How I Finally Got Over My Ex - Deep Dive Podcast with Adam Roa
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- Опубліковано 19 січ 2020
- My last breakup was one of the most difficult experiences of my life. I struggled to let it go and couldn’t seem to move on. In this episode, I dive deep into my powerful shift in perspective that led to me finally being able to let it go.
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I am sobbing, I am going through such a soul crushing breakup, this was the best relationship I have ever been in, we both connected so deeply in every aspect. This gave me a whole new perspective, I do still love him and I know I will always love him. I am a mosaic of everyone I have ever loved, and he will have the most beautiful piece from them. and if we are meant to be then we will come back together, otherwise I know where I made my mistakes and I will learn from them & grow.
This is a healthy way of getting over someone which in turn helps you trust your next relationship ☺️
That's the key :)
I disagree.
So beautifully put. When my relationship ended I was in such pain itb was all consuming.. Yet within the experince of pain was the realisation I had loved so strongly. So fiercely. So completely. I was not lost in grief I was simultaneously lifted with soul fullfilling deep gratitude. So grateful I'd had the opportunity to feel such love towards another. I know now a year later, I have the capacity to love this deeoly again. I know I will find it again.
Thankyou for sharing your wisdom x
And so you will, much love Paula
@@AdamRoaOfficial Thank you. To you too :)
I hope I can feel this some day!
It’s bittersweet of coarse. I do feel that my ex wife was the love of my life because I’ve never loved like that. I’ve never felt such a powerful connection. Ever. Not even close. When you said, how did we get here? I asked myself that so many times. I will say this. If it was what she said it was when we were married, we’d still be together. So, in my case, I wasn’t anything special to her. She was everything to me. The hardest thing you’ll ever do in life is to grieve someone who is still alive.
As always, I heard you loud and clear. You speak to MY soul like no one has ever done before! Ended a 5-yr relationship in Nov. I had never completed the mourning process over the 8-yr relationship I had before her! Gosh, you magically just completed my puzzle. You had the missing peace! Love you, Adam, so very much!! Thank you for reminding me of the truth in all things!!
so happy to hear that this was a valuable piece to you!
Thank you for sharing ur thoughts,..I just broke up a 4 year relationship bc she wanted a child. She is/was the greatest love in my 37 year life. My heart says "just fucking do it" my brain says "don't", you don't really want this. The struggle in this is, do you follow ur heart and just go for it so you can be with this amazing person or do you follow ur brain...I guess I made my decision based on the fact that the struggle and heartbrake will be shorter then having a kid and realize it was not a good choice since kids are for life. But am suffering real hard atm 😞
I have been dealing with this thing for over 5-6 months. But now I have come to peace with it somehow. the only thing I'm afraid of is to love again. But from the past two days, I have been thinking that there is no quota for love like you can love only one person. So it helps me and now I realize that I can still choose to love her and cherish the memory of her and yet love someone else even more.
Thanx for your video I'm sure it will definitely help a lot of people
you're doing great.
Well now you have me bawling like a baby celebrating the beautiful relationships I got to experience. Thank you Adam
That's amazing to hear! Way to shift your mindset :)
Thank you for sharing Adam, it resonates so much with me & my recent breakup and a reminder to be grateful for the experience, the growth and love. Blessings to you 🙏
sending lots of love!
Beautiful. I appreciate that you sink time and energy into these self healing talks into the world. The clarity and closure is a good way to help get through tough moments in time for us. Just beautiful - thank you!
You're welcome. Thanks for diving deep with me :)
Thank you for sharing this. Its come into my life when i needed it the most, even 2 years later❤️. Experiencing something very parallel and am choosing to elevate and grow from it vs staying stuck
Wow. Cannot even begin to tell you how much it has helped me. I’m struggling to let go of a relationship and reminding me to focus on the love and to not live in fear or resentment is such a release. Thank you ❤️
I love hearing that for you! Sending some love your way
I stunbled over a poem of you just yesterday, now I m IN. The breakup might have been because the lesson was learned. I ve experienced this too. Thanks for sharing because so many people experience that. It makes it so universal. All the best
Awww really inspired by your vids
you're very welcome!
This is simply amazing! I have felt like that over a previous relationship as well. It took me years to get to that point but the important thing is that I did.
