Men NEED to Stop Mansplaining

[@dissident1337]

As a web developer "why is the website not working?" is not a simple question.

[@D_U_N_E]

As a non-web developer. I agree. I have no idea what is happening, but if I light these scented candles, make sure my view of the moon is precisely offset at 3*, the website will work for 5 seconds before I must reset preperations.
That or it finally loaded and I hit refresh at the wrong time.

[@busterval]

Most of the time problem is between keyboard and chair.

[@bite-sizedshorts9635]

@@busterval The sheriff's office would sometimes refer to drunks as a short circuit between the steering wheel and gas pedal.

[@Outcast-0033]

Have you tried turning it off and on?

[@projectdeveloper9311]

Ngl it could be so much, maybe even at the same time, that I would just go with "I have no fucking idea lol"

[@sktrudel]

They're actually treating you like a competent adult capable of learning, rather than a child you have to do everything for.

[@ES-os7ko]

Most women are like children. Zero accountability. Even their feelings of insecurity when you explain something to them is your fault.

[@savm-7252i]

Exactly, people who say "don't mansplain" are children who can't cooperate with others.

[@treacherousjslither6920]

Well put.

[@sbwlearning1372]

That was their big mistake. As was allowing them into workplaces

[@bigcauc7530]

​@@sbwlearning1372 hot take that everyone is afraid of liking but they know this is an issue. Lol. Certain fields, they are good in. Many others, they are nothing but a problem.
There are some really smart, logical women out there, though, and they belong in the work place.

[@williamedwards4151]

Woman: Asks why the website is not working.
Man: Explains why the website is not working.
Woman: How DARE he.

[@riotgrrrl8807]

You know this is a made up scenario, right?

[@thejamcasian9067]

​@@riotgrrrl8807 That has occurred. I can attest. It was after I asked why to a particular procedure. I gave a full detailed explanation and I got stonewalled and told to stop talking

[@alexandrenedellec7116]

​@@riotgrrrl8807do you sée the number of like. Quit telling about how many ppl relate

[@Ruder6163]

@@riotgrrrl8807The people who made the video thought this was a legitimate case of “man-splaining”. She asked a question, he answered. If you’re going to be offended by him answering your question than don’t ask any questions.

[@theawesomeoone6]

@@riotgrrrl8807you’re a little slow huh

[@Llaveroja27]

As a philosopher... "why [anything]" is never a simple question.

[@joedotphp]

Philosophy majors CANNOT start a sentence without stating, "As a philosopher..." Try it. I bet you can't.

[@lightningrod1063]

Philosophers aren't expected to answer simple questions. If the question is simple, you can take a smoke break.

[@oourdumb]

This should be obvious to anyone over the age of 8. If you don't want an explanation don't ask why lol

[@samppakoivula9977]

Yes, this! XD

[@Hawkcam1996]

Okay. Then how about this question: Why are you a philosopher?

[@gerythechameleon4944]

"He talks to me like I'm a child"
Proceeds to act like a child

[@theperfectbeing]

*pouts* *crosses arms* *rolls eyes*

[@jameswest9261]

But women are like children. Ask one to take responsibility for their actions.

[@Ironic1950]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@MarcioColona]

Worst than a child*

[@fabianstriebeck8054]

100%

[@moontreecollective6718]

The irony of “don’t treat me like a child”, then DEMANDING a simple, child-like answer because she can’t handle complex things like an adult

[@chingizzhylkybayev8575]

But he didn't give her the answer in this hypothetical example. He just gave her the web browsing 101 lecture for no good reason.

[@Ryooken]

@@chingizzhylkybayev8575 Actually he did give her an answer, it's just not the answer she wanted and he helped her fix the problem.
First of all she assumed that the website wasn't working instead of understanding that her computer had caused a log jam. He showed her how to clear that log jam, explaining why it happened.
Her problem is that she assumed that she had framed a simple question. What she really did was just make a wrong assumption.
The simple question would have been, can you access the website because I can't. and his answer would probably been yes.

[@Tyodi1]

​@@chingizzhylkybayev8575having worked in IT for a number of years, you have no idea how computer illiterate most people are....
Having to explain a keyboard has to be plugged in, in order for it to work, that unplugging a PC to use the hoover whilst working at home will shut your PC down.....or that no, your mouse is not likely to work after you put it in the dishwasher because it was sticky, is not an IT fault.....
Yeah.....
Over time, you do stop treating people a little like they have a clue, as you come across soooooo many who don't....each and every single day.....
In this instance he just explained why the issue had occurred, if she was IT savvy, she'd have known this herself, anyone who knows anything about computers understands you occasionally need to clear caches and things, she didn't, and as such he could have just fixed it, only to find himself back there doing it again a few months down the line...
So annoyed as she might feel at this, at least she learnt something, and chances are, bet your last penny, a colleague will have this same.issue, and she will use that knowledge to fix the problem, and show how "IT savvy" she is to her colleagues lol 😂

[@fabianstriebeck8054]

100%

[@jaegrant6441]

This skit does not provide an example of the mansplaining thing.
It is the getting a child like answer that is the main part of the mansplain concept annoyance.

[@jimsvideos7201]

"How much detail do you want?" Is a good question to ask before explaining something.

[@YT-User1013]

Yep, I have a habit of providing detail.
Now I just say “google it”.

[@ceternods]

Seriously?
If you don't like my answers don't ask me anymore. Solved

[@repstyle8518]

I always start out with "do you want the short answer or long answer?"
Sometimes people are surprised i give them the long answer they asked for....damned if you do damned if you dont.

[@monsieurkeyboard]

Yes but you have to make sure they consent listening to your question beforehand. and also they have to consent you asking for consent. And again, the consent for asking for consent. And again and again and .. you know just ignore them.

[@normanclatcher]

Consent is everything, right?
Ladies, you can't be mansplained to without _our_ consent to see you as teachable.
Want us to give up?
_Revoke the consent._
Isn't that so, ​@@monsieurkeyboard?

[@rylenbarber711]

“Oh no! He gave me an answer to the question I asked! What ever shall I do!” 🙄

[@wot2261]

Apparently get butthurt, complain to others, and try to make them look like the bad guy.
I'm gonna need full stories now, not one sided nonsense

[@mattdonlan7745]

Men talk to each other this way. It's called problem solving and informing.

[@thorbeneK]

Men don’t just talk to each other this way. Men talk to each and every serious people this way.

