THE NARCISSIST’S NEW SUPPLY-WILL CATCH IT WITHIN 3 MONTHS AFTER THE NARCISSIST BURNS OUT!!
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- Never worry about your partner once they leave you, cheat, put you down, etc. Each time I left, I had no clue why, where I was going, how long it would last, and why I truly left. All of my reasons were selfish and I had ALWAYS blamed her!!!
When I met the narc I did not think I caught a great prize. He was nothing I wanted physically. But I was looking for companionship. I should have bought a dog. 😂
Wow that’s exactly what happened to me ! Lol a dog is more loyal for sure.
😂😂😂😂
With mine I bought a dog and he wanted to take the dog😂
Mine told me not to get a dog, but I'm getting one soon.😊
@@kimt.6322 the x was so jealous of my sons dog😂
My narc exhusband (we divorced 3 years ago)...he started showing off his new supply around valentine's day. They look perfect for each other. She's gorgeous. They tag each other in everything...saying how they are getting the best versions of themselves lol. How amazing he is. How dope she is....etc etc
But the funny part is....this is supply #3 since we divorced. I'm just over here like 👀 🍿
She’ll recant ALL of that in a few months!!! He’s just antagonizing right now!!!
My ex has Been through 4 or since me & it's been 9 months today of separation
@@leonrwalkerjr and the ONLY reason we're still friends on social media, is because we coparent. Plus I went thru therapy n all that, which helped me set healthy boundaries. So he continued on with his other supplies instead of hoovering. I'm grateful for your content along with other self aware narcs on here. Definitely been eye opening 👌🏽🔥
@@loveablearies sheesh....makes you even more grateful you left. 🙏🏽
@@jthelightray Right!! Crazy part is I've gone No Contact for the entire 9 months & he still calls & txt. He's blocked of course, however he is now calling from another phone. Smh 🤦♀️
The only thing you can actually do that will bother a narcissist is not care. Go on to live a better life than you had with them. All these people making videos and pointing out different aspects of narcissism are only feeding the egos of actual narcissist. Let it go. Do not worry about them. They are not a factor in your life.
True
I agree with this 100%!! And this is the best way to aggravate and piss off the narcissist! 😁
The best piece of advice 👌🏿.
I was the new supply & I completely forgave the BIGGEST red flag there could be. He lied about still being married.! When I found out I should have 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️ but I was "in love" or should I say mind f'd. He did get divorced but I should've had NO PARTS; just dumb. I could've have saved myself 7 yrs of so much drama, confusion, pain & anguish. The only good thing that came from it was my 6 yr old daughter.
BEWARE!!!: THEY MOVE EXTREMELY FAST WHEN THEY WANT TO CONSUME YOU/YOUR LIFE.!!!
BE CAREFUL OUT THERE!!! 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️💨💨💨💨💨💨💨💨
Well you’re gone now. He will reap what he’s sown
When I first met the x narc I asked him if he had been married before. We are both older. He said “ no” right through those dentures. 😂
Then one day he was cleaning out paperwork and said “oh, here is my divorce decree”.
Later, I found out that not only was he married, but he got paid because she needed a green card. Lol
After I left he decided he needed a new pair of dentures. Lol. He should have spent the money on a gym membership!
I don't know how did you think it was gonna play out when you had to do all the digging just to find out he was still married just to think that she was going to be the surprise winner to YOU! 🤔😭😭😭❤️ no shocker sweetheart but that's literally how all woman like you stories go. It would NEVER be different. You have to start off with a CLEAN slate will be ready for the REPERCUSSIONS 🙃🫶💯🤷🏾♀️⏰ it was only a matter of TIME too🤔
@@lovelykiyah7415 absolutely agree.👍
@TurnAwayNow I wish I could say say it louder for those in the back, but y’all are the hardest to reach. Mind f’ed is a good way to put it. Being lied to about a marriage really is the worst red flag and the biggest ego stroke for them is when the person knows the truth and still stays.
A bad situation all around. The narc is winning, the Other person thinks they are winning, the person losing the narc is the only one that is truly winning if they learn leave and grow.
Glad you got out. I know folks won’t listen to your story thinking they will be different, but tell them anyway. You might save a life.
He’s exactly right I discarded my ex in 2021 he ran to new supply and within a few months he tried to go through some else inquiring about me but I didn’t fall for it. Over two years NO CONTACT and at PEACE loving me myself and I ❤
3 months facts! New supply knew all about me . He is now cheating on her 😂
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3 months does seem a recurring theme
Triangulation involves a victim, a rescuer, and a persecutor. Get in where you fit in, but don't blink because the roles are ever changing. You're in a harem. Your first clue is feeling a little bit jealous of his dog😊 Yes, he will triangulate you with anything, work, women, pets, and his grandma.
That’s very true!!!
Lol! I love your first clue. “His grandma” is funny too.
@@leonrwalkerjrquick question, gathering evedence of her cheating and I got a lot if I get info out there to make her look bad is this something she would sign my son over for or would it make her run.
@@mcd1192 both. Run from embarrassment and/or want to resolve it as soon as she can. Also, sometimes, she’ll go so deep into lies and denial, she’ll hold onto her lies to deal with the info you have and to keep your son.
@@leonrwalkerjr well dang will they possibly save the new supply career, he was a friend who is in military.
