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Ahh thank you. Still working on that creative block 😂 hopefully can build up some momentum again soon. I’m resigned to needing a nappy bag until the kids are 16 🤣🤣

Ahh thank you for your kind words. That’s exciting to hear you are considering home Ed. I know it is a big leap if your kids have already been in school. I don’t know much about the laws around home Ed in northern island so it would be worth reading up on them. That’s interesting to hear about kids repeating years in Poland. I think there would be so much stigma around it if kids have to repeat a year here, but I really don’t think it should be. You’re right, no system I perfect. Although the Finnish system is always hailed as getting it mostly right. Wish you lots of luck in your journey if you decide to home Ed or not. Keep us posted if you like 💜

@@MrsGemmaAndrews oh wow thank you so much for your kind words - made my day! So exciting to hear you are starting your Home Ed journey and hope the time at school hasn’t been too difficult for you all 💜 I’m glad I’m not the only one loving this bag - I can see a whole group of Home Ed Mum’s walking around with it in the future 😄 Wishing you all the best. Keep us posted how it goes for you if you like. Oh and I’ll be subscribing to your channel too; always love a bit of budgeting! 😄 xx

@@nurturingdiscontent Aww, thank you so much! 💜 Honestly, your videos have given me such a boost as we take the plunge into home ed-school has been a real rollercoaster, but we’re ready for this new chapter! Haha, I love the idea of a group of Home Ed mums rocking the same bag-let's make it a thing! 😄 I’ll definitely keep you posted, and can't wait to share the journey. And yay, welcome to my little channel too-I’m all about budgeting and finding those hidden gems! xx

@@MrsGemmaAndrews hope you have a fab week! 💜

Thanks for sharing your story. Sounds like it was a difficult time for you. You're right, even that relatively short time ago any sort of neurodivergence was so less understood. The one-size-fits-all model is still ongoing and still leaving a lot of kids feeling like they are failures. There was a line I read in a book (really can't remember which one atm) which was very comforting. Something along the lines of "you can rest assured if your child is struggling at school it's the fault of the school system and not your child" something along those lines anyway. I'll try and dig it out!

Hey Suzy. Sorry for slow reply. Sending hugs and support. It sounds like you are going through a tough time. Hope you have someone close to you that you can talk to about everything. I know school can be a struggle for a lot of kids. You are not alone in that!

Hello! Sorry for being slow to get back to you. I always tend to recommened HEFA (home education for all) facebook group as the first point of call for general home ed infor/advice/support and then searching on FB 'home educatin + [your local area] to find meet-ups and meet local families/find out what's going on in your area. Hope that helps!

Hey Jenny. So sorry for my slow reply. Obviously, I'm gutted to hear that my videos are making you feel sad and completely not my intention but I can understand why they would if you are generally feeling sad about sending your kids to school. The reality is, if my Husband lost his job I could very easily find myself in your position and would feel the same. I hope my videos criticising certain things about the school system can just help to open people's eyes and if their child is in the school system either opt out of certain things or teach their child that these 'rewards' etc don't define their value as a person. I completely agree that there should be more flexibility in parents choosing to take their child out of school at certain times. I'm sure you've heard of flexischooling, although it can be quite hard to find schools that offer it from what I hear. Could be worth looking into if it would fit your current circumstances though? I should imagine in mainstream schools that if you consistently take your child out of school early, then the school will take some sort of action. As to whether it's illegal to do so, I'm not 100% sure I'm afraid. I will definitely try to look at making videos on balancing work and home ed, although my personal experience is somewhat limited as i've not been working and I'm hoping to make money working self-employed with flexible hours. But I have friends that do manage to make part-time employed work work around home ed. Having the support of family near by obviously helps a lot. I will ask around some more! Really hope you are doing ok. xxx

@@Brainreaver79 yeh that makes sense given the context you’re talking about. Thanks for sharing!

Thank you, and to you!

Hey, sorry for slow reply. Not sure I fully understand your question, so please correct me if I'm wrong. There should be no reason social workers would be involved over choosing to home educate unless they already have contact with you, or for other reasons unrelated to home ed

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💯 Couldn’t let that happen!

Hey! Big congrats on starting your youtube journey! I always refer people to the HEFA facebook group as first point of call. So much info and the admins are brill. I would also recommened joining your local area home ed facebook group. My video on how to start home ed may help, as I talk about facebook groups in that - ua-cam.com/video/mmzo746a_v0/v-deo.html

Hello! Thanks for taking the time to comment and share about your little one; she sounds great! Brilliant that you are aware of home ed while she is so young and have a path in mind that you want to take for her education. Wish you all the best on the journey!

So we’ve been led to believe!