We were together for a total of 32 days! Why am I taking this break up so hard?!?! 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
thank you for your vulnerability and authenticity thank you for being you
Thank you so much for sharing, from the buttom of my heart, you’re helping a lot 💯♥️
This is pure gold. Thank you for sharing you gave me a new perspective
thanks for letting me know it had an impact.
Helpful. Thank you for sharing your realization. Makes sense. Love it!!!!
glad it helped.
Thank you, Adam, for every word! 🌞
You're welcome :) thanks for leaving a comment!
I rarely comment but I had to say thank you for giving me a new perspective! Your words have made this way of thinking much clearer and easier to comprehend and absorb for me. I would have gone for it 10/10 times as well, so what is there to regret... Just celebrate that love and use that energy instead of letting the fears steer your mind. It instantly clicked in my brain and when I think back now I start smiling like you in the video. So thank you for sharing!
I appreciate you leaving such a heartfelt comment. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for sharing this message.
Thank you so much for sharing this 💙 you’re amazing
You LITERALLY spoke for me.. thank you
Thank you Adam for sharing your truth and your light 🙏❤🌈
thanks for the kind comment :)
Thank you! I can relate so much Adam
happy to hear that!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience I have the same one but me and him was together for almost 3 years är just could not deal with the pain.
Thank you this video is really helping me mourn my relationship in a healthier more positive way. It really shifted the way I see it. We were together for 4 years and best friends for 11. The part about having kids and traveling had me crying on my lunch break lol I am really glad she was in my life. I just wasn't mature enough for a serious relationship, and I hurt her. I hope that we can be friends again in the future, but if we can't I just hope she's happy.
Sending love your way brother
You are amazing thank you this has been an eye opening thank you again much light and love.
sending you lots of love! Thanks for the comment.
You know, when you are invested in a relationship, or whatever and it does not go to plan, it is never easy to redirect and go on. Impressive that you are doing this now. Thanks.
it's all we can do.
@@AdamRoaOfficial Dang it!! Adulting again.
Wow... just wow.. Thank you ... what an enlightenment.
glad you liked it.
Hi, Adam. You just put a big smile, of recognition, on my face. As long as I live, I have to keep being reminded that people are always going to come and go in my life, and that some are here for only a moment, but, like you, I can be grateful for the love and direction that they gave to me. And it also comforts me to believe that one day we will all be together again. Still, the loss and letting go is painful, even if necessary. Thank you for sharing your insight and love.
beautiful comment thank you :)
Thank you ❤️💔❤️ this has helped me big time ☺️
I'm so glad!
Hey Adam,omgoshh i just saw one of ur video bout love urself on some other channel ...it got me goosebumps u r so real i mean so freaking real buddy who just share things like so personal that we can relate i hv no wrds lov u nd love each nd evry thing u say 🖤
Thank you so much!!
Magnífica reflexión, and as you said, able to apply in every area of our lives. Congratulations for that love and thank you 🌺
you're very welcome!
this video is really fucking powerful. Thank you.
Everyone deserve to be loved and to be happy. It really pain if you love someone so truly from the bottom of your heart and it goes unrequited. You will never completely move on if you ever truly loved him. Love doesn't hurt, it is the attachment that hurts. It is imagined future that is now broken that hurts. When we lose someone that we love so truly and they walk out of your life for no reason or for some reason, it hurts. This doesn't mean memories will haunt us. It is the collapsed future that hurts you. Living in the past whit the ones we love brings us tears, not because that is lost, but because there was something that could have been forever, but isn't now , that's hurts. That stings and we tend to associate it whit good memories sometimes we love people's more than the memories they gave us.we fall for the person, not just for the memories. We love, we live to create beautiful memories for us and for the loved ones around us. Whenever we are too much attached to something or to someone, we grow attachment and that attachment leads to expectations. These expectations when fulfilled is an awesome experience. But when we are too much emotionally invested and when those dreams aren't coming true, it's stings and hurts and kills us from within. Getting over, it is by forgiving and moving on whit life accepting that you will never get over that true love. You want to forgive them because you want peace of mind and don't want to hold grudges anyone in your life. Forgive because you have a strong heart. Forgive because you are stronger. Many years ago depression is not killing me after my break up, but I was so devastated and lost. I feel I can't imagine my life without him, feel I can't breathe without him. I was so close with him and didn't understand why he never love me enough and accepted me for what I am, choice me and never gone whit another woman. I ask myself every second, every single day " why I was not enough"? I was so empty in everything, feels like I will never be over my break up. Every second, I ask myself, "when does the pain stop"? "What should I do for stop this pain from all my life"?
