Living With the Pain of Childhood Abuse | His Grace
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- Опубліковано 13 бер 2019
- “If I just drove off the road, it would all be over. Everyone would forget about me, and it wouldn’t hurt anymore.” But Erin knew that wasn’t the answer.
When Erin was growing up, home was never a safe place for her. She was physically, mentally, and sexually abused by the person who was supposed to protect and take care of her. When she told her mom about the sexual abuse, they left their home.
Finding her way after they left home was difficult. Erin stopped going to church and started doing things she thought would make her “happy.” But she never felt true happiness. After Erin graduated from college, the traumatic experiences she had suffered as a little girl came to the surface. She still saw herself as the little girl who thought nobody loved her. Physically she had healed, but mentally and emotionally she still had deep wounds.
While living with a family she’d known in New York, she mentioned to them her self-destructive thought about driving off the road. They immediately came to her rescue and helped her understand that she had depression. After going to an emergency clinic and receiving medication, her recovery began.
The childhood trauma Erin experienced contributed to her depression, and she needed a therapist. This therapist helped Erin face her past and understand that it wasn’t something she could ignore. While attending therapy, Erin also turned to God, and she began to see herself as a person worth loving. God gave her the strength to work through her challenges.
God’s grace was in the courage He gave Erin to find the resources she needed to begin healing. Without God’s help, Erin’s life wouldn’t be as beautiful, as hopeful, and as wonderful as it is now.
If you or someone you know has been abused, seek help immediately from civil authorities, child protective services, or adult protective services. You may also seek help from a victim advocate or medical or counseling professional. These services can help protect you and prevent further abuse.
In addition, you can find help lines and other information on abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org
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Heeling is a process that will need to go on for her. I am 62; I was raised with violence from father and sexual abuse from mother. Later found the gospel. The Atonement is such hope. Prayer is crucial - have a prayer life.
@irishlass5160, thank you for sharing your experience and your faith in the Lord.
Christie Jensen Dear Christie, sorry for delayed reply: Absolutely yes, the pain healed nearly entirely, and it happened little by little when I lived close to God and His infinite grace-kind of like immersing in it. Reading Word, and talking with God and lingering in prayer just listening. Please know it gets better. Hope! 💛🙏🏼
@@Glen.Danielsen It’s so good to hear that you overcame the pain you are such an inspiration! Thank you for sharing your experience!
I wish I could hug this young woman right through the screen. Thanks for sharing your personal pain and triumph over it ❤️
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My wife grew up in an abusive home. When I married he I never knew at the time how bad it was. Over the years and 7 children latter she only gotten worse. Medication and prayer never helped. She doesn't talk with any of her children or grandchildren and she really doesn't know they exist I guess. I'm grateful this gal could be healed, because physical and mental abuse is real and does major damage.
I'm almost 60 and had the same kind of childhood. I'm STILL going through this. Thank you for inspiring me to to try one more time 😰❤❤❤
Keep on trying Rebecca. You are stronger than you think, and loved more than you know❤
You’re not alone in this! Millions of other people around the world are fighting with you! I may be a stranger, but I want to help lift up other strangers. I may not know a thing about what you’ve been through but I’m here to let you know that you are loved, and that you are not alone.
Erin!!! The girl with the million-dollar smile. You never cease to amaze me. Thank you for boldly and honestly sharing your struggles, your faith, your strength, your truth. I love and admire your beautiful soul.
been there. I'll be 67 years old in a few days and only joined the church last January. I'd made a lot of progress, but still struggled with caring for basic needs. I finally feel that people care and I'm not alone. It makes all the difference. I really think I can finally do more than survive, I can thrive
I hope that you get to that point soon my friend. I wish you all the best.
I, too suffer from childhood abuse and I can totally relate to this woman! God has healed me tremendously and even though I'm still living with my family which the abuse did not end, but God still helps me, guide me and comfort me along the journey..
Are you safe?
If you are not safe.. pray and ask Heavenly Father where to go and what to do.
You can be free too because you are also just as much beloved as she.
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Ming, no one should have to endure abuse. If you haven't already, visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about how to find protection, help and healing from abuse.
Please let us know you are safe. My abuse was because it was a cycle passed down by generations. I have mostly made peace and I did have to move back home for a while but I have my own house now and there is room if you need it.
