I know being" old" and transitioning late in life.I did do it the right route.Therapy, trans doctor. I agree with a lot you say but being in the right mindset and the right doctors is a main point. Estradiol is like a fountain of youth. I look better, feel better. But having the right mindset is the key. Thanks for all you do.
I didn't transition until I was 59 years old. Was it worth it at this age? Absolutely! I wish I had done it when I was a teenager, but that was in the '70s when just talking about it could get you committed to a mental hospital. I looked into transitioning when I was 12 in 1970, but I was scared off. I got married and had a family. For 35 years I dreamed of being a woman every single day and the desire only became stronger. My wife passed away when I was 58 and I was lost. I started crossdressing and quickly decided to transition M to F. I have been a transwoman for nearly 5 years and I've never been happier in my life. It was well worth the time and effort to finally live as I was meant to. I love your videos, Maya and I been subscribed since the beginning. You inspired me to go for it by being so beautiful! Thank you for being you! ❤❤
I am 58, a year behind, and I'm finally transitioning. It's a unique experience. If there was no outside world, or I hadn't been married to a lovely wife, I would feel euphoric. I love being who I always knew I was, I love all of it but the loss. Anyway, it's so good to see someone my age. It's hard and great. Currently, I am battling my insurance to get FFS. We'll see. Anyway, I'm so glad for you. I really am. It gives me something to aim for. Thanks.
Unbelievably I did not start estrogen/transitioning until I was 67!! After getting top notch FFS from Dr. Speigel I now appear to be 45 and, if I may be self-indulgent, look MARVELOUS!! You're NEVER too old! I am, presently, living the greatest chapter of my life!!
I find you a very positive happy force in the trans community. Something I personally was never good at. I started transition at 29, did the crazy pre op 2 year bottom surgery journey and made hundreds of life decision mistakes that later turned into blessings and it created the person I became. As a general rule I have never really liked people. I was one of those people who was married and had children from a previous relationships. It was like I stated, mistakes that later turned into blessings. My children are grown adults now and one even has two children of her own. Two beautiful grandkids that are a part of my life. Physicality expectations ..I was realistic and I had little access to certain things that would have made life in public a little easier like breast augmentation and FFS. (although nearing the 60 yo mark I decided to finally do something for me again and get the augmentation this summer providing the doctor doesn't bump the surgery again) I still get grief from closed minded individuals but for the most part people don't see or they are polite enough to just be quiet and accepting. I found forcing myself to work in public was the only way to keep myself from becoming a cave troll. And did you ever decide on a keyboard/synthesizer? There are some pretty affordable options out there that are midi/software related. Its a whole thing and would be happy to make more suggestions.
thanks for the nice video, as a physician who transitioned at 56, after a long discussion with my wife (she totally supported me, we have been together for 41 years now). I can agree that transitioning older can be a bit tough, luckily I was very feminine in features to start, and I have had little pushback, even in small town Nova Scotia
I appreciate how you pointed out the downsides to many if not all of these major decisions. This is a very difficult road to go down... I am in awe of those that have the strength to follow it. Great video.
I started medically transitioning at 40 and, six years later and two surgeries, I am glad I did. Your videos were helpful in the beginning as one of the only Canadians Trans UA-camrs I could find at the time. 🇨🇦 Great stuff to think about and you cover a lot of ground. I know it will help people who have this question.
Wow, what an excellent exploratory and educational video Maya. You are telling it like it is, in your usual humorous way. I’m a 73 year old non-binary trans-femme and have been following you ever since I saw you in “Dawn, her dad and the Tractor.”
You're good. My trans groups and pych pushed me to come out. I don't belong to anygroup cis or trans and yet I feel bound to women, men and transwomen and transmen. I came out hoping to help people colm down about this entire thing. Instead they stopped following me. You go girl. I love what you are doing.
You are such a inspiration and I enjoy listening to your stories about transitioning. I hope you continue to have a wonderful life and ignore the negative hater’s ❤️♍️🗝🧙🏻♂️
I enjoy listening to your videos and appreciate your experience. As an older trans female. my experiences and perspectives are different than most YT videos. While I want to pass and be accepted and be involved, I don't worry much about what family and friends think. I just want to live my authentic life and be happy. Age grants you wisdom to not care about what society thinks.
I am very surprised by my courage and tenacity in transitioning and did not know I had it in me. I don't have 40 or 50 years to enjoy my authentic gender so I have to make the most of the 20 years I have left thus I must go as far as I can go as fast as I can.@@ariaferger822
Hi Maya as you know from my occasional commenting in your lives streams, I began my transition in the late 1970's & am now well over 4 & half decades of taking cross sex hormones post puberty. I was informed by a medical professional after I asking why I had lost just over 1.5" of my height during the first decade or so on hormones. That the hormones reduce the tissue between the bones and that is why some folks report getting a bit shorter. I was 5'10' 5" at age 16 & by age 29 I was 5'9". I am now just under 5'9". As people begin to get old they do tend to shrink & that is normal. I'm 59 now, I will let you know if i get any shorter in my 70's or if the effects of taking hormones long term as already gotten me to my old age height prematurely. I know of others who started hormones young who are now 50 plus upwards who experienced the same height loss too.
I'm pushing 55 and I started Spironolactone 10 weeks ago, I'll be starting Estradiol in about 2 weeks. Even just 2 months in I feel worlds better. It's not too late. Really it isn't.
I've followed you a long time, your evolution has been an inspiration! The information on Disphoria opened up my eyes to what i felt for many years,but I didn't have a way to explain it to myself, let alone anyone else! So, I've watched lots of videos, on April 12 I began HRT! Im 80, have no illusions that i can turn back time, but i can live as best i can to be authentic in the time remaning to me. Best of wishes to you, your content has always been valuable to me! ❤❤❤
I was kind of forced out to my partner. She read my journal... It was very bad but eventually she 'accepted it'. for weeks, she looked at me with disgust if i had earrings or nail polish. She's accepted the earrings now but she doesnt understand that its PAINFUL to not be able to express myself in the way i want.
