She Asked For Friends…
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- Опубліковано 26 лип 2023
- Gen Z's social skills have been negatively impacted by the pandemic and they are working hard to come up with new ways to make friends. They are now turning to dating apps like Bumble and Tinder, posting on TikTok, and even knocking on doors to meet friends.
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I swear, as a young person, finding people your age who you can actually talk to normally is next level difficult
It’s hard for everyone
Astronomical chances now
It's so rare
Yeah but I’m a person that doesn’t talk normally 🫠
Most of them want to know your pronouns😂
I’m a bridesmaid at a wedding for a girl that I never knew! She posted in a military spouses group that we’re in that she needed bridesmaids because all of her friends bailed 😭 a bunch of people volunteered, I met her for the first time yesterday and we are planning the best bachelorette party ever!
Probably not real friends. I mean, I undesirable everyone has situation but each and every single friend? Hope everything turned out for the better 🙏
That little boy ringing the doorbell to try to make friends BROKE ME. 😭😭😭
That's how we made friends before we got obsessed with being online. Well at least that's how I made friends when I was younger in England.
What? That's how all kids make friends. That's how i made friends being a 4 year old
@@le4864no most people make friends at school😂
@@le4864No, there's something wrong with you.
People make friends by meeting them at school, or while doing activities together.
@@Leanzazzyjeez!
I'd rather hear sleepy joe talking about ice cream for 5 hours than going up to a friend group and asking them if I can hang out in the middle of a packed mall
Same
People actually do that 💀
The second hand embarassment would be wild
True
Where do you live that a mall is packed?
@@inertian4723 in my city there is a dead mall and a packed mall the packed mall just recently opened a new anchor store so it's more packed than usual
The fact that I find it easier to talk to people older (like 10+ yrs), and younger than me (-3 yrs and younger) shows how intimidated I am around people my age. I find it easier to gain in an innocent conversation with a child and a mature conversation with an actual adult about various political, and social topics. As a Gen Zer, I am a failure when it comes to actually having friends and interacting with them...
FRRRRR. That is legit me my whole life!
Same!
@@MahimaDondapatiOMG yes same I am so much more comfortable around people older than me.
Sounds like me.....
That was and still is me. 35 year old male. Never had friends my own age. Always with the adults or little kids.
Lockdown was phenomenal for me. I was so unhappy with my friends and it was SO nice to be able to step back from them all which gave me the strength to completely separate from them in senior year
Lock downs helped separate the wheat from the chaff. Those that actually wanted to see me were the real friends who i still have a connection with.. those that complied with the government fell out of my life and neither of us have made an effort to see each other again.
I’m 28 and have never been able to actually make real friends.
Most people who are "friends" are fake.
@@californiacritic9779 yeah they just want something from you
Bro what. All you need to do is hang out with a group of 5 to 6 people who have similar interests to you. You dont have to be talkative. Just dont be dry
@@MbappeDaGoat yeah that's what I did but it's hard for people and I know it can be hard
I hope you make some good ones
I chat strangers up all the time. Usually start off with a complement. Just look at someone and find something to like about them. "That's a pretty blouse." "I love your hair." "That's a cool watch." "Your makeup is on point." Gets the conversation started on a positive note. I try to get people to laugh. I did it alot as a cashier. Always tried to get a smile or laugh no matter how grumpy or standoff ish people are. It was a fun little challenge. I was so shy as a kid that I couldn't even order a pizza over the phone, but after being a sheltered lonesome person for so long I just try to make every interaction with people into something nice no matter how brief or superficial. It almost never results in a friendship, but I get satisfaction in knowing I brightened someone's day and if they see me again they might be glad. You can always count on me to be kind.
I experienced this at work. Cliques here and there. I started volunteering, going to church, and finding hobbies. Started making friends in all of those places. Show up, put in the effort, and be consistent. You'll have friends in no time.
I'm homeschooled, and being home schooled has given me better social skills than my peers even before Covid. I had a new kid that I met about 8 months ago, and since I was friendly and outgoing, we became friends easily. For anyone struggling with making friends, my advice is to listen to them, be nice, and just go for it. Don't think about how awkward it is in the moment
homeschoolers unite!
@@LarryLease YES
Nailed it with “don’t think.” Thinking: the silent killer.
I was homeschooled all my life and my social skills suck I can’t befriend anyone my age because I act too mature and get along better with the adults cause I can talk about more adult topics and don’t understand my generation personally I’ve found it impossible to interact with kids my age cause I know that they really won’t like me based off past experiences. The other problem I think is that my mother didn’t particularly like people so we really didn’t go anywhere till I was 9 and it was to a homeschool Co-op which was super nice but we quit going when I was 14 ( I’m now 18) and now I really don’t have the ability to make friends. I’m constantly working and when I’m not I’m working on stuff at home or going to church.
@@electra659 That can be an unfortunate situation, but I was raised going to a different race track for my dads business every other month, talking to hundreds of separate adults. Then, when he resigned during Covid, I was still young enough to know what kids my age were doing and talking about. I dont know if I just had a lucky situation, but it worked better than most kids for me.
I think blaming Gen Z's social problems on mental illness is over prescribed. Too many of this generation think they are owed happiness. Every single generation has had problems. Happiness is not owed to you. You have to work for it.
No one is owed happiness. Thats the hardest facts i’ve learned in a while.
