I’m so incredibly proud of you for stepping forward and sharing your experiences in the hope of educating us all about the how important our words are. Your family’s openness and love and the nasty, daft and shameful words at school. I’m gobsmacked and terribly sad that was your experience only 10 years ago 🥹 Thank you for being my friend ❤
The comment by your year 12 coordinator "well are you gay?" That got me. I am so shocked and speechless that people in authority positions at school have such little empathy and emotional intelligence, how can someone say that to a child that is literally on their last straws asking for help. I'm so sorry you had to go through that - you are so strong and articulate and those experiences really have shaped you to become the self reliant and resilient person you are today. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
It kills me that in 2012 kids were still behaving that way- I’m a teacher in NYC and I think we’ve come a long way on this issue in the last 20 years. That said, should a student ever approach me as you did your teacher- having ten years of perspective now, what did you need to hear from your teacher in that moment? And what next steps do you feel should have been taken by the adults at your school to address the bullying? Thank you for sharing. Hopefully your willingness to be vulnerable publicly will lead to more empathy and healing out there. 💪❤️
I think what shocked me most was the lack of empathy and motivation to protect. Asking me whether or not I was gay almost placed the blame on me I guess. I would have liked more care shown in my Safety and to feel like there’s consequences for the perpetrators. It’s hard to speak up and to then walk away feeling embarrassed. We’ve come a very long way and it’s impressive, but still have a long way to go 🌈🏳️🌈
You're very courageous to tell your story,I know gay people in My family, friends and colleagues And I would defend them to whoever treats them like crap,I love them for who they are 😊❤️ just like I love watching your videos
Conner, Your voice has been heard by me 🤍 I’m in my 40’s and live in a state in America where being different in any way from a white heterosexual male or female wasn’t really acceptable. I’m very conservative however I’m not ignorant. You are a lovely young man and need to be proud of the wonderful human being that you are. I love watching your channel and hearing what you have to say. You did open my eyes to what Pride month is about and forever I thought it was people in a community celebrating how special they are from everyone else, and I feel we are all equal so drawing attention like that has bothered me but you explaining that it’s celebrating how far the community has come and acknowledging that people in the past didn’t have things as easy for them as today opened my eyes a lot. I’m glad you are you and you are an amazing man with very good handbag taste 💜 Thank you for opening up, people with your intelligence will change the world. I was bullied as a child and I understand the life long effects it takes on a person. You hold your head up high and I pray I’ve not said anything offensive, it’s not my intention sweetie 💙
Thank you for your kind words Amy, glad I was able to offer some insight into the month. Always ask questions! I’m sorry for what you went through as a child too x
As a gay man who went to high school nearly 10 years before you did, I understand the pain and struggle you went through. Your story resonated with me so intensely and I found myself flashing back on so many similar experiences. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing, it will help a lot of people understand what it’s like for those in our community. Happy Pride 🏳️🌈
Thank you for watching Patryk ❤️ I’m sorry you had it a lot worse before me and I hope you find comfort in knowing there’s been a lot of change. Happy pride xx
Words are so powerful, and the effects of cruel words are so damaging. I'm so sorry that this is part of your story and what you experienced as a young, impressionable person. I'm not a part of the gay community, but have been on the receiving end of hurtful words and mocked by peers as a teen. It leaves its mark for sure. But I can tell you from experience that time helps it to sting less. I'd also like to think that teachers are becoming better equipped to handle conversations like the one you tried to have with your teacher. What a difference an empathetic, compassionate response would have made.
Watching this broke my heart💔 It should not matter what your sexuality is, and it’s no one’s business but your own. I’m so sorry this happened to you Connor xx
I'm devastated for you 💔 tolerance is rubbish. You are a human being what difference does it make to other people who you choose to love . I can only think that people have to find something to use against others because they are overcome with uncertainty about who they are and anxious about their own status. So glad I was raised by a very difficult woman, who was, thank goodness friends with many gay guys and gal's and also was.not racist. Love you to bits and I will cry with you anytime you need ❤️
It’s clear this has been hard for you, but it’s good that you made this video because it may help people going through the same things that they can come out the other side and do well just as you are 😀
Dear Heart! I don't really have the words, but want you to know that I was so moved by this video. You are such a beautiful human being -- and thank you for being brave enough to share your story. ❤️
Dear Connor, hearing what you had to go through at school makes me so incredibly angry. The violence of your peer's words, the lack of kindness or even just plain sensitivity from that teacher - it's appalling. I'm in awe of your courage for getting through it all and for being here today to share this story. ❤️
Thank you Connor, it's so courageous of you to share this part of you with us.🥰I know it was hard to do, but so important that we talk about these things and that people hear these stories. I consider myself fortunate to have been raised (back in the 80s) by parents who were way ahead of their time and had gay friends and didn't make a big deal of it, so in turn it was never a big deal to me either. My gay friends in high school were either harassed or closeted until it was safer to come out. The school had no anti-bullying or anti-discrimination policy. You were on your own. It's a different world now. My daughter is 12 and earlier this year, she and her classmates witnessed someone in the lunchroom being called gay slurs and assaulted by another kid. The whole class rallied to the bullied student's defense, and the next day came to school wearing rainbow colors, while the bully was suspended for two weeks. I told my daughter I was proud of her, and I also told her that when I was her age, that kind of an outcome would have been absolutely unthinkable, unimaginable.
Thank you Jane for your comment 💙 that’s a beautiful story to hear and how the attitude is changing. I’m glad you’re raising your daughter like this and it’s so important x
Connor you are the most beautiful man inside and out. A man I would be very proud to have as as my own son. My heart just breaks for you with what you have gone through in your short life and it was very brave of you to do this video. This brought tears to me. You are just such a wonderful human being and you should be very proud of yourself for bringing your situation to light. It is just disgusting what you have had to endure. I Thank God that you had and have such a loving, wonderful, caring and supportive family. I wish I could give you a big hug right now. I am so glad you have found such a friend in the lovely Dayle. You two were definately meant to meet and become friends in this world. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Much love. Jenni from Adelaide. XX
Awww thank you so much Jenni for your kind words, I really appreciate it and I love getting a comment from you every video 💙 Very lucky to have Dayle, she’s amazing ❤️❤️
I'm not gay but I totally get you. I get hate every day and it's so difficult to ignore it. And I'm an adult. I can't imagine what it should be like for you being so young
Connor the only thing embarrassing about that video is the behaviour of the bullies and the teacher who you went to, you have nothing to feel embarrassed or cringe about, people need to think about the power their words have on others. You have made a difference to so many people with that video. Lots of love Elizabeth x
Connor, This video had me tearing up. Firstly, thank you for making this video. I’m sure it took a lot of courage to put yourself out there while feeling so raw and vulnerable, so I commend you for that. You have my upmost respect. Secondly, I’m so sorry for how both students and that teacher treated you. It was NOT OK. They had absolutely no right to make you feel anything less than perfect as you are. You matter today just like you mattered then. You didn’t deserve a single second of torment from the students and you absolutely deserved better treatment and actual HELP from that teacher! I commend your bravery for going to speak to her in the first place because you did the right thing, and it was her fault that she failed you. As a parent of a child who came out as a lesbian last year at the age of 13 I’ve learned a lot from your video and I thank you for that. We are an incredibly supporting family but it didn’t really occur to me to educate my daughter on the fact that not everyone will accept her like we do, and what she can do if she gets bullied at school. My daughter is also special needs so social situations are already difficult for her and hard for her to gauge, so I will definitely look into how to help her navigate through these situations with a different layer of potential bullying in mind. Thank you again for this emotionally raw video. You did a fantastic job and the Incredible bravery of doing this video despite having to work through your trauma was not lost on me. I’ll leave you with a quote I saw recently that hit me while dealing with my own childhood trauma - “Every time you felt out of place in the world was because you didn’t have the proper support in a vulnerable moment. It is not because you don’t belong. You matter even on the darkest days. You’ve always mattered.” - Nate Postlethwait
This comment has made my day. Thank you so much for watching, and learning something from it. I think any supportive parent like your self only wants to see their child happy and I’m glad you were able to take that part from my video. Sounds like you’re already going an amazing job, and I commend you for that. Thank you again ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so proud of what you have come through, that school co-ordinator should of known how to better handle a student asking for help, no matter the issue. Society in general has been blinkered for far too long. Connor if I could reach through the screen & give you a hug I would. Words spoken @ a young age can damage yr soul & very being. Please look in the mirror everyday & tell yr 17 year old self (who is still there & deeply wounded): I am a good strong, kind hearted person. Love has no gender, love is love. You are love, you are loved & you are enough. You are brave to tell your truth so succinctly & with such passion the empathy you exude is quite amazing after yr life’s journey thus far. As you mature I hope you find yourself opening the roadmap of your life a little more to enjoy new experiences. Sending healing energies, love & light to you my dear friend. 🏳️🌈💐😘
What an incredibly brave and generous story. Embarrassment naturally makes want to hide, yet you have fought that urge and instead brought something so terrible and painful into the light to gently educate and genuinely protect others. I hope some kids seeing this will help them realise the incredibly damaging effect of their words, and other kids seeing this perhaps feel less alone. Bravo, brave Conor. I’m in tears. Well done and thank you. Happy pride. 🌈❤️
Thank you so much Larissa, that’s exactly the reason I made this video. It’s incredibly difficult to be vulnerable, especially publicly, so I’m glad it’s making an impact ❤️❤️❤️
What a selfless and caring thing to do sharing your story. I’m saddened to hear the hurt you endured at school. I’m glad you had and continue to have such a beautiful family. You’re right, we have come along way but still have a way to come. I’m a teacher and was sickened to hear that teacher’s response. My 15 year old has been celebrating Pride month too. 🌈 I think you are an amazing young man and anyone would be lucky to call you their friend.