Blessing may God heal your mind in Jesus name
I’m so sorry to hear that you went through such horrible pain. I hope that life will get better for you soon, and that you will be able to move on from this painful experience.
What a beautiful video. I'm so grateful for the atonement.
Thanks for sharing. I suffer chilhood abuse too and God helps me to forgive them and live again.
I've been through something similar and to watch this bought tears to my eyes. Heavenly Father loves us and he will never leave us alone in our trials. Thank you for this video
I love you Erin! You have always been such a beautiful, strong woman in my eyes. I loved hearing your testimony! Thank you for sharing it. You're AMAZING!
I feel your pain Sister, you are not alone, thanks for sharing your story.
I am a victim of childhood abuse and a whole lot.I can relate to them.I cried watching this video.
You are loved! You don’t have to face this alone, and you can find hope and healing through the Savior Jesus Christ. Visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about how to heal, find peace and get help.
This is so meaningful and on many levels. Growing up, I referenced God through my parents. My perception of Heavenly Father and my relationship with him was patterned after my relationship with my parents. Deep down, I thought that God expected of me what my parents expected of me. I believed that God saw me as my parents saw me, and what they wanted for me was also what Heavenly Father wanted. I broke through the barrier in prayer and found my own relationship with Heavenly Father, a new relationship. I learned Heavenly Father has his own eyes to see and how much He wants to be accessible and close to me.
Lord is the only who one can satisfiy us to our desires, rejections, pains and all in this sinful world is what we experience, living life without putting God in everything do its hopeless, its perseverance to make us strong but God is always here for us eventhough how hard we are experiencing we just have to believe and trust in him eventhough i'm still struggeling in my life one day this will all end, let days that we have here on earth be a living life as it is in heaven to deny ourself and walk up the cross with God.
God Bless us All Bothers and Sisters, Glory Be To God.
So many of these new messages are so relatable and real. So needed. When I feel empty and confused these videos really help me. God is real and He loves us.
We're so glad you appreciated the message.
I’m in tears . I’m glad she gave all the pain To Jesus I can relate to her 🙏
I pray for ur peace
My life also took a turn like this. I am so thankful for the love of our Savior and his atoning grace to heal us from the inside out.
How brave to tell your story! Thank you for sharing, this message, your message, is needed. I feel so much love for you ❤️.
I developed what I call my "Miracle List". Did you see a beautiful flower today, was someone kind to you today? Miracles come in all shapes and sizes think of the good things that have happened in your life; even if it is just one small flower, and write it down on a list. When the stone in your sole seems to be too big stop and read your list. The Good things in life are what we should focus on. When you see a miracle like that beautiful flower remember to tell God "Thank you" I say it out loud.
As I was watching this, I felt like it was me talking. Heavenly Father has led me throughout my life to professionals, people and friends that I needed at certain times in my life to heal. I am 58 years old and still healing. I do know that sexual and physical abuse does not mean we are unloved. It isn't fair to suffer because of someone else's sin. But I can look back over my life and see where I have grown because of my experience, we can turn it to positive with the help of our Heavenly Father who loves unconditionally. Thanks for sharing your story.
Thanks for your comment, Kim.
Thanks for sharing. After a life of addictions I’ve been sober for a few years, but now I have flashbacks of being molested. I had no idea that happened until a little while ago when the flashbacks started. I guess that’s what I was running from for all those years. Medication and therapy has helped, but it still hurts so bad. Christ is really all I feel I have left. Thanks for your message of hope
I'm praying for you. I'm here if you ever wish to talk with someone who understands the horror of ptsd.
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You are loved! You don’t have to face this alone, and you can find hope and healing through the Savior Jesus Christ. Visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about how to heal, find peace and get help.
Thank you for sharing your story!
Very powerful and touching.
That is a beautiful young woman, whether she believes that or not.
I am a 76 year old man who suffered terrible abuse as a child. I have never gotten over it. I have given up hope of ever feeling good about myself.
Lloyd, we're sorry to hear you're hurting. We know hope and healing is possible with the help of our Savior, Jesus Christ. Visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about how to heal, find peace, and get help.
this is a very beautiful story. i hope you know that you are touching so many lives with it. always stay strong. God will be with you forever and ever
Your faith and willingness to heal your own emotion have helped you to be changed----and the change is in you. This is a piece of beautiful evidence on earth we can really work through our childhood pain no matter how hard it is. God is always there and loves us deeply.
