Absolutely. Children are a huge responsibility and commitment, but more rewarding than an animal. Children are such a gift, that selfless love for another changed my whole perspective on life. You can't have a meaningful conversation with a pup, I don't think it's for me 😢
Oh my gosh yes, I have always felt I'll be ready, I'm full of love ect. but I got a puppy beforehand and now I can only imagine the precious gravity of having a beautiful human child
You can't compare puppy and kid, the emotions when you have your first kid isn't comparable with your first puppy! Don't be stupid! Sacrifices are justify with children, but not with a bloody stinky animal!
I have a 4 month old pup. If I could go back in time I would say no thanks to getting him. I knew it would be a huge responsibility, but actually being in it, is completely different. To rehome him stresses me out because I want to make sure he'll be loved and cared for. I don't know what I'm going to do yet, but thanks for posting this.
@@Ash-uv4td I knew I would have felt bad if I didn't try everything before rehoming, so I got more focused and consistent with training. And I worked on my patience, lol. He's a smart dog and can pick up on things quickly, so this helped. He still has his moments, but it's a lot better.
Honestly, it gets better. I got my puppy at 2 months. Dog would cry pee and poop at home had fleas. I stuck with him and I can never give him. You do have to sacrifice some time, but it’s worth it. I exercise my dog frequently and that is the reason why he is a couch potato when I work. Don’t let a dog stress you out. You will be fine and so will your dog.
Normalize NOT condemning people for re-homing their pet. Why people are so harsh on folks who decide it's time to rehome I will never understand! Why would you want someone to keep a pet that is stressing them out and/or isn't a good fit for them, OR they just don't want anymore? I will never understand that mindset to make people feel bad for keeping a dog they don't want (for whatever reason). To each his/her own. Oftentimes rehoming is for the best!
Exactly. I’ve unfortunately have crossed paths with people who dump their dogs in the middle of nowhere, intentionally let them run away, and even two cases of people who’ve euthanized their dog simply because they became a nuisance. Rehoming a dog is a responsible and difficult decision and deserves compassion.
RIGHT... I felt like my family and everybody was making me feel bad but it had gotten to the point where my life was way more important than the dogs. I got a foster dog that had a lot of problems and it just was not what I was expecting.
Pretty much described everything that happened to me. I think getting a dog is a family job. Doing it from the puppy stage by yourself is extremely difficult.
Yeah I had a puppy she was with me a month and I couldn't keep up with her see was so hard to train working 10 hrs shifts 6 days a week and I asked family n friends to help no one would come visit her at my apartment I was so stressed out I felt lil relief getting her a new home nice young family with yard n lil house but when I came home to my empty apartment I couldn't stop crying and I still miss her 😢but I know she happy
I rehomed my dog today... I had him for a year. And I haven’t stopped crying. My heart is broken. But I realized this needed to happen. I barely had time for him. Going through depression, made me give him less love, less care. And I tried my best to be strong. I miss him so much. Today is the first night I haven’t had him. My apartment feels so empty and quiet. I’m so upset.... I miss him so much... he was my bestfriend. My heart, I ran to him for love. I will never ever forget him... hopefully one day I can get another pup.
How are you coping 6 months on? I rehomed my dog a few days ago, I had her 9 months from 9 weeks old, she was the sweetest border collie puppy and was great. She was super hyper which I expected and I trained her everyday, never was she apart from me which led to a little separation anxiety. I taught her so much, helped her overcome her fears, she helped me deal with my depression and loneliness. I did not always know that I loved her because I struggle with feeling love or anything, I got frustrated and angry at times with her, as she was so much hardwork but I liked being forced to get out, depression meant I locked myself away before her, we learned so much together. Ultimately my business fell apart adding more stress then when had a chance to get back up and running, covid 19 came destroying my business again and leaving me destitute, everything fell apart and was relying on help from charities and nearly homeless. Ultimately as things got worse I decided it best to rehome her, I found a good family to take her who she bonded to really quickly, I have cried everyday since, I miss her so much, I know through the wrestling it over, I did right thing by her and sure she's happy, just hoping I will get over this.
David Holden It was one of the best decisions I made. I was not in the mental head space for a pup at the time. He is in a new home happy and has dog friends and family. I have personally been doing better with my depression. I learned that if I cannot take of myself I cannot take care of anyone else. If you keep thinking about rejoining you’re dog. Just do it. It’s a wake up sign that you can no longer take care of your little fur ball. And that it may lead to neglect if you keep them. I do want another dog one day. But years from now.
@@xcel4924 probably would if it was ok…..have you ever had a Rescue biting you, biting your customers at work, destroying your property. Please don’t judge people you are not in their shoes ……today’s society lack serious compassion.
@@Mrsbehavin59 its important to properly train them after bringing them home and if dont have have the fu**ing time to do this then dont bring them to ur house and then leave them when things get out of your hand. Are you dumb? Dogs are dogs they will behave like one if you dont teach them whats right. If you cant do that then dont bring them to your house.
Going through this right now. I have someone from a farm coming to adopt it off me and I know he’ll have a better life there rather then with me, I’ve got really bad anxiety this past week. Owning a dog is a MASSIVE responsibility that I didn’t know of.
@@mahsshahsavari yeah the guilt is terrible, I went and saw him a couple times, he’s loving his new home! A great decision I can look back and know he’s living a better life!
@@LegitVenom thanks 🙏 I haven’t made my mind 100% but raising a Boxer puppy by myself (alone) and opening a business in Jan 2022 that needs 10 hrs of my time everyday sounds impossible. I’m sorry for your pain 🤞
I feel bad because I’m giving up my dog tomorrow and all I can think is he wouldn’t give up on me like I’m giving up on him.. :( but at the same time we found him a GREAT HOME! With a female of his same Breed and a well off family u can love and take care of him
We have found a lovely family to rehome my 9 month old puppy. I'm heartbroken but my depression is getting worse and my pup needs more exercise than I can give him. He deserves a better life. I have seen photo's of where he will live and he's going to love it. The family are really excited. I hope he settles in quickly.
You are so honest and thoughtful and introspective! You made the best decision for you and the dog! It needed to happen because the puppy blues are so very real! My husband and I are older now and in our mid 60s. We have had 3 amazing dogs in our lifetime and lost our last one over a year ago. But since our last dog we had sold our home with a yard…moved to a condo and apartment in Boston with no yard and the children had all grown up and left the nest! So we bought this gorgeous English Labrador puppy from an amazing breeder who breeds show and service dogs. Long story after giving it our all….Exhaustion and depression and anxiety had set in deep for both of us. I read all about the puppy blues and they are real!!! We hadn't slept in 6 weeks! And without a yard or playmate, the dog was miserable…anxious all the time and wouldn’t hardly ever settle. We hated crating her and she hated it more! I called the breeder to discuss options and she said she would love to have her back on her farm with the only litter mate she had left from the 8 pups. The opportunity was just too good all the way around and best for Eloise!💝🐾💝 We experience sadness in saying goodbye to her but such great joy in seeing her back with her breeder mommy and litter mate back on the farm. Our adult children were saddened and disappointed not that they wanted her! We learned so much about this stage in our life and to embrace our freedom to travel and just be…not tied to a dog’s need and schedule. I am texting this from back in the gym on a bike…I am eating and sleeping well again…and my husband and I just celebrated our 39th anniversary with so much love and understanding and freedom to rejoice in our shared decision! Bravo to you and all out there who make this decision. Never good to be a martyr just because you feel guilty or care what anyone else thinks! Self care and healthy relationships must always come first to live your best life!💝🐾💝🐾💝
I have never felt like I feel right now. I haven’t even had my puppy for a week but I feel so overwhelmed. I’ve wanted a dog for so many years it really was my lifelong dream, now that I have her I don’t understand why I feel like this. I feel sad, anxious, I can’t eat, I can’t sleep. I feel alone, I feel like I cannot do this by myself. But I love her I really do. I don’t know what is happening to me but I don’t want to feel like this anymore.
@@HazyPinkSky Hello, I kept her and I now know that it was the right choice. However it wasnt easy for the first like two weeks. But I ended up talking to a therapist (about all the anxiety i was feeling etc) and to a dog trainer expert (she told me that i should stop looking at training videos of dos and donts or to just stick to one channel, because it was very stressing for me to think that maybe i wasnt going to do what was right for my dog etc). It may be hard but do whatever feels right for you, having a puppy definetly is a lot of work! specially if you're someone like me that can stress easily, maybe picture both scenarios and try to think which one makes you feel more at peace or which one feels right, and if you think that giving back the dog its what feels right, then thats probably the best not only for yourself but for the dog!! dont be afraid of what people might think or anything like that and do what feels right. Also, it helped me to talk about it because it made me realize that i am not crazy and it is ok to be having those second thoughts, i also read some helpful information search 'puppy blues' its kind of like having postpartum depression, i read it on reddit and it helped. Hope you're ok, trust your gut, you'll make the right call!
It does get better, but if you dont think you can handle it or you just simply regret getting the dog, then give it back. Its best to do it sooner than later, for both of you. Try to dont feel guilty, and again, whatever you decide will be the right choice, whatever happens was what was meant to happen
@@Ferbocarbo Im so so happy with my dog she's literally my life im obssesed with her haha i love training her too. She's now been with me for a year. I would say it was not an easy task to have the patience to potty train among other stuff. I started to feel better about two weeks after i got her and that's when i actually started like enjoying her rather than suffering through the process...i talked to a therapist about the anxiety i was feeling and also i realized i wasn't crazy, there's a name for this feeling, the puppy blues! I dont know if you already did but read the comment where i replied to 'hazy pink' right under my original comment. And overall don't feel guilty and try to really listen to yourself and ask yourself what's best for the dog and for you. Im sure you will make the right decision. If you want to ask anything ill be happy to answer
Thank you for sharing, it really helped me to deal with my emotion, it been a roller coaster past week. I just recently decided to rehome my 12 weeks old puppy. My husband and I thought it was a perfect time in our life to have a dog, I have a huge back yard, my 2 girls are just in love with our dog and my mom who's with us 5 days a week so, the dog is never alone. Raising a puppy is not easy, the reality hits after 2 wks with our puppy, the demand is more than we expected and came to the realization we are not fit to have any pets. Having a puppy is accepting the good and bad owning a dog, although we enjoyed having him and my daughters love him. My husband and I can't fully cope with our dog being fully dependent on us for the rest of his life and I'm not referring the dog expense. The decision was not easy, I have to make sure my girls are ok and I told them they did a fantastic job taking care of him while mommy and daddy are working. It's not their fault but ours for putting everyone in this sad situation. Our puppy needs to be in a home that let him be a puppy and mature into a good dog. He's leaving us in a couple of days. I'm happy my friend decided to adopt him, we will be able to visit him and see grow. But, can't help feeling the sadness of him leaving our home. Our home was supposed to a permanent home for him.
This was literally me with my chocolate lab. I’d had him for almost 2 years since he was a puppy. I really didn’t want to do it, but the financial and psychological burden of it was too much. He’d bark like crazy when people came over and would throw a fit if he couldn’t come and jump on people. Mind you, he was trained not to do this and I didn’t let up on his training. He was always either outside or crated when I wasn’t there because he would tear things up if I wasn’t there. He chewed up a HS graduation gift that was a handmade wallet and I was so upset. I found myself leaving things way earlier than I wanted or needed because I had to tend to my dog. I ended up rehoming him after attempting to have my friend take care of him and she said he was a full-time job. In one night, he destroyed two pairs of shoes, a carpet, pooped and smeared it into a different carpet, and got a complaint filed with the front office. One night. He was a very smart dog, smart enough to know that he was being disobedient and would do it only when he got an attitude. I’m very glad I did what I did because I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders.
