My Wishes: An End Of Life Care Story (Patient)

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  • @brendacook6576
    @brendacook6576 Рік тому +24

    My father died of lung cancer in 1985. When he chose to die at home, his doctor told him that he was a selfish man for putting his family through that. I am almost 76 now. It took me 25 years before I could listen to a recording he made for us, playing his beloved piano and singing the old Southern Gospel songs that I grew up listening to. I haven’t been able to listen to it since then, but I feel that it will bring me comfort when it is my time to go.

    • @godschild3640
      @godschild3640 11 місяців тому +1

      POOR DARLING 😭

    • @margodphd
      @margodphd 9 місяців тому

      F... That doctor. Seriously. I'm really really really sorry that in that difficult moment you encountered a shitty person. Being selfish is the least of dying person's worries and what a vile person you ought to be to say that to an ill man. I'm so, so, so sorry.
      Please, enjoy Your father's love he immortalised for You. Try to forget that asshole's words.

    • @user-ce6gs5wz2u
      @user-ce6gs5wz2u 2 місяці тому +2

      Your Father was not selfish sending you love, support and massive hug 😊😊❤❤❤❤❤

    • @joannamorgan6911
      @joannamorgan6911 2 місяці тому +1

      God bless you Brenda. Sending you love x

    • @user-kf5kt7op9u
      @user-kf5kt7op9u 13 днів тому

      Your beloved Dad was in no way selfish. He was filled with love and loved by his family. What a vile doctor to have met. Hope he at least has found solace in his own horrid life. What a wonderful Dad you had. You have been truly, completely and utterly loved by your devoted Dad. He has left a legacy of Love. Many blessings to you.

  • @sherryhorton2966
    @sherryhorton2966 2 роки тому +51

    It gives me comfort to know services such as this are available. I have Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer and I know that I want to be in the comfort of my home with my family when it is time for me to pass.

    • @maryjojouwstra3860
      @maryjojouwstra3860 2 роки тому +2

      So very sorry for that diagnosis. 🙏🙏

    • @carriebaker5161
      @carriebaker5161 2 роки тому +6

      A friend of mine wanted to go at home. Unfortunately, he was too weak from his last hospital stay to go home. He had a morphine drip that could add more every 15 minutes. We all made sure it was hit right at 15 minutes. March 9th at 6:35 p.m. he passed away.

    • @dc.pentrumesteri4893
      @dc.pentrumesteri4893 Рік тому +2

      Hi, and good decision dear lady so it seems normal for me to leave my dear house not the hospital bed, I hope you are still?

    • @myahowlett6995
      @myahowlett6995 Рік тому +1

      I’m so sorry 😢 x

    • @sugarbunns2966
      @sugarbunns2966 Рік тому +3

      @@navindranv I looked up an obituary under her name and she sadly passed away on the 1st of November this year. I could tell it was not only her because of her name, but also her face and her cause of passing.

  • @nenblom
    @nenblom 3 роки тому +149

    A couple of years ago, my uncle passed away from an aggressive melanoma, skin cancer. This was in Sweden which is my native country. One day he was out changing tires on his car. He had been sleeping a lot and couldn’t figure out why. The next day, he woke up in severe pain. My aunt rushed him to the hospital in Stockholm where he remained for about a week. They did a lot of tests and discovered that he had tumors in his brain and in his spine. Unfortunately, it was too late for them to do anything. It was terminal. He was sent home and died peacefully in his sleep a couple of months later. It was very hard on me because I was very close to my uncle. He was a good man. In addition, it was very hard on my father because that was his brother. I know he is in a good place now. I just wanted to share this story with you all.

    • @tundrawomansays5067
      @tundrawomansays5067 3 роки тому +10

      Thank you for telling us about your experience.
      Peace can be so very elusive. I hope each day brings you and your loved ones a bit closer to solace, how ever you understand this state of being.

    • @bumblebeethoughts9753
      @bumblebeethoughts9753 3 роки тому +9

      I’m so sorry for your loss. The same fate happened to my hero on Nov 22nd. I slather my son in sunscreen. I wear it all of the time myself. I’d not wish on my worst foe the pain my father endured. May god bless us all.

    • @karaserrano
      @karaserrano 2 роки тому +5

      Sending up prayers for peace.

    • @nenblom
      @nenblom 2 роки тому +4

      @@tundrawomansays5067 Thank you so much.

    • @nenblom
      @nenblom 2 роки тому +4

      @@bumblebeethoughts9753 Amen. I am so sorry for your loss.

  • @ttbko
    @ttbko 2 роки тому +85

    as a doctor, i found this hugely frustrating. The doctor is the one with the information and an understanding of what it means, dont prevaricate. The more "what do you understand..." questions you ask, the worse the patient fear can become. The only reason for prevarication is to delay your not wanting to talk about difficult things. Its not about you. its about the patient and their loved ones!!!!

    • @loulou7963
      @loulou7963 2 роки тому +17

      I totally agree. I found her approach really really frustrating and it would make my fear and anxiety just hit the roof.

    • @1VegasPitbull1
      @1VegasPitbull1 2 роки тому +12

      I agree. I wouldn’t want a doctor like that to give me any news, good or bad. She prolonged it.

    • @laceybanter5937
      @laceybanter5937 Рік тому +13

      Right. It was like pulling teeth!

    • @hannahhaircut
      @hannahhaircut Рік тому +14

      100% she was really stressing me out watching this!!

    • @Sophiecjp
      @Sophiecjp Рік тому +15

      I so agree. If a doctor was giving me information like this I would find a new doctor. Asking me if I know what the test mean? I would have said “ no I did not go to medical school and I have not seen the test results.” Her approach would have put me in distress and on the defense. No “warning shot” is going to soften the blow of news like this. Information would be the most helpful.

