people before you tell them you have autism: "why are you so weird?" people after you tell them you have autism: "but your so normal why are you so normal" (or they just infantilize you)
how to cure autism: stop being weird. self control exists. no longer any reason for anyone to label you as autistic. no longer autistic. autism is a label.
okay. if somebody acts like a regular person, treat them like it. if somebody kinda is on the weird side of it just adjust for it it’s a spectrum, people. remember that.
Yeah and sometimes you dont even have to tell them. Ive always struggled to make friends and talk to people face to face. Being in public is very stressful. To help regulate myself to no panic I fidget with stuff. One time I asked someone around or likely my age what time something ended and as soon as they saw my fidgeting their entire demeanor changed and they acted like I was a little child who needed to call their mommy!
@@anaverageanimator9296just stupid millennials and older gen z being idiots thinking all people with autism are the same infant baby they’re made out to be.
Autism is insanely misunderstood, lol I remember telling my cousin about having autism, and he suddenly started looking down on me like I was a four year old child. It's honestly insane how mispresented autism is
People usually see me as quirky or just different at first but once I become friends with them and trust them I'll eventually say I have autism. I do not tell strangers or people I'm not close with that I have autism for this reason.
@@chost-059you shouldn't be closed off to people. That only makes things worse. You shouldn't be afraid to let people get close to you, but instead only trust them once they are close. I know "just be friends with them it's fine" is pretty bad advice for someone with autism, but you shouldn't be walled off or too insulated. My advice is when you meet new people, see if they're interested in talking to you despite your differences, instead of trying to suppress your differences to be friends with them. All of my close friends were people who accepted me despite me being different, and all the people from high school who I don't talk to anymore are the people who didn't really get it or thought I was weird. Here's a little personal anecdote that might help you start. Personally I like to talk to people who are also different in some way because they're more likely to be accepting of someone else who's different. For example, of all the people from high school that I still talk to, about half of them are queer. On the other hand, the people from high school who I never want to talk to again all feel like carbon copies of each other and are not interesting to talk to.
No but this EXACT THING happened to me, I was like ostracized by my entire class (I am not exaggerating, those people were brutal) and I had no fking clue why, no one even tried liking me besides this one girl who was also autistic (but she eventually stopped talking to me after her friends convinced her to do so), and this went on from 3rd to 9th grade, everytime someone new entered that classroom I imidiatly tried befriending them, (only worked 2 times and both were when I started masking) only in 9th grade I come to find out why they didn't like me, and they said it was "because I was weird"
fr I was bullied in 8th grade for stammering like, so lame. The last time ppl tried to bully me were freaking freshmen (They're rising juniors now lol, but this was during my junior year)
The maturity part I agree with a lot. At this point I've just noticed how many people around me are now just incapable of having an argument or discussion without immediately heading to insults
It's odd actually, I never use insults if I somehow ever get into an argument, I'm not even belittling someone either which is something I haven't even noticed consciously.
i’m an autistic woman and i feel like my maturity experience is reversed. up until i was around 13, i was told i was “very mature for my age,” had a very inquisitive and open mind and interests that were seen as more befit for older individuals. now, though, im often called immature or childish because of my interests and the way that i act. it’s frustrating.
Yeah I tried to act mature when I was immature at 11-13, starting acting more immature at 14-15 then became a burnt out husk, I’m now 20 and I feel like I’m missing a certain drive even though I work out and stay fit enough, my focus on work has completely degraded and pales in comparison to what I did when I was 16/18
we NEED a month! We only get one autism awareness day that school announcements don’t mention but instead turn into some fake read a book bullshit. No one even mentions the day at all and it’s on April 2.
I'm autistic, I'd feel insanely insulted if someone told my boyfriend he's taking advantage of me, a LOT of us can consent, the only autistic people who cannot consent are those who cannot communicate in any form
I remember telling my mother a couple years ago - you know what autism is? She responded with something like "Oh yeah, the stupid people? I didn't register at that time, but thinking back, wth.
@PurePain_1 honestly I don't rlly blame her because a lot of peoples perceptions of autism is that its a learning disability and that everyone on the spectrum is "slow" when it's not the case, I don't have a learning disability and learning disabilities are comorbities of autism, not everyone on the spectrum has em, I used to think autism was "stupid people" too, hopefully perceptions will change as more people become diagnosed and health care improves!
@@PuffTastic Same until around 10?. I quickly learned that "autism is awesome". I always thought autism was just something that made you intellectually better, like the Hollywood movie portrayals.
many of the non-communicators actually can - they just prefer not to talk to idiots. we think on such a higher level often I dont know how to respond to them. so imagine how it is for someone who already has difficulty with literally everything.
@@KiiBon it's been happening for years way before twitter started acting like it was childish. It's largely due to the stereotype that's commonly portrayed in media that all autistic people are 5 year old boys who love trains. Until recently practically no shows (and even now it's very few) had an autistic character that was an adult (and acted like one) and especially had an autistic character that was a girl. Autism moms and companies like autism speaks defiantly don't help. I think blaming twitter just takes away from the actual problem, and shifts the blame to someone else. It especially doesn't help that some of those people on twitter are autistic and just are more silly/childish than others, autism is a spectrum, there will be those kinds of people and that's okay, but blaming them for years of discrimination and false representation in media isn't. (I know about the stupid 'is it acoustic' people, i don't mean them, their the worst, it's not entirely their fault but they sure aren't helping, feel free to blame those losers as much as you want, they deserve it.)
As an autistic person, I think it's super important for these types of videos to exist. The more we talk about our own experiences, the more we'll (hopefully) become less stigmatized.
so true. if any other teenager gets angry, stays up late, etc and the school knows it its normal. if an autistic teenager like me does, the school will intervene in our family business to "protect me" by forcing my mum to go to a "class".
getting infantilised while autistic is the most annoying thing ever, people switch up so fast, even when i assume they dont mean to they start talking more gently to me. when i was 16, i went to a pottery class with my parents, and they decided to tell the teacher that i was autistic. and he literally spoke to me like i was 5!! i felt like i was going insane. i just think differently im not a baby
@@gamerstreater9314 i dont know, one time me and my dad were at an event together and every single time he introduced me to someone he felt like it was necessary to add the fact that im autistic
My parents had to tell the airport receptionists that I was autistic so we could skip the cue, but in honest regards they are telling the profession about your needs just Incase you don't 'struggle'
My entire life my experience with Autism was I suggest things and people don't listen to me because they have a big ego and think just because I have Autism I'm wrong, and then I turn out to be right and then a huge problem occurs because they didn't listen to me and they regret not listening to me but they continue to not listen to me in the future.
I've ran into the issue of, whenever someone knows I have autism, people automatically feeling sorry for me or changing their tune to patronize me. It used to be insulting.
i HATE people patronising me. i found a good way to get them to stop is to patronise them back, be very obvious about it, they usually shut up out of embarassment.
Yes I can relate to this feeling and it very may screw us up or anxious about topics commonly known and talked by the public. many don't believe we have experienced things or know about things that are alot more serious.
even when i don’t tell people that im autistic, they apparently still infantilize me. i can’t pick up on when people do it, but my allistic friend has told me multiple times that the tones people were talking to me in were patronizing
One reason I think we get the "genius or idiot" treatment is that we tend to be at least somewhat smarter than average, but to have communication issues (ranging from physical problems speaking to tending to organize our thoughts, and thus our words, in a different way). If you can't communicate, your IQ as perceived by others drops dramatically.
100% true. not trying to sound like the joker here, but society tends to think lesser of people, things, and even concepts they can’t understand and are therefore unable to put in a box. this is why some people still think animals can’t be intelligent as well, even though science has consistently proven otherwise. i wonder if this is a reason why me and many other autistic people have found so much comfort and relatability with animals? idk, might sound crazy but your comment just got me thinking lol.
@@getSkrunkyeah mate society is very stereotypical nowadays and they always judge by impressions,if that person has problems expressing them selves they are bad at communication therefore dumb,nah it doesn't work like that we have to look more deep into things because autistic people can be way more than what we think of them at just seeing them once The amount of people who would get the thought in their mind that an Autistic person is dumb is really absurd
my word, the same was happening to me during the last few years (I had a Minecraft server with a lot of people playing being on my school and they couldn't stop twisting everything I said)
As an autistic person. I was recently diagnosed, nothing has changed it just feels like people treat me like a baby because I have autism. When I tell people I have autism they start to treat me like shit and leave me out of stuff. I’m not a child anymore, I have had autism all of my life do not treat me any differently
Personally, i think one of the biggest problems is, that most people dont know Autism is a spectrum. Most Neurotypicals either think you're dumb or hyper intelligent, nothing inbetween. When I have to tell them that it's not like that, they look at me like I'm an Alien. My experience is actually pretty similar to yours, I just didn't know until I was 17 and I still have a lot of trouble with emotional control and socializing. I have the same best friend since 15 years, I literally don't know how to make new ones, also being selectively mute (which isn't actually as common in autism) making me look weird and stupid for others. I'm not an expert, because as you said, I don't know how it is NOT to have it, but its good to know you're not alone. I just wish "normal people" would look into it a bit more
Neurotypicals think that it's a spectrum of 'less autistic' to 'more autistic' and that's the most that they know about a spectrum. They need to understand that it's a qualitative spectrum and not a quantitative spectrum.
I'd say the real dumb ones are those trying to generalize autistic people like that and put them in boxes and try to dictate to their faces who they are. They refuse to let autistic people be.
I don’t fully understand autism and probably never will as I’m not autistic myself (I seriously hate putting a label on it because it makes you sound like an alien) but I’ve personally never had a problem talking to anyone autistic. There actually fun to be around and I sometimes pick up on there traits and it makes me curious. I can talk to them like any other person tbh.
as someone that has autism im very good at hiding it and everyone has no clue unless i tell them but i feel like its looked down on for no reason like it makes you less of a person for some reason when people do find out or know that you have it. I also experience the same thing with being much more mature and stable out if most people my age. also bonding very well and feeling a connection with only people that have it and not really feeling a way towards people that dont
people insist on being compelled to use the most dominant label to define the outer casing of a person. it drives me crazy. in every situation. oh it's so and so's bf. or Jims brother. then you are that thing forever. imagine one time you had a haircut then here comes the x y z dude years later. or the whatever guy. so annoying
A very common thing that I experience is being misunderstood, followed by punishment, that is then followed by ignorance. And it's the most heartbreaking and frustrating thing you can experience as an autistic person.
I'm autistic too, a late diagnosis at 22. People don't understand that a Savant is an incredibly rare version of autism (the kind of autism that can recognize and continue patterns instantly), and that autism is a massive spectrum. That's why the DSM-5 calls it the 'Autism Spectrum Disorder.' Most cases of autism are ASD-1, which used to be called Asperger's, but is now called 'high-functioning autism' This just means that a person has autism, but can be independent. This type of autism can be both a blessing and a curse. For myself, I was one of the rare lucky ones that wasn't bullied, but that was because I masked the hell out of everything. I have always been self-contained, isolative, all due to abuse from my parents. This means I don't like being around people or sharing my things with people. I still love people, I love sharing my thoughts and ideas, but if I can avoid it, I will. However, my autism makes me an incredibly smart person. I have a poor sense of humor, because I take things too seriously, but that seriousness makes me incredibly adept at thinking things through; coming up with problems and then solutions to those problems, and understanding things deeper than most people can. I work INCREDIBLY on my own, but get overwhelmed frequently and can't work with others on the same project. This is all to say, that autism isn't the same as you'd see in media. Autism can be masked, or the person's symptoms might not manifest as noticeable behavioral issues. Autism is a spectrum and can be very volatile, but also very reclusive. Treat individuals as individuals, and get to know them and their unique quirks; it could end up making them an even better friend than most people.
I got asperger's, and didn't know it was a outdated name. Never knew it was called "high-functioning autism" so thanks for that ig. I can confirm that having that is both a curse and a blessing, might be the reason i've done well on tiktok, millions of views on there
(not professional at health) but here’s my experience as a child being autistic I have autism I was diagnosed at young age. I had no learning disability (except speech) but I was in special needs etc and I’m not really dumb I get pretty well grades, the only thing is that I preform on a lower level than my twin who also has autism as well and same effects. Before I told people I had it I got called weird etc and then after they were shocked saying stuff like “you don’t act like it ” “oh really” “you seem so normal” I am also bullied a lot for being weird and embarrassing myself.
@@sh3lly_stan I feel you brother, I’m also high functioning autism. The moment they know you are on the spectrum, they see you as an outcast. I even got called a loser for fucking up a saw machine by some kiwi classmate back in high school. We can’t say anything back for 2 reasons. 1 is because we need time to think of an answer so we walk away for a bit and number 2 is because “OH THE AUTISTIC KID SPOKE GUYS” yep, that shit happened to me. And rumours would start spreading about me. These things drive us insane. Life is better once you graduate out of school.
As an autistic person my experience of sharing my disability is just awful. At first there’s the negative and sad emotion displayed by the second party, then they like others say, treat me like a damn toddler. Now that’s not the worse I’ve seen, it’s gotten to a point where hundreds of people I know want me to get hurt or even die due to how miss represented autism is and their complete lack of understanding. I just wish they could understand.