That and the "mental health" conversation never addresses how to undiagnose people and would rather give people emotional narcotics through affirmation rather than meaningful, attainable goals that improve quality of life.
Growing up using the internet was not a good idea though. A ton of us have grown up seeing things wayyyy too young on the internet and it affected a lot of ppl I know
It’s an excuse, they are all victims and nothing that isn’t good/perfect or exactly what they want out of life happens to or effects them. It’s never their fault and it’s because they live in a racist oppressive country 😂😂. (Not) because the have nots think they are owed everything they don’t have
Happiness is just fleeting moments- being content is key
Gen Z has become so soft that I can't even take it. I'm gen z and some of my peers are so annoying with their liberal crap. Like why can't they just be normal like the rest of us and stop making up weird rules that we have to follow?
Troll them 😃
Laugh at them.
Debate them
Well elderly has rules, I want throw half of them out of window.
Guys i vaped and got drunk last night while out with friends in Cali. Im only 15. Im never vaping again tho. I got way too hyper. Anyways.
Girlfriend ✅
Vaped once ✅
Drunk before 18 ✅
Now i'll stop sinning and build my body 🔜
As a younger millennial, i admire Gen Z's willingness to ask for help and be real. I think mean girl culture was soooo prevalent during my millennial childhood that asking for friends/admitting you were struggling with that was social suicide 😅
Why didn't you beat them?
I think that's somewhat more just the group you hung out with. I witnessed tons of mean girl cliques and also groups of girls that were much more friendly and open when I was growing up. But I was also a guy so I was not actually part of any of those groups.
@@treytison1444 I wish you would visit a German School ""Hauptschule"" during the early/mid 2000s. If you think anyone could find Friends there is not living in reality.
I mean it depends on the School/Area, but thats the Point. It depends alot on where a Person lives. If you have luck, there are alot of Friendly People around you. Some People, me included didnt had such luck.
There are still mean people though. That's never going to change. I remember so vividly the culture shock that I experienced when I moved from Cali to Mexico in the middle of highschool (I'm 20 now for reference). I've always been a shy, introverted, socially awkward loner. And there were many moments in middle school and my freshman year back in the States where I was just absolutely alone and I looked miserable because I was. I like being alone, but I also don't like being lonely. The friends I had in middle school were in another school by that point. Anyway, I was always ignored. Noisy people would hang out close by me and expect me to move even though I was there first. Or they'd gossip and say intimate crap near me as if I couldn't hear them. And the moments they didn't treat me like I was invisible, they'd say crap about me "behind my back" even though I'm only a feet away as if I can't hear, like being quiet suddenly makes me deaf and blind. I know that's partly my fault for being asocial, but you get the point. Anyway, when I started high school here in Mexico, I went to a smaller school in a smaller city. And I absolutely expected to be treated the same. But what really shocked me was how extroverted and sociable most people were there. Even towards strangers. At first, when they'd see me sitting alone during lunch (which I was ok with) random girls would come up to me and ask me if I was ok and if wanted company or to hang out with them. I said no of course because I was too timid, but I appreciated the sentiment. Eventually people learned that I was simply introverted and not that social, so they left me alone. But, they were kind enough to approach me in the first place. And also, everybody greets each other here. Well, my point is that I think even throughout the US there is quite a stigma towards forming community and approaching those who seem sad. Most teens just care about themselves and their friends, not really caring for the rest of their peers... Anyway, sorry for this long rant. I just wanted to give my two cents
It's inspiring to witness the positive change in today's generation. Let's learn from them and create a more supportive and understanding environment for everyone!
When you become a senior, it’s even harder to make friends. Friends were easy to come by when raising kids. Then moving to a new state, kids grown and out, makes it extremely hard because most people already have their friends and don’t need or want more. At least I have my hubby.
Makes me glad my grandparents have found ways to get out and find people
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I’ve always been a very solitary person (loved reading and playing the piano since I was tiny, both of which are fairly solitary activities) and rarely initiate hang-outs with the few friends I’ve chosen to keep over the years.
Having a baby changed everything for me. I don’t want my kids to be lonely or have deficient social skills so we’ve made a lot of mom+toddler friends. It’s honestly exhausting for me but I see the benefits. It’s heart-melting to watch my 2 year old walk around the farmers market, holding his best friend’s hand.
Sounds cringe. I hate kidz. Friends thing sound a lot better, but in theory.
Yeah, she’s the one that sounds cringe…smh
I am 26, and the only friend I have is 3,5k miles away , whom I video call once a month, and I consider myself blessed. We've been friends since 11grade, so she's like a sister to me, and yet I can't help feeling incredibly lonely all the time. Online friendship is just not it. When we meet (rarely) in summer or for a Christmas break that feeling fades, but maintaining the friendshp through Skype and Facebook is nearly as isolating and unfulfilling as not having any friends at all. To me, at least, but I know i'm not alone in this feeling. And I look at my parents, think of my old classmates' parents - they all have/had friend groups of 5ish people, and 10+ extended friendly acquaintance groups, that they stayed in touch with through years, meet with for the weekend,s holidays, trips... And I can't get one neighbour to get back to me after having a neighbourhood BBQ, or get a single person to agree to go to the movies or grocery shopping together. It's stupidly isolating and sad - living in 2023.
