Watching that interview I initially thought: that make sense, that's a good thing, Lily seems to be an average person so it would make sense if the wardrobe is casual and daily clothes instead of something super stylized and off-character (cough cough, emily in paris). But then the movie clips got out and I- no comments.
he was such a red flag then he told her what to do making it akward when she was on the edge of the building, then he got super close to her and flirty but like he didnt give her space to pull away. Ima dude and was like no way haha i would of been so uncomfortable lmao
Exactly! I grew up with an abusive stepdad and if I see any man displaying violent or aggressive tendencies it’s immediately triggering and a red flag, she didn’t seem phased by it at all, you’d think it would have made her jumpy considering her past
i think she did go, it also went past 17 days. but she posted on twt that it finally stopped! i feel a bit odd giving updates on a woman’s period but i know we’ve all been concerned n not everyone has twt!
UPDATE YALL: in case any of you guys don't have twitter, trin posted that her period finally ended after day 21!!!!! (and hopefully it stays that way 😭)
@@cheesewheelz8030that's not normal, it's something with hormones, maybe endometriosis, pcos or something else. But of course it's her private business unless she chooses to share
My longest period was 2 months long and it was TRULY the worst experience. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy PLEASE go see a doctor Trin 🥹 don’t be like me. be better than me 🙏
Don't worry; there is no Colleen Hoover book that is actually worth reading. All of the relationships she writes are abusive, but in every book, it's portrayed as a good thing.
In the movie the characters are aged up because Colleen realized no 23-year-old is a neurosurgeon 😭 Edit: “There’s no 28-year-old neurosurgeons, you know? You go to school for 15 years. And so to make corrections to what I messed up in the book, we aged the characters up somewhat.” Colleen Hoover on the Today Show
😂😂 Omgosh, well technically if they graduated HS early and did early start they could probably be a neurosurgeon at 23/24. Early start can save you at least 1 yr of your undergrad program and then med school is 5 yrs.
@@jclyntoledo it does NOT take 5 years to become a neurosurgeon lmao!! It can take 10-15 years to graduate and finish residency, which Ryle says he’s almost done with
@@La_chica47 Maybe by a little but I’m not just pulling this out of thin air. That’s literally what Colleen said about the age change for the movie lmao
i have always said and i'm really grateful that you brought attention to the "what if it was YOUR daughter/sibling/mother" thing, like, you should respect women because they're PEOPLE not because of their ties to a man😟😟
Yeah but sometimes you just don’t care unless it happens to you or someone your closes to…take example of things that happen in third world countries that are horrible but benefit you who lives in a first world country, you can see that it’s bad but you just don’t care cuz it isn’t happening to you
@@layton6202Yeah and if someone is like that they aren't going to have a better time empathizing just bc someone said that bc again they only care if it actually happened to someone in their circle. Also that saying is ONLY used to make men empathize and care
she brags about the fashion but i don’t think it’s fitting. Like I thought our girl is that gardener plant girl type like cargians, overalls maybe some floral dress. She’s not giving that. Like she’s giving if serena from gossip girl had an identity crisis and started liking brown. the fashion is not telling us more about the character.
I appreciated that they didn't have Lily coparent Emmy with Ryle, as in the book. Instead, she raises her alone as a single parent. It baffles me that Colleen Hoover used to be a social worker, since you'd think that she'd be more adept at writing about topical issues, but evidently not.
I honestly feel sorry for Justin Baldoni. Despite playing the abusive husband, he seems to have more awareness about the seriousness of the subject than either Blake Lively, who played the victim, or Colleen Hoover, the actual writer.
I think I saw someone say that it’s telling how the cast sided with Blake, aka the person who has all the connections in Hollywood. And the crew still follows Justin, aka the people who do most of the other work on a movie.
Blake Lively was the biggest mistake they could have made with this movie. Not only is she completely miscast for this role but then her press was a complete disaster where she made it all about herself. Also turning everyone against the director who is the only one who seems to care about the serious topics…. Her silence is deafening
I feel like the show Maid on Netflix was executed way better in terms of tone. There were scenes that were illuminated in a romantic tone but they were done in a way to contrast that to the moments of realization of being abused
My OBGYN let me know that if your period is two weeks or longer, its unusually long and warrants a checkup! This is different from spotting (common with certain types of birth control). Pls take care!
i remember when i was 14 and had just started on birth control and i had a month-long period TWICE in the first year. in retrospect that is a huge sign of pcos, especially considering i have pre established ovarian cyst issues hkdhgjd
@@MaryamJibril-mo7bd birth control at 14 isnt so uncommon anymore- there was a girl at my HS who started when she was 13 because she would get horrible headaches and she would throw up during each cycle. The only thing that helped was birth control. Also, if you are struggling with acne or heavy periods, birth control is ideal
@ipodtouch5963 nah, these were styled so badly. Curls are gorgeous on everyone, but Jesus, she owns a hair care company, but her hair looks dry asf?!!! Even if its a wig, you'd expect movie magic to fix it. But whst do we expect from a Colleen hover adaptation.
I noticed Ryle comes off more charismatic here than in the book: I swear he was giving fuckboy, anger-boy energy. Imagine if they kept the scene where he searched the whole floor to find Lily's room just to beg her to fuck him... if the kicking chair scene isn't red-flaggy enough, that scene would've set the audience off😭🫠
THANK YOU!!! like the movie kept out everything that made the story worth something. Like why was it rated PG?!? It doesn’t get to the real thing/issue yk, it glosses over it
Gurly how are you alive? 😭 I feel like by 3 months you’d lose blood from your whole body 😭😭😭 that must have been a tough time cus when I was 13 I had it for over 2 weeks and I felt so lethargic and exhausted all the time
I don't know if this makes sense but I didn't have a period for 9 months, then had one for 3 months, so mathematically that's like my entire year of periods all at once right. So I always assumed that's what happened, but who knows.
