people before you tell them you have autism: "why are you so weird?" people after you tell them you have autism: "but your so normal why are you so normal" (or they just infantilize you)
how to cure autism: stop being weird. self control exists. no longer any reason for anyone to label you as autistic. no longer autistic. autism is a label.
okay. if somebody acts like a regular person, treat them like it. if somebody kinda is on the weird side of it just adjust for it it’s a spectrum, people. remember that.
Yeah and sometimes you dont even have to tell them. Ive always struggled to make friends and talk to people face to face. Being in public is very stressful. To help regulate myself to no panic I fidget with stuff. One time I asked someone around or likely my age what time something ended and as soon as they saw my fidgeting their entire demeanor changed and they acted like I was a little child who needed to call their mommy!
@@anaverageanimator9296just stupid millennials and older gen z being idiots thinking all people with autism are the same infant baby they’re made out to be.
The maturity part I agree with a lot. At this point I've just noticed how many people around me are now just incapable of having an argument or discussion without immediately heading to insults
It's odd actually, I never use insults if I somehow ever get into an argument, I'm not even belittling someone either which is something I haven't even noticed consciously.
@@KiiBon it's been happening for years way before twitter started acting like it was childish. It's largely due to the stereotype that's commonly portrayed in media that all autistic people are 5 year old boys who love trains. Until recently practically no shows (and even now it's very few) had an autistic character that was an adult (and acted like one) and especially had an autistic character that was a girl. Autism moms and companies like autism speaks defiantly don't help. I think blaming twitter just takes away from the actual problem, and shifts the blame to someone else. It especially doesn't help that some of those people on twitter are autistic and just are more silly/childish than others, autism is a spectrum, there will be those kinds of people and that's okay, but blaming them for years of discrimination and false representation in media isn't. (I know about the stupid 'is it acoustic' people, i don't mean them, their the worst, it's not entirely their fault but they sure aren't helping, feel free to blame those losers as much as you want, they deserve it.)
As an autistic person, I think it's super important for these types of videos to exist. The more we talk about our own experiences, the more we'll (hopefully) become less stigmatized.
Autism is insanely misunderstood, lol I remember telling my cousin about having autism, and he suddenly started looking down on me like I was a four year old child. It's honestly insane how mispresented autism is
People usually see me as quirky or just different at first but once I become friends with them and trust them I'll eventually say I have autism. I do not tell strangers or people I'm not close with that I have autism for this reason.
@@chost-059you shouldn't be closed off to people. That only makes things worse. You shouldn't be afraid to let people get close to you, but instead only trust them once they are close. I know "just be friends with them it's fine" is pretty bad advice for someone with autism, but you shouldn't be walled off or too insulated. My advice is when you meet new people, see if they're interested in talking to you despite your differences, instead of trying to suppress your differences to be friends with them. All of my close friends were people who accepted me despite me being different, and all the people from high school who I don't talk to anymore are the people who didn't really get it or thought I was weird. Here's a little personal anecdote that might help you start. Personally I like to talk to people who are also different in some way because they're more likely to be accepting of someone else who's different. For example, of all the people from high school that I still talk to, about half of them are queer. On the other hand, the people from high school who I never want to talk to again all feel like carbon copies of each other and are not interesting to talk to.
No but this EXACT THING happened to me, I was like ostracized by my entire class (I am not exaggerating, those people were brutal) and I had no fking clue why, no one even tried liking me besides this one girl who was also autistic (but she eventually stopped talking to me after her friends convinced her to do so), and this went on from 3rd to 9th grade, everytime someone new entered that classroom I imidiatly tried befriending them, (only worked 2 times and both were when I started masking) only in 9th grade I come to find out why they didn't like me, and they said it was "because I was weird"
fr I was bullied in 8th grade for stammering like, so lame. The last time ppl tried to bully me were freaking freshmen (They're rising juniors now lol, but this was during my junior year)
Just gonna mention this because u said this in the video. Autism itself is NOT a learning disabillity. Learning disabilities are more common in autistic people, but not all have them. Like im diagnosed with autism, but i dont have any learning disabilities. The only thing about me that possibly effects my learning abillity is probably my other diagnosis, aka ADHD. And i don't mean affect my learning as in like, my brain takes longer to learn, more that i get distracted all the time (which is annoying).
Yeah I was gonna say the same thing. I'm autistic and I've always done great in school, got put in the gifted program, etc. Definitely isn't a learning disability.
Yeah, ive always done super well in school, often getting A's in all my classes, however, I take more time learning to walk, talk, and write. But where i really lack, and still lack, is socially. I saw someone once say that people without autism tend to focus more on being social earlier in life then focus on learning, and autistic people to be the opposite. While I dont believe this to be entirely correct I think there could be some truth to it
this! learning disabilities are comorbidities of autism, I'm currently in college (UK) and I'm working at a B A A, I had no learning difficulties as a child OTHER than reading which I couldn't read until age 7 mysteriously other than that NOTHING. My vocabulary was also exceedingly advanced for my age and people wouldn't stop bugging me about that until I was around 14 and people sort of caught up to me
@@anaverageanimator9296Possibly. I’m undiagnosed but I have a strong feeling I’m on the spectrum somewhere. I was very intelligent in school, and have always been fascinated by how motors and machines work. Like down to the T. I work in a factory now and find myself mocking the Mechanical noises of machines over and over again. I hold imaginary conversations with myself with different people who don’t even exist. If I’m doing a task and trying to hold a conversation, I start to lose focus of said task and start doing random things (picking up random items and setting them in even more random spots). I go on tangents (like this) with sometimes no main point. I often switch topics a lot too..
One reason I think we get the "genius or idiot" treatment is that we tend to be at least somewhat smarter than average, but to have communication issues (ranging from physical problems speaking to tending to organize our thoughts, and thus our words, in a different way). If you can't communicate, your IQ as perceived by others drops dramatically.
100% true. not trying to sound like the joker here, but society tends to think lesser of people, things, and even concepts they can’t understand and are therefore unable to put in a box. this is why some people still think animals can’t be intelligent as well, even though science has consistently proven otherwise. i wonder if this is a reason why me and many other autistic people have found so much comfort and relatability with animals? idk, might sound crazy but your comment just got me thinking lol.
@@getSkrunkyeah mate society is very stereotypical nowadays and they always judge by impressions,if that person has problems expressing them selves they are bad at communication therefore dumb,nah it doesn't work like that we have to look more deep into things because autistic people can be way more than what we think of them at just seeing them once The amount of people who would get the thought in their mind that an Autistic person is dumb is really absurd
my word, the same was happening to me during the last few years (I had a Minecraft server with a lot of people playing being on my school and they couldn't stop twisting everything I said)
I've ran into the issue of, whenever someone knows I have autism, people automatically feeling sorry for me or changing their tune to patronize me. It used to be insulting.
whenever people are having a serious conversation about an adult topic or something, and they see that i’m here they immediately switch to a different language or tell me to leave because one, they think i don’t understand what they’re saying and two, they think i only know about cocomelon and nursery rhymes. it’s really annoying but i guess half of it is my fault because i would always hide what i know and pretend to not be self aware as some sort of defense mechanism…fuck everything…
i HATE people patronising me. i found a good way to get them to stop is to patronise them back, be very obvious about it, they usually shut up out of embarassment.
@@ultimatey2656 and then create the biggest plot twist in history where i reveal to be a mastermind who knew everything all along……yes…perfect…the perfect revenge…… *this comment is a joke*
Yes I can relate to this feeling and it very may screw us up or anxious about topics commonly known and talked by the public. many don't believe we have experienced things or know about things that are alot more serious.
i’m an autistic woman and i feel like my maturity experience is reversed. up until i was around 13, i was told i was “very mature for my age,” had a very inquisitive and open mind and interests that were seen as more befit for older individuals. now, though, im often called immature or childish because of my interests and the way that i act. it’s frustrating.
Yeah I tried to act mature when I was immature at 11-13, starting acting more immature at 14-15 then became a burnt out husk, I’m now 20 and I feel like I’m missing a certain drive even though I work out and stay fit enough, my focus on work has completely degraded and pales in comparison to what I did when I was 16/18
If someone pulls the 'counts stuff thrown on the floor' thing smirk like they lost their mind and say "I'm autistic not a damn vampire." As "According to European lore, vampires suffer from arithmomania, the uncontrollable urge to count or calculate numbers." I'm 46 and only recently did a test that shows I have a good chance of being autistic. what a time man
Also, while good math skills often do come with autism, "good math skills" and "instantly count objects in a random jumble" are not the same thing. I sorta have good math skills (unlike my dad who definitely has good math skills), though a lot if it seems to be my verbal and spatial skills carrying my math skills. I definitely cannot count random jumbles of things on sight.
as someone that has autism im very good at hiding it and everyone has no clue unless i tell them but i feel like its looked down on for no reason like it makes you less of a person for some reason when people do find out or know that you have it. I also experience the same thing with being much more mature and stable out if most people my age. also bonding very well and feeling a connection with only people that have it and not really feeling a way towards people that dont
people insist on being compelled to use the most dominant label to define the outer casing of a person. it drives me crazy. in every situation. oh it's so and so's bf. or Jims brother. then you are that thing forever. imagine one time you had a haircut then here comes the x y z dude years later. or the whatever guy. so annoying
Things like Big Bang Theory don't really do much to help, that show is pretty much just what executives at some Hollywood studio thought autism might be. There's maybe less than 1% of people that are like Sheldon. Here in Sweden, someone made a really weird but similarly "I have no idea what it's like to be autistic" movie called "in space there are no feelings" or I rymden finns inga känslor in Swedish. I remember my younger sister watching it and just flat out saying "this has nothing to do with autism". She compared the character in the show to me and nothing of the things I show where anywhere similar or related to said character and their autism. Feels like typical Hollywood sh!1, they can't be bothered to do even the most barebone research possible (funny that the rain man thing gets used as an example, that's an extreme outlier that so rare, it barely even exists to begin with). Edit: I like to joke by saying that autism is like "running a different operating software", normies use Windows while I'm stuck on Linux.
No-one associated with The Big Bang Theory has said Sheldon is autistic. Obviously he exhibits many neurological abnormalities, but if there was more to it than creating an obnoxious character they've certainly done a good job at keeping it under wraps.
@@Mrvideosandgames yes, cause people are totally gonna just sit there and wait for a confirmation. They aren't gonna jump to conclusions like normies usually do, Tbh the entire show is very obnoxious, it's sort of "someone says nerdy thing, other person say different nerdy thing, now laugh you peasants"
@@SvengelskaBlondie I mean, I think you're a little strong in your conviction😅 Sure there are people who watched the big bang theory and used it to strengthen their misconceptions, but I don't think that's due to the shows design. In the interviews with actors and creators that I've seen I found them rather open and friendly about it all. Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left 😋
@@boomknuffelaar Its not that I am strong in my convictions, it's just that I know people are too lazy to actually check things up. Hence why I used Big Bang theory as an example. Tbh, I couldn't care less about the show, the show is just an example of how little people know about autism. " but I don't think that's due to the shows design." I agree with you on this one, I doubt very much it was made to be to be some kind of autism focus/awareness thing. "Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left" There's something really funny about that, ive seen a few such video's. Whatever "comedy" that's left falls flatter than the antagonist in Who framed rodger rabbit after he got run over by the steam roller.
