From Not Speaking Up to Lacking Self Discipline: We’re Apologizing to Ourselves for These Things

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  • @Anana315
    @Anana315 3 роки тому +868

    Is Jeannie talking about Tamar? Because even though I liked Tamar on the show, she was funny and all, but she was kind of a bully to Jeannie…
    And if she’s really talking about her, from what we saw, Jeannie was always the bigger person, she kept being herself, and I admired how she never let her dim her light. She should not feel embarassed

    • @Msladyrae92
      @Msladyrae92 3 роки тому +177

      Yes and she still does it …. Pointing out her pregnancy on ig before Jeannie was ready to announce.

    • @lindsaylindsay4884
      @lindsaylindsay4884 3 роки тому +76

      And Amanda

    • @Anana315
      @Anana315 3 роки тому +34

      @@Msladyrae92 Truuee I didn’t know how to feel about that…

    • @Anana315
      @Anana315 3 роки тому +20

      @@lindsaylindsay4884 Yeah I thought about her too

    • @peterlim5144
      @peterlim5144 3 роки тому +81

      It's definitely Tamar. I remember 2015-2016 was such an awkward time because Jeannie and Tamar were trying real hard to act like friends (both on the show and on social media) when in actuality, their sudden 'friendship' just felt so forced and contrived.
      I'm glad Jeannie doesn't have to deal with Tamar's crap after that because I'm pretty sure it would've been worse the longer Tamar stayed. I mean..have yall seen the seasons of Braxton Family Values after Tamar was fired? She was a mess...

  • @lasagnekiller
    @lasagnekiller 3 роки тому +460

    She's definitely talking about Tamar because Tamar left in Season 3. Go on girl, let it out. Your frustration is justified. Bullying in the workplace is a thing, and it's even worse when your other co-workers fail to acknowledge it, or remain complicit. Jeannie has grown in ways I never even imagined. She has her own business, husband, baby on the way, and she looks more radiant than ever. Honestly, her growth is admirable.

    • @Anas-rx1he
      @Anas-rx1he 3 роки тому +50

      I think the ‘3 years’ part was referencing how long her childhood abuse went on, but yeah I definitely feel she was talking about Tamar too

    • @lasagnekiller
      @lasagnekiller 3 роки тому +14

      @@Anas-rx1he Actually you're right. That's so sad.

    • @janeking4059
      @janeking4059 3 роки тому +4

      Could not have said it better myself! Love with the right one is a POWERFUL thing! Can move mountains...chance lives!!!

    • @janeking4059
      @janeking4059 3 роки тому +4

      @@Anas-rx1heYep was about her childhood.. she was emotional about it...saw it! These types of painful memories/traumas stays with you...cause it psychologically break u apart!

    • @Katarina23
      @Katarina23 2 роки тому +2

      Tamar made mistakes which she is trying to rectify but i don't think she could bully Jeannie to that extent. You guys are being unfair to Tamar. Jeannie has plenty of issues that don't concern her coworkers

  • @maryjane2965
    @maryjane2965 3 роки тому +759

    I can't get over how much of a great fit Garcelle is to this round. Not gonna lie I think she is a better fit for this round.
    And I can relate soooooo much to what Adrienne said my God..

  • @mrst678
    @mrst678 3 роки тому +1531

    THIS. SEASON. IS. FIRE! I can’t speak for everyone, but I’m loving the natural flow of energy, the engaging conversations, & even the wardrobe/hair/makeup. The Real is looking really good! Take a bow, cast and crew!

    • @brendatrejo3935
      @brendatrejo3935 3 роки тому +11

      💯👌

    • @smvhjo6hg371
      @smvhjo6hg371 3 роки тому +40

      I think we all do! It feels more serious but at the same time more relaxed😊❤️

    • @britbritnicole
      @britbritnicole 3 роки тому +12

      I’m loving it too

    • @simplytina5627
      @simplytina5627 3 роки тому +9

      I agree!

    • @kathrinabennett8837
      @kathrinabennett8837 3 роки тому +18

      I think so too Heather. These conversations topics truly push us to discuss some REAL things. Love it!

  • @Vivrantthing9576
    @Vivrantthing9576 3 роки тому +911

    Adrienne! You’re speaking an ENTIRE word to those of us struggle with this and go through this cycle EVERYDAY! How do we overcome this?!!

    • @SheShineBright
      @SheShineBright 3 роки тому +3

      Yes...

    • @rebecaramirez5767
      @rebecaramirez5767 3 роки тому +51

      Self Discipline is SO HARD! I completely understand Adrienne. I want to be that woman that gets up every morning and have this energy. And just like she says, I set my alarm to just hit snooze. And I HATE myself for it.

    • @mayalicious203
      @mayalicious203 3 роки тому +22

      Same . I have zero self discipline and idk how to over come it

    • @violethill3745
      @violethill3745 3 роки тому +10

      Answer for me: work out an hour after dinner. Turn on some cool lights if at home. Invest in a few workout tools so you don’t have to leave your house. Listen to music. It feels more relaxing, less like work and I’m more likely to do it.

    • @osimeon00
      @osimeon00 3 роки тому +15

      The answer is you can't because you don't want to. You like the idea of it but not the work it takes.

  • @Leanguy89
    @Leanguy89 3 роки тому +119

    "Do you have to be that person?" Garcelle was giving low key wisdow with that simple sentence/question. We don't necessarily have to be everything "we think we have to be." I don't know if that makes sense but I understand myself. 😂🤣

    • @QueenChastity
      @QueenChastity 3 роки тому +5

      Exactly! Something I’ve learned later in Life.

    • @anissa8119
      @anissa8119 3 роки тому +9

      It's so true, I think we imagine ourselves doing all these different things and then we'll finally be perfect but perfect just does not exist. We're only human doing the best we can.