They either treat me as if I was born yesterday or they treat me as if I am supposed to be able to read their minds and instantly have the answers. There is no middle ground.
If someone pulls the 'counts stuff thrown on the floor' thing smirk like they lost their mind and say "I'm autistic not a damn vampire." As "According to European lore, vampires suffer from arithmomania, the uncontrollable urge to count or calculate numbers." I'm 46 and only recently did a test that shows I have a good chance of being autistic. what a time man
Also, while good math skills often do come with autism, "good math skills" and "instantly count objects in a random jumble" are not the same thing. I sorta have good math skills (unlike my dad who definitely has good math skills), though a lot if it seems to be my verbal and spatial skills carrying my math skills. I definitely cannot count random jumbles of things on sight.
Just gonna mention this because u said this in the video. Autism itself is NOT a learning disabillity. Learning disabilities are more common in autistic people, but not all have them. Like im diagnosed with autism, but i dont have any learning disabilities. The only thing about me that possibly effects my learning abillity is probably my other diagnosis, aka ADHD. And i don't mean affect my learning as in like, my brain takes longer to learn, more that i get distracted all the time (which is annoying).
Yeah I was gonna say the same thing. I'm autistic and I've always done great in school, got put in the gifted program, etc. Definitely isn't a learning disability.
Yeah, ive always done super well in school, often getting A's in all my classes, however, I take more time learning to walk, talk, and write. But where i really lack, and still lack, is socially. I saw someone once say that people without autism tend to focus more on being social earlier in life then focus on learning, and autistic people to be the opposite. While I dont believe this to be entirely correct I think there could be some truth to it
this! learning disabilities are comorbidities of autism, I'm currently in college (UK) and I'm working at a B A A, I had no learning difficulties as a child OTHER than reading which I couldn't read until age 7 mysteriously other than that NOTHING. My vocabulary was also exceedingly advanced for my age and people wouldn't stop bugging me about that until I was around 14 and people sort of caught up to me
@@anaverageanimator9296Possibly. I’m undiagnosed but I have a strong feeling I’m on the spectrum somewhere. I was very intelligent in school, and have always been fascinated by how motors and machines work. Like down to the T. I work in a factory now and find myself mocking the Mechanical noises of machines over and over again. I hold imaginary conversations with myself with different people who don’t even exist. If I’m doing a task and trying to hold a conversation, I start to lose focus of said task and start doing random things (picking up random items and setting them in even more random spots). I go on tangents (like this) with sometimes no main point. I often switch topics a lot too..
I am most likely Austistic, but I'm never sure, because I'm constantly bombarded with people who say I need to "change" or "just accept society and earn money." I rarely even accept it because a lot of people tend to say insults and things like, "You're f**king Autistic" like it's a bad thing. So, I've just always been on edge for being a castaway who doesn't really understand why most people can't have a conversation with me, or is it me them? I'm basically a dropout and homeless because I could never do anything without asking "why?" I just found this video and I quite like the voice you give. I hope I can eventually get rid of my anxiety, depression, fear, and guilt.
Also, my sybling has Autism, and most like does my father.. My father is quite an intelligent man, only he and I don't get along very well, because I fear we're both emotionally damning to each other.
@@Chester_Kitten You need to "change" because you're a homeless dropout castaway. You currently take more from the world than you give it. If it's asking "why?" that's stopping you from working, stop asking why. If it's something else, stop that instead. At the end of the day it's a problem with you and accepting that will get you a lot further than blaming it on someone/something else. You can't change what other people do, you can only change yourself and if you think labelling your self with mental illnesses will excuse the need for self improvement u gonna stay like this forever. good luck m8 First step hate yourself that brings you down. Second step destroy that which you hate. Third find yourself that brings you up. Work on that shit till get gud. legit anything u enjoy look for a job in it. shits always less like work when there's a community around it.
I think I’ve lived a very lucky life as an autistic woman with ADHD. I was diagnosed early and my parents didn’t try to hide it from me. They’ve worked hard with my psychiatrist to make sure I get the medication I need and work with my school so they could help me get the accommodations I need to get through school. My teachers have all been very understanding and supportive and have done everything they can to help me succeed. And that’s just with my autism, my parents and teachers are amazing and have raised me really well. When I was really young, I was taught to be myself and not care about what others think of me, I took those lessons to heart and have never tried masking because of it. If I was bullied, I either wasn’t aware or didn’t care. My autism is an important part of myself I’m not afraid to wear on my sleeves, if other people judge me for it, that’s their problem and they’re not worth my time. I also haven’t really faced much ableism. There is one time I remember, but it’s just an outlier in a general life of being accepted. I’m also an artist and a writer, and I attribute a large part of my talent to my autism and ADD. Because drawing is one of my special interests, I’m able to draw almost every day without getting burned out. A part of my ADD is hyperactivity in the mind, and I’d imagine I wouldn’t be as creative as I am if I wasn’t mentally hyperactive. And many (if not all) of my friends are neurodivergent like I am. Many of them are also artists like I am. My friends are the best friends I could ever ask for, and we’re all pretty close with each other. And online I’ve found many places to discuss my interests with other people. Imo, it’s kind of sad that a life where an autistic person is accepted, properly accommodated, and loved by friends and family is the life of the lucky few like me instead of the majority of autistic people.
im glad you have people who understand you even though many people like my family and the people from my primary school accept me, the secondary school I was in wasn’t as accepting. I basically hid the fact I was a high functioning autistic since most my classmates talked about them as if they were just developmentally stunted. I used to have a friend in there who was also autistic, but he turned out to be an awful person. I barely had any genuine friends after that (the “friends” I had didn’t know I was autistic) If only I had a life like yours…
It took me a little while to realize that intelligence is relative, that someone with autism who has a monotropic focus on a single thing is seen as intelligent if their focus is deemed practical where someone with a focus on something deemed impractical is seen as weird. I eventually derived an entire theory of ethics from that thought, how I could have the same brain but focus on something people wanted and be evaluated as genius or focus on something incomprehensible and be evaluated as an idiot. Someone with the same brain, a brain capable of crafting The Magna Carta, can dedicate all of that potential to drawing Sonic The Hedgehog foot fetish content all seemingly by random chance. Thus, what is good is what is practical.
Yes, practical in relation to a society that is inherently impractical, & unsustainable, because what ever is considered "practical" in today's society is whatever can contribute to profit for people that don't have your best interest on mind, evidence by the society they made that is based purely on profit, & is fundamentally anti-human to it's core, like the Roman empire they try to imitate.
this is personally why i see the measure of smn's iq have little meaning, in reality everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, and that iq is simply not a reliable measure for smn's performance or capability in a certain field
This is a very accurate way of looking at things. Another aspect of this is the fact that, for some autistic people, it's practically impossible to force yourself to be interested in something. I think it's because we tend to engage much more intimately with our passions, while other people are okay with being "half-interested". I'm either 100% fascinated and enraptured by a topic, or completely ignoring it. There is no inbetween. I cannot be "half-interested" in something, and it sucks because so many social things require you to feign interest in stuff, which is just physically painful to do.
Ha, like how movie directors and writers are labelled "geniuses" for thinking of the most unholy premises on earth. I really like how well you wrote all that, really simple and concise, also perfectly shows the hypocrisy of some people.
"as a high functioning autistic" from that little part of your sentence i can tell that you're not 'well functional' sorry buddy... but you're a loser 🤷♂ i hate when autistic people say their smart, im not autistic and im smarter than 99% of them.. i hate it
Yeah man finally somebody understands,they things its literally cool to do this things just to "show off" in school because thats how sadly society is ,if not they consider you to be a weird kids when you dont want to follow the stupid trend they like,like for example there are kids that call others poor because others dont want to/cant have an iphone or want/cant get some "jordans". Specially in this generation as a person from this generation @@M0urfeen
So true man. Throughout my teenagehood I was always pressured to "go out there and socialize!". I would, if their conversation were actually worth listening to. I'm not even saying that they have to be super serious all the time, I love memes and shitposts. But no one wants to listen to conversations about sex, drugs, and boring-ass drama all the time.
From one autistic person to another, I hate how people percieve us as: " i am a 6 year-old white boy and i am gonna talk to you about dinosaurs- *Drops toothpicks* 5296."
The hilarious thing is that the toothpicks thing is from Rain Main. Raymond is based on a real person named Kim Peek, who wasn't autistic. He had savant syndrome, and the thing with that is while there can be overlap, you can be a savant and not autistic, and vice versa. These idiots don't even get their stereotypes right lmao
I am also autistic. I am now 24, I got diagnosed when I was 20. My whole life I felt sort of different but my parents never understood me. I went to so many people (proffesionals) and some said I was, some said I wasnt. The problem my parents thought that people who are autistic are retarded and I am clearly not. So it was a pretty wild ride with therapists and people because my parents didnt agree and we just stopped going. I was like 14 so I couldnt really go on my own. Anyways my parents also had problems (different problems) but it was just a struggle. Anways I get that with not telling people bacause some people I have known my whole life and when I was 20 and I told them they just acted different to me. Its can be a struggle. I have also met so many new people who are autistic and everyone is different. There are like a million different variants it seems and everyone has their own struggles. My parents do understand me a lot better since a couple of years but it took some time. It also helps since I moved out and lived on my own when I was 19 and I got my diagnosis at 20 so that also kind of helps... I could of gotten the diagnosis when I was 13 if my parents wherent stupid and removed the steriotype autism they had. I kind of understand why they had that idea because when I grew up there was this kid in the street who was like mental, demon, evil autistic just being a retarded asshole and they based their vision of autism on that...
in terms of mental maturity I've found that personally I feel like there are multiple types of maturity, and that I became advanced in some aspects much faster than my peers did and then for other things much slower.
I'm not diagnosed, but very likely autistic (not the tiktok kind of "i think i'm autistic" by the way) and i feel i was the opposite. I've always been mentally and socially typical/ahead , but academically i've never been the top student. I cannot do maths to save my life for example
This is very true. I remember I would basically always be prepared for any class topic because there was a high change it was something I had already researched in my own time for fun. I was watching Matpat like 4 years before I actually had a physics class lol. However, for anything involving socialzing or emotional communication, I'm basically still a toddler. I cannot for the life of me grasp social interaction. It all seems illogical and unintuitive, and it sucks because no one else seems to question any of it. They just have whatever invisible social sixth sense that tells theme exactly what to do. I literally just learned less than a few weeks ago what being "friendzoned" actually means, that's how far behind I am.
Things like Big Bang Theory don't really do much to help, that show is pretty much just what executives at some Hollywood studio thought autism might be. There's maybe less than 1% of people that are like Sheldon. Here in Sweden, someone made a really weird but similarly "I have no idea what it's like to be autistic" movie called "in space there are no feelings" or I rymden finns inga känslor in Swedish. I remember my younger sister watching it and just flat out saying "this has nothing to do with autism". She compared the character in the show to me and nothing of the things I show where anywhere similar or related to said character and their autism. Feels like typical Hollywood sh!1, they can't be bothered to do even the most barebone research possible (funny that the rain man thing gets used as an example, that's an extreme outlier that so rare, it barely even exists to begin with). Edit: I like to joke by saying that autism is like "running a different operating software", normies use Windows while I'm stuck on Linux.
No-one associated with The Big Bang Theory has said Sheldon is autistic. Obviously he exhibits many neurological abnormalities, but if there was more to it than creating an obnoxious character they've certainly done a good job at keeping it under wraps.
@@Mrvideosandgames yes, cause people are totally gonna just sit there and wait for a confirmation. They aren't gonna jump to conclusions like normies usually do, Tbh the entire show is very obnoxious, it's sort of "someone says nerdy thing, other person say different nerdy thing, now laugh you peasants"
@@SvengelskaBlondie I mean, I think you're a little strong in your conviction😅 Sure there are people who watched the big bang theory and used it to strengthen their misconceptions, but I don't think that's due to the shows design. In the interviews with actors and creators that I've seen I found them rather open and friendly about it all. Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left 😋
@@boomknuffelaar Its not that I am strong in my convictions, it's just that I know people are too lazy to actually check things up. Hence why I used Big Bang theory as an example. Tbh, I couldn't care less about the show, the show is just an example of how little people know about autism. " but I don't think that's due to the shows design." I agree with you on this one, I doubt very much it was made to be to be some kind of autism focus/awareness thing. "Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left" There's something really funny about that, ive seen a few such video's. Whatever "comedy" that's left falls flatter than the antagonist in Who framed rodger rabbit after he got run over by the steam roller.
I never realised how much of a stigma there is around autism until watching this video. I don't feel comfortable posting anything about myself here on the internet but I can definitely relate to some things you have experienced. It just saddens me that people look down on people with autism. It is a spectrum and not everyone with autism has the same kinda stuff if that makes sense. I'm sorry you had to go through this you've earned a new subscriber.