I am most likely Austistic, but I'm never sure, because I'm constantly bombarded with people who say I need to "change" or "just accept society and earn money." I rarely even accept it because a lot of people tend to say insults and things like, "You're f**king Autistic" like it's a bad thing. So, I've just always been on edge for being a castaway who doesn't really understand why most people can't have a conversation with me, or is it me them? I'm basically a dropout and homeless because I could never do anything without asking "why?" I just found this video and I quite like the voice you give. I hope I can eventually get rid of my anxiety, depression, fear, and guilt.
Also, my sybling has Autism, and most like does my father.. My father is quite an intelligent man, only he and I don't get along very well, because I fear we're both emotionally damning to each other.
@@Chester_Kitten You need to "change" because you're a homeless dropout castaway. You currently take more from the world than you give it. If it's asking "why?" that's stopping you from working, stop asking why. If it's something else, stop that instead. At the end of the day it's a problem with you and accepting that will get you a lot further than blaming it on someone/something else. You can't change what other people do, you can only change yourself and if you think labelling your self with mental illnesses will excuse the need for self improvement u gonna stay like this forever. good luck m8 First step hate yourself that brings you down. Second step destroy that which you hate. Third find yourself that brings you up. Work on that shit till get gud. legit anything u enjoy look for a job in it. shits always less like work when there's a community around it.
I'm autistic, I'd feel insanely insulted if someone told my boyfriend he's taking advantage of me, a LOT of us can consent, the only autistic people who cannot consent are those who cannot communicate in any form
Personally, i think one of the biggest problems is, that most people dont know Autism is a spectrum. Most Neurotypicals either think you're dumb or hyper intelligent, nothing inbetween. When I have to tell them that it's not like that, they look at me like I'm an Alien. My experience is actually pretty similar to yours, I just didn't know until I was 17 and I still have a lot of trouble with emotional control and socializing. I have the same best friend since 15 years, I literally don't know how to make new ones, also being selectively mute (which isn't actually as common in autism) making me look weird and stupid for others. I'm not an expert, because as you said, I don't know how it is NOT to have it, but its good to know you're not alone. I just wish "normal people" would look into it a bit more
Neurotypicals think that it's a spectrum of 'less autistic' to 'more autistic' and that's the most that they know about a spectrum. They need to understand that it's a qualitative spectrum and not a quantitative spectrum.
I'd say the real dumb ones are those trying to generalize autistic people like that and put them in boxes and try to dictate to their faces who they are. They refuse to let autistic people be.
I don’t fully understand autism and probably never will as I’m not autistic myself (I seriously hate putting a label on it because it makes you sound like an alien) but I’ve personally never had a problem talking to anyone autistic. There actually fun to be around and I sometimes pick up on there traits and it makes me curious. I can talk to them like any other person tbh.
I'm autistic too, a late diagnosis at 22. People don't understand that a Savant is an incredibly rare version of autism (the kind of autism that can recognize and continue patterns instantly), and that autism is a massive spectrum. That's why the DSM-5 calls it the 'Autism Spectrum Disorder.' Most cases of autism are ASD-1, which used to be called Asperger's, but is now called 'high-functioning autism' This just means that a person has autism, but can be independent. This type of autism can be both a blessing and a curse. For myself, I was one of the rare lucky ones that wasn't bullied, but that was because I masked the hell out of everything. I have always been self-contained, isolative, all due to abuse from my parents. This means I don't like being around people or sharing my things with people. I still love people, I love sharing my thoughts and ideas, but if I can avoid it, I will. However, my autism makes me an incredibly smart person. I have a poor sense of humor, because I take things too seriously, but that seriousness makes me incredibly adept at thinking things through; coming up with problems and then solutions to those problems, and understanding things deeper than most people can. I work INCREDIBLY on my own, but get overwhelmed frequently and can't work with others on the same project. This is all to say, that autism isn't the same as you'd see in media. Autism can be masked, or the person's symptoms might not manifest as noticeable behavioral issues. Autism is a spectrum and can be very volatile, but also very reclusive. Treat individuals as individuals, and get to know them and their unique quirks; it could end up making them an even better friend than most people.
I got asperger's, and didn't know it was a outdated name. Never knew it was called "high-functioning autism" so thanks for that ig. I can confirm that having that is both a curse and a blessing, might be the reason i've done well on tiktok, millions of views on there
(not professional at health) but here’s my experience as a child being autistic I have autism I was diagnosed at young age. I had no learning disability (except speech) but I was in special needs etc and I’m not really dumb I get pretty well grades, the only thing is that I preform on a lower level than my twin who also has autism as well and same effects. Before I told people I had it I got called weird etc and then after they were shocked saying stuff like “you don’t act like it ” “oh really” “you seem so normal” I am also bullied a lot for being weird and embarrassing myself.
@@Ellies_edits I feel you brother, I’m also high functioning autism. The moment they know you are on the spectrum, they see you as an outcast. I even got called a loser for fucking up a saw machine by some kiwi classmate back in high school. We can’t say anything back for 2 reasons. 1 is because we need time to think of an answer so we walk away for a bit and number 2 is because “OH THE AUTISTIC KID SPOKE GUYS” yep, that shit happened to me. And rumours would start spreading about me. These things drive us insane. Life is better once you graduate out of school.
A very common thing that I experience is being misunderstood, followed by punishment, that is then followed by ignorance. And it's the most heartbreaking and frustrating thing you can experience as an autistic person.
I’m not autistic but I can very much relate to that, like I get bullied in school, I lash out at people, and I’m always the one who gets in trouble. It really sucks to try to explain yourself to someone and have them just not care at all
i strongly agree. now days ill just say "i take a long time to learn somethings" much easier then explaining that some parts of my brain age slowly. also for most everyone with a developmental disorder at lease one or two parts of the brain can start to develop faster then avenge.
I get what he's trying to say but it's always more nuanced then "mental age" makes it out to be. For example, in 7th grade, I socially acted like I was in 5th grade but was more organized and productive then some of my college friends are even today because of my obsession with planning everything and routine. I was also about as academically smart as everyone else my age and that has remained relatively constant, especially after elementary school.
My brother has the non verbal kind of autism and I don’t know any other way to describe it other than using mental age He’s 9 right now but I’d say he’s mentally 3 years old What else are you supposed to say instead of mental age?
@@healthy10972 Well, there's all the stuff "normal" 3 year olds do and grow out of, that are unrelated to language. Most likely, your brother is already more advanced in several of these aspects, just not the verbal side. So maybe you could say something more like "at the level of most 3 year olds in terms of using language" but probably not with other things.
I never realised how much of a stigma there is around autism until watching this video. I don't feel comfortable posting anything about myself here on the internet but I can definitely relate to some things you have experienced. It just saddens me that people look down on people with autism. It is a spectrum and not everyone with autism has the same kinda stuff if that makes sense. I'm sorry you had to go through this you've earned a new subscriber.
getting infantilised while autistic is the most annoying thing ever, people switch up so fast, even when i assume they dont mean to they start talking more gently to me. when i was 16, i went to a pottery class with my parents, and they decided to tell the teacher that i was autistic. and he literally spoke to me like i was 5!! i felt like i was going insane. i just think differently im not a baby
@@gamerstreater9314 i dont know, one time me and my dad were at an event together and every single time he introduced me to someone he felt like it was necessary to add the fact that im autistic
My parents had to tell the airport receptionists that I was autistic so we could skip the cue, but in honest regards they are telling the profession about your needs just Incase you don't 'struggle'
I am autistic. That's the only reason why my parents don't let me control my own life. I'm 19 years old and will soon be 20. My parents forced me to go to a college for electrical engineering for two years. According to the law, I didn't have to, because I was already 18. But my parents had beaten me, kicked me and whipped me with a belt to make me go there. I had called the police many times... but they wouldn't help me. They told me that I had no right to decide about my own life. I still live with my parents. It is awful. I just want to rule my own life. I want freedom.
I'm so sorry you have to go through that, I hope you can find your own freedom and gain that independence from your abusive house hold. I'm actually in a similar situation, as I am currently 19 going on 20 this year but I still am treated like a small child, it's difficult and having every aspect of your life controlled by your family is dehumanizing, it can make you feel worthless and hopeless, but although I do not know you i hope you can live your life the way you want to! :)
God damn, that sounds horrible, do you have other relatives like you're grandparents to go to for support? I feel so sorry for you, I hope you're situation gets better. Good luck
I am also autistic. I am now 24, I got diagnosed when I was 20. My whole life I felt sort of different but my parents never understood me. I went to so many people (proffesionals) and some said I was, some said I wasnt. The problem my parents thought that people who are autistic are retarded and I am clearly not. So it was a pretty wild ride with therapists and people because my parents didnt agree and we just stopped going. I was like 14 so I couldnt really go on my own. Anyways my parents also had problems (different problems) but it was just a struggle. Anways I get that with not telling people bacause some people I have known my whole life and when I was 20 and I told them they just acted different to me. Its can be a struggle. I have also met so many new people who are autistic and everyone is different. There are like a million different variants it seems and everyone has their own struggles. My parents do understand me a lot better since a couple of years but it took some time. It also helps since I moved out and lived on my own when I was 19 and I got my diagnosis at 20 so that also kind of helps... I could of gotten the diagnosis when I was 13 if my parents wherent stupid and removed the steriotype autism they had. I kind of understand why they had that idea because when I grew up there was this kid in the street who was like mental, demon, evil autistic just being a retarded asshole and they based their vision of autism on that...
in terms of mental maturity I've found that personally I feel like there are multiple types of maturity, and that I became advanced in some aspects much faster than my peers did and then for other things much slower.
i'm not autistic, so i don't know what it's like, but i know what it's like to be neurodivergent. i'm neurodivergent in a different way, i have ADHD. 3:40 is so accurate. i didn't realise most things i've done that were actually ADHD behaviors. turns out, it wasn't a "normal people" thing to have 56879368 chrome tabs open at once lol. it's kinda like how a color blind person don't realise that they're color blind since they don't know how other people see.
Insane analogy. Heh. Its the opposite for me. I get stressed and cant concentrate while knowing I have more that 3 tabs or a single window that I don't need open. Even a single unnecessary task in the system tray. Which is funny because in almost every other aspect of life I'm not organised at all. It's just the fact that I'm aware of that unorganised-ness and am constantly thinking about it that likely causes it.