@@redlovestaylor | I feel you. My PCoS makes my period so irregular. I kiss for 3 months or something. Are your taking pills now? I'm nervous to start.
Tysm for saying that men realising what they did was bad actually only within the context of it being their daughter/mother/sister because they’re the only women they see as people. After the movie my friend and I were talking about it and she said she didn’t mind because the overall messaging was good so I shouldn’t be so salty ab it and just be happy that they did handle the ending with the right message and I felt like such a killjoy but like I can’t HELP IT. WHAT do you MEAN men LITERALLY don’t see women as people!!!! That’s what that fucking means when it only hits home to them as morally wrong when it happens to daughter/sister/wives, they see them as people, other women in are not people in their eyes, they are less-then and don’t require the same consideration. Anyways… THANKYOU TRIN for validating that for me, love you, 10/10 as per. Every woman should have a simmering pit of feminist rage inside them ready to be loud and bothered by any patriarchal transgressions imo
I do get that and it is wrong but also its bevause they arent emotionally attached to strangers (which would be the women because they dont know them) but they should still see how bad it is
The reason why this movie doesn't come with a trigger warning is probably because Colleen Hoover said herself in an interview that she doesn't like to include them in her books. She went on to say that she believes they spoil key plot points in the story, which of course is pretty alarming to me
This is so wild bc there are rly easy ways to get around this if you’re worried about ‘spoilers’??? Like just have a disclaimer before them saying smth to the effect of ‘the following sensitive topics are in this book/film. Do not read if you would prefer to avoid spoilers’, and that way the people that don’t need them can look away. It’s more wild to prioritise not spoiling over the mental well-being of ur audience tho
Trin going full big brain at 20:30 really adds to it for me. And I love this commentary girl I wish your body the peace you've been denied the last 17+? days
I feel like the direction of the scenes could've been way more impactful if the lighting was brighter and more saturated in the beginning, to create a sense of a bright loving hopeful relationship but then when the relationship changes, have the contrast of a dull desaturated pallet.
0:28 have you been to the doc? I had a period last 3 months when I was on the depo shot. It was awful. It didn't stop until the shot was out of my system
21:34 it's funny because Blake said in an interview how she wanted to use this song and the production time thought it didn't fit so she fought to keep it in because apparently it had to do with Atlas and her. I was like "Has she listened to the song???" If anything it has more to do with her and Ryle
The reason for the "plot twist" is because Blake took over the whole promotion process. There are literally two different 'It Ends With Us' posters and Blake tried to make it a RomCom when everyone who has read the book knows what its actually about. Blake wanted her Barbie moment
I feel like it sounds crazy but I would prob push off going to a doctor out of fear of finding out something awful plus our health care system is so expensive even before you pay for the stuff that actually helps you
Sweet Nothings would've bopped so hard with the baby scene, and then the pregnancy announcement like if Margaret wasn't released. It's crazy that Hollywood has a commitment to not matching songs to scenes.
Imagine how good this would have been if the two leads had been played by the actors playing the younger versions of them, and they had actual high schoolers playing high school them. I mean Blake could have played the mother...
As far as their ages, I think I heard that they purposely aged the characters up for the adult versions of them because their jobs were all those of people older than the book characters. (Like Ryle being a top neurosurgeon.)
I could rant for days about why I hate it ends with us (I refuse to watch the movie but I have read the book) and I’m convinced the name is cursed alone (all that drama around the movie was ridiculous like what in the world) but one of the fundamental issues with the book aside from the terrible writing and awful content was the fact that Colleen hates trigger warnings. Usually, this wouldn’t be an issue, I understand how some might find it annoying (though that isn’t really an excuse, I read this book at 16 having no idea what I was getting into) but when you’re advertising your book as a romance and it’s always sitting next to other romance books you are giving off a false message. Add trigger warnings, I don’t care if it ‘makes your book ugly’. Also don’t base the abuse on your mother’s life, that’s strange and not your story to tell. (Another thing I wanted to make note of; in the book (I don’t know if it’s the same in the movie) Atlas is an adult when they do it and she is a minor. I remember reading it and siding with the father because any rational human would see that as a crime. To Colleen it was a picturesque romance.)
Yeah Atlas was high key a groomer (or in that same vein), but that gets glossed over because his behavior overall is comparitively better than Ryle's 😭
@@totally5694 He's 18 when he and Lily first meet, and Lily is 15 going on 16, and he asks her how old she is because if they were to get intimate while she's still under the age of consent, it would be classes as statuatory 😃
i think this is because the film was shot in a way to show lily’s pov. when you’re in that type of situation, it can be fast and blurred. lily felt disoriented and didn’t understand what happened. she thought it was an accident, so we experienced that same confusion.
to me it came across as a moment where his anger issues come thru and she had to deal with the consequences of them, whether it was on purpose or not as the other replies said, it’s from lily’s pov so maybe it was or maybe it wasn’t rly an accident, there’s no way for us to rly know i guess. i will say i do see it as an accident tho? not to take away from the future moments where he is without a doubt being abusive n hurting her on purpose. regardless tho, it gives us a glimpse of how he handles situations.
If I’m not wrong, I’m the book I remember that he had burnt himself, and lily was a little tipsy and they were having a good time so she kinda started laughing bc he burnt his hand by accident and then he got mad at her, hit her and when he went to go help her up is when he got his hand cut and was just overall pissed bc it was his surgeon hand…. Overall making her feel bad bc he had a really important surgery the next day and kinda like “woah is me” vibes
There were problems behind the scenes with the movie, namely the script that was being rewritten during filming and Blake Lively had a huge fallout with the director.
i had my period for a year straight (yes, a whole year!) and it turned out to be uterine polyps. they arent usually cancerous but there is always that risk. im not trying to scare you or anything, but please take care of yourself and see a doctor if it continues
The only two scenes that are even a little bit good is when Lily goes to Atlas and cries and not a single word is spoken. And when Ryles sister says as your sister in law I want you to stay with him but as your best friend you need to leave him.
girl i feel you so much; i had my period for over a year straight once and it turned me anaemic 😭 turns out i have pcos lol definitely worth talking to a doctor about!
