Help! My Wife Wears Yoga Pants to the Gym... and I Hate It
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
- Today we responded to a question from a listener about his wife wearing yoga pants to the gym. Is he right in objecting to it? Listen in to find out!
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We also need to look at the younger generation, what are we teaching and showing them.
Thanks for tackling the modesty topic and pointing to scripture for the answer.
It’s really hard for a wife to not compare herself with all of the promiscuity in today’s culture, and feel like she has to keep up to keep her husband’s eyes and attention. It’s very honoring of this husband to prefer his wife to conceal herself for his eyes only.
Now do swimwear at the beach.
Thank you for your faithfulness, brother & sister! Especially to share the Gospel at the end of every episode… no better way to end!
I’ve just found your channel recently, and look forward to being edified & encouraged by more of your content to come! 😊🙏💗
I 1000% agree with everything you said here! I have always had this mindset; I do not want attention drawn to me nor do i want any man lusting after me yuck! My only hang up is this...
God created men to be visual now, i understand that they should ONLY be "visual" for their wife but lets be realistic here. Lets pretend we're all on a boat together on a hot summer day and i want to be as modest as i can be in a swimsuit, but all the other women are in skimpy bikinis. The husband who has the wife that is always modest is getting more than an eye full of those who are not and the modest wife starts to become insecure. She doesn't really like the fact that her husband is seeing all of this and the only time he sees her less modest is in the bedroom. I say all this to point out that i can understand why women fall into this mindset of wanting to join in so her husband can have something to look at besides other women. If that makes sense??? I know i didn't word it very well but i hope you got the point. I am VERY modest but i have caught myself a few times pushing the envelope because i don't want my husband checking out the ones who don't dress modestly and secretly wishing i would. What do you say to this?
So basically you feel tempted to show your body out in public so your husband can lust after you AND the other women who are also dressed immodestly? What do you think those other women's husband feel when they see their wives displaying themselves sexually for other men to see?
As a husband, if my wife was the only one dressed modestly at the beach, I would be welling with pride that my wife was the only woman who cared more about being loyal to me and saving her body for me, over thirsting for attention and displaying their bodies to get it. Trust me, most men don't want their wives dressing immodestly in public. It is a sign that you are seeking the validation of others and you are freely giving others (your body) that which you already committed to your husband.
I have heard that women have a similar reaction when their husbands are constantly giving his time or resources to the hot single moms in your community (like going over and fixing things for her, buying food for her, installing appliances, etc).
The man has as much responsibility in this as the women - because ultimately brothers and sisters in Christ naturally desire to be closer to God and want that for their brothers or sisters in Christ as well. In the situation you outlined, I have always believed that's a discussion the husband and wife should proactively have and discuss ways of handling...with the option being of avoiding the situation altogether. Yes it may be different somewhat, but a similar example would be I've chosen not to watch Game of Thrones given the sex which is rampant in it - despite loving medieval type time productions. I know my sin, I know it intimately and it isn't worth it.
Nor would you lowering your modesty standards either IMO.
Be mindful when choosing friends or keeping company with other couples.
Personally, my husband and I would never choose to hang out with "flashy" people.
My answer to this husband would have been a question:
What would you think if your wife says you are not dressing right (or not modest enough) during one of your activities? In mutual respect he'd take this on board without being intrusive to each other.
So how modest should a husband be during his activities?
I think how you dress is indeed an expression of something bigger:
It shows how much _self_ respect you have.
Example: Some walk into a supermarket in pyjamas bcause they can't be bothered to get dressed, others wear proper trousers and a shirt- which one looks like having more _self_ respect and also reflecting God‘s love for him and others (the source of all _self_ respect)?
Great job, don’t think it was legalistic at all.
Look at the commandments. Are we as women, in the way we dress, tempting men to covet us as a way to affirm our identity as women? It’s a great question to delve deep into to clarify our intentions. Intention precedes the clothes we wear.
