Thank you to those who have posted such supportive comments, it will mean a lot to Jess and her family, who are reading these. We hope this video will help other families going through a similar situation and break a few hospice myths along the way. We kindly ask that you are mindful that this is a family who are grieving and whilst we accept everyone will have their own personal view on this story and COVID-19, comments that are not constructive or personal may cause upset. Thank you Jess for giving St Luke’s the biggest gift of them all - telling your very personal story. You really are an inspiration ❤️
He could have died any day, is he going to spend his last weeks all alone without his family, that was really shocking and depressing to hear. Good that they arranged so he could come home and had some weeks with his family but he missed 3 of his last weeks with them, I can't believe it. It should be about quality, not quantity at that state. I really hope he was okay and didn't feel abandoned when he was stuck alone in that hospice.
Oh my goodness, you beautiful woman, you amazing wife and mother. Clearly he was an outstanding husband, friend and father. Thank you for sharing. What a beautiful story. So sorry for the loss of such an incredible presence in your life.
This reminds me of a local gentleman dying of cancer in hospital recently who partitioned for his family to be able to see him. Only to be told no due to Covid. He ended up dying alone not unlike manny others in the same position, so terribly sad. I feel even more so for the children who die alone under the same circumstances 😔
That sounds so cruel. If you really try I'm sure there should have been a way to arrrange so that his family only meets him and not other patients or maybe one family member could have stayed with him all the time. And at that stage as an dying adult it should be his choice if he wants to risk getting Covid from his family. Makes me so sad to hear stories like this.
We just went through a similar circumstance with my husband. I am so very sorry for your loss. Our 4 adult children took off work for 5 months to help me care for John at home! It was terrible and so loving but so very sad. John died peacefully on July 16, 2020 after 8 months. He was a wonderful loving beautiful husband, dad and grandfather! Again, we are so sorry fir your loss! Loved your video!
really cruel not to allow visitors in a hospice. In Germany, they made the rule that dying persons were allowed to have visitors also during lockdown. Only one person, but better than nothing!
It was the absolute worst thing we did to people during covid, to force the dying to die alone! God forgive us! We must never ever allow such inhumanity to happen again!! We must decline to participate in such cruelty!
Life can be damn cruel. A loving, decent young father losing his life like this......I just don't have the words. So very sorry for Tom and for his lovely family and friends. Hospices really are very special places that help make things a little easier in those final stages. Tom's children would be so proud of their daddy and when they are older they will know what a very special dad he was and he will live on in their hearts always.
What a lovely, strong women to be so brave to tell that story. thank you for sharing and thank you all the hospice for taking care and giving people dignity. so heartbreaking that he was so young.
This is why hospice is so important. They operate at a pace most suitable to the patients and are able to devote the precious time needed to ensuring a patient's final journey is as peaceful as possible. Up until March 2020 I would attend hospice day care each Monday, just getting together with 11 other men and women with life limiting illnesses, having chair exercise sessions, playing puzzles and accessing various therapies and enjoying a lovely lunch. We all pay what we can afford but we're not forced to do so. The fact that hospice relies pretty much solely on donations, I think, is deplorable. As this young lady has found, in the most traumatic of situations, is that she was/is surrounded by love from her first meeting with hospice staff/volunteers and her husband was in the best possible hands in his final chapter. We owe it to those like Tom to do all we can to keep hospice 'alive'.
I'm so sad for this young family. My heart goes out to them. I do want to send a warm word of thanks to all the hospice workers everywhere. The help you provide is beyond measure. I know from experience. 💜
it's utterly ridiculous that civid 19 flu virus is dictating how someone who is dying isn't allowed to be surrounded by thier family. this is 1 of my main reasons why I'll die at hone whenever it's my time. I've nevee trusted drs. and i never will. screw the fda amd the cdc. they need to stop playing god and let us see our dying or sick loved ones.
My deepest heartfelt condolences. My God wrap his arms around your precious family and give you comfort and strength during this difficult time. Rip Tom
What a truly sad but beautiful story. Thank you for sharing what must be so heart breaking for you. You were meant for each other and one day your hearts will entwine once more. God bless you and your family.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story, I’m sure that was hard for you to do. Glad you got that final time at home all together. Sorry for your loss.
If love could have saved him……he would have lived forever...🤎My own partner was told out of the blue he had 12 weeks to live………a nightmare only made bearable by the last few days we spent at the hospice……no one is immune this beautiful women and I unfortunately know first hand the invaluable work done by all involved in providing that care.
