Our angel baby was stillborn at 34 weeks on July 17, 2015. She was healthy and after an autopsy they didn’t find anything that could have caused her to pass. My advice to family and friends would be to 1. Acknowledge that there is a baby. Just because they didn’t get to meet them doesn’t mean they didn’t exist. 2. Don’t ask when we will be trying again 3. Don’t say, “at least you know you can get pregnant.” 4. Follow the parents lead with remembering their child’s life. If they want their child included in holidays, then include them. If they don’t, then don’t. Some people don’t mind the reminder, but others would like to grieve in peace and not be unexpectedly reminded of their loss. Lastly, 5. Everyone grieves different. Don’t push someone to “get over it,” don’t shame them for talking about it. Support them however they need, for as long as they need. I’m sure there is a lot more advice that I will think of later, but the above is what I’m feeling right now.
This is so true it affects the siblings as much as everyone no angel baby should be forgotten I wish my family didn't continue to focus on my rainbow baby sister and new sibling on the way bc I feel like I'm the only one who remembers what has happened
What really upsets me is when people ask you when are you going to get rid of your babies things so you you can move on and get closure wtf. What they don’t understand is that there will never be closure and that piece of you will always be empty and longing for your child
these people have never experienced loss, or the love a parent feels for their child. it's honestly sad they have to be so insensitive and even comment, but lets make sure to drown the negative with love
I want to add something since she mentioned the lack of ultrasounds moms get. If ever, EVER you are feeling uneasy or mommy intuition says you are worried and want to make sure everything is ok, then go to the ER. With my first pregnancy I was 20 and knew nothing so I went to the hospital so many times, my doctor so many times and I got ultrasounds done in the ER and no-one was ever awful or frustrated with me they just understood and wanted to make sure the baby was fine. You go, say what you need to say and have your baby checked. First item you may want to buy is your own doppler for home, check on your baby's heart beat and make sure it's strong. If movement seems the slightest bit irregular grab that Doppler and head to the ER, nothing is ever too much when your baby is the concern. God bless to Braxton and his parents and to all the other moms who went through such a horrible time, my heart goes out to all of you.
Our babies are the only ones that know what our heartbeat sounds like from the inside. How can we ever "get over it!?" The grief we feel after losing a baby is as intense as that bond was. You can't get over that. You cannot move on from that. And people who think otherwise should feel fortunate that they never experienced that loss, because if they did they wouldn't be saying that BS. 💗💗
Thank you for giving those mothers a voice, unfortunately I'm starting to see this does happen more often than anyone wants to acknowledge. I am also an angel mama, having as third trimester loss one month ago. I think the work that you're doing on your channel is so necessary. Thank you.
My son Aiden was born sleeping October 12th 2018. He was a healthy baby boy that had a umbilical cord complication . I wish people knew that even if I had another baby, it would not be Aiden my first love my first child. I wish people knew how common Stillbirth is.
Yes, I feel the exact same way. I want things to change. I believe that our doctors should not be able to keep us in the dark about stillbirth. With Braxton my new doctor believes it was also an umbilical cord issue. How far along were you? I am starting to notice that a lot of this umbilical cord accidents are happening late term.
@@FellyStillBraxtonsMama unfortunately a lot of the times umbilical cord complications do happen during the late terms of pregnancy (3rd timester) mostly due to lack of space in the tummy. The bigger the baby the less space they have so the more possibilities of them getting tangled with the umbilical cord. I'm so so so sorry for y'alls losses. My sister had a stillborn baby 10/31/2018 at 29 weeks. One week before her baby shower. It literally broke my heart that I couldn't do anything to help her. ❤👼 Mia Rose.
So sorry for your loss. I’m glad i came across this video and comment. I’m 36 weeks about to be 37 in two days and my son has the cord around his neck. my doctor and so many nurses just keep saying “it happens” But now that I’m getting closer i know exactly what questions to ask because i feel ignored. I’m glad I’m now getting educated on this because if not I’d be so lost.
I’m so sorry.... I feel your pain... I lost a son 23 years ago at 25 weeks he was my only son. God later blessed me with 5 girls! 🙏🏽 it’s been 23 years and as I came across this video it just brings back all the sadness I once felt. And just know that you will never ever forget but it will get better!!! It will hurt but you will smile again and be happy again. 🙏🏽
I’m 26, I’m not a mom and I’m not pregnant but what you’re doing is AMAZING I didn’t know this could happen. I’m so sorry for your loss, sharing all this things must be really hard, but I know that this kind of therapy is good for you to heal and for us to LEARN. Thank you very much for doing this. Your memorial video showed up in my recommendations. I already know that Braxton will be a big brother, he is an angel that will be with your family FOREVER. 🙏🏻 keep sharing this❤️
It’s so true when you search being pregnant you never are informed of stillbirth, I never came across it being pregnant and I was always researching being pregnant with my first babe. I don’t know you but your story has touched my heart in way I can’t explain. Your baby boy is watching over all of you. ❤️❤️
I watched your video testimony about losing your son. I'm so sorry. I am 35 weeks now with my own son. I was wondering if you ever did that video you wanted to do explaining how it happened? I'd love to be educated.
Ashlee Johnson me too, if it was something preventable I would like to educate myself as well. But of course it’s her right to talk about it or not talk about it :-/ I respect her wishes of course
It was the umbilical cord. I saw her say it on another comment. The doctor should’ve never let her go past her due date. The bigger the baby gets, the less room there is for the umbilical cord, and it gets wrapped around the baby’s neck.
Kelly Forester most doctors will allow you to go 1-2 weeks past your due date (for me, they would’ve induced me one week after my due date, but I’ve heard of some women going 2). For a normal pregnancy, going one day past your due date is not a death sentence. If they would’ve done regular ultrasounds on her, they would’ve seen the cord was problematic and should’ve intervened. The issue wasn’t that she had gone literally 1 day over her due date. Just wanted to clarify that. The baby doesn’t grow exponentially each day at 40 weeks, though your fluid levels can drop which can cause problems.
