I have a feeling you guys will enjoy this video! If you missed my previous video in which I challenged the idea "family is everything" here it is: ua-cam.com/video/lfWy-qo88FA/v-deo.html.
Was in a relationship with a borderline/narcissist. Then after I found out my mom is a narcissist and there are multiple Borderlines in my family. Next realizing I was the scapegoat. Almost got stabbed for calling out the dysfunction. Now I am estranged from my family. So trying to process the break up on top of leaving the family I was with for 25 years. I’m 26 years old now and I am way less depressed and less anxiety than I had growing up now that I’m separated. But every once in a while I get into a dark mindset because this is a different reality to be living in
I'm so sorry. It's devastating to know that your parent is just as unstable as someone you have dated. That's a typical but also harmful process. I'm sorry you have that periodic zone of dark thoughts and sadness. That true for a lot of people. The best approach is to prepare ahead of time for these moments.
@@tnt01 Thank you very much. Yes I am beyond happy that I realize this as a young age. The processing is beyond difficult and I’m trying to avoid any self sabotage. And just learn how to process this
I've been to psychics, some of whom seemed to really be able to "tap in" - and, the night/early morning that my paternal grandmother passed, I had a dream about her. I rarely remember dreams and I didn't remember that one, except that I had a dream and she was in it. My dad called that same day to tell me she had passed and I told him I'd woken up at about the time she died and had had a dream about her. He said he did as well and later I believe he told me one of my uncles did as well. What's odd is I didn't really like her! A few years latter, one of the psychics I went to seemed to channel my paternal grandfather as well. She described him in his blue coveralls which he often wore and even used his nickname. When I realized who she was talking about, I said something about him being a jerk. She said he told her that it wasn't an excuse - more an explanation, that he never knew who his real dad was and that always affected him - which was TRUE - he was adopted by his mother's husband, who was not his father. I did not tell her or mention that and this psychic and I did not really know each other, she was a friend of a friend who didn't know my grandfather was adopted either. She had no way to know. She also seemed to channel a friend who had died when I was 17 or so, but in that case she used her birth name (Margaret), whereas we had always called her by a nickname - Midge...she even mentioned an incident when I went to visit Midge's grave and took flowers and as I went to drive away, looked back and just as I looked back, the vase holding the flowers fell over and I had to go back and set them up again - this psychic had said that Midge was holding a bouquet of flowers and giggling. I've also had a few incidents of "knowing" things I had no way of knowing. One recent one, was the day that incident in Wis happened where the guy drove thru a parade, for some reason I decided to look up the date of the Christmas parade where I live, but thought I'd missed it already. I hadn't, but then I had a vision or what I thought at the time was a paranoid thought, about someone driving into the parade and running me over as a spectator and thought, well, maybe I wont go! A few hours later, I went onto gab and saw a bunch of posts about that christmas parade tragedy in Wis. It's so unreal, I even question myself if I had that vision before or after I saw those posts, except I know it was before. There have been other incidents as well, including one that was pretty minor except that it was THE incident where I first recognized FOR SURE what intuition is and I recognized it because i went against it and did something I had a strong feeling of "not wanting" to do, despite not really having a good reason not to do itI I say relatively minor, because no loss of life was involved. I lost a muffler and my friend almost burned her trailer down, to the point the cabinets were melted. She had asked me to meet her where she was camping and I really didn't want to go, and she persisted and against my gut, I went anyway, because she pressured me. So - even if this video ends up being one where you say people who believe in ESP are schizoid, I know and believe there is more to the world than meets the eye! I just wish my instincts and esp were stronger so I could get clear answers to some seriously messed up situations in my life for which there seems to be none, or no one willing to provide them.
I cannot thank you enough for this video. I tried to reach out for help and found nothing because the multiple therapists I went to just wanted to medicate me or talk about things that kept me in a loop. It’s been extremely frustrating and I was suffering enough to have an awakening. It’s hard to find someone to understand, without judgement or being thought of as crazy. It’s still a struggle but we all just suffer in silence and try to figure it out.