I learned my lesson every day whit suffering, fears, tears and overthinking and misunderstood about this breakup. But I finish by understand than that is was a good processus for me for find a right one one day, for understand than he was not the good one for me, so I walk away for to be alone with myself and take care of me, of my soul. I acknowledge hard how to be right and good with my soul. Know I know this it's was not enough tragic for I died completely for them. I know that it's was not my fault and now, I enjoy my life every day. I make everything in God hand, I live whit no doubt, no fears, no struggles, no tears anymore. I just waiting for the good one come into my life, and i am ready for that. Everything is so different now, I am just happy at now whit myself, I enjoy everything because the life is short. This breakup makes me so stronger than I was, i appreciate the best version what i become and I know now i deserve better. You too you deserve someone honestly, truly and really better than she are.
Awesome 👏
War between logic and emotion..
They both can serve you
Well done adam
thank you.
Thank you Adam for sharing, this was SOO much needed :)
I'm glad it got to you then.
I processed my breakup in the exact same way.
I've endured one heartbreak and the 2nd relationship was an Egobreak . Both were definitely needed to bring me to the person I am today .
P.s Egobreak can seem like heartbreak. (It's not )
my boyfriend and i of seven months just broke up today. although seven months may not have seemed long, we both fell hard and fast without caution. this really does help a lot. and it is hard figuring out if i made the right choice or not, he was my first love and i’m not sure what to think of it. this video gave me comfort.
I'm glad it make you feel a little better. You will find love again :)
I had about 6 weeks with my first love after 24 years. I'd never give up the 2 years we had, what that held, how it shaped me, and who I am because of it, but the present day him and I, I have been leaving from the start. I'll leave my love with the part of him that I hold dear rather than the him that tried to break me into acceptable pieces. 🤟
I see what you're saying here but I think you didn't say it how you intended to. You said that the fact that we hold on so tightly is evidence of how much we cared...that's not true. The holding on is the selfishness of our egos...and in fact even the pain is the loss of what we though was ours..an ego loss..it is not evidence we authentically cared for the other...the evidence lies when we can let them go DESPITE and BECAUSE of the pain we are enduring through the process...
I really miss him 💔😢
You will be happy again :)
I'm dealing with "have moved on {were together for 13 yrs} but getting over those moments" because of having children together... 😕 It helps finding someone amazing { together now 4 years } but unfortunately my s/o had a TBI {he's on a long road to recovery} July 2019 . so my kids n I have felt a huge void due to such a huge life change ... We realized he {s/o) stepped up alot when my ex stepped out ... But even with all that... There are those moments(ex) n that can be frustrating
I see you, sending love your way
Adam, why did you break up with Azria? In the video it looked like you two just decided to split.
the relationship had run its course. it was time to grow outside of that dynamic.
Finally someone who understands wisdom.
Hormones power
Remember, you don't need to be with someone else, unless you make that decision to do so. Being single is as much of a blessing as being married. I'm not over the love I reluctantly rejected because I still deeply truly want to be with him because he makes me a better person. With that said, I'm not going back to him. It is over with him. I'm glad I found that passage in the Bible, because God is the source of all truth, even if most hate Him. He, through his servant Paul, says that I have the option to choose to marry or not marry, even if its someone I love. In truth, I want to marry him and long for it, but I won't go to him. I don't want to be a hypocrite. It is not easy getting over someone you long to be with but the Lord is the best reality check.
Sending love your way
@@AdamRoaOfficial May God watch over you too, sir.
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This is so sad to listen to - all the suffering you have for what it seems like, someone who deceived you. Everything you explain sounds like narscisstic abuse. Not love. This sounds a lot like narscisstic love bombing. Was it even love, or was it attraction.. Lies. Manipulation. That is not love. Not even close...