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Coach Amy Chambers
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Amy Chambers is a Mindset and Success Coach, Leadership Consultant, #1 Bestselling Author, Trainer, and Speaker.
Amy spent 21 years working in financial services, holding every position from teller to Chief Operating Officer (COO). She's led hundreds of people to success. She is obsessive about leadership, talent, culture, mindset, and happiness. She's published two #1 bestselling books including 7 V.I.R.T.U.E.S of Exceptional Leaders and 6 H.AB.I.T.S. of Powerful People. Both are available on her website and/or Amazon.
Here, Amy shares her proven strategies to creating joy, fulfillment, success, and results in all areas of life.
Amy did her undergraduate work at the University of Notre Dame and her MBA at USC.
In her free time, Amy is a passionate marathon runner. She's run 13,000 miles in the last 8 years, completing 12 full marathons and 230 half-marathons. She's an avid skier, tennis player, cyclist and rollerblader. She loves traveling, scrapbooking, and photography.
Amy spent 21 years working in financial services, holding every position from teller to Chief Operating Officer (COO). She's led hundreds of people to success. She is obsessive about leadership, talent, culture, mindset, and happiness. She's published two #1 bestselling books including 7 V.I.R.T.U.E.S of Exceptional Leaders and 6 H.AB.I.T.S. of Powerful People. Both are available on her website and/or Amazon.
Here, Amy shares her proven strategies to creating joy, fulfillment, success, and results in all areas of life.
Amy did her undergraduate work at the University of Notre Dame and her MBA at USC.
In her free time, Amy is a passionate marathon runner. She's run 13,000 miles in the last 8 years, completing 12 full marathons and 230 half-marathons. She's an avid skier, tennis player, cyclist and rollerblader. She loves traveling, scrapbooking, and photography.
DEALING WITH A NARCISSIST? 6 THINGS YOU CAN DO. #narcissism #narcissist
Dealing with a narcissist? Try these six things. They come from my own research and experimentation, and all six of have helped me.
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7 WAYS TO SHOW YOURSELF LOVE (Even if you don't think you're deserving or worthy). #selflove
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As a child, I was not taught to love myself. I wasn't taught to respect, trust, or listen to myself either. I wasn't taught to care for myself and have compassion for myself. Instead, I as taught to people-please, say yes to everything, and worry greatly about how I looked and what other people thought of me. It took conscious effort and a lot of reprogramming and reparenting to begin taking ac...
NARCISSISM: FIVE THINGS you DON'T do when dealing with a NARCISSIST. #narcissism #narcissist
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NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is a real thing and it's often VERY painful for others to be around. Today, it seems the term "narcissism" is thrown around a LOT (and often, casually). When I began to learn more about narcissism and the behaviors that narcissistic individuals typically identify, I realized that my own mother is a textbook case. These are just my own findings, but from m...
NARCISSISM: Things you'll notice when dealing with a true NARCISSIST. #narcissism #narcissist
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NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is a real thing and it's often VERY painful for others to be around. Today, it seems the term "narcissism" is thrown around a LOT (and often, casually). When I began to learn more about narcissism and the behaviors that narcissistic individuals typically identify, I realized that my own mother is a textbook case. Recognizing the symptoms usually helps us ...
WANT TO MAKE MORE #money? Get #promoted? Move up at work? Then you MUST be doing these three things!
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If you want to be MORE VALUED at work, you MUST be doing these three things. During my corporate career of 21 years, all SIX of the companies I worked for valued these THREE THINGS in its employees. If you weren't doing these three things or thinking about these three things, you will NOT get promoted or invited you to have a more central seat at the table (at least, not repeatedly). I always s...
I was NOT taught to enjoy life as a kid. Instead, I was taught to worry. It was never good "ENOUGH".
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I grew up thinking I wasn't ENOUGH. As a child, never felt like I was good enough, had enough, mattered enough. As an adult, I never thought I made enough. I chased bigger jobs, bigger promotions, and bigger titles. This created an endless amount of worry and stress. Here's what I've since learned. #anxiety #stress #childhoodtrauma #successmindset #calm #trustyourjourney #loveyourself #loveyour...