This is a trip. Finally after years of digging and thinking something was off about me. I’ve have had so many experiences. Mom is narcissistic, am the scapegoat. Been in two bad relationships. One i know with a narcissist. It was pure hell. I’ve always had different things happen to me. Since i can remember but, going through that kind of abuse…. What i experience. Wow.
We are more RIPE haha.... yes! i have adult trauma and childhood alike. And it seems like i gain a new perception after these events... (people if your a person full of doubt, or dont believe that its real.. keep it to yourself.)
It's really wonderful that you are open to and doing this work as often the trauma experienced with ESP is actually the result of abuse and persecution that children and adults suffer from outcasting for their difference. While there are often cases where people will confuse their psychological attachments with extra sensory perceptions - indeed one doesn't need to be emotionally entangled - nor do they need to disassociate from these activities - in fact these two areas pollute or muddy the clairvoyant/sentient clarity and discernment. Much in the same way if one in Eastern traditions practices meditation of sorts (or western prayer and meditation also, but the Eastern traditions are more defined about this) they learn an objective, centred mind and raising of their vibratory resonance - some call prana, ki or kundalini. This state of raising awareness results in also heightened perceptions and in many, will also eventually result in the opening of their extra sensory centres. Here, the psychic experience is nothing like emotional attachment or schizophrenia. From this point of heightened awareness our objectivity is not disassociation either. Instead, we experience an expanded conscious sensory of being associated to all things - but that knowingness is no longer centred inside our bodies, so we do not have an egoist viewpoint - instead we witness our human, ego analysis and emotions almost like the PAC or transactional analysis model - which is a reductionist phenomena that is similar. I feel the reason that people and especially people who need to stay within the more rigid parameters of systemic left brain legitimacy (which is egoist and therefore negates experience of ESP) is that there is a form of heightened awareness and limited ESP that may be gained from extreme stress, trauma, fear, shock, nervous breakdown, drug taking and other factors that mainly correspond to what I call a 'blow out' of the central nervous and autonomic system - and this is of course spiked by adrenalin and 'fight, flight, freeze' induced. Because on an instinctual physiological level, the body needs to rapidly adapt to our impending 'threat' to survival the hormones that our pumped into our system also quickly spike our awareness (some may relate to the feeling of hair standing on end). In this state, our physiological responders will create a limited level of ESP - enough to get us out of danger through our conscious awareness of the 'right' action to take for survival. But if a person seeks behaviours to deliberately induce this type of experience - they will burn out their physiological systems - i.e. their body, over time and will never achieve true psychic states of consciousness. There are some exceptions in the Shamanic fields to this statement, where certain practices are supported through knowledge pathways to a heightened consciousness of being rather than an experience. Because the scientists and therapists who deny ESP do so because they never have directly had the experience to form cognisant knowing, they are relying on their analytical brains and technical learning, academic knowledge to form an opinion. This is carried out by the functions of the left hemisphere. But there is always an opportunity for realization. It is not really the 'right brain' where our ultimate extra-sensory connection is realised. It is indeed from the parietal lobe in the somatosensory cortex - from there is our 'external' gateway for ESP as it is for other sensory functions. The internal translation is mostly received in what we deem right brain functions - but also through the limbic system and our hormonal responses. Savant brains also operate with this direct cognitive sensory that has no constraints by time and neural pathways of traditional cognition. Thanks again. I am grateful that someone like you may prevent the suffering and persecution that I suffered on another who if like me is born a super conscious psychic into a western world.
Fascinating topic. I would often have spiritual revelations and symbolical recurrent dreams back in the day when I was just beginning to understand the psychological abuse my parents put me through. I'm also naturally an artistic person. Everything you mentioned really adds up in my view.