Hey Mathew thanks for watching. Hope school is going well. Doing GCSEs as a home educated student it absolutely possible, and many children do them this way, but any GCSEs taken have to be self-funded. My children are still young so I don't have too much knowledge on GCSEs in this respect I'm afraid. You could take a look at the @yesyoucanhomeeducate channel as she has children who have sat GCSEs, or I would receommend joining local or national home ed facebook groups to find out more. There is also a good book called Expectations vs Reality: The Home Ed Guide You Didn't Know You Needed which goes into a lot of details of Home Ed in the UK. Wish you all the best whatever route you take!

Hey thank you for watching and supporting! I always recommend the HEFA Home ed facebook group as a really great source of information and support.

Hello, thanks so much for your comment and sorry for my slow reply! Of the home ed families I've personally met so far it does largely seem to be the Mum's who originally suggest it, but I did meet a Mum recently who had to be convinced by the father of her child, so it does happen! In my situation I was definitely the one to suggest home education, my Husband comes from a very traditional schooling background so it has been quite and adjustment. Obviously I'm biased but I would absolutely raise your concerns; it's a starting point at least. There is a good podcast by a Homeschooling Dad in NZ called The Life Without School Podcast...you may find it helpful. Wish you all the best on your journey and thank you for watching and supporting!

Hello! Sorry for my slow reply. Thanks so much for sharing your experience of being homeschooled. I would love my kids to find a penpal - what a great idea! The art and design apprenticeship sounds really interesting! Hope you're doing well. All the best!

100%! That’s such a good way to put it “compliance to adult selected behaviours”!!

Woww. So sorry to hear your son went through that. Talk about shaming a kid through not fault of their own. I have to say I agree with you on the chocolate. I mean, nothing wrong with enjoying some chocolate but when it’s presented as a treat or reward I think that’s just a slippery slope. I hope he’s managed to move past the experience 💜

Hi John. Sorry for my slow reply. Wow, quite blown away by your comment. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences with us. How exciting that you’ve decided to start home educating. Would love to hear how you get on. Are you taking your kids out of school or would they just be starting? Really hope it works out for you. Best wishes to you!

Not a problem, I'm surprised you did reply, you must be run off your feet. They're 7 now, so I handed the notice of deregistration to the headteacher before the holidays, who was lovely about it to be fair and wished us all the best (and thanks for the links to the home education resources, the templates from Education Otherwise were really useful). Now there's just Wiltshire Council to engage with, who are hopefully not going to send anyone round unannounced (kudos to you for being so calm, I'm not sure I would've been as polite as you). But we have your great video on creating the home ed report so finger's crossed it all works out :)

@@JohnpaulYi yay! That’s all very exciting. I think 7 is a great age to start. Are they twins too? My twins are 7 in December. 😃 Great that you had a smooth deregistration process. Hope you’re all having the best summer! We live in Hampshire, so might not be too far away from each other depending where in Wiltshire you are. Maybe we will cross paths one day :) I’m starting to feel like we’ve had this conversation before, so sorry if I’m repeating myself. I remember someone saying they lived nearby-ish 🤣🤣 My brain!

100% and in fact I hadn’t even looked at it that way that the attendance awards are not only pushing kids to come to school when sick but could also be a cause of kids getting sick (mentally or physically)!

@@michelleheadley2911 same here really. Mum and I lived alone for my younger years and she had to go to work once I was in school full-time. She wouldn’t have even known home Ed was an option let alone be able to do it. I really feel so fortunate I became aware of it and was able to make certain sacrifices to allow me to home Ed my kids. I think for those who have to send their kids to school, or actively choose to, it’s great to be aware that some of the methods used in school considered normal should be questioned, and even if you have to put up with them explain to their kids that these types of awards don’t define their worth in anyway. Thank you for commenting and sharing your story 💜

@@nurturingdiscontent school doesn’t teach us enough. I spent 10 years learning the same handful of information about the united states. 1 semester of government wasn’t enough to learn. 3 months of home economics didn’t teach me much of anything. No study skills. I’m lucky my mom and dad worked with me after school. But there’s so much kids can learn about life and skills that schools don’t always teach. And the amount of time every week that’s dedicated to classes is so much. And yet we learn nothing. My parents worked opposite shifts. My dad worked over night and mom worked all day. My grandfather and older sister watched me. And the bullying was bad. I can understand kids needing socializing. But there has to be a better way.

Yes, i agree with you with schools not teaching us enough, and in the same breath probably too much of the wrong things. Sorry to hear the bullying was bad too; those sort of experiences stay with people for a lifetime. In respect to kids need socialising, I personally believe school is the least natural form of socialising, but that could be a topic for another day 😄

Oh wow, yeh this is exactly the sort of effects I worry these sort of schemes have. Hope you are doing well now 💜

Absolutely!! Couldn't agree more. I wonder when there will be an award for listening to your body and mind and recognising when they need a break!

