I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
I think Sudha mam is absolutely correct! But I also feel that the other partner should also be enough open-minded to hear out that advice that is different or opposite of his current mindset. Sudha mam is a wonderful wife but she's also lucky to have such an Understanding man as her husband! God bless them both! 💕💕💕
He is listening to her that's why she could able to tell as a friend and as a wife . The person who is not listening to his wife alone then what should they do. He respects you that's why he is listening.
@@Sani_sahi Hey you were there here as well. Sadiq is wrong or probably his word selection for conveying his intention is wrong. But in this entire thread, the most I'm interested in and liked is you. Because you or people like you, we were able to understand her greatness. I like you more than I like Sudha Murthy.
@@geegeepa8123 so you expect your husband to give respect but dont want to respect to gain it lol sorry to say but you are nothing more than a hypocrite loser who is born to cry like most women lol cry babies
@@phani123d, yes 🙌 this kind of understanding doesn’t come in one day or one year. Life partners walking parallel in lifetime. Many things matter to build strong relationships🙏
Yes because we are above the materialistic world. It doesn’t matter who earn more money! End of the day we are one family including our love ablation grownup kids who are independent with their own lives.
@@dr.kaursingh8853 That's awesome to be above the materialistic world. I wish everyone should be like that. I noticed most of the females being more materialistic. ( They love gold more or less like their husbands and feel jealous of other ladies or families others growth). I really love you for not being like that. Still I couldn't digest that number 99.9%. When I and my kid are discussing/advising each other, atleast once in 100/500 times, he gives me some better idea or make my ideas better. In your case 99.9% !!!, which is like your husband's contribution in making decisions is once in 1000 times. That is surprising me.
@@MaithiliKulkarninowonder she may have.... Infosys employees swear by the tortorous work they have to do compared to any other IT firm.. Just because she travels economy class once or twice doesn't make her saint...people are so gullible...
@@MaithiliKulkarni giving advice is never bad!! When u think that u are the ultimate source of infoemation and knowledge and the opposite person is a fool, then its a problem.. She said that ultimate decider is her husband.. Atleast she is acknowledging him in the crowd.. Very rare to see a woman doing for hwr hisband.. Whereas yoj can find only women bashing their husbands in public.
Main reason for happy marriage is spending quality time with wife and kids and grooming kids to be responsible citizens of tomorrow's nation. NARAYAN MURTHY SUGGESTS 70 HOURS OF WORK PER WEEK. TJIS WILL DEPRIVE SPOUSE AND KIDS OF THEIR QUALITY TIME WITH PARENTS. IT WILL DEIVE EMPLOYEES INTO DEPRESSION ANXIETY AND DEFINITELY GROKEN MARRIAGES AND CUSTODIAL BATTLES. LET HER ADVISE HER HUSBAND ON THAT
A recent book I read that helped me understand my husband is Unlocking The Male Mind by Joey Brown. The book isn’t perfect and repeats ideas in some parts, but it’s by far the best I’ve read on the topic. I recommend it.
Why boys / men are liking her idea so much .. literally can't be understood...😅jab aise he understandable partner chaiye jo wise and smart ho toh shaadi ke time yehi check kerlo ki how's the mentality of girl . ...but criteria for shaadi is that girl should be of good height,fair skin ,not fat, housewife sanskari jo kuch bolti he n ho toh agge ladegi nhi shayad (although it doesn't happen as phir bhi ladegi),long black shinning hair is preferable 😂😂😂 Haad hai yrr Hippocrates hote hain ladke .... Ek teraf smart intelligent wife chaiye dusri teraf jaam dimag ki jo jaisa bolte jaao waisa he jre zuban n ladaye waise chaiye jo apne dimag ka kabhi n istemal kare wo chaiye 😅 Can't understand the boys mindset....ek teraf physical appearance ko he priority denge phir bolenge akel he nhi hai ladki ki
I'm sure Mr Murthy also gives same kind of advice and freedom of decision to Mrs Murthy. Many times wives give this kind of freedom to husband's but husband don't show the same courtesy to wife and viceverasa...