Wow, this sounds like my dilemma. My dog is destroying my house. I spent 2 years remodeling and saved to pay for all the new things. He has destroyed my new carpet. Yesterday he got into my oven where I kept a blueberry pie from him. While eating the he stepped all in it and got blueberry on is feet and stepped all over my new furniture. Then proceeded to break a bedroom door open and blow diarrhea all over my third bedroom. I'm beyond!!! He is a very loving dog but I have other dresses in my life and I can't take this added stress....its not fair for either if us...
Tom Guy.. I have a huge back yard and my kids are grown but I will never ever get a dog because to me it would be like starting all over again with having something depending on you but with a dog, it's for the duration of its life. I sacrificed my life for my children and am just not willing to do it for a dog. I like my freedom.
@@1533ramsaywow..a friend of mine got a dog that was given to her by a boyfriend and the dog ate a hole through her drywall! Well needless to say my friend had the dogs toys and the dog waiting by the door the next day for the boyfriend to come and get. Now the dog is in a new home with no regrets .. I admire those who have patience with dogs being destructive because I couldn't. I don't work my behind off for nice things for it to be destroyed by anything or anyone!
Thank you I’ve been crying about this for 2 weeks everyone kept saying keep her today I am rehoming her. Just like you I lost myself and it’s stressful. I listened to other people and I’ve kept her but I do move around a lot. Thank you I feel bad because of other people
Thank you for posting this. I brought my puppy back to the shelter today. I'm absolutely crushed that I couldn't handle her, but my mental health deteriorated to a scary point in the week that I had her. I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, couldn't shower... my life became her. I wanted a dog to help my mental health, not make it worse. I had to do what was best for the both of us, as much as I wanted it to work. There's such a stigma around rehoming a pet, but sometimes it's what needs to be done.
I’m in this same boat. For years I wanted a dog, I finally adopted one, but my mental health has deteriorated since. Constantly being so consumed with the dog, anxiety attacks about random things that could happen to the dog. To me it’s not worth it. But now I know, I will donate to shelters instead, but I
This sounds exactly like me. I took my dog back to the shelter today. I had been crying for days and had to call a crisis center. It’s not the dogs fault, it just trigged my own mental health and I just felt that the dog deserved better. He came from a neglectful owner and I was terrified of becoming neglectful so we took him back two days after adopting him. There is definitely stigma and people judge but they don’t know what it’s like to be in a situation like that and ultimately it’s what best for the dog.
Thank you. I am struggling after rehoming my dog 2 days ago. I really liked what you said about finding an honest and truthful answer, but not one that makes you feel good. That’s how I decided to rehome my dog.... the bad feelings after Doing it make me think I made the wrong choice. But that’s not necessarily true... I just wish I hadn’t made the choice in the first place so I wouldn’t have to feel this way now 😣
I recognize myself in what you mentioned. Your whole life begins to center around the dog and I've also tried sticking it out with my cat and noticed myself getting a bit depressed.
Thanks for posting the video, it helped a lot when making the decision to rehome our 10 week old puppy. It was all just too much and I felt in my gut it was the wrong choice almost immediately. While it is sad and I feel terribly guilty for letting her go I also feel relief and like this is the best choice for her and me.
This video was exactly what I needed. We just re-homed our two pups tonight and I’ve been beside myself, crying all night. I love them so much but I know it’s for the best. Everything you said was exactly how I felt. Plus life has just got so much more busy since getting them, I didn’t have the time anymore. I am so thankful for you for sharing this video. I’ll repost in hopes it helps someone else too.
Going through the anxiety (cant eat and cant sleep) right now and have been told that this is normal as well. Just want to know my options if I cant get past this crazy anxiety I'm having. Even grew up with dogs and helped raise puppies in my home, so I knew the work involved. The anxiety is from this being my first dog completely on my own. I really appreciate hearing this.
@@gabys424 I've had my puppy for 3 and a half months now, and honestly the first month was the hardest month of my entire life. I had talked to the breeder after the first week about giving her back, and decided to give it 2 months before making a decision. It can and DID get better for me! Obviously every situation is different, but I would say if you have any doubts, you should stick it out as long as you can, because it can get SO much better than the nightmare you're probably going through.
Thank you, having doubts about rehoming our pup. This video really helped me see it’s not the best time for us to have a second dog and better for the pup to go to a loving family who will have more time for him x
Thanks for sharing this experience. I recognize your feelings. We are currently thinking of rehoming the dog that we got 11 days ago, even though a dog has been our dream for many years. The responsibility is bigger than we thought, but she also seems to have bad separation anxiety. On top of that, the shelter we got her from said that kids visiting us would be okay - but the dog reacted aggressively towards my nephew, who was just standing there. We'll be seeing a therapist tomorrow. It's reassuring to see that we're not the only people who experience strong feelings of doubt. We wish this dog the best, but we feel that the current situation might not be what's best for her (or us).
It’s absolutely exhausting I’m very stressed because the dog is in and out day and night I barely sleep thank you it’s seems like a clear cut choice now
Holy shit thank you for posting this. It's literally exactly how I feel about my poor dog. I love her so much, but every few weeks I feel like my anxiety and depression surrounding her is never gonna go away. I worry about her so much, I'm never enjoying the time I spend with her. 2 months ago I decided I couldn't take care of her and I wasn't giving her the life she deserved so I found a reputable rescue and they walked me through the whole process. Literally the day I was supposed to decide and get back to them I realized I couldn't stand the idea of giving her away. I cried all day and decided it was a sign I should keep her. Fast forward to now and I'm questioning it again. I still feel like I'm in way over my head and it's been months. I really thought the puppy blues would be gone by now.
I rehomed my puppy and regret it completely. I can’t get her back because her new owners instantly fell in love with her. I’m happy she’s in a home with a owner to can provide her with more than I could. But my heart literally aches. I hope this feeling doesn’t last forever. Best of luck with your decision
Man I really needed this, thank you. I rescued 18’month old beagle 4 months ago and it has been insanely hard. He’s become very reactive and has gone for a few people in the home. Time to make that hard next step 😢
Wow, this helped me so much! I needed to hear this. Since I’ve gotten my dog I’ve become so depressed and stopped doing what I love due to being so overwhelmed & stressed about me dog and I somewhat resent my dog for it, but I feel bad to give him away because he is so smart and such a good dog that I felt ungrateful. But I honestly have been thinking about it for awhile and I think it’s best for me and him. I just want to feel good again, he’s only 9 months so I think he will adjust fast
I feel so overwhelmed with my husky german shepherd mixed dog. He's so friendly and docile but I'm at a point where I'm having to leave him inside a steel kennel when I don't have eyes on him. I just spent 2 weekends, one being my birthday, where I made him and 2 of my other small shitzu dogs a house with insulation and AC. I also played down turf and I came back with the turf lifted and the house peed on and wood chewed on. Imma be honest and I work 10hrs and feel like between chores and work I have very little time to play with him. I've tried walking him often and didn't help. I realize he needs more activity than that and so I made him a 300 square footage dog run filled with toys, bones, etc yet he chooses to chew on the dog house wood. I am so depressed and irritated. I've had 2 separate episodes prior where I almost gave him away because he has been rehomed twice and I love him but I just dislike how destructive he is.
You made this years ago and I'm so glad you did. A few days ago I adopted the most beautiful puppy. I fell in love with her week before when I saw her adoption listing and again when I met her in person. I bought her everything I could've needed and more and through the span of 3 days, I went through the worst case of Puppy Depression. I stopped eating cause I had no appetite, I couldn't sleep because I kept worrying something bad was gonna happen to her and the first time I went out for like 3 hours while my friend was watching her all I felt was guilty, ashamed and just horrible. I never cried so much in my life and I no idea why I felt this way. I talked to a lot of people who told me to wait but honestly the realization that I wasn't ready slapped me in the face. I also found out I was allergic to her and I was trying so hard to fight it with allergy pills but they would make me drowsy and yet I couldn't sleep. I ended up giving her back to her foster who had another family lined up already. It's only been a day since that happened and while I still feel relieved I do miss her so much. I wish I was more ready but I know she's going to have a much better life with her new family. Anyways, thank you for making this video.
This video helped me. I am in a very bad dilemma. I have always wanted a dog and I thought a puppy would be ideal since I'd be able to teach it from scratch and that it won't have any emotional baggage. Now I'm realizing how big of a mistake it is since I did not anticipate how stubborn pomskies are. It has taught me a lesson that I can't just underestimate puppies thinking that they will all just obey. I am so mentally and physically exhausted and I'm on the brink of rehoming my 11 week old puppy. I love him and I have no problem losing sleep over him, what's making me break down is his unending energy and his unbreakable stubbornness. I should have adopted an adult dog that is already housetrained. I'm so torn, I don't really know what to do.
Nic Reyes hey I am so sorry for what your dealing with. I currently dealing with a new pup that is having issues with crate at night ( anytime she just cry’s if she’s in crate and doesn’t stop until I let her out) I have read n watched many tips n training vids.. idk what to do. She also is having issues getting usto my cat I thought by now they would be somewhat usto each other or atleast any progress but there’s none. The pup barks n my cat just bolts down stairs or up in a window. My cats also tried to bad the dog a few times and hishes at the pup which can be scary so I’m always there with completely supervising both of them but I’m just not having any luck. Do u have any tips on either topic? I keep hearing it will get better with time but I feel horrible my cat is like petrified to be upstairs on main floor where he normally is and now barely likes coming up I constantly have to have the gate up between them if I’m not 100% all on with them which I’ve been working so hard to try n get them to get along but still no progress. Sorry for the long message I just am at a loss n looking for any tips. We got a Frenchie idk if that helps but ya .. again very sorry to hear about your situation and I hope things get better for ya.💜
Thank you for this. We just had to re-home our puppy and I'm just crushed and I feel I've ruined my wife's life. I know time will help and I thank you for this video.
Thank you for this video. I just sobbed because you said everything I needed to hear. We had our puppy only for a week and in that time I couldn’t eat or sleep from the stress and the depression made me also unable to bond with her. This was 2 months ago now and I’m still struggling with the grief and guilt but I hope one day I will get past it.
Same, but I’m doing all of this because I’m not mentally good. I can’t take care of him anymore because of how bad my mental health has gotten and I just want him to be with someone who’ll be able to take care of him and be happy.
@@lissethgonzalez7939 I just had to rehome my dog due to my poor mental health too. It was hard but he’s with nice, successful owner now that will give him a great stable life
I’m rehoming my puppy feel very emotional but my depression has came back big time I can’t I’m rehoming my puppy it’s affecting my mental health very sad thank you for advice
I needed to rehome my maltese one year ago too. Felt super guilty and wished we kept him instead because my puppy blues were not that bad after 3 weeks. Found him a new loving home. It's okay to rehome it if you can't take care of it. Your mental health comes first.
