How Your Childhood May Lead to Relationship Anxiety
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Does being raised by anxious parents cause relationship anxiety and how you choose a partner? Discover the psychology of romantic relationships & the impacts from triple board-certified neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho.
Anxiety is the root of mental health. Anxiety disorders like generalized anxiety disorder or GAD & social anxiety can inevitably impact our relationships. How much of this, and our ability to cope with anxiety, is caused by being raised by anxious parents?
Whether you're actively coping with toxic relationships, trying to maintain healthy relationships, or just looking for general relationship tips or advice on anxiety symptoms and managing anxiety , the first step is understanding the psychology of a relationship rooted in fear & anxiety. This understanding is key in understanding how to have a healthy relationship.
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I bottle it
The moral to this story is: if you don’t want to ruin someone ‘s life, don’t be a parent.
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That's been my biggest gripe bout ever becoming a parent is the fact that i don't know if i could handle imposing trauma on my kid when it could've been avoided...
True ,it’s a huge responsibility and you should ruin someone’s life . First thing you have to be free from trauma and learn child behavior pattern before all this you need get rid of your cptsd to be in a relationship 😁 and also adhd to a parent damn it’s so difficult
Lol factz
Or be a good parent and research how to raise emotionally healthy children.
My mom has always been anxious about something bad could happen to me and I kind of adopted this behavior...
Same
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Same here. Both of my parents have always been that way with me
@@carina-nonbinary What? I was agreeing with you, my mom does the same thing too.
Being a parent is a huge responsibility. Perhaps your parent loves you so much that they didn't want anything under their control to adversely affect you and they had no idea their behavior could have a negative impact on you.
Maybe something traumatic happened to your parent to make them fearful for you and they didn't even know they needed counselling.
If this is a problem for you, perhaps counselling will help you.
It's easy to blame the parent.
I like the interviewer guy. He speaks very clearly.
Hi I recently did a video on teen anxiety with some advice to help youth and
parents obtain some guidance in this serious matter. My son suffered from this condition and I use my career experience to help others. If you or someone you know find my video helpful, please forward so we can help the ones who suffer. ua-cam.com/video/-v7fRD9xzQ0/v-deo.html
“No relationship can truly grow if you go on holding back. If you remain clever and go on safeguarding and protecting yourself, only personalities meet, and the essential centers remain alone. Then only your mask is related, not you. Whenever such a thing happens, there are four persons in the relationship, not two. Two false persons go on meeting, and the two real persons remain worlds apart.”
Wow
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I needed thiss
But I think it needs to be In real life
Wow this what im going thru right now. I'm still sad that my parents never spend time w me growing. Every now and then we went to movies or cook out but thats it. I always feel broken and never good enough so I stay alone, no friends. I know Isolation isn't healthy so now im looking into therapy. We'll see how it goes
Good luck you'll get there I can relate
Omg this is so sad I’m sorry you went through this if your still on here I’ll be your friend ❤️ no one should be alone
Hi I recently did a video on teen anxiety with some advice to help youth and
parents obtain some guidance in this serious matter. My son suffered from this condition and I use my career experience to help others. If you or someone you know find my video helpful, please forward so we can help the ones who suffer. ua-cam.com/video/-v7fRD9xzQ0/v-deo.html
I hope you heal and become the parent you wanted 🤗❤️
I have same problem
This is exactly my life. I really need help. I can see myself doing exactly what ruined my parents relationship. My dad would always accuse my mom and it was never a thing. My girlfriend has done nothing but showed me reasons to trust her. But when ever she doesn’t answer a call or hangs out with friends(dudes including but she try’s to help and tells me before and does the best to help me) but I cannot stop the anxiety of her not answering
And I get filled with anxiety that I can not over come. I feel like I’ve tried everything. I hate it so much. I always accuse her and I have no idea why. Which usually gets her upset because she thinks I don’t trust her. Which I do but I also don’t. Which I have no idea why.
@@WowNemy that's the problem, explain it to her so you guys can talk about it
Same here. As I am used to "abusive and emotionally unavailable men" I can not get used to my extremely loving boyfriend and I am pushing him away (((
Same omg
@Karson Foote oh my gosh i feel like i wrote what you just said, the same exact thing is what's been happening to me, its so hard. How are you holding up
That`s me.I am seeking for validations all the time in every relationship i had.When i dont have it i feel so empty and sad ,but i dont know how to stop it.
