@OrcaBob 4337 I think they meant that they are tired of having to always text first but getting short responses and tired of always having to pay for the events.
True, why should you be an EGO SATISFIER of a lady who does not respect You? Repatriation and acceptance, and not wanting a man to die, fall and get stressed for you is a sign of respect and maturity. Hey man, be responsible and mature. Never be Satisfy any Lady's Ego, yet he bites your back, and laughs behind you how she has manipulated you mennn!!
If he's stopped chasing you, he's likely waiting for you to start putting in effort. If he is always doing the chasing, he doesn't feel valued. If he isn't valued and appreciated, he won't work for you.
Yes sir .. he will try and try and try and try and if he doesn't get the love back in any form he start ignoring you and then they say " you don't love me anymore".. Bitchhh
If they are too busy for you it means they are busy with someone else now don't bother about those people. Just take care of your family and yourself coz you matter ❤
I tried to move mountains for her. She didn't deserve. She stomped on my feelings. She told me I was clingy for asking love from her or caring for her. I don't need such people anymore in my life.
I would slaughter the whole World for her, and what did she do? Got off with a guy who ignored her already once, she was just a fun hole for him on both occasions, only to get her email asking me to meet with her, then she called me, as if nothing had ever happened, as if I was supposed to be a convenient substitution, even though it was her stupid decision to replace me. Such women don't know what they have, don't appreciate and respect what they have, thus they lose it by making irreversible mistakes and wrong decisions. It's been eight long years and I still have not healed properly. My anger, frustration, despair, loneliness have not fully gone away, and keep coming back as if they are a boomerang. Hell no, I won't make that mistake again.
I’m assuming they edited out the part where Steve replies “in order for a man to want to move mountains for you you must treat him as the only one for you” or something like that.
@@eeeeee8762 mate, the video this comment was written on, the one you're watching right now, you can see that the thing he mentioned isn't here meaning they edited that shit out edit: I thought he was fucking with me and i was in a bad mood when I wrote the responses, not gonna delete this comment tho that's a coward move, that being said, yes I get it now, all he asked for what a link
@@eeeeee8762 mate he asked if it was edited out, meaning the original had it, and he's referring to an edit, which is most likely this very video of course there's another 98% we're not seeing
Yeah why not because if the guy is not calling her or texting her she needs to move on obviously the guy has somebody else that's why he's not calling her
thats why i get hookers. the cost is similar to having a girlfriend. but the benefits outweigh the benefits from having a girlfriend. you get to choose who you want to be with how you want to be with and they will get the fuck out of your bed when you want them to. no drama no bs and they cant cheat.
If man stops texting it can be possible that he is suffering from his life traumas, it might be possible that he don't have any intentions to drag his beloved into this.. just listening these suggestions can cause someone's lovelife ❤
Thks!! This happened to me with a guy.... Suddenly he kept distancing himself After a year, i understood by just being more curious about psychology and his personality, that it had more to deal with his trauma than what was said in the video
@@saurabhithape7297 Thks U know i didn't do that much When u truly genuinely love someone, u reach a level when u become so sensitive to you people and feel them as you would feel yourself Because they become as important for you than your own self
God damn that got me good 😂😂 "He changed" meanwhile his comrades die left and right. But if he really loves you he'll call you, even during a gun fight......sssssuuuurrrreee 😂😂
Oh cmon... men are capable of the same emotions as a woman, stop with the bs argument that men aren't "that emotional." It's particularly damaging to the men who felt comfortable expressing their emotions, only to hear from women AND other men, that "men don't do that." And losing interest isn't black and white, people's reasons for losing interest differ from person to person.
@@kittymeowmeow7881 men expressing their emotions solves nothing specially to a woman. If he needs emotional support he will seek it from fellow men, a woman won't solve any problems for a man, their too emotional to even solve their own.
Second reason in india....if you ask marriage and want serious relationship.he.ll leave...bcz some boys don't want responsibilty and stress and tension🤣..till the enjoyment he ll be with u.
If a man feels like he is putting everything into a relationship and is getting nothing back he will give it up. It’s a smart move because he will want to feel loved instead of having to love on the part of 2 people
"Men will move mountains for you, but when he stops texting you, his feelings have changed" she's still missing the point. Men will do that. And the moment he stops texting, it's not because his feeling's have changed. It's because he's the one initiating everything in the relationship. Now, he's giving her a chance to text back, initiate something, anything, to prove to him, that she's interested, and that it wasn't all for nothing. And half the time, he never gets that text back. Hence why, he disappears. He's done with you if you can't even give a single text.
This feels like projecting The way I see the video is not "if a guy is testing yoou" I see the video as: "when someone does not talk to you. They probably are no interested." And that to me is true. When someone does not talk to you they are probably not interested. You are literally making the same argument but from the other side. "If the girl won't text, she is not interested, so I am not going to put in effort". Exactly. As they said in the video. But the person above went onto ramblings about men moving mountains. You may be texting someone that you have never been on a date with. So it feels like they are projecting their personal experiences onto the video.
@@cheyemily6066 in what way? It’s the man who pays for the dates, the girlfriend come and lives with him, and the man pays for the ring. If he’s going to put his time, energy, and shit ton of money into this relationship; he needs to know that she is actually in love with him and not his money or affection. So if he stops texting one day to see if she tries to talk to him and she doesn’t, he realizes that there’s no point. She just proved that he’s putting everything in, but getting nothing out
True....After loving him so much I got nothing but his ignorance and avoidance...I'm not gonna chase him anymore.....I still love him and maybe I will always....But Self respect is also important
This guy I been dating and starting having feelings for just fell back, felt like I was chasing him, I would be the one to initiate a convo, try to set up a date, I just stopped texting, if it ain’t mutual let it go.
This is my situation as well. Where are all the guys jumping down this woman's throat, now, explaining THIS?? This is what she's talking about. Guys would rather ghost you than just come out and say he's just not that into you. It's BS
Same with me too. I was texting and initiating meeting up just as much as him it was mutual until it just became me. So I stopped and haven’t heard from him and it’s going on 3 weeks
@@Airwak2 yup I stopped texting cause it seem like if I didn’t then we wouldn’t talk, then one day I was like let me see if he gone text me, and then it turned to 3 months of us not talking then he called me asking what happened. Like really it took you 3 months to realize we havnt been talking.? Like go find someone else to play with .
@@nenenicole8291 i feel like these days men are blaming women for all the things that THEY do and sometimes even boast about it. like cheating on their wife/gf and justifying it by 'men will be men'.
Every time I stop texting or calling, it’s not because my feelings for her have changed. It’s because I start to feel as if my efforts are not mutual. Ladies for heaven sake, stop expecting men to read your mind. You have got to make the effort too.
@@Tee-Star ummm .. food sex sleep..food…random thought … I’ve just given you the ultimate map to a mans brain .. When you see your man staring off into the distance we are not having a deep meditative experience. We could just be looking with absolutely zero thoughts. Mostly our thoughts are absolutely about nothing interesting
@@tomberver1075 agree with you, when women stop communicating we at least text to them what’s wrong meaning that’s what they expect from you. But when you stop texting they usually text back “Where are you?” or “What are you doing?”. But that’s just my opinion.
Maybe, he's tired of putting in all of the work and wants to see if you will put effort into the relationship. Why is it always on the man's shoulders? Remember this "Stop crossing oceans for someone who won't cross the street for you"
Yes his feelings have changed, but it's probably not a lack of interest. Men want a response. If a guy is constantly pursuing you and is trying to talk or be around you and it's always him making the effort, if it's always HIM moving the mountains, then he's going to start to wonder if he's wasting his time considering she won't put in the effort to pursue a connection with him
@@7xDonnas dump her then, why waste your time when there’s people out there who actually want to be with you for who you are rather than for what you give
@@Chatelaine0 if you're already in a relationship with someone, why expel all that energy when you have no return? If the communication effort is only one sided, that shows lack of dedication or interest from the other. Why subject yourself to that sort of relationship?
@@andrewbrooks2001 Problems with communication should be addressed way before a relationship reaches a point where one or either party is no longer making an effort to reach out, don't you think? This video is talking about dating. Not a fully established relationship. By the time you co-habit and start planning for kids there should already be a consensus on how to deal with any concerns or conflicts or to leave the relationship altogether. Silent Treatments, Withdrawing affection/attention..are all manipulative or ..emasculate. Deal with the issue and move forward or move on. No one is forced to be anywhere.
Men feel unappreciated by women. Most of the time: Who starts conversation? Men Who plans dates? Men Who buys most gifts? Men Who spends most in the relationship? Men. So it is normal that the man will eventually stop, if he feels like he is being used by the woman. When she doesn’t start conversations with him, doesn’t surprise him with dates or gifts.. when the load of the relationship is only on him. That is not fair.
@@missleandra9648 What I'm trying to say is, it's good from time to time to reach out to him first. It makes him feel that you want to talk and spend time time with him too. You defiantly will not be called clingily for doing that.