This story is so similar to my life... except for the hospital staff at the end of my husbands life were negligent, made his condition worse, and the hospice team that came to my home the last week of his life were even worse... my heart breaks for this family... I will be praying for comfort...
So sorry for your loss.. 😔 I know the feeling too well, my dad also died from cancer and it's very devastating. A complete nightmare. God bless you all!
Thank you for sharing your story. Your so lovely, Im sorry for your Loss. I just experienced the loss of my grandmother. May God watch over you and your family 💫💚💙💫💚💙
I think it’s so messed up how they don’t allow visitors at hospice! My father went into hospice last April and I thankfully seen him 2 hours a day before he passed but the only way my brothers could see him was through a window!!!! This still affects me after almost a year!!!! This is so messed up!!!!!! I feel bad for anyone who gone through the same stuff! Patients and family should be able to gather when death is near!!!!
Dear , Lord heavenly father, please rein your epic grace on this family, and give them all the peace they need to move forward in this life, knowing that her precious gift of a husband will be beside her all the way in spirit, song and in hymn, praying for you, beautiful mom and poppies all our love surrounds you, sincerely, Tammiejo
It is so sad that the people in nursing homes and assisted living are not allowed, visitors. I understand that the residents are vulnerable and need protected but still so sad.
I wonder if Boris really understands the impact of his actions ...party gate ? Seems Tom was a beautiful soul he is still with you just accross the veil.
Okay I think this is ridiculous. If someone is in hospice and they are dying, keeping their family away is the worst thing you can do. What more is COVID going to do to them than is already happening? That is just ludicrous. Not letting a dying person see their family because of COVID? If they catch it it's not going to do any more harm.
These things are really interesting, informative, and of course very sad, but please leave the background music (noise) out, it doesn’t need it. Other than that, well don.
The fact that people have been kept from each other is absolutely disgusting. I don't just mean hospices and hospitals, although of course they are particularly emotive examples. But lockdowns and restrictions in general. No one should ever be kept from seeing their loved ones. It's criminal and inhumane.
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16, Ephesians 2:8-9, Romans 4:5, Jesus Christ is the only way, KJV...........
Isaiah 53:5, But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes, we are healed. For salvation, people just need to follow the way they did it in Acts? They were baptized in the water and of the spirit. Here's why! The gospel is the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. If we are to follow him, we must do the same thing. Death= repentance, Burial = baptism, and resurrection = being filled with the Holy Ghost and rising again from the dead. That's what Acts 2:38 is. We must obey the gospel, 2 Thessalonians 1:8-9, in flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that OBEY NOT THE GOSPEL of our Lord Jesus Christ... Matthew 7:21-23, Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that DOETH THE WILL OF MY FATHER which is in Heaven. St John 3:3-5, EXCEPT a man, be born of WATER AND OF THE SPIRIT, he cannot enter into the kingdom of GOD. We can't come up with our own gospel. Galatians 1:8-9, But though we or an angel from heaven preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed. Don't be cursed. One way for all people. Jews, Gentiles, and Samaritans. Our salvation has to match-up with the scriptures and no scriptures on the subject can be taken away. Eternity is TOOO long to be WRONG! st, John 5:39, Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me. The gospels show what Christ has done on the cross for us. The book of Acts shows us the beginning of Christ's Church and how to enter the Church, obeying Acts 2:38. The letters were written to the Church to show us how to behave now that we are born again into the Church. It's better to walk alone than to walk with a crowd going in the wrong direction. Are we supposed to follow the teachings of the apostles? Acts 2:42, And they continued steadfastly in the apostle's doctrines. Ephesians 2:20, We are built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ himself being the chief cornerstone. Jesus Christ was our perfect example back to God. He was baptized and received the Holy Ghost and we must be baptized and receive the Holy Ghost. He was holy and walked in righteousness and we must be holy and walk in righteousness. He died and rose again, and we must die to the things of this world and rise to walk in the newness of life. He prayed to the father showing us how to pray to the father. If you believe in this message, help spread it in the name of Jesus Christ. God bless you for doing so!
That’s what you do as a mom, isn’t it. You repeat what your partner would say to your kids. Ours would be “shut up and eat your garbage…”, stolen from Ratatouille, but never better better spoken by our youngest son, aged 2. And that’s what I’d say to their dad.
Thank you to those who have posted such supportive comments, it will mean a lot to Jess and her family, who are reading these.
We hope this video will help other families going through a similar situation and break a few hospice myths along the way.
We kindly ask that you are mindful that this is a family who are grieving and whilst we accept everyone will have their own personal view on this story and COVID-19, comments that are not constructive or personal may cause upset.
