I ended things with him yesterday. It was too toxic. I just couldn't take it anymore. Always be very careful of a man who says he's "a good guy" they're usually one of the worst men. They'll emotionally drain you to the point where u question your sanity. A good man won't tell you he's one. He'll show you. I have learned my lesson.
I experienced the very same thing, those were exactly his words, A true narcissist I have healed and I pray that you heal as well. Love and light sis'❤🕯
My daddy always told me if a man doesn't want you, it doesn't matter how much you sleep with him, feed him or pay him. If he don't want you he don't want you. I've always remembered that statement.
I absolutely agree. In my case he moved in with me and want just leave. He has no obligations as I do. But feels like he should be able to " get his self together". Really sir. He should have been doing that. I'm so sadddd..
I think we all know when a relationship is over. A lot of times we just don’t want to admit it. I stayed for so long out of not wanting to be a single mom, fear of starting over & financial insecurity. It wasn’t worth it. Don’t stay ladies! Love yourself enough to move on. Your life will go on.
Fear cost us so much, when peace is priceless it’s so much greater than fear & hardship. It’s worth seeking. It won’t be found in obeying fear. I agree with you Krystle anticipatory fear is a lie. Fear is a feeling that lies reality is not as bad as the picture fear creates to imprison Gods people. And worst some of these monster threaten and instill fear. God gives us the grace to do all things He calls us to do. And He calls us to peace. Fact over feelings!
I’ve always known when a man wasn’t going to last long term. YOU CAN FEEL IT but ignore it because of the companionship. I’m not ignoring it anymore!!!
Truth......Let it Go! So much better than that. One eye cry and keep it moving. Thank you God for the rescue from disappointment. God is a healer for a broken heart. All is well with my soul.
@@blessedchildofgod9112 Most men do not cheat. Both men and women can become unfaithful and toxic. We need to fix the black family first. Babies raising babies wont necessarily produce great men and women.
2. You Have To Beg Them To Love You. 3. You Act Out Of Character Because They Have Betrayed Your Trust. 4. Constantly Exchange Your Dignity For Unfulfilled Promises.
Ended my 10 year relationship october 10.10.2021 I just can't do it anymore all the lies and betrayal, he use to tell me,to promise him I'll never hurt him,tables turn he hurted me emotionally & mentally
My life story since I was 31 years old...so much damage and thank God for counseling many years ago that I believe the Lord Jesus needs me to realize I'm better than that. Thank God for his favor on my life. AMEN 🙏
1. You both have said some things to demean or humiliate each other. 2. You’ve begged and the other person has not responded to you favorably. 3. When the other person has triggered your distrust to a point that you are now out of character. 4. You are constantly exchanging your dignity for promises. 5. You sit down and begin plotting how to get even. 6. When your friends, family, co-workers can tell you the cycle you’re in or the cycle you’re about to go thru with this person. 7. When you don’t want the relationship anymore.
I stayed in a 3.5 year relationship 3 years and 5 months too long. Lesson: when you are crying in bed and your partner is lying next to you, ask you why you're crying ,you answer it's they are the cause and your partner didn't do anything to comfort you....it's over. Lesson: I don't care how bad you want a relationship; if the other person don't want the relationship, you have nothing! Lesson: It's hard to admit that you chose wrong, moved too fast, or ignored red flags.
I emotionally detached when he hurt my feelings and I began to cry and he said I was “fake crying”. It was over for me. Because I knew it would get worst over time. If you can’t try to resolve the issue and comfort me then I don’t need that type of energy around me. That wasn’t the only issue but it was big enough to walk away.
My ex gas lighted me for years, but when he slowly started cursing at me and trying to be verbally abusive, I cut him out!!! My mother was married to my father and he was verbally and physically abusive towards her and I vowed that I would ever allow a man to treat me that way!! And I've been working on healing and being a better woman. Been single now for 3 years and I'm ok with it. I finally realized that it's ok to be single and living a great, happy life, than being in a relationship unhappy.
100% accuracy! Each failed attempt to leave my dysfunctional marriage I believe my now ex-husband had more disrespect for me for staying. Yes to the concept you mentioned, I started to lose myself & didn't like who I was becoming! I was putting all my energy into a relationship that died at least a decade ago! My biggest regret is staying longer than I should've.
@Beverly Orlando Another way of looking at this. More disrespect for you for staying in a toxic relationship? Or, for himself for not leaving you? He could have been a man and left too, but he left it up to YOU to do the heavy lifting.
I left a toxic relationship 3 year's ago and I still am healing and growing for myself it was pure hell being with him very cruel and manipulative and crazy.. I wish I never met george... He was evil
@@staceylozano9578 We have somewhat similar stories. I was in a toxic marriage with an evil man for five years and have been divorced for a little over two years. He was a gaslighter, cheater, manipulator, predator, and there were red flags that I ignored in the beginning and it ended almost costing me everything but I thank God for opening my eyes and getting me out of that marriage. I am still healing and growing everyday.
Most times we don't really understand the meaning of the signs revealed in the beginning. Wonder why a saphire can't be loved by someone & regarded? Lack of understanding it means.
@@ulyssesibiam4411 That's deep. Thank you. All my life I never believed or knew that I was worth being loved and respected. Now I'm learning that I can establish boundaries from Mr RC Blakes.
@@sapphireraven6043 Saphire May the blessings be. I believe God will see we through the moment for God knew before we understood what we got into, right?
"I love me more than the idea of us" Before you finished that sentence I raised both hands high up in the air 🙌🏼 shouted AMEN and a Woohoo!! Thank you pastor Blakes! That was fire.
After 40 yrs I’m finally out. Tried everything thru the years. My kids are 100% behind me. It’s time to enjoy my kids and grandkids, and my new good life of freedom! You are right on with this list and examples. I’ve listened twice now and it’s making me more and more happy, relieved and peaceful . Thank you
Congrats!! I stayed for 45 years and I have been out for almost 3 years. Yes, it's time to enjoy your family. Live life on your terms. I just wished I had done it years ago.