Thank you for posting this. I'm 17 weeks pregnant today and I came across your channel learning all about babies. You're such a beautiful momma and always will be to Braxton. He's so very loved. We're all here for you and your husband. Thank you for being so open with us. 🌻🐝
You have really built something for yourself and other in your time of loss and grief. It is a wonderful thing to do to honor your baby and the children of other who were lost so early. I have 6 kids, but had 2 miscarriages. My sister is dealing with infertility after pregnancy loss. When someone like you is guided by God to share something like this you really have helped share the love that helps grief lose its sting. The wound will heal and you will proudly bare the scar saying this beautiful mark on my my life is my son. Keep going and building this network you have started. May our Heavenly Father bless you and keep you.
Just like they have premature awareness, we need stillbirth awareness because its so common yet no one knows and thats makes its much harder for whoever has to live through it! Im so sorry this happens to ppl and I can’t even imagine the pain it can cause but I love to see how strong and how powerful this has made you felly! Stay strong sweet girl! You have an angel 👼🏻
Thank you Felly. I just lost our son, Briggs Thomas, 38 weeks along. He was born on April 30th 2020. Your videos have helped me tremendously. You inspired me to share my own story with a video. You inspired me to pick back up my dissertation for my PhD. You have inspired me to keep going. I miss my son so much. And could go on forever. But will try not too. Thank you for being brave. For having courage. For providing strength. For providing hope. I’ll be forever grateful.
I'm so glad you made this video. After 7 years of infertility I learned that it's impossible to know how it feels to go through a loss or a condition until you've been there. I have become more empathetic thanks to my own struggle. People are quick to put a bandage on your pain without understanding that the pain never goes away.
The 14th “birth” date of my baby, Mia, is coming up. I just found your videos. I wish videos like this had been available when I went through what I did. I was amazed afterwards at how many women I knew who had suffered pregnancy loss. I tell people now it doesn’t ever get better, but it gets easier. I have three living children now. They don’t replace her and every pregnancy after was stressful and anxious. Thank you for your videos and honesty
You are AMAZING. Such strength. I've not experienced such an unbearable loss although my first baby- Freckle- at just 10 weeks gestation. Your beautiful little boy is so fortunate to have such loving and devoted parents. He felt your love, heard you voice and knew you every moment he was with you. You may not feel it but you're amazing. Sending love. I wish with all my heart noone ever had to experience such grief x
This is heartbreaking. Crying while holding my four month old baby now.. in south africa you have an ultrasound every four weeks as soon as you find out you’re expecting. In my pregnancy i would count the days every month until i get to see my baby on an ultrasound as well as hearing the heartbeat. From 32 weeks you have an appointment every week. Things really have to change in the US i’m so sorry this happened to you.
Hello sera Ann Watkins, please which hospital did you used when you were pregnant, because as I know you have to start from a local clinic and then later at your 3 trimester the local clinic will refer you to the hospital...am also a victim it happen on the 03/10 / 2019 and am staying in South Africa too lost my precious so at 31weeks
Even birth certificate don't change anything... I gave birth to my son at 32 weeks via C-section. He was born alive but died the next day. And even my mom want me to forget my son and move on. I have birth certificate in my hands. But often I have to fight with people around me for recognition that I'm a mom.
All I feel like I can say right now and is God bless you and your husband. You are so so strong and yet your pain shows through all your videos. As it should. I wish and pray you get all the love and support you deserve and what you are doing to help other families, and the public is incredible after what you have had to endure. You are wise beyond your years. I am 58 and I want to hold you like I do with my two daughter 29 and 31. Thank you for your videos. You have definitely helped so many. Sending so much love your way 😘 And your son is beautiful 💙😇!!!!!
Can you post a video on what mothers who have not experienced a loss can say to help? I think when people say "You can try again" I think they are trying to say something positive but don't know what to say. It is hard for those of us who haven't faced a loss like this, to know what to say. Sometimes the positive things we say are things we think you want to hear but words can hurt, even if you didn't mean to cause hurt.
God bless you sweetheart, and all of the other mothers and fathers who have endured this terrible loss. Your strength is inspiring, and I wish I could hug each and every single one of you. I wish I had the words to ease your pain, but I’m sure those words do not exist. I am praying for all of you, and I hope it helps, even just a little, to know that there are a lot of people in this world who care, and send you their love. I certainly send you mine. Thank you all for sharing your story with us. 💐
Please be kind to the parents who've had a stillborn baby. Follow their lead if they want to talk about their child. Some want to talk, some don't. Some need or want acknowledgment that their baby is real and you care. And their baby will always be remembered.
Thank you for bringing this to light. I don't think most people know that stillbirth can happen to healthy moms and healthy babies, especially at such an advanced stage of pregnancy. God bless you and your husband.
I had a baby boy November 19 2017 and although he is healthy I feel so guilty for bringing someone so beautiful and innocent into this world and I’m constantly afraid something will happen to him. I’ve already been in a car accident with him at 7 months old and even though he is perfectly fine I know I can’t keep him safe forever. I just don’t know if I want more children it’s a scary thing being a parent.
I don't have any kids but I know you carried your baby boy for 9 months felt very move and touch, you also gave birth to your beautiful boy and had a chance to hold him in your arms and spent time with him. For anyone out there that is saying you can just go have another baby or anything negative.... can piss right off, CUT!! thoughs people off, they have no right to say anything like that to you. And that's a fact! Your a mother and that's all that matters. 💜 I know the pain will never go away but I hope your feeling better. Hugs to you & your family!
My sweetheart Gavin Daniel was born sleeping at 21 weeks. A week before we had just found out he was a boy the next week I was in the ER diagnosed with an incompetent cervix and Gavin was already coming out. They wanted to do a emergency cerclage but in the week of waiting my water broke. I knew it was over, the second it happened, but in the back of mine and my husbands head we wanted to see a tiny sign that he could survive. He was too small for tubes. He was born on September 29, 2019. My husbands cries still play in my head as he held Gavin in his arms. He was our first child. People keep saying to try again, the thing is you can't replace a child. The only thing getting us through is God, simply my Lord.
I am 17 years old and a mother to an angel. I recently lost my baby, march 16, 2019. She was 19 weeks. Her name was Lareina Yajaira Victorya. My boyfriend has no idea, because he's in jail and I'm too young to see him since I'm not 18 without his parents to take me, because I was kicked out of my house and lived with his family. But I'm now on my own with no one. But I'm learning to get better, I turn 18 in a couple days and can go see my boyfriend to see if he's ready to hear my news.