[@natcoo8153]

Lol my cousin is this way of not being able to get the informing part. Unless it's cars and sports, anything you explain is s sloppy spaghetti. He asked me years ago is 100mb home Internet good Internet. I said it's a lie bcuz those speeds exist in big markets(cities) like NYC ,La , Houston. But they all run enough for two Netflix TV's so yeah. 😂 he had to ask again.... Is it good?

[@andreacosta7248]

Nah we don't talk to men like that cause we think they already know the part

[@martinkuliza]

The fact this comments section exist is stupid.
if a person speaks normally, you don't need an entire comments section to dissect it and agree with it.
I took a shit today,
Are we going to create a comment section to deliberate if i did it correctly ?

[@stonelion99]

​@@martinkuliza People talk about shared experiences. That's what makes us human. If you don't like it, that's on you.

[@boejiden7093]

I got an HR complaint from a female intern that I “mansplained” something to her. It was how to run a basic report so that she could submit it to my VP’s. I explained it to her 3 times and the 4th time i made a pre recorded video and shared it with her. She said that i “mansplained” it to her in the video. I shared it with HR and they had a good laugh out of it.

[@subratadhar7698]

how long did she last on that role?

[@boejiden7093]

@@subratadhar7698 not very long

[@jpmarc2005]

You should've filed a harrassment complaint with HR.

[@boejiden7093]

@@jpmarc2005 she didnt last that long in the company 😂

[@MALisBAD]

And how would HR have treated it if you didn’t have video evidence? 😂

[@gabrielrocha5319]

“Didn’t mean to Man-splain how you’re wrong”!!! Gold.

[@tezozomockemp9214]

Women: give a women a fish
Men: teach a women to fish

[@sandboy5880]

It doesn't work.
Men still have to fish.

[@jefflittle8913]

"I don't care if it happens again. I am just trying to get my work done."
That one physically hurt.

[@shawarmaextratoum5637]

"AND I TOOK THAT PERSONALLY"

[@Scarletraven87]

pick one lady, they're mutually exclusive

[@akiriathorsteinson7611]

…it’s somewhat understandable but at the same time… like tf? We are trying to teach you how to resolve the issue in case it happens again and that you can gain more independence instead of wasting time trying to figure it out on your own

[@whenimmanicimgodly4228]

​@akiriathorsteinson7611 yea, especially if it's a simple problem. If I notice a solution to a problem we have e had at work and it's easy to fix, I'll try to teach others how to fix it when it occurs do that people learn over time...I don't see any problem with that. If it's simple enough to fix thst I can show anyone then it's not to hard to get yourself.

[@chelsblue7370]

@@akiriathorsteinson7611 trying to get her work done even if it means someone else doing it for her.... as a matter of course, that is

[@SuperMattMan03]

“Mansplaining” is a word almost as overused as “narcissist”.

[@kyfawkes]

Or racist

[@Rob2068]

You mean how everyone says trump is a narcissist? 😂

[@ryanhernandez4135]

@@Rob2068💀💀💀bro what?! Aww nah bros trying to instigate 💀

[@325figgy]

And Toxic

[@Ricky-G99]

You forgot about Insecure 😂 Whenever they run out of. arguments they pull the insecure card. I don't let my girl dress as a thot, INSECURE 😂 it literally lost it's meaning

[@RANDassociatesinc]

They don’t care about “the bigger picture” because the “bigger picture” isn’t all about them.

[@nimomemre6550]

This is the innate fatherly instinct of Men ........ they'll teach you how to solve your problems !

[@WildBikerBill]

Patriarchy!

[@maky9312]

Wow. That's the first time i've never heard it called the fatherly instinct before but, you might be right. I train hospital users how to use their timekeeping and scheduling system and follow the teach a man to fish philosophy. I'll never do things for them but, I have no problem walking them through how to fix their own problems every time.
For the most part they like it but, there's always some who expect you to do it for them.

[@TheProfessorExplains]

There is no word I hate more than “mansplaining”. It was supposed to be when a man who knew less than a woman explained things she already knew (like a regular guy explaining surgery to a surgeon). Now, it’s any time a man tries to explain or teach a woman anything.
A woman said I was mansplaining something to her once. I asked her what she did and she said marketing or something, and I responded with “ok, so if I was telling you about marketing, then that would be mansplaining. But since I’m talking about psychology, the field I studied for over a decade, hold three degrees in, and am a professor of, I’m not mansplaining, I’m teaching, and if you aren’t smart enough to understand the difference, I feel sorry for you.”
There is nothing more satisfying than putting someone in their place.

[@namenotfound2456]

The best part is that you could probably understand why she was acting like a bitch and make fun of her for it😂

[@BobTheTrueCactus]

So you mansplained mansplaining to her? 😂:p

[@oshawott4544]

​@@BobTheTrueCactus well technically no, because she obviously didn't know what it meant

[@BobTheTrueCactus]

@@oshawott4544 no sh*t.
Although the original term is already set up to be understood the way she did.

[@oshawott4544]

@@BobTheTrueCactus I'm sorry if that came off wrong
I'm just autistic

[@richardblanco5455]

The man was talking to her like a knowledgeable adult. But she is just a bored child.

[@dave23024]

Exactly. She only took offense because he wasn't an idiot.

[@dwightcrichlow9274]

She just want him to listen to her bish and say go girl smh

[@cookiedoodle0276]

Yeah I would never speak to a kid about cookies and bugs and cache, unless that kid is genuinely interested in IT

[@BenignAndaHalf]

I’m glad people are finally understanding that “modern” women are overgrown children, something I’ve seen for over a decade now.

[@noamcohen4181]

@@cookiedoodle0276those things has little to do with IT

[@mikerayle6103]

I get this all the time when my wife asks what's wrong with her truck. And I try to give her the long answer and I get the I don't care as long as it gets fixed.

[@reanimationxp]

because all women ever want to do is bitch, not problem solve or understand anything.

[@soeralecha]

She sounds like she means “fix my car”

[@IIIUMlNATI]

Which means shes a poor communicator. ​@@soeralecha

[@saberint]

I just say “dunno, it’s your computer, what have you done?”

[@Antassium]

"They're not speaking to you like a child. You're acting like one."

[@spockskynet]

women: "treat us the same as men"
men: *treats woman like a man*
women: **offended**

[@lepathewarrior4445]

You should almost never believe what woman says she wants, she usually doesn't even know it consciously and says the thing that creates cohesion in the group.

