Getting over the shame of disappointing people freed me. I stopped being self sacrificial and pursued my happiness and taught my children the same. We don’t feel shame about not volunteering, leading, or not going to church. We prioritize ourselves. We are spiritual. Freedom is our #1 value. Breaking generational curses is the greatest gift I gave to myself and them.
I'm trying to get to the place of being selfish. I'm always trying to help other people but nobody has helped me to that same degree. My therapist tells me that I need to learn how to be good to myself.
My Pastor called me everything but a child of God when I joined the Air Force because it was going to take me “away” from the Church. I was under the impression I was one of the “golden children” because I was a very compliant and obedient child. As an adult jumped from one church to the next thinking I was finding something better each time. Finally I have “deconstructed “ and moving out of the country helped me with that. Yes, church trauma is REAL!
Because you were compliant and faithful and you were no longer going to be “the faithful obedient church worker”that the church depended on, was the reason he was so angry. I know exactly how that feels, been there, done that and got the stories to tell it. I grew up in the church from about 7 years old,(I’m 64 years old)but I released myself about 10 years ago from church and traditional religion. I am a reinvented church girl on several levels AND ABSOLUTELY LOVING IT!!! I really desire to move abroad and Mexico is on the list!
I screamed when Pry described her interactions with the Others. It's ALWAYS an interrogation! Now I just avoid eye contact so they cannot speak to me. (I'm in Mazatlan, Mexico) I think they are trying to figure out my financial status relative to theirs. LOLOL "Like how did you afford to be in the same place as me."
Ouch working in financial institutions was very challenging & lots of pressure was shared by frustrated and highly educated professional black women who were overworked, very stressed, and overlooked continually for promotions & raises. Sista I met you in others as a certified career & life coach. Her story represents that of so many of our Sistas. So happy she gave up the “golden handcuffs” and reached her personal peace & freedom. ❤❤❤
Exactly! I never give them eye contact because that’s an invitation to speak to me. I act like I don’t see them. It works. I always turn my back to them as soon as I see them. If they override that, then I give them the old fashioned look like I don’t hear them and walk away. I refuse to let them ruin my vacation or time abroad.
My brother-in-law and his wife went to a strict church where unmarried girls who got pregnant were required to stand before the church and apologize. You are very right, Stephanie, they did not require that of boys or men who got girls and women pregnant. Well, the pastor’s daughter got pregnant. People waited for her to apologize. She did not show up. Her dad apologized for her. I would be so through with a church like that anyway, but this would put me out the door. The sad thing is that women support this and pass this kind of shame and stigmatize onto onto other girls and women.
I am to but after three years researching different cultures and countries. Right now I will just stay here and make it the best way I can. I do not need another thing to be stress about such as fitting in and learning a new language. So many women living single lives which is cool but however I am a black woman that loves black men. Good luck with all those women who choose to be free. Gulfport Mississippi a good choice for me
@@rebeprice4400 There are afromexicans in Veracruz State, and also there are around 200k black americans that have moved to Mexico in the past 7 years, in my City Merida there is a really big community.
Striving toward disappointing people and making myself happier. I am planning on attending EXodus Summit 2025, it will be my first time. Stephanie your hair is Beautiful.
Stephanie, I finally found my groove and niche. At. 63, I’m a grant writer entrepreneur. In less than 18 months, I’ve written 4 grants and they were all funded totaling 1.2 million for one nonprofit org. I do get paid while writing the grants, plus a bonus. I’m on my own, not having to clock in or be disrespected in the workplace. Recently, I was approached by someone who claim they can’t pay my contract price, yet prior to me presenting my contract, he bragged about the money he made, and how much he is worth on paper, but not liquid. He claim he can’t pay my contract price. This has been typical in the blk community that I circle.
WOW... I love this! The Trauma is real and YES, it comes from somewhere and the MAJORITY of us DO NOT KNOW what the heck is going on and where all of our faults, strengths, etc come from. Thank you @stephanie Perry for this video and Thank you Pryl for sharing your information with us!! I totally feel that...im in my 50's it's hard as heck to meet some real black women who love other black women and don't feel hateful of other women of color and envious or jealous of other black women
You know I get it. But we are out here. You may have to bop around the world where the worldwide web to find us. But know that your community is waiting for you. 💛
I was about that 'workaholic' lifestyle. Thank goodness I did put faith and energy in my Faith of Jesus Christ as well. My Faith restored me when the work nearly killed me.
