Yes, the complaining part. In my country we have a culture of doing that on a daily basis. I really needed to be intentional to not complain and start being more grateful.
#1 - YES! Keeping abreast of current events and politics in my county ( the U.S.) has been making me distressed and depressed. I am learning to dial it back. I am trying to remain broadly informed, but not marinating in it every day.
Im a man with no kids, early thirties. I appreciate this video because sometimes you know how you really want to live but social conditioning makes you think it’s wrong to live simple . These are things I naturally want but until I’ve heard someone else explain it like this, it makes me feel like there are others who relate and I’m not just careless and lazy about “keeping up” with the rest of the world.
I just want to say, I appreciate that you use your REAL voice in these videos. So far most of the minimalism/slow living videos I’ve watched have these soft whispery voice overs. They’re very calming yes, but I appreciate you being real so much! Cause it’s more like my personality :) and reminds me I don’t need to change who I am to change my life.
Idk how I found your channel but Im a 30 year old man, but I love this slow and minimalist lifestyle and it gives me hope I can fix my burnout and overstimulation
I feel seen when you talk about saying that my children are blessing yet my everyday words mismatch that! I had a 'surprise' twin babies 2 years ago..while my oldest is in college and my second a teenager. I know my babies are a blessing yet I complained about how tired and how overwhelmed I was every single day! 😢😢 thank you for the reminder ❤
Twin mom here. It gets easier!! Mine are 24 now…gulp. I would give anything to go back for just a few minutes! But it was tough! Sure wish I had heard her message years ago! Glad you were able to hear it early!
Not twins, but a tornado of a kiddo that blind sided us! We have a kiddo in college and a teenager as well. In one breath I wanna cry in my overwhelm from having to keep up, but also overwhelmed of God’s goodness with the blessing. It’s hard.
Sis YOU CAN COMPLAIN if you want to, your tired and overwhelmed. Your have to get out your emotions some kind of way, if you don't it will fester inside of you. Scream if you want, complain (not all the time) if you need too and cry to get all that sh$# out. Please ask for help as much as you can from your man and people you trust.
I started watching your videos today while cleaning, l ended up deactivating my Tik Tok, Instagram, & Facebook. I feel like I spend so much time on social media and I end up not feeling good about myself.
I’m a dad… you have way too much knowledge, love it!!! What types of books have you read? Can you make a video on book titles? I’d love to gain some of the knowledge you’ve shared, and I can tell you read a lot of books. Great stuff, keep it up. 👌
I’ve also stopped keeping up with news. I’ve done this for probably 10 years and while I’m not the person you go to talk through the breaking news that happened last night, I am now the more calm and compassionate person that can be there for you when you need me. Ingesting the news was causing me so much anguish that one day I stopped and thought about how life was when I was growing up (pre social media) and then thought about about times hundreds of years ago. Most news doesn’t need an instant analysis. Now I’m also considering eliminating social media because the people who need all my “instant” news are already on my call list.
I also stopped watching the news but after my son passed of SIDS 17 years ago. I found the news to be so depressing and I don’t miss it one bit. Now to work on the rest 😊
So sorry for your loss 💗. Sweet memories of him. \ I stopped watching news but lately was drawn back in. Will stop as of today...no presidential debate or recaps. Just turn off the TV!! Music only 🎵🥰✌️. California🌴🌼💚@@roxykalei808
When you mentioned obsession with productivity I literally burst into tears. The way you so gently and frankly put it, "a list of things you did is not an answer to 'How was your day?'" has stunned me. How HOW did you break this way of thinking? Mine goes all the way back to my childhood. I am the oldest daughter of EIGHT children. I raised half of my siblings by the time I was 13. I've never had the freedom to not be productive. Now I have 2 kids of my own and I feel like their childhood is flying by and I haven't has the chance to savor it. Does you have other videos sharing how you did it? I would desperately love to hear more. Praising God that he sent your channel to me sister.
OH man I see myself in this! Yes, I have a few more and am honestly making more and more touching on this because it's so relevant. Check out my burnout video and the one on getting rid of constant overstimulation.
Well this was convicting. Gosh lol I’ll be replaying this weekly to remind myself of the characteristics I need to steer away from. I’m a perfectionist with no patience. I speak so negatively towards myself. I’m obsessed with productivity…. In short, I’m you but in the past state. Thank you for your amazing wisdom!
I only discovered your channel today. I’m 70 y.o. and I am so impressed with the wisdom you have at such a young age. I was about 55 before I stopped worrying about other peoples’ opinions of me and how I lived my life. You speak so eloquently with very good advice, that even this old duck can learn from. Thank you Darling girl. Be well and keep up your good work. From Sheron in Queensland. Australia.🌻
Omg 😱 girl are we twins?!?!? EVERYTHING you’re listing is me. I’ve been home for the last 5 years as a SAHM and I asked myself today why am I so miserable? Why can’t I find joy. This was my dream to be home with my babies and missing it
Not accepting help is, I have come to know, a pride issue, and pride is the hobgoblin of humility. I winced when I learned this. Lovely video. I have shared it with others.