Thank you for covering this topic. I am taking the healing journey just with the help of all you informative therapist on youtube and I am highly intuitive. If one sees a therapist is it safe to share our unusual experiences or will we be labeled with a disorder just on these experiences. ie...crazy landlady is at my house expressing her manic self and for a flash her eyes looked like snake eyes. She seemed to be borderline and I have noticed with my disordered family I catch different things across there face...is it just cortisol being released due to the stressful interactions? Excited for your future videos...you are so validating Dr Tamara. :)
Thank you!❤ Very glad this was helpful. You pose an important question that would almost produce another video. It's tough to say what a therapist might say - especially because we are all different. The kind of therapist you seek could be helpful as well. For example, you might want to share these experiences with a therapist who understands religion, philosophy, existentialism, or phenomenology. Searching for books that could validate your experience may be helpful as well. Thomas Hora's book Beyond The Dream is pretty good. But to mention these things to a "mainstream therapist" - someone who doesn't embrace the spiritual world, can lead to further trauma!
I think this is very person centered but from my experience it's low grade psychosis. I've seen people heal from it over time when they finally feel sufficiently safe. I endorse personal growth and a dedication to accepting truth. I just would hate for a person to lose out on the opportunity to heal when it's possible.
5 Stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ I’ve learned about ESP a while back…in high school with a teacher who to this day, I value greatly. She opened my eyes to a lot of things that even my dear mom didn’t touch, but hinted off about yet never went into intimate details about. As I got older, I began exploring more and more on the subject and learned some interesting things about myself relating to this. Thank you for the video. ♥️
@@TherapistTamaraHill Sometimes we don't truly realize the wisdom they have until later on in life having struggled through some things. I often remember some things that my mom had told me when things get a little too rough. Her voice and words resonate within my mind as though she's talking to me over a loud speaker. LOL!
Dr.Hill I have went through Narcissistic abuse quite a bit through my life. My last relationship was with a boyfriend with NPD. I've been single for over 3 yrs now. I have had a hard time these last few years. Thats my personal background and I know I'm an Empath. Well, when I'm around anyone now my sense of who likes or dislikes me, or gives off bad vibes is extremely strong. I can almost predict how situations will turn out and it usually comes true. I have strong instincts to do things a certain way or see that ok this wont work. I suggest things just to my mother and shes says no! How do you know? And it will turn out as,I suggested. I don't think I'm psychic at all, but I feel things have changed with me. I see 11:11, 2:22, 3:33, 4:44 just continuously. Even 1:11. Then, I'll see 11:10, 1:10. I feel comforted because I've read these numbers are good signs, but no idea what to do. Am I losing my mind or truly getting messages or a spiritual awakening? I have isolated myself because of depression and distrust of people. I guess I need an idea of what's going on.
Wow, Tamara ✨ Amazing ✨ Question: do you think that being spiritually gifted or " special" makes a child the target for abuse in this world? I sometimes feel like that is the case.
Thank you! Hope this was helpful. This is a fantastic question. I wish I had the answer but I do personally believe - having work with children who are traumatized for years - that most are "gifted" in terms of intuition, wisdom, and even intellectualization. It's almost like that pain causes us to "dig deeper" than most people would.
This is a good question because there aren't many names or "titles" for people who experience these things. I very much believe in premonitions, visions, spirits, and the afterlife to name a few. I grew up Christian under our Native American and American Christian belief system with a pastor for a grandfather, a mother who had spiritual dreams and insights, a grandmother who served in the church and church related outreach, etc. I also studied, over the course of multiple semesters, philosophy, existentialism, and religion in college. So I you could say I do believe in these things! You could call someone who has these spiritual experiences "spiritual" or "spiritually attuned."
I have a feeling you guys will enjoy this video! If you missed my previous video in which I challenged the idea "family is everything" here it is: ua-cam.com/video/lfWy-qo88FA/v-deo.html.
Was in a relationship with a borderline/narcissist. Then after I found out my mom is a narcissist and there are multiple Borderlines in my family. Next realizing I was the scapegoat. Almost got stabbed for calling out the dysfunction. Now I am estranged from my family. So trying to process the break up on top of leaving the family I was with for 25 years. I’m 26 years old now and I am way less depressed and less anxiety than I had growing up now that I’m separated. But every once in a while I get into a dark mindset because this is a different reality to be living in
I'm so sorry. It's devastating to know that your parent is just as unstable as someone you have dated. That's a typical but also harmful process. I'm sorry you have that periodic zone of dark thoughts and sadness. That true for a lot of people. The best approach is to prepare ahead of time for these moments.
