“Trust that the right person will come along at the right time” Welp, I’ve been told all my life similar stuff, specially when I was in my 20s and when I had been rejected people used the cheap comfort method of “you’ll eventually find the right one”, or “you’re still too young”, “when you least expect it she’ll come” and so on. Now I’m 36 and I’ve only had one girlfriend in my entire life, and she still hasn’t come… so I’ll proceed to wipe my tears with $100 bills (yeah I built my career as a software developer all this time)
@@mei2644 thing is I don't believe in metaphysical stuff (I'm a mathematician so you can figure I'm 100% into logical thinking). I don't trust, I only have awareness of consequences based on my acts (or lack of acts). If I go actively trying to find a partner I can potentially find one eventually (although higher chances are I'll just lose my time), if I just focus on my full time developer job without caring about anything else only thing will change is that in 4 years I'll probably be in a tech lead position earning way more but having even less spare time (even to come here watch videos)
It’s one of the best feelings coming from such an unhealthy and unhappy place but getting to go through these positive videos now and being able to fully relate to the feelings discussed. Progress ❤
I hate that I relate. Me and [person] are nearly the exact same- we check out all of these options, and even though I’m the best to her, zip zap, only yap.
@@sebastianbasch1940 Mental health is a journey, and it’s one that’s never over. I know it probably just sounds infantilizing coming from a stranger, but I promise you can get to the same point
@@zenith613 I’m really sorry to hear that you’re struggling, and that you’ve apparently been struggling for a long time. But it really is worth the effort and the hope. I turn 30 early next year, and I’m just now hitting a point where I’m fully happy and content with myself and my life. It takes more time for some people than others, and that’s unfortunate. But life is beautiful, I can promise you that. It’s a struggle sometimes, and I certainly wouldn’t ever imply that your feelings are invalid or wrong. But just know that, from someone who was also not dealt the nicest hand of cards in life and spent a very long time barely surviving, it really can get better. It can be beautiful.
Trusting your instincts is often a great guide. What is it about this person that gives you a good feeling? It's exciting when you sense positive vibes in a connection. 😊
To me the most important values are about what we want in our relationship: do we want to put our relationship first? Do we want to be honest and respectful? Do we want the same things when it comes to relationships? Do we have the same end goal? I feel like we can have different believes that can impact our relationship but if we aren’t on the same page when it comes to the importance of the relationship, everything will fall apart
The notion that comfort is the cozy blanket of a relationship makes perfect sense; after all, who wants to feel like they're tiptoeing on eggshells in the dance of love? It's like finding a pair of shoes that don't give you blisters - a true fit. The support section, well, that's the trusty sidekick in your personal superhero origin story, pushing you to new heights without capes or spandex. Cheers to the ongoing pursuit of love that's as snug as a bug in a rug, minus the rug burns.
Just watched this to see if there's any similarities with my current relationship. Seems my partner is absolutely right for me, and I've never felt like the best version of myself before I met her. Now, I do. Thank you, Psych2Go, for pointing this out. Love your channel 😄
That's such a heartwarming revelation! It's incredible when a relationship not only brings happiness but also helps you become the best version of yourself. Cheers to enduring love! 😊💖.
I'm a bit sad for myself but I'm at the same time genuinely happy for you. And I don't need any empathy :) It is what it is. I do get happy for others being genuinely happy.
Can you do a video on values and how to communicate them? I've always had a hard time grasping exactly what it encompasses and even then people often assume my values are different from what they truly are which is quite frustrating.
Even outside of romantic relationships, this applies. Applies to family, friends. I am blessed to say I have found two friends who I share all these video's concepts with. Spot on video.
Yeah…I think I’m in a “right person, wrong time” situation. As in, I feel all of this, I give all of this and know it’s received. But there’s moreso this…disconnect isn’t the right word. But things can’t truly start ‘cause of their own life events and no doubt anxieties. But…I know that they inspire me to be better-not change, but to heal and grow. Be less afraid, and find courage and patience I swear they need, too, that I didn’t even know I was capable of. But…until they can resolve their own stuff, things obviously can’t really go anywhere. I can’t do things for them, and wouldn’t, anyway. But I know I’ve seen them trying to grow and heal, too.
She felt extremely comfortable with me, far more than she ever has and could with anyone else. I genuinely do not think she could have felt any more comfortable with me because she was as much as possible. Good video!
My marriage was all of these things. But then, one day, my partner forgot them all in an instant and became someone new. I don't think I will ever let myself be comfortable again. When you're comfortable, that's when you least expect the knife in your back.
To this day, I have not met anyone like my ex back in highschool. She felt the one who got away. It would be so good to meet another who liked me for me but it’s a cold world out there.
These kinds of relationships aren’t all that common. Most of the time you have to have compromise, giving up feeling complete in one aspect to have the other three line up. Even then that one compromised area can become an unacceptable monster later, and the end of the relationship is on the table.
It so funny that this video comes out A DAY after i found my one. I can safely say they are definitely the one. Thank you for confirming it further Psy!
