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  • A mother whose son killed himself just six hours after being targeted by "sextortionists" is campaigning to raise awareness.
    Jordan DeMay died in 2022 after brothers Samuel and Samson Ogoshi targeted him from Lagos, pretending to be an attractive girl his age, and then blackmailed him with explicit images of himself.
    Now, his mother, Jenn Buta, is using the TikTok account Jordan set up for her to warn young people about such criminals, largely based in Nigeria - and her videos have more than a million "likes".
    Nigerian police have told BBC News any suggestion they are not taking the crimes seriously is "laughable".
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 644

  • @Benji-Lindz
    @Benji-Lindz Місяць тому +376

    One of my childhood friends killed himself in 2015 for the exact same reason. Rest in peace, Jake.

    • @AeonFlux212
      @AeonFlux212 Місяць тому +14

      So very sorry for your deep loss...this is something I've been trying to warn folks about for years, partially bc of the child predators out there but these sextortion scams have gotten evil

    • @tomfitzpatrick7335
      @tomfitzpatrick7335 Місяць тому +1

      I'm sorry for your friend Jake

    • @TrinhNguyen-sh4fj
      @TrinhNguyen-sh4fj Місяць тому

      I am so sorry and it is a shame that people suffer from this and even kill themselves over this. I miss the days when the net did not exist yet.

    • @Kepler10b
      @Kepler10b 25 днів тому +1

      Parents need to teach their kids to never send nudes online to anyone. It seems like a pretty important conversation parents should be having before they even think about giving their kid a smartphone... Also that's smartphone should be monitored by them

  • @MsUltraBob
    @MsUltraBob Місяць тому +145

    Don’t ever send nude photos to anyone especially strangers. Especially if you are scared to death if someone sends them around.

    • @rumblefish9
      @rumblefish9 Місяць тому +4

      You cant stop people from doing it so If you are going to send them, don't send a pic with your face or any identifying marks like tattoos

    • @TrinhNguyen-sh4fj
      @TrinhNguyen-sh4fj Місяць тому +1

      @@rumblefish9Yup! Great advice and if you ever make the mistake of sending photos or videos,don’t ever show your face, birthmarks, tattoos, or anything that identifies you.

  • @senorsunset
    @senorsunset Місяць тому +254

    If anyone is reading this and you are in a similar situation, don't kill yourselves.
    There is so much help in place, just reach out to your parents, cops, your Doctor, place of worship.
    Help is just a phone call away.
    Stay positive and strong.
    Because in a world of bad people, somebody good needs you.

    • @j.m.1806
      @j.m.1806 Місяць тому +3

      Yes places of worship have always been and continue to be a welcoming safe place to address sexual anything. I don't care what the facts are. It's safe.

    • @jessH090
      @jessH090 Місяць тому +8

      @@j.m.1806I’ve never know religion of any type to be understand and supportive re sexual relations..

    • @j.m.1806
      @j.m.1806 Місяць тому +3

      @@jessH090 you are correct!!

  • @Menckenperson
    @Menckenperson Місяць тому +1131

    When you give your kid a smartphone, you are not giving them access to the world. You are giving the world access to your kid.

    • @PavelKrupets
      @PavelKrupets Місяць тому +35

      same as when they leave the house, people need to learn how to live in the real world, with smartphones and all other things

    • @juvi999
      @juvi999 Місяць тому +41

      @@PavelKrupets when you leave your house you are not exposed to the millions of people immediately, including scammers, perverts, pedophiles, prisoners, etc.

    • @PavelKrupets
      @PavelKrupets Місяць тому +21

      @@juvi999 1. you aren’t talking to millions of people
      2. he was targeted, same as people can target you on the streets (if you look like you have a lot of $), or behave funny, or fall for 1st girl who smiles at you
      3. we all live in the real world even people in the internet, all countries have criminals, perverts, etc walking on streets.

    • @jasonhewitt1129
      @jasonhewitt1129 Місяць тому +5

      ​@PavelKrupets hmm let's run the numbers tick tock over a billion users. UA-cam almost 5 billion. Snapchat over 5 million every day... I could go on but you probably get the point giving your child access to the internet means millions of people can reach them in an instant that was the point 👉 get it? Got it ? Good 👍

    • @PavelKrupets
      @PavelKrupets Місяць тому +3

      @@jasonhewitt1129 so? how many there are criminals? can you teach your kids not to share personal information? talk to people if something bad happened? or they go around on the street shouting when nobody is home, where money are stored, give first person they meet password to their bank account?
      speak for yourself, don’t put words into other people mouths, you point is moot

  • @PulseNews-gu9fe
    @PulseNews-gu9fe Місяць тому +435

    Loneliness is one of the most powerful experiences in human psychology. It is also one of the most misunderstood.

    • @MaroonedInDub
      @MaroonedInDub Місяць тому +8

      Loneliness = Not enjoying solitude.
      Lonesomeness = Enjoying solitude.

    • @chrismckellar9350
      @chrismckellar9350 Місяць тому +5

      The warning bells about the effects of social media on society started in the early 2000's. Unfortunately social media disease is now fatal.

    • @HisaLight2mypath
      @HisaLight2mypath Місяць тому +5

      It's not miss understood. It's easy to understand.

    • @GQ1921
      @GQ1921 Місяць тому +15

      Living in the USA at 50 years old Loneliness was physically making me sick. Two years ago I decided to come live in south America and it definitely cured my Loneliness the only problem now is I'm forced to go back home in two weeks. Even though I have a beautiful home in the USA I'm scared t death to go back home and experience loneliness again. South America is so different people are more social. I realized that in south America people don't need a lot to make them happy. I'm probably going to sell my house and retire in south America in the next year or two. These phones have turned us all us to slaves to technology. I would hate to grow up with a device plastered to my face since I'm a baby I could only imagine the damage that has been done to this generations brains.

    • @Beauloqs
      @Beauloqs Місяць тому +2

      ​​@@GQ1921 I'm 57 and in the process of moving to Chile.

  • @somebloke5565
    @somebloke5565 Місяць тому +259

    Still a child. Not world-wise. Young and green as grass. Praise to his mother; doing her best not to see a repeat with someone else's child.