Trin I really have to say that I love how you talk about these hard topics. It’s not easy to incorporate this into an „entertainment“ UA-cam channel but you’re doing it well and I want to thank you for being your awesome self
I went to go watch it with my cousin after I got out of a relationship where I was emotionally and verbally abused due to alcohol right after I had my baby and while I was pregnant, but there was something about the movie that rubbed me in the worst way something about the movie made me hate it and I’m not entirely sure , your video really helped Because it made me realize I did not like the portrayal of the abuse because it made it seem like it was supposed to be realistic, but it wasn’t and it could’ve been a lot better than that at the end where she said that she wanted to divorce, a narcissist who had such a claim to their victim, would not take that lightly or be that willing to let go so quickly I don’t know. I just did not like the movie in retrospect someone who has been through abuse. Love you girl! Please tell me you got your menstrual issues checked because as someone who had long ass periods please take care of yourself!
If you can make an appointment with planned parenthood. They’re inexpensive and have payment plans or even offer free appointments if you qualify. Theyre usually very helpful ( the ones I’ve been to in MN). Take care of yourself! Love you girl
dude my periods has been doing the exact same thing, ive been having 2 periods in the month, 2 week long periods, awful cramping where i used to be fine, sometimes i get lucky and it’s normal but it’s a crapshoot😭
Used to have my period for WEEKS and I did nothing about it. It’s calmed down now the older I’ve gotten, but how tf did I go to school everyday on my period for weeks… I take days off now even if it’s only a 4 day length period. My cramps have gotten worse though and so has my mood swings. You gotta pick your battles I guess😭
saw this in theatres with my friend who read the books (i did not) and i was like it was a C movie. so much is so unrealistic lol my friend and i kept joking too "wow and this all happened in 2 weeks" bc the relationship moved soooo fast to us (that also being said i did cry a lot lol) (free trin from these shackles!!!!)
I hadn't watched you in a while and I felt happy to see you again when I started this video! I hadn't realized I missed your videos and personality like that, glad to watch your videos again :)
watching your ad read while dying on the toilet at work and listening to you tell me about cute bras is helping me stay emotionally stable in this time of struggle (my bathroom break)… thank you
Watched the movie in the cinema it was surprisingly great despite the drama, I really think the way the abuse scenes were depicted in this movie is what saved it for me. Also the cameo of Collen hoover was not subtle at all like girl why is the camera focused on you 😭😭
@@jennaanot.- I totally get you. I thought it was very well done and it made me cry! 😭and whatever you went through, abuse or not, i hope u can find a way to heal from it. I am rooting for you🤍💛🤍
if you're still having a period at 17 days I'd say get checked ASAP! I went to the same thing and it took two years until i got surgery. I became anemic,suffered through migraines, and my hair started to thin and fall off. Please go to rhe hospital and get checked immediately. Don't take lame excuses for an answer keep at it until you actually get to the root of the problem
I totally agree with the coloring. Aside from the flashbacks, it's awful. I don't see how people like this movie, or hate it...it's meh. I do appreciate how they portrayed domestic violence. Justin Baldoni is properly scary. It really sucks that people view domestic abuse as bad, when they think of it happening to someone they love. I get that it's a great way to develop empathy. I guess I just believe that you should be empathetic already 🤷♀
I knew the book would be powerful based on the message and I expected to cringe when she said the title but the way she delivered it broke me lol and due to coho being controversial I’d never read the book either, too much Ellen and just keep swimming dory references so you’re really not missing much. And I’m still pissed off at the fact that they marketed this movie as a cute girls movie and then just not include trigger warnings of any kind like that’s fvcked up and tricking teenage girls to go see a movie that literally doesn’t have anything to do with flowers besides the protagonist’s stupid name (tf is a lily blossom bloom?) and make em sit thru an unbearable relationship from beginning to end. Honestly disgusting and I agree that coho needs to just stop. She’d be better off making a movie from her book verity since she writes thriller better than romance. Her being a romance writer is honestly just damaging and she needs to be stopped. Glad to see less book girlies promoting her problematic books
When I was 17 I had two periods in a row that lasted FIFTY days 😅😅 please see a doctor if you're able, cause it may be a problem they can fix and you won't have to suffer any more 💜 you're so strong and you've got this!!! (Turns out I have PCOS and birth control fixed my horrid periods, won't work for everyone, but I promise there is a solution)
I feel your struggle on a spiritual level. I recently had mine for 21 days. There was a day and a half break in between where I thought it was over. I cried the next day when it wasn’t 😢 I feel for you girl!
Unpopular opinion but I actually really like how Blake Lively is styled in this film! Esp once I saw her sketchbook drawings bc her whole look is giving “first year of art school” energy. And as distracting as it was for the first half hour or so, I appreciate it because we get so little about her interior life that I appreciate that her clothes are such a loud part of her personality.
Girl my auntie had period pains for over like 4+ years and never went to get it checked and she JUST GOT surgery today to check what stage she’s in for uterine cancer !!! I’m so sorry if this scares u but please advocate and fight for an answer ! Make them doctors listen to you!!!
honestly biggest L of the story is how easy it is for Lilly to leave the dude. Like the conclusion to you domestic abuse drama is "just leave him"? An abuser would literally rather you die before they let you leave and dude just had to be like "yeah ig abuse IS bad huh" and then let her go bc he truly loved her or some shit I think a more interesting film would be showing Lily go through the emotional hell and conflict of leaving her abuser. It takes people years to be able to leave
so taylor DID copyright the video for my amaZing cover of 'my tears richochet' so from 30:15-30:47 it is MUTED so taylor does not take my money LMAO
the billionaire needed an extra $20 ig
dangit, no Trin cover i guess...