@@DrYeolit's not as easy as you think SOME men actually make situations complicated for a woman to the point where it's harder for the woman to be their self around them. I understand what you're saying and tbh it would be easier that way in many relationships. There are women who actually want to give their man the world however they're afraid of the social stigma that comes with that especially from men and also on losing out for example: what if I give him everything and he leaves me for someone else. I mean it has happened.
@@missleandra9648 theres a huge difference between doing the bare minimum and being clingy or overbearing so let's not be disingenous by trying to conflate the two...
“a man can move mountains for you” but if that man does not even get a pebble swept away in return for the effort then he will realize you are not worth it and, rightfully so, give up.
What are the things you want in return? Very often men want just the same thing in return, while a sensible and deep woman wants to understand what there is behind your chasing her. That's why often we take time to trust and understand the real intentions. Feelings could bloom in seconds, but need time to be trusted and to become real, deep and serious. So what is the return that you don't have that will make you cut her off?
@@BLACHATBLA RECIPROCATION!!! Its simple...most men have to always invest money, interest and time (the things women want from men) by default before women ever give them anything in return...and men are sick of this because modern women are simply not worth it. Its double the effort for half the reward if you even get that. The fact you ask this question proves the overall point.
@@TheDalinkwent you said it again and I agree with you if there is never reciprocation, but at the beginning a certain distance might be kept for the reasons I said early. It is not easy to trust someone's words and feelings. Some women just need time and evidences.
Imagine that the woman is on top of a mountain while the man is at the foot. He would climb the mountain expecting you to meet him in the middle while you go down to meet him too. He will stop at the middle just to wait for you to come meet him there but if you don't come, he will go down and find another mountain to climb.
Most the time it's the women trying to climb the mountain to find a genuine guy who dosnt just wanna fuck. Men are the river bed and women are the water. If your a mess she will be too. A relationship takes 2 and all I see is women putting In the work literally birthing and raising these men's offspring and once shes to busy raising his kids and her body isn't the same as it was before he ruined her hell leave for the 1st bimbo who'll suck him off
@@Thebeezzkneezz. we’re talking about not even boy/girlfriends yet, and he’s right. Think about compliments. Girls get them everyday. You ask a average guy and he hasn’t gotten one in literal years.
@@shadowpanther2611 every women would beg to differ men only compliment to get some. They hardly ever mean it My sister is literally gorgeous and she had to tell her BF to call her pretty. And she constantly called him handsome everytime she walked in the room like a pet name but she had to beg for any compliments He'd do it for a for days and then fall off again
This day and age is hard for a man to be the way a man is supposed to be. We are always told what we are doing wrong even when we are doing everything right. She says a man would move mountains? What will the girl do for me? Will she split the sea to be with me? Doubt it.
I wrote my comment before looking in the comment section and it's full of similar comments to mine and yours. Were dead on the money with it. Constantly carrying the relationship and putting in more effort and resources.
yeah man this is happening to me right now, I've decided I'm gonna stop texting her and see how long it takes for her to text me first, if she ever does at all
Please make sure you’re working to give the man a reason to want to move the mountain. I spent years with a woman who I did everything for but she took me for granted daily. It hurt more and more everytime. One day, my feelings changed. I did less and less because I felt used. Because that’s what it was, me being used. It’s wonderful for a man to treat a woman right but why aren’t women expected to do the same?
Because men are dominant hurr durr. No seriously. Idk, I feel like women are like "So any intresting stuff to tell me? Intresting hobbies or anything?" And they feel like they only need to be breathing to be intresting enough. Just bs
Or maybe he realized that he was the one who was having to initiate all of the conversations and that you weren't showing that you cared so he felt as though the relationship was one sided and gave up
When person feels a pain or anxiety, the brain isnt able to to do two big tasks at once feeling his own pain and at the same time feel pain or anxiety of someone else... therefore our mind reacts in a way that we start to either be silent, or accuse each other of laziness, incompetency etc.... or other thing is when they feel our pain, they are not able to feel their own pain and anxiety and solve their own pain. So the best resolution is some meditation or therapy, where both people heal their traumas and anxiety, to calm the mind, and self-regulate, so they may use deep emphatic conversation with each other. and they should forgive each other for being ignorant to someone´s anxiety because brain isnt able to do two big tasks, at the same moment feel pain and feel empathy at once.....So if each of us learns to selfregulate, only then our brain has freedom to choose empathy and compassion and humor but its a daily work, so the anxiety will not come back and will not polarize the mind......Forgiving means: "sorry that your brain choosed anger and anxiety, and it wasnt able to do the other big task, empathy and compassion".... According to scientists Negative emotions are higly addictive to brain, therefore our brain becomes addicted to negative emotions and often it´s subcosncious process, so we arent even aware that brain has these negative triggers, unless we choose some therapeutic techniques...so tzhe brain sint gravitating toward negativity anxiety on its own..because our conscious mind wants happiness and empathy toward people and toward ourselves......If we practice mindfulness and techniques of selfregulating, the brain will after time choose the elevated happy emotions, and also it helps people to increase their immune system of body and physical health.
A man’s feelings change when disrespected. Women you might not even know you are doing it. Death by a thousand cuts. Respect. Trust. Love. Men value respect over all things.
This is facts. Lots of men have so much stress and silent suffering in their life. No one - NO ONE - knows the suffering I feel inside waking up every morning. Conversations are hard. I’m a healthy, good looking young man in his late 20s. People see me and expect more just because of that. And take it offensively when I “blow them off”. Trust me, you don’t want my negative energy in your crew tonight. I didn’t blow you off, I’m just taking another L, another night alone suffering.
Be adults and communicate with your adult partners then, there's no such thing in real life as a mibd reader and no adult has the right to expect or assume that anyone else, no matter who it is or what position they hold in your life to constantly be on the lookout with no verbal cues, information and indication that you need something from them. That's some exhausting emotional labour that's normally given to small children, the elderly in some cases and those with limited capacity. Your partner is not your mother and should not be treated as such. This is no one else's fault.
@@oxtrends835 Maybe you haven't met nice, pleasant, normal women. I'm sorry but we're not normally like that. Every demographic has it's share of downright dickheads and obviously we're not the exception. Maybe it's an american thing because I've noticed that you guys REALLY don't seem to like each other much, men and women that is. You don't see this nearly so much outside of the u.s. People are more interested in peace and a quiet life in other parts of the world, I'm not generalising by that much believe me. Something is very broken for you guys and you keep taking it out on each other instead of the people who are actually fucking it up for all of youse, look ^ upwards to the people with the power..Divide And Conquer.
@@PermadeathHD buddy I hate to break this to you but where in her tearful statement with the sad music and the black and white filter did she ever ever specify that she made any effort. To me it sounded like she was describing being some kind of princess to a man who needs to show her soooo much attention to prove his value to her. When in reality it should be 50/50. For all we know that man put forth all that effort in the beginning and then decided to stop to see if she would reciprocate and she never did then decided to blame the man. That’s the truth. Entitlement. They’d like everything and receive nothing. My girlfriend gives so much that I have to return the favor. She has empathy for me. You’d be very surprised how rare empathy is to find in women who view men as a utility who exist only to make their lives and emotional state better not realizing that we’re actually individuals with thoughts and feelings and go through hell so they can exist.
Move a mountain? Yes. It's a true story about an Indian legend " Dasrath manjhi popularly known as, Manjhi: the mountain men" he actually cut the whole mountain and made a road over there of his own just with the help of a hammer for love, people called him a lunatic but that steeled his resolve." He completed the work in 22 years (1960-1982). Truely a legend ❤
@@enzogumbo8733 He did this for his dead wife. When his wife died in 1959 due to injury caused by falling from a mountain and due to the same mountain blocking easy access to a nearby hospital in time, so he decided to carve a 110 meter-long (360 ft) path through a ridge of hills using only a hammer.
that's because it's different in every relationship, there are literally thousands of reasons anyone's feelings can change and then too, there doesn't have to be ANY reason at all, their feelings just changed..
@@msanja70 Usually people who just point to someone else as the reason their relationship failed, ended or went wrong are people who'll continue to have relationships fail, end & go wrong, because they never get real with themselves & ask themselves: "What did I do that I should not have done" or "What did I fail to do?" What could I have done better? How could I (ME, I, the only 1 I can control) have made my partner happier, met their needs more. paid more attention to them & their words & non verbal cues? How could I have kept being the same person I presented to them in the beginning of the relationship or; How could Ibe different NEXT TIME & be myself from the get go & not filter out my true self, flaws & all, in the beginning; to get them to fall for me, then turn around & torturously slowly have to discover who I REALLY am, so that it ends when they don't like the real me. Maybe I need to stop lying, cheating, deceiving & pretending I care if I DON'T care about aperson, if I just need touse them for some reason for awhile.... Msybe a person we love really should be more important than alcohol, drugs, my game on t.v., my job, my ego, or me getting my way all the time. Maybe I should keep my hands to myself when I'm angry...Oh, wait, HEY maybe I should even go get some help for my personality disorder, my depression, or my habit of becoming instantly violent domestically on the regular because of my alcoholism and/or my love of xanax & sleeping pillls. to relax from my life of pretty much ease..... .... Hmmmm maybe I need to grow up... Or: You get it, there's a thousand reasons couples fail but 1 thing is CERTAIN: it IS always BOTH people's fault when a relationship fails to last. One may have more culpability than the other on some levels but there's NO perfect humans out there who performed ALL of their half of a relationship PERFECTLY so ... If we want to change the outcome of our relationships it's usually we ourselves that we need to examine, evaluate, ask tough questions & then very honestly answer them too. If it failed it was meant to fail but every relationship can teach you something about life, people & (if we're wise enough to take the opportunity to do so; then) also hopefully they'll help us to see ourselves clearer too & to see when & IF we need to change something about ourselves so that WE'LL become a better partner for someone to have as their partner. That's a good goal to have that CAN make our life happier, whereas just blaming others, accepting no responsibility for what WE ourselves do or have done or for what we failed to do, that was wrong; only results in a victim mentality of self pity, making us bitter, self deceiving and too often all alone.