First time here, your video came up in my recommendations. My wife is autistic, and I am not. Autistic people aren't typically super strange as you said, it's just a different way of processing the world. She's not like "some child" being taken advantage of. She's a strong, brave, beautiful woman and the only one for me. Thank you for this video, and know that there are some "normal" people who get it. I may not like GET IT get it since I haven't personally had it myself, but together my wife and I learn and grow from one another and become better every day. Much love, and I hope you are doing well. - C
I get what you mean with people having insane expectations. I remember seeing someone put it like "they want you to either be Sheldon Cooper or a tall toddler". I'm autistic too, but I didn't get diagnosed until I was 18 because my mum thought all autistic people are screaming morons who don't emotionally mature past the age of 5. What's weird is that I really think she's autistic, but she doesn't realise it because she thinks her experiences are normal. Like those people who say "everyone's a little autistic"
Because people are part of, & brought up into a society that brainwashes, conditions, or gaslights them into thinking that different is bad uncritically, while also promoting blind obedience to their absolute detriment, that's why.
it's easier to pick on someone that's different because they stand out bullies would pick on someone but there's a reason why they don't pick on someone their own size (someone that's similar to most of the people around them) but we are *different, not less*
It's not quirky, but the internet will try to make it seem that way. It's hard to stay focused, hard to keep track of the time. You constantly have to ask people "What?" in conversations because your mind is always somewhere else.
i strongly agree. now days ill just say "i take a long time to learn somethings" much easier then explaining that some parts of my brain age slowly. also for most everyone with a developmental disorder at lease one or two parts of the brain can start to develop faster then avenge.
I get what he's trying to say but it's always more nuanced then "mental age" makes it out to be. For example, in 7th grade, I socially acted like I was in 5th grade but was more organized and productive then some of my college friends are even today because of my obsession with planning everything and routine. I was also about as academically smart as everyone else my age and that has remained relatively constant, especially after elementary school.
My brother has the non verbal kind of autism and I don’t know any other way to describe it other than using mental age He’s 9 right now but I’d say he’s mentally 3 years old What else are you supposed to say instead of mental age?
@@healthy10972 Well, there's all the stuff "normal" 3 year olds do and grow out of, that are unrelated to language. Most likely, your brother is already more advanced in several of these aspects, just not the verbal side. So maybe you could say something more like "at the level of most 3 year olds in terms of using language" but probably not with other things.
I am autistic. That's the only reason why my parents don't let me control my own life. I'm 19 years old and will soon be 20. My parents forced me to go to a college for electrical engineering for two years. According to the law, I didn't have to, because I was already 18. But my parents had beaten me, kicked me and whipped me with a belt to make me go there. I had called the police many times... but they wouldn't help me. They told me that I had no right to decide about my own life. I still live with my parents. It is awful. I just want to rule my own life. I want freedom.
I'm so sorry you have to go through that, I hope you can find your own freedom and gain that independence from your abusive house hold. I'm actually in a similar situation, as I am currently 19 going on 20 this year but I still am treated like a small child, it's difficult and having every aspect of your life controlled by your family is dehumanizing, it can make you feel worthless and hopeless, but although I do not know you i hope you can live your life the way you want to! :)
God damn, that sounds horrible, do you have other relatives like you're grandparents to go to for support? I feel so sorry for you, I hope you're situation gets better. Good luck
@@Moonshine449 yes, but the commenter's reaction is probably from ignorant people who have misconceptions of neurodivergency. if an open-minded friend who was always there for them said that, the commenter probably wouldn't have reacted with "damn"
I had an experience that really changed my option on autism recently when I was just hanging out with some friends and found out two of them were autistic and it was just a reminder that people are literally just people and the fact that someone has autism shouldn't affect anything in relationships
As an autistic person i just noticeably notice how everyone just isnt like me. I know that sounds like a dull explanation but its like im an alien. Like we speak the same language but neurotypicals behave and think so much differently
"I stopped telling people I have autism" as he places the 3 pickaxes and shovels neatly into their own collums. Jokes aside thank you for talking about this, it's always nice to have another resource to educate people and hopefully have them change how they treat others
@@Sepi-chu_loves_moths i have to imagine this isn't just an autism thing, it's rationally more organised i couldnt say myself as im an autistic person who does that but itd be really weird if allistic people didn't do this
@@Sepi-chu_loves_moths no this was just a joke haha. While some types of autism do push towards more clean organization, it's not at all autism specific.
Hearing that I have Autism, my diagnosis came at around age 5, someone at our church started asking questions about me to my parents even though I was standing right there and answering. Hearing your side, it makes me question even more why we're all grouped together with only "Autism" to describe all of us, which seems equivalent to specifying "Rainbow" as a favorite color.
We all share the same patterns of characteristics even if we share few exact characteristics on first glance, and we tend to be fairly good at recognizing one another even with differences in presentation.
Honestly when describing autism to someone I should make an analogy using light. Light is a spectrum, yeah? is red and blue the same color? no? well of course it isn't! And it extends past the visible too, how many would get tripped up if I told them that microwaves, the internet, and light are all on the same spectrum. (at least, to my knowledge that's how that works?) Now I just have to find someone to explain it to! I'll go outside one day...
@@hx0d From a research standpoint, and for determining whether a child of two given parents is likely to inherit autism, they should be considered the same. From a support needs standpoint, they should be considered different, although even that can be overstated as the primary criterion that was used to distinguish the two is the presence or absence of language delay; That does have significant implications for support needs, but two people could have identical support needs profiles (sensory issues, executive function, meltdown susceptibility) *except* for language delay, and in that case their actual needs would be much the same, but one would have more trouble communicating those needs.
I just came across this video and it hits close to home. As an autistic guy I can fully empathise and understand not only how it feels to be stereotyped and misunderstood by ignorant people, but I can also relate to how you talked about feeling alienated and disconnected from everybody else. People’s words can eat me alive sometimes and it hurts, thank you for making this and even though I’m a couple weeks late, I’m super glad I found this because it makes me feel like I’m not alone. Keep spreading the word 🙏🙌
I once told someone that I had autism and the response that I always hate happened they said that "You're to smart for autism" so he was basically saying that autistic people were dumb made me even more insecure about it so now I don't tell anyone
a long time ago someone described being autistic as everyone else being handed a manual on how to socialize and live, but you don’t have that manual and have to figure it out yourself. that’s what being autistic is like to me.
I actually shared the "alien" feeling you had, but in a different way. When I was young I always knew I was different but I just couldn't understand why, emotionally unstable, unable to understand things others could, sometimes do things others didn't understand. The list can go on, but it clawed at me, "Why am I so different? Why am I so slow?". The public humiliation and bullying from teachers and other kids didn't help. After I got out of school (dropped out at 11th grade because I couldn't take it anymore and almost had a mental break) I practically cut off all ties I had. After a year or so of reflection and at age 19 I realized I had autism. After realizing it, it genuinely felt like a burden was lifted from my shoulders. Years of torment and not knowing why I was different felt like a memory. I don't tell people I am autistic because I know they will get the wrong impression and I really hope more people find out what being autistic actually means. Even now my current friend group is mostly comprised of autistic type people, mostly because we get along and or share a connection. I fully believe that autism is a spectrum, it's not black and white. I am on there somewhere, I might not have the greatest control of my emotions and I will always feel different, but I at least now know why I am different and I am happy where I sit. :3
I realize how strong I am because everyday is a mental struggle. Trying my best to keep living and be mindful. It's become harder for me to mask, it's too physically demanding and it's not worth all of the stress. Sometimes you have to just let yourself be a little autistic. Stim, flap your arms around, do whatever works for you and your brain. I didn't realize how uncomfortable masking made me feel until very recently.
I also get it autism doesn’t mean you’re dumb or you’re strange. It means you’re normal. You’re completely normal from everyone else. There’s nothing different about you. The people always think you’re different.😢 2:27
"I cant be with anyone who int autistic" apparently non-autistic people just do that but like there is nothing inherently wrong with being autistic its just others who make it bad, and this goes both ways. It sucks that people infantilize every autistic person like they are all the same, because almost nobody is the exact same person. thank you for hearing my ted talk
incredibly helpful video and relatable thank you also lmao the point where you noticed where you died was like 3 blocks away from air was the biggest bruh moment
@@dwarian5252 i think it’d be better to mention that autism is different for everyone and there’s a reason it is said to be a spectrum, other than that its 10/10
@@dwarian5252 was a little confused when it was only mentioned as learning disorder, he is definitely right it has caused me not to understand some concepts but those are also social ones, where ive watched how people have interacted to see how "normal people do it so well" and essentially autism, it's very broad and everyone will experience it differently
It's weird. I work in software-- a field one might, for good or ill, stereotype autistic people as being common in. Even here, it's bizarre to see what my coworkers think of autistic people; they see it as a sort of extreme handicap that a manager should notify them of ahead of time so that accommodations can be made. Very bizarre.
More people need to talk about this. The stigma around it grows, as kids start saying “you’re autistic” to everyone, and it becomes really offensive because as someone with it, it’s not at all like what people say.
41 here, diagnosed at 37. I actually tell many people, as my "problems" are fairly minor, and the explanation helps with the potentially weird facial expressions, or overly pedantic responses, or perceived poor eye contact. But however you handle it, is the correct way for YOU to handle it. Don't let anyone tell you different!
i'm not autistic, so i don't know what it's like, but i know what it's like to be neurodivergent. i'm neurodivergent in a different way, i have ADHD. 3:40 is so accurate. i didn't realise most things i've done that were actually ADHD behaviors. turns out, it wasn't a "normal people" thing to have 56879368 chrome tabs open at once lol. it's kinda like how a color blind person don't realise that they're color blind since they don't know how other people see.
Insane analogy. Heh. Its the opposite for me. I get stressed and cant concentrate while knowing I have more that 3 tabs or a single window that I don't need open. Even a single unnecessary task in the system tray. Which is funny because in almost every other aspect of life I'm not organised at all. It's just the fact that I'm aware of that unorganised-ness and am constantly thinking about it that likely causes it.
I recently discovered that i (most likely) also have ocd 💀 (i don't have an actual diagnose for it YET, but i'm %95 sure i have it. I'll get a real diagnose soon)
Unfortunately i have always been the weird kid. I have level 2 support needs and because I can mask its so much more tiring to mask it all. Plus i have come to realization that i am not like all autistic people because I also have ADHD, severe OCD, and ARFID. Hard on the OCD i literally cannot leave my house from germs and stuff.
I believe in you to find someone!! I (I'M PRETTY SURE I DO :'3) have autism and I have a girlfriend, I think everyone can have a significant other if they're ready for a relationship, it takes alot of time usually, but I'm sure that if you're a great person and you just be yourself you'll find someone amazing! :D
I feel the same way whenever I tell people I have autism. People often are like "Oh, YoU dOnT hAvE aUtIsM, yOu DoNt AcT ReTaRdEd!" It's so annoying, and it's part of the reason I have little friends.
Man, I don't have autism, but I couldn't imagine how you feel especially knowing how many people use autism as a joke. Even I've used autism as a joke, not that I'm proud of it, I guess it's because of peer pressure. I think mental conditions such as autism and ADHD (I have ADHD) are so mistunderstood that I've come to the conclusion that everyone has very different types and levels of their condition, and that I shouldn't judge people instantly, no matter what. Hope you have a good year at school
I rarely reveal I'm autistic to people. I only reveal it once I know it is safe to, or if the people are also autistic/neurodivergent. I'm constantly masking around strangers.
I hate the people who are like “hey! I use TikTok every single day! I have zero attention span! Look guys I’m autistic!” No. You aren’t. You have a short attention span, and self diagnosed yourself from some unreliable website saying “TOP 10 SIGNS YOU HAVE AUTISM!”. It feels insulting to people who really do have it, because so many people say they “have” it. Edit: might have got ADHD and autism mixed up, but my point is still what I said. People self diagnose, because of having something that’s vaguely in common with one symptom.
I think people self diagnose either for attention or because they can't afford a professional. Fakers definitely spread a sort of "HEY THIS (INSERT NORMAL HABIT) MEANS YOU'RE NEURODIVERGENT" rumor and that spreads to people who don't know anything about neurodiversity, Thus making it more hard to tell what's real and what's fake. I self-diagnose but try my best to be skeptical and only take stuff like the CAT-Q which is sometimes used during actual diagnosis' for autism. Just know that not every person who self diagnoses themselves is one of those "hey look at me I'm autistic isn't that cool please sympathize for me and give me attention" TikTok people. Idrk what point I was trying to make here, Sometimes self diagnosis stuff can be good/important Ig? And it's not always dodgy websites that just want clicks.
Everything this dude has said. He thinks he's more mature than people his age. "Hey, guys let's bully this acoustic kid because it's the funniest shit when he flips out and cries like a little baby" (Not to mention i probably also have anger issues.) has been an exact definition of things i've felt, thought and been through. Even though i have mild autism. i still have autism. Heck, i walk around in circles in backyard talking to myself. And i get feeling like no one understands. people in my school have said stuff like "If you have autism why are you in this class?" Meaning why aren't i in sped classes. and the fact i'm actually eligible for some special needs things makes that even worse. my older sister used to call me autistic. and that was before i was even diagnosed. i had it all my life. i just didn't get diagnosed until a year ago. but it's always been there. and even though i can still bond with people that don't have autism. i can still relate to this guy a ton.