You're on the spot! 💖I agree with all you said. We have a family member that's considering re-homing. That's why I'm watching what you have to share. 🤗 I have 2 rescue dogs. One of my dogs has been in 3 homes. I'm the 3rd home. The other dog was lost in the woods and brought to the dog pound. Both my dogs are doing fine.
Thank you for this video, it helped me decide not to get a puppy right now. I was close to getting one but the more I thought about it the more anxious I would become about it and I was scared I would regret it later. It just made me realize now just isn’t the time to bring a puppy into my life.
I’m glad you made this video. In reading the comments I see that it hasn’t been mentioned concerning the size of the dog or its breed. I can say that size and breed makes a huge difference. A big dog that needs lots of exercise and guidance might be the wrong fit but a small breed might be just right. So a lot of it for those who want dogs but don’t have time to be constantly taking care of one might be a good fit for a small breed. Before getting some Chiweenie’s I got two puppies that were going to grow up to be on the big side. I realized after one night that it just wasn’t going to work, so I took them back but I then researched what would be a good breed for me and found just the right ones for me.
I had three dogs. I was moving and had no choice but to rehome of the youngest. It not only broke my heart but my other two dogs heart too. He was a brindle American Bulldog and he was the life of the party at home. As soon as he left I just felt the energy get sucked out of our home. I loved him and didn't want to do it. My only advice is that if you KNOW you NEED to rehome an animal you love, find a good home and rehome home him asap when you do. Try not to think about it and stay busy that first week. Everything will be okay
Going through exactly this right now. My wife bought a dog home and almost instantly got her self a new job meaning I’ve become our dogs main care giver. I personally don’t want and have never wanted a dog but man I’m so close to our dog now and have such a bond with him but that said my loves, passion, time, health and self care has gone out the window as the dog takes up my every minuet I have. Because of this I’m really battling with the guilt of knowing I should rehome and the guilt of if I even should rehome him. It’s genuinely eating me up inside.
This feels like shit but I think I'm gonna rehome my puppy tomorrow. He is just 9,5 weeks old and with me for 10 days only. I've got a severe panic attack yesterday - probably because of puppy depression. I still feel like there is an alien in my flat. I feel like I'm trapped. I'm raising him alone, am very dedicated and I'm a very introverted person who for whole life (over 30 years now) relied on his own place to cool off - a safe haven. Now I no longer have it... I would never expect that my reaction will be this big. To be frank, I took a dog exactly to combat his a bit. And I've failed big time. And I have to say that this dog is near perfect. Potty training? 4 days - done. Destructive? 3/10, so - not much. House manners are OK. Loves people and dogs... My dog breeder is also a wonderful person and she is helping me with this as she can. Over those 10 days I can say that I adore this dog (most beautiful Whippet dog). But he can feel me. He can feel I'm breaking apart. I feel guilt.
@@Eloy98 What I would say is - get help from your family and friends. Let them help to get some time alone to rest mentally. Few hours can work wonders. My thoughts after this was that that the biggest obstacle was that I was with this alone. And not that it was difficult workload wise but because it's 100% on you and basically 100% of your time can be focused on the puppy. So you become anxious. Try to make it 60% and go up from there. Try to have 1-2 hours free of thinking about the puppy every day. This may not be the best thing for the puppy but for me that would be the only possibility of withstanding this experience. And, if you fail, don't be ashamed to much. This is not an easy task to raise a puppy alone. Work, every day stress, isolation, new situation and big responsibility. For some people this is probably easy. But there are some (like us) that excel somewhere else.
Going through this today with a lot of thought and talks with my doctor because eive lost over 10 pounds within 2 weeks because I'm so depressed and I'm not ready plus I started a new job and she meows a lot during the night and makes it difficult for me to sleep and is effecting my job performance and I Need these job due to the lack of support during this whole pandemic... I took the step to try to rehome he because I don't feel good about it anymore and my apartment is my safe space and I don't feel happy in my safe space anymore I actually dread coming home
@@Rig_JW thx for the post, do you have peace about rehousing your pup? My home was my sanctuary too, pup is 80% great but still biting, dominant and growling at night. I got him mainly as companion for my child but has shown aggression there too. I'm not enjoying the pup just have regret and resentment at it taking 100% of my time but its still not enough. No space due to all its gear. Feel an utter failure, but think the empath personality is better contemplating life with alone time than with an aggressive animal, need to pray, read, dance to stay sane aside from work, jobs, bills, single parent and now puppy trainer/pacifier/playmate/poop on all carpet cleaner/financer - something has got to give. It may not be aggressive if I was a walk 3hrs a day kind of owner but I'm not. I made a mistake and people will Judge, especially after failed marriage. Feel bad for giving child hope then removing it, but it's temperament is not right. Child thinks it should go but will be super sad if it becomes reality. Help Lord, I did not seek you first on this one 🙏
@@allthingsnewlife My husband decided he wanted a puppy after our aggressive 8 year old German Shepherd passed away. I told him long ago I don’t want an aggressive dog breed ever again. I am like you an emotionally soft and don’t like aggressive animals (they are draining and exhausting). So what he does without my permission is get another aggressive working line GSD within three weeks after our other dog died. And our other chose to die in my arms. I really dislike the new puppy and I am avoiding him because it makes me angry how much he bites and demand barks. I generally try to limit my interaction to strictly obedience, but he started biting the treats so hard I don’t even want to do that with him. I guess best luck to my husband with this, who’s overly tired and now not giving the puppy adequately what he’s going to need. I just cannot stand aggressive dogs. I spent the last several years not petting our previous one because my husband wants genetically cracked up dogs he can’t handle with his lazy obese couch potato personality.
I’m grappling with this decision now & this video is soo helpful knowing I’m not alone. I’m having more stress and anxiety than pleasure from having the dogs.
I'm rehoming my dog Buddy this Saturday and it was the one of the hardest decision that I've ever had to make. I am truly heartbroken, but I know that this is the right thing to do.
Organizing with Dclutterdiva I’m doing the same and I cannot stop crying. I found him a forever home. 2 older women who have older dogs. And I’m just so heartbroken and I love him so much. I live alone so it’s going to be very hard to sleep at night without him
I'm pretty much in the exact same situation right now so thank you for sharing, I've seen many people talk about puppy blues and depression but for different reasons and so it feels nice to hear someone else speak the words that are spinning around in my head right now. I have not taken any decision yet but I also believe it's better to rehome him while he's still a puppy if I decide to so I'm kind of stressing out to take a decision.
I'm on the other side of this. I've had my daughter's dogs for 10 months. She and her husband got 2 corgis (litter mates) right before they got married. She got pregnant within a month of getting married. He's in the navy and got stationed in Hawaii. I've had them since they moved. I am a widow whose only child and grandchild live so far away. These cute little stinkers bring me so much happiness. I have to ship them to her in a week and I'm so emotional. I don't want them to fly in cargo without anyone who loves them anywhere around. I've had nightmares about kennels and not being able to breathe. My daughter not only has a 15 month old and a husband about to deployed via submarine for 6-9 months, she is also has a baby on the way. She doesn't have the time for them. She refuses to let me have them until they move back in 3 years. The whole situation is breaking my heart. I never thought I'd love dogs like I love them.
Thank you for this. You said everything I was feeling and I’m so glad I’m not alone. I felt the same exact way about my dog and I didn’t expect it because I have kids so I thought “what’s the big deal? It’s just a dog.” No it’s a whole person and it deserves to have a loving present family. I couldn’t give that to my dog so I had to rehome her. Currently grieving it but this video really helped. Thank you so much
This is a very true video. I suffered through puppy training, but I also had more than enough time to care for the puppy. Now he's a year and 4 months. He's my baby boy. Puppy training is very difficult, especially if you're doing it on your own. Which i was. We just got our second dog. She's gorgeous. But we found out we aren't ready for a second dog, at least not a puppy. For those of you struggling with this, consider adopting a rescue dog or a dog from a foster home who is already over a year old and potty trained. Those dogs usually have so much love to give, and they don't require tons of attention. If you have 2 dogs they will give themselves attention. If you have one dog, it's best to get another one of the same breed or maybe even a different breed because they will bond with each other like a pack and play a lot. Relieves destructive behavior and anxiety while you're away or just not able to pay attention of them. Unless they're huskies... most huskies like to team up and destroy the whole house while you're gone haha. But my point is, don't think you need to get a puppy. Rescue dogs are amazing. And stress free for the most part. They'll take a few days to settle in, not months. Do that instead. Leave the puppies to the families that have the time to take care of them. If it's just you and your girlfriend, maybe even one kid, you might not have as much time as you think.
I have been thinking of getting a dog, but I keep watching these videos. Maybe I should wait. I have a 5 year old son and am a stay at home mom, so it seems I have time, but maybe I should really wait until I know for sure. Because my son really does take a lot of my time if I think about it. Thanks for your comment, it helped me a lot. I want a dog, but I need to be patient and make sure I bring it into my life responsibly. Its not about me, its about whether I can care for a dog. Thanks :) One day! But when I am ready.
@@fennecfox2 "How could a dog benefit your life?" That question could be restated. "How could a dog impact my life?" Both basically the same question, however one doesn't allow the negative, more realistic things. The other allows all of it. I'm glad you used the second question. Seems you've made a responsible decision :)
@@gandalf3453 I think the way a dog could benefit my life is that I am doing a thing where I get out everyday from 1-4 hours for exercise, and sometimes I don't feel safe, so having a companion might help me a lot. As for the impact part I know I would have to put a lot of work into having a dog, and even though I want a dog so much its crazy, I feel like I should wait until my son is a bit older so I don't have to divide my time. He is still very dependant and I would feel guilty if I had to divide my time too much. Also we have 3 cats currently so that is another thing I need to think about too. One day :) Thanks for helping me!
thanks for this video. really comforted me in my situation, I relate heavily to your experience. I think I've come to the conclusion that I need to rehome my pup.
thank you for this thoughtful post -my heart aches so badly, it has been 3 1/2 days and I am so terribly sad, I am hopefull that time wlll help heal and finding out his new home will be a beautiful healthy fit for him and the family.
Needed. THIS! I write music too! I found 2 strays back in FEB 2020 right before the pandemic and thought they'd go straight to the city shelter but when we took them home for a quick bath before dropping them off- we found the female dog was pregnant. Puppies were born Mar. 7th... Thanks to COVID, no dog training classes are happening and the puppies are coming up on being a year old- a year of pooping inside the house, unruly barking and chewing, and fear/ anxiety from the two parent strays. I'm kind but I'm not very patient so my anger and resentment towards them grows. They're either too scared to learn or quickly forget their training and I don't have the time or patience to keep starting over. I feel bad but- all signs lead to rehoming.
Oh my! You just said everything I am feeling right now. I had a German shepherd grown up and I been wanting to get one for YEARS, finally my husband gave me a gift. It was a beautiful GSD. I hated feeling like that, the puppy is beautiful and not a bad puppy at all. She loved playing with he kids but for some reason it was just to much for me to handle. I had to bring her back to the breeder, we cried the whole way back home but it is undescribable how much relief I felt. I asked for updates and they just told me she has a family coming to see her tonight! Hopefully that works out. I just want her to get the best life she can have and thrive in it. It is really hard and just know your not alone, a lot of people feel this way as I have been reading on the subject since I started developing this kind of feeling.