Bravo Connor! Fantastic video. I am so so sorry that people were cruel to you. I am grateful you are such a strong person with a wonderful family who encouraged that strength. The world would not be as bright without Connors Closet! My son is gay and my immediate reaction was sadness not because of his sexuality but because the world truly is so cruel. Let's keep fighting for change! Bless you ❤
Thank you for the kind words. I’m glad you’re a parent and you’re supporting your son, I think I never gave up because I had my family’s support and that does more than you know ❤️
Connor, I want to start by saying how brave you are for making this video! I happened upon this posting yesterday as a UA-cam suggestion... I just finished watching, Seniors taken to their first Pride on the Dublin Bus, and David Archuleta singing a song and his coming out story at the Love Loud Festival earlier in the year. So I was already crying when I came across your video... I want you to know that you are not alone! The way you were treated by the school is unforgivable! I am in my 60's now and how you were treated 10 years ago is not much different how I was treated 40 plus years ago... I am so sorry you had to go through that. Some things have changed from my then and your now. I think it is not as fearful to say, "I'm Gay"! It is probably a bit easier now that you are out of the school system? I hope it is anyway. Some things, like your fears of groups, I've also experienced and still do. I hope that your video brings some awareness to educators, counselors, and the bullies! If I could take your pain from you I would, but I hope that in your lifetime there will come a time where people don't ask you if you are something or another (gay or whatever) and all people can be treat equally as humans. Anyway, I'll stop now. Connor you are a wonderful person! I love you and I hope only the best life for you!!!
Hey Roger, thank you so much for your comment. I’m sorry that you were growing up in a time where it was even worse and the fear of being caught out was so debilitating that it affects you today. Sending you lots of love and a happy pride 🌈
Although I’m not a part of the 🌈 community, I resonated so much with a lot of what you said. From the bullying, teasing, to no one listening, to not wanting too many people in my social circle, to being direct now as an adult, and practically everything else. That stuff definitely affects you for the rest of your life, no matter what type of show we put on social media. I empathize with you and I’m in tears that you had to go through this and hearing what you dealt with. I am so glad we’ve come a lot farther than it used to be. It’s truly a blessing you had such a supportive family too. That really helps when all else fails.
Thank you for connecting and I’m almost relieved that there’s someone else out there who gets it, based off the bullying and discrimination. It really does affect you forever and you get so comfortable with it, you forget that it comes from trauma
Hi Connor, I'm profoundly sorry for the injustice, lack of support, brutal bullying and cruelty you experienced and the impact of that abuse had on you. It is really hard to not internalize other people's abusive, inhumane, narrow minded, poisonous attitudes and behaviours, which can make people dim their inner light in context. I hope the strength of your values, your family's values and the loving, respectful, empathetic values of the majority in the community help to remind you that being yourself is perfect, admirable, unique and an opportunity for a journey of wondrous discovery. The shame is not yours, it is the perpetrators', the people who had the power to intervene and didn't and the teacher who had a duty of care to address this violence and didn't.
You are truly most welcome and I hope it helps. I was taught once that "everything people say and do is information about them, not you", which reminds me to maintain the boundary between other people's perspectives and the strength, concreteness and power of my truth. Happy pride month, Connor😊🌈
Oh wow, I have no words, so much shame, though the shame is theirs. 😡 you are so courageous and strong Connor. Venerability is the key to joy, at least that’s what I believe. So great that you shared your story, we love and adore you. 💗💗💗
I’m so vey sorry for what you went through. It breaks my heart. My son is transgender, and I am terrified for him to step out of our family circle as he grows into a teenager. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope that you continue to heal. I love what you said about tolerance. Words are so powerful!
Hi Connor x Firstly thank you for sharing yourself today, I am sorry you had to go through this in your life. I would like to say that as a 62 year old woman I was bought up like this and I blame obviously the stupidity of the" older generation " I think that alot of this is because people did not know how to deal with this 😪 growing up I have had the pleasure of having a best friend that is gay and I love him to bits, also myself growing up in Australia it's always the mindset of the tough male exterior you know the real occer male, which makes it hard for any male to live up to let alone anyone in the gay community. Thankfully things are now changing but still along way to go. I am so proud of you, and anyone can see what a lovely person you are with truly a genuine personality that I ❤️ 😍 💖 Keep being your beautiful self xxx
Thank you Shelley. Attitudes have changed over the years and people are becoming better, thankfully. Thank you so much for watching and your kind words 💙
Dear Connor my heart breaks for the little boy inside of you. You are so brave for telling your story. I can’t believe that teacher 🤬, how inappropriate. Bullying is not right no matter what!
Thank you for sharing your experience. I don't even have the words to describe how sorry I am that your teacher failed you when you came asking for help. That's not a situation anyone, let alone a child, should be in. She failed in her duty to support you on that day. You are an eloquent and clever person, and this community is very lucky to get to know you through your videos. ❤️
What a beautiful soul you are Connor! I just wanted to hug your pain away 💔You’ve opened up like no one I’ve seen on here and taken one for the team to help others. I know this will stick in peoples heads and change them for ever honey! I’ve had more gay friends then not I think! Lol My mom had her bff, her mom did too and so on, this was never a big deal in my house growing up! A lot of my childhood friends didn’t experience it this bad but heard stories of even worse than you with family & physically pain you name it. horrible. This video is a gem sweetheart, it’s perfect, just like you! 😌xoxoxo❣️😘
I’m glad your mum was able to normalize being gay for you growing up, as I think this is very critical in the bullying cycle. That you so much for your kind words x
You are so brave to speak on this publicly and be so open, I am so proud to call you my friend. You are strong and I admire you so much for how you have spoken. I am grateful everyday that my children are growing up with 2 uncles who love each other and they see them stay with us and be together and I hope to God it means they will never become one of those bullies. The bullies, are who I could not 'tolerate', and if they themselves are bullied, I am grateful they will have their support. I'm sorry you feel embarrassed, I see a brave and beautiful man x
Thank you so much 💙 I don’t think your children would be bullies because I’ve seen the kind of person you are and how you’d raise them, and how you’d throttle them for misbehaving (Irish style 😂). It’s amazing how families who have gay friends and couples in their life shape children’s prospectives as that’s what they now perceive as standard. Thank you so for support always as a friend, it means so much ❤️
Very emotional and very well said… Connor, I have shared this with my daughters in hopes they share it with my g-children… just helping others to understand how words are so damaging. Thank you for sharing!