[@theeclectic2919]

@@lepathewarrior4445 You're using "cohesion" wrong.

[@kbergmeister7000]

Women ☕️

[@doubleoblit]

As a man, if I ask someone a question like this, I never get some longwinded tirade because other guys don't feel the need to impress me. I'm genuinely sorry for the people in your life if you respond to every question by dumping the contents of your brain onto them.

[@kyuuketsukikun420]

@@theeclectic2919unless they edited their comment, I think you are incorrect

[@lucas182512]

So when one asks "why the website isn't working", does one NOT want to know why the website isn't working?

[@n.d.m.515]

They just want it fixed. No explanations, just fixed.

[@danielriley8131]

This should go viral. My sister took her car to the mechanics because of “noises”. He tested it, explaining what was wrong and she just replied “fix it, don’t mansplain it to me.”

[@analogludite9575]

He should have just woman-splained and said, "It's all your fault." Simple and to the point.

[@darknessLordCC]

Pardon me but I disagree, a woman-splaining would be "If you cared enough you'd know!"

[@Luciana_McC_99]

​@@darknessLordCCor you don't think I'm pretty anymore.

[@sheolcodemonkey4027]

"Why isn't my website working?"
"It's fine."

[@ML98837bob]

Hilarious!!

[@tigershark7155]

This should not be as funny as it is...

[@carmeltabby]

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."--Eleanor Roosevelt

[@WildBikerBill]

She seemingly has a lot of consent.

[@SakakiDash]

Mansplaining is the act of telling something they already know despite them knowing.

[@kriswelsh3844]

“Asking men to change is like asking women to stop being emotional” Excellent statement 👍

[@welewele7284]

"no! i'm not emotional!" a woman reject your argument with high pitch voice... (but contradictive)

[@anthonyferguson9282]

"Why isn't this website working?"
"It's probably user error, you're welcome."

[@Apeiron242]

PEBKAC

[@carlospinto5845]

Erm no! Most errors aren't user errors, only a small portion I would log down as user error. 😅

[@Nessie14]

​​@@carlospinto5845 I think their comments is meant to show how the conversation would've went if the girl dressed in white's coworker had given her the "simple" answer (the short answer). It is meant to show that the "simple" answer wouldn't have helped, while educating her on the problem would've not only helped her this time, but in all the future times where this might occur

[@HappyCatholicDane]

He wasn’t speaking to her as he would a child, but assumed she was an adult. Clearly he was wrong, she is a child.

[@SchemingGoldberg]

I agree. Next time he should tell her: "website broken, very bad, we fix, please sit down and have a piece of candy"

[@StarBellySneetch]

and then they wonder why a woman or other culture does not get hired. HR complaints and lawsuits avoided.

[@jamespruitt6718]

@@StarBellySneetchActually the company I work for does hire more women even without the right qualifications because they want to meet a diversity quota over qualified candidates.

[@danmac6185]

​@@jamespruitt6718 Ah, so you too know the pain of doing the work of three people, and getting a worse evaluation than the people whose slack you take up.

[@boogityhoo7452]

​@@danmac6185yea that type of work environment is disgusting and there's no excuse as to why jobs are forced to hire unqualified ppl regardless of their gender just to fit certain quotas... I'm surprised they are able to keep anyone with legitimate skill if they are having to pick up that much slack .

[@Ninjanimegamer]

These are typical responses from IT. They need to know what buttons you pushed, what signals you got, what sites you were on.
I've been mansplained to, and it does stink. I'm a muralist, and was working with a friend to just repaint a room. Nothing fancy, but he sat there telling me how to care for his brushes, how to wipe the paint, use as little as possible, and how to cut into corners. I was done. He knows my skills, but he was acting like I was a child. I reminded him I'm a professional artist, I've prepped, primed and painted rooms before doing a mural. I painted all the walls in my house, and I know what I'm doing. He hired me because he knew my skills were good, but this micromanaging was too much. I left him, walked off the job, and haven't spoken to him since.

[@n.d.m.515]

That isn't mansplaining to a woman. That is the way men communicate to all people. You said he already knew you were competent. He was reviewing the facts to make sure there was no misunderstanding between the both of you. If that bothered you then fine, it's your choice to leave. He didn't have to hire you and probably regretted his choice. My personal guess is he will never hire a woman again.

[@thetruenolan6655]

"I just wanted a SIMPLE answer!"
Only children (regardless of how old they are) think everything has a SIMPLE answer.

[@JS-fi7fl]

I'm a man who works in IT Support. I generally try to educate the users about their issue instead of just fixing the problem, because next time they'll be able to fix it themselves which will be much quicker. If they can fix it themselves in a few minutes they'll be less downtime for them then if they have to wait for us because we may have a backlog and be busy. I'm trying to decrease downtime for them.

[@BigHeadClan]

Also work IT 100% agree.
A small explanation usually saves you hours of calls in the future because now the clients you support are more knowledgeable about technology.

[@Rievven]

Ah but they want that downtime. You are taking away their getting paid to wait on IT time.

[@nickcarroll8565]

@@Rievvenexactly. And there are a lot of people who are simply too lazy to do anything for themselves anyhow and do not want to be educated.

[@BigHeadClan]

@@Rievven Those people are usually slacking across the board and are quickly looking for new jobs and make up a tiny percentage of people I actually encounter in my city.
Also it’s generally just bad idea to waste the time or piss off the IT department. lol

[@r.wallaby6490]

I also do this, been doing it since I started work but 99% of the time, I'll still get a call going "it doesn't work"

[@ssjblueinfernape8524]

That “i just wanted to vent” was real asf. I hate that shit. Basically trynna say “i didn’t want your feedback that doesn’t affirm my feelings” 😂

[@techhelpportal7778]

I honestly prefer journaling to venting. Journals don’t: blabber unless looked in, get angry, get burnt out, forget, or do anything other than be a writing surface.

[@carmeltabby]

​@@techhelpportal7778 journals don't judge, they just let me judge myself

[@JensenPalmer]

“I just wanted to vent.” … Then word it differently because it sounds like you only said that because you got caught in your own argument when you realized the other party had a point.

[@JustanotherYoutuber771]

Nah but sometimes you just want to vent. Doesn’t apply when you’re completely wrong but sometimes the other person actually agrees with you and wants to help you find solutions. Which is nice of them but sometimes I have already thought about solutions and just want to let out my anger before moving on and putting them into action.

