection. If you're comfortable you can easily see a hard rejection as "I'm not her type, no big deal" or "Ah well, made a new friend" (and in some cases "Oh I crossed a boundary, I won't make that mistake again").
When you take rejection personally you're blind to the big picture or you just become pissy.
Which makes me wonder if Fed had any strong male figures while growing up?
but they have said they didnt say no because they were scared and practically froze
To stop people I'm saying it wasn't consensual imeant because
I do hope this series covers not only how to spot this type of toxic person and how to avoid being this type of person but how to get out of this type of "ideology" and become a better person. (idk if am asking too much there) but i do hope one day Fed does become the person we all thought he was.
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I’ll meet him in McDonald’s serving me big mac
@@gitgudnga or in a allyway trying to sell you "white stuff"
@@JimTheKid lmfaooooo
Fed needs therapy. I also used to see women as NPCs. Then you see how even someone like Yvonne could be affected by this and the pain. And you realize how toxic that mindset can be. Women are people too. Treat them accordingly.
What’s NPC
Non player character, like an AI in a video game
Anthony Recenello It means Non Player Character. Basically the AI people in video games. He means that he treated people as if they aren’t an actual person so he doesn’t care what happens to them
@@AnthonyRecenello a character in a game. Scripted character. Not a person controlling the character. More or less.
I hope this helps
GARRETT MOISON thank you makes sense
Don’t forget to read lily and Yvonne’s statements about what happened for context about the allegations
Yup coming
Also to anyone who wants to find them on their twitters @yvonnie and @lilypichu
Definitely also watch Yassuo's video on Fed as well. He was Fed's closest friend and was on his side at first due to manipulated narratives until he found out everything.
@@milktea1504 Loved Yassuo's statement. Shows how much of a good guy he is that once he noticed the toxicity he switched sides sooo fast.
I think poki held back a ton of information. Kimi's point of view showed just how far fed was willing to go. It was disgusting to hear.
Yes if you've seen Moe/Yassuo's vid he talks about how there is soooo much more we don't know
She didn't hold back information. She shared her side and what others were comfortable sharing. She literally said if they wanted to come out with more she would let them speak for themselves. There is much more but that is all they are comfortable sharing with us. It would be wrong of her to speak more of it on their behalf when they haven't even come out about it.
Yassuo said she held back a lot but she started her statement saying she would only provide context for the statement made by Lily/ Yvonne
Caitlyn Dicroce she also said at the beginning that she wont share everything
With Kimi and other girls I think, fed knew they weren't as confrontational as poki so he would be more bold with the sexual harassment
This is a small gist of what the story that came out. After Yvonne's statement, I would suggest to react to Lilypichu's video/statement, Moe (One of Fed's closest friend), Angelskimi & Fuslie to know more about the things he had done. Some of their videos are long so maybe look at the whole thing & then cut up some parts for the video.
Spoilers for the videos or for those who don't want to watch all of those videos, here is a short summary of what they said Fed had done to them. This may not be 100% accurate since I'm trying to recall what everyone had said on their video, still suggest to look at their videos. But summary:
After Lilypichu's breakup, she was at a vulnerable state. Fed asked to massage her & then massaged her legs & thighs which was awkward for her. When he was drunk, he told her that he liked her. When she shut him down, he told her not to tell anyone else.
As for Angelskimi, there were many things in the video but mainly 2 things that stand out. One where he asked to cuddle with her in her sofa. Another when 3 girls were sitting on the bed. He came in, pushed open her legs & placed his head on her crotch.
As for Fuslie, one time he saw her getting changed accidentally. He kept bringing it up later as a joke that he had seen her without her top. While he was drunk, he peed in front of her when she was trying to help him. Another thing she witnessed was when they were on a some type of group trip, Fed brought a girl that he "wanted to get to know". Later during the trip, it seemed it didn't work out. Then he started avoiding her & told others negative things about her. When trip was over, the girl asked Fuslie for a lift because Fed had already left (Leaving the guest he had invited that nobody else knew)
As for Moe, there are a lot of things. I would just say to look at his video. But let's just say his trust was terribly broken. Even after the news came out, he talked to Fed & Fed convinced him that it was blown out of proportion. He told Fed that he trusts & supports him. But he later found out that Fed lied to him, downplayed all the situations to make himself look like the victim and also did some things to him (that he doesn't want to share to the public)
Along with the sexual harassment to mainly Yvonne & rest of the girls and manipulating his friends who were not in the scene to make himself look like the victim or the better person, most of them said that he had this way of making others feel special by saying things that he is their best friend & he'll always support them. But when he didn't need them for his videos, he'd ignore them for weeks making them feel if they had done something wrong.