I’m rehoming my 11 month old husky this Sunday. It’s the best thing to do because my husky got mistreated from my parents and I did everything to train her. She knows the basics but her behavior is kind of off. So I have a friend that I know who can train her for training. I’m upset I was crying yesterday but i know she will be in a healthier home and a way bigger house instead of the apartment I live in. I just can’t keep her due to family issues and she attacked my chihuahua for being jealous and it was bad and they have to be separated and that can’t work out..
Don’t know how to thank you enough! You said all the confusion, blues I have been going through right now. I feel so regretful! And I do not know what to do
This is known as the puppy blue period it typically gets better however certain situations can make it more difficult especially when people work full-time and are doing it alone I couldn't imagine. Honestly it's best to have a family or at least a partner.
I had to do this after 3 days I’m glad he’s in a better home he deserves it. So just think of that. Make sure he goes to a good home always whoever sees this message.
I have to rehome my dog. She’s jealous of my grandson and he’s now frightened of her. Thankfully I found a great home for her to go to but it’s still breaking my heart and causing guilt. However, my grandson’s safety is important and her well-being is important (she’s now changing colors due to stress). I love them both enough to put my feelings last.
I did years ago my Diego boxer/bull miss that dog so much. Trained him and dealt with his skin issues. I remember summers were always rough on him! I wish I could see him again.
This was extremely helpful to me. I’m in extreme duress having adopted two sibling six week old puppies three days ago. Desperate for a solution for me and for them. Thank you!!!
I had a pitbull.. he was so beautiful. Was a white red nose. The way we got matched is a sad, unique story. I ended up having to rent, and I live in a cheap small town.. I had to lose him because no landlords would accept his breed.. I was homeless if I wasn't to rent. I fought so hard to keep him. I got renters insurance, I tried to make him an esa, but it didnt work out because everyone was worried about "liability incase he bites", even tho he was the best dog.. i lost him months ago.. and I still hurt..
Thank you so much for this video. I’m struggling so hard with my 7 month old puppy. We got him in hopes to teach him to be my service dog for my anxiety and health and the first month was great but I’ve been struggling so hard since then. I have depression and it’s gotten better over the couple of years but my mental health have severely declined since getting him and I just have no idea what to do anymore.
Hey, just wanted to say thanks for this video, it's so nice to hear a non-judgmental view on this subject. You're right; what's important is the decision to you and the dog, not to what others have to say. I have a three year old siberian husky. I love her to death, but since a pup, she's often been a little too much for me to handle. And I now got a lot of positive changes coming to my life. But I worry they won't be so positive for the pet. That includes possibly moving, as well as introducing her to cats. I try to ask for advice on a husky forum if rehoming is an option, but was viciously attacked. Some people instantly assume you're the biggest piece of crap in the world for thinking about rehoming a pet. They have no idea what it's like to walk in your shoes, though. How much stress or anxiety a pet can cause when they aren't quite the right fit for you. There's so much more to the story for me as well. I think for me, giving up the dog is an absolute last resort. I still feel like she has a role in our lives here. If I find myself just getting overwhelmed, if she doesn't seem like a good fit for my future home situation, then I will look into rehoming her. I think it'd be the nicest thing I could for the dog, if she can't be in a stable home. Kudos to you for making this video. I also seen you have a video on HOCD. I suffered from that for a short period of time and had to be medicated, some of us can only imagine what it's like to have OCD & anxiety disorder on top of trying to deal with a stressful pet situation.
I gave up my kitten when I did NOT want to. But I was under constraints, pressures, no support, extremely sleep deprived (in large part due not getting enough of a break to recover from staying up every night for weeks to protect my kitten, his mom and siblings from a predator outside), entangled with strangers I was afraid to speak up to or walk back from. Plus I’ve been conditioned to put others before myself. I’ve had a miserable existence for a long time and my kitten was the only being that gave me any sense of unabashed joy, peace and even confidence to continue through hell. He is my “soul cat”, I am devastated. I couldn’t believe the positive effect he had on me when I was otherwise doomed to a diminutive hole in the ground. Parts of my brain were coming back online. Now I feel a total shut down coming. I regret not fighting to keep him. I am deteriorating and I am more miserable than ever now. He is is my dreams every time I manage to sleep now. I really didn’t have room for this loss. I’ve cried for years over other detriments, but this is going to be my death knell. I don’t connect with people, I have no other worthwhile reason to be around that breathes life into me. It was like living in a dark, barren wasteland and FINALLY being given a small light, only to have it ripped away. I was already a walking dead person before he revived something in me, now I’m “soulless” as well. I even tried to get him back, I made a plea to the adopters but I had to be so cautious and I’m a doormat that is steamrolled easily..my preemptive guilt and defensive people-pleasing is part of what got me into this mess to begin with. He should have never left my side. I was his first human mother, he had already been through enough. It makes me sick what I have done, and there is no lie I can tell myself about it. I can only know what is true and how I really feel, as you say…for my and my kitten’s specific situation. I know I have done something wrong, profoundly. I have given away my will to be, I have given away my boy, my furry son who I became willing to bear the weight of the world for. I don’t trust anyone else to do that for him. To give him all he wants and needs. Life finally brought something good, and he slipped through my fingers. He was so attached to me and vice versa. My dream cat. I cannot even connect with other cats now because it feels excruciating, and normally cats are my safe place. I just want him back..or to know he will always be prioritized as I perish. I don’t blame those who really truly have no choice, who know that forcing themselves to care for their pet may end poorly and who find a great home they can trust while also knowing they did the right thing. But for me, it’s been bad for my health, bad for my head, bad for my heart…and I can’t imagine the sense of abandonment my boy felt. It wasn’t quite a “rehoming” in the typical sense. It was sort of a forced foster situation and subsequent adoption, but still. I am so worried for my kitten and I realized that anything else I was concerned about with my own situation was either temporary or the lesser evil than giving him away. Separating turned out to be pointless and extremely damaging. This is it for me.
I really appreciate your video. I have been going through the exact same thing and I have been at odds with myself for the whole week, it's day 8 and I know my puppy is going to be an awesome dog, but he deserves a better environment. Sometimes we gotta let go of the ones we love because we wish them the best life. I am sad but I am also less upset knowing I am not alone, I am not perfect, but I can do the right thing by the dog. Thank you for your thoughts.
@@alexistanille1813 I feel at peace, but I still think of him every now and then. He was a part of my life. Maybe then wasn't the right time, the right circumstances. I don't regret, but I will always be grateful of these life experiences.
@@MiGorengGuy that’s how I’m feeling. I was so sure that I was ready and now a family wants my puppy and now I’m thinking maybe I should wait🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
@@alexistanille1813 it's ok to spend some time in making the right choice. Whatever you decide make sure you are 100% committed. Weighing up a life is never easy, I totally understand.
I just rehomed my dog of 3 years who was perfect and I absolutely loved. But had same experience, after kids moved out I got depressed taking care of him all on my own and centering my whole life and schedule around his needs. I toughed it out for a whole year, but made a decision two weeks ago and our breeder helped us find a new great family for him. But today was tough for me and I needed to hear your story.
I understand im 60 + years old my kids after i finish hospice care for my mother which was a 12 long months brought me a Staffordshire puppy this is crazy i really just wanted to travel and take time for me , now im back to not my mother but now willy the pups name getting up at night to care for him i will admit he is keeping me company but i could of went out with friends like most ladies my age not sure how i feel 😢 i have grown to love the lil guy and i trained him the basics and then some like if i drop something to pick it up for me he is a great lil guy but cruising and travelling is now something I cant do
Thanks for making this video. Next week is going to determine if I need to rehome my dog because of her health. I've been having really selfish thoughts about keeping her, but you're definitely right. I should and am going to do what is best for my dog.
Thanks for the info. I planning to get a puppy in about a month. I am super nervous and not quite sure if I'm ready but I am reading and doing research. I will do my best and if it doesn't work out, that's life. As long as I go into with good intentions. Also right now I'm still at about 80% sure I want it, and I know that my life will changes drastically. So well so. Also I couldn't care less with people who aren't caring of the dog say.
How did you go about rehoming your pet? I have the exact same dog as you and feel the exact same way unfortunately and am so unsure of how to go about it.
thank you for this. i am having to rehome my 7 month old puply that ive had since i was born because of my landlord. But she has also only lived in apartments, spent hours in a huge kennel because i work, and i dod school at night so we would go on really quick walks at most. she deserves better and the internet was making me feel extremely guilty and cruel but she is going to have a better life and for that i am grateful. your points made me feel so much beter not just for me but for her!
This makes me think about the importance of being absolutely ready when choosing to have kids
Most people don't even think thank you for thinking
Absolutely. Children are a huge responsibility and commitment, but more rewarding than an animal. Children are such a gift, that selfless love for another changed my whole perspective on life. You can't have a meaningful conversation with a pup, I don't think it's for me 😢
Oh my gosh yes, I have always felt I'll be ready, I'm full of love ect. but I got a puppy beforehand and now I can only imagine the precious gravity of having a beautiful human child
Having my puppy made me realize that I don’t want kids because my puppy ruined my social life and my ability to care for myself
You can't compare puppy and kid, the emotions when you have your first kid isn't comparable with your first puppy! Don't be stupid! Sacrifices are justify with children, but not with a bloody stinky animal!
I have a 4 month old pup. If I could go back in time I would say no thanks to getting him. I knew it would be a huge responsibility, but actually being in it, is completely different. To rehome him stresses me out because I want to make sure he'll be loved and cared for. I don't know what I'm going to do yet, but thanks for posting this.
Do you still have the puppy
@@Josephaltair Yes, I still have him. We're doing better now 😁.
@@aabba220 what made you decide to keep him? I’m going through this now
@@Ash-uv4td I knew I would have felt bad if I didn't try everything before rehoming, so I got more focused and consistent with training. And I worked on my patience, lol. He's a smart dog and can pick up on things quickly, so this helped. He still has his moments, but it's a lot better.
Honestly, it gets better. I got my puppy at 2 months. Dog would cry pee and poop at home had fleas. I stuck with him and I can never give him. You do have to sacrifice some time, but it’s worth it. I exercise my dog frequently and that is the reason why he is a couch potato when I work. Don’t let a dog stress you out. You will be fine and so will your dog.
Normalize NOT condemning people for re-homing their pet. Why people are so harsh on folks who decide it's time to rehome I will never understand! Why would you want someone to keep a pet that is stressing them out and/or isn't a good fit for them, OR they just don't want anymore? I will never understand that mindset to make people feel bad for keeping a dog they don't want (for whatever reason). To each his/her own. Oftentimes rehoming is for the best!
Exactly. I’ve unfortunately have crossed paths with people who dump their dogs in the middle of nowhere, intentionally let them run away, and even two cases of people who’ve euthanized their dog simply because they became a nuisance. Rehoming a dog is a responsible and difficult decision and deserves compassion.
Normalize shutting up, goofy
Thank you so so much for this comment. I needed this right at this time.
RIGHT... I felt like my family and everybody was making me feel bad but it had gotten to the point where my life was way more important than the dogs. I got a foster dog that had a lot of problems and it just was not what I was expecting.
@@ll-wd7mv lol
Pretty much described everything that happened to me. I think getting a dog is a family job. Doing it from the puppy stage by yourself is extremely difficult.