This sounds good to ears. But in real life, a spouse's decisions deeply affect each other's lives, even their children and parents are affected where families live together. So you can't stay mum.
My ex used to control all my decisions and choices.. dress colour, lipstick, what food to eat in restaurants and so on... If i ever wanted something different.. he used to give silent treatment. It does not matter how much polite understanding i stay with him. He would remain dumb@ss and keep mentally torture me. Marriage cannot work one hand..you need two intelligent human to work it out. FRUSTRATING MAN
@@contrawisecontrawise7215 then marry him yourself. What S.M said in this video is applicable to both husbands and wives. You don't want your wife to be controlling, don't be controlling to her. Respect individual differences and boundaries.
@@arjunm6866 with what mindset? You want your wife to control what color you wear and what food you eat and should you wish differently, she doesn't talk to you? Sounds ideal life for you?
I totally relate with that kind of frustration. That mental torture led to divorce. When I wanted friendliness he said it's not needed for husband and wife to be friends at all! Yes it's terribly toxic and negative to be in such an environment.
Twinkle Khanna would think : “Oh my God, what kind of lady she is..I don’t give advice, I just ask Akshay in a stern voice what to do and what not to do”
She is Sudha Murthy herself...!!! An intelligent and kind hearted woman ,a philanthropher. The British PM is lucky enough to be Son-in-law of Sudha Murthy. He will and should be introduced after her identity and not vice versa..
Her advice is the best, but what to do if your husband takes a wrong decision and the family has to suffer as the consequences of that decision. How can a wife keep quiet if he keeps repeating it because of his ego.
If anyone wants to do something by himself/herself then why get married? Marriage is itself a sacrifice. You sacrifice your singledom, your freedom to be by yourself. You are not single anymore. You are joined as one after marriage. I advice especially the men to not get married if they want to do things without their wife. That means letting go of Saturday night house parties with opposite gender friends, letting go of clubbing with drunken friends and so many other things. And yes always have your opinion and give your opinions without fear. Otherwise he/she will take it from someone else.
In his professional career he can ask advise to hos spouse if he wishes, but anything to do with household, ALWAYS better to discuss BEFORE deciding 🤣🤣🤣
People who keep this thing in their heads continuously - the marriage of equals can never achieve that kind of marriage but only stressful marriage 😂😂😂
Twinkle has an IQ of 120+ She is well-spoken, well read, has a fabulous sense of humour, and does not tomtom about philanthropy done on husband's money. More than what i can say about the other published author of English books sitting in saree. I am not fond of Twinkle, but i give credit where it is due.
Sudha Murthy ji is to the next level women, mother, wife, grand ma .
Because she is not trying to be his equal. She is just trying to become best companion she can, with respect for him in her heart.
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other.
Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
@@icysnow57cold64 Your idealogy about men is really pathetic.
What an incredible thing to achieve a companion who will be there for you may not be always but make you feel their aura
I liked when she say.. dont give too much opinions..
. . . . .after giving her opinion!!! 😅😅😅😅
Yeah, She is Gold 💎 is absolute genius.
Giving advice and freedom is the first and best thing for a healthy relationship.
So you are telling. Your wife has no rights in the family.
You just want to use her as a slave?
Don’t marry anyone!
@@Sani_sahi Awful.
I don't think, Sudha Murthy ever felt as Slave in her family.
Edit:
Do you have any information to make such statements.?
@@phani123d I’m talking about Indian men who treat their wife like that. Not sudha Murthy
Understanding each other in every situation of his life with him that's all ❤️
She helped me grow so much in just those few seconds ❤😅😊
"...and don't give too much advice" - best advice ever, thank you!!
I think Sudha mam is absolutely correct! But I also feel that the other partner should also be enough open-minded to hear out that advice that is different or opposite of his current mindset. Sudha mam is a wonderful wife but she's also lucky to have such an Understanding man as her husband! God bless them both! 💕💕💕
very true.....
😊😊😊😊
This is a conversation of the intellectual kind..inspiring and beautiful..
She can ofcourse do that coz she got a wise partner. It is not the matter of many other people.😂
True that😅
😊😊😊😊
Wise attracts wise
In normal parlance his looks don't match hers. So she saw beyond looks and saw skills and value system.