  • @MaishaOnTop
    @MaishaOnTop 3 роки тому +467

    I've never resonated with Adrienne so much... She literally described me...

  • @hanam9652
    @hanam9652 3 роки тому +322

    Good on Jeannie for being open on her experiences of being bullied on the show. Although I LOVED tamar in the previous seasons it was very uncomfortable to watch her clear dislike for jeannie. She has every right to “not be feeling” any of the other cast mates but there was always something there that made me and I’m sure all of you guys a bit uncomfortable :/ don’t get me wrong, Jeannie does say some crazy ish but I felt like tamar was doing waaaaaaay too much. Loni would also often disagree and poke fun at Jeannie but it was always done in a light hearted way. Goes to show that the viewers can easily pickup on the relationship dynamics despite the hosts trying to mask it. I do feel that this current cast do genuinely like each other.

    • @Deactivatedbygoogle
      @Deactivatedbygoogle 3 роки тому +8

      actually i was thinking the same

    • @innocentiamodise6085
      @innocentiamodise6085 3 роки тому +7

      When she mentioned being bullied on the show, Tamar came to my mind... A lot of us noticed that

    • @hayat2013
      @hayat2013 3 роки тому

      Why ‘not to be feeling’ / why not just say dislike? Lmao

    • @justtogetpast
      @justtogetpast 3 роки тому +8

      I think Loni falls under this umbrella too because some jokes dont need to be made and she used to be a follower in the previous seasons, aligning with louder personalities and dogpiling the other cohosts but she has grown as a person and become a true friend to Jeannie. And I'm glad to hear Jeannie has found her voice because it was evident in the way she handle the few frictions she had on the show post-Tamar that she grew from being around Tamar.

    • @sharkisland5931
      @sharkisland5931 2 роки тому

      I noticed it just watching various parts of the show how Tamar would always attack Jeannie constantly unprovoked. I noticed the same thing on the View with Whoopi Goldberg attacking Sunny constantly (idk if she still does but I remember a few years back) I was like damn why she being so mean.

  • @lucy.loo84
    @lucy.loo84 3 роки тому +604

    Adrienne’s struggles are majority of ours, she really spoke to me & everyone’s advice was much needed reminder 😊

    • @maryluvsmusic9298
      @maryluvsmusic9298 3 роки тому +8

      Yaaaaas!!! I agree 💯! I struggle with self discipline with my eating habits, knowing Im a type 2 diabetic Im struggling with staying away from sweets. I have transformed my eating to a vegan diet but not 100% because I may eat some sweets that contain dairy products or cheese. Other than that I luv the new vegan lifestyle. I’m a work in progress. Luv’d ❤️this segment!! I’m definitely going to ✍🏽 myself a letter of forgiveness.

    • @janeking4059
      @janeking4059 3 роки тому

      Agreed

    • @janeking4059
      @janeking4059 3 роки тому +2

      @@maryluvsmusic9298 its very healing...with you apologize to your younger self. It's done in therapy Programs. When my therapist asked me back in the day....what would I say to my younger self ...I was speechless. ..the tears started flowing! Never heard the term before! Very HEALING!

    • @thunder8185
      @thunder8185 3 роки тому

      Yes she's definitely not alone I think most of us do. Sometimes we set ourselves unachievable goals. Waking up 5:30am every day may not be achievable if you work and have a lot going on in the day. Maybe 1-2 days per week might be.

    • @maryluvsmusic9298
      @maryluvsmusic9298 3 роки тому

      @@janeking4059 Wow 🤩! I hope that was therapeutic and you were able to be kind to yourself. Self- love ❤️ is so important! I’m realizing it more as I get older. This was such a great segment! There are so many toxic people in the world 🌎. And most of their toxicity stems from within themselves, not loving & being kind to themselves & it spills over to other relationships. I’m definitely an example of “work in progress”.

  • @jaystegall7979
    @jaystegall7979 3 роки тому +389

    If Jeannie is referring to what I think she is referring to I just wanna say that I always applauded Jeannie so much for always taking the higher road and always keeping it professional! Like Jeannie’s attitude was honestly so inspiring and it lets me know to not give in to the negative energy and always stay true to myself bc the negativity never wins!!

    • @cici5144
      @cici5144 3 роки тому +55

      Tamar!! Because she would be extremely rude to her episode after episode

    • @osimeon00
      @osimeon00 3 роки тому +4

      @@cici5144 Jeannie's no angel either.

    • @unbothered5240
      @unbothered5240 3 роки тому +11

      But, like she said.. allowing it "to be professional" was allowing her voice to be stolen and allowing someone to violate her. That's not applaud worthy behavior, it is a flaw that its good to see she realized was actually a bad mentality.
      Biting the bullet, doesn't stop the shooter from shooting... but if you take the ammo, they have nothing. She was preaching about standing up for yourself, and yet she wasnt doing it at her own job. Which to some diminished her message.
      So to finally address, and forgive herself for that is really amazing.

    • @libra793
      @libra793 3 роки тому +3

      Because she wasn't real! And still isn't sometimes. I stopped watching because a lot of times none of them were real except for Tamar and I am not a fan of hers like that.

    • @cici5144
      @cici5144 3 роки тому +36

      @@libra793 how you stop watching but still in the comments lmao

  • @queenbraveheart
    @queenbraveheart 3 роки тому +353

    I wish I had a friend to encourage me like Jeannie does for Adrienne. "The day you stop trying is the day I'll be worried." If someone told me that I would have never stopped trying. Please have more deep convos and advice like this. These topics are often ignored because they think its not interesting enough for tv, but they are the most insightful. You are helping people by telling them what they didn't know they had to hear. That's what makes it the REAL.

    • @TheRealDaytime
      @TheRealDaytime  3 роки тому +25

      Thank you!

    • @janeking4059
      @janeking4059 3 роки тому +5

      Exactly! U R so right! Wish I had this kind of information/support in my younger yrs She was right on point with Adrianne!

