Phyllis Hyman is so captivating. The voice is so sultry and seductive yet calming and soothing. She commands attention and you want to give it to her!! She leaves you spellbound.
Every interveiw is so consistent. Her personality is amazing. So pure. You would never know the demons she battled with her sense of humor. So big in our culture we laugh to keep from crying.
Omg Man can you imagine if she had stuck around. She was just way ahead of her time AND the game. All her demons you speak of would've been addressed today and wouldn't seem foreign to her. No one spoke about mental illness back then and STILL don't in the black community. But all she wished for back THEN would've been laid at her feet today had she stuck it out. I miss her so much as a fan. Btw just realized this a year late since your comment. I so hope and pray you are happy and well and still enjoying hearing great artist like Phyllis.
@@dannymoe9028 Maybe today standards probably!! Back in the 80’s most of the female singers kept their clothes on!! Even when Madonna girt came out she kept her clothes on!! Todays female singers are plain ole sluts!!!
Shut up, stupid!! Those men (whoever they are) are just as entitled to THEIR preferences, as you are to yours......without having to be insulted for it! None of them had any obligation to her.....just as she had no obligation to those she had no interest in.
@@imanjones3807 It is worse now. But she's from a different generation (Gen X). So comparing modern women today to the Phyllis we saw in this interview, is comical to be honest
Linda Dano was just a fantastic interviewer! She was so great! And Phyllis was just a 10 to the end! A true dreamgirl. Rip to you Phyllis. A beautiful woman inside and out
Love this lady...reminds me of myself soooo much! What a Diamond!! Real love would have probably saved her life. At the end of life "LOVE" we received is what ever counted! #FEELINGALLALONE🎙
I love her, such a beautiful lady and her voice is on another level. RIP Phillis is entertaining God & the Angels. Depression is a sickness so many don’t want to admit too.
Men are not intimidated by women, women are intimidated by men and men are intimidated by other men. Phillis hyman was a lovely women, but she held the position of a man, no man is looking for another man
QUEEN just in case no man shared this with you it's not that we are intimidated by you. It's that a lot of women come off as COMPETITION towards men. And men want COMPANIONSHIP not COMPETITION. Men gotta go out and fight the world to exist and make a living last thing men want to do is come home and compete with you too. Home is where we are supposed to chill and have a partner. Not be constantly reminded that you don't need us and you can do it all on your own.Men need to feel needed and Women want to feel wanted. Some of this is the Governments fault too tho. Btw hope you are happy, healthy and getting ready to enjoy our first summer of freedom.
@@shannonstewart4792 Men don’t have to go out and fight the world by themselevs and women don’t have to stay at home. Why do u think women fought to not to be in those conditions? Women are simply voicing their Voice on earth that belongs to them too. Women wanting her own stuff isn’t a competition to anything else but your ego. Guys like u see it as compwtition,the rest of the world see it as women living their lives how they wish.
Wow, this is really a blast from the past! So heartbreaking to hear Ms. Phyllis talk about the issues of her life knowing she took her own. Miss her savory emotional music.
Big beautiful women were not in back them, you had to be a model and really skinny, this person was so talented , but is all about what others wanted you to be. Thank God is changing, slowing but changing.
Over 6ft tall?. If she was that tall, she still looked fine. I would have liked to meet her in person; although I was a kid back then. 😁 R.I.P. Phyllis.
Phyllis Hyman was the embodiment of the term "Brick House". She was FINE fine and she was STACKED stacked...and she carried all that with such elegance. I'm still in love with her. ✊
I always connect with her on interviews. Idk if it’s because she was from Philly or what but she makes me feel comfortable I wish she was still around. Ironically my first gf in elementary school was named Phyllis lol
One take Phyllis she was legendary in the art of singing an whistle with her mom i luv her an embody her spirit and sound so close i dont have to show my body to be a singer 😅 I sing an everone dings with me an they cheer me on an i say sing with me its amazing lord i pray to sing her music one day because i can sing
As I write this comment today is Phyllis Hyman’s birthday surprisingly. Which was a surprise so I wish you a very happy birthday Miss Phyllis wherever you are in spirit
She was beautiful, and interesting, the kind that other women would want to copy, hang with...And, a man would want to date! That is why, no one could believe, she did not have a man!
