I'd really describe it more like you don't realize what you're doing at first. And you think you're 100% certain in how you feel at the moment and thats when you're overcome with emotions so powerful and so full of genuineness. But then later when the realization hits its like the world is crumbling all around you and the amount of regret you feel is as if your soul is being torn to shreds
Yes, I never realize I am splitting until afterwards. It feels real and genuine at the time to the point no other possible reality can exist. It's crazy.
I'm trying to understand this because I think my friend might have bpd, im not trying to diagnose her but she head on displays an alarming on point to the symptoms and characteristics, especially splitting, I thought maybe it was bipolar disorder but is coming much more cleared that I believe it's some form of BPD.
I had a splitting episode this week. Spent 3 days crying pretty much all day. Felt like my heart was also being crushed in a vice grip. :c Sending hugs to those who also struggle like this. ♥
Not sure if this is what I've got but man this feels like me. Been crying on and off for days, can't get these thoughts out of my head, feels like I can't breathe/ so much weight on my shoulders and chest. Sending hugs because this is the hardest thing ever (I'm pushing myself to find a Dr to help I've realized I can't do this alone)
Omfg, this is spot on... I've been diagnosed pretty recently and things like this really explain things I haven't fully been able to understand earlier, thank you so much! Late diagnosis is really frustating, though...
For a K.I.S.S explanation of this issue its actually rather spot on. The medical technicalities would need greater expansion, and all in all a good example for the rest of the world to gain some understanding.
It used to scare the crap out of me when my ex partner did this because neither of us had any idea what was happening and why. So helpful to finally know, and also to know it wasn't happening because I wasn't good enough at loving him or reassuring him.
Me and my bf are going through this, he tries so hard to reassure me and in these moments I feel like I can't breathe let alone think he's telling me the truth. I'm going to push myself harder to see a Dr/phycologist and find out what is wrong before I hurt him any more. Is there anything that could have improved the relationship? Can I do better?
@optimisticazreal882 I'm so far from being an expert, I wouldn't want to tell you anything that might end up being unhelpful or make things worse in any way. All I can say is it's so important to get help. It's not fair for you to feel like you and your partner ought to tackle this on your own. You deserve help from someone with the proper training. It's not that you need to be "fixed", you need help working with parts of you that are hurting consciously or unconsciously. I thought my love could be enough to help my partner, but once I knew what the issue was I realized how far above my pay grade it was to help him. From my own mental health struggles, and from what I experienced with my partner, it seems like working on building your awareness and ability to recognize what's happening when you split will probably make a huge difference. Learning how to step outside of your emotional state and look at it like an outside observer is an excellent skill for anyone who experiences emotional disregulation. I could not have learned to do this so effectively without a therapist. It's saved my life. I hope for all the best for you and that you find a good therapist! 💜
As somebody with BPD, I love my mom, but I split on her all the time. Shes my best friend, and I really hope she knows my splitting isn’t out of malice, its out of fear.
My therapist refers to this as absolutes. I didn't know it had a name. She just referred to it as having absolutes one way or another on something during an episode
Damn..she's not lying. It's so hard to avoid & explain. I try to be better and warn ppl or teach them how to notice signs. It just seems like it doesn't work out the best way, even when we get through it. I try more to stay away from ppl ehen I feel any episodes because I dont want to cause them chaos.
I am BPD and I don't get this explanation. I don't even realize I am splitting until afterwards. It truly feels real and genuine at the time the split occur, so I am unaware I am acting irrationally. Been in therapy for almost 4 years for BPD and I still am unaware when I split until afterwards, sometimes long afterwards. The progress I have made though is I don't split as often as I used to split. I am working on keeping my expectations realistic and stick to facts and not allow myself to fantasize or be deluded about situations. I think I am extremely good at imagining an alternate reality that I use to fool myself and when that alternate reality is shattered by real reality, I then split to cope.
It can be both that as well as splitting and it meaning "black and white" thinking among other things, it doesn't have to only be towards a person, inanimate objects can come into play as well.