[@Duke00x]

99.999% of the time if a women goes to you with a problem or a complaint she is not looking to fix anything. At best she is looking to vent and normally she is just looking to have her thoughts and emotions validated and nothing else.

[@russellgrosser-7677]

As a middle-aged guy, I can 💯 relate. I have a tendency to explain how a clock works when all my gf wanted to know was what time it was
Fortunately, she's good-natured about it.
Love your work!

[@lienedavison6957]

I really appreciate how you explain the differences between men and women and not bringing men down just because they're misunderstood.

[@GamerFromJump]

Also women: “Men won’t mentor us anymore!” Um, yeah. Between this shit and the potential HR nightmare because she decided that “good morning” was over the line, men don’t want to be anywhere near the dice you’re asking them to roll.
One thing to keep in mind is that if a guy is explaining the stuff already known, he _might_ just be rolling through his mental flowchart to reach the part that is causing trouble. Maybe let the dude cook a bit.

[@Guardian582]

yeah exactly, if i have a problem i start at the end i want working and work backwards at possible fail points to see what may or may not be working, and sometimes i have to say it out loud so i remember i did it

[@mycroft16]

@@Guardian582Yeah, you have to have the conversation with yourself. Hard to explain that, but I'm pretty sure every guy understands that.

[@ComaAlpha]

​@@mycroft16pretty much thinking to yourself out loud. I'm guilty of that way too much. I think I'm crazy and that's one of the many signs.

[@kurtamesbury6679]

Best strategy - avoid women.
Yes, they need your help.
Don't give it to them.
Let them be "strong and independent" - and figure it out themselves.

[@abdul-kabiralegbe5660]

​@@kurtamesbury6679Permit me to ask the classically appropriate question: who hurt you? 😆😆😆😆😆
I'm being sarcastic.

[@antyxwg]

Mansplaining, also commonly known as “when a man says more than a single sentence”

[@louisthewolf0816]

That's y some men rarely talks :(

[@Sigart]

Mansplaining is when a man explains something a woman already knows, and won't accept that she knows or in some cases even knows better. Explaining something, as a man to a woman, is not mansplaining. Butthurt idiots just like to commandeer the phrase to sound more entitled to their opinion.

[@mc3331]

@@louisthewolf0816 And they claimed that Men has lower communication skill.

[@SchemingGoldberg]

"How do you know if a man is mansplaining? His mouth is moving." -- every feminist

[@Jdabomb93]

Basically informing a woman on anything she doesn’t already know/believe.

[@RenghisKhan]

They'd get a rhetorical question: "why should I explain that? You gonna fix it?".

[@stcredzero]

Don't want to be spoken to like a child? Be accountable. Simple as that.

[@cosmicfails2053]

"i was just venting"
The fucking shudder of rage that shook my spine...
When you try to help a problem but then they refuse the advice and your inquire why and then they just throw that line in your face like a cloud of sand to the eyes and run off

[@goldenhate6649]

If you want to just bitch for 15 minutes about life, please, for the love of god, preface the conversation with that.

[@Distortia1994]

I got a very strong urge to headbutt something when I heard that. I stopped listening to that part of my brain decades ago, but it still makes itself known sometimes.

[@robby1816]

I think it was "The Dadvocate" who said, women don't want an answer, they just want to be listened to while they complain. Don't offer an answer, just agree that it sucks.

[@cosmicfails2053]

@@robby1816
True
but when you do that,
Sometimes they then curve ball and you and berate you for NOT offering a solution,
(Will say though, I love the Dadvocate, and it has helped me alot with communication with my partner, but damn some people just, suck.)

[@John-ou4rm]

She's incredibly rude, asks for help and then trash talks about him. Ungrateful *****

[@MostlyBuicks]

WAY before "mansplaining" became a term, I always said: "If you do not want the answer do not ask me the question."

[@jaybee4288]

That’s not what mansplaining is. Mansplaining is when a man explains something we didn’t ask him to. Like I’m deciding between two dvd players and a random guy comes up to tell me which one is better and why.

[@JohnathanMenezes-yb2ux]

whats wrong with learning?

[@hunterjohnson6849]

​@jaybee4288 maybe spend more time woman listening instead of complaining about problems that don't exist

[@SigFigNewton]

@@jaybee4288yeah I despise it when people talk and share their opinions

[@YT-User1013]

⁠@@jaybee4288 Womansplaining: Condescending explanation of something by a woman, particularly to a man.
Mansplaining: Condescending explanation of something by a man, particularly to a woman.
It’s not just simply a man explaining something you didn’t ask him to. You could have asked him.

[@richardfarris2227]

He’s speaking to her like she is a grown up. Rookie.

[@MrGtrplayrt]

And there is no simple answer to her question.

[@kriptoscorner1688]

"I dont want to be mansplained to"
So, why did you ask a MAN to explain something to you? 😅

[@WhDatBoiG]

For the sole purpose of adding to modern feminism

[@rosen9425]

so she could throw accusations like mansplaining around. Got to keep up with the circle-arguments man, illogical-think all day, every day :D

[@dwightcrichlow9274]

Cause women don't have the answers

[@Aeternus_Nox]

I was a superuser at my previous job. If anyone accused me of mansplaining when I was explaining basics so she didn't repeat the same dumb shit & need help again, I'd reply with "You're a strong independent woman, you don't need my help. I'm going back to my work."

[@msjkramey]

​@@Aeternus_Noxso you're proving that you're condescending here. If one person calls you an a-hole, they're probably the a-hole. If everyone is doing it, it's probably you

[@theriddleofsteel2479]

I was an oil man for 20 years and I would get this exact attitude from women homeowners asking me why their furnace isn't working and what am I going to do to fix it.
They would angrily demand these answers and as I would start to explain I would get cut off "I don't care about that! What are you going to do to fix it and make sure it doesn't happen again?" I would start answering that question and again be cut off demanding I explained why it happened in the first place.
One woman did this to me so bad I eventually cut her off and told her that she should be happy that I am there because I am the person who found the problem that was caused by another company and I am now going to fix it so that her house will stay cozy warm and that she should be making a batch of those pancakes I could smell to thank me for saving her household from being cold. That's when her husband decided to speak up and shooed her away so that I could get to work on the furnace.