    • @JoeTidy
      @JoeTidy Місяць тому +12

      She’s an amazing woman for what she’s doing and campaigning for

    • @Gwentennyson00
      @Gwentennyson00 Місяць тому +1

      Not too small.. enough old

    • @clob3896
      @clob3896 Місяць тому

      17 years is very young. Idk why we force them to be adults. Of course they are little children, but their mental strength isn't that strong yet. ​@@Gwentennyson00

  • @Kjertinge
    @Kjertinge Місяць тому +129

    This happened to one of my coworkers. He asked us for help and what to do, we told him to contact police and to NEVER pay these clowns any money. Because even if he had paid, they would still have sent the photos around. The girl he matched with, she even face timed him a few times, so from his perspective it was 100% real and a tinder match etc. He sent her stuff when she asked and before you know it she had sent it to everyone including his family members on facebook because he didnt want to send her 10,000$

    • @clankb2o5
      @clankb2o5 Місяць тому +32

      And then? Did people care or did everyone move on after saying "yikes" and then deleting it?

    • @Kjertinge
      @Kjertinge Місяць тому

      @@clankb2o5 People cared, and people moved on. But the idea of this blackmailing should be said to young people on these apps or better yet just giving people forewarning before sending explicit photos

    • @rafae5902
      @rafae5902 Місяць тому

      @@clankb2o5 He's a dude. No one cares about men. You should know that by now.

    • @impossible9599
      @impossible9599 Місяць тому +15

      ​@@clankb2o5yes even if people care, they will forget and move on with their lives..I know it's shameful to face them after they know but life goes on

    • @Moving_Forward247
      @Moving_Forward247 Місяць тому +2

      Wow how horrible sorry to hear this

  • @Frankishsaxon89
    @Frankishsaxon89 Місяць тому +243

    A young good looking kid with his whole life ahead of him….😢

    • @Rod732
      @Rod732 Місяць тому

      These Nigerian scammers and spreading propaganda in support of Russia are everywhere, it is disgusting what these inhuman do for little money

    • @Drawwithauto
      @Drawwithauto Місяць тому +5

      😭😭😭

    • @ymhymh2226
      @ymhymh2226 Місяць тому +30

      Wait so if he wasn't good looking it would be less bad?

    • @aurelianxcbd7799
      @aurelianxcbd7799 Місяць тому

      ​@@ymhymh2226yes

    • @moodmeditation4458
      @moodmeditation4458 Місяць тому +2

      @@ymhymh2226 He wount be targeted in 1st place. Ppl need to know their asserts and the dangers comes along with it. Face the reality.

  • @opheliamyall2554
    @opheliamyall2554 Місяць тому +277

    We need to let our children know that they can come to us whenever they encounter challenges. Under no circumstances should they think they are alone, even when it's very bad. It doesn't mean we will encourage them in wrong doing, but we can always find solutions that are way better than destroying themselves. This is heartbreaking

    • @seankingwell3692
      @seankingwell3692 Місяць тому

      They need to stop treating black people like they are God, its absolutely evil the things they do to children old people etc. Their racism is constantly in our faces to. There are hundreds of black male pedophiles playing on ROBLOX an online kids game and others like it many of these games are themed to be anti white hyper sexual and poking fun at suicide and its all black men doing it. The BLACK MASS must be stopped, its Satanic and has nothing to do with Black peoples rights. This is what "anticolonialism" looks like a black mans entitlement to white children and white parents shaming their white children for existing out of projected guilt. Protect your children, keep them safe from them especially their communist Marxist victimhood propaganda. Adult black men are teaching kids to twerk sexually in these online games, parents should be smart enough not to give their kids a smart phone. Ottomans want to groom your children, don't let them. This is being spearheaded by Muslimgauze and the Alphabet Legion AKA Satans Army.

    • @faraboverubieskerry
      @faraboverubieskerry Місяць тому +11

      Exactly. This is the responsibility of the parent throughout their upbringing so that by the time they are 17-18 they are making wise choices or they understand when they need help they can talk to a parent or guardian.

  • @Mike-cs1ft
    @Mike-cs1ft Місяць тому +118

    I had a message come through on yesterday claiming that my device had been hacked and I was being watched by hackers and they were going to send out my search history to everyone. There was also a 2min timer with a link and I needed to go on the link to put a stop to it. These scammers are sick people and I hope all the horrible things they do to people comes back on them or someone they care about. that’s if they have the heart to care about another human being at all

    • @Sad_bumper_sticker.
      @Sad_bumper_sticker. Місяць тому

      That was 98% a bluff. If the ACTUALLY broke in they would steal photos and give proof in the extortion threat. Threatening with „search history revealing” is a blatent lie and a laughable bluff.

    • @sunny_ahaha0211
      @sunny_ahaha0211 Місяць тому +2

      How does that happen and what do you do after that? Pls let me know cause I'm scared of these stuff . So if these things ever happens I could be careful

    • @bunny19-xk5mj
      @bunny19-xk5mj Місяць тому +1

      Were you on some websites? Cause ain't no way they can do that while you're not using web service.

    • @gratitude3673
      @gratitude3673 Місяць тому

      Don’t click on links and don’t share sensitive information about your self no matter what.

    • @maleficent08
      @maleficent08 Місяць тому +6

      If u guys accidentally click an unknown link, try to restart your phone as it will cut their connection from taking over your phone or computer.
      I learned from
      Mr. "Jim Browning" channel 😇

  • @Eddemnity
    @Eddemnity Місяць тому +17

    This happened to my son. He was so confused and distraught. But he knows how tough and strong I am. So, he reached to me and told me and I handled it, short of going to the Police.

  • @deliamak
    @deliamak Місяць тому +17

    Tip for everyone: If someone asks you for dirty photos, never plans to meet you in person ever, and refuses to do any video calls with you, please block this person for your sake!!!

  • @jdmmg4904
    @jdmmg4904 Місяць тому +167

    So sorry for her loss:(

    • @MrGreen-ci2mm
      @MrGreen-ci2mm Місяць тому +6

      It's his fault for sending nudes to some random unverifiable account 🤦‍♂

    • @iona5439
      @iona5439 Місяць тому +14

      @@MrGreen-ci2mmhe’s a kid. The same thing happened to Amanda Todd, no child expects to go through this. Education could be better on this subject but it’s literal adults extorting children.