Mother
diva down 😔
LOL NO WAYYY that’s crazy
the fact blake bragged about all the outfits being her own… like yeah girl we know
like we can tell Blake 😂🤭
Watching that interview I initially thought: that make sense, that's a good thing, Lily seems to be an average person so it would make sense if the wardrobe is casual and daily clothes instead of something super stylized and off-character (cough cough, emily in paris). But then the movie clips got out and I- no comments.
It’s sooo funny!! She wouldn’t do film the movie if she wasn’t the creative director for herself & now look, everyone is laughing at you Blake! Haha
DAY 17?! Sorrows,sorrows, prayers 😭
no bc i didn't know some girl have their 🩸for 17 days i only have my for 4 days
@@marianalover69It’s not normal; if your period lasts that long you need to go to the doctor (which I’m sure Trin did!)
@@marianalover69I have issues w my ovaries and I’ve gone a whole month on my period🥲 literal hell
@@marianalover69 The average is 5-10 days depending on the person but 17 days means something isn't right
She updated on twitter that the doom is over. She went to a doctor I think and they gave her medication so on day 22 it was over
Ur like the opposite of pregnant rn
Huh😅?
her first meeting with the dude was him tossing shit? no thanks
Even when I read the book I thought that was a red flag already💀
That’s the point. It’s a red flag that the reader/Lily ignore when in context of his being a hot neurosurgeon who seems sweet/caring starting off
he was such a red flag then he told her what to do making it akward when she was on the edge of the building, then he got super close to her and flirty but like he didnt give her space to pull away. Ima dude and was like no way haha i would of been so uncomfortable lmao
@@ArtTipswithJohnS.-ty7nrbut he’s attractive tho so it doesn’t count
Exactly! I grew up with an abusive stepdad and if I see any man displaying violent or aggressive tendencies it’s immediately triggering and a red flag, she didn’t seem phased by it at all, you’d think it would have made her jumpy considering her past
Trin please go to the doctor about your period!! Take care of yourself
came to the comments to say this, not a joke. 17 days is not normal there may be something gong on medically
Nah they won’t help you anyway
I'm sure she has gone. The chances of them actually helping are very low, unfortunately
i think she did go, it also went past 17 days. but she posted on twt that it finally stopped! i feel a bit odd giving updates on a woman’s period but i know we’ve all been concerned n not everyone has twt!
It's not necessarily serious and could be due to PCOS or something like that
FREE TRIN FROM THE SHACKLES OF MENSTRUATION ‼‼17 days is actually criminal omfg...
She’s been free!!
Oh wait sadly it came back. It stopped after day 21 ten just came back like yesterday 😢
UPDATE YALL: in case any of you guys don't have twitter, trin posted that her period finally ended after day 21!!!!! (and hopefully it stays that way 😭)
update again: day 23 and it's back EVERYONE PRAY FOR OUR GIRL
Waiiiiit is that normal 😭 my period ends at like day 7 at most
@@cheesewheelz8030that's not normal, it's something with hormones, maybe endometriosis, pcos or something else. But of course it's her private business unless she chooses to share
My longest period was 2 months long and it was TRULY the worst experience. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy PLEASE go see a doctor Trin 🥹 don’t be like me. be better than me 🙏
@@ShortStaccBitchhi’d kms 😭
Don't worry; there is no Colleen Hoover book that is actually worth reading. All of the relationships she writes are abusive, but in every book, it's portrayed as a good thing.
Whattttt i like nov 9 and heart bones so much! Verity though i fully think should be banned and burned. Horrifying.
@@itskaraelizabethNovember 9? 😭
yes!!!!!
@@itskaraelizabeth I've heard Heart Bones is considered to be one of her genuinely better books, but November 9... 😶
Ugly Love was one of the worst things I’ve ever read. The name Rachel is ruined for me
In the movie the characters are aged up because Colleen realized no 23-year-old is a neurosurgeon 😭
Edit: “There’s no 28-year-old neurosurgeons, you know? You go to school for 15 years. And so to make corrections to what I messed up in the book, we aged the characters up somewhat.” Colleen Hoover on the Today Show
The chaos that would cause
😂😂 Omgosh, well technically if they graduated HS early and did early start they could probably be a neurosurgeon at 23/24. Early start can save you at least 1 yr of your undergrad program and then med school is 5 yrs.
@@jclyntoledo it does NOT take 5 years to become a neurosurgeon lmao!! It can take 10-15 years to graduate and finish residency, which Ryle says he’s almost done with
Ryle was older than her from what I remember from the books. And I feel like an age gap could add a little bit more to the storyline
@@La_chica47 Maybe by a little but I’m not just pulling this out of thin air. That’s literally what Colleen said about the age change for the movie lmao
17:13 jeans UNDER the heel strap
YESSS why aren’t more people talking about this???
I'm so glad someone else noticed 🥹
Her name is LILY BLOSSOM BLOOM???
