The Spiritual Gift in having an absent parent
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The Spiritual Gift in having an absent parent
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"If someone cannot receive your love, it's because they don't love themselves enough." ❤ it was never about you.
Make sense!!!!
“Sometimes rejection is God’s protection”- girl. I hope this is true. I’m in the process of adopting my cousins son. I love him as if he was born right from my womb. He was product of sexual abuse. His bio dad was a predator and his mom was abused repeatedly. She has never been good to herself, much less her children. I’m hopeful I can help and love my adopted son into healed, healthy life.
You are an Angel!!! I love this story. You got this!
The world is changing, and growing up with no one in the role of parent in my daily life put me in a different place in history. I did not have to work so hard to unchain myself from cultural knowledge that was obsolete before I was born because there was no one there to indoctrinate me in these out-of-date ideas. This was important for my life purpose which includes being forward-looking and not being stuck in the past.
Amen!!
I have been balling my eyes out this evening about both of my parents being absent and this helped me find a sense of security within myself
Amazing!! Thank you so much for letting me know 🫶🏻
I really appreciate this Candace. I was raised by a single mom and my father never part of my life. I know that I'm better off, and I was even thinking about that earlier today. How it could've been worse with a toxic father around
Absolutely!!!
Neither of my parents have ever been present in my life. I've always felt unwanted and unloved. I have, however, had a grandmother, aunt, and uncle that gave me to nurturing, loving supportive parts of them to me selflessly when they were alive. Glad I had it for a short time.
That is beautiful!! I find that when we let go of the ones who are not there for us, others can take that place in some way!!
Omg some people have not been able to handle the love I've come to them with. And felt spiritually called to connect with them but they rejected me. It can be so puzzling. I was just recently told Rejection Is Protection. It's one thing to be rejected by someone you wont see. But seeing people regularly, in the same space witnessing them, different story.
My parents split when I was 7. Bro and i visited dad. He is super wounded and emotionally confided in me and was sorta narcissistic. Both parents not emotionally present or available For me. I did feel Aware of Great Spirit early on. What you say about not being received totally make sense about self worth!
Alot of people dont see my Purpose but I know I live it even though like you said, it doesnt have a mundane focus. I like to teach and grow sharing with others. Support the truth of who we are!
Music to my ears, heart and soul! 👌💯
Yay, love it!!!
Thank you for this perspective. My mom left when I was 5 and I saw her a couple times a year and when I did see her it was an dysfunctional and intense experience. I see now that the limited exposure I had to her, while still harmful, was a blessing. And I became a strong and independent person as a result. These kinds of situations make me think of the Johnny Cash song, "Boy Named Sue". His father abandoned the family and gave his son a female name to build strength and resilience through the conflict and bullying that would result. That is obviously not the preferred method of building strength and resilience but that's what happened. We've all gone through our different traumas in order to get to this point and to become the beings that we are.
I love this 💜💜💜
Purging old energies to integrate with the new... yeah, thank you for being a messenger for spirit.
thank you, i really needed this to get myself out of my own victim mentality. Mum and i have always had such karmic connection and i just know this is not the first life. And i do feel that lack of support in my family as a black sheep as a free thinker and spirit (as many starseeds/lightworkers can relate) and have had so many readers mention that part of the reason is that i do not look to anything or anyone outside of myself that i already have and know, especially because the path and journey i am taking is unconventional and spiritual.
I not only appreciate your message, but your vulnerability and transparency, so so much ❤️ thank you Candace. It is so tough
Thanks Candace, You are Truelly the Queen of Healing! I Honour You!
Thank you so much!!! I appreciate you
I LOVE how you worded this. Expereinced major heartbreak and setbacks in my life, thus making me find self love and become a stronger human being
I love your videos and work for healing and higher journey to healing. I can never afford your support groups. I still thank you for your videos. When this happens you have to be DIY creative in how to use these videos and skills on your own to make it. Your right this world is broken and the more work you gotta do on your self to heal.