    • @queenbraveheart
      @queenbraveheart 3 роки тому +3

      ​@@TheRealDaytime I don't really get geeked up but omg I have been watching yall since yall aired which was the first drastic year for me I had no one but I watched yall and I didn't even have cable either, but I found my way to watch and still do. U don't know how much this show has impacted lives!

  • @britbritnicole
    @britbritnicole 3 роки тому +436

    I definitely relate to Adrienne. I beat myself up sometimes because I didn’t stick to something or, I say I’m gonna do something and I don’t always do it.

    • @Shanaepink
      @Shanaepink 3 роки тому +5

      me too , I'm the hardest on myself and sometimes i have to stop myself and encourage myself and say , I'm doing good so far, it will get better"

    • @Rokia2003
      @Rokia2003 3 роки тому +6

      I don’t, remind your self that there are people out there that wish they could do the things that you DO do. If that makes sense

    • @idivas_Tricia
      @idivas_Tricia 3 роки тому +4

      5 am is not for everyone. Customize your life to suit you and set goals that are realistic.

  • @Anas-rx1he
    @Anas-rx1he 3 роки тому +196

    I have to keep it real - Tamar was not solely to blame for Jeannie’s mistreatment. I think the rest of them especially Loni was very intimidated of the star power Tamar brought, and Vince being a producer - so were quite complicit in Tamar’s behaviour. At times they would clown on Jeannie to get in Tamar’s good graces. I still remember the facial expressions they all made when Jeannie bought her Vietnamese food to share. Tamar was even rude to the other girls on the rare days Jeannie wasn’t a target (Insulting Loni’s Christmas gift for her son, mocking Tamera’s Christian values, calling Adrienne a clean up woman) so naturally, they preferred her picking on Jeannie to deflect from themselves. That said - I’m glad the other ladies since then developed a better relationship with Jeannie. The next worst thing after a bully are those complicit around them.

    • @peterlim5144
      @peterlim5144 3 роки тому +35

      Agreed 100%. And you certainly came with some receipts. You're definitely a true fan of the show 👏

    • @Anas-rx1he
      @Anas-rx1he 3 роки тому +29

      @@peterlim5144 Thank you! I watch the old segments on repeat and still cringe at many of Tamar’s interactions with Jeannie. I didn’t realise how bad she made the group dynamic until they fired her.

    • @ShaahiyosheekowithSofiyaIdris
      @ShaahiyosheekowithSofiyaIdris 3 роки тому

      Yessssssss!!!

    • @TT.3123
      @TT.3123 3 роки тому

      You nailed it!!!

    • @huldah1605
      @huldah1605 3 роки тому +16

      Some of the real fans were also bullies

  • @leemzx9730
    @leemzx9730 3 роки тому +285

    Tamar was so damn toxic. Her bullying behaviour towards jeannie would never run in 2021! Love jeannie, she's shining ✨

    • @princ3ssshay88
      @princ3ssshay88 3 роки тому +20

      Yup!! & it’s obvious Jeanie was referring to Tamar!! Tamar was rude!!!!

    • @violethill3745
      @violethill3745 3 роки тому +3

      I thought she was referring to being molested as a child.

    • @princ3ssshay88
      @princ3ssshay88 3 роки тому +10

      @@violethill3745 yes she said that’s what caused her to become a ppl pleaser & yes man with no backbone

    • @paulavujcic3286
      @paulavujcic3286 3 роки тому +6

      Tamara had a few really mean moments towards her too

    • @SuckerPunch92
      @SuckerPunch92 3 роки тому +2

      Tamar was. Happy Jeannie was able to work through that

  • @axelleg4955
    @axelleg4955 3 роки тому +129

    I actually like Garcelle being on the show. I don't always agree with her but she brings a very different perspective and you can see she has a kind heart

    • @TheRealDaytime
      @TheRealDaytime  3 роки тому +11

      Thank you for sharing!

    • @QueenChastity
      @QueenChastity 3 роки тому +3

      Yes she’s authentic and sure of herself for the most part!

    • @alexandraanderson3988
      @alexandraanderson3988 2 роки тому

      @@TheRealDaytime Yeah right like where did y'all find her at😁😁👍 like was she given the offer or she wanted to do it or how did that work😊

  • @RW-yt7ro
    @RW-yt7ro 3 роки тому +95

    I think Jeannie was talking about Tamar when she said someone on the show would make her feel bad and she just kept trying to be their friend.

    • @chelisecaceres924
      @chelisecaceres924 3 роки тому

      I think it’s Amanda cause it seemed like they had a problem.

    • @sappfamtv
      @sappfamtv 3 роки тому +9

      @@chelisecaceres924 Amanda wasn't on the show for 3 years

    • @BriaBarrows
      @BriaBarrows 3 роки тому

      Well, yea. Lol

  • @gabbypetty7291
    @gabbypetty7291 3 роки тому +200

    Adrienne’s letter hit home for me 😭 I noticed a lot of people relating to her, and I just wanna say I was recently diagnosed with ADHD (I’m 26) and that provided soooooo much clarity for why I struggled with being late, procrastinating, staying organized, and especially accomplishing goals that I wanted to but couldn’t follow through. Just throwing that out there to consider

    • @berlizgonzalez6736
      @berlizgonzalez6736 3 роки тому +9

      You're describing me 😭😭 maybe I should get tested for ADHD

    • @gabbypetty7291
      @gabbypetty7291 3 роки тому +6

      @@berlizgonzalez6736 Please do! I would recommend looking online for common ADHD symptoms, see if any of that relates to you, then you’d need to see a psychiatrist to get officially diagnosed. Hope this helps, and good luck!

    • @LTScheming
      @LTScheming 3 роки тому +6

      I have ADHD and thought the same about Adrienne when she spoke her apology.