HIS WORDS ALMOST DESTROYED ME... A MAN THAT LOVES YOU.. DNT BREAK YOU DOWN WITH WORDS.. DEGRADING AND BELITTLING YOU DAY AFTER DAY.. THATS ABNORMAL.. FOR A FUNCTIONAL AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP... ITS UTTER INSANITY... ON TOP I BEGGED.. 😔😔, LOVING HIM TOO MUCH.. HIM GIVING ME JUST CHAOS,... TEARS.. NO MORE... LOVE DOESN'T HURT, LADIES.. EVERYTHING YOU SAY PASTOR IS SO TRUE.. NO MORE BEGGING FOR LOVE, RESPECT AND KINDNESS.. I CANNOT THROW MY DIGNITY OUT OF THE WINDOW, FOR A MAN... WE'RE THERE'S TOO MUCH CONFUSION IN A, RELATIONSHIP.. ITS OVER... MOVE ON, DNT GET USED UP... WE ARE QUEENS.. CHIN UP LADIES AND MOVE ON... 👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
It gets to a point when it's not so painful if you can discover your zen feeliing......I feel at peace just not trying to please him over and over....that is done......he calls to talk to try to rekindle, but I cannot be moved because I can see through him......God gives us the wisdom of discernment after the trials.......🌌🙏
@@louiseboyd8896 HE CALLED ME.. BUT WITH GOD'S INTERVENTION, I DIDN'T HEAR MY PHONE RINGING... THEN HE PHNED TO MY WORK.. SORRY I GAVE HIM A FARE CHANCE.. WHAT DID I GET,.. DEGRADING AND BELITTLING ME.. SORRY.. WE ARE GOOD AND DECENT WOMEN.. WE JUST WANT RESPECT AND KINDNESS.. GOD IS GOOD, WHEN YOUR INTENTIONS ARE PURE AND GOOD.. GOD WILL ALWAYS BE AT YOUR SIDE.. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I dont think u understand how much you and your wife have changed so many lives. I'm so blessed to find you. You are truly a blessing to so many. I am so happy I found your channel. Thank you for your gift.
When the feeling of missing them hit. You gatta be strong to not chase and beg...I think we is just want thatt hurt feeling to go away and want to feel love. Especially if you have been together for a longtime
Oh! You ARE a counselor. You're inspirational, rational, Christian, and so very wise in your eloquant sermons. I've taken so much from them. My life patterns have changed...my life path has changed. You break it DOWN. Thank you.
Yep relationships are like a blanket whenever you see the other person trying to pull the blanket towards himself or herself leaving you naked or feeling cold, it’s over.
Relationships need to grow and reinvent themselves TOGETHER. It's about memories... good or bad! It's about genuine friendship! It's about learning how to love the person; embracing the authentic person. The grass isn't greener on the other side. Many times the person we leave is usually the person we spend our lives searching for; only realizing it's far too late!
Bless you for your message Pastor. Sadly, I recently had to make the difficult decision to walk away from a 33 year marriage due to verbal, emotional and financial abuse. I continue to suffer with frequent nightmares 6 mths later, along with other symptoms of C-PTSD. I pray I will one day heal completely from the pain this relationship has caused. I know I wasn't perfect in this relationship either and I need to forgive both myself and my ex husband. 🙏
May God continue to comfort you. It’s going to take some time. I stayed 19 yrs and it’s been 5 yrs and he still try’s to verbally and emotionally abuse me which in turn sends me back to depression and PSTD. Am happy you are free now continue to heal. 🙏🏽❤️
Sister, stop claiming C-PTSD and start claiming radiant health, peace, love, joy and personal and financial security by and through the blood of Jesus and in Jesus's mighty name!! AMEN!!
God Bless you after 18 years of marriage I had to leave a toxic, harsh, destructive, trauma bond relationship. I left the state of Alabama & relocated to Fayetteville, NC with my baby girl which is in the Army. I’m at such peace ☮️. Thank you so much for your videos very educational & enlightening.
I'm blessed and proud of you as you choose peace. I've been married for 12 years but the lasts 3 years to6 years he has been difiting away with him putting his friend over me. I've been in a toxic, verbal, tramanu ,, and eventually physical abusive . My poor children had to endure us arguing all the time. Lord Jesus, I pray for forgiveness
My extended and spiritual familes have always put a major emphasis on self sacrifiice as the path to relationship success & continuety. And... after 30+years of putting myself last and accepting all sorts of spiritual attacks, I put the puzzle together and figured out I was catering to two selfish toxic families! I am now on the right road to healing for two years and my self esteem is finally blooming for the first time in my life! 💕 Thank you RC! 😍
I regretfully wasted so many years, comprised , sacrificed, and lost my identity,authentic self,self respect, dignity, values, standards, and principles being submissive, subservient…trying to tolerate and co exist with an abusive cheating negligent ex husband I finally divorced.
I squandered my dignity and he never even gave me promises. I just kept telling him what I wanted and needed from him, and I knew he would not deliver but I was lonely and wanted companionship, but mostly all I got was sex.
This is exactly how i feel right now except he would play with my head telling me i was going to be his wife one day and that he loved me knowing good and well he didn't want to get married nor be in a committed relationship.This man got me pregnant twice within one year pressured me into having 2 abortions made me feel like it was my fault i came up pregnant and tried to make me feel guilty about possibly making him a daddy at 53 years old had i continued the pregnancy. As if that wasn't bad enough he also threatened to ditch me and the baby if i gave birth to his child. I can't stand that man i wasted my time dating an older man😔
When I say my spiritual growth and level of thinking has heighten by listening to the wisdom and knowledgePastor Blakes gives it doesn't get any better than this.
Help us, dear Lord..to discern, such a person, such a spirit, such a soul, such a false relationship, such a false love, and from such deception, my God..In Jesus precious dear Holy name…🙏🏽
This was a very powerful message!!!! We know when its over we hang in there because of time invested. The time invested was wasted years and tears!!!😪 Pastor Blakes thank you for this message.