I get what you mean with people having insane expectations. I remember seeing someone put it like "they want you to either be Sheldon Cooper or a tall toddler". I'm autistic too, but I didn't get diagnosed until I was 18 because my mum thought all autistic people are screaming morons who don't emotionally mature past the age of 5. What's weird is that I really think she's autistic, but she doesn't realise it because she thinks her experiences are normal. Like those people who say "everyone's a little autistic"
It took me a little while to realize that intelligence is relative, that someone with autism who has a monotropic focus on a single thing is seen as intelligent if their focus is deemed practical where someone with a focus on something deemed impractical is seen as weird. I eventually derived an entire theory of ethics from that thought, how I could have the same brain but focus on something people wanted and be evaluated as genius or focus on something incomprehensible and be evaluated as an idiot. Someone with the same brain, a brain capable of crafting The Magna Carta, can dedicate all of that potential to drawing Sonic The Hedgehog foot fetish content all seemingly by random chance. Thus, what is good is what is practical.
Yes, practical in relation to a society that is inherently impractical, & unsustainable, because what ever is considered "practical" in today's society is whatever can contribute to profit for people that don't have your best interest on mind, evidence by the society they made that is based purely on profit, & is fundamentally anti-human to it's core, like the Roman empire they try to imitate.
this is personally why i see the measure of smn's iq have little meaning, in reality everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, and that iq is simply not a reliable measure for smn's performance or capability in a certain field
As an autistic person. I was recently diagnosed, nothing has changed it just feels like people treat me like a baby because I have autism. When I tell people I have autism they start to treat me like shit and leave me out of stuff. I’m not a child anymore, I have had autism all of my life do not treat me any differently
Yeah man finally somebody understands,they things its literally cool to do this things just to "show off" in school because thats how sadly society is ,if not they consider you to be a weird kids when you dont want to follow the stupid trend they like,like for example there are kids that call others poor because others dont want to/cant have an iphone or want/cant get some "jordans". Specially in this generation as a person from this generation @@M0urfeen
"I stopped telling people I have autism" as he places the 3 pickaxes and shovels neatly into their own collums. Jokes aside thank you for talking about this, it's always nice to have another resource to educate people and hopefully have them change how they treat others
@@mothgirl326 i have to imagine this isn't just an autism thing, it's rationally more organised i couldnt say myself as im an autistic person who does that but itd be really weird if allistic people didn't do this
I had an experience that really changed my option on autism recently when I was just hanging out with some friends and found out two of them were autistic and it was just a reminder that people are literally just people and the fact that someone has autism shouldn't affect anything in relationships
so true. if any other teenager gets angry, stays up late, etc and the school knows it its normal. if an autistic teenager like me does, the school will intervene in our family business to "protect me" by forcing my mum to go to a "class".
Hearing that I have Autism, my diagnosis came at around age 5, someone at our church started asking questions about me to my parents even though I was standing right there and answering. Hearing your side, it makes me question even more why we're all grouped together with only "Autism" to describe all of us, which seems equivalent to specifying "Rainbow" as a favorite color.
We all share the same patterns of characteristics even if we share few exact characteristics on first glance, and we tend to be fairly good at recognizing one another even with differences in presentation.
My cousin is autistic. Although not severely, he does have issues with socializing at times. BUT HE IS MY LITTLE MAN, AND HE IS AMAZING! And one thing that just ticks me off so much is how people treat him. In school, he was bullied so much. Him saying things like people putting fists at him and such, thinking he’s “weird”. What is it with people? Why is it so hard to treat others kindly? What have they gone through to make them like this?
I have a friend whose autistic, he doesnt act like most people but we dont care. (He makes actually funny jokes which i didnt think was possible in 2024 💀)
As an autistic 13 year old, it feels weird thinking about the fact that it highly possible that i STILL have ever felt real love. This video helped me know a LOT more about myself.
Autism is WAY to misunderstood as my personal experience so far is I’m smarter than most other people my age but I’m also really silly so it’s a double edged sword
Because people are part of, & brought up into a society that brainwashes, conditions, or gaslights them into thinking that different is bad uncritically, while also promoting blind obedience to their absolute detriment, that's why.
it's easier to pick on someone that's different because they stand out bullies would pick on someone but there's a reason why they don't pick on someone their own size (someone that's similar to most of the people around them) but we are *different, not less*
@@dwarian5252 i think it’d be better to mention that autism is different for everyone and there’s a reason it is said to be a spectrum, other than that its 10/10
@@dwarian5252 was a little confused when it was only mentioned as learning disorder, he is definitely right it has caused me not to understand some concepts but those are also social ones, where ive watched how people have interacted to see how "normal people do it so well" and essentially autism, it's very broad and everyone will experience it differently
As someone with autism, this is so relatable. My mom treats me normal for pretty much everything, but when it comes to autism im a fucking loser who cant get his shit together. She tries to get me to do things like answer questions to earn money or stupid shit like that. And my dad wants me to be fucking Albert einstein but like 3x smarter, like im in 7th grade and he wants me to be learning CALCULUS. Considering i have autism, i think its a good idea to go through school for the social aspect, especially because i know i have social problems because i have a hard time making friends, like i only have friends because my second grade teacher sat me and my best friend together, if it weren't for that, i would have no friends, like im not just friends with one person, but i met all my friends through 1 friend. I hate being autistic and my parents are like "oh theres nothing to hate" yeah, youd be right, except you don't realize that if you werent babying me or saying i am like the smartest person in the universe than i wouldnt hate it, what my parents dont realize is THEY are the fucking problem, not me. I am honestly suprised that when i went to Disney for a school trip that they didn't chaperone because they were "worried about an autistic person alone" or some sort of bullshit like that, especially considering i went with one of my classes where i dont have any friends. Some of my teachers treat me like im fucking retarded, like my Spanish teacher, of course she kinda treats everyone like their second graders because she used to teach us in second grade (im in a dual language program) but still. And the grade administrators think im fucking retarded every year, like i see kids that are definitely some sort of special needs, and im retarded? Like im not trying to be rude to those kids but like clearly there are people with more problems than me, and im only in seventh grade so i can only imagine 8th through 12th and later down in life (im not going to college because imagine how much theyd baby me there, omg) maybe im overthinking that, as part of my autism i overthink things way too fucking much, like im thinking, "what if the people im talking shit about in this comment see it and know its me" even though i know damn well theyre not seeing this. Like i was really weird in elementary school from like 2nd and 3rd grade, like there are people who think im a weird person because of shit i did BEFORE COVID, like in 4th grade (2020-2021 school year) i honestly didnt give a shit about my grades and then 5th grade i was still a little like myself from 2nd to 3rd grade but that went away in that summer, and in 6th grade my personality had completely changed, kinda like the maturity thing this video talks about. I dont tell people i have autism, you know why? Because i dont care what others think of me, i genuinely dont. I also agree with you on the whole "i couldnt date any girls who aren't autistic" like granted, i havent dated anyone yet as i am in 7th grade and i think starting a romantic relationship in middle school is fucking absurd, but i feel like "normal" girls would think i was weird, but autistic ones i feel might relate to me, idk, maybe not but ill find out in high school or whenever i get in a relationship. Overall the video is really relatable on so many levels and i really am glad i finally had somewhere where i could actually share all this.
Also sorry for the long comment, I understand if you don't read it all, but if you did thank you for taking time to read it, as I typed that for a long time
I actually shared the "alien" feeling you had, but in a different way. When I was young I always knew I was different but I just couldn't understand why, emotionally unstable, unable to understand things others could, sometimes do things others didn't understand. The list can go on, but it clawed at me, "Why am I so different? Why am I so slow?". The public humiliation and bullying from teachers and other kids didn't help. After I got out of school (dropped out at 11th grade because I couldn't take it anymore and almost had a mental break) I practically cut off all ties I had. After a year or so of reflection and at age 19 I realized I had autism. After realizing it, it genuinely felt like a burden was lifted from my shoulders. Years of torment and not knowing why I was different felt like a memory. I don't tell people I am autistic because I know they will get the wrong impression and I really hope more people find out what being autistic actually means. Even now my current friend group is mostly comprised of autistic type people, mostly because we get along and or share a connection. I fully believe that autism is a spectrum, it's not black and white. I am on there somewhere, I might not have the greatest control of my emotions and I will always feel different, but I at least now know why I am different and I am happy where I sit. :3
incredibly helpful video and relatable thank you also lmao the point where you noticed where you died was like 3 blocks away from air was the biggest bruh moment
I believe in you to find someone!! I (I'M PRETTY SURE I DO :'3) have autism and I have a girlfriend, I think everyone can have a significant other if they're ready for a relationship, it takes alot of time usually, but I'm sure that if you're a great person and you just be yourself you'll find someone amazing! :D
It's weird. I work in software-- a field one might, for good or ill, stereotype autistic people as being common in. Even here, it's bizarre to see what my coworkers think of autistic people; they see it as a sort of extreme handicap that a manager should notify them of ahead of time so that accommodations can be made. Very bizarre.
As an autistic person, I just gotta say this video touched me on a very deep and personal level, while I’ve never exactly been bullied (either that or it’s been passive aggressive in a way where I didn’t pick up on it) I do struggle with people. It’s as though they don’t take me seriously, or think of me as an idiot. I’ve never been good at making friends, and as a kid (for reference I’m 17yo now) I’ve had many adults be very short with me, and now I find even basic social interactions scary. Thank you for making this video.
I love my autistic friends. I love hearing about their special interests because hearing the same opinions from the same people gets boring. I love how they can be so invested in such simple joys in life. Even if its just video games as I see it as an art form. Since my autistic friends have a deep appreciation of art, I can only admire them for that.
I feel the same way whenever I tell people I have autism. People often are like "Oh, YoU dOnT hAvE aUtIsM, yOu DoNt AcT ReTaRdEd!" It's so annoying, and it's part of the reason I have little friends.
I once told someone that I had autism and the response that I always hate happened they said that "You're to smart for autism" so he was basically saying that autistic people were dumb made me even more insecure about it so now I don't tell anyone
As a person with autism and ADHD. I say ignore if you have it or not. And if people call you weird. Just ignore them bro THEY DO NOT TELL YOU WHAT TO BE
I actually have autism and I can confirm that people judging them like so isn’t very fun so that’s why most of my friends are autistic. Except that when I told to my online friends that I was autistic, they respected me because I am a nice person to them :)
41 here, diagnosed at 37. I actually tell many people, as my "problems" are fairly minor, and the explanation helps with the potentially weird facial expressions, or overly pedantic responses, or perceived poor eye contact. But however you handle it, is the correct way for YOU to handle it. Don't let anyone tell you different!
More people need to talk about this. The stigma around it grows, as kids start saying “you’re autistic” to everyone, and it becomes really offensive because as someone with it, it’s not at all like what people say.
Oh my god i cannot tell you the amount of times i havent laughed at an offensive joke and people just brushed me off saying i didnt get it because i was autistic. No, i understood you were making a joke. I just didnt think it was funny.