And she's a florist 😭
And Ryle and Atlas? It’s like the author was having a most unique name contest with herself…
Pokémon ass character name. Levels of Brock, the rock type gym leader kind of name. Let me guess, Lily Blossom Bloom is a Ghost type gym leader? 😂
jk r*wling ahh name
You underestimate the amount of fruity people in the world who would totally name their kid that lol.
i have always said and i'm really grateful that you brought attention to the "what if it was YOUR daughter/sibling/mother" thing, like, you should respect women because they're PEOPLE not because of their ties to a man😟😟
Yeah but sometimes you just don’t care unless it happens to you or someone your closes to…take example of things that happen in third world countries that are horrible but benefit you who lives in a first world country, you can see that it’s bad but you just don’t care cuz it isn’t happening to you
@@layton6202that’s a different conversation
Facts (To the original post not ^)
@@layton6202Yeah and if someone is like that they aren't going to have a better time empathizing just bc someone said that bc again they only care if it actually happened to someone in their circle. Also that saying is ONLY used to make men empathize and care
@@layton6202you say that like it’s ok. Just because people suck doesn’t mean we should settle for that.
she brags about the fashion but i don’t think it’s fitting. Like I thought our girl is that gardener plant girl type like cargians, overalls maybe some floral dress. She’s not giving that. Like she’s giving if serena from gossip girl had an identity crisis and started liking brown. the fashion is not telling us more about the character.
I appreciated that they didn't have Lily coparent Emmy with Ryle, as in the book. Instead, she raises her alone as a single parent. It baffles me that Colleen Hoover used to be a social worker, since you'd think that she'd be more adept at writing about topical issues, but evidently not.
and the fact that she loosely based it on her own life.. like what?
No a lot of social workers suck and do more harm
the more i learn about this book and this woman, the more concerned i become
I think both perspectives matter... art is a consequence of living and many people have lived in either perspective.
@@softeyesworld 100% social workers suck terribly horribly and do waaaaay more harm
craziest part: she used her own clothes and styled herself 😭😭
Yeah
hearing day 17 is so wild trin. i can barely deal with my 9 day cycle forget 17
Me over here with my 3 1/2 day cycle, I'd be committing crimes if I was dealing with a period 17 days long!
No fr. When I got my iud I started having 10 day periods that have now gone down to 5-6… no thank you that’s too much already 😢
I honestly feel sorry for Justin Baldoni. Despite playing the abusive husband, he seems to have more awareness about the seriousness of the subject than either Blake Lively, who played the victim, or Colleen Hoover, the actual writer.
Idk, I don't trust him
nahhh fuck that he's a zionist
Yes I have follow Justin Baldoni since JTV and I think he has built a firm background on speaking up about serious topics
I think I saw someone say that it’s telling how the cast sided with Blake, aka the person who has all the connections in Hollywood. And the crew still follows Justin, aka the people who do most of the other work on a movie.
@@ipodtouch5963I dunno, I trust the person who didn’t use a film about dv to promote a hair care line.
I clicked so fast (edit: Trin I’m worried abt your menstrual state)
this
I am going to steal this sentence "I am worried about your menstrual state"
Blake Lively was the biggest mistake they could have made with this movie. Not only is she completely miscast for this role but then her press was a complete disaster where she made it all about herself. Also turning everyone against the director who is the only one who seems to care about the serious topics…. Her silence is deafening
Dudes annoying so I get it
She did a great job in the role and if the drama after the fact didn’t happen yall wouldn’t be saying she was miscasted
The most heinous part of the butt plug shoes was the ankle strap being OVER the jogger jeans 😀😀😀😀
I literally was screaming this at my screeeeeen
I feel like the show Maid on Netflix was executed way better in terms of tone. There were scenes that were illuminated in a romantic tone but they were done in a way to contrast that to the moments of realization of being abused
My OBGYN let me know that if your period is two weeks or longer, its unusually long and warrants a checkup! This is different from spotting (common with certain types of birth control). Pls take care!
Yes and some ppl don't know that you don't count your spotting days as your period.
i remember when i was 14 and had just started on birth control and i had a month-long period TWICE in the first year. in retrospect that is a huge sign of pcos, especially considering i have pre established ovarian cyst issues hkdhgjd
@@osnapitzmaiabirth control at 14?
she already went to the doctor and they basically said they couldn’t do anything and she just had to deal with it
@@MaryamJibril-mo7bd birth control at 14 isnt so uncommon anymore- there was a girl at my HS who started when she was 13 because she would get horrible headaches and she would throw up during each cycle. The only thing that helped was birth control. Also, if you are struggling with acne or heavy periods, birth control is ideal
I swear they hired the same person who made Taylor Lautner's Twilight wig to make Blake Lively's wig for this movie.
This is SUCH specific shade and I’m fully here for it
Everyone hates on the outfits and the directing, but the worst part of this movie is her hair... Like her ratty curls at the party 💀
Careful, curly hair can be a sensitive subject.
@ipodtouch5963 nah, these were styled so badly. Curls are gorgeous on everyone, but Jesus, she owns a hair care company, but her hair looks dry asf?!!! Even if its a wig, you'd expect movie magic to fix it. But whst do we expect from a Colleen hover adaptation.
@@lesbiangoddess290 also she just doesnt look good w curls
@@ipodtouch5963It's okay it's not her natural curls, she has straight hair
And what’s even worse is she’s using this movie and her hair in it to promote her new hair line. She’s acting like messy bed head is a new thing.
I noticed Ryle comes off more charismatic here than in the book: I swear he was giving fuckboy, anger-boy energy. Imagine if they kept the scene where he searched the whole floor to find Lily's room just to beg her to fuck him... if the kicking chair scene isn't red-flaggy enough, that scene would've set the audience off😭🫠
THANK YOU!!! like the movie kept out everything that made the story worth something. Like why was it rated PG?!? It doesn’t get to the real thing/issue yk, it glosses over it
0:23 DAY 17?!?!??!!!
Talk about the Red Sea goddamn
reals one know that her period lasted 22 days…………..
im on day 39🫡
@@aseofhearts WHATT?! HOW???