Things aren't BAD. Things aren't good. they're NEUTRAL. It's YOU that gives them MEANING.
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Things in life are NOT good or bad. They're not right or wrong. They're NEUTRAL. Almost NOTHING in life has meaning, until WE get involved and INTERPRET them. That's an incredible power...but most of us don't use it to our advantage. In fact, most of us tend to us is to our DISADVANTAGE. We choose to get offended and angered when we don't need to. We make poor assumptions and draw foregone conc...
FEAR is a REAL THING. Fear is a POWERFUL motivator. What is fear stopping YOU from doing? ONE TRICK.
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FEAR is a REAL THING. Fear is a POWERFUL motivator. What is fear stopping YOU from doing? ONE TRICK.
You are NOT for EVERYONE. And, EVERYONE is NOT for YOU. Who we surround ourselves with MATTERS.
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You are NOT for EVERYONE. And, EVERYONE is NOT for YOU. Who we surround ourselves with MATTERS.
I used to spend 90% of time in the wrong quadrant. It affected my whole LIFE. Here's what I learned.
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FOUR SUCCESS QUOTES THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR MINDSET (and your life). Churchill, Edison, and Lombardi.
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#success #successmindset #successmotivation #successquotes #successtips
What's the best piece of LIFE ADVICE you've ever gotten? My dad gave me great advice when I was 5.
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What's the best piece of LIFE ADVICE you've ever gotten? My dad gave me great advice when I was 5.
A deadly, relationship KILLER. You can't have a healthy, happy relationship if you also do THIS.
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Want a happy, healthy relationship? Then you can't do THIS. The most important and heartfelt lessons we often learn in life happen the hard way: from our own mistakes and failings. This lesson is one of those for me. In past relationships (and even in the early years of my current one), I tried to do this. It NEVER worked. Most relationships fail because of contempt. Partners develop contempt f...
5 simple ways to JUMPSTART your MOOD and pull yourself out of a FUNK!
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"Success is NOT a straight line." We hear this all the time, but how many of us actually INTERNALIZE it, and live by it? Before writing my books, I imagined that the process would be NOTHING by easy, fun, and exciting. Boy, was I wrong! There was SOME of that (plenty!) but there were also several mistakes and setbacks along the way. There were times I felt like I was failing. There were times I...
Struggling to manage your time? Here's THREE SIMPLE THINGS you can do to get back in CONTROL.
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Are you struggling to manage your time? If so, I have good news for you: In today's Transformation Tuesday video, I share THREE THINGS you can start TODAY that WILL make a material difference in how much time you have- GURANTEED. But first, ask yourself: Do you have enough time for the following buckets? Or, are some falling short? 🥡Career and professional growth 🥡Personal development (includin...
Hardback Books for 6 H.A.B.I.T.S. are FINALLY starting to arrive! Got few test copies so far!
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Hardback Books for 6 H.A.B.I.T.S. are FINALLY starting to arrive! Got few test copies so far!
Don't get me wrong. I don't dislike Valentines Day. But I'd like us to consider these TWO THINGS 1st
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Don't get me wrong. I don't dislike Valentines Day. But I'd like us to consider these TWO THINGS 1st
I never knew I'd write a book. Then, I wrote TWO. NEVER, EVER stop believing in the power of dreams.
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I never knew I'd write a book. Then, I wrote TWO. NEVER, EVER stop believing in the power of dreams.
Huge PET PEEVE of mine...and how I overcome it!
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Huge PET PEEVE of mine...and how I overcome it!
Don't make goals for the new year until you do this one thing FIRST.
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Don't make goals for the new year until you do this one thing FIRST.
Do things you don't FEEL like doing. Do it scared, tired, bored, or anxious. Do it ANYWAY. Just DO.
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Do things you don't FEEL like doing. Do it scared, tired, bored, or anxious. Do it ANYWAY. Just DO.
I've launched my second book! Please help the 6 H.A.B.I.T.S. become a #1 Amazon bestseller OVERALL!
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I've launched my second book! Please help the 6 H.A.B.I.T.S. become a #1 Amazon bestseller OVERALL!