Some one give this guy an award for this charity
That's a manipulator.
It’s pretty crazy because Fed was pretty vocal about his past, but not too much. He has talk about regrets and his relationship with his father being “STABLE” at most. I think Fed was grown up in an environment where his opinion doesn’t matter, he was controlled and criticized for everything. The stories these girls bring are very similar in that he seems hell bent on trying to control their lives. He was always on their streams: flirting with them, getting touchy with them, barging into their rooms a lot, but the reason he did this was for “content”. I didn’t really watch Fed until the quarantine started and in my opinion his quarantine streams were pretty good. He has an ear for comedic timing. Right when the quarantine stream ended his streams kinda got boring for me and I didn’t watch much after. As of right now I condemn everything he did. This is something that is very concerning especially since more than 10 people have come out about their statements about this guy. I must illiterate that Idk whether he really meant it or not. Many people tend to do what they know. In my opinion Fed is the classic case of guy who has a lot of social anxiety with women, and he was in a position of power to manipulate these girls for his agenda. He needs help because even his friends see him as a friend andI hope he gets help, because mental health can be the difference between life and death.
I condemn it as well but you might be on to something
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Honestly, I would feel a bit uncomfortable whenever he 'd lie next to lily on her bed or just lie on her bed without knocking, knowing she's with Michael. But I didn't say anything bc I didn't wanna be one of those people "making it weird" for lily and fed since they're just friends.
I stick with the legal stuf and there is only 2 accounts of misconduct both with yvonee I stick with legal cause it’s different to right and wrong
But with Yvonne I don’t think there was malicious intent
@@gitgudnga in these cases intent doesnt matter. What matters is how you made the other person feel. If you can’t see that you’re crossing lines or making someone uncomfortable either by verbal cues or having conversations, then you lack empathy and need to re-evaluate how you treat people
@@rabab473 if u lack empathy how would u know until someone tells u like i said i stick with legal stuff
@@gitgudnga normal people do not lack empathy, those who have ASPD (sociopathy) don't. The majority of people that we know of do not have ASPD.
I actually enjoy your channel man ,it feels like actual advice for everybody and is not just an asshole teaching young men how to take advantage of women. :)
Respect for doing these videos
Honestly yea
@@C22Raptor lmao I can see why, you were probably like "wtf why did they respond to to their own comment"
Fish say yes
Yes
I have so much respect for you and im so thankful you're talking about this to people. I had to deal with a "nice guy" and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. If I knew then what I know now I would have never hung out with him. He kissed me without consent and in a way where we wouldn't get in trouble. The worst part? He planned it for MONTHS! And his guy friends kept encouraging him to do it. And no one realized why it hurt so badly. They where just like "awww it was you're first kiss? Boo hoo get over it" My own Father even told me to get over it. The very man I thought would protect me thought I was being to sensitive. Now I honestly dont care if I ever kiss anyone again and I have zero tolerance for children in a man's body.
So thank you so so so much for pointing this things out. Because many people don't see the damage it does and how loonng it takes to get better.
The fact that he has no idea who Fed is and brought up "The Game" I... Fed talked about "The Game" a good amount and was very into the idea of it.
I was so skeptical when I found your channel. Most "life/relationship/dating coach" on youtube or irl are just scumbags and frauds. But you actually give pretty good advice and do not look down on people. Keep up the good work, coach.
I just think it's crazy how I'm still hurt for going through a very similar relationship as her recently and finding this video really helps me feel like I'm not alone and actually make me realize who he really is instead of ignoring the all signs and warnings because I really liked him... I really hope that he'll eventually change and become a better version of himself
I’m sorry you’re going through this, good luck
@@aboz8649 Aww thank you so much ( ◜‿◝ )♡
Fed comes off as the type who moves the goal posts in relation to his insecurities. You can see this in the podcasts where his opinion will flip flop when they're talking about relationships. He sounds like he's trying to give off that he has experience, but it misses the mark. Which is the red flag.
What's frustrating is that the girls respect him, tried to help and keep things private. Yet despite this people like Lily got backlash on these things and related allegations.