Your comments on the shittiness of starting after having a family/long term relationship really hit. I get it, absolutely, and you do soften it a bit - but I didn’t know until about 3 weeks ago. Or more accurately, I couldn’t admit it to myself. And I agree that for my wife, it’s pretty shitty, and I’m going to be carrying that guilt. Looking back now, I do feel pretty dumb for not realizing (much) sooner… but it is what it is.
I know a girl who had GRS in Montreal at age 65 in 2021. Since then these have been the happiest years of her life ! If one is healthy then one is not too old to transition !
As I have said before, these videos are incredible. You have a beautiful way of laying down facts and sharing your personal experience. A true inspiration. Can't wait for the next one.
The reason why you may not transition until you are older is quite simple. I was a teenager in the 1970's and the options that you have today simply didn't exist then. No one talked about it you just had to figure it out yourself! Amanda G ❤
Been following you about 4 or 5 years I think. I’m a physician and have a couple of Transgender patients and I follow you to learn. I always want to give my patients my best and your channel has been very helpful. So thank you. So wise beyond your years
With a great head start anyone could be like this and they DONT face severe discrimination every day. The negative claims about Maya are 110% true. There's a vicious person I witness tonight on his or her live stream earlier. A catty mean girl type
Very difficult topic Maya. Your courageous to open yourself up and offer your experience and feelings. I hope your audience finds support in your thoughts and reach out to you with questions they have.
12:00 No, it really did change all those things, my shoe size shrank 2 sizes because the shape arches, the height does shrink because of pelvic tilt, and arched back. The posture and curve structures of all my muscles changed. My beard and body hair is diminishing, while my scalp hair is growing back. It really does happen.
I started my 6th attempt at transition 20 months ago, at 55. I actually had an accidental transition at 15, with an estrogen emulator. I didn't realize I looked like a woman at 19, but the natural T kicked in, and ruined everything. I wish I was more informed in the 80s to do everything right, but the lack of money, and literature, the uninformed therapists, the risky self-meds, the lack of support from everywhere, nothing was easy. That's why most of us couldn't do it until recently. But the freedom and confidence building, gaining our true selves back, is our birthright. Nobody has a right to tell us we can't, decide our destiny, our wishes, fantasies, self-fulfillment, enjoyment, because the there is nothing worse than people ordering and manipulating me into their beliefs and control structures, that make everyone miserable, but them. No matter what age, nobody owns you.
A beautiful woman with a beautiful background gives impressive. Really good advice. I swear I've seen videos with the same subject. Thank you for the very informative video girlfriend. I plan to make some major progress this year towards my transition.
Wow great video. I’m only 37, but still a later start than a lot of trans women. I just started HRT a week ago and am so excited for the process. My head literally feels more clear already 💕
It must mean having Trans feelings, experimenting with with less than obvious clothing, closer-fitting jeans, shaving twice or thrice a day to get rid of facial and body hair by less costly means, wearing lilac with blue, soft textiles, not try to copy and only buy, make my own space, do not invade or pretend. Anyway, ❤ from Petra-Brown
I am 70 years old and I started transition Aug.15,2018. so I'd say nope, but it's up to your endocrinologist, mine was and is concerned about PE and DVT, so far no problem she said first sign of either I would be taken off E. Bummer but to be fair I guess most women are off E by now naturally and don't do well on substitute.
Wow, I am commenting twice. Much of what you stated i can relate to as an over 60 trans woman on my own journey. I am definitely doing this for myself and not to attract a partner. It is about my own happiness. Also, I am in a relationship and sorting out my and our future. This is definitely the hardest part of my transition. We have a long history that complicates this decision. If I were 20, I would go all the way with medical transition, but after 60, I have to weigh the risks and costs of these surgeries. At 20, I may have 50 to 60 years to experience and enjoy. At 60, I only have 10 to 25 years. Lastly, I loved your thumbnail. When i saw it the first time, i thought what a handsome woman. When I see beautiful women of my age group, handsome always comes to mind because their beauty has aged very well. I aspire to be seen as an older, handsome woman who takes care of themself and is well put together. That will make me happy.
Maya ... this was a very well put-together presentation! Lots of good into. There were some points that I had examples of, which I thought I'd share. On the topic of transitioning when in a relationship, I've been fascinated watching Alexis Blake's channel, as she had been in a committed (not sure if they were married yet or not) gay relationship with Liam, who seems to be quite supportive of her transition. The possible dynamics of that are real iffy, and it's so nice seeing how they're developing in the new reality. On the topic of age ... I had an acquaintance a number of years ago (who I lost track of in the Covid insanity), who was in their 50's when they decided to do a MtF transition. She didn't have a lot of advantages going in, as her face was a bit like a late-career Walter Matthau, but she got a great new hairdo from a mutual acquaintance who is a top stylist in town, and got some help with appropriate clothes, I don't know what happened with her, she'd gone to her new name on all her socials, but then shut them all down. In my case, I can talk about the effects of T-blockers. As I've not doubt mentioned, I've been on Lupron for about five years now, and Zytiga in addition for about 3 years (treating my radiation-resistant prostate cancer). There are LOT of changes with just shutting off the testosterone. Aside from the basic stuff (the equipment downstairs doesn't work anymore), I had massive muscle loss ... I've described it as going from Brutus to Olive Oyl in about 2 years ... which has been pretty depressing. I've lost nearly all my body hair, and my facial hair is starting to go ... with my moustache being on its last legs (I haven't trimmed it in two years and it's just barely there). On the plus side, I went from being a big stinky guy to having practically no B.O., and my hair goes forever without getting greasy. So, even without any estrogen, there are all sorts of feminization that comes with just eliminating the T. Anyway, great vid. See you on a live soon, I'm sure.
I hope that everyone seeking gender affirming care have the easiest journey possible. Younger generations should have it easier with each generation. I'm now 50 and have been so inspired by how younger generations are leveraging technology as a tool to create support and community. (Edited for spelling typos)
You are one of the most successful transwomen on the earth you are stunningly beautiful, sensual, witty, and your surgery was successful with no complications... I heard many bottom surgeries have had many complications and were not happy with the final results... I hope Maya you have a long happy life...