"Their chosen response is NOT YOUR problem. Their chosen response is THEIR problem." Remember that.
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"Their chosen response is NOT YOUR problem. Their chosen response is THEIR problem." Remember that.
Lose Your Job? Here's several things you can DO about it instead of just feeling sorry for yourself.
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Lose Your Job? Here's several things you can DO about it instead of just feeling sorry for yourself.
GREAT RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. Before learning this, all my relationships ended. It changed EVERYTHING!
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GREAT RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. Before learning this, all my relationships ended. It changed EVERYTHING!
Want to feel HAPPIER? Have more JOY? Then you MUST be doing this simple practice EVERY MORNING.
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Want to feel HAPPIER? Have more JOY? Then you MUST be doing this simple practice EVERY MORNING.
ALL THINGS ARE CREATED TWICE. How good are YOU at PROACTIVELY imagining your FUTURE REALITY?
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ALL THINGS ARE CREATED TWICE. How good are YOU at PROACTIVELY imagining your FUTURE REALITY?
We LOVE seeing vulnerability in others. We HATE seeing it in OURSELVES." Last week's mental struggle
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We LOVE seeing vulnerability in others. We HATE seeing it in OURSELVES." Last week's mental struggle
I don't have a lot of PET PEEVES, especially professionally. But this is ONE OF THEM.
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I don't have a lot of PET PEEVES, especially professionally. But this is ONE OF THEM.
I've finished writing and editing my SECOND BOOK!! It's COMING SOON to a bookstore near you!
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I've finished writing and editing my SECOND BOOK!! It's COMING SOON to a bookstore near you!
wow look at all those medals> what are they about?
Ahh, thanks for asking! They’re race medals! I’m an avid runner. 230+ half marathons and 12 full marathons in the last 9 years!
@@coachamychambers2001 omg you are a machine... i oughta pray for half that will and endurance... wow
@@jevans1805 awww, thanks! It’s definitely a huge passion for me!
Good point! Who isn't a Narcissist these days? Seems as if there's a disorder out there for everyone. Anyone can fling one at anyone else. And thats the problem. Psychology's DSM manual is getting fatter and fatter. The current FADS in the field of Psychology are to: 1. "invent" new terminology, mostly by: 2. SUB-dividing/splitting already existing disorders into sub-types. Again, I feel, somebody out there, probably some youtuber or someone new in the professional field, is trying-too-hard to "get famous". Its not enough to either have Narcissim, or not. Are You O-vert? CO-vert? something else? How many "attachment-styles" were there in 2005? How many are there now? And then, there's the "autism SPECTRUM" which appears to be ssoooo broad, that we can ask: who CANT be "on the Spectrum"? And so what happens with ALL of that? The answer is: At this rate, yer fast on yer way to have another revised DSM manual thats gonna be about 3500pgs! Yeah, have fun with that! There's a disorder for everything. Anybody can fling one at anyone else! Are you really a domineering Narcissist?- OR- are you simply accused of it by a passive-aggressive who pushes all of your buttons and then labels you that when you finally explode? Which is it? Or-- Are you "too nervous", cant-sit-still, restless? or are you someone normal who like to get out and enjoy Life but is accused by either an Agorophobic or Avoidant personality person? Again, which is it? Both asides can accuse the other. Are you really OCD? or just told you are by a slob you live with who resists even any basic way of being organized around the house and says everything is "No big deal" (the problem is, they usually have 6 or 7 other things, too, that are also "no big deal"? Which is it? Who's right? And then-- It gets worse. You decide to see who's right and find out "which is it", and so: you go to therapist.....only to discover, they wont say who's right, even after listening to both parties. Why not? Because psychology very often slams YOU (if you want an swer) with: "wellll, that's Black-n-White thinking" as if anything definite at all is some psychological "sin". So you stop that, and instead try going to a marriage counselor......this time, only to find, all-too-typically, they will believe and say that it "takes two to Tango", as if no couple could ever have one person being "Off" on some particular issue and the other person actually being reasonable. Nope. You will very likely both be assigned half the Blame (all in the name of the counselor, even after hearing both of you, be "unbiased"), so you both leave, and fight all the way home and the conflict rages on. A total waste of money. But you