@NwoDispatcher My wife and I have been together for over 11 years going through this together, and I've made a lot of progress at healing. Obviously, I'm doing something right. I disagree with you 100% on your comment. That's no different than saying that about bipolar disorder; BPD is deeply rooted in our brain as a trauma response (mine being a parental unaliving of a parent and a verbally abusive step father) not as chemical imbalances where you can take medicines to help much else other than help with some symptoms like depression and anxiety. If you're also curious, since you need more education about BPD, why don't you take a look at what a hypothalamic hamartoma is and HH rages and add that on top of BPD because I have that as well. Although, yesterday, in another video prior to your comment, I even mentioned how we are responsible for our own actions, and I take on that responsibility. Not everyone is the same...
@NwoDispatcher As someone who raises chickens for eggs and slaughter, it depends on the type of egg, and you're going to pay more for farm fresh, unbleached eggs...
Hey glo. I haven't been able to focus and was given feedback at work. It was negative feedback and i cried to my bosses n colleagues lmao. I dun wna go back fuck.
You can have bpd with the other personality or mood disorders, bpd can mimic alot of other things which is why you can't just treat it by itself there might be other underlining issues and symptoms that can be treated
That's not a demon, this is the real world. The very last thing someone suffering from bpd is absolution. Borderline personality disorder is a real mental illness, that is severe and crippling. People suffering from borderline personality disorder don't need religion to "fix" them, they need real world professional help to work through these deep seeded issues that are out of their control, and it's not something that can just be prayed away. I would know because I'm one of them, and when you're having an episode, the last thing you need is someone in your ear telling you your problem doesn't matter because "God loves you"
You don't know the actual background he was making that statement from, you just assumed he were one of those hardcore Christians. Also, the energetic backgrounds of reality are something we really need to become aware of, not just with bpd, but with literally everything. We are being held ignorant to these things for the very reason that we are energetic beings, and when we are unaware of it, our energy can be messed with, which is the very reason for keeping us unaware. From day one we are being taught that we were just bodies and that all that mattered were materialism, making money, getting married, having babies, buying stuff - that you only existed on a physical level and can only do things on a physical level. The whole energetic background is left out of the picture, which is exactly why the world is in the state it is in - because we have on purpose not been taught how to use our energy in the way we are designed to. We are conditioned to behave in ways that make our energetic field leaky, and weaken us through the toxic things we are conditioned to do to ourselves or allow others to do to us. We are taught to betray ourselves as a default setting - go to school, listen to people without integrity hammering sh*t into your head that a) doesn't matter to you, and b) is not completely true, because history has always been written by the conquerers, and they certainly won't give you the truth to set you free. We learn to poison ourselves on all levels, mentally, emotionally, physically - to go against the will of our inner being. It all comes down to inauthenticity. We are taught to not be true to who and what we truly are, which causes our energetic field to have literal holes in it. And these leaks can and do attract entities - this is the very reason all of this is done. So that we can not be the fully sovereign, complete beings we naturally are when we live in full authenticity. Dogma is harmful, I agree with you on that, and in this age all religions have missed the point of its original teachings - the point being how to be a complete human being, completely in their sovereign power. So he also is right when he says we all need to keep our energy clear. And yes, literally all so-called 'mental illnesses' also have energetic implications, not all of them possessions, many of them are actually a symptom of remembrance of the true self, which is why they are labeled a pathology. Because the system doesn't want you to remember yourself, it does everything to lead you astray and away from you, from recognizing your true self. The world of psychology would vastly gain ability to truly help people if it took these things into consideration and learned to see people on an energetic level and meet them there. But of course that also is only looked at from a materialistic perspective - in traditional psychology, you are just a body with a mind. Only once psychology learns to actually widen that perspective will it begin to be able to help people. But since we are in a time when you have to help yourself since the system is set up to hurt you, we have to learn this ourselves. We have to learn about our energy, learn to feel into things and follow what feels of integrity in every moment in all decisions, big to small. The more of integrity we are, meaning our energetic field is complete, the healthier we are on all levels. It is all about learning to listen to yourself again, the truth of your deepest inner being, this is the only thing that can and will actually heal you.