I always knew I was trans deep down but my family are devout Christians that see the trans as blasphemy and even now whilst waiting to be seen by the GIC they are still expecting me to live a lie. Now I’m 39 years old and kinda anxious about my transitional journey. Any advice?
Hi, Maya and Happy Thursday!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷💖💖💖💖💖💖🎇🎇🎇🎇👍. Your videos are so wonderful with amazing facts and topics about being a normal and fantastic person. I loved it!😍💙💙💙💙💙💙💙👍
Thank you sooo much. Your videos make my life delightful, as I keep asking this question to myself again and again. My cultural background does not allow me to do so, I am still struggling with my parents.
@@amieguerin4107 Thank you so much, but I can't. It is not easy talking about LGBT here. Somehow, I felt guilty about cannot being as a so called "normal person “, although I understand this is not my fault. I kept watching Maya's updates since 2016, she gives a kind hope in my gloomy days. Jumping off from a 28 flours building won't make any change as I learnt in those days. As some sort of payback to parents raided me up, there are something I need to carry on. The life is still hopeful. I have to delay the transition plan.
This is very important specially when you said “do it for you”. A lot of “trans” people do it for the wrong reasons like to appease others or social media is a factor and look for reactions from others and approval from others and creates a very hateful environment.
It is never too late - especially from my perspective. I started at 49 yrs old and my happiest days have mostly all been since that day when I became my true self; I no longer needed to try to be a guy. I was pretty much in the dark as to the feasibility of doing so -- I thought this was impossible. I never subscribed to the cultural norms. A long time ago I transitioned into a vegan lifestyle; the confidence I had in my self after this good decision helped me to seriously consider other non-traditional life choices. I have certainly found Maya's channel to be tremendously helpful along the way.
I loved this video. Very explanatory and will probably help a lot of people. Yes, a video of your voice would be very interesting for the next video. 🙌🏻👏🏼❤
Hi Maya , your videos are very inspirational to the trans community I love watching your videos. They are great to see what another train person experience when they were growing up keep making good videos they’re the best.
Thank you so much Maya I really appreciated this video with all the interesting and affirming knowledge. Though I did come here thinking you'd do an age by age effects of transitioning
I’m mtf transgender and I don’t believe or agree parents of children at dependent ages should transition. I don’t agree that’s ethical. Doesn’t have anything to do with age, has everything to do with responsibilities you’ve taken.
@@MoonRiver_118 very simple. Do you owe your identity to a duty? Then it’s not yours to alter. When you have children you owe your children stability. I wouldn’t call an changing your entire perceived identity stability. Duty first. I believe in the same principle for the military. And I’m a navy veteran too, so I can hold that. In order to be deployable you have to be able to use gender specific safe spaces. I think people on non deployment orders without parties who rely on them can transition ethically. If you’re betraying duty in any capacity for your selfish need to rip others understanding and/or need of your identity away from them, then you’re not transitioning ethnicity. Even if you have kids that doesn’t mean it’ll never be ethical. It just means you need to be patient; because you owe your child a father or mother or whatever roll you made your child under. Duty has really come to escape my fellow Americans.
I started at age 61, grew up in the 60's and transition was unheard of. I always knew I was meant to be female. I finally started after much research. Now I'm happier and feeling better about myself. The journey is hard , but well worth everything.
I love hearing your voice and your wise and truly true words, Maya. You are an inspiration to many trans girls. And you are a special and beautiful attractive woman that many like me would love to have as a beautiful and super girlfriend.❤❤
Thank for your video. Im 39 now come out last year after many years of suppressed i want to be happy in myself and on waiting list for gender clinic. Ive got so much support at work people call me lucia and her pronouns. I notice im losing my hair just as ive not grown it long. I cant bear this male traits im desperate to remove. My hear melts when people say i look pretty. That why i cant leave the house with out make up. Take care❤❤❤❤
im one year younger than you but i havent started. i really want to but i fear i might not pass. i am short and have large eyes with positive canthal tilt, also my friends tell me my voice sounds like a teenager so i those things going for me but i also have like no hips and broad shoulders. i also have a beard shadow that i hope electro can remove but also chest hair which would get to expensive to get electro for my entire torso :/
I started medical transition four years ago, at the age of 53, after having a family and being separated. Growing up very sheltered in the 70s, I didn’t know, and I started to transition as soon as I discovered. I change in the women’s, where else? I’ve had two gender surgeries last year. It would be highly inappropriate to use the men’s change room. It can be difficult for me sometimes, depending on my dysphoria, but I want to be at the athletic centre, my goal is to work hard on getting this body in shape and play the sports I enjoy. I am very sensitive to others’ feelings, and would not want anyone to be uncomfortable. I am sad to think that I may not belong there as any other woman does. The inside matters more than the outside. I appreciate your videos, thanks.
I did not start transitioning until I was 64 and currently 67. When I was your age, transitioning was not something that was possible. People have been very accepting of my transition and very complimentary of my fashion sense. I had a Mac Cosmetics stylist help me with my makeup. Hope to start HRT shortly. The only negative has been the political part as the state I live in and all of the surrounding states have passed laws making being transgender much more difficult. I feel bad for the young people trying to transition and cannot get the medical care at point in their life that will be best for them.
Definitely a difficult topic to cover. I also think protecting women's spaces is important, and transgender women belong in those spaces too. I love your videos and I'm so glad you tackled this topic and say that it's never too late. I hope you really do understand that there are SO many reasons why a person would not transition earlier in life, and instead go on to have a spouse and children. Some don't understand what they are feeling or what it means, and others do but have been repressing who they truly are because of family, peer, and societal pressure, until they can't take it any more. People born in the 60's were raised with a whole different attitude about gender roles and identity than people born in the 90's, for example. And society has changed dramatically over my 60 years on this planet, in many ways for the better; although we often seem more divided now than ever at times. But I don't think any older man is medically transitioning just for access to women's spaces; and if they are simply putting on lipstick and earrings to access those spaces, then they really aren't transgender in the first place. They would just be creeps "putting lipstick on a pig". That shouldn't give transgender people a bad reputation. It's like a racist bigot Christian would NOT really be a Christian, because they don't act like one (or think like one). I was raised Jewish and was tormented by antisemites growing up, but in my 30's I became a Christian for my salvation, and not so that I could judge others for their lifestyle and try to legislate it out of existence. God loves us all, and Jesus was the "new covenant" who threw out the old covenant - the one that would condemn the LGBTQA+ community was tossed. We support you and the good work you do educating people about these issues.