@@DDARKAA my uterus doesn’t ‘clot’ after the periods finished so blood just keeps coming baby
Not to be repetitive but definitely go to the doc about your period! Before I got diagnosed with PCOS I had a period that lasted three months 😬
3 MONTHS?! good god😭😭 i hope all is better now!!
that’s weird, I got my PCOS diagnosis for the opposite, I didn’t have one for SIX MONTHS😂 PCOS is so wacky🥴
Gurly how are you alive? 😭 I feel like by 3 months you’d lose blood from your whole body 😭😭😭 that must have been a tough time cus when I was 13 I had it for over 2 weeks and I felt so lethargic and exhausted all the time
I don't know if this makes sense but I didn't have a period for 9 months, then had one for 3 months, so mathematically that's like my entire year of periods all at once right. So I always assumed that's what happened, but who knows.
@@redlovestaylor | I feel you. My PCoS makes my period so irregular. I kiss for 3 months or something. Are your taking pills now? I'm nervous to start.
“He’s also the dad in Percy Jackson” is killing me when he’s POSEIDON
watching this commentary because I love trin and don’t want to suffer through the movie (all i’ve heard about it is negative)
love when trin got so upset about the protag not going anywhere without a big ass jacket
Tysm for saying that men realising what they did was bad actually only within the context of it being their daughter/mother/sister because they’re the only women they see as people. After the movie my friend and I were talking about it and she said she didn’t mind because the overall messaging was good so I shouldn’t be so salty ab it and just be happy that they did handle the ending with the right message and I felt like such a killjoy but like I can’t HELP IT. WHAT do you MEAN men LITERALLY don’t see women as people!!!! That’s what that fucking means when it only hits home to them as morally wrong when it happens to daughter/sister/wives, they see them as people, other women in are not people in their eyes, they are less-then and don’t require the same consideration.
Anyways… THANKYOU TRIN for validating that for me, love you, 10/10 as per.
Every woman should have a simmering pit of feminist rage inside them ready to be loud and bothered by any patriarchal transgressions imo
I do get that and it is wrong but also its bevause they arent emotionally attached to strangers (which would be the women because they dont know them) but they should still see how bad it is
heavy on the fact colleen hoover getting let off too easily
The reason why this movie doesn't come with a trigger warning is probably because Colleen Hoover said herself in an interview that she doesn't like to include them in her books. She went on to say that she believes they spoil key plot points in the story, which of course is pretty alarming to me
This is so wild bc there are rly easy ways to get around this if you’re worried about ‘spoilers’??? Like just have a disclaimer before them saying smth to the effect of ‘the following sensitive topics are in this book/film. Do not read if you would prefer to avoid spoilers’, and that way the people that don’t need them can look away. It’s more wild to prioritise not spoiling over the mental well-being of ur audience tho
28:32 it doesn’t help that the author and Blake Lively promoted this as a rom com
Yep!! “Wear your florals!!” Like what???
24:58 I literally just pushed a baby out my nani and you wanna propose… MY BABY IN YOUR HAND?!!! 👁️👄👁️
In the book she said nothing during the funeral on purpose to emphasize that she didn’t like him
Blake Lively's styling in this movie is so bad it literally takes me out of every scene. like I can't help but focus on it, its distracting
16:48 the heel straps over the jeans? MAMA 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Trin going full big brain at 20:30 really adds to it for me. And I love this commentary girl I wish your body the peace you've been denied the last 17+? days
I feel like the direction of the scenes could've been way more impactful if the lighting was brighter and more saturated in the beginning, to create a sense of a bright loving hopeful relationship but then when the relationship changes, have the contrast of a dull desaturated pallet.
In the book, they're together like 6 months before they get married. And Lily is also like 23. It's WILD
day 17?!? girl get those iron pills on stat
The photo of colon hooves was a literal jump-scare 3:44
0:28 have you been to the doc? I had a period last 3 months when I was on the depo shot. It was awful. It didn't stop until the shot was out of my system
21:34 it's funny because Blake said in an interview how she wanted to use this song and the production time thought it didn't fit so she fought to keep it in because apparently it had to do with Atlas and her. I was like "Has she listened to the song???" If anything it has more to do with her and Ryle
That is wild. I had zero doubt it was about her and Ryle when I watching it. I can’t believe it was supposed to be about her and Atlas!
One time i was so stressed my period was late but when it came it lasted for a month and half 😭 it was annoying
That's happened to me too 😭
@@Jennilynne🫂 a true bloody nightmare lol
27:45 omg I didn’t realize your dog was behind you the whole time, that was a jump scare 😭
Day 17?!! Queen, your next period will be knocking on the door by the time this one ends. praying for you!
The reason for the "plot twist" is because Blake took over the whole promotion process. There are literally two different 'It Ends With Us' posters and Blake tried to make it a RomCom when everyone who has read the book knows what its actually about. Blake wanted her Barbie moment
35:16 “to such a degree”?! Girly, to any degree?! I hope you’re ok ❤
I had the same thought 😢
I think every single issue with this movie started with them casting Blake as Lily tbh. Would’ve been so much better with someone who could play 23
I've been on Day 100+ of menstruation, babe it could be a uterine polyp! Pls ask ur gyno for an ultrasound! ❤
But I'm also on Day 17 this time around i feel you so hard babe
That's horrifying. Mine are dead short so I can only send my sincerest apologies girl
Wtf you had 100 straight days of period and more?! How were your iron levels?
@@jclyntoledo as someone who had mine for 5 weeks at one point, i just had an iron transfusion :')
I feel like it sounds crazy but I would prob push off going to a doctor out of fear of finding out something awful plus our health care system is so expensive even before you pay for the stuff that actually helps you
I’m on day 27 and guys I’m not doing well but I went to the doctors today and got some meds so let’s hope xoxo
That's awesome that you went to the Dr and hopefully got answers and not just meds. What caused it?