Had a gf until 2 days ago, she's told me that she doesn't feel it anymore. All 4 of the signs were there. We were both good listeners and both gave good advice. We were both giving each space if needed. And both of us stood to the rule of "be deeply honest". The main reason she fell away was cause she's been attending medschool and it is taking her whole day. The classes take up to 4h/day, but the studying part for the tests etc is a hell on earth. She told me she hasn't felt it in a few weeks by then, but because of the studies we were meeting once/2weeks even tho we live under 20min by foot from eachother. I was trying to find small gaps of time even like under 30mins to take a walk or just talk, but she said she couldn't. She wants to remain friends and tbh, i cannot be mad at her. I am a bit upset that she didn't even try to repair it and just let that go down. But you know. It's over when it's over. It's not like i'm going to tell her to drop medschool pfff. I knew what i was signing for just both of us didn't realise how much time it's gonna take away. (don't worry im mostly over it, i've got friends who cheer me up and got my back. I will take advice if some1 had similiar stories or How to cope with her if we do stay friends)
Hi. I just read your comment, annd… to be honest, it was the most relatable comment I’ve read in a long time. . . I was in a relationship in the same way. We were together for ten years, ever since we were kids. We believed in being honest with each other and communicating, we would talk for hours, laugh, cry, talk about future, write stories, everything. Until, he began working with his dad in contracting, and then our dates had to work out with whatever his dad wanted him to do. He had to do things that were “productive “. I wanted to respect that, so I went along with it. Then. Eventually, a few years later, I found that the things I liked to do, he would constantly judge, or be looking at his watch all the time, and then he would have to leave early, because he had things to do. He would be even be texting while on a dinner date with me. I tried to talk to him about it, and then, just simply, he said to me over the phone, “You’re technically not a priority to me unless we are married.” Honestly, I don’t remember anything that he said after that second. I just, froze… From a guy who would tell me how much I meant to him for ten years... He would stay up late with me just so he could wish me ‘happy birthday’ at midnight so that he would be the first to wish me a wonderful day, and then, suddenly could have less thought than a snake would. Snakes have more warmth than that. I don’t know why I’m sending this message, but, I can relate to something similar to what you said in your comment. And, I hope you find someone who is kind, loving, and special, and who will be with you for always.
I hope you’re doing okay. It sucks when a relationship is mutual until the other person no longer has feelings. You can’t force them to stay, but you can’t help but wonder where it all went wrong. They pull the “it’s not you, it’s me” card, but you still wonder what you did wrong. It sucks. You try to be understanding, but it doesn’t make much sense. “When the heart breaks, no it don’t break even”. I hope that you guys are able to stay friends and it doesn’t hurt too much, but don’t deprive yourself of feeling those emotions either. If it gets too painful, cutting off contact with her helps; as much as you don’t want to, it’s sometimes the only way to move forward. I hope this helped and you’re doing okay. I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes: “you don’t need someone to complete you, you need someone who will accept you completely.”
Yeah honestly I want a girl who actually wants the relationship to work and actually cares about me as much as I care about her. I also want to be able to feel comfortable enough to joke with her and be myself and I hope that she could feel the same. That and the things stated in this video is the most ideal and successful relationship you could get.
you know, I though this year i had found that one girl who actually had feelings for me. I thought she was the one. we've become great friends but I don't think her heart lies with me, im not sure it lies with anyone currently. I've stopped actively trying to pursue any romantic relationship with her, but if something somehow happens then it happens. I love her to death still, and would do anything to make her happy and protect her. whether tha be as her friend, or as something more I'll still be there anyway. this channel has helped me learn more about my emotions and to better myself after a tough few years. thank you psych2go, I'll stay tuned for the next helpful video!
Honestly, i'm so love starved, i don't know what love is anymore. My adoptive parents didn't love me enough, and my biological parents couldn't take care of me, because my dad was in jail, and my mom wasn't able to take care of me on her own. Like i said, my adoptive parents didn't love me enough, and i do resent them for not loving me enough. I honestly stopped believing in love after my ex broke up with me, so now, i just feel unloved and hated.
I just want a partner that can be there for me and we can love each other and make each other happy at the end of the day. I agree with just being there for your partner is key for relationships. I had a kind of rough relationship with my dad since he was there. He helped me get into baseball but he kind of forced me into it and wasn't there for me with things I really wanted to achieve. I wanted to become a heavy weight boxer and artist, and one day maybe attend the Olympics and win my country (america) a gold medal. Buy he wasn't ever there for me really. So i feel like actually being there for your partner and being supportive would be the most important thing in a relationship with someone special. Just know guys and girls, there is someone out there waiting for you. I have gotten so close recently by just trying to make friends with girls allot. And thanks to this channel has helped me recognize my personality and get through most stuff. You'll get it guys. And merry early Christmas guys ❤👍
Watching this, and i never have been in a romantic relationship. Though I struggle with bonding with anyone. I doubt i will find someone who makes me feel comfortable with being myself and stablish a relationship.
Why did this come at the perfect time. I’ve been talking to this girl for YEARS. And I’ve always noticed just how much we’ve always been the same wavelength. This just gave me the mental okay to ask her our. Wish me luck.
@@anderstermansen130If he’s at the point where he knows her for years and also likes her, I’d say it’s better to just go for it so you know you’re not wasting any more time.
Isn't it curious that I was talking to a friend of mine that I'm trying to be satisfied to never find a partner and always be single, and he told me I was very attentive, supportive, funny, and many other things, it's just because I'm autistic I behave in a particular way that puts people off, if they only knew me like he does they wouldn't take their hands off me. But what if because of my quirks they don't ever get close enough? It's a nicer way to say you are feral and people will always be at an arm's length at best. It's not the first one that says to me "Don't worry about them, they don't know what they are missing"... Yeah, I'm also missing meeting genuine kind people, the only people who seem fine to know me at a superficial level are the ones who are superficial themselves and/or what to take advantage of me
Tbh I’m the same way. How I behave in public looks strange and weird to most people, and may get judgmental looks, but hey.. there will be someone we meet that understands us one day. Best of luck to you 🙂
When this is all true, but they give me so much space you’re scared they don’t actually care. Conversations are great, and hanging out is always fun, but I almost always have to be the one to initiate.
These are so true! We live in a world where Appearances matter more than Emotional connection. A lot of people think that a successful relationship is when you bag the Girl/Guy of your dreams. But that couldn't be further from the Truth. A loving relationship is when you feel comforted by the other person, when they support you without any judgements, when there is a connection where you both can say so much to each other just by looking into each other's eyes, and when your Values are similar and in a positive direction. Appearances don't matter. So instead of focussing on how better you can do, strive to find someone you can build genuine connections with. Remember, there are no games to be played in a healthy relationship. People who play games to "test" your love are either not committed to it, or don't want to reveal their true inner self. You don't want that in your life.