It was heartbreaking to watch you witness to the pain, bullying and vulnerability of those experiences. I truly hope there will be a time when all children can go to school without fear of being bullied. Thank you for sharing ♥️
Oh my heart!!!!!! Connor, you are not tolerated or accepted you are incredibly LOVED! As a mother of 2 boys I’m so happy you have such a loving family, but in a way as messed up and emotionally ignorant that useless teacher was, that situation shaped you into the righteous GENTLEman you are today. 10 years on and you are giving a voice to children still going through this kind of abuse and highlighting an issue that could have really destroyed you yet here you are in all your glory, funny, intelligent, articulate, assertive, kind, humble and honest which you should be so proud of. And as for the ones who do “tolerate and or accept you” little do they know that MOST of society is in actual fact learning to “tolerate and accept them” for their closed hearts and open mouths 🙄 here’s hoping they switch it around and get it right eventually 🙏🏼☺️😘
Connor, thank you for sharing yourself with us today. This is so heartfelt and powerful. My heart breaks for the boy who had to endure this pain, but I rejoice for the loving, compassionate man who now has the strength and courage to share his story.❤💕❤
It is absolutely heartbreaking that you had to live through this. That teacher was so wrong on every level to treat you like that. I am a strong believer as a parent you teach your children to be loving and kind. Thank you for sharing your story.
Connor - Firstly, I am so very sorry that you experienced these horrible things in your youth and continue to be so affected by them. Wounds, whether emotional, verbal or physical, can take a very long time to heal, but it is my experience that time does lessen the pain. Please know that you are a beautiful person, and if someone does not see that, it is their loss on so many levels (in other words “F**k ‘em”). 😬 Thank you for sharing your story with us and letting us get to know you a bit better. You’re perfect just the way you are! ❤
Thank you for your comment! Time most certainly lessons the pain, and I’m glad I’m in such an amazing place today, which I’m thankful for. Thank you so much for your kind words 💙
Congratulations on using your voice and sharing your experience. I wanted to reach thru the screen and give you the biggest hug … we still have a way to go but it certainly better than 10,20 or even 30 ys ago. 😘
Hi Connor. What a powerful video especially as it was a difficult one to make. It brought me back to HS. I got bullied for different issues so my gayness was kinda skimmed past but the third party comments people made got to me. Sadly though homophobia doesn’t go away it just changes. While I got classic homophobia including 2 cases of assault in my 20s, it’s the more day to day level it’s little comments that get to me and sometimes to call was inside the house: “oh you don’t sound / look gay…are you sure you really gay” “you hang out with (insert straight friend) a lot, I bet you think you can turn him” “Oh you like luxury fashion….of course all the gays like that” “What…you do (insert sport)…but aren’t you gay” (Straight girls at Uni) “I always wanted a gay best friend, you can help me get dressed” “How do you know if you’re not bi or straight, if you’ve not slept with a girl” These things seem silly and words shouldn’t hurt but I find as an adult homophobia (sometimes internalised by other gay men) comes out in less obvious ways and it gets to me. I had a female manager in my last job who use to say in a whisper “your Daddy’s coming” when our CEO (who was young and classically handsome) walked in because once I complimented his new suit. I feel like because someone “accepts” or “tolerates” it, they don’t need to work on being respectful for you.
Thanks for watching Sam and your comment. I totally get this, especially with the little comments here and there. Some come from a harmless place and some don’t. What annoys me most is when people publicly display my sexuality like if you’re in a shop and they say “oh he’s gay he loves shopping” or something like that. I find it humiliating! Happy pride to you xx
@@THECLOSETbyConnor Me too or expecting to know your entire personality based on your sexuality. The worse was someone had me stored on their phone as Gay (my name) eg Gay Sam because they knew another Sam. I have a surname lol. Thanks you too, hope you have fun plans 🏳️🌈
Thank you for sharing your story with us. Most of all thank you for staying vulnerable and courageous even in the face of pain. That’s a super hard thing to do. Sending big love 💗
Oh, Connor. Thank you for sharing this. It took a great deal of strength for you to be so candid. I cannot imagine what you’ve been through. We appreciate and honor you. Sending much love.
Oh Connor, my heart aches for the pain that you have been through. I’m so sorry you had to experience this. Thank you for sharing your story. It must have been very difficult. ❤️
I had my hubby listen to this on our walk tonight. Your message is so powerful and even more poignant listening to it a second time. People can truly just suck sometimes. Folks need to recognize that words can b just as deadly as weapons. This video and your message needs to go viral. We can all learn a lot from hearing your story. Thank you again for speaking out! ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing. This is the type of personal account that really helps people understand and relate. I can't believe you graduated from high school only 10 years ago! You are so mature beyond your years.
Thank you so much for sharing Connor, sharing your experience will help so many know they are not alone and that they can weather the storm ! Nobody should ever have to experience what you have shared. You’re an amazing human being and shame on anyone who tried to dim your light ! Sending lots of love ❤️
You are a sweetie and i hate that other people’s insecurities are reflected on others 😢. But do know that you are such an introspective and talented young but old soul. Believe me, i feel your pain and it resonated even with other issues. Do know you are not alone ever!
Wow Connor, thank you for sharing your story. That that was the reaction of a teacher only 10 years ago is unbelievable and quite frankly, bloody horrendous , my heart breaks for you anyone with similar stories. Big hugs to you darling and anyone else who needs them 😔❤❤
Connor, thank you for this moment. The resources that my daughter has in school today are miles ahead of what I had available years ago. She's been an active member of her Pride clubs at school. One of the first questions that she asks people is "what pronoun would you prefer?". In her words "how is it any different from asking someone their name?" It's a norm for her to see the world as inclusive. I have hopes that each generation learns from the one before. My daughter and those her age will see this video and learn from you. They will feel your pain and be more understanding of others. As painful as this is, thank you for sharing it with the world.
So heartbreaking to hear. I want to give you a hug. Thanks for sharing. I share a similar experience to you but for other bullying (racism), but what you describe is 100% how I feel too. I am still working through some of these memories in therapy. It's sad that these memories will live with us forever. I also agree that we have progressed since 10 years ago, and I am glad that there are people like you who speak out and educate others. Thanks for taking the courage to share this.
Thank you for watching, I appreciate your comment. I’m sorry you went through what you did, as the lasting affects of it is what we’re left with and not the perpetrators unfortunately. Therapy has been the best thing ever too x
Trauma is universal. It never goes away. Human rights violations are abhorrent. So many friends 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️are considering leaving the 🇺🇸 if certain rights are stripped away.
Dear Connor. Thank you for sharing your story. It breaks my heart to know that you went through so much anguish in high school and I so wish that I could have been the teacher you confided in to take you under my wing and shield you from those nasty low-life people. As soon as you had mentioned in a past video that you grew up in rural Australia, I told myself : " Shit. I really hope he didn't get bullied out there." Rural Australia can be brutal and populated with some Uber-narrow-minded individuals. I really hope that you can use the pain you back then went through and turn it into a strength today. The best revenge you can have on those mo-fos is to be as successful and as happy as you can be now.
@@THECLOSETbyConnor The fact that you are surrounded by a loving family is everything though. So many people's childhood/ teen traumas come from family dynamics, and those are hard to come back from. I am also happy for you that you have formed some beautiful friendships with Dayle and Amelia ( whose closet is handbag eye candy ).