Phyllis was married twice, she was involved in a love triangle with R&B star Christopher Williams, and she had a gay relationship with one of her assistants. Truth is she never wanted a relationship, marriage, or children. Relationships meant relinquishing control, she always wanted to be in control. RIP Ms. Hyman
@@imanjones3807 All you have to do is research and you’d know this. A lot things aren’t broadcasted but that doesn’t make it less than the truth because it isn’t.
You know what, I think that she may have had a Thyroid condition. I wonder if anyone checked that. the thyroid can make you lose and gain weight, make you have mood swings, and other stuff. I'm looking at her neck and I can see her thyroid .
😭😭 she was so smooth, good personality, only if she would have turned to God and prayed more. I didn’t know her but she was articulate, smart, well-rounded, amusing, beautiful, and hilarious.
Not sure what the comment of "she was gay and very troubled" meant below however I am sure you meant well. Phyllis had bipolar disorder and it was never diagnosed that is where the trouble came from and gave her the ups and downs and unfortunately it got the best of her and she took her own life. Having this problem and drinking led her to start using cocaine at times and it simply became a recipe for disaster. I am not denying the "she was gay" comment below but I am responding as to why this wonderful talent and bright light took her life the troubles came from an undiagnosed bipolar disorder. .
I know she suffered from bipolar you can see the symptoms here. She’s very unsure and up and down in one instance. I wish she’d gotten the help she needed and not self medicated
@@shakeyras_beauty I agree. I sometimes say nothing is too strong for Christ but I think she wasn't a believer and chose to depend on other chemicals to make it thru.
@@I-AM-BELIEVER I'm not gonna say that but her family suffers from mental illness and they gotten help and was on medication and they are still living but I just wish the demons weren't too stingy for her
Over six foot tall? So what! You don’t have to worry so much about a grown woman that has her own. I understand that and appreciate it. Just take care of her spiritual and emotional needs. She can handle the rest. If she had a secure confident man he would have ensured that she would be with us today.
It’s crazy because she had to come to a solid conclusion that she was done with life and to think when did the idea hit her like after this song I’m walking out of here and I’m done.
(1) There are men amongst us who feel that if they can't manipulate or control (which has nothing 2 do with being "intimidated") a woman. She is a waste of his time. For them, it's not about being 'intimidated' so much as 'turned off'. Because they can't have a robot in the form of a female servant. This is often MISTAKEN for being "intimidated" by a woman. Men can recognize this in other men. While most women automatically see it as a "weak" man who can't "handle" a strong woman. This is totally incorrect. This type of man is so narcissistic/self centered that he can't even BE intimidated by a woman. Because his only concern is HIM. For him, there is no intimidation. Only conquest...or nothing. Borderline sociopath. (2) Millions of alpha males ***naturally*** ACTUALLY PREFER a more laid back woman. These men do not fit into the 1st category above. This type of man is respectful & appreciative of women. And doesn't see a strong/independent woman as competition in a relationship. This is the type of man who KNOWS his self worth. But is humble. He KNOWS what he brings 2 the table. Therefore, he can't be 'intimidated' in the normal sense by the everyday (average) woman. But he does tend to "but heads" w/ alpha women who don't know the difference between being 'strong' vs. being 'abrasive/passive aggressive' disrespectful 2wards him. This is not so much a 'right' or 'wrong' issue. As it is CHEMISTRY. (3)Then there are those men [she alludes to this in the interview]who feel that they may not bring anything worthwhile to the relationship. Either by way of finances or attractiveness as a man. This is an inner insecurity. THIS IS DEFINITELY A FORM OF BEING INTIMIDATED BY SEEING A GOOD LOOKING CELEBRITY W/ HER OWN FINANCES. But not due 2 the man seeing the woman as 'competition'. Or seeing her as "Too Strong". Lol. This is the man doubting that SHE'D be interested in HIM. Big difference. The average man is not walking around intimidated by the AVERAGE woman. Phyllis Hyman was not the average woman! Phyllis Hyman was a celebrity. No matter how down 2 earth she was...the lifestyle that comes w/ dating a celebrity is not like that of a normal couple. I'd expect there to be some type of apprehension before getting involved with a celebrity (regardless of gender). That's normal. WHAT WORLD DO U ALL LIVE IN WHERE THE AVERAGE MAN (or woman) ISN'T INITIALLY INTIMIDATED WHEN INTERACTING