Personally, even though I was afraid of living as myself, I have always told anyone I was getting involved with that I was trans before taking that step with them. It took until I was nearly 50 to get past my fears abd start my transition. With that being said I understood that I would lose family and friends, and I accepted that. I was lucky that some became closer to me. What I never considered was after I started to transition and I was accepted as a woman and lady by a male partners, that when discussions about things from my past freaked them out. Because they only saw Julia, and had never met that person I hid as.
I'm 52 and started hrt 4 months ago i was 9 when i knew i was different but due things back then it was hard to make people understand how i felt back in the 80's it was hard then i had a partner and we had 4 children but she knew how a felt .i have been think about this way to long
7:00 I found the people I thought would be more accepting of me transitioning, didn't, and the ones that I thought wouldn't accept me did. But much of that could be that my usefulness/skills outweighed me being the other gender.
It's so wild to me we started hrt at the same age, yet you look like you skipped male puberty and got blockers young. Hopefully ffs will help me look more like you 😅 Also.. I 100% agree with what you said at the end
Love to listen to you❣️, it helps a lot, if possible please do a video on voice feminization, I am 30 years old and on hormones for 1 year, mostly I look feminine but my voice no matter what I try it is hard to have a feminine voice 😢
I'm FTM, I didn't start my transition until I was in my mid 30's. I never took puberty blockers, but back in the 80's I never even knew what transgender was. I'd say it was a little harder later in life just because more surgeries are involved than stopping what would occur otherwise? I think anyone at any age can transition to any degree as long as your body can handle it. My friend just started her transition in her early 70's, and she's so happy to finally have the body she wanted!
😢Good for you. It is incredibly important to be yourself and to choose a life of happiness. Cheers from Yukon Canada. Mark. PS Don't let the jerk bigots and homophobes get you down. 😊
My mom soften up some because of her favorite mama's boy, Me. Im a very progressive strait male that could never understand the hatred and bigotry of people. I'm glad my mom who recently passed in her late 80s learned how to see people with a different lens. The connection that developed between us over my 21st century views was heart warming to me. Edited for spelling errors.😡
I had GRS at 57, during the Pandemic. When I started my medical transition at 53, I told my Dr. that I wanted the surgery before I was 60, and I did it. Surgery isn't for everyone, but for me, it's what I wanted. An acquaintance had GRS at 73! So you are never too old to transition, but you have to medically and mentally fit to do it.
Hi Maya. Sorry I missed your video yesterday. I don’t know how I missed it. I guess I was a day late and a dollar short lol. Hi Elio! Have a good day and catch you all again soon 💕
I have a dear friend who transitioned late in life, and is bitter that she didn’t do it earlier-she feels unattractive due to transitioning late. I think she’s really attractive, but it’s difficult to convince her of that.
Thinking that finding one's self in a committed relationship as "shitty" or having "bravery" for not having given full disclosure is an oversimplification of the complex psychological chaos that someone suffering from Gender Dysphoria is experiencing; especially for older people who did not have the convenience of readily available and ongoing discourse on the matter. I grew up in a very rural, isolated environment, where just being effeminate could result in immediate family scorn and public shaming; if suspected of being gay could get one killed, at worse. A person in that position weighs all of that, the negatives, against the benefits of compliance to social normative behaviors and traits representative of specifics in one's gender identity and need for biologic mimickrey as the primary means for overcoming self loathing for not fitting in. I do side with you where being the father or mother, already, of a young family (children are not yet independent) is a serious matter and could have a devastating impact on developing minds; in this case, I think, it would be best to suffer in an effort for best outcomes for the children. After that, it would be negotiable; it is a regrettable position to find oneself in. It is best to know these confusions can be worked out before serious commitments are made. Unless the person who has a family is absolute in their thinking that their needs supercedes that of any immediate family members and they act on that, causing harm to others by their narcissism, then I would have a very hard time agreeing with you when you indiscriminately claim they are "shitty" and devoid of "bravery."
I know being" old" and transitioning late in life.I did do it the right route.Therapy, trans doctor. I agree with a lot you say but being in the right mindset and the right doctors is a main point. Estradiol is like a fountain of youth. I look better, feel better. But having the right mindset is the key. Thanks for all you do.
Doctors only allow older persons to take estrogen patches or gel and not pills!😮
Estrodial saved my life. I was having such a tug of war before. With HRT I am learning to relax.
I didn't transition until I was 59 years old. Was it worth it at this age? Absolutely! I wish I had done it when I was a teenager, but that was in the '70s when just talking about it could get you committed to a mental hospital. I looked into transitioning when I was 12 in 1970, but I was scared off. I got married and had a family. For 35 years I dreamed of being a woman every single day and the desire only became stronger. My wife passed away when I was 58 and I was lost. I started crossdressing and quickly decided to transition M to F. I have been a transwoman for nearly 5 years and I've never been happier in my life. It was well worth the time and effort to finally live as I was meant to.
I love your videos, Maya and I been subscribed since the beginning. You inspired me to go for it by being so beautiful! Thank you for being you! ❤❤
I am 58, a year behind, and I'm finally transitioning. It's a unique experience. If there was no outside world, or I hadn't been married to a lovely wife, I would feel euphoric. I love being who I always knew I was, I love all of it but the loss. Anyway, it's so good to see someone my age. It's hard and great. Currently, I am battling my insurance to get FFS. We'll see. Anyway, I'm so glad for you. I really am. It gives me something to aim for. Thanks.
I'm 11 and I wanna be a girl 😭😭😭
@jenniferbraun2491 if that's you in your profile pic then you look absolutely GORGEOUS 🤩😍.
