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Loved this & it was right on time! I’m definitely stepping all the way into my black cat era. ❤

I needed to hear this. Thank you very much.

Thanks for this

I thought my gf was secure. Very calm in good times but emotional and would cry and ask for more connection. I just sat patiently and we always seemingly worked our way through it. After the last month of our relationship being as good and sweet as ever. She just flipped and said she wants to travel and relies too much on me and I don't appreciate her enough

I resonate. Esp when it comes to my best friend spending time with other friends... I've always thought i was being selfish.

This is so helpful! I am learning a lot about healing anxious attachment but I really haven’t found something like this, very recognizable, specific and practical and knowing how to handle this will help next time it happens! Thank you I hope you have more of these examples and I hope more people find your videos! ❤

I’m going through this right now. Im the anxious attachment style and my ex is the avoidant and it’s driving me crazy 🤯

This is so helpful!! Thank you for making this! 🙏🏻

I’m the one different

They fear rejection yet reject you and run away from the relationship…this is messed up behavior and they need therapy, serious therapy

3&4. Now I understand, instead of talking about the issue he broke up with me, blocked everywhere said i’ll never hear from him again. But after 3 wks of not bothering him he unblocked first on one platform, then after few days on the other but he didn’t reach out. What’s the meaning of that? Will he ever reach out?

My avoidant ex unblocks me after 3 wks, but not reach out. Why is that? Will they ever reach out?

Why does the anxious person always has to conform for the avoidant ? Why can’t the avoidant understand that their actions are hurtful

Wow that's pretty much on them, I have dealt with this but I just brushed it off as it's a waste of my time and it has got boring. Thank you for this love

This is amazing! Really summed up the protest behaviours of my ex-partner well

this episode was so needed! Thank you both for sharing so much value and knowledge. This is exactly the topics I was digging into lately and this brings it all together for me.

This was really helpful ❤

the not just pulling away but also pushing away is so real

please try and add video dividers :)

insightful

Excellent helpful video

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I'm so glad that I found your video.I realised even though I'm saying that I'm prioritising myself I'm not doing it actually.I really need to heal the inner me.I shouldn't search validation from others I need to do that myself.

Terrific talk, very enlightening

Absolutely! I can relate to all 4….😢

Oh my gosh, get to the point! I turned it off halfway through.

Interesting

Thanks i never knew i was screwing everything up

I didn't realize I had this until I tried starting dating again 10 years after my divorce. Took me 10 years to date again. I should have known I had issues. I realized I had an issue but I had already pushed her away. Knowing that you have pushed someone away, is there a way to salvage the relationship without risking pushing them away farther? Is there any action or anything to be said? Or just give it time and hope that they reach out. They still respond to me but very infrequently and our conversations never have any depth anymore. Should I just move on knowing that I need to work on myself?

I thought for some reason other autistic people would be easier to communicate with; and to some degree they are... but what I've found is that it's just a smattering of everyday society, but autistic. I've even found autistic narcissists. For some reason I thought things would be different with other neurodivergent folks. It's not. I'm really tired of people who have one set of rules for themself, and one set of rules for everyone else.

Thank you for this. It can be really frustrating. I have ADHD and I am still early for appointments but have had friends down the years who have really taken the "Michael".

Just get a dog. Problem solved! I'm actually so tired of people

I use to let bf run over me and then blame them, but it was me not setting boundaries...i felt too guilty doing so. A meditation book called 30 Days to Overcome Guilt by Harper Daniels helped and the Tao Te Ching. Letting people come and go without expectation has opened up a lot of good things.

This video was by far the best one I’ve watched about this topic of healing, the anxious attachment style. You are so gifted and I’m grateful you’re giving your gift to the world like this. Very helpful.

GREAT content! Dealing with a tsunami of emotions in a 10 yr relationship with a DA and in the last year I have become more AA than I thought was possible. I never knew of attachment styles and WOW, 😮 once you realize what’s what, it becomes so much clearer. It’s definitely a roller coaster of emotions! Keep up the good work and THANK YOU for reaching out to the masses with this information!

Couple of slaps does the trick

so much hits home with this, i really need to work on this

You have a great channel! Thank you

Thank you! Great information

I dooo see differences and start to feel like that... because changes in patterns usually do mean they are doing something else. And is it wrong to want someone to contact you daily if you're in a relationship?

My ex was clingy and deeply in love with me for 6 months. It started fast. We had an incredibly loving relationship. She is my person. After the holidays (we both had gone to visit family for a week) we met up and she had fear in her eyes and I could see a lot of anxiety built up in her and she kissed me then dumped me. She complained about several things that didn’t bother her before such as our age difference and my kid but also saying she feared what her family might think about us. She was very affectionate for the next several hours after saying she never wanted to see me again then she left and was cold. I tried to talk to her a couple times that week but it didn’t go well. I spoke to her six weeks later and she was just angry that I kept trying to win her back. She said me contacting her gave her so much anxiety but we really didn’t have a volatile relationship. We had a pretty healthy relationship. She talked casually about eloping with me years from now and having kids. She was head over heels for me constantly spamming me with I love yous which I reciprocated. Now she sees me as the source of her anxiety. I didn’t understand why. She would say it hurt when she missed me and we weren’t together. I would tell her that she had me and I wouldn’t leave her. I guess she never believed me. I wish she would come back and try to work through the issues.

Thank you so Much you educated me so much

I thought I did the work but when the relationship started everything came back

I am fearful-anxious, pre-occupied, secure, and insecure attachment styles. I deal with depression and anxiety, and I ruined my almost three year relationship

OMG yes! The fact that I'm abandoning myself, that really hit home. Thank you!

I ruined my 5 year relationship this past year doing every thing you warned against

I REALLY NEEDED this today!! Thank you!!

These were great!

Good video

1. slow it down in dating, do not abandon yourself 2. learn how to self-sooth, exercise, meditate, breathwork ... 3. mind your believes 4. keep your focus on you