Facts Pastor!... “triggered to where you are now out of character.” Run my sisters. I have been there and done that until I remembered who I was. Thank you for your commitment to helping us live up to the queens the creator designed us to be!
This really brings light to how many ppl have been in broken or toxic relationships.. I pray that everybody finds their way out and God heals your heart..May you find clarity..peace and self love 💜💜
This hit home, I dont regret my child but I regret who I had my child with. I had NO business making a child with this individual. But you live and you learn.
You are by far one of the most spiritually intellectual people I know. I haven't seen this level of wisdom in any man before.. You're definitely anointed and appointed for this. Thank you for your contribution to all of us Queens out here trying to navigate alone. You make us feel covered. Salute🙏🏾
Love addiction and codependency are what drive this crazy. We want to be loved so we hang in there..sometimes too long. Appreciate your advice with scripture to back it up. Thanks 🙏😊
Wow this was SPOT ON! I’ve connected with all 7 points. Sadly, I knew it was over but decided to stay. That relationship turned into 7 years of torment, heartache and abuse (emotionally / verbally and physically). I finally woke up and decided to cut all ends. THANK YOU 🙏🏾
I've been receiving your notifications for months. But exactly when I needed guidance, I had to leave work early because of stomach pains, your show notifications popped up and I was finally able to listen. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Sooo true, I always say nobodies relationship is my goal! You NEVER know what a couple has been through! You could only pray some day you meet an individual who is perfect for you and you BOTH are working to keep the relationship together! 💜
Out of literally hundreds of resources I’ve sought out trying to identify what is the matter with my marriage, this was the one that has been eye opening! Thank you so much!
Thank you RC Blakes Your videos have helped me to restore my dignity and self respect! I have been in a situation-ship for almost 2 years, and in that time, the frustration was so bad that I lost connection to myself and my kids! I became aggressive towards my children at times even . It was awful.. that man had no true Intentions of vision and direction for us. I'm now a solo mum again, and no more train wrecks 🙏🙏🙌
I been there. I had one ruin my family. He was wrong one then the girl. He allow it. I had one that try to hurt and kill me. The other one thought I wanted the other back from my past and listen to everyone else and left.
Whewwwwww Chile!!!! Omgoodness!!!! This is on point. I truly thank God for the man of God. Once you wake up, they don’t have a chance, I know my ex narc who was a compulsive cheater didn’t get any more chances. Thank you Jesus
If you feel irritated when someone you don't love is stalking you, that's how it feels when you're all over him. Accept it's over! It's good to have a little dignity! Virtue.
Have been repeating and doubting myself with that sentence in my head for some time now "i dont want this relationship, not like this" and this video answered me. Thank you
When I put my ex out of my house, yes it hurt but I left him for me and my daughter. I loved him , but I love me more. I'm waiting for my real king to find me
Thank you!!! It happens in marriage a lot. Mine was flirting everywhere even in church!! I was so embarrassed in church!!!! Hard to make female friends when your husband is showing affection to women he doesn’t even know. Insanity insanity is over!!!!!
Ecclesiastes 3:1-11 KJV 🙏🌱🕊️ 1 "To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: 2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; 3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; 4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; 5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; 6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace. 9 What profit hath he that worketh in that wherein he laboureth? 10 I have seen the travail, which God hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it. 11 He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end." 💔🕳🤯👋🔚😎🔜🙏💪👁️👁️🗨️🗣️👣🌱🌹🦋💞🕊️✌️👋
Most ladies need to learn how to let something end. I know I do. I have been alone for years now. I'm going to listen now.... thank you Bishop RC Bkakes.
Praying for anyone that has a broken 😢💔 heart ...you have to guard your heart and mind because people will control your mind and kill steal destroy you ...give it to god keep your faith God got you 🙏 amen
Your channel is so helpful to me during this transitional phase from jumping from relationship to relationship for the last decade + of my life to living life for God and for myself. Thank you :)
Two signs that a relationship is over is you can only see your peace on the other side them. And the closure you need is the closure you give yourself over there on the other side of them, when your peace returns because you ended it.
WOW THIS HIT ME.IVE HAD TO SEPARATE FROM MY HUSBAND OF 13 YEARS.IVE BEEN CALLED EVERY NAME IN THE BOOK INFRONT OF FAMILY KIDS ECT...AND IM ALWAYS BEING TOLD I JUST SAY THOSE THINGS WHEN IM MAD.BUT WHEN MR BLAKES SAID YOU SAID THOSE THINGS BECAUSE YOU FELT IT IN YOUR HEART. I BROKE BECAUSE I CANT BELEAVE THAT HE REALLY FELT LIKE THAT ABOUT ME...WOW ITS OVER
It’s lack of self respect, low self esteem, devaluing ones self worth… Lowering your standards because you do not want to be alone. Never settle for less, only aim for the best. 💜You Are Royal, God’s Unique Creation💜
Blessings Greetings And Loads Of Love Bishop/Daddy R C.Blakes And Lady Lisa I Just Cannot Stop Sharing You All Over And Got Everybody Hooked Although Never Had A Relationship I Am Being Formed And Shaped For That Time I'm Just Always In AWE Listening To Bishop/Daddy Thank You For Taking Up Where My Deceased Daddy Left Off I Am Forever Grateful Regards Lady Abigail God's Virtuous Woman (Fourty Three (43) Year Old Virgin Prosecutor Who Don't Mind Waiting To Do It God's Way) You Are Helping Me Tremendously THANK YOU
I would love to know why the watchers didn't like this very informative podcast...this was excellent and I wish I could give the Rev 2 thumbs up and move!
5. You're Plotting On How To Get Even 6. Your Family, Friends and Coworkers Can Tell What Cycle You Are In With This Person. 7. You Don't Want The Relationship No More.
Some people are triggered by anything! Even when there is nothing but loyalty. They are so insecure and refuse to deal with the lies in their head.,its time to walk away when your getting wrongly accused!