Sorry to hear, but look on the bright side. You are still very young. A lot of life ahead of you :)
@@tnt01 Thank you very much. Yes I am beyond happy that I realize this as a young age. The processing is beyond difficult and I’m trying to avoid any self sabotage. And just learn how to process this
@@Joshdifferent Therapy, and self care will take you far. Take care. All the best.
@@tnt01 omg
I've been to psychics, some of whom seemed to really be able to "tap in" - and, the night/early morning that my paternal grandmother passed, I had a dream about her. I rarely remember dreams and I didn't remember that one, except that I had a dream and she was in it. My dad called that same day to tell me she had passed and I told him I'd woken up at about the time she died and had had a dream about her. He said he did as well and later I believe he told me one of my uncles did as well. What's odd is I didn't really like her!
A few years latter, one of the psychics I went to seemed to channel my paternal grandfather as well. She described him in his blue coveralls which he often wore and even used his nickname. When I realized who she was talking about, I said something about him being a jerk. She said he told her that it wasn't an excuse - more an explanation, that he never knew who his real dad was and that always affected him - which was TRUE - he was adopted by his mother's husband, who was not his father. I did not tell her or mention that and this psychic and I did not really know each other, she was a friend of a friend who didn't know my grandfather was adopted either. She had no way to know. She also seemed to channel a friend who had died when I was 17 or so, but in that case she used her birth name (Margaret), whereas we had always called her by a nickname - Midge...she even mentioned an incident when I went to visit Midge's grave and took flowers and as I went to drive away, looked back and just as I looked back, the vase holding the flowers fell over and I had to go back and set them up again - this psychic had said that Midge was holding a bouquet of flowers and giggling.
I've also had a few incidents of "knowing" things I had no way of knowing. One recent one, was the day that incident in Wis happened where the guy drove thru a parade, for some reason I decided to look up the date of the Christmas parade where I live, but thought I'd missed it already. I hadn't, but then I had a vision or what I thought at the time was a paranoid thought, about someone driving into the parade and running me over as a spectator and thought, well, maybe I wont go! A few hours later, I went onto gab and saw a bunch of posts about that christmas parade tragedy in Wis. It's so unreal, I even question myself if I had that vision before or after I saw those posts, except I know it was before. There have been other incidents as well, including one that was pretty minor except that it was THE incident where I first recognized FOR SURE what intuition is and I recognized it because i went against it and did something I had a strong feeling of "not wanting" to do, despite not really having a good reason not to do itI I say relatively minor, because no loss of life was involved. I lost a muffler and my friend almost burned her trailer down, to the point the cabinets were melted. She had asked me to meet her where she was camping and I really didn't want to go, and she persisted and against my gut, I went anyway, because she pressured me. So - even if this video ends up being one where you say people who believe in ESP are schizoid, I know and believe there is more to the world than meets the eye! I just wish my instincts and esp were stronger so I could get clear answers to some seriously messed up situations in my life for which there seems to be none, or no one willing to provide them.
I cannot thank you enough for this video.
I tried to reach out for help and found nothing because the multiple therapists I went to just wanted to medicate me or talk about things that kept me in a loop.
It’s been extremely frustrating and I was suffering enough to have an awakening. It’s hard to find someone to understand, without judgement or being thought of as crazy. It’s still a struggle but we all just suffer in silence and try to figure it out.
Absolutely many of us see things in the spirit realm...Absolutely....Some ppl are seeing wayyy too much though..
This is a trip. Finally after years of digging and thinking something was off about me. I’ve have had so many experiences. Mom is narcissistic, am the scapegoat. Been in two bad relationships. One i know with a narcissist. It was pure hell. I’ve always had different things happen to me. Since i can remember but, going through that kind of abuse…. What i experience. Wow.
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We are more RIPE haha.... yes! i have adult trauma and childhood alike. And it seems like i gain a new perception after these events... (people if your a person full of doubt, or dont believe that its real.. keep it to yourself.)