As an autistic person my experience of sharing my disability is just awful. At first there’s the negative and sad emotion displayed by the second party, then they like others say, treat me like a damn toddler. Now that’s not the worse I’ve seen, it’s gotten to a point where hundreds of people I know want me to get hurt or even die due to how miss represented autism is and their complete lack of understanding. I just wish they could understand.
I think people confused autism with down's syndrome. That's why it rubs him the wrong way that your girlfriend has autism, and also why he thinks you're "so normal" when you say you do as well.
if anyone asks what its like being autistic, i always ask them back "what is it like not being autistic" and they sort of understand that you cant explain it because you dont know
yo man your backstory relates to mine like CRAZY its good hearing from someone who is soo relatable whenever I tell someone I have autism they think I'm retarded the only thing I've ever struggled with is '' learning '' and '' anxiety ''
The need to build foundational knowledge before bringing the bigger picture into view absolutely makes learning more difficult. Learning disability doesn't mean cognitive disability. I think it's stupid to try and normalize different mental conditions out-of-hand just to act self-righteous. Someone who is so severely autistic that they need a chaperone is not a different 'neurotype'.
@@slommie1649 Autism is normal. It isn’t a learning disability though. You can have a learning disability as a co-occurring condition, but Autism itself isn’t a learning disability. Autism comes under the umbrella of Neurodivergence, which is any Neurotype that deviates from the Neuronormative Spectrum, otherwise known as Neurotypical. Neurotypicals are thought to have fewer differences in their processing and Neurology generally, than people who fit within the category of Neurodivergence. Everyone (including Neurotypicals) is/are Neurodiverse.
People don’t realize how autism isn’t some crazy thing a lot of people are “normal” even with autism and I believe the internet is making to big a deal of autism I understand that people want it to be “recognized” but the issue with that is people misunderstand things
I took an autism test, and it turned out positive, but a year later the doctors found out that there was a mistake in the test, so I'm not actually autistic. However, for that one year when I thought that I was autistic, I found out how much of a bad rep it gets. 99% of autistic people have very few symptoms. Don't patronize them, because just like you, they are people. They shouldn't be seen as lesser, because there're not. It's one of the stupidest things I've heard in my life.
Hey! Someone with autism here! Just wanted to clarify before I say what I say in this comment. It's not meant to offend anyone but here goes nothing: I feel like us people with autism are the most simple and normal human beings. I think the worst part about having autism is that everyone treats you like god or everyone sees it as a mental disability or inability to do certain tasks. From my experience with autism.. All I can say is that the only part of life it affected was my school life and going to hospitals. I don't know why but my head starts to get somewhat dizzy but not dizzy. Not something I can really explain.. And to everyone reading this one comment I just want to tell you something. **THERE IS MORE THAN ONE TYPE OF AUTISM SO I WANT YOU TO STOP GOING IN MY DMS IF YOU'VE MET ME BEFORE AND SAY I DON'T HAVE AUTISM WHEN I CLEARLY DO.** And thank you.
I just came across this video and it hits close to home. As an autistic guy I can fully empathise and understand not only how it feels to be stereotyped and misunderstood by ignorant people, but I can also relate to how you talked about feeling alienated and disconnected from everybody else. People’s words can eat me alive sometimes and it hurts, thank you for making this and even though I’m a couple weeks late, I’m super glad I found this because it makes me feel like I’m not alone. Keep spreading the word 🙏🙌
i have aspergers so its kinda similar as in ireland aspergers is misinturpereted with autism due to how dumb people are in the disability helping field
I can relate to everything you’ve said. I was quite mistreated, and misunderstood, by my peers, up until I was around 15. The bullying I have received was so severe, that to this day, age 18, I still have trauma from it, and was actually diagnosed with PTSD. Not even my school could guarantee my safety. It’s a side which I rarely open up about since it is often too much. Thankfully now, I’ve found some friends who, not only treat me right, but also understand me. One of my traits which my friends love is my brutal honesty, i’m not exactly sure what it is, perhaps it is that the words that I’m saying means something? Like it holds an extreme amount of weight? Whatever it is, I’m just happy that they treat me well.
im autistic and my pet recently died, i feel younger and unsafe. i dont want to be alone, i dont want to do things by myself, i dont want to handle my own house when i have one. i want to stay with my parents/friends/brothers. I feel afraid that something will happen to me.
man spitting facts (I need to prepare for the day my classmates find out I am autistic so...) I am basically not very socially capable and I used to have anger issues, but I'm faster at some things regarding intelligence than some people
I’m autistic, I don’t really like talking about it but it’s insanely misunderstood and people always just assume I’m weird or childish until I tell them I’m autistic when they hear that they’re like “no you’re too normal to be autistic you can’t be you’re not throwing fits every 2 minutes your not autistic” My mental age is 8, I’m 13..
I’m gonna be honest, me and my friend have a dark humor, like DARK humor, but I would never ask someone why they are dating someone with autism, that’s just messed up.
Holy shit! I thought I was alone with the whole mental age thing! I'm 24 but mentally 15. Also us autistics are the normal ones, the so called "neurotypicals" are the weird ones! (/s) Like who goes into a store like Target and DOSE'NT get absolutely bombarded by all the lights, sounds ETC.
As a 42 year old autistic guy that found your video, i can say the "more mature than others my age" thing once you catch up is real. Personally, i think it boils down to the fact that we are so used to putting those higher standards on ourselves, and we keep doing it, and everyone else has jever had those standards.
I think part of it is that as autistic kids/teens we generally hung around with adults a lot more than with kids our age because we could relate to the adults a lot more maturity level-wise. When kids the same age are so much more immature than us, it leads to bullying/exclusion so our social life becomes just being with and around adults. So then we eventually pick up on the adults mannerisms which makes us even MORE mature, which leads to even MORE exclusion among the kids, which leads to hanging with the adults more too…I know this is at least my experience and I thought I'd share
I’ve noticed that a lot of people with autism care much more about one on one interactions than anyone else, and much less with groups of people, which I think is a very positive thing. Although they might seem weird because their brains work differently, it doesn’t mean they are less of a person.
Thank you for sharing and helping spreading the word. As an auDHD girl, I really relate to what you say. Talking about this publicly is hard, yet important!
What I hate the most about when you tell people your autistic they just infantilize you or say something like “omg I wish I was like u autism is so silly! >-
I rarely reveal I'm autistic to people. I only reveal it once I know it is safe to, or if the people are also autistic/neurodivergent. I'm constantly masking around strangers.
I'm autistic and something that always annoys me with people is that when they learn I'm autistic they don't believe I am, because they say "You are more normal than autistic people." or "You don't look/act like an autistic person." It annoying that people think that there only two way to be autistic, be an idiot or be very smart.
Autism is fake lil bro
ur getting the pin of shame
am i fake
Ur dum :)
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So is your brain
people before you tell them you have autism:
"why are you so weird?"
people after you tell them you have autism:
"but your so normal why are you so normal" (or they just infantilize you)
how to cure autism: stop being weird. self control exists. no longer any reason for anyone to label you as autistic. no longer autistic. autism is a label.
okay.
if somebody acts like a regular person, treat them like it.
if somebody kinda is on the weird side of it just adjust for it
it’s a spectrum, people.
remember that.
Yeah and sometimes you dont even have to tell them. Ive always struggled to make friends and talk to people face to face. Being in public is very stressful. To help regulate myself to no panic I fidget with stuff. One time I asked someone around or likely my age what time something ended and as soon as they saw my fidgeting their entire demeanor changed and they acted like I was a little child who needed to call their mommy!
@@anaverageanimator9296stupid millennials.
@@anaverageanimator9296just stupid millennials and older gen z being idiots thinking all people with autism are the same infant baby they’re made out to be.
The maturity part I agree with a lot. At this point I've just noticed how many people around me are now just incapable of having an argument or discussion without immediately heading to insults
It's odd actually, I never use insults if I somehow ever get into an argument, I'm not even belittling someone either which is something I haven't even noticed consciously.
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Ughhh you're right!! But that's only true about me! Because I'm better than everyone bla bla bla or whatever else you expected me to say.
@@CelticVampireQueen it is true though, most people do quickly devolve to insults when argueing.
The degree to which people infantilize anyone with autism is genuinely wild
Personally, I blame Twitter for how it reduced to word "autism" to literally anything silly or childish
@@KiiBonYeah
*someone falls over*
Twitter: Uhohh hes ausocstic?!.,,.,,,
Some people treat me like a regular person, some people infantilize me. It sucks.
@@KiiBon it's been happening for years way before twitter started acting like it was childish. It's largely due to the stereotype that's commonly portrayed in media that all autistic people are 5 year old boys who love trains.
Until recently practically no shows (and even now it's very few) had an autistic character that was an adult (and acted like one) and especially had an autistic character that was a girl. Autism moms and companies like autism speaks defiantly don't help. I think blaming twitter just takes away from the actual problem, and shifts the blame to someone else.
It especially doesn't help that some of those people on twitter are autistic and just are more silly/childish than others, autism is a spectrum, there will be those kinds of people and that's okay, but blaming them for years of discrimination and false representation in media isn't.
(I know about the stupid 'is it acoustic' people, i don't mean them, their the worst, it's not entirely their fault but they sure aren't helping, feel free to blame those losers as much as you want, they deserve it.)
As an autistic person, I think it's super important for these types of videos to exist. The more we talk about our own experiences, the more we'll (hopefully) become less stigmatized.
It's basically gen alpha slang now, like ppl will say "stop acting autistic lil bro"
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@@HoggySklump grammer / spelling moment
Yeah agreed
@@HoggySklump or guitarted
Autism is insanely misunderstood, lol
I remember telling my cousin about having autism, and he suddenly started looking down on me like I was a four year old child. It's honestly insane how mispresented autism is
im getting tested soon and im scared of this happening to me, it doesnt help that my mom started telling everyone 😭
If you have autism you are either a genius or completely unable to help yourself there is NO INBETWEEN. STOP LIVING A NOTMAL LIFE DESPITE YOUR AUTISM
thats why i learned to not stand out and try avoid people getting too close to me, well that has the downside of becoming lonely but it is what it is.
People usually see me as quirky or just different at first but once I become friends with them and trust them I'll eventually say I have autism. I do not tell strangers or people I'm not close with that I have autism for this reason.
@@chost-059you shouldn't be closed off to people. That only makes things worse. You shouldn't be afraid to let people get close to you, but instead only trust them once they are close. I know "just be friends with them it's fine" is pretty bad advice for someone with autism, but you shouldn't be walled off or too insulated. My advice is when you meet new people, see if they're interested in talking to you despite your differences, instead of trying to suppress your differences to be friends with them. All of my close friends were people who accepted me despite me being different, and all the people from high school who I don't talk to anymore are the people who didn't really get it or thought I was weird.