[@soykike1991]

I kinda get it, as a dev when I get asked about something I just give a very broad answer and try to stay away from specifics, until I know people are actually interested in the answer

[@craterous]

Um--- and they vote?

[@udhavbhatia6424]

That is the reason why you should talk to the guy

[@jeredalmeida1880]

She teased you with the aroma of pancakes!?! That alone is a crime.
That's what the authorities call giving the "Dry Jemima".

[@unmisfitminor101]

Women don’t know the difference between a right and a privilege. The fact that he own husband had to shoo her away into the kitchen proves Feminism is a plague

[@starweb443]

She asked, "Why is the website not working?" But what she wanted answered is, "When will the website be working?"

[@JohnFeldman-ss8jo]

People like you are the reason men are still out there and have not given up. Thank you for existing. Have a great life.

[@Bowie_8]

Bro this lady made me give up stfu 🙏🙏

[@clonetrooperpostorder6669]

My wife will ask me about why the car makes a funny sound and I give her a college-level essay on internal combustion 😂😂😂

[@bobbyharris1725]

A significant number of women are upset that men avoid them at work now. No more mentoring.

[@SchemingGoldberg]

Good. They brought it upon themself. They deserve it. It's time for them to start learning equal consequences and equal accountability.

[@Dietrich_Kaufmann]

*sigh* 😮‍💨
a part of me wants to help when asked because it’s the right thing to do
also a part of me thinks they’re social hacking to take advantage of kindness to have someone else do their job for them 🧐
Yes/No answers as much as possible, and avoiding women coworkers especially if you are a man regardless of your sexual orientation

[@NewVegasBadger]

Mentor a female co-worker? Why? They generally don't appreciate it. Seldom are they are they truely grateful. BTDT. And you run the risk of getting charged with sexual harassment. It is not worth it.

[@jaybee4288]

It’s crazy that there are so many men in our offices anyway. Y’all need to get back out into the world and build roads and fight wars and stuff. We need to bring back national service, men really struggle without it. Office jobs are for women.

[@TheEvertw]

By asking the question, she didn't ask for an answer, she asked for the man to make the problem go away.
But men have learned not to fall for that.

[@aranhahumanabr]

Worst kind of people to deal: stupid people who thinks to know about stuff.

[@nunyabidness117]

So a guy teaching you something you didn't know is a bad thing? How dare he assume you were interested in knowledge, intelligent enough to understand, and bothering to take the time to explain it to you.

[@revimfadli4666]

Ikr? How dare he assume she's a strong independent woman willing to know how to fix the problem herself next time! How can she be a damsel in distress after that?

[@ayu_chan69]

Totally makes sense.

[@CJFellowServant4288]

So lesson learned, don't teach women anything. Just one word answers. Unless it's YOUR woman then open up just a little bit, and be emotional? With her? Idk man.

[@kc270352]

exactly, why ask in the first place lmao 🙄🤡

[@AndRei-yc3ti]

This is why you should default to treating women like children

[@kelvaris1]

This is how men communicate with everyone, Even other men.

[@thegrumpyfatcat5300]

that's what i said the only difference is other men just listen instead of being pissed off we spent 2 minutes saying "so next time this happens do this because this is wrong and if it isn't come back and check with us"

[@youlovetoseeitlol]

facts, this is how my brother and I communicate all the time.

[@russe2711]

Its also a conversation.
If you know enough to say "ahh so my subnet on that computer is off" then we skip along to how to fix it or to the next issue.

[@ThatsMrPencilneck2U]

It's a very common problem when technically oriented men don't know to stop when your buffer is full. These nasty man-hating feminist make it out like this is some kind of misogynistic abuse, and I'm sick of it.

[@Nocare89]

Yep it's information transfer. Men teaching other men to fish. Women no longer left out I guess.

[@eliyahubenysrael6272]

Men should just answer "I don't know" and move on. Problem solved.

[@WildBikerBill]

Would a grunt do the job?

[@RECK317]

It’s weird hearing “speaking to me like a child” because I was always thought that in a respectful way, always explain stuff as if the person knows nothing on the subject so then you know they have all the info they need to understand. Especially since most people are too shy or prideful to say they don’t know something or ask questions so they’ll end up being confused if you treat it as if they already knew stuff

[@scottc1200]

I had a boss who is like that. And, he was a guy. He asked me a very specific yes or no question that he was going to use the answer of to base changing an entire production line on. The one word yes or no answer while accurate, without him knowing a bunch of other details would cause him to make completely the wrong decision! He literally became livid when I tried to tell him anything more than yes or no. So I gave him the yes or no answer, and he was off and running with it. It cost the company a huge amount of money, and many days of production work as a result. But, he made sure he only got a yes or no answer. Sometimes, what you want isn't what you need! Without fully understanding the situation, he made a huge problem for the company, as a result of running with his yes or no answer. Had he allowed me to explain it to him he could have avoided all of that!

[@jeffreyzie]

This right here. I needed to see this. I’m going thru this exact situation with someone I’ve hired (well he doesn’t get livid but I can see in his face that he’s annoyed a lil bit)
And it had me wondering if my leadership style is just ass or was he just trippin? (It’s my first time leading in this capacity so I was genuinely wondering this)
But reading your comment makes me realize it actually could be both. Maybe he’s overreacting at some of it but also maybe my leadership has been a little off at times too
Thanks for sharing this man 🤝🏾

[@AndrewFosterSheff69]

Ex military here... if a squad member or officer asks a question, I give as full a sit-rep (situation report) as I can, in as few words as I can, so they are FULLY INFORMED and can therefore make BETTER DECISIONS QUICKLY.
You don't like mansplaining? ... THEN STAY IGNORANT!

[@hannahk.598]

So if an officer asks you why the showers aren't clean, you give a 30-minute explanation fo all the various reasons that COULD have led to the showers not being clean?
I seriously doubt that...

[@mikeuuby]

​@@hannahk.598 them the shower cold be fixed faster in all next times that the problem appiers again.

[@jameson1239]

@@hannahk.598why the showers aren’t working and why is this website not working are not simple questions there’s a massive variety of reasons why either could be broken

[@lessanderfer7195]

@@hannahk.598 I guess you missed where he said, "as few words as I can"

[@paulbeardsley4095]

I am so offended that you mansplained that "sit-rep" means "situation report". I mean, sure, I didn't know, and now I've learned something, but I'm still offended, right?
(In case it's not obvious I'm being ironic.)