My ex and I had an argument he told me to leave him alone and go about my life, I begged by calling to talk to him and talk to him about it 2 days 3 days 4 days go by nothing from him 12 days he calls and wants to come back and work it out, this is not the first time he has pushed me away he said was even embarrassed how many times he's made this same mistake over and over everytime we argue. I've accepted im no longer staying with an unhealthy immature boy
GREAT information Bishop! I'm not in a relationship as of yet, but when I was in a relationship words were said that neither one of us could take back. At that point we should have broken up, but we didn't. I can so relate to that fact. Especially if you hit me "below the belt" with a secret I shared. There are RULES TO ENGAGEMENT!!! Thank you! Massachusetts!!
All the signs...You just read my whole foolish life before I became truly saved from myself 💞 Thank you Bishop Blakes Jr. Such a wonderful teaching 🙏 from beginning to end. After 26 years I'm truly done and not looking to be in anymore relationships until I'm healed and divorced...
PREACH!!!!! Trigger distrust and living out of character! Praise God for helping me see me and releasing me!!! Mr. RC, I gain sooooo much from listening to you. God's continued blessings upon you and your family.
This is the painful part, I ended it only to turn back and realize, that I had made a huge mistake, broke both our hearts 💔💔, but Lord has kept me strong.
I ended things with him yesterday. It was too toxic. I just couldn't take it anymore. Always be very careful of a man who says he's "a good guy" they're usually one of the worst men. They'll emotionally drain you to the point where u question your sanity. A good man won't tell you he's one. He'll show you. I have learned my lesson.
Yes! "I'm a good/nice guy" is always a 🚩
That part!!!
You know a man by the fruit he bares. Amen
I experienced the very same thing, those were exactly his words, A true narcissist I have healed and I pray that you heal as well. Love and light sis'❤🕯
Don’t look back
My daddy always told me if a man doesn't want you, it doesn't matter how much you sleep with him, feed him or pay him. If he don't want you he don't want you. I've always remembered that statement.
Your dad is absolutely right, the same thing also goes for women, when she no longer wants you, she doesn’t want you.
@@tlashai9902 absolutely 💗🦋
True fact i tried it all and it didn't work, so I'm learning how to value myself and know that I'm truly a Queen...
Your Father was/is Correct my darling. This goes for Both sexes. 💯🌸🌸🌸🌸
Your daddy is absolutely right!
The best thing a man can do if he no longer loves you, is to have enough integrity to set you free to find the one who will.
I agree, if this was my situation I would love to be thinking about finding someone else who or just enjoying life until I do fing someone else
I absolutely agree. In my case he moved in with me and want just leave. He has no obligations as I do. But feels like he should be able to " get his self together". Really sir. He should have been doing that. I'm so sadddd..
Thsts the issue, some men have no integrity so women have to do it themselves.
I agree many wont it's sad
some men do try and break loose but you have the obsessive women that go the extra mile doing crazy shit to stalk the man! Smh
I think we all know when a relationship is over. A lot of times we just don’t want to admit it. I stayed for so long out of not wanting to be a single mom, fear of starting over & financial insecurity. It wasn’t worth it. Don’t stay ladies! Love yourself enough to move on. Your life will go on.
Amen
Fear cost us so much, when peace is priceless it’s so much greater than fear & hardship. It’s worth seeking. It won’t be found in obeying fear. I agree with you Krystle anticipatory fear is a lie. Fear is a feeling that lies reality is not as bad as the picture fear creates to imprison Gods people. And worst some of these monster threaten and instill fear. God gives us the grace to do all things He calls us to do. And He calls us to peace. Fact over feelings!
Thank you. God knows I needed to hear this.
Yes moving forward and trusting The Most High for placement and provision.
Yes I knew too but I didn't physically go but mentally I did.
I’ve always known when a man wasn’t going to last long term. YOU CAN FEEL IT but ignore it because of the companionship. I’m not ignoring it anymore!!!
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💯💯💯💯same here
Absolutely correct! You can FEEL it…….
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We definitely know quickly 🤦🏾♀️
If you are in a toxic relationship, please leave and heal yourself before entering into another one. Ladies, YOU HAVE A LOT OF POWER!! 💪🏽 💪🏽💪🏽
Truth......Let it Go! So much better than that. One eye cry and keep it moving.
Thank you God for the rescue from disappointment. God is a healer for a broken heart. All is well with my soul.
Amen!!! 🙏
I'm good I dont even wanna be with no man cause most men cheat a man go do them I been single 4 years and I happy
Darling that’s right🌸
@@blessedchildofgod9112 Most men do not cheat. Both men and women can become unfaithful and toxic. We need to fix the black family first. Babies raising babies wont necessarily produce great men and women.
2. You Have To Beg Them To Love You.
3. You Act Out Of Character Because They Have Betrayed Your Trust.
4. Constantly Exchange Your Dignity For Unfulfilled Promises.
Thank you..RC. Starting my day with you. Fortifying words.
Some never even started. Red flag from day one
Ended my 10 year relationship october 10.10.2021
I just can't do it anymore all the lies and betrayal, he use to tell me,to promise him I'll never hurt him,tables turn he hurted me emotionally & mentally
My life story since I was 31 years old...so much damage and thank God for counseling many years ago that I believe the Lord Jesus needs me to realize I'm better than that. Thank God for his favor on my life. AMEN 🙏
@@Victoria-tc5cm Amen 🙏
You know it's over when your happy, relieved or more comfortable when they leave the house or are sleeping.
Facts 🙆🏾♀️💯
You got me thinking now🧐
1. You both have said some things to demean or humiliate each other.
2. You’ve begged and the other person has not responded to you favorably.
3. When the other person has triggered your distrust to a point that you are now out of character.
4. You are constantly exchanging your dignity for promises.
5. You sit down and begin plotting how to get even.
6. When your friends, family, co-workers can tell you the cycle you’re in or the cycle you’re about to go thru with this person.