Omg, I’m so so so over being available for everyone and everything. I’m showing up for ME. Such an appropriate discussion this morning ladies. Thank you. 😊
Longsuffering is a fruit of the spirit (Ephesians 5:22) It is how we’re to interact in this world, not giving people what they give us, being hateful, spiteful, unforgiving, impatient and quick to speak and quick to anger (Galatians 4:2) living as Christ, who has so kindly and lovingly borne our own disgraceful sins and ugly burdens. It’s not easy .........AT ALL but that is what being transformed daily/ more and more into the likeness of Jesus Christ łooks like.😊
SRL - Jesus already promised us that if we follow Him we WILL (not might or could possibly) have tribulation but to be of good cheer as HE has overcome the world (John 16:33) And The Word further says that ALL (not some of us but all) who seek tto live godly WILL suffer persecution (2 Timothy 3:12) These are promises not based on time or place or the age we are born in. Jesus, in life, was DESPISED. He was rejected. And, in death, He was whipped.... beaten beyond human recognition, stripped nàked and nailed to a cross. We won’t live a life of comfort as His followers. He said we wouldn’t. We are blessed not to live a life of misery and we are most grateful not to suffer as he did. We’re not escaping suffering in this life. He said it would be there and that He uses it for a purpose. We pray for grace to get through it. 😊
Wow couldnt' watch live as I was teaching my mindfulness meditation class to my students. But I tune in and see two glowing women- woW. In my group we talked about the pain of seeing the U.S. push us back after generations fought to move forward...it was a very touching session. And grief and vulnerablity came up as issues for us black women. Hope everyone practices DEEP self-care during this time.
I didn't grow up in the Black church. My mom was from Louisiana so I was initially a Catholic. The day after high school graduation I decided I was no longer a Catholic. I started going to a well-known Black church in L.A. because I had family there and I witnessed a lot of stuff like what is described here. All of it is unbiblical. All of it! So many people turned away from Christ because of "Christians". 😢
Hello Ladies! I'm so sorry you experienced that from church. I hope 17 year old you knew that that was not God. On another note, God bless you on your journey of self love. I hope more black women take this journey. We deserve it!❤
Absolutely, broke my heart how she's carried that pain. Jesus said he came to help sinners, well people don't need a physician! These women are inspiring!!!
Hello, beautiful queens, I'm a people pleasure from NY Born and raised. After my mother passed I have learned it's time to change. Thank you so much for you both for sharing your thoughts and experiences 💖💜💪🏾🙏🏾
Welcome to Mexico, Not all man are short, I´m 6`3" and there are many like me and taller. Mexico is a diverse country, and yes we are more courteous. There are many great mexican cities to check, with a good population of expats like: Merida (the safest city in the americas) Oaxaca CDMX Guadalajara Guanajuato
@@PositivelyPryl Yes, Tall men are not the majority, I know, the few that are there are quite well-priced. There are more possibilities of finding a partner in CDMX, because there is a greater variety with 25 million inhabitants.
Good morning, good evening and good night! ☺️ I usually just listen to the lives while I cook, clean or do creative stuff but I felt compelled to join the chat. Great conversation!
So much goodness here! I’m inspired and paying close attention, while fist bumping to every single thing shared. Thank you both for opening doors, minds, and giving us permission to actually believe we deserve so much more. ✊🏽💜💜
Really enjoyed this discussion. I’ve been working on allowing myself to disappoint people the last year or so. With the holidays approaching, this is when I really am tested and need to kick it into overdrive. Both of you look beautiful.😍 Thanks for this!
OMG! I’m only 20 minutes in and love this. Pryl thank you for your honesty in sharing your story. You connect to so many women that have been in your shoes as a teen mom. Feeling shame is no joke and isn’t shared enough. Counseling has helped me to not stay stuck. I’m so ready to move abroad🎉 God Bless You Sis❤
Amazing! Thank you for sharing “your vulnerability” with us. “Collectively “ many of us have experienced harshness in the black church. Yes, the church community is very powerful & important to us, but it should also provide a safe place for our spiritual healing not judgment. Thank you queen!
I personally find church folks (and Christians, especially Americans for that matter) to be spiritual draining. Too judgmental. Too hateful. Grateful to find God outside the church.