My cousin is autistic. Although not severely, he does have issues with socializing at times. BUT HE IS MY LITTLE MAN, AND HE IS AMAZING! And one thing that just ticks me off so much is how people treat him. In school, he was bullied so much. Him saying things like people putting fists at him and such, thinking he’s “weird”. What is it with people? Why is it so hard to treat others kindly? What have they gone through to make them like this?
i'm sorry but autistic people are weird asf, once i had three autistic people in my class, let's just call them "liam, george and william" they always freaked out about random stuff and it triggered me so much bro, like could i just have some peice holy shit.. most people who have autism are so fucking annoying and i just hate to say it but your younger brother is probably (just guessing) insanely weird..
Thank you for this video, this is one of the rare, times I've completely related to something online and had a negative feeling about a video in the internet. Just listening to someone speaking from the heart is very theraputic. Misconceptions on autism is a massive issue in society, I'm literally doing a speech on it tomorrow. I'm only 13 (almost 14) but I've felt like an alien my whole life and I have friends I've known for so many years but just don't feel connected to them. Honestly, I'm much closer to the stupid side of autism but I still absolutely hate when people call me stupid and can actually make cry and ruin my day which they don't seem to realise. I hope you know this but you're not alone haha
Hello! Did the speech go well? I am also planning on doing a speech about the subject, but most likely as a video instead of a full on speech at my school, because most likely no words will come out if I do it live XD... I am researching about other people's experiences and using my own experiences as a guide too. I feel like it is really important to tell the world about it, to make a positive change.
I was nearly diagnosed with autism as a child because I refused to speak until I was like 4-5 (I knew how to say full sentences, just didn't), but a lot of the friends (even my best friend) I've made since then have had autism or aspergers. There was definitely a disconnect between me and them, as some of them just found it hard to open up --probably because they were bullied for it in the past. When they told me they were autistic or I had heard about it, it honestly did not change my perception of them at all. I still considered them the same person, with the same or even higher levels of intelligence. In fact one of the closest friends I had in elementary school was low-functioning autistic, but he was still incredibly smart, just a little emotionally unstable. I'm glad to have grown up with these people, definitely helped me avoid making the mistakes of assumption and patronisation that many people who don't have experience with autistic people start with. I think it might also have to do with the fact that I share a few of the common behaviours and issues that some autistic people have.
As a fellow autistic person, I relate to the emotional control issues while young so much. I was so easily triggered into rage as a child over small or inconsequential things. It might be due to also having ADHD but, I was angered so very easily it made me feel ashamed to think back to. I also relate to being more naive or immature compared to my peers at certain ages, like early to mid teenage years. I was thankfully not bullied too much as a kid, but goddamn learning how normie socializing works was such an immense challenge- I said so much stupid incomprehensible shit that I'm honestly surprised I even managed to make any friends. Or maybe I got lucky and was surrounded by many fellow potential neurodivergent people, I don't know. I didn't notice I was different from other people until my mid teenage years, perhaps that's what made me not hesitate in trying to make friends during my kid years. I'm still in school and people younger than me are using autistic as an insult all the time and it's probably due to that cursed TikTok app, which makes me so mad. To be honest, schools gotta start educating kids on neurodivergent conditions because as things are right now they'll grow up to become stupid adults that they will then carry over to their children. It's so frustrating. Thank you for this video, sorry for my rant at the end of this comment.
My experience with having Autism is when I suggest something no one listens to me just because I'm autistic and then when a problem happens because they didn't listen to me they regret not listening to me, and then they just forget about that and continue not to listen to me.
As an autistic person, I just gotta say this video touched me on a very deep and personal level, while I’ve never exactly been bullied (either that or it’s been passive aggressive in a way where I didn’t pick up on it) I do struggle with people. It’s as though they don’t take me seriously, or think of me as an idiot. I’ve never been good at making friends, and as a kid (for reference I’m 17yo now) I’ve had many adults be very short with me, and now I find even basic social interactions scary. Thank you for making this video.
Man, to me it was the opposite! When I was 10 or younger, they always said I was very mature for my age and the teachers congratulated me for my behaviour, and now that I'm 16 my mom won't stop telling me to grow up
im autistic and my pet recently died, i feel younger and unsafe. i dont want to be alone, i dont want to do things by myself, i dont want to handle my own house when i have one. i want to stay with my parents/friends/brothers. I feel afraid that something will happen to me.
I can relate to everything you’ve said. I was quite mistreated, and misunderstood, by my peers, up until I was around 15. The bullying I have received was so severe, that to this day, age 18, I still have trauma from it, and was actually diagnosed with PTSD. Not even my school could guarantee my safety. It’s a side which I rarely open up about since it is often too much. Thankfully now, I’ve found some friends who, not only treat me right, but also understand me. One of my traits which my friends love is my brutal honesty, i’m not exactly sure what it is, perhaps it is that the words that I’m saying means something? Like it holds an extreme amount of weight? Whatever it is, I’m just happy that they treat me well.
I cant imagine how bad the bullying must have been to give you trauma, but im glad to hear that you have friends that understand and value you. Thise people are the real ones you should never lose
I am autistic, an autistic teen in fact in high school, and throughout my life, I kept my autism to myself. It was something I never really wanted to talk about, so people just assume I'm just some loser and pretend I don't exist.
As an autistic person this is a very nice video! I also agree with the fact that autism doesnt really get well represented other than its two extremes. Personally im a lot more open to saying im autistic, its makes for a funny moment and (imo) may even help spread that message that autism has nuance! I can relate to that maturity part and being bullied in elementary school! (I will say that the bullied part and therapy likely made me a lot more moral of a person though. Especially since around 2nd grade apparently I was seen as kind of a bully/jerk which i didnt know until a half year or so of bullying) but yeah. Extra note: Its best to wait until youve been friends for a while before you tell them, has a both funnier and stronger effect of saying "hey youve been with me for months now and you didnt even notice. Maybe that means something. "
In a way I had the opposite experience to you. I started out a very mature child. As I got older, the distance between me and my peers widened in terms of capabilities, emotional control, and perceived maturity.
I've never been diagnosed, but I believed for a while that I have autism and I can heavily relate to the experiences you talked about. I constantly think there is something wrong with my brain when I'm around people and it's nice to know I'm not alone in this :)
When I first learned about the word “autism” I immediately knew that it’s not a disability that makes you stupid or dumb or retarded whatever word you like to use, I saw it as nothing more than having a bit of a harder time learning, it pains me the amount of people who use autism as an insult as much as using gay as an insult, neither are bad things, and I’m not even either of them, so I’m glad this video exists, in fact, I learned something new, I shouldn’t ask autistic people what it’s like being autistic, because they’ve never been “normal”, I mean it’s not like I’ve planned on doing that but learning I shouldn’t do that makes me realize that if I never did, I would’ve potentially done that. I’m glad you made this video and I want more autistic people to make these kinds of videos
I really respect you doing this and for bringing understanding to our condition. I just wanted to say that when you say "the main thing that autism is is a learning disability" I really disagree. I've always acted way older and more mature than my age even from a baby. Not to boast or anything but I have high intelligence (although I'm not a genius or a savant). Yes, lots of autistic people have learning disabilities and intellectual disabilities but it isn't part of the autism. It is a valid autistic experience but it is by no means the main autistic experience.
I actually have autism and I can confirm that people judging them like so isn’t very fun so that’s why most of my friends are autistic. Except that when I told to my online friends that I was autistic, they respected me because I am a nice person to them :)
I have autism. I went most of my childhood not knowing at all until somewhere around 6th or 7th grade, and I just wanted to understand people. I loved hanging out with other kids, and I love to laugh with other people too. When I got the news from my mother, I denied it many many times, until acceptance. When I became more aware of my ASD, I stopped following people that didn't like me to try to fit in and get approval, and I became a all-time loner. I have some friends here and there, and people are more friendly to me now than before, but I'm still mostly alone, and honestly I'm glad because it gives me time to think. I'm 16 right now, and I definitely feel more loved and cared about, and I also feel like my age. I don't get invited to parties or anything, and I'm certainly not the popular kid, but some people still enjoy my company, and I'm glad about that.
if anyone asks what its like being autistic, i always ask them back "what is it like not being autistic" and they sort of understand that you cant explain it because you dont know
Autism is fake lil bro
ur getting the pin of shame
Ur dum :)
@@jms2lmao
So is your brain
So is your life
people before you tell them you have autism:
"why are you so weird?"
people after you tell them you have autism:
"but your so normal why are you so normal" (or they just infantilize you)
how to cure autism: stop being weird. self control exists. no longer any reason for anyone to label you as autistic. no longer autistic. autism is a label.
okay.
if somebody acts like a regular person, treat them like it.
if somebody kinda is on the weird side of it just adjust for it
it’s a spectrum, people.
remember that.
Yeah and sometimes you dont even have to tell them. Ive always struggled to make friends and talk to people face to face. Being in public is very stressful. To help regulate myself to no panic I fidget with stuff. One time I asked someone around or likely my age what time something ended and as soon as they saw my fidgeting their entire demeanor changed and they acted like I was a little child who needed to call their mommy!
@@anaverageanimator9296stupid millennials.
@@anaverageanimator9296just stupid millennials and older gen z being idiots thinking all people with autism are the same infant baby they’re made out to be.
Autism is insanely misunderstood, lol
I remember telling my cousin about having autism, and he suddenly started looking down on me like I was a four year old child. It's honestly insane how mispresented autism is
im getting tested soon and im scared of this happening to me, it doesnt help that my mom started telling everyone 😭
If you have autism you are either a genius or completely unable to help yourself there is NO INBETWEEN. STOP LIVING A NOTMAL LIFE DESPITE YOUR AUTISM
thats why i learned to not stand out and try avoid people getting too close to me, well that has the downside of becoming lonely but it is what it is.
People usually see me as quirky or just different at first but once I become friends with them and trust them I'll eventually say I have autism. I do not tell strangers or people I'm not close with that I have autism for this reason.
@@chost-059you shouldn't be closed off to people. That only makes things worse. You shouldn't be afraid to let people get close to you, but instead only trust them once they are close. I know "just be friends with them it's fine" is pretty bad advice for someone with autism, but you shouldn't be walled off or too insulated. My advice is when you meet new people, see if they're interested in talking to you despite your differences, instead of trying to suppress your differences to be friends with them. All of my close friends were people who accepted me despite me being different, and all the people from high school who I don't talk to anymore are the people who didn't really get it or thought I was weird.
Here's a little personal anecdote that might help you start. Personally I like to talk to people who are also different in some way because they're more likely to be accepting of someone else who's different. For example, of all the people from high school that I still talk to, about half of them are queer. On the other hand, the people from high school who I never want to talk to again all feel like carbon copies of each other and are not interesting to talk to.
The "lets bully him because its funny how he flips out" literally just described my entire school experience until high school
No but this EXACT THING happened to me, I was like ostracized by my entire class (I am not exaggerating, those people were brutal) and I had no fking clue why, no one even tried liking me besides this one girl who was also autistic (but she eventually stopped talking to me after her friends convinced her to do so), and this went on from 3rd to 9th grade, everytime someone new entered that classroom I imidiatly tried befriending them, (only worked 2 times and both were when I started masking) only in 9th grade I come to find out why they didn't like me, and they said it was "because I was weird"
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im in high school and my friends are doing this every day its so annoying and they just cover it up as a joke
fr I was bullied in 8th grade for stammering like, so lame. The last time ppl tried to bully me were freaking freshmen (They're rising juniors now lol, but this was during my junior year)
OH MY GOD this happened to me all the time in school and I seemingly just completely blocked out those memories until now.
The maturity part I agree with a lot. At this point I've just noticed how many people around me are now just incapable of having an argument or discussion without immediately heading to insults
It's odd actually, I never use insults if I somehow ever get into an argument, I'm not even belittling someone either which is something I haven't even noticed consciously.
Oh wait oh shi-
Same
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Ughhh you're right!! But that's only true about me! Because I'm better than everyone bla bla bla or whatever else you expected me to say.
@@CelticVampireQueen it is true though, most people do quickly devolve to insults when argueing.
i’m an autistic woman and i feel like my maturity experience is reversed.
up until i was around 13, i was told i was “very mature for my age,” had a very inquisitive and open mind and interests that were seen as more befit for older individuals.
now, though, im often called immature or childish because of my interests and the way that i act. it’s frustrating.
For me, I got the same story but I feel as if the childish part of me is the regret I have for maturing WAY too early.
Same
Yeah I tried to act mature when I was immature at 11-13, starting acting more immature at 14-15 then became a burnt out husk, I’m now 20 and I feel like I’m missing a certain drive even though I work out and stay fit enough, my focus on work has completely degraded and pales in comparison to what I did when I was 16/18
we NEED a month! We only get one autism awareness day that school announcements don’t mention but instead turn into some fake read a book bullshit. No one even mentions the day at all and it’s on April 2.
oh my god same and people treat me like im a dumb kid and im not im literally 16 and it annoys me so bad
I'm autistic, I'd feel insanely insulted if someone told my boyfriend he's taking advantage of me, a LOT of us can consent, the only autistic people who cannot consent are those who cannot communicate in any form
I remember telling my mother a couple years ago - you know what autism is? She responded with something like "Oh yeah, the stupid people? I didn't register at that time, but thinking back, wth.
