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Don't give up

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35 and FAILED at almost all and became burden to people around me... in debt. NO MOTIVATION FOR ANYTHING , FEAR OF FAILURE TO START ANYTHING. But still dragging myself.

I'll listen closely and right through, but wanted to say that me getting a house led to the downfall of my last good relationship that could've brought all the things you're "supposed" to do in life. At that point (I bought it myself, not as a couple) the relationship deteriorated rapidly. I simply couldn't handle the pressure. I wasn't built to handle it nor seek professional help, nor could I communicate my worries to my ex in a mature way. Instead, while living together we grew apart, with resentment kicking in from both sides for different reasons. Her and I broke up in 2019 and I've not been the same since. I've never really recovered. I'm a bit older than you and feel like my life's done. So, while you feel a "lack" in a house and a relationship, I hope it helps to know that those things don't necessarily bring happiness. They're really challenging with the wrong mindset and I became destructive as a result. At this rate, there will be no new long-term relationship and certainly no family of my own. I'm going to attempt dating apps one last time and then if no good, try to find acceptance in that life hasn't worked out as I'd expected. And, you know, we're not alone by any stretch. Life is (really) hard. Edit: I made the same mistake re: distance relationship. She (mentioned above) was in uni, I was buying a house. Those two life things are incompatible. I messed up at a critical time in my life (late 20s) clinging on to a relationship that was never practical. We fucked up, man.

The way u ve made all this things in your life and u still think u self as a failure... Don't make sense it's unfair

Im failure too just things is not appealing any more

I understand you man. Life is bullshit. To be this difficult and sad and in pain and struggle this hard is beyond meaning. I dont believe in God. I tried. There's just way too much pointless. Senseless. Suffering. Meaningless. Trying to connect the dots and shit just doesn't ever work. It's debilitating. Life is just... Fucking stupid. I'm a loser too.

Its all an illusion young man. Did you slept in a warm bed, under a sound roof? Put both feet out of that bed in the morning? can you stand up? had a shower? ate a meal? your parents still in this realm? You are winning my dude. Forget all the illusionary lies society, schools, governments, tell-u-visions and social media tells you, all that really matters is you are a breathing, thinkingm feeling being and you are alive. Success is fleeting and totally subjective of your own perspective. You still have plenty of time,.... live the ONE life you get.

I hate this whole concept of winnning at life losing at life etc. LIfe is life. A man is successful lin business, makes money ,, has lots of status symbols, He is a narcissist and has no love in his heart for even his own kids. Is he a winner? You have extreme health challenges. I wish you the best. Its frustrating if you love gym and cant go to gym, You need something else. You spinal stuff is limiting you but there has to be something . Advice is easy . I dont always practtise what i preach. The employment situation is shit, you have been treated not good but then i guess your manager has to put his business first. I guess you are on morphine, valium ? Ask your doctor if you can have modafinil ,it might overrride the effects of the other drugs and give you some oomph.. I wish y9ou the best. Keep the faith. Us brothers have to be there to support each other. Its ok to be not ok , big buzz word. Problem is , you dont want to just stay there, we are encouraged to wallow in victimhood. embrace it even. Its ok to be not ok but its not ok to want to just stay there, IT sounds like you are doing your best under heavy challenges. Cut out the talk of failing, It irritates the fuck out of me and it doesnt help you .

'Good things dont happen to you'. That's Exactly how i feel too. My experiences have taught me the same thing mate.

Me too mate. 3 years older than you. No job, still at home etc i could go on. State of the uk is terrifying. Im thinking about ending my life now. I just cant be bothered anymore

I'm 3 years older than you and in exactly the same predicament. I'm tired of trying now and I don't think there's any reason to go on.

Very brave message...respect is happening here...

This is so relatable it hurts

Adam there’s plenty of mental illness out there. What we’ve seen over the last month hate and insecurity go hand in hand. Often ending horrific acts. I can honestly say I never hated anything or anyone in my life if i dislike them then I move on.