Thank u for sharing your testimony , our loving heavenly father is only one can do anything and everything and have the power to change us for good Because of the atonement, love you sister love from Wellington New Zealand
Erin my heart goes out to you! This brought tears to my eyes and I truly hope things can continue to get better as you heal.
This is what I need
The Atonement is the only way to live with it. Christ felt all our pains. Ponder and pray.
as evidenced by her story you do not 'live with it'. she needed professional help AND help through the Atonement to heal.
To access the healing power of the atonement requires faith. Abuse often times creates many stumbling blocks to that faith and sometimes other things are needed to remove those blocks so that it can be fully accessed.
Exercising faith means also going to therapists when necessary. God wants us to use the inspired tools out there. All good things come from Him. I often hear people saying " all you need is the atonement ". Having access to His healing power means do what we can. When you have a illness you don't only say prayers. You also go to doctors. The same is when you have emotional and mental problems. You go to professionals. That's what I believe.
Amen.
Something I needed to hear so much! Fully been through this. Christ atonement heals all wounds and even today im healing from wounds and getting mental help is so necessary. When youre abused youre frozen in time emotionally, mentally etc. Mental health is so important. God bless you dear sister. I'm with you x
Thanks for your comment. The Church recently published some wonderful information about how individuals can find hope and healing from abuse. If you haven't visited it already, you should check it out: abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org We hope you will continue to find peace through the Atonement of Jesus Christ.
Thank you for your genuine bravery and light. You are such a strength and I am grateful that you have learned to love you❤
No child should ever go through any kind of abuse, however, we are still in mortality where there are some bad people in our lives! I am inspired and joyful that she found healing through the gospel of Jesus Christ and the help science provided for her!
Erin, thank you! Thank you for sharing such a personal part of your life. I admire you ❤️
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. You are going to help so many 💕
Yep Alma 36:21 is for real. Alma really was a prophet of God. His experience gives all of us hope, because He came to know the Savior through his struggles.
21 Yea, I say unto you, my son, that there could be nothing so exquisite and so bitter as were my pains. Yea, and again I say unto you, my son, that on the other hand, there can be nothing so exquisite and sweet as was my joy.
I’m still working on loving myself... I still believe Im worthless because I was always told I was, I’ve healed a bit but the last parts of loving myself and forgiving those who have hurt me are still there and I’m struggling with them. I only had one parent in my life until I was taken in by a loving family that treated me as if I was there own daughter I’m grateful for that but I’m still broken
Keep pushing on, it will get even better than you could ever imagine and then you can help others too.
Hi, I’m sorry to hear that... I too have struggled with abuse from my past and sometimes i still struggle. Even though I have attended healing groups through lds family servants( which helped a lot) I still have to remind myself that I am enough. I highly recommend listening and reading to the beautiful song from Lauren daigle called ‘you say’. The lyrics are so inspired and so beautiful that they always uplift me. I hope this helps. Just know you are loved and our savior loves you more than you will ever know ❤️
Desiree, we're sorry to hear you're hurting. You are loved and needed! Visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about help and healing from abuse.
You are a great person you matter
You matter to your friends and family. And you matter to your Savior Jesus Christ. The road may be long and hard but in the end, it’s worth it.
I was bullyed in school. And i also tried to fullfilk my pain with clubs, drinking going out. Until not so long ago i went to church one time then i stoped now after season work i am going back because God is calling me again! And this time he is not letting me go. Jesus is my Savior Amen
Hi Mata rada, thanks for sharing your experiences and your belief in Jesus Christ. It's true that we can find greater purpose and meaning in life despite our pain and challenges when we have faith in Jesus Christ. For you or others interested, see the link below to learn more: www.comeuntochrist.org/beliefs/purpose-of-life/purpose-of-life
I really appreciate your heart for sharing this, I know it must have been really hard to speak of it. You really touched my heart and I hope you know that I love you for even baring your testimony to the world. Thank you so very much God Bless.
I to have been thru the same thing. He is gone now but the pain horror and nitemares are still there.
You are loved! You don’t have to face this alone, and you can find hope and healing through the Savior Jesus Christ. Visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about how to heal, find peace and get help.