I always think of eliminating today’s news like the analogy of the Farmer in Feudal Japan…did he know what was happening across the world (or even outside of his own fief)? Did he care? Did it matter if he knew or not know? No. None of it mattered. He was concerned with his own work, his own family, his own community , his own survival. He probably didn’t know there was a society outside of the island of Japan, (or just outside of the lands he knew) and he didn’t know any different. And he lived. We had humans were not meant to know or worry about the concerns of the world. It’s one thing to be somewhat aware, it’s another to be engrossed 24/7 like so many are and have it destroy your well being.
Not sure how old you are but what you are sharing is very wise. I was married at 19 and had my first baby at 20 and had a total of 4 by the time I was 28. We lived a very simple life with no TV, internet or smart phones from the very beginning of our marriage, very simple sweet times😊. When My husband and I turned 30 is when we got internet for the first time and we just got out first smart phones at 32 about 8 months ago. The reasoning why is my husband started his own construction business and he works from out of our home. I will say since bringing these technologies into our home it has only brought busyness and an uneasy feeling. I miss the simpler times, granted my children are getting older as well which brings more busyness then when they were littler. Finding balance in life is a struggle at times but nothing is ever born without travailing so it takes making these mistakes in life to want better for ourselves and the next generation. Wonderful video! Thank you.
This video is so touching to me! Thank you for making this video. I quite social media already but I find UA-cam shorts suck me into that over-informed misery. This is the video that popped up with I pushed "not interested" in all the political videos I was paying attention to and turned off Shorts. Thank you for this, this is another step forward after healing from a nervous breakdown. I needed to hear this.
So insightful! As a therapist I love this advice especially I tell my clients to turn off their tvs and phones and have local real connections. We are not meant to take on the burdens of the world. We are evolutionarily designed to have a small local village! And the minimalism! And the healthy relationship with food! All of it! Wow!
Thank you for this glorious series of affirming new consciousness shifts! The ”choices” you mention are so uplifting to my spirit. This shift is so helpful for me-at almost 78, I’m finally letting go of so many of these old bad habits and my persistent tendency to equate productivity with self-worth. More joy! More peace! More play,
I'm 32 years old and the last few years Ive done the 10 item wardrobe. I stopped getting close up to the mirror and picking on myself. ❤❤😂❤ hi I'm new to your channel.
Some people do not like the phrase, "Ignorance is bliss." But I have lived by it. At age 42 I was diagnosed with ADHD. But I was doing everything I could to keep up with my job ... I did not have time to learn about ADHD like I "should" have. I am now 58, and bullied out of my job of 30 years, I realize that my decisions to not watch news, not to buy a cell phone, not to read all job emails, and not to focus on being perfect allowed me to 'make it' to retirement. I love seeing someone sooo young making these decisions. . . You will be much happier in the long run!!💜💚🩷💛🧡💙❤️💜🩵🩷💜
I’m so grateful that I found your videos. Thank you so much for sharing the wisdom you’re learning on your journey! At multiple points in this video I out loud said “wow” or “dang” or “oh my gosh” I’m resonating so much with so much of what you’re talking about.
You are an answered prayer. Please continue to make content and if you haven’t yet, write books and host conferences and do all the amazing things!!!!!!
Writing books and hosting conferences might not be what helps her have the kind of life that gives her peace and happiness... I know that you're not wanting her to be unhappy, you're just wanting help (I can definitely emphasize) but please keep in mind her happiness too🤗🧡
I’m not married or a young mom but I found so much resonance as I listened to your video. Thank you for sharing this part of your journey! It is both affirming and inspiring. Will continue to meditate on the themes brought up in this video as I traverse my own path. 🙏🏾❤💫
Limitations as the structure within which I can thrive - I’ve never heard it put like that before and I think it might be life changing. Thank you for that new perspective!
I am so happy I found your channel. The past couple videos I have watched of yours has been exactly what I needed in this season of life! Thank you for doing this.
Thank you so much for making these videos. I've watched one every morning this week. You have helped me shed the guilt of clutter, and I've got 11 (11!! 😅) bags of giveaway in my car, ready to go to the thrift shop. I'm 6 months pregnant (yay! My first babe.) and releasing all of this unnecessary clutter is already calming my nervous system. THANK YOU, Jess 🙏🏻🩷 Sending love from Los Angeles.
I have just found your channel and I must say - THANK YOU! I am loving your advice, it really resonates with me. I'm an autistic mama of 3 (9, 4 and 1) and I'm into minimalism, natural health and trying to simplify our lives so that I'm not in a constant state of overwhelm and burnout!