@@KathyHussey063: that makes no sense at all. Maybe for women not having a reason, hell women hold the record on divorce 88% and 95% if college educated. For us men there’s always a reason.
@@Yakar-Yaoh.6651 How in the world do you think 88% of ANY group of women who divorced their spouses had NO reason ? That's hilarious. Just because a couple may file a "no fault" easier type of divorce and divide up their few pieces of property they own rogether does not mean there's no reason, I'd wager that at least 65% of the time it's due to catching a spouse cheating. And I get it that men always SEEM to have a reason, if you go by court documents, from bitter divorces, if you base it off of guys who are divorcing their spouses who are usually loudly whining that they are the ones done wrong to the judge, because they're trying to get custody of their kids & the house too, to avoid paying any child support til the children are 18 years old,.They do that because usually the man has most of the income of the family because she stopped working mostly to raise up the children, only to get ditched by a philandering butthead,, who then uses that money (knowing she doesnt have any saved up individually) to clobber her over the head & take everything from her, including the kids because she refuses to keep putting up with his abuse/ cheating/control/selfishness etc. There's always 2 sides to EVERY story.
For realllll! Dawg that’s the issue I have today, it’s like nah if the other person really likes/loves me that person will make time to text/call me. Ain’t no way I’m gonna be begging for their attention!
Is this really how people think a relationship works like yeah you make time for the other but this woman acts like she should never have to do anything if she makes no effort she doesn't deserve someone elses effort
I love that moving mountains quote, because when a man stops doing that, in some cases the women won't even lift a finger to do the same, people really expect men to do everything and bare everything on their shoulders and only then are they treated with any level of respect.
BuT GeNdEr EqUaLiTy… see it’s these things it what they miss, I don’t hear girls saying “ girls you gotta move mountains for him, you gotta sacrifice everything to find a way to be with him, yea no one does because it’s not “ till death do we part “ it’s “ if you get broke, I get bored, or I just don’t want it anymore, I’ll take your stuff and a living allowance do we part “
Y’all do realize that that is reciprocal, if a guy has stopped calling you and stop texting you is no longer taking you out. It’s probably because you haven’t done the same thing for him and he’s tired of doing it all for you without anything in return
@@marcycat then that women deserve to be cheated.... if he was texting you all day and calling but you never replied and gave same energy back.... he deserves better
But what if I call him, texted him but still no answer he always says that he is busy with this and that should I give him space or better still stop texting and calling him..... Ju
This is the hypergamy in women. It's normal. A woman's loves is opportunistic. As a man you barely careless if she's financially stable but she focuses on your ability to provide. It's normal. Nothing wrong there. As a man, you should focus on her past as she focuses on your future. She should bring youthfulness, fertility, sexuality to your life. That's what you need from her just as she needs your protection and provision. Anything less and you're playing yourself
This. Everyone wants to blame the guy when a relationship fails. If the woman cheats, it's somehow the man's fault. Women neglect their men and still blame the man for walking away. We can't win.
@@commoguy25q I mean men at large will cheat, lie, and be unfaithful, and I’m not just saying this to say it. I’m a guy and I know how the male mind works. As men allot of the time we just lose interest very fast, the littlest thing can change our feelings and honestly men are big on puppy love dynamics or simply only wanting sex and knowing the only way to get it is to pretend to love you.
@@Bunnybunny5656 I’ve heard about and I’ve seen statistics that say women cheat more than men… personally I don’t know a single men like you describe, but I guess it depends in what kind of groups you are in.
Initiative and reciprocation are why a man will stop reaching out & putting in effort. Men on average operate based on action... If I'm doing all of this stuff for you & im not being acknowledged nor rewarded for my behavior... I'm going to mentally & then physically check out. Women on average take this for granted because anything you do for a woman at least 3 times becomes obligation in their minds. So no... Im not going to keep conversation going if you now get to a point where you feel as if your entitled to my time.
''A man that wants to be with you will move mountains to be with you'' Meanwhile the girl sitting on her ass, not doing anything on the other side of that mountain.
except for all of the emotional labor in the relationship! you can say men do everything and women do nothing-but that’s looking at it from a strictly monetary view. women put 10x more effort in communicating, vulnerability, love, care, emotional safety, etc. so yes a man should be planning the dates and calling and being the one to put effort in because that’s what men do-take action. but don’t you dare say the women aren’t doing anything while they’re sitting there thinking of all the ways to make sure you feel valued and you ignore them because it doesn’t look like planning dates and spending her money! dig deeper man, women offer so much and you don’t realize because of your ego
I roughly remember something my mom told me when I first started dating: Dating is kind of like being on a canoe. You each have a paddle, but if one person is putting in more effort than the other, you're just going to go in circles until one of you decides to jump off.
My mom told me when I was depressed bc my ex broke up with me that love is like a plant, you have to water it to keep it alive or else it begins to die. I was young and selfish to think that I didn’t have to call or give him attention until he found it somewhere else. Now I see it as, grass is greener where you water it 🫶🏽
It hurts me when people says"a man who wants you will move mountains for you" mean while you are taken for granted, you feed the relationship every time more than them.Who want that kind of life? NB: note with me that a human's heart will never stay forever where is not appreciated because a monday will come around one day.
Sometimes a guy will be struck by the revelation that he's been the one to start every conversation, suggest every outing, and organise every activity. One day he'll stop sending those messages and asking those questions, waiting to see how long it takes for you to show you care. That decision, to not be the one who initiates every single time, will more often than not be the last time he'll ever speak with you. And it's not that he doesn't care, because he's been showing just how much he cares the whole time. It's that, like so much of society, you forgot he has feelings, can feel neglected, and needs to be told (or shown) that the people around him care.
There are times your man can leave you alone for him to re organize himself and his work.. there are other important things in life.. Always ask yourself why before you conclude on any matter
@@volourn9764 you just jumped to the other extreme😂 being busy does not mean there is no interaction, you have to find a balance that works for the both of you and that’s that
Im kindof in that boat and that hit me but I don’t have a partner that doesn’t try much I just try so much harder than the norm when she doesn’t and sometimes wonder why and if I needed her like that and I couldn’t take care of us, would she be there like I was always there for her? Ofc thinking too much into it isn’t healthy but my mind still begs for the answer.
@@user-jp5zj7hk6m well in general he's right. You dont ask a fish "how to catch a fish" you ask the fishermen. Women never had to attract another women as a guy and usually do give bad advice.
I'll tell you why us guys stop calling, and stop texting. We're tired of putting in all of the effort. Every once and a while it would be nice to be the one who wakes up to the "Good Morning" text or the "Hey hope your days going well" having to initiate every single interview makes us feel like you don't really enjoy or time together. It makes us feel like you don't really think about us when we go out separate ways, getting the first text from a girl is the easiest way to sink your hooks into a man
Exactly! I always text my friends first after a period of time without texting them and I'm always the one that texts first and it would be nice if I didn't text first all the time because it would make me feel more wanted
what a well said comment... im also tired to initiate all the time... and its not like tired of doing it but i also want something in return like how about u say good morning first? why so hard or why it has to be so complicated? oO
@@PengoPotato i get that, there are people i talk to that i know if I stopped reaching out first i would lose all content with. If im talking to a girl i go about 2-3 weeks of initiating conversation after that i stop and 100% of times it just ends there
I put in so much and got less and less back... it hurt... i understand where youre coming from, ive lived it. I hope you find the woman who reciprocates that, and gives 100% with you. Or man, sorry, forgot...
In my experience, when a man stops texting or calling a woman he's testing her. Because up to that point it was probably the man who initiated every conversation, and he wants to see if she's genuinely interested in him enough to initiate a conversation herself. But she doesn't, so he thinks she's not really interested in him, so he decides to invest his time elsewhere
I'm gonna hit you with a straight up, "this is wrong." As someone with a significant other that, I still love the day that we first started seeing each other, I have had to rapidly change to having to work 16 hour shifts, 6 days a week, and let m tell you, I am very much too busy to interact with them as much. Even on my day off I am often times sleeping all day. The thing is, she understands that both A. I am doing this for the betterment of our future, and B. I get more spending money to indulge them. Plus when I am available which is maybe once a month, we spend ever single second with each other. It is not always that their feelings have changed, it it likely that he is focusing on the future of him AND you. And that is not even mentioning the mental distress and conditions that often effect people, especially in these days.