I really hoped that people young like you wouldn't still have to go through this kind of bullying and violence for being gay. Your story breaks my heart. 💔 You can be so proud of this video, it is so important! I myself am a teacher and am speechless of this reaction of your teacher. Bullying, mobbing, discrimination are crimes and should be treated like this. I bet, she would have asked a victim of sexual assault what she wore as well...🤬
This is so brave of you Connor. You articulated this so well. Watching this broke my heart! I graduated in 2011 and I remember how vile schools and the culture back then for anyone perceived different. And that teacher is SUCH a disappointment. We have come a long way, but there is still so much further we have to go. The fact that you are who you are now, with so much positive energy and confidence is a testament to your character! Much love for you xox
Oh Connor, thank you for sharing. That is some amazing courage and strength you have to talk about this so openly and honestly. Emotions are hard! I am glad things are changing and while I have always try to be progressive with my own children, this video has reminded me that I can alway do more and put more thought into the language I use around all these topics. Hugs to you and to 17yo Connor.
Connor thank you for using your platform to share your painful story and the lasting effects. ❤️❤️ You are a bright spot in the days of so many of us here and such a wonderful person. As an educator it breaks my heart to know how painful school was for you. Sending you big hugs and much appreciation for your honesty and strength in giving us this important insight into your life especially after some difficult recent events ❤️
Thank you, Connor. I really appreciate you sharing your experience with us. I can only imagine how painful it was for you. You seem awesome just how you are. ❤️
You have such a beautiful soul and are so brave to put this out there. Watching this made me cry and I’m still crying because I can feel your hurt and it’s opened up horrific memories of my junior high school days. This is honest dialogue and as we all know without dialogue healing and changes cannot occur. God bless you.
Connor, thank you for making this incredibly hard video. I cannot imagine the hurt and pain you have experienced. It’s just not ok. I was disgusted by your teachers words. You we’re asking for help and support, which the school and staff failed to act upon. I only hope that one day people can be in a relationship with whoever they love, without questions. I am so glad you have a wonderful family who help and support you. Lots of love and support from England. Xxxx
I am so sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for sharing. We want to believe that things are getting better but you illustrate so well that we still have such a long way to go. ❤️
Much Love to you. Thank you for this video. I wish more young folks would listen to this. Bullying is not acceptable in any way. I’m sorry you had to go through this. You are a lovely person in every way. ❤️
i feel so sad for you babe, i’m so sorry you went through that i wish we could have spoken about it and i was able to be there for you 🤍 i’m so proud of you, your bravery is admirable! love you always xxx
Hi Conor, your testimony is heartbreaking. I hope that this terrible past experience made you stronger. My best friend is gay and we come both from a country where to this day homosexuality is a crime. Celebrating pride month is important as there are still people dying or put in prison because they’re gay. Hope to talk luxury again soon. Cheers. Nassima
It's extremely important to do this kind of upload to help others 🌎 I am 😟 with the possible historical reversal of rights and laws in the US🇺🇸 .Thank you.
Connor, I was incredibly moved by your video. I can only imagine the pain through your experience. I am glad you are sharing your story now. I hope that others feel compassion and can relate to your video. Thank you for being strong and an inspiration. Sending you hugs from Chicago ❤️
Thank you Connor for sharing your story. I hate how society has been so judgemental . I am sorry some people are so disgusting with the way they have treated you. We have gay friends who married last year and we were so happy for them. I want to cry with you as I can see the pain on your face. That teacher - I don’t want to swear but I feel like it. How dare she do this to you . Why does it matter bullying is bullying. Everyone is allowed to be themselves and who they truely are. You hold your head high Connor and be proud of who you are. I have never understood these ugly peoples as I see people as people all different and valuable for who they are and we should value difference. ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘
You got through this because you are strong. Thank you for sharing this and it was very touching. I’m new to finding your channel and I’m glad that I have 😍 you are so well spoken and I really enjoy your content and hearing your thoughts 💭
You are a lovely, talented, funny young man...I would be proud to your mom and so glad you have a wonderful family! I'm so sorry you went through this in school! It's a reflection of them and how they were brought up...not you! much love to you xox
Thankyou for sharing your courageous story Connor ! You are truly inspiring. What a wonderful family you have….. I will always hope for and try to fight for unconditional love in this world. I’m glad you came through those dark times …. Keep shining your special light always 💖💖
I just this discussion with an adult who had been a student of mine as a 🤸♂️. He left school 🏫. He recently graduated with a degree and is continuing a second degree. You both are the same age!
by the way, i went through similar things at the same school. no support and the kids are absolutely cruel… it makes you think who is raising these kids!?
I’m so incredibly proud of you for stepping forward and sharing your experiences in the hope of educating us all about the how important our words are. Your family’s openness and love and the nasty, daft and shameful words at school. I’m gobsmacked and terribly sad that was your experience only 10 years ago 🥹
Thank you for being my friend ❤
Thank you Dayle 💙💙 Thank you for being mine too xx
The comment by your year 12 coordinator "well are you gay?" That got me. I am so shocked and speechless that people in authority positions at school have such little empathy and emotional intelligence, how can someone say that to a child that is literally on their last straws asking for help. I'm so sorry you had to go through that - you are so strong and articulate and those experiences really have shaped you to become the self reliant and resilient person you are today. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
I completely understand the feeling about having a small circle to reduce the risk of bad things happening
Thank you for your kind words. Still speechless to this day but this has given me a lot of closure x
It kills me that in 2012 kids were still behaving that way- I’m a teacher in NYC and I think we’ve come a long way on this issue in the last 20 years. That said, should a student ever approach me as you did your teacher- having ten years of perspective now, what did you need to hear from your teacher in that moment? And what next steps do you feel should have been taken by the adults at your school to address the bullying? Thank you for sharing. Hopefully your willingness to be vulnerable publicly will lead to more empathy and healing out there. 💪❤️
I think what shocked me most was the lack of empathy and motivation to protect. Asking me whether or not I was gay almost placed the blame on me I guess. I would have liked more care shown in my Safety and to feel like there’s consequences for the perpetrators. It’s hard to speak up and to then walk away feeling embarrassed. We’ve come a very long way and it’s impressive, but still have a long way to go 🌈🏳️🌈
You're very courageous to tell your story,I know gay people in My family, friends and colleagues And I would defend them to whoever treats them like crap,I love them for who they are 😊❤️ just like I love watching your videos
Thank you so much for your support Kaylhee 💙💙
@@THECLOSETbyConnor of course, your welcome 😁❤️ hope your doing well
Conner, Your voice has been heard by me 🤍 I’m in my 40’s and live in a state in America where being different in any way from a white heterosexual male or female wasn’t really acceptable. I’m very conservative however I’m not ignorant. You are a lovely young man and need to be proud of the wonderful human being that you are. I love watching your channel and hearing what you have to say. You did open my eyes to what Pride month is about and forever I thought it was people in a community celebrating how special they are from everyone else, and I feel we are all equal so drawing attention like that has bothered me but you explaining that it’s celebrating how far the community has come and acknowledging that people in the past didn’t have things as easy for them as today opened my eyes a lot. I’m glad you are you and you are an amazing man with very good handbag taste 💜 Thank you for opening up, people with your intelligence will change the world. I was bullied as a child and I understand the life long effects it takes on a person. You hold your head up high and I pray I’ve not said anything offensive, it’s not my intention sweetie 💙
Thank you for your kind words Amy, glad I was able to offer some insight into the month. Always ask questions!