I utilize therapy, healing and God. My faith helps me. In moments of unreason or confusion anything someone says "posiitive" doesn't guarantee a good reactio or turn around. Everyone with BPD doesn't cope the same. My faith helps give me the hope I need to overcome & press forward through even bad times.
@@averyintelligence And that's exactly the reason why you can be played as you literally are every day, and literally celebrate your very state of confusion as normal, when it only is exactly where they want you to be, so they can siphon your energy. Nothing can be done without our energy. And the fact that most people believe that this were all nonsense is due to the conditioning that was implemented for the very use of keeping you ignorant to it. When you are unaware of how energy works, it can be used against you. And it is, every day. The so called elite are very well aware that we are energetic beings, that everything is consciousness, and they keep you ignorant to it on purpose, so they can use your own consciousness to deepen your state of enslavement. That you make fun of my statement only proves how lost you really are, how ignorant to actual reality, and how willing to defend the hand that holds you down. You can only see as far as your consciousness is expanded, so what purpose do you think it serves that you have been told that spirituality were all fiction, and you were nothing but your body? It is so you trap your own consciousness in a mental prison. It is a cheap trick. And you have been so easily played, yet you think you were so smart. You are supposed to think exactly that way. The irony of it all.
I'd really describe it more like you don't realize what you're doing at first. And you think you're 100% certain in how you feel at the moment and thats when you're overcome with emotions so powerful and so full of genuineness. But then later when the realization hits its like the world is crumbling all around you and the amount of regret you feel is as if your soul is being torn to shreds
Yes, I never realize I am splitting until afterwards. It feels real and genuine at the time to the point no other possible reality can exist. It's crazy.
I'm trying to understand this because I think my friend might have bpd, im not trying to diagnose her but she head on displays an alarming on point to the symptoms and characteristics, especially splitting, I thought maybe it was bipolar disorder but is coming much more cleared that I believe it's some form of BPD.
How long until you come back to before you split? Day's months?
I had a splitting episode this week. Spent 3 days crying pretty much all day. Felt like my heart was also being crushed in a vice grip. :c Sending hugs to those who also struggle like this. ♥
Not sure if this is what I've got but man this feels like me. Been crying on and off for days, can't get these thoughts out of my head, feels like I can't breathe/ so much weight on my shoulders and chest. Sending hugs because this is the hardest thing ever (I'm pushing myself to find a Dr to help I've realized I can't do this alone)
Omfg, this is spot on... I've been diagnosed pretty recently and things like this really explain things I haven't fully been able to understand earlier, thank you so much! Late diagnosis is really frustating, though...
Well this isn't splitting
For a K.I.S.S explanation of this issue its actually rather spot on.
The medical technicalities would need greater expansion, and all in all a good example for the rest of the world to gain some understanding.
It used to scare the crap out of me when my ex partner did this because neither of us had any idea what was happening and why. So helpful to finally know, and also to know it wasn't happening because I wasn't good enough at loving him or reassuring him.
Me and my bf are going through this, he tries so hard to reassure me and in these moments I feel like I can't breathe let alone think he's telling me the truth. I'm going to push myself harder to see a Dr/phycologist and find out what is wrong before I hurt him any more. Is there anything that could have improved the relationship? Can I do better?
@optimisticazreal882 I'm so far from being an expert, I wouldn't want to tell you anything that might end up being unhelpful or make things worse in any way. All I can say is it's so important to get help. It's not fair for you to feel like you and your partner ought to tackle this on your own. You deserve help from someone with the proper training. It's not that you need to be "fixed", you need help working with parts of you that are hurting consciously or unconsciously. I thought my love could be enough to help my partner, but once I knew what the issue was I realized how far above my pay grade it was to help him.