Found this girl who i had forgotten about and she is a whole 180 from what im used to. We both have the same aspirations, we both have values that not only line up but are the exact same. She is an amazing experience and really made me believe that i could be loved.
Big shoutout to animator Sarimopi from me. I have to admit that films that were animated by this animator were watched by me more and it's well made overall
Patience is the is the biggest gesture of love. For example: If someone has a temper, the other has the patience to see trough the noise and stick to the end to reach a higher level of understanding and being.
I wish this applies to Parent and Child relationship as well. This lack of comfort, support (Even too little), and connection love made me feel so deeply alone and left behind, that I don't feel that I can't change this myself, that I feel that everything's just the same, the feeling of unable to be part of anything. I thought this excessive entertainment is the problem, but now, it's partially true. The most problematic is the lack of parenting for me. I'd like to go on a rant, but I'll keep this short. No matter my age, They've had plenty of time to teach me how to communicate properly, how to cook and prep properly, what to do with money, how to engage with people properly, essentially to be prepared in life, and train me to that, but no. They always let me play video games. As an adult, I don't know what to do in life. Video games are the only thing I know for my life. Schools I'm from only taught me some intelligence, but never social skills nor what to do in life.
This channel, alongside my therapy sessions, has helped me realize many things that have transpired during my youth. There is so much to learn and to look forward into life.
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the signs, which I **_shall_** require training to recognize:* 0:16 *1. Comfort:* As an autist whom the school systems o' the 20th Century failed due to immature resources, I never developed a sense of/for emotional safety, a MAJOR prerequisite for trust. 0:57 *2. Support:* Due to internal, unconscious emotional blocks pathognomonic o' Kanner's, I know not how to recognize support, neither the need therefor. 1:41 *3. Connection:* Never felt it due to said emotional blocks. 2:26 *4. Values:* Know 'em after a cognitive fashion, but internal disorganization hinders 'em at the subconscious.
I do hope someone good is waiting for me out there. I’m kind of worried I’m not trying enough. To put myself out there I mean. I’ve mostly let myself ride the river of life waiting for someone to come to me on their own accord. Someone kind, someone smart, someone fun. Someone who will paint the world while I play my melodies.
I'm not really looking out for anyone (in terms of for a relationship) right now, but having these reminders are important to establish whether one is "the right one" for me :)
This is in the Top Ten of what humanity needs to focus on... sooo much developmental adversity would be prevented if compatibility was more sought than physical attraction and banter-ability. #InnerFirstOuterLast
watched this two months ago and a certain someone in my life fell under all of those criteria.. a month ago we broke up because she found herself someone else. not strictly ‘broke up’ - but she did know that i wanted a life-long relationship (we even were in a relationship for like a month but decided to pause it bc we both were scared and unsure what to do next) and she wasn’t against it - she wanted to fix her mental problems first. seems like didn’t want to do that with the other guy..
If you feel like wasting some time, you can read this. i had all this from the video, we had 3 almost 4 years of a relationship. we we're happy. helped her through tough tines and gave her happy times too. without EVER asking for her to do the same. me and her never went with another guy or girl before our relationship. she ditched me after said 3 years of being together, and she didn't care of any of it, and a day or two (supposedly) after she broke up with me, found another guy, hurts but no problem in that i guess. one week in, and she would come in my dms to tell me she gave her first time to him. (we agreed to both do it when we felt it was right during *our* relation and never did it in the end) fun. decided to give up on relationships. despite that still not giving away my first time, i dislike and hate people with a passion now. Despite everything, at heart i am weak and pitiful. i miss her and hearing her laugh.
So True ! it took me a Long time to realize. But now I’ve been with my boyfriend happily for 6 months (known each other longer than that) we now plan on moving in together and getting married
Me and this other person recently started dating a few months ago and I see most of the signs in this, I'll see how this goes to really see if they are the one for me, but I really feel that they are, and this video kinda confirmed my feeling.
no matter who u pick no one is gunna have every box checked sadly . Finding love just doest make sense but I know its gunna happen out of nowhere to me one day.
Some people might not think like this, but just because you got married does not mean that you need to have kids, many people who has a really good bond with each other and become married does not do things that are intimate. We need to respect their perspective and keep a healthy relationship regardless. If you want kids maybe you can adopt someone, that way it well be good for the children (depending on how you treat them) and it well be good for your relationship.
Another thing to take note of, is that peer pressure is not love and just because some people that you've heard may have done some strange things, does not mean that you should do it too. It's a lot better to know your boundaries than to overcome them and harm yourself. And if you struggle with that, you should have a minimum boundarie, that helped me a lot(if you still struggle with it, than just be careful not to hurt yourself.)
Also, somethings are easy to understand with science others, well let's say that we need to learn more about what's happening till we can actually state that it can be science. There are some exception in them, like when you are diagnosed that you can't have kids and yet, you are able to get a child, and when you are told that you will fail, scientifically, and you succeed at what they claim is impossible. So yeah it's good to have a basis of understanding of things, which I am very thankful of Pshyc2go in relation to this.
I found the right one for me after 25 plus years thinking I was gonna die alone. She loves all of me and make me feel comfortable, loved and valued. Whoever read, I hope you find the right one 😊
I mean she really does care about me a lot even when she cannot reach out online, maybe she could be the one. A lot of these factors do apply within us.
@@RJ-kb3qfIt means you want to believe in love but intellectually you know it's a fairytale. Just like you want a fictional universe to be real, but you know it is and will be fictional, like a movie, a book or a videogame.