@PurePain_1 honestly I don't rlly blame her because a lot of peoples perceptions of autism is that its a learning disability and that everyone on the spectrum is "slow" when it's not the case, I don't have a learning disability and learning disabilities are comorbities of autism, not everyone on the spectrum has em, I used to think autism was "stupid people" too, hopefully perceptions will change as more people become diagnosed and health care improves!
@@PuffTastic Same until around 10?. I quickly learned that "autism is awesome". I always thought autism was just something that made you intellectually better, like the Hollywood movie portrayals.
they think of low functioning individuals.
many of the non-communicators actually can - they just prefer not to talk to idiots. we think on such a higher level often I dont know how to respond to them. so imagine how it is for someone who already has difficulty with literally everything.
The degree to which people infantilize anyone with autism is genuinely wild
Personally, I blame Twitter for how it reduced to word "autism" to literally anything silly or childish
@@KiiBonYeah
*someone falls over*
Twitter: Uhohh hes ausocstic?!.,,.,,,
Some people treat me like a regular person, some people infantilize me. It sucks.
@@KiiBon it's been happening for years way before twitter started acting like it was childish. It's largely due to the stereotype that's commonly portrayed in media that all autistic people are 5 year old boys who love trains.
Until recently practically no shows (and even now it's very few) had an autistic character that was an adult (and acted like one) and especially had an autistic character that was a girl. Autism moms and companies like autism speaks defiantly don't help. I think blaming twitter just takes away from the actual problem, and shifts the blame to someone else.
It especially doesn't help that some of those people on twitter are autistic and just are more silly/childish than others, autism is a spectrum, there will be those kinds of people and that's okay, but blaming them for years of discrimination and false representation in media isn't.
(I know about the stupid 'is it acoustic' people, i don't mean them, their the worst, it's not entirely their fault but they sure aren't helping, feel free to blame those losers as much as you want, they deserve it.)
As an autistic person, I think it's super important for these types of videos to exist. The more we talk about our own experiences, the more we'll (hopefully) become less stigmatized.
It's basically gen alpha slang now, like ppl will say "stop acting autistic lil bro"
@@spotishiior acoustic…
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Yeah agreed
@@HoggySklump or guitarted
so true. if any other teenager gets angry, stays up late, etc and the school knows it its normal. if an autistic teenager like me does, the school will intervene in our family business to "protect me" by forcing my mum to go to a "class".
getting infantilised while autistic is the most annoying thing ever, people switch up so fast, even when i assume they dont mean to they start talking more gently to me. when i was 16, i went to a pottery class with my parents, and they decided to tell the teacher that i was autistic. and he literally spoke to me like i was 5!! i felt like i was going insane. i just think differently im not a baby
why do parents do that to their autistic offspring!?!? 😂😭😭
its honestly really fookin' humiliating.
@@gamerstreater9314 i dont know, one time me and my dad were at an event together and every single time he introduced me to someone he felt like it was necessary to add the fact that im autistic
My parents had to tell the airport receptionists that I was autistic so we could skip the cue, but in honest regards they are telling the profession about your needs just Incase you don't 'struggle'
My entire life my experience with Autism was I suggest things and people don't listen to me because they have a big ego and think just because I have Autism I'm wrong, and then I turn out to be right and then a huge problem occurs because they didn't listen to me and they regret not listening to me but they continue to not listen to me in the future.
I've ran into the issue of, whenever someone knows I have autism, people automatically feeling sorry for me or changing their tune to patronize me. It used to be insulting.
@@RussianKeeperIsNoMore let your enemies think your an idiot.
I used to feel the same way
i HATE people patronising me. i found a good way to get them to stop is to patronise them back, be very obvious about it, they usually shut up out of embarassment.
Yes I can relate to this feeling and it very may screw us up or anxious about topics commonly known and talked by the public. many don't believe we have experienced things or know about things that are alot more serious.
@@RussianKeeperIsNoMore bro someone looked at me and started doing that shit and i was so insulted
even when i don’t tell people that im autistic, they apparently still infantilize me. i can’t pick up on when people do it, but my allistic friend has told me multiple times that the tones people were talking to me in were patronizing
i really love being able to hear someone talk about this
fr tho
One reason I think we get the "genius or idiot" treatment is that we tend to be at least somewhat smarter than average, but to have communication issues (ranging from physical problems speaking to tending to organize our thoughts, and thus our words, in a different way). If you can't communicate, your IQ as perceived by others drops dramatically.
100% true. not trying to sound like the joker here, but society tends to think lesser of people, things, and even concepts they can’t understand and are therefore unable to put in a box. this is why some people still think animals can’t be intelligent as well, even though science has consistently proven otherwise. i wonder if this is a reason why me and many other autistic people have found so much comfort and relatability with animals? idk, might sound crazy but your comment just got me thinking lol.
That actually sounds spot on. I think we autistic ought to have the ability to call people 'Ableist' to get them to back off with their bigotry.
@@getSkrunkyeah mate society is very stereotypical nowadays and they always judge by impressions,if that person has problems expressing them selves they are bad at communication therefore dumb,nah it doesn't work like that we have to look more deep into things because autistic people can be way more than what we think of them at just seeing them once
The amount of people who would get the thought in their mind that an Autistic person is dumb is really absurd
I have 132 IQ officially but 60 IQ in the eyes of people.
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2:10 I FEEL THAT SO MUCH. my step siblings always take advantage of my autism by twisting my words or just telling me im autistic as an insult.
my word, the same was happening to me during the last few years (I had a Minecraft server with a lot of people playing being on my school and they couldn't stop twisting everything I said)
Whenever they ask for help from you in the future just refuse it and when they ask why, remind them of everything they said to you
@@whitedragonzerureusu4480 GREAT IDEA THX !!
Mmmmm honestly if i were you i would just target what my step siblings feel the most insecure about.
@@CreestofOfficial react normally to it and they have no reason to continue
As an autistic person. I was recently diagnosed, nothing has changed it just feels like people treat me like a baby because I have autism. When I tell people I have autism they start to treat me like shit and leave me out of stuff. I’m not a child anymore, I have had autism all of my life do not treat me any differently
i fw the viper pic bro
@@QuartzQuadrantdid you not read what he just said? Bro did NOT pay attention.
"do not treat me any differently" 🤓
if people treat you badly when you dont mean harm. dont feel bad about yourself. feel bad about them. Bcs they are doing something wrong not you
@@TheACTIONZ Aww look, he's trying to be offensive, how adorable.
Personally, i think one of the biggest problems is, that most people dont know Autism is a spectrum.
Most Neurotypicals either think you're dumb or hyper intelligent, nothing inbetween. When I have to tell them that it's not like that, they look at me like I'm an Alien.
My experience is actually pretty similar to yours, I just didn't know until I was 17 and I still have a lot of trouble with emotional control and socializing. I have the same best friend since 15 years, I literally don't know how to make new ones, also being selectively mute (which isn't actually as common in autism) making me look weird and stupid for others.
I'm not an expert, because as you said, I don't know how it is NOT to have it, but its good to know you're not alone.
I just wish "normal people" would look into it a bit more
Neurotypicals think that it's a spectrum of 'less autistic' to 'more autistic' and that's the most that they know about a spectrum. They need to understand that it's a qualitative spectrum and not a quantitative spectrum.
@@ponfi0275 makes sense, couldn't have said it better
I'd say the real dumb ones are those trying to generalize autistic people like that and put them in boxes and try to dictate to their faces who they are. They refuse to let autistic people be.
I don’t fully understand autism and probably never will as I’m not autistic myself (I seriously hate putting a label on it because it makes you sound like an alien) but I’ve personally never had a problem talking to anyone autistic. There actually fun to be around and I sometimes pick up on there traits and it makes me curious. I can talk to them like any other person tbh.
@@Mojikaji We need more people like you
as someone that has autism im very good at hiding it and everyone has no clue unless i tell them but i feel like its looked down on for no reason like it makes you less of a person for some reason when people do find out or know that you have it. I also experience the same thing with being much more mature and stable out if most people my age. also bonding very well and feeling a connection with only people that have it and not really feeling a way towards people that dont
the gir profile pic is the autism giveaway. fellow autistic people can sniff it out from a mile away
Are you a girl? Cuz unlike guys, girls often hide their autism.
people insist on being compelled to use the most dominant label to define the outer casing of a person. it drives me crazy. in every situation. oh it's so and so's bf. or Jims brother. then you are that thing forever. imagine one time you had a haircut then here comes the x y z dude years later. or the whatever guy. so annoying
I think my comment got deleted for asking genuine question. Not very cool. Though I kinda undersand the reasoning.
@@pavelmatusu4457 YT hides comments by some weird algorithm. Just try to rephrase it if it got flagged.
as a non-autistic person, this is just goddamn sad
not cool bro, the dude has autism
A very common thing that I experience is being misunderstood, followed by punishment, that is then followed by ignorance.
And it's the most heartbreaking and frustrating thing you can experience as an autistic person.
Yeahh 😰 its like, “i did something wrong, but what???”
i’ve experienced that too many times now
Bro I thought that was just a me thing 😭😭
@@redalertsheep2939 fr man
Happened to me all the time. Still, at work dealing with customers that chimp out over non-existent things.
I'm autistic too, a late diagnosis at 22.
People don't understand that a Savant is an incredibly rare version of autism (the kind of autism that can recognize and continue patterns instantly), and that autism is a massive spectrum. That's why the DSM-5 calls it the 'Autism Spectrum Disorder.'
Most cases of autism are ASD-1, which used to be called Asperger's, but is now called 'high-functioning autism'
This just means that a person has autism, but can be independent. This type of autism can be both a blessing and a curse.
For myself, I was one of the rare lucky ones that wasn't bullied, but that was because I masked the hell out of everything. I have always been self-contained, isolative, all due to abuse from my parents. This means I don't like being around people or sharing my things with people. I still love people, I love sharing my thoughts and ideas, but if I can avoid it, I will.
However, my autism makes me an incredibly smart person. I have a poor sense of humor, because I take things too seriously, but that seriousness makes me incredibly adept at thinking things through; coming up with problems and then solutions to those problems, and understanding things deeper than most people can.
I work INCREDIBLY on my own, but get overwhelmed frequently and can't work with others on the same project.
This is all to say, that autism isn't the same as you'd see in media. Autism can be masked, or the person's symptoms might not manifest as noticeable behavioral issues.
Autism is a spectrum and can be very volatile, but also very reclusive. Treat individuals as individuals, and get to know them and their unique quirks; it could end up making them an even better friend than most people.
Honestly, my autism is sounds very similar to this!
I got asperger's, and didn't know it was a outdated name. Never knew it was called "high-functioning autism" so thanks for that ig. I can confirm that having that is both a curse and a blessing, might be the reason i've done well on tiktok, millions of views on there
(not professional at health) but here’s my experience as a child being autistic
I have autism I was diagnosed at young age. I had no learning disability (except speech) but I was in special needs etc and I’m not really dumb I get pretty well grades, the only thing is that I preform on a lower level than my twin who also has autism as well and same effects. Before I told people I had it I got called weird etc and then after they were shocked saying stuff like “you don’t act like it ” “oh really” “you seem so normal”
I am also bullied a lot for being weird and embarrassing myself.
@@sh3lly_stan I feel you brother, I’m also high functioning autism. The moment they know you are on the spectrum, they see you as an outcast. I even got called a loser for fucking up a saw machine by some kiwi classmate back in high school. We can’t say anything back for 2 reasons. 1 is because we need time to think of an answer so we walk away for a bit and number 2 is because “OH THE AUTISTIC KID SPOKE GUYS” yep, that shit happened to me. And rumours would start spreading about me. These things drive us insane. Life is better once you graduate out of school.
As an autistic person my experience of sharing my disability is just awful. At first there’s the negative and sad emotion displayed by the second party, then they like others say, treat me like a damn toddler. Now that’s not the worse I’ve seen, it’s gotten to a point where hundreds of people I know want me to get hurt or even die due to how miss represented autism is and their complete lack of understanding. I just wish they could understand.
This is the reason I dont tell anybody about it. I know ill be treated like a toddler and called slurs etc. Its so sad
@@xanderlalla3510 Yea it really is, can’t people just understand that we are also people?
They either treat me as if I was born yesterday or they treat me as if I am supposed to be able to read their minds and instantly have the answers. There is no middle ground.
If someone pulls the 'counts stuff thrown on the floor' thing smirk like they lost their mind and say "I'm autistic not a damn vampire."
As "According to European lore, vampires suffer from arithmomania, the uncontrollable urge to count or calculate numbers."
I'm 46 and only recently did a test that shows I have a good chance of being autistic. what a time man
Also, while good math skills often do come with autism, "good math skills" and "instantly count objects in a random jumble" are not the same thing. I sorta have good math skills (unlike my dad who definitely has good math skills), though a lot if it seems to be my verbal and spatial skills carrying my math skills. I definitely cannot count random jumbles of things on sight.
I might be a vampire
Wait is this why the Count from Sesame Street teaches kids math
Now THATS funny
Heard a myth where vampires are required to count any pile of rice they pass by
oh my god yes, I feel like people always immediately think of super high-end autism.