    • @Bdotdecember
      @Bdotdecember 3 роки тому +2

      @@gabbypetty7291 how has seeing a psychiatrist helped? I keep putting it off because I’ve accepted that’s just how am but this isn’t working and idk what to do smh.

    • @gabbypetty7291
      @gabbypetty7291 3 роки тому +4

      @@Bdotdecember Oh no! Yeah don’t put it off lol, if you feel like it’s an issue for you definitely get checked out. A psychiatrist (specifically them and not a psychologist or therapist) can give you an official diagnosis and prescribe medication. They also can help you manage and understand your symptoms.
      I feel like I need to tell you that there’s nothing wrong with you, you’re not doomed and hopeless, your brain (and mine too) just works a little different and that’s okay 🙂
      The sooner you get diagnosed (if this is the case for you, I am in no way a licensed mental health provider, for the record lol) the better, because then you can start making changes for yourself.

  • @Msladyrae92
    @Msladyrae92 3 роки тому +155

    We see you Jeannie and your growth. So so proud

  • @RW-yt7ro
    @RW-yt7ro 3 роки тому +44

    Jeanie genuinely loves and cares for Adrienne it’s so beautiful .

  • @erica5493
    @erica5493 3 роки тому +69

    Jeannie was definitely talking about Tamar. The OG people who watched this show 5-6 years ago remembers Tamar being the bully to Jeannie!

    • @Jojo-cz4kp
      @Jojo-cz4kp 2 роки тому +1

      For real all of the OG fans know about that bullying situation, I always disliked how poorly Tamar would treat Jenny, it was so uncomfortable to watch. I love that she’s in a better and happier place now, she really went through it in the earlier seasons.

  • @LY-wl3uf
    @LY-wl3uf 3 роки тому +92

    I apologize to myself for always trying to change and “improve” who I am and what my life is like - putting unrealistic expectations on everything - instead of just accepting and appreciating what is… It’s painful when you just never feel content.

    • @Fupababy
      @Fupababy 3 роки тому +2

      I feel you 🥺💛 I know I’m so so blessed already but I can’t stop wanting to do/get better allll the damn time and I’m tired

    • @aquielcrocker
      @aquielcrocker 3 роки тому +1

      THIS.

    • @TheRealDaytime
      @TheRealDaytime  3 роки тому +4

      Thanks for sharing!

  • @Dymsx86
    @Dymsx86 3 роки тому +52

    I've always wondered how Jeannie felt on the show because there were definitely times in the early seasons when she seemed very unhappy.

  • @sincerelyIJ
    @sincerelyIJ 3 роки тому +94

    I can relate to Adrienne on this. I slept on my self discipline for soooo long

  • @clinteaston6000
    @clinteaston6000 3 роки тому +129

    Tamar was, is and NEVER will be HALF the woman Jeanie is. And I mean what I said.
    Thank you Jeanie for being your 100% authentic self, and never dimming your light or standing down in what you believe in.
    Myself, and I’m sure a lot more people appreciate you.

    • @elenamoreno7644
      @elenamoreno7644 3 роки тому +21

      And what I love is that even when Tamar tried to discredit Jeannie, Jeannie never changed

    • @hiboahmed8876
      @hiboahmed8876 3 роки тому +20

      Tamar was very miserable and it’s really as the saying goes, hurt people hurt people

    • @wemimoadebayo6675
      @wemimoadebayo6675 3 роки тому +13

      I don't think you should say something as definite as "never be half!!" People change and even though hurt people hurt people seeing as Jeannie is letting go, I think we should all let go of the things we saw Tamar do. It's been a while back Tamar did these things.

    • @sxm76
      @sxm76 3 роки тому +8

      Love keeps no record of wrong doings.....that's not easy to do. We have to give people room to grow. Tamar is maturing.

    • @kb8170
      @kb8170 3 роки тому +2

      You betta PREACH!!!!! 🙌

  • @CJ-wm4ij
    @CJ-wm4ij 3 роки тому +73

    Adrienne, I was in the same boat but then I realized I don’t even wanna be a type A overly neurotic person. I just want to be the best that I can be. The meaning of life is to give life meaning NOT to be perfect. Perfect is boring!!!

    • @guavapastries2727
      @guavapastries2727 3 роки тому +1

      A WORD!!! Definitely changing our mentality and perspective can help how we feel about ourselves.

    • @walktalk_208
      @walktalk_208 3 роки тому

      Yes!!!!

  • @lungilechimya4325
    @lungilechimya4325 3 роки тому +67

    Happy for you Jeannie. Always remember,
    the shame isn’t yours to bare

  • @meludwina3890
    @meludwina3890 3 роки тому +74

    I feel the same way as Adrienne concerning the lack of discipline. Despite great planning skills I struggle with executive dysfunction. I'm on a waiting list to see a psychiatrist for possible ADHD. Seeing a psychologist and hopefully they can help me. I feel like I'm constantly living under my potential despite being told I'm smart. I'm trying to do better and give myself more grace, made it till 23, I'm in college longer than I wanted to be but God is still good.

    • @laflaf125
      @laflaf125 3 роки тому +2

      I'm glad you mentioned ADHD because it sounded like executive dysfunction to me (which I am pretty sure I have) and not saying Adrienne has it too but it's an actual thing.

    • @gabbypetty7291
      @gabbypetty7291 3 роки тому +3

      I feel for you sis, I’ve struggled with the same thing and actually was recently diagnosed with ADHD, our situations sound similar. I wish you the best in figuring that out, it can be tricky finding the right provider and getting diagnosed. I advise to trust yourself and your symptoms, you know yourself best (I.e this psychiatrist tried to say I was bipolar in my consult for ADHD… I’m not for the record 😂 ) Good luck, and be kind to yourself!