Very true narcissist souls do not fear 😨 in getting caught actually it’s very exciting to them it’s energy to there demons
That’s 100% true!!! I try to tell people this
@@leonrwalkerjr all honesty all of us know how darkness works we all have part taken in it some kind of way it’s the overcoming it makes you stronger I applaud 👏 you greatly 💪🏽🥰❤️🙏🙌🏽
Absolutely not! They actually rejoice in getting caught because they live for your pain
@@MegaLadylove2012 And they think they own you. An object or toy. That''s all. Nothing more.
😮😳😳 This is scary but it makes sense.
He used me to help him regulate his emotions after losing the one before me. Just as I'm sure he's using the one after me to recover from our break up. It's been Fast & Furious.
Yes that is what they do!
Mine did that too now he’s using the new woman to get over me. Narcs are so strange…
For the narcissist, family does not matter
Exactly! My ex had a marriage of 30 years and she finally left. Then he met and married the second wife in a year. Then when his 2nd wife left after 6.5 years , he met me in 4 months. I left in 4.5 months and he met his new wife in two months after me. He was getting desperate because he wanted to marry me too. Lmao he married the newest supply in 6 months. Omg he was trying to get me to move in with him within 1 month a half. I didn’t. It was to soon and odd. His wife leaves him and he meet me and want me to move in. I was building a home and he tried to be slick and tried to entice me with how much money I could save. Yeah he said I didn’t even have to pay rent. Yeah he was that nice 😂. By month 3 he tried to tell someone I was his fiancé. I said no I am not., I’m your girlfriend. By month 4 he was talking getting engaged like when. I was like not now and we can wait like a year and see where we are. He bought me an engagement ring weeks later. I was so pissed. We talked about it. I had told him how I felt and he agreed. They don’t care and they push and see who will fall. Not me I was out of there. Then the anxiety separation thing. Every time I had to leave to go back home for the week I would stay with him the weekend, it was puppy face, guilting me and trying anything he could to keep me by his side. I couldn’t take the BS anymore and he lied so much about things he didn’t even need to lie about. He was also delusional because he said he had worked as a military consultant and had all these special forces classes he went to. He was a high person who had worked for Blackwater and nobody knew he had done that. Watching 911 he said they were there two weeks later helping find Bin Laden. Another time we were looking at Black hawk down and they were the second group to help the second team when they went in. By that time I was like wait a minute every time we’ve watch movies he says he was there weeks or hours later. By now I was like that is odd. He also was with a group of men looking for Pablo Escobar. Guess when he said that? When we were watching the Pablo Escobar documentary. Yes the dude is a full fledge crazy liar. Omg he gave me a coin for team seal six and said that meant a lot to him. I found a box in the closet with like 100 of them. The inference was that he was there or part of that. You can. Buy those on eBay or Amazon by the boxes. The entire movie collection and books in his home (there were countless) were all about special forces and their training, war movies. He was a self taught Bull shitter of war, tactics and military and covert operations. So he could get many going with his book knowledge and especially women. I knew something wasn’t right. Every movie of war or operations he would say that isn’t true that is not what happened. We knew what happened. 😂😂😂 Loco had to go. New supply did catch it a month before marriage but she still married him. She is so vulnerable much older than him even and a widower. A very Christian woman. Locked her in now with we can’t divorce because god doesn’t want us to divorce. I’m sure that is also what he might of told her. She’s going to try so hard to make it work. To love him and try to help and understand him. Yup like Christian woman do. I am a Christian. I am as soft as a dove but as shrewd as a snake. Wisdom I am 58 and he was 63 (man child btw) and she’s like 70. I don’t understand what Christian church would marry a couple in 6 months when he started that church in five months. That’s a big red flag if I was the pastor. He convinced her and they convinced the church and pastor. Wow.
Can't believe I'm in this situation.
Caught my wife cheating and instead of being an adult about it she still lies about it 🤦♂️🤦♂️. She runs 🏃♀️ away from taking responsibility for her own actions. Sadly I would have taken her back had she had any type of remorse or accountability for what she did.
Mentally she didn't have the capability or capacity to have empathy. She was completely dead on the inside. Manipulating any and everything to her benefit. I lost 15 years of my life. This pain is unbearable. The only thing she told the truth about was that she is a sex addict. She didn't mention that she would be sleeping with me and her coworkers. smh. Pray for me!!
Prayers for sure!!! Prayers are needed. Yes, you’re correct about all of that. Just remember this, please-you are fighting against well over 200 years of untreated trauma, neglect and abuse that she has seen or been a part of. 200 years; grandma, grandad, mother, father, and now her-no one got treatment I’m sure. They all paid if forward and now she is too!!!
But still-NO EXCUSE for what she did!!!
@@leonrwalkerjr Exactly Generational curses for decades its accumulative Every sexual partner adds there spirits plus drinking spirits So thats why over decades the person you loved is now unrecognizable 💔Fasting and deliverance prayers are lifesaving Trust me it saved my life in the darkest days 🙏🏻✍🏻🎚
Wow I'm sorry for you. I've experienced this as well. Although I didn't marry her which she tried to get me to do. She slept with people i consider family, friends and my son's mother brother. These people have no loyalty or pause button. You will be fine in time. Focus on you and know this wasn't your fault. You didn't nothing wrong to deserve this. You choose the wrong person because she showed you smoke and mirrors thinking she was the one and she was the one for everybody!!!