The reason she took down her post is because of the backlash.
(Not the otv post)
I want Disguised Toast's statement. I think men should be aware if they were witness to this kind of thing, especially if the suspect is really good at manipulating. He manipulated both men and women, and it's kinda screwed up if both aren't addressed and studied properly
Didn’t toast make a statement?
Toast and Scarra made statements! It was revealed that toast actually talked to fed about a year prior about his behavior and they saw no change in him.
Toast was actually a huge stand in for the girls at offlinetv and would defend them. Toast was very aware and addressed fed about it but again they saw no change in fed. Toast and Scarra have been great guys during all of this and have 100% been behind the girls backs.
@@donewing1223 yea, i meant i want a reaction on their statements, because they were into the situation as well
Nods to michael and sean they are the bigger men here. If i know a guy did that to my that time gf or close girl friend ill probable get very angry and aggresive towards that guy/boy. So michael and sean being more estoic is just an amazing example. Im pretty sure they have the though thats why they didnt make the statement but men they are Mature as fuck respect
Can u react to Yassuo. I really want ur take on his opinion of him just basically giving up on fed completely
YES THIS
I think it’s important that he reacts to this because Fed wasn’t just being manipulative to women. He was manipulating everyone around him.
It's a little hard because we don't know what was that Fed did to him. He decided to keep it private but it has to be really severe for Yassuo to decide he'll never forgive him, even going as far to say that he wouldn't be friends with him even if Fed himself decided to confess
I think Yassuo still has some feelings for Fed, because he is still willing to keep Fed’s honor by not saying everything he did.
@@angelomendoza6666 nah man he made it clear he's completely severing the link with fed, he's just keeping quiet to not give the public more details that will need to be explained
I thought your comments about Fed seeing women as a game were spot on. And he also seems to put on a nice guy persona, but on the other hand, he's also very straightforward in his affection toward women, and has multiple online "ship" moments with girls, which varies from your definition of a nice guy.
I obviously don't know you in real life, but you sound like a genuinely nice person who wants to help people.
You are another kind of dating coach who doesn't rely on toxicity (on both ends). Appreciate you dude. :)
I would just like to say to all those who felt like they just glanced into a mirror after watching this video.
You are not alone.
You are on a road to becoming so much more. Like a Caterpillar finally ready to become a Butterfly.
You have good intentions, you just became lost at some point. It's not your fault, you weren't given all the answers.
I say this as a man who realized long ago on my own time and judgment that I was a toxic person. The feeling alone can be indescribable, but the process to bettering ones self is well worth the journey.
Stay focused, stay positive. I wish you all the best.
I really needed this video, and I need to hear this. Thank you so much. 💜
Oh god, when you were describing what a 'nice guy' was, I was thinking, "oh shit, that was me in highschool, the fuck?" it was just really jarring to hear that was how I was, I never really acted out against those I liked if I realised that they liked someone else, but instead I kinda 'turtled' in and got into a cycle of self-deprecation and hate of myself for no reason. I'm just glad that since I started university, I got a clean slate to reset myself and become the best person I can. Just saying thanks for, I guess opening my eyes on who I was and I now know how to not become like that again. Great videos man!
Ohmygosh. This Fed guy sounds like my ex that broke up with me 3 weeks ago...
He was so egotistical, he always made himself appear like the "nice guy" when all he was really doing was being manipulative. He made me believe awful things about our friends because he got mad that they moved out of our house. He roped me into believing the awful things he said about them.
Two nights before he officially dumped me, I brought up my concerns with him which only spiralled into me leaving the house to stay with my friend and hour away. That night though, he still tried to play the "nice guy" saying I could have the bed and he'd sleep on the couch and that I should drink some water because I cried a lot. He kept trying to uphold this idea of, "Well, I know I just hurt her so horribly, but I'm still being kind to her, so I'm definitely a nice guy." That's a very poor example, but hopefully you get the idea.
The thing is, he still wants to be friends after how toxic he was towards me, I think it's because I'm the first girl to treat him with so much kindness and never speak ill of him. I think he only wants to keep me as a friend because I boost his ego 😔
It hurts my heart to watch this because I can relate to her situation with him so much :(
@Marceline the Vampire Queen It's okay, some people just like to troll 🤷♀️
I relate to this and I’m sorry you went through that.