It's really wonderful that you are open to and doing this work as often the trauma experienced with ESP is actually the result of abuse and persecution that children and adults suffer from outcasting for their difference. While there are often cases where people will confuse their psychological attachments with extra sensory perceptions - indeed one doesn't need to be emotionally entangled - nor do they need to disassociate from these activities - in fact these two areas pollute or muddy the clairvoyant/sentient clarity and discernment.
Much in the same way if one in Eastern traditions practices meditation of sorts (or western prayer and meditation also, but the Eastern traditions are more defined about this) they learn an objective, centred mind and raising of their vibratory resonance - some call prana, ki or kundalini. This state of raising awareness results in also heightened perceptions and in many, will also eventually result in the opening of their extra sensory centres. Here, the psychic experience is nothing like emotional attachment or schizophrenia. From this point of heightened awareness our objectivity is not disassociation either. Instead, we experience an expanded conscious sensory of being associated to all things - but that knowingness is no longer centred inside our bodies, so we do not have an egoist viewpoint - instead we witness our human, ego analysis and emotions almost like the PAC or transactional analysis model - which is a reductionist phenomena that is similar.
I feel the reason that people and especially people who need to stay within the more rigid parameters of systemic left brain legitimacy (which is egoist and therefore negates experience of ESP) is that there is a form of heightened awareness and limited ESP that may be gained from extreme stress, trauma, fear, shock, nervous breakdown, drug taking and other factors that mainly correspond to what I call a 'blow out' of the central nervous and autonomic system - and this is of course spiked by adrenalin and 'fight, flight, freeze' induced. Because on an instinctual physiological level, the body needs to rapidly adapt to our impending 'threat' to survival the hormones that our pumped into our system also quickly spike our awareness (some may relate to the feeling of hair standing on end). In this state, our physiological responders will create a limited level of ESP - enough to get us out of danger through our conscious awareness of the 'right' action to take for survival. But if a person seeks behaviours to deliberately induce this type of experience - they will burn out their physiological systems - i.e. their body, over time and will never achieve true psychic states of consciousness.
There are some exceptions in the Shamanic fields to this statement, where certain practices are supported through knowledge pathways to a heightened consciousness of being rather than an experience. Because the scientists and therapists who deny ESP do so because they never have directly had the experience to form cognisant knowing, they are relying on their analytical brains and technical learning, academic knowledge to form an opinion. This is carried out by the functions of the left hemisphere. But there is always an opportunity for realization. It is not really the 'right brain' where our ultimate extra-sensory connection is realised. It is indeed from the parietal lobe in the somatosensory cortex - from there is our 'external' gateway for ESP as it is for other sensory functions.
The internal translation is mostly received in what we deem right brain functions - but also through the limbic system and our hormonal responses. Savant brains also operate with this direct cognitive sensory that has no constraints by time and neural pathways of traditional cognition. Thanks again. I am grateful that someone like you may prevent the suffering and persecution that I suffered on another who if like me is born a super conscious psychic into a western world.
Fascinating topic. I would often have spiritual revelations and symbolical recurrent dreams back in the day when I was just beginning to understand the psychological abuse my parents put me through. I'm also naturally an artistic person. Everything you mentioned really adds up in my view.
Love the way you broke this down 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you! Glad this video was helpful.
Thanks for covering this!!
Yes, you're welcome! We need more videos around this topic.
Thank you for covering this topic. I am taking the healing journey just with the help of all you informative therapist on youtube and I am highly intuitive. If one sees a therapist is it safe to share our unusual experiences or will we be labeled with a disorder just on these experiences. ie...crazy landlady is at my house expressing her manic self and for a flash her eyes looked like snake eyes. She seemed to be borderline and I have noticed with my disordered family I catch different things across there face...is it just cortisol being released due to the stressful interactions? Excited for your future videos...you are so validating Dr Tamara. :)
Thank you!❤ Very glad this was helpful.