I'm also 26 but I have plenty of friends. It helps that I'm married, have kids and am part of a community with lots of other moms and kids my age. I also have siblings close in age who have their own friends, who I also hang out with if I want to grab a coffee with someone or wtvr. Your friend pool has the potential to expand exponentially after you make just a few friends. Because they will have other friends and you can be friends with their friends too. Not everyone needs or even likes to have that many friends, but its always good to have a large pool of acquaintance with varying skills, personalities and experiences. I recommend it
I get you, Milly. It’s more difficult to make genuine connections than people think, too. You have to be someone that’s okay with very surface level friendships to have friends in a way similar to your old classmates, I feel, which isn’t a good or a bad thing, but it’s just not everyone’s thing.
As an older gen Z my generation needs Jesus
I’m 26 and I can relate
So true
Gen Xer approves this message ❤
Gen Z doesn't believe in Jesus 😂
No they need god and jesus and all the angels combined
I have been awake for an hour and this is the best thing I’ve seen in that hour and my brain is still mush
True
My experience with gen z in the workforce has not been the best. I had a guy leaving work one day just because “he didn’t feel inspired”. They don’t pay us to work when inspired, they pay us to provide a service. 😅
He didn't feel inspired! I can't 😂
That's something you would say while microdosing on shrooms LOL
🤯 My goodness - I’m thankful for being raised by good old-fashioned parents. My youngest brother (who is 17) just got a big shout out from his boss for simply working hard and doing his job.
Seeing that video of the younger kid asking for friends absolutely broke my heart. Although I did not experience anything along the lines of mandatory lockdown while in the most crucial years of a child's upbringing (I must preface that I am a millennial), I did experience severe bullying around that age and did something similar looking for friends. In fact, doing this lead me to meet two ff my closest friends that I still am good friends with to this day. I empathize with that child and must also mention what Brett said about this child having the self-awareness to do this shows he's miles beyond the maturity level he would be expected to have at that age. I wish that little guy the best of luck with finding friends!
i don’t think everyone understands that making friends that are your age, is a next level difficulty-
No seriously like I just got back from summer camp couple weeks ago and I made a few friends there and they just kind of you know stop talking to me which seems to be a common occurrence with me and I think other Gen z people would agree
HOW? Just freaking get out of you cage and go outside and meet people, start with school / class mates (Bombshell: Their all your age).
eh, plus minus 7 years and you should be good.
@@JoriDiculousbro you know how fucked up people of my age is just at 15 years old? They are or crazy or have some fucked shit when they were childs , its just so sad like... every thing its not just that simple.
@hootieq5688 that's less gen z behavior and more summer camp behavior. Which sucks because everyone talks online anyway nowadays.
I few years ago my then 9 year old sister asked me how to make friends at school. It broke my heart to hear her say that she was having problems with this. Something that should be so simple and easy for kids to do. Now (14) she has a good group of friends and it doing better.
I think we--as Gen Z--use the term "friend" far too loosely. We don't have "friends". We have acquaintances. I think we even go so far as call the influencers we watch as a "friend" in passing conversation. I never had many actual friends. I went from 4 (high school) to like 2 (adult).
Don't worry so much this isn't a Gen Z problem only. Plenty of older people across different generations use the term too loosely.
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That's friends, and then best friends
Thank you so much for this video Brett!! I spent the last two months of high school and the entirety of summer totally alone because my best friend completely abandoned me after an argument we had and the rest of my “friends” did the same because they were only friends with me through my best friend. I haven’t spoken to any of my high school friends all summer, and now I’m less than a month away from going across the country for college and terrified that I’m not going to make any friends, but this video gave me a little confidence boost and hope :)
You got this!!! I, very similarly, had my best friend cut me off as well in high school... with the friend circle following suit. I understand what you're going through, and that shit stings, man... keep on pushing, you got some WONDERFUL memories to make ahead of you! High school is only the beginning of all the wonders life has on the table for you. Blessings on your future endeavors, stranger.
I can tell you right now, high school is always touted as being the best years of your life, well they're not even close. I'm sorry that your best friend flaked out. Unfortunately, there's a lot of that going around. Go to college, get involved in groups and organizations, don't hide in your dorm room all day long. Get out and talk face to face. That is the way to make friends. It is harder now than it was when I was younger I know that. And don't worry about having a lot of friends, it's better to have one or two good friends than 50 acquaintances.
High school friendships can be tricky, but trust me, college is a whole new chapter filled with endless possibilities.
@@nogames8982 Excellent advice! The nice thing about college is that there are tons of groups & activities on campus - and off campus if you're in a city. Find something that your passionate about & you'll find people that are the same way. And they're less likely to stare at screen all day.... unless it's a coding club ;)
While a lot of people's friendships are based on shared geography, shared age-range or shared employment, they tend not to grow deep roots because people move & change jobs.
As you get older you'll find the best friendships are among people with shared passions. My two groups of close friends are the ones that share my two main hobbies. And the age ranges vary from late teen to early 50s, which definitely helps bring interesting & varied perspectives to the group.
The best advice I gave my kids was to get involved with a group on your campus right away, whether it be musical, faith-based or interest based. There is usually an activities fair at the beginning of the year that allows you to check out what's available. It gives you a sense of connectedness from the start. Then you can branch out from there as you meet people in your dorm or through classes. Best wishes!
How to make friends in Gen Z, ask about their relationship with their parents
You'd have to endure a rant😂
Im not flexing but last night i vaped and got drunk in LA when i went out with my friends. Im only 15 btw. I sinned for one night but atleast thats off my bucket list.