I just finished and actually took a screenshot of your time stamps. Thanks for doing that. You have a gift for UA-cam with your delivery and content. I saw you only started a couple of years ago and I think you will really grow this channel if that's what you're looking to do. This topic will resonate with ,many people and all ages😊 your family is beautiful and it's such a blessing you've realized these things early on. I sure wish I'd have seen this when mine were little. It would've helped tremendously. They're now 18&22😅. I hope you'll continue to post. ❤ Lisa
Wow. I can't thank you enough for making this video. Your video definitely provided some light to daily struggles I've had, but never been able to put into words. I felt stuck in my ways and ashamed of how I've treated those improtant to me. Hearing you admit you also had those struggles, but have been able to work towards change has provided so much peace/ relief for me. Thank you ❤
This is the second video I’ve seen from you u and it’s another one that’s spot on! I’m loving your content, it’s so nice to find other people coming to the same realizations ❤
I just love your videos! I have 10 months old daughter & I’m going through all the things you’re talking these days. I’m soo happy to came across to your channel!❤️ lots of love from Sweden 🇸🇪
This was so great and exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you! I could relate with every single thing on that list so much. All the best from Germany!
New follower.....not a mum but a lot of this has resonated with me....THANK YOU. Currently binge watching your other vids 🙏🏻 (from the uk, scuse my spelling of mom!) 🇬🇧
Thanks for this! I am always trying to do more and be a better more perfect human and it’s so stressful and I know it needs to stop. I just wish I could believe it. Us moms don’t have to be everything all at once. I’m so hard on myself and need to be content with the small things!
I watched a video of yours yesterday and immediately subscribed. This one hit home when you talked about productivity. The house that I grew up in valued being productive and getting done as much as you could so much, it became a major part of my identity. Often when I have a lot to do now, I don’t set a ten-minute timer. I put on some relaxing music or nothing and I take my time with it and enjoy the process! Thanks so much for this video! You’re making yourself vulnerable, and it’s going to help many❤️
would love for you to do a video on how to not be obsessed with productivity and not feel guilty when resting. loved this video, almost all the points you mentioned I need to quit because I know it will help me💓 thank youuu
Hi Jess, would you consider a deepdive into the topic of communication in non-aggresive way? When it's all good, I am very good at it, but when I get tired or something isn't working well then I switch to a way of speaking that I do not like about me. It hit me so hard when you talked about it.
Oh man. I have been following your journey since your Wholy Healed days! Being easily offended/taking things personally is something I need to work on so much. I definitely need to check out that book.
One of my more recent goals is to spend less time on social media. I have a Facebook account, and I've set a 30-minute timer to cap daily usage. I used to spend hours just scrolling every day and wasted so much time!
I really liked this video. These things just seem so simple, and so obvious, when hearing someone explain them. The trick is remembering to actively integrate these things into my life - something to work on every day. Thanks for sharing!
Pretty much all these points resonated with me so much. I've been actively working on some of them but some are so deeply engrained and hard to break, or we dont even realize were doing them. In almost everything less is more and we are so conditioned that more is more and we keep pushing and doing and most of the time its only making it worse. Ive suffered from hormonal issues and terrible gut issues for years and only now getting more info about nervous system regulation and how even with great idea/lifestyle/supplements etc we are too stressed for it to help us. would love to hear more about your skin journey and routine as well as improving perfectionism:)
I really enjoyed this video. You are well spoken, to the point, and very knowledgeable. As a young woman I believe your channel is a great start for me as I want to be a mommy in the future, but I definitely fall in the category of women who don’t know/understand how important it is to nourish ourselves. In a way you feel like a big sis we all want hehe. Thanks for this ❤
Right now I deal with guilt over not getting enough done in a day. My husband is always telling me to relax. For some reason this is hard for me. Part of it is watching crafting/quilting videos and thinking making all these things will give me worth or make me happy. I need to stop watching ALL the things people are doing because it makes me feel lazy or worthless if I'm not making something beautiful ALL THE TIME! I am considering getting rid of craft supplies and learning how to play guitar instead or doing watercolor. I'm trying to decide what I want to do vs how I can use up the things in my craft room, which stresses me out.
I love the part where you said "we equate productivity with self worth". And since you referenced so many great authors I have a recommendation for you - The Burnout Society by Byung-Chul Han.
you are so beautiful , and are spreading such an integrated message ! I appreciate your content and your will to share your journey of love and nourishment! thank you so much for the tips! ❤
Just found your channel and although I’m not a mother yet (I hope to be one day!) so much of this resonated with me. You’re so well spoken and relatable! Appreciate this video and so excited to see more from you. Sending love and light! 💗
I agree with everything except staying informed is great as long as you don't abuse it. I think everything you said is sooo true as long as it is not taking from your life and YOU DON'T ABUSE IT. Do these things in moderation according to your needs. I mean, that's how I found your channel, looking for information.