Single Straight male 6'2" strong as an ox 400+ pounds but losing weight rapidly per a self-put routine and mainly muscle weight from being a hard worker throughout my life. everyone says i give great advice and i help where-ever I can in anything I can without having to think abt it. yet unsuccessful in achieving any relationship my whole life. always getting turned down even by gals that know me really well and are comfortable around me. Even was said yes to once, then she forgot and said no 3 days later when I reminded her abt her saying yes and asking what plans were for the weekend. I think I just need to get into shape. but idk if there's smth else keeping me from being happy . . . I've got everything except someone to share my life with and my heart is starting to accept I may be alone for good. had a dream recently that messed with me and caused a whole new level of hurt and heartache to rise.
I feel like crying right now. Yeah, I think I've found the right one for me, and yeah, I've known that for months now. But we hardly ever see each other anymore and the only times we have any sort of communication is when we're with our friends. I don't know how to start a conversation through text with them anymore since there's really nothing to say. Besides, that wouldn't help anything anyway because at this point I just want to be by them. I don't want to force conversation, I just want to sit with them, maybe do something with them, I just want to be in their presence. But the world doesn't revolve around us, and we have our own lives to run. So I suppose I just have to deal with it for now. You want to know the worst part of it all, though? The worst part is that I can't say anything since we haven't been super direct with how we feel, so I don't know if they only see me as a friend. I'm just tired of not knowing, you know? I just wish there were some natural way (not through text and not in the presence of our friends) that I could finally find out. I'd respect however they feel. If they only see me as a friend: Great! Fantastic! I want them to be happy and they probably deserve someone better than me anyway. If they see me as something more than a friend: Well, we seriously need to start doing something about it, we don't have forever. But we have no time to talk. So, long story short, I just have to continue to be tormented by the presence of thousands of whispers of what might and might not be, of what is and is not seen, of certainty and uncertainty. My only hope is that someday it will all be figured out. My hope is that someday I'll know what to do
1. We both come from very mentally destroying childhoods but due to mine i find it difficult to trust anyone. And he doesnt want to upset me so it takes some convincing for him to share. However we are aware and are trying to heal together. 2. Yes, both us really needed each other, i would still be heavilly depressed and my partner most likely would have commited sucide (the only reason i dont have those thoughts is because i have already been through that and never want to fall in it again). 3. We are very emotionally bonded, we are each others safe space. And we talk every day for at least a couple hours no matter what. 4. Some of us have different values, but he started to adopt my most major one just being self-improvment. Ive been through alot of hell and am trying to leave that to history because i have alot of things i want to share with the world. He also wants to revolutionise the world and im getting him on the train of also having your body and mind functioning at tip top capasity. Thank you to anyone who read that, i hope you have an amazing life and 2024!
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1. They listen 2. They ask questions 3. They don’t judge 4. They give you space
Yeah, those are really good signs that they indeed are a good person and you should keep that relationship going. I would, TBH.
The 4th point hits deep... didn't realize how important it is until meeting my partner.
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Timestamps
1). Comfort 0:17
2). Support 0:57
3). Connection 1:42
4). Values 2:27
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Thank you. ❤👍
@@NatYT.01 happy to help
@@A55a551nthanks so much 🙏🏽 💓 ☺️
wishing you a wonderful day as well 💕 ☺️
@@StArDragonB hope you have a wonderful day too 💙💙💙💙💙💙
A partner brings out the best in you. Be a partner of value. Be honest, trustworthy and be supportive.
yes, in year 1972. In 2024, a partner is dishonest, backstabbing and destructive. Thats how the concept of "Love" works now.
@@anderstermansen130
Sad but true.
“Trust that the right person will come along at the right time”
Welp, I’ve been told all my life similar stuff, specially when I was in my 20s and when I had been rejected people used the cheap comfort method of “you’ll eventually find the right one”, or “you’re still too young”, “when you least expect it she’ll come” and so on.
Now I’m 36 and I’ve only had one girlfriend in my entire life, and she still hasn’t come… so I’ll proceed to wipe my tears with $100 bills (yeah I built my career as a software developer all this time)
I feel i am heading exactly in your direction, most probably I’ll end up in similar situation like you
my cousin had his first girlfriend at 40 and now they're married, so u really just need to trust it and live your life
@@mei2644 thing is I don't believe in metaphysical stuff (I'm a mathematician so you can figure I'm 100% into logical thinking). I don't trust, I only have awareness of consequences based on my acts (or lack of acts).
If I go actively trying to find a partner I can potentially find one eventually (although higher chances are I'll just lose my time), if I just focus on my full time developer job without caring about anything else only thing will change is that in 4 years I'll probably be in a tech lead position earning way more but having even less spare time (even to come here watch videos)
Going outside also helps "the right one" to find you
I get the feeling that I’ll be in the same boat when I’m older ;^;
It’s one of the best feelings coming from such an unhealthy and unhappy place but getting to go through these positive videos now and being able to fully relate to the feelings discussed. Progress ❤
I wish I could relate
I hate that I relate.
Me and [person] are nearly the exact same- we check out all of these options, and even though I’m the best to her, zip zap, only yap.
@@sebastianbasch1940 Mental health is a journey, and it’s one that’s never over. I know it probably just sounds infantilizing coming from a stranger, but I promise you can get to the same point
I haven’t been able to relate to a single positive video of theirs ever… *life is hell*
@@zenith613 I’m really sorry to hear that you’re struggling, and that you’ve apparently been struggling for a long time. But it really is worth the effort and the hope. I turn 30 early next year, and I’m just now hitting a point where I’m fully happy and content with myself and my life. It takes more time for some people than others, and that’s unfortunate. But life is beautiful, I can promise you that. It’s a struggle sometimes, and I certainly wouldn’t ever imply that your feelings are invalid or wrong. But just know that, from someone who was also not dealt the nicest hand of cards in life and spent a very long time barely surviving, it really can get better. It can be beautiful.
Thanks. This will definitely come in handy. I’ve got a good feeling about somebody.