[@joshuawiedenbeck6944]

"How do I explain 45,000 lines of code to someone who thinks 'windows' are what you have in a house?"

[@user-cv7gb9wv6j]

One person said this, and I completely agree. Mansplaining was once considered to be when a man, who knew less than a woman about a subject, condescended to her by explaining something to her she already knew, and plainly knew more about than he did. These days "mansplaining" is thrown in a mans face any time he explains something, or even speaks intelligently about a subject. Here's an example of the clear difference: My husband had never kayaked before, knew nothing about them. I introduced him into the world of kayaking, taught him the differences between boats, length versus width, bow versus stern, storage capabilities, gear options, etc. I even bought him his first kayak based off of his wants, needs and preferences on the water. On our first float trip, in front of others, he began a sentence with "what you need to understand about kayaks is..." to me. THAT was "mansplaining", or what we used to call "talking out of your ass about something you knew very little of" and the group eyerolling that commenced told me that everyone there also saw it that way, as they knew my experience versus his lack thereof. He was given a friendly razzing over that by those present, which nipped that issue rather effectively. Other side: Our HVAC unit quit working, and I asked my husband what a certain part was. He then informed me what it was, what its purpose was, and how it worked with its surrounding components. This was an explanation, and a very informative one that I appreciated. He wasn't lecturing, he was teaching me about something I knew absolutely nothing about. We defer to the others strength or knowlege. It's not a competition, it's a mutually beneficial partnership. We each have our strengths, and could stand to learn something from one another, rather than shutting down and acting offended. An old friend once said "there will always be someone better than you at something, respect it, especially if you want them to respect what you're better at". Simple enough.

[@user-wv8oq3zx2t]

Women NEED to stop femsplaining!

[@joebloggs430]

Not FemSplaining .. FemPlaining

[@m.akif_khan]

Both should stop explaining themselves. If they are normal, it will happen naturally.

[@revimfadli4666]

​@@joebloggs430Womplaining?

[@MrM6d]

Isn't that emotional talk? My mansense (like spideysense) just tingled.

[@zanyryan6417]

It’s actually womansplaing (yeah, I didn’t know there was a word for it either at first, isn’t Google great? 😂)

[@matthewhuszarik4173]

As a man with a wife and daughter who aren’t handy at all. I try to explain to them how to do everything they ask me to do. They say we have you for that. So I tell them you won’t always.

[@abdul-kabiralegbe5660]

You can say that again.

[@thenoodlebuddy]

Sounds like some spoilt brats you've got there pal. You should go on a holiday for a couple of weeks and leave them with a few problems to fix

[@matthewhuszarik4173]

@@thenoodlebuddy I have, all that happens is they do the bare minimum until I get back. I tell them them they are going to end up like Grey Gardens.

[@musicman76enator]

This is why I always say "I don't know" or "I'm not sure" rather than telling them what could be wrong. You just can't solve people's problems anymore. Let them figure it out on their own.

[@blackbeltjones7463]

This is so accurate. Just because you WANT a simple answer, it doesn’t make the answer simple. It’s funny when people have to face the fact that reality doesn’t care about what you want, not that those people learn from such moments, it’s just funny.

[@HolyRainbowism]

If he only fixed the problem and not talk to her, then she would have whinge why he is such an awkward creep. You just can’t win with these women.

[@TheHumanShitpost]

You mean to say guys possess the communication skills to ensure you fully understand something you ask about? Shocker

[@cheekfinesser]

Women complain that we don’t communicate but when we do, it’s “mansplaining” lol

[@therealgreg5653]

@@cheekfinesser liberal women

[@anvil3589]

​@@cheekfinesserand somehow THEY are always good at communicating.
I pointed to my wife that she transmits, not communicates. She does not consider the concept of interference and reciever.
In other words, a woman designed communication tower would transmit at a unique out of band frequency that is susceptable to most normal enviromental conditions that no reciever built can intercept and it will still be the man's fault.

[@SwearWerdDebris]

​@@cheekfinesserno "women " don't, insecure/emotionally immature girls do in a woman's body.

[@dafuqgusdafrey60]

​​@@anvil3589basically yes, they only want one way "talking" that align with them
If you disagree even slightly, they will somehow shift to "you not listening to me"
But definitely depend on that person persona, my wife is a whole different species than girls I dated before

[@viperstriker4728]

I recall once when a women was being very helpful explaining the rules to a game when suddenly she stopped and apologized for womenplaining.
A women was made to feel guilty and apologize for being kind and helpful. My hatred of feminism grew by 10 times that day.

[@bramposthumus9300]

Thanks for this. 'Mansplaining' is anti-social, human-despising terminology designed to ensure that he shuts up so she owns the conversation and continues feeling good about herself.

[@stultuses]

Exactly, they want to give you everything you need to solve it yourself next time because guys are driven to be competent and assume others want to be competent too and not have to rely on others

[@justkev1044]

isnt that good tho? you learn to solve problems yourself. why would you wanna ask and get answered many times and end up still not understanding it?

[@thegrumpyfatcat5300]

@@justkev1044 because people are fucking stupid and arrogant and think that just because its someones job means they want to do it like they themselves aren't stuck in a dead-end job that pays minimum wage and treats them like shit

[@straysoul1818]

@@justkev1044I suppose some people just don’t want to learn.

[@lastguardianofthedyinglight]

Yeah, because asking for help when you could literally just do it yourself is called "laziness" and "indecency".

[@straysoul1818]

@@lastguardianofthedyinglight no. Asking for help is when you can’t figure out how to do it yourself. If you can do it yourself and you are allowed to, you do it yourself, that’s called being independent.
If you ask someone to do it for you because you don’t want to do it, unless you literally lack time to do it, that’s not asking for help. That is being lazy. Sorry to break it to you.
It must be far from indecent though, seeing how so many people do it without a care.

[@gy2045]

This is what a man hears, "I don't want to learn how to solve MY problems I want YOU to come and solve the exact same problem every time" so strong, so independent...