Who are you, young lady?!? ❤ You are such an inspiration!I am happy that I have stumbled upon you. My question is: where to start? Because I am experiencing everything you were going through in the past, but it feels overwhelming and don't know where and how to start.
Literally RIGHT before you mentioned you used to have acne, I was thinking, Wow, her skin is so nice 😊 Also, "Unoffendable" is such a great book! Highly recommend!
I just found this channel, I loved all 15 items on the list! I can’t wait for the video specifically on not watching tv to come out, that’s a big one for me.
I'm beginning to realize how badly my self-worth is tied to my productivity. Even though my body has been screaming for real rest for a couple of years now, I only allow it when something happens to my health, and only for a short time--not long enough for true rest and healing. Then I start back up full speed. The bursts of full-speed are getting shorter and the amount of burnout days and poor health days are getting longer. And STILL I feel guilty resting.
Great points to think on. I'm continuing to work on my wardrobe and find myself getting rid of pieces that I used to wear and love but maybe now I feel they're a bit too revealing/short/etc. Interesting how our preferences change over time. I'm trying to find more midi/longer dresses. I really like the pattern of yours. Can you share where it's from?
Wow. Everything you say is so true and basic. I’ve heard and thought these things all my life…but I didn’t always “hear” it. You speak, and I hear and understand. 💕🩷 Thank you 😎
"Progress is better than perfection". I've read it somewhere, then wrote it down a few years ago. It moved the needle on perfectionism for me. Keeping it in mind allowed me to take action fast and realize that most of the time if 80% of the task is completed, it's ready and I can leave it at that. It has also somehow helped me tolerate disorganized environment better. I still prefer it to be organised and almost sterile but I've accepted that choas is an inevitable state and I don't want to spend my life obsessing over order instead of experiencing more of life. Yes, being neat, organised and finishing tasks still comes naturally and it shows. However, I feel way more at ease. Maybe this little story could help you or someone else find your own way out of the mental cage that is perfectionism.
Are any of these resonating with you more than others?
Yes, the complaining part. In my country we have a culture of doing that on a daily basis. I really needed to be intentional to not complain and start being more grateful.
Honestly: every single one except of the mindless tv and shopping as a hobby. But I’m working on that. It’s a process, right? Love your videos! ❤
@@kivzzzz you live also in switzerland?:P
#1 - YES! Keeping abreast of current events and politics in my county ( the U.S.) has been making me distressed and depressed. I am learning to dial it back. I am trying to remain broadly informed, but not marinating in it every day.
The not complaining and the one about genuinely asking for help. I am really struggling with both of these at the moment, the discontent is real 😢
Im a man with no kids, early thirties. I appreciate this video because sometimes you know how you really want to live but social conditioning makes you think it’s wrong to live simple . These are things I naturally want but until I’ve heard someone else explain it like this, it makes me feel like there are others who relate and I’m not just careless and lazy about “keeping up” with the rest of the world.
I just want to say, I appreciate that you use your REAL voice in these videos. So far most of the minimalism/slow living videos I’ve watched have these soft whispery voice overs. They’re very calming yes, but I appreciate you being real so much! Cause it’s more like my personality :) and reminds me I don’t need to change who I am to change my life.
haha i love listening to those but could never sound like that haha
Idk how I found your channel but Im a 30 year old man, but I love this slow and minimalist lifestyle and it gives me hope I can fix my burnout and overstimulation
You got this 🫶
You are such a wise young lady. I am almost 70 and wish I had heard these life lessons much earlier. Thanks for sharing.
Glad it was helpful!
I feel seen when you talk about saying that my children are blessing yet my everyday words mismatch that! I had a 'surprise' twin babies 2 years ago..while my oldest is in college and my second a teenager. I know my babies are a blessing yet I complained about how tired and how overwhelmed I was every single day! 😢😢 thank you for the reminder ❤
I need this reminder just as much!
Twin mom here. It gets easier!! Mine are 24 now…gulp. I would give anything to go back for just a few minutes! But it was tough! Sure wish I had heard her message years ago! Glad you were able to hear it early!
Literally had me in tears
Not twins, but a tornado of a kiddo that blind sided us! We have a kiddo in college and a teenager as well. In one breath I wanna cry in my overwhelm from having to keep up, but also overwhelmed of God’s goodness with the blessing. It’s hard.
Sis YOU CAN COMPLAIN if you want to, your tired and overwhelmed. Your have to get out your emotions some kind of way, if you don't it will fester inside of you. Scream if you want, complain (not all the time) if you need too and cry to get all that sh$# out. Please ask for help as much as you can from your man and people you trust.