@Preacher David Well, I can assure you I'm not 14. Also, a 14 year old went through a really toxic relationship? My heart goes out to them because it hurts a lot to be so manipulated my someone.
Preacher David that’s.. nnot really am excuse to laugh at someone’s experience with a toxic relationship. It’s pretty shite when someone acts like a horrible person to you and when you get away from the situation they start acting kind, and nice to try and lure you back to keep treating you like trash.
Hell even I found myself stuck in a toxic relationship that lasted 2 years. Constant fights, being used for his gain, and just a plethora of stuff that he blanketed by being nice to me afterward and beforehand.
Your videos popped up into my home feed a few weeks ago and I rolled my eyes and moved on. Why? Because every experience I have had with "Dating Coaches" were riddled with Red Pill concepts and terminology. I assumed you would be a Pick-up Artist Coach perpetuating toxic masculinity within dating. Reinforcing the idea that dating is a game and manipulating women into choosing you is how to win.
I clicked on your video today mostly to have a laugh. "Let's hear what this guy says about Fed."
Will he take Fed's side and push the incel/nice guy narrative or will he jump on board and go against Fed without anything substantial to say just to grift.
Needless to say, I was so pleasantly surprised. Good to know that real and positive dating coaches exist in the world. Easiest subscription I've made in a long while. Can't wait to see more of your content in the future!
Thanks so much badrox 🙏🏻. Also side note, the algorithm must’ve really wanted us together you n me 🤣
You don’t believe how much i needed this. I’m at a really low point of self esteem and this video helped me see my own flaws and now I’m working to better myself. Thank you so much!
Comment to help with the algorithms.
Thank you for such a wholesome content. I just wish more younger people can watch this and learn from it.
can you react to yassuos he was feds friend and even on his side at first.
Even Yassuo is disgusted by Fed
@Cameron Ernst He even said the things that is out in public is only top 30% max of the issues, just the tip of the iceberg.
Yes Moe's video was by far the most damning one
Sam G for real ik how fucked up the whole situation but coming from his close friend and a guys perspective hit differently
@@camryn7023 I honestly hope Fed doesn't do any more stupid shit
Honestly i'm kinda worried he will commit suicide
Something that I found helps a lot in handling people with such behavior, and also in making sure you don't engage in it yourself, is trying to spot what I call "hidden contracts": "Because I did X and Y for you, you must do Z for me". Unless there was an explicit agreement about that beforehand, they don't have to do anything. And even if there was an agreement beforehand, we are then talking about transactions, not relationships.
Nice videos dude, not sure how I got here, but it's cool to see a dating guy who's grounded in reality. I knew you couldn't be too bad when you recommended Dr K's videos, been watching them since November and it's been a real treat to see people have honest conversations
Lets goooo
Hope this is great
Update: it was great! Can't wait for part 2, see you then!
this video made me rethink how i saw myself in my current/past lifestyle & relationship. thank you. this is a wake up call. i will reform and try to be a better person. i hope i am not too late.
The way he described how he saw Fed's past is almost exactly like my past, I've got to be really careful, I don't want to ever be like Fed
thank you so much for your input on this situation! i love otv and it made me so sad to hear about this when it came out. hopefully fed can pick himself up again and better himself after this.
I was reluctant to subscribe, but you seem genuine and are wanting to spread awareness for a serious cultural issue.
Respect ✌
I respect that you came at this being upfront and honest about avoiding looking into the details before the video so you could give an unbiased opinion. There's not a lot of people that will come at situations like that nowadays and its nice finding a channel that will look at topics like this without bias
Thanks for doing this. This is something that really, really should help people see the wrongs in all of these events. People have mentioned that the girls in the OTV never "said no" to his physical advances, and instead were silent, and say it implies consent. It is a deeply disturbing trend.
Thanks for addressing this. It’s a very important topic that some people tend to stray from talking about especially since many tend to blur the lines of what is acceptable and not.
I just wanna say these videos are helping me a lot. I’m definitely a guy who’s fallen into that nice guy habit and these videos are helping me identify what my specific flaws are and how to better myself from it. I too have struggled with my relationships with my female peers and I’m glad you’re doing this so people like me can reflect and learn from our mistakes. I don’t want to be someone who manipulates people or is insecure. I want to be better so that I can have a better relationship with my female friends and eventually have a long lasting relationship. Thank you.
