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You have triggered me even more, why some people be like.. "we all are on the spectrum, no one is 100% straight blah blah"?? Only bi people can think that everyone is on the spectrum like them, I have bi OCD and and I've heard this from lot of bi people. I don't understand why they generalize people. Lots of studies have proved that more than half of the population is 100% straight and half are on spectrum and few are gays, asexual etc. Secondly, I don't think that appreciating someone's beauty or find same gender attractive or get attracted to their personality etc should be consider "GAY'' so if someone (like you) is thinking that this behavior would make someone 6% gay or 94% straight or whatever like that, it's untrue. It's ''your assumption or way'' to define heterosexuality, although it's untrue. Same gender appreciation doesn't make someone 6% gay or something like that. I've read similar thoughts, posts and opinions on nonsense sites like quora and reddit too, people there label anyone as ''xyz % straight, xyz% gay'' just on the basis of the acts which are not truly homosexual. If a hetero person is appreciating or finding same gender attractive, that doesn't mean they have sexual attraction to them or they want to do some sort of homosexual stuff with them so don't confuse appreciation with sexuality. If someone is truly 6% gay then they want to do some kind of stuff (romantic or sexual) with same gender, they are liking those stuff unlike straight people and they aren't straight at the first place.. they are sort of bi then so don't confuse people by saying that they are xyz% of gay or straight.

Only a responsible dog parent rehomes their dog. Irresponsible ones abandon or abuse them.

I swear I had my dog for 3 days a beautiful Dalmatian ! Have been stressing me out extremely I can’t eat sleep and feel like I’m not working as much as I use too !

Did anyone else just yell at something random while watching this? no, just me?

You don't need dogs, your life is better without them, the dog thing is just a big propaganda build by corporations to sell a bunch of dog food, vet care and so on, people who keep dogs have been shamed to do so, deeply they know they would be happier without the mutt.

The type i wanna live only comes in bursts…i hate it. I dont know if its the 4th percentile industriousness but i have my suspicions lol I almost have what seems like a diet version of bi polar where i have lows for days sometimes weeks and the followed by a levelling high of goals and achievements and then back down, its rare when im just coasting no lows no highs no goals just…nothing but surviving and eating well and sleeping well and good entertainment *sigh* Hope you are having a killer day my dude

You are so honest and thoughtful and introspective! You made the best decision for you and the dog! It needed to happen because the puppy blues are so very real! My husband and I are older now and in our mid 60s. We have had 3 amazing dogs in our lifetime and lost our last one over a year ago. But since our last dog we had sold our home with a yard…moved to a condo and apartment in Boston with no yard and the children had all grown up and left the nest! So we bought this gorgeous English Labrador puppy from an amazing breeder who breeds show and service dogs. Long story after giving it our all….Exhaustion and depression and anxiety had set in deep for both of us. I read all about the puppy blues and they are real!!! We hadn't slept in 6 weeks! And without a yard or playmate, the dog was miserable…anxious all the time and wouldn’t hardly ever settle. We hated crating her and she hated it more! I called the breeder to discuss options and she said she would love to have her back on her farm with the only litter mate she had left from the 8 pups. The opportunity was just too good all the way around and best for Eloise!💝🐾💝 We experience sadness in saying goodbye to her but such great joy in seeing her back with her breeder mommy and litter mate back on the farm. Our adult children were saddened and disappointed not that they wanted her! We learned so much about this stage in our life and to embrace our freedom to travel and just be…not tied to a dog’s need and schedule. I am texting this from back in the gym on a bike…I am eating and sleeping well again…and my husband and I just celebrated our 39th anniversary with so much love and understanding and freedom to rejoice in our shared decision! Bravo to you and all out there who make this decision. Never good to be a martyr just because you feel guilty or care what anyone else thinks! Self care and healthy relationships must always come first to live your best life!💝🐾💝🐾💝

And you mention admiration and attraction but what your explaining what you experience, sounds like attraction. Noticing the good in the other for YOU.. is attraction.. felling really drawn to them and “feeling” like you want to be apart of them is really attraction