Here's a little personal anecdote that might help you start. Personally I like to talk to people who are also different in some way because they're more likely to be accepting of someone else who's different. For example, of all the people from high school that I still talk to, about half of them are queer. On the other hand, the people from high school who I never want to talk to again all feel like carbon copies of each other and are not interesting to talk to.
The "lets bully him because its funny how he flips out" literally just described my entire school experience until high school
No but this EXACT THING happened to me, I was like ostracized by my entire class (I am not exaggerating, those people were brutal) and I had no fking clue why, no one even tried liking me besides this one girl who was also autistic (but she eventually stopped talking to me after her friends convinced her to do so), and this went on from 3rd to 9th grade, everytime someone new entered that classroom I imidiatly tried befriending them, (only worked 2 times and both were when I started masking) only in 9th grade I come to find out why they didn't like me, and they said it was "because I was weird"
THIS DUDE IS SPECIAL 😂😂😂
just pretend to not care and they will ignore you. because they want a reaction from you
im in high school and my friends are doing this every day its so annoying and they just cover it up as a joke
fr I was bullied in 8th grade for stammering like, so lame. The last time ppl tried to bully me were freaking freshmen (They're rising juniors now lol, but this was during my junior year)
Just gonna mention this because u said this in the video. Autism itself is NOT a learning disabillity. Learning disabilities are more common in autistic people, but not all have them. Like im diagnosed with autism, but i dont have any learning disabilities. The only thing about me that possibly effects my learning abillity is probably my other diagnosis, aka ADHD. And i don't mean affect my learning as in like, my brain takes longer to learn, more that i get distracted all the time (which is annoying).
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Yeah I was gonna say the same thing. I'm autistic and I've always done great in school, got put in the gifted program, etc. Definitely isn't a learning disability.
Yeah, ive always done super well in school, often getting A's in all my classes, however, I take more time learning to walk, talk, and write. But where i really lack, and still lack, is socially. I saw someone once say that people without autism tend to focus more on being social earlier in life then focus on learning, and autistic people to be the opposite. While I dont believe this to be entirely correct I think there could be some truth to it
this! learning disabilities are comorbidities of autism, I'm currently in college (UK) and I'm working at a B A A, I had no learning difficulties as a child OTHER than reading which I couldn't read until age 7 mysteriously other than that NOTHING. My vocabulary was also exceedingly advanced for my age and people wouldn't stop bugging me about that until I was around 14 and people sort of caught up to me
@@anaverageanimator9296Possibly. I’m undiagnosed but I have a strong feeling I’m on the spectrum somewhere. I was very intelligent in school, and have always been fascinated by how motors and machines work. Like down to the T. I work in a factory now and find myself mocking the Mechanical noises of machines over and over again. I hold imaginary conversations with myself with different people who don’t even exist. If I’m doing a task and trying to hold a conversation, I start to lose focus of said task and start doing random things (picking up random items and setting them in even more random spots). I go on tangents (like this) with sometimes no main point. I often switch topics a lot too..
One reason I think we get the "genius or idiot" treatment is that we tend to be at least somewhat smarter than average, but to have communication issues (ranging from physical problems speaking to tending to organize our thoughts, and thus our words, in a different way). If you can't communicate, your IQ as perceived by others drops dramatically.
100% true. not trying to sound like the joker here, but society tends to think lesser of people, things, and even concepts they can’t understand and are therefore unable to put in a box. this is why some people still think animals can’t be intelligent as well, even though science has consistently proven otherwise. i wonder if this is a reason why me and many other autistic people have found so much comfort and relatability with animals? idk, might sound crazy but your comment just got me thinking lol.
That actually sounds spot on. I think we autistic ought to have the ability to call people 'Ableist' to get them to back off with their bigotry.
@@getSkrunkyeah mate society is very stereotypical nowadays and they always judge by impressions,if that person has problems expressing them selves they are bad at communication therefore dumb,nah it doesn't work like that we have to look more deep into things because autistic people can be way more than what we think of them at just seeing them once
The amount of people who would get the thought in their mind that an Autistic person is dumb is really absurd
I have 132 IQ officially but 60 IQ in the eyes of people.
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2:10 I FEEL THAT SO MUCH. my step siblings always take advantage of my autism by twisting my words or just telling me im autistic as an insult.
my word, the same was happening to me during the last few years (I had a Minecraft server with a lot of people playing being on my school and they couldn't stop twisting everything I said)
Whenever they ask for help from you in the future just refuse it and when they ask why, remind them of everything they said to you
@@whitedragonzerureusu4480 GREAT IDEA THX !!
Mmmmm honestly if i were you i would just target what my step siblings feel the most insecure about.
@@creestofofficial2554 react normally to it and they have no reason to continue
I've ran into the issue of, whenever someone knows I have autism, people automatically feeling sorry for me or changing their tune to patronize me. It used to be insulting.
whenever people are having a serious conversation about an adult topic or something, and they see that i’m here they immediately switch to a different language or tell me to leave because one, they think i don’t understand what they’re saying and two, they think i only know about cocomelon and nursery rhymes. it’s really annoying but i guess half of it is my fault because i would always hide what i know and pretend to not be self aware as some sort of defense mechanism…fuck everything…
@@M_3TA let your enemies think your an idiot.
I used to feel the same way
i HATE people patronising me. i found a good way to get them to stop is to patronise them back, be very obvious about it, they usually shut up out of embarassment.
@@ultimatey2656 and then create the biggest plot twist in history where i reveal to be a mastermind who knew everything all along……yes…perfect…the perfect revenge……
*this comment is a joke*
Yes I can relate to this feeling and it very may screw us up or anxious about topics commonly known and talked by the public. many don't believe we have experienced things or know about things that are alot more serious.
i’m an autistic woman and i feel like my maturity experience is reversed.
up until i was around 13, i was told i was “very mature for my age,” had a very inquisitive and open mind and interests that were seen as more befit for older individuals.
now, though, im often called immature or childish because of my interests and the way that i act. it’s frustrating.
For me, I got the same story but I feel as if the childish part of me is the regret I have for maturing WAY too early.
Same
Yeah I tried to act mature when I was immature at 11-13, starting acting more immature at 14-15 then became a burnt out husk, I’m now 20 and I feel like I’m missing a certain drive even though I work out and stay fit enough, my focus on work has completely degraded and pales in comparison to what I did when I was 16/18
If someone pulls the 'counts stuff thrown on the floor' thing smirk like they lost their mind and say "I'm autistic not a damn vampire."
As "According to European lore, vampires suffer from arithmomania, the uncontrollable urge to count or calculate numbers."
I'm 46 and only recently did a test that shows I have a good chance of being autistic. what a time man
Also, while good math skills often do come with autism, "good math skills" and "instantly count objects in a random jumble" are not the same thing. I sorta have good math skills (unlike my dad who definitely has good math skills), though a lot if it seems to be my verbal and spatial skills carrying my math skills. I definitely cannot count random jumbles of things on sight.
I might be a vampire
Wait is this why the Count from Sesame Street teaches kids math
Now THATS funny
Heard a myth where vampires are required to count any pile of rice they pass by
as someone that has autism im very good at hiding it and everyone has no clue unless i tell them but i feel like its looked down on for no reason like it makes you less of a person for some reason when people do find out or know that you have it. I also experience the same thing with being much more mature and stable out if most people my age. also bonding very well and feeling a connection with only people that have it and not really feeling a way towards people that dont
the gir profile pic is the autism giveaway. fellow autistic people can sniff it out from a mile away
Are you a girl? Cuz unlike guys, girls often hide their autism.
people insist on being compelled to use the most dominant label to define the outer casing of a person. it drives me crazy. in every situation. oh it's so and so's bf. or Jims brother. then you are that thing forever. imagine one time you had a haircut then here comes the x y z dude years later. or the whatever guy. so annoying
I think my comment got deleted for asking genuine question. Not very cool. Though I kinda undersand the reasoning.
@@pavelmatusu4457 YT hides comments by some weird algorithm. Just try to rephrase it if it got flagged.
Things like Big Bang Theory don't really do much to help, that show is pretty much just what executives at some Hollywood studio thought autism might be. There's maybe less than 1% of people that are like Sheldon. Here in Sweden, someone made a really weird but similarly "I have no idea what it's like to be autistic" movie called "in space there are no feelings" or I rymden finns inga känslor in Swedish. I remember my younger sister watching it and just flat out saying "this has nothing to do with autism". She compared the character in the show to me and nothing of the things I show where anywhere similar or related to said character and their autism.
Feels like typical Hollywood sh!1, they can't be bothered to do even the most barebone research possible (funny that the rain man thing gets used as an example, that's an extreme outlier that so rare, it barely even exists to begin with).
Edit: I like to joke by saying that autism is like "running a different operating software", normies use Windows while I'm stuck on Linux.
No-one associated with The Big Bang Theory has said Sheldon is autistic. Obviously he exhibits many neurological abnormalities, but if there was more to it than creating an obnoxious character they've certainly done a good job at keeping it under wraps.
@@Mrvideosandgames yes, cause people are totally gonna just sit there and wait for a confirmation. They aren't gonna jump to conclusions like normies usually do, Tbh the entire show is very obnoxious, it's sort of "someone says nerdy thing, other person say different nerdy thing, now laugh you peasants"
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I mean, I think you're a little strong in your conviction😅
Sure there are people who watched the big bang theory and used it to strengthen their misconceptions, but I don't think that's due to the shows design. In the interviews with actors and creators that I've seen I found them rather open and friendly about it all.
Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left 😋
@@boomknuffelaar Its not that I am strong in my convictions, it's just that I know people are too lazy to actually check things up. Hence why I used Big Bang theory as an example. Tbh, I couldn't care less about the show, the show is just an example of how little people know about autism.
" but I don't think that's due to the shows design."
I agree with you on this one, I doubt very much it was made to be to be some kind of autism focus/awareness thing.
"Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left"
There's something really funny about that, ive seen a few such video's. Whatever "comedy" that's left falls flatter than the antagonist in Who framed rodger rabbit after he got run over by the steam roller.
It’s ok, Linux is superior. Sincerely, a windows user.
I am most likely Austistic, but I'm never sure, because I'm constantly bombarded with people who say I need to "change" or "just accept society and earn money." I rarely even accept it because a lot of people tend to say insults and things like, "You're f**king Autistic" like it's a bad thing. So, I've just always been on edge for being a castaway who doesn't really understand why most people can't have a conversation with me, or is it me them? I'm basically a dropout and homeless because I could never do anything without asking "why?" I just found this video and I quite like the voice you give. I hope I can eventually get rid of my anxiety, depression, fear, and guilt.
Also, my sybling has Autism, and most like does my father.. My father is quite an intelligent man, only he and I don't get along very well, because I fear we're both emotionally damning to each other.
I could say I'm rather quite disabled... or do I just a very archaic way of seeing the world?