7. When you don’t want the relationship anymore.
@@LeafsIn2025 No problem 😉
Thank you so much. This is so helpful. God bless you. 🙏🏽
Thank you 🙏
I agree thank you 😇
Thank❤You
I stayed in a 3.5 year relationship 3 years and 5 months too long.
Lesson: when you are crying in bed and your partner is lying next to you, ask you why you're crying ,you answer it's they are the cause and your partner didn't do anything to comfort you....it's over.
Lesson: I don't care how bad you want a relationship; if the other person don't want the relationship, you have nothing!
Lesson: It's hard to admit that you chose wrong, moved too fast, or ignored red flags.
God Centered..
MESSAGE!💃🏾
Hahahaha that Kim Clark
I had the same experience!
@@SingleMomOfFil-Am I'm so sorry.
"I LOVE ME MORE THAN I LOVE THE IDEA OF US" , thats Powerful!!!
True, it should be every Queens mindset
I emotionally detached when he hurt my feelings and I began to cry and he said I was “fake crying”. It was over for me. Because I knew it would get worst over time. If you can’t try to resolve the issue and comfort me then I don’t need that type of energy around me. That wasn’t the only issue but it was big enough to walk away.
Smart woman you are
Yes Sister ! Say that ! I had a similar experience. If you dont care that you hurt me and made me cry...ITS OVA !
I can't lie I went through the same thing that shows how much of a weakling the man is
That wasn’t that big an issue BUT that was the visible part of an iceberg.
Mine comforted me but he didn’t change so even the wonderful motions & feelings are not the facts.
My ex gas lighted me for years, but when he slowly started cursing at me and trying to be verbally abusive, I cut him out!!! My mother was married to my father and he was verbally and physically abusive towards her and I vowed that I would ever allow a man to treat me that way!! And I've been working on healing and being a better woman. Been single now for 3 years and I'm ok with it. I finally realized that it's ok to be single and living a great, happy life, than being in a relationship unhappy.
Yess! At first it's hard, but stay strong and have your mind set on moving on 🤍 You got this!
Thats for sure im a testimate to y I u can be very happy by urself
Ppppñññ
Like i say i enjoy my single life ,I would rather be alone than unhappy.
Amen
That’s right!!! Move on and get close to God!!! It’s over for a reason. I Thank God for removing me from my last relationship. God is Awesome!!!❤️🙏🏽❤️
Amen and Amen 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Amen
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Yes He is... Won't He do it.....Amen
🙏😇 Yes to this one I am addicted to🕊peace.
Our spirit knows. We know. Most don't want to accept that it's over. You disrespect me in any manner and it's over. Periodt!!🤣🤣
Amen. strong mindset to have.
I know that’s right don’t have time for mess
100% accuracy! Each failed attempt to leave my dysfunctional marriage I believe my now ex-husband had more disrespect for me for staying. Yes to the concept you mentioned, I started to lose myself & didn't like who I was becoming! I was putting all my energy into a relationship that died at least a decade ago! My biggest regret is staying longer than I should've.
@Beverly Orlando Another way of looking at this. More disrespect for you for staying in a toxic relationship? Or, for himself for not leaving you? He could have been a man and left too, but he left it up to YOU to do the heavy lifting.
I left a toxic relationship 3 year's ago and I still am healing and growing for myself it was pure hell being with him very cruel and manipulative and crazy.. I wish I never met george... He was evil
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 preachhh
@@staceylozano9578 We have somewhat similar stories. I was in a toxic marriage with an evil man for five years and have been divorced for a little over two years. He was a gaslighter, cheater, manipulator, predator, and there were red flags that I ignored in the beginning and it ended almost costing me everything but I thank God for opening my eyes and getting me out of that marriage. I am still healing and growing everyday.
Exactly, that was my biggest regret also that I stayed longer than I should have. Realized I didn't want to waste more years.
1. Intentionally Said Things To Humiliate or Demeaning Each Other.
One way you know a relationship is over is when He or She looks better going than coming.
Amen! 😂😂😂
Fr 😂🤣😅😅
FACTS 😁😁😁
Yes! Amen. Also, when you don't want to see them coming.
Amen been there before.
Mr Blakes has helped me to restore and place up my well needed boundaries. I'm a QUEEN.
Love your name. A blessed stone. God's Throne made of Sapphire Stone
@@ladyzinada5341 Thank you my beautiful sister.xxxxx
Most times we don't really understand the meaning of the signs revealed in the beginning. Wonder why a saphire can't be loved by someone & regarded? Lack of understanding it means.
@@ulyssesibiam4411 That's deep. Thank you. All my life I never believed or knew that I was worth being loved and respected. Now I'm learning that I can establish boundaries from Mr RC Blakes.
@@sapphireraven6043 Saphire May the blessings be. I believe God will see we through the moment for God knew before we understood what we got into, right?
"I love me more than the idea of us"
Before you finished that sentence I raised both hands high up in the air 🙌🏼 shouted AMEN and a Woohoo!!
Thank you pastor Blakes! That was fire.
I don't need 7 red flags i just need one and it's over. I just don't have the patience to wait for all those red flags
Hauluja!!!!!!
Amen!🙌
Thank God Fr your messages Pastor. I needed those words truly from God Thur you. My life back on track AMAN AMAN
Come on here...Just give me one reason: It's Over!!!
🤣🤣🤣 I love this comment 😍
After 40 yrs I’m finally out. Tried everything thru the years. My kids are 100% behind me. It’s time to enjoy my kids and grandkids, and my new good life of freedom! You are right on with this list and examples. I’ve listened twice now and it’s making me more and more happy, relieved and peaceful . Thank you
In the name of Jesus amen
Congrats!! I stayed for 45 years and I have been out for almost 3 years. Yes, it's time to enjoy your family. Live life on your terms. I just wished I had done it years ago.
Im THEIR RIGHT NOW
@@debbylee6329 Thank you ! All the best to you !
@@gwendolynthompson2127 May God bless you to break free !!!