Unbelievably I did not start estrogen/transitioning until I was 67!! After getting top notch FFS from Dr. Speigel I now appear to be 45 and, if I may be self-indulgent, look MARVELOUS!! You're NEVER too old! I am, presently, living the greatest chapter of my life!!
Amazing!! 💖💖
That is amazing. I'm 43 and thinking transition but I'm still kind of scared and worried...
Wow!
God bless ya!
im 57 maybe want to maybe not
How did you get Spiegle?
I transitioned when I was about 47 and 58 now in March.
I find you a very positive happy force in the trans community. Something I personally was never good at. I started transition at 29, did the crazy pre op 2 year bottom surgery journey and made hundreds of life decision mistakes that later turned into blessings and it created the person I became. As a general rule I have never really liked people. I was one of those people who was married and had children from a previous relationships. It was like I stated, mistakes that later turned into blessings. My children are grown adults now and one even has two children of her own. Two beautiful grandkids that are a part of my life. Physicality expectations ..I was realistic and I had little access to certain things that would have made life in public a little easier like breast augmentation and FFS. (although nearing the 60 yo mark I decided to finally do something for me again and get the augmentation this summer providing the doctor doesn't bump the surgery again) I still get grief from closed minded individuals but for the most part people don't see or they are polite enough to just be quiet and accepting. I found forcing myself to work in public was the only way to keep myself from becoming a cave troll. And did you ever decide on a keyboard/synthesizer? There are some pretty affordable options out there that are midi/software related. Its a whole thing and would be happy to make more suggestions.
thanks for the nice video, as a physician who transitioned at 56, after a long discussion with my wife (she totally supported me, we have been together for 41 years now). I can agree that transitioning older can be a bit tough, luckily I was very feminine in features to start, and I have had little pushback, even in small town Nova Scotia
I appreciate how you pointed out the downsides to many if not all of these major decisions. This is a very difficult road to go down... I am in awe of those that have the strength to follow it. Great video.
I started medically transitioning at 40 and, six years later and two surgeries, I am glad I did. Your videos were helpful in the beginning as one of the only Canadians Trans UA-camrs I could find at the time. 🇨🇦
Great stuff to think about and you cover a lot of ground. I know it will help people who have this question.
Wow, what an excellent exploratory and educational video Maya. You are telling it like it is, in your usual humorous way. I’m a 73 year old non-binary trans-femme and have been following you ever since I saw you in “Dawn, her dad and the Tractor.”
I’m dying to see this movie. Is it on any streaming channels? I can’t find it.
You're good. My trans groups and pych pushed me to come out. I don't belong to anygroup cis or trans and yet I feel bound to women, men and transwomen and transmen. I came out hoping to help people colm down about this entire thing. Instead they stopped following me. You go girl. I love what you are doing.
You are such a inspiration and I enjoy listening to your stories about transitioning. I hope you continue to have a wonderful life and ignore the negative hater’s ❤️♍️🗝🧙🏻♂️
I enjoy listening to your videos and appreciate your experience. As an older trans female. my experiences and perspectives are different than most YT videos. While I want to pass and be accepted and be involved, I don't worry much about what family and friends think. I just want to live my authentic life and be happy. Age grants you wisdom to not care about what society thinks.
Absolutely!
I am very surprised by my courage and tenacity in transitioning and did not know I had it in me. I don't have 40 or 50 years to enjoy my authentic gender so I have to make the most of the 20 years I have left thus I must go as far as I can go as fast as I can.@@ariaferger822
Hi Maya as you know from my occasional commenting in your lives streams, I began my transition in the late 1970's & am now well over 4 & half decades of taking cross sex hormones post puberty.
I was informed by a medical professional after I asking why I had lost just over 1.5" of my height during the first decade or so on hormones. That the hormones reduce the tissue between the bones and that is why some folks report getting a bit shorter. I was 5'10' 5" at age 16 & by age 29 I was 5'9". I am now just under 5'9".
As people begin to get old they do tend to shrink & that is normal. I'm 59 now, I will let you know if i get any shorter in my 70's or if the effects of taking hormones long term as already gotten me to my old age height prematurely. I know of others who started hormones young who are now 50 plus upwards who experienced the same height loss too.
I just started last year at 25, and I love myself so much more.
I'm pushing 55 and I started Spironolactone 10 weeks ago, I'll be starting Estradiol in about 2 weeks. Even just 2 months in I feel worlds better. It's not too late. Really it isn't.
I've followed you a long time, your evolution has been an inspiration! The information on Disphoria opened up my eyes to what i felt for many years,but I didn't have a way to explain it to myself, let alone anyone else! So, I've watched lots of videos, on April 12 I began HRT! Im 80, have no illusions that i can turn back time, but i can live as best i can to be authentic in the time remaning to me. Best of wishes to you, your content has always been valuable to me! ❤❤❤
I was kind of forced out to my partner. She read my journal... It was very bad but eventually she 'accepted it'. for weeks, she looked at me with disgust if i had earrings or nail polish. She's accepted the earrings now but she doesnt understand that its PAINFUL to not be able to express myself in the way i want.
Your comments on the shittiness of starting after having a family/long term relationship really hit. I get it, absolutely, and you do soften it a bit - but I didn’t know until about 3 weeks ago. Or more accurately, I couldn’t admit it to myself. And I agree that for my wife, it’s pretty shitty, and I’m going to be carrying that guilt. Looking back now, I do feel pretty dumb for not realizing (much) sooner… but it is what it is.
Never too old to be yourself. Never too old to get that degree. Never too old to try something new. Never too old to enjoy your life.
I know a girl who had GRS in Montreal at age 65 in 2021. Since then these have been the happiest years of her life !
If one is healthy then one is not too old to transition !
As I have said before, these videos are incredible. You have a beautiful way of laying down facts and sharing your personal experience. A true inspiration.
Can't wait for the next one.
I'm 52 and finally started estrogen 3 weeks ago. There are many reasons I didn't do it sooner, but I knew I wouldn't be happy if I never did it.