Thank you Jess for giving St Luke’s the biggest gift of them all - telling your very personal story. You really are an inspiration ❤️
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For Gods sake let the families visit their loved ones...this is cruel beyond words...glad that he got home. Beautiful family. 💕
He could have died any day, is he going to spend his last weeks all alone without his family, that was really shocking and depressing to hear. Good that they arranged so he could come home and had some weeks with his family but he missed 3 of his last weeks with them, I can't believe it. It should be about quality, not quantity at that state. I really hope he was okay and didn't feel abandoned when he was stuck alone in that hospice.
@@teijaflink2226 watch the video ffs
@@teijaflink2226 100% agree. Those restrictions were inhuman.
@@victoria5043 Scamdemic, all about control.
I'm so glad he got to go home to be with you and the children in his final days. Sending virtual hugs.
"I'm glad it's me". What a noble man!
Yes that was spot on a true gent.
Oh my goodness, you beautiful woman, you amazing wife and mother. Clearly he was an outstanding husband, friend and father. Thank you for sharing. What a beautiful story. So sorry for the loss of such an incredible presence in your life.
What an amazingly strong and lovely family. I can't even imagine what you've all been through. Sending you all the positive thoughts that I can.
what a tribute, he was loved and, in the end, that's all that matters. beautiful video.
So proud to be a part of the St luke's hospice plymouth retail team.... Sending love and condolences to Jess and her family😍
So not fair...I don't even know this man and I'm crying.
This reminds me of a local gentleman dying of cancer in hospital recently who partitioned for his family to be able to see him. Only to be told no due to Covid. He ended up dying alone not unlike manny others in the same position, so terribly sad.
I feel even more so for the children who die alone under the same circumstances 😔
That sounds so cruel. If you really try I'm sure there should have been a way to arrrange so that his family only meets him and not other patients or maybe one family member could have stayed with him all the time. And at that stage as an dying adult it should be his choice if he wants to risk getting Covid from his family. Makes me so sad to hear stories like this.
They should be allowed in when they are very ill they need to hold each other. So sad. Great he got home at end
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What a beautiful woman inside and out. May he Rest In Peace ❤️
We just went through a similar circumstance with my husband. I am so very sorry for your loss. Our 4 adult children took off work for 5 months to help me care for John at home! It was terrible and so loving but so very sad. John died peacefully on July 16, 2020 after 8 months. He was a wonderful loving beautiful husband, dad and grandfather! Again, we are so sorry fir your loss! Loved your video!
So heartbreaking. Reminds me of Peewee toms. So very sorry to his family.
I thought same x
I loved Peewee Toms.
@@sarahcrain8083 Me too. 💔💔😥
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. When my father was dying, I felt like the hospice workers were angels.
really cruel not to allow visitors in a hospice. In Germany, they made the rule that dying persons were allowed to have visitors also during lockdown. Only one person, but better than nothing!
Same in Australia but we could have all immediate family
In many other countries the rules were the same as the UK's.
It was the absolute worst thing we did to people during covid, to force the dying to die alone!
God forgive us!
We must never ever allow such inhumanity to happen again!! We must decline to participate in such cruelty!
Fly HIGH, Sweetest Husband & Daddy❤🙏🌠...
Life can be damn cruel. A loving, decent young father losing his life like this......I just don't have the words. So very sorry for Tom and for his lovely family and friends. Hospices really are very special places that help make things a little easier in those final stages. Tom's children would be so proud of their daddy and when they are older they will know what a very special dad he was and he will live on in their hearts always.
Life is very cruel. Sorry for your loss. He was so young. The staff in these hospices are amazing people. I don't know how they do it.
What a lovely, strong women to be so brave to tell that story. thank you for sharing and thank you all the hospice for taking care and giving people dignity. so heartbreaking that he was so young.
This is why hospice is so important. They operate at a pace most suitable to the patients and are able to devote the precious time needed to ensuring a patient's final journey is as peaceful as possible. Up until March 2020 I would attend hospice day care each Monday, just getting together with 11 other men and women with life limiting illnesses, having chair exercise sessions, playing puzzles and accessing various therapies and enjoying a lovely lunch. We all pay what we can afford but we're not forced to do so. The fact that hospice relies pretty much solely on donations, I think, is deplorable. As this young lady has found, in the most traumatic of situations, is that she was/is surrounded by love from her first meeting with hospice staff/volunteers and her husband was in the best possible hands in his final chapter. We owe it to those like Tom to do all we can to keep hospice 'alive'.