Trusting your instincts is often a great guide. What is it about this person that gives you a good feeling? It's exciting when you sense positive vibes in a connection. 😊
@@Psych2go just how we talk and there’s a level of comfort.
Same bro
It’s the moments that I stopped just to be, rather than do, that have given me true happiness.
To me the most important values are about what we want in our relationship: do we want to put our relationship first? Do we want to be honest and respectful? Do we want the same things when it comes to relationships? Do we have the same end goal? I feel like we can have different believes that can impact our relationship but if we aren’t on the same page when it comes to the importance of the relationship, everything will fall apart
Can have all of that and still fail miserably.
What would you add as a fifth sign that someone is right for you? Share your insights in the comments.
They exist.
Honesty
Laughter/sense of humour.
Respect
This isn't pinned.
The notion that comfort is the cozy blanket of a relationship makes perfect sense; after all, who wants to feel like they're tiptoeing on eggshells in the dance of love? It's like finding a pair of shoes that don't give you blisters - a true fit. The support section, well, that's the trusty sidekick in your personal superhero origin story, pushing you to new heights without capes or spandex. Cheers to the ongoing pursuit of love that's as snug as a bug in a rug, minus the rug burns.
Just watched this to see if there's any similarities with my current relationship. Seems my partner is absolutely right for me, and I've never felt like the best version of myself before I met her. Now, I do. Thank you, Psych2Go, for pointing this out. Love your channel 😄
That's such a heartwarming revelation! It's incredible when a relationship not only brings happiness but also helps you become the best version of yourself. Cheers to enduring love! 😊💖.
its the game of time. The right one today wont be right for you tomorrow . So best of luck
I'm a bit sad for myself but I'm at the same time genuinely happy for you. And I don't need any empathy :) It is what it is.
I do get happy for others being genuinely happy.
@@SebHaarfagre mine's the opposite
when others show something great that I don't have, i feel like they flex
so i just say hateful things sometimes
I always knew I've got the best woman for me. Yes nobody is perfect but she's an angel❤
Can you do a video on values and how to communicate them? I've always had a hard time grasping exactly what it encompasses and even then people often assume my values are different from what they truly are which is quite frustrating.
Yeah I think they should be more detailed when it comes to “shared values” cause it may mean a lot of things
Factsvi would love to See that as Well cause itncan be very Hard to introduce core values in conversations
Even outside of romantic relationships, this applies. Applies to family, friends.
I am blessed to say I have found two friends who I share all these video's concepts with. Spot on video.
the silence feels comforting
no need to feel awkward to fill the time and space with pointless talks and actions
Yeah…I think I’m in a “right person, wrong time” situation. As in, I feel all of this, I give all of this and know it’s received. But there’s moreso this…disconnect isn’t the right word. But things can’t truly start ‘cause of their own life events and no doubt anxieties. But…I know that they inspire me to be better-not change, but to heal and grow. Be less afraid, and find courage and patience I swear they need, too, that I didn’t even know I was capable of. But…until they can resolve their own stuff, things obviously can’t really go anywhere. I can’t do things for them, and wouldn’t, anyway. But I know I’ve seen them trying to grow and heal, too.
I understand now that I have no one like that
She felt extremely comfortable with me, far more than she ever has and could with anyone else. I genuinely do not think she could have felt any more comfortable with me because she was as much as possible. Good video!
It's verbose, although deliberately. But thanks!@@TearMusicFan
My marriage was all of these things. But then, one day, my partner forgot them all in an instant and became someone new. I don't think I will ever let myself be comfortable again. When you're comfortable, that's when you least expect the knife in your back.
Sorry to hear that, best of luck with your life despite the setbacks
thats why u dont marry women. Feminism ruined it for everyone.
To this day, I have not met anyone like my ex back in highschool. She felt the one who got away. It would be so good to meet another who liked me for me but it’s a cold world out there.
These kinds of relationships aren’t all that common. Most of the time you have to have compromise, giving up feeling complete in one aspect to have the other three line up. Even then that one compromised area can become an unacceptable monster later, and the end of the relationship is on the table.
It so funny that this video comes out A DAY after i found my one. I can safely say they are definitely the one. Thank you for confirming it further Psy!
Congratulations on finding your special someone! 😊
@@Psych2go thank you, Im honestly glad I found them before I wasted away!
After a day? lmao.
Is it finding a perfect partner like finding lovely bird ?
Had a gf until 2 days ago, she's told me that she doesn't feel it anymore.
All 4 of the signs were there. We were both good listeners and both gave good advice. We were both giving each space if needed. And both of us stood to the rule of "be deeply honest".
The main reason she fell away was cause she's been attending medschool and it is taking her whole day. The classes take up to 4h/day, but the studying part for the tests etc is a hell on earth.
She told me she hasn't felt it in a few weeks by then, but because of the studies we were meeting once/2weeks even tho we live under 20min by foot from eachother.
I was trying to find small gaps of time even like under 30mins to take a walk or just talk, but she said she couldn't.
She wants to remain friends and tbh, i cannot be mad at her. I am a bit upset that she didn't even try to repair it and just let that go down. But you know. It's over when it's over. It's not like i'm going to tell her to drop medschool pfff.
I knew what i was signing for just both of us didn't realise how much time it's gonna take away.
(don't worry im mostly over it, i've got friends who cheer me up and got my back. I will take advice if some1 had similiar stories or How to cope with her if we do stay friends)
Hi. I just read your comment, annd… to be honest, it was the most relatable comment I’ve read in a long time. . .