    • @MrGreen-ci2mm
      @MrGreen-ci2mm Місяць тому +6

      @@iona5439 17-18 isn't a "kid" and besides Amanda Todd is a completely different case since she was bullied 24/7 ONLINE AND IN PERSON. I can understand Amanda Todd but this "kid" didn't have that problem, he was a celebrated popular football player with a gf...he was unfortunately just too stupid and weak minded.

    • @gjurod
      @gjurod Місяць тому

      Yeah like maybe if there were some people in the house, like adults, who would tell him don't do stupid sh** like that... Oh wait.

    • @nvmtt1403
      @nvmtt1403 Місяць тому

      @@MrGreen-ci2mm there is definitely more than whats being said here. aint no way a western dude is offing himself over some nudes. something is not being said here.

  • @user-rr1jw9cz1u
    @user-rr1jw9cz1u Місяць тому +61

    Our children must be informed of this ugly crime!

  • @vibhavagarwalla8718
    @vibhavagarwalla8718 Місяць тому +42

    Kids need to know - Anytime something overwhelming hits you, come to parents. All is forgiven. You get nothing but total support. Scoldings are reserved only for not shutting the fridge door. Rest gets a hug.

    • @ninja-ginger1973
      @ninja-ginger1973 Місяць тому

      I agree

    • @ninja-ginger1973
      @ninja-ginger1973 Місяць тому

      @@Belugamale8738 ok, have a good day

    • @n0tfr0mth1sw0rld
      @n0tfr0mth1sw0rld 27 днів тому +1

      It probably was that he didn't want to live with this "shame" and disappoint their parents 😢 kids don't understand that the worst which could happen to their parents is not having their children anymore 😢 everything else doesn't matter and can be solved

  • @zinjanthropus322
    @zinjanthropus322 Місяць тому +407

    You can tell that the Nigerian cyber minister is serious because he's in a gaming chair.

    • @masterlightjames950
      @masterlightjames950 Місяць тому +27

      Leave Nigeria out of this! This is a trend that happens mostly in the US.

    • @seankingwell3692
      @seankingwell3692 Місяць тому

      They need to stop treating black people like they are God, its absolutely evil the things they do to children old people etc. Their racism is constantly in our faces to. There are hundreds of black male pedophiles playing on ROBLOX an online kids game and others like it many of these games are themed to be anti white hyper sexual and poking fun at suicide and its all black men doing it. The BLACK MASS must be stopped, its Satanic and has nothing to do with Black peoples rights. This is what "anticolonialism" looks like a black mans entitlement to white children and white parents shaming their white children for existing out of projected guilt. Protect your children, keep them safe from them especially their communist Marxist victimhood propaganda. Adult black men are teaching kids to twerk sexually in these online games, parents should be smart enough not to give their kids a smart phone. Ottomans want to groom your children, don't let them. This is being spearheaded by Muslimgauze and the Alphabet Legion AKA Satans Army.

    • @mysticmarble94
      @mysticmarble94 Місяць тому

      ​@@masterlightjames950 Rather difficult to do so, given that it is exactly where they are from in this particular case 🥸

    • @Booboo81810
      @Booboo81810 Місяць тому +11

      lol😅

    • @snozrick
      @snozrick Місяць тому +8

      lol just what i was thinking

  • @tammystratford7079
    @tammystratford7079 Місяць тому +73

    I hate social media. I won't join any of them. People are horribly cruel. This is scary.

    • @gm3190
      @gm3190 Місяць тому +12

      UA-cam is social media.

    • @tammystratford7079
      @tammystratford7079 Місяць тому +10

      @@gm3190 Except that 99% of the time, it's strictly entertainment. I don't use it as a platform. I comment because I'm moved. Have a great day.

    • @mfranck1
      @mfranck1 Місяць тому +2

      You’re literally on UA-cam socializing with other people.

    • @tammystratford7079
      @tammystratford7079 Місяць тому +5

      @@mfranck1 If this is considered socialization, I've had it. Enjoy your day.

    • @tomfitzpatrick7335
      @tomfitzpatrick7335 Місяць тому

      Sometimes, social media is cruel like nature

  • @ESNDRE
    @ESNDRE Місяць тому +51

    Jordan DeMay Must have lived a very Sheltered life, a safe life, it seems he was unaware of scammers, and struggled mentally its a shame he wasn't aware of scumbags online,

  • @onestarabove7027
    @onestarabove7027 Місяць тому +66

    How about banning nude photos. AI is capable of this.

    • @maximumpotential3796
      @maximumpotential3796 24 дні тому +1

      How about developing the mental fortitude to not give a shit. Might sound corny but let me say that we are born into this world naked and when our time passes, we don't take our clothes or hairdos with us. There is nothing to be embarrassed about if somebody has our nude photos or videos. It is not the end of the world, nobody cares, people will move on with their own challenges and any incident (if it ever happens) will be just a story. What truly matters is how we respond to it and gather the strength to become a stronger person and never give in to these fraudsters and never let them dictate our lives. People with enough sense will truly understand our situation and will find inspiration in our resilience.

  • @AKB114
    @AKB114 Місяць тому +77

    I thought this problem is limited to India but it seems it's a global problem.

    • @floydsemlow8253
      @floydsemlow8253 Місяць тому +7

      Globally !

    • @raoulduke344
      @raoulduke344 Місяць тому

      India and Nigeria are the most well known countries with scammers. I don't think it's a global thing because other countries aren't as embedded in scams as those two. There's an entire district of Mumbai dedicated to online scams with call-centres in office blocks.

    • @seankingwell3692
      @seankingwell3692 Місяць тому

      They need to stop treating black people like they are God, its absolutely evil the things they do to children old people etc. Their racism is constantly in our faces to. There are hundreds of black male pedophiles playing on ROBLOX an online kids game and others like it many of these games are themed to be anti white hyper sexual and poking fun at suicide and its all black men doing it. The BLACK MASS must be stopped, its Satanic and has nothing to do with Black peoples rights. This is what "anticolonialism" looks like a black mans entitlement to white children and white parents shaming their white children for existing out of projected guilt. Protect your children, keep them safe from them especially their communist Marxist victimhood propaganda. Adult black men are teaching kids to twerk sexually in these online games, parents should be smart enough not to give their kids a smart phone. Ottomans want to groom your children, don't let them. This is being spearheaded by Muslimgauze and the Alphabet Legion AKA Satans Army.

