recently i’ve been feeling like this as my younger brother’s voice has started to get deeper and my dad jokes around about seeing a mustache on him. I used to be able to relate to him because we were similar - we were the boys of the family. but now it feels like he’s the boy and i’m the one pretending to be a boy. I have a sister, too, who i’m a lot closer with, but i still feel separate from her because i’m not a girl. It hurts a lot seeing him grow up before me. I’m older. I’m supposed to have a deeper voice before him. I’m supposed to grow facial hair before he does. I’m supposed to be taller than him.
From a non trans perspective, this was very eye opening. I have a trans brother and I myself am not trans. I never thought much about his feelings on our biological differences. Thank you for giving me not only something to think about, but to address with him personally. I want him proud of who he is and where he came from.
Mack, I'm in 2022 and sincerely apologize for seeing this very late. I can't imagine what all the struggles you had to go through up to present day, but I just need to say that I felt my heartstrings being pulled so hard by your commentary in this video. From the current profile pic you have, let me be one to say that you DO look like such a HANDSOME young lad. Giga Chad. It may not mean much because it's from an internet stranger, not any close family friend or relative, but I genuinely think that and wish you the best in the rest of your life as fine gentleman!
hello Mack, it is 2022 and im in tears as im in a similar situation as you used to be. Seeing someone in a similar situatuin helps i guess. Also have a cis younger brother.
I got the feels on this one. I'm not much jealous of my brother but I have been jealous of my guy friends in this way. Most of my friends have families now and I'll never have that in the way I wish I could. It pisses me off when guys take for granted their ability to have kids with a woman.
one of my "ok, I'm definitely trans" moments for me which I remember so, so vividly was sitting in class behind a boy and just like... looking at the shape of his back & I mean he was like such a classic "men are triangles" shape you know? lmao & I was just looking at him & felt this stab of "why can't I have that" & since then honestly I feel jealous just seeing cis guys walk past me hahaha :,D
i know this is 5 years old but,, i feel this so hard, but about my cousin. he's three years younger than me and I'm so fucking jealous of him. apart from the physical aspects that i wish i had, there's also the way he's perceived by and interacts with our family as a son/nephew that I'll never get to experience. one thing that got to me a while back was how my dad bonded with him over cutting wood with an axe, and the moment i wanted to participate, dad dismissed me and all i could think of was how I'll never be perceived as his son, but always his daughter. there's also the aspect of him being the literal clone of his dad in his youth and being told that by everyone,, i wish i was in the same position. i love him dearly, he's a wonderful guy, but damn if these things dont get to me sometimes :')
Hi Mack! I'm a non-binary transgender and I feel exactly the same way. When I was younger my brother was always able to roam our town with no time to come home. But since I am dfab I always had to be home at a certain time, even if I was with friends. It made me feel like my mom was playing favorites and made me very sad. My brother was into Football and was so great at it and all I did was draw. Now he's currently enlisted in the Army and she seems so proud of him. My mom seems proud of my art but sometimes I feel it can't meet up to his standards that he built. (I do have a few mental illnesses that stop me from having a "normal" life but I still feel like a failure a lot). Though my brother is only 5'8" because his dad was really short and so is our mom. I'm 5'5 1/2" so on my more masculine days it feels weird. If my mom was to post pictures of me and say her I would get the comments of "Oh she's x" or "She's xyz" and I really don't like hearing that. So I do get angry, jealous, and sad of my brother or even other men on the streets sometimes. And even other non-binaries, transgender, etc I get angry, jealous, and sad of. I don't want to be angry, jealous, or sad but sometimes I can't really help it.
Hey yeah, I've got that too. I completely adore my little brother (he's 16), but just the last time I can't see him without noticing: his voice, his moustache (he hates it, and it feels so weird because I can have one and doesn't want it, and I cannot and damn want facial hair!), his muscles, his length, his eyebrows... I'm so damn jealous of him, but I don't want to feel jealous, it's my little cute brother!
it's okay I feel you dude! my brother is starting to grow a beard and he's so tall and all I do is compare myself to him . I wish I could be taller so badly and having a flat chest and a deeper voice 😭. but I still love him just super jealous of him rn
I have jealousy towards my cis male friends definitely. Like especially about voice and height because we'll all be talking about I'm that one squeaky voice in the group and if we all stand around I'm always the shortest at 5'3" ish
I'm 5 years older than my brother and he's 6 foot something while I am 5'4. He's athletic and has a deep voice, nice jawline, no more baby fat. (Although I wanna shave off his stupid hair cut haha) but I feel jealous of him all the time. I wish I had those features everyday.