"high end autism" who autism out here runnin on an rtx 4080 😭
@@dooblom you just made my say that was hilarious af
@@zennon_youtube lmao nice
my autism designer yo
as someone with autism its great to see someone actually try to show people what autism truely is
Just gonna mention this because u said this in the video. Autism itself is NOT a learning disabillity. Learning disabilities are more common in autistic people, but not all have them. Like im diagnosed with autism, but i dont have any learning disabilities. The only thing about me that possibly effects my learning abillity is probably my other diagnosis, aka ADHD. And i don't mean affect my learning as in like, my brain takes longer to learn, more that i get distracted all the time (which is annoying).
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Yeah I was gonna say the same thing. I'm autistic and I've always done great in school, got put in the gifted program, etc. Definitely isn't a learning disability.
Yeah, ive always done super well in school, often getting A's in all my classes, however, I take more time learning to walk, talk, and write. But where i really lack, and still lack, is socially. I saw someone once say that people without autism tend to focus more on being social earlier in life then focus on learning, and autistic people to be the opposite. While I dont believe this to be entirely correct I think there could be some truth to it
this! learning disabilities are comorbidities of autism, I'm currently in college (UK) and I'm working at a B A A, I had no learning difficulties as a child OTHER than reading which I couldn't read until age 7 mysteriously other than that NOTHING. My vocabulary was also exceedingly advanced for my age and people wouldn't stop bugging me about that until I was around 14 and people sort of caught up to me
@@anaverageanimator9296Possibly. I’m undiagnosed but I have a strong feeling I’m on the spectrum somewhere. I was very intelligent in school, and have always been fascinated by how motors and machines work. Like down to the T. I work in a factory now and find myself mocking the Mechanical noises of machines over and over again. I hold imaginary conversations with myself with different people who don’t even exist. If I’m doing a task and trying to hold a conversation, I start to lose focus of said task and start doing random things (picking up random items and setting them in even more random spots). I go on tangents (like this) with sometimes no main point. I often switch topics a lot too..
I am most likely Austistic, but I'm never sure, because I'm constantly bombarded with people who say I need to "change" or "just accept society and earn money." I rarely even accept it because a lot of people tend to say insults and things like, "You're f**king Autistic" like it's a bad thing. So, I've just always been on edge for being a castaway who doesn't really understand why most people can't have a conversation with me, or is it me them? I'm basically a dropout and homeless because I could never do anything without asking "why?" I just found this video and I quite like the voice you give. I hope I can eventually get rid of my anxiety, depression, fear, and guilt.
Also, my sybling has Autism, and most like does my father.. My father is quite an intelligent man, only he and I don't get along very well, because I fear we're both emotionally damning to each other.
I could say I'm rather quite disabled... or do I just a very archaic way of seeing the world?
I see the world in a similar way. Hang in there it will get better❤
@@Chester_Kitten You need to "change" because you're a homeless dropout castaway. You currently take more from the world than you give it. If it's asking "why?" that's stopping you from working, stop asking why. If it's something else, stop that instead. At the end of the day it's a problem with you and accepting that will get you a lot further than blaming it on someone/something else.
You can't change what other people do, you can only change yourself and if you think labelling your self with mental illnesses will excuse the need for self improvement u gonna stay like this forever.
good luck m8
First step hate yourself that brings you down. Second step destroy that which you hate. Third find yourself that brings you up. Work on that shit till get gud. legit anything u enjoy look for a job in it. shits always less like work when there's a community around it.
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I think I’ve lived a very lucky life as an autistic woman with ADHD.
I was diagnosed early and my parents didn’t try to hide it from me. They’ve worked hard with my psychiatrist to make sure I get the medication I need and work with my school so they could help me get the accommodations I need to get through school. My teachers have all been very understanding and supportive and have done everything they can to help me succeed. And that’s just with my autism, my parents and teachers are amazing and have raised me really well.
When I was really young, I was taught to be myself and not care about what others think of me, I took those lessons to heart and have never tried masking because of it. If I was bullied, I either wasn’t aware or didn’t care. My autism is an important part of myself I’m not afraid to wear on my sleeves, if other people judge me for it, that’s their problem and they’re not worth my time.
I also haven’t really faced much ableism. There is one time I remember, but it’s just an outlier in a general life of being accepted.
I’m also an artist and a writer, and I attribute a large part of my talent to my autism and ADD. Because drawing is one of my special interests, I’m able to draw almost every day without getting burned out. A part of my ADD is hyperactivity in the mind, and I’d imagine I wouldn’t be as creative as I am if I wasn’t mentally hyperactive.
And many (if not all) of my friends are neurodivergent like I am. Many of them are also artists like I am. My friends are the best friends I could ever ask for, and we’re all pretty close with each other. And online I’ve found many places to discuss my interests with other people.
Imo, it’s kind of sad that a life where an autistic person is accepted, properly accommodated, and loved by friends and family is the life of the lucky few like me instead of the majority of autistic people.
im glad you have people who understand you
even though many people like my family and the people from my primary school accept me, the secondary school I was in wasn’t as accepting. I basically hid the fact I was a high functioning autistic since most my classmates talked about them as if they were just developmentally stunted.
I used to have a friend in there who was also autistic, but he turned out to be an awful person. I barely had any genuine friends after that (the “friends” I had didn’t know I was autistic)
If only I had a life like yours…
Thumbnail: autism isn't what you think
Me, autistic: "Hmm"
that’s exactly what I did :D
same i feel you
I think that jms was trying to attract the attention of those who AREN’T autistic.
It took me a little while to realize that intelligence is relative, that someone with autism who has a monotropic focus on a single thing is seen as intelligent if their focus is deemed practical where someone with a focus on something deemed impractical is seen as weird. I eventually derived an entire theory of ethics from that thought, how I could have the same brain but focus on something people wanted and be evaluated as genius or focus on something incomprehensible and be evaluated as an idiot. Someone with the same brain, a brain capable of crafting The Magna Carta, can dedicate all of that potential to drawing Sonic The Hedgehog foot fetish content all seemingly by random chance. Thus, what is good is what is practical.
Yes, practical in relation to a society that is inherently impractical, & unsustainable, because what ever is considered "practical" in today's society is whatever can contribute to profit for people that don't have your best interest on mind, evidence by the society they made that is based purely on profit, & is fundamentally anti-human to it's core, like the Roman empire they try to imitate.
this is personally why i see the measure of smn's iq have little meaning, in reality everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, and that iq is simply not a reliable measure for smn's performance or capability in a certain field
This is a very accurate way of looking at things. Another aspect of this is the fact that, for some autistic people, it's practically impossible to force yourself to be interested in something. I think it's because we tend to engage much more intimately with our passions, while other people are okay with being "half-interested".
I'm either 100% fascinated and enraptured by a topic, or completely ignoring it. There is no inbetween. I cannot be "half-interested" in something, and it sucks because so many social things require you to feign interest in stuff, which is just physically painful to do.
@@Skyymon iq was made by racists so they can justify taking the land of natives at the pretense that they are "unintelligent"
Ha, like how movie directors and writers are labelled "geniuses" for thinking of the most unholy premises on earth. I really like how well you wrote all that, really simple and concise, also perfectly shows the hypocrisy of some people.
as a high functioning autistic I really enjoy seeing others perspectives
"as a high functioning autistic" from that little part of your sentence i can tell that you're not 'well functional' sorry buddy... but you're a loser 🤷♂
i hate when autistic people say their smart, im not autistic and im smarter than 99% of them.. i hate it
Teens are so immature you should probably just ignore them. Its so annoying going to school and just hearing the N and R slurs every second.
Mad true
Fr its actually impossible to find a friend who doesn't do that especially in middle school 😓
Yeah man finally somebody understands,they things its literally cool to do this things just to "show off" in school because thats how sadly society is ,if not they consider you to be a weird kids when you dont want to follow the stupid trend they like,like for example there are kids that call others poor because others dont want to/cant have an iphone or want/cant get some "jordans". Specially in this generation as a person from this generation @@M0urfeen
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So true man. Throughout my teenagehood I was always pressured to "go out there and socialize!". I would, if their conversation were actually worth listening to. I'm not even saying that they have to be super serious all the time, I love memes and shitposts. But no one wants to listen to conversations about sex, drugs, and boring-ass drama all the time.
Keep making videos brother, you’re funny and talented. I love these low effort but highly insightful videos. I love watching em while I play Minecraft
Funny? He'll nah. Maybe a little charismatic
Lmao I accidentally misread this as “Stop making videos brother.”
From one autistic person to another, I hate how people percieve us as: " i am a 6 year-old white boy and i am gonna talk to you about dinosaurs- *Drops toothpicks* 5296."
The hilarious thing is that the toothpicks thing is from Rain Main. Raymond is based on a real person named Kim Peek, who wasn't autistic. He had savant syndrome, and the thing with that is while there can be overlap, you can be a savant and not autistic, and vice versa. These idiots don't even get their stereotypes right lmao
I am also autistic. I am now 24, I got diagnosed when I was 20. My whole life I felt sort of different but my parents never understood me. I went to so many people (proffesionals) and some said I was, some said I wasnt. The problem my parents thought that people who are autistic are retarded and I am clearly not. So it was a pretty wild ride with therapists and people because my parents didnt agree and we just stopped going. I was like 14 so I couldnt really go on my own. Anyways my parents also had problems (different problems) but it was just a struggle. Anways I get that with not telling people bacause some people I have known my whole life and when I was 20 and I told them they just acted different to me. Its can be a struggle. I have also met so many new people who are autistic and everyone is different. There are like a million different variants it seems and everyone has their own struggles. My parents do understand me a lot better since a couple of years but it took some time. It also helps since I moved out and lived on my own when I was 19 and I got my diagnosis at 20 so that also kind of helps... I could of gotten the diagnosis when I was 13 if my parents wherent stupid and removed the steriotype autism they had. I kind of understand why they had that idea because when I grew up there was this kid in the street who was like mental, demon, evil autistic just being a retarded asshole and they based their vision of autism on that...
I actually recently got diagnosed as autistic and I was 19 aswell and even though I objectively see why I have it it just seems normal to me
@@JonkerHoodMoments ouihuihuihui
in terms of mental maturity I've found that personally I feel like there are multiple types of maturity, and that I became advanced in some aspects much faster than my peers did and then for other things much slower.
I'm not diagnosed, but very likely autistic (not the tiktok kind of "i think i'm autistic" by the way) and i feel i was the opposite. I've always been mentally and socially typical/ahead , but academically i've never been the top student. I cannot do maths to save my life for example
This is very true. I remember I would basically always be prepared for any class topic because there was a high change it was something I had already researched in my own time for fun. I was watching Matpat like 4 years before I actually had a physics class lol.
However, for anything involving socialzing or emotional communication, I'm basically still a toddler. I cannot for the life of me grasp social interaction. It all seems illogical and unintuitive, and it sucks because no one else seems to question any of it. They just have whatever invisible social sixth sense that tells theme exactly what to do.
I literally just learned less than a few weeks ago what being "friendzoned" actually means, that's how far behind I am.
I feel like I am a bit more mature, but at the same time, having that thought makes me feel weird, hoping that I'm not a narcissist.
this was so relatable, especially the part of "i think i can only be with another autistic person"
Things like Big Bang Theory don't really do much to help, that show is pretty much just what executives at some Hollywood studio thought autism might be. There's maybe less than 1% of people that are like Sheldon. Here in Sweden, someone made a really weird but similarly "I have no idea what it's like to be autistic" movie called "in space there are no feelings" or I rymden finns inga känslor in Swedish. I remember my younger sister watching it and just flat out saying "this has nothing to do with autism". She compared the character in the show to me and nothing of the things I show where anywhere similar or related to said character and their autism.
Feels like typical Hollywood sh!1, they can't be bothered to do even the most barebone research possible (funny that the rain man thing gets used as an example, that's an extreme outlier that so rare, it barely even exists to begin with).
Edit: I like to joke by saying that autism is like "running a different operating software", normies use Windows while I'm stuck on Linux.
No-one associated with The Big Bang Theory has said Sheldon is autistic. Obviously he exhibits many neurological abnormalities, but if there was more to it than creating an obnoxious character they've certainly done a good job at keeping it under wraps.
@@Mrvideosandgames yes, cause people are totally gonna just sit there and wait for a confirmation. They aren't gonna jump to conclusions like normies usually do, Tbh the entire show is very obnoxious, it's sort of "someone says nerdy thing, other person say different nerdy thing, now laugh you peasants"
@@SvengelskaBlondie
I mean, I think you're a little strong in your conviction😅
Sure there are people who watched the big bang theory and used it to strengthen their misconceptions, but I don't think that's due to the shows design. In the interviews with actors and creators that I've seen I found them rather open and friendly about it all.
Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left 😋
@@boomknuffelaar Its not that I am strong in my convictions, it's just that I know people are too lazy to actually check things up. Hence why I used Big Bang theory as an example. Tbh, I couldn't care less about the show, the show is just an example of how little people know about autism.
" but I don't think that's due to the shows design."
I agree with you on this one, I doubt very much it was made to be to be some kind of autism focus/awareness thing.
"Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left"
There's something really funny about that, ive seen a few such video's. Whatever "comedy" that's left falls flatter than the antagonist in Who framed rodger rabbit after he got run over by the steam roller.