    • @mrsam0496
      @mrsam0496 Місяць тому +2

      ​@@floydsemlow8253Never heard of this problem in my country

    • @floydsemlow8253
      @floydsemlow8253 Місяць тому +5

      @@mrsam0496 what country would that be? And just because you haven't heard of it happening doesn't mean it's not

  • @kendallbald
    @kendallbald Місяць тому +66

    This happened to me last year and from my experience all I can say is be careful who you talk to

    • @nvmtt1403
      @nvmtt1403 Місяць тому +12

      Can you please tell me how bad it can affect you? Like....is this seriously something to kill yourself over?

    • @kendallbald
      @kendallbald Місяць тому

      @@nvmtt1403 depends on how bad you take it but I seeked help right away. I got the police involved and a couple days later I joined Andy’s man club. It was a very difficult time for me to deal with what happened but I got help and there’s a possibility the police got the person who done it

    • @Rod732
      @Rod732 Місяць тому +13

      These scammers, mainly from Nigeria, are all over and it is disgustingly

    • @mary-annesade
      @mary-annesade Місяць тому

      @@nvmtt1403it could also be other factors that result to that person feeling the need to kill themselves

    • @janejustin1788
      @janejustin1788 Місяць тому

      @@Rod732 yes, internet is full of scammers including nigeria, but, a 17 year old should be aware that sending nudes over the internet is stupid and immoral

  • @azimuthnext591
    @azimuthnext591 Місяць тому +33

    Having too much shame is detrimental in this world.

  • @760ripcurl
    @760ripcurl Місяць тому +72

    This happened to me and I laughed as I rolled with it. It’s just me naked. Condolences to the family

    • @selmahare
      @selmahare Місяць тому +17

      Yep the kids who buy into it take it too seriously. Your parents have seen you naked, there’s no drama. Just tell the punks to fuck off. And so what people in school will see it too, chances are that if you look good that will only play in your favour with the girls. I wish that I could tell the kids who are a target to this to just come clean to their parents, tell them what’s going on, and let the blackmailers do what they will. Your parents, if they are any decent as such, will get it. As a mum I would totally understand it and even laugh it off a little when the pictures came out, simply adding a “well, now you know!” to it.

    • @livinganddyingabroad
      @livinganddyingabroad Місяць тому +4

    • @user-fe1gb9uc1t
      @user-fe1gb9uc1t Місяць тому +2

      @@livinganddyingabroad thank you, some sanity

    • @tiararoxeanne1318
      @tiararoxeanne1318 Місяць тому +10

      ​@@selmahareYou might think differently if the victims were young girls. Girls were being shamed much more than boys if their naked pictures spread online.

    • @EChan-eu2co
      @EChan-eu2co Місяць тому +6

      ​@@tiararoxeanne1318It's nothing anyone else hasn't seen before. If I had children, I'd teach them to be bold as brass about it. They'll be less bullied if they roll with it.

  • @pardislatifi7544
    @pardislatifi7544 Місяць тому +23

    we defenitley need more cyber security experts in Canada and UK to prevent these kind of stories from repeating.

    • @user-fe1gb9uc1t
      @user-fe1gb9uc1t Місяць тому

      no, parents need to step up and remind their kids to respect themselves

  • @aroundandround
    @aroundandround Місяць тому +16

    So depressing for the mother.

  • @nick_vash
    @nick_vash Місяць тому +32

    Isn't it better to campaign against youngsters showing their bare parts to strangers on the internet?

    • @alanharper23
      @alanharper23 Місяць тому +14

      Well that's part of it too. Being aware that once they send something online, they can never get it back. It's all about educating them of the risks and the real dangers so they can better protect themselves, but the ultimate catch-all is knowing that they have support around them should something ever happen. That way, victims don't feel so alone. The sextortion itself is a source of great stress, but the helplessness of feeling alone and unable to tell anyone is why they consider taking their own life.

  • @duonghoangsang1996
    @duonghoangsang1996 Місяць тому +7

    I was a victim of sextortion when my ex broke up with me. I was scared and decided to close every social media. They just moved on, they don’t have time to send your images to anyone.

  • @tonykumar9727
    @tonykumar9727 Місяць тому +7

    Happened to me during the covid-19 pandemic when I was feeling lonely and naive. A user in Instagram threatened to release a clip of me to all my Instagram followers. I then quickly blocked that user then went through the list of my followers and removed the profiles which are suspicious to me. Then finally set my profile to private immediately after doing so. That is one lesson I will never forget and will not repeat again. But R.I.P to this boy and condolences to his family.

  • @medusagorgon8432
    @medusagorgon8432 Місяць тому +8

    What is not being addressed is how many of these scammers are actually kidnapped victims being forced into the work. This is happening disproportionately in China, India and other South Eastern areas.

    • @taliskujim4736
      @taliskujim4736 Місяць тому

      Yeah, I also have that in mind. ☹️

  • @gmanette188
    @gmanette188 Місяць тому +39

    So sorry
    Thank you for sharing this information

  • @Hassan-mg5me
    @Hassan-mg5me Місяць тому +9

    Anyone who's never received an email from a Royal prince or from someone awaiting inheritance, don't panic your email is still being drafted

  • @tsboggs86
    @tsboggs86 Місяць тому +6

    What a sick world we live in.

  • @calum8280
    @calum8280 Місяць тому +36

    The scammers didn't kill him, fear of society's judgement did, it is a social problem, boy was raised to believe his worth was based on others opinions of him, tragic

    • @helenpauls1496
      @helenpauls1496 Місяць тому +7

      He was a teenager though and opinion of others is common at that age. Parents have to just say “don’t send nudes of yourself, if you do and blackmail is threaten, just say ok, expose them and then talk to us about it”

    • @muangfaa3511
      @muangfaa3511 Місяць тому +1

      ​@@helenpauls1496 Better not to give the culprit permission to expose, just ignore the threat or warn them about the legal consequence before cutting ties.