I know how you feel man. It's tough. I've got three older brothers and I've had to grow up my entire life being "the only girl" out of four kids. My mom always post how "beautiful my daughter is" with older pictures of me. And I am jealous of all my brothers, there are different things about them but it was hard growing up around them and having to be a "girl" for my mom.
I get jelaus so fast. The worst is in school and with friends. I feel like they treat guys much better than they treat me in a way.. I am not jelaus because I am treated worse than them, but because im treated different. I hope they will be able to see me as a guy after a while on testosterone..
I have a younger bro too. We're 5 years apart. I can relate to everything you're saying here. 14 years into transition and my mom still posts pics of my bro and calls him handsome, but not with me. Not that she's ashamed I guess but she tries in other ways.
I can relate to this, I'm actually realy jealous of my 16 year old brother since this year... He's now a little tiny bit taller than me (I'm 5.8) but whenever sombody points that out I deny it like a little child and say that we are the same hight :P it's stupid I know but it bothers me so much... and just about two weeks ago he got his first three chin hairs and prodly showed them off to me... I then made fun of him and said that it isn't really a beard that's growing and that I even have more facial hair, which is unfair to say but yeah... I hope you don't think now that I'm an immature little kid, I'll actually turn 19 soon =P
I'm actually alright with my younger brother, but being with my really handsome mascy cis boyfriend as a 5'3" gay trans guy...jealousy gets me in trouble all the time. What would I give to be 5'9"...
Mack I feel you man I have a 20 year old brother and I'm a few weeks away from 16 and being assigned female at birth and identifying as a guy with a pretty religious family has been tough, my mom will post pictures of me and him and all the comments will be like oh *birth name* is becoming such a beautiful young lady SHE looks so pretty, while other comments will be about my brother saying how handsome he is and how he's turning into a good looking young man and I just wish the comments would be like "you have such handsome sons wow they're both turning into some handsome young men" but unfortunately I don't think that will ever happen. I am pretty fortunate though to have a really great choir family at school with a really supportive teacher and the guys in the class all accept me as one of them so even though my biological family isn't super supportive I have a pretty big and loving family at school
You're handsome like Elvis, wait no. *Handsomer* 😉. Lol. Yeah I get you man. My brother just went to his prom yesterday and he was wearing this really nice suit, and though I was super happy for him and was wishing for him to have a good time (He did.) ...I was very jealous. People always say me and my bro look alike, but it never makes me happy. It’s just a clearer reminder that I'm like him a lot more than they think and I can never show it. Mother's day has been pretty hard too. Just a bunch of relatives saying that I'm becoming such a beautiful women. "Best granddaughter ever! My beautiful little cousin! You'd you cut all that pretty hair off? Why don't you have a purse?" Okay Imma stop blabbing now. TL;DR I'm jealous of my bro and I hate being called a lady.
Thanks for sharing man, and thanks for the compliment 😊 I totally relate with the brother thing :/ And, ugg the relative thing drives me crazy! I don't want to be mad at them because they're not intentionally trying to hurt me, but gosh...It sucks man, I feel you!
+FTMsuperMAN Hey man! Good question! No, he doesn't know yet. I plan on coming out to him sometime in the next few months. I go to college 7 hours away from home, so I only see him a few times a year.