That doesnt happen often tho, I really respect what youre doing, but if someone at first has a lot of time, and then suddenly doesnt spend time with someone it almost always is because their feelings changed. But keep going bro, I hope you'll live a happy life with your so
@@pepijndegroot7728 well like I said, a lot of mental health issues can cause that wall of communication. My case is rare, but very often people won't have changed feelings, they're just going through trauma or depression or anxiety and don't know what to do. The main argument is that men are never too busy to talk, which is in itself wrong, but even it was right, mental distress often takes hold of people's life.
@@pepijndegroot7728 it happens more that you think, even with really wealthy people, kid I knew, he said his parents barely had time to say goodbye to each other each day, the mom was a doctor and dad was a corporate exec, it was sad to listen to how chaotic their life was just to maintain their lifestyle and it happens in poor and welthy
Completely agree. I’ve stopped spending so much time with my girl. Its not cuz my feelings have changed. Its cuz everyday after my day job I’m doing uber eats or DoorDash for an additional 4 hours of work. And its to save up to get her the ring she deserves.
People simply keep selfish expectations. Most people don't know what love is , but they think that they know what love is. Love is not about getting something from someone, love is about giving. Also try to think from others perspective, what others are going through before judging someone. And don't burden someone with your expectations, its really bad.
If i regularly text a girl,make constant effort to impress her ,take her out and suddenly stop doing all of it,it's not because my feeling has changed but it's because i have finally collapsed under the burden of having to carry the conversation or the relationship all by myself.Simple as that!
Or that the relationship has evolved beyond the honeymoon stage. You can't keep that up and a good woman will respect that and allow a deeper connection to flourish.
Here's some realistic advice, listening to these people will keep your ass single forever.
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The single leading the single.
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Propably single mothers who are bitter
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If a man stops trying, ask why.
Chances are he no longer feels that the effort is rewarded
Why should man climb a mountain. Why can't a girl drive a car to him 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
@OrcaBob 4337 I think they meant that they are tired of having to always text first but getting short responses and tired of always having to pay for the events.
The thing is, your always texting but u dont get an answer in like 2 days xD. Feelings "may" have changed, but why ?
Dayum 😂💯
@@gamefreak8503 women can drive? JKK
That Man didn’t change his feelings. He realised who You are.
Well said
True, why should you be an EGO SATISFIER of a lady who does not respect You?
Repatriation and acceptance, and not wanting a man to die, fall and get stressed for you is a sign of respect and maturity.
Hey man, be responsible and mature. Never be Satisfy any Lady's Ego, yet he bites your back, and laughs behind you how she has manipulated you mennn!!
Maybe they are looking for imperfect
He slay the cheeks and realized that he hates her. 😅
This is real. 😂😂😂
Sometimes we just get tired of trying and asking for respect. After a while our peace of mind is priceless. Walk away and keep moving forward.
If he's stopped chasing you, he's likely waiting for you to start putting in effort. If he is always doing the chasing, he doesn't feel valued. If he isn't valued and appreciated, he won't work for you.
Big facts
"Thx i learned something new"
-Some women, i guess
Or he’s a womanizer and found new toys to play with.
@@eattravellovejoy20 a typical cynical and pessimistic woman.
Facts
When efforts aren’t reciprocated we often just stop, it becomes exhausting. We’d rather focus on growing ourselves.
ON GOD NIGGA
Exactly
This is the truth right here
The truth is too loud here.
Thank you
True. Nobody is ever to busy for who they love.
Cope ⬆️
Yeah I am
I don’t call people that don’t reciprocate. Reciprocating is what keeps relationships alive.
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Reciprocation is vital!
Exactly!
It takes two
What women forget is that for a man to move mountains for you, he needs to be loved in return as well.
Respected mostly.
Yes sir .. he will try and try and try and try and if he doesn't get the love back in any form he start ignoring you and then they say " you don't love me anymore"..
Bitchhh
As a women I agree!!
Word
That's the minimum..she better do more than that to worth moving a mountain for
He stopped calling and texting because he got tired of chasing someone who’s barely into him.
Tell them again brother they didn't hear you,well said
This goes both ways
@@WonderfullyMade5518 but what he is saying Vanessa is only he is going the one way and she is not doing anything
I understood what he was saying hun..i was just saying it happen to women as well.
@@WonderfullyMade5518 oh ok right
If they are too busy for you it means they are busy with someone else now don't bother about those people. Just take care of your family and yourself coz you matter ❤
I tried to move mountains for her. She didn't deserve. She stomped on my feelings. She told me I was clingy for asking love from her or caring for her. I don't need such people anymore in my life.
I most definitely agree with u...and im a woman
You did the right thing. You’re not alone. Walk away you’ll be a lot happier
I would slaughter the whole World for her, and what did she do? Got off with a guy who ignored her already once, she was just a fun hole for him on both occasions, only to get her email asking me to meet with her, then she called me, as if nothing had ever happened, as if I was supposed to be a convenient substitution, even though it was her stupid decision to replace me. Such women don't know what they have, don't appreciate and respect what they have, thus they lose it by making irreversible mistakes and wrong decisions. It's been eight long years and I still have not healed properly. My anger, frustration, despair, loneliness have not fully gone away, and keep coming back as if they are a boomerang. Hell no, I won't make that mistake again.
I’m assuming they edited out the part where Steve replies “in order for a man to want to move mountains for you you must treat him as the only one for you” or something like that.
Well you can just watch the video to see if they did
@@IFuckingLoveFrenchToast I can’t find the full video, you got a link?
@@eeeeee8762 mate, the video this comment was written on, the one you're watching right now,
you can see that the thing he mentioned isn't here meaning they edited that shit out
edit: I thought he was fucking with me and i was in a bad mood when I wrote the responses, not gonna delete this comment tho that's a coward move, that being said, yes I get it now, all he asked for what a link
@@IFuckingLoveFrenchToast So this is *the full length* video and not just a small portion of another longer video?
@@eeeeee8762 mate he asked if it was edited out, meaning the original had it, and he's referring to an edit, which is most likely this very video
of course there's another 98% we're not seeing
Women saying all this but then texting 3 other dudes behind your back. Then wonder why.
Facts
Lmao my dude pick your fucking partners better then
Yeah why not because if the guy is not calling her or texting her she needs to move on obviously the guy has somebody else that's why he's not calling her
@@TheSCPStudio I'm saying bruh🤣🤣
thats why i get hookers. the cost is similar to having a girlfriend. but the benefits outweigh the benefits from having a girlfriend. you get to choose who you want to be with how you want to be with and they will get the fuck out of your bed when you want them to. no drama no bs and they cant cheat.
A man who wants to be with you will move mountains for you, but if you take it for granted, he will walk away like you never existed
If man stops texting it can be possible that he is suffering from his life traumas, it might be possible that he don't have any intentions to drag his beloved into this.. just listening these suggestions can cause someone's lovelife ❤
Communicate some women are very understanding and will be there for you regardless.
Thks!! This happened to me with a guy.... Suddenly he kept distancing himself
After a year, i understood by just being more curious about psychology and his personality, that it had more to deal with his trauma than what was said in the video
@@kaouM Indeed, I'm happy that you tried to get his perspective as well. Women such as yourself are truly deserving of much gratitude.
@@saurabhithape7297 Thks
U know i didn't do that much
When u truly genuinely love someone, u reach a level when u become so sensitive to you people and feel them as you would feel yourself
Because they become as important for you than your own self
“ his feelings have changed”
“ ive been deployed in the middle east”
That’s realness
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God damn that got me good 😂😂 "He changed" meanwhile his comrades die left and right. But if he really loves you he'll call you, even during a gun fight......sssssuuuurrrreee 😂😂
@@W0rldofAnime air force guys in a plane, fighting a guy just “wassup babe”
Woman would still react same way tho
I bet she responds with "k"
Yeah
Why
Lol
My exact thoughts like stfu look inward if he's doing all that he's doing good then if he stopped for "no reason" check your actions
"how was your day?"
"Good" well I'm not gonna try again when someone responds like this
finally that man realized that he was being played with
Same with family. If they always expect u to show up for them but never show up for u, THEY DONT CARE!
This lesson doesn’t count only for a man or woman. But also for family and friends. If they like you they make time for you
Great pointer and true
This comment hit me, I've been such a bad family member! Need to contact more family regularly
Not really. I still very much care and always missing my family everyday. I just too lazy to check text n calling.
Good point you made.
But there is no need to wait for someone to contact you, you can also contact that person
Men's feelings don't change, men aren't that emotional. A man looses interest when he is not appreciated.
Exactly , when we feel we are that person in this relationship who has been used , we will move on ..