    • @helenpauls1496
      @helenpauls1496 Місяць тому +1

      @@muangfaa3511 That’s a better option, agreed.

    • @alanharper23
      @alanharper23 Місяць тому +2

      That's exactly why the mother is now encouraging parents to talk to their children. Not only to raise awareness of these scams, but primarily to show them that they can come to them for support if they ever need it. If only the boy had felt able to talk to his parents, this could have been prevented.

    • @user-fe1gb9uc1t
      @user-fe1gb9uc1t Місяць тому +1

      @@alanharper23 um, the only reason he couldnt confide in his mother is because the mother has not created an environment where they could have that conversation or given her son the skills that billions of other teenagers alive right now have, namely self respect

  • @towerofresonance4877
    @towerofresonance4877 Місяць тому +121

    GET...KIDS...OFFLINE...

    • @bloodlove93
      @bloodlove93 Місяць тому +2

      offlife*

    • @sunsunsunh
      @sunsunsunh Місяць тому +19

      what about teaching them about the dangers of life including the Internet?🐵

    • @ninzki143
      @ninzki143 Місяць тому

      I remember when I was 18yrs old and just opened a YAHOO email account... i got an email from pretending to be a Prince from Nigeria who is ailing and wanted to share his wealth with me. Thank God i didn't get bamboozled.

    • @DesignFIaw
      @DesignFIaw Місяць тому +7

      Yes, also don't let them out of the family home. Now that mention it, don't let them get into water, exercise. Why let them eat to begin with? All extremely dangerous activities.

    • @Menckenperson
      @Menckenperson Місяць тому

      Right on

  • @andrewattenboroughtwothumb4697
    @andrewattenboroughtwothumb4697 Місяць тому +5

    This is why kids should be banned from social media until age of 18 it is also carriage of child pornography and have seen a rise in cases here in Australia

  • @AnnyPyjamas
    @AnnyPyjamas Місяць тому +21

    How can a young adult think that having nudes sent to friends is that bad? What kind of ideas did all of the boys who took their life have about sexuality? I think this report is missing a point not talking about conservative upbringing and taboos around sex. I simply cannot imagine what kind of a family you have to grow up in where you'd rather take your life than tell your parents that you sent nudes and are in trouble. That's not normal

    • @jaysheriffe6292
      @jaysheriffe6292 Місяць тому +7

      He could have been struggling with other things and this was the straw that broke the camels back.

    • @faitheternal3015
      @faitheternal3015 Місяць тому +3

      Actually, it is quite understandable. Especially in teenage years, it is not unusual for youngsters to try and sort the problem themselves, even when they know they need help. Also, given the evil nature of these criminals, it is possible they threatened to harm the families, too. We can't presume to understand all this young man, and others like him, went through or what we would do under the same circumstances. We can only know that these children were viciously preyed upon, harassed, and worn down. It's a terrible, terrible tragedy!
      All parents can do is their utmost to raise children who are aware, wise, and able to discern, in advance, the consequence of their actions. You think sending nude pictures to friends is safe? I disagree. Everyone wants and deserves some level of privacy, and when you expose yourself on a phone or video and press 'send', you place that privacy, and possibly your life, in the hands of others and at the whim of their values which, you may find, do not align with yours. Warning children about this, and teaching them to apply caution, wisdom, and integrity in their sexual choices is not conservatism or a taboo; it's good, plain, common sense!

    • @HillyRockyRoads
      @HillyRockyRoads Місяць тому +2

      @@faitheternal3015 Is this an AI comment?

    • @faitheternal3015
      @faitheternal3015 Місяць тому +2

      @@HillyRockyRoads Why would you ask that...?

    • @ms22078
      @ms22078 Місяць тому +1

      But this is a teen, not an adult. A naked photo of yourself for the world/parents to see/explain, might be mortifying. ..not a reason to commit suicide though

  • @feelincrispy7053
    @feelincrispy7053 Місяць тому +5

    Australia’s channel7 Spotlight just did a 1 hour exposé on this whole thing. It’s wide spread and they even spoke to one young man who was directly responsible for the death of an Aussie kid. He didn’t really care and no prosecution will occur due to no international legal treaties.

  • @towerofresonance4877
    @towerofresonance4877 Місяць тому +20

    Lagos,Barigia. Nigeria. This has been happening since 2003. And even before. I was 17, and a "German good woman stuck in Africa" needed money to get to me. Didnt fall for it, but so sorry to hear the inhumanity for others.

    • @seankingwell3692
      @seankingwell3692 Місяць тому

      They need to stop treating black people like they are God, its absolutely evil the things they do to children old people etc. Their racism is constantly in our faces to. There are hundreds of black male pedophiles playing on ROBLOX an online kids game and others like it many of these games are themed to be anti white hyper sexual and poking fun at suicide and its all black men doing it. The BLACK MASS must be stopped, its Satanic and has nothing to do with Black peoples rights. This is what "anticolonialism" looks like a black mans entitlement to white children and white parents shaming their white children for existing out of projected guilt. Protect your children, keep them safe from them especially their communist Marxist victimhood propaganda. Adult black men are teaching kids to twerk sexually in these online games, parents should be smart enough not to give their kids a smart phone. Ottomans want to groom your children, don't let them. This is being spearheaded by Muslimgauze and the Alphabet Legion AKA Satans Army.

    • @Rod732
      @Rod732 Місяць тому

      Yeah these Nigerian scammers are everywhere, I blame the social media owners for not protecting us from fraud!! There also spreading Russian propaganda all over. Disgusting what these monks tho for little money! It is not a joke!

    • @steviealessi
      @steviealessi Місяць тому

      Nigeria like much of Africa is sadly a corrupt and ugly place in more ways than one!

  • @amandad6104
    @amandad6104 Місяць тому +12

    This is so tragic 😞💔

  • @nabeelaboufayed5735
    @nabeelaboufayed5735 Місяць тому +9

    Nigeria, now why does that not surprise me

  • @nickywilks7928
    @nickywilks7928 Місяць тому +2

    Omg this poor young man, and his poor family, this breaks my heart.