I LOVE THIS WOMAN April (Positively Pearl) and her story, I love her intelligence and perseverance! Also, both Stephanie and the guest have beautiful hair!
Thank you both for the sharing of your personal experiences that I totally can relate, esp wearing different masks; I’ve been doing the work to escort myself by myself out of this maze to create an amazing life for myself, but listening to your backstory is empowering, Thank you! I can relate tho about the Pastors, I have already left two churches. It was the uncomfortability of using the pulpit to voice, one's personal opinion, especially since it seemed it was directed towards females, it left me feeling both confused & uncomfortable. I really needed to hear some of the things mentioned in this conversation. I feel good about myself, but I do know that I would love to be surrounded around positive healthy Women that have had it up to here eith the generosity of people pleasing and have the ability and the potential within themselves to break free to live a joyus life.
Watched the replay. You're both beautiful! Thank you for exposing Black women to new possibilities for taking care of ourselves! We need this information, especially now! 🙏🏾
Hi, ladies! Watching the replay. Pryl mentioned "Coco." I watched that last week and I really enjoyed it. I agree that it's best to ignore the trolls. They only want attention, and responding to them gives them what they want. Put them on ignore! I really enjoyed this conversation.
Self love and Self Acceptance requires you disappointing many people. I’ve been in this space for 2 years!! I appreciate this!! No longer giving from My cup and only from the overflow!!
Hello Family! Her story is my story-like many of us that grew up in the church. I am tired and am finally starting to focus on what I want. I realized that people, family included, focus on what they want and expect me to be there despite how tired I am. It’s my time now to focus on me and that includes focusing on getting out of the US.
Replay That!! One of THE BEST videos you've ever done, Stephanie. This struck me so deeply, and as a totality of the depths of what you and Roshida, and others have really been speaking of, all this time. All aspects of the same avenue. The truth of it is about finding a place in the world where you are heard, seen, listened to, and appreciated, and even admired. And being able to, within yourself, allow yourself to be appreciated. Accept it without question, or doubt, or guilt. Burn the cape and just be! I love it!💃🏽🌼🌟
Thank you for sharing your story ! It’s so much power is black women sharing their stories 😊 I am so inspired & truly grateful that I got to soak this in it truly motivates me to keep working hard & striving for my relocation goal
Good morning friends from the future ❤. Omg!!! She summed up exactly our experience with the pilgrims! I'm so thankful for your channel. Pryl as an teenage mom at 18 , turned HR executive I completely relate.
I’m listening to the replay. I totally understand wanting to be invisible as a child and as 41:40 person, wanting to be there for everyone else but myself. Thank you for sharing your truth Pryl 😊
Thank you so much Ms. Stephanie Perry ... following and subscribed! Ms. Pryl is the definition of going through the fire and coming through with extra resilience, grace, favor, beauty, spirit and strength. This is what will heal the world, but they want to squash that because we have that power. So. Be. It. "I'm thoo!" I love you all! ❤❤❤
What a wonderful conversation Stephanie! I thought about this a lot today. So beautiful to see @PositivelyPryl glowing and thriving! It inspired me so much. It was frankly healing. 🥰
I stayed at Casa Elm, too, back in November 2022. In 15 days, I'm going back to San Miquel De Allende, and I got the perfect apartment in the Colonial San Antonio area.
This was done so well.. very sensitive subject to far too many .. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾real talk in real time . Churches and their hypocrisy. Aside! Stephanie what do you use on your hair . Those coils reminds me of growing up in the 50’s early 60’s having our hair set the paper bag rollers. Made the best longest lasting curls . Your hair looks healthier & healthier every time I see a segment . Again thank you to your guest for being 100% transparent & so much positivity.💜🪽
I have some trauma as a teen from church, but I feel fortunate that my parents were not really that “churchy.” We went to service and went home, but that was it. The “Church Culture” was not very present in our home. It seems how the church has treated Black Women never gets brought up when they wonder why so many have parted ways. 🤷🏾♀️
Exactly. There is SO much church trauma in the Black community, especially with women. Glad to hear your parents didn’t instill those warped values in you. 💛
I have lived that life exactly and still do to a degree. I want to know what it's like to live in peace, a serene life, feel safe in my own skin and space. I'm a military brat, ex-military myself, a preacher's kid, a wife, mom, and grandmother. I have lupus, scleroderma, mixed connective disease, and lung disease. I'm 51 years old. I'm scared for my life at this point from all aspects. So I just want to leave this country to live in an environment where I can be at peace and get healthy!