Her talking style very much reminds me of Abdul Kalam Sir. Thank you ma’am for sharing your valuable insights🙏🏽
He is listening to her that's why she could able to tell as a friend and as a wife . The person who is not listening to his wife alone then what should they do. He respects you that's why he is listening.
@@fouziasadiq4223 if you marry someone who has to gain your respect, then your marriage is not based on respect
So you don’t naturally respect anyone?
Until they earn it you don’t want to respect anyone?
@@Sani_sahi Hey you were there here as well.
Sadiq is wrong or probably his word selection for conveying his intention is wrong.
But in this entire thread, the most I'm interested in and liked is you.
Because you or people like you, we were able to understand her greatness.
I like you more than I like Sudha Murthy.
It is not practical because the final decision with most of them will be the man's decision.💪😂🤣🤣
@@geegeepa8123 so you expect your husband to give respect but dont want to respect to gain it lol sorry to say but you are nothing more than a hypocrite loser who is born to cry like most women lol cry babies
I would die to meet Mrs. Sudha Murthy. I am a die hard hard fan of her's
Maturity levels 👌 💯 🙏 👏
She has a amazing skin.. I had to compliment her.
Same I do with my husband. Advice him but final decision is his own. Guess what? 99.9 percent of the times, he goes with my advice❤🙏
Ha ha! So sweet and so beautiful. This is real wisdom!!
99.9%...?
🤔🤔🤔
Do you really just advice..?
@@phani123d, yes 🙌 this kind of understanding doesn’t come in one day or one year. Life partners walking parallel in lifetime. Many things matter to build strong relationships🙏
Yes because we are above the materialistic world. It doesn’t matter who earn more money! End of the day we are one family including our love ablation grownup kids who are independent with their own lives.
@@dr.kaursingh8853 That's awesome to be above the materialistic world.
I wish everyone should be like that.
I noticed most of the females being more materialistic. ( They love gold more or less like their husbands and feel jealous of other ladies or families others growth).
I really love you for not being like that.
Still I couldn't digest that number 99.9%.
When I and my kid are discussing/advising each other, atleast once in 100/500 times, he gives me some better idea or make my ideas better.
In your case 99.9% !!!, which is like your husband's contribution in making decisions is once in 1000 times.
That is surprising me.
Mam namasthe..your words are so much inspirational to most of the women including me..your are a real role model.🙏
True true...so many including me look up to her with awe and admiration.
Agree that you won’t always see eye to eye. Allow each other to think differently and to make their own decisions even if you think it’s a mistake.
She's a brilliant women that's for sure. A real intellect , flair of einstein
Best answer and advise for women . !
Maintaining individuality while staying close together is the key❤
God bless you to your family ma'am 🙏🏻
I love you mam very well said❤❤❤
Respect ur partner's space and individuality. That's the sure way to a blissful relationship.
Very diplomatic way of doing things. The moment you try and instill one to do the way you want thing's go wrong.
This is what I call maturity
You are very correct your decisions should be respectful
But his decision is the final
I'm soooo impressed with SUDHA MURTHY MA'AM G ,she is awesome
Thanks for sharing the thought of long bound ❤❤
She just gets too much credit for things she really didn’t mean to do 😂
Her PR is wonderful
@@MaithiliKulkarninowonder she may have.... Infosys employees swear by the tortorous work they have to do compared to any other IT firm..
Just because she travels economy class once or twice doesn't make her saint...people are so gullible...
@@MaithiliKulkarni do u want to boss on your husband.. She said ryt.. Eventually her husband is the decision maker.. Many women dont like that
@@MaithiliKulkarni giving advice is never bad!! When u think that u are the ultimate source of infoemation and knowledge and the opposite person is a fool, then its a problem.. She said that ultimate decider is her husband.. Atleast she is acknowledging him in the crowd.. Very rare to see a woman doing for hwr hisband.. Whereas yoj can find only women bashing their husbands in public.