I'm sorry for the loss of your first born son. My heart goes out to you and I admire your strength and courage to tell your story. I lost twin boys in 2004 and while it gets easier, I'll never forget it. Thank you for this video and I'm glad I found your channel. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
It's true that the pain of losing a baby never goes away. My Uncle was born sleeping and my grandmother is still grieving every year on his birthday (he would be 45 years old now). I am glad that in my family something like this is openly talked about and that I was told that my uncle existed.
I did not know still birth was a possibility. I was going in for non stress tests for my son twice a week due to weight gain but no other issues. I could not have imagined this happening. Ever. What a Beautiful tribute. Each day is a battle but I hope I can begin to honor my Moses by learning to live again. Thank you for this beautiful tribute.
Hi I know exactly how you feel pain never goes away I wanted my baby bak same 1 n I feel like the Lord gave me back my baby you are beautiful n very strong much luv n support 💚💚💚
Thank you so much for making this video. It is so helpful even for those of us who have lost a baby. My baby was still very tiny and I never got the chance to hold him/her but I'm so glad you could share your experience.
My heart goes out to you and there is not a thing I can say to help. I remember going to the hospital for decreased movement at 39 weeks and they were so dismissive and they were making me so mad my husband after an hour of waiting had to go demand an ultrasound machine he took one and wheeled it into our room then the doctor started paying attention and our little girl was ok but I do remember the fear and the lack of care from the staff. I love that you shared this and I stumbled upon your channel bc we are going through infertility right now trying for another baby. God bless
Your story sets my whole work uneasy. I know this is something common that no one talks about. Doctors and nurses I feel don’t do everything they can to go above and beyond to make sure you are aware of the risks and negatives. I am personally only 8 weeks and everyday I am so scared to get happy and excited for my baby and my pregnancy because I know anything could go wrong at any moment. I could only imagine what you and your family have been through and still battle everyday. Just know. Braxton is perfect. He is happy. He loves you and his daddy. Even though he couldn’t be in this world he is still thriving in another. You are strong. Probably the strongest of women are the ones who lose their babies. Braxton is real and he is alive out there somewhere. You will always have that connection to him. He will always be your first love and baby. My love and prayers go out to you
Losing a child is something one should never have to endure... exactly right a lost child can never be replaced... But the good thing is you can tell this child and future ones all about Braxton their angel brother...
My brother who was stillborn would be 22 on the 3rd. Alan. I wish I could have met him. It’s hurts me knowing my mom had to go through that pain/is going through that pain. I was almost a stillborn too because my mom had lost all the fluid falling down. She went 4 months without the fluid and here I am. She calls me a miracle especially because I am her only girl. I was a very tiny baby. Way under the average weight. Sometimes I take my mother for granted.
I’m a mother of a stillborn baby boy named Justin carter. Born sleeping July 11 2015. I felt so lost angry hurt broken and alone. I was very suicidal and I found myself cry all day. I felt like it was something I did and why was it happening to me. What hurts the most is that everybody around me was having babies and happy. What was even more sad was that at the hospital I was at this would pay music when somebody had a baby. I’m not 9 weeks pregnant and I’m scared af.
My son D’Andre was born sleeping March 3,2018... I miss my son very very much. My hugs and prayers to all the families that have lost their little angels.
Hello I’m deeply sorry for what u are going through it breaks my heart 😢😢 there’s no words to explain my devastation to your story and other women different situations.My prayers are with you all. I’m currently going through a miscarriage and it still feels unreal I went to the er hospital and they took a ultrasound and send me home with no information and with lots of pain and confusion everyone seemed like they didn’t care what was going on I feel alone and so sad all I can do is talk to god and help him to give me strength I am so scared and will suffer and be traumatized with a lot of things. Your story is unbelievable you are so strong and I admire you for sharing with us and helping other women to know other situations there are.
I love your phone case, where did you get from or who made that case for you? I love watching your videos and I totally understand what you mean. It’s not easy loosing your 1st born. I’m a first time mother to my almost 7 1/2 month old. I’m on your side I hate when people say “ u can always try again” no a mother needs her time to grief and find ways to keep them going and honor or acknowledge there first born child, I completely understand, that’s just to soon to even think about. You look a bit better and love seeing that smile I’m sure Brax loves seeing his mommy happy. God works in mysterious ways and birds could be a sign that he’s sending to you we never know. He’s looking out on you cuz he knows who his mommy is. God bless and glad your doing a bit better
All these September(and really close to September), angel babies. My brother was born September 5th, and died September 7th. I’ve always wondered why there are so many in September.
Yes, same thoughts!! I got really anxious hearing all the September dates as my baby is now due in September. Only God knows. I pray He has mercy on me and allows a healthy baby. Well....my baby girl came may 19th at 23 weeks...I can only pray my angel is resting peacefully
A lot of people conceive over the Holidays. September is one of the most popular birth months. So statistically there will be more stillbirths since there are more births..
Your baby boy Braxton was born on 12th of September (I think) my brother Jaxon was born on the 12th of September and the 2nd mums baby was born on the 14th, this just made me so sad and reminded me of my personal life but I have never personally lost my own baby but 10th of September 2018 was the worst day of my life. That is the day my mother said that my baby brother was gone. To me I think the worst part is that when u say goodbye you never see them again. My mum only got to go see Jaxon for about 3 hours not a few days she was shattered it is a thing and it need to me more recognised ❤️❤️
I'm the mommy of my angel baby Melody born @ 22.5 weeks. I would like people to know that despite the fact that I dont physically have my daughter here, I am still very much a mom.... her mom.
I lost my son 9 months ago he was born sleeping,I miss him so much I think about him every single day . It hard seeing other moms with their baby an I can’t hold my son . It’s really sad
I nearly lost my baby boy at birth.. he got stuck inside me and he slowly started to suffocate.. immediately he was forced out with forceps. My midwife told me that the doctors pretty much fucked up and that I should have had a c section planned. He could have died and she said he’s lucky he didn’t get brain damaged from the force from the forceps. I will not be having anymore kids.. the fear of losing a baby is just too much for me:( no mother’s should have to go through it. My son is 2 tomorrow and I will hold him tight 💙
Sophie Earl my mom ended up having a C-section with me, because the umbilical cord wrapped around my neck and I couldn’t breathe, or I got stuck in the birth canal, I’m not totally for sure. I’m 17 now, and my momma still holds me tight.