Is say how people with hocd mistake any emotion to be “sexual” a lot of people don’t even know the difference between true sexual attraction.. and just appreciating someone’s looks, woman do it all the time and nobody thinks anything of it.. Let me break it down.. first off sexual attraction is the same as desire for starters .. sexual attractions is usually an involuntary sensual response, that then leads to an urge.. and once you’ve acted on that urge then the desire was filled.. desire is the strong WANT! I must have. Also sexual arousal doesn’t mean desire.. nor does it mean attraction. Also having gay thoughts doesn’t mean you changed or are changing again thoughts don’t mean attraction. Doesn’t mean you’re gay either. A lot of gay affirming ocd therapist tend to tell you to tell yourself stuff like “maybe I am maybe I’m not “ it’s so ridiculous. Because rather then giving advice like that hear the person out and listen to them and when they tell you and explain to you what their true desires are or even were once Hocd set off you can tell that this is merely a mental problem and not someone who KNOWS their attracted to the same sex but doesn’t want to be attracted to the same sex. We all have a sexual arousal template that is very hard wired. Is very very very un natural for someone’s attractions to just “suddenly” change there has to be an underlying problem there. Can be environmental could be things you see on social media influencing.. but you ur attractions (sexual) are really hard wired. Your body just knows what it’s like. But when you guys start putting so much thought into it. You psyche yourself out. When we have un pleasant thoughts you have to let them be, you have to change the relationship with them.. once you learn to do that not only you but your emotions will respond different to these thoughts.. a lot of times dealing with hocd as a male or female were quick to think that even just LOOKING at the same sex “oh my god” am I gay oh my god does that mean I’m gay oh my god… guys really if even just looking at the same sex mean you were gay everybody on this planet would be gay or lesbian. Having an attraction is feeling that initial PULL towards someone Seen the other as a good for YOU! Admiration is not the same as attraction. And we’re really talking about sexual arousal here because are “sexual” orientation is based off are arousal template.. look up difference between sexual attraction , urge, desire. It might all make sense to you .

People need to start being smarter about assessing getting a dog (or having a baby). Stop thinking in abstract terms like “it will be hard”, and actually understand that you can’t go to gyms, go out, stay in bed all day etc.

As a gay man, I get why gay thoughts would be distressing to a straight guy. I hear a lot of guys - gay and straight talk about being attracted to Ryan Reynolds. I get it. He is a great looking guy and has a great personality. I admire him and am 'attracted' to his beauty but he doesn't trip any of my triggers. My attraction to him is completely platonic. Experiencing platonic attraction to a man doesn't scare me because I am gay. I understand, though, why an attraction to him or other men could be distressing for a straight guy. You are right how you describe the difference between being gay and having HOCD. Allowing myself to feel those gay thoughts, instead of running from them, brought me tremendous relief. Allowing myself to believe I am gay after years of denying it, felt like being me for the first time in my life. I can understand that if you are straight, the thought of being gay would feel 'off' and scary. I recently read comments from a man who is completely straight. But he says about once every 2 years he will have a really intense sexual fantasy about being with a guy. He is cool with it. It doesn't mean he is gay. It just means he had a thought. For anyone struggling with HOCD, I am sorry and hope you find freedom from it.

Im geeat with dogs. I had 2 with my last one passed away month ago. I got a new puppy just recently and im regretting it and feeling so bad of it . I feel fing horrible 😢😢. Thinking of taking it back

You kind of ppl need to take responsability about your decisions in life, be a man take the lead make a great world. Stop crying about how bad or poor your life is. YOU ARE THE PROBLEM NOT THE DOG.

I understand im 60 + years old my kids after i finish hospice care for my mother which was a 12 long months brought me a Staffordshire puppy this is crazy i really just wanted to travel and take time for me , now im back to not my mother but now willy the pups name getting up at night to care for him i will admit he is keeping me company but i could of went out with friends like most ladies my age not sure how i feel 😢 i have grown to love the lil guy and i trained him the basics and then some like if i drop something to pick it up for me he is a great lil guy but cruising and travelling is now something I cant do

Wow in the crate for 6 hours a day !! Thank goodness you rehomed this dog

I feel so overwhelmed with my husky german shepherd mixed dog. He's so friendly and docile but I'm at a point where I'm having to leave him inside a steel kennel when I don't have eyes on him. I just spent 2 weekends, one being my birthday, where I made him and 2 of my other small shitzu dogs a house with insulation and AC. I also played down turf and I came back with the turf lifted and the house peed on and wood chewed on. Imma be honest and I work 10hrs and feel like between chores and work I have very little time to play with him. I've tried walking him often and didn't help. I realize he needs more activity than that and so I made him a 300 square footage dog run filled with toys, bones, etc yet he chooses to chew on the dog house wood. I am so depressed and irritated. I've had 2 separate episodes prior where I almost gave him away because he has been rehomed twice and I love him but I just dislike how destructive he is.