  • @h.louise4746
    @h.louise4746 Місяць тому +1

    That young man was beautiful inside and out. What a tremendous loss, and what unconscionable cruelty on behalf of the scammers. It's so sad.

  • @Andy224
    @Andy224 Місяць тому +1

    How heartbreaking. My condolences to his poor mother and loved ones x

  • @Pou1gie1
    @Pou1gie1 Місяць тому +9

    @1:00 Teaching kids to be careful about this should be part of schooling, like in computer science class and/or sex ed. My father warned me early about being careful online because he was a tech computer science dork decades prior to the 90s and 00s when there was punch card programming and giant computers in basements. So, he saw this on the horizon because even they knew what the pros and cons were back then.

  • @user-pn5zs3fn9v
    @user-pn5zs3fn9v Місяць тому +3

    What a disgraceful time we are in where this goes on..

  • @JamieJamie2o2
    @JamieJamie2o2 Місяць тому +3

    This is actually very common, and not located in just Nigeria. From the top of my head India, Russia, and Saudi Arabia have been doing this also.
    Absolutely horrible.
    Poor kid shouldn't have been put through this. When it comes to dating in general, things are just bottom of the barrel.

  • @user_that_exists
    @user_that_exists Місяць тому +28

    Scary… 😟

    • @floydsemlow8253
      @floydsemlow8253 Місяць тому +3

      Very 😢

    • @bloodlove93
      @bloodlove93 Місяць тому

      only if you're stupid and irresponsible enough to be sending such pictures of yourself to strangers, if you can't meet them irl get multiple pictures, videos,and phone \video calls to confirm they are who they say , if you can't do that then im scared the world has to deal with you.

    • @Drawwithauto
      @Drawwithauto Місяць тому

      😭😭😭

  • @j.m.1806
    @j.m.1806 Місяць тому +2

    Sexual oppression has consequences. To turn a natural healthy aspect of life into a shameful demoralizing act will lead to it's natural response, hypocrisy, self hate, deviant unwanted acts on others etc.

  • @Girl_In_The_Forest92-2
    @Girl_In_The_Forest92-2 Місяць тому +2

    This is 😢 😔 extremely sad. i can't even imagine. My heart goes❤out to the family, my sincere condolences 🙏 🌹

  • @prettyptravels
    @prettyptravels Місяць тому +3

    Bless you ma'am this is devastating. Sick world we live in

  • @chenghonggoh4746
    @chenghonggoh4746 Місяць тому +2

    Heaven bless this lady for her bravery in speaking out.

  • @GQ1921
    @GQ1921 Місяць тому +6

    Living in the USA at 50 years old Loneliness was physically making me sick. Two years ago I decided to come live in south America and it definitely cured my Loneliness the only problem now is I'm forced to go back home in two weeks. Even though I have a beautiful home in the USA I'm scared t death to go back home and experience loneliness again. South America is so different people are more social. I realized that in south America people don't need a lot to make them happy. I'm probably going to sell my house and retire in south America in the next year or two. These phones have turned us all us to slaves to technology. I would hate to grow up with a device plastered to my face since I'm a baby I could only imagine the damage that has been done to this generations brains.

    • @jacquiesbrood
      @jacquiesbrood Місяць тому

      Totally true x

    • @europeleeds
      @europeleeds Місяць тому

      A Belgian lady sold her house and went to Marocco with her new African friend to build a new house with her money.
      Alle roses and moonshine. When the house was finished, he kicked her out on the street.
      You seem like a nice person, watch out whom you trust in South America.

    • @GQ1921
      @GQ1921 Місяць тому

      @@europeleeds thanks for the good advice you are definitely correct you can't trust people in any county let alone foreign countries. The truth is I wouldn't ever buy anything in south America the rents are so cheap it's stupid to buy. A Miami style condo in a brand new building two bedroom rents for 300$ a month. As a foreigner buying makes no sense. I wouldn't even trust the lawyers is south America there all snakes

  • @broadwayshack1664
    @broadwayshack1664 Місяць тому +33

    i don’t get it. so he would rather die than to have nudes of him posted online? like anyone even cares these days

    • @martincatoniryan1638
      @martincatoniryan1638 Місяць тому +26

      no one wants nudes of himself out in public, dude! You don't know what he was going through! It must have messed up his brain , his core, his very being, having a stranger blackmail him and have tremendous power over him. remember when you were a kid or a young adolescent, in those days, young as you are, you act sometimes irrationally , sometimes you don't think before you act... maybe having those pics of him posted online really did hurt him... I mean he even told the scammer that he would kill himself! it is obvious that he was desperate, he must have cursed at the scammer a thousand times before pleading with him... he must have cried, felt sadder than ever before... he was just 17... young ppl (and not so young) overreact sometimes... Make a mountain out of a molehill, you know... I wish I'm never in that situation that Jordan was in.

    • @santostv.
      @santostv. Місяць тому +3

      They care for a few days at least and apparently they send the photos to family members of the victim.
      If you are insecure and afraid to speak out , it can seem like the best solution in some people’s minds.

    • @Maxibo234
      @Maxibo234 Місяць тому +18

      ​@@HillyRockyRoads such an inappropriate comment. A young boy killed himself... There is no good reason for suicide. The boy was pressured to do it, and you want to make assumptions about the boy's genitals? Wtf is wrong with you?

    • @precious14stones
      @precious14stones Місяць тому +4

      ​@@HillyRockyRoadshow insensitive of you

    • @jenborisov782
      @jenborisov782 Місяць тому +3

      @TheMidnightMoons Your comment makes a lot of sense except for the fact this boy was A BOY indeed! He didn’t know better like we adults with experience do! A that’s a MASSIVE difference

  • @ericonataniel292
    @ericonataniel292 Місяць тому +1

    It’s just sad to hear what happened to her son because he clearly would have a good future

  • @bettywoop575
    @bettywoop575 Місяць тому +2

    Nigeria’s cyber security force looks like such a joke, like how you gonna hire the scammers to get rid of scammers? 😂

  • @AbigailBrown-wk7xl
    @AbigailBrown-wk7xl Місяць тому +4

    Knowledge and education is important for young people

  • @thehapagirl92
    @thehapagirl92 Місяць тому +1

    Back in high school in 2009 a girl’s nude photos were sent to everyone’s phones and she was devastated, but she recovered and didn’t kill herself thankfully

  • @immcguyver07
    @immcguyver07 Місяць тому +1

    This is so sad. Hell has a special place reserved for everyone who would do that to someone.

