When you said “I’m CHOOSING not to feel shame about it”, it struck me sideways. Thank you! Hearing you almost instantly relieved the weight of the world off my shoulders.
Love the vulnerability in sharing that shopping filled voids for you. I don’t think a lot of people realize that’s a common thing. It looks freaking fantastic and I felt relieved for you!!
I shopped on line when my husband was on hospice and after he died....it was away to escape what I was facing... I now understand the shopping issue which I had never done prior
My favorite question to ask before I buy is “can I name three occasions to wear this?” It has kept me from buying. I go through my closet every season and try on to see how I feel about the items.
My three qeustion are do you have it worn in the last six months, would you buy it again if you see it now in the store and if you wear it makes do you feel good about yourself in this piece or not?
Almost 5 years ago, I remember looking around my home and seeing piles of clutter everywhere. I decided that it was ridiculous that 3 people were running out of room in a 1000sqft house. I decided it was time to reclaim my home. I found so much more in the process. I am truly excited for you on this journey. I know that it a hard one. It is so worth it in the end. I will be praying for and cheering you on!
Once you get started it's hard to stop. I end up purging and reorganizing when I feel stressed in a certain area of the house, and it always makes me feel better when it functions more efficiently. Now I just need to make the donation run! 🤦♀️😘
This is my first time watching you, but I know the pain and shame of a shopping addiction. Throwing out all of the things I'd bought, thinking each was THE ONE that would make me feel better was so hard. But with each item, it felt like another stone lifted off my chest. I still autopilot to online stores when I'm feeling some kind of way, but it gets better. I'm proud of you for being vulnerable and admitting shopping may have been your drug, and I'm so proud of you for taking the steps to overcome it. All my love. 💜
I’m trying to find ways of decluttering after 3 months of therapy because I realized I was shopping compulsively and I wanted to change that and It means so much for you to start the video the way that you did because I haven’t seen a lot of people really talk about this. My shopping for clothing specifically comes from neglect, abuse, and trauma growing up, but I’m a simple person and I’ve become overwhelmed by the abundance of clutter to the point where it feels like I’m being suffocated because I feel guilty and confronted by my pain every time I look around and see things I bought compulsively because I was hurting. I’m just now getting help and I realized I got caught up in instant gratification, and doing the thing that wasn’t illegal or hurting other people, trying to fill a void that couldn’t be filled with things. I’ve been struggling so much to declutter and it’s so refreshing to see someone approach this from the way you are. It makes me feel less alone, thank you for being honest!
I just spent 30 mins cleaning out my email! I let it get out of control and it was nearly at 2,000 unread emails!! I’ll probably stay a week behind you on this decluttering journey but I’m here! Good job!
I THOUGHT I did an extreme closet declutter a few months ago, I now see clearly from yours it was more reserved than it could have been...I’m going back in!!! X
I love a good declutter, that was an amazing amount of progress!! I love the idea of giving the skirts a second chance. I think its important not to make too many tough decision the first time decluttering, maybe a decision you will regret. You will find going through your wardrobe a second time when you're ready, these decisions come much easier! To anyone struggling to get started, just do it and dont make it to hard on yourself! You will build up your 'muscles' to declutter the more you do it, and it will be easier to make decisions to part with things. Don't put yourself through stress and decision fatigue, just get started and make some progress little by little!
Best of luck on your decluttering journey! I started a whole life declutter in 2017. I got rid of most of my clothing (don't even have a dresser). I also got rid of all my jewelry and almost all my makeup in 2018. In 2019 I got rid of my hair and all my accessories/tools/products. I can now fit all my clothing, shoes, accessories, skincare, hygiene & makeup into 2 suitcases. It feels awesome!!
What I really notice that when one space is “done” it is so much easier to do a little putter that takes only a minute to keep it up. There is so much space and it feels nice to have some clarity in what we see on a daily basis. Its such a relief. It’s worth the effort and mentally heading in the right direction for personal wellness. Proud of you Angela.
One thing I've done for slow, low-key sorting is to turn all my hangers backwards and revisit the situation in 6+ months. As clothes get washed and put back the hanger is flipped the normal way so months later I can see that I didn't wear the ones that are still backwards and I can ask myself "Do I really want to keep this if I haven't worn it yet? Really really?" and it feels much more low stakes to me. How many hours did the decluttering in this video take? That was a lot of work! Your closet looks gorgeous now!
OH MY GOSH!!! This just changed my life. I've been struggling to figure out how to know when things get worn or not (I normally sort by item so my boyfriend said just keep putting newly washed things on the left and then you'll see what doesn't get worn but that just makes for chaos) and this is it! Thank you so much for sharing!
This is so awesome. My life is so much different after I purged and organized my entire house. I can look around and be happy and feel like I have room to breathe. Good for you!!!
I really appreciated your raw honesty about using clothes and things to fill voids in life. So refreshing to have people be so honest and real. And you did a great job as well. I'm in the process of decluttering and it's a much slower process than most people's videos but I'm still happy and proud of myself that I'm getting it done. ☺️🙏🌸💗
I’ve been decluttering for a year, and now I’m going back over the spaces and purging even more. This is such a great and needed series! Thank you for the motivation!
Decluttering feels soooo liberating, doesn’t it? A good rule that I try to use is to save only things that are: USEFUL or BEAUTIFUL or MEANINGFUL. It applies to everything. Loved the video🙂
No offence but I'm astonished about the idea of having something with the tag still on in the closet. I always get so excited to wash and wear my newest addition :D
I get that. Me too honestly, but it’s the problem with buying something just because it’s on sale etc. If I don’t love it- I’ll always find an excuse to not wear it.