I started watching your videos today while cleaning, l ended up deactivating my Tik Tok, Instagram, & Facebook. I feel like I spend so much time on social media and I end up not feeling good about myself.
i think youre in the majority with how you feel! I hope this is a positive change for you!
I’m a dad… you have way too much knowledge, love it!!! What types of books have you read? Can you make a video on book titles? I’d love to gain some of the knowledge you’ve shared, and I can tell you read a lot of books. Great stuff, keep it up. 👌
Just shared my fav reading list video today!
I’ve also stopped keeping up with news. I’ve done this for probably 10 years and while I’m not the person you go to talk through the breaking news that happened last night, I am now the more calm and compassionate person that can be there for you when you need me. Ingesting the news was causing me so much anguish that one day I stopped and thought about how life was when I was growing up (pre social media) and then thought about about times hundreds of years ago. Most news doesn’t need an instant analysis. Now I’m also considering eliminating social media because the people who need all my “instant” news are already on my call list.
yes to so much of this!
I also stopped watching the news but after my son passed of SIDS 17 years ago. I found the news to be so depressing and I don’t miss it one bit. Now to work on the rest 😊
So sorry for your loss 💗. Sweet memories of him. \ I stopped watching news but lately was drawn back in. Will stop as of today...no presidential debate or recaps. Just turn off the TV!! Music only 🎵🥰✌️. California🌴🌼💚@@roxykalei808
When you mentioned obsession with productivity I literally burst into tears. The way you so gently and frankly put it, "a list of things you did is not an answer to 'How was your day?'" has stunned me. How HOW did you break this way of thinking? Mine goes all the way back to my childhood. I am the oldest daughter of EIGHT children. I raised half of my siblings by the time I was 13. I've never had the freedom to not be productive. Now I have 2 kids of my own and I feel like their childhood is flying by and I haven't has the chance to savor it. Does you have other videos sharing how you did it? I would desperately love to hear more. Praising God that he sent your channel to me sister.
OH man I see myself in this! Yes, I have a few more and am honestly making more and more touching on this because it's so relevant. Check out my burnout video and the one on getting rid of constant overstimulation.
Well this was convicting. Gosh lol I’ll be replaying this weekly to remind myself of the characteristics I need to steer away from. I’m a perfectionist with no patience. I speak so negatively towards myself. I’m obsessed with productivity…. In short, I’m you but in the past state. Thank you for your amazing wisdom!
I'd be interested to hear more about your non-toxic simplified skincare/body care routine and products.
noted! I'm gonna make a video on it
@@jessicarothleyYes, please do Jessica! And, you said under $5, that is super affordable for most of us here! ❤
Me too! I have pcos and struggle with very painful acne
Would you mind showing which Non-violent Communication book you’re talking about? Looks like a few different ones on Amazon. ☺️
I only discovered your channel today. I’m 70 y.o. and I am so impressed with the wisdom you have at such a young age. I was about 55 before I stopped worrying about other peoples’ opinions of me and how I lived my life. You speak so eloquently with very good advice, that even this old duck can learn from. Thank you Darling girl. Be well and keep up your good work. From Sheron in Queensland. Australia.🌻
Omg 😱 girl are we twins?!?!? EVERYTHING you’re listing is me. I’ve been home for the last 5 years as a SAHM and I asked myself today why am I so miserable? Why can’t I find joy. This was my dream to be home with my babies and missing it
Not accepting help is, I have come to know, a pride issue, and pride is the hobgoblin of humility. I winced when I learned this. Lovely video. I have shared it with others.
I always think of eliminating today’s news like the analogy of the Farmer in Feudal Japan…did he know what was happening across the world (or even outside of his own fief)? Did he care? Did it matter if he knew or not know?
No. None of it mattered. He was concerned with his own work, his own family, his own community , his own survival. He probably didn’t know there was a society outside of the island of Japan, (or just outside of the lands he knew) and he didn’t know any different. And he lived.
We had humans were not meant to know or worry about the concerns of the world. It’s one thing to be somewhat aware, it’s another to be engrossed 24/7 like so many are and have it destroy your well being.
Not sure how old you are but what you are sharing is very wise. I was married at 19 and had my first baby at 20 and had a total of 4 by the time I was 28. We lived a very simple life with no TV, internet or smart phones from the very beginning of our marriage, very simple sweet times😊. When My husband and I turned 30 is when we got internet for the first time and we just got out first smart phones at 32 about 8 months ago. The reasoning why is my husband started his own construction business and he works from out of our home. I will say since bringing these technologies into our home it has only brought busyness and an uneasy feeling. I miss the simpler times, granted my children are getting older as well which brings more busyness then when they were littler. Finding balance in life is a struggle at times but nothing is ever born without travailing so it takes making these mistakes in life to want better for ourselves and the next generation. Wonderful video! Thank you.
This video is so touching to me! Thank you for making this video.