You pose an important question that would almost produce another video. It's tough to say what a therapist might say - especially because we are all different. The kind of therapist you seek could be helpful as well. For example, you might want to share these experiences with a therapist who understands religion, philosophy, existentialism, or phenomenology. Searching for books that could validate your experience may be helpful as well. Thomas Hora's book Beyond The Dream is pretty good. But to mention these things to a "mainstream therapist" - someone who doesn't embrace the spiritual world, can lead to further trauma!
I think this is very person centered but from my experience it's low grade psychosis. I've seen people heal from it over time when they finally feel sufficiently safe. I endorse personal growth and a dedication to accepting truth. I just would hate for a person to lose out on the opportunity to heal when it's possible.
5 Stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ I’ve learned about ESP a while back…in high school with a teacher who to this day, I value greatly. She opened my eyes to a lot of things that even my dear mom didn’t touch, but hinted off about yet never went into intimate details about. As I got older, I began exploring more and more on the subject and learned some interesting things about myself relating to this. Thank you for the video. ♥️
You're welcome! ☺ And this is great! To have someone like this is a blessing. My mom did the same for me growing up and it's priceless wisdom.
Truly fortunate and forever grateful for the wisdom! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
@@TherapistTamaraHill Sometimes we don't truly realize the wisdom they have until later on in life having struggled through some things. I often remember some things that my mom had told me when things get a little too rough. Her voice and words resonate within my mind as though she's talking to me over a loud speaker. LOL!
I really appreciate your openness and analysis of this topic
Thank you!!🤗 I love this topic. I feel like we need more of this discussed in psychotherapy.
Dr.Hill I have went through Narcissistic abuse quite a bit through my life. My last relationship was with a boyfriend with NPD. I've been single for over 3 yrs now. I have had a hard time these last few years.
Thats my personal background and I know I'm an Empath. Well, when I'm around anyone now my sense of who likes or dislikes me, or gives off bad vibes is extremely strong. I can almost predict how situations will turn out and it usually comes true. I have strong instincts to do things a certain way or see that ok this wont work. I suggest things just to my mother and shes says no! How do you know? And it will turn out as,I suggested. I don't think I'm psychic at all, but I feel things have changed with me.
I see 11:11, 2:22, 3:33, 4:44 just continuously. Even 1:11.
Then, I'll see 11:10, 1:10. I feel comforted because I've read these numbers are good signs, but no idea what to do. Am I losing my mind or truly getting messages or a spiritual awakening? I have isolated myself because of depression and distrust of people. I guess I need an idea of what's going on.
Wow, Tamara ✨ Amazing ✨
Question: do you think that being spiritually gifted or " special" makes a child the target for abuse in this world? I sometimes feel like that is the case.
Thank you! Hope this was helpful.
This is a fantastic question. I wish I had the answer but I do personally believe - having work with children who are traumatized for years - that most are "gifted" in terms of intuition, wisdom, and even intellectualization. It's almost like that pain causes us to "dig deeper" than most people would.
I needed this today. Thank you .
So glad! You're welcome. :)
I feel like when you focus on your ESP it just gets stronger too.
Yes, absolutely! It does. It's like building a muscle.
Thanks for this. It feels good to have Psychologists say well you're not completely nuts. Hahaha 🤗🤗
You're welcome! Absolutely. I agree!
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What would you call someone who really has psychic abilities and premonitions and visions in their dreams? Do you believe in paranormal activity?
This is a good question because there aren't many names or "titles" for people who experience these things. I very much believe in premonitions, visions, spirits, and the afterlife to name a few. I grew up Christian under our Native American and American Christian belief system with a pastor for a grandfather, a mother who had spiritual dreams and insights, a grandmother who served in the church and church related outreach, etc. I also studied, over the course of multiple semesters, philosophy, existentialism, and religion in college. So I you could say I do believe in these things!
You could call someone who has these spiritual experiences "spiritual" or "spiritually attuned."
Why do people do this😅 I want to see this video if you're going to drop a video drop it.
To build healthy suspense and "metrically" build an audience. It's deeper than it seems.
Some Folks Are Just More Earnest... ?🧏♀️
Rude!