Yeah I had a puppy she was with me a month and I couldn't keep up with her see was so hard to train working 10 hrs shifts 6 days a week and I asked family n friends to help no one would come visit her at my apartment I was so stressed out I felt lil relief getting her a new home nice young family with yard n lil house but when I came home to my empty apartment I couldn't stop crying and I still miss her 😢but I know she happy
That’s why I’d rather adopt a young or adult cat.
I rehomed my dog today... I had him for a year. And I haven’t stopped crying. My heart is broken. But I realized this needed to happen. I barely had time for him. Going through depression, made me give him less love, less care. And I tried my best to be strong. I miss him so much. Today is the first night I haven’t had him. My apartment feels so empty and quiet. I’m so upset.... I miss him so much... he was my bestfriend. My heart, I ran to him for love. I will never ever forget him... hopefully one day I can get another pup.
Jas Riv this is me today. Thanks for sharing.
How are you coping 6 months on? I rehomed my dog a few days ago, I had her 9 months from 9 weeks old, she was the sweetest border collie puppy and was great. She was super hyper which I expected and I trained her everyday, never was she apart from me which led to a little separation anxiety. I taught her so much, helped her overcome her fears, she helped me deal with my depression and loneliness. I did not always know that I loved her because I struggle with feeling love or anything, I got frustrated and angry at times with her, as she was so much hardwork but I liked being forced to get out, depression meant I locked myself away before her, we learned so much together. Ultimately my business fell apart adding more stress then when had a chance to get back up and running, covid 19 came destroying my business again and leaving me destitute, everything fell apart and was relying on help from charities and nearly homeless. Ultimately as things got worse I decided it best to rehome her, I found a good family to take her who she bonded to really quickly, I have cried everyday since, I miss her so much, I know through the wrestling it over, I did right thing by her and sure she's happy, just hoping I will get over this.
I did to rn and I can’t stop crying I loved him so much and I didn’t even show him when he left I wish he is back home with me
David Holden It was one of the best decisions I made. I was not in the mental head space for a pup at the time. He is in a new home happy and has dog friends and family. I have personally been doing better with my depression. I learned that if I cannot take of myself I cannot take care of anyone else. If you keep thinking about rejoining you’re dog. Just do it. It’s a wake up sign that you can no longer take care of your little fur ball. And that it may lead to neglect if you keep them. I do want another dog one day. But years from now.
AkaDanny Gaming trust me. You will get through this and you will be so happy you gave your baby a new home
I always think its so important to not judge the owner when they rehome their dog because you don't know their reason
Would you do the same to your kids?
@@xcel4924 probably would if it was ok…..have you ever had a Rescue biting you, biting your customers at work, destroying your property. Please don’t judge people you are not in their shoes ……today’s society lack serious compassion.
@@Mrsbehavin59 its important to properly train them after bringing them home and if dont have have the fu**ing time to do this then dont bring them to ur house and then leave them when things get out of your hand. Are you dumb? Dogs are dogs they will behave like one if you dont teach them whats right. If you cant do that then dont bring them to your house.
@@xcel4924 You sound really extreme. Some dogs are beyond some people's capabilities. Life isn't binary.
@@xcel4924 There are parents who give up their kids for adoption, because they think that they can't give them the life that they deserve.
At least you re-homed him and didn't just abandon him.
I have to re home my dog and it scares the heck out of me and it breaks my heart. Been crying all day
same
Me too.😭
@@jeeolsen9993 here for u brobro
Do u feel better now?
Same
Going through this right now. I have someone from a farm coming to adopt it off me and I know he’ll have a better life there rather then with me, I’ve got really bad anxiety this past week. Owning a dog is a MASSIVE responsibility that I didn’t know of.
I’m going through the same thing. Were you allowed visits or updates? It’s very difficult and the guilt is literally killing me:( 😭
@@mahsshahsavari yeah the guilt is terrible, I went and saw him a couple times, he’s loving his new home! A great decision I can look back and know he’s living a better life!
@@LegitVenom thanks 🙏 I haven’t made my mind 100% but raising a Boxer puppy by myself (alone) and opening a business in Jan 2022 that needs 10 hrs of my time everyday sounds impossible. I’m sorry for your pain 🤞
Thank you for at least vetting and rehoming the dog yourself to someone who can take care of it rather than dumping them at a shelter
Same here, my female doberman puppy is outside my room whining and I feel like shit in every way.
I feel bad because I’m giving up my dog tomorrow and all I can think is he wouldn’t give up on me like I’m giving up on him.. :( but at the same time we found him a GREAT HOME! With a female of his same Breed and a well off family u can love and take care of him
That dog would give its all to guarantee your safety and well-being. You are returning the favor.
We have found a lovely family to rehome my 9 month old puppy. I'm heartbroken but my depression is getting worse and my pup needs more exercise than I can give him. He deserves a better life. I have seen photo's of where he will live and he's going to love it. The family are really excited. I hope he settles in quickly.
You are so honest and thoughtful and introspective! You made the best decision for you and the dog! It needed to happen because the puppy blues are so very real! My husband and I are older now and in our mid 60s. We have had 3 amazing dogs in our lifetime and lost our last one over a year ago. But since our last dog we had sold our home with a yard…moved to a condo and apartment in Boston with no yard and the children had all grown up and left the nest!
So we bought this gorgeous English Labrador puppy from an amazing breeder who breeds show and service dogs.
Long story after giving it our all….Exhaustion and depression and anxiety had set in deep for both of us. I read all about the puppy blues and they are real!!! We hadn't slept in 6 weeks!
And without a yard or playmate, the dog was miserable…anxious all the time and wouldn’t hardly ever settle. We hated crating her and she hated it more!
I called the breeder to discuss options and she said she would love to have her back on her farm with the only litter mate she had left from the 8 pups. The opportunity was just too good all the way around and best for Eloise!💝🐾💝
We experience sadness in saying goodbye to her but such great joy in seeing her back with her breeder mommy and litter mate back on the farm. Our adult children were saddened and disappointed not that they wanted her!
We learned so much about this stage in our life and to embrace our freedom to travel and just be…not tied to a dog’s need and schedule.
I am texting this from back in the gym on a bike…I am eating and sleeping well again…and my husband and I just celebrated our 39th anniversary with so much love and understanding and freedom to rejoice in our shared decision!
Bravo to you and all out there who make this decision. Never good to be a martyr just because you feel guilty or care what anyone else thinks! Self care and healthy relationships must always come first to live your best life!💝🐾💝🐾💝
I have never felt like I feel right now. I haven’t even had my puppy for a week but I feel so overwhelmed. I’ve wanted a dog for so many years it really was my lifelong dream, now that I have her I don’t understand why I feel like this. I feel sad, anxious, I can’t eat, I can’t sleep. I feel alone, I feel like I cannot do this by myself. But I love her I really do. I don’t know what is happening to me but I don’t want to feel like this anymore.
What did you end up doing? I’m in this emotion right now
@@HazyPinkSky Hello, I kept her and I now know that it was the right choice. However it wasnt easy for the first like two weeks. But I ended up talking to a therapist (about all the anxiety i was feeling etc) and to a dog trainer expert (she told me that i should stop looking at training videos of dos and donts or to just stick to one channel, because it was very stressing for me to think that maybe i wasnt going to do what was right for my dog etc). It may be hard but do whatever feels right for you, having a puppy definetly is a lot of work! specially if you're someone like me that can stress easily, maybe picture both scenarios and try to think which one makes you feel more at peace or which one feels right, and if you think that giving back the dog its what feels right, then thats probably the best not only for yourself but for the dog!! dont be afraid of what people might think or anything like that and do what feels right. Also, it helped me to talk about it because it made me realize that i am not crazy and it is ok to be having those second thoughts, i also read some helpful information search 'puppy blues' its kind of like having postpartum depression, i read it on reddit and it helped. Hope you're ok, trust your gut, you'll make the right call!
It does get better, but if you dont think you can handle it or you just simply regret getting the dog, then give it back. Its best to do it sooner than later, for both of you. Try to dont feel guilty, and again, whatever you decide will be the right choice, whatever happens was what was meant to happen
@@carolinagarcia6106 How did it end up going? I'm going through this right now. Thanks!
@@Ferbocarbo Im so so happy with my dog she's literally my life im obssesed with her haha i love training her too. She's now been with me for a year. I would say it was not an easy task to have the patience to potty train among other stuff. I started to feel better about two weeks after i got her and that's when i actually started like enjoying her rather than suffering through the process...i talked to a therapist about the anxiety i was feeling and also i realized i wasn't crazy, there's a name for this feeling, the puppy blues! I dont know if you already did but read the comment where i replied to 'hazy pink' right under my original comment. And overall don't feel guilty and try to really listen to yourself and ask yourself what's best for the dog and for you. Im sure you will make the right decision. If you want to ask anything ill be happy to answer
Thank you for sharing, it really helped me to deal with my emotion, it been a roller coaster past week. I just recently decided to rehome my 12 weeks old puppy. My husband and I thought it was a perfect time in our life to have a dog, I have a huge back yard, my 2 girls are just in love with our dog and my mom who's with us 5 days a week so, the dog is never alone. Raising a puppy is not easy, the reality hits after 2 wks with our puppy, the demand is more than we expected and came to the realization we are not fit to have any pets. Having a puppy is accepting the good and bad owning a dog, although we enjoyed having him and my daughters love him. My husband and I can't fully cope with our dog being fully dependent on us for the rest of his life and I'm not referring the dog expense. The decision was not easy, I have to make sure my girls are ok and I told them they did a fantastic job taking care of him while mommy and daddy are working. It's not their fault but ours for putting everyone in this sad situation. Our puppy needs to be in a home that let him be a puppy and mature into a good dog. He's leaving us in a couple of days. I'm happy my friend decided to adopt him, we will be able to visit him and see grow. But, can't help feeling the sadness of him leaving our home. Our home was supposed to a permanent home for him.
This was literally me with my chocolate lab. I’d had him for almost 2 years since he was a puppy. I really didn’t want to do it, but the financial and psychological burden of it was too much. He’d bark like crazy when people came over and would throw a fit if he couldn’t come and jump on people. Mind you, he was trained not to do this and I didn’t let up on his training. He was always either outside or crated when I wasn’t there because he would tear things up if I wasn’t there. He chewed up a HS graduation gift that was a handmade wallet and I was so upset. I found myself leaving things way earlier than I wanted or needed because I had to tend to my dog. I ended up rehoming him after attempting to have my friend take care of him and she said he was a full-time job. In one night, he destroyed two pairs of shoes, a carpet, pooped and smeared it into a different carpet, and got a complaint filed with the front office. One night. He was a very smart dog, smart enough to know that he was being disobedient and would do it only when he got an attitude. I’m very glad I did what I did because I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders.
Wow, this sounds like my dilemma. My dog is destroying my house. I spent 2 years remodeling and saved to pay for all the new things. He has destroyed my new carpet. Yesterday he got into my oven where I kept a blueberry pie from him. While eating the he stepped all in it and got blueberry on is feet and stepped all over my new furniture. Then proceeded to break a bedroom door open and blow diarrhea all over my third bedroom. I'm beyond!!!
He is a very loving dog but I have other dresses in my life and I can't take this added stress....its not fair for either if us...
Tom Guy.. I have a huge back yard and my kids are grown but I will never ever get a dog because to me it would be like starting all over again with having something depending on you but with a dog, it's for the duration of its life. I sacrificed my life for my children and am just not willing to do it for a dog. I like my freedom.