I am totally joining you on this "Declutter My Life" series! I started last year and stopped due to a family member's chronic illness. But I am ready to tackle the rest of my house. It's fun when doing it with someone! Thanks for the inspo Angela!!
Retirement for me meant downsizing from 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, yard care to a 1 bedroom apartment. I found getting rid of stuff was really heart wrenching . I had to remind myself, the memories are in the heart, always with me. It feels good having my environment clean & tidy. I am so glad you talked about the emotional ties (good & bad) to stuff. Thank you for showing me I am not alone.
Two years ago I got rid of 75% of our belongings. Don’t give up it’s worth it! You will LOVE it. We also set boundaries around relatives giving us stuff. It’s been so freeing and my stress level decreased dramatically
Came for the clothing declutter, realized I needed the deeper message. I've definitely been guilty lately of buying things with the idea that this one item will be the one to make my life better/myself complete etc. Thanks for sharing♥
Ive also been decluttering my life the last two months. I lived out of two suitcases the three months before that. When i came back I was so overwhelmed by all my stuff. I had so much clutter that i was holding on to and i just started to affect my mental health. I love seeing you declutter because I know how freeing it was for me and how much brainspace I got back!
Great job! I just did this with all my clothes and I know the feeling. Something I did was turn my hangers all the opposite way so not only does that show me in a few months what I haven’t worn, but it actually encourages me to wear the tops that still have the hanger turned. 💜
I formerly shopped to fill my void as well. Thanks for your honesty. I donated my new clothes that I never worn to homeless shelters. New subbie here. I love it.
When you said "Maybe you buy for other people" that really struck hard. I think I hide behind giving things as an expression of love for people in my life instead of showing my feelings and expressing them. This is how I grew up and it's a hard one to stop but now that it's identified, I think I can be conscious of it. I've started two week ago de cluttering massively, yet again, and this time I am determined. It's daunting and exhausting but feels so good to see an empty space. I'm loving empty spaces! Really appreciate your video. This is the first one I've watched.
You did amazing I love it. I’ve been practicing minimalism for the past two years and it all started with the same epiphany as you. I decluttered my entire life, and I started with my closet of clothes. I had a spending addiction due to filling voids. And like you said at the end, I went ham! After I cleaned out my closet. Can you believe my fiancé and I are moving into a studio in June?? A STUDIO. I’m so flipping excited. I can’t believe I’ve gotten rid of that many clothes, decorative pieces, furniture, and JUNK. It feels so good. It’s helped so much with my anxiety as well. So proud of you and happy for you ❤️. Great vid, mama
I appreciate the honesty. I started watching another declutter video and the person had so many clothes I couldn't even finish it because it made me feel suffocated, overwhelmed, and sad for her. My grandmother, now passed, gave me the shopping intervention I so desperately needed because I was sad, lonely, etc. and shopping was my outlet. I will forever be grateful for her continued accountability in my head. My secret is that when I think I'm ready to check out I actually go back through the store and I put at least 50-75% of it back exactly where I found it. The motion of this forces me to reconsider each item and do an act of kindness for the store clerks by putting it back where I found it, which gives me more joy the happy endorphins that buying the item would if that makes sense.
I recently went bra shopping, got resized and bought 9 new bras. When I got home, I tried them all on and admired my new uplifting look in the mirror. I finished, then began stuffing them all into my bra drawer. They wouldn't fit. 😑 "Why?" I asked myself. Hm? 🤔 Could it be that I needed to get rid of at least 9 of the old, useless ones still crammed at the bottom? And that's when my decluttering journey began. So, I created a project list of what I want to purge in my wardrobe, what areas I want to improve on regarding my personal style and what, ultimately, is the end goal. So here I am watching videos, getting insights and ideas on how to commit and make this journey not only fun but lasting for a lifetime. Thank you for opening your life for others that weren't sure where to start. At the beginning. Best of luck. 🙂
I love watching people declutter, I've already have done this for over a decade now. It's just entertaining and very interesting how much more people have and accumulate.
Love this series! We are moving in June so we are decluttering stuff as we move into storage while our house is being built. It’s amazing just how little we actually need. I love you and your family! Keep it up!
I used to have so many clothes because of eight kids, hubby and I. It was miserable. I can say it’s ten times better now that I have so many less clothes for all of us! Good job decluttering!
Clothes for me is a CONSTANT clean out. My size has gone up and down due to pregnancy twice and I've kept everything over the years. Every time I put up laundry I look at my hanging clothes and quickly scan for unneeded shirts. Then every fall and spring I go through all my clothes.
I need to do this so bad. I have a habit of holding on to clothes because it reminds me of a specific event or moment 🤦🏼♀️. All of it just gets shoved to the back of the closet and forgotten about.
I’m watching because I’m struggling with the process of going through my clothes. My intention is to be honest and get rid of quite a bit. So far that isn’t happening. It’s hard for me to get rid of things in general. I’ve watched several video and while I realize they are sped up, it still seem like you and others easily decide on each piece. My hubby is away on a business trip, I set a goal to get through all of my clothing in the 2 weeks he’s gone. Today was day 1, I barely got rid of anything.
Thank you for this video. It's difficult to watch people who barely have any clothes do closet declutter videos because i can't relate to them... but i definitely relate to your "bed of clothes"... so thank you for that... and... thank you for mentioning the "filling a void" issue. I think it was really helpful to know that I'm not alone. ❤
Doing this today. I, too, was trying to cover pain and unhappiness. Keep moving forward! I try to remember that something done in unhappiness will only bring more unhappiness. When I look at my “things” I just feel what I felt then. Instead of that temporary happiness!