May Heavenly Father continue to bless you. Much ❤, to u and stay strong, sweetheart!
You are a wonderful example. We love you.
Thank you for sharing. Unfortunately these thing do happen to women & children. The power of the atonement is real & we can truly heal.
This is long awaited Thank you!
I feel so bad for how you were raised and am happy that you find peace through Christ.
:,'( Well done you strong beautiful lady.
How could you dislike this!
This world dishes out a whole lot of pain. I'm very grateful for the Gospel of Jesus Christ. And for the healing factor of God's grace.
My God i hope u find the peace and healing that u need.
Thank you for sharing it with me....
I'm so sorry what you endured. I'm so happy you're better.
Thank you. ❤️
Thank you for this...thank you for saying their is more needed than just prayers and scriptures. Thank you for being real with us and letting us know that if we do our part the Lord can fully heal us.
I'm so proud of her
Father gave me the strength to face the challenges in my life. Without Him I would be dead now. Now I don't dwell on the challenges I have, I face them immediately asking Father for the strength now to face them. I used to push them to the back burner, & try to forget about them. Maybe they will go away. It always got worse. So facing them now lifts the burden. I don't have to be afraid anymore. Heavenly Father will always be there with me. I not ever alone. I will always remember I am a child of Heavenly Father.
I’m not religious myself but this video gave me hope. It makes me feel better knowing that I’m not alone in this type of situation. I was raised by a single father and grew up with 2 older sisters. We were all abused verbally and emotionally and physically for our entire lives. My sisters left to live with our mom in California when they were in their teens, but my father manipulated me into staying with him, demonizing my mother, and feeding me lies about her and forcing them into my brain. He continued for years until I was about 18 years old, lashing out at me, hitting me, screaming at me, and breaking me down. There was one incident, relatively recently, where I tried to fight back, which made him even angrier. He forced me down on my bed, and wrapped him arm around my throat from behind and squeezed as tight as he could. I was flailing and panicking and the next thing I knew, I woke up screaming in panic. My dad was still standing over me and cornered me against the wall on my bed. I could barely breathe I don’t know what went on, other than he choked me until I passed out. He could’ve easily killed me and showed no remorse for his actions. I’ve since been allowed to move in with my girlfriend of 2 and a half years and her mother, and haven’t spoken to my father since the day I moved in with them. I don’t hold any hate towards him, but rather a great deal of resentment mixed in with absolute terror when I think about what could’ve happened that day.
Aidan Lovick stay strong ❤
I love this!
I wish I was as strong as ever I wish I was smarter as her as she is at her age to realize and notice That help is only one step away turn away from God for so long that at 36 i am finally ready to give myself fully. This church was s helping and guiding me along my path and I can never repay that debt.
Lots of hugs to you
Erin thank u so much share ur story
Such an inspiring story
This is a great video in why we all need Jesus Christ and God.
Thank you for sharing this story.
some of us never heal
Abuse is terrible and wrong, but we believe hope and healing is possible with the help of our Savior Jesus Christ. Visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about how to heal, find peace and get help.
Sometimes we're so hurt that healing is a difficult to even comprehend. Sometimes it sounds like people expect everything to just be fixed and be like they were before; in my experience, nothing ever goes back to the way it was before, but we life can become better. Jesus Christ understands our pain and has real power to heal all of us, even if it takes a long time. Look for faith in Jesus Christ. It won't hurt, and it will help.
Healing means different things to different people. With mental health and spiritual support, education and appropriate resources, a measure of healing and improvement in one’s quality of life is absolutely possible for each person. Jesus often doesn’t take all the pain away, but as we receive His grace and learn and apply what we experience in therapy, relief increases and anxiety and hopelessness decrease. Our ability to tolerate life increases and we learn to cope in a way that feels better. And when flashbacks occur and we experience setbacks, we then have a support system to Lean into instead of isolating, the Lord himself being the most important part, and also therapists, counselors and trusted friends. There is hope, a measure of healing and peace to be found in Jesus Christ and in well-trained, qualified mental health professionals.
Erin I love you girl. You know I will always be there for you mama
The music was way too loud. It interfered with the story and with being able to hear her talk and to think about and understand what she was saying. I know Erin!! Wow. Erin -- Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are so kind to others, and so friendly. I am so sad to learn about some of the awful things you went through as a child. I'm glad that you were finally able to get some therapy that helped you. May God continue to bless you with peace. May He also bless you with everything you need in life, and wonderful people to surround you.