W/ A CELEBRITY? Especially if ur attracted to them. The average person would've 100% been intimidated by her status upon meeting her. Especially initially. And especially the average Black person back then...lol. Because to us she was damn near Diva royalty for a time. Let's face it, most celebrities are not dating average joe's w/ average jobs. Phyllis seemed to be down 2 earth. But statistically, celebrities are used 2 living a certain type of life. Unfortunately, for Phyllis, her gift & status probably made her **seem** unreachable 2 a lot of men who were on the outside looking in. And that's not on her. But it is what it is. (4) Has anyone even stopped to consider that perhaps a lot of men prefer a regular relationship. As opposed to having to share your woman w/ the tours, highs & lows of the recording/entertainment industry, the fans. And the time apart. Men (just as women do) have the right to decide what's best FOR THEM! In this case, it's not intimidation. It's choosing oneself over the craziness of being with a celebrity...lol. And that's EVERYONE'S RIGHT...man or woman. (5) Obviously, in retrospect, we can see that Phyllis was in pain. But what we could not know behind closed doors, is if she had extreme mood swings. CONTRARY 2 POPULAR BELIEF...U CAN INTERNALLY HAVE "High's/low's" w/out putting the internal feelings on full outward display. Would this not possibly contribute to more stress in a relationship? We need to remove emotion from the equation when addressing this. No matter how hard. The fact remains that no man or woman is *obligated* to stay on an emotional rollercoaster ride of a relationship...period! If they do so out of a sense of loyalty and/or bond...all good. But no one is *obligated*. However, I do wish that someone had come along with the patience & true understanding of her emotional state 2 help her to heal. (6) My personal belief is that although she seemed quite content with her physical appearance. She was not as confident in her appearance as she portrayed. This is just a gut feeling on my part. I believe that this may have contributed to her depression. Although most of us saw/see a stunning and gorgeous woman...I don't believe that she saw that. Yes, she spoke on it in this interview. But to me she maintained a certain class & strength that [she felt] was probably expected of her. I think that she was asking for help. Particularly in the last couple of years before passing. Without wanting to break from what was generally expected of her.
Phyllis Hyman is so captivating. The voice is so sultry and seductive yet calming and soothing. She commands attention and you want to give it to her!! She leaves you spellbound.
Well said
Every interveiw is so consistent. Her personality is amazing. So pure. You would never know the demons she battled with her sense of humor. So big in our culture we laugh to keep from crying.
Omg Man can you imagine if she had stuck around. She was just way ahead of her time AND the game. All her demons you speak of would've been addressed today and wouldn't seem foreign to her. No one spoke about mental illness back then and STILL don't in the black community. But all she wished for back THEN would've been laid at her feet today had she stuck it out. I miss her so much as a fan. Btw just realized this a year late since your comment. I so hope and pray you are happy and well and still enjoying hearing great artist like Phyllis.
@@shannonstewart4792 still a big fan and hope one day they make a biopic telling her story. Peace and blessing to you as well
YES...
I love her realness. R.I.P. Phyllis Hyman.
Cj Randolph I did, too:) By the way, my last name is Randolph!
Monica R Cool. Girl, we may be related. LOL!!!
Cj Randolph We might be:) I was born in Baltimore, relatives in Maryland, Virginia and DC
Monica R I was adopted when I was a baby, so ANYthing could be possible. However, my roots are there on the Southeastern part the U.S. as well. 😃
She is the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.
She truly is 😮🥰
She is gorgeous
You don't have to show your body to be a singer. Phyllis was right!
If you have actual talent, you wouldn't have to be ass out on the stage. Your voice should command the stage.
James Demouchet if you can sing you don’t have to show your body. She said what she said!
Yes you do have to show it.
@@dannymoe9028 Nope!
@@dannymoe9028 Maybe today standards probably!! Back in the 80’s most of the female singers kept their clothes on!! Even when Madonna girt came out she kept her clothes on!! Todays female singers are plain ole sluts!!!
The interviewer made it seem like two friends were having a casual conversation. Great job. Phyllis had personality.
She was very great! Charming and personable.
this was such an interesting interview, its a shame she did not find happiness and recognition for her music
Such a BEAUTIFUL woman!! 😍😍 #RIP
she was so down to earth. those men were probably idiots.