Well done! The twins were having so much fun. 😁 I am enjoying this whole decluttering series. Don't you wish we could really clean that fast and it would take less than 20 minutes instead of hours? Can't wait to see what you tackle next.
I've watched a lot of these videos but you touched on collecting things because you filled a void and other issues that goes with the purchasing of the clothes. This was really profound for me. I'm happy for you that you're making progress. Stay blessed
Good job! I donated/trashed half my wardrobe in 2019. I didn’t have THAT much from the beginning, but had too much I didn’t wear anyway. Might take another round today.. too many uncomfortable panties that are just too tight 😅 I now only have 3 pairs of jeans (all different styles/colors and 2 pairs of nicer pants..and that is enough ;)
If you hang all of your clothes on their hangers backwards, and then wear them and replace them back onto the rack normally, at the end of the year you’ll see which items you wear and the ones you don’t!
You are just so amazing for sharing how you feel and how clothing was a way of trying to manage how you were feeling. I don’t think a lot of people realize how we deal with our struggles differently. I love your fighting spirit and how despite the hurt that lead to this point you keep going and healing and you’re honest about it! I enjoy your videos so much and I really hope that others are kind to you and that you don’t feel judged by others.
My mother passed away suddenly from pancreatic cancer in 2012. We used to love shopping together but it was more about spending the day together than buying stuff. It was our "time to talk". I went on a an absolute bender when she died. It was like trying to fill the void. I bought things I never ever wore and then gave them away. I had major credit card debt. I used to spend $10 on mascara but started buying $70 mascara. Nothing replaced my mum but I kept trying.I actually started working in retail in one of the shops we used to visit together. When I realised that the warm fuzzies given by shop assistants is mostly an act to get you to buy more stuff it helped cure my addiction. I gave nearly $4000 worth of clothes to an op shop and sold some in a garage sale. A dress I paid $130 for sold for $2. It was a huge wake up call. I now volunteer as the visual merchandiser in an op shop and I see the huge amounts of clothes come in that have never been worn. I also throw out a lot of donated junk. Ripped and stained clothes go straight to landfill anyway. You will feel much better now and you may slip up every now and then but as long as you are aware of the reasons you shopped then eventually you will control it instead of it controlling you
I find when I clean my closet out feeling refreshed. I'm not stumbling or fighting clothes to find what I need. Lol I used to donate everything but then younger family members came along and they have always want what I purge. They are happy and so am I. The girls looked so sweet helping mom in the closet. 😁
I started decluttering last February. I am hoping to become a minimalist. I am getting there. I would go in every month and get rid of more clothes. This was an amazing freeing process. It taught me so much.
I just came across your channel the other day and enjoy “getting to know you”. Thank you for being so honest! It is refreshing and I can feel God speaking comfort to me through it.
I stumbled upon this video and I so appreciate your authenticity and openess. The comment about not keeping clothes like fine china 🍽 in your closet. 😳 So needed as I venture into this project myself. Thank you 🙏🏼✨
Loving this decluttering series! I had my first baby in November and decided now would be a great time do this along with you as we are in a new season of life.
Im only 2 mins into your vid but when you said "or maybe you buy things for other people to cover up pain," that HIT different! I DEF do that. Shoot, I'm doing the same thing (prepping for a move overseas) and I gave away SO much stuff to my Soldiers. and immediately realized it was just due to pain...I'm definitely saddened, but thank you for showing this and sharing this.
I like your honesty about filling a void, for me it is craft items and holiday decor even if I can’t afford it. We share a lot of the same color pallet in clothes.
You still have tonnes of clothes for one person but as you say it is your first purge. I agree with some of the others if you put your hangers backwards then you will know by the end what you have worn as only front facing hangers will be your go to. Thanks for sharing, awesome job.
I did this a few years ago - and even decluttered the mending basket - where I found a dress for my daughter when she was 6 - she is in her 50's now - and needless to say, it was decluttered right straight to Catholic Charities. Also decluttered my towering ironing basket - then actually ironed the 4 shirts left after decluttering. Since then - I check and do a VERY mild decluttering twice a year - spring and fall - and winnowed stuff even more. Now the only things that live in my closet are things I REALLY REALLY like - and a few dust bunnies. I've also decluttered my Jewelry - but am less successful there - mostly because I inherited a lot of jewelry - and I don't wear it - but consider it as something I am holding onto for MY grandkids - IF they want it.
I'm so loving this series! Thank you for sharing and can't wait for the rest of the series. I recently went through my clothes and i know I have more to donate/throw out in my closet. and Yes! you do have to be so honest with yourself. :)
I ask myself, "how can my life be better with less?" For me, I'm not working or socializing, so how many outfits, what style, what kind, & what is truly sparking joy for me? Even if I swap around my outfits, how many do I need? Get togethers, family gatherings, church, lunch with a friend, party, graduations, weddings, funerals...how many outfits do I need? Hardly any, when I really think about it. Less. This is my goal. Less. Your getting there, girl. We're all getting there. Just don't stop. Don't give up. I'm proud of you.
You are awesome. Thanks for sharing. I thought I was the only one who had far too many clothes neatly hidden away. Neat n tidy can still be too much. I’m ready to do this...again. 👍🏼
these are the best - you get everything out and see what you have and makes downsizing more satisfying that just going through the hangers and taking the odd thing out your closet . you make better progress totally emptying your closet
I decluttered and organized my closet this year and the feeling is out of this world! Your closet is huge and you make decluttering and organizing look simple and fun😃
My problem isnt my clothes..in fact I need to buy more for myself...I tend towards buying too much for my kids...and I have a large family too.. So it's a little outta control right now...😏 I'm going through their stuff now..💓
I have a bad habit of keeping clothes that are cute and I want to wear but it’s just not my style. So I go through my closet every once in awhile. You did excellent!!