I’m sorry for what you went through as a child too x
As a gay man who went to high school nearly 10 years before you did, I understand the pain and struggle you went through. Your story resonated with me so intensely and I found myself flashing back on so many similar experiences. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing, it will help a lot of people understand what it’s like for those in our community. Happy Pride 🏳️🌈
Thank you for watching Patryk ❤️ I’m sorry you had it a lot worse before me and I hope you find comfort in knowing there’s been a lot of change. Happy pride xx
Words are so powerful, and the effects of cruel words are so damaging. I'm so sorry that this is part of your story and what you experienced as a young, impressionable person. I'm not a part of the gay community, but have been on the receiving end of hurtful words and mocked by peers as a teen. It leaves its mark for sure. But I can tell you from experience that time helps it to sting less. I'd also like to think that teachers are becoming better equipped to handle conversations like the one you tried to have with your teacher. What a difference an empathetic, compassionate response would have made.
I agree, time helps but there’s always parts that you never get over.
I think that about teachers too. We get smarter and wiser xx
Watching this broke my heart💔 It should not matter what your sexuality is, and it’s no one’s business but your own. I’m so sorry this happened to you Connor xx
I'm devastated for you 💔 tolerance is rubbish. You are a human being what difference does it make to other people who you choose to love . I can only think that people have to find something to use against others because they are overcome with uncertainty about who they are and anxious about their own status. So glad I was raised by a very difficult woman, who was, thank goodness friends with many gay guys and gal's and also was.not racist. Love you to bits and I will cry with you anytime you need ❤️
You’re so so kind Christine, thank you ❤️
It’s clear this has been hard for you, but it’s good that you made this video because it may help people going through the same things that they can come out the other side and do well just as you are 😀
Exactly, I think it’s worked x
Dear Heart! I don't really have the words, but want you to know that I was so moved by this video. You are such a beautiful human being -- and thank you for being brave enough to share your story. ❤️
Thank you so much 😘😘
Oh wow I have no words kids and adults can be so mean, thanks for sharing you are so inspirational. ❤❤
Thank you for watching xx
Dear Connor, hearing what you had to go through at school makes me so incredibly angry. The violence of your peer's words, the lack of kindness or even just plain sensitivity from that teacher - it's appalling. I'm in awe of your courage for getting through it all and for being here today to share this story. ❤️
Thank you so much Patricia, means a lot xx
Thank you Connor, it's so courageous of you to share this part of you with us.🥰I know it was hard to do, but so important that we talk about these things and that people hear these stories. I consider myself fortunate to have been raised (back in the 80s) by parents who were way ahead of their time and had gay friends and didn't make a big deal of it, so in turn it was never a big deal to me either. My gay friends in high school were either harassed or closeted until it was safer to come out. The school had no anti-bullying or anti-discrimination policy. You were on your own.
It's a different world now. My daughter is 12 and earlier this year, she and her classmates witnessed someone in the lunchroom being called gay slurs and assaulted by another kid. The whole class rallied to the bullied student's defense, and the next day came to school wearing rainbow colors, while the bully was suspended for two weeks. I told my daughter I was proud of her, and I also told her that when I was her age, that kind of an outcome would have been absolutely unthinkable, unimaginable.
Thank you Jane for your comment 💙 that’s a beautiful story to hear and how the attitude is changing. I’m glad you’re raising your daughter like this and it’s so important x
HI Jane. That is so heart-warming to hear. Those kids are truly wonderful. Can I ask, what country are you from ?
@@mumufried9083 thank you!! I'm very lucky to live in a wonderfully progressive part of the United States.
Connor you are the most beautiful man inside and out. A man I would be very proud to have as as my own son. My heart just breaks for you with what you have gone through in your short life and it was very brave of you to do this video. This brought tears to me. You are just such a wonderful human being and you should be very proud of yourself for bringing your situation to light. It is just disgusting what you have had to endure. I Thank God that you had and have such a loving, wonderful, caring and supportive family. I wish I could give you a big hug right now. I am so glad you have found such a friend in the lovely Dayle. You two were definately meant to meet and become friends in this world. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Much love. Jenni from Adelaide. XX
Aww Jenni 🥹🥹 now I’m crying
@@DaylesAddiction Connor is such a beautiful young man. He deserves nothing but the best in life. Hope you are well Dayle. XX
Awww thank you so much Jenni for your kind words, I really appreciate it and I love getting a comment from you every video 💙
Very lucky to have Dayle, she’s amazing ❤️❤️
@@THECLOSETbyConnor XX
I'm not gay but I totally get you. I get hate every day and it's so difficult to ignore it. And I'm an adult. I can't imagine what it should be like for you being so young
Sending you some love ❤️
Oh Norma, I am so sorry to read that you are dealing with this. Why on Earth would people give you hate ? Is it racism ?
Connor the only thing embarrassing about that video is the behaviour of the bullies and the teacher who you went to, you have nothing to feel embarrassed or cringe about, people need to think about the power their words have on others. You have made a difference to so many people with that video. Lots of love Elizabeth x
That’s so kind, thank you so much 💙
You are worthy of love and kindness exactly as you are! Thank you for sharing your story with us.
Thank you 🌈🌈
Connor,
This video had me tearing up.
Firstly, thank you for making this video. I’m sure it took a lot of courage to put yourself out there while feeling so raw and vulnerable, so I commend you for that. You have my upmost respect.
Secondly, I’m so sorry for how both students and that teacher treated you. It was NOT OK.
They had absolutely no right to make you feel anything less than perfect as you are. You matter today just like you mattered then. You didn’t deserve a single second of torment from the students and you absolutely deserved better treatment and actual HELP from that teacher! I commend your bravery for going to speak to her in the first place because you did the right thing, and it was her fault that she failed you.
As a parent of a child who came out as a lesbian last year at the age of 13 I’ve learned a lot from your video and I thank you for that. We are an incredibly supporting family but it didn’t really occur to me to educate my daughter on the fact that not everyone will accept her like we do, and what she can do if she gets bullied at school. My daughter is also special needs so social situations are already difficult for her and hard for her to gauge, so I will definitely look into how to help her navigate through these situations with a different layer of potential bullying in mind.
Thank you again for this emotionally raw video. You did a fantastic job and the Incredible bravery of doing this video despite having to work through your trauma was not lost on me.
I’ll leave you with a quote I saw recently that hit me while dealing with my own childhood trauma -
“Every time you felt out of place in the world was because you didn’t have the proper support in a vulnerable moment. It is not because you don’t belong. You matter even on the darkest days. You’ve always mattered.” - Nate Postlethwait
This comment has made my day. Thank you so much for watching, and learning something from it. I think any supportive parent like your self only wants to see their child happy and I’m glad you were able to take that part from my video. Sounds like you’re already going an amazing job, and I commend you for that. Thank you again ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so proud of what you have come through, that school co-ordinator should of known how to better handle a student asking for help, no matter the issue. Society in general has been blinkered for far too long. Connor if I could reach through the screen & give you a hug I would. Words spoken @ a young age can damage yr soul & very being. Please look in the mirror everyday & tell yr 17 year old self (who is still there & deeply wounded): I am a good strong, kind hearted person. Love has no gender, love is love. You are love, you are loved & you are enough. You are brave to tell your truth so succinctly & with such passion the empathy you exude is quite amazing after yr life’s journey thus far. As you mature I hope you find yourself opening the roadmap of your life a little more to enjoy new experiences. Sending healing energies, love & light to you my dear friend. 🏳️🌈💐😘
Such beautiful and true words. Thank you so much for support x
What an incredibly brave and generous story. Embarrassment naturally makes want to hide, yet you have fought that urge and instead brought something so terrible and painful into the light to gently educate and genuinely protect others. I hope some kids seeing this will help them realise the incredibly damaging effect of their words, and other kids seeing this perhaps feel less alone. Bravo, brave Conor. I’m in tears. Well done and thank you. Happy pride. 🌈❤️
Thank you so much Larissa, that’s exactly the reason I made this video. It’s incredibly difficult to be vulnerable, especially publicly, so I’m glad it’s making an impact ❤️❤️❤️
What a selfless and caring thing to do sharing your story. I’m saddened to hear the hurt you endured at school. I’m glad you had and continue to have such a beautiful family.