These narcs have no chill. Although, you have to take some accountability too because I’m sure there were plenty of warning signs thru out those 15 years. Truth is, it was 15 years of experience. Not wasted years because wether you liked it or not, 15 years was still gonna come. Considered it lessons learned for your next chapter because you’ll grow from the encounter whiles she would remain the same
I remember 4 years ago, when I first seperated from my estranged narc husband, I was so deflated worrying about the raggedy mess he was having the affair with. Then with further research, he was having multiple affairs in rotation. Trust and believe they don't care about the side chic or mistress. They are just a supply that gives them what they want.
One time I heard that my x was telling people how a lady that looked like a model and young. was interested in him. I broke out laughing.
I am hoping that when he talks about me to new supply, he will say I was a model. Lol
Needed to hear this I don’t why I care after just finding out . He was horrible , verbal emotional physical etc. drugs alcoholic. Then he did the unthinkable. So it’s me I know better!
@@Judah2019 I think we want to know because the whole narcissistic relationship does not make sense. Narcissism is not normal human behavior. Give yourself time to heal. Happiness is on its way!
The narcissist new supply is stalking me with him and hates me and she doesn’t even know me 🤦🏼♀️
They have to triangulate. An X did that. Then an X after him tried and i wasn’t jealous or phased. I seen his fb a few days ago. His eyes say it all. He all gray and stressed. Told me he don’t have social media but funny how he popped up in my suggestions on IG and fb. I blocked him! So pathetic he waited a few weeks after I left him and put my number in a Lyft app and Lyft texted me a link to watch him drive. I screenshotted it as a reminder that POSs know the value and worth of someone when they gone however imma stay gone!
Girl same
I have been done this way for years.
It's insanely
She will find out eventually.
IS she still with him??
Just give them time
Even they just found the new supply, they still try to keep the old supply engaged, so the old supply won't suspect and go anywhere
💯💯👊🏾👊🏾. That’s exactly right!!!
that is so cruel,,,,,been there
Especially when they feel and sense your not into and most likely gonna leave. They can’t be alone!
mine ghosted me
Leon once again you are spot on. He used to boast about his new victims all time.Always wanted me to know they were younger and smarter than me.
Same with mine aagh ,it's tiring I'm out
Love that you mentioned "the beard". Though his beard was indeed sexy, we used to argue when men complimented him on it. Young guys used to be like "oh man, your so cool, how long did it take you to grow it?" My ex basked in the glory of approval from other men...which is exactly how I know he's gay. And yes, if you are a gay man pretending to be straight and hooking women and kids into your charade, you, sir, are a pos.
I feel sorry 😞 for the new supply I know she catching hell and definitely not getting sleep! Lord help her get out like I did
Not one ounce of me feels bad for that person. She knew exactly what she was doing and she’s just like him. Lies lies lies. Sicko. They deserve each other. And now he’s messaging me again he misses me thinks about me and is very sad about it. Why? Hahahah tell her your problems! You wanted to talk to that so badly when you had me for r a decade (cheated on and off for two of those ten). Have a blast! I hope he does the same to her! KARMA is real!
Yep! 90 days is exactly how long my ex-narc lived in my home till he moved out and moved on to the new supply. Like clockwork. Good riddance ✌🏽 #nocontact #blocked
Clockwork for real!!!! You’re good!!! Healthy and wise 💯💯
Yup that’s about right.After 3 months.The ship sinks.
Leon you are so on point, but i beleive mine was already messing around with the new supply while he was with me, this is why I kept getting silent treatment , I discarded him and he has not hoovered in 6 months which is a clear indication that he's with someone else
Thank you. You’re right for sure. He also has to stay with the new supply to always feel good about not being good to you!!!
@Leon R Walker Jr I don't think that the new supply will last, I spoke with his mother several times, she says everyone leaves her son, she also says all the women he dates call her to complain about the abuse, she told me in these exact words "fuck my son" "leave his ass!! You can do it" These are the words from his mom to me! So guess what, mommy knows best! I'm staying no contact!
@@jrlatina mommy knows for sure-she dealt with his dad!!!!💯
@Leon R Walker Jr yup!! Right again Leon! His dad abused her
Same thing happened to me
Love for what you are doing to try and help the survivors out… when you explain all these things. What a hell of a life to live, just ruining one life after another and these people don’t care who they hurt!!! Thanks again Leon
You're welcome.
Wow thank you for these friendly reminders of the Pain in the A…
While they exhaust Me they keep me motivated to let me know I did the right thing after 30 yrs of being with this dude giving him the benefit of the doubt thinking .. awww nobody can be that f up .. Chile pls yea they can 😂
I have to give myself grace ..
You’re welcome -and you’re right too!! Giving yourself grace is huge❤️💯🙌🏾🙏🏾
That’s why I don’t benefit of doubt. That’s a crack they get in and use. Your instincts never lie! I reflect over interactions with folks. If it felt weird or off. Or I didn’t like something but couldn’t figure out why. It’s a sign to stay away. My problem was I like playing detective. Curiosity killed the cat I get it so I just trained my mind not to care! Plus if you gotta investigate something you know on your soul. Just go!
My heart breaks for everyone involved, the supply and the narc, so much pain from childhood until now and it multiplies exponentially. All to avoid pain.