Thanks for taking time to comment!

Thank you so much. I appreciate you taking the time to comment!

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Wow, absolutely love this. Thank you so much for sharing your story. What an inspiration. Going to pin this. Congratulations on all your achievements!

Thank you so much for the supportive comment it really means a lot! I also believe parents can be amazing teachers because we know our children so well and how the respond to different teaching styles/methods. All the best to you and your family too! xx

ahh thank you for the support! Yes, I love that home ed means we can put mental (and physical) health as a top priority like it should be. It's so interesting how many people don't even know home ed is an option. I was the same until my kids were about 3; I don't know how it slipped under my radar my whole life!

@@nurturingdiscontent definitely physical and metal health should be top priority. Me neither wasn't untill we were looking for other early year centres for our little one that I found out, some of your videos I showed my husband when I was telling him about the reason why you weren't sending the kiddies to school, we both completely agreed.

"The worst thing with these awards are that it’s putting responsibility on primary children for things they have very little control over." THIS!!! Yes 100% agree. It makes no sense. Yay, welcome to Home ed. I know the anxiety about getting things wrong, it's a big responsibility to take on and I'd be lying if I said I never get these feelings. I try and remind myself that there are hundreds of kids who leave school every year who don't meet the expected standards so it's far from being a home ed thing. I genuinely believe home ed can give kids a wonderful education and opportunity to be well rounded, balanced people, but it can be so hard not to let in outside (or internal) noise of what's "normal" and the right way to educate kids. It's so ingrained in our society that school is the right way to do it. Wishing you all the best on your home ed journey!

The negative comments can be hard for sure, but once you join the home ed community and find there are thousands of people who see things the same way as you, you start to feel less and less like the "weird one" for making the decision. There are lots of great answers to all the usual negative comments and I would really hope your parents and friends just want what's best for your kids like you do. Wishing you all the best!

Ohh yes! I’ve met a lot of those!! Good point 😄

Oof so sorry to hear everything you’ve all been through. It’s almost impossible to believe schools would actually do such things, and yet I hear these stories so often. It sounds like Home Ed has done wonders for you all and I’m so pleased for you. Well done Mumma your boys sound wonderful! And how great they are bilingual!! What a gift you are giving them. We are trying so hard to raise our kids with my Husband’s language but he keeps forgetting to speak it 🙈

@@nurturingdiscontent Thank you for your kind words 🥰 At first I didn't believe it myself, what my son sometimes told me was beyond human understanding. When it was confirmed by the words of the mothers I talked to (what their children told them about how my son was treated by the school). I thought then that it was my fault because I was a bad mother because I didn't believe my child. And he was so stressed and so afraid that he had to go to school the next day that he couldn't sleep and had nightmares. Before I took the children out of school completely, I started coming there often. And what I saw and heard because I wasn't expected is beyond human understanding. It's terribly sad. And it's not entirely these people's fault, this is how the so-called teaching program is constructed (and for me is indoctrination). But I think that what we experienced was so that we would trust our children more, so that I would do what was right and not what I supposedly "should". When only one of the adults works (now my husband) it is hard, but only at the beginning because all this has encouraged us to develop and it is wonderful. I guess sometimes we need a kick from life to get ourselves straight, because if we do not get right we will be kicked all the time 😉 I will add one more thing because I think it is important. In school they teach children so-called tolerance but it has nothing to do with tolerance. They keep saying that skin color is not important and then they say that it is important. You cannot say when describing someone what skin color they have or where they come from. But one thinks that they are better than the other and that their skin color, culture, religion, etc. is one thing that is good, right and proper. This is what is taught in school, this is what mainstream media convinces people. I have never looked at people this way. I looked at their actions, not the color of their skin or what their ancestors did. What is important in life is what we do, not what we say around us and what we show on social media. Actions count. I studied history in higher education and at university but not the kind of history that is taught to children in schools because I wanted to be an archaeologist. And the conclusion from this is that history is so mendacious that it makes your brain explode. It is presented to us in such a way as to divide us, so that people will never reach an agreement. You are dark-skinned, so you are told that white people enslaved you, but you are not told that these white people were also slaves and in greater numbers. The only free ones were the upper classes, who set people against each other (until now) so that they could rule this world all the time. This is the sad truth 😉 My sons are not taught by me any propaganda and omnipresent indoctrination, I teach them what is good and what is not and what is bad is hurting others or yourself and the worst thing is watching others being hurt and staying silent because it does not concern me. We have to stand up and tell the truth even if we are to be excluded because who would want to live in falsehood? Warmest greetings to you and your family, you are a good mother who loves her children very much and it shows. Don't listen to the haters, imagine how sad their lives must be that such evil is pouring out of them. 💕💕💕

wow, this is such an interesting comment. Lots to digest and look into - thank you! Firstly, had to look up the word mendacious (what a great word) so every day is a "school day" 😂 I can totally believe that the mainstream history we are taught and fed from the media is riddled with various agendas, and a lot of it is fed in a way that keeps us against each other; for as long as we are against each other the less likely we are less likely to question those in power. Loads of food for thought, thank you. And thanks again for the support! I always told myself if I'm getting negative comments I must be doing something right 😂😂