  • @hayleymorris6294
    @hayleymorris6294 3 місяці тому +3

    My dad and myself were in the room when my precious mam was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It was at that moment my whole world stopped turning.
    We held her as we said goodbye, just three short months later- 17th March 2023
    A part of me died along with her that day. ❤ xxxxx

  • @lewisratzker8949
    @lewisratzker8949 6 років тому +21

    My father passed at 51 which is now 32 years ago. I've never gotton over it, ive learned to live with the pain, remember the good, the love we shared the fun & living times. At the end of the day I'm grateful for having a dad for 21 years, some kids never experience growing up with a dad at all. Also, no matter how bad I feel about it, it was worse for him. I love you dad & RIP X

  • @sheilajohnson6478
    @sheilajohnson6478 3 місяці тому +3

    God bless all of you nurses who truly care for your patients and their families.

  • @susanfifer5744
    @susanfifer5744 2 роки тому +19

    Brought tears , as my daddy lives with us for over 11 years then he got aggressive bladder cancer and was gone within 7 weeks, I did palliative care in our home until 5 days before as I wanted more pain relief for him as he was stubborn , so made the choice to take him to hospice where I became the daughter again holding his hand for 5 days and nights never leaving him instead of the caregiver.I treasure those days, hours, minutes that I was with my daddy and so grateful for helping him reach my mama who was gone over 21 years before him… He went on the brightest moon of the year and I received a gift from him that he made it to her..❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @larrysproul9424
    @larrysproul9424 5 років тому +11

    Well done by the actors . I have been a prostate cancer treatment for over 16 years. I have had surgery, Medication, radiation and numerous psa tests 4 times a year. Sad that Mike was so young with such a bad case of cancer. Best wishes for Suzy .

  • @nenblom
    @nenblom 4 роки тому +11

    A little over a year ago, my uncle in my native country of Sweden died of an aggressive melanoma. He died peacefully at home with my aunt and my cousins by his side. He had a wonderful palliative care team. I live in the US so, unfortunately, I was not able to go to the funeral. Last summer I flew to Sweden and I was able to go to the grave. That really helped a lot in the grieving process. I really miss him a lot. One day he and my aunt came and visited us in southern Sweden. Me and him decided to go out for an espresso. We sat and talked for almost an hour. Uncle and nephew. That was special because they left a couple of days later and that was the last time I saw him alive. I’m just so thankful that, due to the palliative care team, he was able to pass away in peace at home and without pain. In fact, he died in his sleep. 😭 😭 Mike and Suzy seemed like such an amazing couple facing indescribable challenges. RIP Mike and it’s so heartwarming to see Suzie getting such wonderful support. Condolences, thoughts and prayers go out to Mike and her.

  • @KrissiCreates
    @KrissiCreates Рік тому +4

    I've been down this road twice. Once with my Momma. I took care of her and had Hospice services at her home. Years later I also took care of my Husband. We also had Hospice care in our home. Both of them passed away so peacefully in my arms. I am no longer affraid of death. I would do it all over again for them, just knowing they were both where they wanted to be when they died. Hospice also had wonderful bereavement support for me and our family after both deaths. My son and his family know this is also what I want. I've gone ahead and paid for all of my final expenses so there is no stress on anyone. Also have my living will and Durable Power of Attorney on file with Dr. and hospital.

  • @marynewton2774
    @marynewton2774 3 роки тому +6

    I worked as a social worker with a hospice and it was the hardest yet most meaningful job I could do.

  • @ShreyaChoudhuryMusic
    @ShreyaChoudhuryMusic 5 років тому +56

    The actors deserve nothing but the best in their success. The way they portrayed the characters in this film really made the story so real. Well done! Thanks so much for sharing! ❤️💖

    • @diane5522
      @diane5522 2 роки тому +4

      I didn't know they were actors but now I know I can tell but they are very good actors.

    • @nenblom
      @nenblom 2 роки тому +1

      Amen

    • @twilomix
      @twilomix 2 роки тому +3

      What gives you the impression they were actors??

    • @tonyurmate
      @tonyurmate Рік тому

      @@twilomix their definitely actors

  • @davidharrison6615
    @davidharrison6615 5 років тому +33

    My dog visits our local hospice . to see him with everyone is truly humbling . he communicates on a level we cannot begin to understand . the children always react on the same level as him . they understand him fully . I will never be lucky enough to have another god given dog like him .

    • @sherryratliff5173
      @sherryratliff5173 2 роки тому +3

      Oh that's so wonderful of you an your Best Friend, God Bless you both

  • @susiegoodman4425
    @susiegoodman4425 5 років тому +16

    It makes me very cross over the years I have had my gorgeous dogs put to sleep especially when they have been part of the family for over 20 years - it breaks your heart but when the vet gets the vein with the drug when you know you have to say goodbye but holding their paw & watching them just go to sleep & not suffering anymore gives you solace !!

  • @blakesasha3517
    @blakesasha3517 4 роки тому +6

    Damn good actors. The wife actually cried real tears!

  • @wendyhowell3249
    @wendyhowell3249 4 роки тому +14

    What a wonderful nurse I love how kind and caring she is to the wife xx

  • @walkernick86
    @walkernick86 4 роки тому +2

    The woman talking at the end sounds like she is about to burst into tears!

  • @paulawilliams8168
    @paulawilliams8168 8 років тому +84

    Bloody hell that was some damn good acting by 'Mike' and 'Suzy'.

  • @jennic.548
    @jennic.548 6 років тому +15

    End of life care is so important... Talk it over with your loved .ones so they know what you would like... It's difficult but necessary...Thank you for this video...