Man u make things sound so clear and simple.... Thank you for being here on UA-cam ❤
Yo, thank you for the stuff about "pickup artists" and "alpha males". I get so pissed off at that shit cause it's just fucked up both ways. I mean hell, I absolutely used to feel bad about myself that I wasn't "alpha" enough. The only reason I didn't fall into that loop was it was at a time in my life where I didn't feel like trying. Nowadays I'm in a better place and I know how to talk to people a bit better. So yeah, I really hope people learn about these traps and be better because of it. And if you are the one to spread this awareness, well, you are a cool dude
This guy is the biggest chad I’ve ever seen. Truly authentic. No bullshit. Great advice, I found myself learning so much from this video he is very smart. You can tell that he’s a great guy.
You are so well spoken! And give really good insight into these things too!
I enjoyed this video and absolutely agree on this idea of "Nice guys TM" (it's become more prevalent in latest generations) and how they act towards women. In fact, I see a lot of this behaviour in my past self (late teens, early 20s self).
One thing I feel is HEAVILY understated here is how Fed must feel about this whole debacle - being 'that guy' who strikes out with women he finds attractive and going through the same cycle must feel incredibly shitty. Especially with this very public intervention - he must feel very frustrated/angry/ashamed, thereby further fueling a low self-esteem. I'm not at all condoning the behaviour or lessening his friends' feelings or experiences, but feel bad for him. One needs to have empathy for all sides, even if you don't agree with his behaviour. The key, I think, is for him to use this as a catalyst for self improvement.....
I genuinely hope that fed can understand these points, become a better person and move on from this mindset in the future.
"He is a nice guys king who never expresses interest"
(Poor Yvonne)
god bless you for speaking out on your thoughts onto the situation. it gives a little bit more clarification as a professional looking from the outside of the situation, and advice to those who may walk into complications like these
bruh i deadass used to be exactly like this. i’m so glad i stopped and realized that i had to consider the other person’s feelings as equal to my own. basically just be a genuine and honest person, and your good qualities will shine. if the person you want to start a relationship with isn’t into that (esp. if they vocally reject you) please just move on and accept it. don’t forget, relationships are two-sided, and they are not always about you getting what you want.
Knowing that Anthony's going into this blind and unbiased, I wonder if he would do this as a series in reverse kind of thing. Watch their videos and the like to point out where it started to unravel.
Hey I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your videos. You genuinely give really good advice and insight not only on romantic relationships, but relationships as a whole. I've only watched you and been subscribed for a couple days, but I've come to notice my own behaviors that are problematic and have come to understand why and how I can be better. I've learned so much from you in such a short amount of time and really respect you. I love how you don't give advice on "how to win people over" because I thought that's what dating advice was. I didn't realize that I was also seeing dating and relationships as a thing to win people over, but I think differently. I've also found a new respect for myself by thinking in this way since I understand now that I am a human being and shouldn't have to validate others or have others validate me. I'm really glad I found your channel! Please keep the content coming. I hope that more and more people can hear your insight and change the way they think about relationships as a whole.
Your comment is why I’m making this series. 🙏🏻
I love how you do these videos and interact with your subscribers/viewers’ comments you truly are awesome. I don’t know how you are not popular enough
Your advice and explanations are super clear and dynamic. Much respect for making these videos and clarifying things for many people
It's interesting how you say that he's treating relationships as a game even without seeing his content. Because he often talks about "The game" whenever the topic is talked about in Offline TV. Like waiting for a while to reply to a txt so you seem busy and not desperate to txt back, etc.
To all the guys in the comments saying they see themselves in Fed and are trying to change,
thank you and good luck
The way you explained the 'good guy' was very good and important, I understood every word you said and helped me to understand the situation better. Also the part about it being like a game made the most sense, he really did treat it like a game.
You spoke a lot of fucking facts. You've said some things I've never heard a male say before in regards to relationships, from friends to romantical, not just dating. This video made me REALLY think and reflect. I'm looking forward to learning and listening more of your perspective.
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I like they way you explain it, when I saw some Fed videos, I had the same feeling towards him. Another good "statement" about Fed, to react to, is the one of Yassuo, it's not about dating, but it is interesting in the perspective of a broder-like friend.
The way Yassuo talks about friendships between men, is something to analize, and gives a lot to think about. Personally, I 100% agree with Yassuo's perspective.