My gosh. I know her.... 😭
So true
my mom is abusive, since I was a child. all of my family knew it, my father too. but all of them do nothing, and just watch my mother locked me about an hour in bathroom since I was in playground. she think it was good for my mental to get stronger and ready if one day I become an adult. but she didn't realized, I got depression and it was hard for me to study since I was in middle school. I used to hear some noises of her screaming at me and I'm crying for no reason when I was in highschool. and at that time, I became moody and all of my "friends" just hate me. most of them wont take me as their chairmate or even take me in their study group. they think that I only want their attention, and they start bully me. they think it was helping me. my ex-boyfriend almost got me died in a car crash because he was jealous. after that I talk with some psychologist and they asked me to go to a therapyst because my case have connection with trauma and I will need some medicine. all I need is love and someone beside me, you know.. I just want to share my story here, for who you are who reading this, out there. I hope you got a better life than me, and please if one day you have a child... treat them well :)
Hi Sunny, we are sorry to hear about your experiences. Abuse is terrible and wrong, and the Church’s position is that abuse cannot be tolerated in any form. We believe hope and healing is possible with the help of our Savior Jesus Christ. Visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about how to heal, find peace and get help.
@@churchofjesuschrist Hi thank you so much for your kindness, I'll visit it as soon as possible. ❤
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Honesty
For anyone suffering from abuse reread 2 Nephi 2:1-2. All these things can be concecrated for your gain. It's not what happened that continues to make you suffer. It's what you believe about yourself because of the abuse.
Great
Thank you for sharing your powerful story. Do you still talk to your parents?
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Hi sister don't worry Jesus Christ with you and help you forever you follow Life
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Forgive those who have wronged u in jesus name,he will strengthen u to forgive others
Hey, I felt the same way but pyschologically
Jessica, you can visit abuse.churchofjesuschrist.org for information about help and healing from abuse.
@@churchofjesuschrist don't worry, I sort of healed by the gospel.
This sounds similar to my story
me too :(
Look. I’m very happy she got help and became ok. The thing that strikes me here, as a person who has grown up in LDS central and was raised this way but is no longer, is that now it is ok to call “Heavenly Father” “God”? When I was growing up that was in no way, shape, or form ok. ... is this a new development?
Honestly I just know it is because when I was a teen and was trying to be more accepting towards my friends of other faiths and still had an extremely strong testimony I began to use the word “God” to try to meet them in an agreeable place. When I let it slip in a religious conversation with my mother... she flipped out.
I bit God doesn’t really care that much if you say Dear God, Papa God, Heavenly Father, Dear Father, etc. He is just happy to hear from you. I think that sometimes people get hang up in the cultural aspects of the religion, which is not part of the gospel. But if you grew up calling God certain way call him that way if that’s more comfortable to you.
To the first comment Carl Williams, you are obviously not a member because some of what you have said is complete nonsense. If there are people reading this who are not LDS, then please don't believe this. If you want to know what we believe just go to LDS.org
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I am very sorry that you suffered this abuse as a child.
I was abused as a child in the church by church members.
I stayed a Christian for decades until I researched the claims.
I no longer believe in the supernatural.
We have similar starts and you believe and I do not.
That makes you wonder if there is a god then what gives?
I am no longer a christian and if asked will tell people that I am simply unconvinced by the claims being made.
I have no good reasons to think the supernatural is anything more than people making stuff up.
Once again sorry that you suffered as a child and that you were indoctrinated (just as I was) as a child into a religion.
I am now looking at '''why''' people are convinced to then believe.
Thanks Gray
first of all im mauricio i got raped for 4 years when i was 4 years old my life went on in the churtch i was raped by my uncle hes a mormon and me too im schizophrenic paranoid becoz no one cares jesus was there becoz i said if the soul exists then god exist i know jesus lives but so far im completly overwhelmed right now how the churtch deals whit this its absurd people did ridicule me all the time they are happy becoz nothing like this has ever hapend to them and complain about their sins like we have to understand them i wont go on becoz it doesnt make sense to be raped at 4 years old for 4 years i got to the matrix
I Suggest Psychotherapy :)) Y'ALL WILL BENEFIT 😊
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