Main reason for happy marriage is spending quality time with wife and kids and grooming kids to be responsible citizens of tomorrow's nation. NARAYAN MURTHY SUGGESTS 70 HOURS OF WORK PER WEEK. TJIS WILL DEPRIVE SPOUSE AND KIDS OF THEIR QUALITY TIME WITH PARENTS. IT WILL DEIVE EMPLOYEES INTO DEPRESSION ANXIETY AND DEFINITELY GROKEN MARRIAGES AND CUSTODIAL BATTLES. LET HER ADVISE HER HUSBAND ON THAT
Ideal couple... congratulations 👍
Love her advice 😊thank you
❤Moorthy😅😂
Intelligent answer ❤
A recent book I read that helped me understand my husband is Unlocking The Male Mind by Joey Brown. The book isn’t perfect and repeats ideas in some parts, but it’s by far the best I’ve read on the topic. I recommend it.
The lady with lot of wisdom ❤
People who have been fortunate, had their efforts bear fruit, and had most things in life going right, have the right to sit and talk 🙄
How matured you are madam, you are really great.
Simply, it is Sudha's luck, to have got a wonderful husband.
Narayana is rich as well as a modest man.
He can't dare to go against Shudha's will.
Excellent answer
Right sudha ji❤
Sudha ji .always in Sarees n thus time mogra also 👌🙏
Very well said mam..I am also agree with this.
That is what we call cooperation....
👌👌excellent mam
True 👍 thanks for this beautiful opinion ❤
Why boys / men are liking her idea so much .. literally can't be understood...😅jab aise he understandable partner chaiye jo wise and smart ho toh shaadi ke time yehi check kerlo ki how's the mentality of girl . ...but criteria for shaadi is that girl should be of good height,fair skin ,not fat, housewife sanskari jo kuch bolti he n ho toh agge ladegi nhi shayad (although it doesn't happen as phir bhi ladegi),long black shinning hair is preferable 😂😂😂
Haad hai yrr Hippocrates hote hain ladke ....
Ek teraf smart intelligent wife chaiye dusri teraf jaam dimag ki jo jaisa bolte jaao waisa he jre zuban n ladaye waise chaiye jo apne dimag ka kabhi n istemal kare wo chaiye 😅
Can't understand the boys mindset....ek teraf physical appearance ko he priority denge phir bolenge akel he nhi hai ladki ki
I'm sure Mr Murthy also gives same kind of advice and freedom of decision to Mrs Murthy. Many times wives give this kind of freedom to husband's but husband don't show the same courtesy to wife and viceverasa...
Do you just want to blame men??It means you have no respect for men??
In front of her twinkle twinkle little star 😂😂
This sounds good to ears. But in real life, a spouse's decisions deeply affect each other's lives, even their children and parents are affected where families live together. So you can't stay mum.
I too that panadha soluva panitu kasta pata panala appo anubavi nu ninaichipa 😅
My ex used to control all my decisions and choices.. dress colour, lipstick, what food to eat in restaurants and so on...
If i ever wanted something different.. he used to give silent treatment.
It does not matter how much polite understanding i stay with him. He would remain dumb@ss and keep mentally torture me.
Marriage cannot work one hand..you need two intelligent human to work it out.
FRUSTRATING MAN
He was a perfect husband.
With thos minrset u can achieve multiple x
@@contrawisecontrawise7215 then marry him yourself.
What S.M said in this video is applicable to both husbands and wives. You don't want your wife to be controlling, don't be controlling to her. Respect individual differences and boundaries.
@@arjunm6866 with what mindset?
You want your wife to control what color you wear and what food you eat and should you wish differently, she doesn't talk to you? Sounds ideal life for you?
I totally relate with that kind of frustration. That mental torture led to divorce. When I wanted friendliness he said it's not needed for husband and wife to be friends at all! Yes it's terribly toxic and negative to be in such an environment.
I will follow this in my life
So you will advise as a friend or as a wife? Or both same?
Very correct once in a way we can share your opinion if wright ir wrong
Want to ask, in extension to this conversation, how many times you felt his decision is not correct and you are proved correct? Just curious.
She is such an overly nice lady, you think she would ever do anything that would be offensive to him?