You’re right, we have come along way but still have a way to come. I’m a teacher and was sickened to hear that teacher’s response. My 15 year old has been celebrating Pride month too. 🌈
I think you are an amazing young man and anyone would be lucky to call you their friend.
That is so kind x thank you so much ❤️
Bravo you spoke your truth so eloquently and passionately . I know it will change someone’s life.
Thank you ❤️
Bravo Connor! Fantastic video. I am so so sorry that people were cruel to you. I am grateful you are such a strong person with a wonderful family who encouraged that strength. The world would not be as bright without Connors Closet! My son is gay and my immediate reaction was sadness not because of his sexuality but because the world truly is so cruel. Let's keep fighting for change! Bless you ❤
Thank you for the kind words. I’m glad you’re a parent and you’re supporting your son, I think I never gave up because I had my family’s support and that does more than you know ❤️
Connor, I want to start by saying how brave you are for making this video! I happened upon this posting yesterday as a UA-cam suggestion... I just finished watching, Seniors taken to their first Pride on the Dublin Bus, and David Archuleta singing a song and his coming out story at the Love Loud Festival earlier in the year. So I was already crying when I came across your video... I want you to know that you are not alone! The way you were treated by the school is unforgivable! I am in my 60's now and how you were treated 10 years ago is not much different how I was treated 40 plus years ago... I am so sorry you had to go through that. Some things have changed from my then and your now. I think it is not as fearful to say, "I'm Gay"! It is probably a bit easier now that you are out of the school system? I hope it is anyway. Some things, like your fears of groups, I've also experienced and still do. I hope that your video brings some awareness to educators, counselors, and the bullies! If I could take your pain from you I would, but I hope that in your lifetime there will come a time where people don't ask you if you are something or another (gay or whatever) and all people can be treat equally as humans. Anyway, I'll stop now. Connor you are a wonderful person! I love you and I hope only the best life for you!!!
Hey Roger, thank you so much for your comment. I’m sorry that you were growing up in a time where it was even worse and the fear of being caught out was so debilitating that it affects you today. Sending you lots of love and a happy pride 🌈
Although I’m not a part of the 🌈 community, I resonated so much with a lot of what you said. From the bullying, teasing, to no one listening, to not wanting too many people in my social circle, to being direct now as an adult, and practically everything else. That stuff definitely affects you for the rest of your life, no matter what type of show we put on social media. I empathize with you and I’m in tears that you had to go through this and hearing what you dealt with. I am so glad we’ve come a lot farther than it used to be. It’s truly a blessing you had such a supportive family too. That really helps when all else fails.
Thank you for connecting and I’m almost relieved that there’s someone else out there who gets it, based off the bullying and discrimination. It really does affect you forever and you get so comfortable with it, you forget that it comes from trauma
Hi Connor, I'm profoundly sorry for the injustice, lack of support, brutal bullying and cruelty you experienced and the impact of that abuse had on you. It is really hard to not internalize other people's abusive, inhumane, narrow minded, poisonous attitudes and behaviours, which can make people dim their inner light in context. I hope the strength of your values, your family's values and the loving, respectful, empathetic values of the majority in the community help to remind you that being yourself is perfect, admirable, unique and an opportunity for a journey of wondrous discovery. The shame is not yours, it is the perpetrators', the people who had the power to intervene and didn't and the teacher who had a duty of care to address this violence and didn't.
What a beautiful comment and so beautifully written. Thank you for your support and for reminding me 💙💙💙
You are truly most welcome and I hope it helps. I was taught once that "everything people say and do is information about them, not you", which reminds me to maintain the boundary between other people's perspectives and the strength, concreteness and power of my truth. Happy pride month, Connor😊🌈
Oh wow, I have no words, so much shame, though the shame is theirs. 😡 you are so courageous and strong Connor. Venerability is the key to joy, at least that’s what I believe. So great that you shared your story, we love and adore you. 💗💗💗
That’s very true Wendy, thank you so much for your kind words 💙💙
I’m so vey sorry for what you went through. It breaks my heart. My son is transgender, and I am terrified for him to step out of our family circle as he grows into a teenager. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope that you continue to heal. I love what you said about tolerance. Words are so powerful!
What a super mum you are to your son! I got through it because of my family ❤️
Thank you for posting this. It's powerful and enlightening.
Thank you Autumn 💙
Hi Connor x Firstly thank you for sharing yourself today, I am sorry you had to go through this in your life. I would like to say that as a 62 year old woman I was bought up like this and I blame obviously the stupidity of the" older generation " I think that alot of this is because people did not know how to deal with this 😪 growing up I have had the pleasure of having a best friend that is gay and I love him to bits, also myself growing up in Australia it's always the mindset of the tough male exterior you know the real occer male, which makes it hard for any male to live up to let alone anyone in the gay community. Thankfully things are now changing but still along way to go. I am so proud of you, and anyone can see what a lovely person you are with truly a genuine personality that I ❤️ 😍 💖 Keep being your beautiful self xxx
Thank you Shelley. Attitudes have changed over the years and people are becoming better, thankfully. Thank you so much for watching and your kind words 💙
@@THECLOSETbyConnor you are welcome xx I love the way you voice your opinion x and also your fab personality. 👌 👏
Your courage… the courage that it took for you to share is so inspiring. Sending you nothing but love & light. You’re such a beautiful person.
Thank you so much this means a lot ❤️
Dear Connor my heart breaks for the little boy inside of you. You are so brave for telling your story. I can’t believe that teacher 🤬, how inappropriate. Bullying is not right no matter what!
Thank you 💙
Thank you for sharing. I hope your life will be grand and wonderful. ♥️
Thank you so much xx
Thank you for sharing your experience. I don't even have the words to describe how sorry I am that your teacher failed you when you came asking for help. That's not a situation anyone, let alone a child, should be in. She failed in her duty to support you on that day. You are an eloquent and clever person, and this community is very lucky to get to know you through your videos. ❤️
Aw thank you Meghan ❤️❤️ I appreciate the kind words and support x
What a beautiful soul you are Connor! I just wanted to hug your pain away 💔You’ve opened up like no one I’ve seen on here and taken one for the team to help others. I know this will stick in peoples heads and change them for ever honey! I’ve had more gay friends then not I think! Lol My mom had her bff, her mom did too and so on, this was never a big deal in my house growing up! A lot of my childhood friends didn’t experience it this bad but heard stories of even worse than you with family & physically pain you name it. horrible. This video is a gem sweetheart, it’s perfect, just like you! 😌xoxoxo❣️😘
I’m glad your mum was able to normalize being gay for you growing up, as I think this is very critical in the bullying cycle.
That you so much for your kind words x
Thank you for sharing, Connor. Still a lot of pain in your heart.
I follow you & support you. I accept you.
Your parents and family must be so proud of you- keep being amazing 🥰🥰🥰 xx
I will 💙💙
🏳️🌈 sending lots of love. Such an important video ❤️
Thank you so much x
You are so brave to speak on this publicly and be so open, I am so proud to call you my friend. You are strong and I admire you so much for how you have spoken. I am grateful everyday that my children are growing up with 2 uncles who love each other and they see them stay with us and be together and I hope to God it means they will never become one of those bullies. The bullies, are who I could not 'tolerate', and if they themselves are bullied, I am grateful they will have their support. I'm sorry you feel embarrassed, I see a brave and beautiful man x
Thank you so much 💙 I don’t think your children would be bullies because I’ve seen the kind of person you are and how you’d raise them, and how you’d throttle them for misbehaving (Irish style 😂). It’s amazing how families who have gay friends and couples in their life shape children’s prospectives as that’s what they now perceive as standard. Thank you so for support always as a friend, it means so much ❤️
Very emotional and very well said… Connor, I have shared this with my daughters in hopes they share it with my g-children… just helping others to understand how words are so damaging. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for that ❤️❤️
It was heartbreaking to watch you witness to the pain, bullying and vulnerability of those experiences. I truly hope there will be a time when all children can go to school without fear of being bullied. Thank you for sharing ♥️
Me too, thank you 💙
Oh my heart!!!!!!