The reason why you may not transition until you are older is quite simple. I was a teenager in the 1970's and the options that you have today simply didn't exist then. No one talked about it you just had to figure it out yourself! Amanda G ❤
Very good well-balanced advice. Thanks Maya 🥰
8:00 thanks for saying this!
Been following you about 4 or 5 years I think. I’m a physician and have a couple of Transgender patients and I follow you to learn. I always want to give my patients my best and your channel has been very helpful. So thank you. So wise beyond your years
With a great head start anyone could be like this and they DONT face severe discrimination every day. The negative claims about Maya are 110% true. There's a vicious person I witness tonight on his or her live stream earlier. A catty mean girl type
Also Maya doesn't give back donations people give for someone supposedly doing so well. Maya happily takes poor simps money
Very difficult topic Maya. Your courageous to open yourself up and offer your experience and feelings. I hope your audience finds support in your thoughts and reach out to you with questions they have.
12:00 No, it really did change all those things, my shoe size shrank 2 sizes because the shape arches, the height does shrink because of pelvic tilt, and arched back. The posture and curve structures of all my muscles changed. My beard and body hair is diminishing, while my scalp hair is growing back. It really does happen.
I think that you are delusional and insane!
I started my 6th attempt at transition 20 months ago, at 55. I actually had an accidental transition at 15, with an estrogen emulator. I didn't realize I looked like a woman at 19, but the natural T kicked in, and ruined everything. I wish I was more informed in the 80s to do everything right, but the lack of money, and literature, the uninformed therapists, the risky self-meds, the lack of support from everywhere, nothing was easy. That's why most of us couldn't do it until recently. But the freedom and confidence building, gaining our true selves back, is our birthright. Nobody has a right to tell us we can't, decide our destiny, our wishes, fantasies, self-fulfillment, enjoyment, because the there is nothing worse than people ordering and manipulating me into their beliefs and control structures, that make everyone miserable, but them. No matter what age, nobody owns you.
Estrogen emulator??
A beautiful woman with a beautiful background gives impressive. Really good advice. I swear I've seen videos with the same subject. Thank you for the very informative video girlfriend. I plan to make some major progress this year towards my transition.
You're a well spoken woman.
Aw you look so pretty as an older woman (in your thumbnail) ❤
Thanks for sharing your wise perspective.
This is one of the your best up loads, I love it.. you are marvelous !
if i do it i feel i wont get family support and have to leave, ive no friends either so it will be tough if i did it.
I began my transitioned at 36 in 1988 and I'm now a mature 72
Wow great video. I’m only 37, but still a later start than a lot of trans women. I just started HRT a week ago and am so excited for the process. My head literally feels more clear already 💕
I started my transition at 51. You are never too old to start transitioning.
You're never too old to transition. The real question should be are you too young..
You're so wise. Love you, honeybun💖
It must mean having Trans feelings, experimenting with with less than obvious clothing, closer-fitting jeans, shaving twice or thrice a day to get rid of facial and body hair by less costly means, wearing lilac with blue, soft textiles, not try to copy and only buy, make my own space, do not invade or pretend.
Anyway, ❤ from Petra-Brown
I am 70 years old and I started transition Aug.15,2018. so I'd say nope, but it's up to your endocrinologist, mine was and is concerned about PE and DVT, so far no problem she said first sign of either I would be taken off E. Bummer but to be fair I guess most women are off E by now naturally and don't do well on substitute.
Wow, I am commenting twice. Much of what you stated i can relate to as an over 60 trans woman on my own journey. I am definitely doing this for myself and not to attract a partner. It is about my own happiness. Also, I am in a relationship and sorting out my and our future. This is definitely the hardest part of my transition. We have a long history that complicates this decision. If I were 20, I would go all the way with medical transition, but after 60, I have to weigh the risks and costs of these surgeries. At 20, I may have 50 to 60 years to experience and enjoy. At 60, I only have 10 to 25 years. Lastly, I loved your thumbnail. When i saw it the first time, i thought what a handsome woman. When I see beautiful women of my age group, handsome always comes to mind because their beauty has aged very well. I aspire to be seen as an older, handsome woman who takes care of themself and is well put together. That will make me happy.
I have been trying to get going transitioning, but doctors have been dragging their feet!
Maya ... this was a very well put-together presentation! Lots of good into. There were some points that I had examples of, which I thought I'd share.
On the topic of transitioning when in a relationship, I've been fascinated watching Alexis Blake's channel, as she had been in a committed (not sure if they were married yet or not) gay relationship with Liam, who seems to be quite supportive of her transition. The possible dynamics of that are real iffy, and it's so nice seeing how they're developing in the new reality.
On the topic of age ... I had an acquaintance a number of years ago (who I lost track of in the Covid insanity), who was in their 50's when they decided to do a MtF transition. She didn't have a lot of advantages going in, as her face was a bit like a late-career Walter Matthau, but she got a great new hairdo from a mutual acquaintance who is a top stylist in town, and got some help with appropriate clothes, I don't know what happened with her, she'd gone to her new name on all her socials, but then shut them all down.
In my case, I can talk about the effects of T-blockers. As I've not doubt mentioned, I've been on Lupron for about five years now, and Zytiga in addition for about 3 years (treating my radiation-resistant prostate cancer). There are LOT of changes with just shutting off the testosterone. Aside from the basic stuff (the equipment downstairs doesn't work anymore), I had massive muscle loss ... I've described it as going from Brutus to Olive Oyl in about 2 years ... which has been pretty depressing. I've lost nearly all my body hair, and my facial hair is starting to go ... with my moustache being on its last legs (I haven't trimmed it in two years and it's just barely there). On the plus side, I went from being a big stinky guy to having practically no B.O., and my hair goes forever without getting greasy. So, even without any estrogen, there are all sorts of feminization that comes with just eliminating the T.
Anyway, great vid. See you on a live soon, I'm sure.
I hope that everyone seeking gender affirming care have the easiest journey possible. Younger generations should have it easier with each generation. I'm now 50 and have been so inspired by how younger generations are leveraging technology as a tool to create support and community.
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you are my inspiration
You are one of the most successful transwomen on the earth you are stunningly beautiful, sensual, witty, and your surgery was successful with no complications... I heard many bottom surgeries have had many complications and were not happy with the final results... I hope Maya you have a long happy life...