Recently I had another lady from my church confront me and ask me if I had ever hugged her husband with a frontal hug and flirted with him! I NEVER have done that but I do remember one time wearing a body suit and slim fit jeans while working on a church project. Her husband was in my group and we worked with 10 other people on an outreach walk. Later I thought “why in the world would he think I wanted anything to do with him?” And the only thing I could think of was he read into my clothing choice and naturally friendly attitude! It made me VERY aware that I must be fully aware of not only my clothing but also my actions! Around men, I should not be overly friendly because men who struggle with commitment or if someone is having trust issues in their marriage I dont want my actions or dress to cause others to sin
"naturally friendly attitude" I swear women refuse to accept accountability for anything. I have seem women describe the most flirtatious behavior exactly this way while they were acting just as naive.....................
Great topic.
Great job covering this🎉
You guys had a couple a while back on the show (podcast) and she was a fitness instructor- I always wondered how she dressed and how she would answer this question- this would be a great “come back” episode for her and her husband ❤️🙌
Was that Abbie Halberstadt? (Author, 10 kids)
I’m pretty sure it is- they were on discussing something like margin for marriage with kids.
Also if you do get them back … I would love to hear how they manage encounters with the opposite sex at the gym as far as both being the trainer of and training in front of. Hope to see some content out of this! Navigating the gym/fitness realm can get tricky sometimes.
Context is key. Gym activities dictate certain features in attire and often that is not loose fitting (can be uncomfortable and a danger if it gets caught in the equipment). Athletic pants/yoga pants and an athletic tank top would be appropriate. A sports bra only top and compression shorts, perhaps not in this instance.
Would he have a similar issue with her if she was a swimmer having to wear that style of swimsuit?
I’m about modesty, but sometimes it’s taken to an unhealthy extreme towards women.
I used to work at a gym and was also gym rat who worked out all the time. For YEARS we went to the gym in loose fitting sweat pants and hoodies. It is complete bull crap that you need tight fitting yoga pants or sport bras for safety reasons or ease of use at the Gym. It is merely an excuse so women (and men) can justify dressing sexually in public. Just admit it.
Exactly every male sports team wears skin tight attire... wrestlers wear underwear with no shirt. Women are always to blame for everything smh
If it’s absolutely impossible to engage in certain activities without wearing skimpy clothing in mixed company, maybe it's not worth it for a Christian to engage in said activities. Find a women's only group. Sacrifice crossfit/public swimming and pick up another athletic activity that allows you to pursue Christ and honour your husband more deeply.
I would say the same to men and husbands who disrespect their wives by pursuing hobbies that consume an inordinate amount of time outside the home, depriving their wives of their time and attention.
Find a way to do it that puts your Lord first, and your spouse right after. If it’s impossible, find a new hobby.
@@winninginlife but most men don't do to the gym in spandex. most men go to the gym in loose fitting basketball shorts and a tee shirt. In rare occasions men wear revealing cloths (wrestling and swimming) but it is rare that men are inventing reasons to make sure women can see the outline of their unit like women do with their camel toes and asses.
Just admit that in general, women lead with their sexuality. Stop with the "what aboutism" and just take accountability.
If her husband is asking her not to wear yoga pants to the gym- she should absolutely respect her husband. I’ve heard from my own husband about how he goes to a small in gym to avoid women who wear leggings that’s show everything/ jot to mention movements that “get any male gaze” my own husband ask me not to wear yoga pants out of the house at all. He enjoys seeing me in them- but he felt really disrespected by me when I wore them to the gym and to grocery shop. After being Sanctified in Christ for more years I would not ever wear yoga pants out of the house- ever. I really ONLY want my Husband to look at my backside- no other man.
When it comes to the gym- just wear joggers and a tank top. Or if you must wear leggings wear a flannel around your waist. Also, I think the skirts with leggings are pretty cute with a sweat wicking T-shirt.. you can absolutely be cute and feminine looking at the gym. You don’t need to be showing all your goods for a good workout. I currently avoid the whole gym scene and workout in my home ( which I love)
One thing I’ve learned is that I really only want attention from one man! My husband and this makes it so that I actually have freedom! Dressing modestly gives freedom and honors Christ and honors my husband.
I saw someone mention the beach and I’ve seen some really cute modest bathing suits from honeymark!
Also, your husbands should know that your more than willing to be not modest for him & only him!
Also, women acting like they don’t have any accountability to dress modestly is silly. It’s just prideful.
Trust her. If Jesus is leading her heart she won'tbe tempted bt flesh.