Shut up, stupid!! Those men (whoever they are) are just as entitled to THEIR preferences, as you are to yours......without having to be insulted for it! None of them had any obligation to her.....just as she had no obligation to those she had no interest in.
@@jihanjae why she got to be stupid.. u rude pos.
@@donstarfinkel6456 Shut the fuck up, get yourself a brain, & try making an actual valid point next time!
@@jihanjae the point is thats her opinion dumbass
@@jihanjae your literally a dumbass troll 🙄
Phyllis was a riot, her mannerisms were so dramatic lmaoooo
Stunner. Her physical beauty and personality. I could stare at her all day!
agreed she was a model before her singing career also!!!
Definitely!!!
Yes! This is why people loved to take a pic with her and photographers loved her too. She was stunning.
I love her strong personality. She's right too. Men like these mealy mouthed passive sex kitten types. I see it today in 2016.
Mealy mouth? 😂😂😂
Those men are insecure
It's 2021 and even worse now
@@imanjones3807 It is worse now. But she's from a different generation (Gen X). So comparing modern women today to the Phyllis we saw in this interview, is comical to be honest
2024.....
She looks amazing for 40!!
Just a beautiful spirit.
Phyllis was hilarious, and yet it seems she had a lot of pain and sadness inside.
@Angel Johnson What makes her eyes mentally ill?
Angel Johnson I don’t understand how that 1 second of eye bugging concludes mental illness.
@@kimberlyjade4094 it's possible she had thre early stages of graves disease, which affects the size of the eyes
I think she used humor to mask her pain!
Stfu... that was always her eyes ... clown ... even when she was young
She’s so gorgeous 😻 love her personality! Beautiful all around. I hope she made it to the Lord. Wherever you are, we love & miss you 💞
Linda Dano was just a fantastic interviewer! She was so great! And Phyllis was just a 10 to the end! A true dreamgirl. Rip to you Phyllis. A beautiful woman inside and out
July 6, 1949 (Cancer)
Love her vibe! I like and respect the celebs of the 80s, 70s, 60s, etc much more, they seemed so real and then they had REAL talent!
I absolutely love what she is wearing, may she be remembered for forever. Phyllis Hyman you marvelous one!!!
I love her!!! Miss her so much!!
She resonates with my spirit in such a familiar way. Watch over us Phyllis. ❤
so down to earth such a lovely woman and beautiful human being rip
She was just fascinating!!! Personality stunning!! I just wish she this!!! :(
She was a Gem I miss her dearly , the characteristics she had was beautiful care free spirit 💕 RIP
Seems like she had such a good heart! She's still my favorite artist.
Her presence is familiar to me. It makes me smile , giggle, and tear up . Beyond beautiful .
Wow how beautiful and down to earth she was God bless her sweet soul 😢❤
Still my girl love you wherever you are my angel!!!!
She was so charismatic
Love this lady...reminds me of myself soooo much! What a Diamond!! Real love would have probably saved her life. At the end of life "LOVE" we received is what ever counted! #FEELINGALLALONE🎙
I love her, such a beautiful lady and her voice is on another level. RIP Phillis is entertaining God & the Angels. Depression is a sickness so many don’t want to admit too.
She is so right that men are intimidated by strong woman.
Men are not intimidated by women, women are intimidated by men and men are intimidated by other men.
Phillis hyman was a lovely women, but she held the position of a man, no man is looking for another man
@@Reawer Facts
Intimidated by a strong woman? No men are attracted to femininity. Why would any straight heterosexual man be attracted to anything "strong" 🤦🏽♂️
QUEEN just in case no man shared this with you it's not that we are intimidated by you. It's that a lot of women come off as COMPETITION towards men. And men want COMPANIONSHIP not COMPETITION. Men gotta go out and fight the world to exist and make a living last thing men want to do is come home and compete with you too. Home is where we are supposed to chill and have a partner. Not be constantly reminded that you don't need us and you can do it all on your own.Men need to feel needed and Women want to feel wanted. Some of this is the Governments fault too tho. Btw hope you are happy, healthy and getting ready to enjoy our first summer of freedom.
@@shannonstewart4792 Men don’t have to go out and fight the world by themselevs and women don’t have to stay at home.
Why do u think women fought to not to be in those conditions? Women are simply voicing their Voice on earth that belongs to them too. Women wanting her own stuff isn’t a competition to anything else but your ego.