I always knew I was trans deep down but my family are devout Christians that see the trans as blasphemy and even now whilst waiting to be seen by the GIC they are still expecting me to live a lie. Now I’m 39 years old and kinda anxious about my transitional journey. Any advice?
Quite existential 🤔 thank you goddess
Hi, Maya and Happy Thursday!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷💖💖💖💖💖💖🎇🎇🎇🎇👍. Your videos are so wonderful with amazing facts and topics about being a normal and fantastic person. I loved it!😍💙💙💙💙💙💙💙👍
Thank you sooo much. Your videos make my life delightful, as I keep asking this question to myself again and again. My cultural background does not allow me to do so, I am still struggling with my parents.
Too many lives have been lost because of family. Go by your heart and mind. As long as you're 18+ you can do as you want.
@@amieguerin4107 Thank you so much, but I can't. It is not easy talking about LGBT here. Somehow, I felt guilty about cannot being as a so called "normal person “, although I understand this is not my fault. I kept watching Maya's updates since 2016, she gives a kind hope in my gloomy days. Jumping off from a 28 flours building won't make any change as I learnt in those days. As some sort of payback to parents raided me up, there are something I need to carry on. The life is still hopeful. I have to delay the transition plan.
This is very important specially when you said “do it for you”. A lot of “trans” people do it for the wrong reasons like to appease others or social media is a factor and look for reactions from others and approval from others and creates a very hateful environment.
Hope you are doing well Maya ❤
It is never too late - especially from my perspective. I started at 49 yrs old and my happiest days have mostly all been since that day when I became my true self; I no longer needed to try to be a guy. I was pretty much in the dark as to the feasibility of doing so -- I thought this was impossible. I never subscribed to the cultural norms. A long time ago I transitioned into a vegan lifestyle; the confidence I had in my self after this good decision helped me to seriously consider other non-traditional life choices. I have certainly found Maya's channel to be tremendously helpful along the way.
Love this
I loved this video. Very explanatory and will probably help a lot of people. Yes, a video of your voice would be very interesting for the next video. 🙌🏻👏🏼❤
Love you Maya. Your my hero
Hi Maya , your videos are very inspirational to the trans community I love watching your videos. They are great to see what another train person experience when they were growing up keep making good videos they’re the best.
You're a very interesting and fascinating person Maya. God bless you with inclusive and unconditional love and peace of mind
Thank you so much Maya I really appreciated this video with all the interesting and affirming knowledge. Though I did come here thinking you'd do an age by age effects of transitioning
What do you mean with age by age effects of transition?
I’m mtf transgender and I don’t believe or agree parents of children at dependent ages should transition. I don’t agree that’s ethical. Doesn’t have anything to do with age, has everything to do with responsibilities you’ve taken.
so does that mean no parent should undergo any kind of medical treatment? where do you draw the line?
@@MoonRiver_118 very simple. Do you owe your identity to a duty? Then it’s not yours to alter. When you have children you owe your children stability. I wouldn’t call an changing your entire perceived identity stability. Duty first. I believe in the same principle for the military. And I’m a navy veteran too, so I can hold that. In order to be deployable you have to be able to use gender specific safe spaces. I think people on non deployment orders without parties who rely on them can transition ethically. If you’re betraying duty in any capacity for your selfish need to rip others understanding and/or need of your identity away from them, then you’re not transitioning ethnicity. Even if you have kids that doesn’t mean it’ll never be ethical. It just means you need to be patient; because you owe your child a father or mother or whatever roll you made your child under. Duty has really come to escape my fellow Americans.
It's never too late to make changes in your life. Choose you today!
I started at age 61, grew up in the 60's and transition was unheard of. I always knew I was meant to be female. I finally started after much research. Now I'm happier and feeling better about myself. The journey is hard , but well worth everything.
I love hearing your voice and your wise and truly true words, Maya. You are an inspiration to many trans girls. And you are a special and beautiful attractive woman that many like me would love to have as a beautiful and super girlfriend.❤❤
Thank for your video. Im 39 now come out last year after many years of suppressed i want to be happy in myself and on waiting list for gender clinic. Ive got so much support at work people call me lucia and her pronouns. I notice im losing my hair just as ive not grown it long. I cant bear this male traits im desperate to remove. My hear melts when people say i look pretty. That why i cant leave the house with out make up. Take care❤❤❤❤
im one year younger than you but i havent started. i really want to but i fear i might not pass. i am short and have large eyes with positive canthal tilt, also my friends tell me my voice sounds like a teenager so i those things going for me but i also have like no hips and broad shoulders. i also have a beard shadow that i hope electro can remove but also chest hair which would get to expensive to get electro for my entire torso :/
I started medical transition four years ago, at the age of 53, after having a family and being separated. Growing up very sheltered in the 70s, I didn’t know, and I started to transition as soon as I discovered. I change in the women’s, where else? I’ve had two gender surgeries last year. It would be highly inappropriate to use the men’s change room. It can be difficult for me sometimes, depending on my dysphoria, but I want to be at the athletic centre, my goal is to work hard on getting this body in shape and play the sports I enjoy. I am very sensitive to others’ feelings, and would not want anyone to be uncomfortable. I am sad to think that I may not belong there as any other woman does. The inside matters more than the outside. I appreciate your videos, thanks.
I did not start transitioning until I was 64 and currently 67. When I was your age, transitioning was not something that was possible. People have been very accepting of my transition and very complimentary of my fashion sense. I had a Mac Cosmetics stylist help me with my makeup. Hope to start HRT shortly. The only negative has been the political part as the state I live in and all of the surrounding states have passed laws making being transgender much more difficult. I feel bad for the young people trying to transition and cannot get the medical care at point in their life that will be best for them.