  • @tanyahart2396
    @tanyahart2396 2 роки тому +2

    Wow, it was so hard to believe that they were acting. It's was so real to me. Just wow. They need some kinda Emmy award. Cancer is so horrible, I pray someone will learn from this video

  • @Babydollxxsaz
    @Babydollxxsaz 6 років тому +29

    This is such a beautiful video. I really am working towards being a carer within hospice care. Mainly because I have massive fear of death myself and I never want anybody to feel afraid passing over. This has reminded me how much love I have to give to anybody in the process of passing. I want to be there for them just like I want someone there for me when I pass. Its so scary to think that people pass with no love or support but can really be such a beautiful time with the right people around. Thankyou so much for this video. And love to everybody on here who are watching because they are going through this themselves.

    • @cellashaniece3289
      @cellashaniece3289 5 років тому +2

      Sarah Delaney I feel the exact same!

    • @sorchasam3252
      @sorchasam3252 4 роки тому +6

      Re watched this video and forgot I posted here a year ago!! I'm now a carer and have helped people in their end stages and have a resident on their way to heaven now at the moment. What an absolute privilege it is to be a loving person in the final weeks, days and hours of the residents who I care for. Shelley in this has been a beautiful inspiration. Thankyou ❤

    • @sorchasam3252
      @sorchasam3252 4 роки тому +3

      Oh and I am no longer afraid of death. It has shown me how beautiful it can be

    • @robyndaniels1381
      @robyndaniels1381 2 роки тому +1

      If you can do it please do. Last week I witnessed a 93-year old lady die in an inpppropriate setting with inadequate care and all the pain she and her family endured. It doesn't have to be that way, and shouldn't be that way. And I speak as a retired nurse with 25 years experience. We need more nurses with knowledge, expertise and those important ingredients of kindness and compassion. xx

    • @brendaputnam7234
      @brendaputnam7234 Рік тому +2

      Put Love In Christ Jesus Precious One

  • @ZacharyJohn
    @ZacharyJohn 6 років тому +62

    This is completely scripted and acted out but the story line is very real. My father died of cancer just a few months back and it was VERY VERY painful looking even the days leading up. We should all be able to choose the day we die so we’re not in pain.

    • @whatshisname3304
      @whatshisname3304 2 роки тому

      i thought it was real at first. they seemed such a nice couple, it almost felt comically comfortable, I almost expected the grim reaper to jump out of a cupboard. it seems a trope of these reconstructions that people are blissfully happy and then the worst possible happens.

  • @AmberHorne34
    @AmberHorne34 2 роки тому +3

    These actors deserve a standing ovation. They had me in tears, it seemed so real. This was incredible.

    • @godschild3640
      @godschild3640 11 місяців тому

      HOW DARE 😭YOU BE RUDE 😭TO PEOPLE WHO 😭HAVE CANCER 😭HE DIED😭

  • @Nate1975
    @Nate1975 Рік тому +3

    Respect to these people doing such important work

  • @Robby334
    @Robby334 5 років тому +11

    Very well put "end of life care" is very important to have professional nurses to help. We have a great NHS service. Bless all that are going through this x

    • @robyndaniels1381
      @robyndaniels1381 2 роки тому

      Sadly my experience last weekend of being 'cared for' in an emergency SAU unit rather than on the oncology ward they wanted to admit me to but couldn't because of 'lack of beds' - actually a shortage of nurses situation - was far from ideal and quite stressful for me and nurses alike. But at least I am now aware of the kind of 'treatment/care' I am likely to get when the ascites (and pain) return and I will be fortunate to get a hospital bed on an appropriate ward to die on much less a hospice bed nd nurses. God help me! I'm thinking my best bet might be to aim for end of life care in a nursing home with some wonderful Marie Curie/McMillan nurse input. NHS care for cancer patients like me is DIRE here in South Wales (Swansea).

    • @janestirling7970
      @janestirling7970 2 роки тому

      It`s actually very rare to find that kind of care. My Mums end of life care was awful, she always helped people, she didn`t deserve any of that

  • @miriambourke4505
    @miriambourke4505 3 роки тому +2

    i m going back work as health carer. its avocation. my life is empty if i can t help people. it was an blessing to be with my nana when she passed away. i had the strenght to be with nana. all my family fell apart. i told her that i loved her so much. when i told nana that it was ok to go. she took her last breath. i feel that i send her home. looking back its was funny that i tried to warm up nana. 24 years ago. i worked in nursing homes and i was not afraid of dead bodies. i just think of nana. love and respect to every human person.

  • @wheelz94
    @wheelz94 2 роки тому +1

    I cried watching this and even though it's actors portraying real people and a real event, it made me emotional and it's close to home for me because I've lost people from cancer.

  • @robyndaniels1381
    @robyndaniels1381 2 роки тому +12

    Very well expressed and explored. I am terminally ill with weeks/months to live and after a recent hospital stay for some symptomatic treatment (drainage of malignant ascites that badly affects my quality of life) I have only just come under the care of a local palliative care team I can have confidence in. I am living in a hotel at present but know will need inpatient/hospice care soon. It's good to know about the electronic end of life care register. I am living near my sister at present but have come to realise she is not able (nor I suspect willing) to provide the kind of end of life emotional support I need (she nursed my mother through two years of end of life care due to lymphoma). My daughter lives around 250 miles away and although she visited last weekend I know it is not easy for her, It hurts me that my 18-year old twin grandchildren have not visited (one started uni and the other 'dropped out' I suspect to be there for her mother at this difficult time in our family situation/dynamics). My daughter did nor respond well to my diagnosis/prognosis last year nor my talking so frankly about my willingness and wish to die and for them to 'let me go'. She ended up in a psychiatric hospital for 8 weeks with a stress-related psychotic break. She is doing well now and still sees a psychiatrist/psychologist once a week who hope to bring her off medication in March. She has a wonderfully supportive husband and they run a print business together. I have undergone unpleasant aggressive chemotherapy and a lot of pain over the past year or so of 'buying them time' to 'let me go' and they know that although I had 9 months cancer free I do not want further treatment now it is back (since April) and I want to die as quickly and as comfortably as possible in the hands of professionals in hospital/hospice. I have life limiting side effects from the chemotherapy n terms of breathing and mobility and now on morphine slow release and for breakthrough pain I spend around 22 hours a day in bed trying to stay pain-free and fighting a body that wants neither food nor drink. It is not a life I want to live. I want to go as soon as possible. Back to the stars I came from. I don't want others to be in pain waiting for me to die either - I just can't live for others anymore. There are logistic problems of course and I have to find out if my daughter wants me to move nearer or not. The timing is not great with her doctors wanting her to come off meds in March and me wanting to die around that time. We will work it out with the help of the palliative care team and both doctors' surgeries I'm sure. Thanks for sharing. xx Pray for me and my family xx