Oh cmon... men are capable of the same emotions as a woman, stop with the bs argument that men aren't "that emotional." It's particularly damaging to the men who felt comfortable expressing their emotions, only to hear from women AND other men, that "men don't do that." And losing interest isn't black and white, people's reasons for losing interest differ from person to person.
@@kittymeowmeow7881 men expressing their emotions solves nothing specially to a woman. If he needs emotional support he will seek it from fellow men, a woman won't solve any problems for a man, their too emotional to even solve their own.
I don't think anyone's feeling just change overnight. Be it men or women.
Second reason in india....if you ask marriage and want serious relationship.he.ll leave...bcz some boys don't want responsibilty and stress and tension🤣..till the enjoyment he ll be with u.
Ain't nobody trying to move mountains and jump through hoops to get used for his money and resources in exchange of nothing but stink😂😂😂😂
This goes out to family and friends too. Most of them just want to suck your energy and be gone. If they really cared for you, they would be there
If a man feels like he is putting everything into a relationship and is getting nothing back he will give it up. It’s a smart move because he will want to feel loved instead of having to love on the part of 2 people
I did it for three yrs...it was the most miserable time of my life got fat depressed. But Im coming back lofe is so simple now
Yes
@An unimpressed Rooster thanks. I quit
Ma man
Very true.
"Men will move mountains for you, but when he stops texting you, his feelings have changed" she's still missing the point. Men will do that. And the moment he stops texting, it's not because his feeling's have changed. It's because he's the one initiating everything in the relationship. Now, he's giving her a chance to text back, initiate something, anything, to prove to him, that she's interested, and that it wasn't all for nothing. And half the time, he never gets that text back. Hence why, he disappears. He's done with you if you can't even give a single text.
You're Right Bro , you're spitting facts , y the f should we always initiates
true true
This feels like projecting
The way I see the video is not "if a guy is testing yoou" I see the video as: "when someone does not talk to you. They probably are no interested." And that to me is true. When someone does not talk to you they are probably not interested. You are literally making the same argument but from the other side. "If the girl won't text, she is not interested, so I am not going to put in effort". Exactly. As they said in the video.
But the person above went onto ramblings about men moving mountains. You may be texting someone that you have never been on a date with. So it feels like they are projecting their personal experiences onto the video.
Exactly
@@cheyemily6066 in what way? It’s the man who pays for the dates, the girlfriend come and lives with him, and the man pays for the ring. If he’s going to put his time, energy, and shit ton of money into this relationship; he needs to know that she is actually in love with him and not his money or affection. So if he stops texting one day to see if she tries to talk to him and she doesn’t, he realizes that there’s no point. She just proved that he’s putting everything in, but getting nothing out
True....After loving him so much I got nothing but his ignorance and avoidance...I'm not gonna chase him anymore.....I still love him and maybe I will always....But Self respect is also important
It is. It always is, although it's hard, I hope you take your time to move on and never go in the same loop again .
Sending virtual hugs.
This guy I been dating and starting having feelings for just fell back, felt like I was chasing him, I would be the one to initiate a convo, try to set up a date, I just stopped texting, if it ain’t mutual let it go.
This is my situation as well.
Where are all the guys jumping down this woman's throat, now, explaining THIS?? This is what she's talking about. Guys would rather ghost you than just come out and say he's just not that into you. It's BS
Same with me too. I was texting and initiating meeting up just as much as him it was mutual until it just became me. So I stopped and haven’t heard from him and it’s going on 3 weeks
@@Airwak2 yup I stopped texting cause it seem like if I didn’t then we wouldn’t talk, then one day I was like let me see if he gone text me, and then it turned to 3 months of us not talking then he called me asking what happened. Like really it took you 3 months to realize we havnt been talking.? Like go find someone else to play with .
@@SweetDesertHoney they like to play games, and play victim, if we both not 100% into eachother then let it go. I’m not about to chase no man.
@@nenenicole8291 i feel like these days men are blaming women for all the things that THEY do and sometimes even boast about it. like cheating on their wife/gf and justifying it by 'men will be men'.
Every time I stop texting or calling, it’s not because my feelings for her have changed. It’s because I start to feel as if my efforts are not mutual. Ladies for heaven sake, stop expecting men to read your mind. You have got to make the effort too.
Really? How will she know that a need isn't met when you stop communicating?
Isn't that expecting her to read your mind?
@@Tee-Star because I’ve stopped communicating… that’s how she’ll know
@@Tee-Star ummm .. food sex sleep..food…random thought …
I’ve just given you the ultimate map to a mans brain ..
When you see your man staring off into the distance we are not having a deep meditative experience. We could just be looking with absolutely zero thoughts.
Mostly our thoughts are absolutely about nothing interesting
@@Tee-Star Yes! Gurl I agree w U all the way!
@@tomberver1075 agree with you, when women stop communicating we at least text to them what’s wrong meaning that’s what they expect from you. But when you stop texting they usually text back “Where are you?” or “What are you doing?”. But that’s just my opinion.
I'm not saying this is definitely horseshit, but if you're thinking this is horseshit, I can tell you you're not alone.
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Saw this right before this.......and i dont know what to think
@@RandomGamer244 I would start with "maybe people are more complicated than you can sum up in a tiktok"
It's 100 percent bullshit some people, most people actually need their alone time and space
I’m glad I’m not alone
I think it's horseshit buddy
another excuse to blame man for no reasons.
Men get tired of moving mountains just to see you with your head in the clouds.
Maybe, he's tired of putting in all of the work and wants to see if you will put effort into the relationship. Why is it always on the man's shoulders?
Remember this "Stop crossing oceans for someone who won't cross the street for you"
Mmmmmmm.... Deep!
I feel this bro..
Yeah all I heard in the video was if HE stops communication
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I bet you she’s a huge advocate for ‘’equality’’ as well 😂
Yes his feelings have changed, but it's probably not a lack of interest. Men want a response. If a guy is constantly pursuing you and is trying to talk or be around you and it's always him making the effort, if it's always HIM moving the mountains, then he's going to start to wonder if he's wasting his time considering she won't put in the effort to pursue a connection with him
Current problem with my gf, I put all the work in to communicate and show I care , but she never feels she has to do the same
@@7xDonnas dump her then, why waste your time when there’s people out there who actually want to be with you for who you are rather than for what you give
@@7xDonnas Leave her dude. You deserve someone who loves and puts in the effort as much as you do.
@@7xDonnas Get yourself a new girl man, she don’t deserve your attention
@@7xDonnas "gf like that ?, Put em' in the trash !"
~NapoLion
That man is a real man.
Women say they hate one thing and then fall for that exact thing they say they hate
Stay on yr grind men.
what? u have been brainwashed. you can't speak for all women
Or maybe he's tired of chasing someone who never texts first, calls first, or asked out to do something. A relationship is a two way road.
Facts
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What happened to hunting?
@@Chatelaine0 if you're already in a relationship with someone, why expel all that energy when you have no return? If the communication effort is only one sided, that shows lack of dedication or interest from the other. Why subject yourself to that sort of relationship?
@@andrewbrooks2001 Problems with communication should be addressed way before a relationship reaches a point where one or either party is no longer making an effort to reach out, don't you think? This video is talking about dating. Not a fully established relationship. By the time you co-habit and start planning for kids there should already be a consensus on how to deal with any concerns or conflicts or to leave the relationship altogether. Silent Treatments, Withdrawing affection/attention..are all manipulative or ..emasculate. Deal with the issue and move forward or move on. No one is forced to be anywhere.
Men feel unappreciated by women.
Most of the time:
Who starts conversation? Men
Who plans dates? Men
Who buys most gifts? Men
Who spends most in the relationship? Men.
So it is normal that the man will eventually stop, if he feels like he is being used by the woman.
When she doesn’t start conversations with him, doesn’t surprise him with dates or gifts.. when the load of the relationship is only on him. That is not fair.
But when women text first or call first or plan dates they call them clingy so what do you want them to do if not allow you to make the first move?
@@missleandra9648 What I'm trying to say is, it's good from time to time to reach out to him first. It makes him feel that you want to talk and spend time time with him too. You defiantly will not be called clingily for doing that.
@@DrYeolit's not as easy as you think SOME men actually make situations complicated for a woman to the point where it's harder for the woman to be their self around them. I understand what you're saying and tbh it would be easier that way in many relationships. There are women who actually want to give their man the world however they're afraid of the social stigma that comes with that especially from men and also on losing out for example: what if I give him everything and he leaves me for someone else. I mean it has happened.
@@missleandra9648 Who? Nobody calls women clingy for taking initiative. You're lying through your teeth. Name me one person who does that.
@@missleandra9648 theres a huge difference between doing the bare minimum and being clingy or overbearing so let's not be disingenous by trying to conflate the two...
Because he started valueing himself. Respecting himself
It means he got what he wanted somewhere else. You were just on rotation.
“a man can move mountains for you” but if that man does not even get a pebble swept away in return for the effort then he will realize you are not worth it and, rightfully so, give up.
Exactly.