Connor, you are not tolerated or accepted you are incredibly LOVED! As a mother of 2 boys I’m so happy you have such a loving family, but in a way as messed up and emotionally ignorant that useless teacher was, that situation shaped you into the righteous GENTLEman you are today. 10 years on and you are giving a voice to children still going through this kind of abuse and highlighting an issue that could have really destroyed you yet here you are in all your glory, funny, intelligent, articulate, assertive, kind, humble and honest which you should be so proud of.
And as for the ones who do “tolerate and or accept you” little do they know that MOST of society is in actual fact learning to “tolerate and accept them” for their closed hearts and open mouths 🙄 here’s hoping they switch it around and get it right eventually 🙏🏼☺️😘
Aw thanks you so much, what a beautiful l comment 😍😍😍 so kind of you x thanks for watching and being a kick ass mum! X
Connor, thank you for sharing yourself with us today. This is so heartfelt and powerful. My heart breaks for the boy who had to endure this pain, but I rejoice for the loving, compassionate man who now has the strength and courage to share his story.❤💕❤
Thank you so much for your kind words 💙💙
It is absolutely heartbreaking that you had to live through this. That teacher was so wrong on every level to treat you like that. I am a strong believer as a parent you teach your children to be loving and kind. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you 🥰
Very proud of you! This wasn’t easy for you. You are courageous.
Connor, you are a very courageous man! I cry with u and applaud u ❤️ Thank you so much for this video it means so much to me❣️ I will reply privately.
Connor - Firstly, I am so very sorry that you experienced these horrible things in your youth and continue to be so affected by them. Wounds, whether emotional, verbal or physical, can take a very long time to heal, but it is my experience that time does lessen the pain. Please know that you are a beautiful person, and if someone does not see that, it is their loss on so many levels (in other words “F**k ‘em”). 😬 Thank you for sharing your story with us and letting us get to know you a bit better. You’re perfect just the way you are! ❤
Thank you for your comment! Time most certainly lessons the pain, and I’m glad I’m in such an amazing place today, which I’m thankful for. Thank you so much for your kind words 💙
Congratulations on using your voice and sharing your experience. I wanted to reach thru the screen and give you the biggest hug … we still have a way to go but it certainly better than 10,20 or even 30 ys ago. 😘
100% agree! Thank you so much x
Hi Connor. What a powerful video especially as it was a difficult one to make. It brought me back to HS. I got bullied for different issues so my gayness was kinda skimmed past but the third party comments people made got to me.
Sadly though homophobia doesn’t go away it just changes. While I got classic homophobia including 2 cases of assault in my 20s, it’s the more day to day level it’s little comments that get to me and sometimes to call was inside the house:
“oh you don’t sound / look gay…are you sure you really gay”
“you hang out with (insert straight friend) a lot, I bet you think you can turn him”
“Oh you like luxury fashion….of course all the gays like that”
“What…you do (insert sport)…but aren’t you gay”
(Straight girls at Uni) “I always wanted a gay best friend, you can help me get dressed”
“How do you know if you’re not bi or straight, if you’ve not slept with a girl”
These things seem silly and words shouldn’t hurt but I find as an adult homophobia (sometimes internalised by other gay men) comes out in less obvious ways and it gets to me. I had a female manager in my last job who use to say in a whisper “your Daddy’s coming” when our CEO (who was young and classically handsome) walked in because once I complimented his new suit.
I feel like because someone “accepts” or “tolerates” it, they don’t need to work on being respectful for you.
Thanks for watching Sam and your comment. I totally get this, especially with the little comments here and there. Some come from a harmless place and some don’t. What annoys me most is when people publicly display my sexuality like if you’re in a shop and they say “oh he’s gay he loves shopping” or something like that. I find it humiliating!
Happy pride to you xx
@@THECLOSETbyConnor Me too or expecting to know your entire personality based on your sexuality. The worse was someone had me stored on their phone as Gay (my name) eg Gay Sam because they knew another Sam. I have a surname lol. Thanks you too, hope you have fun plans 🏳️🌈
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing. An education for all ❤️
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Thank you for sharing your story with us. Most of all thank you for staying vulnerable and courageous even in the face of pain. That’s a super hard thing to do. Sending big love 💗
Thank you 💙
Thank you for sharing and for using your platform for this. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you 💙
Oh, Connor. Thank you for sharing this. It took a great deal of strength for you to be so candid. I cannot imagine what you’ve been through. We appreciate and honor you. Sending much love.
Thank you so much xx ❤️
Oh Connor, my heart aches for the pain that you have been through. I’m so sorry you had to experience this. Thank you for sharing your story. It must have been very difficult. ❤️
Thank you for your kind words and watching 💙🏳️🌈
You are such an inspiration Connor!!! Thank you for sharing your heart! We can all learn from your experiences. Keep doing you!!! 🤗❤️
Thank you 💙💙
I had my hubby listen to this on our walk tonight. Your message is so powerful and even more poignant listening to it a second time. People can truly just suck sometimes. Folks need to recognize that words can b just as deadly as weapons. This video and your message needs to go viral. We can all learn a lot from hearing your story. Thank you again for speaking out! ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing. This is the type of personal account that really helps people understand and relate. I can't believe you graduated from high school only 10 years ago! You are so mature beyond your years.
Thank you for your kind words ❤️❤️
Thank you so much for sharing Connor, sharing your experience will help so many know they are not alone and that they can weather the storm ! Nobody should ever have to experience what you have shared. You’re an amazing human being and shame on anyone who tried to dim your light ! Sending lots of love ❤️
Thank you Nick for your kind words xx ❤️ happy pride month x
You are a sweetie and i hate that other people’s insecurities are reflected on others 😢. But do know that you are such an introspective and talented young but old soul. Believe me, i feel your pain and it resonated even with other issues. Do know you are not alone ever!
Thank you so much Mary 💙
Wow Connor, thank you for sharing your story. That that was the reaction of a teacher only 10 years ago is unbelievable and quite frankly, bloody horrendous , my heart breaks for you anyone with similar stories. Big hugs to you darling and anyone else who needs them 😔❤❤
Thank you so much x
Connor, thank you for this moment. The resources that my daughter has in school today are miles ahead of what I had available years ago. She's been an active member of her Pride clubs at school. One of the first questions that she asks people is "what pronoun would you prefer?". In her words "how is it any different from asking someone their name?" It's a norm for her to see the world as inclusive. I have hopes that each generation learns from the one before. My daughter and those her age will see this video and learn from you. They will feel your pain and be more understanding of others. As painful as this is, thank you for sharing it with the world.
Thank you so Much Heather x
So heartbreaking to hear. I want to give you a hug. Thanks for sharing. I share a similar experience to you but for other bullying (racism), but what you describe is 100% how I feel too. I am still working through some of these memories in therapy. It's sad that these memories will live with us forever. I also agree that we have progressed since 10 years ago, and I am glad that there are people like you who speak out and educate others. Thanks for taking the courage to share this.
Thank you for watching, I appreciate your comment. I’m sorry you went through what you did, as the lasting affects of it is what we’re left with and not the perpetrators unfortunately. Therapy has been the best thing ever too x
Trauma is universal. It never goes away. Human rights violations are abhorrent. So many friends 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️are considering leaving the 🇺🇸 if certain rights are stripped away.