Enjoyed your video on your other UA-cam channel. I am so sorry for your losses this week. Praying for peace and joy for your family. Watching your videos over the years has been so encouraging. Keep on keep'n on! ❤
This video truly inspired me. Honestly I was about to turn it off and then I started listening to what you were saying and yours words really hit me. I have been trying to declutter and organize my closet and its. Taking me forever, bc I get overwhelmed. But it's also more deep rooted with emotional and other inner feelings that are really hard to let go of no matter how hard i.try. the more I listen the more your words are really inspiring me. Thank you
Wow you did so well. I spent most of my childhood with my Gran she was totally amazing...Now I realise she was a mimamlist..Our home was gorgeous everything had its place we had the room to play and be creative we knew wear everything was .I adopted this life style and love it So much better for our environment..and health and wellbeing...Blessings stay safe everyone in these sad times 🌱🙏
OMG, the intro to your video is so me right now! I am determined to declutter and am actually in the processing of doing so at this very moment. I love watching these kind of videos to help push me through. Thank you for sharing your process!
I've used the backward hanger method and that works very well for me. Something I heard last week was "first look at the stuff that is still in the closet because the things on the bed, counter, hamper etc is the stuff you've actually worn"... never thought of it that way but it's so true!!
Way to go!!! What a huge accomplishment. I used the kon Marie method a few years ago to declutter my entire house. It feels so so good and makes life so much less stressful afterward.
Was just talking to my daughter this morning about decluttering clothes. We leave the house twice a week (Sundays for church and Thursdays for chiropractor appt, sewing lessons, piano lessons and grocery hail). I really don't need that many clothes. I tend to wear the same things at home. Just need a few church outfits, a couple leaving the house outfits and a few staying at home and homeschooling outfits. Going to nurse my baby and then head to my bedroom and go through my clothes!!!
I plan on doing that .. but our downstairs is our main living area and I’m decluttering that right now. I’m hoping beginning of February I’ll get to my clothes. Hubby’s ... Lord help me there lol he’s the one that won’t get rid of anything. Thanks for sharing!! Very inspiring!!!
I am with you....I come from a large family and my Grandma was the neatest most organized person. I have room for improvement...thanks for the inspiration. ❤
It looks great! 👍🏻 I like to be organized. It helps my mental state of mind SERIOUSLY. If things are cluttered....my mind feels cluttered too. Crazy! I am actually glad I haven’t thrown a few of my pieces in bags, because they’re in style now 😂 for example square toed shoes.. I’ve done a closet clean out but now it time to tackle drawers. Thank you for the idea of how to do it!
Yes, girl! Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. I absolutely related to what you shared. And I love how your southern-ness came hollerin' when you spoke to your kids, jaja.
I’m so glad to see that in just 2 days, your personal channel has already grown quite a bit! Like I have commented before, I really enjoy your content and while I don’t have 8 kids (just 2 for me) I love the energy, knowledge and even the little bit of snarkiness (I don’t think that’s a word 🤷🏻♀️) that you bring! I find it relatable and I like the fact that you really seem to keep things real, attainable and honest with your viewers. It is refreshing to have someone to watch that is both entertaining and realistic about your life and how you balance all that you do on both this channel and Our Gathered Nest. Thank you for the hard work you put into it all!
I also live in Charlotte and I love that you are giving your clothes to crisis assistance ministries. Having volunteered there before, I know that they will be so happy so have all of your clothes especially because you have such a good sense in style. Thank you!
I LOVE THIS!!!!! I declutter my wardrobe every 6 months...if I don't like the piece anymore, don't feel good in it or I haven't used it in that time frame then that piece of clothing is gone from my life.
I love love love Mr. Bunny. I have kept one stuffed animal from each grandparent, they have all passed now but it makes me happy to have them! ❤️ and I’m 43 ha! 😊 thank you for sharing your life and declutter! It’s very inspiring! ❤️👏🏼
Important to stop and eat! You need energy and it’s great to acknowledge. Also really cool that you learned that when you lived in the RV you didn’t need much! 😊
When you said “I’m CHOOSING not to feel shame about it”, it struck me sideways. Thank you! Hearing you almost instantly relieved the weight of the world off my shoulders.
Love the vulnerability in sharing that shopping filled voids for you. I don’t think a lot of people realize that’s a common thing. It looks freaking fantastic and I felt relieved for you!!
100% agree.
I know it's similar for me.
For me it's stress.
I shopped on line when my husband was on hospice and after he died....it was away to escape what I was facing...
I now understand the shopping issue which I had never done prior
My favorite question to ask before I buy is “can I name three occasions to wear this?” It has kept me from buying. I go through my closet every season and try on to see how I feel about the items.
What if your answer is normal day wear? That is just one occasion but still quite necessary
Aveska A i think you should see it like is it a versatile piece you know you can wear multiple ways. Not literally three occasions I think
My three qeustion are do you have it worn in the last six months, would you buy it again if you see it now in the store and if you wear it makes do you feel good about yourself in this piece or not?
@@aveskaa4736 Normal day wear includes a lot of occasions in my opinion. Errand running, lounging around the house, going to a movie, etc.
Your introductory comments about how we do things to cover up pain hit me like a ton of bricks. It's a simple but profound revelation.
Almost 5 years ago, I remember looking around my home and seeing piles of clutter everywhere. I decided that it was ridiculous that 3 people were running out of room in a 1000sqft house. I decided it was time to reclaim my home. I found so much more in the process.
I am truly excited for you on this journey. I know that it a hard one. It is so worth it in the end. I will be praying for and cheering you on!