may hear that "there are deeper issues at work here, which will need further exploration." Ka-CHINNG! $ $ $ $ Meanwhile, that DSM is growing fatter and fatter. Time was, when the 4 "Big ones" (disorders) were: Anxiety Depression Schizophrenia Delusional or violent Psychotics. Those, covered ALOT. But we also have: Bi-Polar/Unstable Bordelines/PTSD's Obsessive-Compulsives Depemdent personality disorder People who walk angrily down the sidewalk yelling/blabbing at nobody Agoraphobics Narcissists Introverts with "Flattened affect" People who get revelations or messages from God, fairly often people who have Anhedonia. Doesn't this list cover about 96% ? So, we might add 3 or 4 more things. But seriously, does society REALLY need any more than about 15-16 Disorders? Psychology needs an "overhaul", more simplicity, less hair-splitting sub-categories, and "Back to Basics". #Psychology #Therapy #Disorders #Counseling ...and, PS-- After spending, say, ever since 1970 trying to get people to be: MORE Assertive Productive Confident Less of a people pleaser and "Learning-to-say-No"........now, when you fiiiiinally get there....now, along comes a NEW "disorder" that you may get slammed with called PDA (Personal Demand Avoidance). Gawwd, the irony! More Proof that the whole field is in a Shambles. Is it even possible to buy an old DSM 1 or 2 anymore? share this. Thanks for Reading
A kind that's dying to be possessed by demons
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Thanks so much!!
Thank you. This is very helpful.
I’m so glad!
He uses my financial hardship as a tool of manipulation. I am the cause of his problems. Calling me the worst thing that happened to him one day and the next day I am so beautiful and wonderful. He is the "I know it all, and I do everything wrong.
Definitely been there. Seems like it's common for narcissists to "love bomb" when you're doing things they way they'd like or when they're in a good mood and pleased with your performance: "you're so beautiful and wonderful", but then say the opposite when they want/need something from you. I've heard that's because love is often "transactional" for narcissists; it's based on individuals things you say and do; not more of an unconditional state. So, there's lots of ups and downs which all stem on whether or not they feel they're getting what THEY need. This roller-coaster can keep the recipient trapped and in a constant cycle of rushing around trying to please them, or do whatever it takes to get the compliments and love back again, which erodes self-confidence and prevents the recipient from leaving or walking away.
Calling them out Is the torture 😢😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
They think they god Lmao ❤give Em the truth
Lmao 😂they hate the truth ❤
Absolutely. Many live in their own stories and narratives of "truth", which often don't align with reality.
great content. thanks i needed this today
Oh I’m so glad!!
Happy Talk about narcissists 😊. Good Spirit !
I have Given And Given. Its Ripping My Heart Out but its High Time I WALK.
I’m so sorry to hear things didn’t work out. Taking care of OURSELVES and our OWN mental and emotional health (over others) is THE most important thing we can do. I KNOW It’s hard in the moment, but I do believe there’s a strong chance you’ll look back later and be so glad you did. Wishing you the very best of luck as you navigate the process!
My take on dealing wirh a narcissist is know your truth and don't engage.
Wow, you said that very well! Extremely well-articulated.
@@coachamychambers2001 Thank you. Learned from costly experience. As they say, experience is the best teacher.
How do I deal with my brother's wife, she told my brother if I don't do what she wants (money). She will not let me see my brother. I have been no contact going on 5 months. My brother just folds every time. He is definitely afraid of her. I miss him
Gosh, that's tough. Disclaimer: I certainly don't have all the answers; these are just some personal thoughts. Do you know how HE feels about their relationship? It can be tough to watch another couple's relationship from afar, and feel it's toxic or unhealthy. But ultimately, the two people IN the relationship have to decide how THEY feel about it. My guess is you're unlikely to be successful in urging him to make different decisions if, ultimately, HE doesn't feel there's a problem or isn't aware of it. I wish I knew a way to help people change if they, themselves, don't see a need for change, but I don't. We can't want others to change more than THEY want it themselves. I don't know if there's a way to access/communicate with him (without her involvement) but I do feel that getting some alone time with him (so you can at least share your concerns), is really necessary. At least you can openly share that you feel he's afraid and see how HE feels about it. The words "will not LET" are fairly telling. Usually, grown adults don't need a partner's permission to see people they care about. I'm very sorry that you're going through this.