What are the things you want in return? Very often men want just the same thing in return, while a sensible and deep woman wants to understand what there is behind your chasing her. That's why often we take time to trust and understand the real intentions.
Feelings could bloom in seconds, but need time to be trusted and to become real, deep and serious. So what is the return that you don't have that will make you cut her off?
@@BLACHATBLA RECIPROCATION!!!
Its simple...most men have to always invest money, interest and time (the things women want from men) by default before women ever give them anything in return...and men are sick of this because modern women are simply not worth it. Its double the effort for half the reward if you even get that.
The fact you ask this question proves the overall point.
@@TheDalinkwent you said it again and I agree with you if there is never reciprocation, but at the beginning a certain distance might be kept for the reasons I said early. It is not easy to trust someone's words and feelings. Some women just need time and evidences.
@@BLACHATBLA
Have fun staying single.
Imagine that the woman is on top of a mountain while the man is at the foot. He would climb the mountain expecting you to meet him in the middle while you go down to meet him too. He will stop at the middle just to wait for you to come meet him there but if you don't come, he will go down and find another mountain to climb.
That is so wise
O Penguin of God, thank you for bestowing upon us thy wisdom
Most the time it's the women trying to climb the mountain to find a genuine guy who dosnt just wanna fuck.
Men are the river bed and women are the water. If your a mess she will be too. A relationship takes 2 and all I see is women putting In the work literally birthing and raising these men's offspring and once shes to busy raising his kids and her body isn't the same as it was before he ruined her
hell leave for the 1st bimbo who'll suck him off
@@Thebeezzkneezz. we’re talking about not even boy/girlfriends yet, and he’s right. Think about compliments. Girls get them everyday. You ask a average guy and he hasn’t gotten one in literal years.
@@shadowpanther2611 every women would beg to differ
men only compliment to get some. They hardly ever mean it
My sister is literally gorgeous and she had to tell her BF to call her pretty. And she constantly called him handsome everytime she walked in the room like a pet name but she had to beg for any compliments
He'd do it for a for days and then fall off again
A man never changes 😂 it's you who forces him to move on
Not true, some men play games
@@brinnyfelicia after cheated from girls
It’s because he’s realised you’re just wasting his time and ain’t serious about a relationship.
As a man from experience the reason for this is because I'm putting in all the effort and getting no effort from the other direction 👍
And then when you don’t leave and try to fight for equality and get called misogynistic just because of where you’re from and stereotypes🗿
This day and age is hard for a man to be the way a man is supposed to be. We are always told what we are doing wrong even when we are doing everything right. She says a man would move mountains? What will the girl do for me? Will she split the sea to be with me? Doubt it.
I wrote my comment before looking in the comment section and it's full of similar comments to mine and yours. Were dead on the money with it. Constantly carrying the relationship and putting in more effort and resources.
I hear that
yeah man this is happening to me right now, I've decided I'm gonna stop texting her and see how long it takes for her to text me first, if she ever does at all
Me: messages her everyday asking about her
Her: No response
Me: Stops messaging.
Her: "Why did you stop texting me?"
Mentle girls 😅😅
What? Are you telling me that both people are responsible and not just the man?
I opened comment section to say the same thing dude👊
@@davidanddragons5339 sometimes, sometimes not
@@anandjiya true bhai
Every coin has 2 sides ... Language action , emotions make relationships smoother
Same with a woman. No one is too busy to return a text. Especially when their phones are always on their hand
Please make sure you’re working to give the man a reason to want to move the mountain. I spent years with a woman who I did everything for but she took me for granted daily. It hurt more and more everytime. One day, my feelings changed. I did less and less because I felt used. Because that’s what it was, me being used. It’s wonderful for a man to treat a woman right but why aren’t women expected to do the same?
So true
Ikr, Does she text him as much, call him as mush, take him out as much, climb mountains to be with him??? Like that’s what I’m thinking
Because men are dominant hurr durr.
No seriously. Idk, I feel like women are like "So any intresting stuff to tell me? Intresting hobbies or anything?"
And they feel like they only need to be breathing to be intresting enough.
Just bs
I know exactly what you mean man.
100% facts. Society likes to tell men how to treat women but the shoe is never on the other foot. Bs.
Or maybe he realized that he was the one who was having to initiate all of the conversations and that you weren't showing that you cared so he felt as though the relationship was one sided and gave up
I’ve been in that situation. Somehow I was the asshole.
I came into the depths of comment section to find this specific comment. Thank you.
Bruh I carried a whole damn relationship like this for nearly 7 years and STILL got ghosted, forget these hoes 🤣🤣🤣
Facts 💯 only put in the effort if it is reciprocated!
All to true my friend.
A relationship is a two-way street, not a cul-de-sac 🙏✨️❤️
When person feels a pain or anxiety, the brain isnt able to to do two big tasks at once
feeling his own pain and at the same time feel pain or anxiety of someone else...
therefore our mind reacts in a way that we start to either be silent, or accuse each other of laziness, incompetency etc....
or other thing is when they feel our pain, they are not able to feel their own pain and anxiety and solve their own pain.
So the best resolution is some meditation or therapy,
where both people heal their traumas and anxiety, to calm the mind, and self-regulate,
so they may use deep emphatic conversation with each other.
and they should forgive each other for being ignorant to someone´s anxiety because
brain isnt able to do two big tasks, at the same moment feel pain and feel empathy at once.....So if each of us learns to selfregulate, only then our brain has freedom to choose empathy and compassion and humor but its a daily work, so the anxiety will not come back and will not polarize the mind......Forgiving means: "sorry that your brain choosed anger and anxiety, and it wasnt able to do the other big task, empathy and compassion".... According to scientists Negative emotions are higly addictive to brain, therefore our brain becomes addicted to negative emotions and often it´s subcosncious process, so we arent even aware that brain has these negative triggers, unless we choose some therapeutic techniques...so tzhe brain sint gravitating toward negativity anxiety on its own..because our conscious mind wants happiness and empathy toward people and toward ourselves......If we practice mindfulness and techniques of selfregulating, the brain will after time choose the elevated happy emotions, and also it helps people to increase their immune system of body and physical health.
A man’s feelings change when disrespected. Women you might not even know you are doing it. Death by a thousand cuts.
Respect. Trust. Love.
Men value respect over all things.
same goes for women. respect is the most important thing
Most women don’t realize it’s not always about love or falling out of feeling…. Most men goes cold because they are going through a lot without saying
I though the same thing, it’s not always about your partner
This is facts. Lots of men have so much stress and silent suffering in their life. No one - NO ONE - knows the suffering I feel inside waking up every morning. Conversations are hard. I’m a healthy, good looking young man in his late 20s. People see me and expect more just because of that. And take it offensively when I “blow them off”. Trust me, you don’t want my negative energy in your crew tonight. I didn’t blow you off, I’m just taking another L, another night alone suffering.
Be adults and communicate with your adult partners then, there's no such thing in real life as a mibd reader and no adult has the right to expect or assume that anyone else, no matter who it is or what position they hold in your life to constantly be on the lookout with no verbal cues, information and indication that you need something from them.
That's some exhausting emotional labour that's normally given to small children, the elderly in some cases and those with limited capacity.
Your partner is not your mother and should not be treated as such.
This is no one else's fault.
@@khaosssssss1727 right, Cry up to women these days and see how many of your problems would be solved…
@@oxtrends835 Maybe you haven't met nice, pleasant, normal women.
I'm sorry but we're not normally like that.
Every demographic has it's share of downright dickheads and obviously we're not the exception.
Maybe it's an american thing because I've noticed that you guys REALLY don't seem to like each other much, men and women that is.
You don't see this nearly so much outside of the u.s.
People are more interested in peace and a quiet life in other parts of the world, I'm not generalising by that much believe me.
Something is very broken for you guys and you keep taking it out on each other instead of the people who are actually fucking it up for all of youse, look ^ upwards to the people with the power..Divide And Conquer.
These same people advocate for strong independent women. Then expect a man to initiate everything and ‘move mountains’ for them.
Damn straight
You stupid fuck, calling a loved one isn’t moving a mountain. This is why you’ll never have a fulfilling relationship, you don’t have any respect.
@@PermadeathHD Okay Hacker Man
@@PermadeathHD buddy I hate to break this to you but where in her tearful statement with the sad music and the black and white filter did she ever ever specify that she made any effort. To me it sounded like she was describing being some kind of princess to a man who needs to show her soooo much attention to prove his value to her. When in reality it should be 50/50. For all we know that man put forth all that effort in the beginning and then decided to stop to see if she would reciprocate and she never did then decided to blame the man. That’s the truth. Entitlement. They’d like everything and receive nothing. My girlfriend gives so much that I have to return the favor. She has empathy for me. You’d be very surprised how rare empathy is to find in women who view men as a utility who exist only to make their lives and emotional state better not realizing that we’re actually individuals with thoughts and feelings and go through hell so they can exist.
You misunderstood the meaning of the word independent … check the vocabulary!
Move a mountain?