May I please ask a question? If not, please don’t answer.. 😢 do they know why Brax was born sleeping? I guess I just don’t understand why he passed before you could even get a chance to meet him. I’m angry, very angry. I’m also sad for you, very sad and I know you’ll always love that little boy. I just don’t understand why this happened 😭😢
I could comment so much on every word you said... thank you for the video!!! I wanted to especially say I really hope Braxtons dad will make a video with his experience and something's had like others to know too. I really really thing it would be invaluable to many viewers and people around the world. I haven't found anything like that online yet.
I’m so sorry I know the pain 10 years ago I lost my son and had him at 28 weeks born sleeping we both almost die and by the time I saw him he was so discolored but beautiful but I couldn’t name him I was 16 he will be 11 in a few days my biggest regret is not naming him but he was still my baby and now he has a baby sister she is two now and I tell her about how her big brother watching over her always
My baby boy is 5 months and everyday I worry about something happening to him idk why but it's so heartbreaking to think about my world will end . Stay strong momma I cried with you in your other video especially when you showed your precious baby boy. You have an angle always w you loving you more and more knowing his momma loves him so much💙💙
My stillborn baby was born in 1975. A daughter. I went on to have 2 sons . The old adage a son is a son til he takes a wife, but a daughter is a daughter the rest of her life has become more of a reality since my youngest son married and moved away. Can'y help but wonder ... She went into fetal destress, but probably would have been okay otherwise. I read of a medical study done in Norway which is available on line. 80% of the stillborn mothers in the study were told by someone that the father did not want the baby. The study went on to say that they could only surmise the psychological and physiological connection was very delicate they could not come up with any other explanation. My strong advice to all expectant mothers is to go to a reliable church and get special prayer and anointing for protection for the baby and the delivery. I always regretted not going to my pastor to tell him what vicious in law sisters said about my husband and my unborn baby. I was young and did not understand about the power of evil. Abortion also is a force that . has influenced the increase of stillbirths. This has been proven by charts grafts and bellcurve timelines comparing the two.
Also when I was pregnant I was SO WORRIED about still birth and umbilical cord issues causing death. I worried all through my pregnancy. I had like 5 or 6 ultra sounds during my pregnancy. Only 1 set was because they couldn't get a clear view of his heart.
Yes, it was like that with me too. Constantly worried about my baby dying inside of me. The cord wrapping around the neck is very common, but most babies are ok and don't pass away from it. It's only a small fraction who are unlucky and are stillborn as a result.
I know it still early but have you guys thought about getting a stillborn baby doll I know it would not replace your baby boy angel but I did get one for my aunt after losing her daughter from heart failure
Braxton was the name we had picked out if our last was a boy but we had a girl and named her charlee just love the name Braxton and your amazing for your strength
My nan had a stillbirth when she was young. In her young days there was no help or support for grieving mothers like her. I would’ve had another aunt. 😢
I would really like to know what parents who just experienced a loss would appreciate the most as far as....condolence gift, I guess? My brother and his wife have been getting food, meal delivery gift cards, flowers, etc. Is there anything else they need?
Felly I wish i could hug you and help you I really do. Really. You are very strong woman I hope that peace and happenes will come to you. And i know nothing i will say will make you feel better only time will do that hopefully. Losing a child is very hard and i wish i could help you
My uncle and aunt's son was a still born. His spinal cord was not connectes to his brain. My uncle and his ex wife's dog sniffed her stomach and knew that he has passed but they didnt know that at the time. He was sleeping on September 4th, 1997.
My first pregnancy I had twins and I had over 20 ultrasounds I got and I thought it was pretty normal I am now pregnant with a single baby and I’m only having 2 done I cannot believe it tbh I feel like singletons aren’t monitored as closely as they should be I get twin pregnancies are more high risk but the difference is just astonishing and seems unfair tbh
You’re stillborn babies aren’t gone, they’re in your heart forever and they’re ghosts are with you too you just can’t see them but they’re there and when I become government I will tell the doctors to give to stillborn babies and un-stillborn babies birth certificates❤ (by the way, what’s stillborn?)
Our angel baby was stillborn at 34 weeks on July 17, 2015. She was healthy and after an autopsy they didn’t find anything that could have caused her to pass.
My advice to family and friends would be to 1. Acknowledge that there is a baby. Just because they didn’t get to meet them doesn’t mean they didn’t exist. 2. Don’t ask when we will be trying again 3. Don’t say, “at least you know you can get pregnant.” 4. Follow the parents lead with remembering their child’s life. If they want their child included in holidays, then include them. If they don’t, then don’t. Some people don’t mind the reminder, but others would like to grieve in peace and not be unexpectedly reminded of their loss.
Lastly, 5. Everyone grieves different. Don’t push someone to “get over it,” don’t shame them for talking about it. Support them however they need, for as long as they need.
I’m sure there is a lot more advice that I will think of later, but the above is what I’m feeling right now.
Jennifer how are you now?..im so sorry I just lost my son too..im heartbroken.
This is so true it affects the siblings as much as everyone no angel baby should be forgotten I wish my family didn't continue to focus on my rainbow baby sister and new sibling on the way bc I feel like I'm the only one who remembers what has happened
What really upsets me is when people ask you when are you going to get rid of your babies things so you you can move on and get closure wtf. What they don’t understand is that there will never be closure and that piece of you will always be empty and longing for your child
these people have never experienced loss, or the love a parent feels for their child. it's honestly sad they have to be so insensitive and even comment, but lets make sure to drown the negative with love
My family took baby things from my home while I was at the hospital. It didn't helped my grieving process much. I'm still missing my son.
Exactly
I want to add something since she mentioned the lack of ultrasounds moms get. If ever, EVER you are feeling uneasy or mommy intuition says you are worried and want to make sure everything is ok, then go to the ER. With my first pregnancy I was 20 and knew nothing so I went to the hospital so many times, my doctor so many times and I got ultrasounds done in the ER and no-one was ever awful or frustrated with me they just understood and wanted to make sure the baby was fine. You go, say what you need to say and have your baby checked. First item you may want to buy is your own doppler for home, check on your baby's heart beat and make sure it's strong. If movement seems the slightest bit irregular grab that Doppler and head to the ER, nothing is ever too much when your baby is the concern. God bless to Braxton and his parents and to all the other moms who went through such a horrible time, my heart goes out to all of you.