@@MbappeDaGoat hopefully it's only a monthly thing because it destroy your body if you do it daily
@@MbappeDaGoatum thanks for sharing
@Folkmore_fan_account never vaping again . I was super hyper after a few pulls
You are so right in how important it is to put yourself out there. I work remote and it is not easy to make friends. I recently went to a local FB group and started a Fantasy Football League with strangers and we are meeting to draft next month! Others have started pub crawls etc.
Brett it’s funny you talked about the no more lonely friends movement. I used to work with the founder years ago at a restaurant and would love to see you conduct an interview with the founder Marissa on the movement and loneliness. I think it would be a great opportunity for more people to learn about the movement and the loneliness epidemic! Enjoy watching your content! Continue to pump out the great content as you always do!
This made my WHOLE day. Well done to everyone trying to stave off loneliness in wholesome and meaningful ways. And well done, Brett, for highlighting the good in humanity and the internet! It's still there and I love seeing this. Thank you.
As a gen z with no friends, idk what's wrong with me
Nothing is wrong with you. For what it’s worth, as an old millenial I was married at 20 and had 16 friends in my wedding party. After you marry and have kids everyone drifts apart and you might only keep 1-2 good ones in adulthood. My 1-2 weren’t even in my wedding. Quality not quantity. My advice is get out into the 3D world and do classes, sports, hobbies, volunteer for anything you are interested in and make a friend there. You will already 2 things in common 1) the hobby/sport and 2) that they can leave the house to be with actual people and focus on something non screen. Don’t beat yourself up.
@@mamabear5cubs109 good advice 👍
This made me really grateful that I was in such a small school (with only two classmates all of highschool) because we all just had to be friends with each other. Since we couldn't choose our friends, we just learned how to deal with pet peeves and idiosyncrasies that annoyed us. We also all compromised and gave in for different needs of our friends... It makes a huge difference now wherever I go, whether that's welcoming new people into the family (with siblings-in-law who are very different than me and my siblings and parents), putting up with colleagues and bosses that aren't always the best, even rude people in customer service or just in any public space. I've learned to ignore and still retain good social skills no matter how others are acting. But developing all that was a lot of hard work and THAT is a value that is sorely lacking in my generation...
But, yeah, the lockdown was tough. Even when we went back to in-person school in 2021, I had only two classmates and they were constantly out because they or their family members had covid. It kinda messed me up for a while.
As A gen Z kid, very introvert, 17 year old (oct 2005)
I am trying
I just entered high school when the pandemic hit, I always had a tough time making friends cause most of the time I got bullied instead.
However, when I look back on it, eventhough I was very much depressed and sad, I was more able to make friends then, versus now.
I am terrified of talking to people, I don't want to embarace myself, be offensive or get laughed at , so I often panic and choose to flee.
I really hope when I graduate college at 20, I will have time to work on my social skills evermore then I am already doing, so I can get married at 25.
It is difficult, but I have hope, cause I did make progress in some social aspects.
If you are struggling, don't give up, you are not alone, and take small steps.
One small step for you, one giant leap for your growth
I’m 46 and definitely not Gen Z although my kids are but I barely have any friends and am frequently lonely. Even as a mom, it’s difficult because everyone is so busy. I’m trying to get out of my comfort zone and meet more people. However as a mom it also depends on how well the kids get along and the ages of the children.
It’s great to have friends that your kids can connect with their kids, but also have friends just for yourself too! You’re an individual who needs community too!
It’s great that I have a husband who is so outgoing and sweet and wants to be friends with my friends, but I can have a great time with my friends without him, too.
Try to go out for some alone time with your friends occasionally so that you get your social needs met as well!
The lockdown wasn't anything new for me because I'm mostly homebound due to chronic illness, but the isolation pain is still definitely real. I finally decided to start trying to make an effort to go to the young adult ministry groups my church does yesterday and got to see some friends, but I unfortunately couldn't stay as long as I wanted to because I started getting sick halfway through and had to go home. I wish this gen z isolation wasn't such a huge problem.
I pray you find a nice group of people to be around 🤍
@@madisonmeyers5493 Thank you. I do have some good friends around. They just don't ever visit me at home, which is sad.
honestly it is so hard to make friends these days. I just started uni and I was trying my best to be outgoing and talking to new people and people would brush me off. In high school I didn't make much friends because the majority of the kids in my school were pretty bad kids and I had no desire of being involved with them so I tried my best when I started uni but im kinda discouraged seeing how everyone puts up a guard and refuses to make anymore friends or just be responsive and have a conversation especially when they too don't even know anyone at uni🙄
When you described bouncing around, making lots of short term friends that are there for 4-6 months until you move with the distance killing the friendship, that just made me think of how all of us military brats grew up. When you never know when or where your parent(s) are going to be restationed, you learn to make friends quickly and enjoy them for as long as you can until one of you inevitably moves suddenly.
I came outta college in 08. My old boss came out in the 70s when the gas lines were hours long.
There's ALWAYS been struggles for generations going into the workplace, it's just that gen z is softer than a pillow and the gen x in power is helping keep them that way.
*Proud 90's kid here.*
Making friends back in my day was absolutely a piece of cake.
For some of you.