I was in a relationship in the same way. We were together for ten years, ever since we were kids. We believed in being honest with each other and communicating, we would talk for hours, laugh, cry, talk about future, write stories, everything. Until, he began working with his dad in contracting, and then our dates had to work out with whatever his dad wanted him to do. He had to do things that were “productive “. I wanted to respect that, so I went along with it. Then. Eventually, a few years later, I found that the things I liked to do, he would constantly judge, or be looking at his watch all the time, and then he would have to leave early, because he had things to do. He would be even be texting while on a dinner date with me. I tried to talk to him about it, and then, just simply, he said to me over the phone, “You’re technically not a priority to me unless we are married.” Honestly, I don’t remember anything that he said after that second. I just, froze… From a guy who would tell me how much I meant to him for ten years... He would stay up late with me just so he could wish me ‘happy birthday’ at midnight so that he would be the first to wish me a wonderful day, and then, suddenly could have less thought than a snake would. Snakes have more warmth than that. I don’t know why I’m sending this message, but, I can relate to something similar to what you said in your comment. And, I hope you find someone who is kind, loving, and special, and who will be with you for always.
I hope you’re doing okay. It sucks when a relationship is mutual until the other person no longer has feelings. You can’t force them to stay, but you can’t help but wonder where it all went wrong. They pull the “it’s not you, it’s me” card, but you still wonder what you did wrong. It sucks. You try to be understanding, but it doesn’t make much sense. “When the heart breaks, no it don’t break even”. I hope that you guys are able to stay friends and it doesn’t hurt too much, but don’t deprive yourself of feeling those emotions either. If it gets too painful, cutting off contact with her helps; as much as you don’t want to, it’s sometimes the only way to move forward. I hope this helped and you’re doing okay. I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes: “you don’t need someone to complete you, you need someone who will accept you completely.”
Damn bro u both are still friends even after u break up that's a really strong bond right there no cap
Why did I even click on it, because it made me cry.
Yeah honestly I want a girl who actually wants the relationship to work and actually cares about me as much as I care about her. I also want to be able to feel comfortable enough to joke with her and be myself and I hope that she could feel the same. That and the things stated in this video is the most ideal and successful relationship you could get.
Always feels nice watching unlisted videos early through the playlists. Nice one as always.
you know, I though this year i had found that one girl who actually had feelings for me. I thought she was the one. we've become great friends but I don't think her heart lies with me, im not sure it lies with anyone currently. I've stopped actively trying to pursue any romantic relationship with her, but if something somehow happens then it happens. I love her to death still, and would do anything to make her happy and protect her. whether tha be as her friend, or as something more I'll still be there anyway. this channel has helped me learn more about my emotions and to better myself after a tough few years. thank you psych2go, I'll stay tuned for the next helpful video!
Honestly, i'm so love starved, i don't know what love is anymore. My adoptive parents didn't love me enough, and my biological parents couldn't take care of me, because my dad was in jail, and my mom wasn't able to take care of me on her own. Like i said, my adoptive parents didn't love me enough, and i do resent them for not loving me enough. I honestly stopped believing in love after my ex broke up with me, so now, i just feel unloved and hated.
I just want a partner that can be there for me and we can love each other and make each other happy at the end of the day. I agree with just being there for your partner is key for relationships. I had a kind of rough relationship with my dad since he was there. He helped me get into baseball but he kind of forced me into it and wasn't there for me with things I really wanted to achieve. I wanted to become a heavy weight boxer and artist, and one day maybe attend the Olympics and win my country (america) a gold medal. Buy he wasn't ever there for me really. So i feel like actually being there for your partner and being supportive would be the most important thing in a relationship with someone special. Just know guys and girls, there is someone out there waiting for you. I have gotten so close recently by just trying to make friends with girls allot. And thanks to this channel has helped me recognize my personality and get through most stuff. You'll get it guys. And merry early Christmas guys ❤👍
Watching this, and i never have been in a romantic relationship. Though I struggle with bonding with anyone. I doubt i will find someone who makes me feel comfortable with being myself and stablish a relationship.
This couldn’t have come have a better time. I’m so tired of searching for people, though I’ve only been in a relationship once
Whoever is watching this video or not, I hope you're all doing well and find the right person for soon :D
Thanks! you too🥰
:) you two
my wife is a stripper
Why did this come at the perfect time. I’ve been talking to this girl for YEARS. And I’ve always noticed just how much we’ve always been the same wavelength. This just gave me the mental okay to ask her our. Wish me luck.
How'd it go?
Yo were waiting for a answer what happened?
Dont. She will just reject you.
@@minhso12 i was in a simular scenario months ago and i got askee out so
@@anderstermansen130If he’s at the point where he knows her for years and also likes her, I’d say it’s better to just go for it so you know you’re not wasting any more time.
You guys keep giving me hope but the mirror keeps me in check
That's the thing right, they see you as a friend and the castle of dreams you built shatters in a matter of seconds.
Isn't it curious that I was talking to a friend of mine that I'm trying to be satisfied to never find a partner and always be single, and he told me I was very attentive, supportive, funny, and many other things, it's just because I'm autistic I behave in a particular way that puts people off, if they only knew me like he does they wouldn't take their hands off me. But what if because of my quirks they don't ever get close enough? It's a nicer way to say you are feral and people will always be at an arm's length at best. It's not the first one that says to me "Don't worry about them, they don't know what they are missing"... Yeah, I'm also missing meeting genuine kind people, the only people who seem fine to know me at a superficial level are the ones who are superficial themselves and/or what to take advantage of me
Tbh I’m the same way. How I behave in public looks strange and weird to most people, and may get judgmental looks, but hey.. there will be someone we meet that understands us one day. Best of luck to you 🙂
When this is all true, but they give me so much space you’re scared they don’t actually care. Conversations are great, and hanging out is always fun, but I almost always have to be the one to initiate.
I've been with this one woman now for 3 months. I've had issues I every other relationship. With this woman, everything just fits right.
These are so true!
We live in a world where Appearances matter more than Emotional connection. A lot of people think that a successful relationship is when you bag the Girl/Guy of your dreams. But that couldn't be further from the Truth.
A loving relationship is when you feel comforted by the other person, when they support you without any judgements, when there is a connection where you both can say so much to each other just by looking into each other's eyes, and when your Values are similar and in a positive direction.