Guys like u see it as compwtition,the rest of the world see it as women living their lives how they wish.
SHE REMINDS ME OF WHITNEY HOUSTON AND DIANA CARROLL
Phyllis Hyman was a style queen!!
She was a Goddess!! That’s why she “ couldn’t get a date”..........some men are just to weak and blind. God Bless Phyllis xoxo💋
Blame them for that? Lol
Wow 🤦🏽♂️
She is so beautiful, it's ridiculous. Also her incredibly honest, endearing personality...love it.
Wow, this is really a blast from the past! So heartbreaking to hear Ms. Phyllis talk about the issues of her life knowing she took her own. Miss her savory emotional
music.
I have always loved this amazing sister
Big beautiful women were not in back them, you had to be a model and really skinny, this person was so talented , but is all about what others wanted you to be. Thank God is changing, slowing but changing.
I love her...3:54 :). I don't like sports, too. Such a beautiful and talented lady...RIP Phyllis...what a loss! :(
Phylis reminds me of my wife! RIP......
Over 6ft tall?. If she was that tall, she still looked fine. I would have liked to meet her in person; although I was a kid back then. 😁
R.I.P. Phyllis.
Phyllis Hyman was the embodiment of the term "Brick House". She was FINE fine and she was STACKED stacked...and she carried all that with such elegance. I'm still in love with her. ✊
Such, Such, Such a beautiful woman, spirit, and personality! Cancer women Rock!
Yesssss
Yes we do but we are emotionally damaged hidden inside keep our feelings hidden
oh yes we are, but our burden are beyond. bet can bet we are angels of God
I always connect with her on interviews. Idk if it’s because she was from Philly or what but she makes me feel comfortable I wish she was still around. Ironically my first gf in elementary school was named Phyllis lol
Very classy, talented, and beautiful!! woman. Gone to soon. RIP Mrs. Hyman.
Queen Latiah took her whole style
She was inspired
Ooh, ladies first, ladies first😂
Tried to take it...emphasis on tried
🤔
I need more interviews I love her!!
One take Phyllis she was legendary in the art of singing an whistle with her mom i luv her an embody her spirit and sound so close i dont have to show my body to be a singer 😅 I sing an everone dings with me an they cheer me on an i say sing with me its amazing lord i pray to sing her music one day because i can sing
What an enchanting woman 💐
if only vh1 was popular back then I know she would of had her own dating reality show
Vh1 didn't like niggas back then
I don't believe she'd stoop that low lol.
She was a classic woman. Classic women have class.
As I write this comment today is Phyllis Hyman’s birthday surprisingly. Which was a surprise so I wish you a very happy birthday Miss Phyllis wherever you are in spirit
Just saw her unsung! What a beautiful talented lady! So sad
I want her back. her n teana marie
This woman is captivating.
Beautiful Queen !!❤️❤️
She was beautiful, and interesting, the kind that other women would want to copy, hang with...And, a man would want to date! That is why, no one could believe, she did not have a man!
Phyllis was married twice, she was involved in a love triangle with R&B star Christopher Williams, and she had a gay relationship with one of her assistants. Truth is she never wanted a relationship, marriage, or children. Relationships meant relinquishing control, she always wanted to be in control. RIP Ms. Hyman
@Angel Johnson everything I stated was in her biography book written by Jason Michaels, “Strength of a Woman.”
Did it come out of her mouth about a gy relationship? Then please quit
@@imanjones3807 All you have to do is research and you’d know this. A lot things aren’t broadcasted but that doesn’t make it less than the truth because it isn’t.
She was stunning!
I’m obsessed 🤩
I’ve got midterms, ISTEP +, finals, projects, papers. I should really get some sleep... but 3:54
K. Corise 😂😂
Yep! She was so sexy. She’s my girl crush.
Damn, female achievement intimidates some men, such a shame! Men want short, small, quiet women someone who they can dominate?
how did mama Phyllis pass? was she sick?
We want God fearing, ambitious, strong , honest and supportive women.
Snap Crackle We want God fearing, faithful, ambitious, loyal and supportive men. Where are they?
wow why did she commit suicide!!
Jerome Holloman right she had so much personality. they need to do a movie on her because I don't understand.