Why is it deplorable? Is it underfunded or something?
Or is it deplorable that we don't make a gesture with random people's money?
I'm so sad for this young family. My heart goes out to them. I do want to send a warm word of thanks to all the hospice workers everywhere. The help you provide is beyond measure. I know from experience. 💜
I hope she managed to make sure Poppy and the stepson continue to have a relationship.
What utter tyranny. It's a hospice for a reason. Let them be with their loved ones!
Prayers for this brave and courageous widow.. Your husband would be so proud of you .. Stay strong for your beautiful lil girl.. ❤️🙏🙏😇
I’m so sorry for your loss.
There in hospice for a reason. Let them be in contact with at least one loved one....
Exactly.... it is so horrible.... so unfair.
Beyond cruel. There had to be another way. To let a man who is dying be kept from his family?
He died at home. With his family.
it's utterly ridiculous that civid 19 flu virus is dictating how someone who is dying isn't allowed to be surrounded by thier family. this is 1 of my main reasons why I'll die at hone whenever it's my time. I've nevee trusted drs. and i never will. screw the fda amd the cdc. they need to stop playing god and let us see our dying or sick loved ones.
@@Naturegirl1976 Good luck with that attitude. It'll likely kill you one day. Can't say it'll be much of a loss to humanity.
@Belinda Thomas She sure is! I never said otherwise. And it looks like I had no interest in being kind when I wrote that, you are quite correct.
@Belinda Thomas Look who's being unkind now! Pot kettle, kettle pot.
Sometimes we think we have a bad time. Others are loosing their loved ones. Bless them.
So very thankful that you were able to have Tom at home for those 3 weeks. So important and amazing.💖💖
My deepest heartfelt condolences. My God wrap his arms around your precious family and give you comfort and strength during this difficult time. Rip Tom
What a wonderful husband and father. Best wishes
What a beautiful story and how lovely you are! Love from the U.S!
What a truly sad but beautiful story. Thank you for sharing what must be so heart breaking for you. You were meant for each other and one day your hearts will entwine once more. God bless you and your family.
You and your husband are amazing...such strength....hospice workers are true angels
Tears running down my face. God bless this family. So sad. RIP Tom. A nice man. Gone too soon. He seemed lovely
My heart goes out to you and your family for your difficult loss.
Thank u for sharing this sad but beautiful story! St Lukes sounds amazing! Prayers for ur family 🙏❤️
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story, I’m sure that was hard for you to do. Glad you got that final time at home all together. Sorry for your loss.
It sounds like he had a peaceful end, at home with the people he loved. So sad. Wishing you all the best. X
If love could have saved him……he would have lived forever...🤎My own partner was told out of the blue he had 12 weeks to live………a nightmare only made bearable by the last few days we spent at the hospice……no one is immune this beautiful women and I unfortunately know first hand the invaluable work done by all involved in providing that care.
This story is so similar to my life... except for the hospital staff at the end of my husbands life were negligent, made his condition worse, and the hospice team that came to my home the last week of his life were even worse... my heart breaks for this family... I will be praying for comfort...
What a beautiful life he had. Im sorry it was cut so short x
So sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss.. 😔 I know the feeling too well, my dad also died from cancer and it's very devastating. A complete nightmare. God bless you all!
Thank you for sharing your story.
Your so lovely, Im sorry for your Loss.
I just experienced the loss of my grandmother. May God watch over you and your family 💫💚💙💫💚💙
What an incredible story of love and courage 🙏💛
So sad thanks for sharing stay strong one day you will meet again
God bless you, what an amazing family sending you the biggest hug ever sweetheart x x x 😭😭😭
So sorry for your loss 🙏🙏🙏
My Prayers For You, The Children & Family. May Your Husband Rest In Peace.
Thank you for sharing his story with us.
What a lovely piece.
Very sad but awesome story. So brave. An amazing young man.
I think it’s so messed up how they don’t allow visitors at hospice! My father went into hospice last April and I thankfully seen him 2 hours a day before he passed but the only way my brothers could see him was through a window!!!! This still affects me after almost a year!!!! This is so messed up!!!!!! I feel bad for anyone who gone through the same stuff! Patients and family should be able to gather when death is near!!!!
Blessings and prayers to u and your lovely family.
Dear , Lord heavenly father, please rein your epic grace on this family, and give them all the peace they need to move forward in this life, knowing that her precious gift of a husband will be beside her all the way in spirit, song and in hymn, praying for you, beautiful mom and poppies all our love surrounds you, sincerely, Tammiejo
you are very brave so sorry for your loss
It is so sad that the people in nursing homes and assisted living are not allowed, visitors. I understand that the residents are vulnerable and need protected but still so sad.