There were things I felt "gut" instinct and gave the benefit of the doubt. There were many things that began to show after the first eight months, I sensed an almost overnight change. Emotional neglect. He spent four months each year in his country and was with me in my country for eight months each year. He did not speak English but I spoke his language well enough. Behind my back, he got "engaged" (He said, "Women are all over me" and "All woman are crazy"). He caught himself on the latter slip as he knew full well I NEVER chased him. Of course he NEVER answered the question. He was so stealth, quiet, "shy" and not physically abusive. He still wanted me to be in his life eight months out of every year. LOL The point being although he just allegedly "got engaged" to someone he knew for only 2 months (that was probably a lie) he stated, "I don't want to talk to her". And he was NEVER faithful, not even for a moment. Finally, I began to detach emotionally, slowly start taking away all I had done, and was doing. It was so hard but I did not know if he was dangerous. I was exhausted. I realized that even then, he was trying to get me to agree to do things for him that would mean that I had to stay in contact with him. I told him on his last night before once again having to return home for four months, "Have a good trip. Have a beautiful life" and I walked out my door and left him sitting inside. He left on his own. That is what I wanted. I did not know what I was dealing with but it all makes sense now. No contact for just over four months now. Three months? I believe that these "creatures" are ALWAYS searching and preying on others. I had been single and celibate for many years before I met him (at work). Lesson learned. Strong boundaries, much self love, and do not let anyone into my life as easily as I let him in. God Bless. Your channel may be "raw" for some but for me straight up no BS truth, no fluff, is what I like. Thank you.
How can we THANK the new supply...😂😂😂😂
As I look back on all the things My Narc did to me, it helps me understand why and recognize a lot of patterns that just never made sense. Triangulation at its finest. Used his bm to make me mad and vice versa, he's used me to make his bm mad. Then he found a old supply he would use to make me mad while him and the bm was on a break. Cycle continues as he made the old supply jealous of me and then flip it to make me fskw. It was always someone around, but never anyone long-term happiness.
Yes-exactly!!!! You nailed it 💯🙏🏾🙌🏾❤️
My ex did the same. Used both his bm to triangulate me. He’s still using them against his girlfriend that he cheated on me with. His daughter told me she’s posting angry stuff on her Facebook telling him to be single. He doesn’t change! 😮
It is funny that you said this Leon so when I was dealing with the narcissists for 5 months. I said you love throwing your Women in rotation don't you?? He told on his self I was putting him through a test I said how about your Woman in Cleveland Ohio??? I ask him will you ever married her?? He got very upset everytime I mentioned her or his other Ex. I said he failed the test huge RED flag, right now he is pissed off at me because I figure him out at his game and I mirror 🪞 him right back. I flip the script and I escape best decision I ever made.
Leon 4 President !! Thank you for your messages you are loved!
You’re welcome. Thank you as well🙏🏾🙌🏾
It’s a sick cycle. My narcissist ex lived in a different state. He’s someone I dated back when I was 16. Going forward we reconnected years after. The love bombing was crazy I feel head over heels. Within 4-5 months the communication changed. The calls and txt became less. I saw the red flags but didn’t leave, because I really wanted it to work obviously we were already looking at engagement rings. Five years in I’ve been cursed out, blocked, unblocked and he even had the nerve to ask me if I had a new man? I’m tired and I’ve completely let go. I never thought he would have done me like this considering we had history.
I have a VERY similar story. My ex and I dated in our teens, were good friends in our early 20s. We went in different directions but kept in touch over social media. My dad passed in 2016. I was living across the country and my ex jumped into action. He fronted my ticket home (I paid him back immediately), came to the wake and took me out after (he knew my dad pretty well). He was engaged at the time. It's a LONG story but they split, and a year later we started long distance. That ended in a messed up way. I ended up moving home, we reconnected again, and this started three years of toxic back and forth, juggling multiple women, lies, manipulation. In May '21 I found out he'd lied to me about another woman, that she was just a friend but they were together (his dad accidentally exposed the truth). I cut it off. He reached out a few times, to say happy birthday, to tell me his cat ran away, but I never engaged conversation. May '22 I reached out on his birthday and found out he had had an unplanned baby with the woman he lied about, four months old at that point. He never told me about a baby on the way, but told me about his cat. They'd only 'dated' for two months. She took their son and her other kids and moved halfway down the coast. (I'd actually moved VERY far away in that year). Then he has the audacity to say he wants a family with me, "someone he loves", that he's better now, he can be a good dad.. I saw through that. A month after that I confronted a lie and he discarded me immediately. I checked out his son's mom's social media, and there found out that he was dating a THIRD woman when he got her pregnant. She was the "main" but he didn't see her often, the son's mom was the side and I was the back burner, I lived an hour plus away. She said her pregnancy was emotional and physical hell, I think the other woman went after her and blamed her for HIM being the one that cheated. Poor poor women that he does this to. It's been six months no contact and let me tell you, I fully see the truth and that door will remain forever closed. I thought the same as you.. we'd always had a thing for each other and he was actually a good friend to me back in the day. I NEVER thought he'd do everything that he did.
Exactly they use the seniority as a hall pass to get in good Plus watching every romcom movie 🍿 where the 1st love comes back adds to the mind fckery. Your not alone 🙏🏻
Ooooh weeee! That shhhh was so painful!
No sir…! I’m done! We’re done!
YOU.WILL.NEVA.HURT.ME.AGAIN!!!!!✌🏾
Right-the hurt is no joke!!!