Every time you say "born sleeping" makes me cry. Im so sorry 👼
Our babies are the only ones that know what our heartbeat sounds like from the inside. How can we ever "get over it!?" The grief we feel after losing a baby is as intense as that bond was. You can't get over that. You cannot move on from that. And people who think otherwise should feel fortunate that they never experienced that loss, because if they did they wouldn't be saying that BS. 💗💗
Some people are so insensitive, There is no time limit where grief is concerned.
God bless you all 💙🙏🏻
Thank you for giving those mothers a voice, unfortunately I'm starting to see this does happen more often than anyone wants to acknowledge. I am also an angel mama, having as third trimester loss one month ago. I think the work that you're doing on your channel is so necessary. Thank you.
Tracita Linda thank you so much! If I can raise awareness, help other moms, and keep my son’s name alive then it just means everything to me ♥️
I lost my son liam a week ago today and watching your videos has helped me alot thank u so much for sharing your story
I'm so sorry for your loss!
I learned about stillbirth in my college health class , they should teach about such an important topic in high school . Sending prayers your way
My son Aiden was born sleeping October 12th 2018. He was a healthy baby boy that had a umbilical cord complication . I wish people knew that even if I had another baby, it would not be Aiden my first love my first child. I wish people knew how common Stillbirth is.
Yes, I feel the exact same way. I want things to change. I believe that our doctors should not be able to keep us in the dark about stillbirth. With Braxton my new doctor believes it was also an umbilical cord issue. How far along were you?
I am starting to notice that a lot of this umbilical cord accidents are happening late term.
Felly - Still Braxton’s Mama i was 39 weeks and 4 days 💔
@@FellyStillBraxtonsMama unfortunately a lot of the times umbilical cord complications do happen during the late terms of pregnancy (3rd timester) mostly due to lack of space in the tummy. The bigger the baby the less space they have so the more possibilities of them getting tangled with the umbilical cord. I'm so so so sorry for y'alls losses. My sister had a stillborn baby 10/31/2018 at 29 weeks. One week before her baby shower. It literally broke my heart that I couldn't do anything to help her. ❤👼 Mia Rose.
So sorry for your loss. I’m glad i came across this video and comment. I’m 36 weeks about to be 37 in two days and my son has the cord around his neck. my doctor and so many nurses just keep saying “it happens” But now that I’m getting closer i know exactly what questions to ask because i feel ignored. I’m glad I’m now getting educated on this because if not I’d be so lost.
@@stephanielovely10 are u getting induced? Or what are the doctors doing or saying about your baby having the umbilical cord around his neck?
I’m so sorry.... I feel your pain... I lost a son 23 years ago at 25 weeks he was my only son. God later blessed me with 5 girls! 🙏🏽 it’s been 23 years and as I came across this video it just brings back all the sadness I once felt. And just know that you will never ever forget but it will get better!!! It will hurt but you will smile again and be happy again. 🙏🏽
I’m 26, I’m not a mom and I’m not pregnant but what you’re doing is AMAZING I didn’t know this could happen. I’m so sorry for your loss, sharing all this things must be really hard, but I know that this kind of therapy is good for you to heal and for us to LEARN. Thank you very much for doing this. Your memorial video showed up in my recommendations. I already know that Braxton will be a big brother, he is an angel that will be with your family FOREVER. 🙏🏻 keep sharing this❤️
It’s so true when you search being pregnant you never are informed of stillbirth, I never came across it being pregnant and I was always researching being pregnant with my first babe. I don’t know you but your story has touched my heart in way I can’t explain. Your baby boy is watching over all of you. ❤️❤️
I watched your video testimony about losing your son. I'm so sorry. I am 35 weeks now with my own son. I was wondering if you ever did that video you wanted to do explaining how it happened? I'd love to be educated.
Ashlee Johnson me too, if it was something preventable I would like to educate myself as well. But of course it’s her right to talk about it or not talk about it :-/ I respect her wishes of course
It was the umbilical cord. I saw her say it on another comment. The doctor should’ve never let her go past her due date. The bigger the baby gets, the less room there is for the umbilical cord, and it gets wrapped around the baby’s neck.
@@Kelly-xp3wm My cousin lost a full term baby to the umbilical cord too. So tragic.
Kelly Forester most doctors will allow you to go 1-2 weeks past your due date (for me, they would’ve induced me one week after my due date, but I’ve heard of some women going 2). For a normal pregnancy, going one day past your due date is not a death sentence. If they would’ve done regular ultrasounds on her, they would’ve seen the cord was problematic and should’ve intervened. The issue wasn’t that she had gone literally 1 day over her due date. Just wanted to clarify that. The baby doesn’t grow exponentially each day at 40 weeks, though your fluid levels can drop which can cause problems.
If you go to her channel you will find that video. I watched it before this one. 😥 💔
I jus lost my baby a week ago today .. And hearing these women's stories and words made me feel ok.
Thank you for posting this. I'm 17 weeks pregnant today and I came across your channel learning all about babies. You're such a beautiful momma and always will be to Braxton. He's so very loved. We're all here for you and your husband. Thank you for being so open with us. 🌻🐝
You have really built something for yourself and other in your time of loss and grief. It is a wonderful thing to do to honor your baby and the children of other who were lost so early. I have 6 kids, but had 2 miscarriages. My sister is dealing with infertility after pregnancy loss. When someone like you is guided by God to share something like this you really have helped share the love that helps grief lose its sting. The wound will heal and you will proudly bare the scar saying this beautiful mark on my my life is my son. Keep going and building this network you have started. May our Heavenly Father bless you and keep you.
Just like they have premature awareness, we need stillbirth awareness because its so common yet no one knows and thats makes its much harder for whoever has to live through it! Im so sorry this happens to ppl and I can’t even imagine the pain it can cause but I love to see how strong and how powerful this has made you felly! Stay strong sweet girl! You have an angel 👼🏻
Thank you Felly. I just lost our son, Briggs Thomas, 38 weeks along. He was born on April 30th 2020. Your videos have helped me tremendously. You inspired me to share my own story with a video. You inspired me to pick back up my dissertation for my PhD. You have inspired me to keep going. I miss my son so much. And could go on forever. But will try not too. Thank you for being brave. For having courage. For providing strength. For providing hope. I’ll be forever grateful.