Once you get started it's hard to stop. I end up purging and reorganizing when I feel stressed in a certain area of the house, and it always makes me feel better when it functions more efficiently. Now I just need to make the donation run! 🤦♀️😘
You had a great list of things to ask yourself when decluttering clothes 😂 If I heard one more person say “does this spark joy?” 😵
This is my first time watching you, but I know the pain and shame of a shopping addiction. Throwing out all of the things I'd bought, thinking each was THE ONE that would make me feel better was so hard. But with each item, it felt like another stone lifted off my chest. I still autopilot to online stores when I'm feeling some kind of way, but it gets better. I'm proud of you for being vulnerable and admitting shopping may have been your drug, and I'm so proud of you for taking the steps to overcome it. All my love. 💜
I’m trying to find ways of decluttering after 3 months of therapy because I realized I was shopping compulsively and I wanted to change that and It means so much for you to start the video the way that you did because I haven’t seen a lot of people really talk about this. My shopping for clothing specifically comes from neglect, abuse, and trauma growing up, but I’m a simple person and I’ve become overwhelmed by the abundance of clutter to the point where it feels like I’m being suffocated because I feel guilty and confronted by my pain every time I look around and see things I bought compulsively because I was hurting. I’m just now getting help and I realized I got caught up in instant gratification, and doing the thing that wasn’t illegal or hurting other people, trying to fill a void that couldn’t be filled with things. I’ve been struggling so much to declutter and it’s so refreshing to see someone approach this from the way you are. It makes me feel less alone, thank you for being honest!
I just spent 30 mins cleaning out my email! I let it get out of control and it was nearly at 2,000 unread emails!! I’ll probably stay a week behind you on this decluttering journey but I’m here! Good job!
I THOUGHT I did an extreme closet declutter a few months ago, I now see clearly from yours it was more reserved than it could have been...I’m going back in!!! X
I love a good declutter, that was an amazing amount of progress!! I love the idea of giving the skirts a second chance. I think its important not to make too many tough decision the first time decluttering, maybe a decision you will regret. You will find going through your wardrobe a second time when you're ready, these decisions come much easier! To anyone struggling to get started, just do it and dont make it to hard on yourself! You will build up your 'muscles' to declutter the more you do it, and it will be easier to make decisions to part with things. Don't put yourself through stress and decision fatigue, just get started and make some progress little by little!
Best of luck on your decluttering journey!
I started a whole life declutter in 2017. I got rid of most of my clothing (don't even have a dresser). I also got rid of all my jewelry and almost all my makeup in 2018. In 2019 I got rid of my hair and all my accessories/tools/products. I can now fit all my clothing, shoes, accessories, skincare, hygiene & makeup into 2 suitcases. It feels awesome!!
What I really notice that when one space is “done” it is so much easier to do a little putter that takes only a minute to keep it up. There is so much space and it feels nice to have some clarity in what we see on a daily basis. Its such a relief. It’s worth the effort and mentally heading in the right direction for personal wellness. Proud of you Angela.
One thing I've done for slow, low-key sorting is to turn all my hangers backwards and revisit the situation in 6+ months. As clothes get washed and put back the hanger is flipped the normal way so months later I can see that I didn't wear the ones that are still backwards and I can ask myself "Do I really want to keep this if I haven't worn it yet? Really really?" and it feels much more low stakes to me.
How many hours did the decluttering in this video take? That was a lot of work! Your closet looks gorgeous now!
i love the hanger method! i use it too
It took about 5-6 hours :)
I do this same method.
OH MY GOSH!!! This just changed my life. I've been struggling to figure out how to know when things get worn or not (I normally sort by item so my boyfriend said just keep putting newly washed things on the left and then you'll see what doesn't get worn but that just makes for chaos) and this is it! Thank you so much for sharing!
Pain & hurt & sadness, and needing to fill voids .
Honesty makes the efforts so worthwhile! 🌿💕
This is so awesome. My life is so much different after I purged and organized my entire house. I can look around and be happy and feel like I have room to breathe. Good for you!!!
I really appreciated your raw honesty about using clothes and things to fill voids in life.
So refreshing to have people be so honest and real.
And you did a great job as well.
I'm in the process of decluttering and it's a much slower process than most people's videos but I'm still happy and proud of myself that I'm getting it done.
☺️🙏🌸💗
I’ve been decluttering for a year, and now I’m going back over the spaces and purging even more. This is such a great and needed series! Thank you for the motivation!
Decluttering feels soooo liberating, doesn’t it? A good rule that I try to use is to save only things that are: USEFUL or BEAUTIFUL or MEANINGFUL. It applies to everything.
Loved the video🙂
No offence but I'm astonished about the idea of having something with the tag still on in the closet. I always get so excited to wash and wear my newest addition :D
I get that. Me too honestly, but it’s the problem with buying something just because it’s on sale etc. If I don’t love it- I’ll always find an excuse to not wear it.
I am totally joining you on this "Declutter My Life" series! I started last year and stopped due to a family member's chronic illness. But I am ready to tackle the rest of my house. It's fun when doing it with someone! Thanks for the inspo Angela!!
Retirement for me meant downsizing from 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, yard care to a 1 bedroom apartment. I found getting rid of stuff was really heart wrenching . I had to remind myself, the memories are in the heart, always with me. It feels good having my environment clean & tidy. I am so glad you talked about the emotional ties (good & bad) to stuff. Thank you for showing me I am not alone.
Two years ago I got rid of 75% of our belongings. Don’t give up it’s worth it! You will LOVE it. We also set boundaries around relatives giving us stuff. It’s been so freeing and my stress level decreased dramatically
Came for the clothing declutter, realized I needed the deeper message. I've definitely been guilty lately of buying things with the idea that this one item will be the one to make my life better/myself complete etc. Thanks for sharing♥
Ive also been decluttering my life the last two months. I lived out of two suitcases the three months before that. When i came back I was so overwhelmed by all my stuff. I had so much clutter that i was holding on to and i just started to affect my mental health.