[@hannahk.598]

To be fair, is it HER problem? We don't have any background, don't know if she needs to use that website often or just very rarely to get some information. And generally: If a website is actually down, it's most likely not a problem with cookies. And if that website is down often, it's a company problem and not her job to play tech support every week
I personally like to search for solutions first before I call tech support and I do ask if they want to teach me how to solve it if I know that this problem likely occurs again in the future.
But I would be annoyed too if the tech support person goes in a 30 minute monologue about all the things that COULD be the problem if it's not even clear that I have to ever deal with that problem again.
I don't need a 30 minute training session for a problem that might never occure again, I have my own job that doesn't include tech support training time slots. That's like me going to the hiring manager to give him a whole lecture about how social security works when he simply asked about a minor error in his salary slip.

[@Bshipbuilder]

And he's also working through the problem verbally with a partner.

[@ndm0001]

As a man, this gives me hope that I might not be forever alone.

[@haroldfarquad6886]

If you come to a man with a problem, his primary focus is to solve your problem and make sure it doesn't become his problem again in the future. It's not a complicated process. The quicker women can understand that mindset, the better things will be between us all.

[@mycroft16]

This, it's not mainsplaining... we aren't the idiot trying to teach the expert. We have knowledge and we want you to have it as well. We're trying to enable you to fix your own issues in the future. We're giving you tools you don't already have. Not because we think you're stupid, but because we respect your autonomy and ability to handle things... so here's how to do it, know when it comes up you can do it and know you did it, and tell others.

[@johnharrison2511]

They don't care. The point is they just like to denegrate men and boss them around while nagging, blaming and playing victim.

[@johnharrison2511]

"denegrate men" WHY is auto correct changing my words to change their meaning but any typo remains and then "edit" does not work ?! I feel like I am being harassed.
Is it because I am male ?

[@ComaAlpha]

​@@johnharrison2511I'm guessing your original comment got shadow deleted

[@johnharrison2511]

​@@ComaAlphaYes, it did..Then I wrote some other ones against some trolls and got another warning !!
Often the comments get scrubbed even when they are harmless or nice.

[@wendull811]

This is every single female I have worked with in the machine shop for the last 8 years. I have been there for 19 years now, and the first 8, they actually listened and executed what I have said. In the last 8 years, it is like pulling teeth to get them to listen. Then they keep asking the same question and wonder why I get upset or get an attitude and then tell management I am "hard to work with" None of the women have lasted more than 3 years in this shop.

[@Sajgoniarz]

bruh, my sis works as team leader at huge corpo. She was once accused of mansplaining by her subordinate that had no clue what to do in her job. Sister told me that with every business specific word she used the girl was opening her mouth wider and wider :D

[@kevinzhang6623]

​@Sajgoniarz Whats your sister's logic? A subordinate has no know how, yet your sister explains with more and more "business words" she doesn't understand? Your sister is the one at fault for lacking communication skills. People like the subordinate are people you need to account for and find other ways of getting the point across by understanding what they expect.

[@kevinzhang6623]

Every single one for 8 years. Yeah, hate to break it to you but not everyone working your job would have that issue, it lies on your communication skills with impatient, low-attention individuals - it is a reflection on you, not them. What does getting upset accomplish when you give the same answer to their repetitive questions instead of approaching it differently? Humans in general are entitled beings who blame others when they are not behaving the way they expect, we all have to deal with that.

[@Sajgoniarz]

​@@kevinzhang6623 it was not a position for some greenhorn. My sister were looking for assistant ASAP and requirements were pretty high including diploma and some certification. She had to break down every definition for the new girl, while it was impossible to get certification without knowing them. Tools, flows etc. was also an industry standard. My sister could not believe how she could slip through interview.
And in terms of communication... there is a reason why some "taskforces" are bring together based on communication types of individuals, since sometimes you can't afford miscommunication, or time required for putting everybody on the same page.

[@senecaaurelius1811]

That coincides with the history of the proliferation and increase in social media use. Sad stuff.

[@MrJustonemorevoice]

This is exactly how men talk to each other.
We share information so we can fix problems.

[@TheSpicyLeg]

I’m an industrial electrician who does side work occasionally. I’m used to speaking to men. A coworker of my wife asked if I could look at their remodel service so I went there and saw they had used one neutral through the whole shebang. I told her she can’t do that, she she asked why. I started to explain when she cuts me off to say it doesn’t matter, it’ll work, won’t it? Sure have it.
The reason you don’t share neutrals is because of harmonics from computer processors. She didn’t listen, and overloaded the neutral which fried her smart TV and other devices. She was complaining to my wife that I didn’t tell her why she shouldn’t do that.

[@angrydragonslayer]

Just say "it can hurt stuff"
Any more technical than that and they won't listen unless they're in the industry themselves (at which point, they listen better than men 😂)

[@Nomo-sapiens]

@@angrydragonslayer looks like we need to speak to them not like a child but like an ork.

[@VTsiFanfic]

​@@Nomo-sapiensor Frankensteins monster. "Fire Bad!"

[@mycroft16]

@@Nomo-sapiens I've had to do this with managers and bosses at work. I'm a software engineer with IT knowledge and sometimes they hire managers who have ZERO knowledge at all. And yeah, you have to explain it like they're an orc. Even children grasp things better than some of the people I've had to work under. Thankfully, they usually don't grasp sarcasm very well either.

[@4Kandlez]

Womansplaining is much worse than mansplaining, it's torture waiting for them to get to the point (a very long time)

[@E4439Qv5]

My mom is a verbal processor.
Recently, I've taken to dragging her to _my_ point first, leaving absolutely no uncertainty in my wake, and then apologizing and smoothing things over after the fact. Repeating as necessary only until I've finally dug out all my old poisoned wells.
Already a solid 80% of the way done now, I think. 🙂

[@censorthispuertorican]

And then they accuse you of interrupting them after you've just let them drone on pointlessly for three minutes.

[@E4439Qv5]

@@censorthispuertorican only worse when they do it to you, right?

[@censorthispuertorican]

@@E4439Qv5 😁 so much of their complaints are pure projection.

[@Wooster23]

It’s an oxymoron

[@jb5234]

As someone who works in IT and has to deal with a lot of elderly customers clicking bad links and falling for scams, this more or less sums up my job.. Look all I want to do is to get you to understand that John from Utah is not your long lost cousin trying to give you 10,000 dollars Tina!..

[@AvivCMusic]

As a man, this one time a female coworker asked me a technical question. I started to answer her question, and then she got upset about the manner I was answering. Listen. If you're asking a question, I will answer it in the way I see fit. And yes - my motivation, as explained in this video, is probably to be of assistance, but also at the same time to give you the tools so next time you can figure it out yourself. But even if that wasn't the case - if a person is asking somebody else for help, it's inappropriate for the person to police the way the other person is assisting them...