I'm so glad you made this video. After 7 years of infertility I learned that it's impossible to know how it feels to go through a loss or a condition until you've been there. I have become more empathetic thanks to my own struggle. People are quick to put a bandage on your pain without understanding that the pain never goes away.
lost my baby too...he was 42 weeks old but unfortunately he lost his breath as he was delivered im so desperate for another baby....i feel for you
The 14th “birth” date of my baby, Mia, is coming up. I just found your videos. I wish videos like this had been available when I went through what I did. I was amazed afterwards at how many women I knew who had suffered pregnancy loss. I tell people now it doesn’t ever get better, but it gets easier. I have three living children now. They don’t replace her and every pregnancy after was stressful and anxious. Thank you for your videos and honesty
You are AMAZING. Such strength. I've not experienced such an unbearable loss although my first baby- Freckle- at just 10 weeks gestation. Your beautiful little boy is so fortunate to have such loving and devoted parents. He felt your love, heard you voice and knew you every moment he was with you. You may not feel it but you're amazing. Sending love. I wish with all my heart noone ever had to experience such grief x
This is heartbreaking. Crying while holding my four month old baby now.. in south africa you have an ultrasound every four weeks as soon as you find out you’re expecting. In my pregnancy i would count the days every month until i get to see my baby on an ultrasound as well as hearing the heartbeat. From 32 weeks you have an appointment every week. Things really have to change in the US i’m so sorry this happened to you.
Hello sera Ann Watkins, please which hospital did you used when you were pregnant, because as I know you have to start from a local clinic and then later at your 3 trimester the local clinic will refer you to the hospital...am also a victim it happen on the 03/10 / 2019 and am staying in South Africa too lost my precious so at 31weeks
Even birth certificate don't change anything... I gave birth to my son at 32 weeks via C-section. He was born alive but died the next day. And even my mom want me to forget my son and move on. I have birth certificate in my hands. But often I have to fight with people around me for recognition that I'm a mom.
Prayers for all of the mother that lost there babies....
All I feel like I can say right now and is God bless you and your husband. You are so so strong and yet your pain shows through all your videos. As it should. I wish and pray you get all the love and support you deserve and what you are doing to help other families, and the public is incredible after what you have had to endure. You are wise beyond your years. I am 58 and I want to hold you like I do with my two daughter 29 and 31. Thank you for your videos. You have definitely helped so many. Sending so much love your way 😘 And your son is beautiful 💙😇!!!!!
You are amazing for doing this. What a tremendous public service.
My placenta stopped working at 35 weeks and had a normal pregnancy until then, if i did not have a scan the next day the same thing could’ve happened!
My son died feb 20th 2019 he was born 24 weeks lived 5 days im having such hard time with it - vanessa
Can you post a video on what mothers who have not experienced a loss can say to help? I think when people say "You can try again" I think they are trying to say something positive but don't know what to say. It is hard for those of us who haven't faced a loss like this, to know what to say. Sometimes the positive things we say are things we think you want to hear but words can hurt, even if you didn't mean to cause hurt.
God bless you sweetheart, and all of the other mothers and fathers who have endured this terrible loss. Your strength is inspiring, and I wish I could hug each and every single one of you. I wish I had the words to ease your pain, but I’m sure those words do not exist. I am praying for all of you, and I hope it helps, even just a little, to know that there are a lot of people in this world who care, and send you their love. I certainly send you mine. Thank you all for sharing your story with us. 💐
I lost my son, Isaac this past May at 39 weeks. He was completely healthy just like your son, Braxton. I miss him so much 💙
Please be kind to the parents who've had a stillborn baby. Follow their lead if they want to talk about their child. Some want to talk, some don't. Some need or want acknowledgment that their baby is real and you care. And their baby will always be remembered.
Thank you for bringing this to light. I don't think most people know that stillbirth can happen to healthy moms and healthy babies, especially at such an advanced stage of pregnancy. God bless you and your husband.
I had a baby boy November 19 2017 and although he is healthy I feel so guilty for bringing someone so beautiful and innocent into this world and I’m constantly afraid something will happen to him. I’ve already been in a car accident with him at 7 months old and even though he is perfectly fine I know I can’t keep him safe forever. I just don’t know if I want more children it’s a scary thing being a parent.
I don't have any kids but I know you carried your baby boy for 9 months felt very move and touch, you also gave birth to your beautiful boy and had a chance to hold him in your arms and spent time with him. For anyone out there that is saying you can just go have another baby or anything negative.... can piss right off, CUT!! thoughs people off, they have no right to say anything like that to you. And that's a fact! Your a mother and that's all that matters. 💜 I know the pain will never go away but I hope your feeling better. Hugs to you & your family!
My sweetheart Gavin Daniel was born sleeping at 21 weeks. A week before we had just found out he was a boy the next week I was in the ER diagnosed with an incompetent cervix and Gavin was already coming out. They wanted to do a emergency cerclage but in the week of waiting my water broke. I knew it was over, the second it happened, but in the back of mine and my husbands head we wanted to see a tiny sign that he could survive. He was too small for tubes. He was born on September 29, 2019. My husbands cries still play in my head as he held Gavin in his arms. He was our first child. People keep saying to try again, the thing is you can't replace a child. The only thing getting us through is God, simply my Lord.
I am 17 years old and a mother to an angel. I recently lost my baby, march 16, 2019. She was 19 weeks. Her name was Lareina Yajaira Victorya. My boyfriend has no idea, because he's in jail and I'm too young to see him since I'm not 18 without his parents to take me, because I was kicked out of my house and lived with his family. But I'm now on my own with no one. But I'm learning to get better, I turn 18 in a couple days and can go see my boyfriend to see if he's ready to hear my news.
I'm sorry for the loss of your first born son. My heart goes out to you and I admire your strength and courage to tell your story. I lost twin boys in 2004 and while it gets easier, I'll never forget it. Thank you for this video and I'm glad I found your channel. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Amazing video, prayers to all the moms and dads that have sleeping babies. Big hugs😢
Im 21 weeks. I'm glad a seen this video. I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray he comes to you in your dreams. ❤
I've had 3 miscarriages but I still can't imagine your pain. 😭I wish you the best ❤️
It's true that the pain of losing a baby never goes away. My Uncle was born sleeping and my grandmother is still grieving every year on his birthday (he would be 45 years old now). I am glad that in my family something like this is openly talked about and that I was told that my uncle existed.