Thank you, my parents would give them money just to see the grandkids. It was awful to watch. Both my parents passed, the kids are now adults. The only person she has to use is my brother. I can go no contact, he has to live with her. That has to be hell.
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Hah, hopefully they continue to grow!
My husband doesn’t respect my boundaries no matter how hard I push
Gosh, I'm so sorry to hear that. Is there someone you can talk to you about this? I've found that having a mentor or therapist we can trust is so helpful as we figure out how to take care of ourselves, especially when we're in difficult relationships.
@@coachamychambers2001 I can try but I am really embarrassed to talk about it
@@alyssachausse6752 I understand. Thank you for sharing that so bravely and vulnerably. I definitely encourage you to start there (dealing with the feelings of embarrassment and trying to understand where that comes from). Based on what you've shared, I'd argue that this is a very important time for you to LOVE yourself, CONNECT with yourself, and stay with yourself. Feeling any embarrassment, guilt, or shame is so common. And yet, these feelings rarely serve us. They tend to keep us stuck. We sometimes forget that we have CHOICES in how we feel. You can choose to be proud of yourself for noticing this pattern with your husband, and wanting something to change. You can choose courage, and bravery (in seeking help or information). You can choose to believe that these situations are common, and you're not alone, so there's no reason to be embarrassed. You can choose to believe you're worthy of respect and love- starting with the respect and love you give YOURSELF. I do know this is all easier said than done, but we can do hard things! (I wrote about all this in my second book, 6 H.A.B.I.T.S. of Powerful People). I do believe you're strong enough to do the work! I am so glad you're here, finding some support on the web. This is a great first step!
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Oh, I'm so happy you're here and found value in this! Just published another video on 6 things you CAN try or do. These have been very helpful for me.
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They often try to ask you the same questions over and over to break you down to change your boundaries. If you do it once they will keep it up . One said I was just clarifying, "RIGHT "
I've absolutely seen this!! Often, it accomplishes two things. 1) It can wear others down. They become exhausted and eventually give up; deeming it easier to concede than continue an ongoing discussion that the narcissist isn't making it easy to leave. 2) It can cause others to doubt themselves and their real desires, wishes, and wants. When we repeatedly get asked the same question, we can start to second-guess the validity of our thinking and answers. ("Maybe I don't really want or need this; maybe I'm being selfish?"). It's almost like repeatedly looking at the answer you circled on a test- the more you rethink it, the likelier you are to change it. Agree wholeheartedly that if you begin breaking boundaries (even once), you're in for future troubles.
That’s so awesome! Agreed- some of the best advice ever, for so many reasons! Saves you an incredible amount of time! My dad used to say: “The truth will set you free.” Never forgot that.
Dad told me: Don’t lie!!! Best advice ever!
Thank you for your content
Of course! You're very welcome!
Thank you !! I've been married to my husband for thirty plus yrs and I've known he was exactly how you described here but never knew this was narcissism, and it has been hell mostly because he couldn't possibly think he was like what you describe, word for word. Which is just another symptom of this condition. I would write more but am really tired, maybe later.
Gosh, I'm so sorry to hear this. I know how very tough it is to be in a relationship with someone who acts this way. It's interesting how many of them act exactly the same, "word for word", as you say. I can't tell you how many videos I've also watched by strangers and thought "WOW. SPOT ON. It's like they're talking about the same person in MY life." What I have found is that recognizing it can be a very helpful first step to managing it better. I wish you all the best with this.
Thank you that was great, so greatful you have explained this well and concisely ❤️
Thank so much! That means the world to me! I just published Part 2 of this series. Hope that's helpful too!
Thank you! How do you deal with someone who expects to be admired and adored all the time? It's exhausting 😫
So true! Exhausting INDEED! And most of them have zero idea they're so needy in that way (or that other people don't need that). Many of them are unable to self-validate.