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I always have to caveat on here that I don’t blame teachers. I know there are some rotten ones but also lots of amazing ones who are limited to use their teaching skills and empathy by the system they are stuck in. Most teachers can’t teach in the way they would like to it sounds like. And I also I think there are lots of people who “do” amazing things who wouldn’t necessarily have the skills to teach that thing to others. Thanks for taking the time to comment, I really appreciate it 💜

@@nurturingdiscontent I agree with you. I’m sure there are some wonderful teachers out there. My comment was more of response to the “leave it to the professionals” comments you were reading in the beginning. Going from my personal experience in the public school system in the US and the current mood that seems to permeate the school system in North America now (I currently live in Canada), I really believe the negative outweighs the good. I also agree that the good ones are stifled from true and good teaching by the system they are stuck in. But I think all the reward systems you outlined in your video indicates that teaching by the “professionals” are questionable. (I believe the good teachers would never say something like that. They see the system for what it is-broken.)

Ahh thank you so much for your supportive words, it really means a lot. You are so right about the lack of understanding about what Home Education is. I get so many comments from people in every day life that demonstrate this and I often just think, wow I don’t have the energy to get you up to speed 🤣. It’s the difference between years of research and lived experience (us) and often never haven’t even thought about it before (the negative comments from others). Ohhh, thank you for telling me about the sort on Guillingham approach I’ve never even heard of that so will look into it. Sounds like it’s been a real success for you, so that’s encouraging. Yes, I’ve also heard of the pitfalls of “the balanced approach”. This book doesn’t actually advocate for that approach entirely (the title is probably confusing in that respect). The actually propose their own new theory/model called ‘the Double Helix of Reading and Writing’, which is very interesting. The book has certainly helped me get my head around all the different sides of “the reading wars” which was quite overwhelming. Like, who do we believe when it comes to reading?!? 🤣 Wow so sorry to hear about your friends kid who is sick. It really must give their immune systems a battering. I bet parents didn’t know whether their coming or going between schools telling them not to send their kids in over that period and now a push for attendance no matter what. Thank you for commenting; always appreciated! 💜

Ohh I love that it sparked conversation for you! 😄 I’m actually yet to hear from any parent who agrees with attendance awards, so I’m not sure why schools are persisting in this!? With the walk to school and living far away I believe people can do a ‘park and stride’, make of that what you will! 😄 Yep, collective punishment…completely agree. Kids are smart enough to know who was the one who “let the side down” and I wouldn’t want to be in that position!

My 7 year old got put on the “Attendance Watch List “ because she suffered a hernia and was off for 2 weeks ! I was fuming. Never the less she is home educated now and so happy. That was my last straw x

Wow, thank you so much for sharing all that with us. I’m so sorry you had to go through all those incidents. They obviously had an impact since you remember them in such detail. I’ve also met someone recently who took their child out of school when he said he didn’t feel like the school could keep him safe. It’s sad that schools can sometimes make children not feel safe when those adults are entrusted with their keeping them safe. It sounds like your Mum was really on your side at least and didn’t let the school walk over her. I think that’s so important for parents with kids in school to have their eyes open to these things and know that they can stand up to the school even though I know that can feel so so hard

I have similar problems, for some reasons i do get ill often during school months especially during colder months and i do miss a lot but still just fine so i get to pass. Regardless of my perfect gpa my headteacher still makes it a problem. And i don't go to the doctor everytime just because it isn't that serious, but he says i need doctor's note. Luckily, my school is 15 minutes walk from my house so i don't even wait for anyone anymore, and if i'm not feeling well i go home. It's my wellbeing, and i'm being responsible. I do think a big part of it is constant state of anxiety and stress during school so it does weaken my immune system. I do feel guilty going home when i think oh maybe i would've been fine, but again, i think it's for the better.

Ahh that's interesting, I don't remember them doing it at my school, maybe I just missed out the walk to school era, although I did also always walk to school because we lived fairly close. It's funny someone else just mentioned there were no pavements on her walk to school so literally couldn't do it. Ditto, to be fair, it's not up there specifically on the list of my reasons to home ed, but I'm glad on a whole we can avoid all these 'rewards' and I hope if my kids were in school there is an option to sort of 'opt out' of them and explain to my kids they really aren't beneficial. I heard the other day that some schools are still giving stickers if kids finish all their lunch!!!