From my own mental health struggles, and from what I experienced with my partner, it seems like working on building your awareness and ability to recognize what's happening when you split will probably make a huge difference. Learning how to step outside of your emotional state and look at it like an outside observer is an excellent skill for anyone who experiences emotional disregulation. I could not have learned to do this so effectively without a therapist. It's saved my life.
I hope for all the best for you and that you find a good therapist! 💜
Great description ❤
Thank you - as a parent of a daughter with BPD this is extremely helpful.
As somebody with BPD, I love my mom, but I split on her all the time. Shes my best friend, and I really hope she knows my splitting isn’t out of malice, its out of fear.
My therapist refers to this as absolutes. I didn't know it had a name. She just referred to it as having absolutes one way or another on something during an episode
Could you give an example? I'm trying to get the courage to see my therapist and bring these things up
Great video
Damn..she's not lying. It's so hard to avoid & explain. I try to be better and warn ppl or teach them how to notice signs. It just seems like it doesn't work out the best way, even when we get through it. I try more to stay away from ppl ehen I feel any episodes because I dont want to cause them chaos.
I am BPD and I don't get this explanation. I don't even realize I am splitting until afterwards. It truly feels real and genuine at the time the split occur, so I am unaware I am acting irrationally. Been in therapy for almost 4 years for BPD and I still am unaware when I split until afterwards, sometimes long afterwards. The progress I have made though is I don't split as often as I used to split. I am working on keeping my expectations realistic and stick to facts and not allow myself to fantasize or be deluded about situations. I think I am extremely good at imagining an alternate reality that I use to fool myself and when that alternate reality is shattered by real reality, I then split to cope.
When people abandon you when splitting it makes you want to die
Splitting is going from extremely idealization of a person to extreme devaluation. It's not a shift in mood or an episode.
It can be both that as well as splitting and it meaning "black and white" thinking among other things, it doesn't have to only be towards a person, inanimate objects can come into play as well.
@NwoDispatcher My wife and I have been together for over 11 years going through this together, and I've made a lot of progress at healing. Obviously, I'm doing something right.
I disagree with you 100% on your comment. That's no different than saying that about bipolar disorder; BPD is deeply rooted in our brain as a trauma response (mine being a parental unaliving of a parent and a verbally abusive step father) not as chemical imbalances where you can take medicines to help much else other than help with some symptoms like depression and anxiety.
If you're also curious, since you need more education about BPD, why don't you take a look at what a hypothalamic hamartoma is and HH rages and add that on top of BPD because I have that as well. Although, yesterday, in another video prior to your comment, I even mentioned how we are responsible for our own actions, and I take on that responsibility. Not everyone is the same...
@NwoDispatcher As someone who raises chickens for eggs and slaughter, it depends on the type of egg, and you're going to pay more for farm fresh, unbleached eggs...
That's literally what she said mate.
Some people can be extremely confused as well as confusing...ooooh and it makes me wonder
How do you help someone who’s splitting?
True. Logical brain is shut down.
Hey glo. I haven't been able to focus and was given feedback at work. It was negative feedback and i cried to my bosses n colleagues lmao. I dun wna go back fuck.
Is this based in a Scarcity mindset?
I can relate 🥲
100%
That also sounds like disassociation. Panic attack. Self abondenment and CPTSD, why is it called BPD?
You can have bpd with the other personality or mood disorders, bpd can mimic alot of other things which is why you can't just treat it by itself there might be other underlining issues and symptoms that can be treated
Sooo an anxiety attack?