I did not know still birth was a possibility. I was going in for non stress tests for my son twice a week due to weight gain but no other issues. I could not have imagined this happening. Ever.
What a Beautiful tribute. Each day is a battle but I hope I can begin to honor my Moses by learning to live again. Thank you for this beautiful tribute.
Desiree Diaz yes, I always here that it gets a little bit easier with time. I’m so sorry that you didn’t get to bring your baby home 💙
Hi I know exactly how you feel pain never goes away I wanted my baby bak same 1 n I feel like the Lord gave me back my baby you are beautiful n very strong much luv n support 💚💚💚
Thank you so much for making this video. It is so helpful even for those of us who have lost a baby. My baby was still very tiny and I never got the chance to hold him/her but I'm so glad you could share your experience.
My heart goes out to you and there is not a thing I can say to help. I remember going to the hospital for decreased movement at 39 weeks and they were so dismissive and they were making me so mad my husband after an hour of waiting had to go demand an ultrasound machine he took one and wheeled it into our room then the doctor started paying attention and our little girl was ok but I do remember the fear and the lack of care from the staff. I love that you shared this and I stumbled upon your channel bc we are going through infertility right now trying for another baby. God bless
Your story sets my whole work uneasy. I know this is something common that no one talks about. Doctors and nurses I feel don’t do everything they can to go above and beyond to make sure you are aware of the risks and negatives. I am personally only 8 weeks and everyday I am so scared to get happy and excited for my baby and my pregnancy because I know anything could go wrong at any moment. I could only imagine what you and your family have been through and still battle everyday. Just know. Braxton is perfect. He is happy. He loves you and his daddy. Even though he couldn’t be in this world he is still thriving in another. You are strong. Probably the strongest of women are the ones who lose their babies. Braxton is real and he is alive out there somewhere. You will always have that connection to him. He will always be your first love and baby. My love and prayers go out to you
Losing a child is something one should never have to endure... exactly right a lost child can never be replaced... But the good thing is you can tell this child and future ones all about Braxton their angel brother...
My brother who was stillborn would be 22 on the 3rd. Alan. I wish I could have met him. It’s hurts me knowing my mom had to go through that pain/is going through that pain. I was almost a stillborn too because my mom had lost all the fluid falling down. She went 4 months without the fluid and here I am. She calls me a miracle especially because I am her only girl. I was a very tiny baby. Way under the average weight. Sometimes I take my mother for granted.
I’m a mother of a stillborn baby boy named Justin carter. Born sleeping July 11 2015. I felt so lost angry hurt broken and alone. I was very suicidal and I found myself cry all day. I felt like it was something I did and why was it happening to me. What hurts the most is that everybody around me was having babies and happy. What was even more sad was that at the hospital I was at this would pay music when somebody had a baby. I’m not 9 weeks pregnant and I’m scared af.
Victoria how are you now?
Im so sorry love, same thing happened to me..it freakin sucks
..i feel so angry looking at other moms too
Like, why me?
My son D’Andre was born sleeping March 3,2018... I miss my son very very much. My hugs and prayers to all the families that have lost their little angels.
Hello I’m deeply sorry for what u are going through it breaks my heart 😢😢 there’s no words to explain my devastation to your story and other women different situations.My prayers are with you all. I’m currently going through a miscarriage and it still feels unreal I went to the er hospital and they took a ultrasound and send me home with no information and with lots of pain and confusion everyone seemed like they didn’t care what was going on I feel alone and so sad all I can do is talk to god and help him to give me strength I am so scared and will suffer and be traumatized with a lot of things. Your story is unbelievable you are so strong and I admire you for sharing with us and helping other women to know other situations there are.
I love your phone case, where did you get from or who made that case for you? I love watching your videos and I totally understand what you mean. It’s not easy loosing your 1st born. I’m a first time mother to my almost 7 1/2 month old. I’m on your side I hate when people say “ u can always try again” no a mother needs her time to grief and find ways to keep them going and honor or acknowledge there first born child, I completely understand, that’s just to soon to even think about. You look a bit better and love seeing that smile I’m sure Brax loves seeing his mommy happy. God works in mysterious ways and birds could be a sign that he’s sending to you we never know. He’s looking out on you cuz he knows who his mommy is. God bless and glad your doing a bit better
Thank you, the case is from Shutterfly . I also have a customized coffee mug with Braxton’s picture on it ♥️
Felly, you are doung a wonderful thing as you make these videos. I know you are blessing so many other Moms who have sleeping angels.❤
All these September(and really close to September), angel babies. My brother was born September 5th, and died September 7th. I’ve always wondered why there are so many in September.
Yes, same thoughts!! I got really anxious hearing all the September dates as my baby is now due in September. Only God knows. I pray He has mercy on me and allows a healthy baby. Well....my baby girl came may 19th at 23 weeks...I can only pray my angel is resting peacefully
A lot of people conceive over the Holidays. September is one of the most popular birth months. So statistically there will be more stillbirths since there are more births..
It's because September is nine months after December...meaning people conceive around Christmas time.
You are SO VERY STRONG momma💪🏽❤️
Your baby boy Braxton was born on 12th of September (I think) my brother Jaxon was born on the 12th of September and the 2nd mums baby was born on the 14th, this just made me so sad and reminded me of my personal life but I have never personally lost my own baby but 10th of September 2018 was the worst day of my life. That is the day my mother said that my baby brother was gone. To me I think the worst part is that when u say goodbye you never see them again. My mum only got to go see Jaxon for about 3 hours not a few days she was shattered it is a thing and it need to me more recognised
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You are so beautiful and you are so strong. Thank you for being so open, I’m sure it is not easy. Sending prayers and hope to you and your family❤️
I'm the mommy of my angel baby Melody born @ 22.5 weeks. I would like people to know that despite the fact that I dont physically have my daughter here, I am still very much a mom.... her mom.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute video of your sweet babies. Blessings & Aloha.
I lost my son 9 months ago he was born sleeping,I miss him so much I think about him every single day . It hard seeing other moms with their baby an I can’t hold my son . It’s really sad
I loved that you filmed the unpacking of the hospital bag, 1 year later I still haven't unpacked it.