  • @JanTabanao
    @JanTabanao Місяць тому +12

    Cold Cold world we live in - yah'

  • @River10000
    @River10000 Місяць тому

    This poor family needs some form of justice.

  • @FlavioMarceloSousa35
    @FlavioMarceloSousa35 Місяць тому +3

    So sad, God bless this family.

  • @tarunkalwani2096
    @tarunkalwani2096 Місяць тому +29

    And that minister is giving interview in gaming chair lol. So advanced country

    • @uttblackboard
      @uttblackboard Місяць тому +11

      He was playing Fortnite, so the chair is very important.

    • @user-fe1gb9uc1t
      @user-fe1gb9uc1t Місяць тому +3

      dude, you are holding a cat at a desk in your thumbnail and you want to call someone unprofessional for having a decent chair to work from,
      pot, kettle, black

  • @NNokia-jz6jb
    @NNokia-jz6jb Місяць тому +17

    Expected black mirror warning.

    • @bloodlove93
      @bloodlove93 Місяць тому +1

      African American mirror*
      lmao sorry had to make the joke

    • @user_that_exists
      @user_that_exists Місяць тому

      @@bloodlove93 not funny, slightly racist

    • @seankingwell3692
      @seankingwell3692 Місяць тому

      They need to stop treating black people like they are God, its absolutely evil the things they do to children old people etc. Their racism is constantly in our faces to. There are hundreds of black male pedophiles playing on ROBLOX an online kids game and others like it many of these games are themed to be anti white hyper sexual and poking fun at suicide and its all black men doing it. The BLACK MASS must be stopped, its Satanic and has nothing to do with Black peoples rights. This is what "anticolonialism" looks like a black mans entitlement to white children and white parents shaming their white children for existing out of projected guilt. Protect your children, keep them safe from them especially their communist Marxist victimhood propaganda. Adult black men are teaching kids to twerk sexually in these online games, parents should be smart enough not to give their kids a smart phone. Ottomans want to groom your children, don't let them. This is being spearheaded by Muslimgauze and the Alphabet Legion AKA Satans Army.

    • @malicahamilton
      @malicahamilton Місяць тому +3

      @@bloodlove93do you even know what black mirror is ?

    • @Pou1gie1
      @Pou1gie1 Місяць тому +5

      @@malicahamilton No, they just took the opportunity to develop a r@cist stereotype into a not-so-funny joke.

  • @63jeamor
    @63jeamor Місяць тому

    This happened to my son, thought by putting permission on his Instagram private message would protect him. It didn't he accepted the request :( my deepest condolences to you.

  • @ordinarryalien
    @ordinarryalien Місяць тому +20

    Poor kid... :(

  • @shonaharris9328
    @shonaharris9328 Місяць тому +2

    This is so sad 😢. Parents need to build a good relationship with their kids in the first place so kids’ll listen. And discuss this with them.

  • @mjdubs7603
    @mjdubs7603 Місяць тому +21

    Why share pictures let alone with a stranger...

    • @somebloke5565
      @somebloke5565 Місяць тому +5

      He was still a child.

    • @Pou1gie1
      @Pou1gie1 Місяць тому +5

      @@somebloke5565 He also seemed sweet and innocent, and there aren't too many kids raised like that anymore.

    • @crappyslappy
      @crappyslappy Місяць тому

      KIDS are dealing with hormones and fantasies! they are children and they make mistakes!

    • @janejustin1788
      @janejustin1788 Місяць тому

      @@somebloke5565 17 isn't a child!!! Teenagers start voting and joining armies and being sent to battlefield at 18!!! If your nudes being leaked can stress you so much that you kill yourself, then why send them to strangers in the first place?

    • @RammingSpeed-lk8kk
      @RammingSpeed-lk8kk Місяць тому +2

      ​@@somebloke5565umm...he's a young adult..
      But it doesn't make it any less tragic

  • @Martin_Priesthood
    @Martin_Priesthood Місяць тому +2

    😢😢😢. Very sad.

  • @bernardocastro1046
    @bernardocastro1046 Місяць тому +6

    Nigeria??? I would’ve never guessed!!!

  • @michellesinclair4652
    @michellesinclair4652 Місяць тому +2

    That's so sad

  • @pawelskrobisz3218
    @pawelskrobisz3218 Місяць тому +1

    Can you tell me what sentence they get ?

  • @NanoYoga
    @NanoYoga Місяць тому

    Not giving a smartphone to a child would be best but realistically isn’t possible.
    Should parents be taking their child’s phone and reading their messages and their social media checks, to check if they are targeted. It’s a tricky one

  • @thenightporter
    @thenightporter Місяць тому +1

    If you have kids and want them to be safe, give them a phone that IS NOT a smart phone. Text and voice only. Allow computer use in an area like the kitchen only.

  • @galatheumbreon6862
    @galatheumbreon6862 Місяць тому +12

    this is depressing...I'm so so sorry this happened to your family, may god comfort your son

    • @cw9282
      @cw9282 Місяць тому +4

      Their son sent naked pictures of himself to people. So it's kinda his own doing.

  • @MrChopsticktech
    @MrChopsticktech Місяць тому +2

    With the ability to generate deep-fakes these days, the victim doesn't even need to have contact with the person, he can take a photo from someone's Facebook, generate the photo and then contact the victim and blackmail them (or worse).

    • @gimpee8113
      @gimpee8113 Місяць тому +1

      tat is y don't use facebook n others which make oneself public. Use it for 4mths when it first started and notice this thing has a big problem. Completely delete it few years ago.

    • @MrChopsticktech
      @MrChopsticktech Місяць тому

      @@gimpee8113
      While l agree about using social media, public figures are vulnerable to this. My friend is on the local public school board and never posts any photos, but people can get her image from group photos and/or public events.