Definitely a difficult topic to cover. I also think protecting women's spaces is important, and transgender women belong in those spaces too. I love your videos and I'm so glad you tackled this topic and say that it's never too late. I hope you really do understand that there are SO many reasons why a person would not transition earlier in life, and instead go on to have a spouse and children. Some don't understand what they are feeling or what it means, and others do but have been repressing who they truly are because of family, peer, and societal pressure, until they can't take it any more. People born in the 60's were raised with a whole different attitude about gender roles and identity than people born in the 90's, for example. And society has changed dramatically over my 60 years on this planet, in many ways for the better; although we often seem more divided now than ever at times.
But I don't think any older man is medically transitioning just for access to women's spaces; and if they are simply putting on lipstick and earrings to access those spaces, then they really aren't transgender in the first place. They would just be creeps "putting lipstick on a pig". That shouldn't give transgender people a bad reputation. It's like a racist bigot Christian would NOT really be a Christian, because they don't act like one (or think like one). I was raised Jewish and was tormented by antisemites growing up, but in my 30's I became a Christian for my salvation, and not so that I could judge others for their lifestyle and try to legislate it out of existence. God loves us all, and Jesus was the "new covenant" who threw out the old covenant - the one that would condemn the LGBTQA+ community was tossed. We support you and the good work you do educating people about these issues.
Thank you, this was very thoughtful and well stated.
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Hi maya I started my transition at 40
Thumbnail photo of you older is fantastic. Gorgeous now and always will be. Jealous of whoever is lucky enough to spend their life with you.
Personally, even though I was afraid of living as myself, I have always told anyone I was getting involved with that I was trans before taking that step with them. It took until I was nearly 50 to get past my fears abd start my transition. With that being said I understood that I would lose family and friends, and I accepted that. I was lucky that some became closer to me. What I never considered was after I started to transition and I was accepted as a woman and lady by a male partners, that when discussions about things from my past freaked them out. Because they only saw Julia, and had never met that person I hid as.
I'm 52 and started hrt 4 months ago i was 9 when i knew i was different but due things back then it was hard to make people understand how i felt back in the 80's it was hard then i had a partner and we had 4 children but she knew how a felt .i have been think about this way to long
7:00 I found the people I thought would be more accepting of me transitioning, didn't, and the ones that I thought wouldn't accept me did. But much of that could be that my usefulness/skills outweighed me being the other gender.
It's so wild to me we started hrt at the same age, yet you look like you skipped male puberty and got blockers young. Hopefully ffs will help me look more like you 😅
Also.. I 100% agree with what you said at the end
Love to listen to you❣️, it helps a lot, if possible please do a video on voice feminization, I am 30 years old and on hormones for 1 year, mostly I look feminine but my voice no matter what I try it is hard to have a feminine voice 😢
I lost my phone.just got new one. So I missed any of ur live shows in a couple day but now I can watch u again❤
I'm FTM, I didn't start my transition until I was in my mid 30's. I never took puberty blockers, but back in the 80's I never even knew what transgender was. I'd say it was a little harder later in life just because more surgeries are involved than stopping what would occur otherwise? I think anyone at any age can transition to any degree as long as your body can handle it. My friend just started her transition in her early 70's, and she's so happy to finally have the body she wanted!
😢Good for you. It is incredibly important to be yourself and to choose a life of happiness. Cheers from Yukon Canada. Mark. PS Don't let the jerk bigots and homophobes get you down. 😊
You in my own❤
My mom soften up some because of her favorite mama's boy, Me.
Im a very progressive strait male that could never understand the hatred and bigotry of people. I'm glad my mom who recently passed in her late 80s learned how to see people with a different lens. The connection that developed between us over my 21st century views was heart warming to me.
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I transitioned 2018-2022 at 60.
I had GRS at 57, during the Pandemic. When I started my medical transition at 53, I told my Dr. that I wanted the surgery before I was 60, and I did it. Surgery isn't for everyone, but for me, it's what I wanted. An acquaintance had GRS at 73! So you are never too old to transition, but you have to medically and mentally fit to do it.
Magic wand, what would you have done differently Maya?
I would love if you could make a video on your voice work please!! I don’t know where to start for mine.
I started at 45 years old. Ive had issue with my change but in still going. I became diabetic and have a lots of swellling in my legs
Love the Thumbnail. You’re gonna be a good looking older woman.
Hi Maya. Sorry I missed your video yesterday. I don’t know how I missed it. I guess I was a day late and a dollar short lol. Hi Elio! Have a good day and catch you all again soon 💕
I have a dear friend who transitioned late in life, and is bitter that she didn’t do it earlier-she feels unattractive due to transitioning late. I think she’s really attractive, but it’s difficult to convince her of that.
woould love to see a Vod for the voice!
Thinking that finding one's self in a committed relationship as "shitty" or having "bravery" for not having given full disclosure is an oversimplification of the complex psychological chaos that someone suffering from Gender Dysphoria is experiencing; especially for older people who did not have the convenience of readily available and ongoing discourse on the matter.
I grew up in a very rural, isolated environment, where just being effeminate could result in immediate family scorn and public shaming; if suspected of being gay could get one killed, at worse. A person in that position weighs all of that, the negatives, against the benefits of compliance to social normative behaviors and traits representative of specifics in one's gender identity and need for biologic mimickrey as the primary means for overcoming self loathing for not fitting in.
I do side with you where being the father or mother, already, of a young family (children are not yet independent) is a serious matter and could have a devastating impact on developing minds; in this case, I think, it would be best to suffer in an effort for best outcomes for the children. After that, it would be negotiable; it is a regrettable position to find oneself in. It is best to know these confusions can be worked out before serious commitments are made.
Unless the person who has a family is absolute in their thinking that their needs supercedes that of any immediate family members and they act on that, causing harm to others by their narcissism, then I would have a very hard time agreeing with you when you indiscriminately claim they are "shitty" and devoid of "bravery."
Well Im 64 and just started hrt so I sure hope so
i hope not only i am 66 been looking at some of some chats keep up the fantastic work
ghost in a shell. mutalation is not how it should be done.
How expensive are blockers if Spiro is cheaper????
Old Maya in the thumbnail looks like Marianne Williamson
Nope. Just be ready. You will get old. If you don’t want to be a mama bear don’t do it. I am 60 years old 😊
I’m on plume I have blood work done every three months and only on estradiol