Leon, thank you for all of this true, helpful content. I was the one he married too. You are spot on on the time line. 3 months of highs and good times. It's NOT sustainable because it's not genuine. It is so hard to leave because we all have hope. We have to come to terms with the reality that the relationship is and was ALL ABOUT THEM. I've said to him 1000 times, "you only want what you want when you want it. All others be damned. "
Thank you Leon!!! God bless!! ❤❤
My younger bro talked about the benching mentality where they recycled old supply every three months if things aren’t going well with the current supply and my jaws dropped like then keeps this cycling going untill somebody opt out. It makes sense bc three months is typically wen the narc starts to Hoover atleast this was the case in experience. And most discard typically starts to happened around this time as well so it makes sense. This perspective forever changed my mind and allowed me to see inside the mind of a narc and you see what others are saying is true
Omg it makes so much sense😮💨 is your bro a narcissist?
@@TheSpiritRoom23 I sometimes wondered
Such a sick game thanks so much for helping so many 💔
I hope she's his dream come true bc I know I will turn into a nightmare.
She’s probably not
@@leonrwalkerjr trust me, she isn't.
So incredibly true still trying to survive the damage from my 9 year relationship with the narc he left 3 times always came back around the 90 day point right on! This time it’s been 6 months cause I’m not having any more of it and his new supply already wants rid of him she has reached out to me to take him back! Triangulation is sickening but they are masters of it! Amazes me how they get someone all in so quickly ever notice that about narcissist relationships it’s boom we are in love and getting married in a months or weeks time just silliness but remember they had the new supply before they got rid of you!
Your description of how you acquired your taste for particular women hit me like a ton of bricks! My question is WHY DO NARCISSIST MEN TALK SO ABSTRACT? You ask them about anything and it sounds like an episode of 90’s Oprah Winfrey ( the sun, moon, stars word salad)
Once you ask, they have to make you believe by ANY means necessary. They are actually going into their false sense of reality-hoping you believe them-and when you do, the games begin and never stop until you leave!!!
You ain't never lied! Anytime I asked my ex a question to simply gain clarity, to make sure I wasn't seeing something or viewing g something wrong...I ended up more confused. Stressed me out.
@@jthelightray yep that and/or you're going to be accused of accusing the narc of something the narc is probably actually doing. Which is even more confusing. Can't look for clarification when you need to it's too exhausting for a narc and they implode then they release all Hell.💥👿💫👿🌪️👿⛈️👿☄️
Wendy,
I would answer you as a victim of a narcissist: Narcissistic personality disorder is from Cluster B, this is precisely the autism spectrum. Next, schedule and answer yourself so that I do not inadvertently offend someone with my comment.
I don't get caught up worrying about "new supply" as 2 years ago I was the "new supply" and she will do to everyone else what she did to me.
I still haven't forgiven myself for even falling for the narc....it's been 9 years. How do I let it go Leon????
That is a difficult one…..forgiving ourselves. I had to finally figure out a way for myself. It is a process. Now that I have forgiven myself and him, I am able to laugh at the stupid situation I got myself into. We all make mistakes in judging characters. Our desire to want someone in Our life is normal. We just chose the wrong person at that time. Be kind to yourself. You were strong and courageous to leave the relationship. Not everyone is able to do that. You should be proud of yourself!
You forgive yourself because you literally don't have years to give.
If you don't want to date that's your choice, but in the meantime vacation, do all the things you were hoping to receive (buy YOURSELF flowers) and ENJOY LIFE.
Throughout this time I'm working on my codependency from every kind of relationship, setting boundaries, and working on everything I wanted to accomplish during that time.
For me thats joining a board, volunteer business coaching, creating my master classes, transitioning to a new career, vacations, spending lots of time with my son, and supporting community events.
I'm not leaving anything undone for anyone, ever again.
You need to get tired of being stuck, and get busy.
So the supply he went to was an old ex from his teens and she received so much abuse within 2 weeks after I told him it was over and he can go to her. Yes I caught him cheating! Sad thing though was she tried to save face and kept the abuse hidden as many people told her it was wrong to help him cheat and the fact that she knew we were still together. This seemed to be his reasoning as to why he treated her so badly. He found a snake in the grass just like him.
I was in the same situation. I found out that he was talking to another lady when we were together. After I had left him, this lady and I started chatting online. I was amazed she did not seem to feel bad that he was disrespectful to both her and I.
Our conversation was on a public forum. And he was reading it. One day he called me and said I was stalking him. Lol
Sounds exactly like my story. Ten years with my ex and treated me amazing first 8 years then boom caught cheering with someone he dated for a month in high school! Lmao. She was obsessed with him he claimed …but she knew all about me. He kept leaving to play wit her then begged me ten times to come back. Foolish me let this happen bc I loved him that much! He said the last time I want to marry you. You are the one always have been you’re my best friend and soulmate - I left. I couldn’t trust him anymore and didn’t believe anything he said. Very sad and I’m still struggling although he ran back to that person he is messaging me (even though he blocked me from his phone only) he said he misses me and thinks about me and it makes him very sad. Why? You’re with her and you’ve been on a vacation already - messaged me for my birthday the minute they returned from her family trip to attend a wedding ! Why do they do this? Why bother with me now? MessAges here and there after three months of a break up. I will never understand
They want us to be jealous so bad about their new supply it’s so annoying, but once you realize they want you to be jealous it’s quite hilarious. Have fun with that friend.