20 years old, dropped out of a prestigious college in my country. For 8 montbs since, ive been floating, doing menial work, and just rotting in my bed. My third world country seems hopeless, and frankly my mental health is at an all time low. I feel like I've failed, doomed myself at my 20s.

Hey

Come and live in East Lancashire. It's the cheapest area in England and its great. I moved here from Manchester and it's the best thing I did. Good luck.

for goodness sake ignore the hate, this is the internet, you're only letting the trolls know they can get you

I wonder if this person even has an ounce of self awareness to realise it’s them if they’re watching this video? 🤔

Reacting to reactivity is also causes personal suffering. Best thing to do is notice it, notice your feeling reaction to it and then let it pass and allow the next feeling appear. But yeah it I reckon people who hate but keep watching to give themselves more satisfaction of covering their suffering life

Haters like the one mentioned, should spend more time ensuring that what they put online is keeping themselves and their loved ones safe, then projecting their issues on channels that have nothing to do with them. 👍

The internet is full of head cases, thee end. also that guy sounds like a right dickhead.

Yeah and if you put things out on the internet. People gave the right to give their opinion on you just saying.

👍🏻🙏🏻

Adam, don’t try & apply a logical and rational mindset to those types of comments. It’s not worth your time. Appreciate you!☀️

Social media unfortunately does attract the absolute dregs of society sometimes. I think you can report images if you think they are inapproriate though, so might be worth trying that as well? In general, when deciding whether or not to publish public photos on social media I usually ask myself the question: "would I be happy for this photo to be in a newspaper or a magazine?"

Adam, As long u dont stab 8 young children.. ur considered NOT crazy and NOT a threat to society.

im a lonely 17 old. im really scared. i still feel like a kid. im already addicted ton a bunch of shit. xanax alcohol. i dont know what life is really, i havent eecpereinced it, i dont know why ive made the choices ive made. but yeah. really. life is just depressing. i know life just gonna pass by, it feels like ive completely failed. ive failed my mom. ive failed my dad. my grandparents. all the people who have made sacrifices to get me where i am. i hope everything works out in life. however tired, i feel i hope i can make things right. i want to live and feel proud. i know i wont i just dont know

The stress is in the resistance to what is........

"Again, you may look upon life as an unprofitable episode, disturbing the blessed calm of non-existence. The longer you live the more clearly you will feel that, on the whole, life is a disappointment, nay, a cheat."

... Bamboozled

Thanks man. Morales are for suckers. I’m in the same position. Even those in prison are given better lives than the likes of you and I. The gov has betrayed us, elders have betrayed us, women have betrayed us, the economy has betrayed us. No one is on our side, housing market is shit and I often feel these stupid feel good sentiments of “keep trying” is the mental health police trying to make themselves feel better. Suicide is looking more attractive by the day and I’m sick of mental health cheerleaders trying to pretend they know anything about you or trying to shame you with other peoples life circumstances that are worse. I am frustrated, I’m edgy, suicidal, depressed and angry. I hate humans so much. Life is bullshit

I randomly came across your video and I want you to know that I'm praying for you I don't know whether or not you're religious and you don't know me but I want you to know I believe you can overcome this hardship and once you round the corner you'll look back at this time and see how it's built you into an incredibly resilient person 🙏

Bro, slow down your car…..and your mind. Dangerous my man.

I was wondering, Adam, what your social life is like. Do you have a strong circle of friends? I know you went away for a bit a couple of months ago and came back rejuvenated. Do you see those people regularly? I know a big part of my problems in life do relate to this. I’ve always felt disconnected from people. I’ve met the odd person or two who bucks this trend, but even then, it’s hard to maintain friendships. At 35, I feel this way more than ever. I don’t want to, but I do.