I hope you’re doing well ❤
What… I’m never complaining about my 7 day period again.
I hope you feel better!!!
@@amethyst034frrr
Trin I know some of us are in the camp of being afraid of the doctor but pls go for a check up with your doc!! I'm sure you're okay, just in case!!
Sweet Nothings would've bopped so hard with the baby scene, and then the pregnancy announcement like if Margaret wasn't released. It's crazy that Hollywood has a commitment to not matching songs to scenes.
Imagine how good this would have been if the two leads had been played by the actors playing the younger versions of them, and they had actual high schoolers playing high school them. I mean Blake could have played the mother...
As far as their ages, I think I heard that they purposely aged the characters up for the adult versions of them because their jobs were all those of people older than the book characters. (Like Ryle being a top neurosurgeon.)
I could rant for days about why I hate it ends with us (I refuse to watch the movie but I have read the book) and I’m convinced the name is cursed alone (all that drama around the movie was ridiculous like what in the world) but one of the fundamental issues with the book aside from the terrible writing and awful content was the fact that Colleen hates trigger warnings.
Usually, this wouldn’t be an issue, I understand how some might find it annoying (though that isn’t really an excuse, I read this book at 16 having no idea what I was getting into) but when you’re advertising your book as a romance and it’s always sitting next to other romance books you are giving off a false message.
Add trigger warnings, I don’t care if it ‘makes your book ugly’.
Also don’t base the abuse on your mother’s life, that’s strange and not your story to tell.
(Another thing I wanted to make note of; in the book (I don’t know if it’s the same in the movie) Atlas is an adult when they do it and she is a minor. I remember reading it and siding with the father because any rational human would see that as a crime. To Colleen it was a picturesque romance.)
Yeah Atlas was high key a groomer (or in that same vein), but that gets glossed over because his behavior overall is comparitively better than Ryle's 😭
@@Grey_3438 100%
@@Grey_3438 PAUSE they're not the same age?? how old is he supposed to be?
@@totally5694 He's 18 when he and Lily first meet, and Lily is 15 going on 16, and he asks her how old she is because if they were to get intimate while she's still under the age of consent, it would be classes as statuatory 😃
Idk if I'm just naive or what but I genuinely believed the oven thing was an accident. And when he actually turned out to be abusive I was surprised.
i think this is because the film was shot in a way to show lily’s pov. when you’re in that type of situation, it can be fast and blurred. lily felt disoriented and didn’t understand what happened. she thought it was an accident, so we experienced that same confusion.
that's the point tho. the first time is always a questionable moment cuz you trust this guy. the second time? not so much
to me it came across as a moment where his anger issues come thru and she had to deal with the consequences of them, whether it was on purpose or not
as the other replies said, it’s from lily’s pov so maybe it was or maybe it wasn’t rly an accident, there’s no way for us to rly know i guess. i will say i do see it as an accident tho? not to take away from the future moments where he is without a doubt being abusive n hurting her on purpose. regardless tho, it gives us a glimpse of how he handles situations.
If I’m not wrong, I’m the book I remember that he had burnt himself, and lily was a little tipsy and they were having a good time so she kinda started laughing bc he burnt his hand by accident and then he got mad at her, hit her and when he went to go help her up is when he got his hand cut and was just overall pissed bc it was his surgeon hand…. Overall making her feel bad bc he had a really important surgery the next day and kinda like “woah is me” vibes
There were problems behind the scenes with the movie, namely the script that was being rewritten during filming and Blake Lively had a huge fallout with the director.
i had my period for a year straight (yes, a whole year!) and it turned out to be uterine polyps. they arent usually cancerous but there is always that risk. im not trying to scare you or anything, but please take care of yourself and see a doctor if it continues
31:54 👏👏👏👏👏 have had to explain this concept over the years to men in my life and man you hit the nail on the head
as a pros baddie I once had my period for almost 3 months straight
The only two scenes that are even a little bit good is when Lily goes to Atlas and cries and not a single word is spoken. And when Ryles sister says as your sister in law I want you to stay with him but as your best friend you need to leave him.
We appreciate your insights. Keep making an impact on the community.
girl i feel you so much; i had my period for over a year straight once and it turned me anaemic 😭 turns out i have pcos lol definitely worth talking to a doctor about!
That's diabolical. Hearing these types of experiences makes me so thankful for my week long period damnnn
bring coho hate back!! PLEASE
Trin I really have to say that I love how you talk about these hard topics. It’s not easy to incorporate this into an „entertainment“ UA-cam channel but you’re doing it well and I want to thank you for being your awesome self
I went to go watch it with my cousin after I got out of a relationship where I was emotionally and verbally abused due to alcohol right after I had my baby and while I was pregnant, but there was something about the movie that rubbed me in the worst way something about the movie made me hate it and I’m not entirely sure , your video really helped Because it made me realize I did not like the portrayal of the abuse because it made it seem like it was supposed to be realistic, but it wasn’t and it could’ve been a lot better than that at the end where she said that she wanted to divorce, a narcissist who had such a claim to their victim, would not take that lightly or be that willing to let go so quickly I don’t know. I just did not like the movie in retrospect someone who has been through abuse. Love you girl! Please tell me you got your menstrual issues checked because as someone who had long ass periods please take care of yourself!
"It ends with us" **Yeeeeees**. Your response to that line had me in hysterics. 😂👏
EVERYBODY WAKE UP!!