Appearances don't matter. So instead of focussing on how better you can do, strive to find someone you can build genuine connections with.
Remember, there are no games to be played in a healthy relationship. People who play games to "test" your love are either not committed to it, or don't want to reveal their true inner self.
You don't want that in your life.
Comfort
Support
Connection
Values
I resonate with this video wayyy too much!!! So thankful that i have found Sid and get to share the rest of my life with him.
I love this account soo much you never fail to help me find my true self!!
Happy to help!😊
Found this girl who i had forgotten about and she is a whole 180 from what im used to. We both have the same aspirations, we both have values that not only line up but are the exact same. She is an amazing experience and really made me believe that i could be loved.
Big shoutout to animator Sarimopi from me. I have to admit that films that were animated by this animator were watched by me more and it's well made overall
Why does the animation look so cute and cozy???
I'm absolutely terrified in thought but when there I'm chilling
Thank you for this video and for your time and effort and for the knowledge and information and for the heads up and for the truth
Kind words! Thank you❤
@Psych2go your welcome someone in the world needs to be kind
Being single and seeing this just hurts, sorry to bring bad mood hope you will have great day
Having all of these trades would make me feel really needed to the one that loves, understand and respect me.
Patience is the is the biggest gesture of love. For example: If someone has a temper, the other has the patience to see trough the noise and stick to the end to reach a higher level of understanding and being.
I wish this applies to Parent and Child relationship as well. This lack of comfort, support (Even too little), and connection love made me feel so deeply alone and left behind, that I don't feel that I can't change this myself, that I feel that everything's just the same, the feeling of unable to be part of anything. I thought this excessive entertainment is the problem, but now, it's partially true. The most problematic is the lack of parenting for me.
I'd like to go on a rant, but I'll keep this short. No matter my age, They've had plenty of time to teach me how to communicate properly, how to cook and prep properly, what to do with money, how to engage with people properly, essentially to be prepared in life, and train me to that, but no. They always let me play video games. As an adult, I don't know what to do in life. Video games are the only thing I know for my life. Schools I'm from only taught me some intelligence, but never social skills nor what to do in life.
followed the advice, lost my left arm. thank you very much!
This channel, alongside my therapy sessions, has helped me realize many things that have transpired during my youth.
There is so much to learn and to look forward into life.
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the signs, which I **_shall_** require training to recognize:*
0:16 *1. Comfort:* As an autist whom the school systems o' the 20th Century failed due to immature resources, I never developed a sense of/for emotional safety, a MAJOR prerequisite for trust.
0:57 *2. Support:* Due to internal, unconscious emotional blocks pathognomonic o' Kanner's, I know not how to recognize support, neither the need therefor.
1:41 *3. Connection:* Never felt it due to said emotional blocks.
2:26 *4. Values:* Know 'em after a cognitive fashion, but internal disorganization hinders 'em at the subconscious.
I do believe some of these things should improve with time and not all aspects will be perfect immediately. Growth is encouraged
Crazy we now need a UA-cam video to tell you that sort of thing
I always think of it as never look for someone to ‘complete’ your life. I am too used to being by myself to think I need a partner to feel complete.
They're teachable and they're willing to grow
I do hope someone good is waiting for me out there. I’m kind of worried I’m not trying enough. To put myself out there I mean. I’ve mostly let myself ride the river of life waiting for someone to come to me on their own accord. Someone kind, someone smart, someone fun.
Someone who will paint the world while I play my melodies.
I'm not really looking out for anyone (in terms of for a relationship) right now, but having these reminders are important to establish whether one is "the right one" for me :)
I feel actually really great knowing that I know some people I care a really great deal about that share these traits.
This is in the Top Ten of what humanity needs to focus on... sooo much developmental adversity would be prevented if compatibility was more sought than physical attraction and banter-ability.
#InnerFirstOuterLast
watched this two months ago and a certain someone in my life fell under all of those criteria.. a month ago we broke up because she found herself someone else.
not strictly ‘broke up’ - but she did know that i wanted a life-long relationship (we even were in a relationship for like a month but decided to pause it bc we both were scared and unsure what to do next) and she wasn’t against it - she wanted to fix her mental problems first. seems like didn’t want to do that with the other guy..
duude your voice makes my ears itchy from inside its so soft and idk extraordinary
like i said it for real
Having recently started a relationship this is very helpful and comforting!
Had this and still lost the women I had in my life.
Means nothing.
Simple and to the point...great video!
Me who gets too nervous in front of my crush and can't be myself: PERFECT
If you feel like wasting some time, you can read this.
i had all this from the video, we had 3 almost 4 years of a relationship.
we we're happy.
helped her through tough tines and gave her happy times too. without EVER asking for her to do the same.
me and her never went with another guy or girl before our relationship.
she ditched me after said 3 years of being together, and she didn't care of any of it, and a day or two (supposedly) after she broke up with me, found another guy, hurts but no problem in that i guess.
one week in, and she would come in my dms to tell me she gave her first time to him. (we agreed to both do it when we felt it was right during *our* relation and never did it in the end)
fun.
decided to give up on relationships. despite that still not giving away my first time, i dislike and hate people with a passion now.
Despite everything, at heart i am weak and pitiful. i miss her and hearing her laugh.
Nice! I mean, probably won't get to use this for a couple years, but still nice
Every single thing I hear about relationships makes me realize I had someone once and didn't even realize, god what I'd change if I could go back.
So True ! it took me a Long time to realize. But now I’ve been with my boyfriend happily for 6 months (known each other longer than that) we now plan on moving in together and getting married
This type of videos always makes me relaxed I love ur vids so much 😭
Your feedback is truly appreciated! 😊
I always love to watch these, it makes my heart flutter.
Then i remember, thus is the life of a hopeless romantic~
Anyways, love your stuff as always!