HIS WORDS ALMOST DESTROYED ME... A MAN THAT LOVES YOU.. DNT BREAK YOU DOWN WITH WORDS.. DEGRADING AND BELITTLING YOU DAY AFTER DAY.. THATS ABNORMAL.. FOR A FUNCTIONAL AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP... ITS UTTER INSANITY... ON TOP I BEGGED.. 😔😔, LOVING HIM TOO MUCH.. HIM GIVING ME JUST CHAOS,... TEARS.. NO MORE... LOVE DOESN'T HURT, LADIES.. EVERYTHING YOU SAY PASTOR IS SO TRUE.. NO MORE BEGGING FOR LOVE, RESPECT AND KINDNESS.. I CANNOT THROW MY DIGNITY OUT OF THE WINDOW, FOR A MAN... WE'RE THERE'S TOO MUCH CONFUSION IN A, RELATIONSHIP.. ITS OVER... MOVE ON, DNT GET USED UP... WE ARE QUEENS.. CHIN UP LADIES AND MOVE ON... 👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Love doesn’t hurt? So why is it so painful to walk away from someone you love?
It gets to a point when it's not so painful if you can discover your zen feeliing......I feel at peace just not trying to please him over and over....that is done......he calls to talk to try to rekindle, but I cannot be moved because I can see through him......God gives us the wisdom of discernment after the trials.......🌌🙏
@@louiseboyd8896 HE CALLED ME.. BUT WITH GOD'S INTERVENTION, I DIDN'T HEAR MY PHONE RINGING... THEN HE PHNED TO MY WORK.. SORRY I GAVE HIM A FARE CHANCE.. WHAT DID I GET,.. DEGRADING AND BELITTLING ME.. SORRY.. WE ARE GOOD AND DECENT WOMEN.. WE JUST WANT RESPECT AND KINDNESS.. GOD IS GOOD, WHEN YOUR INTENTIONS ARE PURE AND GOOD.. GOD WILL ALWAYS BE AT YOUR SIDE.. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Aa
Yessssssssss!!!! Amen🙌❤👑
No matter what they take from me they can't take away my dignity. The greatest Love of all learning to love myself is the greatest Love of all.
Yes! Whitney Houston!
That's what this message saying
@@jacquelineharris9132 no that's sexy chocolate lol
Never EVER beg anyone to LOVE YOU. Once you are putting in more than you receive, it's time to MOVE ON with your life.
I dont think u understand how much you and your wife have changed so many lives. I'm so blessed to find you. You are truly a blessing to so many. I am so happy I found your channel. Thank you for your gift.
When the feeling of missing them hit. You gatta be strong to not chase and beg...I think we is just want thatt hurt feeling to go away and want to feel love. Especially if you have been together for a longtime
Even if you’re not with them for a long time, it’s still painful when you love them to walk away, when you MUST.
@@amerokeewiya1320 yes
@@amerokeewiya1320 W
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Thank goodness xxxxxxxxx
Oh! You ARE a counselor. You're inspirational, rational, Christian, and so very wise in your eloquant sermons. I've taken so much from them. My life patterns have changed...my life path has changed. You break it DOWN. Thank you.
Thank you. You must be a poet. Your words are vivid. 😊🙏🏽
THIS MAN IS THE TRUTH!! HEAVEN SENT!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
God is the Truth, all men are liars. Bishop Blake’s is referring to scripture which is the Word of God
He is!!
@@just_es8369 Both male and female are capable of lying: don't get it twisted.
“All men” mean men, women and child , thought you knew
Yes he is a absolutely God sent! May God continue to bless his life in GREAT abundance.
Yep relationships are like a blanket whenever you see the other person trying to pull the blanket towards himself or herself leaving you naked or feeling cold, it’s over.
I like this analogy. Makes such good sense. Amen. Thank you.
Relationships need to grow and reinvent themselves TOGETHER. It's about memories... good or bad! It's about genuine friendship! It's about learning how to love the person; embracing the authentic person. The grass isn't greener on the other side. Many times the person we leave is usually the person we spend our lives searching for; only realizing it's far too late!
Bless you for your message Pastor. Sadly, I recently had to make the difficult decision to walk away from a 33 year marriage due to verbal, emotional and financial abuse. I continue to suffer with frequent nightmares 6 mths later, along with other symptoms of C-PTSD. I pray I will one day heal completely from the pain this relationship has caused. I know I wasn't perfect in this relationship either and I need to forgive both myself and my ex husband. 🙏
Good for you darling
Bless you
It’s such a difficult decision GOD be with you honey
May God continue to comfort you. It’s going to take some time. I stayed 19 yrs and it’s been 5 yrs and he still try’s to verbally and emotionally abuse me which in turn sends me back to depression and PSTD. Am happy you are free now continue to heal. 🙏🏽❤️
Sister, stop claiming C-PTSD and start claiming radiant health, peace, love, joy and personal and financial security by and through the blood of Jesus and in Jesus's mighty name!! AMEN!!
I’ve listened to so many messages on “it’s over” … but this surpasses all… nothing but the truth!
the names he chooses to call you when he is mad is exactly how he summed you up before there was a relationship
This is good
OUCH
Powerful
God Bless you after 18 years of marriage I had to leave a toxic, harsh, destructive, trauma bond relationship. I left the state of Alabama & relocated to Fayetteville, NC with my baby girl which is in the Army. I’m at such peace ☮️. Thank you so much for your videos very educational & enlightening.
Congratulations you are a strong woman!
Congratulations..Your willingness to put peace for you and her a priority took bravery..
GOD bless you!
I'm blessed and proud of you as you choose peace. I've been married for 12 years but the lasts 3 years to6 years he has been difiting away with him putting his friend over me. I've been in a toxic, verbal, tramanu ,, and eventually physical abusive . My poor children had to endure us arguing all the time. Lord Jesus, I pray for forgiveness
I'm from this area..Great place
My extended and spiritual familes have always put a major emphasis on self sacrifiice as the path to relationship success & continuety. And... after 30+years of putting myself last and accepting all sorts of spiritual attacks, I put the puzzle together and figured out I was catering to two selfish toxic families! I am now on the right road to healing for two years and my self esteem is finally blooming for the first time in my life! 💕 Thank you RC! 😍
We have to learn to love ourselves first before we let a man or women put us in this situation and destroy.