Respectfully, while it may appear that your mother's constant pressuring was meant for your good - I think she was masking her own anxieties of not living up to her own potential in her younger life, and also a deeper seated fear of being judged by other people.
How perceptive of you! Yes, her mother did this same thing to her. It was NEVER good enough. In one rare moment, my mom once recounted a story of a piano concert, where she played beautifully, and many strangers commented on her performance. When she got home, her mom (my grandmother) chewed her out, saying, "You were slouching the WHOLE TIME. I was so ashamed and embarrassed of you up there." WOW. No wonder she internalized these sorts of responses and then passed them onto me. I actually believe she grew up with more childhood trauma than I did. In short- you are SPOT ON. Great insight.
Coach Amy, did we secretly have the same parents? 😆
Too funny! But sadly, from what I know, our story is VERY common!
Here from the Netherlands, and so relatable(i think i write is good :)) Always worry my mom, and not so relaxed, she meant it well. But my mother in law is also so, but she is it because she want the perfect family and perfect picture.
Thanks for sharing! Yes, the focus on perfection is such a tough (But common thing!). Sadly, the pursuit of perfection often leads to a lot of anxiety, worry, and unhappiness (The opposite of perfection). Focusing on progress, effort, growth, development is often far more enjoyable than the focus on perfection. Sending you much love!
You're a little bit manic, don't you think?
Ignore those living in their prisons of insecurity. Choose freedom and be yourself! Enjoy life
Wow, that is worded SO WELL! "Prisons of insecurity"- it really IS a prison! Thanks for the powerful metaphor.
God's blessings and healing to all Amen 🍀🙏😇😇🙏😇🙏
Thanks much!
This was so good!!!
Oh, I'm so glad you liked it! This made my day! Thank you!
OMG, I can so relate! My Mom worked on an ambulance and our dinner conversations went something like,"Did you know that you can choke to death our your own phlemn?" And, "don't ever ride a motorcycle because we scaraped a guys brains up from his skull after he hit a telephone pole".. Everything I wanted to do was met with her stating, "You can DIE from that". I was ridiculed at 5 for crying over Bambi in the movie theater, and critisized when I brought home a B+ because, "I know you can get an A if you only apply yourself.When I got a Masters degree at the age of 50, she was "too busy" to go to my graduation.(She always wanted me to be a singer and I "wasted my beautiful voice".I grew up to see danger in everything and everyone.My dysregulated nervous system from years of constant cortisol made life a living Hell. After years of therapy, I am SO much better now, but boy was I a mess for most of my life.
Wow, thank you for sharing all this so vulnerably and specifically! I SO enjoyed reading this. I can vividly see her coming home from the ambulance job and saying these things. You write so well! I can relate to what you say about seeing danger in everything and everyone. Yep, same. Didn't play sports because I could injure myself. Was taught to jiggle the door handle about 10X when I left the house to "make sure it was locked"- then constantly fret about it afterwards. Couldn't quit or leave a bad job because I "might not get another one". My mom taught me to distrust anyone that tried to help me because "it might be too good to be true" or they might "be up to something". I am so happy that you have taken all these steps to HEAL yourself and RECOVER. It is heartbreaking to hear that she was "too busy" to come to your graduation and ridiculed you for your normal, natural feelings even at the tender age of 5. it sounds like she's created her own hell (for herself) and passed it onto you. She seems to be focused primarily on herself and driven by her emotions. I am so very sorry for all the lost/wasted years where the fear of danger affected you so deeply but so thrilled to hear that you've found better response systems, beliefs, paradigms for you to live your own life on your own terms. BRAVO!!!
Last night, while I was sleeping, I swallowed by phlemn and it almost got stuck in my throat and I almost choked. That never happened to me before. Yeah, I spent my entire High School years stressed and worried about having to earn an A on every single exam, which I often did, but it did not prepare me for a good career and did not teach me how to earn a decent living. I'm 52 years old now with health problems like high blood pressure, diabetes, and heart disease. I did not have to worry about those when I was in high school and my 20's.