I didn’t even realize that they’re going to be asking where I’m from. Even though that happened when I went to SMA in June. Can’t wait to meet you in SMA!
Currently in my hotel overlooking the ocean in Spain 🇪🇸 I swear I disappointed so many people by being a self centered black woman.
Right!!! 💛
Spain is lovely..I visited Madrid and Barcelona....
Overworked yourself trying to prove your worth....the devil is a liar....
You may have disappointed others but you are inspiring me ❤
@@GrowingAndGlowing123
Getting over the shame of disappointing people freed me. I stopped being self sacrificial and pursued my happiness and taught my children the same. We don’t feel shame about not volunteering, leading, or not going to church. We prioritize ourselves. We are spiritual. Freedom is our #1 value. Breaking generational curses is the greatest gift I gave to myself and them.
That’s right! 💛
Wow, so beautifully expressed! ❤❤❤
Amen!!! That is where I am in my life. I was a huge people pleaser but after going through my divorce. I have freed myself from that mentality.
Same here 😔
I'm trying to get to the place of being selfish. I'm always trying to help other people but nobody has helped me to that same degree. My therapist tells me that I need to learn how to be good to myself.
Hair! Hair! Hair! Both of yall look amazing!
Thanks! She was on her best behavior today. 😂
Rite ❤
❤❤❤❤ugh yes!!!!!
My Pastor called me everything but a child of God when I joined the Air Force because it was going to take me “away” from the Church. I was under the impression I was one of the “golden children” because I was a very compliant and obedient child. As an adult jumped from one church to the next thinking I was finding something better each time. Finally I have “deconstructed “ and moving out of the country helped me with that. Yes, church trauma is REAL!
Because you were compliant and faithful and you were no longer going to be “the faithful obedient church worker”that the church depended on, was the reason he was so angry. I know exactly how that feels, been there, done that and got the stories to tell it. I grew up in the church from about 7 years old,(I’m 64 years old)but I released myself about 10 years ago from church and traditional religion. I am a reinvented church girl on several levels AND ABSOLUTELY LOVING IT!!! I really desire to move abroad and Mexico is on the list!
Time to stop letting these Pastors control our lives. You do you
Ummmm no wonder I keep leaving churches but not my faith
I screamed when Pry described her interactions with the Others. It's ALWAYS an interrogation! Now I just avoid eye contact so they cannot speak to me. (I'm in Mazatlan, Mexico) I think they are trying to figure out my financial status relative to theirs. LOLOL "Like how did you afford to be in the same place as me."
They do it in America, they’re doing their damndest to try and fit you into a stereotype and failing that they attempt to remind you of “your place.”
Ouch working in financial institutions was very challenging & lots of pressure was shared by frustrated and highly educated professional black women who were overworked, very stressed, and overlooked continually for promotions & raises. Sista I met you in others as a certified career & life coach. Her story represents that of so many of our Sistas. So happy she gave up the “golden handcuffs” and reached her personal peace & freedom. ❤❤❤
Exactly! I never give them eye contact because that’s an invitation to speak to me. I act like I don’t see them. It works. I always turn my back to them as soon as I see them. If they override that, then I give them the old fashioned look like I don’t hear them and walk away. I refuse to let them ruin my vacation or time abroad.
❤❤❤❤@@vienicestyles
My brother-in-law and his wife went to a strict church where unmarried girls who got pregnant were required to stand before the church and apologize. You are very right, Stephanie, they did not require that of boys or men who got girls and women pregnant. Well, the pastor’s daughter got pregnant. People waited for her to apologize. She did not show up. Her dad apologized for her. I would be so through with a church like that anyway, but this would put me out the door. The sad thing is that women support this and pass this kind of shame and stigmatize onto onto other girls and women.
First off, can we give an 👏🏾 to black women skin? Uh, wheh, as they are absolutely stunning & glowing!
I love that she is taken the time to learn Spanish. She is only going to enrich her experience.
I've never been successful in being in community with other black women. Maybe moving will also fix that for me. This was inspiring to watch
It won't, if u don't like ur own ppl or they don't like u another group of ppl definitely won't embrace your problems
Same wish I could move aboard
@@freelarryhoover8697she didn’t say that she didn’t like her own ppl. She hasn’t found her community.