    • @kathyfreeman9596
      @kathyfreeman9596 2 роки тому +5

      Many prayers n hugs sent hope your journey to the stars is peaceful

    • @robyndaniels1381
      @robyndaniels1381 2 роки тому +2

      @@kathyfreeman9596 thank you kathy xx

    • @louisejohanson6379
      @louisejohanson6379 2 роки тому +2

      Sending hugs your way 🤗

    • @mp53840
      @mp53840 2 роки тому +1

      One day at a time, I’m sending you grace, blessings and peace…

    • @trailer_trash_Barbie
      @trailer_trash_Barbie 2 роки тому +1

      Seeing if you was still around

  • @ddsmiles6382
    @ddsmiles6382 4 роки тому +119

    Death doesn’t scare me pain does! I don’t want to suffer.

    • @Fallen5321
      @Fallen5321 4 роки тому +10

      Thats exactly what I was thinking, i'd rather be off me tits on drugs, no pain and in a europhic sate unaware of anything

    • @paulfasse8032
      @paulfasse8032 4 роки тому +3

      Spot on and well said. Unresolved Suffering scares me while still being in my body.

    • @Fallen5321
      @Fallen5321 4 роки тому +2

      @@sickpeople1164 Who cares of it being cowardly, so you would rather be in pain and suffering at the point of death?

    • @Fallen5321
      @Fallen5321 4 роки тому +1

      @@sickpeople1164 Because the two people in it are actors lol the only real one is the nurse lol she has already told him we will give you the amount of medication to make sure you are not worried or in pain

    • @munawarhusain7844
      @munawarhusain7844 4 роки тому +2

      GOD willing you will not son . May The Almighty give you a long , happy and healthy life and eventually a pain free cross over to the other side . Take care of yourself and the ones you love.

  • @sapphirerain70
    @sapphirerain70 3 роки тому +7

    Good actors! Sorry that someone actually went through this ❤️🦋

  • @VinonaGroupServices
    @VinonaGroupServices 10 років тому +7

    Bravo, this was a very beautiful and high quality information video.#VGSusa

  • @nenblom
    @nenblom 2 роки тому +2

    RIP Mike, I have been worried about the time when my elderly parents pass away. Thank God, I have a great and strong family And a psychotherapist and psychiatrist who are helping me through different mental issues. We have talked a lot about this. I’m not overly worried but I am concerned. Thank God, we do have a will. I have been through a tremendous amount of medical And mental issues myself. In fact my doctor has told me that I’m not supposed to be alive today. If I would describe all that, this will turn into a book. I do have major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder which is very hard to live with but I’m fighting it every day. I know things are going to turn out good.
    This is an incredible and very important film.

  • @lucky5853
    @lucky5853 7 років тому +49

    I recently lost my mom and I honestly think that I'll grieve such loss until I die, it will always hurt, there is no way it will stop hurting ,however I've learned to hide it so my wife think I'm ok, and at least she can enjoy our lives together, when people tell you to get on with life, their intentions are good but really don't know how it is.

    • @titifolol
      @titifolol 7 років тому +7

      I don't think we ever get over the death of someone who was truly important to us in our lives, I think we learn to live without them over a period of years and so I am afraid time is your biggest enemy right now sir but you can rest assured that it is the way things are meant to happen, we are meant to bury our parents t the other way around and I think that no matter when it happens in our lives there is never truly a right time for it to happen, so my advice to you is not to hide it so much and speak to your lady wife about how you are feeling, i think t will do much more damage if you keep it a secret and why shouldn't you talk about your lovely mum and grieve for her......talk about her all the time and remember the good times and I think that i the best medicine when we lose someone to think of them at their best and to look back and laugh at some of the things they did that had you rolling over with laughter when they where here and know that one day you ill meet again in the kingdom of heaven. Know that your mother will be with you all the time she's only waiting now with her loved ones who went before her for when it's your turn to go, they are all just waiting for you.......god bless you sir i hope your pain eases soon for you, here is a lovely verse that sums it up beautifully i think....
      Death is nothing at all.
      I have only slipped away to the next room.
      I am I and you are you.
      Whatever we were to each other,
      That, we still are.
      Call me by my old familiar name.
      Speak to me in the easy way
      which you always used.
      Put no difference into your tone.
      Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
      Laugh as we always laughed
      at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
      Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.
      Let my name be ever the household word
      that it always was.
      Let it be spoken without effect.
      Without the trace of a shadow on it.
      Life means all that it ever meant.
      It is the same that it ever was.
      There is absolute unbroken continuity.
      Why should I be out of mind
      because I am out of sight?
      I am but waiting for you.
      For an interval.
      Somewhere. Very near.
      Just around the corner.
      All is well.
      Nothing is past; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before only better, infinitely happier and forever we will all be one together with Christ.
      By Henry Scott Holland

    • @melaniewalker5226
      @melaniewalker5226 6 років тому +4

      Sentinel58 I lost my father 11 years ago I still cry most days I miss him more as time goes on.