Yes "its over then"
I regretfully wasted so many years, comprised , sacrificed, and lost my identity,authentic self,self respect, dignity, values, standards, and principles being submissive, subservient…trying to tolerate and co exist with an abusive cheating negligent ex husband I finally divorced.
I squandered my dignity and he never even gave me promises. I just kept telling him what I wanted and needed from him, and I knew he would not deliver but I was lonely and wanted companionship, but mostly all I got was sex.
This whole comment is me right now 😒😥
@@lorrainedavis945 say it again . 👏 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
This is exactly how i feel right now except he would play with my head telling me i was going to be his wife one day and that he loved me knowing good and well he didn't want to get married nor be in a committed relationship.This man got me pregnant twice within one year pressured me into having 2 abortions made me feel like it was my fault i came up pregnant and tried to make me feel guilty about possibly making him a daddy at 53 years old had i continued the pregnancy. As if that wasn't bad enough he also threatened to ditch me and the baby if i gave birth to his child. I can't stand that man i wasted my time dating an older man😔
@@22chick4 Some older men date younger women to manipulate them. So sorry, you went through this.
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@@22chick4 : All this birth control around! Stupid is as stupid does.
Women must raise their standards and move forward. Stop hoping it will get better. He'd leave in a snap...
You got that right ✅
There are men who won’t leave in a snap tho. It’s not always the women.
When I say my spiritual growth and level of thinking has heighten by listening to the wisdom and knowledgePastor Blakes gives it doesn't get any better than this.
Help us, dear Lord..to discern, such a person, such a spirit, such a soul, such a false relationship, such a false love, and from such deception, my God..In Jesus precious dear Holy name…🙏🏽
Amen 🙏🏾🙌🏾
Amen
This was a very powerful message!!!! We know when its over we hang in there because of time invested. The time invested was wasted years and tears!!!😪 Pastor Blakes thank you for this message.
Facts Pastor!... “triggered to where you are now out of character.” Run my sisters.
I have been there and done that until I remembered who I was.
Thank you for your commitment to helping us live up to the queens the creator designed us to be!
I know mines is over praying for direction moving forward. 23 yrs of bondage and break downs.
24 years and it’s hard
I see that you have a channel, just thought I’d send some encouragement your way. Keep going, someone need your message! God bless!
"I love me, more then the reality of us" I love this line Pastor ❤.
Evening everyone! Can’t wait to hear the word! Pastor be on point.
Yes he is 😍
This really brings light to how many ppl have been in broken or toxic relationships.. I pray that everybody finds their way out and God heals your heart..May you find clarity..peace and self love 💜💜
Amen. Likewise 😇
This hit home, I dont regret my child but I regret who I had my child with. I had NO business making a child with this individual. But you live and you learn.
Girl same
Help mi, Pupa Jesus, mi in the same boat!!! Thank you, Bishop!!!🙏
You are by far one of the most spiritually intellectual people I know. I haven't seen this level of wisdom in any man before.. You're definitely anointed and appointed for this. Thank you for your contribution to all of us Queens out here trying to navigate alone. You make us feel covered. Salute🙏🏾
Agreed 💕✅
Beautifully said!!
This is awesome. Never allow a person to take you out your character. Vengeance is mine says the lord. Thank God for his peace.🙏
I found this advice applies to work/jobs/ career situations as well! 🙌🏾💯
Not hanging on. Definitely moving on. Just want to hear the message. I made my decision and it is final in November.
Love addiction and codependency are what drive this crazy. We want to be loved so we hang in there..sometimes too long. Appreciate your advice with scripture to back it up. Thanks 🙏😊
These videos helped me get mentally stronger. Thank you.
Same here
Wow this was SPOT ON!
I’ve connected with all 7 points. Sadly, I knew it was over but decided to stay. That relationship turned into 7 years of torment, heartache and abuse (emotionally / verbally and physically). I finally woke up and decided to cut all ends.
THANK YOU 🙏🏾
Oh wow! Very Profound!!! I love the reality of me more than I love the idea of us. You better say it, RC Blakes !!!❤️🙏🏽❤️
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That's what resonated with me too
I've been receiving your notifications for months. But exactly when I needed guidance, I had to leave work early because of stomach pains, your show notifications popped up and I was finally able to listen. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
I found my worth through this ministry, now I'm the leading lady in my life.
"I love the REALITY of ME more than I love the IDEA of US." R.C. Blakes
Amen! 🙌🏽
Sooo true, I always say nobodies relationship is my goal! You NEVER know what a couple has been through! You could only pray some day you meet an individual who is perfect for you and you BOTH are working to keep the relationship together! 💜
All I have watched have been educational but this hits really on a personal basis.
I Feel you !
Out of literally hundreds of resources I’ve sought out trying to identify what is the matter with my marriage, this was the one that has been eye opening! Thank you so much!
Thank you RC Blakes
Your videos have helped me to restore my dignity and self respect! I have been in a situation-ship for almost 2 years, and in that time, the frustration was so bad that I lost connection to myself and my kids! I became aggressive towards my children at times even . It was awful.. that man had no true Intentions of vision and direction for us. I'm now a solo mum again, and no more train wrecks 🙏🙏🙌
I been there. I had one ruin my family. He was wrong one then the girl. He allow it. I had one that try to hurt and kill me. The other one thought I wanted the other back from my past and listen to everyone else and left.
I'd Rather be alone than be Unhappy.
You’re fantastic, Pastor. Every time I hear you, I wonder where this information has been all this time! You remain the father I never had🙏👍
Whewwwwww Chile!!!! Omgoodness!!!! This is on point. I truly thank God for the man of God. Once you wake up, they don’t have a chance, I know my ex narc who was a compulsive cheater didn’t get any more chances. Thank you Jesus
Definitely waiting on this!!. I need this message.