Yes. It's a true story about an Indian legend " Dasrath manjhi popularly known as, Manjhi: the mountain men" he actually cut the whole mountain and made a road over there of his own just with the help of a hammer for love, people called him a lunatic but that steeled his resolve." He completed the work in 22 years (1960-1982). Truely a legend ❤
Dd he even find the women he was openin the mountain for ??
@@enzogumbo8733 He did this for his dead wife. When his wife died in 1959 due to injury caused by falling from a mountain and due to the same mountain blocking easy access to a nearby hospital in time, so he decided to carve a 110 meter-long (360 ft) path through a ridge of hills using only a hammer.
Preach it woman 😎❣️ So so true!
he stops doing it cuz she's nor as invested in him as he is in her so he retracks himself from her
truth
💯
Hunter .... Let 'em know!
Sounds like a negative assumption. Why not just communicate that instead of playing mind games? All these little boys scared of confrontation.
@@bans5 We're only getting her side of the story.
These females never discuss why his feelings have changed
that's because it's different in every relationship, there are literally thousands of reasons anyone's feelings can change and then too, there doesn't have to be ANY reason at all, their feelings just changed..
@@KathyHussey063exactly! These guys have emotional issues and are basically defensive with no logic.
@@msanja70 Usually people who just point to someone else as the reason their relationship failed, ended or went wrong are people who'll continue to have relationships fail, end & go wrong, because they never get real with themselves & ask themselves: "What did I do that I should not have done" or "What did I fail to do?"
What could I have done better?
How could I (ME, I, the only 1 I can control) have made my partner happier, met their needs more. paid more attention to them & their words & non verbal cues?
How could I have kept being the same person I presented to them in the beginning of the relationship or;
How could Ibe different NEXT TIME & be myself from the get go & not filter out my true self, flaws & all, in the beginning; to get them to fall for me, then turn around & torturously slowly have to discover who I REALLY am, so that it ends when they don't like the real me.
Maybe I need to stop lying, cheating, deceiving & pretending I care if I DON'T care about aperson, if I just need touse them for some reason for awhile....
Msybe a person we love really should be more important than alcohol, drugs, my game on t.v., my job, my ego, or me getting my way all the time.
Maybe I should keep my hands to myself when I'm angry...Oh, wait, HEY maybe I should even go get some help for my personality disorder, my depression, or my habit of becoming instantly violent domestically on the regular because of my alcoholism and/or my love of xanax & sleeping pillls. to relax from my life of pretty much ease..... ....
Hmmmm maybe I need to grow up... Or:
You get it, there's a thousand reasons couples fail but 1 thing is CERTAIN: it IS always BOTH people's fault when a relationship fails to last. One may have more culpability than the other on some levels but there's NO perfect humans out there who performed ALL of their half of a relationship PERFECTLY so ...
If we want to change the outcome of our relationships it's usually we ourselves that we need to examine, evaluate, ask tough questions & then very honestly answer them too.
If it failed it was meant to fail but every relationship can teach you something about life, people & (if we're wise enough to take the opportunity to do so; then) also hopefully they'll help us to see ourselves clearer too & to see when & IF we need to change something about ourselves so that WE'LL become a better partner for someone to have as their partner. That's a good goal to have that CAN make our life happier, whereas just blaming others, accepting no responsibility for what WE ourselves do or have done or for what we failed to do, that was wrong; only results in a victim mentality of self pity, making us bitter, self deceiving and too often all alone.
@@KathyHussey063: that makes no sense at all. Maybe for women not having a reason, hell women hold the record on divorce 88% and 95% if college educated. For us men there’s always a reason.
@@Yakar-Yaoh.6651 How in the world do you think 88% of ANY group of women who divorced their spouses had NO reason ? That's hilarious. Just because a couple may file a "no fault" easier type of divorce and divide up their few pieces of property they own rogether does not mean there's no reason, I'd wager that at least 65% of the time it's due to catching a spouse cheating.
And I get it that men always SEEM to have a reason, if you go by court documents, from bitter divorces, if you base it off of guys who are divorcing their spouses who are usually loudly whining that they are the ones done wrong to the judge, because they're trying to get custody of their kids & the house too, to avoid paying any child support til the children are 18 years old,.They do that because usually the man has most of the income of the family because she stopped working mostly to raise up the children, only to get ditched by a philandering butthead,, who then uses that money (knowing she doesnt have any saved up individually) to clobber her over the head & take everything from her, including the kids because she refuses to keep putting up with his abuse/ cheating/control/selfishness etc.
There's always 2 sides to EVERY story.
Single life is best
No serious relationships,no dramas, no feeling hurt.
Build your career
The only lady that truly loves you is your mom
He stopped because there's no reciprocation, he doesn't feel that he is also wanted.
The man was probably tired of spending his money, time, and resources on someone that was probably taking advantage of it.
Truth.
That’s different if they don’t reciprocate
Not a whole weeks month and year.
Or he met someone he considers better. Move on he is not for you.
Exactly
But suddenly he realizes that he's the one always initiating everything.
Ding ding ding!
For realllll! Dawg that’s the issue I have today, it’s like nah if the other person really likes/loves me that person will make time to text/call me. Ain’t no way I’m gonna be begging for their attention!
THIS
EXACTLY!
Is this really how people think a relationship works like yeah you make time for the other but this woman acts like she should never have to do anything if she makes no effort she doesn't deserve someone elses effort
Found another option. Somebody who gives back. Plain and simple.
Agree
Chasing after a man who has lost interest is desperate.
Yes, he just realized that u don't appreciate him and ve been taking him for granted.
I love that moving mountains quote, because when a man stops doing that, in some cases the women won't even lift a finger to do the same, people really expect men to do everything and bare everything on their shoulders and only then are they treated with any level of respect.
BuT GeNdEr EqUaLiTy… see it’s these things it what they miss, I don’t hear girls saying “ girls you gotta move mountains for him, you gotta sacrifice everything to find a way to be with him, yea no one does because it’s not “ till death do we part “ it’s “ if you get broke, I get bored, or I just don’t want it anymore, I’ll take your stuff and a living allowance do we part “
Damn straight
Thank you
@@ttv_neon7892 Hoooly 😎
The best advice ever!!!! Thank you!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I feel this in my soul. Hits me hard.
Y’all do realize that that is reciprocal, if a guy has stopped calling you and stop texting you is no longer taking you out. It’s probably because you haven’t done the same thing for him and he’s tired of doing it all for you without anything in return
Or is he the type to cheat for selfish reasons.
@@marcycat then that women deserve to be cheated.... if he was texting you all day and calling but you never replied and gave same energy back.... he deserves better
But what if I call him, texted him but still no answer he always says that he is busy with this and that should I give him space or better still stop texting and calling him..... Ju
@@syedharis1906 right bro
@@julietmwila8227
then it's man's fault
relationship ship is 100/100 not 50/50 , both should give all
When a man is not being met with respect, love or emotionally. No shit he’s going to stop talking to you. It’s not all about a woman perspective.
In their eyes it is, in their head it’s “what & how much can be done FOR me”.
Simps like Harvey share the same mindset
Factz 💯🎯🙏🏽
Thank you that what I was trying to say😊
Ditched her
Correct!
A man will move mountains for the right one not just if you likes you he'd have to love you as a big difference❤
Absolutely! True Facts🙌
"We loved them unconditionally, while they loved us only under the condition that we provides something."
-The Busy Men
This is the hypergamy in women.
It's normal.
A woman's loves is opportunistic.
As a man you barely careless if she's financially stable but she focuses on your ability to provide. It's normal. Nothing wrong there.
As a man, you should focus on her past as she focuses on your future. She should bring youthfulness, fertility, sexuality to your life. That's what you need from her just as she needs your protection and provision.
Anything less and you're playing yourself
@@imohudohiniekpo488 truer words have never been spoken
@@imohudohiniekpo488 in other word, true love is rare even impossible
-Chris Rock
@@imohudohiniekpo488 Gold digging is not normal. What happens when she's no longer young and can't suck the chrome off a pipe? Stop playing yourself.
Not everything sounds logical with good music 😂
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😂😂😂
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I swear these people really think they are doing something with these clipped shorts lol
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That goes for the woman as well !!!!
Drizzle Drizzle!!! 💯💯💯💯💯 If she wanted to she will
*"His feelings have changed"*
Yea it's called looseing interest. Happens if you don't put in as much work as him or(and) you doing some dirt.
Losing*
This. Everyone wants to blame the guy when a relationship fails. If the woman cheats, it's somehow the man's fault. Women neglect their men and still blame the man for walking away. We can't win.
@@commoguy25q I mean men at large will cheat, lie, and be unfaithful, and I’m not just saying this to say it. I’m a guy and I know how the male mind works. As men allot of the time we just lose interest very fast, the littlest thing can change our feelings and honestly men are big on puppy love dynamics or simply only wanting sex and knowing the only way to get it is to pretend to love you.
Yee
@@Bunnybunny5656 I’ve heard about and I’ve seen statistics that say women cheat more than men… personally I don’t know a single men like you describe, but I guess it depends in what kind of groups you are in.