    • @mango7966
      @mango7966 3 роки тому

      Was diagnosed as well! Started taking meds but have yet to see a difference

    • @gabbypetty7291
      @gabbypetty7291 3 роки тому +1

      @@mango7966 Awesome! What meds are you taking, if you don’t mind me asking? I’m taking adderol to help with focus at work (I’ve been making a lot of mistakes and it’s been really problematic, so the adderol plus a quieter working space has been helpful for me)

    • @danamcdonald9010
      @danamcdonald9010 3 роки тому +1

      @meludwina I completely agree and understand where you are coming from.

  • @siphosethumayekiso2758
    @siphosethumayekiso2758 3 роки тому +104

    I think a tip I'd give to Adrienne is to start small. For example. If you press snooze at 5am then start by waking up just a little earlier than you when you usually wake up. Like 30 MinutesThat way you can build your way up. You know you and what works for you at each stage. Give yourself grace too. You can do this. And also remind yourself of the things you were able to achieve as well. I mean you're a busines woman that takes a lot of discipline to be boss and here you are doing it and looking gorgeous while you are at it.
    Thank you for sharing ladies. You are all so beautiful

  • @koketsopearl4629
    @koketsopearl4629 3 роки тому +32

    Honestly Adriennes letter hit home..😭❤

  • @MalibuDollface
    @MalibuDollface 2 роки тому +41

    This season has been the BEST so far!

  • @jeffrivera3612
    @jeffrivera3612 3 роки тому +20

    I love when they have these type of conversations. It’s like they forget the cameras and crew members, and it’s just four friends venting , calling each other out and uplifting one another.

  • @greenbyrd3665
    @greenbyrd3665 3 роки тому +13

    Adrienne's letter broke my heart. So relateable. Just want to give her a hug.

  • @ms.t8313
    @ms.t8313 3 роки тому +56

    Once again, Jeannie is definitely talking about Tamar when she refers to being bullied on the show. Also, Loni used to low key bully Jeannie as well, but in a different way. Loni would bully Jeannie like someone would bully their annoying big mouth younger sister, but Tamar would bully Jeannie in a cruel way by talking over her, trying to discredit her, ignoring her and disagreeing with almost everything she said. Honestly, those days were painful to watch as a viewer, and with Jeannie's newfound confidence, I bet it is painful for her to watch as well. I'm glad those days are behind Jeannie now and Loni has softened and changed the way she treats Jeannie as well. I am sure they are all much happier now in their workplace.

    • @SunFlower-vg7et
      @SunFlower-vg7et 2 роки тому +4

      I remember a segment about Mommy guilt when Jeannie tried to join the conversation, Loni said ‘sorry she just wants to be apart the conversation, just have a baby Jeannie’ then she threw a doll baby at her while Tamar was hysterically laughing. Loni bullied Jeannie. The rest of the hosts just watched. It was disgusting

  • @queenbraveheart
    @queenbraveheart 3 роки тому +46

    Jeannie I'm glad that you spoke about that, I felt that way about you for years. I seen it and i'm sure others have too, but they are quick to turn a blind eye just because its someone they like. Its good you're aware of that and I can see why you find that embarrassing, but whats more embarrassing is that someone couldn't keep it professional at their JOB and acted childish and rude hence why they probably lost it. ooops.

    • @peterlim5144
      @peterlim5144 3 роки тому +8

      facts. And that SOMEONE got what she deserved. Justice was served in 2016

  • @miamai4478
    @miamai4478 3 роки тому +19

    I love how genuine Adrienne is, her soul is so beautiful.. it outshines her external beauty! ❤️

  • @tisch9233
    @tisch9233 3 роки тому +94

    Jeannie knew from the beginning that tamar hated on her and bullied her. I wonder why the other girls never stood by jeannies side. Tamar would always find a way to pick on jeannie and disagree with her. Now look where jeannie is and where tamars behaviour got her to.

    • @noo0oody1
      @noo0oody1 3 роки тому +3

      They don’t want to deal with her mouth

    • @peterlim5144
      @peterlim5144 3 роки тому +15

      Exactly! The other girls just sat there and witnessed the bullying happen. Even worse...people like Loni would make faces and laugh/snicker when Tamar was being rude to Jeannie.
      Karma is a bitch and I'm glad Tamar got the boot 5 years ago. And I hope Loni has apologised to Jeannie for also adding on to the bullying.

    • @reema7016
      @reema7016 3 роки тому +9

      Agree. Adrienne looked salty when Jeannie was speaking to as I know Adrienne is still friends with Tamar so I think she didn’t want to react

    • @hiboahmed8876
      @hiboahmed8876 3 роки тому +4

      Yeah it’s kind of sad that none of them stood up or really showed support towards jeanni like that at that time. Maybe they didn’t want to get involved because of their jobs? But idk, if was them I would have definitely showed I wasn’t here for Tamars bullying

  • @anonnona6433
    @anonnona6433 3 роки тому +19

    5:42 Loni love proud of Jeannie. Jeannie gave some really cool advise to Adrienne. May be Adrienne struggles with perfectionism. Say, if she can't read the Word at 5 am, she thinks she has failed. But what Jeannie is saying is, if you fail to wake up and read it at 5am, you can still read it at any other time of the day and that's still OK. May be during the lunch break or whenever else. 5 am shouldn't be the decision maker. You are. And you can reschedule. I hope this makes sense 🤭

  • @zabava3248
    @zabava3248 3 роки тому +31

    Adrienne hit the spot. I struggle with self discipline and I am actively trying to improve. Any one else feel this way or have overcame the lack of self discipline?

    • @zarahshabs7936
      @zarahshabs7936 3 роки тому +1

      I feel this. every single day I have this struggle smh
      I wish I had a good answer of how to overcome lol
      But the other day my friend suggested pairing it with something happy or something you really want to do afterwards, to motivate you in the beginning to do this new thing. Or have someone hold you accountable
      Otherwise it’s really easy to do what you always do

    • @zabava3248
      @zabava3248 3 роки тому

      @@zarahshabs7936 so if my goal is to read more, what does it look like to pair it with something that makes you happy?