I love seeing you declutter because I know how freeing it was for me and how much brainspace I got back!
Great job! I just did this with all my clothes and I know the feeling. Something I did was turn my hangers all the opposite way so not only does that show me in a few months what I haven’t worn, but it actually encourages me to wear the tops that still have the hanger turned. 💜
I formerly shopped to fill my void as well. Thanks for your honesty. I donated my new clothes that I never worn to homeless shelters. New subbie here. I love it.
Well done sis!!! Doesn’t it feel AMAZING?!?
When you said "Maybe you buy for other people" that really struck hard. I think I hide behind giving things as an expression of love for people in my life instead of showing my feelings and expressing them. This is how I grew up and it's a hard one to stop but now that it's identified, I think I can be conscious of it. I've started two week ago de cluttering massively, yet again, and this time I am determined. It's daunting and exhausting but feels so good to see an empty space. I'm loving empty spaces! Really appreciate your video. This is the first one I've watched.
You did amazing I love it. I’ve been practicing minimalism for the past two years and it all started with the same epiphany as you. I decluttered my entire life, and I started with my closet of clothes. I had a spending addiction due to filling voids. And like you said at the end, I went ham! After I cleaned out my closet. Can you believe my fiancé and I are moving into a studio in June?? A STUDIO. I’m so flipping excited. I can’t believe I’ve gotten rid of that many clothes, decorative pieces, furniture, and JUNK. It feels so good. It’s helped so much with my anxiety as well. So proud of you and happy for you ❤️. Great vid, mama
I appreciate the honesty. I started watching another declutter video and the person had so many clothes I couldn't even finish it because it made me feel suffocated, overwhelmed, and sad for her. My grandmother, now passed, gave me the shopping intervention I so desperately needed because I was sad, lonely, etc. and shopping was my outlet. I will forever be grateful for her continued accountability in my head. My secret is that when I think I'm ready to check out I actually go back through the store and I put at least 50-75% of it back exactly where I found it. The motion of this forces me to reconsider each item and do an act of kindness for the store clerks by putting it back where I found it, which gives me more joy the happy endorphins that buying the item would if that makes sense.
I recently went bra shopping, got resized and bought 9 new bras. When I got home, I tried them all on and admired my new uplifting look in the mirror. I finished, then began stuffing them all into my bra drawer. They wouldn't fit. 😑 "Why?" I asked myself. Hm? 🤔 Could it be that I needed to get rid of at least 9 of the old, useless ones still crammed at the bottom?
And that's when my decluttering journey began. So, I created a project list of what I want to purge in my wardrobe, what areas I want to improve on regarding my personal style and what, ultimately, is the end goal. So here I am watching videos, getting insights and ideas on how to commit and make this journey not only fun but lasting for a lifetime.
Thank you for opening your life for others that weren't sure where to start. At the beginning.
Best of luck. 🙂
I love watching people declutter, I've already have done this for over a decade now. It's just entertaining and very interesting how much more people have and accumulate.
Love this series! We are moving in June so we are decluttering stuff as we move into storage while our house is being built. It’s amazing just how little we actually need. I love you and your family! Keep it up!
I used to have so many clothes because of eight kids, hubby and I. It was miserable. I can say it’s ten times better now that I have so many less clothes for all of us! Good job decluttering!
Seriously decluttering is like a form of therapy for me! I always feel SO good after!
Clothes for me is a CONSTANT clean out. My size has gone up and down due to pregnancy twice and I've kept everything over the years. Every time I put up laundry I look at my hanging clothes and quickly scan for unneeded shirts. Then every fall and spring I go through all my clothes.
I need to do this so bad. I have a habit of holding on to clothes because it reminds me of a specific event or moment 🤦🏼♀️. All of it just gets shoved to the back of the closet and forgotten about.
I’m watching because I’m struggling with the process of going through my clothes. My intention is to be honest and get rid of quite a bit. So far that isn’t happening. It’s hard for me to get rid of things in general. I’ve watched several video and while I realize they are sped up, it still seem like you and others easily decide on each piece. My hubby is away on a business trip, I set a goal to get through all of my clothing in the 2 weeks he’s gone. Today was day 1, I barely got rid of anything.
Thank you for this video. It's difficult to watch people who barely have any clothes do closet declutter videos because i can't relate to them... but i definitely relate to your "bed of clothes"... so thank you for that... and... thank you for mentioning the "filling a void" issue. I think it was really helpful to know that I'm not alone. ❤
Doing this today. I, too, was trying to cover pain and unhappiness. Keep moving forward! I try to remember that something done in unhappiness will only bring more unhappiness. When I look at my “things” I just feel what I felt then. Instead of that temporary happiness!
You are so courageous for showing this to the world! I am so proud that you are doing this for yourself.
Well done! The twins were having so much fun. 😁 I am enjoying this whole decluttering series. Don't you wish we could really clean that fast and it would take less than 20 minutes instead of hours? Can't wait to see what you tackle next.
I've watched a lot of these videos but you touched on collecting things because you filled a void and other issues that goes with the purchasing of the clothes. This was really profound for me. I'm happy for you that you're making progress. Stay blessed
Good job! I donated/trashed half my wardrobe in 2019. I didn’t have THAT much from the beginning, but had too much I didn’t wear anyway. Might take another round today.. too many uncomfortable panties that are just too tight 😅 I now only have 3 pairs of jeans (all different styles/colors and 2 pairs of nicer pants..and that is enough ;)
Amazing!