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Me too
Thank you for this important interview, this is the baseline of all the relational dysfunction going on. I just became aware of my own dynamics from being raised by narcissistic mother and now in a relationship with covert narcissist .its so painful trying to untangle myself but I’m so glad that now I understand enough to break the toxic cycle for my kids. I hope there will be more awareness on the national stage to save kids from abusive parents /guardians.
I wish she could be my therapist lol
check you the Crappy Childhood Fairy on youtube.
@@Nikolebichon Will do, thanks!
@@Nikolebichon Why? That's a completely different person.
I love how clear and articulate she is. Everything is so cogent and well-explained! So much better than the thousands of videos I've had to weed through to find a good one.
We need much more of this!!! Dr. Judy warning paatents about parenting styles and how we can correct earlier on in our child's life.
Wow this is what I was missing. I didn't have the best childhood and my parents weren't always there, and now years later I'm in a relationship and I'm getting anxious about any little thing. This really did help 😃
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Hi I recently did a video on teen anxiety with some advice to help youth and
parents obtain some guidance in this serious matter. My son suffered from this condition and I use my career experience to help others. If you or someone you know find my video helpful, please forward so we can help the ones who suffer. ua-cam.com/video/-v7fRD9xzQ0/v-deo.html
Me too I’m so terrified of being abandoned and I’m scared something bad will happen to him I cry and get sad every time he goes to work… I hate to admit it but it’s true ❤ when he gets home I hug him to death!
I am avoidant with friends, but anxious with my partner. 🤷🏿♂️ what’s up with that?
Me too.
yes!
Your friends was always there but your mom and dad were mean to you one day and nice to you the next
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Same here
I have never heard someone explain something so well. She really knows her stuff!
Trueee
Listening to this actually made me cry, like…. Damn that really hit hard
Ok, so lets say I see why I have relationship anxiety. I see my parents mistakes and stuff, but than what? How to stop being anxious. Because realising the reason it is not solving the problem.
2:01 true! I've broken the cycle but want to make sure I make different choices that are positive.
how did you break the cycle? I am in a perfect relationship and my partner is there for me all the time but I started hating him and I dont know how to save my relationship. I always dated bad guys who neve met my needs. Feeling lost. Is this even fixable?
@@karinanikoghos7285 by recognizing my issues and needs. At the beginning of my journey 18 years ago stopped repeating negative relationship patterns, chose to be alone to heal, go through therapy, and sought spiritual knowledge and application.
It was not and still is not easy. But I'm more mindful. I changed my toxic friendships, work on not self soothing, recognize behavioral response patterns and change them. It's a process. Now I'm more cognizant of why I want to be with or engaged with certain people and can discern whether or not they are healthy for me. Hope this helped? Sounds like if your partner is healthy for you, you've already begun healing. Good luck
thank you very much for your reply. I didn't do the work before getting into this relationship and maybe that's why I am finding it hard to stay in it as it doesn't cause any suffering, I am being just loved and yet a few months ago a relationship OCD started and I even have psychosomatics because of it. I don't want to leave him, but I also don't know how to stay healthy and stay in this relationship.
I really love your content, always instructive and clever, excellent guests and pertinent host. One of my favorite channel for mental health 👏👍 keep up the good work here :))
Great content and well presented. I made me recall a video I recently did on helping parents maintain their calm -- especially in this tough transition. Keep up the great work! --- Your friendly, neighborhood child psychiatrist
Thanks very much for the information 😊
Thanks for this🙏🏼🌜
I recently broke up with my ex gf who was loving, caring and kind and trustworthy. Always made me feel good - however, I constantly accused her of stuff and was constantly anxious and on-edge. I broke up with her maybe 8 times in a year and finally the last straw came last month. We haven't spoken since and I want her back, but I think it's too late. Listening to this made me realise my loving mother who died when I was 8 and my oldest brother (who was my second mum) suddenly left the house when I was 10, impacted the relationship severely. So i was basically left to raise myself.
Or a child can be abused by their parents. How does that play out? And how can any negative impact can be changed or healed?
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I love this channel so much
Wow the timing
Learning to live with yourself. And the teaching of knowing how to be alone, very different from feeling lonely.