Thanks for sharing your opinion. My brother actually has 20/20 vision, and has a very bright and neurotypical brain. Bless. Coming out for LGBT people can be a very big deal. For some, it's a piece of cake. Others fear facing judgement, harassment, and disownment from their friends, family, and employers. My mom and dad were very shocked to learn I was trans. Their brains have been wired to think of me as a girl since the day I was born. My brother might be a little surprised as well. And, as for my brother, he lives hundreds of miles away from me. We don't talk or see each other often. Hope this answers your question! :)
Ohhh honey.. just wait until hes older. yes im the oldest, my brother is 3 years younger then me. How ever hes a cop and he was in the service. BEFORE he went into the service everything was awesome like he was my EVERYTHING.. We were ok up until i told our mom that the girl he was with was gonna use him n so forth, n when i spoke my mind he flipped shit. When he came back from the service and then he went to the police department n then things have went nuts. i can say i love u as much as god will allow me but he wont say it to save his life.. all u can do sweets is love him from afar and let him do the rest. if he wants to do stuff w/ u then so be it. do it.. but if not its best to stand afar n let things be.. How ever im so proud of you for being u n doing u.. do u have a fb?? hugs
Thanks for this amazing comment, and sharing your about your brother :) I really love how you said, "All you can do is love him from afar and let him do the rest." The past few days I've been about- you can't control other people, you can only control how you react to them. Other people's negative words and actions are THEIR shit, not mine. I don't have to let their negativity transfer onto me. I don't use Facebook, but my Twitter is @_MackMan :)
Grr ive obly only got 2 fb pages. Our normal page and our work page.. Get a fb. Lol or a email n ill send u my cell number so we can keep n touch better of ur down??
recently i’ve been feeling like this as my younger brother’s voice has started to get deeper and my dad jokes around about seeing a mustache on him. I used to be able to relate to him because we were similar - we were the boys of the family. but now it feels like he’s the boy and i’m the one pretending to be a boy. I have a sister, too, who i’m a lot closer with, but i still feel separate from her because i’m not a girl. It hurts a lot seeing him grow up before me. I’m older. I’m supposed to have a deeper voice before him. I’m supposed to grow facial hair before he does. I’m supposed to be taller than him.
From a non trans perspective, this was very eye opening. I have a trans brother and I myself am not trans. I never thought much about his feelings on our biological differences. Thank you for giving me not only something to think about, but to address with him personally. I want him proud of who he is and where he came from.
Mack, I'm in 2022 and sincerely apologize for seeing this very late. I can't imagine what all the struggles you had to go through up to present day, but I just need to say that I felt my heartstrings being pulled so hard by your commentary in this video.
From the current profile pic you have, let me be one to say that you DO look like such a HANDSOME young lad. Giga Chad. It may not mean much because it's from an internet stranger, not any close family friend or relative, but I genuinely think that and wish you the best in the rest of your life as fine gentleman!
Thanks so much for the kind words - means a lot!! ☺️ Wishing you the best, as well!!
hello Mack, it is 2022 and im in tears as im in a similar situation as you used to be. Seeing someone in a similar situatuin helps i guess. Also have a cis younger brother.
I definitely get jealous of people i see on the street
I got the feels on this one. I'm not much jealous of my brother but I have been jealous of my guy friends in this way. Most of my friends have families now and I'll never have that in the way I wish I could. It pisses me off when guys take for granted their ability to have kids with a woman.
one of my "ok, I'm definitely trans" moments for me which I remember so, so vividly was sitting in class behind a boy and just like... looking at the shape of his back & I mean he was like such a classic "men are triangles" shape you know? lmao & I was just looking at him & felt this stab of "why can't I have that" & since then honestly I feel jealous just seeing cis guys walk past me hahaha :,D
I feel that! I want the triangle, man, not the hourglass ugh 😭
i know this is 5 years old but,, i feel this so hard, but about my cousin. he's three years younger than me and I'm so fucking jealous of him. apart from the physical aspects that i wish i had, there's also the way he's perceived by and interacts with our family as a son/nephew that I'll never get to experience. one thing that got to me a while back was how my dad bonded with him over cutting wood with an axe, and the moment i wanted to participate, dad dismissed me and all i could think of was how I'll never be perceived as his son, but always his daughter. there's also the aspect of him being the literal clone of his dad in his youth and being told that by everyone,, i wish i was in the same position.
i love him dearly, he's a wonderful guy, but damn if these things dont get to me sometimes :')
Honestly I'm very jealous of cis dudes
And can't even look at them without painful envy 😕....
I wish I was a cis guy 😭
Get testicles transplant from your father
I'm jealous of guys cause they have a flat chest. But oh well, I'll just get a binder when I'm older.
P.s. Ilysm
+Emma chan I feel you about the flat chests! And, thanks so much- you made my day :)
You shouldn't thank me, your the one who always makes my day :) but thank you
Hi Mack!
