I just found your channel, I'm already in love with it and love listening to your experiences. I can totally relate to what you are feeling. I'm going to have to check out some of those movies you mentioned! Have you watched any Thai GLs? I discovered GAP the Series on UA-cam recently and it honestly blew me away. It's the most amazing representation for gay girls, I never even thought something like that would be possible, and now there are so many GLs that have followed. It feels like the world is finally opening up space for girls who love girls. 🥰🥰
i feel you so much. im bi(?) but i’m always questioning how i feel. i’m very open about it at school (i go to a VERY gay college) but with my straight friends or my parents i don’t even mention i like girls (they’re not gonna be homophobic so idk why). it’s so frustrating but it’ll get better either with time. i used to be a lot more ashamed/awkward about it than i am now
I went through the same stuff a while ago, when I wasn't out to all my friends yet. I was practicing it like a speech in the mirror hahahaha. What helped me the most was just talking about it to the few friends that I was already out to. To make it more normal to talk about it ig. The words started to carry less weight. After I came out to everyone, it didn't go well with everyone. But I became so much closer with the rest of my friend group, because I didn't have to hide myself anymore. Some of my friends knew other queer people that I could connect with and we formed a little queer group. Now that I look back on it I'm so happy that I went for it. Staying in the closet didn't protect me from hurting I was just pushing it to a later date so that I didn't have to deal with it.
i understand your fear 100%. i live in southern usa, so with that being said.. homophobia is everywhere! i fear it’s similar in korea:/ but the right people in your life, wont care and will love you just the same. i also understand being scared to come out to your woman friends. the fear of them going “well dont have a crush on me!” or anything like that. but those people are just simply weird. also just discovered your videos! youre so cutie bug n very open! it seems like a diary for you, but is still very relatable to people
Youre so real bro like i acc think we’re the same person. All my life ive been pretending and forcing myself to be straight but then i came out to my friends as bi last year. I new i didn’t like men but i just didn’t wanted to be rejected by them, but this year i came out as gay and im so grateful they r okay with it. Except for my friends nobody knows im gay and like you, im not ashamed or anything its just so hard to come out to people, but i never deny it when they ask me tho. My parents don’t know but also like you my dad kinda knows and my mom is kinda not opened in the sexuality kinda subject. Anyways i love your podcast and i love to hear someone who has a similar to mine:)
i feel you so much,, i‘m trans and i guess pan (tho i don‘t rlly label my sexuality atp i‘m queer and that‘s that) and i‘ve come out so many times… i first came out as queer about 4-5 yrs ago and i‘m rlly lucky because coming out has never threatened my safety and most of my friends were really understanding (it was harder with my parents) but still,, to this day, every single time i tell people i get super nervous and my heartbeat goes absolutely wild. idk if that will ever get easier but what i know for sure is that it was worth it every time. it‘s super important to take the time you need before coming out and there‘s absolutely no rush but feeling like you have to hide that part of yourself gets exhausting and it can take a huge toll on your wellbeing. coming out was never easy for me and it was awkward and i always thought „why do i even have to do this?!“ and i‘ve lost some people because of it that weren‘t accepting which obviously hurt but being able to authentically be who i am and finding more friends and a community that is so supportive was worth it. so go for it, because the people who care about you will make an effort to understand and support you and being able to openly talk about who you like and who you are is so beautiful and freeing and there is a loving and accepting community out there who‘s gonna be there for you. (sry for yapping btw but i just found this video and i love it because it reminded me so much of the thoughts i‘ve had around coming out so i felt like sharing a bit, hehe)
I've only recently understood that I like women, a year I think, but I haven't told many people yet. I guess I'm still trying to get used to the idea. I'm afraid of coming out and losing people I love, I didn't want to make a big deal out of it, because I didn't want my life to be a spectacle, I'm more reserved. If I came out in the future, I wouldn't let people know that I was being affected by it. Why does people's love have to have so many rules?