I don’t like when people give away their dogs it breaks my heart 😢 if you can’t take care a dog don’t get a dog

Thank you for this video. I live in Valencia and have been struggling thinking I'm almost 30. This helps

I’m never owning another animal ever again

I’ve had my dog for almost 9 months. She is literally always the most energetic and fast dog at every NYC dog park I go to. She poops and pees whenever and wherever she wants. She is extremely clingy and needy while I try to work. Dry skin, digestive issues, picky eater. It is so stressful. I can’t even have guests over without her jumping all over them with her hyper excitement. She jumps on people in the street, lunges after all dogs. She behaves like a crackhead. I’m a single woman living in a 7th floor studio. My place smells like hot shit and piss as soon as I walk in. It is so embarrassing and stressful. She is 1 year old next month and as much I wanted to commit to her, I can’t do this alone for God knows how long. I definitely made a mistake. She is the most beautiful dog, everyone loves her, so I also feel the need to keep her because of her beauty and agility. 😣

I had three dogs. I was moving and had no choice but to rehome of the youngest. It not only broke my heart but my other two dogs heart too. He was a brindle American Bulldog and he was the life of the party at home. As soon as he left I just felt the energy get sucked out of our home. I loved him and didn't want to do it. My only advice is that if you KNOW you NEED to rehome an animal you love, find a good home and rehome home him asap when you do. Try not to think about it and stay busy that first week. Everything will be okay

Im thinking about doing the same. Its amot of work and hes way too needy. I dont want to crate my puppy so I bought play pins but he gets stress and anxiety anytime I leave the room. He needs a bigger home and a family enviroment. Im giving him to my Vetenarians daughter. I dont care what people say re-homing a dog and ensuring it goes to a proper owner is the best thing you can do for a dog. People that judge that are absolutely ridiculous.

Hey , how things going for you today? How’s everything, were you able to cover come your hocd ?

They know when they have been dumped ,they are very sad and cling to you ,they have emotional problems,I know that because i adopted a dumped dog from a rescue centre ,After 10 years the dog does not me leaving the room ,You do know that since covid the shelters are full .so the dog could be put down in 72 hours. Try to find a family like this man if you do not want the dog ,shelters should be a last resort ,

I’m glad you made this video. In reading the comments I see that it hasn’t been mentioned concerning the size of the dog or its breed. I can say that size and breed makes a huge difference. A big dog that needs lots of exercise and guidance might be the wrong fit but a small breed might be just right. So a lot of it for those who want dogs but don’t have time to be constantly taking care of one might be a good fit for a small breed. Before getting some Chiweenie’s I got two puppies that were going to grow up to be on the big side. I realized after one night that it just wasn’t going to work, so I took them back but I then researched what would be a good breed for me and found just the right ones for me.

At least you re-homed him and didn't just abandon him.

Going through exactly this right now. My wife bought a dog home and almost instantly got her self a new job meaning I’ve become our dogs main care giver. I personally don’t want and have never wanted a dog but man I’m so close to our dog now and have such a bond with him but that said my loves, passion, time, health and self care has gone out the window as the dog takes up my every minuet I have. Because of this I’m really battling with the guilt of knowing I should rehome and the guilt of if I even should rehome him. It’s genuinely eating me up inside.

My dog is extremely reactive and has anxiety up the wazoo. I like him but man, it’s a constant drag sometimes when he has his attitude and crying fits and won’t be on my page. Still though, I said I have to fix my own mental health before I give him up. He deserves better

when the HOCD thoughts don’t bother me, they make me feel like i’m secretly in the closet and that i am in denial of being gay, is this normal?

how do you difference a thought from a feeling or emotion? and what is a false feeling or a false emotion?