    • @saradecapua3264
      @saradecapua3264 6 років тому +1

      I HAVE LOST BOTH PARENTS AND A BROTHER. GIVE YOURSELF TIME. YOU WILL GRIEVE AND ONE DAY YOU WILL BE AT PEACE. TIME IS ON YOUR SIDE.

    • @unaninanine3743
      @unaninanine3743 6 років тому +2

      Sentinel58 You will but it'll get a bit better. I lost my dad 31 yrs ago and it still hurts a lot, every day...

    • @saradecapua3264
      @saradecapua3264 6 років тому +1

      You never really get over a loss but at some point you will suddenly find you don't get so emotional over a loss. 17 years and I still mourn my brothers passing but it was more fleeting a thought. To all with the losses I have known....it does get better.

  • @Natasha-uv8so
    @Natasha-uv8so 8 років тому +4

    Truly amazing and kind people.....God Bless them for making this easier on the families and treating them with understanding...

  • @sherimcdaniel3491
    @sherimcdaniel3491 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much, Susie, for sharing your journey. God bless you.

  • @TammieBuckeye
    @TammieBuckeye 6 років тому +24

    WOW.. the actors are great!!

  • @intelligentsia9493
    @intelligentsia9493 2 роки тому +1

    Nothing is more satisfying and comforting than befriending the doctor before
    death.
    Especially when you're not living with a caring family

  • @ScouserGirl89
    @ScouserGirl89 3 роки тому +4

    she's an angel as all nurses who do this delicate time are. my nan's nurses were amazing to my nan and to us as a family

    • @robyndaniels1381
      @robyndaniels1381 2 роки тому

      You were lucky - most people who die in hospital get tired burned-out nurses.

    • @steveclinton4084
      @steveclinton4084 Рік тому

      Hello gorgeous how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family

  • @jeanettesteed3326
    @jeanettesteed3326 2 роки тому +4

    What a difficult job this doctor had to do. Can’t imagine how you would do it. I take my hat off to all of these doctors who have to do this job.

  • @marie-bee4050
    @marie-bee4050 2 роки тому

    Wow I didn’t expect such good acting. This really hit hard and got real for me, made me emotional. I lost my little brother a couple years ago now, watching things like this make my grief return full force but it’s somehow therapeutic? I don’t think there is a day still where I don’t think about you Ethan…. He was only 21.

  • @cherylross393
    @cherylross393 2 роки тому

    So special to see a loving supportive couple.Its so hard saying goodbye when the time comes. I wish Susie the best in the future and friendship in her travels if she wishes to travel in the future.

  • @queenhoneybee.7772
    @queenhoneybee.7772 8 років тому +33

    The acting is amazing! They deserve oscars!

    • @ZauberinNini
      @ZauberinNini 8 років тому +8

      +Susan Evalyn. They really do! I thought they were the real people involved since I hadn't read the post above.

    • @queenhoneybee.7772
      @queenhoneybee.7772 8 років тому +6

      +Nina Bella - Oh yes! When I first started watching I thought it was a documentary about real people! I was amazed to discover that they were actors! No over-acting, etc., just real talent. I think that you can train especially for this type of acting. It really made me feel what people must go through in this terrible situation...

    • @joshuanesbit
      @joshuanesbit 7 років тому +1

      Susan Evalyn. Is the nurse an actress?

    • @queenhoneybee.7772
      @queenhoneybee.7772 7 років тому +3

      I'm not certain, but I think the medical persons are actual professionals. This was an excellent and very informative document-drama.

    • @kaypreston8908
      @kaypreston8908 7 років тому +3

      great video

  • @MrHetherton
    @MrHetherton 10 років тому +60

    it is my dads first death anniversary today even though it was a Wednesday when he died. he died from lung cancer, the palliative care team are wonderful, on my fathers last night we had the night nurse in, I remember been called by the nurse up from bed around 4am to help her slide my father back up in the bed as he slid down when she gave him an injection, then she called me again at 6:am that's when we found out he hadn't long more. my mother me and my brother were around the bed, I was kneeling down at his side holding his hand and talking to him although he was unconscious. nurse left at 7:am our father died around 7:20am, unfortunately my other brother and two sisters did not make it in time as they live some what further away than my other brother whom lives 5 minutes from here. we called the priest out and he anointed my dad and about a minute later he peacefully slipped away. RIP dad.

    • @frlouiegoad4087
      @frlouiegoad4087 9 років тому +6

      Paul Hetherton /Bless You : May the lord grant you peace, You have given much.

    • @flowerlm47
      @flowerlm47 6 років тому +5

      Paul Hetherton Sorry for your loss, but I’m glad you had the support you did. May your dad Rest In Peace.❤️

    • @rosepetryk4672
      @rosepetryk4672 6 років тому +3

      Paul Hetherton 1

    • @davidharrison6615
      @davidharrison6615 5 років тому +4

      Paul Hetherton If you can have a good death then that was it . sorry for your loss . i sm sure your dad knew you where at his side .

    • @lindakassab1475
      @lindakassab1475 5 років тому +3

      RIP!!!

  • @cheryltaylor6488
    @cheryltaylor6488 3 місяці тому

    We have just lost my brother and he wanted to be at home. It really didn't happen as peaceful as this gentleman and I have since been told by others that a peaceful passing isn't always so.

  • @MamaBear1729
    @MamaBear1729 3 роки тому +11

    Wonderfully done... I wish there was a way to get more people to see this...❤️🙏

  • @silvana11221122
    @silvana11221122 2 роки тому

    My dad died 8 weeks ago thank you for the palliative care given in the last 3 weeks. - i wish i knew what the last few days would be like. Even though his final hours were peaceful in his own home Its scaring me still.

  • @annelouis7956
    @annelouis7956 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this life's end.

  • @J3nRose
    @J3nRose 4 роки тому +15

    Mike: Just tell me the f’ing news Dr Twig!!!! Geez!!