    • @BrookeElise81
      @BrookeElise81 2 роки тому +1

      @@zabava3248 what I've been doing is reading 1 chapter a day of a book. I do this either 1st thing in the morning or while I'm sitting in the sauna after my workout. Audiobooks are your friends too. Listen to them during your drive to/from work, while working out, while bathing...etc. The goal is to find space to work these things in naturally.

  • @MaryBieber7
    @MaryBieber7 3 роки тому +29

    Garcelle is such a great, necessary part of the show!

    • @TheRealDaytime
      @TheRealDaytime  3 роки тому +10

      Thank you! We agree!

    • @stanbalo
      @stanbalo Рік тому

      Garcelle brings a masculine no nonsense point of view.

  • @selenajet6525
    @selenajet6525 3 роки тому +98

    Jeannie was bullied by Tamar which was blatantly obvious even for the viewers to pick up on so I wonder how HR let that slide but bad apples always get fired eventually which is what happened to Tamar.

    • @Msladyrae92
      @Msladyrae92 3 роки тому +4

      It’s maybe why Tamar was fired. Panels don’t work when a difference of opinion is ridiculed so heavily. Differences of opinions is what makes a panel work

    • @peterlim5144
      @peterlim5144 3 роки тому +5

      @@fakeaccount704 I actually think HR or the producers did try to intervene because if you could recall, in 2015/2016, which was Tamar's last season..they tried to sell this fake friendship between Jeannie and Tamar both on the Real's social media and their own social media pages.
      They couldn't get rid of Tamar since Vince was a producer at the time..so the only thing they could do is create this fake friendship for the viewers to see. As you might recall, we viewers were so quick to point out Tamar's constant bullying Jeannie in a number of episodes. Just check the comment sections of old UA-cam videos and you'll see lol...
      But at the end of the day, their friendship still felt fake as hell and I'm so glad we didn't have to sit through their awkward fake frenemy relationship anymore.

    • @sergios7072
      @sergios7072 3 роки тому

      Amanda too

  • @SabbigalAS
    @SabbigalAS 3 роки тому +9

    "You're right where you're supposed to be." This line saved me so many times this year. Show yourself grace, A. I love you 💗

  • @HR-re6mr
    @HR-re6mr 3 роки тому +37

    I would feel bad for Jeannie. You cld tell she was trying to b liked by Tamar. Tamar was/is a hurt person. I’m glad Jeannie can forgive herself now. She was always the bigger person and that’s commendable. But sometimes you just gotta let it go! She was never a friend frfr to Jeannie like the other girls.

  • @jeffrivera3612
    @jeffrivera3612 3 роки тому +75

    I’m right there with Jeannie. Although I’m not 100 percent there, meaning, I still freakin care sometimes … I’ve always been one of those people that tries hard to get others to like him by always going above and beyond… or simply letting the opinion of others hinder me from doing things or saying certain things. I’ve been working on it though. Have learned you can’t please everyone and not everyone is going to like you… it’s sorta up to you to keep it moving and be thankful for those that have stuck around and appreciate you for you…

  • @SmileSoSmall
    @SmileSoSmall 3 роки тому +20

    Adrienne, I’m SO GLAD you spoke up. I beat myself up DAILY for my lack of self-discipline. I literally cannot even picture myself reaching the goals I need to just catch up with others at this point. Like I’ve always struggled with being late. It feel like I’ve been cursed at birth at this point because I cannot seem to make any progress. I’m sick of trying but feeling like nothing changes. I’m constantly feeling like a failure and have made so many mistakes due to my own stupid decisions.

    • @gabbypetty7291
      @gabbypetty7291 3 роки тому +1

      I super relate on this as well. I also realized recently I have ADHD which was why I was always running late, forgetting things or kinda spaced out sometimes. Not to say it’s your situation, but maybe worth looking into to rule it out? Getting diagnosed was a game changer for me

    • @SmileSoSmall
      @SmileSoSmall 3 роки тому

      @@gabbypetty7291 wow thank you for this!! I’m willing to look anywhere for answers.

    • @gabbypetty7291
      @gabbypetty7291 3 роки тому

      @@SmileSoSmall You’re so welcome! I would recommend looking online for common ADHD symptoms, see if any of that relates to you, then you’d need to see a psychiatrist to get officially diagnosed. Hope this helps, and good luck!

  • @AdrielVary
    @AdrielVary 2 роки тому +2

    I can’t say enough how much I appreciate Adrienne’s vulnerability

  • @zaydi05
    @zaydi05 2 роки тому +3

    I love how Loni looks at Jeanie. She's so supportive and proud.
    All of their apologies resonated and I'm going to do this exercise myself. Thank you Real fam. ❤️

  • @mur52691
    @mur52691 3 роки тому +28

    Yo Jeannie and I have the same behavior rooted in trauma! Wow, What she said really resonated with me! I love all of you women. This show is so unique and special because it challenges us to be vulnerable and work to be a better version of ourselves.

  • @Kaya9311
    @Kaya9311 3 роки тому +35

    Jeannie, I am your fan, you. re a whole different person compared to 5 years ago. I can see it in you.

  • @LadyK09
    @LadyK09 3 роки тому +2

    You don't change over night... It's a process that takes time and consistency🙏

  • @blesssedddd
    @blesssedddd 3 роки тому +20

    I love garcelle, she seems to be bringing depth to the show! Thx girl we needed this 💕

  • @meanlee2054
    @meanlee2054 3 роки тому +12

    I feel Adrienne so much with lack of discipline and beating myself up about it!❤️ as long as u keep trying until u are consistent is what matters

  • @LouisaJulie
    @LouisaJulie 3 роки тому +6

    Adrienne said what most of us are feeling, but man! Let's give ourselves Grace the way we do other people. Sometimes we fall short and the point isn't that, it's pressing on and working on becoming better!