I see the world in a similar way. Hang in there it will get better❤
@@Chester_Kitten You need to "change" because you're a homeless dropout castaway. You currently take more from the world than you give it. If it's asking "why?" that's stopping you from working, stop asking why. If it's something else, stop that instead. At the end of the day it's a problem with you and accepting that will get you a lot further than blaming it on someone/something else.
You can't change what other people do, you can only change yourself and if you think labelling your self with mental illnesses will excuse the need for self improvement u gonna stay like this forever.
good luck m8
First step hate yourself that brings you down. Second step destroy that which you hate. Third find yourself that brings you up. Work on that shit till get gud. legit anything u enjoy look for a job in it. shits always less like work when there's a community around it.
WOMP WOMPPPP
I'm autistic, I'd feel insanely insulted if someone told my boyfriend he's taking advantage of me, a LOT of us can consent, the only autistic people who cannot consent are those who cannot communicate in any form
Personally, i think one of the biggest problems is, that most people dont know Autism is a spectrum.
Most Neurotypicals either think you're dumb or hyper intelligent, nothing inbetween. When I have to tell them that it's not like that, they look at me like I'm an Alien.
My experience is actually pretty similar to yours, I just didn't know until I was 17 and I still have a lot of trouble with emotional control and socializing. I have the same best friend since 15 years, I literally don't know how to make new ones, also being selectively mute (which isn't actually as common in autism) making me look weird and stupid for others.
I'm not an expert, because as you said, I don't know how it is NOT to have it, but its good to know you're not alone.
I just wish "normal people" would look into it a bit more
Neurotypicals think that it's a spectrum of 'less autistic' to 'more autistic' and that's the most that they know about a spectrum. They need to understand that it's a qualitative spectrum and not a quantitative spectrum.
@@ponfi0275 makes sense, couldn't have said it better
I'd say the real dumb ones are those trying to generalize autistic people like that and put them in boxes and try to dictate to their faces who they are. They refuse to let autistic people be.
I don’t fully understand autism and probably never will as I’m not autistic myself (I seriously hate putting a label on it because it makes you sound like an alien) but I’ve personally never had a problem talking to anyone autistic. There actually fun to be around and I sometimes pick up on there traits and it makes me curious. I can talk to them like any other person tbh.
@@Mojikaji We need more people like you
I'm autistic too, a late diagnosis at 22.
People don't understand that a Savant is an incredibly rare version of autism (the kind of autism that can recognize and continue patterns instantly), and that autism is a massive spectrum. That's why the DSM-5 calls it the 'Autism Spectrum Disorder.'
Most cases of autism are ASD-1, which used to be called Asperger's, but is now called 'high-functioning autism'
This just means that a person has autism, but can be independent. This type of autism can be both a blessing and a curse.
For myself, I was one of the rare lucky ones that wasn't bullied, but that was because I masked the hell out of everything. I have always been self-contained, isolative, all due to abuse from my parents. This means I don't like being around people or sharing my things with people. I still love people, I love sharing my thoughts and ideas, but if I can avoid it, I will.
However, my autism makes me an incredibly smart person. I have a poor sense of humor, because I take things too seriously, but that seriousness makes me incredibly adept at thinking things through; coming up with problems and then solutions to those problems, and understanding things deeper than most people can.
I work INCREDIBLY on my own, but get overwhelmed frequently and can't work with others on the same project.
This is all to say, that autism isn't the same as you'd see in media. Autism can be masked, or the person's symptoms might not manifest as noticeable behavioral issues.
Autism is a spectrum and can be very volatile, but also very reclusive. Treat individuals as individuals, and get to know them and their unique quirks; it could end up making them an even better friend than most people.
Honestly, my autism is sounds very similar to this!
I got asperger's, and didn't know it was a outdated name. Never knew it was called "high-functioning autism" so thanks for that ig. I can confirm that having that is both a curse and a blessing, might be the reason i've done well on tiktok, millions of views on there
(not professional at health) but here’s my experience as a child being autistic
I have autism I was diagnosed at young age. I had no learning disability (except speech) but I was in special needs etc and I’m not really dumb I get pretty well grades, the only thing is that I preform on a lower level than my twin who also has autism as well and same effects. Before I told people I had it I got called weird etc and then after they were shocked saying stuff like “you don’t act like it ” “oh really” “you seem so normal”
I am also bullied a lot for being weird and embarrassing myself.
@@Ellies_edits I feel you brother, I’m also high functioning autism. The moment they know you are on the spectrum, they see you as an outcast. I even got called a loser for fucking up a saw machine by some kiwi classmate back in high school. We can’t say anything back for 2 reasons. 1 is because we need time to think of an answer so we walk away for a bit and number 2 is because “OH THE AUTISTIC KID SPOKE GUYS” yep, that shit happened to me. And rumours would start spreading about me. These things drive us insane. Life is better once you graduate out of school.
A very common thing that I experience is being misunderstood, followed by punishment, that is then followed by ignorance.
And it's the most heartbreaking and frustrating thing you can experience as an autistic person.
Yeahh 😰 its like, “i did something wrong, but what???”
i’ve experienced that too many times now
Bro I thought that was just a me thing 😭😭
@@redalertsheep2939 fr man
I’m not autistic but I can very much relate to that, like I get bullied in school, I lash out at people, and I’m always the one who gets in trouble. It really sucks to try to explain yourself to someone and have them just not care at all
oh my god yes, I feel like people always immediately think of super high-end autism.
I do not like the term mental age ngl, I think that phrasing kinda missrepresents what was going on.
i strongly agree. now days ill just say "i take a long time to learn somethings" much easier then explaining that some parts of my brain age slowly. also for most everyone with a developmental disorder at lease one or two parts of the brain can start to develop faster then avenge.
I get what he's trying to say but it's always more nuanced then "mental age" makes it out to be. For example, in 7th grade, I socially acted like I was in 5th grade but was more organized and productive then some of my college friends are even today because of my obsession with planning everything and routine. I was also about as academically smart as everyone else my age and that has remained relatively constant, especially after elementary school.
ur mentally stupid. cope.
My brother has the non verbal kind of autism and I don’t know any other way to describe it other than using mental age
He’s 9 right now but I’d say he’s mentally 3 years old
What else are you supposed to say instead of mental age?
@@healthy10972 Well, there's all the stuff "normal" 3 year olds do and grow out of, that are unrelated to language. Most likely, your brother is already more advanced in several of these aspects, just not the verbal side. So maybe you could say something more like "at the level of most 3 year olds in terms of using language" but probably not with other things.
I never realised how much of a stigma there is around autism until watching this video. I don't feel comfortable posting anything about myself here on the internet but I can definitely relate to some things you have experienced. It just saddens me that people look down on people with autism. It is a spectrum and not everyone with autism has the same kinda stuff if that makes sense. I'm sorry you had to go through this you've earned a new subscriber.
yeah, theres a lot of stigma around us
Haha u said sigma
getting infantilised while autistic is the most annoying thing ever, people switch up so fast, even when i assume they dont mean to they start talking more gently to me. when i was 16, i went to a pottery class with my parents, and they decided to tell the teacher that i was autistic. and he literally spoke to me like i was 5!! i felt like i was going insane. i just think differently im not a baby
why do parents do that to their autistic offspring!?!? 😂😭😭
its honestly really fookin' humiliating.
@@gamerstreater9314 i dont know, one time me and my dad were at an event together and every single time he introduced me to someone he felt like it was necessary to add the fact that im autistic
My parents had to tell the airport receptionists that I was autistic so we could skip the cue, but in honest regards they are telling the profession about your needs just Incase you don't 'struggle'
I am autistic. That's the only reason why my parents don't let me control my own life. I'm 19 years old and will soon be 20.
My parents forced me to go to a college for electrical engineering for two years. According to the law, I didn't have to, because I was already 18.
But my parents had beaten me, kicked me and whipped me with a belt to make me go there.
I had called the police many times... but they wouldn't help me. They told me that I had no right to decide about my own life.
I still live with my parents. It is awful. I just want to rule my own life. I want freedom.
I'm so sorry you have to go through that, I hope you can find your own freedom and gain that independence from your abusive house hold. I'm actually in a similar situation, as I am currently 19 going on 20 this year but I still am treated like a small child, it's difficult and having every aspect of your life controlled by your family is dehumanizing, it can make you feel worthless and hopeless, but although I do not know you i hope you can live your life the way you want to! :)
God damn, that sounds horrible, do you have other relatives like you're grandparents to go to for support? I feel so sorry for you, I hope you're situation gets better. Good luck
hope you find a way out of this .we are rooting for you
oml...
No way... I pray that you get out of that terrible situation
Keep making videos brother, you’re funny and talented. I love these low effort but highly insightful videos. I love watching em while I play Minecraft
Funny? He'll nah. Maybe a little charismatic
Lmao I accidentally misread this as “Stop making videos brother.”
I am also autistic. I am now 24, I got diagnosed when I was 20. My whole life I felt sort of different but my parents never understood me. I went to so many people (proffesionals) and some said I was, some said I wasnt. The problem my parents thought that people who are autistic are retarded and I am clearly not. So it was a pretty wild ride with therapists and people because my parents didnt agree and we just stopped going. I was like 14 so I couldnt really go on my own. Anyways my parents also had problems (different problems) but it was just a struggle. Anways I get that with not telling people bacause some people I have known my whole life and when I was 20 and I told them they just acted different to me. Its can be a struggle. I have also met so many new people who are autistic and everyone is different. There are like a million different variants it seems and everyone has their own struggles. My parents do understand me a lot better since a couple of years but it took some time. It also helps since I moved out and lived on my own when I was 19 and I got my diagnosis at 20 so that also kind of helps... I could of gotten the diagnosis when I was 13 if my parents wherent stupid and removed the steriotype autism they had. I kind of understand why they had that idea because when I grew up there was this kid in the street who was like mental, demon, evil autistic just being a retarded asshole and they based their vision of autism on that...
I actually recently got diagnosed as autistic and I was 19 aswell and even though I objectively see why I have it it just seems normal to me
@@JonkerHoodMoments ouihuihuihui
in terms of mental maturity I've found that personally I feel like there are multiple types of maturity, and that I became advanced in some aspects much faster than my peers did and then for other things much slower.
i'm not autistic, so i don't know what it's like, but i know what it's like to be neurodivergent. i'm neurodivergent in a different way, i have ADHD.
3:40 is so accurate. i didn't realise most things i've done that were actually ADHD behaviors. turns out, it wasn't a "normal people" thing to have 56879368 chrome tabs open at once lol. it's kinda like how a color blind person don't realise that they're color blind since they don't know how other people see.