    • @jennifermarshall2022
      @jennifermarshall2022 3 роки тому +1

      I was just thinking the same thing as you. Stop beating around the damn bush and come out with it already. Am I sick or not

    • @rolfenblom412
      @rolfenblom412 3 роки тому +2

      @@jennifermarshall2022 Agreed

  • @annxx7976
    @annxx7976 3 роки тому +1

    These actors are fantastic! Great info video thank you

  • @rozsa7828
    @rozsa7828 2 роки тому +1

    It's very important to keep checking on the person who lost someone don't forget bout them and invite them to get out keep them company make them tea a cuppa bfong them .some flowers it can make all the difference

  • @alisonalibongo3177
    @alisonalibongo3177 2 роки тому +1

    Such lovely people the care workers honestly thay take care of the family’s so well. ❤️

  • @CynthiaHopperBagThatJazz
    @CynthiaHopperBagThatJazz 7 років тому +8

    It's been a little over 3 years since mom died from lung cancer in her bed. I must say this film depicted what we experienced very accurately. I'm still sad :(

    • @jennyfoster792
      @jennyfoster792 2 роки тому

      Sorry for your loss, I recently lost my mum and feel lost without her x

  • @stevenhensman2541
    @stevenhensman2541 3 роки тому

    My dear nurse you are so wonderful so beautiful for the work you do helping others you are ready the pass on to the next world thank you

  • @SleeplessinOC
    @SleeplessinOC 9 років тому +49

    oh wow, they were actors? I skipped over the screen information part at first and only went back to it later...they were incredibly convincing..

    • @lashersquirrelslayer
      @lashersquirrelslayer 4 роки тому

      "Mike" was looking truly dead at the end.

    • @carolstapleton9108
      @carolstapleton9108 4 роки тому +4

      Oh yes this was definitely for real. When my mother was terminally ill with Emphysema it was myself who gave the go ahead when her GP asked me if she had made any wishes known to us. She did talk to me about this sensitive subject and she gave me instructions on her inability to make such decisions at the relative time. So it was set, she was hooked up to morphine and it was just a matter of time. In effect she just floated away and I had her in my embrace for that moment. Do/did I feel bad for giving the go ahead for her final breath? No, it’s what she wanted all along since dad died just 24 hours earlier.

  • @JulieR73
    @JulieR73 3 роки тому +3

    It’s so hard to watch our loved ones die. My sweet mom had Parkinson’s Disease for 22 years and I’m so thankful for the hospice facility she was in for those last 8 days. It was incredibly peaceful as she left us. I’m so glad I was there holding her hand as she took her final breath.

    • @angelam9333
      @angelam9333 2 роки тому

      I lost my Mum 3 years ago. She was in hospice for 4 days and died peacefully. My Mum was in a coma so I never had the chance to say good bye. She died with dignity and the hospice was a lovely, quiet place. They treated her wonderfully and I am grateful to them. I’m glad you were able to hold her hand. What a wonderful gift. God bless you. She will always be in your heart

  • @metaxajack2007
    @metaxajack2007 5 років тому +11

    The strangest feeling ever when you are told that you're terminal and there is nothing more that can be done and all they can offer is palliative care only. This was told to me in October 2017 and I had less than six months to live due to a failed kidney removal that allowed the cancer to spread to every major organ of my body. I got angry. I got upset and then I got positive. I discovered full strength, full spectrum cannabis oil. Seven months later I am cancer free with the exception of a small lesion on my rib cage that I'm confident would have disappeared when I have my next scan. I was sceptical but I took the leap of faith because I had nothing to lose. I just hope that more people could discover the cancer killing properties of cannabis oil and not die needlessly.

    • @jdsguam
      @jdsguam 3 роки тому

      With all the cannabis I smoke, I suppose cancer is the least of my worries.

    • @hjo4104
      @hjo4104 2 роки тому

      are you still alive?

    • @ratelhoneybadger
      @ratelhoneybadger Рік тому

      @@jdsguam try to take it as an edible, smoking causes cancer.

  • @teresapitts2021
    @teresapitts2021 4 роки тому +2

    I can relate to this lady, my mom passed a few days before Christmas, holidays are especially hard. She had stage 3 colon cancer. I still miss my mom

    • @ltruax29
      @ltruax29 Рік тому

      My mom also passed from stage 3 colon cancer and she passed on December 16th.

  • @lk4543
    @lk4543 6 років тому +7

    They are great actors I only realised they were acting at halfway through and that was because the camera filmed him on the bed at two different angles

  • @dawn.michelle.woundedarrow2048
    @dawn.michelle.woundedarrow2048 5 років тому +1

    i have thyroid problems, austism, a.d.d. and scoliosis, but i can not fathom wanting to be "assisted" to take my own life, everyday i wake up i am greatful and feel more blessed then i am worthy of or deserve

    • @rochelle123ist
      @rochelle123ist 5 років тому

      Dawn MoonWolf if you had terminal cancer you might feel very differently

  • @virginiastevens3782
    @virginiastevens3782 2 роки тому

    My dear friend, no one knows till you personally go through this life changing experience, so please don’t express you should move on , we all are different how we handle a loved ones passing.Susys life is her own and needs support from her friends and family. She in time will no when to carry on living her life.Both Mike and Suzy talked about this ending of him, but shared their love as they always had with each other. God bless you Mike, and Susy, your life is about to turn that new page. God bless you my friend. Love Light and Healing goes out to you.
    Rev Virginia Stevens.✝️✝️✝️✝️🙏🙏🙏❤️

  • @KoolBreeze420
    @KoolBreeze420 6 років тому +18

    I wish I had had something like this but I didn't know my wife was dying I woke up and I was curled up with her cold dead body it broke my mind I am only now starting to come back before she passed I lost my dog and my father on the same weekend after she passed I lost her father,mother,sister,my grandfather and godmother. Since I now say the words I love you to my mother and my remaining aunts and uncles because death can claim you without knowing it I'm only 43.