I understand, you're not alone. There's billions of people on earth, don't limit yourself ❤
Hello from the future! I am ready to get the hell out of here!
I am to but after three years researching different cultures and countries. Right now I will just stay here and make it the best way I can. I do not need another thing to be stress about such as fitting in and learning a new language. So many women living single lives which is cool but however I am a black woman that loves black men. Good luck with all those women who choose to be free. Gulfport Mississippi a good choice for me
@@rebeprice4400 There are afromexicans in Veracruz State, and also there are around 200k black americans that have moved to Mexico in the past 7 years, in my City Merida there is a really big community.
✊🏽
And I appreciate you because you show black women how to break free from the matrix and get some rest and enjoy their life. Thank you for that.
Yes black women liberation
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I am only 23 minutes in and the church trauma and people pleasing resonates. This is such an important conversation. Thank you❤️
Stephanie, your hair is gorgeous
Striving toward disappointing people and making myself happier. I am planning on attending EXodus Summit 2025, it will be my first time. Stephanie your hair is Beautiful.
Do it! Exodus Summit 2022 changed my life. 💛
Stephanie, I finally found my groove and niche. At. 63, I’m a grant writer entrepreneur. In less than 18 months, I’ve written 4 grants and they were all funded totaling 1.2 million for one nonprofit org. I do get paid while writing the grants, plus a bonus. I’m on my own, not having to clock in or be disrespected in the workplace. Recently, I was approached by someone who claim they can’t pay my contract price, yet prior to me presenting my contract, he bragged about the money he made, and how much he is worth on paper, but not liquid. He claim he can’t pay my contract price. This has been typical in the blk community that I circle.
How do you set your rates? I'm trying to gauge the market.
🫂🫂🫂❤️❤️❤️❤️🫂🫂🫂🫂 Kuddos to you for doing the darn thang!
WOW... I love this! The Trauma is real and YES, it comes from somewhere and the MAJORITY of us DO NOT KNOW what the heck is going on and where all of our faults, strengths, etc come from. Thank you @stephanie Perry for this video and Thank you Pryl for sharing your information with us!! I totally feel that...im in my 50's it's hard as heck to meet some real black women who love other black women and don't feel hateful of other women of color and envious or jealous of other black women
You know I get it. But we are out here. You may have to bop around the world where the worldwide web to find us. But know that your community is waiting for you. 💛
I love Stephanie’s response to “What do you do?”
As little as possible
I was about that 'workaholic' lifestyle. Thank goodness I did put faith and energy in my Faith of Jesus Christ as well. My Faith restored me when the work nearly killed me.
Omg, I’m so so so over being available for everyone and everything. I’m showing up for ME. Such an appropriate discussion this morning ladies. Thank you. 😊
💛
Giving up religion 30 years ago was the best decision I ever made. ♊️ 👩🏽 💫
That red and pink blouse compliments you so well. Gorgeous!
Yes ma’am the church owes black women reparations!
Back pay!
With interest!
10 minutes in and I already know this message is for me!
Yaaaay! And THIS is why I get on the YT and tell all of my business. 💛
Me too😅
This woman is a freaking STAR! ✨
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You know ❤❤❤
Long sufferingness and Codependency is NOT a flex sistas.
Tell’em! 💛
Longsuffering is a fruit of the spirit (Ephesians 5:22)
It is how we’re to interact in this world, not giving people what they give us, being hateful, spiteful, unforgiving, impatient and quick to speak and quick to anger (Galatians 4:2) living as Christ, who has so kindly and lovingly borne our own disgraceful sins and ugly burdens. It’s not easy .........AT ALL but that is what being transformed daily/ more and more into the likeness of Jesus Christ łooks like.😊
@@noble604No!
SRL - Jesus already promised us that if we follow Him we WILL (not might or could possibly) have tribulation but to be of good cheer as HE has overcome the world (John 16:33)
And The Word further says that ALL (not some of us but all) who seek tto live godly WILL suffer persecution (2 Timothy 3:12)
These are promises not based on time or place or the age we are born in.
Jesus, in life, was DESPISED. He was rejected. And, in death, He was whipped.... beaten beyond human recognition, stripped nàked and nailed to a cross.
We won’t live a life of comfort as His followers. He said we wouldn’t. We are blessed not to live a life of misery and we are most grateful not to suffer as he did.