It’s ok, Linux is superior. Sincerely, a windows user.
I never realised how much of a stigma there is around autism until watching this video. I don't feel comfortable posting anything about myself here on the internet but I can definitely relate to some things you have experienced. It just saddens me that people look down on people with autism. It is a spectrum and not everyone with autism has the same kinda stuff if that makes sense. I'm sorry you had to go through this you've earned a new subscriber.
Haha u said sigma
@@Azuritenzhe said stigma bro. You got brainrot.
@@Azuritenz s t i g m a
@@TheAutisticFrogmaking autism your whole personality is crazy ngl 😭😭😭 "TheAutisticFrog"
So that explains why I was bullied in school.
First time here, your video came up in my recommendations.
My wife is autistic, and I am not.
Autistic people aren't typically super strange as you said, it's just a different way of processing the world.
She's not like "some child" being taken advantage of. She's a strong, brave, beautiful woman and the only one for me.
Thank you for this video, and know that there are some "normal" people who get it. I may not like GET IT get it since I haven't personally had it myself, but together my wife and I learn and grow from one another and become better every day.
Much love, and I hope you are doing well. - C
I get what you mean with people having insane expectations. I remember seeing someone put it like "they want you to either be Sheldon Cooper or a tall toddler". I'm autistic too, but I didn't get diagnosed until I was 18 because my mum thought all autistic people are screaming morons who don't emotionally mature past the age of 5. What's weird is that I really think she's autistic, but she doesn't realise it because she thinks her experiences are normal. Like those people who say "everyone's a little autistic"
I ABSOLUTELY don't understand people who insult people with autism, like people with autism is just people that are different
Because people are part of, & brought up into a society that brainwashes, conditions, or gaslights them into thinking that different is bad uncritically, while also promoting blind obedience to their absolute detriment, that's why.
Because they suck.
because they werent loved. they only insult those people because they got more attention then they ever got. its their way of coping
it's easier to pick on someone that's different because they stand out bullies would pick on someone but there's a reason why they don't pick on someone their own size (someone that's similar to most of the people around them) but we are *different, not less*
@94709Oh, I can understand. But, depending on the circumstances... I will still blame
damn getting treated differently over something you cant control must suck
It's not quirky, but the internet will try to make it seem that way. It's hard to stay focused, hard to keep track of the time. You constantly have to ask people "What?" in conversations because your mind is always somewhere else.
I do not like the term mental age ngl, I think that phrasing kinda missrepresents what was going on.
i strongly agree. now days ill just say "i take a long time to learn somethings" much easier then explaining that some parts of my brain age slowly. also for most everyone with a developmental disorder at lease one or two parts of the brain can start to develop faster then avenge.
I get what he's trying to say but it's always more nuanced then "mental age" makes it out to be. For example, in 7th grade, I socially acted like I was in 5th grade but was more organized and productive then some of my college friends are even today because of my obsession with planning everything and routine. I was also about as academically smart as everyone else my age and that has remained relatively constant, especially after elementary school.
ur mentally stupid. cope.
My brother has the non verbal kind of autism and I don’t know any other way to describe it other than using mental age
He’s 9 right now but I’d say he’s mentally 3 years old
What else are you supposed to say instead of mental age?
@@healthy10972 Well, there's all the stuff "normal" 3 year olds do and grow out of, that are unrelated to language. Most likely, your brother is already more advanced in several of these aspects, just not the verbal side. So maybe you could say something more like "at the level of most 3 year olds in terms of using language" but probably not with other things.
I am autistic. That's the only reason why my parents don't let me control my own life. I'm 19 years old and will soon be 20.
My parents forced me to go to a college for electrical engineering for two years. According to the law, I didn't have to, because I was already 18.
But my parents had beaten me, kicked me and whipped me with a belt to make me go there.
I had called the police many times... but they wouldn't help me. They told me that I had no right to decide about my own life.
I still live with my parents. It is awful. I just want to rule my own life. I want freedom.
I'm so sorry you have to go through that, I hope you can find your own freedom and gain that independence from your abusive house hold. I'm actually in a similar situation, as I am currently 19 going on 20 this year but I still am treated like a small child, it's difficult and having every aspect of your life controlled by your family is dehumanizing, it can make you feel worthless and hopeless, but although I do not know you i hope you can live your life the way you want to! :)
God damn, that sounds horrible, do you have other relatives like you're grandparents to go to for support? I feel so sorry for you, I hope you're situation gets better. Good luck
hope you find a way out of this .we are rooting for you
oml...
No way... I pray that you get out of that terrible situation
it's like having dementia, people make jokes about it.
when the fuck did i write this?
What
ahhh irony
@@kubaoko008 LMAO
@@kubaoko008 lol
no bcz for me when ppl find out i’m autistic they always just say “oh, that explains a lot” like damn
I mean yeah, it probably does. My friends said the same thing but it’s because of the way I socialize. They never got why until I was diagnosed
@@Moonshine449 yes, but the commenter's reaction is probably from ignorant people who have misconceptions of neurodivergency. if an open-minded friend who was always there for them said that, the commenter probably wouldn't have reacted with "damn"
If someone said that phrase “oh, that explains a lot” because of me being autistic, that explains a lot about THEM.
I mean, yeah, I'd feel satisfied if I heard that cause it means there's a bunch of misconceptions about me that just got snuffed.
I had an experience that really changed my option on autism recently when I was just hanging out with some friends and found out two of them were autistic and it was just a reminder that people are literally just people and the fact that someone has autism shouldn't affect anything in relationships
As an autistic person i just noticeably notice how everyone just isnt like me. I know that sounds like a dull explanation but its like im an alien. Like we speak the same language but neurotypicals behave and think so much differently
"I stopped telling people I have autism" as he places the 3 pickaxes and shovels neatly into their own collums. Jokes aside thank you for talking about this, it's always nice to have another resource to educate people and hopefully have them change how they treat others
Wait, non-autistic people don't do that?
@@Sepi-chu_loves_moths i have to imagine this isn't just an autism thing, it's rationally more organised
i couldnt say myself as im an autistic person who does that but itd be really weird if allistic people didn't do this
@@Sepi-chu_loves_moths no this was just a joke haha. While some types of autism do push towards more clean organization, it's not at all autism specific.
@@Lumegrin alltistic is crazy
@@RV2O allistic is a word
Hearing that I have Autism, my diagnosis came at around age 5, someone at our church started asking questions about me to my parents even though I was standing right there and answering. Hearing your side, it makes me question even more why we're all grouped together with only "Autism" to describe all of us, which seems equivalent to specifying "Rainbow" as a favorite color.
We all share the same patterns of characteristics even if we share few exact characteristics on first glance, and we tend to be fairly good at recognizing one another even with differences in presentation.
Honestly when describing autism to someone I should make an analogy using light.
Light is a spectrum, yeah? is red and blue the same color? no? well of course it isn't!
And it extends past the visible too, how many would get tripped up if I told them that microwaves, the internet, and light are all on the same spectrum. (at least, to my knowledge that's how that works?)
Now I just have to find someone to explain it to! I'll go outside one day...
That's why I hate the grouping of Autism into "ASD". Aspergers and Autism should be two different terms.
@@hx0d From a research standpoint, and for determining whether a child of two given parents is likely to inherit autism, they should be considered the same. From a support needs standpoint, they should be considered different, although even that can be overstated as the primary criterion that was used to distinguish the two is the presence or absence of language delay; That does have significant implications for support needs, but two people could have identical support needs profiles (sensory issues, executive function, meltdown susceptibility) *except* for language delay, and in that case their actual needs would be much the same, but one would have more trouble communicating those needs.
I just came across this video and it hits close to home. As an autistic guy I can fully empathise and understand not only how it feels to be stereotyped and misunderstood by ignorant people, but I can also relate to how you talked about feeling alienated and disconnected from everybody else. People’s words can eat me alive sometimes and it hurts, thank you for making this and even though I’m a couple weeks late, I’m super glad I found this because it makes me feel like I’m not alone. Keep spreading the word 🙏🙌
I once told someone that I had autism and the response that I always hate happened they said that "You're to smart for autism" so he was basically saying that autistic people were dumb made me even more insecure about it so now I don't tell anyone
honestly the best you can do is educate them, and if they don't want to learn then that's their loss
well I did move schools so I don't really see them that often anymore
@94709 edgy kiddo
@94709 tf
why do you care about what someone else thinks?
turns out the thumbnail is wrong
autism is exactly what I thought it was
because I have it
This is funny because at first I didn't think about it. But then I did and it was true
Me
a long time ago someone described being autistic as everyone else being handed a manual on how to socialize and live, but you don’t have that manual and have to figure it out yourself. that’s what being autistic is like to me.
I actually shared the "alien" feeling you had, but in a different way.
When I was young I always knew I was different but I just couldn't understand why, emotionally unstable, unable to understand things others could, sometimes do things others didn't understand. The list can go on, but it clawed at me, "Why am I so different? Why am I so slow?". The public humiliation and bullying from teachers and other kids didn't help.
After I got out of school (dropped out at 11th grade because I couldn't take it anymore and almost had a mental break) I practically cut off all ties I had. After a year or so of reflection and at age 19 I realized I had autism. After realizing it, it genuinely felt like a burden was lifted from my shoulders. Years of torment and not knowing why I was different felt like a memory.
I don't tell people I am autistic because I know they will get the wrong impression and I really hope more people find out what being autistic actually means.
Even now my current friend group is mostly comprised of autistic type people, mostly because we get along and or share a connection.
I fully believe that autism is a spectrum, it's not black and white. I am on there somewhere, I might not have the greatest control of my emotions and I will always feel different, but I at least now know why I am different and I am happy where I sit. :3
This is literally so true
the mental maturity is smth nobody talks about with autism, thank you for talking about it. i feel seen
I realize how strong I am because everyday is a mental struggle. Trying my best to keep living and be mindful. It's become harder for me to mask, it's too physically demanding and it's not worth all of the stress. Sometimes you have to just let yourself be a little autistic. Stim, flap your arms around, do whatever works for you and your brain. I didn't realize how uncomfortable masking made me feel until very recently.
I also get it autism doesn’t mean you’re dumb or you’re strange. It means you’re normal. You’re completely normal from everyone else. There’s nothing different about you. The people always think you’re different.😢 2:27
Autism is exactly what I think it’s like; a condition I have.
I did not expect to hear this from rick astley
a lot of people don't understand that different isn't necessarily better or worse, it's just different
"I cant be with anyone who int autistic" apparently non-autistic people just do that but like there is nothing inherently wrong with being autistic its just others who make it bad, and this goes both ways. It sucks that people infantilize every autistic person like they are all the same, because almost nobody is the exact same person.
thank you for hearing my ted talk
incredibly helpful video and relatable thank you
also lmao the point where you noticed where you died was like 3 blocks away from air was the biggest bruh moment
ik lol that made me laugh a lil when it happened
as an autistic person, I’m giving this video a 8/10
just has some missing stuff that’d be important
Care to elaborate? Seems like it'd be pretty helpful to mention what is missing.
@@dwarian5252 i think it’d be better to mention that autism is different for everyone and there’s a reason it is said to be a spectrum, other than that its 10/10
@@dwarian5252 was a little confused when it was only mentioned as learning disorder, he is definitely right it has caused me not to understand some concepts but those are also social ones, where ive watched how people have interacted to see how "normal people do it so well" and essentially autism, it's very broad and everyone will experience it differently
but there's no absolutely hate to this guy, this is his experience with it and what he says is right
@@mar420.74 ye
man i have been curious if i was autistic too without knowing and your videos are so relatable i think i may have autism
It's weird. I work in software-- a field one might, for good or ill, stereotype autistic people as being common in. Even here, it's bizarre to see what my coworkers think of autistic people; they see it as a sort of extreme handicap that a manager should notify them of ahead of time so that accommodations can be made. Very bizarre.
kept nodding my head like this guys spitting fax
More people need to talk about this. The stigma around it grows, as kids start saying “you’re autistic” to everyone, and it becomes really offensive because as someone with it, it’s not at all like what people say.
41 here, diagnosed at 37.
I actually tell many people, as my "problems" are fairly minor, and the explanation helps with the potentially weird facial expressions, or overly pedantic responses, or perceived poor eye contact.
But however you handle it, is the correct way for YOU to handle it. Don't let anyone tell you different!
i'm not autistic, so i don't know what it's like, but i know what it's like to be neurodivergent. i'm neurodivergent in a different way, i have ADHD.
3:40 is so accurate. i didn't realise most things i've done that were actually ADHD behaviors. turns out, it wasn't a "normal people" thing to have 56879368 chrome tabs open at once lol. it's kinda like how a color blind person don't realise that they're color blind since they don't know how other people see.