*FLEX SOME MORE, WHY DON'T YA*
so i got 2 kittens recently and i they are the cutest little things ever but they are never staying in one place but when i watch bretts videos they come and climb onto me and watch with me i actually think it’s the funniest thing ever
This was so uplifting and inspiring! I'm a teenage girl and I've grown up my entire life thus far with no friends, until a year ago when I made two, but they have since moved to other states. I've always been rather shy, but I'm trying to get over it.
I'll be moving later this summer to an Orthodox Jewish community and converting, and though I am nervous, I am also excited. There's a lot of emphasis in that religion on strong friendships, and when girls are eighteen they get to travel together with their classes from their Jewish schools to places like Israel or New York, etc, and it's a very important time in a Jewish girl's life, resulting in life long friendships and I can't wait.
I'm an old soul and quite a passionate and mature person, so I've never fit in with my age group, but I'm hoping I do fit in when I get into this new community.
I've recently had a wake up call, too. For too long I had convinced myself that my life was terrible; I convinced myself that I was depressed, and was being very self deprecating, despite the fact that I am lucky enough to come from a wonderful, loving, supportive home. However, of late I've woken up from that and now I am trying every day to live life to the fullest and happiest possible; I'm thankful I made this discovery as soon as I did.
I want to say to people in my generation, there is always hope, and even though things are going to be hard, they're going to take work, they're going to be uncomfortable, you just need to push through and get crap done. It will all be so worth it once you get out of your own way. YOU are the only one holding YOU back, even though it probably doesn't seem that way. There is so much potential for you in this world--don't be afraid to take chances. If you live your entire life in fear, what's the point of living?
Please take this into consideration if you're having a hard time. The world needs more people to take chances and be happy, spreading light wherever they go.
I wish if I was like you😢
That is really fascinating, and I wish you good luck in your new life.
I'm just curious if you are just joining that community in search of making friendships, or will be with family members who will be converting also, etc?
It seems like a big leap to make if you are doing on your own, as you didn't mention any parent(s), so it sounded a little unusual.
@@watercoloreyes That's awesome! I don't have any social media save for Pinterest and UA-cam, however.
@@pat4005 My entire family of seven people is converting :) We've wanted to for years and are just finally doing it now. We love Judaism and always have, but now feels like the right time.
@@Mystic_countess Who's to say you can't do the same thing? :-)
Literally half my college experience was ruined by lockdowns. I managed to make a few friends in my last semester before graduating, but I really haven’t spoken to them since then. I already had online friends before lockdown, so the whole thing wasn’t too devastating for me socially, and because my job at the time was considered essential, I thankfully wasn’t completely homebound for the initial panic time. However, I can still recall the mental breakdown I had when the lockdown started. When the government comes a-knockin’, you know shit’s about to get bad.
Despite all of this, I’ve definitely rebounded. I have new work friends and even still stay in touch with a couple of work friends who have moved on to other jobs. Best of all, my long-distance boyfriend is moving close to me soon, so I’ll definitely be getting out of the house more!
Just been loving such frequent, fun content ❤
It also impacted gen alpha a lot. My brother was born a year before Covid. m he was just with my mom, dad and me, his social skills are horrible. He also has speech delay.
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Last year was a very hard year for me I lost a lot of my friends made a few enemies and I really let all the negativity drag me down and I pushed everyone away and distanced myself completely it wasn't until that last month of my junior year where I realized that I still had people who cared and I actually did have a few friends but I have switched schools and I've decided that I'm tired of being a whiney moopey person and u want to put myself out there this year. I don't want to spend my senior year pathetic and alone and this video was a big encounter and it makes me feel confident for tomorrow (my first day) so this was something I needed thank you Brett 💖
During covid I had just moved to America and had to leave all my friends behind while they were all together. Covid wasn't really serious there so it was really hard to call them and see them hanging out. I was only in America for a year and when I moved back our friend group became closer than ever. We had a solid year before people started moving so now there's 2/6 of us left till I leave next year back to America. I'm also a very introverted person so I don't know how I will survive as an introverted homeschooler for my last year of high school in America.
As a homeschooler, a Gen Z-er, and an introvert and someone who talks to random objects around the house, i enjoyed being home during covid, i hadnt had a phone yet and somehow i think my social skills got better since Covid, as did my confidence. But my tolerence for my generation went down into the negatives. Gen Z-ers, we need to do better.
wow this is really amazing to see! All my best friends kept moving away when I was in Middle school after 1 or 2 years with them. And then in highschool i suffered a huge trauma when the 3 girls I spent 4 years with abandoned me. Ever since then I never thought it would be possible to make friends again. I tried asking other girls to hang out but it seems everyone is too busy for me. This video gives me hope and makes me believe it is possible to make some close friendships again. BTW in the spirit of this video, is there anyone else in the Toronto area/GTA that needs a friend? I'd love to finally hang out with some people again!
This is a great video. There are so many things I've actually seen. Even at 45 years old, I'm always looking for friends. As you get older, your friends move away, and you end up having only a few close friends that will stand with you. Appreciate the friends you have and try to make as many as possible. You'll be happier.
I try my best to make friends and make good ones but it really is difficult at times. Even when you think you're doing ok, sometimes you aren't and you mess up with someone. I also try to meet with friends in person when I can but lately, so much more has had to be done through a screen (plus there are some people I know only through a screen). That part of it can be tiring cause I do want more in person interaction but it is a little trickier to set up and plan for, especially since none of my friends drive yet. Hopefully that part will change soon, at least.