I quite social media already but I find UA-cam shorts suck me into that over-informed misery. This is the video that popped up with I pushed "not interested" in all the political videos I was paying attention to and turned off Shorts. Thank you for this, this is another step forward after healing from a nervous breakdown. I needed to hear this.
So insightful! As a therapist I love this advice especially I tell my clients to turn off their tvs and phones and have local real connections. We are not meant to take on the burdens of the world. We are evolutionarily designed to have a small local village! And the minimalism! And the healthy relationship with food! All of it! Wow!
This is really good information. I’m 76, and I learned new ways to think.
Thank you for this glorious series of affirming new consciousness shifts! The ”choices” you mention are so uplifting to my spirit. This shift is so helpful for me-at almost 78, I’m finally letting go of so many of these old bad habits and my persistent tendency to equate productivity with self-worth. More joy! More peace! More play,
yes yes and yes!
Man, this is the second video of yours I've watched and its hit me in the heart.....in a good way! ❤ Keep them coming!
I'm 32 years old and the last few years Ive done the 10 item wardrobe. I stopped getting close up to the mirror and picking on myself. ❤❤😂❤ hi I'm new to your channel.
hello! welcome!
Some people do not like the phrase, "Ignorance is bliss." But I have lived by it. At age 42 I was diagnosed with ADHD. But I was doing everything I could to keep up with my job ... I did not have time to learn about ADHD like I "should" have. I am now 58, and bullied out of my job of 30 years, I realize that my decisions to not watch news, not to buy a cell phone, not to read all job emails, and not to focus on being perfect allowed me to 'make it' to retirement. I love seeing someone sooo young making these decisions. . . You will be much happier in the long run!!💜💚🩷💛🧡💙❤️💜🩵🩷💜
I’m so grateful that I found your videos. Thank you so much for sharing the wisdom you’re learning on your journey! At multiple points in this video I out loud said “wow” or “dang” or “oh my gosh” I’m resonating so much with so much of what you’re talking about.
This is a really well thought out list. Nice job.
You are an answered prayer. Please continue to make content and if you haven’t yet, write books and host conferences and do all the amazing things!!!!!!
Writing books and hosting conferences might not be what helps her have the kind of life that gives her peace and happiness... I know that you're not wanting her to be unhappy, you're just wanting help (I can definitely emphasize) but please keep in mind her happiness too🤗🧡
I’m not married or a young mom but I found so much resonance as I listened to your video. Thank you for sharing this part of your journey! It is both affirming and inspiring. Will continue to meditate on the themes brought up in this video as I traverse my own path. 🙏🏾❤💫
Limitations as the structure within which I can thrive - I’ve never heard it put like that before and I think it might be life changing. Thank you for that new perspective!
I'm so glad it spoke to you!
I'd love a video on quitting having it all and the boundaries!
I would love cooking videos and more on your healthy skin routine. Thanks for the video!
I am so happy I found your channel. The past couple videos I have watched of yours has been exactly what I needed in this season of life! Thank you for doing this.
I’m the farthest thing from a mother, but I find your content, intelligent and thoughtful😊
I just found your channel and just love this video!! All of them gave me pause ❤ God bless you 🙏
I am so glad I found your channel! I'm learning so much from you and find you so comforting and wise.
Thank you so much for making these videos. I've watched one every morning this week. You have helped me shed the guilt of clutter, and I've got 11 (11!! 😅) bags of giveaway in my car, ready to go to the thrift shop. I'm 6 months pregnant (yay! My first babe.) and releasing all of this unnecessary clutter is already calming my nervous system. THANK YOU, Jess 🙏🏻🩷 Sending love from Los Angeles.
haha thats amazing congrats mama!
Thank you so much! Non violent talking sounded healtthy and interessting, I would love to hear more about that topic.
You are so wise! Just came across your page with the healing nervous system video and I’m soooo relating to all of this. Thank you for sharing ❤️🙏🏼🕊️
The obsession with productivity vs. play. I would love to hear more about enjoying the process and how to make it feel like play.
yes! i did just come out with a video a couple weeks back addressing the feeling of constantly needing to be productive all the time:)
Oh my goodness. God is really using you!
I have just found your channel and I must say - THANK YOU! I am loving your advice, it really resonates with me. I'm an autistic mama of 3 (9, 4 and 1) and I'm into minimalism, natural health and trying to simplify our lives so that I'm not in a constant state of overwhelm and burnout!
I just finished and actually took a screenshot of your time stamps. Thanks for doing that. You have a gift for UA-cam with your delivery and content. I saw you only started a couple of years ago and I think you will really grow this channel if that's what you're looking to do.
This topic will resonate with ,many people and all ages😊 your family is beautiful and it's such a blessing you've realized these things early on. I sure wish I'd have seen this when mine were little. It would've helped tremendously. They're now 18&22😅.
I hope you'll continue to post.