  • @bbeela3257
    @bbeela3257 3 роки тому +14

    I just love, admire and respect LONI so much! Did you just see with how much pure love she gazed at Jeannie ❤❤

  • @BlackDiamond8724
    @BlackDiamond8724 3 роки тому +8

    Adrienne thank you for being that honest. I can relate to what you've said so very much!

  • @danav2885
    @danav2885 3 роки тому +13

    Jeannie, Tamar envied your positives vibes and energies which she had not. And took advantage of the fact that you let her treat you that way.. glad to see you’re in a good place today, u r inspiring! ✨

  • @QueenChastity
    @QueenChastity 3 роки тому +1

    Jeannie’s Spoke to My Soul. And Adrienne you are more than enough!!!

  • @sammierose1150
    @sammierose1150 3 роки тому +16

    I just want to speak to Jeannie’s younger self and any other little Jeannies out there: child abuse and sexual abuse is *NEVER* the victim’s fault. Children cannot give consent, period. The person being violated is NEVER to blame for the criminal behavior being committed against them. Please parents, I implore you, if your child comes to you with allegations, take them seriously and *investigate them!* Jeannie’s mom should’ve taken her daughter’s pleas seriously and that perp should’ve been put in jail so he could never hurt anyone else ever again. 😤

  • @CEETHEMUA
    @CEETHEMUA 3 роки тому +8

    I definitely understand where Adrienne is coming from. But you just got to keep going and never give up God is with is all May he bless you all and strengthen you today 🤍

  • @notyayo
    @notyayo 3 роки тому +27

    I really enjoyed this topic, apologizing to oneself after we expect so much. We can't be too hard on ourselves. We have small wins every day!! ❤️❤️ It's our journey and if we don't have compassion for ourselves, the world will feel awful.

  • @daisygarcia6253
    @daisygarcia6253 3 роки тому +13

    Garcelle… thank you for sharing this. As soon as you read your letter my soul released it’s apology to myself for years of wrong choices that caused me to live a hard life for many years. I hated myself so much (and didn’t even notice) for making those bad choices. I bawled my eyes out listening to you and helped me let go of that. Thank you!

  • @ma_5756
    @ma_5756 3 роки тому +8

    Garcelle letter really felt heartfelt especially maybe because I can relate and well alot of us can ❤ well done to all the ladies👏

  • @apolloangel4754
    @apolloangel4754 3 роки тому +8

    Adrienne omggg girl this is so relatable this is me everyday 😩

  • @nonadavis7866
    @nonadavis7866 3 роки тому +3

    We all have to learn to give ourselves the same Grace that we offer to others.

  • @zaydi05
    @zaydi05 2 роки тому +1

    I'm going to ask my niece to do this too. Please have more topics like this. I watch your videos daily and this one gives us something practical that could improve our mental and emotional well-being. I liked the show but I LOVE this season. The setup, lighting, makeup wardrobe, hosts - everything just flows so well.

  • @aquariangypsy8892
    @aquariangypsy8892 3 роки тому +8

    I resonated with Jeannie. Thanks for all the ladies’ honesty.

  • @EFUAGYANOWAA
    @EFUAGYANOWAA 2 роки тому +1

    The show is on a different level..... very relatable and deep

  • @candij5632
    @candij5632 2 роки тому +2

    Adrienne you spoke directly to me as I struggle with the same exact things

  • @prudencek7087
    @prudencek7087 3 роки тому +8

    Adrienne I feel you girl, I struggle with the same thing. But I've learned to focus on the things that I AM disciplined in and do my best to add to it daily. If a fail I dust myself off and keep going.

  • @ebonyross3140
    @ebonyross3140 3 роки тому +8

    Adrian Yes !!!! You are speaking to my soul!!!! I love you for that!!! Seriously though, I hope you see this. Thank you because I struggle with the exact same thing and I hate lying to myself! Sometimes it helps to hear it out loud and I think you've helped me. I'm gonna do better for myself ❤️

  • @christinenguyen5126
    @christinenguyen5126 2 роки тому +1

    Something about this season hits DIFFERENT. Their dynamic with each other is SOOOO good and natural and GROWN.

  • @a-nick2993
    @a-nick2993 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing that Adrianne!!!! Remember your vulnerability will help others.you are not alone. 😊

  • @Bee-wd4mh
    @Bee-wd4mh 3 роки тому +1

    Loni with the WORDDDD: « we don’t know but we trust »🙌🏾🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @jenniferaddo872
    @jenniferaddo872 3 роки тому +58

    Jeannie was talking about Tamar and how despite Tamar being mean to her Jeannie would go out of her way to be nice to Tamar and try to get Tamar to like her. I loved Tamar and thought she was funny but she was definitely toxic at times!

    • @peterlim5144
      @peterlim5144 3 роки тому +6

      Watching Jeannie and Tamar from the years Tamar was still on was sooo uncomfortable to watch. And that fake friendship they tried to sell to the viewers on Tamar's last season was so awkward. Thank goodness we didn't have to sit through that stunt for long lmao

  • @natashajoseph-deleon6572
    @natashajoseph-deleon6572 3 роки тому +5

    This was so good. In the journey to becoming your best self this is necessary. Adrienne and Jeannie, I felt that deep. Thank you for your vulnerability 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤

  • @mzansi.catchup7915
    @mzansi.catchup7915 3 роки тому +1

    i love gracell's energy and realness. the maturity in A is really appealing love love it. mrs j is glowing I'm here for it. love you ladies

  • @genniferhayes-brown6564
    @genniferhayes-brown6564 3 роки тому +3

    I totally feel Adrienne . I am so hard on myself and feel I’m so blessed I should be more discipline because of all my blessings .