He married a great woman. RIP 🙏
This is very heartbreaking.💔 My deepest sympathy and prayers for the family.✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️
I'm sooo sorry my heart goes out to you.
Awwwww ❤😢😮 🙏 ❤️
God bless.
worst decision for terminal people EVER. facilities should have stood up! ICU nurse, the Netherlands
I'm crying, I feel for you, I feel your pain. God bless you all.
If he's going to die anyway what's the harm in letting them see him?
Right EXACTLY!!
That's a very insensitive thing to say
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What is insensitive about seeing a loved one before they pass over
@@johnreed9050 nothing it's the way you worded it
I wonder if Boris really understands the impact of his actions ...party gate ?
Seems Tom was a beautiful soul he is still with you just accross the veil.
It seems to me that life doesn't want anyone to be happy.☹😥
God bless you love 💕
It's difficult to young women and men die, and I think it's horrible that hospice does not allow family to be
with him.
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Okay I think this is ridiculous. If someone is in hospice and they are dying, keeping their family away is the worst thing you can do. What more is COVID going to do to them than is already happening? That is just ludicrous. Not letting a dying person see their family because of COVID? If they catch it it's not going to do any more harm.
Hope god breaks through please
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Those idiotic, cruel and unnecessary restrictions harmed so many. 😔
These things are really interesting, informative, and of course very sad, but please leave the background music (noise) out, it doesn’t need it. Other than that, well don.
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So why has the hug inside plastic with arms on tik tok been forgotton.it was done way back by grandparents! Fab idea
Or use ppe.i don't get why not
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Sicknesses makes me feel much worse as regard's to the situation I'm already in. I quit. Fear factor. Life happens.
The fact that people have been kept from each other is absolutely disgusting. I don't just mean hospices and hospitals, although of course they are particularly emotive examples. But lockdowns and restrictions in general. No one should ever be kept from seeing their loved ones. It's criminal and inhumane.
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Cancer drags the best people out of the ,ife of loved ones while wicked people keep living to destroy those that love them, what A twisted world
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16, Ephesians 2:8-9, Romans 4:5, Jesus Christ is the only way, KJV...........
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Isaiah 53:5, But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes, we are healed.
For salvation, people just need to follow the way they did it in Acts? They were baptized in the water and of the spirit. Here's why! The gospel is the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. If we are to follow him, we must do the same thing. Death= repentance, Burial = baptism, and resurrection = being filled with the Holy Ghost and rising again from the dead. That's what Acts 2:38 is.
We must obey the gospel, 2 Thessalonians 1:8-9, in flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that OBEY NOT THE GOSPEL of our Lord Jesus Christ... Matthew 7:21-23, Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that DOETH THE WILL OF MY FATHER which is in Heaven. St John 3:3-5, EXCEPT a man, be born of WATER AND OF THE SPIRIT, he cannot enter into the kingdom of GOD.
We can't come up with our own gospel. Galatians 1:8-9, But though we or an angel from heaven preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed. Don't be cursed. One way for all people. Jews, Gentiles, and Samaritans. Our salvation has to match-up with the scriptures and no scriptures on the subject can be taken away.
Eternity is TOOO long to be WRONG! st, John 5:39, Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me.
The gospels show what Christ has done on the cross for us. The book of Acts shows us the beginning of Christ's Church and how to enter the Church, obeying Acts 2:38. The letters were written to the Church to show us how to behave now that we are born again into the Church.
It's better to walk alone than to walk with a crowd going in the wrong direction. Are we supposed to follow the teachings of the apostles? Acts 2:42, And they continued steadfastly in the apostle's doctrines. Ephesians 2:20, We are built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ himself being the chief cornerstone. Jesus Christ was our perfect example back to God. He was baptized and received the Holy Ghost and we must be baptized and receive the Holy Ghost. He was holy and walked in righteousness and we must be holy and walk in righteousness. He died and rose again, and we must die to the things of this world and rise to walk in the newness of life. He prayed to the father showing us how to pray to the father. If you believe in this message, help spread it in the name of Jesus Christ. God bless you for doing so!
Tom
That’s what you do as a mom, isn’t it. You repeat what your partner would say to your kids. Ours would be “shut up and eat your garbage…”, stolen from Ratatouille, but never better better spoken by our youngest son, aged 2. And that’s what I’d say to their dad.
Lockdown was a disgrace
Aww he seams like a funny humble man tip tom Hammond
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