I've also just put my trust in people who didn't deserve it so it almost feels pointless letting other people in or to talk about super serious stuff to casual friends since something could happen that would only give me more trust issues. It's always the people who seem really nice and genuine but aren't that hurt the most.
I also just wanted to say that I'm just offering yet another Gen Z perspective and it's a personal one at that. I hope not everyone in this generation is feeling so confused and frustrated when it comes to friend-making. I also know a lot of this involves putting yourself out there, and I am considering that.
I’m a big fan Brett!! I love all of ur vids!! Love you!! 💗💓
I honestly relate to this a lot. I have a couple of very good friends from college but now that we’ve graduated we live hours away. I miss going out on a whim for small things with a friend. I know about the dating apps like hinge and tinder, and I was thinking it would be cool to find apps like that for platonic friendships instead. I’m at the point where I’m tempted to ask cashiers my age if they want to hang out 😂
The best way to meet people is with a shared hobby. I've met people playing ultimate frisbee, in our ATV club and on club rides, playing Magic the gathering at a hobby shop, etc. etc. Go somewhere and join in an activity, either a sport or some sort of nerd event. I went to Vegas thru work and wanted to go out on the town at the end of the class, so during the open bar after class I moved from group to group, not really knowing anyone. At one point someone asked what I'm up too... I said looking for friends to go out on the town with tonight. They had me join, and it was one of the most fun nights I've ever had.
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Once I got a job about two years ago, when I was 15, I have now noticed that I have improved very much socially and even had a easier time understanding what people say if they have a lot of a accent.
One of those jobs includes teaching little kids at a ski which I think is the big part on why I am so social now. Younger kids are shy to a new person so I really had to talk to them and tell them what to do and to make them feel better about what they’re doing. (Me) At first I didn’t really like the job but I enjoyed the skiing part. Now it’s both I love skiing and I love communicating with them and some of them are actually pretty funny.
brett, whenever i watch your videos it feels like your a big sister, thanks so much for this content!
As a 16 y/o with absolutely no social skills whatsoever, I think my main problem is finding something to talk about. In school, it's difficult to find people that share the same interests, and I always struggle to maintain conversations.
Branch out your interests and take greater interest in people. Both will take time but will solve your problem
@@mii-sanch.939 That requires dopamine and serotonin in the right proportions in the right parts of my brain.
@@darklordsauron3415 Care to elaborate on what these "right proportions" are? How the chemical balance is measured, and could be assessed through treatment? No? Great, so it's not a real disease
Nice effort Brett, keep up the good work.
This is a very important topic for people. When young people age, their friend group changes quite a bit. I think the most important thing is not being so desperate for friends that you put yourself in a dangerous position. I have been screwed over pretty hard in my quest for friends and it can really make a person jaded in their outlook of the world.
BRETT COOPER I BET YOU ARE ONE OF THE BEST FRIENDS THAT ANYONE CAN BE PROUD TO HAVE
Y u yell
Bro this is a simp free zone so be gone with you
@@misterlister-wm2tjbased on the profile pic, I don’t think it was simping lol
@@johnmcwick1 brother judging by that photo this a simper of multiple women
@@frankierosario6981 I JUST USE ALL CAPS TO BE UNIQUE
I'm a millennial and I have no problem going out and being social but most of this is still cringe. Yes you should go out and hang out with people but you don't have to make a group tik tok video every time you go out. That's the problem, these people are going out and doing normal things but even then they can't stop trying to gain online clout.
Although with these types of movements, the people who wanna go there are normal. Clout chasers would likely attend bigger events. Believe me, I've experienced it.
This was pretty inspirational brett. Ive always been a bit of a hermit but ive realised recently that covid even hit my social skills to some degree. Definitely something worth addressing.
Making friends has always been the bane of my existence and I’m 28. Love being socially anxious! And I do thoroughly enjoy people I just don’t know how to make friends. Especially since most people my age already have their group.
great vids! love your channel so much❤
Brett is a role model
I started a new job last week, had an entire conversation with the girl I was shadowing about how we had both moved to the area from further stares and hadnt made friends. By the end of my orientation shift we had exchanged phone numbers and are becoming great friends. On the flip, I lived for a year in a different state and didn't make a single friend because I worked from home and didn't make enough money to justify going out much. Both can definitely happen, but I don't think the growing up with internet experience has made me any less of an extrovert or less capable of making friends, we just have to be aware of our day to day experiences and what we want in our lives. It's strange to me hearing the opposite about us.
Thank You DW Team & Brett! That DBZ clip with the Step Brothers' audio is top notch! Great content, much love ☮️
I love that step brothers scene. Everytime I see it I am instantly reminded of how me and my best friend met because it we had that same kind of moment haha.
I love you Brett! Your the best!!!