You know what, I think that she may have had a Thyroid condition. I wonder if anyone checked that. the thyroid can make you lose and gain weight, make you have mood swings, and other stuff. I'm looking at her neck and I can see her thyroid .
Priscilla Burnett it does look like it. I have an enlarged thyroid gland. I know how it is.
I see that also
I think you’re absolutely right
Hmm u maybe on to something
Wow, great observation. I love her...
So gracious.✨
Damn phyllis 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 i wouldve loved her all the way around 😔
I love her so much to this day I want to hug her so bad, she's my Maude,
I was born too late 😭😭❤❤
Phyllis Hyman is absolutely gorgeous ❤❤
Back in the day, thick women weren't in. She would kill now in this time. Men would definitely go crazy over her now.
She was absolutely beautiful
OMG I loveeee her!
😭😭 she was so smooth, good personality, only if she would have turned to God and prayed more. I didn’t know her but she was articulate, smart, well-rounded, amusing, beautiful, and hilarious.
She would've made an amazing actress. Rest In Peace!!
She was an actress!!!
She gives me Harlem Renaissance vibes! 👑
Doesn't she look like she's related to the judge on divorce court?😯 Beautiful💋
Shonnda Cooper similar cheekbones and skin color
Shonnda Cooper Judge Lynn Toler?
Nicole Raheem yeah
She does
Rip beautiful
"I walk...or sit!"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You can tell she has good energy and personality because the interviewer all in her space 😂 and she tell doesnt seem to care
So fine😮
Not sure what the comment of "she was gay and very troubled" meant below however I am sure you meant well. Phyllis had bipolar disorder and it was never diagnosed that is where the trouble came from and gave her the ups and downs and unfortunately it got the best of her and she took her own life. Having this problem and drinking led her to start using cocaine at times and it simply became a recipe for disaster. I am not denying the "she was gay" comment below but I am responding as to why this wonderful talent and bright light took her life the troubles came from an undiagnosed bipolar disorder. .
Phyllis Hyman would've earned a well deserved EGOTI status for
EMMY, GRAMMY, OSCAR, TONY and my newly added INNY (Internet Podcasts). 💖 If only ...😔
Us cancers dont like being alone
🙏💗💗💗
Did Linda Danno find anyone for Phyllis Hyman?
I hope she did
I know she suffered from bipolar you can see the symptoms here. She’s very unsure and up and down in one instance. I wish she’d gotten the help she needed and not self medicated
She went to rehab she went to therapy but the demons just was too strong and rip beautiful Phyllis
@@shakeyras_beauty I agree. I sometimes say nothing is too strong for Christ but I think she wasn't a believer and chose to depend on other chemicals to make it thru.
@@I-AM-BELIEVER I'm not gonna say that but her family suffers from mental illness and they gotten help and was on medication and they are still living but I just wish the demons weren't too stingy for her
It's the hat for me!
She's giving me Chrisette Michele and Toni Braxton Vibes!
THIS WHITE BISH ALL UP IN QUEEN PHYLIS'S FACE THOUGH LIKE SHE NEED TO FALL BACK A LITTLE JEEZ! LOL LOVE U QUEEN PHYLLIS FOREVER AND ALWAYS! :)
😂😂 Ikr! But she kept it graceful and poised. Don't know how, cuz it was making me uncomfortable just watching it.
❤️💯
Over six foot tall? So what! You don’t have to worry so much about a grown woman that has her own. I understand that and appreciate it. Just take care of her spiritual and emotional needs. She can handle the rest. If she had a secure confident man he would have ensured that she would be with us today.
It’s crazy because she had to come to a solid conclusion that she was done with life and to think when did the idea hit her like after this song I’m walking out of here and I’m done.
If i was her age back then i would date her she was beautiful..sexy eyes just beautiful
Why is Linda Dani so in her space?!
She’s not, she’s just a friendly woman.
She’s 6 feet tall woahhhhhhh
If she would've only believed she was enough she would have still been here before her time was up smh😢
She was such a beauty with an extremely likeable personality and sultry voice. I don’t think Clive properly promoted her smh
He mismanaged Olivia's career too.
Managers and A&Rs have a history of doing that smh
There is no audio???
It must be your phone
The host reminds me of Jane Russell, is that a coincidence?