If you feel irritated when someone you don't love is stalking you, that's how it feels when you're all over him. Accept it's over! It's good to have a little dignity! Virtue.
Thanks. ♥️
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Have been repeating and doubting myself with that sentence in my head for some time now "i dont want this relationship, not like this" and this video answered me. Thank you
I love ME more than I love the idea of US!!!!! Powerful words. 🙌🏾💜 I receive all of that.
When I put my ex out of my house, yes it hurt but I left him for me and my daughter. I loved him , but I love me more. I'm waiting for my real king to find me
Thank you!!! It happens in marriage a lot. Mine was flirting everywhere even in church!! I was so embarrassed in church!!!! Hard to make female friends when your husband is showing affection to women he doesn’t even know. Insanity insanity is over!!!!!
“I love me more than I love the idea of us.” WORD!!!!!
Ecclesiastes 3:1-11 KJV 🙏🌱🕊️
1 "To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
9 What profit hath he that worketh in that wherein he laboureth?
10 I have seen the travail, which God hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it.
11 He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end." 💔🕳🤯👋🔚😎🔜🙏💪👁️👁️🗨️🗣️👣🌱🌹🦋💞🕊️✌️👋
Most ladies need to learn how to let something end. I know I do.
I have been alone for years now. I'm going to listen now.... thank you Bishop RC Bkakes.
Praying for anyone that has a broken 😢💔 heart ...you have to guard your heart and mind because people will control your mind and kill steal destroy you ...give it to god keep your faith God got you 🙏 amen
Your channel is so helpful to me during this transitional phase from jumping from relationship to relationship for the last decade + of my life to living life for God and for myself. Thank you :)
Two signs that a relationship is over is you can only see your peace on the other side them. And the closure you need is the closure you give yourself over there on the other side of them, when your peace returns because you ended it.
WOW THIS HIT ME.IVE HAD TO SEPARATE FROM MY HUSBAND OF 13 YEARS.IVE BEEN CALLED EVERY NAME IN THE BOOK INFRONT OF FAMILY KIDS ECT...AND IM ALWAYS BEING TOLD I JUST SAY THOSE THINGS WHEN IM MAD.BUT WHEN MR BLAKES SAID YOU SAID THOSE THINGS BECAUSE YOU FELT IT IN YOUR HEART. I BROKE BECAUSE I CANT BELEAVE THAT HE REALLY FELT LIKE THAT ABOUT ME...WOW ITS OVER
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It’s lack of self respect, low self esteem, devaluing ones self worth…
Lowering your standards because you do not want to be alone.
Never settle for less, only aim for the best.
💜You Are Royal, God’s Unique Creation💜
Blessings Greetings And Loads Of Love Bishop/Daddy R C.Blakes And Lady Lisa I Just Cannot Stop Sharing You All Over And Got Everybody Hooked Although Never Had A Relationship I Am Being Formed And Shaped For That Time I'm Just Always In AWE Listening To Bishop/Daddy Thank You For Taking Up Where My Deceased Daddy Left Off I Am Forever Grateful
Regards
Lady Abigail God's Virtuous Woman
(Fourty Three (43) Year Old Virgin Prosecutor Who Don't Mind Waiting To Do It God's Way) You Are Helping Me Tremendously THANK YOU
I’m honored 😊🙏🏽♥️
I would love to know why the watchers didn't like this very informative podcast...this was excellent and I wish I could give the Rev 2 thumbs up and move!
5. You're Plotting On How To Get Even
6. Your Family, Friends and Coworkers Can Tell What Cycle You Are In With This Person.
7. You Don't Want The Relationship No More.
Struggle Love is not where it’s at…….
Some people are triggered by anything! Even when there is nothing but loyalty. They are so insecure and refuse to deal with the lies in their head.,its time to walk away when your getting wrongly accused!
God is always on time.. needed this.. reassurance that I made the right decision before I made the wrong decision .. Amen and Amen🙏🏽❤️
You have helped me changed my life in a way i could never imagine ❤️💪
Thank you Bishop! I needed this. Now I can close the door, end that chapter of my life and move on. God bless you
My ex and I had an argument he told me to leave him alone and go about my life, I begged by calling to talk to him and talk to him about it 2 days 3 days 4 days go by nothing from him 12 days he calls and wants to come back and work it out, this is not the first time he has pushed me away he said was even embarrassed how many times he's made this same mistake over and over everytime we argue. I've accepted im no longer staying with an unhealthy immature boy
GREAT information Bishop! I'm not in a relationship as of yet, but when I was in a relationship words were said that neither one of us could take back. At that point we should have broken up, but we didn't. I can so relate to that fact. Especially if you hit me "below the belt" with a secret I shared. There are RULES TO ENGAGEMENT!!!
Thank you! Massachusetts!!
This message was so on point and on time! I appreciate this real man of God!
It seems that this lesson applies to the unmarried also
For me it applies. Not married but in relationship that I need to let go. Or rather I'm in relationship by myself his mind is elsewhere.
All the signs...You just read my whole foolish life before I became truly saved from myself 💞 Thank you Bishop Blakes Jr. Such a wonderful teaching 🙏 from beginning to end. After 26 years I'm truly done and not looking to be in anymore relationships until I'm healed and divorced...
Pastor cracks me up 🤣🤣🤣🤣
It's over when they stop making an effort
PREACH!!!!! Trigger distrust and living out of character! Praise God for helping me see me and releasing me!!! Mr. RC, I gain sooooo much from listening to you. God's continued blessings upon you and your family.
This is the painful part, I ended it only to turn back and realize, that I had made a huge mistake, broke both our hearts 💔💔, but Lord has kept me strong.
Daddy Blakes you are a counselor and give us much therapy! Thank you so much! Much love to you and Lisa! ❤️🙏🏾
I love me more than than the ideality for us. I exchanged my dignity for unfulfilled promises.
Pastor, all I can say is just THANK YOU.
I so agree. Who ever came up with sticks and stones mat break my bones but words will never hurt me. Words will cut
your heart to the soul