Yes..I noticed a pattern. My ex was the 90 days. I started counting backwards the month and notice situations that went not so good. A continuing cycle.
Jobs lasted 3months.
If I ever date again, which I highly doubt, I will never trust a person who calls their exes “crazy.” I will🏃🏻🏃🏻🏃♂️🏃🏻
Dude... uour videos are stellar.
Thank you for GIVING BACK and working on correcting your karma with TRUTH this time !! 😇💙🕊🔥✌✌✌ Good job .!!
Thank you. I really appreciate your words. Yes, truth this time and from now on-I have to.
@@leonrwalkerjr loving you for this !! Keep it going!! Anything i can do to help... just lmk. Truly 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💙🕊💙💫💫💫
Thank you Leon. I ran into him and one of his new four gfs on Saturday. He didn’t acknowledge my son, who he called his son and wanted to adopt. He wanted to marry quickly and get me out of the house within a few months. I called him out frequently. It was too difficult for him to be in with an authentic person in a real relationship. Your videos help me a lot. I just still have so much pain. I hope it goes away soon. I can’t imagine being with someone else, and yet he easily moves on and said he doesn’t care about my son or me. It’s evil. Very hard to accept evil when you still love the one you married so much. But that person doesn’t exist. He knows I know that, I’ve been clear. Really tough weekend for me.
Wow-that’s hard!!!! Darn!! I’ve given so many women pain and that mindset also. Running, hiding, being e wok-all of it!! I came to know and realize that…I didn’t mean most of it, I just didn’t know how to be vulnerable, nor did I know how to express myself. I was very fearful of many things, so I hid it in evil doings and sayings😢
@@leonrwalkerjr Thank you Leon, it helps to hear this from you. Thanks for self disclosing🥰 I wish for him and every person plagued by this to become self aware like you. I’m so glad for you to know who you are underneath the human conditions. 💎 I’m in a much better place since writing you first. It helped me to see him and the divorce being final. It feels like it’s over for me now. I still have lots of love, just no attachment and no pain. It’s been a great feeling.
Well this supply he has, has been around for 3 years. I had to let go because of the disrespect. He called her the following day and there she goes. How sad that he moves on with her like nothing after us not working. Sad.... no morals, no respect. I have to let go.
They have no heart
Can you make a video on when the narcs turn against/discard their flying monkeys?
What a sad life to live🤦🏾♀️. Keep the video coming 🙌🏾
Thank you.... I have had it rough, I am still in the healing process of entertaining/relationships with three different types of NPD... Covert, Malignant and Overt...
You’re welcome. Wow-you have seen it all!!! I hope you are getting better
Yep! When I was with him (and stayed 4 years longer than I should have) he would have other women in between dealing with me. I even told him that those women only seem to last about 3 months and then we were back hot and heavy. I still can’t believe I allowed myself to go through all of that back and forth mess with love bombing and disrespect in between. 🤦🏽♀️
Sounds exactly like my story. Ten years with my ex and treated me amazing first 8 years then boom caught cheering with someone he dated for a month in high school! Lmao. She was obsessed with him he claimed …but she knew all about me. He kept leaving to play wit her then begged me ten times to come back. Foolish me let this happen bc I loved him that much! He said the last time I want to marry you. You are the one always have been you’re my best friend and soulmate - I left. I couldn’t trust him anymore and didn’t believe anything he said. Very sad and I’m still struggling although he ran back to that person he is messaging me (even though he blocked me from his phone only) he said he misses me and thinks about me and it makes him very sad. Why? You’re with her and you’ve been on a vacation already - messaged me for my birthday the minute they returned from her family trip to attend a wedding ! Why do they do this?
Why bother with me now? MessAges here and there after three months of a break up. I will never understand.
I hope he does exactly to her what he did to me. She is a snake too. Made up lies about me to him to secure her place haha they deserve each other! Karma is real and I don’t feel one ounce bad for that-she knew about me and she was so pathetic. He said she’s just a puppet. A “filler”. He didn’t give a crap about her and he called her every name in the book. I’m guessing he did the same about me but it’s ok bc I know the truth and he knows the truth.
Go live your lives in misery!
My LOVE BOMB in the GOLDEN PERIOD was 3 months..after that its all just HELL totallyyyyy on planet earthhhh..it lasted 3 years before i decided to ESCAPE FOR GOODDDD..❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
When You KNOW Better You Choose BETTER ❤
Ladies Listen.. What HE said LEON!!! My KEEP spreaking the TRUTH!! Trigalation!! 😂🎉😇😇💞 B Blessed. Continue 2 Speak the Truth❤❤❤
Thank you. I will for sure❤️💯🙌🏾🙏🏾. I appreciate that
He treats her
Like a Queen
Takes her to all
Of the fun cool
Neat places I
Took him to
I know I was the new supply once unknowingly and it was hell 10 years never wanted to live with him or marry he knew I was broken when I met him 💔 but I'm healing now and he can kick rocks 😮😮no more and never again period
This is amazing. You describe my husband and never miss a beat! He is all of that
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I sent the new supply a book about female narcissists while she was visiting him. She span it as me being a bitter ex but I’ve at least planted a seed in his mind for when he sees her mask slip. Hopefully it will open his eyes a lot quicker than mine did
Sorry, but the mask doesn’t necessarily slip within 3 months. It can take much longer in most cases. Was married to and divorced a narcissist.