If you hang all of your clothes on their hangers backwards, and then wear them and replace them back onto the rack normally, at the end of the year you’ll see which items you wear and the ones you don’t!
My closet was once like yours, now I am getting into minimalism more....my closet is getting empty....and I am loving it! More stuff equals stress.
This was exactly what I needed. I have shopped to fill my voids. You give me motivation. Thank you for sharing
I really love how you thought about why we do what we do (and we all do it!). It made this so much more than just a closet clean-out. Great job!
You are just so amazing for sharing how you feel and how clothing was a way of trying to manage how you were feeling. I don’t think a lot of people realize how we deal with our struggles differently. I love your fighting spirit and how despite the hurt that lead to this point you keep going and healing and you’re honest about it! I enjoy your videos so much and I really hope that others are kind to you and that you don’t feel judged by others.
My mother passed away suddenly from pancreatic cancer in 2012. We used to love shopping together but it was more about spending the day together than buying stuff. It was our "time to talk". I went on a an absolute bender when she died. It was like trying to fill the void. I bought things I never ever wore and then gave them away. I had major credit card debt. I used to spend $10 on mascara but started buying $70 mascara. Nothing replaced my mum but I kept trying.I actually started working in retail in one of the shops we used to visit together. When I realised that the warm fuzzies given by shop assistants is mostly an act to get you to buy more stuff it helped cure my addiction. I gave nearly $4000 worth of clothes to an op shop and sold some in a garage sale. A dress I paid $130 for sold for $2. It was a huge wake up call. I now volunteer as the visual merchandiser in an op shop and I see the huge amounts of clothes come in that have never been worn. I also throw out a lot of donated junk. Ripped and stained clothes go straight to landfill anyway. You will feel much better now and you may slip up every now and then but as long as you are aware of the reasons you shopped then eventually you will control it instead of it controlling you
Really enjoying these and starting my own declutter. Thanks for the push.
I find when I clean my closet out feeling refreshed. I'm not stumbling or fighting clothes to find what I need. Lol I used to donate everything but then younger family members came along and they have always want what I purge. They are happy and so am I. The girls looked so sweet helping mom in the closet. 😁
Totally can relate to emotionally shopping, I’m in the process of declutter . The freedom in letting go! Thanks for sharing.and great job on closet.
I started decluttering last February. I am hoping to become a minimalist. I am getting there. I would go in every month and get rid of more clothes. This was an amazing freeing process. It taught me so much.
I just came across your channel the other day and enjoy “getting to know you”. Thank you for being so honest! It is refreshing and I can feel God speaking comfort to me through it.
I stumbled upon this video and I so appreciate your authenticity and openess. The comment about not keeping clothes like fine china 🍽 in your closet. 😳 So needed as I venture into this project myself. Thank you 🙏🏼✨
Loving this decluttering series! I had my first baby in November and decided now would be a great time do this along with you as we are in a new season of life.
Im only 2 mins into your vid but when you said "or maybe you buy things for other people to cover up pain," that HIT different! I DEF do that. Shoot, I'm doing the same thing (prepping for a move overseas) and I gave away SO much stuff to my Soldiers. and immediately realized it was just due to pain...I'm definitely saddened, but thank you for showing this and sharing this.
I'm starting to do the same thing, I'm pregnant with my 3rd baby and I'm working on getting rid of alot to get ready and get my boys ready.
I'm also pregnant with my 3rd. Getting rid of all the the clutter trying to get closer to minimalism. Lol
There is no purging and Decluttering like that which is done by a pregnant woman- God speed 😉
I like your honesty about filling a void, for me it is craft items and holiday decor even if I can’t afford it.
We share a lot of the same color pallet in clothes.
You still have tonnes of clothes for one person but as you say it is your first purge. I agree with some of the others if you put your hangers backwards then you will know by the end what you have worn as only front facing hangers will be your go to. Thanks for sharing, awesome job.
I totally agree with u on that explanation u gave! Any kind of pain or depression makes u shop or buy in excess ! Love your dicuttering
I've been doing the same and appreciate the frankness of using shopping to avoid stresses in life....i definitely slip back into bad habits myself
I did this a few years ago - and even decluttered the mending basket - where I found a dress for my daughter when she was 6 - she is in her 50's now - and needless to say, it was decluttered right straight to Catholic Charities. Also decluttered my towering ironing basket - then actually ironed the 4 shirts left after decluttering. Since then - I check and do a VERY mild decluttering twice a year - spring and fall - and winnowed stuff even more. Now the only things that live in my closet are things I REALLY REALLY like - and a few dust bunnies. I've also decluttered my Jewelry - but am less successful there - mostly because I inherited a lot of jewelry - and I don't wear it - but consider it as something I am holding onto for MY grandkids - IF they want it.
I'm so loving this series! Thank you for sharing and can't wait for the rest of the series. I recently went through my clothes and i know I have more to donate/throw out in my closet. and Yes! you do have to be so honest with yourself. :)
I ask myself, "how can my life be better with less?" For me, I'm not working or socializing, so how many outfits, what style, what kind, & what is truly sparking joy for me? Even if I swap around my outfits, how many do I need? Get togethers, family gatherings, church, lunch with a friend, party, graduations, weddings, funerals...how many outfits do I need? Hardly any, when I really think about it. Less. This is my goal. Less. Your getting there, girl. We're all getting there. Just don't stop. Don't give up. I'm proud of you.
You are awesome. Thanks for sharing. I thought I was the only one who had far too many clothes neatly hidden away. Neat n tidy can still be too much. I’m ready to do this...again. 👍🏼
these are the best - you get everything out and see what you have and makes downsizing more satisfying that just going through the hangers and taking the odd thing out your closet . you make better progress totally emptying your closet
I'm scared if I declutter and purge my clothes I won't have any left. Lol. I can't say I'm in love with any of them.