I'm a non-binary transgender and I feel exactly the same way. When I was younger my brother was always able to roam our town with no time to come home. But since I am dfab I always had to be home at a certain time, even if I was with friends. It made me feel like my mom was playing favorites and made me very sad. My brother was into Football and was so great at it and all I did was draw. Now he's currently enlisted in the Army and she seems so proud of him. My mom seems proud of my art but sometimes I feel it can't meet up to his standards that he built. (I do have a few mental illnesses that stop me from having a "normal" life but I still feel like a failure a lot). Though my brother is only 5'8" because his dad was really short and so is our mom. I'm 5'5 1/2" so on my more masculine days it feels weird. If my mom was to post pictures of me and say her I would get the comments of "Oh she's x" or "She's xyz" and I really don't like hearing that. So I do get angry, jealous, and sad of my brother or even other men on the streets sometimes. And even other non-binaries, transgender, etc I get angry, jealous, and sad of. I don't want to be angry, jealous, or sad but sometimes I can't really help it.
Hey yeah, I've got that too.
I completely adore my little brother (he's 16), but just the last time I can't see him without noticing: his voice, his moustache (he hates it, and it feels so weird because I can have one and doesn't want it, and I cannot and damn want facial hair!), his muscles, his length, his eyebrows...
I'm so damn jealous of him, but I don't want to feel jealous, it's my little cute brother!
it's okay I feel you dude! my brother is starting to grow a beard and he's so tall and all I do is compare myself to him . I wish I could be taller so badly and having a flat chest and a deeper voice 😭. but I still love him just super jealous of him rn
I have jealousy towards my cis male friends definitely. Like especially about voice and height because we'll all be talking about I'm that one squeaky voice in the group and if we all stand around I'm always the shortest at 5'3" ish
I'm 5 years older than my brother and he's 6 foot something while I am 5'4. He's athletic and has a deep voice, nice jawline, no more baby fat. (Although I wanna shave off his stupid hair cut haha) but I feel jealous of him all the time. I wish I had those features everyday.
I know how you feel man. It's tough. I've got three older brothers and I've had to grow up my entire life being "the only girl" out of four kids. My mom always post how "beautiful my daughter is" with older pictures of me. And I am jealous of all my brothers, there are different things about them but it was hard growing up around them and having to be a "girl" for my mom.
Same it makes me sad
I relate so hard
I get jelaus so fast. The worst is in school and with friends. I feel like they treat guys much better than they treat me in a way.. I am not jelaus because I am treated worse than them, but because im treated different. I hope they will be able to see me as a guy after a while on testosterone..
That sucks :/ Hang in there bro!
I have a younger bro too. We're 5 years apart. I can relate to everything you're saying here. 14 years into transition and my mom still posts pics of my bro and calls him handsome, but not with me. Not that she's ashamed I guess but she tries in other ways.
I can relate to this, I'm actually realy jealous of my 16 year old brother since this year... He's now a little tiny bit taller than me (I'm 5.8) but whenever sombody points that out I deny it like a little child and say that we are the same hight :P it's stupid I know but it bothers me so much... and just about two weeks ago he got his first three chin hairs and prodly showed them off to me... I then made fun of him and said that it isn't really a beard that's growing and that I even have more facial hair, which is unfair to say but yeah... I hope you don't think now that I'm an immature little kid, I'll actually turn 19 soon =P
+Joe Black No, I do the same thing! I'm 5 inches shorter than my brother, but always call him a "short stack," and claim he's NOT taller than me haha!
Haha cool I'm not the only one xD now I feel less pathetic :P
Dude, I feel this. I have a younger brother (he's 20 and I'm 21) and I'm jealous of both his height and his facial hair. *sigh*
Omg I love you so much thanks for replying
How has your brother been about your transition? Is he accepting?
I'm jealous of my lil bro too, he's also 17 and I wish I could get the comments he gets
don't feel bad! I'm only 5 foot 3
I'm actually alright with my younger brother, but being with my really handsome mascy cis boyfriend as a 5'3" gay trans guy...jealousy gets me in trouble all the time.
What would I give to be 5'9"...
My bro just turned 13. I am sooo jealous.
But it's ok, I have someone to look up to!:D
You resemble Elvis Presley.
Mack I feel you man I have a 20 year old brother and I'm a few weeks away from 16 and being assigned female at birth and identifying as a guy with a pretty religious family has been tough, my mom will post pictures of me and him and all the comments will be like oh *birth name* is becoming such a beautiful young lady SHE looks so pretty, while other comments will be about my brother saying how handsome he is and how he's turning into a good looking young man and I just wish the comments would be like "you have such handsome sons wow they're both turning into some handsome young men" but unfortunately I don't think that will ever happen. I am pretty fortunate though to have a really great choir family at school with a really supportive teacher and the guys in the class all accept me as one of them so even though my biological family isn't super supportive I have a pretty big and loving family at school
I'm glad you have a support group at school! Friends can often be so much more accepting than family.