    • @da1stamericus
      @da1stamericus 6 років тому +1

      KoolBreeze420 I am sorry this occurred to you. Hugs.

    • @beckyg927
      @beckyg927 6 років тому

      KoolBreeze420

    • @Elbaz8
      @Elbaz8 4 роки тому

      My heart felt condolences to you Sir.

    • @jdsguam
      @jdsguam 3 роки тому +1

      Damn.....

  • @jackiebrooks2276
    @jackiebrooks2276 2 роки тому

    I know it's been several years now but still I am very sorry for your loss.

  • @mabelle81
    @mabelle81 Рік тому

    I could cry watching this vedio. It's too hard when you lost your love ones ...

  • @abefroman70
    @abefroman70 3 роки тому +5

    Wow! That was Oscar worthy. I totally believed this was all real since I didn’t read the first few seconds.

  • @cindrastover2782
    @cindrastover2782 6 років тому

    I manage an Adult Foster Home and have supported several families through end of life care. It is a very intimate time. Very sad.

  • @rochelle123ist
    @rochelle123ist 5 років тому

    I went through this shit even when I had stage 3 cancer. It was terrible but in case I died I wanted my wishes loud and clear.

  • @susanstevenson3726
    @susanstevenson3726 3 роки тому

    Best informative film Iv'e seen on end of life care,, Thank you!

  • @gailcrowe727
    @gailcrowe727 2 роки тому +1

    Carol Webs. I totally agree. We never saw the GP at all. The Macmillan nurse came once a fortnight and the
    GP the day before he died. The nurse rang for an ambulance and he was taken to the hospice where he died
    the next day. He lost a lot of weight, his face looked awful, not like him at all. I certainly had no support from
    from the GP at all, in fact nobody actually. I found the number of the local Cruse councillor but she was 88 years
    old and just told me about other peoples experiences. The only real help I got was from the hospice staff, they
    were brilliant people. The state the NHS is in at the moment, you can’t even get to see a doctor, it’s disgusting.

  • @sonnysnavarro6860
    @sonnysnavarro6860 2 роки тому +1

    Her voice was very comforting

  • @internetpolice1166
    @internetpolice1166 6 років тому +11

    What scares people about death is that we try to understand it in our human brains. We think of it as conscious eternal darkness or whatever you believe with added emotion. Feelings of anxiety and fear. When you really think about it, there is no more consciousness. Those feelings don't exist after death. I think death is much like the feeling of before you were born.

    • @leylamamat215
      @leylamamat215 6 років тому

      Internet Police death is one thing, pain is another thing

    • @abdoolhamidburtally4927
      @abdoolhamidburtally4927 6 років тому

      Internet Polic

    • @daniellecole4408
      @daniellecole4408 5 років тому +4

      when we die our body die we go see Jesus if you know Jesus we always live but if u don't know him there will be darkness

    • @nikkiejones669
      @nikkiejones669 5 років тому

      Internet Police hi I need to tell you to watch people's near death experiences we are very conscious after death and know who we are are and if we've been in pain alive we have no pain after death in fact it's an incredible feeling. God is very real and people who do not believe in God find out after life that there defiantly is Jesus and Heaven is very real. I hope you look up on you tube and listen, there are lots of them and they give you a peaceful feeling of knowing where we go once we die. God bless everyone who reads this

    • @TheDesperado557
      @TheDesperado557 3 роки тому

      I agree

  • @PB.JACKSON
    @PB.JACKSON 2 роки тому +1

    A reminder to us all that our time on earth is limited; we all have an expiry date! Fill your life with love and seek peace, forgive people who may have hurt you, seek forgiveness from those you may have hurt. Death can come like a thief in the night, no warnings, or you may we given advanced notice of a time frame, either way life will one day end for all of us. Enjoy whatever time you have on earth.

  • @roygee1283
    @roygee1283 6 років тому +6

    hope it helps, it helped me, and 10yrs later i am still here, cut all forms of sugar, carbs, starches. give the body a fat diet with protien. and vegs. sugar feeds cancer, god bless you all.

  • @justonsullivan3807
    @justonsullivan3807 2 роки тому +2

    Cancer is a very nasty disease, u would think that this world would have a good grip on this illness, being that it kill's so many people all over the world. R.I.P Mike u will never be forgotten, I wish all the best to his Wife and loved ones. 🙏🇺🇲🗽🇬🇧🙏

  • @laurenj432
    @laurenj432 4 роки тому

    Wow they’re amazing actors. This story is very sad though☺️

  • @MrHetherton
    @MrHetherton 10 років тому +3

    the palliative care team even posted an anniversary card to us.

  • @Apple-xt4vp
    @Apple-xt4vp 3 роки тому +1

    I have seen this video before and this one was hard to watch being married my self for a long time I know it must be so hard for them to let go and for any people in deep relationships

  • @christinecreasey2342
    @christinecreasey2342 4 роки тому +2

    The way I wanna die is just pump me full of morphine, watching this had shead some light on what happens through the course of dying

  • @margaretkinnaird4136
    @margaretkinnaird4136 8 років тому +15

    god bless them

  • @davidturner4610
    @davidturner4610 3 роки тому +1

    This was very brave to put this story on camera. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @JavierBonillaC
    @JavierBonillaC 5 років тому +2

    Darn actors, almost made me cry. One is never quite ready to say goodbye to it all but one should think about it often to appreciate life and to better accept the inevitable.

  • @georgeenke7482
    @georgeenke7482 4 роки тому

    Very compassionate people in Hospice. Dear God, I pray for peace and assurance that You're waiting with loving arm's in Heaven.

    • @sickpeople1164
      @sickpeople1164 4 роки тому

      Compassionate? That nurse is laughing while the guy dies! More money in her pocket!