@@Mr.NoName1972 I'm so sorry to hear about your health difficulties. You're absolutely right- great grades in school (by themselves) don' NECESSARILY set us up for a fulfilling life, complete with a career we're passionate about. Those conversations (about mindset, mental health, and emotional wellbeing) are not always taught in homes or schools. That's why I'm so committed to the info I share on this channel! I wish you all the best in all you're going through.
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So glad you enjoyed this!
No wonder Therapists and counselors recommend little or no contact with such a one. How can it be otherwise? I know it's sometimes easier said than done, but I see why, having gone through this with a narcissistic mom and dad why Therapists and counselors recommend little or no contact with such a one.
It really is a sad truth. I've struggled greatly with this. I've always had this belief that everyone can change anything about themselves at any time (outside of set characteristics like height). But this only can happen if the person WANTS to change. Most narcissists don't. Due to the nature of the condition, it's very hard for them to accept they could or should change anything about themselves. I've finally accepted that change is unlikely, and low contact is probably the best way to go. You're very right- "how could it be otherwise?". There's not a lot of other great options.
Yes. Get out. Stay out and don't look back!
I resonated with this. I’m finally slowing down @40. Great content🤍
That is great! Congratulations! And, same. I'm 41, and finally figuring it all out too! It's been a tough road getting here, but SO worth it!!!
Hey this was really good coach Amy. I have a question on the opposite end of the spectrum that clearly you could tackle in a video. How does a person love themselves? Especially if you do not think you are deserving, but know that its clearly something you need, in order to have a healthy self image.
Thanks so much! I'd LOVE to tackle the topic of how we can love ourselves (even if we think we're not deserving). Per your request, I'll make that video next week and share it on this channel! There are a hundred ways for us to do this, and I can share several ways!!! But, in the meantime, I touch on this a BIT in the following video that also came out this past week. ua-cam.com/video/nLi8ssndDJg/v-deo.html Starting around 2:15, I start talking about some of the practices I follow and questions I ask myself- which have ALL led to me loving myself more. This is a start.
@@coachamychambers2001 wow excellent. I will watch. It occurred to me, the 'deserving" piece is part of it, but also, how do you love yourself without feeling like a narcissist. I get a negative visceral reaction hearing someone say the words "i love myself" and/ Or saying the words about myself. I know I cant be alone in this. That was a side note. THANK YOU so kindly for reading the comment. Cant wait for the next video. So glad I found you.
@@stocksconfidential8862 I did make the video before I happened to see your clarifying comment (loving yourself without FEELING like a narcissist). So, this video is just about loving yourself if you don't feel you deserve love. Very sorry it didn't quite address your question. ua-cam.com/video/Wakgrej0FGk/v-deo.html
@@stocksconfidential8862 Now, that I've seen the updated question with more of what you were really asking, here's my thoughts on that specifically: You can't love anyone else more or better than you know how to (And choose to) love YOURSELF. You can't pour from an empty cup. So loving yourself isn't vain or selfish, it's what makes your ability to love and serve others POSSIBLE. You need to be whole and complete to then pass along love to others. It's why airplanes tell us to put our OWN masks on FIRST....THEN help others.
@@coachamychambers2001 Do you take insurance? How do you charge for sessions?
I'm pretty sure both parents are narcissists. After watching this
So sorry to hear that. The "family member" I described in the video is, in fact, my mother. Really tough to grow up with one (or two!) narcissistic parents, that much I know. Sending you all my best as you navigate your chosen responses (the only part you can control).
@coachamychambers2001 thank you for the well wishes. Choosing the correct response is half the fun!
This was very accurate! Thank you ❤
Thanks so much! I've spent several years in research and observation mode, and these are just my findings! I'm so glad they resonated.
This is one of the best videos on this subject that I have seen- and I’ve seen a lot! Thank you.
WOW, I can't tell you how much that means to me! You made my day! (I've also watched MANY videos and read MANY books- then matched them up with my interactions with others). And this is where I landed, haha.
Thank you! I needed to hear this...
I'm so glad this was helpful! Best of luck with any decisions you need to make! :)
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I love this video! This popped up on my suggestions at the perfect time❤️ #new subbie!
Great reminders Amy, thanks for the always insightful and positive nuggets of wisdom shared!
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