❤ Lisa
this was so incredibly kind to read, thank you!
First video. Great list and great presentation. Going to check out the rest of your channel. From a 57 year old non-mother 😊
Wow. I can't thank you enough for making this video. Your video definitely provided some light to daily struggles I've had, but never been able to put into words. I felt stuck in my ways and ashamed of how I've treated those improtant to me. Hearing you admit you also had those struggles, but have been able to work towards change has provided so much peace/ relief for me. Thank you ❤
so glad it spoke to and encouraged you
This is the second video I’ve seen from you u and it’s another one that’s spot on! I’m loving your content, it’s so nice to find other people coming to the same realizations ❤
Boundaries are the structure in which we can thrive. Thank you for that!!❤
Just found your channel and im in awe. Everything is spot on. Also your skin looks lovely
I just love your videos! I have 10 months old daughter & I’m going through all the things you’re talking these days. I’m soo happy to came across to your channel!❤️ lots of love from Sweden 🇸🇪
This was so great and exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you! I could relate with every single thing on that list so much. All the best from Germany!
Your content is so relatable on multiple levels & so appreciated by this recent new subscriber. 😊❤️💯
New follower.....not a mum but a lot of this has resonated with me....THANK YOU. Currently binge watching your other vids 🙏🏻 (from the uk, scuse my spelling of mom!) 🇬🇧
Welcome!!
I need to quit a lot of these things. And I appreciate how you just talk. No whispery voiceovers.
Thanks for this! I am always trying to do more and be a better more perfect human and it’s so stressful and I know it needs to stop. I just wish I could believe it. Us moms don’t have to be everything all at once. I’m so hard on myself and need to be content with the small things!
I watched a video of yours yesterday and immediately subscribed. This one hit home when you talked about productivity. The house that I grew up in valued being productive and getting done as much as you could so much, it became a major part of my identity. Often when I have a lot to do now, I don’t set a ten-minute timer. I put on some relaxing music or nothing and I take my time with it and enjoy the process! Thanks so much for this video! You’re making yourself vulnerable, and it’s going to help many❤️
I love this!
would love for you to do a video on how to not be obsessed with productivity and not feel guilty when resting. loved this video, almost all the points you mentioned I need to quit because I know it will help me💓 thank youuu
that is a great idea, I will make note of that!
Hi Jess, would you consider a deepdive into the topic of communication in non-aggresive way? When it's all good, I am very good at it, but when I get tired or something isn't working well then I switch to a way of speaking that I do not like about me. It hit me so hard when you talked about it.
Oh man. I have been following your journey since your Wholy Healed days! Being easily offended/taking things personally is something I need to work on so much. I definitely need to check out that book.
it was a big one for me for the longest time!
One of my more recent goals is to spend less time on social media. I have a Facebook account, and I've set a 30-minute timer to cap daily usage. I used to spend hours just scrolling every day and wasted so much time!
I really liked this video. These things just seem so simple, and so obvious, when hearing someone explain them. The trick is remembering to actively integrate these things into my life - something to work on every day. Thanks for sharing!
Pretty much all these points resonated with me so much. I've been actively working on some of them but some are so deeply engrained and hard to break, or we dont even realize were doing them. In almost everything less is more and we are so conditioned that more is more and we keep pushing and doing and most of the time its only making it worse. Ive suffered from hormonal issues and terrible gut issues for years and only now getting more info about nervous system regulation and how even with great idea/lifestyle/supplements etc we are too stressed for it to help us.
would love to hear more about your skin journey and routine as well as improving perfectionism:)
I totally agree with this. And noted, I got a lot of requests to share more about my skin journey so I'll work on that:)
I really enjoyed this video. You are well spoken, to the point, and very knowledgeable. As a young woman I believe your channel is a great start for me as I want to be a mommy in the future, but I definitely fall in the category of women who don’t know/understand how important it is to nourish ourselves. In a way you feel like a big sis we all want hehe. Thanks for this ❤
i love it! big sis vibes
Right now I deal with guilt over not getting enough done in a day. My husband is always telling me to relax. For some reason this is hard for me. Part of it is watching crafting/quilting videos and thinking making all these things will give me worth or make me happy. I need to stop watching ALL the things people are doing because it makes me feel lazy or worthless if I'm not making something beautiful ALL THE TIME! I am considering getting rid of craft supplies and learning how to play guitar instead or doing watercolor. I'm trying to decide what I want to do vs how I can use up the things in my craft room, which stresses me out.
LOVE THIS! You basically explained everything I feel in one video!
I love the part where you said "we equate productivity with self worth". And since you referenced so many great authors I have a recommendation for you - The Burnout Society by Byung-Chul Han.
you are so beautiful , and are spreading such an integrated message ! I appreciate your content and your will to share your journey of love and nourishment! thank you so much for the tips! ❤
Thank you so much!!