How dare u post while I’m vibing to Run-DMC 😂
When our 16yr old went back to school in 11th grade after covid he had no friends, so his dad n I literally forced him to make 1 new friend every day. We bought him nice-looking clothes to help him with his confidence, gave him a few tips on how to open up small talk, and prepared him for rejection just in case. He was so nervous thinking it would be so awkward and didnt really want to, but he did. Every day we'd pick him up n ask him who did he meet today? We were very consistent with this. Days passed and he kept at it, making it a point of making one new friend every day. I remember that a couple of weeks back in school he told us that at lunch all the "cool n popular" kids sat together in this one table in the cafeteria and his goal was to sit on it by the end of the year. I thought it was a great challenge to himself and we saw his confidence growing little by little. He was so surprised people liked his personality and easily accepted him. He started liking making new friends. Halfway through the year he was already friends with all the kids in the "popular table" and he was like "you know what? I used to think they were so different, and now that i know them, they are just like me"....we were glad he was finally realizing he had made a mountain out of a molehill in his own head. He is an amazing kid, he just had to see it. By the end of his senior year he was voted "Most School Spirit" by his senior class and was nominated for Homecoming King. He was the life of the party in his graduation, surrounded by all his class, graduated top 10 out of 600 kids in his class, and he had sooo many friends that our calendar was full all the time. He also met his girlfriend in church and they now have a wonderful relationship. One day he turned to his dad and I and said "thank you guys" we were like what for? And he said "thank you for pushing me out of my comfort zone and making me make 1 new friend every day".....we are so incredibly proud of him that there are no words. God made it all possible, we just needed a little faith. The other day i heard him tell a kid from church who is very introverted and going to a new school...."the secret is to force yourself to make 1 new friend every day..."....i just smiled as I heard him. I was not going to let life and all this covid stuff swallow up our kid. Now he cant wait to start college and go to all the activities and clubs and make new friends. He has such a stable we-balanced life. He is 180 from the timid shy boy who started 11th grade. When he went to his orientation we told him "dont forget to meet new people" and he came back full of stories of other young adults he met. He is so excited. Sometimes all they need is one hard push, done in a tactful way. We love him so much n we are so grateful to God for the changes in his life.
I was almost pushed to do the same thing, I felt so lonely these past few months and really want to have friends again. Thankfully one of my closest fiends reached out and invited me to hang out with his friend group, but the struggle is real. Times are tough, but it takes one person to make a change in someone’s life. Be that change for someone else too.
Favorite channel by far 💯
Gen Z is something else
I was 16 when covid first started and halfway through highschool. I remember feeling so isolated that i resorted to finding friends online to supplement the feelings of isolation. I'm glad i did it though because now i found some of my closest friends from that
Best way to start the day is with a Brett cooper video
You slay all day girlie love your vids btw❤
Honestly, I contribute most of the ease in my communication to being homeschooled. I have no issue talking to those older than me and can communicate with ease with most people.
See I used to be like that and I’m homeschooled as well but now that I’m older (i’m 18) anyone older than me even just a year older than me talk to me like I’m a small child because Katie fair I do look pretty young and I’m really short so that doesn’t help which makes it really hard to hold a good conversation with older people because they don’t take me seriously
@@hootieq I’m sorry to hear that :(.
Thank you for recognizing No More Lonely Friends! I am committed to help the world just a little if I can. Its a harsh lonely world sometimes especially after the last few years!
Yay! Happy to see people hanging out in person 😁
I was just watching one of ur videos when I got the notification for this one 😂
This is my friend Marissa! I grew up with her and she was always the one trying to make sure that no one was left out. I’m glad this is what she’s famous for because it fits 😊
I graduated from college the spring semester of 2020 and became isolated except for my family that I lived with because I struggled to make friends growing up. I followed that up by buying a house, a decision I made as an investment and to make myself responsible for more important things. That was good in the short term at making me more capable, but I learned quickly that living alone made the situation of not having friends way harder. Fast forward almost three years and I've made small strides, but I still really struggle with this problem, for normal friendships and especially romantic endeavors. I desperately want our society to encourage getting out of our houses and create more social opportunities for everyone, but it's very slow going. I pray it happens soon.
I have lost basically all my friends and I have such a hard time reaching out and maintaining relationships even though I really miss being part of a friend community. My parents and my boyfriend (my only friend really) both are concerned and encourage me to reach out to people, but with a new job out of college and so much to do at home it feels hopeless like I’ll never find anybody who would share my values and want to hang out with me. That being said, I love the effort everyone put into this video and I hope someday I’ll be able to have friends again
Ngl, I have more friends who are like, 10 years older than me than people my actual age. And I'm approaching 20...what's wrong with me?!?😭
Nothing wrong you may just be more mature
@@BuddhaSunn Naw I know for a fact I'm not more mature, I just feel more comfortable with older ppl or younger ppl
Every generation is a product of circumstances that aren't their fault. The key is not to make excuses by blaming circumstances created by the previous generation. Take responsibility for yourself, get out there and do something productive.
Yep exactly 💯
Something rlly cool that happened to me is that i have a terrible support system and my dad has always treated me like i was the bad kid. It gets to me and ive sobbed over it in public 2x in the past 3mo. 2 women at those 2 diff times have come up to me to hug me and tell me that i matter. They told me so many nice things and gave me such reassuring hugs that i broke down cuz i haven't felt that in years. People are so kind. Its not the first time ppl have helped me cuz i was crying in a random place either.
I am a Babby Boomer, and this is my take. We started drugging our kids. In the 80's! We were told by the government that they had ADD, never heard of this but we had a meeting with my sons teachers and was told to take him to his doctor. The doctor never checked temperature, pulse or anything just wrote prescription to calm him down. We turned our son into a drug addict. Kids started to get participation trophy's. No punishment for anything done wrong! My generation started our kids on drugs. And it has progress to now, I wondered why they skipped the whole alphabet to x the skipped y and came up with Z. I figured it out after many days, and figured it out, Z is for Zombie. And I might add it is appropriate.🙃
I’m a 21 year old detransitioner and even though I would consider myself extremely healthy mentally since I detransitioned, it still feels impossible to make friends. My husband is my best friend but I don’t know a SINGLE girl in my state :( I long for a girl best friend like I see other girls have. Bumble has not helped at all, a lot of girls on bumble match with you but never actually text you back.