We’re not escaping suffering in this life. He said it would be there and that He uses it for a purpose. We pray for grace to get through it. 😊
@@noble604 Proverbs 26:11-Like a dog that returns to his vomit is a fool who repeats his folly.
Wow couldnt' watch live as I was teaching my mindfulness meditation class to my students. But I tune in and see two glowing women- woW. In my group we talked about the pain of seeing the U.S. push us back after generations fought to move forward...it was a very touching session. And grief and vulnerablity came up as issues for us black women.
Hope everyone practices DEEP self-care during this time.
💛
2:04:21
Oh, sister you are speaking to me regarding being in community with other black women and indigenous women/people. I am loving this!!!!
Let’s called it what it is “Spiritual Manipulation”. (Watching replay)
I didn't grow up in the Black church. My mom was from Louisiana so I was initially a Catholic. The day after high school graduation I decided I was no longer a Catholic. I started going to a well-known Black church in L.A. because I had family there and I witnessed a lot of stuff like what is described here. All of it is unbiblical. All of it! So many people turned away from Christ because of "Christians". 😢
You are so right, Stephanie! Its a new day for real! All about us! This is liberating!!!!
Good morning your hair is so beautiful
Hello Ladies!
I'm so sorry you experienced that from church. I hope 17 year old you knew that that was not God.
On another note, God bless you on your journey of self love. I hope more black women take this journey. We deserve it!❤
Absolutely, broke my heart how she's carried that pain. Jesus said he came to help sinners, well people don't need a physician!
These women are inspiring!!!
Hello, beautiful queens, I'm a people pleasure from NY Born and raised. After my mother passed I have learned it's time to change. Thank you so much for you both for sharing your thoughts and experiences 💖💜💪🏾🙏🏾
Welcome to Mexico, Not all man are short, I´m 6`3" and there are many like me and taller.
Mexico is a diverse country, and yes we are more courteous.
There are many great mexican cities to check, with a good population of expats like:
Merida (the safest city in the americas)
Oaxaca
CDMX
Guadalajara
Guanajuato
I agree and know plenty of tall Mexican men... and their wives. We were referring to single and available men in San Miguel. Thanks for watching! 💛
@@PositivelyPryl Yes, Tall men are not the majority, I know, the few that are there are quite well-priced.
There are more possibilities of finding a partner in CDMX, because there is a greater variety with 25 million inhabitants.
Thanks for the help!
Thank you for providing the list of cities to visit/live!
Hi Stephanie! your hair 🤩😍I’m sorry I missed this live, smh catching the replay ❤
😊😊😊😊
Good morning, good evening and good night! ☺️
I usually just listen to the lives while I cook, clean or do creative stuff but I felt compelled to join the chat. Great conversation!
Yaaaay, thanks for watching! 💛
So much goodness here! I’m inspired and paying close attention, while fist bumping to every single thing shared. Thank you both for opening doors, minds, and giving us permission to actually believe we deserve so much more. ✊🏽💜💜
I know that's right! 💛
@@PositivelyPryl 💜
Really enjoyed this discussion. I’ve been working on allowing myself to disappoint people the last year or so. With the holidays approaching, this is when I really am tested and need to kick it into overdrive.
Both of you look beautiful.😍 Thanks for this!
Yes, disappointment everyone and choose YOU! 💛
If I wasn’t the mother of a teenager I would have already left. My Spirit told me to leave before 2024 back in 2020.
OMG! I’m only 20 minutes in and love this. Pryl thank you for your honesty in sharing your story. You connect to so many women that have been in your shoes as a teen mom. Feeling shame is no joke and isn’t shared enough. Counseling has helped me to not stay stuck. I’m so ready to move abroad🎉 God Bless You Sis❤
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Grateful 🙏🏾 to Stephanie and Pryle, for this conversation. 😊
Yeassss!!! LOVING the HAIR Ladies!!!!!❤❤❤
The honesty and truthfulness of this conversation is beautiful! These are truths of life experience that must come to the light!
Amazing! Thank you for sharing “your vulnerability” with us. “Collectively “ many of us have experienced harshness in the black church. Yes, the church community is very powerful & important to us, but it should also provide a safe place for our spiritual healing not judgment. Thank you queen!
I agree and it’s unfortunate. That’s why I hop on the YT, tell all my business, and say things that NEED to be said. 💛
I personally find church folks (and Christians, especially Americans for that matter) to be spiritual draining. Too judgmental. Too hateful. Grateful to find God outside the church.