Oh the universe knew I needed this 😭
Every single thing you said ❤ I’m looking forward to doing the same things! Thank you for sharing.
Yes, I have Gilmore Girls on a lot of the time. It's such a comfort because I'm home alone 😊
Just found your channel and although I’m not a mother yet (I hope to be one day!) so much of this resonated with me. You’re so well spoken and relatable! Appreciate this video and so excited to see more from you. Sending love and light! 💗
thank you thank you!
Love all you have said.god bless you
Your videos are amazing, thanks for the life inspo. I do need the link to your dress as well. lol ty!!!
thank you! its from neuflora and I've linked them in my videos because I have an affiliate link! I love their stuff
Can you share what skincare products you use? Would love to know!
I absolutely loved this video 🤍 I’ve been so inspired by your content since just finding your channel - God is speaking to me through you 🥹🙏
I agree with everything except staying informed is great as long as you don't abuse it. I think everything you said is sooo true as long as it is not taking from your life and YOU DON'T ABUSE IT. Do these things in moderation according to your needs. I mean, that's how I found your channel, looking for information.
One of the best videos on You Tube. Thank you ma'am. 💯
My pleasure 😊
These are such essential points! I hope more people find this video ❤
Who are you, young lady?!? ❤ You are such an inspiration!I am happy that I have stumbled upon you. My question is: where to start? Because I am experiencing everything you were going through in the past, but it feels overwhelming and don't know where and how to start.
a simple way I start simplifying was with my physical belongings! I have a whole house declutter video with tips to get started:)
Literally RIGHT before you mentioned you used to have acne, I was thinking, Wow, her skin is so nice 😊
Also, "Unoffendable" is such a great book! Highly recommend!
it really is such a good book!
Thank you so much for this video! Definitely needed ALL of these reminders for a slower life
I just found this channel, I loved all 15 items on the list! I can’t wait for the video specifically on not watching tv to come out, that’s a big one for me.
I'm beginning to realize how badly my self-worth is tied to my productivity. Even though my body has been screaming for real rest for a couple of years now, I only allow it when something happens to my health, and only for a short time--not long enough for true rest and healing. Then I start back up full speed. The bursts of full-speed are getting shorter and the amount of burnout days and poor health days are getting longer. And STILL I feel guilty resting.
my last video i touch on this, where i share myy burnout story, youre not alone
What we think about we draw to us - dwelling on negativity only allows us to see more of it.
I love that book!!! Best in audio btw. Everyone needs to listen
You described me completely. Every single sentence I could relate to. I wish I could have you as a friend :D
Every SINGLE one resonates! Tysm for making this video!
my pleasure!
# 4 is so great!! 👍🏻👍🏻
Thank you. You're good. As soon as you mentioned the book, I kept your video playing as I flipped over to Amazon and put "Un-offendable" in my cart.
I hope you enjoy it!
Great points to think on. I'm continuing to work on my wardrobe and find myself getting rid of pieces that I used to wear and love but maybe now I feel they're a bit too revealing/short/etc. Interesting how our preferences change over time. I'm trying to find more midi/longer dresses. I really like the pattern of yours. Can you share where it's from?
i love neuflora so much, hopig to work with them for my next wardrobe video. theyre graceful and beautiful and i love their stuff
Talk about right video at the right time! Thank you ❤
please about the clothing - what to choose to keep and complaining!!!!!!
New sub. I need to learn contentment. I also need to learn to voice what my needs are from my husband.
Enjoyed your video
This is brilliant. Thank you.
Wow. Everything you say is so true and basic. I’ve heard and thought these things all my life…but I didn’t always “hear” it. You speak, and I hear and understand. 💕🩷 Thank you 😎
Like all your videos this resonated so deeply ❤ thank you ❤
Wonderful video. New subscriber. Good luck on your journey.😊
Would love to hear more about nr4. That is a big issue for me and really dont know how to stop!
Wow, you are spot on!!
BE PERFECTLY IMPERFECT💜
I relate to so many of these items, some I’ve quit, and some I need to quit. My biggest struggle is perfectionism.
"Progress is better than perfection". I've read it somewhere, then wrote it down a few years ago. It moved the needle on perfectionism for me. Keeping it in mind allowed me to take action fast and realize that most of the time if 80% of the task is completed, it's ready and I can leave it at that.
It has also somehow helped me tolerate disorganized environment better. I still prefer it to be organised and almost sterile but I've accepted that choas is an inevitable state and I don't want to spend my life obsessing over order instead of experiencing more of life. Yes, being neat, organised and finishing tasks still comes naturally and it shows. However, I feel way more at ease.
Maybe this little story could help you or someone else find your own way out of the mental cage that is perfectionism.
Wonderful, authentic video. It would be lovely if you could make a video about minimalistic skincare and skin healing ❤
Thank you