Average Guy I got a puppy she is 5 months on February 13th. It is not easy at times. But, she is so affectionate; and loving I don't know what I would do without her. I would be so lost! I would be so depressed she helps with my depression. I just want to say you should have thought about all of this before getting the dog! Yes, the dog adjusts; but it is still unfair to the dog! It is like giving up a child, and putting a child in a new home. The child gets use to its school, and friends ect. Now everything becomes all new again. The child gets attactched to his parents. Same with a dog. The dog gets use to its home, surroundings; it gets attached; and attatched to you. Now it is uprooted from that. Yes, the dog will get use to the new home, but it could take a few days; and time. If at all possible I do not agree with rehoming a dog. Just like I would not do it to a child.

Im rehoming my dog. I have 3 small kids. 2 older dogs and honestly when they pass thats it. No more dogs. I also have 2 cats. Keeping my cats. Love my cats. Im not financially stable its not the right time for me. My other dogs are 12 and 16. Large and small breed. They are old. My hearts broken but i cant give him the life he deserves. The love he deserves. The time the focus i cant. I have to much on my plat. He deserves better. The family i found has no other pets and a boy who i can see being his best friend. ♡

I had to rehome a dog that I kept having to rescue, 3 times she ended up in a jam, and I was her only hope. She is a beautiful, brave, intelligent, high-energy dog, the kind of dog we all want. But I was not the right guy for her, as I live in a semi and she loathed the truck. No yard, stuck in the truck for 20+ hrs a day, no socialization, no "pack" and I am 61, she is 3. Odds were she would have woken up one morning, at the end of her life and found me dead, yet there was no good options for rehoming until I got a call from a trustworthy friend, offering to take her, and the dog knew her, her animals and the dog next door was her best friend who she missed. I had to accept that I could not give her a good life, in spite of my intense desire to keep her, and that my friend could. Like this poster, I cried and still am, 3 weeks after rehoming her, and my deepest regret is forcing her to lose me, in order to be rehomed in the best place that suddenly offered itself. She won the lottery, but had to lose me for a third time in order to win that lottery. I hope she gets over me easier than I am getting over her. I loved her too much to refuse her the best rehome she could have asked for. The truck life laid a lot of emotional distress on her, all the symptoms, as she wasn't born to the life, and it was destroying her. Thank you to the poster of this video, I know what he meant about restructuring his life, I had to, as well, and was willing to, but her emotional state was my only criteria that could have forced me to give her up.

Hi could you tell me how old was the dog when she/he came to you and if the pet your first?

Keep in mind the breed of dog severely influences the burden it takes on your life. Ive had a little Chihuahua for almost six years now and she is so low maintenance. I can travel with her and leave her at home when i need to, she never barks or needs long walks everyday. I cant imagine having bigger dog that has high energy and will forever need more than just treats and cuddles. Honeslty the only ppl who condemn others for rehoming their dogs always seem to be so easily offended by everything. Do whats best for you, and thats what will be best for your doggy!

Just curious...how do people end up with the "wrong dog"?

I asked my Irresponsible adult child to adopt a Kitty before having a baby so he can have a small clue of the responsibility he will be facing. He didn't . They went ahead and have their baby. Now he is nothing but caos and missery. I wish he got the kitty.

Dam, hope he never gets a girl pregnant until he's ready, my guy, that's called having responsibilities and having to stand up to them, luckily for you, you only tried to rehome a puppy, but that's not the best way to do it, you could of tried the adoption process, most shelters, understand the fact that what people say isn't always what they are able to do. Sorry you had to go through that, it must still hurt, but I just wouldnt have a pet if I wasn't prepared to go the distance, but then we've always had them, so for me it's another child.