@@1533ramsaywow..a friend of mine got a dog that was given to her by a boyfriend and the dog ate a hole through her drywall! Well needless to say my friend had the dogs toys and the dog waiting by the door the next day for the boyfriend to come and get. Now the dog is in a new home with no regrets .. I admire those who have patience with dogs being destructive because I couldn't. I don't work my behind off for nice things for it to be destroyed by anything or anyone!
Thank you I’ve been crying about this for 2 weeks everyone kept saying keep her today I am rehoming her. Just like you I lost myself and it’s stressful. I listened to other people and I’ve kept her but I do move around a lot. Thank you I feel bad because of other people
You did the right thing
I lost myself by giving away my animal. I found myself in him. My kitten. Although cats are certainly much easier to care for them dogs.
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Thank you for posting this. I brought my puppy back to the shelter today. I'm absolutely crushed that I couldn't handle her, but my mental health deteriorated to a scary point in the week that I had her. I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, couldn't shower... my life became her. I wanted a dog to help my mental health, not make it worse. I had to do what was best for the both of us, as much as I wanted it to work. There's such a stigma around rehoming a pet, but sometimes it's what needs to be done.
I’m in this same boat. For years I wanted a dog, I finally adopted one, but my mental health has deteriorated since. Constantly being so consumed with the dog, anxiety attacks about random things that could happen to the dog. To me it’s not worth it. But now I know, I will donate to shelters instead, but I
You are not alone.
This sounds exactly like me. I took my dog back to the shelter today. I had been crying for days and had to call a crisis center. It’s not the dogs fault, it just trigged my own mental health and I just felt that the dog deserved better. He came from a neglectful owner and I was terrified of becoming neglectful so we took him back two days after adopting him. There is definitely stigma and people judge but they don’t know what it’s like to be in a situation like that and ultimately it’s what best for the dog.
Thank you. I am struggling after rehoming my dog 2 days ago. I really liked what you said about finding an honest and truthful answer, but not one that makes you feel good. That’s how I decided to rehome my dog.... the bad feelings after Doing it make me think I made the wrong choice. But that’s not necessarily true... I just wish I hadn’t made the choice in the first place so I wouldn’t have to feel this way now 😣
Any advice, my mom is rehoming my dog as well soon :/
Still regret it?
Did the feeling of regret go away? When?
@@kristinakristensen3620 I rehomed my pup last year and so regretted it I am getting another. The feeling of regret did not go away for me.
I recognize myself in what you mentioned. Your whole life begins to center around the dog and I've also tried sticking it out with my cat and noticed myself getting a bit depressed.
Thanks for posting the video, it helped a lot when making the decision to rehome our 10 week old puppy. It was all just too much and I felt in my gut it was the wrong choice almost immediately. While it is sad and I feel terribly guilty for letting her go I also feel relief and like this is the best choice for her and me.
This video was exactly what I needed. We just re-homed our two pups tonight and I’ve been beside myself, crying all night. I love them so much but I know it’s for the best. Everything you said was exactly how I felt. Plus life has just got so much more busy since getting them, I didn’t have the time anymore. I am so thankful for you for sharing this video. I’ll repost in hopes it helps someone else too.
Going through the anxiety (cant eat and cant sleep) right now and have been told that this is normal as well. Just want to know my options if I cant get past this crazy anxiety I'm having. Even grew up with dogs and helped raise puppies in my home, so I knew the work involved. The anxiety is from this being my first dog completely on my own. I really appreciate hearing this.
How are you doing now? I know it’s been a year but I’m in the same boat and just want to know it gets better before I do anything I’ll regret
@@gabys424 I’m in the same boat. I have 1 day to decide whether I’m gonna sign or not sign the adoption contract. This is a horrible feeling
@@gabys424 I've had my puppy for 3 and a half months now, and honestly the first month was the hardest month of my entire life. I had talked to the breeder after the first week about giving her back, and decided to give it 2 months before making a decision. It can and DID get better for me! Obviously every situation is different, but I would say if you have any doubts, you should stick it out as long as you can, because it can get SO much better than the nightmare you're probably going through.
Did you ended up keeping the dog?
Thank you, having doubts about rehoming our pup. This video really helped me see it’s not the best time for us to have a second dog and better for the pup to go to a loving family who will have more time for him x
Thanks for sharing this experience. I recognize your feelings. We are currently thinking of rehoming the dog that we got 11 days ago, even though a dog has been our dream for many years. The responsibility is bigger than we thought, but she also seems to have bad separation anxiety. On top of that, the shelter we got her from said that kids visiting us would be okay - but the dog reacted aggressively towards my nephew, who was just standing there. We'll be seeing a therapist tomorrow. It's reassuring to see that we're not the only people who experience strong feelings of doubt. We wish this dog the best, but we feel that the current situation might not be what's best for her (or us).
It’s absolutely exhausting I’m very stressed because the dog is in and out day and night I barely sleep thank you it’s seems like a clear cut choice now
Holy shit thank you for posting this. It's literally exactly how I feel about my poor dog. I love her so much, but every few weeks I feel like my anxiety and depression surrounding her is never gonna go away. I worry about her so much, I'm never enjoying the time I spend with her. 2 months ago I decided I couldn't take care of her and I wasn't giving her the life she deserved so I found a reputable rescue and they walked me through the whole process. Literally the day I was supposed to decide and get back to them I realized I couldn't stand the idea of giving her away. I cried all day and decided it was a sign I should keep her. Fast forward to now and I'm questioning it again. I still feel like I'm in way over my head and it's been months. I really thought the puppy blues would be gone by now.
I just rehomed my dog of 3 years today. I just want my dog back. I’m so sad but I’m sad with the dog. It’s horrible.
I rehomed my puppy and regret it completely. I can’t get her back because her new owners instantly fell in love with her. I’m happy she’s in a home with a owner to can provide her with more than I could. But my heart literally aches. I hope this feeling doesn’t last forever. Best of luck with your decision
@@RAnailbar hi I’m in the same situation
@@RAnailbar how do you feel now?
@@skubi_chrupki_skibob the same.. if I could go back in time, I would.
Man I really needed this, thank you. I rescued 18’month old beagle 4 months ago and it has been insanely hard. He’s become very reactive and has gone for a few people in the home.
Time to make that hard next step 😢
Wow, this helped me so much! I needed to hear this. Since I’ve gotten my dog I’ve become so depressed and stopped doing what I love due to being so overwhelmed & stressed about me dog and I somewhat resent my dog for it, but I feel bad to give him away because he is so smart and such a good dog that I felt ungrateful. But I honestly have been thinking about it for awhile and I think it’s best for me and him. I just want to feel good again, he’s only 9 months so I think he will adjust fast
I feel so overwhelmed with my husky german shepherd mixed dog. He's so friendly and docile but I'm at a point where I'm having to leave him inside a steel kennel when I don't have eyes on him. I just spent 2 weekends, one being my birthday, where I made him and 2 of my other small shitzu dogs a house with insulation and AC. I also played down turf and I came back with the turf lifted and the house peed on and wood chewed on. Imma be honest and I work 10hrs and feel like between chores and work I have very little time to play with him. I've tried walking him often and didn't help. I realize he needs more activity than that and so I made him a 300 square footage dog run filled with toys, bones, etc yet he chooses to chew on the dog house wood. I am so depressed and irritated. I've had 2 separate episodes prior where I almost gave him away because he has been rehomed twice and I love him but I just dislike how destructive he is.
You made this years ago and I'm so glad you did. A few days ago I adopted the most beautiful puppy. I fell in love with her week before when I saw her adoption listing and again when I met her in person. I bought her everything I could've needed and more and through the span of 3 days, I went through the worst case of Puppy Depression. I stopped eating cause I had no appetite, I couldn't sleep because I kept worrying something bad was gonna happen to her and the first time I went out for like 3 hours while my friend was watching her all I felt was guilty, ashamed and just horrible. I never cried so much in my life and I no idea why I felt this way. I talked to a lot of people who told me to wait but honestly the realization that I wasn't ready slapped me in the face. I also found out I was allergic to her and I was trying so hard to fight it with allergy pills but they would make me drowsy and yet I couldn't sleep. I ended up giving her back to her foster who had another family lined up already. It's only been a day since that happened and while I still feel relieved I do miss her so much. I wish I was more ready but I know she's going to have a much better life with her new family. Anyways, thank you for making this video.
This video helped me. I am in a very bad dilemma. I have always wanted a dog and I thought a puppy would be ideal since I'd be able to teach it from scratch and that it won't have any emotional baggage. Now I'm realizing how big of a mistake it is since I did not anticipate how stubborn pomskies are. It has taught me a lesson that I can't just underestimate puppies thinking that they will all just obey. I am so mentally and physically exhausted and I'm on the brink of rehoming my 11 week old puppy. I love him and I have no problem losing sleep over him, what's making me break down is his unending energy and his unbreakable stubbornness. I should have adopted an adult dog that is already housetrained. I'm so torn, I don't really know what to do.
Nic Reyes hey I am so sorry for what your dealing with. I currently dealing with a new pup that is having issues with crate at night ( anytime she just cry’s if she’s in crate and doesn’t stop until I let her out) I have read n watched many tips n training vids.. idk what to do. She also is having issues getting usto my cat I thought by now they would be somewhat usto each other or atleast any progress but there’s none. The pup barks n my cat just bolts down stairs or up in a window. My cats also tried to bad the dog a few times and hishes at the pup which can be scary so I’m always there with completely supervising both of them but I’m just not having any luck. Do u have any tips on either topic? I keep hearing it will get better with time but I feel horrible my cat is like petrified to be upstairs on main floor where he normally is and now barely likes coming up I constantly have to have the gate up between them if I’m not 100% all on with them which I’ve been working so hard to try n get them to get along but still no progress. Sorry for the long message I just am at a loss n looking for any tips. We got a Frenchie idk if that helps but ya .. again very sorry to hear about your situation and I hope things get better for ya.💜
Nic Reyes my pup is also very very stubborn
i am having the same feelings with my puppy. i feel so guilty about it and i don’t know when it’s best to make the choice to rehome him
@@NicoleKristine puppies normally hate their crate to begin with, but most of them grow out of that hate/fear over time with proper training
This helps so much. You completely verbalized my feelings.
Thank you for this. We just had to re-home our puppy and I'm just crushed and I feel I've ruined my wife's life. I know time will help and I thank you for this video.
Thank you for this video. I just sobbed because you said everything I needed to hear. We had our puppy only for a week and in that time I couldn’t eat or sleep from the stress and the depression made me also unable to bond with her. This was 2 months ago now and I’m still struggling with the grief and guilt but I hope one day I will get past it.
I need to rehome my dog. I feel so guilty about it
You are not alone.
Same, but I’m doing all of this because I’m not mentally good. I can’t take care of him anymore because of how bad my mental health has gotten and I just want him to be with someone who’ll be able to take care of him and be happy.
@@lissethgonzalez7939 I just had to rehome my dog due to my poor mental health too. It was hard but he’s with nice, successful owner now that will give him a great stable life
I’m rehoming my puppy feel very emotional but my depression has came back big time I can’t
I’m rehoming my puppy it’s affecting my mental health very sad thank you for advice
I needed to rehome my maltese one year ago too. Felt super guilty and wished we kept him instead because my puppy blues were not that bad after 3 weeks. Found him a new loving home. It's okay to rehome it if you can't take care of it. Your mental health comes first.