[@nickd2296]

Lol. Don't ask for help if you don't want the solution

[@AndRei-yc3ti]

Youre speaking logic and accountability. Women arent fond of either

[@xdarkwolf2255]

It sounded like he was over explaining the solution and was totally guessing
It's like asking why your phone ain't working to verizon and they give some long winded explanation about how the automatic updates didn't work as planned
Okay cool, Idc please fix it already

[@charlescannon2469]

​@@xdarkwolf2255Then don't ask WHY, just let people get on with their job.

[@xdarkwolf2255]

@@charlescannon2469 fair but it's a common thing for people to ask why instead of saying "how do I fix this?"

[@poeticeclipse]

The issue with her video is that mansplaining is when you don’t ask for help but someone gives it to you anyway and in a condescending tone.

[@cts_corey1119]

Give a man a fish, feed him for a day.
Teach a man to fish, feed him for a lifetime.

[@silentwater79]

Women don't want to learn how to fish and to feed themselves. They want just the fish for free and someone feeds them the whole life if they demand it.

[@ahapka]

Teach a man to fish and he'll go out every night with a six pack and stay on the lake for hours:)

[@captainhybrid4045]

Saves me making the comment about giving a fish v teaching to fish.

[@oshawott4544]

Teach a woman to fish, she'll say she doesn't need you

[@IFibreOpticI]

Teach a woman to fish, and she'll accuse you of mansplaining.

[@shnehasispatra]

If someone utters "mansplane" they are instantly getting blocked no matter what

[@0liverfarfan65]

So true, a coworker asked me about sales tips, and I went on and on. She was engaged. However, I apologize to her if I was talking too much. She said no, she was open to get information. I still felt I was giving too much information. I do want her to feel confident and resources full.

[@profitgeoff4313]

Well said. This is, in fact, exactly what we do.
If we're actually condescending - not mansplaining, that's not a real thing - you will freaking KNOW it. You'll feel like someone swatted you one in the face. It would be very, very apparent. Totally blunt, impossible to mistake for anything else.

[@lucewithnootherideas553]

"I was Just venting"
"yes, and I was just directing that vent in a more positive direction"

[@JimButler1234567890]

He wasn't talking to her like a child.. He knows that a child wouldn't understand these things, but he did explain them to her.

[@bryceneuberger3460]

When I was an IT guy, I came up through call center tech support. One of the criteria we were graded on was moments of silence. The way I handled this metric, was to explain to the customer what I was doing in order to fill silent gaps. We weren't allowed to have 30 seconds of silence, or else we would have failed our QA.
Taking about a hundred calls a day, everyday for 8 years, this definitely built a speech pattern within my day-to-day life. So pretty much now anytime anyone needs help regardless of the topic, I have a habit of explaining things hardwired into me. Lol

[@robertsouth6971]

I always make sure and read people's minds before I tell them anything, that way I don't tell them anything they already know.

[@joshuahunter7972]

This is daily. "He talks to me like I am stupid", if you were not stupid you would not feel stupid.

[@brag0001]

Stupid people don't feel stupid. Only partially competent people do. Stupid people lack the core competencies required to even notice their stupidity ... that's called the Dunning-Kruger-Effect btw. 😂

[@blackhorseteck8381]

It's like asking your mechanic: "why isn't my car working?"
You'll get either a short dismissive answer or a long passion driven answer.

[@TheEvertw]

A fool can ask more questions in a minute than a wise man can answer in a day.

[@stevenkinscherf6642]

Loved the "Didn't mean to mansplain how you're wrong" at the end 😂👍

[@baltonus1120]

If someone uses the word mansplaining, that's a huge red flag as coworker because she will be difficult in the most minimum cases and will play victim card.

[@mcpribs]

And will, in my experience, be a nearly worthless employee who everyone else will have to clean up after.

[@E4439Qv5]

...ok, but I do it ironically--

[@Dietrich_Kaufmann]

Stick to yes and no answers as much as possible and avoid women coworkers 💯
It’s been working so far no issues here 🤠

[@possibly_a_retard]

We're not speaking to you like a child, we're speaking to you like an adult

[@WorldsOkayestSorcerer]

“I asked a simple question.”
Too bad many simple questions don’t have simple answers, only simple people expecting them.

[@theonionpirate1076]

Thank you. The most frustrating part of the term "mansplaining" is that even if we try to explain ourselves, we can be accused of it. It's a trap.

[@ky7299]

No, the most frustrating part is that they used a gendered term to name a behaviour all genders do. I've been "mansplained" by female friends over house chores despite living alone for years.
PS. The worst "mansplaining" is women telling men what a "real man" should do.

[@TheOneWhoSimps]

Everytime someone tells me to stop mansplaining I just tell them to stop womenyapping and holy shit they explode.

[@kevinwield5691]

young lady, you have the right idea. come down to earth and work with us not against us.

[@lstchance87]

People need to learn that just because the question is simple doesn't mean the answer is

[@appalachianoperator]

God forbid we were humble enough to listen to people when they try to explain things we know nothing about

[@jessicacorsi8734]

And if that's the case, it's not mansplaining.

[@appalachianoperator]

@@jessicacorsi8734 there is a large portion of women out here who know nothing about a subject but get angry when you tey to explain something regarding that subject

[@jessicacorsi8734]

@@appalachianoperator probably the same type of people as the likely much larger population of men who disregard and condescend to women in pretty much every sector of the workforce, male-dominated or no. While I don't agree with people misusing the word, I do find men's reaction to finally receiving as good as they've given since forever very interesting..

[@appalachianoperator]

@@jessicacorsi8734 I've actually never met a man who talks the way you describe. I've met many women who act exactly as the video describes. Such to the point that i have had to contend with women trying to explain to me how to do something that I already do for a living, while they watch from the sidelines. As a society we make a habit of putting down men while encouraging delusional confidence in women. And it shows

[@appalachianoperator]

@@jessicacorsi8734 this sort of vengeful arrogance you seem to spew isn't cute. Nor is it just. You can't deny that men face issues while also championing the very issues you say you don't cause. Your pride in hurting others is evil. You don't get to be sexist simply because at some point in history someone who happens to share your genitals was treated bad. That makes you worse than the people you claim to be fighting. It was never about equality for you. It was always about revenge without the consequences