Very well said! Very unlovable…
Ma’am, that’s a demon. Respond to this and I can help you
That's not a demon, this is the real world. The very last thing someone suffering from bpd is absolution. Borderline personality disorder is a real mental illness, that is severe and crippling. People suffering from borderline personality disorder don't need religion to "fix" them, they need real world professional help to work through these deep seeded issues that are out of their control, and it's not something that can just be prayed away. I would know because I'm one of them, and when you're having an episode, the last thing you need is someone in your ear telling you your problem doesn't matter because "God loves you"
You don't know the actual background he was making that statement from, you just assumed he were one of those hardcore Christians. Also, the energetic backgrounds of reality are something we really need to become aware of, not just with bpd, but with literally everything. We are being held ignorant to these things for the very reason that we are energetic beings, and when we are unaware of it, our energy can be messed with, which is the very reason for keeping us unaware. From day one we are being taught that we were just bodies and that all that mattered were materialism, making money, getting married, having babies, buying stuff - that you only existed on a physical level and can only do things on a physical level. The whole energetic background is left out of the picture, which is exactly why the world is in the state it is in - because we have on purpose not been taught how to use our energy in the way we are designed to. We are conditioned to behave in ways that make our energetic field leaky, and weaken us through the toxic things we are conditioned to do to ourselves or allow others to do to us. We are taught to betray ourselves as a default setting - go to school, listen to people without integrity hammering sh*t into your head that a) doesn't matter to you, and b) is not completely true, because history has always been written by the conquerers, and they certainly won't give you the truth to set you free. We learn to poison ourselves on all levels, mentally, emotionally, physically - to go against the will of our inner being. It all comes down to inauthenticity. We are taught to not be true to who and what we truly are, which causes our energetic field to have literal holes in it. And these leaks can and do attract entities - this is the very reason all of this is done. So that we can not be the fully sovereign, complete beings we naturally are when we live in full authenticity.
Dogma is harmful, I agree with you on that, and in this age all religions have missed the point of its original teachings - the point being how to be a complete human being, completely in their sovereign power. So he also is right when he says we all need to keep our energy clear. And yes, literally all so-called 'mental illnesses' also have energetic implications, not all of them possessions, many of them are actually a symptom of remembrance of the true self, which is why they are labeled a pathology. Because the system doesn't want you to remember yourself, it does everything to lead you astray and away from you, from recognizing your true self.
The world of psychology would vastly gain ability to truly help people if it took these things into consideration and learned to see people on an energetic level and meet them there. But of course that also is only looked at from a materialistic perspective - in traditional psychology, you are just a body with a mind. Only once psychology learns to actually widen that perspective will it begin to be able to help people.
But since we are in a time when you have to help yourself since the system is set up to hurt you, we have to learn this ourselves. We have to learn about our energy, learn to feel into things and follow what feels of integrity in every moment in all decisions, big to small. The more of integrity we are, meaning our energetic field is complete, the healthier we are on all levels. It is all about learning to listen to yourself again, the truth of your deepest inner being, this is the only thing that can and will actually heal you.
I utilize therapy, healing and God. My faith helps me. In moments of unreason or confusion anything someone says "posiitive" doesn't guarantee a good reactio or turn around. Everyone with BPD doesn't cope the same. My faith helps give me the hope I need to overcome & press forward through even bad times.
Who the hell is gonna read your essay 😂@@sashashaktiable
@@averyintelligence And that's exactly the reason why you can be played as you literally are every day, and literally celebrate your very state of confusion as normal, when it only is exactly where they want you to be, so they can siphon your energy. Nothing can be done without our energy. And the fact that most people believe that this were all nonsense is due to the conditioning that was implemented for the very use of keeping you ignorant to it. When you are unaware of how energy works, it can be used against you. And it is, every day. The so called elite are very well aware that we are energetic beings, that everything is consciousness, and they keep you ignorant to it on purpose, so they can use your own consciousness to deepen your state of enslavement. That you make fun of my statement only proves how lost you really are, how ignorant to actual reality, and how willing to defend the hand that holds you down. You can only see as far as your consciousness is expanded, so what purpose do you think it serves that you have been told that spirituality were all fiction, and you were nothing but your body? It is so you trap your own consciousness in a mental prison. It is a cheap trick. And you have been so easily played, yet you think you were so smart. You are supposed to think exactly that way. The irony of it all.