Good evening Stephanie, I’m watching this replay in your future. Both of you Sistas look gorgeous and the hair styles are so so beautiful 😍
Girl i was raised pentecostal and this sent me back to so many bad memories. I am ELATED that youre living your LIBERATED life! 🤗🎉
Remember. These books were written by men. My religion is to respect others as others respect me. That’s my religion.😀❤️
Stephanie…this hair is HAIRING! 😍
Sis, I aim to do as little as possible at work that is too much...I'm letting other folks do stuff!!
I'm aiming to leave America in early 2025!
I LOVE THIS WOMAN April (Positively Pearl) and her story, I love her intelligence and perseverance! Also, both Stephanie and the guest have beautiful hair!
Thank you both for the sharing of your personal experiences that I totally can relate, esp wearing different masks; I’ve been doing the work to escort myself by myself out of this maze to create an amazing life for myself, but listening to your backstory is empowering, Thank you! I can relate tho about the Pastors, I have already left two churches. It was the uncomfortability of using the pulpit to voice, one's personal opinion, especially since it seemed it was directed towards females, it left me feeling both confused & uncomfortable. I really needed to hear some of the things mentioned in this conversation. I feel good about myself, but I do know that I would love to be surrounded around positive healthy Women that have had it up to here eith the generosity of people pleasing and have the ability and the potential within themselves to break free to live a joyus life.
Watched the replay. You're both beautiful! Thank you for exposing Black women to new possibilities for taking care of ourselves! We need this information, especially now! 🙏🏾
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Hello! Watching the replay. Great conversation, as usual!
Hi, ladies! Watching the replay.
Pryl mentioned "Coco." I watched that last week and I really enjoyed it.
I agree that it's best to ignore the trolls. They only want attention, and responding to them gives them what they want. Put them on ignore!
I really enjoyed this conversation.
Self love and Self Acceptance requires you disappointing many people. I’ve been in this space for 2 years!! I appreciate this!! No longer giving from
My cup and only from the overflow!!
Stephanie your hair is slammmin!!!!
Good afternoon ladies beautiful convo so necessary
Yes to a liberated life Pryl !!! Love that and always grateful for your videos Stephanie✨👏🏾💛
This story is SUCH A BLESSING! Black women are amazing and resilient and creative!!
Hello Family! Her story is my story-like many of us that grew up in the church. I am tired and am finally starting to focus on what I want. I realized that people, family included, focus on what they want and expect me to be there despite how tired I am. It’s my time now to focus on me and that includes focusing on getting out of the US.
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We are Yahuah’s children! Amen to that!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 This is why we face the issues that we do with other groups.
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Yes, been there, still working through it. Feeling I was never enough to family freiend, church and leadership roles.
You are and always have been MORE than enough! 💛
Woooooooooooo Stephanie's crown is super blessed by the juices and berries this week! Share the routine and products, sis
Replay That!! One of THE BEST videos you've ever done, Stephanie. This struck me so deeply, and as a totality of the depths of what you and Roshida, and others have really been speaking of, all this time. All aspects of the same avenue. The truth of it is about finding a place in the world where you are heard, seen, listened to, and appreciated, and even admired. And being able to, within yourself, allow yourself to be appreciated. Accept it without question, or doubt, or guilt. Burn the cape and just be! I love it!💃🏽🌼🌟
Thank you for sharing your story ! It’s so much power is black women sharing their stories 😊 I am so inspired & truly grateful that I got to soak this in it truly motivates me to keep working hard & striving for my relocation goal
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The trolls are just proving why we need our own safe space.
I’m am not a mule. I have officially burned my cape. I am living in the Season of Selfishness. ♊️ 👩🏽 💫
It’s a lifestyle worth living! 💛
Good morning friends from the future ❤. Omg!!! She summed up exactly our experience with the pilgrims! I'm so thankful for your channel. Pryl as an teenage mom at 18 , turned HR executive I completely relate.
Not the pilgrims! 😂 Finding Stephanie‘s channel 2 yrs ago changed my life. She’s amazing. Thanks for watching!
This was a great show. I am so glad that I was able to catch this talk.
Good morning everyone!! You both look fabulous this morning!!