Insane analogy. Heh. Its the opposite for me. I get stressed and cant concentrate while knowing I have more that 3 tabs or a single window that I don't need open. Even a single unnecessary task in the system tray. Which is funny because in almost every other aspect of life I'm not organised at all. It's just the fact that I'm aware of that unorganised-ness and am constantly thinking about it that likely causes it.
i always have a bunch of chrome tabs open lol
I get what you mean with people having insane expectations. I remember seeing someone put it like "they want you to either be Sheldon Cooper or a tall toddler". I'm autistic too, but I didn't get diagnosed until I was 18 because my mum thought all autistic people are screaming morons who don't emotionally mature past the age of 5. What's weird is that I really think she's autistic, but she doesn't realise it because she thinks her experiences are normal. Like those people who say "everyone's a little autistic"
It took me a little while to realize that intelligence is relative, that someone with autism who has a monotropic focus on a single thing is seen as intelligent if their focus is deemed practical where someone with a focus on something deemed impractical is seen as weird. I eventually derived an entire theory of ethics from that thought, how I could have the same brain but focus on something people wanted and be evaluated as genius or focus on something incomprehensible and be evaluated as an idiot. Someone with the same brain, a brain capable of crafting The Magna Carta, can dedicate all of that potential to drawing Sonic The Hedgehog foot fetish content all seemingly by random chance. Thus, what is good is what is practical.
Yes, practical in relation to a society that is inherently impractical, & unsustainable, because what ever is considered "practical" in today's society is whatever can contribute to profit for people that don't have your best interest on mind, evidence by the society they made that is based purely on profit, & is fundamentally anti-human to it's core, like the Roman empire they try to imitate.
this is personally why i see the measure of smn's iq have little meaning, in reality everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, and that iq is simply not a reliable measure for smn's performance or capability in a certain field
As an autistic person. I was recently diagnosed, nothing has changed it just feels like people treat me like a baby because I have autism. When I tell people I have autism they start to treat me like shit and leave me out of stuff. I’m not a child anymore, I have had autism all of my life do not treat me any differently
i fw the viper pic bro
Teens are so immature you should probably just ignore them. Its so annoying going to school and just hearing the N and R slurs every second.
Mad true
Fr its actually impossible to find a friend who doesn't do that especially in middle school 😓
Yeah man finally somebody understands,they things its literally cool to do this things just to "show off" in school because thats how sadly society is ,if not they consider you to be a weird kids when you dont want to follow the stupid trend they like,like for example there are kids that call others poor because others dont want to/cant have an iphone or want/cant get some "jordans". Specially in this generation as a person from this generation @@M0urfeen
turns out the thumbnail is wrong
autism is exactly what I thought it was
because I have it
This is funny because at first I didn't think about it. But then I did and it was true
Me
Autism is exactly what I think it’s like; a condition I have.
Thumbnail: autism isn't what you think
Me, autistic: "Hmm"
that’s exactly what I did :D
same i feel you
"I stopped telling people I have autism" as he places the 3 pickaxes and shovels neatly into their own collums. Jokes aside thank you for talking about this, it's always nice to have another resource to educate people and hopefully have them change how they treat others
Wait, non-autistic people don't do that?
@@mothgirl326 i have to imagine this isn't just an autism thing, it's rationally more organised
i couldnt say myself as im an autistic person who does that but itd be really weird if allistic people didn't do this
@@mothgirl326 no this was just a joke haha. While some types of autism do push towards more clean organization, it's not at all autism specific.
@@Lord_Drakostar alltistic is crazy
@@RV2O allistic is a word
I had an experience that really changed my option on autism recently when I was just hanging out with some friends and found out two of them were autistic and it was just a reminder that people are literally just people and the fact that someone has autism shouldn't affect anything in relationships
so true. if any other teenager gets angry, stays up late, etc and the school knows it its normal. if an autistic teenager like me does, the school will intervene in our family business to "protect me" by forcing my mum to go to a "class".
Hearing that I have Autism, my diagnosis came at around age 5, someone at our church started asking questions about me to my parents even though I was standing right there and answering. Hearing your side, it makes me question even more why we're all grouped together with only "Autism" to describe all of us, which seems equivalent to specifying "Rainbow" as a favorite color.
We all share the same patterns of characteristics even if we share few exact characteristics on first glance, and we tend to be fairly good at recognizing one another even with differences in presentation.
the mental maturity is smth nobody talks about with autism, thank you for talking about it. i feel seen
You should probably get better tools.
lmao
My cousin is autistic. Although not severely, he does have issues with socializing at times. BUT HE IS MY LITTLE MAN, AND HE IS AMAZING! And one thing that just ticks me off so much is how people treat him. In school, he was bullied so much. Him saying things like people putting fists at him and such, thinking he’s “weird”. What is it with people? Why is it so hard to treat others kindly? What have they gone through to make them like this?
Aw. I could feel the emotion in that 'HE IS MY LITTLE MAN.'
I have a friend whose autistic, he doesnt act like most people but we dont care. (He makes actually funny jokes which i didnt think was possible in 2024 💀)
I wish more people at my school had that attitude
my school knows a few autistic people. we get along with them quite great lol. they get treated like a usual person
As an autistic 13 year old, it feels weird thinking about the fact that it highly possible that i STILL have ever felt real love. This video helped me know a LOT more about myself.
Autism is WAY to misunderstood as my personal experience so far is I’m smarter than most other people my age but I’m also really silly so it’s a double edged sword
no bcz for me when ppl find out i’m autistic they always just say “oh, that explains a lot” like damn
I mean yeah, it probably does. My friends said the same thing but it’s because of the way I socialize. They never got why until I was diagnosed
@@Moonshine449first legit in this comment section
I ABSOLUTELY don't understand people who insult people with autism, like people with autism is just people that are different
Because people are part of, & brought up into a society that brainwashes, conditions, or gaslights them into thinking that different is bad uncritically, while also promoting blind obedience to their absolute detriment, that's why.
Because they suck.
it’s natural to ostracize and dislike those that are different from your group. the quicker you understand that the less you will blame normies
because they werent loved. they only insult those people because they got more attention then they ever got. its their way of coping
it's easier to pick on someone that's different because they stand out bullies would pick on someone but there's a reason why they don't pick on someone their own size (someone that's similar to most of the people around them) but we are *different, not less*
as an autistic person, I’m giving this video a 8/10
just has some missing stuff that’d be important
Care to elaborate? Seems like it'd be pretty helpful to mention what is missing.
@@dwarian5252 i think it’d be better to mention that autism is different for everyone and there’s a reason it is said to be a spectrum, other than that its 10/10
@@dwarian5252 was a little confused when it was only mentioned as learning disorder, he is definitely right it has caused me not to understand some concepts but those are also social ones, where ive watched how people have interacted to see how "normal people do it so well" and essentially autism, it's very broad and everyone will experience it differently
but there's no absolutely hate to this guy, this is his experience with it and what he says is right
@@marcey4207 ye
kept nodding my head like this guys spitting fax
As someone with autism, this is so relatable. My mom treats me normal for pretty much everything, but when it comes to autism im a fucking loser who cant get his shit together. She tries to get me to do things like answer questions to earn money or stupid shit like that. And my dad wants me to be fucking Albert einstein but like 3x smarter, like im in 7th grade and he wants me to be learning CALCULUS. Considering i have autism, i think its a good idea to go through school for the social aspect, especially because i know i have social problems because i have a hard time making friends, like i only have friends because my second grade teacher sat me and my best friend together, if it weren't for that, i would have no friends, like im not just friends with one person, but i met all my friends through 1 friend. I hate being autistic and my parents are like "oh theres nothing to hate" yeah, youd be right, except you don't realize that if you werent babying me or saying i am like the smartest person in the universe than i wouldnt hate it, what my parents dont realize is THEY are the fucking problem, not me. I am honestly suprised that when i went to Disney for a school trip that they didn't chaperone because they were "worried about an autistic person alone" or some sort of bullshit like that, especially considering i went with one of my classes where i dont have any friends. Some of my teachers treat me like im fucking retarded, like my Spanish teacher, of course she kinda treats everyone like their second graders because she used to teach us in second grade (im in a dual language program) but still. And the grade administrators think im fucking retarded every year, like i see kids that are definitely some sort of special needs, and im retarded? Like im not trying to be rude to those kids but like clearly there are people with more problems than me, and im only in seventh grade so i can only imagine 8th through 12th and later down in life (im not going to college because imagine how much theyd baby me there, omg) maybe im overthinking that, as part of my autism i overthink things way too fucking much, like im thinking, "what if the people im talking shit about in this comment see it and know its me" even though i know damn well theyre not seeing this. Like i was really weird in elementary school from like 2nd and 3rd grade, like there are people who think im a weird person because of shit i did BEFORE COVID, like in 4th grade (2020-2021 school year) i honestly didnt give a shit about my grades and then 5th grade i was still a little like myself from 2nd to 3rd grade but that went away in that summer, and in 6th grade my personality had completely changed, kinda like the maturity thing this video talks about. I dont tell people i have autism, you know why? Because i dont care what others think of me, i genuinely dont. I also agree with you on the whole "i couldnt date any girls who aren't autistic" like granted, i havent dated anyone yet as i am in 7th grade and i think starting a romantic relationship in middle school is fucking absurd, but i feel like "normal" girls would think i was weird, but autistic ones i feel might relate to me, idk, maybe not but ill find out in high school or whenever i get in a relationship. Overall the video is really relatable on so many levels and i really am glad i finally had somewhere where i could actually share all this.
Also sorry for the long comment, I understand if you don't read it all, but if you did thank you for taking time to read it, as I typed that for a long time
I actually shared the "alien" feeling you had, but in a different way.
When I was young I always knew I was different but I just couldn't understand why, emotionally unstable, unable to understand things others could, sometimes do things others didn't understand. The list can go on, but it clawed at me, "Why am I so different? Why am I so slow?". The public humiliation and bullying from teachers and other kids didn't help.
After I got out of school (dropped out at 11th grade because I couldn't take it anymore and almost had a mental break) I practically cut off all ties I had. After a year or so of reflection and at age 19 I realized I had autism. After realizing it, it genuinely felt like a burden was lifted from my shoulders. Years of torment and not knowing why I was different felt like a memory.
I don't tell people I am autistic because I know they will get the wrong impression and I really hope more people find out what being autistic actually means.
Even now my current friend group is mostly comprised of autistic type people, mostly because we get along and or share a connection.
I fully believe that autism is a spectrum, it's not black and white. I am on there somewhere, I might not have the greatest control of my emotions and I will always feel different, but I at least now know why I am different and I am happy where I sit. :3
This is literally so true
incredibly helpful video and relatable thank you
also lmao the point where you noticed where you died was like 3 blocks away from air was the biggest bruh moment
ik lol that made me laugh a lil when it happened
My friend has an autistic non-verbal brother. Before watching the video I thought that was pretty much autism. Now I feel so bad.