Marsha Creary yeah a little
Why is the host so close Lol
(1) There are men amongst us who feel that if they can't manipulate or control (which has nothing 2 do with being "intimidated") a woman. She is a waste of his time. For them, it's not about being 'intimidated' so much as 'turned off'. Because they can't have a robot in the form of a female servant. This is often MISTAKEN for being "intimidated" by a woman. Men can recognize this in other men. While most women automatically see it as a "weak" man who can't "handle" a strong woman. This is totally incorrect. This type of man is so narcissistic/self centered that he can't even BE intimidated by a woman. Because his only concern is HIM. For him, there is no intimidation. Only conquest...or nothing. Borderline sociopath.
(2) Millions of alpha males ***naturally*** ACTUALLY PREFER a more laid back woman. These men do not fit into the 1st category above. This type of man is respectful & appreciative of women. And doesn't see a strong/independent woman as competition in a relationship. This is the type of man who KNOWS his self worth. But is humble. He KNOWS what he brings 2 the table. Therefore, he can't be 'intimidated' in the normal sense by the everyday (average) woman. But he does tend to "but heads" w/ alpha women who don't know the difference between being 'strong' vs. being 'abrasive/passive aggressive' disrespectful 2wards him. This is not so much a 'right' or 'wrong' issue. As it is CHEMISTRY.
(3)Then there are those men [she alludes to this in the interview]who feel that they may not bring anything worthwhile to the relationship. Either by way of finances or attractiveness as a man. This is an inner insecurity. THIS IS DEFINITELY A FORM OF BEING INTIMIDATED BY SEEING A GOOD LOOKING CELEBRITY W/ HER OWN FINANCES. But not due 2 the man seeing the woman as 'competition'. Or seeing her as "Too Strong". Lol. This is the man doubting that SHE'D be interested in HIM. Big difference. The average man is not walking around intimidated by the AVERAGE woman. Phyllis Hyman was not the average woman! Phyllis Hyman was a celebrity. No matter how down 2 earth she was...the lifestyle that comes w/ dating a celebrity is not like that of a normal couple. I'd expect there to be some type of apprehension before getting involved with a celebrity (regardless of gender). That's normal. WHAT WORLD DO U ALL LIVE IN WHERE THE AVERAGE MAN (or woman) ISN'T INITIALLY INTIMIDATED WHEN INTERACTING W/ A CELEBRITY? Especially if ur attracted to them. The average person would've 100% been intimidated by her status upon meeting her. Especially initially. And especially the average Black person back then...lol. Because to us she was damn near Diva royalty for a time. Let's face it, most celebrities are not dating average joe's w/ average jobs. Phyllis seemed to be down 2 earth. But statistically, celebrities are used 2 living a certain type of life. Unfortunately, for Phyllis, her gift & status probably made her **seem** unreachable 2 a lot of men who were on the outside looking in. And that's not on her. But it is what it is.
(4) Has anyone even stopped to consider that perhaps a lot of men prefer a regular relationship. As opposed to having to share your woman w/ the tours, highs & lows of the recording/entertainment industry, the fans. And the time apart. Men (just as women do) have the right to decide what's best FOR THEM! In this case, it's not intimidation. It's choosing oneself over the craziness of being with a celebrity...lol. And that's EVERYONE'S RIGHT...man or woman.
(5) Obviously, in retrospect, we can see that Phyllis was in pain. But what we could not know behind closed doors, is if she had extreme mood swings. CONTRARY 2 POPULAR BELIEF...U CAN INTERNALLY HAVE "High's/low's" w/out putting the internal feelings on full outward display. Would this not possibly contribute to more stress in a relationship? We need to remove emotion from the equation when addressing this. No matter how hard. The fact remains that no man or woman is *obligated* to stay on an emotional rollercoaster ride of a relationship...period! If they do so out of a sense of loyalty and/or bond...all good. But no one is *obligated*. However, I do wish that someone had come along with the patience & true understanding of her emotional state 2 help her to heal.
(6) My personal belief is that although she seemed quite content with her physical appearance. She was not as confident in her appearance as she portrayed. This is just a gut feeling on my part. I believe that this may have contributed to her depression. Although most of us saw/see a stunning and gorgeous woman...I don't believe that she saw that. Yes, she spoke on it in this interview. But to me she maintained a certain class & strength that [she felt] was probably expected of her. I think that she was asking for help. Particularly in the last couple of years before passing. Without wanting to break from what was generally expected of her.