I’m listening to the replay. I totally understand wanting to be invisible as a child and as 41:40 person, wanting to be there for everyone else but myself. Thank you for sharing your truth Pryl 😊
Hi ladies, watching the replay, hoping you all are well! Ex people pleaser here🤚🏾 loving this interview, thank you for sharing ❤
This was so fun and informative. Stephanie out here looking like a 1920s Pinup Girl. Just beautiful!
Stephanie you are glowing. Both of you beautiful hostess💯🙏🏾💯 and thanks for your support ladies.🔥👏🏾🔥👏🏾🔥👏🏾🔥👏🏾🔥
Thank you so much Ms. Stephanie Perry ... following and subscribed! Ms. Pryl is the definition of going through the fire and coming through with extra resilience, grace, favor, beauty, spirit and strength. This is what will heal the world, but they want to squash that because we have that power. So. Be. It. "I'm thoo!" I love you all! ❤❤❤
I know that right! 💛
I love this interview. She is living the dream! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 ❤❤❤
What a wonderful conversation Stephanie! I thought about this a lot today. So beautiful to see @PositivelyPryl glowing and thriving! It inspired me so much. It was frankly healing. 🥰
This discussion has made me smile from ear to ear, showing ALL the teeth lol. Thank you ladies 💕
I stayed at Casa Elm, too, back in November 2022. In 15 days, I'm going back to San Miquel De Allende, and I got the perfect apartment in the Colonial San Antonio area.
Yaaaay! Congrats and hope to see you at the monthly Black in SMA brunch. 💛
Thank You. This was sooo relatable.
Yall sooo beautiful 😍 look at you all’s hair.. love us💜
WE ARE SUPERHUMAN & SUPERPOWERED 👏🏾👏🏾and that’s why we’re hated because we’re the best!!! Stand on it!
you ladies are so awesome...
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Hi Stephanie and blessings to your Journeys abroad! Thank for you Inspiring Messages about traveling abroad! ❤😊🕊️
I sooooo needed this conversation. You beautiful spirits are both inspiring me and convicting my spirit. Time to move.
Off topic but I love the hair 😍
Hello everyone! Learning, learning and preparing.
We were breed to take care of the whole family since 1619.
Good morning Beautiful Ladies. This was God that this particular video popped up on my feed. I am so happy to always see happy healing Black Women.
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Good morning Stephanie! You look extra beautiful today 🤗
Gosh this is great .. going on vacation to Jamaica 🇯🇲 in a week. I would love to join in the future and visit!
Hello ladies, I love this interview and am so thankful for it. It has touched my soul and will share with others.
This was done so well.. very sensitive subject to far too many .. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾real talk in real time . Churches and their hypocrisy.
Aside! Stephanie what do you use on your hair . Those coils reminds me of growing up in the 50’s early 60’s having our hair set the paper bag rollers. Made the best longest lasting curls . Your hair looks healthier & healthier every time I see a segment .
Again thank you to your guest for being 100% transparent & so much positivity.💜🪽
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Man... I wish there was a guy who had a channel this good for this purpose
HELLO, TRUE FACTS 😇👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING THIS POWERFUL STORY 😇🙏🏽❤️
BLESSED ARE YOU BOTH MY SISTERS 😇🙏🏽❤️
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Stephanie and Pryl, thanks so much for this talk ❤
I have some trauma as a teen from church, but I feel fortunate that my parents were not really that “churchy.” We went to service and went home, but that was it. The “Church Culture” was not very present in our home.
It seems how the church has treated Black Women never gets brought up when they wonder why so many have parted ways. 🤷🏾♀️
Exactly. There is SO much church trauma in the Black community, especially with women. Glad to hear your parents didn’t instill those warped values in you. 💛
I have lived that life exactly and still do to a degree. I want to know what it's like to live in peace, a serene life, feel safe in my own skin and space. I'm a military brat, ex-military myself, a preacher's kid, a wife, mom, and grandmother. I have lupus, scleroderma, mixed connective disease, and lung disease. I'm 51 years old. I'm scared for my life at this point from all aspects. So I just want to leave this country to live in an environment where I can be at peace and get healthy!
I didn’t even realize that they’re going to be asking where I’m from. Even though that happened when I went to SMA in June. Can’t wait to meet you in SMA!
I’ll be here!
Wow! 😲 the nerve ! Thank you for sharing your story ❤️ 🙏🏾 😊
NOLA here; great video. I am happy that you over came those early issues.😊😊