I nearly lost my baby boy at birth.. he got stuck inside me and he slowly started to suffocate.. immediately he was forced out with forceps. My midwife told me that the doctors pretty much fucked up and that I should have had a c section planned. He could have died and she said he’s lucky he didn’t get brain damaged from the force from the forceps. I will not be having anymore kids.. the fear of losing a baby is just too much for me:( no mother’s should have to go through it. My son is 2 tomorrow and I will hold him tight 💙
Sophie Earl my mom ended up having a C-section with me, because the umbilical cord wrapped around my neck and I couldn’t breathe, or I got stuck in the birth canal, I’m not totally for sure. I’m 17 now, and my momma still holds me tight.
May I please ask a question? If not, please don’t answer.. 😢 do they know why Brax was born sleeping? I guess I just don’t understand why he passed before you could even get a chance to meet him. I’m angry, very angry. I’m also sad for you, very sad and I know you’ll always love that little boy. I just don’t understand why this happened 😭😢
I could comment so much on every word you said... thank you for the video!!! I wanted to especially say I really hope Braxtons dad will make a video with his experience and something's had like others to know too. I really really thing it would be invaluable to many viewers and people around the world. I haven't found anything like that online yet.
I’m so sorry I know the pain 10 years ago I lost my son and had him at 28 weeks born sleeping we both almost die and by the time I saw him he was so discolored but beautiful but I couldn’t name him I was 16 he will be 11 in a few days my biggest regret is not naming him but he was still my baby and now he has a baby sister she is two now and I tell her about how her big brother watching over her always
My baby boy is 5 months and everyday I worry about something happening to him idk why but it's so heartbreaking to think about my world will end . Stay strong momma I cried with you in your other video especially when you showed your precious baby boy. You have an angle always w you loving you more and more knowing his momma loves him so much💙💙
Stay strong! Braxton is safe up in heaven watching over you.
My angel was born sleeping such a perfect baby boy I will always love him ❤
Thank you for your videos! Thank you for education us! You’re amazing !
My stillborn baby was born in 1975. A daughter. I went on to have 2 sons . The old adage a son is a son til he takes a wife, but a daughter is a daughter the rest of her life has become more of a reality since
my youngest son married and moved away. Can'y help but wonder ... She went into fetal destress, but
probably would have been okay otherwise. I read of a medical study done in Norway which is available on line. 80% of the stillborn mothers in the study were told by someone that the father did not want the baby. The study went on to say that they could only surmise the psychological and physiological connection was very delicate they could not come up with any other explanation. My strong advice to all expectant mothers is to go to a reliable church and get special prayer and anointing for protection for the baby and the delivery.
I always regretted not going to my pastor to tell him what vicious in law sisters said about my
husband and my unborn baby. I was young and did not understand about the power of evil. Abortion also is a force that
. has influenced the increase of stillbirths. This has been proven by charts grafts and bellcurve timelines comparing the two.
Also when I was pregnant I was SO WORRIED about still birth and umbilical cord issues causing death. I worried all through my pregnancy. I had like 5 or 6 ultra sounds during my pregnancy. Only 1 set was because they couldn't get a clear view of his heart.
Yes, it was like that with me too. Constantly worried about my baby dying inside of me. The cord wrapping around the neck is very common, but most babies are ok and don't pass away from it. It's only a small fraction who are unlucky and are stillborn as a result.
Suprise you're pregnant in this video! You got both your babies now.
Great video but sad topic. My daughter Lori passed away and I miss her everyday! 💐😘
You don’t even get a birth certificate- that’s terrible 😢
I wonder why they would have to specify "live birth" on the birth certificate if they don't even give one out to those that don't make it?
In uk they do 2 ultrasounds as well which horrible because you never know what can possibly go wrong . My hart goes out to you and your partner 😞
You are so strong💜
Neveen Zee thank you for the sweet comment ♥️
I know it still early but have you guys thought about getting a stillborn baby doll I know it would not replace your baby boy angel but I did get one for my aunt after losing her daughter from heart failure
Braxton was the name we had picked out if our last was a boy but we had a girl and named her charlee just love the name Braxton and your amazing for your strength
My nan had a stillbirth when she was young. In her young days there was no help or support for grieving mothers like her. I would’ve had another aunt. 😢
Hi..i also lost my daughter 8 months ago...but still cant believe it just happen...😭😢
I'm from Canada and I was shocked when you said that pregnant moms only get one or two appointments during their pregnancy.
This is pretty normal where I am (Canada), a few appointments and like one or two ultrasounds.
I would really like to know what parents who just experienced a loss would appreciate the most as far as....condolence gift, I guess? My brother and his wife have been getting food, meal delivery gift cards, flowers, etc. Is there anything else they need?
Felly I wish i could hug you and help you I really do. Really. You are very strong woman I hope that peace and happenes will come to you. And i know nothing i will say will make you feel better only time will do that hopefully. Losing a child is very hard and i wish i could help you
I love your phone case.
In france they make you 3. At least to me. Im really touch by your histories, send you all my love to all of you😘😘😘💖💖💖😭😭😭😭👼
My uncle and aunt's son was a still born. His spinal cord was not connectes to his brain. My uncle and his ex wife's dog sniffed her stomach and knew that he has passed but they didnt know that at the time. He was sleeping on September 4th, 1997.
My first pregnancy I had twins and I had over 20 ultrasounds I got and I thought it was pretty normal I am now pregnant with a single baby and I’m only having 2 done I cannot believe it tbh I feel like singletons aren’t monitored as closely as they should be I get twin pregnancies are more high risk but the difference is just astonishing and seems unfair tbh
I didn’t have a stillborn but I loss my baby girl back in march. She was 6 weeks old.
So sorry for your baby girl
I love this so much ! You are amazing ! Omg! And I love your shirt so much could you please tell me where to get it?
You’re stillborn babies aren’t gone, they’re in your heart forever and they’re ghosts are with you too you just can’t see them but they’re there and when I become government I will tell the doctors to give to stillborn babies and un-stillborn babies birth certificates❤ (by the way, what’s stillborn?)
Was your first delivery cesarean or normal..how many days distance between your 1st and second pregnancy..plz ans me..thanks
such a sweet video
Sending love ❤️
P.s I love your curly hair
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