This one hit home... I remember back on my early days of depression that i went to the gym because i WANTED to be fit, now i just go hoping that someday i'll recover that desire, i WANT to WANT to go. Surviving, existing, everything but living. The anhedonia takes away all the joy you used to have and the anxiety you get from exposing yourself to those things just makes them not worth it. Interestingly enough, in some ocations, i find myself enjoying a conversation with friends, whenever for some random reason i get distracted enough from all the thoughts i share from this video. That gives me hope mate. There must be some way, it hasn't always been like this. We are not here just to endure, enduring is the thing needed to find the new way. Who cares anyway, we are all gonna die sooner or later so i won't take a shortcut. Maybe what we feel is not depression but the eternal search of a meaning to our very own lives, which some say, that in itself, it's the meaning of life. Whatever Adam... This makes me feel not so alone so thanks for sharing. I'm going to hit the gym, it fucking sucks but the alternative is obviously worse. And man, cry, scream, whatever you need, don't conceive depression and anxiety as illnesses but as ways of your mind of trying to tell you something, in fact, crying is gonna help you a lot with endorphines, the same way exercise does. If you are able to go to work and put smile you are able to make stuff that may seem simple to you, but others just can't. You may feel like a worthless human being because of that "I'm not strong" feelings but life in some way is about learning how much weight you can hold and doing it (Quote from Jordan Peterson), so don't compare yourself to others, i bet others would not have motivated me to go to the gym! Wishing you the best of recoveries from Spain man, i know that acknowledging you are not alone sometimes is not enough but sharing the weight helps. 🫂

Just do it! Do those things you want to do. If you make a mistake, you know you will get yourself out of it. You’ve done it in the past. Learn to trust yourself. I have this mantra that works for me: “as long as I have my health and none of my loved ones have died-I will be okay.” Keep going. Who knows, maybe doing some of those things will help you feel more alive and enjoy life. Were only here for a moment in time.

Im currently buying a house, at an other part of my country. I been through depression due to the move. But that’s what Im doing. This is the 2nd time I just moved like that. Its a really nice little house, will be so different from my appartment. Your environment can be changed. You just need to change it. Good luck!

You may not be able to release the emotion, but your body is able to release it, if you allow it. After therapy you may want to try and sit quietly and place your hand on your core and allow your body to release any emotions connected to trauma. After you have done this can try and change your focus. The fear in c-ptsd is from parents not setting the boundaries that we need and not having enough confidence to reflect back to you a sense of security and confidence to explore your surroundings. Create an affirmation for yourself where you give yourself permission to move out of your comfort zone. Try going a different way to work. Write down a few things that change your focus each day. Ask yourself what emotion you want to reflect to the world and have it reflected back to you. As a child you had no choice but to see panic, fear, guilt and other negatives. Now you have a choice to see something different. As you do this you will have more corrective experiences in therapy and in daily life.

Also, I know that it's easy to think that we shouldn't let how we feel affect our friends, but that is kinda what good friends are for. It's part of the deal you make when you are someone's friend.

Life often doesn't make sense. Bad things happen to good people, and we often don't get the answers we deserve. This is a terrifying truth that I'm only just starting to come to terms with now, at age 30.

Shout away!! I get it!

This is me bro. Especially the part about having something in you that makes you scared of trying new fun things. Hope you get better Adam

From my own experience, I have been battling some deep personal issues for quite some time, it gets very frustrating. But, through the course of this, there have been periods of time when I have felt really good. In those periods of time when I was feeling good, was when I was appreciating the very basics of life, like having walk on a nice sunny day and appreciating how good the weather is, after doing some exercise and appreciating how good I feel things like that.

i admire how you just let yourself go and discuss how your feeling. I've been seeing a psychologist and i cant help but feel the same way as you. constantly frustrated. hopefully there is an end to it. hope your well

I must have missed the video, you got a job? Congrats, what field are you working in?

The only solace I find in this world is Jesus <3. I'm a single, unemployed loser, mentally struggling constantly looking for work, but there isn't anything going, but my Faith in God gives me a reason for perseverance

Chin up mate. Not only are you “enough”, you’re a good guy. You’re not alone mate. Seems like you had a bad day here. Remember, some days you’re the pigeon, some days you’re the statue.