Insane analogy. Heh. Its the opposite for me. I get stressed and cant concentrate while knowing I have more that 3 tabs or a single window that I don't need open. Even a single unnecessary task in the system tray. Which is funny because in almost every other aspect of life I'm not organised at all. It's just the fact that I'm aware of that unorganised-ness and am constantly thinking about it that likely causes it.
i always have a bunch of chrome tabs open lol
i try to keep my tabs at the point before they start shrinking at most
Damn, I thought multitasking between 2-3 games, a youtube video and Discord was normal 😔
I recently discovered that i (most likely) also have ocd 💀 (i don't have an actual diagnose for it YET, but i'm %95 sure i have it. I'll get a real diagnose soon)
Unfortunately i have always been the weird kid. I have level 2 support needs and because I can mask its so much more tiring to mask it all. Plus i have come to realization that i am not like all autistic people because I also have ADHD, severe OCD, and ARFID. Hard on the OCD i literally cannot leave my house from germs and stuff.
As an autistic person who has not felt love yet, you have just given me some (potentially false - i hope not) hope
I believe in you to find someone!! I (I'M PRETTY SURE I DO :'3) have autism and I have a girlfriend, I think everyone can have a significant other if they're ready for a relationship, it takes alot of time usually, but I'm sure that if you're a great person and you just be yourself you'll find someone amazing! :D
Its possible (from an autist)
as another autistic, i legit won a award when i was a baby for beauty (not to brag) and i haven’t even been in a rs my life.
@@TT10Kofficial I mean... i feel like your performance as an infant isnt indicative of ur performance as an adult
@@meijuta i can agree
I feel the same way whenever I tell people I have autism. People often are like "Oh, YoU dOnT hAvE aUtIsM, yOu DoNt AcT ReTaRdEd!" It's so annoying, and it's part of the reason I have little friends.
Man, I don't have autism, but I couldn't imagine how you feel especially knowing how many people use autism as a joke. Even I've used autism as a joke, not that I'm proud of it, I guess it's because of peer pressure. I think mental conditions such as autism and ADHD (I have ADHD) are so mistunderstood that I've come to the conclusion that everyone has very different types and levels of their condition, and that I shouldn't judge people instantly, no matter what. Hope you have a good year at school
I rarely reveal I'm autistic to people. I only reveal it once I know it is safe to, or if the people are also autistic/neurodivergent. I'm constantly masking around strangers.
I hate the people who are like “hey! I use TikTok every single day! I have zero attention span! Look guys I’m autistic!” No. You aren’t. You have a short attention span, and self diagnosed yourself from some unreliable website saying “TOP 10 SIGNS YOU HAVE AUTISM!”. It feels insulting to people who really do have it, because so many people say they “have” it.
Edit: might have got ADHD and autism mixed up, but my point is still what I said. People self diagnose, because of having something that’s vaguely in common with one symptom.
I think people self diagnose either for attention or because they can't afford a professional. Fakers definitely spread a sort of "HEY THIS (INSERT NORMAL HABIT) MEANS YOU'RE NEURODIVERGENT" rumor and that spreads to people who don't know anything about neurodiversity, Thus making it more hard to tell what's real and what's fake. I self-diagnose but try my best to be skeptical and only take stuff like the CAT-Q which is sometimes used during actual diagnosis' for autism. Just know that not every person who self diagnoses themselves is one of those "hey look at me I'm autistic isn't that cool please sympathize for me and give me attention" TikTok people.
Idrk what point I was trying to make here, Sometimes self diagnosis stuff can be good/important Ig? And it's not always dodgy websites that just want clicks.
Everything this dude has said.
He thinks he's more mature than people his age.
"Hey, guys let's bully this acoustic kid because it's the funniest shit when he flips out and cries like a little baby" (Not to mention i probably also have anger issues.)
has been an exact definition of things i've felt, thought and been through.
Even though i have mild autism. i still have autism. Heck, i walk around in circles in backyard talking to myself. And i get feeling like no one understands. people in my school have said stuff like "If you have autism why are you in this class?"
Meaning why aren't i in sped classes. and the fact i'm actually eligible for some special needs things makes that even worse. my older sister used to call me autistic. and that was before i was even diagnosed. i had it all my life. i just didn't get diagnosed until a year ago. but it's always been there. and even though i can still bond with people that don't have autism. i can still relate to this guy a ton.
My cousin is autistic. Although not severely, he does have issues with socializing at times. BUT HE IS MY LITTLE MAN, AND HE IS AMAZING! And one thing that just ticks me off so much is how people treat him. In school, he was bullied so much. Him saying things like people putting fists at him and such, thinking he’s “weird”. What is it with people? Why is it so hard to treat others kindly? What have they gone through to make them like this?
Aw. I could feel the emotion in that 'HE IS MY LITTLE MAN.'
i'm sorry but autistic people are weird asf, once i had three autistic people in my class, let's just call them "liam, george and william" they always freaked out about random stuff and it triggered me so much bro, like could i just have some peice holy shit.. most people who have autism are so fucking annoying and i just hate to say it but your younger brother is probably (just guessing) insanely weird..
meant to say "peace" not "piece" LOOOL
Thank you for this video, this is one of the rare, times I've completely related to something online and had a negative feeling about a video in the internet. Just listening to someone speaking from the heart is very theraputic.
Misconceptions on autism is a massive issue in society, I'm literally doing a speech on it tomorrow.
I'm only 13 (almost 14) but I've felt like an alien my whole life and I have friends I've known for so many years but just don't feel connected to them.
Honestly, I'm much closer to the stupid side of autism but I still absolutely hate when people call me stupid and can actually make cry and ruin my day which they don't seem to realise.
I hope you know this but you're not alone haha
Hello! Did the speech go well? I am also planning on doing a speech about the subject, but most likely as a video instead of a full on speech at my school, because most likely no words will come out if I do it live XD... I am researching about other people's experiences and using my own experiences as a guide too. I feel like it is really important to tell the world about it, to make a positive change.
@@ryantronian8322 yeah it went well, thanks! Hehe yeah it’s good to raise awareness so try to if you can :)
I was nearly diagnosed with autism as a child because I refused to speak until I was like 4-5 (I knew how to say full sentences, just didn't), but a lot of the friends (even my best friend) I've made since then have had autism or aspergers. There was definitely a disconnect between me and them, as some of them just found it hard to open up
--probably because they were bullied for it in the past. When they told me they were autistic or I had heard about it, it honestly did not change my perception of them at all. I still considered them the same person, with the same or even higher levels of intelligence. In fact one of the closest friends I had in elementary school was low-functioning autistic, but he was still incredibly smart, just a little emotionally unstable.
I'm glad to have grown up with these people, definitely helped me avoid making the mistakes of assumption and patronisation that many people who don't have experience with autistic people start with. I think it might also have to do with the fact that I share a few of the common behaviours and issues that some autistic people have.
As a fellow autistic person, I relate to the emotional control issues while young so much. I was so easily triggered into rage as a child over small or inconsequential things. It might be due to also having ADHD but, I was angered so very easily it made me feel ashamed to think back to. I also relate to being more naive or immature compared to my peers at certain ages, like early to mid teenage years. I was thankfully not bullied too much as a kid, but goddamn learning how normie socializing works was such an immense challenge- I said so much stupid incomprehensible shit that I'm honestly surprised I even managed to make any friends. Or maybe I got lucky and was surrounded by many fellow potential neurodivergent people, I don't know. I didn't notice I was different from other people until my mid teenage years, perhaps that's what made me not hesitate in trying to make friends during my kid years. I'm still in school and people younger than me are using autistic as an insult all the time and it's probably due to that cursed TikTok app, which makes me so mad. To be honest, schools gotta start educating kids on neurodivergent conditions because as things are right now they'll grow up to become stupid adults that they will then carry over to their children. It's so frustrating. Thank you for this video, sorry for my rant at the end of this comment.
My friend has an autistic non-verbal brother. Before watching the video I thought that was pretty much autism. Now I feel so bad.
My experience with having Autism is when I suggest something no one listens to me just because I'm autistic and then when a problem happens because they didn't listen to me they regret not listening to me, and then they just forget about that and continue not to listen to me.
As an autistic person, I just gotta say this video touched me on a very deep and personal level, while I’ve never exactly been bullied (either that or it’s been passive aggressive in a way where I didn’t pick up on it) I do struggle with people. It’s as though they don’t take me seriously, or think of me as an idiot. I’ve never been good at making friends, and as a kid (for reference I’m 17yo now) I’ve had many adults be very short with me, and now I find even basic social interactions scary. Thank you for making this video.
People really don't consider any problem you might have until it becomes THEIR problem.
Man, to me it was the opposite! When I was 10 or younger, they always said I was very mature for my age and the teachers congratulated me for my behaviour, and now that I'm 16 my mom won't stop telling me to grow up
im autistic and my pet recently died, i feel younger and unsafe. i dont want to be alone, i dont want to do things by myself, i dont want to handle my own house when i have one. i want to stay with my parents/friends/brothers. I feel afraid that something will happen to me.
I can relate to everything you’ve said. I was quite mistreated, and misunderstood, by my peers, up until I was around 15. The bullying I have received was so severe, that to this day, age 18, I still have trauma from it, and was actually diagnosed with PTSD. Not even my school could guarantee my safety. It’s a side which I rarely open up about since it is often too much.
Thankfully now, I’ve found some friends who, not only treat me right, but also understand me. One of my traits which my friends love is my brutal honesty, i’m not exactly sure what it is, perhaps it is that the words that I’m saying means something? Like it holds an extreme amount of weight? Whatever it is, I’m just happy that they treat me well.
I cant imagine how bad the bullying must have been to give you trauma, but im glad to hear that you have friends that understand and value you. Thise people are the real ones you should never lose
I am autistic, an autistic teen in fact in high school, and throughout my life, I kept my autism to myself. It was something I never really wanted to talk about, so people just assume I'm just some loser and pretend I don't exist.
Same. I honestly people would just harass me, i would only tell if i’ve known them for 3 years and i am sure that they aren’t a snitch.
@@TT10Kofficial Same.
As an autistic person this is a very nice video! I also agree with the fact that autism doesnt really get well represented other than its two extremes. Personally im a lot more open to saying im autistic, its makes for a funny moment and (imo) may even help spread that message that autism has nuance! I can relate to that maturity part and being bullied in elementary school! (I will say that the bullied part and therapy likely made me a lot more moral of a person though. Especially since around 2nd grade apparently I was seen as kind of a bully/jerk which i didnt know until a half year or so of bullying) but yeah.
Extra note: Its best to wait until youve been friends for a while before you tell them, has a both funnier and stronger effect of saying "hey youve been with me for months now and you didnt even notice. Maybe that means something. "
In a way I had the opposite experience to you. I started out a very mature child. As I got older, the distance between me and my peers widened in terms of capabilities, emotional control, and perceived maturity.
I've never been diagnosed, but I believed for a while that I have autism and I can heavily relate to the experiences you talked about. I constantly think there is something wrong with my brain when I'm around people and it's nice to know I'm not alone in this :)
As an autistic person myself, I completely agree with all the points in this video. It's sad how badly autism is mis-respresented.
When I first learned about the word “autism” I immediately knew that it’s not a disability that makes you stupid or dumb or retarded whatever word you like to use, I saw it as nothing more than having a bit of a harder time learning, it pains me the amount of people who use autism as an insult as much as using gay as an insult, neither are bad things, and I’m not even either of them, so I’m glad this video exists, in fact, I learned something new, I shouldn’t ask autistic people what it’s like being autistic, because they’ve never been “normal”, I mean it’s not like I’ve planned on doing that but learning I shouldn’t do that makes me realize that if I never did, I would’ve potentially done that. I’m glad you made this video and I want more autistic people to make these kinds of videos
@94709huh
Autism in small town in the 80s. The town is safe for everyone but you.
Your not special little bro
@Zealandia878 Its you're, and whatever. There was another utistic kid that got shit on as well.
People are so behind in understanding social and psychological differences in other humans.
i needed to send this to my friend. he has always misunderstood this condition. thanks
I really respect you doing this and for bringing understanding to our condition. I just wanted to say that when you say "the main thing that autism is is a learning disability" I really disagree. I've always acted way older and more mature than my age even from a baby. Not to boast or anything but I have high intelligence (although I'm not a genius or a savant). Yes, lots of autistic people have learning disabilities and intellectual disabilities but it isn't part of the autism. It is a valid autistic experience but it is by no means the main autistic experience.
I actually have autism and I can confirm that people judging them like so isn’t very fun so that’s why most of my friends are autistic. Except that when I told to my online friends that I was autistic, they respected me because I am a nice person to them :)
I have autism. I went most of my childhood not knowing at all until somewhere around 6th or 7th grade, and I just wanted to understand people. I loved hanging out with other kids, and I love to laugh with other people too. When I got the news from my mother, I denied it many many times, until acceptance. When I became more aware of my ASD, I stopped following people that didn't like me to try to fit in and get approval, and I became a all-time loner. I have some friends here and there, and people are more friendly to me now than before, but I'm still mostly alone, and honestly I'm glad because it gives me time to think. I'm 16 right now, and I definitely feel more loved and cared about, and I also feel like my age. I don't get invited to parties or anything, and I'm certainly not the popular kid, but some people still enjoy my company, and I'm glad about that.
For sure; even very extroverted people agree, it's most important to value those few strong friends rather than mingling with weak/false friendships.
I'm 18 and only got the diagnosis so it's made me think deeply about my childhood and how different I was
if anyone asks what its like being autistic, i always ask them back "what is it like not being autistic" and they sort of understand that you cant explain it because you dont know