100 % true.
no u should have noticed sooner, usually 90 days.
You keeping it real !! They are low hanging fruit
Narcs Have A Trail Of Broken Hearts 💕
I luv how u said IT'S*NOT* A HEART EITHER LADIES N GENTLEMEN👏🏻👏🏻
Man the struggle is real. But when they cheating and the next think they got over the joke will be on them
Facts
Thanks for your honesty Leon. It it so damn cheeky the way narcs operate.
Does it really end in 3 months, or is this certain cases. The narcissist I'm dealing with, has a new supply that gives her money, buys her stuff, expensive hotels and vacations. She even neglects her dogs for him, and he doesn't even like dogs. She has been throwing him in my face for over a month and she doesn't give a fudge about how i feel. Wants us to be "friends" but treats me like a pet. I don't see these two ending in 3 months, but it would be a laugh riot if it does. The part I'm dreading, is the way its going to end. The last rich supply she had a relationship with, ended with mud slinging on social media. I have a gut feeling that this may end a whole lot worse.
Block and delete my guy. Let it go, block them in everything and delete
There may be some truth to this. I am man enough to admit, that I may have underestimated this theory. The narcissist that I dealt with, her relationship with her new supply, is dealing with a few snags. She got upset with her new supply bc he was spending time with his grandkids, he doesn't like going to her house bc of her dogs, she has other men coming over to her place in his absence, and she can't keep her lies together. I don't know how long before this all blows up in her face, but it is starting to look extremely bad. Oh well.
This is spot on
Ive first hand witness from my ex narc
He is with new supply(third wife) for 3 yrs now.
I caught him within the 1st month of marriage. How is this new person still living with him? My Ex husband is a compulsive liar, cheater and trouble maker, how is his new wife not able to understand his real face ?
Your handsome tho 😊 telling the truth
I left the narc of 5 years. He has gone through one supply and is now on his second. Hes moving in with second. Hoping that falls apart fast.
He was cheating on me and left me for her. Now she is pregnant. It has been almost two years. I’m over him but it just seems like they won. Now they are happy and in love. Unbelievable
They want you to believe that they are happy and in love, but you're looking from the outside in. A narc doesn't change their narcissistic behavior... they can't. It's who they are, but they will change the person who will be the victim of their abuse. Trust and believe that how he handled and treated you is probably how he is handling her. You just don't get to see it. Consider the fact that he did you a favor. You are the lucky one❤. Good luck with your healing.
if a narcissist had a very long term relationship last time it’s not likely they will do that again cause it didn’t work. they will be a ping pong player or will have many.
True but I also knew that the long term meant more to her than myself-women hold onto time, memories, etc…some will be there and some will not. Based on what we shared, there’s always a chance of going back and her accepting me back, sadly. The ping pong affect didn’t hurt that bad, especially when she allowed me (or whomever the narcissist) is. Narcissists don’t care about wasted time.
@@leonrwalkerjr the idea of a long term success will be used to manipulate definitely…but it’s not likely the narcissists goal. what we often think is happening is the polar opposite of what is going on in their head.
@@jessrnny polar opposites for sure. I agree with that. Long term isn’t em ever a goal, no. They do not possess longevity or staying power which leads to avoidance, ghosting, misleading, silent treatment, etc
They will fear this glock
In social media aspect. Would it be a good idea to accept back a narcissist you liked or loved after short period of time as long you have deal with him/her to exchange social media accounts password ? So this way we will see who is the liar and disloyal to the relationship. Once this broken, game over for good.
This is exactly what I needed to hear, Thank you for making this video this confirmed my own thoughts. Answered prayer, thank you 🙏🏽
This is 💯 it starts from the moment the Narc says Hi
I got a Bachelors in Psychology but you hit the Nail in 5Mins. Surrealism!!!!
Thank you for this. 😃
You’re welcome
She will catch hell too!!
It NEVER gets old!
Well he needs attention constantly so a new supply will get him off my back! 😂
@@AlwaysHope2019 They do the same things to every supply! Every now and then they run into a Supet Empath like myself and they become obsessed!
@@AlwaysHope2019 They target us because we're superior and they're inferior, not the other way around!
@@AlwaysHope2019 They target people thst they're pathologically jealous of! They can't dominate you without you physically being in their presence! They need a reflection to be able to mirror you etc. It's all fake! They're demonic forces in a meat suit. An empty black hole! Their eyes are empty and dark.
@@AlwaysHope2019 Narcissists are sadists.
Leon, that's exactly the truth 🔺️! What i don't understand, is WHY does their family (& life long friends)act like they don't know who and what He/she really is? (A.k.a. habitual lying cheating psychopath/narcissist?) Thank you for all your enlightenment.
Sometimes they really don't know! Especially with the hidden beasts. And they will never believe you! This in painful and absurd.