Madam i agree with you in totality jee
What a answer, never expected it. When you think about it, it do make sense
Husband : modiji aap aam kaise khaate hai?
Contrary
Wife : asking so deep and meaningful questions.
The point is there should be balance in relationship....
Final decision was always yours 😆😅🤣😜
It works with the right person ONLY.
woww...." Don't give too much opinion " 👌
My hubby finds fault with me always insults in public calls bad words at me , he says I’m useless blames me for everything!!
Yes agree i also do the same with my husband nd having a beautiful bond nd sweel relationship
Twinkle Khanna would think : “Oh my God, what kind of lady she is..I don’t give advice, I just ask Akshay in a stern voice what to do and what not to do”
"And don't give too much opinion."
This is a challenging thing for most wives.🤫
Secret of every relation don't give too much opinion s.😘😘😘😘
super 👌👍🙏
You inspire my life
Sooooo sweet she is
Paise aye to har koi Updesh dene lagta hai...aur log bhi sunte hain..
Legend ❤️🙏
Amma nimma matige nanu sharnu ❤
Loved your opinion...
On a lighter note… Staying with your own mom
she reminds me of Atalji...love her style
Mother-in-law of British P. M. is always right!
This interview was taken 2 yeras back🙄
@@ettayi987 yes you are right. She was a mother in law waiting....!
She is Sudha Murthy herself...!!! An intelligent and kind hearted woman ,a philanthropher. The British PM is lucky enough to be Son-in-law of Sudha Murthy. He will and should be introduced after her identity and not vice versa..
Amma 🥰🌞🕉🔱😇🌙🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Wrong question wrong answer.
All husbands are not Narayan murti
I do the same....so if anything goes wrong I won't b responsible
Her advice is the best, but what to do if your husband takes a wrong decision and the family has to suffer as the consequences of that decision. How can a wife keep quiet if he keeps repeating it because of his ego.
That's right.....don't give too much opinion
Now you got the advise and implement in Akshay Kumar, your husband’s life.
If anyone wants to do something by himself/herself then why get married? Marriage is itself a sacrifice. You sacrifice your singledom, your freedom to be by yourself. You are not single anymore. You are joined as one after marriage. I advice especially the men to not get married if they want to do things without their wife. That means letting go of Saturday night house parties with opposite gender friends, letting go of clubbing with drunken friends and so many other things. And yes always have your opinion and give your opinions without fear. Otherwise he/she will take it from someone else.
In his professional career he can ask advise to hos spouse if he wishes, but anything to do with household, ALWAYS better to discuss BEFORE deciding 🤣🤣🤣
Suppose I gave some opinion to my husband. he told hereafter I never tell anything to you because I oppose his decision . 😢
People who keep this thing in their heads continuously - the marriage of equals can never achieve that kind of marriage but only stressful marriage 😂😂😂
Companionship is the secret of happy marriages.!
That's a healthy relationship...!
Madam in public vallimg sir as my husband or sir will be respectful.bcz he is a great pesonality in public
By speaking English fluently, Twinkle Khanna thinks she is asking intelligent questions. These star kids head are so full of themselves.
Twinkle is just overrated. She has nothing intrinsic really. Nothing.
She's a published author and coloumnist. She was never a star coz she never gained fame as an actress. She's extremely well- read.
Twinkle has an IQ of 120+
She is well-spoken, well read, has a fabulous sense of humour, and does not tomtom about philanthropy done on husband's money.
More than what i can say about the other published author of English books sitting in saree.
I am not fond of Twinkle, but i give credit where it is due.
@@MaithiliKulkarni 🤭🤦🤦🤦🤦
It is getting a bit monotonous. Sounds very comical.
Indian women are 🥰
I'd Rather Suggest Go To Any Village In India And Ask A Farmer's Wife Regarding Lifelong Bonding As Husband-Wife....
This L generation will don't understand 😭 they will say "my life my rules am ur wife/husband not ur servant" 😭😅😂
Indian women should learn from Sudha Murthy ji she is wise . Most working wonen are Egoistic today because they earn and do t respect husbands!
Well she was expecting a different answer