As an autistic person who has not felt love yet, you have just given me some (potentially false - i hope not) hope
I believe in you to find someone!! I (I'M PRETTY SURE I DO :'3) have autism and I have a girlfriend, I think everyone can have a significant other if they're ready for a relationship, it takes alot of time usually, but I'm sure that if you're a great person and you just be yourself you'll find someone amazing! :D
Its possible (from an autist)
It's weird. I work in software-- a field one might, for good or ill, stereotype autistic people as being common in. Even here, it's bizarre to see what my coworkers think of autistic people; they see it as a sort of extreme handicap that a manager should notify them of ahead of time so that accommodations can be made. Very bizarre.
As an autistic person, I just gotta say this video touched me on a very deep and personal level, while I’ve never exactly been bullied (either that or it’s been passive aggressive in a way where I didn’t pick up on it) I do struggle with people. It’s as though they don’t take me seriously, or think of me as an idiot. I’ve never been good at making friends, and as a kid (for reference I’m 17yo now) I’ve had many adults be very short with me, and now I find even basic social interactions scary. Thank you for making this video.
i really love being able to hear someone talk about this
fr tho
People are so behind in understanding social and psychological differences in other humans.
I love my autistic friends. I love hearing about their special interests because hearing the same opinions from the same people gets boring. I love how they can be so invested in such simple joys in life. Even if its just video games as I see it as an art form. Since my autistic friends have a deep appreciation of art, I can only admire them for that.
I feel the same way whenever I tell people I have autism. People often are like "Oh, YoU dOnT hAvE aUtIsM, yOu DoNt AcT ReTaRdEd!" It's so annoying, and it's part of the reason I have little friends.
I once told someone that I had autism and the response that I always hate happened they said that "You're to smart for autism" so he was basically saying that autistic people were dumb made me even more insecure about it so now I don't tell anyone
honestly the best you can do is educate them, and if they don't want to learn then that's their loss
well I did move schools so I don't really see them that often anymore
@@TrumpetGuy26normie
@@94709 edgy kiddo
@@94709 tf
As a person with autism and ADHD. I say ignore if you have it or not. And if people call you weird. Just ignore them bro THEY DO NOT TELL YOU WHAT TO BE
I actually have autism and I can confirm that people judging them like so isn’t very fun so that’s why most of my friends are autistic. Except that when I told to my online friends that I was autistic, they respected me because I am a nice person to them :)
I’ve been made fun on the internet and got sent death threats for my autism multiple times they think it’s a disease that makes you stupid lol 😂.
almost like it does.
41 here, diagnosed at 37.
I actually tell many people, as my "problems" are fairly minor, and the explanation helps with the potentially weird facial expressions, or overly pedantic responses, or perceived poor eye contact.
But however you handle it, is the correct way for YOU to handle it. Don't let anyone tell you different!
a lot of people don't understand that different isn't necessarily better or worse, it's just different
More people need to talk about this. The stigma around it grows, as kids start saying “you’re autistic” to everyone, and it becomes really offensive because as someone with it, it’s not at all like what people say.
Oh my god i cannot tell you the amount of times i havent laughed at an offensive joke and people just brushed me off saying i didnt get it because i was autistic. No, i understood you were making a joke. I just didnt think it was funny.
shame on you@@Gray_mk
@@XianPsgwhatd they say
@@Geotrax2 i honestly forgot😕 sorry😅
@@Geotrax2 he was saying something like what you would see in an instagram reel comment section
Hm
As an autistic person my experience of sharing my disability is just awful. At first there’s the negative and sad emotion displayed by the second party, then they like others say, treat me like a damn toddler. Now that’s not the worse I’ve seen, it’s gotten to a point where hundreds of people I know want me to get hurt or even die due to how miss represented autism is and their complete lack of understanding. I just wish they could understand.
I think people confused autism with down's syndrome. That's why it rubs him the wrong way that your girlfriend has autism, and also why he thinks you're "so normal" when you say you do as well.
if anyone asks what its like being autistic, i always ask them back "what is it like not being autistic" and they sort of understand that you cant explain it because you dont know
yo man your backstory relates to mine like CRAZY its good hearing from someone who is soo relatable whenever I tell someone I have autism they think I'm retarded the only thing I've ever struggled with is '' learning '' and '' anxiety ''
as a high functioning autistic I really enjoy seeing others perspectives
Autism isn’t a learning disability. It’s a different Neurotype.
The need to build foundational knowledge before bringing the bigger picture into view absolutely makes learning more difficult. Learning disability doesn't mean cognitive disability. I think it's stupid to try and normalize different mental conditions out-of-hand just to act self-righteous. Someone who is so severely autistic that they need a chaperone is not a different 'neurotype'.
@@slommie1649 Autism is normal. It isn’t a learning disability though. You can have a learning disability as a co-occurring condition, but Autism itself isn’t a learning disability. Autism comes under the umbrella of Neurodivergence, which is any Neurotype that deviates from the Neuronormative Spectrum, otherwise known as Neurotypical. Neurotypicals are thought to have fewer differences in their processing and Neurology generally, than people who fit within the category of Neurodivergence. Everyone (including Neurotypicals) is/are Neurodiverse.
People don’t realize how autism isn’t some crazy thing a lot of people are “normal” even with autism and I believe the internet is making to big a deal of autism I understand that people want it to be “recognized” but the issue with that is people misunderstand things
I took an autism test, and it turned out positive, but a year later the doctors found out that there was a mistake in the test, so I'm not actually autistic. However, for that one year when I thought that I was autistic, I found out how much of a bad rep it gets. 99% of autistic people have very few symptoms. Don't patronize them, because just like you, they are people. They shouldn't be seen as lesser, because there're not. It's one of the stupidest things I've heard in my life.
I feel you, I'm also autistic. I feel like people can forget its a spectrum and it's not as black and white as people assume it is
Hey! Someone with autism here! Just wanted to clarify before I say what I say in this comment. It's not meant to offend anyone but here goes nothing: I feel like us people with autism are the most simple and normal human beings. I think the worst part about having autism is that everyone treats you like god or everyone sees it as a mental disability or inability to do certain tasks. From my experience with autism.. All I can say is that the only part of life it affected was my school life and going to hospitals. I don't know why but my head starts to get somewhat dizzy but not dizzy. Not something I can really explain.. And to everyone reading this one comment I just want to tell you something. **THERE IS MORE THAN ONE TYPE OF AUTISM SO I WANT YOU TO STOP GOING IN MY DMS IF YOU'VE MET ME BEFORE AND SAY I DON'T HAVE AUTISM WHEN I CLEARLY DO.** And thank you.
I just came across this video and it hits close to home. As an autistic guy I can fully empathise and understand not only how it feels to be stereotyped and misunderstood by ignorant people, but I can also relate to how you talked about feeling alienated and disconnected from everybody else. People’s words can eat me alive sometimes and it hurts, thank you for making this and even though I’m a couple weeks late, I’m super glad I found this because it makes me feel like I’m not alone. Keep spreading the word 🙏🙌
There is no problem with being autistic. I personally feel that most people with special conditions are much better off than normal people.
from my knowledge, autism is a wide spectrum, not a simple black or white way
I never mention I have autism because suddenly they start doing some wacky baby talk to me like tf
it's like having dementia, people make jokes about it.
when the fuck did i write this?
What
ahhh irony
i have aspergers so its kinda similar as in ireland aspergers is misinturpereted with autism due to how dumb people are in the disability helping field
Damn, I didn't really consider that autistic people share the experience of "coming out" as autistic
im autistic and i havent told my friends, i feel like they are gonna look down on me
I can relate to everything you’ve said. I was quite mistreated, and misunderstood, by my peers, up until I was around 15. The bullying I have received was so severe, that to this day, age 18, I still have trauma from it, and was actually diagnosed with PTSD. Not even my school could guarantee my safety. It’s a side which I rarely open up about since it is often too much.
Thankfully now, I’ve found some friends who, not only treat me right, but also understand me. One of my traits which my friends love is my brutal honesty, i’m not exactly sure what it is, perhaps it is that the words that I’m saying means something? Like it holds an extreme amount of weight? Whatever it is, I’m just happy that they treat me well.
im autistic and my pet recently died, i feel younger and unsafe. i dont want to be alone, i dont want to do things by myself, i dont want to handle my own house when i have one. i want to stay with my parents/friends/brothers. I feel afraid that something will happen to me.
Nuance is one big thing very few people can comprehend
man spitting facts (I need to prepare for the day my classmates find out I am autistic so...) I am basically not very socially capable and I used to have anger issues, but I'm faster at some things regarding intelligence than some people
I'm autistic, diagnosed level 2, and I must say, I enjoy watching you play minecraft :)
I’m autistic, I don’t really like talking about it but it’s insanely misunderstood and people always just assume I’m weird or childish until I tell them I’m autistic when they hear that they’re like “no you’re too normal to be autistic you can’t be you’re not throwing fits every 2 minutes your not autistic”
My mental age is 8, I’m 13..
I’m gonna be honest, me and my friend have a dark humor, like DARK humor, but I would never ask someone why they are dating someone with autism, that’s just messed up.
Holy shit! I thought I was alone with the whole mental age thing! I'm 24 but mentally 15.
Also us autistics are the normal ones, the so called "neurotypicals" are the weird ones! (/s) Like who goes into a store like Target and DOSE'NT get absolutely bombarded by all the lights, sounds ETC.
As a 42 year old autistic guy that found your video, i can say the "more mature than others my age" thing once you catch up is real. Personally, i think it boils down to the fact that we are so used to putting those higher standards on ourselves, and we keep doing it, and everyone else has jever had those standards.
Holy shit ur right
I think part of it is that as autistic kids/teens we generally hung around with adults a lot more than with kids our age because we could relate to the adults a lot more maturity level-wise. When kids the same age are so much more immature than us, it leads to bullying/exclusion so our social life becomes just being with and around adults. So then we eventually pick up on the adults mannerisms which makes us even MORE mature, which leads to even MORE exclusion among the kids, which leads to hanging with the adults more too…I know this is at least my experience and I thought I'd share
yup the standards i set for myself always have me burning tf out. meanwhile everyone else is just cruising and having fun
I’ve noticed that a lot of people with autism care much more about one on one interactions than anyone else, and much less with groups of people, which I think is a very positive thing. Although they might seem weird because their brains work differently, it doesn’t mean they are less of a person.
Thank you for sharing and helping spreading the word. As an auDHD girl, I really relate to what you say. Talking about this publicly is hard, yet important!
What I hate the most about when you tell people your autistic they just infantilize you or say something like “omg I wish I was like u autism is so silly! >-
I rarely reveal I'm autistic to people. I only reveal it once I know it is safe to, or if the people are also autistic/neurodivergent. I'm constantly masking around strangers.
I'm autistic and something that always annoys me with people is that when they learn I'm autistic they don't believe I am, because they say "You are more normal than autistic people." or "You don't look/act like an autistic person." It annoying that people think that there only two way to be autistic, be an idiot or be very smart.