This is literally how I feel. I'm bi but my family is very homophobic so I can't ever come out unless I don't want a roof over my head 😂 my friends in my old school know but when I moved to a different country i just couldn't tell my friends there I mean they're not homophobic in any way but I just don't know how to tell them I'd literally drag them to the LGBTQIA club at school under the disguise of being an ally😂
My dear fellow sapphic, I feel you so much ❤ is there any way you can get a therapist? I found it helpful when processing my queerness and everything around it 🤍
I just found your channel, I'm already in love with it and love listening to your experiences. I can totally relate to what you are feeling. I'm going to have to check out some of those movies you mentioned! Have you watched any Thai GLs? I discovered GAP the Series on UA-cam recently and it honestly blew me away. It's the most amazing representation for gay girls, I never even thought something like that would be possible, and now there are so many GLs that have followed. It feels like the world is finally opening up space for girls who love girls. 🥰🥰
Dude, I feel like this channel is gonna be a diamond !
i feel you so much. im bi(?) but i’m always questioning how i feel. i’m very open about it at school (i go to a VERY gay college) but with my straight friends or my parents i don’t even mention i like girls (they’re not gonna be homophobic so idk why). it’s so frustrating but it’ll get better either with time. i used to be a lot more ashamed/awkward about it than i am now
I went through the same stuff a while ago, when I wasn't out to all my friends yet. I was practicing it like a speech in the mirror hahahaha. What helped me the most was just talking about it to the few friends that I was already out to. To make it more normal to talk about it ig. The words started to carry less weight. After I came out to everyone, it didn't go well with everyone. But I became so much closer with the rest of my friend group, because I didn't have to hide myself anymore. Some of my friends knew other queer people that I could connect with and we formed a little queer group. Now that I look back on it I'm so happy that I went for it. Staying in the closet didn't protect me from hurting I was just pushing it to a later date so that I didn't have to deal with it.
i understand your fear 100%. i live in southern usa, so with that being said.. homophobia is everywhere! i fear it’s similar in korea:/ but the right people in your life, wont care and will love you just the same. i also understand being scared to come out to your woman friends. the fear of them going “well dont have a crush on me!” or anything like that. but those people are just simply weird. also just discovered your videos! youre so cutie bug n very open! it seems like a diary for you, but is still very relatable to people
This was so needed especially with the religious trauma that comes with being closeted and being a teenager
Ahhh glad it helped you in some ways🫶
Youre so real bro like i acc think we’re the same person. All my life ive been pretending and forcing myself to be straight but then i came out to my friends as bi last year. I new i didn’t like men but i just didn’t wanted to be rejected by them, but this year i came out as gay and im so grateful they r okay with it. Except for my friends nobody knows im gay and like you, im not ashamed or anything its just so hard to come out to people, but i never deny it when they ask me tho. My parents don’t know but also like you my dad kinda knows and my mom is kinda not opened in the sexuality kinda subject. Anyways i love your podcast and i love to hear someone who has a similar to mine:)
As religion family & religion country im just closeted its hard😢 pretend straight cuz hate men lke girl but cant have them married
i feel you so much,, i‘m trans and i guess pan (tho i don‘t rlly label my sexuality atp i‘m queer and that‘s that) and i‘ve come out so many times… i first came out as queer about 4-5 yrs ago and i‘m rlly lucky because coming out has never threatened my safety and most of my friends were really understanding (it was harder with my parents) but still,, to this day, every single time i tell people i get super nervous and my heartbeat goes absolutely wild. idk if that will ever get easier but what i know for sure is that it was worth it every time. it‘s super important to take the time you need before coming out and there‘s absolutely no rush but feeling like you have to hide that part of yourself gets exhausting and it can take a huge toll on your wellbeing. coming out was never easy for me and it was awkward and i always thought „why do i even have to do this?!“ and i‘ve lost some people because of it that weren‘t accepting which obviously hurt but being able to authentically be who i am and finding more friends and a community that is so supportive was worth it.
so go for it, because the people who care about you will make an effort to understand and support you and being able to openly talk about who you like and who you are is so beautiful and freeing and there is a loving and accepting community out there who‘s gonna be there for you.
(sry for yapping btw but i just found this video and i love it because it reminded me so much of the thoughts i‘ve had around coming out so i felt like sharing a bit, hehe)
I've only recently understood that I like women, a year I think, but I haven't told many people yet. I guess I'm still trying to get used to the idea. I'm afraid of coming out and losing people I love, I didn't want to make a big deal out of it, because I didn't want my life to be a spectacle, I'm more reserved. If I came out in the future, I wouldn't let people know that I was being affected by it. Why does people's love have to have so many rules?
I was 3yrs old when I started to like girls. 😊
This is literally how I feel. I'm bi but my family is very homophobic so I can't ever come out unless I don't want a roof over my head 😂 my friends in my old school know but when I moved to a different country i just couldn't tell my friends there
I mean they're not homophobic in any way but I just don't know how to tell them
I'd literally drag them to the LGBTQIA club at school under the disguise of being an ally😂
My dear fellow sapphic, I feel you so much ❤ is there any way you can get a therapist? I found it helpful when processing my queerness and everything around it 🤍