I gave up my kitten when I did NOT want to. But I was under constraints, pressures, no support, extremely sleep deprived (in large part due not getting enough of a break to recover from staying up every night for weeks to protect my kitten, his mom and siblings from a predator outside), entangled with strangers I was afraid to speak up to or walk back from. Plus I’ve been conditioned to put others before myself. I’ve had a miserable existence for a long time and my kitten was the only being that gave me any sense of unabashed joy, peace and even confidence to continue through hell. He is my “soul cat”, I am devastated. I couldn’t believe the positive effect he had on me when I was otherwise doomed to a diminutive hole in the ground. Parts of my brain were coming back online. Now I feel a total shut down coming. I regret not fighting to keep him. I am deteriorating and I am more miserable than ever now. He is is my dreams every time I manage to sleep now. I really didn’t have room for this loss. I’ve cried for years over other detriments, but this is going to be my death knell. I don’t connect with people, I have no other worthwhile reason to be around that breathes life into me. It was like living in a dark, barren wasteland and FINALLY being given a small light, only to have it ripped away. I was already a walking dead person before he revived something in me, now I’m “soulless” as well. I even tried to get him back, I made a plea to the adopters but I had to be so cautious and I’m a doormat that is steamrolled easily..my preemptive guilt and defensive people-pleasing is part of what got me into this mess to begin with. He should have never left my side. I was his first human mother, he had already been through enough. It makes me sick what I have done, and there is no lie I can tell myself about it. I can only know what is true and how I really feel, as you say…for my and my kitten’s specific situation. I know I have done something wrong, profoundly. I have given away my will to be, I have given away my boy, my furry son who I became willing to bear the weight of the world for. I don’t trust anyone else to do that for him. To give him all he wants and needs. Life finally brought something good, and he slipped through my fingers. He was so attached to me and vice versa. My dream cat. I cannot even connect with other cats now because it feels excruciating, and normally cats are my safe place. I just want him back..or to know he will always be prioritized as I perish. I don’t blame those who really truly have no choice, who know that forcing themselves to care for their pet may end poorly and who find a great home they can trust while also knowing they did the right thing. But for me, it’s been bad for my health, bad for my head, bad for my heart…and I can’t imagine the sense of abandonment my boy felt. It wasn’t quite a “rehoming” in the typical sense. It was sort of a forced foster situation and subsequent adoption, but still. I am so worried for my kitten and I realized that anything else I was concerned about with my own situation was either temporary or the lesser evil than giving him away. Separating turned out to be pointless and extremely damaging. This is it for me.

Selfish fuck

Having a pet is a complete waste of human time! They're dirty, eat, consume, your clothes are always rubbish thanks to their hair, the house is always dirty and smells even if you clean. I don't understand how so many people waste their life looking after a dog or a fucking cat. Waste of time and resources. Fuck that.

Thank you 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

Thank you so much. I love my puppy and I’ve had him for one year. I am going through this guilt trip and can make a plan of action.

4:50 was right on target 🎯🎯 it’s like you read me like a book 😅

You need to just increase your testosterone brother

Can’t tell you how much I needed those so many people making me feel guilty for wanting to give her back. She’s a sweet dog with a great personality. I researched and researched for 2 years. Found the breeder and know the breed. But I just can’t do it. The puppy blues are real!

Man I really needed this, thank you. I rescued 18’month old beagle 4 months ago and it has been insanely hard. He’s become very reactive and has gone for a few people in the home. Time to make that hard next step 😢

Thank you so much for this video. I’m struggling so hard with my 7 month old puppy. We got him in hopes to teach him to be my service dog for my anxiety and health and the first month was great but I’ve been struggling so hard since then. I have depression and it’s gotten better over the couple of years but my mental health have severely declined since getting him and I just have no idea what to do anymore.

I'm going thru this at the moment. It's day 11 and I honestly don't know if I made the right decision with my 8 week old Ryder. A friend of mine kinda talked to me into buying one of his puppies bcuz he felt I'd be able to give him a good life. I'm single & work full time and have wanted to get a dog for years so I researched for a few days and decided I'm ready. Though today made me realize another family may be a better fit. We've been potty training in house since he's unvaccinated and it's 30/70. So I took him for his 1st walk in my parking lot and he was eating rocks. How can I walk my dog if he's trying to off himself? I leave him in his playpen for 6hrs while I'm at work, I have a camera I speak to him thru but it still kills me. Everyone keeps saying "patience & time" but I also have no time for myself & am spending a lot of money on a living thing that I'm starting to feel isn't necessarily worth it (I HATE saying that). At the end of the day, I needed to hear this. I want Ryder to have the best life possible and if I feel as though I'm not the one who can do that then I will have to re-home him.

I just rehomed my dog of 3 years who was perfect and I absolutely loved. But had same experience, after kids moved out I got depressed taking care of him all on my own and centering my whole life and schedule around his needs. I toughed it out for a whole year, but made a decision two weeks ago and our breeder helped us find a new great family for him. But today was tough for me and I needed to hear your story.