This man out here dropping so many fax, total and utmost admiration, respect and love to you Anthony
It’s actually very interesting that you talk about “The game” in dating, because in the first OTV all men podcast, one of the main topics was dating, and Fed talks in length about “The game”
Your emotional intelligence astounds me, and I feel like I've learned a lot from you and this video. Thank you.
It resonates how you said that men have learnt to be this way to look good infront of other men, because the same is also true for toxic women and their toxic dating strategies. Growing up a lot of girls in my peer group would look down on my actions like not making the guy wait (instead being the one waiting), and actions like initiating anything with boys, showing too much interest or any interest at all, confessing, giving gifts, not making them pay for my shit, not making them chase me etc... Ive always hated these toxic expectations and im glad i actively ignored these pressures that were put on me but boi it took a lot out of me to ignore these "advices" from peers so I can see how men can easily succumb to their own toxic behaviours in dating
All guys subscribed to this channel and/or are down here in the comments.. I just want to say thank you. Thank you all for being decent human beings. Aaand I'm sorry that there are men/women in the first place that make people feel shitty, inadequate or unsafe in the first place. Wish all the best comes to you all!
hey i cant watch this video since this is a very close subject to my life but thanks for doing this! there a lot of people reconsidering their actions in the comments section and it's really good to see, i hope everyone's moving forward to the best! ❤️
This is facts. I deeply respect your content and what you have to say. Keep up the great work
This video left me crying. I didn't realize how fucked up I am. I thought I was past this nice guy mentality but it snuck up on me. Idk, thanks for helping me open my eyes man. I just really hope I can change
💖 all I can say was YES YES YES when you say your comments and words, gosh finally someone who knows has finally spoken
I'm early. And fed in OTV (OfflineTV) was my favorite youtuber, in OTV. But once he got kicked on OTV. I was shocked. But i respected why, fed was kicked to OTV.
I always loved fed in the offline videos, but seeing how much the others grew after he was gone makes it a lot better to watch the videos now
I love your videos! Will be waiting for the next one! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It’s very helpful. I’ve learned a thing or two in this video.
I really like this guy. I don't know anything about this drama, but I appreciate how he went about this and acknowledged the toxic masculinity.
It's embarrassing how much of Fed I see in my former self. It's also a mixture of hate and sadness I feel. I truly hope he finds his self-esteem and goes on the path of making himself a better person and seeks some redemption. I imagine it would be quite hard being surrounded by like minded boys. I had to cut out only a handful of people to get better. Imagine the bravery to cut out a whole sub community.
Very well done. Subscribed
On the discord I really wanted you to stay away so that you don’t get attacked by a mob (sorry if I got annoying). But you handled this very well and I learn so much from you. Love and respect you!
i remember hearing about this whole situation and feeling so sad. based on watching the offlinetv videos, i always thought they were like family and were so close and supportive of one another.
i feel so bad for yvonne, i can’t imagine how uncomfortable and horrible she felt.
i feel so bad for poki, fed was one of her closest, most trusted friends and she must’ve felt awful after this.
i feel so bad for lily, i know fed was hitting on her after her breakup and he was sexually harassing her too.
Anthony never blinks hahaha
If you guys already watched poki's video he starts talking at 8:31
Thanks!
Glad other people are learning to be better bc of this video my ex was like that and is still continuing to manipulate people I hope he can one day learn that the way he’s doing things is wrong and change for the better as well
I love this guy's "love other" mentality! very agapeistic! Thanks for your take.
I only discovered your channel recently when you covered the relationship between Lily and Michael. Your perspectives are very cool and informative to listen to! Keep up the great work!
this is a great video i’ve been looking a lot into this drama and you’re video helps me learn a lot about this stuff
clicking on this video i thought this was a video about Fed and Poki being shipped, glad you realized what the actual situation is, also have a great day/night everybody
This is an excellent video, lots of insight that i really didn't see before. Love the vids!
most men don't understand that a woman has to WANT a relationship with you... and if a girl makes it clear she doesn't want a relationship like that with you, don't seek revenge, take what you can get. or walk away from it all together. move on and don't be a little cry baby about it. that's the bottom line.
a little advice for men/women: if you want a girlfriend/boyfriend, actually put in the effort to find someone who's right for you. not just with looks, but with a personality that you can truly live with and be happy with. when you find that perfect person for you, don't be brash and try to make a crazy strong move to start off with, become friends so that you can really get a feel for the person first, and then see where it goes from there. I have never gone into a friendship with someone i really like, fully expecting it to be something more in the future. sometimes your feelings will change throughout the friendship, and then maybe you just like the person as a friend, and sometimes its the other way around with the other person. if thats so keep looking for the one whos out there for you, it may take years, but don't lose hope and give up, this stuff isn't as simple as 1-2-3.