  • @adeorite9890
    @adeorite9890 3 роки тому +9

    I 100% understand Adrienne. This is my daily struggle!!!! Why can't we just do what we say we are going to do 😭😭

  • @talkingwithtyvethia7283
    @talkingwithtyvethia7283 3 роки тому +1

    I’m with Adrienne on this one. I share those thoughts soooo much!

  • @MyFavourites1
    @MyFavourites1 3 роки тому +18

    This was so beautiful. Man i love these girls.

  • @amandalynnblaze9799
    @amandalynnblaze9799 2 роки тому +1

    I just made a video about this and it is incredibly liberating and empowering. We are not alone in things that we regret. I am done breaking my own heart while in search of others to love me and make me feel powerful. I hope everyone knows that they can do this and deserve to do this ❤

  • @sydneyjohnson3390
    @sydneyjohnson3390 3 роки тому +3

    I appreciate all these ladies for being so honest. It helps me become more comfortable being honest with myself in my healing process. Jeannie in particular has always resonated with me the most when she shares her life journey and what she’s learned. I have had similar experiences/trauma that she has and it gives me so much hope. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
    I will be writing an apology letter to myself and I can already feel the tears just thinking about it but I know it’s exactly what I need. 🥺

  • @maame6224
    @maame6224 3 роки тому +5

    Adrienne's letter spoke to me a lot. I am always say "I shld have done or say something afterwards"!😪😪

  • @nicoleyoshihara4011
    @nicoleyoshihara4011 3 роки тому +1

    Appreciate the vulnerability. God Bless you ladies and The Real Team!🥳🙏❤💕

  • @nicholefieldbutch321
    @nicholefieldbutch321 3 роки тому +2

    everyone in the world need to hear this...this was for me truely

  • @fafaadam6151
    @fafaadam6151 3 роки тому +2

    I related to Jeannie so much... I don't have a voice.. when I feel like somebody doesn't like me, I will do everything for them to like, appreciate me. I crave validation and love so much... I just a group of friends who I know I count for them and I tend to even overdo act of services to make people love me... ugh so pathetic !! I'm trying to change it though.. but it's hard when you are so lonely

  • @tiffanymatsvai1929
    @tiffanymatsvai1929 3 роки тому +6

    Awww Jeannie I struggle with my voice being heard too💔💕

  • @yenitaylor683
    @yenitaylor683 3 роки тому +10

    I love their dynamic 😊

  • @armykayla9971
    @armykayla9971 3 роки тому +2

    I loved this segment so much! Thank you so much for sharing your truth, ladies. You’re amazing.💓

  • @puritychalice
    @puritychalice 3 роки тому

    You are not alone, Adrienne. My soul felt that.

  • @MagnoliaPoppy
    @MagnoliaPoppy 3 роки тому

    Y'all this is gold. These confessions are invoking healing. That's why it's so important for women to share with each other. It's the iron sharpening iron effect. No one understands the struggles of a woman like another woman. Thank you for being brave and candid enough to share this with us. I feel so helped today.

  • @musictomoveit
    @musictomoveit 2 роки тому

    Jeanie!!!!!! Ty for saying this ♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 love you all so much for these real moments and lifting all people up. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @AmberChe
    @AmberChe 3 роки тому

    I loved what Adrienne said! This is what I will say to Adrienne, this is something you should meditate on, why are you afraid of becoming the woman that you’re destined to be! This is something I resonate with! That progress is progress no matter what and whatever you put in for that day is 100 % the journey to yourself won't always look like waking up at 5 and reading the word and prayer sometimes it is sleeping in to get a bit of rest and sometimes it is waking up before the sun rises! All you need is to start one day and continue from there with your divine knowing and knowing God is always with you

  • @shadazzle9786
    @shadazzle9786 3 роки тому +4

    This was so HEALTHY!!

  • @reema7016
    @reema7016 3 роки тому +33

    I’m so glad Jeannie spoke up about Tamar, I also think she was treated badly by Amanda as well! Love you so much Jeannie

    • @divinerae4966
      @divinerae4966 3 роки тому +3

      I was thinking more Amanda, she came to mind to. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @Queendollar83
      @Queendollar83 3 роки тому

      Yip, that Amanda was vicious towards Jeanie

  • @MajesticMyronn
    @MajesticMyronn 3 роки тому +12

    I would say for me the thing I’ don’t like the most about myself is the fact that I am not confrontational… I’ve said this before during a Girl Chat where we were having the conversation about “ If You Knew Then , What You Know Now What Would You Have Done Differently “ and for me I’m that person that is so open to forgiveness and giving people second, third and fourth chances that I really only needed one to truly see who you are & move accordingly ! So for me I hate that I don’t nip things in the bud and am too nice and forgiving to people that don’t deserve my time , my love or my friendship! Which is why at 20 I am where I am today speaking up and letting go of loose ends that aren’t upholding their end of the bargain with a relationship or friendship they say they care about but aren’t giving the energy they claim to say they have in regards to it ! And to that I say Benditos & Vaya Con Dios 😂♥️

  • @jaydee87403
    @jaydee87403 3 роки тому +5

    Yes ladies 👏🏽 and I feel Adrienne 100% 😰

  • @joshandabradford8749
    @joshandabradford8749 3 роки тому +3

    I love the love Loni has for them. Love love it!!. Never doubt yourselves..keep up the great work🤗💜🤗❤🤗💛

  • @jamesschmidlin789
    @jamesschmidlin789 3 роки тому +10

    *JEANNIE & JEEZY CONGRATULATIONS*

  • @GodBlessedThisBod
    @GodBlessedThisBod 3 роки тому +4

    I feel Adrienne. I struggle with the same thing 🥺

  • @lazhan2489
    @lazhan2489 2 роки тому +1

    That's deep Jeannie. Your real fam loves you