  • @Moving_Forward247
    @Moving_Forward247 Місяць тому +1

    Oh my gosh my heart is broken. I will pray tonight for this mom. Wow. The solution I think also is for kids to have “dumb phones” while being educated about this so that when they get a smart phone on their own they aren’t falling prey. When I counsel young ppl and parents I tell them NEVER communicate with someone online that you don’t know in person. NEVER

  • @global001
    @global001 Місяць тому

    This is horrendous. If I were a parent, I’d be teaching my kids to try to be away of these scams but let them know that this happens & I have their back.

  • @bernadettealmeida2847
    @bernadettealmeida2847 Місяць тому +1

    Talk to the kids the youth talk to ur children. Let them know what’s out here and the internet deepest condolences

  • @sieunarinesingh
    @sieunarinesingh Місяць тому +1

    It's not only about talking to the kids. It's about monitoring their device use. No child has 'privacy' on their devices. All parents are ultimately the ones who have to help the child pick up the pieces after a mistake so they must monitor what the kids do on the devices. They must know who kids talk to and the content of chats. No one must be allowed to communicate with children without the parents' consent.
    This should grow into some form of counsel and discussion through adulthood too. Kids need sound counsel from experienced people.

  • @JoelGarza-sw4su
    @JoelGarza-sw4su Місяць тому

    Is that the city 250 miles north of Detroit Michigan where he was from.

  • @heresalemonsukonit276
    @heresalemonsukonit276 Місяць тому

    This has been happening for a while .
    Only thing you can do is educate them to never believe anyone online unless youve met them

  • @loveisall5520
    @loveisall5520 Місяць тому +11

    Lack of parental supervision and control. When will these parents learn that they have responsibility?

  • @Striker885
    @Striker885 Місяць тому +2

    Don’t know why these guys killing themselves, look at these females out here they have no shame why should you

    • @msunje9862
      @msunje9862 Місяць тому +1

      Of course you will compare this to women and try to blame women for it

    • @msunje9862
      @msunje9862 Місяць тому

      Why should we have shame over something stealing our nudes ? The fact that you drag women into this rather than the men that did this to him. Sicko

    • @Striker885
      @Striker885 Місяць тому +1

      @@msunje9862 actually I’m saying Im women have no self respect so these young men should emulate that rather than hurt themselves

  • @magnoliaflower3310
    @magnoliaflower3310 Місяць тому +1

    Amanda Todd's case comes to mind. It happened a little more than a decade ago. Please, parents, educate your kids. Let's not have history repeat itself.

  • @leolealuianderson5291
    @leolealuianderson5291 Місяць тому +1

    Suicide?? Just sad.. did this kid not have father figure in his life??

    • @JamieJamie2o2
      @JamieJamie2o2 Місяць тому +1

      What does having a father figure do to prevent suicide??

    • @badminverse2136
      @badminverse2136 Місяць тому

      @@JamieJamie2o2 The father figure could tell the kids "no ones cares about your naked picture"

    • @JamieJamie2o2
      @JamieJamie2o2 Місяць тому +1

      @@badminverse2136 If that's all they can do, then I'm sorry but anybody could fill that spot.
      Those desperate people took advantage of a situation at the time which was meant to be very personal, naturally you wouldn't want anyone as a whole involved.

  • @awatf8244
    @awatf8244 Місяць тому +1

    I wonder if the BBC is going to talk about what certain groups from certain religion do to young people in streets

  • @mimioweida9333
    @mimioweida9333 Місяць тому +2

    For the people who think sexual exploitation never affects males...

    • @mayya4413
      @mayya4413 Місяць тому

      No one said that plus if this was a girl she would be called h0e and called all types of names

    • @mayya4413
      @mayya4413 Місяць тому +1

      He had girlfriend, maybe don't cheat next time

    • @mimioweida9333
      @mimioweida9333 Місяць тому

      @@mayya4413 That had nothing to do with what happened.

  • @maseehwardak6055
    @maseehwardak6055 Місяць тому +1

    Internet access is a powerful tool, often, parents do not realize its dangers.

  • @leemccabemccabe5627
    @leemccabemccabe5627 Місяць тому +1

    God Bless 🙏

  • @shawnaellcey6970
    @shawnaellcey6970 Місяць тому

    There is a huge lawsuits happening in the USA against snap chat, a boy took his life due to sexortion, he was 12.
    They were charging him 35 dollars a day. 😢

  • @nelotharen8599
    @nelotharen8599 Місяць тому +1

    Nigeria is just full of problems. I dont know how they will ever develop? its just so over crowded and so much corruption. I have spent a lot of time there. Its very chaotic. I prefer it to egypt though.

  • @ItsMeHello555
    @ItsMeHello555 Місяць тому +1

    Horrible.

  • @Thinkingbbc
    @Thinkingbbc Місяць тому

    I'm happy the Nigerian government is waking up.

  • @johnpreston230
    @johnpreston230 Місяць тому +1

    If your pics get leaked, just say it's AI and it's not you dong. Everything is fake nowadays, so if you tell friends your pics are fake, they'll believe you.

  • @chaseriderthetruthchaser5988
    @chaseriderthetruthchaser5988 Місяць тому

    Gang stalking is real. These people attack you anyway they can but you have to stay strong.

  • @maleficent08
    @maleficent08 Місяць тому +1

    Please kids, Don't engage in sexual activities online. They also use a software in Skype to look like what they want show but they're actually men behind the camera.
    You wont feel threaten if u know u didn't do or shared anything. Block and restart your phone and computer if u may have clicked to an unknown links.
    Don't ever heed to their request to pay it will only prove you fell as an easy prey.
    Also, learn to watch how to avoid this situation..

  • @SB-nv2mj
    @SB-nv2mj Місяць тому

    Unemployment does not make a “person” push the another to kill himself. Encouraging and threatening the teen to kill himself is pure evilness .

  • @connectingthedots100
    @connectingthedots100 Місяць тому

    Desperately sad.

  • @FrisbeeGirl
    @FrisbeeGirl Місяць тому

    Years ago we were taught "stranger danger" and how not to engage. When did parents coaching their kids to not talk to strangers evolve into "I don't know how my kid thought would be great to send nudes to a stranger"?

  • @DarylBaines
    @DarylBaines Місяць тому +2

    Obviously Nigeria!