That is linked with the change of shift between 1700-1850 with further on: before the 1850s, books were released seeking success through Self-Betterment, the golden rule, and "Ethics of Character" => then in 1850+ it shifted towards Ethic of Personality (completely superficial & virtue signal).
well, I got called out, and everything was scathingly accurate to me till at least 4:30ish. I was the 5th child in a family with working parents. In my latest relationship I just tried to limit myself to a hi or bye once a day, though the person I was dating likes being distant, and sometimes goes off the grid for a month or two... and I couldn't deal with it. I'm glad to know how to categorize this, and now I hope to take steps to soothe the anxiety. Its crazy because the word "anxiety" wasn't in my dictionary until a year ago... so I'm happy to be able to describe these things now.
yep, same.. I am the "baby" of 5 too, and I realize now that I am always attracting mates who are distant in some way.. off and on, hot and cold.. I find myself feeling like the victim, but now I understand what I'm doing.. this is what is familiar for me, so even though it hurts, it feels safe.. I've been anxious all my life, so it only makes sense that I'm keeping myself trapped in this cycle.. it's time to break it though.. hope you do too.💕
I see, I knew why I grew up like this. I was bullied in school when I was a kid. It last up to 8 years. It started when I started school in elementary. They find me easy target as my skin is brown and I'm chubby plus my sister who is a year younger than me is in the same school. My sister is very pretty with fair skin, long shiny hair and just pretty. So that's another reason why children in school bully me by comparing us. How pretty she is and how ugly I am. Growing up is very hard. I have to suck all of those painful situations and I have no friends to defend me and no parent to defend me because I'm scared to tell them especially to my mom cos she is one of the person who criticize how I look. Also, my dad cheated on my mom (now I get trust issues) . I stopped joining any sports and arts related (which I love doing) because of bullying, because I don't have any support on me. When growing up, I got the thinking that when I have good stuffs in me people likes me more. So I try to please people to the point that I sacrifice my own just to please them so that they'll like me. Even in relationship.. Yes, I've been through a lot of relationship but mostly abusive. I realized a lot and changed a lot better but still my past haunts me. I just wanna forget it all but I can't. It's like a cycle.. and it's tiring. Some of the closest people I have sometimes would ask me why my way of thinking is like this (very negative) and I tell them but I don't think they understand. Here I am just sucking it all. I'm just trying everyday. One thing I promised to myself tho, if in the future I have my own family and kids. I won't let my children experience what I experienced now.
Hang in there. I made the same promise that you have- that it would be different for my kids, and it is. Sending you lots of love ♥️
is it just me or did Kyle have a glow up? He looks amazing!!
How interesting to hear succinctly and in layman’s terms how a child’s anxiety can be strengthened inadvertently because we modulalte our behaviour according to what we ‘feel’ our child’s characters is like
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My birthday just passed. My mom sent me a text. Haven’t heard from my dad in a few months. I was really hoping to talk to him.
ik im late but happy birthday ❤️
belated happy birthday 💌
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A minute in and I already had to pause to scream
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I'm so tired of myself not fitting into any relationship
This is SOLID content. this matches my wife perfectly
I don’t remember living with my mother until around 5th grade. My grandma raised us until she passed of colon cancer
Is that the Savvy Psych??? I love her!
Growing up I didn’t feel like my dad liked me I always felt like he didn’t know how to help
Me or solve my problems when I needed him I never felt like he cared and never complimented me either my whole life I just wanted my dad to just care and defend me like a regular dad would do most dads are over protective ya know. So when I date guys I feel like I’m so drawn to men who don’t care about me and it honestly sucks I hate it
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I cope with relationship anxiety by not having relationships :).
I don't think I do have relationship anxiety. I just don't want it.
I have never encountered a relationship I felt was worth having, or striving for. In general I do not believe it is worth the effort. Living alone is good. I think this is the one good decision I made in my life.
If you're able to feel good on your own, you won. You really won. We don't need other people to make us happy, we have to be happy by ourselves and love ourselves more than anyone ever. I mean maybe someday you'll meet someone who perfectly suits you and the way you want to live, and maybe you'll want them to go along your way forever. If I were you, I would just go on living the way I do, but I wouldn't 'forbid' myself to get attached to anyone. Maybe they can complete you even more and make the hard times in life a little easier to live through. I wish you all the best, don't ever give up on yourself!
@@lilihbih6983 ,
Those are very wise words.
Thank you for sharing them.
Thanks for sharing your feelings. When you have overcome your anxiety, you will build relationships, don't worry. It can take one year or ten years. The important thing is to work on this anxiety first. Don't let it exist somewhere as a hidden squeletton in a cupboard.
So the fact that my parents where never there for me is why my relationships never work and I keep getting hurt and anxious?
i don't want to be with anyone who is remotely close to my parents and I don't know what love is. I have so much love to give and I don't have any from anyone.