You're on the spot! 💖I agree with all you said. We have a family member that's considering re-homing. That's why I'm watching what you have to share. 🤗 I have 2 rescue dogs. One of my dogs has been in 3 homes. I'm the 3rd home. The other dog was lost in the woods and brought to the dog pound. Both my dogs are doing fine.
I’m so glad that you made this video I’m going through the same thing at this time I’m hurting so bad
Thank you for this video, it helped me decide not to get a puppy right now. I was close to getting one but the more I thought about it the more anxious I would become about it and I was scared I would regret it later. It just made me realize now just isn’t the time to bring a puppy into my life.
Thank you so much for this. I am currently getting ready to rehome my girls and this video has helped me tremendously!
I’m glad you made this video. In reading the comments I see that it hasn’t been mentioned concerning the size of the dog or its breed. I can say that size and breed makes a huge difference. A big dog that needs lots of exercise and guidance might be the wrong fit but a small breed might be just right. So a lot of it for those who want dogs but don’t have time to be constantly taking care of one might be a good fit for a small breed.
Before getting some Chiweenie’s I got two puppies that were going to grow up to be on the big side. I realized after one night that it just wasn’t going to work, so I took them back but I then researched what would be a good breed for me and found just the right ones for me.
thank you so much. this helps so much. tomorrow i will be rehoming and in having doubts
I had three dogs. I was moving and had no choice but to rehome of the youngest. It not only broke my heart but my other two dogs heart too. He was a brindle American Bulldog and he was the life of the party at home. As soon as he left I just felt the energy get sucked out of our home. I loved him and didn't want to do it. My only advice is that if you KNOW you NEED to rehome an animal you love, find a good home and rehome home him asap when you do. Try not to think about it and stay busy that first week. Everything will be okay
Going through exactly this right now. My wife bought a dog home and almost instantly got her self a new job meaning I’ve become our dogs main care giver. I personally don’t want and have never wanted a dog but man I’m so close to our dog now and have such a bond with him but that said my loves, passion, time, health and self care has gone out the window as the dog takes up my every minuet I have. Because of this I’m really battling with the guilt of knowing I should rehome and the guilt of if I even should rehome him. It’s genuinely eating me up inside.
This feels like shit but I think I'm gonna rehome my puppy tomorrow. He is just 9,5 weeks old and with me for 10 days only. I've got a severe panic attack yesterday - probably because of puppy depression. I still feel like there is an alien in my flat. I feel like I'm trapped. I'm raising him alone, am very dedicated and I'm a very introverted person who for whole life (over 30 years now) relied on his own place to cool off - a safe haven. Now I no longer have it... I would never expect that my reaction will be this big. To be frank, I took a dog exactly to combat his a bit. And I've failed big time.
And I have to say that this dog is near perfect. Potty training? 4 days - done. Destructive? 3/10, so - not much. House manners are OK. Loves people and dogs...
My dog breeder is also a wonderful person and she is helping me with this as she can.
Over those 10 days I can say that I adore this dog (most beautiful Whippet dog). But he can feel me. He can feel I'm breaking apart.
I feel guilt.
@@Eloy98 What I would say is - get help from your family and friends. Let them help to get some time alone to rest mentally. Few hours can work wonders. My thoughts after this was that that the biggest obstacle was that I was with this alone. And not that it was difficult workload wise but because it's 100% on you and basically 100% of your time can be focused on the puppy. So you become anxious.
Try to make it 60% and go up from there. Try to have 1-2 hours free of thinking about the puppy every day. This may not be the best thing for the puppy but for me that would be the only possibility of withstanding this experience.
And, if you fail, don't be ashamed to much. This is not an easy task to raise a puppy alone. Work, every day stress, isolation, new situation and big responsibility.
For some people this is probably easy. But there are some (like us) that excel somewhere else.
Going through this today with a lot of thought and talks with my doctor because eive lost over 10 pounds within 2 weeks because I'm so depressed and I'm not ready plus I started a new job and she meows a lot during the night and makes it difficult for me to sleep and is effecting my job performance and I Need these job due to the lack of support during this whole pandemic... I took the step to try to rehome he because I don't feel good about it anymore and my apartment is my safe space and I don't feel happy in my safe space anymore I actually dread coming home
@@Rig_JW thx for the post, do you have peace about rehousing your pup? My home was my sanctuary too, pup is 80% great but still biting, dominant and growling at night. I got him mainly as companion for my child but has shown aggression there too. I'm not enjoying the pup just have regret and resentment at it taking 100% of my time but its still not enough. No space due to all its gear. Feel an utter failure, but think the empath personality is better contemplating life with alone time than with an aggressive animal, need to pray, read, dance to stay sane aside from work, jobs, bills, single parent and now puppy trainer/pacifier/playmate/poop on all carpet cleaner/financer - something has got to give. It may not be aggressive if I was a walk 3hrs a day kind of owner but I'm not. I made a mistake and people will Judge, especially after failed marriage. Feel bad for giving child hope then removing it, but it's temperament is not right. Child thinks it should go but will be super sad if it becomes reality. Help Lord, I did not seek you first on this one 🙏
@@allthingsnewlife My husband decided he wanted a puppy after our aggressive 8 year old German Shepherd passed away. I told him long ago I don’t want an aggressive dog breed ever again. I am like you an emotionally soft and don’t like aggressive animals (they are draining and exhausting). So what he does without my permission is get another aggressive working line GSD within three weeks after our other dog died. And our other chose to die in my arms. I really dislike the new puppy and I am avoiding him because it makes me angry how much he bites and demand barks. I generally try to limit my interaction to strictly obedience, but he started biting the treats so hard I don’t even want to do that with him. I guess best luck to my husband with this, who’s overly tired and now not giving the puppy adequately what he’s going to need. I just cannot stand aggressive dogs. I spent the last several years not petting our previous one because my husband wants genetically cracked up dogs he can’t handle with his lazy obese couch potato personality.
I’m grappling with this decision now & this video is soo helpful knowing I’m not alone. I’m having more stress and anxiety than pleasure from having the dogs.
I'm rehoming my dog Buddy this Saturday and it was the one of the hardest decision that I've ever had to make. I am truly heartbroken, but I know that this is the right thing to do.
Organizing with Dclutterdiva how did it go? How are you?
I'm heartbroken and I miss my dog so much.
Organizing with Dclutterdiva I’m sorry, you did the best you could for buddy 💕
seven Buddy was adopted today.I have mixed emotions about it.I’m happy for him but sad because I miss him and I will always love him 😣💔
Organizing with Dclutterdiva I’m doing the same and I cannot stop crying. I found him a forever home. 2 older women who have older dogs. And I’m just so heartbroken and I love him so much. I live alone so it’s going to be very hard to sleep at night without him
Thank you so much for this! I just gave back a puppy and I feel horrible. So this really helped with my emotions and my desicion.
I'm pretty much in the exact same situation right now so thank you for sharing, I've seen many people talk about puppy blues and depression but for different reasons and so it feels nice to hear someone else speak the words that are spinning around in my head right now.
I have not taken any decision yet but I also believe it's better to rehome him while he's still a puppy if I decide to so I'm kind of stressing out to take a decision.
I'm on the other side of this. I've had my daughter's dogs for 10 months. She and her husband got 2 corgis (litter mates) right before they got married. She got pregnant within a month of getting married. He's in the navy and got stationed in Hawaii. I've had them since they moved. I am a widow whose only child and grandchild live so far away. These cute little stinkers bring me so much happiness. I have to ship them to her in a week and I'm so emotional. I don't want them to fly in cargo without anyone who loves them anywhere around. I've had nightmares about kennels and not being able to breathe. My daughter not only has a 15 month old and a husband about to deployed via submarine for 6-9 months, she is also has a baby on the way. She doesn't have the time for them. She refuses to let me have them until they move back in 3 years. The whole situation is breaking my heart. I never thought I'd love dogs like I love them.
Thank you for this. You said everything I was feeling and I’m so glad I’m not alone. I felt the same exact way about my dog and I didn’t expect it because I have kids so I thought “what’s the big deal? It’s just a dog.” No it’s a whole person and it deserves to have a loving present family. I couldn’t give that to my dog so I had to rehome her. Currently grieving it but this video really helped. Thank you so much
Simply, thanks for this video.
Needed this. Thank you!! 🙏🏽
Thanks! I’m not doing great because I had to rehome my 3 (almost 4) month puppy. Glad someone else went through this so I’m not alone!
This is a very true video. I suffered through puppy training, but I also had more than enough time to care for the puppy. Now he's a year and 4 months. He's my baby boy. Puppy training is very difficult, especially if you're doing it on your own. Which i was. We just got our second dog. She's gorgeous. But we found out we aren't ready for a second dog, at least not a puppy. For those of you struggling with this, consider adopting a rescue dog or a dog from a foster home who is already over a year old and potty trained. Those dogs usually have so much love to give, and they don't require tons of attention. If you have 2 dogs they will give themselves attention. If you have one dog, it's best to get another one of the same breed or maybe even a different breed because they will bond with each other like a pack and play a lot. Relieves destructive behavior and anxiety while you're away or just not able to pay attention of them. Unless they're huskies... most huskies like to team up and destroy the whole house while you're gone haha. But my point is, don't think you need to get a puppy. Rescue dogs are amazing. And stress free for the most part. They'll take a few days to settle in, not months. Do that instead. Leave the puppies to the families that have the time to take care of them. If it's just you and your girlfriend, maybe even one kid, you might not have as much time as you think.
I have been thinking of getting a dog, but I keep watching these videos. Maybe I should wait. I have a 5 year old son and am a stay at home mom, so it seems I have time, but maybe I should really wait until I know for sure. Because my son really does take a lot of my time if I think about it. Thanks for your comment, it helped me a lot. I want a dog, but I need to be patient and make sure I bring it into my life responsibly. Its not about me, its about whether I can care for a dog. Thanks :) One day! But when I am ready.
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"How could a dog benefit your life?" That question could be restated. "How could a dog impact my life?" Both basically the same question, however one doesn't allow the negative, more realistic things. The other allows all of it. I'm glad you used the second question. Seems you've made a responsible decision :)
@@gandalf3453 I think the way a dog could benefit my life is that I am doing a thing where I get out everyday from 1-4 hours for exercise, and sometimes I don't feel safe, so having a companion might help me a lot. As for the impact part I know I would have to put a lot of work into having a dog, and even though I want a dog so much its crazy, I feel like I should wait until my son is a bit older so I don't have to divide my time. He is still very dependant and I would feel guilty if I had to divide my time too much. Also we have 3 cats currently so that is another thing I need to think about too. One day :) Thanks for helping me!
thanks for this video. really comforted me in my situation, I relate heavily to your experience. I think I've come to the conclusion that I need to rehome my pup.
thank you for this thoughtful post -my heart aches so badly, it has been 3 1/2 days and I am so terribly sad, I am hopefull that time wlll help heal and finding out his new home will be a beautiful healthy fit for him and the family.