I love Candace she resonates so deeply with me
So good, "sometimes rejection is God's protection." Thank you Candace
I relate to this and have always thought that too, I wouldn't be who I am today without being an Adult Child of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Family. It did help me tap into my sensitivity as am empath and having to know the energy around me to keep me safe and why I'm on this path.
This is incredible speach. 🙏 ...thanks so much. Needed to hear this and going to listen again multiple times. 🤓❤️
Im so grateful for this perspective! ❤️❤️❤️
thank you so much for posting this video. you saved my heart from breaking 😢❤
Thank you so much..this hits home for me so much. For the last year or so I've been learning to let go of my wounds from both of my parents..one who had a supportive dad..but was emotionally unavailable..and a mother who abandoned myself and brothers..I've come to realize she really abandoned herself. Been getting in that mindset you mention in this video how it is a gift.. She was extremely toxic meanwhile I was trying to bring her back to who she once was.. I've come to terms that mother earth and the universe have been my parents my whole life I just never noticed it until my awakening . I've been doing shadow work and inner child work to heal my inner child✨ your advice has helped me so much on my journey. Thank you for sharing this important information 🙏
Now i am ready for this message to resonate with me 💜🎉💜 Adore you and miss you, Candace!
i don’t know who you are and i’ve never watched your videos but this video genuinely helped me so much. i needed this video and i’m so grateful for the words and perspective you had to share today
Candace! Absolutely outstanding video. A huge thank you. Shane
Wow 🤩 two poignant statements that made me cry, thank you I’ll have to come back and listen again ✨🙏🏻
This was going through my head last week.
Excellent video. “Can’t be a receiver until he understands his worth”. Wow. Great great great.
Oh my word, I just had to pause your video and connected with my inner child, and we actually had a conversation, I've always struggled to connect with her. I cried, smiled, and literally saw her smiling as I was connecting with her. Thank God I found you and your videos. You are amazing really❤
Beautiful message. Thank you Candace !
Thank you for your support!
Boom...mind blown! Thank you so much.
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Thus was really helpful
i cried watching this... imagine finally getting to a place where you can admit to yourself that i am worthy and deserving of the highest, purest form of love. i will give that to myself and allow myself to receive it from others
Thank you 🙏🏽 !!
Again, speaking directly to me. I currently for the first time told my mother I was done(with all the trauma I've experienced with her in my life, she unfortunately is a narcissistic personality very deeply) I was focusing only on positivity and growth in this moment. And I had to enforce love with boundaries. Keep sharing your gifts. I feel so connected at all the right moments. And you help validate me in my growth. Thanks for being amazing. ☮️❤️🦋💕🌈
Looking into your courses today to find the best one for me.
This is so beautiful! I am proud of you and very happy I can be a part of your healing 💛💛💛
Beautifully said and I couldn’t agree more x1000 😁 after having a similar experience with my own mother. Thank you Candace for sharing your messages because they are always exactly what I need to hear and so many have helped save my life. You are in my eyes a true earth angel! THANK YOU!
YES! Anchored to spiritually but tethered to reality too. Once you really allow yourself that transcendental POV, (and only after major healing) you see how all of the pain “makes sense” in the most terrible yet poetic way.
Thanks very much!
I have found your videos to be extremely helpful - however - although I understand where you’re coming from or what you’re trying to say- I am a physician. Probably because of the circumstances I grew up in - physically absent father and emotionally absent mother, which all pushed me to become a high achiever, and eventually all culminated to a breaking point where I did undergo a spiritual awakening. Just wanted to bring it to your attention that docs, lawyers, CPAs are right there with you on the spiritual plane.
Thank you!
This video was so timely! I literally just said a prayer yesterday asking God for some peace and clarity over having narc parents-it has felt like a punishment & I definitely did not feel protected/supported by God… I’m still processing the idea that this is a “gift” bc it has caused me so much pain. I’d love if you expand on this topic as I haven’t heard anyone speak from this perspective.
Hang in there, be gentle on yourself. Listen to Candace over and over💫🙏💫
I started to a few years ago.
I was blown away how spot on she was!