  • @larryb8022
    @larryb8022 3 роки тому +1

    God be with him and his wife, death is something we can’t not avoid so we need to be all we can be, share ones love with other. If people would stop all the hate the killings, those horrible things humans do to hurt others and kill others as well. 🙏🏻RIP Mike🙏🏻

  • @penelopejbishton769
    @penelopejbishton769 5 років тому +2

    god bless you both... I lost the love of my life.. be strong just go 1 day at a time

  • @mar8014
    @mar8014 7 років тому

    Thank you!

  • @shashiesingh7724
    @shashiesingh7724 5 років тому +1

    What a lovly nurse

  • @deljeancrawford1935
    @deljeancrawford1935 3 роки тому

    My experience with hospice was very eye opening

  • @lorij6796
    @lorij6796 3 роки тому +1

    Hospice, palliative care such an important service for end of life care.

    • @steveclinton4084
      @steveclinton4084 Рік тому

      Hello lori how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family

  • @intelligentsia9493
    @intelligentsia9493 2 роки тому

    She is the angle of mercy

  • @brucecolemancfo5087
    @brucecolemancfo5087 8 років тому +50

    Are they actors? If so, they deserve an Oscar!!

    • @hasanalyafei6864
      @hasanalyafei6864 4 роки тому

      Bruce Finnie in England still illegal but many go to Switzerland

    • @nenblom
      @nenblom 4 роки тому +1

      I think they are actors. I believe this is a re-enactment. What a lovely couple they were. RIP Mike. God bless your family, especially Suzie, and other loved ones.

    • @jennyfoster792
      @jennyfoster792 2 роки тому

      Yh I think they actors and so heartbreaking

    • @charlottearena
      @charlottearena 2 роки тому

      @@nenblom Re-enactment are that stupid really? Have you ever worked in a hospital, obviously you haven't. Let me guess you must be a millennial!!!

    • @charlottearena
      @charlottearena 2 роки тому +1

      Re-enactment are that stupid really? Have you ever worked in a hospital, obviously you haven't. Let me guess you must be a millennial!!!

  • @Skycop51
    @Skycop51 9 років тому +4

    This was very informative, about caring people. I do not want to die alone, please not alone God!

    • @Capilya
      @Capilya 8 років тому +1

      +William Arthur You will not be 'alone'. Those from the other side will be there to greet you.

    • @k0smon
      @k0smon 8 років тому

      1991/// Certainly you are joking. There is plenty of proof of that. You have fallen for the trap of believing the crap about "soul-sleep" you heard from the JWs.

    • @k0smon
      @k0smon 8 років тому +1

      ice/// Yep, sure is, whether you wish to recognize it or not. The bibles teaching has been contradictory and full of discrepancy and error on a lot of subjects. Why do you think there are so many Christian denominations? Because the bible is not clear about what it teaches.
      "Today thou shalt be with me in Paradise" "To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord." These teachings are backed up by secular knowledge gained from those who have had NDEs, and by mediums in contact with the deceased.

  • @sallyclay1974
    @sallyclay1974 4 роки тому +1

    My sister retired from NBC, in Rockefeller Center, for over 30 yrs, and was a top journalist. She has been living in her house since 2014. She lives in Ridgefield, Ct.She started forgetting things right away. She has been diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia. Now 5 yrs later, she is wheelchair bound, diapers, non verbal and round the clock caregiving in her home.Lewy Body Dementia destroys the brain rapidly. I think this yr, is the final yr. Blessings to u, and your friends and family. Non of us ever know what is ahead for us. Many prayers!

  • @terrybertch7201
    @terrybertch7201 5 років тому +5

    ...we all pass through this world 🌎!
    Some fast & some slower...Each in
    our own unique way...🤭

  • @deniseemond9263
    @deniseemond9263 7 років тому +7

    So much mote kind than health care in the USA. Wish I was in England about now.

    • @lucyterrier7905
      @lucyterrier7905 5 років тому +1

      Denise Edmond. It's not the doctors holding it up. It's the lawyers.

  • @jeanj-acquesfaurie5698
    @jeanj-acquesfaurie5698 2 роки тому

    Thanks a lot !

  • @leodoguk
    @leodoguk 10 років тому +5

    Excellent piece of work. Engaging and really informative. Well done all involved.

  • @frlouiegoad4087
    @frlouiegoad4087 7 років тому +113

    We all die. No medical advances will ever change that. We all are passing through this world.

    • @eirene1988
      @eirene1988 7 років тому +10

      Hopefully not just passing passively, though, but doing our best to do good to others and make a positive impact for society while we're still here.

    • @inmatejason
      @inmatejason 5 років тому +2

      I believe this is just one step in are journey but It doesn’t make it any less scarier to die though. Sometimes I think it’s because I don’t have 100% faith and I have this small part of me that thinks what if there is nothing and it’s just an off switch for ever. MmmmHow does one get 100% faith these days? Then I start thinking if I don’t have 100% faith will I not go to heaven, as you can see I’m going through some stuff and I need help lol

    • @ShyAnn291
      @ShyAnn291 5 років тому +2

      Jason B I think that’s normal, I do believe in God and heaven, but even I have some fear about it, so like I said, that’s a normal feeling.

    • @inmatejason
      @inmatejason 5 років тому +1

      ShyAnn291 thanks, you made me feel better.

    • @ShyAnn291
      @ShyAnn291 5 років тому

      Jason B I’m glad I could make you feel better!

  • @harmonicsinger
    @harmonicsinger 10 років тому +3

    excellent! Thank you xox

  • @yukiefromoz2573
    @yukiefromoz2573 Рік тому

    Gosh I thought this was real. It wasn't until the end where she was on the phone saying "I think this is it" when I realised lol. Good acting.

  • @wendysailo5847
    @wendysailo5847 9 років тому

    i love this video.