I'm 5'2''... at best D'X
George I get you. I’m 5’1” and it causes me horrible dysphoria...rip
You're handsome like Elvis, wait no. *Handsomer* 😉.
Lol. Yeah I get you man. My brother just went to his prom yesterday and he was wearing this really nice suit, and though I was super happy for him and was wishing for him to have a good time (He did.) ...I was very jealous. People always say me and my bro look alike, but it never makes me happy. It’s just a clearer reminder that I'm like him a lot more than they think and I can never show it. Mother's day has been pretty hard too. Just a bunch of relatives saying that I'm becoming such a beautiful women. "Best granddaughter ever! My beautiful little cousin! You'd you cut all that pretty hair off? Why don't you have a purse?"
Okay Imma stop blabbing now.
TL;DR I'm jealous of my bro and I hate being called a lady.
Thanks for sharing man, and thanks for the compliment 😊 I totally relate with the brother thing :/ And, ugg the relative thing drives me crazy! I don't want to be mad at them because they're not intentionally trying to hurt me, but gosh...It sucks man, I feel you!
Mack you are handsome u are such a hunk
Haha thanks 😉
Hey Mac, how's it going?
does your bro know that you're trans? I'm curious.
+FTMsuperMAN Hey man! Good question! No, he doesn't know yet. I plan on coming out to him sometime in the next few months. I go to college 7 hours away from home, so I only see him a few times a year.
+MackMan hope all goes well when you come out to him. Is she your only sibling?
+FTMsuperMAN Yeah, just the one brother. And, thank you :)
Thanks for sharing your opinion. My brother actually has 20/20 vision, and has a very bright and neurotypical brain. Bless. Coming out for LGBT people can be a very big deal. For some, it's a piece of cake. Others fear facing judgement, harassment, and disownment from their friends, family, and employers. My mom and dad were very shocked to learn I was trans. Their brains have been wired to think of me as a girl since the day I was born. My brother might be a little surprised as well. And, as for my brother, he lives hundreds of miles away from me. We don't talk or see each other often. Hope this answers your question! :)
How could they be shocked? If you walked past me on a street I could clearly tell your homosexual. So how were they shocked
I'm only 4'9 and a half
Ohhh honey.. just wait until hes older. yes im the oldest, my brother is 3 years younger then me. How ever hes a cop and he was in the service. BEFORE he went into the service everything was awesome like he was my EVERYTHING.. We were ok up until i told our mom that the girl he was with was gonna use him n so forth, n when i spoke my mind he flipped shit. When he came back from the service and then he went to the police department n then things have went nuts. i can say i love u as much as god will allow me but he wont say it to save his life.. all u can do sweets is love him from afar and let him do the rest. if he wants to do stuff w/ u then so be it. do it.. but if not its best to stand afar n let things be.. How ever im so proud of you for being u n doing u.. do u have a fb?? hugs
Thanks for this amazing comment, and sharing your about your brother :) I really love how you said, "All you can do is love him from afar and let him do the rest." The past few days I've been about- you can't control other people, you can only control how you react to them. Other people's negative words and actions are THEIR shit, not mine. I don't have to let their negativity transfer onto me. I don't use Facebook, but my Twitter is @_MackMan :)
Grr ive obly only got 2 fb pages. Our normal page and our work page.. Get a fb. Lol or a email n ill send u my cell number so we can keep n touch better of ur down??
hey sweets. my email is ktnkennylee1290@aol.com in the subject bar just let me know its u before I delete it.. k ty.. cant wait to talk to u.
the moment I'm not sure rather I'm attracted to a guy on the mentro, or if I'm just jealous #bi
You are reburn Elvis maybe lol. I was a afro in past life. IT takes time. Let IT be
I'm 5"6 😖😭
Delusional ! 😢
Whatever
Lacrosse
Have u talked to him recently can u update us 😸
Dude, I feel this. I have a younger brother (he's 20 and I'm 21) and I'm jealous of both his height and his facial hair. *sigh*