Initiative and reciprocation are why a man will stop reaching out & putting in effort. Men on average operate based on action... If I'm doing all of this stuff for you & im not being acknowledged nor rewarded for my behavior... I'm going to mentally & then physically check out.
Women on average take this for granted because anything you do for a woman at least 3 times becomes obligation in their minds. So no... Im not going to keep conversation going if you now get to a point where you feel as if your entitled to my time.
I see the facts
Spot on...
Too true. If you ignore me, I will do the same. Never ever be someone's option while making them a priority.
You just described my wife. It's all about her.
So true
This is very powerful truth your to busy then I'm to busy now too.
Because you take him for granted...as simple as that
''A man that wants to be with you will move mountains to be with you''
Meanwhile the girl sitting on her ass, not doing anything on the other side of that mountain.
😂😂😂😂
Yea waiting for that phone call..🤣
Tis too true
except for all of the emotional labor in the relationship! you can say men do everything and women do nothing-but that’s looking at it from a strictly monetary view. women put 10x more effort in communicating, vulnerability, love, care, emotional safety, etc. so yes a man should be planning the dates and calling and being the one to put effort in because that’s what men do-take action. but don’t you dare say the women aren’t doing anything while they’re sitting there thinking of all the ways to make sure you feel valued and you ignore them because it doesn’t look like planning dates and spending her money! dig deeper man, women offer so much and you don’t realize because of your ego
@@MorgansBeauty22 🤓
I roughly remember something my mom told me when I first started dating:
Dating is kind of like being on a canoe. You each have a paddle, but if one person is putting in more effort than the other, you're just going to go in circles until one of you decides to jump off.
Your mom is smart
My mom told me when I was depressed bc my ex broke up with me that love is like a plant, you have to water it to keep it alive or else it begins to die. I was young and selfish to think that I didn’t have to call or give him attention until he found it somewhere else. Now I see it as, grass is greener where you water it 🫶🏽
@@yessib213 Door closed, door opened. You learned a lesson for the next man.
Great analogy.
@@stgeorge5862 Thank you
He just got tired of being played. He finally realized it's not worth the chase.
It hurts me when people says"a man who wants you will move mountains for you" mean while you are taken for granted, you feed the relationship every time more than them.Who want that kind of life? NB: note with me that a human's heart will never stay forever where is not appreciated because a monday will come around one day.
Suddenly he realizes he deserves more effort on her part.
Deep.
Exactly... He lost interest for a reason. Most likely she wasn't given the same attention back
Exactlyyyy
Thats a fact
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Sometimes a guy will be struck by the revelation that he's been the one to start every conversation, suggest every outing, and organise every activity. One day he'll stop sending those messages and asking those questions, waiting to see how long it takes for you to show you care.
That decision, to not be the one who initiates every single time, will more often than not be the last time he'll ever speak with you. And it's not that he doesn't care, because he's been showing just how much he cares the whole time. It's that, like so much of society, you forgot he has feelings, can feel neglected, and needs to be told (or shown) that the people around him care.
You good bro? I'm here for you man.
Jokes aside I agree with what you said.
Did someone hurt u bro...do u wanna talk about it?...
^ Idk what they’re talking about but this is facts
It’s so obvious. Idk how people can’t just make an effort
That definitely hit home.
There are times your man can leave you alone for him to re organize himself and his work.. there are other important things in life.. Always ask yourself why before you conclude on any matter
If you keep texting and not busy with your job, that's the end of your life
When he's busy, he's working his ass off for both of you
No our bank accounts just fill themselves up😂🤦🏻
True half the times i guess
He can still call, and see her. How it a relationship when you never interact with the other person? That's insane.
@@volourn9764 you just jumped to the other extreme😂 being busy does not mean there is no interaction, you have to find a balance that works for the both of you and that’s that
@@davidtardao4329 couldn't have said it any better 🙏
It's called losing interest when a man sees he is trying harder for a relationship than the women his feelings will slowly start to fade away.
You're right. This world is too painful to live in....Wake up to reality....nothing ever goes as planned in this-
Your eyes could've changed the damn world and the plot fucked you over
Im kindof in that boat and that hit me but I don’t have a partner that doesn’t try much I just try so much harder than the norm when she doesn’t and sometimes wonder why and if I needed her like that and I couldn’t take care of us, would she be there like I was always there for her? Ofc thinking too much into it isn’t healthy but my mind still begs for the answer.
I needed this
Taking relationship advice from women is the best way to stay single.
that makes no real sense. it’s down to person to person, not boy vs girl
@@user-jp5zj7hk6m well in general he's right. You dont ask a fish "how to catch a fish" you ask the fishermen. Women never had to attract another women as a guy and usually do give bad advice.
It's true. I took advice from my best friend I hate her now.
@@jfj876 😂😂😂
Good for me. Better than kicking the can with a loser at my side 😂
I'll tell you why us guys stop calling, and stop texting. We're tired of putting in all of the effort. Every once and a while it would be nice to be the one who wakes up to the "Good Morning" text or the "Hey hope your days going well" having to initiate every single interview makes us feel like you don't really enjoy or time together. It makes us feel like you don't really think about us when we go out separate ways, getting the first text from a girl is the easiest way to sink your hooks into a man
Exactly! I always text my friends first after a period of time without texting them and I'm always the one that texts first and it would be nice if I didn't text first all the time because it would make me feel more wanted
what a well said comment... im also tired to initiate all the time... and its not like tired of doing it but i also want something in return like how about u say good morning first? why so hard or why it has to be so complicated? oO
@@PengoPotato i get that, there are people i talk to that i know if I stopped reaching out first i would lose all content with. If im talking to a girl i go about 2-3 weeks of initiating conversation after that i stop and 100% of times it just ends there
@@Degnerate_Demigod Honestly I just don't think my friends are big on texting but I feel like it would still be nice to have some communication
I put in so much and got less and less back... it hurt... i understand where youre coming from, ive lived it. I hope you find the woman who reciprocates that, and gives 100% with you. Or man, sorry, forgot...
He got a better fish 🐟
She makes it seem like the guy is bad in this situation. Everything you can mention around us is made by men. Give us some respect.
In my experience, when a man stops texting or calling a woman he's testing her. Because up to that point it was probably the man who initiated every conversation, and he wants to see if she's genuinely interested in him enough to initiate a conversation herself. But she doesn't, so he thinks she's not really interested in him, so he decides to invest his time elsewhere
Dude you took the words out of my head
I'm literallly doing this right now
Yes! Society has to stop putting all the responsibility for a relationship on the man.
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1000%
I'm gonna hit you with a straight up, "this is wrong." As someone with a significant other that, I still love the day that we first started seeing each other, I have had to rapidly change to having to work 16 hour shifts, 6 days a week, and let m tell you, I am very much too busy to interact with them as much. Even on my day off I am often times sleeping all day. The thing is, she understands that both A. I am doing this for the betterment of our future, and B. I get more spending money to indulge them. Plus when I am available which is maybe once a month, we spend ever single second with each other. It is not always that their feelings have changed, it it likely that he is focusing on the future of him AND you. And that is not even mentioning the mental distress and conditions that often effect people, especially in these days.
That doesnt happen often tho, I really respect what youre doing, but if someone at first has a lot of time, and then suddenly doesnt spend time with someone it almost always is because their feelings changed. But keep going bro, I hope you'll live a happy life with your so
@@pepijndegroot7728 well like I said, a lot of mental health issues can cause that wall of communication. My case is rare, but very often people won't have changed feelings, they're just going through trauma or depression or anxiety and don't know what to do. The main argument is that men are never too busy to talk, which is in itself wrong, but even it was right, mental distress often takes hold of people's life.
@@pepijndegroot7728 it happens more that you think, even with really wealthy people, kid I knew, he said his parents barely had time to say goodbye to each other each day, the mom was a doctor and dad was a corporate exec, it was sad to listen to how chaotic their life was just to maintain their lifestyle and it happens in poor and welthy
Completely agree. I’ve stopped spending so much time with my girl. Its not cuz my feelings have changed. Its cuz everyday after my day job I’m doing uber eats or DoorDash for an additional 4 hours of work. And its to save up to get her the ring she deserves.
I second this. I worked a 22 last night with a 14 before. Tonight will be similar.
If a man stops communication...
He died or he reached the top.
People simply keep selfish expectations. Most people don't know what love is , but they think that they know what love is. Love is not about getting something from someone, love is about giving. Also try to think from others perspective, what others are going through before judging someone. And don't burden someone with your expectations, its really bad.
If i regularly text a girl,make constant effort to impress her ,take her out and suddenly stop doing all of it,it's not because my feeling has changed but it's because i have finally collapsed under the burden of having to carry the conversation or the relationship all by myself.Simple as that!
Or that the relationship has evolved beyond the honeymoon stage. You can't keep that up and a good woman will respect that and allow a deeper connection to flourish.
Ur age?
@@Ciaaaaa451 Why?
Facts..it goes both ways..
This is one of the reasons i broke up, it felt too one sided.