I’ve met many guys like this and I’ve experienced the same thing with two guys in high school who were “the nice guy” and later they became monsters filled with hatred towards me, which is why I was always scared to say no to guys.
Dude I had some of these bad traits Fed has as well, and you were on the money when it comes to the factors that come into play like the adult industry and media. Thanks Recenello, you’re a real man
Tbh I thought you’d be one of those alpha male be confident relationship advisor dude but you’re actually really chill bro :)
I’m super late as I am a new fan of OTV but in certain games and what not he wud hav things like “say something nice about fed” as the challenge like he needs tht constant validation for anyone
I can see a lot of "nice guy traits" in myself (except that I don't treat people badly after nothing happens) but I definitely have an inferiority complex. As a person who is 25 and has not dated anyone yet I constantly feel like there is no one that will see me as an option. However, I also don't put myself out there (which obviously is a factor), but even when I have, I've only gotten the same outcome. Which has made me, a person with already low self esteem, get even lower self esteem. Yet, each time I get close to someone I start wanting to imagine that there is more to it which hurts my perception of friendships because any time I am shown some affection I start wanting to see it as more than it is. (i believe that is because of my lack of experience, feeling like I'm getting left behind, and wanting to be close with others).
So, my question is, how do you break off your own low self esteem while also not looking at every person as a possible option and instead looking at them as simply people without putting the wish of "more" on the table?
Just better yourself bro. Before you can improve self esteem you need to improve yourself. I'm taking go to the gym, get into an activity, get hobbies. You must keep in mind that you are important, put yourself first then you will gain alot of confidence to talk to others and go hangout with friends.
Excellent video! Thank you using this situation and turning it into a opportunity for others to learn in a very professional way! I found your points about how men are taught to view gaining women’s affection as a game very valid and definitely something I haven’t thought of before.
I would definitely say that this attitude towards women is taught to boys not only to promote hyper masculinity but to keep the power dynamics much much more favorable to the men’s side. I believe at the core of this, Fed may find gratification in being in a relationship that holds all or nearly all of the power whether that be social power, physical power, sexual power... etc. Power comes in a lot of forms (having influence in your professional field, having a reputation where you are ALWAYS trusted, never ever being wrong (power of knowledge and insight)) YOU DON’T NECESSARILY HAVE TO BE PHYSICALLY THREATENING TO HOLD POWER and Fed definitely shows this by being very manipulative. He is very lucky to have OfflineTV being supportive of his recovery and he should definitely think about his relationship and thoughts about power.
I remember when your channel had 20k subs crazy how fast you grew. Keep up the good work man
We got 10k likes on the first outer banks!
Still plan to make another?
I've been getting this guy on my recommended and I thought " I don't trust this " but he's pretty cool
MY MAN, I DIDN'T THINK YOU'D MAKE THIS VIDEO
I can already hear the man caring about “alpha and beta males” accusing you of being a beta male because you say one should be happy if a girl you like is happy with someone else.
Those men are the true betas. (Imo any man who cares about that shit, can never ever be alpha)
Ultimately your way leads to happy healthy mental space.
This heartbreaking as a fan I denied the truth but I learner to live with it thank u for talking about this stuff
I really liked Fed's channel. He was literally the only streamer I had ever watched. When he would interact with women on stream I would always see clips of the girls commenting on how much fun it was to talk to Fed, literally every time. It seemed like he had some sort of talent for making people like him.
I always think Anthony is forcing himself to stay to the side in his couch hunched over to leave space for the video, which is a really amusing thought, good vid as always
Omgggg
One time I bumped my head on the video so I’m just being careful 🤷🏻♂️
Anthony Recenello lol and they say being a UA-camr is easy
I used to have a friend that would get really angry when rejected by girls. He would talk about pouring milk in her hair and all that shit. I would disagree with him and I hoped he would change someday. I cut him off after I found out he lied to me again and again. I just couldn't understand why he did what he did, until your video. Thanks for the video. I feel a lot better accepting that I dropped him.