Bro finding women friends as a woman is like searching for water on Mars
@@mii-sanch.939 SERIOUSLY THOUGH it’s so ridiculous
I didn’t really knew that anti social thing was this serious, I don’t have a job yet but knowing I won’t know the people there does get me nervous but it’s not stopping me. I think my generation needs to stop blaming things on their emotions and feelings and be a little rough with there selves and push themselves to do what they want to accomplish.
Millenial here....If youre intimidated by meetups, theres all sorts of other ways to put yourself out there. Sign up for a local art class, join a rec sports team, find a local book club, play at an open mic, birdwatching clubs, bible study at your church, volunteer, walking groups....whatever your hobby or interest, theres a group or club out there for you. All of these will connect you with people that youll have something in common with so its more natural to skrike up a conversation. Clubs groups and volenteering help not only make friends, but building a strong community to feel a real sense of belonging. Good luck guys, you've got this!!!
I'm very socially awkward and making friends myself/approaching people myself has always been challenging for me cause I feel so awkward. But two of my best friends I made by stepping out of my comfort zone and approaching them.
I made my childhood best friend by deciding to get up from my seat on the bus (I prefered to sit alone usually) and sitting next to her after noticing that her friend that usually sat with her at the time decided not to sit with her that day. It was awkward at first but we ended up hitting it off and we hung out that day since we lived on the same street. We also found out that our moms used to work together. That was in 2007 when we were in 2nd grade and we are still best friends now in 2023.
Another one of my best friends I made by approaching her and her husband (they had just moved in from out of state just a couple days prior) after church because one of my friends who worked with the church encouraged me to go and make them feel welcome. We also hit it off pretty much immediately despite me feeling intimidated and awkward. I then invited her to hang out and go on a hike with me and another friend the next day and we've been best friends ever since! I encourage all of you to destroy your comfort zone and stop letting fear rule your life! If a socially awkward and anxious person such as myself can put myself out there and make some lifelong friendships, I promise you that you can too! 💕
I'm also wondering how it impacted infants and toddlers during this time from lock-downs and mask-wearing. I wondered about this from the start. Imagine their whole lives only seeing everyone outside their families (sadly even some within their families) having at least half their faces' covered. never experiencing smiles or mouths moving during speech. Everyone's words muffled. Just a piece of cloth to look at. How will that damage the next generation?
I'm a younger millennial and have always struggled with maintaining friendships. I always chalked it up to being an army brat with divorced parents lol now that I'm a stay at home mom though, and no longer work I find it really, really hard to make friends that are also in the same stage in life as me. Luckily my husband is supportive of my hobbies so I'm able to start finding friends that way, but my golly it really is tough out there 😂 especially since there are not many stay at home parents nowadays
I'm 17 and it's crazy how much this has stunted my social skills. Genuinely I struggle so much with talking to people I don't know. All of my friends right now I have had before covid, and have not made a single new one since. It's especially harder since I am pretty much off all social media except youtube.
as someone who never stayed in the same school for longer then 3 years growing up, I can admit it was hard to hold onto friends, and I always had a deep desire to have close friends (Along with a fear of not being able to fit in, or scared people would find me annoying if i was myself). My boyfriend and I moved across the country in july (2023 graduates), we haven’t really put ourselves out there socially, and we don’t really have friends here (just family and a neighbor). It’s comforting to know that other Gen Zers also feel lonely (as I felt lonely for a very long time). My peers are willing to go out and ask for friends, and people are actually connecting because of it. This video gives me courage to make some changes in my attitude, and my social life, it is okay to be nervous, it’s not okay to choose to stay lonely.
I'm 35 and I'm still struggling with this, COVID definitely caused some major problems with this. Socializing just became more difficult in a polarized country.
Having friends is so important and it bums me out to hear adults don't have friends. Join a sporting league, go to a Meetup, join a martial arts gym...there are so many ways to make friends as an adult! No one should have to be alone
Working from 8 - 8 and every weekend leaves little time for friends.
4 years of scouts, 10 years of martial arts, 13 of soccer, 4 years of band etc. No friends. Who cares? I'm an alien and hate community. Only seems good in theory, and very unlikely in practicality regardless. The issue with that is everyone around me I can't connect with on any level beyond acquaintance, which normal, more extroverted and better neurologically aligned people(for social harmony and normal dopamine reward processing) might consider as "friend", and thus somehow meaningful.
I love that people showed up! I hope more people reach out and make healthy safe connections!
❤❤❤ Made me tear up. Love this. Thank you for creating this kind of content. Very important.
This makes me feel so lucky to still have my childhood best friend of 17 years.
How do you do the ad reads so smooth????
By reading a script
And editing
This is very true Brett.
I am seeing this as a 55 yr old working in civil aviation in a professional category.
It is like we have to be mum & dad to these kids as they have so many anxieties & emotional reactions to every day ordinary life.
Your the only UA-camr where i also watch the Adds since you are really good at presenting them xD
Here's an important question to ask yourself before trying to make friends: Do you even want friends or were you told to get friends? It could be the former and that's why you have trouble making friends.