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Knowing that I possibly caused trauma on my second child, I have 3, she is 6. When she was 9months old, I started being very anxious and depressed, something I wasn’t aware of till she was 3-4. I’m always analyzing myself and I think wow, I broke my kid. She does seem to have this personality. She was born very needy, she wouldn’t go with anyone not even her dad, it was all me, that exhaustion took a toll on me and I was not well, I can see that now. But I’m improving every single day, working on myself and how to be better for me and them, but, what can I do to rectify this situation? What can I do to help her have a better life?
Same. You are not alone. Do you have social media? I wouldn’t mind reaching out to you if you wouldn’t mind
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Love medcircle. This video was less than worthless though....
"Some people, may pr may not be anxious due to parenting, oh... and also some people may or may not be attracted to people who remind them of their parents. " Thanks chief
Hi I recently did a video on teen anxiety with some advice to help youth and
parents obtain some guidance in this serious matter. My son suffered from this condition and I use my career experience to help others. If you or someone you know find my video helpful, please forward so we can help the ones who suffer. ua-cam.com/video/-v7fRD9xzQ0/v-deo.html
Who is guest speaker? Not said?
After my attraction for a beautiful human being comes the realisation of the message... then the foreboding.. then the recriminations. Then the understanding. Then the realisation. Then the acceptance of loss.. Then the surrender to brutality. Then the acceptance of failure. Then the realisation perhaps Ive not failed. Then the acceptance of them upon you,. Then the realisation it wasnt my /our fault.... then the calm.. then the self improvement... then the... wait.. am I I guilty?
REPEAT. ( what a tough cycle).
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Comparing,messing for failure, always pressuring etc. became habits of our parents.Also one time i thought to suicide.Why don't they understand.They always remember me my failures that cause me extreme depression.
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the video has high quality content, yet doesn´t really corresponds to the title. It´s more about anxious kids than anxious parents
How to heal this as an adulte it really influence my life badly and relationship
I don't understand my attachment style. I feel I kinda have some traits of anxious attachment but at the same time I do feel close to Avoidant attachment too. Can a person have more than one attachment styles?
Yes.There are tests on the internet. We are most of the time a mix of them, with some being more proeminent.
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Yes, they can. That will be Disorganized attachment.
Realised now that this applies to the relationship I have with my best friend. Oop. Yeah well makes sense.
Doesnt really make sense though, cause ive been avoidant jn relationships and anxious, just depends more on the person im in the relationship than it does my parents.. If it was because of my upbringing, wouldnt i always be one oe the other? I was always kind of avoidanr til i met my wife, after 7 years of marriage to another avoidant, i became anxious unknowingly. Its much easier being avoidant, makes me want a divorce feeling like this. Not sure if its her fault or mine
How can one discover your attachment style?
There are quizzes you can find online that can help you discover your attachment styles.
@@nubianqueenb5545 👌. Thank you so much.
We have an episode in our attachment style series that walks through a professional attachment style assessment, with Dr. Judy. She is a neuropsychologist - a pro! bit.ly/2DAYlyf
@@MedCircle Thank you!
I love the book "Attached" - I always recommend it to all of my patients - easy and quick read!
My parents gave me buyers remorse if I could have just went with what I had going would have been superstar always alignment issues think they know best.
I hope they discuss the other big life thief.....WEIGHT☃️
My girlfriend thinks our relationship is destined to fail. I don’t know how to help
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This woman is wearing my salary.
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The mindfulness and meditation book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels is really good. It has simple and effective exercises.
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Who else wants to forget their past????
When we figure out how to do this without psychoactive drugs that is when we all make a step forward.
Guess what? That’ll never happen!
Deal with your past.
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This is my girlfriend and her only daughter in a nutshell. On a date the 20 yo daughter will ring her mum 10 times within hours.
My sister in Law and her daughter have the same relationship. The girl is 35 now, and in hospital 3 times in a year for troubles like weight loss, taking weight, pills... She has 2 little boys that are all the time at my sister in Law's, their mother is not capable of taking care of them more than 3 days in a week, her household is becoming a huge mess. The daughter is divorced and started a new relationship with a very anxious and caring man, she thinks he is perfect.... and again left her two boys at her mother's to follow the new boyfriend for holydays....
stop calling me out 😭
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I'm in this video and I don't like it
keep choosing dismissive partners ..reacting the same thing over and over again ....