MS LOVELL POSTED
If you can make an appointment with planned parenthood. They’re inexpensive and have payment plans or even offer free appointments if you qualify. Theyre usually very helpful ( the ones I’ve been to in MN). Take care of yourself! Love you girl
dude my periods has been doing the exact same thing, ive been having 2 periods in the month, 2 week long periods, awful cramping where i used to be fine, sometimes i get lucky and it’s normal but it’s a crapshoot😭
Used to have my period for WEEKS and I did nothing about it. It’s calmed down now the older I’ve gotten, but how tf did I go to school everyday on my period for weeks… I take days off now even if it’s only a 4 day length period. My cramps have gotten worse though and so has my mood swings. You gotta pick your battles I guess😭
saw this in theatres with my friend who read the books (i did not) and i was like it was a C movie. so much is so unrealistic lol my friend and i kept joking too "wow and this all happened in 2 weeks" bc the relationship moved soooo fast to us (that also being said i did cry a lot lol) (free trin from these shackles!!!!)
So Much Behind the scenes Went on could be a movie itself😅
Omg I hope you feel better soon! 😢
I hadn't watched you in a while and I felt happy to see you again when I started this video! I hadn't realized I missed your videos and personality like that, glad to watch your videos again :)
Justin Baldoni’s version of the movie lost against Blake and Ryan’s version. The couple were able to pull strings with the editor.
I had three weeks on and one week off with my period this month. Fighting for my life. You 🤝Me
watching your ad read while dying on the toilet at work and listening to you tell me about cute bras is helping me stay emotionally stable in this time of struggle (my bathroom break)… thank you
I NEED one of those fidget toys, that looks fun as hell.
Watched the movie in the cinema it was surprisingly great despite the drama, I really think the way the abuse scenes were depicted in this movie is what saved it for me.
Also the cameo of Collen hoover was not subtle at all like girl why is the camera focused on you 😭😭
It's nice to find someone else who actually liked it lol. Glad it's not just me.
Yeah I thought it was pretty realistic idk what the big deal is
@@Ayanaah-ke1nz yea exactly it was portrayed so realistically it brought me some war flashbacks ( not similar of course but certain behaviors yk)
@@jennaanot.- I totally get you. I thought it was very well done and it made me cry! 😭and whatever you went through, abuse or not, i hope u can find a way to heal from it. I am rooting for you🤍💛🤍
@@Ayanaah-ke1nz thank youu girliee wishing you the best 💗
if you're still having a period at 17 days I'd say get checked ASAP! I went to the same thing and it took two years until i got surgery. I became anemic,suffered through migraines, and my hair started to thin and fall off. Please go to rhe hospital and get checked immediately. Don't take lame excuses for an answer keep at it until you actually get to the root of the problem
I totally agree with the coloring. Aside from the flashbacks, it's awful. I don't see how people like this movie, or hate it...it's meh. I do appreciate how they portrayed domestic violence. Justin Baldoni is properly scary. It really sucks that people view domestic abuse as bad, when they think of it happening to someone they love. I get that it's a great way to develop empathy. I guess I just believe that you should be empathetic already 🤷♀
The fact that I said "OF COURSE is Owen Hunt"
your valid for being grump from day 1, day 17, and beyond of your period. Don't let anyone make you think you can't be grumpy 😌✨️
"Your software slays by the way" PLL you'll always be famous lmao
I knew the book would be powerful based on the message and I expected to cringe when she said the title but the way she delivered it broke me lol and due to coho being controversial I’d never read the book either, too much Ellen and just keep swimming dory references so you’re really not missing much. And I’m still pissed off at the fact that they marketed this movie as a cute girls movie and then just not include trigger warnings of any kind like that’s fvcked up and tricking teenage girls to go see a movie that literally doesn’t have anything to do with flowers besides the protagonist’s stupid name (tf is a lily blossom bloom?) and make em sit thru an unbearable relationship from beginning to end. Honestly disgusting and I agree that coho needs to just stop. She’d be better off making a movie from her book verity since she writes thriller better than romance. Her being a romance writer is honestly just damaging and she needs to be stopped. Glad to see less book girlies promoting her problematic books
day 17 is crazy I'm literally on my knees praying for it to end soon, you don't deserve this T-T
When I was 17 I had two periods in a row that lasted FIFTY days 😅😅 please see a doctor if you're able, cause it may be a problem they can fix and you won't have to suffer any more 💜 you're so strong and you've got this!!! (Turns out I have PCOS and birth control fixed my horrid periods, won't work for everyone, but I promise there is a solution)
I feel your struggle on a spiritual level. I recently had mine for 21 days. There was a day and a half break in between where I thought it was over. I cried the next day when it wasn’t 😢 I feel for you girl!
Im crying on my bed during day 1, WDYM UR ON DAY 17- I feel for you 😭✊
Unpopular opinion but I actually really like how Blake Lively is styled in this film! Esp once I saw her sketchbook drawings bc her whole look is giving “first year of art school” energy. And as distracting as it was for the first half hour or so, I appreciate it because we get so little about her interior life that I appreciate that her clothes are such a loud part of her personality.
Since we're on the topic of The Florida Project, you should definitely do a movie commentary on it.
Trin go to the doctoooorrrrr!!! Specially if your period doesn't last long! 17 is not normal girly please take care of yourself
Girl my auntie had period pains for over like 4+ years and never went to get it checked and she JUST GOT surgery today to check what stage she’s in for uterine cancer !!! I’m so sorry if this scares u but please advocate and fight for an answer ! Make them doctors listen to you!!!
oh girl i feel so bad, my periods last three days, seventeen?! i cant imagine. hope you get better
Just saw your tweet that your period finally left u alone 😭😭 GIRL FIGHT BACK
honestly biggest L of the story is how easy it is for Lilly to leave the dude. Like the conclusion to you domestic abuse drama is "just leave him"? An abuser would literally rather you die before they let you leave and dude just had to be like "yeah ig abuse IS bad huh" and then let her go bc he truly loved her or some shit
I think a more interesting film would be showing Lily go through the emotional hell and conflict of leaving her abuser. It takes people years to be able to leave