Thank you for sharing this video. I feel so sad for you that you had to go through this, you are really brave sharing. Sending you lots of 💕 you are 💪
Thank you Susan 💙
Dear Connor. Thank you for sharing your story. It breaks my heart to know that you went through so much anguish in high school and I so wish that I could have been the teacher you confided in to take you under my wing and shield you from those nasty low-life people. As soon as you had mentioned in a past video that you grew up in rural Australia, I told myself : " Shit. I really hope he didn't get bullied out there." Rural Australia can be brutal and populated with some Uber-narrow-minded individuals. I really hope that you can use the pain you back then went through and turn it into a strength today. The best revenge you can have on those mo-fos is to be as successful and as happy as you can be now.
Thank you for your comment, yeah it was really tough.
Turning pain in to lessons which is making me a better person x
@@THECLOSETbyConnor The fact that you are surrounded by a loving family is everything though. So many people's childhood/ teen traumas come from family dynamics, and those are hard to come back from. I am also happy for you that you have formed some beautiful friendships with Dayle and Amelia ( whose closet is handbag eye candy ).
I really hoped that people young like you wouldn't still have to go through this kind of bullying and violence for being gay. Your story breaks my heart. 💔 You can be so proud of this video, it is so important!
I myself am a teacher and am speechless of this reaction of your teacher. Bullying, mobbing, discrimination are crimes and should be treated like this. I bet, she would have asked a victim of sexual assault what she wore as well...🤬
It’s that same mentality right?! Thank you for watching. I’m glad there’s teachers like you out there 💙💙💙
This is so brave of you Connor. You articulated this so well. Watching this broke my heart! I graduated in 2011 and I remember how vile schools and the culture back then for anyone perceived different. And that teacher is SUCH a disappointment. We have come a long way, but there is still so much further we have to go. The fact that you are who you are now, with so much positive energy and confidence is a testament to your character! Much love for you xox
That is so kind of you to say, thank you so much Aly ❤️💙❤️
Oh Connor, thank you for sharing. That is some amazing courage and strength you have to talk about this so openly and honestly. Emotions are hard! I am glad things are changing and while I have always try to be progressive with my own children, this video has reminded me that I can alway do more and put more thought into the language I use around all these topics. Hugs to you and to 17yo Connor.
Thank you so much x
Connor thank you for using your platform to share your painful story and the lasting effects. ❤️❤️ You are a bright spot in the days of so many of us here and such a wonderful person. As an educator it breaks my heart to know how painful school was for you. Sending you big hugs and much appreciation for your honesty and strength in giving us this important insight into your life especially after some difficult recent events ❤️
Thank you so much ❤️😘
Great video! Say it to everyone at the back of the room!!!
Thank you, Connor. I really appreciate you sharing your experience with us. I can only imagine how painful it was for you. You seem awesome just how you are. ❤️
Thank you so much 🥰
You have such a beautiful soul and are so brave to put this out there. Watching this made me cry and I’m still crying because I can feel your hurt and it’s opened up horrific memories of my junior high school days. This is honest dialogue and as we all know without dialogue healing and changes cannot occur. God bless you.
Thanks so much Joy, that’s right honest dialogue does help with healing and change. Sending you much love x
Sending hugs. I’m so sorry you’ve had this experience ~ it’s just so wrong on many levels how you were treated. 🤗
💙💙 thank you for watching x
Connor, thank you for making this incredibly hard video. I cannot imagine the hurt and pain you have experienced. It’s just not ok. I was disgusted by your teachers words. You we’re asking for help and support, which the school and staff failed to act upon.
I only hope that one day people can be in a relationship with whoever they love, without questions.
I am so glad you have a wonderful family who help and support you. Lots of love and support from England. Xxxx
Thank you for your kind words x I agree 💙
I am so sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for sharing. We want to believe that things are getting better but you illustrate so well that we still have such a long way to go. ❤️
Thank you so much x
Thank you for taking the time to share all of this. You do make an impact, and for the better.
Aw thank you ❤️❤️
I am so sorry for what you went through, especially as a child and young adult ☹️. Glad you pulled through. Sending a big hug 🤗
Thank you honey xxx
You are so incredibly brave, Connor! This was very moving. Thank you for sharing this with us ❤.
Thank you Lauren xo
Thank you for sharing your story ... you're a gem 💕
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Much Love to you. Thank you for this video. I wish more young folks would listen to this. Bullying is not acceptable in any way. I’m sorry you had to go through this. You are a lovely person in every way. ❤️
Thank you 💙💙
Thank you❤️ thank you for being you
Thank you for watching 💙
Eye opening and glad you shared so others including myself can understand your perspective.
Thank you 💙💙
I am so proud of you that you made this video. You have such a great personality! Love your videos 💕
Thank you so much ❤️❤️
i feel so sad for you babe, i’m so sorry you went through that i wish we could have spoken about it and i was able to be there for you 🤍 i’m so proud of you, your bravery is admirable! love you always xxx
Thank you gorgeous ❤️ I got you now. I know you went through bullying at the same school too so I know you felt the same pain x
Hi Conor, your testimony is heartbreaking. I hope that this terrible past experience made you stronger. My best friend is gay and we come both from a country where to this day homosexuality is a crime. Celebrating pride month is important as there are still people dying or put in prison because they’re gay.
Hope to talk luxury again soon. Cheers. Nassima
That’s terrible, I couldn’t imagine what that must have been like, especially for your friend. Sending big love x
It's extremely important to do this kind of upload to help others 🌎 I am 😟 with the possible historical reversal of rights and laws in the US🇺🇸 .Thank you.
Connor, I was incredibly moved by your video. I can only imagine the pain through your experience. I am glad you are sharing your story now. I hope that others feel compassion and can relate to your video. Thank you for being strong and an inspiration. Sending you hugs from Chicago ❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words 💙💙
Sending loads of love. 💗
Thank you ❤️❤️
Thank you Connor for sharing your story. I hate how society has been so judgemental . I am sorry some people are so disgusting with the way they have treated you. We have gay friends who married last year and we were so happy for them. I want to cry with you as I can see the pain on your face. That teacher - I don’t want to swear but I feel like it. How dare she do this to you . Why does it matter bullying is bullying. Everyone is allowed to be themselves and who they truely are. You hold your head high Connor and be proud of who you are. I have never understood these ugly peoples as I see people as people all different and valuable for who they are and we should value difference. ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘
Thank you so much for your kind words Ada 💙💙 need more people like you out there x
You got through this because you are strong. Thank you for sharing this and it was very touching. I’m new to finding your channel and I’m glad that I have 😍 you are so well spoken and I really enjoy your content and hearing your thoughts 💭
Oh thank you so much Adele for you kind words 💙
You are a lovely, talented, funny young man...I would be proud to your mom and so glad you have a wonderful family! I'm so sorry you went through this in school! It's a reflection of them and how they were brought up...not you! much love to you xox
That’s so kind, thank you so much 🥰
Thankyou for sharing your courageous story Connor ! You are truly inspiring. What a wonderful family you have….. I will always hope for and try to fight for unconditional love in this world. I’m glad you came through those dark times …. Keep shining your special light always 💖💖
Thank you so much 💙💙
Thank you for doing this video. If you were my son, I would be incredibly proud of you 💕
Oh that’s so kind, Thank you ❤️
Such an important video. Thanks for sharing your personal story.
Thank you for watching x
Connor ❤️.... I just want to give you the biggest hug.
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Thank you for sharing this. How brave of you to share your experience. ❤
Everybody should have respect to everyone(homo's,hetero's,bi,genders,etc.......)Everyone has a richt to be choose his LIFE and to be HAPPY!!!!!!!!!
I just this discussion with an adult who had been a student of mine as a 🤸♂️. He left school 🏫. He recently graduated with a degree and is continuing a second degree. You both are the same age!
Hi Connor, thank you 🤗 for sharing something so very personal, it gives such clear perspective of your experiences and an understanding.
Thank you for watching it 💙❤️
@@THECLOSETbyConnor 🥰
by the way, i went through similar things at the same school. no support and the kids are absolutely cruel… it makes you think who is raising these kids!?