Why is this in my fyp, like YT doesn’t know i’m the singlest person to breathe air
Me and this other person recently started dating a few months ago and I see most of the signs in this, I'll see how this goes to really see if they are the one for me, but I really feel that they are, and this video kinda confirmed my feeling.
no matter who u pick no one is gunna have every box checked sadly . Finding love just doest make sense but I know its gunna happen out of nowhere to me one day.
Some people might not think like this, but just because you got married does not mean that you need to have kids, many people who has a really good bond with each other and become married does not do things that are intimate.
We need to respect their perspective and keep a healthy relationship regardless. If you want kids maybe you can adopt someone, that way it well be good for the children (depending on how you treat them) and it well be good for your relationship.
Another thing to take note of, is that peer pressure is not love and just because some people that you've heard may have done some strange things, does not mean that you should do it too. It's a lot better to know your boundaries than to overcome them and harm yourself. And if you struggle with that, you should have a minimum boundarie, that helped me a lot(if you still struggle with it, than just be careful not to hurt yourself.)
Also, somethings are easy to understand with science others, well let's say that we need to learn more about what's happening till we can actually state that it can be science. There are some exception in them, like when you are diagnosed that you can't have kids and yet, you are able to get a child, and when you are told that you will fail, scientifically, and you succeed at what they claim is impossible. So yeah it's good to have a basis of understanding of things, which I am very thankful of Pshyc2go in relation to this.
I found the right one for me after 25 plus years thinking I was gonna die alone. She loves all of me and make me feel comfortable, loved and valued. Whoever read, I hope you find the right one 😊
So beautiful feelings i will never experience...
I mean she really does care about me a lot even when she cannot reach out online, maybe she could be the one. A lot of these factors do apply within us.
Dang this is really useful and effective at helping those who dont know what to do. Too bad I'll never benefit from this
After going through people turning me down, this video was important to watch. I hope one day I would find the one will know and like me for who I am.
I'm already liking your pfp, it's cute
I don’t really believe in love (rather the feeling died ages ago) but I really enjoy watching these videos… it’s really really relaxing
Then doesn’t that mean you do believe in love? Why else would they be relaxing?😅
@@RJ-kb3qf nah not really I just like watching them, they help with my mental issues too.. can’t really explain why but it does
@@RJ-kb3qfIt means you want to believe in love but intellectually you know it's a fairytale. Just like you want a fictional universe to be real, but you know it is and will be fictional, like a movie, a book or a videogame.
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I miss the person that gave me these feelings 🩷 I won't lose hope.
Yes, there is potential in this relationship.
The visuals are just so cute ❤❤
thank you. these video is very comforting
Thanks! This is helpful. ❤️
Single Straight male 6'2" strong as an ox 400+ pounds but losing weight rapidly per a self-put routine and mainly muscle weight from being a hard worker throughout my life. everyone says i give great advice and i help where-ever I can in anything I can without having to think abt it. yet unsuccessful in achieving any relationship my whole life. always getting turned down even by gals that know me really well and are comfortable around me. Even was said yes to once, then she forgot and said no 3 days later when I reminded her abt her saying yes and asking what plans were for the weekend. I think I just need to get into shape. but idk if there's smth else keeping me from being happy . . . I've got everything except someone to share my life with and my heart is starting to accept I may be alone for good. had a dream recently that messed with me and caused a whole new level of hurt and heartache to rise.
Got anything on being afraid to fall in love?
Think I might need that, hasn't gone really well for me
The more I see this, the more I realize that I have lost the one with my heart
I feel like crying right now. Yeah, I think I've found the right one for me, and yeah, I've known that for months now. But we hardly ever see each other anymore and the only times we have any sort of communication is when we're with our friends. I don't know how to start a conversation through text with them anymore since there's really nothing to say. Besides, that wouldn't help anything anyway because at this point I just want to be by them. I don't want to force conversation, I just want to sit with them, maybe do something with them, I just want to be in their presence. But the world doesn't revolve around us, and we have our own lives to run. So I suppose I just have to deal with it for now.
You want to know the worst part of it all, though? The worst part is that I can't say anything since we haven't been super direct with how we feel, so I don't know if they only see me as a friend. I'm just tired of not knowing, you know? I just wish there were some natural way (not through text and not in the presence of our friends) that I could finally find out. I'd respect however they feel. If they only see me as a friend: Great! Fantastic! I want them to be happy and they probably deserve someone better than me anyway. If they see me as something more than a friend: Well, we seriously need to start doing something about it, we don't have forever. But we have no time to talk. So, long story short, I just have to continue to be tormented by the presence of thousands of whispers of what might and might not be, of what is and is not seen, of certainty and uncertainty. My only hope is that someday it will all be figured out. My hope is that someday I'll know what to do
The right one until a better one comes along, right?
I'VE NEVER BEEN THIS EARLY
Gonna send this to my gym bro
i aint finding that anytime soon but good to know.
It really feels like I’ve found the one, and he feels the same. I really hope it’s true.
Remember, you matter. Until you accelerate to the speed of light, then you energy.
1. We both come from very mentally destroying childhoods but due to mine i find it difficult to trust anyone. And he doesnt want to upset me so it takes some convincing for him to share. However we are aware and are trying to heal together.
2. Yes, both us really needed each other, i would still be heavilly depressed and my partner most likely would have commited sucide (the only reason i dont have those thoughts is because i have already been through that and never want to fall in it again).
3. We are very emotionally bonded, we are each others safe space. And we talk every day for at least a couple hours no matter what.
4. Some of us have different values, but he started to adopt my most major one just being self-improvment. Ive been through alot of hell and am trying to leave that to history because i have alot of things i want to share with the world. He also wants to revolutionise the world and im getting him on the train of also having your body and mind functioning at tip top capasity.
Thank you to anyone who read that, i hope you have an amazing life and 2024!