I really like the way you explained this thank you
Thank you so much! I really really needed this
Thank you for this 🙏🏽
Needed. THIS! I write music too! I found 2 strays back in FEB 2020 right before the pandemic and thought they'd go straight to the city shelter but when we took them home for a quick bath before dropping them off- we found the female dog was pregnant. Puppies were born Mar. 7th... Thanks to COVID, no dog training classes are happening and the puppies are coming up on being a year old- a year of pooping inside the house, unruly barking and chewing, and fear/ anxiety from the two parent strays. I'm kind but I'm not very patient so my anger and resentment towards them grows. They're either too scared to learn or quickly forget their training and I don't have the time or patience to keep starting over. I feel bad but- all signs lead to rehoming.
Thank you 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
Oh my! You just said everything I am feeling right now. I had a German shepherd grown up and I been wanting to get one for YEARS, finally my husband gave me a gift. It was a beautiful GSD. I hated feeling like that, the puppy is beautiful and not a bad puppy at all. She loved playing with he kids but for some reason it was just to much for me to handle. I had to bring her back to the breeder, we cried the whole way back home but it is undescribable how much relief I felt. I asked for updates and they just told me she has a family coming to see her tonight! Hopefully that works out. I just want her to get the best life she can have and thrive in it. It is really hard and just know your not alone, a lot of people feel this way as I have been reading on the subject since I started developing this kind of feeling.
Thank you so much for this video!
This was on my recommended. I don't regret coming here one tiny bit. God Bless these good doggos. 2:16
Thanks posting this I have been threw a lot this day I am have been crying all day
Such a great video. Going through the exact same thing. It is rough. 🥺
Thank you for posting this I needed to hear this. I’m having a really hard and emotional time deciding what to do.
another gullible person gets their affirmation in stupidity
I’m rehoming my 11 month old husky this Sunday. It’s the best thing to do because my husky got mistreated from my parents and I did everything to train her. She knows the basics but her behavior is kind of off. So I have a friend that I know who can train her for training. I’m upset I was crying yesterday but i know she will be in a healthier home and a way bigger house instead of the apartment I live in. I just can’t keep her due to family issues and she attacked my chihuahua for being jealous and it was bad and they have to be separated and that can’t work out..
Don’t know how to thank you enough! You said all the confusion, blues I have been going through right now. I feel so regretful! And I do not know what to do
I'm struggling to make a decision right now. Thank you for making this video.
4:50 was right on target 🎯🎯 it’s like you read me like a book 😅
This is known as the puppy blue period it typically gets better however certain situations can make it more difficult especially when people work full-time and are doing it alone I couldn't imagine. Honestly it's best to have a family or at least a partner.
Thank you for this video. It helps a lot to hear someone else say these words
I had to do this after 3 days I’m glad he’s in a better home he deserves it. So just think of that. Make sure he goes to a good home always whoever sees this message.
This helped me so much. This is exactly how I feel
Thank you for this video. I'm dealing with this right now (I'm rehoming my sweet 6 month old german shepherd right now)
I had to re-home my buddy after a break up and I was moving to the UAE. Absolutely heartbreaking. I still cry about it nearly two years later
i live in dubai and i have to rehome my 1 year old puppy, my heart is aching :(
Thank you, this helped a lot.
I have to rehome my dog. She’s jealous of my grandson and he’s now frightened of her. Thankfully I found a great home for her to go to but it’s still breaking my heart and causing guilt. However, my grandson’s safety is important and her well-being is important (she’s now changing colors due to stress). I love them both enough to put my feelings last.
Great video thank you
Good video, thanks
I did years ago my Diego boxer/bull miss that dog so much. Trained him and dealt with his skin issues. I remember summers were always rough on him! I wish I could see him again.
This was extremely helpful to me. I’m in extreme duress having adopted two sibling six week old puppies three days ago. Desperate for a solution for me and for them. Thank you!!!
I had a pitbull.. he was so beautiful. Was a white red nose. The way we got matched is a sad, unique story. I ended up having to rent, and I live in a cheap small town.. I had to lose him because no landlords would accept his breed.. I was homeless if I wasn't to rent. I fought so hard to keep him. I got renters insurance, I tried to make him an esa, but it didnt work out because everyone was worried about "liability incase he bites", even tho he was the best dog.. i lost him months ago.. and I still hurt..
thank you sir, thank you… i needed this video so much
Thank you so much for this video. I’m struggling so hard with my 7 month old puppy. We got him in hopes to teach him to be my service dog for my anxiety and health and the first month was great but I’ve been struggling so hard since then. I have depression and it’s gotten better over the couple of years but my mental health have severely declined since getting him and I just have no idea what to do anymore.
Hey, just wanted to say thanks for this video, it's so nice to hear a non-judgmental view on this subject. You're right; what's important is the decision to you and the dog, not to what others have to say. I have a three year old siberian husky. I love her to death, but since a pup, she's often been a little too much for me to handle. And I now got a lot of positive changes coming to my life. But I worry they won't be so positive for the pet. That includes possibly moving, as well as introducing her to cats. I try to ask for advice on a husky forum if rehoming is an option, but was viciously attacked. Some people instantly assume you're the biggest piece of crap in the world for thinking about rehoming a pet. They have no idea what it's like to walk in your shoes, though. How much stress or anxiety a pet can cause when they aren't quite the right fit for you. There's so much more to the story for me as well.
I think for me, giving up the dog is an absolute last resort. I still feel like she has a role in our lives here. If I find myself just getting overwhelmed, if she doesn't seem like a good fit for my future home situation, then I will look into rehoming her. I think it'd be the nicest thing I could for the dog, if she can't be in a stable home. Kudos to you for making this video. I also seen you have a video on HOCD. I suffered from that for a short period of time and had to be medicated, some of us can only imagine what it's like to have OCD & anxiety disorder on top of trying to deal with a stressful pet situation.
Thank you so much for being honest.
I gave up my kitten when I did NOT want to. But I was under constraints, pressures, no support, extremely sleep deprived (in large part due not getting enough of a break to recover from staying up every night for weeks to protect my kitten, his mom and siblings from a predator outside), entangled with strangers I was afraid to speak up to or walk back from.
Plus I’ve been conditioned to put others before myself.
I’ve had a miserable existence for a long time and my kitten was the only being that gave me any sense of unabashed joy, peace and even confidence to continue through hell. He is my “soul cat”, I am devastated.
I couldn’t believe the positive effect he had on me when I was otherwise doomed to a diminutive hole in the ground. Parts of my brain were coming back online.
Now I feel a total shut down coming.
I regret not fighting to keep him.
I am deteriorating and I am more miserable than ever now. He is is my dreams every time I manage to sleep now. I really didn’t have room for this loss. I’ve cried for years over other detriments, but this is going to be my death knell.
I don’t connect with people, I have no other worthwhile reason to be around that breathes life into me.
It was like living in a dark, barren wasteland and FINALLY being given a small light, only to have it ripped away.
I was already a walking dead person before he revived something in me, now I’m “soulless” as well.
I even tried to get him back, I made a plea to the adopters but I had to be so cautious and I’m a doormat that is steamrolled easily..my preemptive guilt and defensive people-pleasing is part of what got me into this mess to begin with. He should have never left my side.
I was his first human mother, he had already been through enough. It makes me sick what I have done, and there is no lie I can tell myself about it.
I can only know what is true and how I really feel, as you say…for my and my kitten’s specific situation.
I know I have done something wrong, profoundly.
I have given away my will to be, I have given away my boy, my furry son who I became willing to bear the weight of the world for. I don’t trust anyone else to do that for him. To give him all he wants and needs.
Life finally brought something good, and he slipped through my fingers.
He was so attached to me and vice versa.
My dream cat. I cannot even connect with other cats now because it feels excruciating, and normally cats are my safe place. I just want him back..or to know he will always be prioritized as I perish.
I don’t blame those who really truly have no choice, who know that forcing themselves to care for their pet may end poorly and who find a great home they can trust while also knowing they did the right thing.
But for me, it’s been bad for my health, bad for my head, bad for my heart…and I can’t imagine the sense of abandonment my boy felt.
It wasn’t quite a “rehoming” in the typical sense. It was sort of a forced foster situation and subsequent adoption, but still. I am so worried for my kitten and I realized that anything else I was concerned about with my own situation was either temporary or the lesser evil than giving him away. Separating turned out to be pointless and extremely damaging. This is it for me.
Thank you this was so helpful :)
I really appreciate your video. I have been going through the exact same thing and I have been at odds with myself for the whole week, it's day 8 and I know my puppy is going to be an awesome dog, but he deserves a better environment. Sometimes we gotta let go of the ones we love because we wish them the best life. I am sad but I am also less upset knowing I am not alone, I am not perfect, but I can do the right thing by the dog. Thank you for your thoughts.
How do you feel now?
@@alexistanille1813 I feel at peace, but I still think of him every now and then. He was a part of my life. Maybe then wasn't the right time, the right circumstances. I don't regret, but I will always be grateful of these life experiences.
@@MiGorengGuy that’s how I’m feeling. I was so sure that I was ready and now a family wants my puppy and now I’m thinking maybe I should wait🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
@@alexistanille1813 it's ok to spend some time in making the right choice. Whatever you decide make sure you are 100% committed. Weighing up a life is never easy, I totally understand.
Thanks for this video.
I need strength to re-home my dog!
I just rehomed my dog of 3 years who was perfect and I absolutely loved. But had same experience, after kids moved out I got depressed taking care of him all on my own and centering my whole life and schedule around his needs. I toughed it out for a whole year, but made a decision two weeks ago and our breeder helped us find a new great family for him. But today was tough for me and I needed to hear your story.
I understand im 60 + years old my kids after i finish hospice care for my mother which was a 12 long months brought me a Staffordshire puppy this is crazy i really just wanted to travel and take time for me , now im back to not my mother but now willy the pups name getting up at night to care for him i will admit he is keeping me company but i could of went out with friends like most ladies my age not sure how i feel 😢 i have grown to love the lil guy and i trained him the basics and then some like if i drop something to pick it up for me he is a great lil guy but cruising and travelling is now something I cant do
I might have to rehome my dog. My job closed because of the world crisis. I haven't been able to pay rent. So it's what's best for my pup :(
omg how are you doing now? i hope everything’s well 🤍
Thanks for making this video. Next week is going to determine if I need to rehome my dog because of her health. I've been having really selfish thoughts about keeping her, but you're definitely right. I should and am going to do what is best for my dog.
Thanks for the info. I planning to get a puppy in about a month. I am super nervous and not quite sure if I'm ready but I am reading and doing research. I will do my best and if it doesn't work out, that's life. As long as I go into with good intentions. Also right now I'm still at about 80% sure I want it, and I know that my life will changes drastically. So well so. Also I couldn't care less with people who aren't caring of the dog say.
How did you go about rehoming your pet? I have the exact same dog as you and feel the exact same way unfortunately and am so unsure of how to go about it.
thank you for this. i am having to rehome my 7 month old puply that ive had since i was born because of my landlord. But she has also only lived in apartments, spent hours in a huge kennel because i work, and i dod school at night so we would go on really quick walks at most. she deserves better and the internet was making me feel extremely guilty and cruel but she is going to have a better life and for that i am grateful. your points made me feel so much beter not just for me but for her!
KiLLERxQU33N “7 month old puppy” and “I’ve had it since I was born” don’t really fit together unless you’re a baby
Mina Rae Highland I think they meant since the puppy was born.