I was once "New Supply" in a blissful relationship (or so I thought) until I started to tell him "no" to his selfish guilt tripping demands. Then he began hoovering his other former supply(ies). Stroking his ego with back massages is what he would have me do eventhough the mf didn't have a job and wasn't looking for one because he had 2 DUI's and could no longer drive and everyone was sick and tired of driving him around. One day while I was massaging him (full body) to sleep with one hand, I was going through his phone with the other hand and saw that he IS a POP-up NARC. The text message from the lady said, "Stop popping up at my house. We don't rock like that. I am in a relationship and you need to respect that." She must have been an ex of his because now, I am seeing the same behavior outta him now that I am gone. And yes, I was a fool of sorts because I chose to stay for 4.5 more years knowing that he was a freaking lying, cheating, disrespectful, untrustworthy, Oh woe is me, mommy and daddy issue having, in the closet drug addict alcoholic, grandiose living in the past ass damaged goods nigga. For our years together, he would always talk about his PAST endeavors of being the "Big Time" drug dealer who had the best drugs, dog fighting and racecar driving which was about 20 some odd years prior. While he would be building himself up verbally, in the back of my mind I would be thinking "You're nothing but a washed up piece of shit on the bottom of my shoe. Why am I even with you?". Believe me when I tell you, these were my thoughts 4 months in after leaving him 2x already. But I was stupid enuf to think that I could help him to heal from what he has been through. So I will eat those 5 years that I wasted.
I hear you loud and clear sis. I did the same for the narc husband I had of 21 years and got out of that shituation and right back in to another one. Only this one was a real panhandling bum. Yes, my momma taught me way better but I was coming out that first bad one thinking if I helped him he'd be grateful. That was the furthest thing from the truth as I ever seen. We go living and be thankful that we learned a lot along the way ❤️ Keep your head up 💯
He's been with the new supply 3 yrs and counting...If the narc is finally getting all of the supply from the new person, ( they needed from you - but you refused to put up with them ) I'm not so sure the new supply is gonna get the same mistreatment, but hey I'm not a narc, I could be wrong?🤷♀️
Wow you described what my ex did as soon as he left me. I feel like you might of met him hahaha . Ive listened to it 3x..
So True, Thank God, I Learned to Love Myself, More! If They ever Loved or Cared Abt Me! They Would've Respected, & Appreciated Me,; The First Time, Around!!!💯
No Contact (5-6 Months)! So Proud of Myself! I Ain't Competing with No Other female, for His Attention! Because I Know How to Disappear, & Act like he Never existed!!!💯✌🏼💪🏼
Thank you for your word 💯👊🙏
Hi Leon, do you do consultations ? I would love to talk with you for some advice about my narcissist husband. He is exactly how you described how you use to be.
It's dangerous to sleep around! Too many cooties!
90 days 5 months and he’s still with her love bombing
What advice would you someone who is getting away but is still forced to share space with them?
Leave sooner and also realize who you are with, what they want, and how to counter EVERYTHING they try. Leave sooner if you can.
I caught it the first day knowing it was a cry for help i put my gear on and knew exactly what he wanted but he will throw it away but in that mean time i said somethings to him he needed to hear they he don't want to hear i has to sacrafice to get that message across but Suprise i walk outta hell Blowing out flames ❤️🔥
Thank you Leon 🙏
All I can think of is STDs and 187.
How funny she reached back out after 3 months asking if I stilled loved her SMH
Three months seems to be the length of a typical situationship with a narcissist. That's how long it lasted for me. When the ex was seeing the new supply, she was with them for about two years until it completely dissolved. By then, they were both cheating on eachother, breaking up, getting back together again, then breaking up again. 😂 Now she's with another dude, while seeing multiple side dudes. Good grief.🙅♂️
I'm almost three months out and I'm drowning in this . I miss her so much I miss my step son . I dont get why knowhone understands what I went through . I dont get why I never got a chance to talk to her again . I'm so over this hurt . I'm so over the nightmares when I do sleep and the sleepless nights that I keep dealing with . I just wanna be happy and I felt today like I'd be better so I tried meeting someone and when I got there after a nice long drive she went into all her trauma and I tried so hard to just make her feel better and in the end the whole drive home I caught myself sobbing over what I just had to deal with and why I can't just be loved . This is killing me .
What If the new supply is a worst narcissist 😅
Lol😂😂
That will be karma 😅😅😅😅😅
When the new Supply got with him she thought she had a great prize within a couple of years she had gotten sick and he didn't even try to help her he was too busy trying to run back over this way and I fell for it but then I begin to see the snake in him and what made me see the snake in him is because she was really sick and he didn't even try to call her go to the hospital to see about her I told him several times you live with that lady you should go and try to see about her see how she's doing the man said to me why do I want her she's sick I don't want no sick person if he said that about her he would say the same about me and then the new Supply niece posted a post about how he tried to go with her an she was pregnant and I knew then he is a real snake so I confronted him about it he was just bad news and I thank God that it's over this man even tried to go with his son's baby mother i think all the times why did leave this man a long time ago why did not see the sign because they were definitely there
I've been through it at least 5 times and yep, they fade away at precisely 90 days to the date.
from the first date on?
They scatter like flies when there found out
Thank you so much sir great video
It’s all fake. Even the sex. They just do and say whatever they assume you would like/want best. I was his favorite supply until I ghosted him because he kept triangulating me and using me as the blueprint for all his other supplies when he would leave from being “mad at me”. so fake!
Good stuff !
It sure seems very legit what you say. Because after she left me, she quickly went into a new relationship and she started getting tattoos on her arms and started smoking. It's like she's trying to start a new life. Hiding her past it's crazy, But she needs her new supply, because she needs a place to live, she's an immigrant in a foreign country.
Thank you Leon