I loved this video. I watched it after I saw your Kitchen videos. I appreciate you are willing to share your life in this way.
I decluttered and organized my closet this year and the feeling is out of this world! Your closet is huge and you make decluttering and organizing look simple and fun😃
My problem isnt my clothes..in fact I need to buy more for myself...I tend towards buying too much for my kids...and I have a large family too.. So it's a little outta control right now...😏 I'm going through their stuff now..💓
I have a bad habit of keeping clothes that are cute and I want to wear but it’s just not my style. So I go through my closet every once in awhile. You did excellent!!
Enjoyed your video on your other UA-cam channel. I am so sorry for your losses this week. Praying for peace and joy for your family. Watching your videos over the years has been so encouraging. Keep on keep'n on! ❤
This video truly inspired me. Honestly I was about to turn it off and then I started listening to what you were saying and yours words really hit me. I have been trying to declutter and organize my closet and its. Taking me forever, bc I get overwhelmed. But it's also more deep rooted with emotional and other inner feelings that are really hard to let go of no matter how hard i.try. the more I listen the more your words are really inspiring me. Thank you
You talked about a checklist but I could not find it.
I need to go through my clothes...love that you shared your personal process through this. Best. clothes declutter. ever. Good job 👏
Keeping Mr Bunny is the cutest thing 🥺 it was such an aww moment.
Thankyou for sharing ! Filling the void ! So many of us are in the same boat. You feel so alone in the moment and with all the baggage.
Thank you for your vulnerability and authenticity. Love you!! In the journey with you!! 💜🙌🙏
Love this!! Congrats...... so freeing to get rid of STUFF. The twins playing in the closet were so darn cute!!
Wow you did so well. I spent most of my childhood with my Gran she was totally amazing...Now I realise she was a mimamlist..Our home was gorgeous everything had its place we had the room to play and be creative we knew wear everything was .I adopted this life style and love it So much better for our environment..and health and wellbeing...Blessings stay safe everyone in these sad times 🌱🙏
OMG, the intro to your video is so me right now! I am determined to declutter and am actually in the processing of doing so at this very moment. I love watching these kind of videos to help push me through. Thank you for sharing your process!
I've used the backward hanger method and that works very well for me. Something I heard last week was "first look at the stuff that is still in the closet because the things on the bed, counter, hamper etc is the stuff you've actually worn"... never thought of it that way but it's so true!!
Way to go!!! What a huge accomplishment. I used the kon Marie method a few years ago to declutter my entire house. It feels so so good and makes life so much less stressful afterward.
Was just talking to my daughter this morning about decluttering clothes. We leave the house twice a week (Sundays for church and Thursdays for chiropractor appt, sewing lessons, piano lessons and grocery hail). I really don't need that many clothes. I tend to wear the same things at home. Just need a few church outfits, a couple leaving the house outfits and a few staying at home and homeschooling outfits. Going to nurse my baby and then head to my bedroom and go through my clothes!!!
I love your openness in this video. I also love your won't he do it sweat shirt. I need it in my life.
Just spent this weekend cleaning house and it feels great!!
I plan on doing that .. but our downstairs is our main living area and I’m decluttering that right now. I’m hoping beginning of February I’ll get to my clothes. Hubby’s ... Lord help me there lol he’s the one that won’t get rid of anything. Thanks for sharing!! Very inspiring!!!
I am with you....I come from a large family and my Grandma was the neatest most organized person. I have room for improvement...thanks for the inspiration. ❤
It looks great! 👍🏻 I like to be organized. It helps my mental state of mind SERIOUSLY. If things are cluttered....my mind feels cluttered too. Crazy! I am actually glad I haven’t thrown a few of my pieces in bags, because they’re in style now 😂 for example square toed shoes.. I’ve done a closet clean out but now it time to tackle drawers. Thank you for the idea of how to do it!
Yes, girl! Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. I absolutely related to what you shared. And I love how your southern-ness came hollerin' when you spoke to your kids, jaja.
I’m so glad to see that in just 2 days, your personal channel has already grown quite a bit! Like I have commented before, I really enjoy your content and while I don’t have 8 kids (just 2 for me) I love the energy, knowledge and even the little bit of snarkiness (I don’t think that’s a word 🤷🏻♀️) that you bring! I find it relatable and I like the fact that you really seem to keep things real, attainable and honest with your viewers. It is refreshing to have someone to watch that is both entertaining and realistic about your life and how you balance all that you do on both this channel and Our Gathered Nest. Thank you for the hard work you put into it all!
I also live in Charlotte and I love that you are giving your clothes to crisis assistance ministries. Having volunteered there before, I know that they will be so happy so have all of your clothes especially because you have such a good sense in style. Thank you!
I LOVE THIS!!!!! I declutter my wardrobe every 6 months...if I don't like the piece anymore, don't feel good in it or I haven't used it in that time frame then that piece of clothing is gone from my life.
I love love love Mr. Bunny. I have kept one stuffed animal from each grandparent, they have all passed now but it makes me happy to have them! ❤️ and I’m 43 ha! 😊 thank you for sharing your life and declutter! It’s very inspiring! ❤️👏🏼
I swear if he makes it through my life- I’ll have him buried with me 😂
Important to stop and eat! You need energy and it’s great to acknowledge. Also really cool that you learned that when you lived in the RV you didn’t need much! 😊
Made me anxious just looking at all this stuff, well done for fixing things up great video
I was already decluttering before Christmas but I love following along! Idk why but these videos are just my absolute favorite