It’s been all up hill with a few bumps in the road for me but,
I ❤️my life truly now
and
love myself unconditionally & authentically now, …still working on it of course 🙊
Blessings 💖🙏💖🧜♀️✌️
@@bodymindsoul60 thanks Annie, appreciate your kind words✨
Thank you for sharing!!! Yes I will absolutely be expanding in this. It is so important to honor that human PAIN as it runs so deep ( for me includes ) but as we rise up to trust that the universe is so much bigger and more powerful than the material world, we can start to adopt a higher perspective that heals us from that pain of the past. This way we start attracting partners and relationships that match the healing rather than the wounding!
@@bodymindsoul60 love you Annie 💜
@@CandacevanDell thank you Candace💗 I’m working on validating my inner child’s pain as it comes up for me. I feel like your message just unlocked a door for me- cognitively I understood what you were saying but emotionally it just did not feel possible to have peace…I believe the more I honor my inner child’s pain the more she will emotionally mature, HEAL, and be able to see the gift. I’m so looking forward to watching more of your videos on this topic!
Preach sister 🙏 Amen!!
I agree with you 100%
Thank you
I had a narcissistic mother and absentee father and up to my awakening at 38 I hated my life and suicidal and in so much pain, then I started my awakening and I was living with a family member due to my health who put me out cause they became worst so now I’m living in my car with all my crystals in my car and trying , I am trying but I’m getting tired yet I’m trying
How are you doing now? I hope things got better. Sending you blessings💕
Amazing xx
Thank you so much Candace. Now everything makes sense. I considered I had a great relationship with God until I found out I was in a relationship with a N man and as a result of that, I discovered I had a mother with NPD. I got mad and sad knowing that I, as a little girl, had to go through that pain.
What about those of us who came from emotionally absent parents, who are now parenting? Even with a dedicated spiritual practice and awareness of these conditions patterns, is still so hard sometimes ❤️
Yes it is!! We need to reparent our inner child so that we can be the parent we never had to our own 💚
I wish I would've done this before. My now 11 year old is showing the wounds I remember having at his age. As a single (widowed) mom of 3, the struggle to do the work is REAL.
@@shannonl7492 I am a single mother as well and daily feel condemnation from myself for the pain I know I've unintentionally inflicted on my children. This is the curse of the world, we are not perfect. Every child will have some healing to do, its the rules of the game. The fact that you're on here commenting about your children tells me just how much you love them. All is well. Stay strong mama ❤️
@@Earthalien89 I appreciate the kind words of hope. I wish I could flip a switch on the days we all struggle battling it at the same time and feel awful for the days I can barely push through the day but the best I can do is try to find ways for us all to recognize and heal our wounds. ❤️
Dad was an absent junkie, mom was a junkie who used our food stamps for drugs.
I’ve decided to forgive my dad. Going to see him for the first time in almost 10 years on Sunday. It’s so weird to go from loving to hating him and then back to forgiveness now.
" I can't do that shit" hahahahahahahahahhahahaha I laughed out loud hahahaha
I and my mother don't have a relationship because she has always been an absent parent. Now I have my own children she's distancing herself to know her grandchild so I couldn't give a shit about her because thanks to her am a better parent to my kids.
Candid 🌻💛💗
"The contrast happend sooner, so you can find your purpose"
"If your protecting your false self, the self that has come into existence because of your trauma and wounding,, you won't feel the protection and love of the universe, as the universe is reflecting the truth of who you are, the truness, not the persona that we belive we are after the wounding."
Would you say in other words/metaphors about identity of true self?
Ypu said:
As soon as you get to know your true self..., and how would I know? Whats the indicators for wounded people to know it/understand it?
Question How is it good to have a absent parent for any child? Would like to know your input on parental alienation? How does both topics impact innocent children please enlighten me. Thank you
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I'm super triggered by this. My anxiety showing up
Sorry about that. Maybe ask the anxiety what it needs
Virtual hugs 💖
Wow howw u so beautiful!❤
She left her vibrator on 😂
Christ is not being honored being cruel version aga happy Do Sick no sick get out narrsasistic crave evil attention. Holy Spirit protection immediately in Christ the evil people assist to destroy the works not service. Why Mary’s way can’t work. My life.